Hey all,
Has anyone been in a situation like mine? So my family is quite large; I have a lot of cousins +/- 10 years my age. Therefore, I have a lot of nieces and nephews that are infants, toddlers and just children. On my husband’s side, he has a lot of significantly older cousins with children that are teenagers to young adults.
It always makes me sad that his side of the family loves to see videos and pictures of my 5 month old, constantly give him gifts, and make an effort to visit him. However, my side of the family doesn’t care at all that I have a son, never asks about him, and ignored/discarded holiday cards with him in it because they “had too many holiday cards.” I did what everyone normally does and just “ignore the family that doesn’t care and show importance to those who do care” but it breaks my heart that it’s all my husband’s side of the family and not also my family. How do you navigate these feelings?

Simone and Shilese: Absolutely locked barring injury. They were the only ones to have good difficulty and decent execution (just some minor things) across the board.
Jade and Jordan: Best of the rest. The powedifficulty is there, just some mistakes (Jade's UB fall, Jordan's messy floor). Jade has the VT/FX power, but needs a some more upgrades + better execution. Jordan looks like a very convincing 3rd/4th AA contender, like in 2021.
Skye: Looked nervy, but ok. The skills are there, but with Skye the ability to do the skills is never the problem. She's very much in it, but hitting better is key.
Kayla: Lots of execution things, plus the bars fall. Looked a lot weaker than Winter Cup form, but could still pull it together. Her peak is absolutely capable of an AA spot.
Leanne: Ok progress point, but really needs to hit 4/4 cleanly all the time. I don't think she's stronger than Jordan/Kayla on any event, so she really needs the hits to prove a backup AAer case.
Kaliya: Great floor, but I can't see her in contention with just a DTY as her UB/BB are unusable for TF.
Joscelyn: Endurance seems lacking, and there isn't enough time before nationals. She looks out of this.
Suni: Absolutely in this. That BB routine was great, barring the big wobble. Given how everyone else looked... if she can hit 3/4 UB and BB at Nationals/Trials from now, I'd put her on the team.
Trinity: Still lacking difficulty, and just too many mistakes.
Konnor: Looked nice on beam, super unfortunate injury.
Gabby: Looks out of it, given that bars routine and scratching everything else.
The VT upgrades don't seem like they're panning out. We saw zero new vault upgrades, although I suspect we'll see some chucked ones during nationals.
None of the first year seniors look close to making the team. Hezly and Jayla both had disastrous AA performances in the first session for 50s. Dulcy, and Tiana looked solid, but are pretty unusable in TF on 2 events respectively, so don't fit a AAealternate picture well. Marissa was solid, but no standout events.

Hi, (Female, 17) here. My sister (21, Female).
When I was younger, around 12 - 13, I had a pretty good relationship with my older sister, we'll call her Sam.
Sam and I were very close, we shared hobbies and got along perfectly fine. But around the time I turned 14-15, Sam changed drastically.
I started noticing it with her body language. She started looking at me with disgust. She no longer enjoyed hanging out with me and would always make up an excuse to ditch me. I could tell our relationship changed but I wasn't sure why.
It got worse over time. Sam would picked fights and called me horrible names. The ones used most often are "Conceited, selfish, b*tch." I hadn't changed, I still acted the same, I still loved the same things as I did when I was 12. She got very personal and hurtful with the insults. She made fun of my hair, my voice, the way I walked. She made it clear that she didn't like anything about me anymore. It hurt a lot and I felt alone for a while. When I entered high-school, I made more friends and really enjoyed their company. I feel like they helped turned me into a more confident and happier version of myself.
Sam didn't really talk to me around this time but one day, I woke up to her screaming about me to my mother early in the morning. This came as a shock because we hadn't spoken or even fought prior to this. It was totally random. She told my mother that she didn't want to be near me, how she hated me and I was a stupid c*nt. It sounded like she was in tears when she was screaming this. That's how I knew this hatred she had for me was real. She told my mother she was going to physically attack me and beat me up. Of course, everyone thought she was bluffing but it turns out she wasn't. She attacked me about 3 times. Luckily, someone was always there to pull her off of me. Sam was bigger than me. She was taller and weighed more so of course she overpowered me. It was absolutely terrifying to have someone who you always loved and trusted, completely turn on you and try to hurt you.
Eventually things calmed down. Sam got a job and was finally socializing outside of our family. She didn't go to school so she had all the time in the day to do anything but unfortunately spent it making my life a living hell. She made me extremely insecure about myself but around 15 - 16, I gained my confidence back and tried to ignore everything she said to me.
My other older sister, we'll call Veronica, was talking to this guy, who she really liked, and I noticed Sam would flirt with him a lot. As time went on, Sam managed to steal this guy from Veronica and they started dating. This absolutely BROKE Veronica. She had to watch her sister and her ex bf dating, kissing, and flirting in front of her. Every time Veronica was near them, Sam would have this smug smile on her face and rub it in Veronica's face. I was so pissed for Veronica. Sam ended up getting her karma and the guy broke her heart. Now every time Veronica is talking to or seeing a guy, Sam always asks if she can meet him or go out with them together and Veronica won't let her. I can't blame her. Sam is sneaky and if she's not flirting with Veronica's boyfriend, she's trying to embarrass her.
I notice Sam tries to embarrass me a lot. When we're out in public setting, she'll always say something obnoxiously rude. She tells everyone I'm shy when I'm really not. I'm actually the most bubbly in the family. I just don't say anything around her cause I'm uncomfortable and I don't want her to embarrass me. She tells everyone I'm a conceited diva and she makes herself seem humble and down to earth. The other day we were out with some family members that we hadn't seen in years and Sam was taking pictures of the view and I was watching her take the photos and she looked at me and yelled "ARE YOU LOOKING AT YOURSELF IN THE REFLECTION OF MY CAMERA" and I explained to her that I couldn't see myself because the camera was flipped and I was just watching the photos be taken. Usually I don't defend myself or explain, I'd just laugh things off but this time, I was sick of her making me look like a concieted b*tch to people so I made it clear she was misunderstanding and I could tell she didn't like this. She snarled and stormed off. It got pretty awkward after that and everyone was confused about why she was saying that to me.
Sam ended up getting a boyfriend. I didn't like him so I stayed away but she would always bring him over even though he treated my family like crap. He called my dog ugly, he never thanked my grandma for cooking them dinners, and he ignored my other family members. He would come over and flop on the couch like a beached whale. I couldn't tell him to leave so I hid in my bedroom. I found out from him that Sam was sharing a lot of me and my family's personal business. Things like, money, drama, lawsuits, and issues we were having within the family that were NOT supposed to be discussed for fun. She shared EXTREMELY private things and this broke my family's trust with her. Everyone tried to keep things secret from her out of fear that she'd tell people she knew. Sam shared me and another family member's sexuality with her friends and boyfriend. I told Sam that I was not ready to tell my parents yet because they weren't big supporters of that kind of stuff. She now holds this over my head and hints about it to my parents. She doesn't do this to my other family member even though they aren't out either, she only uses this again me.
One time my Sam got drunk and told me that her and her boyfriend had sex where I sleep. She thought this was absolutely hilarious and I was so pissed. I had never felt such anger and betrayal. She also made a few sexual jokes about me to her boyfriend which left me feeling disgusted so I'd rather not discuss those.
Sam is almost 22 now and she's still living with us. She doesn't have a job and she doesn't help much with chores. She plays on her phone all day or watches TV. I'm working 3 days a week and finishing school but Sam tells me that I do nothing all day and I need to do more with my time. She also told me I shouldn't be allowed to finish high-school because she never did, even though she didn't want to finish and dropped out by choice. I tried to explain to her that I really want to finish high-school and save up money for college but she thinks I don't deserve to.
She stills says horrible things to me like "you have no future, you'll still be sitting on your ass in your parents house when you're 30." She also told me that she hopes I can't have kids because I'd be a terrible selfish mother. She steals my food and shames my interests.
I miss the sister who loved me back. I don't know who she is now and I don't know why she thinks we're in competition.
Please share your thoughts on my story and let me know if you've dealt with similar issues! 💛

I came to Austin for college and got grandfathered into a gorgeous, insanely cheap rental in one of the loveliest, and most expensive neighborhoods in Austin. After two decades, my rent has only gone up a couple hundred bucks.
If you’re familiar with the West Lynn/Jeffrey’s/Fresh Plus/Josephine House area you know it’s essentially within walking distance to so many awesome parts of Austin there’s too much to name! About as close to downtown as you can get and still be surrounded by trees. My freestanding home is a little funky slice of Austin history, 140 years old, hardwood floors and stained cement, two stories, two bedrooms, washer and dryer connection, gas stove, bathtub & shower, 1Gbs WiFi from AT&T (if you have an account), kitchen & dining nook, living room, French doors, 1200sq ft, lots of natural light, stained glass windows, a stone patio with picnic table, central heating/AC, upgraded see through glass kitchen cabinetry, garbage disposal, set off the street so you’re surrounded by greenery, with a private parking space and much more. Pet friendly and renovation friendly.
I’m raising money to return to my home country on the other side of the world, so I’m auctioning off my place for a finder’s fee. I’ll make sure you take over the lease, security deposit is covered, and you can even have my fridge, washer & dryer if you want! Move in anytime after 6/15.
Happy to answer questions, although I’m only going to share pictures and certain details with folks who make serious offers. If you’re interested in making such an offer, take a minute to consider how much money you would save over the course of a single year (or as many years as you want) living in one of the coolest hoods in town, in a house that will make all your friends jealous. Then DM me a bid based on what that would be worth to you.

That’s all it was. A game.
Something my friends and I used to play during the summer when we had nothing better to do. I never expected that it would get so out of hand.
I never expected it to come back long after recovery.
To anyone reading, please don’t do what I did.
I’m putting this out there to warn people.
On that warm summer evening, we played the role of Pandora.
Except, the monsters we released were far worse than what’s told in stories.
Because stories end.
And this doesn’t.
I still remember the date. July 16, 2013. I was an upcoming senior in high school while the others were getting prepared for their freshman year of college, raving on about their majors, life plans, dorms, you get the point. The summer had been bittersweet as those months would be the last I’d see them for a while. Because of this, Anthony, Lola, Eliza, and I would spend the bulk of our time together going to festivals and various camping trips, trying to make the most out of the summer while we could. On that day, the day I wish I could forget, Eliza had run late to one of our hangouts at my place. This was odd since as an Ivy league student, she was usually early or right on time to these kind of things. Half past three, we heard her knocking on my door rapidly, which was also out of character considering that she was usually the calm one in our group. A bit worried, I hurried down the stairs with Anthony and Lola following close behind, expecting Eliza to be in hysterics due to her frantic behavior. When I opened the door, however, there she was with a bright smile on her face, her red hair getting in the way of her eyes, which were a dark green shade. She pushed her hair out of her face with one hand and held a brown box in the other, and she was bouncing up and down as she usually does when she’s about to talk about something exciting.
“You’ll never believe what I found.” Eliza’s voice could barely hold her impatience as she stepped inside and kicked her shoes off once she crossed over my threshold.
“What’s up with you today?” Anthony questioned, looking more confused than concerned now.
“I’ll show you guys in a minute. Can we go up to your room, Felix?” Eliza looked over at me with her trademark smile, knowing damn well we were all too curious to just leave that box unopened. Without a word, I led the group up to my room and shut the door after everyone had walked in. Anthony took his usual spot on my beanbag and unzipped his hoodie, which had the MSM logo sprawled across the front in big red letters. He adjusted his dark rimmed glasses and took on his usual stoic expression. Lola wore a dark blue FIT shirt, which she revealed more of when she moved her locs over her shoulder as she sat on my desk chair and wheeled over to us. As she did, the various necklaces she wore clinked against each other. Eliza herself was the smartest out of the group, and probably in the whole school as well. She had gotten accepted into multiple prestigious schools, but ultimately settled for Harvard to pursue a degree in some obscure philanthropic career. Unlike Anthony and Lola, Eliza wore her regular outfit –usually a white tank top and jeans– and sat on my bed with the box in her lap. I took a seat next to her to get a closer look.
“So what’d you find?” The others moved closer.
“Something we probably haven’t thought about for a really long time. Do you guys remember that one game we used to play in middle school? The one we made after Felix joined our class?” Eliza looked at our puzzled faces to see if we had connected the dots, but her clue didn’t seem to strike any of us with familiarity.
“After Felix joined? Didn’t we just hang out or something that weekend?” Anthony questioned.
“We did, but there was something else,” Eliza raised an eyebrow, “you guys seriously don’t remember?”
At that moment, I saw Lola’s eyes light up and a thin smile grew on her lips, something she always did whenever she was able to figure something out.
“You mean that little map game we played? Where we would go out to the woods and explore?”
Both Anthony and I seemed to have remembered as well with the mention of a ‘map game.’ I chimed in, “ yeah I remember! Every once in a while when we were all bored, we’d pick a random spot on a map to go to and explore there for a bit, right? When did we stop doing that anyways? I remember really enjoying it.”
“Well life happens,” Eliza responded to me, “but I was thinking of things to do for the rest of the summer when I suddenly remembered that game! That’s why I was so late for our meetup today, I was looking through my attic for this.” Eliza shook the box slightly and a couple things clattered around inside.
“There’s no way.” Anthony sounded like he was in disbelief.
“You mean…?” Lola sat forward in the chair. Eliza smirked, her adventurous nature creeping out as realization swept over us like a wave.
“Mhm! I found the map we used to use as well as the things we collected from our little escapades.” With that, Eliza opened the box, revealing a folded piece of paper and various trinkets scattered over the bottom of the capsule. Lola squealed with excitement and immediately snatched the box from Eliza, who simply chuckled and leaned back on the bed.
“No way! Everything’s still in here!” Lola digged through the box and placed whatever objects she found across the blanket. Anthony got up and sat at the foot of my bed, to observe our findings more closely. There was a piece of some clay pottery, some rusty springs and scraps of metal, an old digital camera, and some other random stuff I can’t recall to memory right now. Anthony picked up a spring and turned it in his palm.
“Shit man, this is from that abandoned junkyard we found in 8th grade…that feels like such a long time ago now.”
I examined the piece of pottery with Eliza looking over my shoulder. Lola picked up the digital camera.
“Do you remember where this came from?” I turned to Eliza and held up my discovery.
“No clue,” she shrugged. It must have been a while ago if even she didn’t remember. I turned the piece over and grew curious when I saw weird symbols inscribed on the inside of it. I squinted a bit, trying to discern some sort of pattern within the scribbles.
I turned to Eliza again, “hey, what do you think-”
“OH MY GOD GUYS IT STILL WORKS!” Lola’s voice went up a whole octave as she motioned to us.
The rest of us looked up as she turned the camera to face us. There were various photos we went through. All of us at lakes, museums, exploring the woods; everything we did from 7th grade until my freshman year seemed to be documented. The last photo was arguable the best and msot bittersweet. It was a picture of the whole group from a while ago. We were sitting at Eliza’s dinner table with a giant chocolate cake on the middle of it adorned with two candles shaped like the numbers one and five. Eliza was talking to me in the photo. Her hair was even more red at the time and she wore it in a braid. I looked about the same in the photo as I did then, with light brown hair, blue eyes, and freckles scattered all over my body and face. I was smiling sheepishly at Eliza. I now knew why Anthony said it was obvious I had a crush on her in 8th grade. Lola went through the most changes out of all of us. At the time in the photo, she had her hair straightened and side-swept, with a bright pink streak in her bangs. She wore clunky jewlery and a frilly skirt underneath a long tank top, leaning over the table to cut another slice of cake. All of us had birthday hats on except for Anthony, who kept his sitting on the table. He held up a peace sign staring straight into the camera with a stoic expression. He looked like a statue compared to the rest of us, who were laughing and smiling. You could tell he was having fun, though.
“Well don’t you look like a ray of sunshine,” Lola snickered as Anthony shot her a dirty look.
“At least I didn’t go through some weird scene phase in freshman year,” He smiled and watched Lola’s face, knowing she was blushing despite her dark skin which made it practically invisible. I let a laugh slip out, but quickly stifled it knowing that if I kept going it would mean death. Lola side-eyed me and continued, “I was using my creative liberty to experiment with my options as an artist,” she said with an overly-posh accent that made Eliza laugh.
“Yeah Anthony, don’t be such a downer,” Eliza teased. Anthony simply rolled his eyes and suppressed a smile to pretend like he was mad at all of us. He looked into the box and picked up the paper we left, unfolding it with a hint of excitement and curiosity. When he looked at it, only two words came out of his mouth.
“Holy shit.”
“What, what is it?” Lola tried to look at the other side of the paper, but Anthony quickly held it out of her view.
“What if I didn’t want to show you?” A smile crept onto his face. This was one of those rare moments where he’d be in the moos to joke around with us.
“Don’t be a dick bro,” I said, laughing as I went to grab for the paper. Anthony just held it up in the air and pushed me off of him and I landed on my floor. While he was distracted, though, Eliza took her chance and snatched the paper right out of his hand.
“You boys need to learn to be nice,” she warned in her jokingly stern voice as she unfolded the paper and spread it out onto my bed. We all leaned over to look.
It was a map of a couple towns including ours. There were around ten small star stickers placed on different areas on the map near the streets the four of us lived in. On the top of the map, a couple words were scrawled in black sharpie; “Pick a Place!” I could see everyone’s faces light up.
“Oh my god it’s our map!” Lola shouted and pointed to one of the stars near her street, “this was where we found that old junkyard right?”
Eliza smiled, “I remember that. It feels like such a long time ago now.” She pointed to another star, “and this is where we found that lake we made a hideout of. I still remember swimming in there in 8th grade…”
The four of us reminisced for a while, talking about where we had gone and what we did there, and how impressive it was that we didn’t get tetanus from that junkyard. After nearly an hour of conversation, Eliza asked something that made all of us stop.
“So how about it guys? Do you want to do one last round before the summer ends?”
The rest of us looked around at each other. It was clear we all wanted to do it. Eliza seemed to catch on and she nodded.
“Who wants to pick where we go?”
“How about you do the honors?” Lola suggested, motioning towards the map. “You’re the one that brought this stuff in anyways.”
Eliza raised her eyebrow but didn’t object. Without a word, she examined the map for a few minutes, then placed her finger on one spot a bit far from my house.
“How about here?”
“You think we can make it that far?” Anthony asked.
“Well, we can drive now so why not?”
“You sure there’s some type of trail we can drive on? That spot looks pretty deep in the woods”
“We can find a path to drive on for a bit then walk the rest of the way. C’mon guys, this is probably our last chance to do something like this! Felix, you can drive right?”
Eliza and the rest turned to me with a hopeful expression. I had to comply.
“Sure. No big deal, right?”
All three of them cheered and high fived each other, looking pretty excited to go on one last adventure.
“So when do we leave?” I questioned.
Eliza flashed that smile again, “right now.”
“Right now?!”
“Hell yeah,” Lola chimed in. “It shouldn’t take that long, right?”
“I guess…” Even then I felt uneasy about the whole thing. I didn’t feel prepared enough to go on some random trip into the woods. I needed to pack food, water, flashlights, I had no idea how long this was going to take. Little did I know that those things would be the least of my worries a couple hours from then. I wish I could go back and convince my 17-year-old self that it wasn’t worth it, that I should just convince my friends to stay and talk for the rest of the day. I wish Eliza had never remembered that stupid game. In a way, I’m almost mad at her for what happened, but I know it wasn’t anyones fault. We just wanted to have fun. I wish we could’ve just had fun. But God had a different plan for us. One that made me think Satan himself devised it instead. On July 16, 2013, Anthony He, Lola Smith, Eliza Landserson, and Felix Johanson went on an adventure that none of them were ready for.
Author's Note:
If you just read all of that then thank you so so so much for doing so! I'm a rookie writer, so feel free to comment any constructive criticism you might have if you have actual writing experience! This is the first silly little story I'm posting here, so I hope you enjoyed :)

Vecna: Eve of Ruin🎲

The evil lich-god Vecna has unearthed secrets he can use to unravel and remake the multiverse. Stopping Vecna will require working with three of the multiverse's most famous archmages, traveling to far-flung locales, and rebuilding the legendary Rod of Seven Parts.
Vecna: Eve of Ruin is a high-stakes adventure in which the fate of the multiverse hangs in the balance. The heroes begin in the Forgotten Realms and travel to Planescape, Spelljammer, Eberron, Ravenloft, Dragonlance, and Greyhawk as they race to save existence from obliteration.
A level 10 to 20 adventure.

• 📕 Game system: DnD5e
• 🕛 Game start time: 2,00pm EST/8,00 pm GMT+2
• 🎮 Game Link - Tuesday - 2/6
• 🎮 Game Link - Wednesday - 3/6

🤓 About me

• I played RPG's for over 10 years, almost exclusively as a DM. Conventions, local game centers and community interactions are all things I did and enjoyed. Decided to go online to continue what is, to put it the simplest, my passion.
• Several ongoing campaigns: players are engaged, looking forward toward next sessions, actively engaging in their own discord communities
• I would picture myself as a rules as fun DM rather then rules as written. I do homebrew materials, constantly rewriting and improving. I reward roleplay and creative thinking. My players make the story - I just flesh it out.

👉 What am I paying for?

• The work I put into my campaigns: Even though I run established adventures I do not run them straight out of the box - I always make sure to purchase additional maps, resources and outright change the story if need be just so my players have a memorable time
• Dedicated players with a certain level of maturity, a fee eliminates player no-shows and creates a full experience where we look to finish the module, not just start it.
• Scripts and modules that automate the combat and provide players with a smooth gameplay experience
• Full access to Heroforge
• Maps from talented patreon creators: Domille's Wondrous Works, Czepeku, Mad Cartographer and more.
• VTT dice from Q-workshop and Rollsmith.

📖 Content details

• Any official WotC/Paizo product
• Unearthed Arcana/Playtest materials
• Homebrew (open for discussion)

🐲 Rules

• Be respectful to other players - everyone wants to have a fun game.
• Everyone is welcome, regardless of sex, gender, sexual orientation, minority status, language skill or game skill. 💕

📞 How can I contact you?

• I am active on discord each day. A private message here or a discord small talk is all it takes: dmthetulio
• If you would like to play another campaign, in the same time period in any of the systems I do paid sessions in (pathfinder, starfinder, dnd5e) be sure to contact me! I am more than willing to change the campaign for something else if we are still waiting for players.
• Reviews

Vecna: Eve of Ruin🎲

The evil lich-god Vecna has unearthed secrets he can use to unravel and remake the multiverse. Stopping Vecna will require working with three of the multiverse's most famous archmages, traveling to far-flung locales, and rebuilding the legendary Rod of Seven Parts.
Vecna: Eve of Ruin is a high-stakes adventure in which the fate of the multiverse hangs in the balance. The heroes begin in the Forgotten Realms and travel to Planescape, Spelljammer, Eberron, Ravenloft, Dragonlance, and Greyhawk as they race to save existence from obliteration.
A level 10 to 20 adventure.

• 📕 Game system: DnD5e
• 🕛 Game start time: 2,00pm EST/8,00 pm GMT+2
• 🎮 Game Link - Tuesday - 2/6
• 🎮 Game Link - Wednesday - 3/6

🤓 About me

• I played RPG's for over 10 years, almost exclusively as a DM. Conventions, local game centers and community interactions are all things I did and enjoyed. Decided to go online to continue what is, to put it the simplest, my passion.
• Several ongoing campaigns: players are engaged, looking forward toward next sessions, actively engaging in their own discord communities
• I would picture myself as a rules as fun DM rather then rules as written. I do homebrew materials, constantly rewriting and improving. I reward roleplay and creative thinking. My players make the story - I just flesh it out.

👉 What am I paying for?

• The work I put into my campaigns: Even though I run established adventures I do not run them straight out of the box - I always make sure to purchase additional maps, resources and outright change the story if need be just so my players have a memorable time
• Dedicated players with a certain level of maturity, a fee eliminates player no-shows and creates a full experience where we look to finish the module, not just start it.
• Scripts and modules that automate the combat and provide players with a smooth gameplay experience
• Full access to Heroforge
• Maps from talented patreon creators: Domille's Wondrous Works, Czepeku, Mad Cartographer and more.
• VTT dice from Q-workshop and Rollsmith.

📖 Content details

• Any official WotC/Paizo product
• Unearthed Arcana/Playtest materials
• Homebrew (open for discussion)

🐲 Rules

• Be respectful to other players - everyone wants to have a fun game.
• Everyone is welcome, regardless of sex, gender, sexual orientation, minority status, language skill or game skill. 💕

📞 How can I contact you?

• I am active on discord each day. A private message here or a discord small talk is all it takes: dmthetulio
• If you would like to play another campaign, in the same time period in any of the systems I do paid sessions in (pathfinder, starfinder, dnd5e) be sure to contact me! I am more than willing to change the campaign for something else if we are still waiting for players.
• Reviews

Vecna: Eve of Ruin🎲

The evil lich-god Vecna has unearthed secrets he can use to unravel and remake the multiverse. Stopping Vecna will require working with three of the multiverse's most famous archmages, traveling to far-flung locales, and rebuilding the legendary Rod of Seven Parts.
Vecna: Eve of Ruin is a high-stakes adventure in which the fate of the multiverse hangs in the balance. The heroes begin in the Forgotten Realms and travel to Planescape, Spelljammer, Eberron, Ravenloft, Dragonlance, and Greyhawk as they race to save existence from obliteration.
A level 10 to 20 adventure.

• 📕 Game system: DnD5e
• 🕛 Game start time: 2,00pm EST/8,00 pm GMT+2
• 🎮 Game Link - Tuesday - 2/6
• 🎮 Game Link - Wednesday - 3/6

🤓 About me

• I played RPG's for over 10 years, almost exclusively as a DM. Conventions, local game centers and community interactions are all things I did and enjoyed. Decided to go online to continue what is, to put it the simplest, my passion.
• Several ongoing campaigns: players are engaged, looking forward toward next sessions, actively engaging in their own discord communities
• I would picture myself as a rules as fun DM rather then rules as written. I do homebrew materials, constantly rewriting and improving. I reward roleplay and creative thinking. My players make the story - I just flesh it out.

👉 What am I paying for?

• The work I put into my campaigns: Even though I run established adventures I do not run them straight out of the box - I always make sure to purchase additional maps, resources and outright change the story if need be just so my players have a memorable time
• Dedicated players with a certain level of maturity, a fee eliminates player no-shows and creates a full experience where we look to finish the module, not just start it.
• Scripts and modules that automate the combat and provide players with a smooth gameplay experience
• Full access to Heroforge
• Maps from talented patreon creators: Domille's Wondrous Works, Czepeku, Mad Cartographer and more.
• VTT dice from Q-workshop and Rollsmith.

📖 Content details

• Any official WotC/Paizo product
• Unearthed Arcana/Playtest materials
• Homebrew (open for discussion)

🐲 Rules

• Be respectful to other players - everyone wants to have a fun game.
• Everyone is welcome, regardless of sex, gender, sexual orientation, minority status, language skill or game skill. 💕

📞 How can I contact you?

• I am active on discord each day. A private message here or a discord small talk is all it takes: dmthetulio
• If you would like to play another campaign, in the same time period in any of the systems I do paid sessions in (pathfinder, starfinder, dnd5e) be sure to contact me! I am more than willing to change the campaign for something else if we are still waiting for players.
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Disclaimer: I’m not looking to get back with this person, rather understand what they’re doing. I know a lot of answers will be the simple, “you can’t”, but it would be more helpful to receive some insight on my situation. I (25 F) broke up with my ex (29 M) 3 weeks ago. I haven’t decided what I think he has, whether it be NPD, some type of avoidant attachment, or a plethora of other diagnoses for his behavior. I was with him just shy of 2 years, and it was a roller coaster nearly every second. He has some rather extreme childhood familial trauma that was never resolved. I won’t go into details but know it related to abuse and abandonment. Around the time I met him I had encountered a pretty life changing family event of my own. He came along and appeared stable, well off, driven, charming and honestly caught my attention from day one. I didn’t think I was looking for one, but I do think he turned into a distraction for me,(and my fear; a trauma bond). We progressed into a casual relationship, which progressed into a more serious one. This is when the issues began. Fast forward to the end of our relationship, he manipulated, ghosted, lied, gaslit, cheated, etc, the entire time. I got addicted to the BRIEF highs that came from the lows, which were nearly constant.
So to where we are now: we broke up 3 weeks ago. 3 hour long conversation of us both sobbing, saying how much we loved each other, and a lot of him saying how bad of a person he was and couldn’t change. I fully believe that. We went no contact with the exception of following socials. I am currently on a beach trip with one of his good friend’s gf and another friend I met through her (trip was planned before we separated, but still came because I see these girls as friends now). He hadn’t interacted with any of my socials these last 3 weeks, or I with his. I woke up after posting a picture yesterday to myself and the two girls I’m with, who were friends with him far before he even met me, blocked on instagram. What is he doing? Is he going to come back to try to Hoover me? I don’t understand his thought process. I want to stop thinking of him as I know he isn’t for me, but struggling to make sense of the huge game he’s played these past years.

My husband and I quit drinking. Here’s the thing, we’ve been together 15 years and I drank socially when I met him and always handled my alcohol well. He on the other hand does not. We’ve had some pretty huge issues in our relationship surrounding alcohol consumption: one time he nearly lost his mind yelling at me all night, he has almost jumped into a car with children after a day of drinking (someone took his keys and hid them not allowing him to drive and making him stay the night). when he’s drunk he cannot control his emotions, he goes through all of them. I have pictures of him sitting in a pool of his own vomit… I have videos of him yelling his head off, calling me names etc. the list goes on. The last incident when he almost jumped into a car with the kids was rock bottom (I though getting arrested and beaten up on vacation would be the rock bottom but it wasn’t).
The incident when he almost drove was the last time he really drank (he tried to bring home beer on 2-3 separate occasions after that but I got pretty upset and gave him a hard time, he made the decision to completely keep away from it).
So in the 15 years we’ve been together there have been times when he’s quit temporarily (because he’s gotten really out of hand) but then slowly after some time he’ll bring home a beer for me, one for him (of course asking first and then I agree because I do enjoy a cold beer on a hot day), don’t get me wrong I know I should have said a hard ‘NO’ and I should have never drank again either because obviously it’s hard to have it in the house, or have someone else enjoy a beer around you when you can’t. But I always thought, one is not that big of a deal (next thing you know, he’s bringing home a few beers a few times a week).
So I was pregnant with my third baby when this driving incident almost took place, so I had already not been drinking for 9 months. Fast forward to Xmas when my baby was about 2 months old. I had a glass of wine at Christmas, he declined when my parents offered him one. It didn’t seem to bother him that I had a glass of wine, like I said I’ve never been out of hand like him.
So again, it’s been 1.5 years since I brought alcohol into the home and I don’t plan to. However, having a glass of wine on my brothers birthday doesn’t seem like it’s something that’s not allowed for me. I’m envited to my brothers birthday party and I’ll be driving so I would literally have one beer or one glass of wine in the span of hours… along with food consumption. I’m shocked that when I brought up the fact that I might enjoy a beer with my brother on his 40th birthday he began to call me an alcoholic? (Again, a glass of wine on Christmas and other then that no drinking for 1.5 years) we never talked about me not drinking, I never fucked up, alcohol doesn’t poison me and my brain like it does him. I was boiling inside when he started saying I have a problem, I told him I don’t and that I’ve been pregnant and my one glass of wine on Christmas ‘didn’t start anything’ because I didn’t start bringing alcohol into the house. I didn’t drink more after that one glass of wine. I feel like I would love to have a glass of wine a couple of times a year when a girlfriend comes to visit, or when it’s my brothers 40th bday! Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want him to start drinking again so I’ll stay away from it but I just don’t understand why he’s making a big deal about me having a beer on a big occasion when I’ve never been out of hand when drinking, or made stupid decisions like he has. I guess I was looking for him to say, ya you go ahead but I’m not having any… as opposed to starting a fight about how I have a problem? It just makes no sense to me unless he’s just projecting and maybe craving having a drink.
In the end I didn’t end up having a beer on my brothers birthday, but next year on my 40th I’d like to… I don’t want it to be an issue, and believe me if it means I can never drink again to keep him from ever drinking again I will, but I also feel like I can handle a drink 5 times out of the year without getting out of hand or starting bad habits. Thoughts?

So, after seeing the video of Mr.Puzzles' return. It's seeming like Mr. Puzzles is getting a SMG3 treatment by being part of the crew. one thing that seeing which is a problem with SMG4 lore is that it feels too inconsistent.
So are we going to forget about his creations like the Demonic Keyboard he sold to 4 which destroyed the castle, or the Simulation that he gave to Wren which traumatized Meggy by getting killed over and over again. Speaking of which Puzzlevision actually Nerfed him a lot by making him pathetic. So, it's time for a poll.
Which version of Mr.Puzzles is better.
I would personally choose the Adware Version from IGBP and WS. I liked how unknown and ominous he was during the two movies, and his two creations are something that seems threatening. (He almost killed 3 of the SMG4 Crew with just a Keyboard.)
Mr.Puzzles from Puzzlevision seems like a washed-up bootleg of Adware. He was defeated because of someone made a better video. (I still find it hard to believe that he's the same guy who destroyed Peach's Castle, and created a Simulation that is close to inescapable.) But one thing i will give credit towards Mr.Puzzles is that Jello did a fantastic job voicing him.
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I was on a mental health ward for trying not to be here anymore and I'm not anymore. I hated that place so much. The staff were useless and uncaring and made me feel awful. I missed my parents and I have agoraphobia. Living there was hell. I'd never been away from my home for YEARS and now I was being forced to live away from home overnight, not just for one night and I was not allowed to leave. So WHY do I miss it? They told me it wasnt a good place for autistic people to be which is fair, it wasnt. It wasn't a good place for anyone. Whats wrong with me?
I also don't want to admit it but I still don't want to be here. My life has been baby proofed so I cant DO anything about that and because of that I feel like people are like "yeah yeah you always say you don't want to be here" and its like no you dont understand this SUCKS. I dont like life and I dont understand people who do? Like I am sorry but thats some blessed NT bs that you can just be born into this world and like it and want to stay here and be happy??? Why cant I be happy? Why wasn't I diognosed sooner and am now saddled with CPSTD from not being diognosed sooner with autism and therefore not having my needs met?? It was established after my diognosis my agoraphobia stemmed from my undiognosed autism not having my needs met when outside because no one believed me. Its not fair.
I made a friend on the ward and she was great but something she said was "you're clearly not struggling as much as I am" because we were both discharged but she ended up back there and it hurt so much and I told her and she apolagised but every time I talk to her now I feel like I'll never be taken seriously and my suffering means nothing because shes suffeing more and its like I need to forgive and forget but I dont know HOW?? How do you do that. I do the forgiving part but I can't forget. I feel like a fake in everything. A fake autistic, DEFINATELY a fake ADHDer since I'm new to my diognosis and it still doesnt feel real or right despite it making logical sense for some reason this label won't stick. I had/have an ED but still feel like a fake anorexic and I feel like everything I do from my depression to my anxiety is fake or not enough and I just want it to go away and end because everything in life hurts and I mean physically and mentally. I have physical conditions too, chronic illnesses aka never going away feeling ill!! What the hell!! I already got autism, adhd, anorexia, anxiety, ocd, depression, cptsd, bpd is that not enough??? No! Because even with that people still say "at least youre not struggling as much as the people on the ward right now and I AM. I dont WANT to be here but is that my choice?? Apparently not! All my preffered methods which I will not name for otheres safety, are gone and call me stipid but I dont want my last moments alive to be in excruciating pain and also the methods left to me aren't guaranteed, I'll probably just end up worse off and still alive and everyone and everything SUCKS. People suck. Climate change sucks. Everyone is an idiot and Im sorry but neurotypicals need to stop being stupud I know I'm not allowed to say that but I dont care. I hate this stupid world. I hate being upset. I hate caring about my weight like it matters. And i don't want to be around when my parents die on top of it all my dad is 60 and my mum is 52 its not fair!! I want them young and I want my life back and I want to be a kid again because I missed all my childhood due to GODDAMN AUTISM.
Why does life hurt so much. I want to be happy. I want to be at peace. I want someone to talk to but Im scared of scaring all my friends away and no one gets it anyway. I want to scream.
Also saw high support needs autistic people on insta saying "dont you low support needs autistics compare yourselves to us because youre not like us and dont look like us and dont know our stuggles" and that made me so mad. Screw those people too. I thought we were in this together but apparently not. Sorry I don't fit your idea of autism like I dont fit someones idea when they picture their 5yo nonverbal nephew who loves trains. IM SORRY IM NOT ENOUGH

Hi everyone,
I'm in a bit of a bind and need some advice. I have severe entomophobia (bug phobia), and having a bug in my home or even seeing a picture of one makes me extremely anxious. I know it’s not logical, and most bugs aren’t dangerous, but I just can’t handle them.
I'm new to the area and originally come from a place where bugs are quite rare. I’ve never lived alone before, so dealing with this on my own is really tough. My boyfriend has been great about coming over to help, but I feel bad asking him all the time, especially since bug encounters are unpredictable.
So, I’m wondering if it’s possible to find someone who would be willing to come over, find, kill, and dispose of any bugs for me if I paid them.
My questions are:

1. How many of you would be willing to help with this?
   
2. What do you think would be a fair amount to pay for this kind of help?
   

Any advice or suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thanks so much!

Hey all,
So last year I bought an old Vaio for a personal project that required an old PC with IDE hookups. Mission accomplished after much headaches, but now I want to make this into a proper work/ battle station.
Whoever owned this last did a poor job wiping the system. Primary user on C: can't be accessed. I dont know their password. Mouse and keyboard will not work on that partition so I can't select Admin to restore from cmd.
Original workaround was to install a new partition of XP on D: but I'd like to do a full restore to nothing and go from there. Something seems to be corrupted with VaioRecovery, so I can't use that from D: either.
So objectives: 1) how do I restore? Just switch the HDDs and do another XP install?
2) How can I upgrade this? I would like to snag a version of the old RenderWare and play with that. My girlfriend would also love if I could boot the Sims 2 on this.
Thanks in advance. Sorry for the tech support post.

Hello! I made a similiar post a while back but I wanted to retry this again after not much luck

leans on ferrari greetings .. you can call me poppi <3, i have an actual name so I’ll give you that if we click! To start I’m from London and yes I sound exactly how you think … I’m turning 21 early June so I’m entering my hag era..

[before texting send a cute message and a picture of you attached! <3]

Here is a recent picture of me https://imgur.com/P5O4p8c there are more on my profile if you’re interested!
Relationship facts: Um zero 😭 idk if I’m cursed or like what but I’ve never had a genuine relationship before and definitely not a irl one in any way pfft. So I think it’s cause I run away like a coward when a guy would make there moves
Preferences: Open to long distance? I would love to meet one day ofcourse but with my studies and until I can move into dorms won’t be feesible for a while…
Please only message me if you’re actually attracted to me fr fr - preferences I like guys to be 5”8 or above cause I’m personally. 5”9 so 😭 my age range is firm at 19-24 I don’t feel too comfortable dating above or below that :(
About me?: Im East African! Im kinda chubby I suppose but it depends on what you would consider? My bmi is 20 but I am chubby so perhaps I’m cuddly? Well I am trying to go to the gym so I’m working on it. I’m 175cm tall and I do have long legs they are like 105cm… I hope and do plan to go to uni next year September so this is me reentering school sigh
I’m a complete chicken when it comes to horror films, i can’t do flying ants they are my biggest fear, I love to play games such as Minecraft, genshin, and lots of vr stuff… I mean if you got a vr headset marry me? I am a hopeless romantic actually, I can get clingy and when comfortable I am very physically affectionate if you like that! Listen I don’t shy away from giving kisses or cuddles and I’m also super loyal like um cheating? Could never be me… my mbti is both a mix of INFP and INTP but I’m more infp leaning i feel. I make really good desserts so I would love to cook and force feed you my delicious treats hehe
Rizz info?: If we get past the stage of calling and we get to video calls? Oh trust me the chemistry!! I’m a completely different person on video chat and calls than text so hey if you got a nice voice it’s probably over for me, my weakness..
More stuff about me: I love love indie pop and indie music it’s my weakness like TV girl are a treasured fave of mine… let’s Spotify share together <3 For tv I don’t watch as much as I used too but I do love total drama island, the old teen titans, shows like that oh and avatar I have a soft spot for aang and the gang!
Hates: I’m not a fan of dry texters 😭 I do believe in the whole to date somebody you should be friends type thing tbh and I’m kind of a dumb ass LMAO it would be nice if we could be dumb and dumber together you know like binge watch nikado avocado videos together 💀
I have once more yapped so much but you know flashes diamonds if it means me and you can meet then ya know…

So me (23F) and my bf (23F) we went to the same schools, and known each other for about 12years now, over time she became the person I trust the most in my life. For family reasons I moved to another country about 6 years ago, and even tho in the beginning was rough, we still made sure to keep up the contact and make frequently video calls.
I flew back for holidays not even a year after moving and that was the last time we saw each other in person. About 2 years ago when I went back for holidays, I stayed at an auntie’s place. The plan was for me to catch the train and stay with her in the city where she is at uni. Unfortunately, my uncle was admitted to the hospital a day after my arrival. Even tho it wasn’t anything serious he still had to stay there for 2weeks, that being the entirety of my stay. I explain to her, that even tho it wasn’t nothing serious, I didn’t felt comfortable leaving my auntie alone, for multiple reasons. At the time she got a little bit upset, but after a long talk and me explain how I felt, she understood my decision and my feelings.
Fast forward to a couple of days ago, when she randomly calls me and tells me she has great news. Her, her boyfriend and his mom, were coming to the country I’m at, in a little holiday of 4days. I couldn’t express how happy I was, it’s been nearly 5years since the last time I saw her and I nearly cried. I did told her that as I haven’t had the chance to meet her boyfriend, I didn’t want to make things awkward by just sticking by them in their holidays. I told her to just tell me a day she had more time, and we could go for dinner, I would pick her up and drop her off so she didn’t have to worry about nothing. After that, she told me she would speak with her boyfriend (as he was the one that made the schedule for the 4days) and she would let me know the best day, just so I could take it off work.
That same night she message me saying that after having a talk with her boyfriend, they came to the conclusion there wasn’t enough time for her to meet me. I sent her an ok and we haven’t talked ever since.
I need to disclose in here that she was not even 20minutes away from me. Most of the places they went to visit were literally so close to area I work and live, it makes it sound like a joke.
We haven’t talked for about a month now, but when I saw the pictures she posted of the places they visited, I couldn’t help but feel hurt and betrayed in some way.
Now is this a revenge for what happened 2 years ago? I genuinely don’t think she would be that petty, but I can’t think of any other reason for her not to make an effort for us to meet up. We’ve been through so much shit together and it breaks my heart to not speak to her, but I can’t stop feeling that she is choosing her boyfriend over me.
WIBTA if I wait for her to message me first, (what I don’t think she will), so we can sort this out?
Also English is not my first language, so my apologies for the grammar and the lack of diverse words :))

TL;DR: PLEASE READ THE LN!!!
I've always had an obsession over manhwa and manga (especially OI), and I was especially intrigued because how polarizing people's opinions were on it. I love my fair share of angst and trauma porn and toxicity, and although I dig through all the webtoon and manga trash out there, even I have lines I don't cross/tolerate, and series I drop. Especially with abusive/toxic couples, shit story, lack of development, lack of realism, lack of respect, misogyny, repetitive tropes, etc. But I always give everything a try (even trashy sexist smuts or Chinese manhuas)
But please I IMPLORE you: give the light novel of [My Beloved Oppressor] a read. The manhwa is great and beautiful, but doesn't do the story as much justice with how many details and emotional nuances that are left out. It's so rushed too.
I just finished and I am clutching my pears, biting my fist, sobbing my eyes out, and screaming.
I came for toxic hot trash and irredeemable black haired MLs and timid FLs to rag on, but actually got pretty hooked and teary from these 20 manhwa chapters. I saw on this reddit a great free place to read quality translations at: https://www.patreon.com/collection/188783?view=expanded
I do not ever read LNs for even my top-tier SSS class manhwas, but I had an unusual pull into these characters' lives and story. And thus I began to spiral with these characters.
To avoid spoilers, I wasn't expecting the development of the story, and I truly felt like I was going through the same life-changing rollercoaster as the characters. Not just the FL and ML but the world, setting, side characters, etc. the story is well thought out, detailed, BEAUTIFULLY written and expressed, and I literally felt like I was being sucker punched at some parts I was almost nauseous and disoriented. I could clearly picture scenes with such an artistic vivid imagination and suffered to many emotions throughout the reading.
My tissues are soaked with hot tears, and yet at the end I feel so unbelievably hurt and yet whole from the entire LN. The side stories and ending seriously felt so complete, and I felt there weren't any loose ends besides maybe some parts of the MLs past and whatnot, but I never said this series was perfect. I am very satisfied after, although I feel so impacted.
But they felt like fleshed out characters that I can't bring myself to love or hate, and I just want them find peace and happiness. I love how the FLs draws her line and doesn't just come running back to the ML when he's all ghastly and begging forgiveness. And he honestly doesn't do too much annoying begging and obsessing. He does try his best to separate them and to just love her from the shadows and be respectful of her wishes, although he's horrified of the thought of her killing herself while out. Even if not perfectly or at first. He also doesn't just leave his duties to some poor assistant side character, or completely neglect his role as the commander. In fact, he drowns in it since he feels it's the best thing he can do for her (bring peace and end the war and make a better place for her to live). It's my pet peeve when MLs abandon their jobs/duties over their loss of the FL and the company/empire/whatever they're running suffers from his emotional outbursts and grief over her while he's got bags under his eyes and has sexy shot of him with alcohol and cigarettes lmao.
The MLs development is truly such a breath of fresh air. I can understand his fucked up mentality and obsession, his self-deprication, self-destructive nature, and inferiority, and so on. And the FL isn't some pushover smiley happy Mary Sue. She has her flaws and confronts them throughout the story, and she's not some completely innocent perfect victim either. She really grows so much and I love how she interacts with Heiner. She really recognizes how unhealthy his 'love' is until he fully recognizes his feelings and perspective.
They get dirty and scarred, fight and argue, have unbearably sweet moments that made me want to burst, and gut wrenching parts that made me have to set me phone down. The insight the LN gives to Annette and Heiner's thoughts and feelings is on a whole different level.
For the homies who already read all of the LN too: First of all, Catherine supremacy for life. They were a fleshed out family with feelings, and not some tool or stepping stone for Annette like other runaway FLs after escaping or divorce.
Can't stress enough how the story doesn't just tunnel vision on the main couple too. Side characters are part of the story and make big impacts. Even the sniper at the church who got his face mauled is who saved her life in the fire. And even Catherine (in the side stories) would give it to Heiner over the phone and he'd reflect on himself. Even the guy who ratted Annette out while she was staying with them post-divorce showed up again when he lost his legs in battle and they had a moment together.
Annette's descent into depression was depicted so realistically it hit too close to home. The memory loss, handwriting and dexterity degradation, and her reaction to the miscarriage felt too real. So often depictions can feel too cheap or shallow. I was horrified by her suicide attempts but could completely put myself in her shoes. But it just doesn't go away quickly either, she does struggle with it and taking care of herself, or having the motivation to recover or do therapy to improve her ruined left hand after the church collapse
>!But seriously, the war church fire incident and the piano was seriously immaculate. The references to the Saint mural and glimpses to the past that reminds me of how far we've come and how much of her life has changed, Joseph, and the piano-playing scene. The shaken feelings of the enemy troops and battle with morality, that moment of pure serenity, I was so absorbed. I mean the play that the piano and music had in her journey and the story too was so tasteful.
And oh my God the ending with the title meaning reveal- I seriously thought it was another shitty toxic title but it was actually the name of the song Heiner fell in love with before he met her... and the one she played that lured him in. And what a switch around because I always assumed the ML was the oppressor in question, but really it was the FL to him because how much she engulfed his life. They even address in the story how her love is spread between so many things (piano) and people, and Heiner has nothing but her.!<
It's really such a tragedy that his innocent youthful crush became such a a double edged serrated knife. So obsessive and convoluted, and he created a cult-like worship of a fictional version of her in his head >! through extreme torture... I mean that kind of disassociation was literally the only way he could survive. Plus how could someone raised the way he was understand love and how to give/receive it? !<
I'll stop rambling here for now but guys please comment or something, I have so many feelings after reading the LN I NEED to talk more about it with someone 😭

Hi! I'm recently struggling with the best method to revise everything covered by the IB Biology HL syllabus in a fast and effective way. I only have 3 weeks as my exam is in early June :((
The content in IB Biology is notoriously wide in breadth and depth, with a lot of information that needs to be understood (+ memorized). Especially when the syllabus has recently changed, I cannot use any resources provided by seniors and have to figure out my own way to tackle the huge amount of information.
In view of this, I have a few questions in mind:

1. My biology teacher said that the upcoming exam is not meant to be challenging - she suggested that only the memorization of the syllabus (which is very brief and lack of detail sometimes), but the next second she said our responses in Extended Response Questions (like long essay questions) should be detailed and have connections between concepts. So what should I really to excel this exam? Memorizing the whole >50-page syllabus??? Or just refer to textbook?
2. My teacher also emphasised the importance of connecting the concepts and making a "full picture" to avoid misconception and being messed up by concepts. While I do understand the importance of this, I have no clue on how to do this at all. What should I do?
3. I have thought of using Anki flashcards to consolidate my memory by active recall (from a lot of YouTubers this is the ultimate strategy to success), but I don't know if it's worth to spend so much time on creating flashcards, given that I can only return to home by 6pm and must sleep by 11pm on every weekday... Any methods other than using Anki?

Sorry for this ramble! :( and I will highly appreciate any responses from you guys :D

I (22f) love my boyfriend (26f), but i hate his mom (50’s).
I would say our relationship is almost perfect besides the fact that I do not get along with his mom.
He has helped & taught me communication skills, patience, things I am not experienced with because of my history of toxic relationships. I can picture the future together, I see our children laughing with us, I see a happy home with date nights and lots of love.
I never thought I would be able to find such a perfect, perfect man but i did. I found someone who completes me in a way that nobody ever has - someone who i adore. We have the same values in life, the same sense of humor, and the same goals in raising our children.
from the start,more so now, we speak of marriage, children, and the future often - this is our goal and we have gotten comfortable with the idea of moving forward with an engagement soon.
It’s probably important to note that I am not close with my small family though, i was not a fan of the way that i was raised and i have been primarily independent since i was 17 years old. i speak with my family but we are LC and i hold them at a distance because of a lot of pain that they caused me in childhood.
However, he has made it a point to say that he would not like to raise his children the same way his mother raised him. That he wants his children to feel appreciated and loved and perfect just the way they are. He did not have a close relationship when they were younger, as have i with my family.
But, ever since i told him i’m not fond of his mom and that she makes me uncomfortable things have not been the same. He is getting aggravated with me because I have asked for some space between them and I. I asked for boundaries, but was unsure on how to implement them and wanted his help. He see’s nothing wrong with their relationship and told me to get used to it.
It seems that after that conversation, he intends for me to figure it out like he said but it’s pushing me to run away.
His mom has not done anything wrong necessarily, but she is not exactly welcoming - despite making attempts to be. She will ask questions about your life, and then mid convo she will start talking about how she would do things if it were here or to somebody else and strike up a convo.
I know she’s happy that her baby boy has found someone, but the way she inserts her life into his also makes me uncomfortable.
She will sit and stare at us from across the room at dinner and smile and wave every time you look over there, it’s kind of creepy to me and it’s even more awkward having to avoid eye contact after the first 3 times.
They call every single day for at least 20 mins and she requests my input on her opinions - which i never tend to agree with, making me feel like i can’t escape her even in my own home. my place for peace. (i have asked not to be included in calls but somehow i still get pulled in).
My bf will ask his mom for something before he will ask me, he will ask his moms opinion on something he has already asked me, he makes her pay for everything even though we are able to and she is struggling financially after a bad breakup.
He says her opinions don’t matter, and that he only goes to the weekly dinner outings because it’s free food but his consistent actions are telling me otherwise.
Personally, i find her a bit obnoxious and she makes everything about her while she speaks negatively about others. This is not exactly the type of person that I want around my children every day.
This is truly the problem, i do see her help with my bf’s sister’s kids and i know that she loves them but idk she is at their house constantly - daily! she has the kids more than her own daughter does sometimes. i don’t think i could handle that!
i already know that if we had a child, that she would want to be as involved as possible. for some reason, that gives me the ick. i don’t want help, especially from someone who is constantly making me feel inadequate. i’ve done everything else in my life up to this point, i don’t need mommy’s help.
i think i could handle it if it was like once every other month. hell, i only see my family on the big holidays and that is if i can/want to make it. But i have to see his family on average 3 times a month and that is not including the phone calls and random drop in because we live next door.
it’s becoming to be unbearable for me and it’s taking a toll on our relationship. i told him i understand that he loves his family, and that he wants to be close to them. i am not trying to shame him for that. i respect that, but at the same time i don’t want to be in that environment any longer.
i think it is only a problem now, because the rest of the relationship i was under the impression that his family would not be around so much but i am coming to terms with the fact that that is the case and that is just not what i am comfortable with for the rest of my life.
but, i am struggling because i love him so much and if it weren’t for this i would have married him yesterday. i want to make it work, but i also l feel like this much distaste is irreparable and it will only get worse if we were to get married. I want to move, i want to move far away and that was a dream before i met his family, something he once said he supported but i am unsure of the fact now. i fear that this is just too big of an incompatability issue but it’s hard to picture a life without him.
So, do you think we should break up and stop wasting each others time? or should i try to work on this and find a compromise?
any suggestions for compromise or establishing boundaries with his mother pleaseeee comment down below. thank you.
{TLDR; I hate my MIL. trying to decide if the relationship is worth salvaging.}

In my previous post here, I mentioned a cis friend who mogged me in every conceivable way and that IWNBAM and all the usual brainworm rot. Well, a couple days later, we ended up hanging out again in a bigger group and they were acting very nervous around this one particular dress we came across. I got a little suspicious of that, so I asked if they wanted to try it on once we were a distance away from everyone else as a way of testing the waters. Of course they were very hesitant, but eventually agreed once I said I'd pretend to be the one trying it on so the workers don't question anything. Which yeah it sucked larping as a woman, but I girlmode so it's whatever. I asked a worker to unlock the fitting room, headed in with the dress, swapped places with my friend once the worker left, and stood guard outside the door.
After three minutes of silence from the other side, I heard it slowly creak open with my friend's hand sticking out, which I grabbed confusedly and was yanked into the fitting room. After I recovered from the initial shock and embarrassment of being tossed around, I looked up and saw my friend absolutely beaming in the dress. This guy was never the most expressive or generally all too happy, but they were euphoric in that tiny ass room that could barely fit the two of us. They asked me to take a couple pictures as they posed and spun, and it really took me back to some of my own earliest trans milestones. In hindsight, there were plenty of signs from them I should've picked up on before, but I guess I was too preoccupied with my own mess.
Anyways, I left the fitting room, they left soon after me back in their normal clothes, they bought the dress "as a gift", and we caught up with everyone else. Fast forward to now, they've thanked me at least five different times for forcing them to try it on and has apparently worn the dress briefly every day since the purchase. There's also been a very noticeable shift in attitude since then. They were the type of guy to make self-deprecating jokes constantly, but has exploded with self confidence as of late. I asked about any name/identity changes, so far nothing beyond questioning since they were pretty deep into repping (religious family) and this is all new to them, but the progress they've made in such a short time has been beyond impressive to me. Idk how to end this so moral of the story is stop repping and let yourself be happy.