Hi all (and who knows/I hope dr K),
Prepare to read!! But if you don't want to, get the TLDR at the bottom; I am very uncommon with Reddit so forgive me any mistakes!
I've been strugglin' along in life for a while now (am 26 years old) and even though I've been doubling down on dr K's videos last 6 months or so, it's been 10 years I've been working very hard on myself (sometimes really really obsessively). As following is how great my life is going;
I just got hired for a new job (System Engineer in IT), got a good base (got a small but nice apartment with garden, money, stuff, a cute cat) and I am very healthy and strong (I put alot of time in my health) and maybe I got some on the lucky side with appearance thanks to my parents (no model but u know, just fine). + I've joined group therapy on 18 yrs old for one and a half year, been in cognitive therapy since my 21st and still going sometimes and have been reading about philosophy, psychology for years and thought alot about a mentality of 'overcoming' and practicing this alot too in for example Boxing. As more medicine for the mind I sometimes make poems, play guitar and sing or make raps (been a while tbh), meditate, work out more, have a healthy routine and habits, try to do enough new things and take risks (as in Love and also career or vacations alone etc).. I feel like I understand myself and my world alot better than before and that I could do something really cool with these insights.
To understand my question but honestly also because I am weirdly eager to share my story, here's a small part of my history; My parents got divorced at age 5 or 6 because my mother joined a sect (like Amish but modernized) and the church said she had to, against my fathers' wishes. It was a horrible divorce, where suddenly my dad was gone, they regularly got in screaming fights with my mom wishing him dead etc, slamming doors (my dad broke into the house at least once) arguing over the relationship and us, while we didn't really understood why and cried ofcourse. Later on when things sort of settled down I saw my dad weekend on weekend off and until shortly I told myself everything was fine from that time on; it would be too much to tell, but I am now sure (beside every period also has some good things ofc) I have been emotionally neglected, traumatically manipulated by my mom (examples: literally years later when I felt sad my dad was gone while looking at old pictures where she cut him out, she said things like it was the demon in my room making me feel that way and she literally commanded/screamed it back to hell, I was frightened to death and my little sister cried once; my mother also observed and controlled us sometimes obsessively checking our stuff in search of where the devil could hide & would throw it away, and manipulate choices, what is not allowed to do or even think.. everything) and I lived an extremely sad, depressing, insecure and self-blaming youth. If I'd understood what really was going on with my mom and my family, I probably would have killed myself. Lucky me I guess she forced me to become a bit better at lying, and so too to myself. Hahah you thought that was all didn't yah? Hell no, here comes part two; at 15 yrs old I got kicked out of (that side of) the family which meant losing my mother, my siblings I grew up with, my best friend cousin and a whole network of friends because I had to move to my father in another city too far away. I had to walk away from home (my mom) because I felt very unsafe apparently, I wasn't welcome anymore after that. She also didn't respond to my texts, or said I could come and then cancel, and send not even a message from the first birthday since on. Later on I tried again but she keeps putting expectations on me and plays with my love for her. haven't seen her for 6 years now I think. But I also left the one good thing; my mothers' beliefs. I am grateful for my father to take me in, but I think now he was too traumatized by the happenings' in his life that he wasn't able to really connect with me when I moved in, we never discussed emotional parts or had a good talk the first year or more. Maybe we had later on but still, he always felt distant from me, as today I am afraid. Like he is half a ghost; He lives, but always seems unaware of half of what happens.. doing his routine over and over. You can talk but he forgets. Never said he loved me or anything, just he living his life and I mine besides his. I know he loves me, but sad it is.
So you can see I've been through some shit and still leaving out alot because it would be too long to read. I want to get to the point myself as like;
I am feeling okay lately and really are keeping my balance, feeling overall good and livin' prosperous as I actually always do. The only thing I really long still is having a connection with people. I don't know if it's me, them, or both.. I moved alot so it was hard to remain friendships, but I also think I find it hard to make friends because I feel like a strange ducky; I fear my past has changed me so much that I understand depth that my peers do not. It could be arrogance, but it must at least have some truth in it. It takes alot of energy to be around new people and since a year I have become alot more solitary, because I don't want to drink really, use drugs or stay up at night. I live a peaceful life reading, working out, pursue a nice career and sum good meditation (and tea) sessions. And try to keep a few good friendships going, which are going very well. But I haven't been in a relationship for 6 years and now I feel like I am ready (a healthy one this time I promise), only the women around me I feel like they are not (ghosting, are most interested in themselves, looking for checking their grocerylist, communicate intensely vague). I've had quite some experience with women and don't struggle to get dates, but I really find it hard to find real connection/understanding. I got on a new datingapp where you go on date when you match without chatting, sounds great not? Only with the first 3 matches they postponed the date already 6 times, two doubles, mostly same day/few hours before. And with horrible reason and effort after really. I also find the girls I have approached in real life and dated seem occupied, and some of those things i just listed. Generally very cold women here in Holland, is my experience (but there are always exceptions on ones' rules ofcourse);
''Has this world changed its' moral value, or is it I?''
.. So I wonder; do I need to change myself, or my environment? Do I maybe have a lack of connection what makes me feel like I lack connection, or am I still missing something internally? Or both? And do I need to be more patient while feeling a little righteous lack-of?
If you want to ask, share or give your worldview of anything please do so! I am here to learn, not to know it better.
Huge propz to dr K, thanks for the ton of knowledge I already learned from you for free and thanks for this reddit page!
thanks for reading!

side question: It could be obvious but is my history a normal one? or is it a bit different from the usual? I wouldn't know really, I like to see myself as normal

TL;DR: Life is going great, Life wás hell & felt like sharing, question; is there a chance for real love?

For context: I'm 17, he's 20. Let's call him S. He's a uni student. Basically I know him because he tutors the 12 year olds at the tutoring place that I go to. He's the owner's nephew (that's why he works there). I spend a good amount of my time there so during the year we got closer and started talking more during breaks. Without any further due, here's some signs that I noticed: 1.) I didn't know what major to pick and he told me to pick stem because then "we'll be colleagues/classmates in like a year" 2.) I mentioned i takw art classes and he smiled asking if I want to study architecture (it's in the same uni as his) 3.) He always greets me (even if I'm with my classmates, he only says hi to me) and he passes by my class to say he'll leave 4.) I was talking with my friends during the break and he interrupted us twice (while he was sitting outside the room the whole time) and then he came again to say he'll leave. 5.) I was in the entrance chatting with him (before class) and my teacher called me inside because he wanted to check the answers I got in an exam. I went there and like 1-2 mintes later he had followed me and was sitting outside the class (the door was open and he was there) until he finally joined in on the convo. Except he only talked to me. Like he came there, stood by the door, only talked when I talked and then eventually everyone else went inside and S and I were alone in the hall. I thought we'd follow them but he stood still. 6.) A few days ago I had a class and then I had to rush home to get some books for an extra class that I'd take. I was sitting in the entrance yk hurrying to leave and he was behind me on the stairs so I didn't see him. He greeted me and wished me a happy late name day (my name day was 2 days before that happened) and I thanked him and then made a joke about how I can't be saved and that I have another hour of lessons (because he usually jokes about how many hours I have). I got my books, came back, spent the remaining of the break chatting in a bjg group with him, teacher staff and another student who was there. (I think S stared at me a lot). And then i went to class (private lesson). S finished earlier than me and he came to ask my teacher if we want to move to his class cuz it's bigger. My teacher said we're finishing up. S stood by the door waiting for me tk finish as i was getting hw assigned to. When my teacher left he talked to me while I was packing my stuff and he left the building with me (even if his lesson ended wayyy earlier than mine). Oh and he wished me a happy late name day AGAIN and I was like "haha thanks you told me before too" and he laughed and was like "oh did I?"

Hello everyone (excuse my bad english) So it’s been six month now since i have my problem, when i turn my pc on everything turn on except the monitor stay black and a white debug led cpu turn on
i tried litteraly everything : -wait -tried every ram slot with one or two -rebuild the pc -check bent pins -flash bios -clear cmos -removing everything to get pass cpu debug -swap cable and ram and graphic and nvme
THINGS THAT WORK : swapping cpu with one of my friend who got a ryzen 5 2600x and it worked , i had a 5600g before and supposed my cpu was the problem so i upraded to a 5700g and i have the same issue.
I would be so happy if anyone got a solution, i’m starting to think it’s over
-spec : •mobo : msi b550 a pro •cpu : ryzen 5 5700g (ventirad stock) •ram : corsair dominator 2x16 ddr4 •gpu : msi rtx 3070 •psu : 650w cooler master gold •storage : nvme m.2 crucial p5000

Hey guys, I just wanted to share my story with insomnia and medication to help me sleep.
TL;DR The following is my back story. If not interested school down to "Here is when things started to improve over the last few weeks:"
""Backstory, it's lengthy:** My insomnia started when I was around 23 years old. I used to be able to sleep well with 25mg of quetiapine but I noticed I had to keep going up to even get tired from the meds. I am 28 now so it feels like years of my life has been negatively impacted from my chronic sleep issues. The only times I was able to get relief in between is when I was able to get benzodiazepines and zoplocone temporarily from a psychiatrist several years ago who ended up moving away. I went years without a psychiatrist until I finally got one in May of 2022. From age 23-25 I ended up down a slippery slope with alcohol consumption in the evening as I was able to feel relaxed and sleep. As time went on the alcohol use increased, I ended up binge drinking almost daily after work every day so I could literally get to the point of passing out just to sleep. Over time the alcohol had a negative impact on my sleep too because it does actually cause sleep issues in itself. I have been sober from alcohol after my 26th birthday. Even though the sleep issues were still prevalent it definitely improved my mental health and improved some of my anxiety issues leaving that poison behind.
Even if I wasn't able to sleep for almost 2 days, my insomnia would be so bad that taking upwards of 300mg of quetiapine just wasn't working. I know they recommend lower doses 25-50mg for sleep issues but that dose just stopped taking effect. I would be physically sedated but still unable to sleep on 300 mg and when I was at my lowest I was taking even more. Not even considering how a significant increase of dosage quickly could be dangerous.
On that high dose of quetiapine I was struggling to walk and barely stand up to try and get snacks from the quetiapine induced munching. I would lay in bed shoving shoving potato chips in my face day and night. Couldn't watch tv. Couldn't scroll on my phone. Couldn't think happy thoughts I would lay there crying in so much discomfort. Couldn't go outside for a walk to try and tire myself out. My life was slipping away from me.
It would make me totally dysfunctional onwards to the next day and I felt like I was in hell laying in bed not able to get comfortable, then moving to the couch to see if it would help and back to the bed again. For a while I believe it was even causing symptoms of restless leg syndrome. It was a nightmare and caused me complete mental turmoil where I was feeling hopeless, depressed and even faced suicidal thoughts.
There were times where I was incapable of caring for my dog which broke my heart. I was even unable to care for myself but my dog took precedence. Sometimes I was so unable to function I would only be able to take her out to use the bathroom only once to twice a day at my lowest during my depressive episodes from my sleep deprivation and I had no help or support to care for her so I had to send her home with my parents so she could be properly looked after.
I was starting to struggle academically while trying to get my degree as I couldn't attend class, complete assignments, study for tests and unable to perform well during exams because my brain was drawing blanks memorizing content I had a handle on the day prior. School got so bad that I couldn't even make sense of the content or follow instructions. I would cry in frustration and just break down because I couldn't even read properly, I would re read paragraphs over and over which felt like I was trying to understand a foreign language. My grades took a plunge and I was put on academic probation so if I dropped to an average below 60 I would be required to discontinue from my program.
I had also dumped a significant amount of money in natural and herbal sleep remedies from naturopath stores. Teas, tinctures, capsules, topicals, essential oils, melatonin, I tryptophan, gaba, magnesium, st johns wart, valerian root, 5-htp, Epsom salt baths, bedtime yoga, sleep podcasts, binerial and sleep music, meditation, exercise, reading, no screen time, warm milk, weighted blankets, even the comfort of having my partner next to me in bed when we could spend time together on weekends offered no benefit.
This horror of insomnia impacted me so significantly that I failed 3 classes and am currently on a year leave from school so I can get my mental health back to baseline.
My psychiatrist also tried me on clonidine, respiradone and mirtazapine to which had no impact on my ability to sleep and caused even more negative side effects, heck my friend even gave me her olanzapine to try and one time I even found a trazedone to try out of despiration and to no avail I felt like I exhausted all options.
The clonidine took all my strength I was basically crawling to try and go up the stairs in my apartment and my vision would go almost completely white, ears would ring, my legs and feet would go purple and I felt like I was going to die. They lower your blood pressure and I was taking more of the reccomended dose because I thought the more I took the better it would work because at one point it was helping me sleep on .3 mg. That didn't last.
My psych also increased my lamotrigine to 200mg before bed to see if that would aid in my sleep issues. My citalipram which is taken in the morning is maxed out at 40mg. 200mg of the lamotrigine provided no change and my mood was stable at 100mg so I went back down to my normal dose and discontinued the 200mg.
However, after the unsuccessful trials with those meds he was adement on pushing and pushing with the quetapine and had me taking a combination of quick and extended release.
I asked for Ativan or zoplicone because I had been on it before for insomnia and panic attacks from a my family doctor in the past but my psychiatrist wouldn't budge and did not want me on benzos. I was feeling hopeless. I used those medications only when absolutely necessary in the past and I found if I was able to get a couple nights of good rest with those, I could benefit from having a normal active day which ultimately left me in a better sleep routine because even just a couple days of good rest was able to reset me for a while until the insomnia started up again.
I opted to speak to smother family doctor because I had to take a plane so I asked for Ativan again as I have an extreme fear of flying so he prescribed me 4 .5 mg of sublingual Ativan and wrote on my file to never prescribe them to me again. Like what?? I don't even drink alcohol anymore or use drugs, not even weed and no previous benzo abuse.
I even reached out to another physician to ask for sleeping meds and a second opinion to which he told me he doesn't want to trump a psychiatrists advice, and I should be lucky to even have a psychiatrist. So there was no hope there.
Here is when things started to improve over the last few weeks:
I take dextrogen for ADHD (I've only been on it for about 6 months so it could have been an antagonist to the insomnia but since it has gone on prior to stimulants I don't think it's fully to blame thus far) and one day my pharmacy was out of genetic so they gave me name brand. I noticed that my side affects were almost completely relieved after switching. They were way easier on my guts and I wasn't having profuse diariah all day as I would with the generic, my appetite was stable and I had less feelings of agitation and nervousness and I did notice when it wore off it was a clean transition and I was even feeling sleepy and could nap if I was able to when on them so I asked them to permanently switch me to name brand.
They ended up making ALL my meds name brand (citalipram, lamotrigine, dextrogen and quetiapine). So I tried 150 mg of the name brand quetiapine one night and it worked like a charm! I was able to fall asleep effortlessly and had a solid sound sleep without waking in the night. Also did not experience the lingering sedation and lethargy the morning after as I would with the generic quetapine. Surprisingly the intense urge to snack also improved because I simply slept after taking It, not half dead and mindlessly munching all night.
I'm not sure if it is a placebo or perhaps whatever was causing my prolonged bout of insomnia is temporarily lifted, but I just wanted to share my experience so if anyone is in the same boat with quetapine and the inability to fall asleep even after taking it! It has literally saved my life and I feel like I'm human again. It's only been a few weeks but I feel great.
I'm also curious if anyone has the same experience so maybe it's not a placebo after all!
Maybe generic or name brand both don't work for your insomnia, but I feel like with the right medication there is hope. I'm also curious if anyone has tried other alternatives for their insomnia and which medication is working for them.

“That’s the Commander?” Sonora could hear Hammerhead ask in awe.
“Yes kid.” Steelblade replied. “That would be your ancestor. Good guy. He even saw through my seawing disguise.” Sonora looked at her father.
“What do you mean by that?” She asked the steelwing.
“After the Scorching.” Steelblade started. “I went into hiding because I failed to retrieve Oak’s egg from the scavengers. Whale was the only one who saw the steelwing under the disguise.” He chuckled before continuing. “Although he kept his promise of not telling anyone who I was.”
“Why did you feel the need to hide from your friend?” Jellyfish asked.
“Because I couldn’t bear to look at the distress that Oak would’ve had on her face when I told her I couldn’t keep my promise.” Steelblade replied, his voice saddening. “I wouldn’t have been able to handle telling a mother I failed to retrieve her egg.” Sonora felt a stab of sympathy for her father’s friend. She probably wondered where her friend had gone after he said he would get her egg. Sonora saw the ghostly version of her father’s past nod to Whale and the 2 started inspecting the building. The ghostly seawing had passed through Hammerhead and the past version of Steelblade passed through the spirit of the current one.
“Give me a few seconds.” Steelblade whispered as his past ghost searched. The ghostly steelwing opened a hatch and peered in.
“Found the eggs.” The ghost called.
“All of them?” Ghostly Whale replied as he walked over.
“Hopefully.” The ghost of Steelblade said as he scrunched himself into the hatch.
“I wouldn’t be able to fit down there now.” Spirit Steelblade joked.
“I’ll bring them to you and you get them to their parents. Got it?” Steelblade’s ghost said to Whale.
“Copy that.” The ghostly seawing replied as the 2 of them started moving eggs out of the hatch and to worried ghost seawings. The flashback froze again, leaving Steelblade’s ghost crawling out of the hatch while Whale getting eggs to the right dragons.
“What happened prior?” Hammerhead asked Steelblade’s spirit.
“The take over of the city.” He replied. “I led an armored group of seawings to distract the scavengers while the unarmored waited for my signal to attack.”
“Aren’t we supposed to call them humans now dad?” Sonora asked her father.
“These pricks don’t deserve it.” Her father’s spirit growled. “They were stealing dragon eggs just to use them against each other in their pointless wars.”
“Didn’t you fight in a pointless war?” Jellyfish asked.
“The war against Talon 7,000 years ago was not pointless.” The old steelwing replied. “That was a war to keep him from destroying the place just because his brother won my mother’s heart.” Sonora could see a look of confusion on Jellyfish’s face.
“I was referring to the War of Sandwing Succession.” She said. Sonora could see Steelblade’s face change from determination to realization.
“Oh.” He said. “Technically I didn’t fight in that war. I was just an assassin everyone loved to hire.” He paused. “But yes, that one was pointless. Didn’t need to get nearly every tribe involved for that. Although the end result was probably better.” He said as he scratched his chin. Sonora looked at her father’s ghostly past.
“I know I’ve heard the stories of your scars.” Sonora said carefully. “But it seems weird how you went from this invincible and powerful beyond comparison to how you are now.” She looked at her father who chuckled.
“Didn’t take as many risks back then.” He responded. “When I adopted Boron, I started taking more risks.” He paused. “Actually, you’ll probably get to see how some if not all of my scars happened.” Sonora stared at her father’s spirit for a minute.
“Not something I particularly want to see.” She responded. Her father barked out a laugh.
“And I wish you couldn’t.” He said. “But I guess it’s necessary for Talon’s defeat.” After he finished speaking, he and the ghosts started disappearing. Sonora watched as the room transformed from the ghostly outline of what it was during the Scorching, back to the room she entered.
“So that’s how it happened.” Hammerhead whispered. “That’s how the seawings got their eggs back.”
“Shouldn’t you all know this?” Sonora asked. Hammerhead shook his head.
“Not with Coral being queen. I probably would’ve learned more history in the streets of the Scorpion Den.” He growled. Sonora never knew just how bad the seawings had it with their current queen.
“Well I’m sorry for all of you.” She said, trying to comfort him.
“Don’t be.” He replied. “We’ve made a life for ourselves here outside her jurisdiction.” He walked up to her and held his talons out. “Well it was good to meet you 2, well, 3 I guess but one was a spirit.” He joked. Sonora chuckled as she shook his talons and turned to leave with Jellyfish behind her.
“Great. Now I’m stuck in silence with nothing but my thoughts and only able to see what Sonora sees.” Sonora heard her father’s voice in her mind. Dad? She thought. “Shit you can hear me?” Her father’s voice said in her mind. Yeah. She replied. “Well that’ll make leading you places easier. Next place I feel like I’m being pulled to is the ice kingdom.” Sonora could hear a sigh come from her father. “And I unfortunately know what memory it is. This trip I’d like you to bring Winter and Icesurge instead of Jellyfish.” Why them? Sonora asked her father. “I want them to see this. Winter to know the history of Prince Arctic. And Icesurge to get a better look at my icewing history.” Her father replied.
“Something wrong?” Jellyfish asked. Sonora shook her head and saw a Jellyfish hovering above her.
“Yeah.” She replied as she took off. “I can hear dad in my head now.”
“Guess that’s a sign his spirit has strengthened.” Jellyfish said.
“Yeah.” Sonora agreed. “He knows the next memory but he wants me to bring Winter and Icesurge instead of you.” Jellyfish had a look of confusion on her face.
“Why them?” She asked.
“He said he wants them to see some icewing history.” Jellyfish nodded in understanding at Sonora’s explanation.
“Makes sense.” She said. “If that’s what you want.” Sonora flew a bit closer to brush her wing.
“I’d rather you come.” She said softly. “But I will respect my father’s wishes.” She looked into Jellyfish’s eyes. She could see Jellyfish start to blush as she felt herself blushing. Jellyfish pulled away and looked away.
“L-let’s get back to Possibility.” She said as she flew ahead of Sonora a bit. Sonora felt a stab of sadness as Jellyfish flew ahead of her.
“Didn’t expect that.” Steelblade’s voice returned. Shut it. Sonora thought. “Woah there. No need to get pushy. I won’t push you to do it, but you need to tell her. You have a good chance.” Sonora’s father didn’t say anything as she continued flying.

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Lust for Darkness
Lust from Beyond: M Edition
MageQuit
Maid of Sker
Mainlining
MEEPLE STATION
Meow Express
Merchant of the Skies
Metal: Hellsinger
Metro Exodus
Midnight Fight Express
Midnight Ghost Hunt
Mini Metro
Mini motor Racing EVO (delisted)
MirrorMoon EP
Monster Prom 2: Monster Camp
Monster Sanctuary
Monster Train
Monster Train: The Last Divinity DLC
Moon Hunters
Moonlighter
Morbid: The Seven Acolytes
Motorcycle Mechanic Simulator 2021
Moving Out - Movers in Paradise DLC
Mr. Prepper
Murder by Numbers
My Friendly Neighborhood
My Time At Portia
Mythic Ocean
Nadir: A Grimdark Deckbuilder
Necromunda Hired Gun
NecroWorm
NeuroVoider
Neverinth
Neverout
New Super Luckys Tale
Nickelodeon All Star Brawl
Nobody Saves the World
Non-Stop Raiders
Northgard
Oaken
Obduction
Of Orcs And Men
Offworld Trading Company
OLLIOLLI WORLD - RAD EDITION
One Hand Clapping
Orbital Racer
Othercide
Out of Reach: Treasure Royale
Outward Definitive Edition
Outward The Soroboreans DLC + soundtrack (DLC only)
Override
Overture
Ozymandias
Paint the Town Red
Partial Control
Patch Quest
Pathfinder: Kingmaker Enhanced Plus Edition (NA only) + Royal Ascension DLC + The Wildcards DLC
Pathfinder: Wrath of the Righteous - Enhanced Edition
Pathfinders: Memories
Pathway
Peaky Blinders: Mastermind
Per Asperatrar
Pilgrims
Pill Baby
Pixplode
Planet TD
Port Royale 3 Gold
PowerBeatsVR
Prodeus
Project CARS (delisted)
Project Chemistry
Project Nimbus: Complete Edition
Project Wingman
Propagation VR - Co-op
Propnight
Proteus
Proteus
PULSAR: The Lost Colony
Pumped BMX +
Quadrata
Quantum Break
Radio Commander
Ragnarock
Railroad Corporation
Railroad Tycoon 3
Rebel Inc: Escalation
Re-Legion
Remnant: From the Ashes - Complete Edition
Remnants of Naezith
Resident Evil Revelations
Resident Evil Revelations 2
Reventure
Revita
RIOT - Civil Unrest
Road 96
Roarr! Jurassic Edition
ROGUE LORDS
Roguebook
RollerCoaster Tycoon 2: Triple Thrill Pack
RPG Maker VX
Rubber Bandits
RUINER
Rym 9000
Saints Row
Sakura Succubus, 18+
Sakura Succubus 2, 18+
Sakura Succubus 3, 18+
Sakura Succubus 4, 18+
Sakura Succubus 5, 18+
Sakura Succubus 6, 18+
Sakura Swim Club, 18+
Sam & Max: Devil's Playhouse
Scorn
SCP : Secret Files
Secret Neighbor: Hello Neighbor Multiplayer
SEUM: Speedrunners from Hell
Shadow Tactics: Aiko's Choice
Shady Part of Me
Shing!
Shotgun King: The Final Checkmate
Sid Meier's Railroads!
Siege Survival: Gloria Victis
Skullgirls 2nd Encore
Slinger VR
Smile For Me
Sniper Elite 3
Sniper Elite 4
Snowtopia
Sorcerer King: Rivals
Soul Searching
Soulblight
Souldiers
Soulstice
Spellcaster University
Spirit Hunter: Death Mark
Spirit of the Island
Stacking
Starbound
Starpoint Gemini Warlords
Stirring Abyss
Strider
Stygian: Reign of the Old Ones
SuchArt!
Sunlight
Super Chicken Catchers
Super Magbot
Super Star (delisted)
SUPERHOT: MIND CONTROL DELETE
Surviving the Aftermath
Sword Legacy Omen
SYMMETRYro
Tails Noir
Tainted Grail: Conquest
Telefrag VR
TEMTEM
The Amazing American Circus
The Ascent
The Beast Inside
The Dark Pictures Anthology: Man of Medan
The Dark Pictures Anthology: House of Ashes
The Dark Pictures Anthology: Little Hope
The Deed II
The Dungeon Of Naheulbeuk: The Amulet Of Chaos
The Golf Club 2019 Featuring PGA TOUR
The Gunk
The Legend of Tianding
The Life and Suffering of Sir Brante
The Long Dark
The Outer Worlds: Spacer's Choice Edition
The Pale Beyond
The Quarry
The Red Lantern
The Serpent Rogue
The USB Stick Found in the Grass
The Witcher: Enhanced Edition (steam inventory gift)
The Witness
The Wolf Among Us
There Is No Light
Ticket to Ride
Tin Can
Titan Souls
TOEM
Tools Up!
Townsmen - A Kingdom Rebuilt
Traffic Jams
Train Station Renovation
Treasure Hunter Simulator
Trek to Yomi
Tribes of Midgard
Twilight Struggle
Twin Mirror
Two Point Campus
Ultimate Chicken Horse
Underland: The Climb
Unity of Command: Stalingrad Campaign
UnMetal
Vanishing Realms
War for the Overworld
Warhammer 40,000: Chaos Gate - Daemonhunters
Warhammer 40,000: Space Wolf
Warhammer 40,000: Space Wolf - Drenn Redblade
Warhammer 40,000: Space Wolf - Exceptional Card Pack
Warhammer 40,000: Space Wolf - Saga of the Great Awakening
Warhammer 40,000: Space Wolf - Wrath of the Damned
Warhammer Age of Sigmar: Realms of Ruin Ultimate Edition
WARSAW
We Happy Few Season Pass
We Were Here Too
Where the Water Tastes Like Wine
White Noise 2
Who Pressed Mute on Uncle Marcus?
Wobbledogs
Worms Rumble
WRC 7
WWE 2K BATTLEGROUNDS
XCOM 2
X-COM: Complete Pack (including X-COM: UFO Defense + X-COM: Apocalypse + X-COM: Enforcer + X-COM: Interceptor + X-COM: Terror from the Deep)
XCOM: Enemy Unknown Complete Edition
XEL
X-Morph: Defense Complete Pack (including X-Morph: Defense + X-Morph: Defense - European Assault + X-Morph: Defense - Survival Of The Fittest + X-Morph: Defense - Last Bastion)
Yakuza 4 Remastered
Zoeti

Other platforms:
Command & Conquer Remastered Collection (ORIGINkey)
Liberated (GOG key)
STAR WARS: Squadrons (Origin)
Wanderlust Travel Stories (GOG key)

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other humble choice title games

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Note: for some games from humble I might ask for gift links. There is a rumor 3 years ago that humble bans users due to making gift links only. I make gift links every week, never have any issues. I have no idea why humble would ever ban its customers for using a feature it provides to its custimers.

Here is a guide how to make gift links from support.Humblebundle.com: https://support.humblebundle.com/hc/en-us/articles/202712460-Purchasing-and-Sending-Gifts

I do not believe humble teaches you how to make gift links, so it can ban you, lol

Region is NA.

If you have my wishlist games, Chat with me anytime. Only accept games from your own collection.

My REPs: 200+ successful trades, stopped tracking after 202.

Wishlist is in the end of this post

My steam games for trade (Can make gift links if possible):

Added recently:

Hell let loose
Blade of Darkness
Amanda the Adventurer
Bravery and Greed
King Of The Castle
Loddlenaut
Mediterranea Inferno
Steelrising
Yakuza: Like a Dragon
Coromon
Fashion Police Squad
HUMANKIND™ Definitive Edition
Symphony of War: The Nephilim Saga
Terraformers
The Callisto Protocol
The Excavation of Hob's Barrow
Victoria 3
Littlewood
One Hand Clapping
Tainted Grail: Conquest
Ultimate Chicken Horse
Mad Max
MORTAL KOMBAT XL
Mortal Kombat 11: Ultimate
Middle-earth: Shadow of Mordor GOTY
Middle-Earth: Shadow of War Definitive Edition
Injustice 2 Legendary Edition
Gotham Knights
Back 4 Blood
Batman™: Arkham Knight Premium Edition
Batman™: Arkham Asylum GOTY Edition
Batman™: Arkham City GOTY Edition
Batman™: Arkham Origins
.hack//G.U. Last Recode
CODE VEIN
GOD EATER 3
Katamari Damacy REROLL
PAC-MAN MUSEUM+
Tales of Vesperia: Definitive Edition
TEKKEN 7
Dragon Knight (delisted, 18+, PM for price)
Hell Girls (delisted, 18+, PM for price)
Super Star (delisted, 18+, PM for price)

Steam games:

9 Years of Shadows
A Juggler's Tale
A Plague Tale: Innocence
ABZU
Aces and Adventures
Ad Infinitum
Afterimage
Agent in Depth
Alchemist's Castle
Alchemy Garden
Aliens vs. Predator Collection ( includes Aliens vs. Predator + Aliens vs Predator Swarm Map Pack + Aliens vs Predator: Bug Hunt Pack)
Aliens: Fireteam Elite
AMID EVIL
Amnesia: The Bunker
Among Us
Anuchard
Aragami 2
Arcade Paradise
Arise: A Simple Story
Armello
Army Men RTS
Assault Suit Leynos
Astronarch
Autonauts vs Piratebots
Battlecruisers
Beacon Pines
Big Pharma
BIOMUTANT
Bionic Commando Rearmed
Black Paradox
Black Skylands
Blade Assault
Blade of Darkness
Blood And Zombies
Bloodstained: Ritual of the Night
Borderlands 3: Super Deluxe Edition
Boundless
BPM: Bullets Per Minute
Brawlout
Castle on the Coast
Cats in Time
Caveblazers
Chicka Wars Chicken Meat (delisted)
Children of Silentown
CHIVALRY 2 - EPIC EDITION
Citizen Sleeper
CivCity: Rome
Click and Slay
Colt Canyon
Conan Chop Chop
Concept Destruction
Construction Simulator (2015) Deluxe Edition
Cookie Cutter
Corridor Z
Cosmonautica
Crayon Physics Deluxe
CROSSBOW: Bloodnight
Cultist Simulator
Curse of the Dead Gods
Dagon - The Eldritch Box DLC
Dark Deity
Dead Age
Dear Esther: Landmark Edition
Death Squared
Deceive Inc.
Demonologist
Depraved
Descenders
Desperados III
Destiny 2: Beyond Light DLC
Destroy All Humans! 2 - Reprobed
Destroyer: The U-Boat Hunter
Detached: Non-VR Edition
DEVOUR
Dicey Dungeons
Disciples: Liberation
Disco Elysium - The Final Cut
Dishonored Definitive Edition
Distant Worlds Universe
Doctor Strange Defenders Skin
Double Cross
Doughlings: Arcade
Doughlings: Invasion
Dragon Knight (delisted, 18+)
Draw Slasher
Drawful 2
Due Process
Dungeons 2 - Complete Edition
Dusk
EDGE OF ETERNITY
Eiyuden Chronicle: Rising
El Hijo
Emily is Away <3
Encased
Endless Space 2
Epic Chef
ETERNAL THREADS
Exorder
Expeditions: Rome
F1 2018
Farming Simulator 17
Firegirl: Hack 'n Splash Rescue
First Class Trouble
Five Dates
Fling to the Finish
Fobia - St. Dinfna Hotel
Foretales
FOREWARNED
Forged Battalion
Fortissimo FA INTL Ver
Founders' Fortune
Friends vs Friends
From Space
Full Metal Furies
Fun with Ragdolls: The Game
GameGuru Classic
Garfield Kart - Furious Racing
Generation Zero
Geometric Sniper
Ghost 1.0
Gloria Victis
Go Home Dinosaurs!
Going Under
Golf Gang
Good knight
GRID Ultimate Edition
GRIME
Grow: Song of the Evertree
Guilty Gear X2 #Reload
Guns & Fishes
Guts and Glory
Hack 'n' Slash bundle (including Hack 'n' Slash + Hack 'n' Slash Soundtrack + Spacebase GIFT)
Hardspace: Shipbreaker
Heart Fragment - Book Two: Belief Fragments (Shannon & Lana)
Hedon Bloodrite
Hell Girls (delisted, 18+)
Hell Pie
Hellbound
HERO'S HOUR
Hidden & Dangerous 2: Courage Under Fire
Hidden & Dangerous: Action Pack
Hokko Life
Hollow Knight
Honey, I Joined a Cult
Hot Brass
Hotshot Racing
How to Sing to Open Your Heart
Hyper Gunsport
I’m not a Monster
Internet Cafe Simulator
Interplanetary: Enhanced Edition
Intravenous
Intruders: Hide and Seek
Iron Danger
Iron Harvest
Izmir: An Independence Simulator
Joggernauts
Joggernauts
JURASSIC WORLD EVOLUTION 2
Just Cause 3 XXL Edition
Just Cause 4 Complete Edition
JYDGE
Kerbal Space Program
Killsquad
King's Bounty II
Kraken Academy!!
Labirinto 2
Lacuna – A Sci-Fi Noir Adventure
Last Oasis
Late Shift
Lawn Mowing Simulator
Legend of Keepers
Legion TD 2 - Multiplayer Tower Defense
Leisure Suit Larry - Wet Dreams Don't Dry
Let Them Come
Life is Strange 2 Complete Season (incl. Mascot Bundle DLC)
Little Misfortune
Little Orpheus
Lords and Villeins
Lost Planet 3 Complete Pack
Lost Ruins
Lust for Darkness
Lust from Beyond: M Edition
MageQuit
Maid of Sker
Mainlining
MEEPLE STATION
Meow Express
Merchant of the Skies
Metal: Hellsinger
Metro Exodus
Midnight Fight Express
Midnight Ghost Hunt
Mini Metro
Mini motor Racing EVO (delisted)
MirrorMoon EP
Monster Prom 2: Monster Camp
Monster Sanctuary
Monster Train
Monster Train: The Last Divinity DLC
Moon Hunters
Moonlighter
Morbid: The Seven Acolytes
Motorcycle Mechanic Simulator 2021
Moving Out - Movers in Paradise DLC
Mr. Prepper
Murder by Numbers
My Friendly Neighborhood
My Time At Portia
Mythic Ocean
Nadir: A Grimdark Deckbuilder
Necromunda Hired Gun
NecroWorm
NeuroVoider
Neverinth
Neverout
New Super Luckys Tale
Nickelodeon All Star Brawl
Nobody Saves the World
Non-Stop Raiders
Northgard
Oaken
Obduction
Of Orcs And Men
Offworld Trading Company
OLLIOLLI WORLD - RAD EDITION
One Hand Clapping
Orbital Racer
Othercide
Out of Reach: Treasure Royale
Outward Definitive Edition
Outward The Soroboreans DLC + soundtrack (DLC only)
Override
Overture
Ozymandias
Paint the Town Red
Partial Control
Patch Quest
Pathfinder: Kingmaker Enhanced Plus Edition (NA only) + Royal Ascension DLC + The Wildcards DLC
Pathfinder: Wrath of the Righteous - Enhanced Edition
Pathfinders: Memories
Pathway
Peaky Blinders: Mastermind
Per Asperatrar
Pilgrims
Pill Baby
Pixplode
Planet TD
Port Royale 3 Gold
PowerBeatsVR
Prodeus
Project CARS (delisted)
Project Chemistry
Project Nimbus: Complete Edition
Project Wingman
Propagation VR - Co-op
Propnight
Proteus
Proteus
PULSAR: The Lost Colony
Pumped BMX +
Quadrata
Quantum Break
Radio Commander
Ragnarock
Railroad Corporation
Railroad Tycoon 3
Rebel Inc: Escalation
Re-Legion
Remnant: From the Ashes - Complete Edition
Remnants of Naezith
Resident Evil Revelations
Resident Evil Revelations 2
Reventure
Revita
RIOT - Civil Unrest
Road 96
Roarr! Jurassic Edition
ROGUE LORDS
Roguebook
RollerCoaster Tycoon 2: Triple Thrill Pack
RPG Maker VX
Rubber Bandits
RUINER
Rym 9000
Saints Row
Sakura Succubus, 18+
Sakura Succubus 2, 18+
Sakura Succubus 3, 18+
Sakura Succubus 4, 18+
Sakura Succubus 5, 18+
Sakura Succubus 6, 18+
Sakura Swim Club, 18+
Sam & Max: Devil's Playhouse
Scorn
SCP : Secret Files
Secret Neighbor: Hello Neighbor Multiplayer
SEUM: Speedrunners from Hell
Shadow Tactics: Aiko's Choice
Shady Part of Me
Shing!
Shotgun King: The Final Checkmate
Sid Meier's Railroads!
Siege Survival: Gloria Victis
Skullgirls 2nd Encore
Slinger VR
Smile For Me
Sniper Elite 3
Sniper Elite 4
Snowtopia
Sorcerer King: Rivals
Soul Searching
Soulblight
Souldiers
Soulstice
Spellcaster University
Spirit Hunter: Death Mark
Spirit of the Island
Stacking
Starbound
Starpoint Gemini Warlords
Stirring Abyss
Strider
Stygian: Reign of the Old Ones
SuchArt!
Sunlight
Super Chicken Catchers
Super Magbot
Super Star (delisted)
SUPERHOT: MIND CONTROL DELETE
Surviving the Aftermath
Sword Legacy Omen
SYMMETRYro
Tails Noir
Tainted Grail: Conquest
Telefrag VR
TEMTEM
The Amazing American Circus
The Ascent
The Beast Inside
The Dark Pictures Anthology: Man of Medan
The Dark Pictures Anthology: House of Ashes
The Dark Pictures Anthology: Little Hope
The Deed II
The Dungeon Of Naheulbeuk: The Amulet Of Chaos
The Golf Club 2019 Featuring PGA TOUR
The Gunk
The Legend of Tianding
The Life and Suffering of Sir Brante
The Long Dark
The Outer Worlds: Spacer's Choice Edition
The Pale Beyond
The Quarry
The Red Lantern
The Serpent Rogue
The USB Stick Found in the Grass
The Witcher: Enhanced Edition (steam inventory gift)
The Witness
The Wolf Among Us
There Is No Light
Ticket to Ride
Tin Can
Titan Souls
TOEM
Tools Up!
Townsmen - A Kingdom Rebuilt
Traffic Jams
Train Station Renovation
Treasure Hunter Simulator
Trek to Yomi
Tribes of Midgard
Twilight Struggle
Twin Mirror
Two Point Campus
Ultimate Chicken Horse
Underland: The Climb
Unity of Command: Stalingrad Campaign
UnMetal
Vanishing Realms
War for the Overworld
Warhammer 40,000: Chaos Gate - Daemonhunters
Warhammer 40,000: Space Wolf
Warhammer 40,000: Space Wolf - Drenn Redblade
Warhammer 40,000: Space Wolf - Exceptional Card Pack
Warhammer 40,000: Space Wolf - Saga of the Great Awakening
Warhammer 40,000: Space Wolf - Wrath of the Damned
Warhammer Age of Sigmar: Realms of Ruin Ultimate Edition
WARSAW
We Happy Few Season Pass
We Were Here Too
Where the Water Tastes Like Wine
White Noise 2
Who Pressed Mute on Uncle Marcus?
Wobbledogs
Worms Rumble
WRC 7
WWE 2K BATTLEGROUNDS
XCOM 2
X-COM: Complete Pack (including X-COM: UFO Defense + X-COM: Apocalypse + X-COM: Enforcer + X-COM: Interceptor + X-COM: Terror from the Deep)
XCOM: Enemy Unknown Complete Edition
XEL
X-Morph: Defense Complete Pack (including X-Morph: Defense + X-Morph: Defense - European Assault + X-Morph: Defense - Survival Of The Fittest + X-Morph: Defense - Last Bastion)
Yakuza 4 Remastered
Zoeti

Other platforms:
Command & Conquer Remastered Collection (ORIGINkey)
Liberated (GOG key)
STAR WARS: Squadrons (Origin)
Wanderlust Travel Stories (GOG key)

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other humble choice title games

#########################################################

Note: for some games from humble I might ask for gift links. There is a rumor 3 years ago that humble bans users due to making gift links only. I make gift links every week, never have any issues. I have no idea why humble would ever ban its customers for using a feature it provides to its custimers.

Here is a guide how to make gift links from support.Humblebundle.com: https://support.humblebundle.com/hc/en-us/articles/202712460-Purchasing-and-Sending-Gifts

I do not believe humble teaches you how to make gift links, so it can ban you, lol

Region is NA.

If you have my wishlist games, Chat with me anytime. Only accept games from your own collection.

My REPs: 200+ successful trades, stopped tracking after 202.

Wishlist is in the end of this post

My steam games for trade (Can make gift links if possible):

Added recently:

Hell let loose
Blade of Darkness
Amanda the Adventurer
Bravery and Greed
King Of The Castle
Loddlenaut
Mediterranea Inferno
Steelrising
Yakuza: Like a Dragon
Coromon
Fashion Police Squad
HUMANKIND™ Definitive Edition
Symphony of War: The Nephilim Saga
Terraformers
The Callisto Protocol
The Excavation of Hob's Barrow
Victoria 3
Littlewood
One Hand Clapping
Tainted Grail: Conquest
Ultimate Chicken Horse
Mad Max
MORTAL KOMBAT XL
Mortal Kombat 11: Ultimate
Middle-earth: Shadow of Mordor GOTY
Middle-Earth: Shadow of War Definitive Edition
Injustice 2 Legendary Edition
Gotham Knights
Back 4 Blood
Batman™: Arkham Knight Premium Edition
Batman™: Arkham Asylum GOTY Edition
Batman™: Arkham City GOTY Edition
Batman™: Arkham Origins
.hack//G.U. Last Recode
CODE VEIN
GOD EATER 3
Katamari Damacy REROLL
PAC-MAN MUSEUM+
Tales of Vesperia: Definitive Edition
TEKKEN 7
Dragon Knight (delisted, 18+, PM for price)
Hell Girls (delisted, 18+, PM for price)
Super Star (delisted, 18+, PM for price)

Steam games:

9 Years of Shadows
A Juggler's Tale
A Plague Tale: Innocence
ABZU
Aces and Adventures
Ad Infinitum
Afterimage
Agent in Depth
Alchemist's Castle
Alchemy Garden
Aliens vs. Predator Collection ( includes Aliens vs. Predator + Aliens vs Predator Swarm Map Pack + Aliens vs Predator: Bug Hunt Pack)
Aliens: Fireteam Elite
AMID EVIL
Amnesia: The Bunker
Among Us
Anuchard
Aragami 2
Arcade Paradise
Arise: A Simple Story
Armello
Army Men RTS
Assault Suit Leynos
Astronarch
Autonauts vs Piratebots
Battlecruisers
Beacon Pines
Big Pharma
BIOMUTANT
Bionic Commando Rearmed
Black Paradox
Black Skylands
Blade Assault
Blade of Darkness
Blood And Zombies
Bloodstained: Ritual of the Night
Borderlands 3: Super Deluxe Edition
Boundless
BPM: Bullets Per Minute
Brawlout
Castle on the Coast
Cats in Time
Caveblazers
Chicka Wars Chicken Meat (delisted)
Children of Silentown
CHIVALRY 2 - EPIC EDITION
Citizen Sleeper
CivCity: Rome
Click and Slay
Colt Canyon
Conan Chop Chop
Concept Destruction
Construction Simulator (2015) Deluxe Edition
Cookie Cutter
Corridor Z
Cosmonautica
Crayon Physics Deluxe
CROSSBOW: Bloodnight
Cultist Simulator
Curse of the Dead Gods
Dagon - The Eldritch Box DLC
Dark Deity
Dead Age
Dear Esther: Landmark Edition
Death Squared
Deceive Inc.
Demonologist
Depraved
Descenders
Desperados III
Destiny 2: Beyond Light DLC
Destroy All Humans! 2 - Reprobed
Destroyer: The U-Boat Hunter
Detached: Non-VR Edition
DEVOUR
Dicey Dungeons
Disciples: Liberation
Disco Elysium - The Final Cut
Dishonored Definitive Edition
Distant Worlds Universe
Doctor Strange Defenders Skin
Double Cross
Doughlings: Arcade
Doughlings: Invasion
Dragon Knight (delisted, 18+)
Draw Slasher
Drawful 2
Due Process
Dungeons 2 - Complete Edition
Dusk
EDGE OF ETERNITY
Eiyuden Chronicle: Rising
El Hijo
Emily is Away <3
Encased
Endless Space 2
Epic Chef
ETERNAL THREADS
Exorder
Expeditions: Rome
F1 2018
Farming Simulator 17
Firegirl: Hack 'n Splash Rescue
First Class Trouble
Five Dates
Fling to the Finish
Fobia - St. Dinfna Hotel
Foretales
FOREWARNED
Forged Battalion
Fortissimo FA INTL Ver
Founders' Fortune
Friends vs Friends
From Space
Full Metal Furies
Fun with Ragdolls: The Game
GameGuru Classic
Garfield Kart - Furious Racing
Generation Zero
Geometric Sniper
Ghost 1.0
Gloria Victis
Go Home Dinosaurs!
Going Under
Golf Gang
Good knight
GRID Ultimate Edition
GRIME
Grow: Song of the Evertree
Guilty Gear X2 #Reload
Guns & Fishes
Guts and Glory
Hack 'n' Slash bundle (including Hack 'n' Slash + Hack 'n' Slash Soundtrack + Spacebase GIFT)
Hardspace: Shipbreaker
Heart Fragment - Book Two: Belief Fragments (Shannon & Lana)
Hedon Bloodrite
Hell Girls (delisted, 18+)
Hell Pie
Hellbound
HERO'S HOUR
Hidden & Dangerous 2: Courage Under Fire
Hidden & Dangerous: Action Pack
Hokko Life
Hollow Knight
Honey, I Joined a Cult
Hot Brass
Hotshot Racing
How to Sing to Open Your Heart
Hyper Gunsport
I’m not a Monster
Internet Cafe Simulator
Interplanetary: Enhanced Edition
Intravenous
Intruders: Hide and Seek
Iron Danger
Iron Harvest
Izmir: An Independence Simulator
Joggernauts
Joggernauts
JURASSIC WORLD EVOLUTION 2
Just Cause 3 XXL Edition
Just Cause 4 Complete Edition
JYDGE
Kerbal Space Program
Killsquad
King's Bounty II
Kraken Academy!!
Labirinto 2
Lacuna – A Sci-Fi Noir Adventure
Last Oasis
Late Shift
Lawn Mowing Simulator
Legend of Keepers
Legion TD 2 - Multiplayer Tower Defense
Leisure Suit Larry - Wet Dreams Don't Dry
Let Them Come
Life is Strange 2 Complete Season (incl. Mascot Bundle DLC)
Little Misfortune
Little Orpheus
Lords and Villeins
Lost Planet 3 Complete Pack
Lost Ruins
Lust for Darkness
Lust from Beyond: M Edition
MageQuit
Maid of Sker
Mainlining
MEEPLE STATION
Meow Express
Merchant of the Skies
Metal: Hellsinger
Metro Exodus
Midnight Fight Express
Midnight Ghost Hunt
Mini Metro
Mini motor Racing EVO (delisted)
MirrorMoon EP
Monster Prom 2: Monster Camp
Monster Sanctuary
Monster Train
Monster Train: The Last Divinity DLC
Moon Hunters
Moonlighter
Morbid: The Seven Acolytes
Motorcycle Mechanic Simulator 2021
Moving Out - Movers in Paradise DLC
Mr. Prepper
Murder by Numbers
My Friendly Neighborhood
My Time At Portia
Mythic Ocean
Nadir: A Grimdark Deckbuilder
Necromunda Hired Gun
NecroWorm
NeuroVoider
Neverinth
Neverout
New Super Luckys Tale
Nickelodeon All Star Brawl
Nobody Saves the World
Non-Stop Raiders
Northgard
Oaken
Obduction
Of Orcs And Men
Offworld Trading Company
OLLIOLLI WORLD - RAD EDITION
One Hand Clapping
Orbital Racer
Othercide
Out of Reach: Treasure Royale
Outward Definitive Edition
Outward The Soroboreans DLC + soundtrack (DLC only)
Override
Overture
Ozymandias
Paint the Town Red
Partial Control
Patch Quest
Pathfinder: Kingmaker Enhanced Plus Edition (NA only) + Royal Ascension DLC + The Wildcards DLC
Pathfinder: Wrath of the Righteous - Enhanced Edition
Pathfinders: Memories
Pathway
Peaky Blinders: Mastermind
Per Asperatrar
Pilgrims
Pill Baby
Pixplode
Planet TD
Port Royale 3 Gold
PowerBeatsVR
Prodeus
Project CARS (delisted)
Project Chemistry
Project Nimbus: Complete Edition
Project Wingman
Propagation VR - Co-op
Propnight
Proteus
Proteus
PULSAR: The Lost Colony
Pumped BMX +
Quadrata
Quantum Break
Radio Commander
Ragnarock
Railroad Corporation
Railroad Tycoon 3
Rebel Inc: Escalation
Re-Legion
Remnant: From the Ashes - Complete Edition
Remnants of Naezith
Resident Evil Revelations
Resident Evil Revelations 2
Reventure
Revita
RIOT - Civil Unrest
Road 96
Roarr! Jurassic Edition
ROGUE LORDS
Roguebook
RollerCoaster Tycoon 2: Triple Thrill Pack
RPG Maker VX
Rubber Bandits
RUINER
Rym 9000
Saints Row
Sakura Succubus, 18+
Sakura Succubus 2, 18+
Sakura Succubus 3, 18+
Sakura Succubus 4, 18+
Sakura Succubus 5, 18+
Sakura Succubus 6, 18+
Sakura Swim Club, 18+
Sam & Max: Devil's Playhouse
Scorn
SCP : Secret Files
Secret Neighbor: Hello Neighbor Multiplayer
SEUM: Speedrunners from Hell
Shadow Tactics: Aiko's Choice
Shady Part of Me
Shing!
Shotgun King: The Final Checkmate
Sid Meier's Railroads!
Siege Survival: Gloria Victis
Skullgirls 2nd Encore
Slinger VR
Smile For Me
Sniper Elite 3
Sniper Elite 4
Snowtopia
Sorcerer King: Rivals
Soul Searching
Soulblight
Souldiers
Soulstice
Spellcaster University
Spirit Hunter: Death Mark
Spirit of the Island
Stacking
Starbound
Starpoint Gemini Warlords
Stirring Abyss
Strider
Stygian: Reign of the Old Ones
SuchArt!
Sunlight
Super Chicken Catchers
Super Magbot
Super Star (delisted)
SUPERHOT: MIND CONTROL DELETE
Surviving the Aftermath
Sword Legacy Omen
SYMMETRYro
Tails Noir
Tainted Grail: Conquest
Telefrag VR
TEMTEM
The Amazing American Circus
The Ascent
The Beast Inside
The Dark Pictures Anthology: Man of Medan
The Dark Pictures Anthology: House of Ashes
The Dark Pictures Anthology: Little Hope
The Deed II
The Dungeon Of Naheulbeuk: The Amulet Of Chaos
The Golf Club 2019 Featuring PGA TOUR
The Gunk
The Legend of Tianding
The Life and Suffering of Sir Brante
The Long Dark
The Outer Worlds: Spacer's Choice Edition
The Pale Beyond
The Quarry
The Red Lantern
The Serpent Rogue
The USB Stick Found in the Grass
The Witcher: Enhanced Edition (steam inventory gift)
The Witness
The Wolf Among Us
There Is No Light
Ticket to Ride
Tin Can
Titan Souls
TOEM
Tools Up!
Townsmen - A Kingdom Rebuilt
Traffic Jams
Train Station Renovation
Treasure Hunter Simulator
Trek to Yomi
Tribes of Midgard
Twilight Struggle
Twin Mirror
Two Point Campus
Ultimate Chicken Horse
Underland: The Climb
Unity of Command: Stalingrad Campaign
UnMetal
Vanishing Realms
War for the Overworld
Warhammer 40,000: Chaos Gate - Daemonhunters
Warhammer 40,000: Space Wolf
Warhammer 40,000: Space Wolf - Drenn Redblade
Warhammer 40,000: Space Wolf - Exceptional Card Pack
Warhammer 40,000: Space Wolf - Saga of the Great Awakening
Warhammer 40,000: Space Wolf - Wrath of the Damned
Warhammer Age of Sigmar: Realms of Ruin Ultimate Edition
WARSAW
We Happy Few Season Pass
We Were Here Too
Where the Water Tastes Like Wine
White Noise 2
Who Pressed Mute on Uncle Marcus?
Wobbledogs
Worms Rumble
WRC 7
WWE 2K BATTLEGROUNDS
XCOM 2
X-COM: Complete Pack (including X-COM: UFO Defense + X-COM: Apocalypse + X-COM: Enforcer + X-COM: Interceptor + X-COM: Terror from the Deep)
XCOM: Enemy Unknown Complete Edition
XEL
X-Morph: Defense Complete Pack (including X-Morph: Defense + X-Morph: Defense - European Assault + X-Morph: Defense - Survival Of The Fittest + X-Morph: Defense - Last Bastion)
Yakuza 4 Remastered
Zoeti

Other platforms:
Command & Conquer Remastered Collection (ORIGINkey)
Liberated (GOG key)
STAR WARS: Squadrons (Origin)
Wanderlust Travel Stories (GOG key)

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Note: for some games from humble I might ask for gift links. There is a rumor 3 years ago that humble bans users due to making gift links only. I make gift links every week, never have any issues. I have no idea why humble would ever ban its customers for using a feature it provides to its custimers.

Here is a guide how to make gift links from support.Humblebundle.com: https://support.humblebundle.com/hc/en-us/articles/202712460-Purchasing-and-Sending-Gifts

I do not believe humble teaches you how to make gift links, so it can ban you, lol

I can NOT reveal who exactly who is being sued, but if you or the media knew, there would be a circus.
I have another mediation coming up soon & I'm hoping we can come to an agreement, so I can put this all behind me, and chase my desires to move to New Orelan, where I can continue my practice, and eventually meet others who will help me open shop/whatever space I create.
Now for what happened.
Less than 2 year ago, I FUCKED UP and followed my abusive...and Ex white partner to live somewhere that was extremely hostile to Black people.
I'm from California and nearly choked, when I saw the Confederate flag being flown so casually, where I am now.
White men felt extremely comfortable voicing their lust for me.
White women asked if my hair was real, just because it was Tuesday.
The Black population here is almost non existent and it humbled the fuck out of me.
The closest Black hair salon is about 4 hours away.
I had taken my people for granted and I learned the hard way. Fuck being their token, fuck being "one of the goods ones" and more.
You. Are. Still. Just. A. Nlgger.
Where I worked, I was the only Black woman and person of color...
I endured racial slurs from my coworkers, sexual abuse from white customers, who even began to stalk me, harassment, bullying, discrimination, and retaliation for reporting to HR.
I was in a horror movie. My own "Get Out".
I had the Evil Eye cast on me by my white women coworkers when they saw the handsome and widely known rich white man, flirting with me.
I lost sleep, had anxiety attacks, went home crying, gained weight, and more as a result of this hostile environment.
After building a relationship with him for months prior, I called upon High John the Conqueror, the liberator of chains, a spirit, who has SERIOUS beef with the descendants of the masters, and is generally unpleasant to white people, and begged for him to protect me.
I have been doing witchcraft and Hoodoo for years, but not once did I think to call upon and invite him into my home before.
And protect me, he did.
I was fired.
The day after a repeat offender sexually harassed me IN FRONT of everyone, and I told him to stop, to which my boss retorted, I didn't handle the situation correctly.
I cried so hard. I didn't understand at first.
But not long afterwards, I did.
High John protected me removing from the hostile situation & putting the sign of a worker's right attorney in my path.
At first, I didn't have the energy to reach out and waited 2 weeks...but during that time, I had wished upon a Mojo bean, that was given to me as a gift by my (mean ass) mother for my previous birthday, but I had not even noticed was at the bottom of my old birthday bag.
I carried it in my pocket for 7 or 9 days, wishing for a certain amount of money, and then threw it into a stream of water, on the last day, in the morning, without looking back. [I made a post about the bean under the knowledge or talisman tag.]
And I prayed to High John again.
Now, what got the ball rolling was having my unemployment denied because my abusive former boss lied.
I cried again.
But it was enough for me to finally shoot that lawyer a message...
He called me back so damn fast...
Within 15mins, of listening to my story and seeing my physical EVIDENCE.
He said to me, "Insert my name- I'm going to sue -Insert job - for you.
This time, my tears were of heartfelt joy, and I have been working with my lawyers since, who are going to make sure they get that 40%.
Now for the bean, the amount I requested, happens to be the amount my lawyer is suing my former employer before, which has now reminded me to be even more specific, because...that 40% cut. 💀
I tell you my story to inspire you while also saying this aloud for myself.
I have a gift.
A gift that I'm meant to share.
A gift I inherited from my bloodline.
When my clairvoyant Granny picked me up as a baby, she told me I would be JUST like her, and she was right.
I am a Clairsentient, with the ability to divine through feeling. I just feel and know shit.
I would predict when the phone is about to ring, when someone I'm thinking about, is about to reach out to me, or even FEEL when a fight is about to happen...and seconds later, see a customer going berserk on a poor employee.
I'm going to use my gift to help this community.
When I'm experienced enough and with this money, I want to open up shop/accessible resources and return Hoodoo to Black hands.
I will forever praise and sing High John's name for what he has done for me. I know he is so proud of this community and the work I'm doing now.
And although I had to go through some serious shit. I am grateful for my traumatic experiences because that is what it took me to REPENT and....to return me to my people and be with you all here now.
Be blessed y'all.

Sometime in February we went for a work trip and since most of the work ended at around 4pm, we had the rest of the time to rest and just do extra activities. So this one time during the trip, some colleagues held a house party at the place they were staying. They invited us (who were staying in a different place) so on arriving, there were drinks and games and it was so much fun. After a series of games, came Truth or Dare and one of the dares was to mention who we find attractive in the office. Then it moved to who we have crushes on and i mentioned that i had a crush on the 32F. She said she had a crush on me too and we kissed. It was so quick. [BACKSTORY]
This didn't end here. On getting back home, we met so many times and shared amazing memories and in all this time, feelings were caught. The idea was to just live in the moment but, i was falling for her. So we had a discussion and figured, putting labels was a good idea. Remember, we're colleagues so it was VERY secretive. I still saw her at work and things were strictly professional. I liked that.
After a while, we were having one of those deep conversations and part of it was the ideal person we would both want to spend the rest of our lives with. This was where things got messy. Since she's older and even has kids, i didn't see her as someone I'd spend my life with and so in all honesty, i said this but didn't mention the fact that she is older and a mother. Now it got to a point where we decided that due to this, it's best to get rid of the labels and just live in the moment (do everything else that people in relationships do and see where it goes or doesn't go). This felt like a mini break up. But see now my issue was that we had feelings for each other and cutting them off was all good on paper. We are on the fence about what we both want. Healing has to take place and we need to give each other space. But I don't want to lose her.
I finally managed to convince myself to make the hard call and cut things off completely as we go back to being colleagues and that if at all things get better, it's easier to become platonic. This would also make it easier to be at peace within, cutting any doubts and having better odds at healing and moving on. So was ending things a good idea or would it have been better to stick around and figure things out in the already hot or cold situation? I'd be happy to clarify wherever necessary. I've cut some parts out cause it would have been too long.

I just came back from a walk with my narc mother. I was talking about a friend I don’t want to be friends with anymore. This friend is a terrible alcoholic who has tried to grope me on many occasions and wouldn’t stop (had happened to others as well).
My mother wants me to be nice to her because she’s going through treatment.
My mother is still going to message my ex happy birthday I’ve been broken Up with him for over a year (he has major problems he doesn’t take care of to say the least)
Finally she actively pressures me into making plans with my brother. My brother triggered my first psychotic episode. In fact doctors told her and my father to keep him away from me (that never happened, and I found out about the doctors comment 18 years later).
I have to believe this and other incidents are putting me in terrible situations.
Also I only know these people are problematic because of talking about them to my stable friends, who can’t understand my behaviours, still good friends though.
Anyway can someone please recommend some readings to me about narcs and pressuring bad relationships onto their kids?

Hello! I know, you’ve been waiting a long time for this, and I am so sorry for that, but it is time! I am finally watching Episode 4 of Game of Thrones!
I really am sorry for making you all wait this long. It’s been hard to find the time to do these the last couple of weeks, and I don’t really like breaking the viewings up if I can help it. But finally I have free time and I’m ready to go!
I did rewatch the first three episodes in preparation for this, just because I forgot most of the names and whatnot.
Episode 4- Cripples, bastards, and broken things

Bran’s walking again? Nope, just having a dream. He was following a raven with a black jewel on its forehead. I’m sure that’s some kind of foreshadowing, maybe even some kind of precognition, but I have no idea what it could be.

We’ve got a new character. Theon called him “Hodor” and the guy said “Hodor” twice.
Why is Tyrion’s first question to Bran to ask him what he remembers about that day? This whole time I’ve been insisting Tyrion’s innocent but that was kind of an odd thing to ask. I still think it’s either Jaime or Baelish behind it, leaning towards Jaime. And look at that! Would a cold-blooded child killer give them handicapable plans so Bran can ride a horse again (though that would be a great way to make himself seem sympathetic).
Can’t blame Robb for being harsh toward Tyrion, since he suspects him of trying to kill Bran, or at least being complicit in the plot.

lol I don’t normally like seeing characters being dicks but Theon is a bit of a smug dick himself, so it kind of tickles me to see Tyrion knock him down a peg or two. And there was exposition here! Apparently, Theon isn’t just Ned’s ward, he’s a captive. Theon’s father started some sort of rebellion and failed.

Okay, new character. Samwell Tarly of Horn Hill. Everyone’s making fat jokes about him, which seems a bit silly to me because he doesn’t look that fat to me. Fucking hell, this is hard to watch. Samwell can’t fight at all (seriously, I’m pretty sure Bran could beat him in a fight) and the Night’s Watch drill sergeant is making one of the recruits beat him with a blunt sword over and over. Ugh.
Jon has a good heart, defending Samwell. Awwwwww Sam is a big teddy bear and I want to give him a hug.

Thank you again to Jorah “I sold people into slavery” Mormont for the exposition. The Dothraki have a city! Like, a permanent city, which is kind of surprising given their nomadic culture. I see Viserys has learned no humility whatsoever.

Daenerys is dressing like a Dothraki now. Oh, the Dothraki are afraid of the sea because their horses can’t drink the water. I guess that makes sense when horses are so central to your culture. Oh please, Jorah’s justification for selling people into slavery is that his wife was a gold digger? ZERO. SYMPATHY.
Ugh, Daenerys’ girlfriend is taking a bath with her brother, which is significantly less fun to watch than her scene with Daenerys. But I’m getting dragon exposition so I can’t complain! So people used to ride dragons. I really hope I get to see that because dragons are so fucking cool. “The breath of the greatest dragon forged the iron throne, which the usurper is keeping warm for me.” And it looks like it’s made of swords because it’s literally made of swords lol
I really like this character (just wish I could remember her name). Her fascination with dragons makes me feel a kinship with her and the things she says she’s seen sound super cool.
Okay, I don’t like this asshole, but I will admit that seeing her getting off while he’s naming dragons is weirdly erotic. Ugh… and just like that he ruins the whole thing.

Uh… I think Sansa might not be grasping the potential consequences of having only girl children. She’s worried everyone will hate her, meanwhile I’m worried that Joffrey reminds me too much of Henry VIII lol

I don’t think Ned likes dealing with the mundanity of ruling a kingdom lol Then again, who would? I do actually agree that things like tourneys are good for the people though. It’s well-known that people need enrichment of some sort in their lives, and there was no television back then, and I doubt many commoners could read. I imagine things like tournaments were akin to holidays for them, looked forward to all year.
Ned’s got on his detective slippers. Apparently the last thing Jon Arryn wanted to read was the medieval version of a collection of birth records and death certificates. And his last words were “the seed is strong”. I have no idea what to make of this yet lol Also, Varys is a eunuch?

I could never do what Arya does. I have a lousy sense of balance lol also I love how she just immediately rejects the idea of marrying a lord and having his kids, and leaves no room for argument. She’s so awesome.

Holy shit, Sam’s dad is horrible. He makes Tyrion’s dad look nice by comparison! At least Tywin never forced Tyrion to join the Night’s Watch under threat of death. I really do love the blossoming relationship between him and Jon. Since the Night’s Watch forces their members to swear off sex, I think Jon and Sam should be secret lovers. Vows of celibacy don’t count if it’s in the butt, as any good Catholic will tell you.
They call Varys “The Spider”? I love spiders! Baelish is being helpful to Ned, giving him all this info about Jon Arryn’s squire and his last days, but I don’t trust him. He fingered Tyrion for Bran’s attempted murder, and now he’s being shady as hell. He’s the only one going out of his way to “help” Ned. Why? Varys, Renly, and Pycelle help if asked, but they mostly mind their own business. Why is Baelish going out of his way to insert himself into Ned’s investigation? In a detective book, it would be because he’s trying to control the narrative or he’s spying on the hero on behalf of the real villain.
But he also seems almost too obviously shady, you know? Could be a red herring. But then again, fucking everyone seems shady on this show lol

So Jon Arryn visited this Gendry guy several times before his death. He’s a blacksmith who made a horned helmet, who was questioned about his work, life, and mother. And Ned seemed to see something in him, hence his “Look at me” order. And he wants him to be a warrior instead of a blacksmith?

Oh, Ned immediately tells us what the deal is lol Gendry is Robert’s bastard son. Interesting point… Gendry said his mother had yellow hair. Who else has Robert slept with that has yellow hair? Cersei. Who had a black haired baby (like Gendry) who supposedly died in childbirth? Cersei. Maybe Gendry isn’t actually a bastard at all. Maybe he’s Robert and Cersei’s first child. If my theory that Joffrey and the other two aren’t Robert’s kids but Jaime’s is true, then maybe Cersei sent Gendry away because she wants her inbred Lannister kids on the throne instead of Robert’s kid! Gendry’s about the right age, too. Clearly older than Joffrey but not by much.
And maybe Jon Arryn figured that out and that’s why the Lannisters killed him!

Uh… Robert likes to have group sex when Jaime’s on duty, and he insults Cersei while he does so? That’s pretty fucked up. Makes me sympathize with the Lannisters a little (but only a little). And Jaime fought in a battle with this guy, Ned’s soldier. They were laying siege to a place called Pyke, somebody named Thoros of Myr had a burning sword, one of the Greyjoy’s (Theon’s family) nearly took out this guy’s eye (Can somebody tell me in the comments what his name is? I must have missed it) and that’s how he got his scar. I’ve got it paused, I’m looking right at his face, and I do not see a scar anywhere lol

Two separate people have told Jon he’s in love with Sam, even if they were only saying it to be mocking. Jon had better actually fall in love with Sam or I am going to be disappointed lol Look at the lengths Jon’s going to to protect him!
Wow lol this whole training session is kind of embarrassing. Honestly, I wonder if Sam feels worse when it’s painfully obvious that no one’s even trying. Even though he’s kind of a dick about it, I do understand the drill sergeant’s point. How is Sam supposed to improve like this?

Fuck, I hate Viserys. But holy shit, that was a great line. “The next time you raise a hand to me will be the last time you have hands.” Like, damn!

“Sally on the side?” lmao Sam’s absolutely right though. It’s absurd that they need to be celibate, especially if the officers are going to brothels. Oh? Sam and Jon are talking about their sex lives and neither one has ever been with a girl? And Jon came close, but for some reason couldn’t… oh please be gay for each other. Please. Oh! He almost had sex with Ros! Tyrion and Theon have had sex with Ros!
Okay, maybe Sam’s not gay. He seems to like boobs lol but hey, he could be bisexual! Wait, why wouldn’t Ned tell Jon his mother’s name? Hell, we know her name (Wylla, if memory serves). I need to know more about Wylla, damn it! Something about the whole situation is not adding up! Why wouldn’t Ned talk to Jon about her? And if Ned is a good person, which I think he is, why wouldn’t he let Jon see her? The only reason I can imagine is she’s dead. But if she’s dead, why not tell him her name?
Wow. Jon refrains from sex so that he won’t put a child through what he went through. I respect the hell out of that. Or that’s just his excuse to cover up the fact that he doesn’t like girls lol Or he didn’t know where to put it! Lmao they’ve made physical contact, Jon and Sam! Next step is kissing! Let’s go! You know how men get when in the military!
The drill sergeant’s story of getting caught outside of the wall in the winter is chilling (badum tiss). I’m kind of in awe of him, and I understand how he views the world a little better. I can’t imagine the kind of circumstances of being forced to cannibalize your dead when trapped in a freezing storm. I don’t judge people for that. At school, my teacher talked about the Donner Party like they were monsters or something but I don’t blame them one bit for what they did. I’d do it too! If we were in a life or death situation, I would absolutely eat a person if it meant living.

“I hit the dragon”. Yeah, it’s always scary to stand up to your abuser for the first time. Okay, Jorah may be an asshole slaver, but he’s got a good head on his shoulders. He’s almost certainly right: no one in the seven kingdoms is waiting for Viserys to come back and reclaim the throne. I love that Daenerys admitted out loud that Viserys will never take back the throne. She’s absolutely right, he’s worthless.

“Why do they call you Littlefinger?” lol I love Arya.
“Start the damn joust before I piss myself!” lmao so many awesome lines this episode.
Oh, new character. Gregor Clegane, whose nickname is “The Mountain”. He’s the Hound’s older brother. And Jon Arryn’s squire was just killed by Gregor Clegane. After Baelish made such a big deal of him being knighted so quickly I thought he’d have a more significant part to play.
I was freaking enraptured by Baelish’s telling the story of The Mountain and The Hound. What is it about that guy’s voice that just holds your attention? But anyway, now I know why the Hound’s face looks like that.

I’m living for scenes of Ned and Cersei subtly threatening each other.

This is practically Shakespearean lol a comedy of errors! Cat just can’t go incognito no matter where she is! I love that Tyrion pointed her out immediately!
I just got introduced to a bunch of new houses and characters I haven’t met. I really don’t want to write all that down so maybe I’ll just skip it just this once lol
Dude, what the hell? Cat just arrested Tyrion but she has no evidence whatsoever that he did anything! All she has to go on is Baelish claiming the assassin’s dagger belonged to Tyrion. There is absolutely no way this ends well for her. If she has a trial for him, it’s going to come out that Tyrion’s innocent and then the Stark’s lose credibility on the whole thing going forward. Robert already sided with the Lannisters over Ned once, he’ll do it again.
Concluding thoughts: That was a great episode! I’m so happy to be back watching this show, even if I still barely know what’s going on at any given moment lol I can’t think of much to say or theorize about that I didn’t already in the body of the commentary so I’ll leave it there for now.
I can’t wait for the next one! Hopefully it won’t take nearly as long as this one.

Weakish Review- Ski to Sea Version
Sumer is icumen and so are the cotton wood trees. As Ski to Sea-ers descend upon our little town to remind us all of why we choose to live here (outdoor recreation in the rain), newcomers lament that this poorly planned event didn’t plan in advance that the disruptions in traffic could make it take longer to get his girlfriend’s car from across town. Meanwhile, the cotton woods are answering the call when the Bellingham City Council declared a tree emergency and are trying to impregnate everything and everyone. The only thing left to officially declare summer is an Alaskan rave so big that the skies light up and stimulate the boomhorses to fill the silence at midnight with their eerie flute like scary mating calls. Warning, the boomhorses are on ecstasy, grab your spongebob member’s only jacket and head to the bank to grab some cash, shit’s about to get real.
First, a rules meeting was had after a particular poster with multiple alts got called out for trolling. They said they were leaving the forum forever, then immediately signed in with new alts. People love to call me out for being an evil landlord, yet I let this troll live in my mind, rent free! I invite you to play a round of troll roulette. All you have to do is find one of their alts and point out, with evidence, that they are factually incorrect. If they tell you to touch grass and then block you, you win the game. Bonus points if you can get them to follow you around and downvote everything you post.
Next, a safety meeting was where kayakers were only informed about course information, rescue procedures, and how to help others. Nobody told the main character that he needed to feed himself. They didn’t tell him how to dress appropriately and even made him wipe is own ass in the outhouse. At the end of the day, they didn’t even reserve a parking space just for him and insisted that the rules apply to him just like everyone else. Ski to Sea is clearly under-planned and unsafe because we just got started and two main characters have already been slightly inconvenienced.
XC Ski- Following the lead of a woman who moved to our town who made it her mission to change our housing laws, a Texas man is trying to glide into our local housing politics too. People struggled to find footing as they were offended that a person who they agree with could be compared with someone they disagree with. Someone more clever than I, could certainly create a fun villain origin story with this. You gotta admit, black mold tenant’s revolt superhero has black spiderman/venom vibe. There has got to be something similar we could do with the monopoly man and the Air B&B guy. A battle between these two would be my favorite main character fight. Wouldn’t a Batman style comic be hilarious? Housing ordinance gets passed, BIFF. Lawsuit filed BAM. I miss good political satire cartoons.
DH SKI- Speaking of slippery slopes, the City council declared an emergency for trees. According to Merriam Webster, “a course of action that seems to lead inevitably from one action or result to another with unintended consequences.” People are struggling with seeing a problem with this one because we love trees, especially big ones. But, what happens when politicians that you don’t agree with start to declare non-emergencies as emergencies to push through their agendas? Where will all of our main characters live if nobody can build them housing if trees are there first? The cotton woods may have been the real main character all along.
Run- There has been talk for years about changing the course because running downhill can cause injury due to eccentric muscle contractions that induce high mechanical strain on the musculotendinous system. No review is complete without updating about our favorite eccentric character. Mark took a break from volunteering for the Spark Museum to bring joy to the community by dancing in the Ski to Sea Parade. Nearby band members were overwhelmed with happiness as his ecstatic exuberance filled the community with joy and love. Unfortunately, some main characters missed out on the joy because cones blocked their path for a brief moment, trapping them in their cars with great confusion. “Who would put cones in a road. Roads are for cars, not for bringing joy to the community and welcoming in a joyous summer. Parades should be held on sidewalks in the county, in the middle of the night so as not to impede traffic.” Proclaimed a main character who just moved here who was still miffed that he was accused of being the traffic that he was stuck in.
Road Bike- Perhaps the real purpose of Ski to Sea is to normalize traffic disruptions. The County’s war against cars is less subtle, they prefer to block large sections of primary transportation corridors. Those sneaky buggers in the city are slowly taking away lanes and giving them to bikes. First they came for route choice with a pamphlet with recommended routes with clever bridges and short cuts, and we didn’t speak out because it was just a recommendation. Then they came for color uniformity as they progressed to green paint and recommended routes, and we didn’t speak out because green is the color of trees and we like trees. Before most people noticed, they put the roads on diets and nobody stood up for the roads as they were shamed. Nobody stood on the overpasses and caused traffic accidents with their signs calling for road size positivity because roads aren’t real just like birds aren’t real. Now, they are replacing roads with bike lanes and lots of them! People don’t like the location of these bike lanes. People don’t want to slow down. What about the cars? And, we didn’t speak out because we aren’t cars and we love our bikes. Then, they came for our favorite route through town and there were no cars left to beep their horns for us and we were forced to zip through town on our e-bikes and waterproof outfits.
Canoe- Two people, who consider themselves locals since they have lived here for two weeks, decided to train for the canoe leg in the dessert on the sand dunes. The person in the front looked over his shoulder at their friend and said, “Wear’s your paddle?” the person in the back replied, “Sure does.” Ba Dum Tss. Speaking of paddling, It’s been a long time since we have collectively agreed that hitting children, friends, and neighbors is a preferred means of solving problems, but there is still a lot of striking going on. WWU workers were on strike, People were striking against the war in the middle east, the mods made a mega thread to strike down too much conversation about it.
Cyclocross- The CX bikers pedaled and slogged their way through the peanut butter mud as the main character waited with his kayak wishing someone would make him a peanut butter sandwich. A gaggle of Karens were triggered because peanut allergies are real and felt like the mud wasn’t being inclusive. Others felt left out that the mud was not described as being the consistency of gluten, which left them out of being triggered. When they all called the police because their feelings were hurt, nobody could agree on the number of police cars that they saw racing by.
Kayak- This takes us back to our poor, hungry, main character who was left to barely survive with an insufficient quantity and quality of food trucks. He stood there for hours wondering why nobody was taking care of him and why did the county executive and attorney pay off that sexual harassment claim without engaging with the council. As he neared the end of the paddle with the finish bell in sight he saw the Consulat de Monte Cristo shut down the beer garden while calling out Bonjour to the crowds. Our poor paddler grabbed his Spongebob jacket and thought to himself, “Why didn’t he say, bonne journée?”
It’s officially almost summer-ish. Go buy batteries to change your smoke alarms. Ask yourself what you can do to make the community a better place. Share your ideas. What can you do to make Belligham better? How can you support your community? My new favorite is the food pantry behind Coconut Kennys. You can leave nice things there and people who need them take them. I’ve left food, hand warmers, packages of new socks, nice jackets etc. My other favorite is gift cards to local easy access food restaurants like Dairy Queen and Subway. You can just hand these to people you see around town.

The question is "tell me about a time you provided excellent customer service experience."
The problem with this question is that i have only worked 1 customer service job (cashier at s restaurant) when i was a teenager with undiagnosed autism. So naturally, I don't have any true stories of "excellent" customer service experience. Here are the stories I have to work with:

the time I let two kids use two coupons to pay for their food when technically i was only allowed to let them use one because they didn't have any money with them (can't use this story because it involves breaking the rules, and the job i'm looking for does NOT approve of breaking the rules, even small ones)
the time i completely forgot it was a discount day while i was doing a transaction and thought the lady wouldn't notice because she'd already used a coupon. Of course, she noticed, and she got pissed, and i guiltily had to apologize. (This story makes me look bad)
the time I wore the mascot suit for a kid's birthday (what am I supposed to say about this? That i did my job and wore an unwashed fursuit for 10 minutes while I couldn't talk and kids were climbing all over me? The only other notable thing that even happened at this party was that we let the kids see the back of the restaurant and allowed them to be in the fridge for two seconds with the door closed.)
the time an autistic kid started having a meltdown, letting out a sound i didn't know a human could make with their throat, awkwardly watched their mother drag them out of the store, and let my coworker answer the phone when the mom called afterward to apologize (i guess i could lie and say that i answered the phone? The restaurant went defunct years ago so nobody can fact-check me on this unless the coworker who was there works for the company i'm apply for.)

The alternative of course would be to lie and make up a story, but i'd have to come up with a believable and consistent lie.

i am a bisexual woman in a very committed relationship with a man, and sometimes wonder if i’m gay enough. (honestly writing this in hopes that smosh finds it and can offer some advice haha).
i (f20) have been really struggling with my sexuality since being in my current relationship with my boyfriend (m20). i have been selectively-out as bisexual since i was sixteen. right now i am in a very healthy and loving relationship with my boyfriend. we have been dating for over 1.5 years (met and started dating at the beginning of our freshman year at college), and we already know we want to get married.
because i grew up in a very rural town and still live in the south, i have never been in a wlw relationship and didn’t even have my first “girl kiss” until i turned 19 (the summer before my second year at college) and it was purely platonic in a game of spin the bottle. like i told my boyfriend afterwards and we had a good laugh. even my best friend, who is straight, couldn’t believe i hadn’t ever kissed a girl before and said even she had before.
sometimes i feel terrified at the thought that i will never have a wlw relationship or “experience”. like i’m completely happy wanting to marry my current significant other and know id be happy living the rest of my life with him. i mean really. he’s the one. we have our whole future planned out together. he is very aware of my feelings about fomo on a wlw relationship and he is so understanding about my feelings and struggle. also wanted to say i would never try to take a break or anything so i could go “figure things out for myself” because he’s already who i want.
still, sometimes i doubt if i can even call myself bisexual at this point. even if i wasn’t dating my boyfriend, i wouldn’t be able to have a real wlw relationship because my father is homophobic and my mother is specifically biphobic (she says “you have to pick”). i know im also attracted to women but is that enough at this point? am i just confused like my mom thinks bi people are? especially with chappell roan’s “good luck, babe!” blowing up rn, and the whole lesbians v bi girls shit happening (debating if bisexual women can relate to the bridge), i wonder am i comphetting myself?
my partner always reassures me that, no matter what, i am how i feel. but im not so sure anymore.

Throwaway account to keep this separate from what I normally post and obligatory mobile warning since I'm posting this on my lunch break. I (25M) am a father of two adorable twin girls. They are turning 3 soon, so my wife (24F) and I are working on planning a small party for them. Nothing big since neither of us are a fan of big parties so it's just going to be some close family, and a few families from our daughter's daycare. Recently, my own father moved back into our city (he moved away for just over 10 years for work) and he's been trying to insert himself into my life again, through my daughters. Including trying to pick them up from daycare (my wife and I have asked him multiple times not to), stopping by for surprise visits without calling first to see if we were even home, or buying them gifts without talking to us first to see if it would be okay. Now, my father and I aren't close. Far from it. There had been a lot of compilations with my mother's health when I was born, and she passed away not to long after. Afterwards, my father practically dumped me off onto his father, my grandfather, who raised me instead. My father moved away when I was 14, but even before that, he rarely visited outside of holidays or birthdays, and when he was around, he would always try to avoid me if possible. And after he moved, it would be a rare occasion to even get a phone call from him. It caused me a lot of issues that I'm honestly still going to therapy for and that I'm trying to work out. Thankfully, my grandfather has been an amazing role model for me and has been giving me advice for my girls so that way I can be a good Dad for them. It was my drop of day today, and when I was leaving the daycare and was heading back to my car to get to work, my father showed up to try and talk to me. I tried to get our of the conversation as fast as I could, saying that I was going to be running late, but he didn't seem to get the message, and instead kept asking me about my daughter's birthday since it was coming up, what we had planned, and where the party would be. Eventually I snapped at him and told him that I didn't even want him at their party, and that he never earned the right to spend time with them as a grandfather since he never put in the time to be an actual father in the first place. At that point I was already at my car, so I pulled out and got on the road, but it's been bugging me all morning. AITA?

I am already going to therapy and recently only noticed how my mom is ruining my life since childhood. From one hand she loves me, from another she hates me a lot. She is always victim in everything.
One-two weeks she can be okay, we will not argue, but then another week she would go insanely mad just from simple things if i didnt hear from first time what she has said to me, or if i didnt hand my jacket straigt away. With all this i gotta say im 27(f), shes almost 60. Yes, i will move out, i didnt yet cause i was studying abroad for a bit and came back at the end of last year and i just gotta save up for a flat now and move.
Borderline for me was when she basically called me dumb for not getting into university in which i wanted to initially and praised my brother who just got his masters. She never used education to insult me before, but now she did it. She has said things like "you will die alone, no one will ever want you, when youll have kids theyll be born unwell (physically/mentally) and hate you like you hate me" I dont hate her, she just think i do when i argue with her and tell her off when she is treating me badly.
...I honestly dont know how there is any excuse for my mother to tell me these things to me. My biggest fear in life was and still is to di3 alone with no family of my own, so after hearing this i was crying a lot. She didnt even know this fear of mine cause I have never told her this, but it hit me hard.
Usually i let it go and dont even remember horrible things she has said. At the same time she "loves me" and is always trying to hug me and i resist that all the time. I just dont like her being affectionate with me since i was like a teenager. At this point I dont want to tell her that i have a boyfriend for 1.5 months already cause she will call me a slut/bitch. She calls me a s*ut/bi*ch for no reason on daily basis and if ill tell her about BF she will have a reason. She can be very vulgar. When i was like 20 or less, she said that i am "so nasty" cause i havent had s*x for a while, which was so disgusting to me.
Today, like an hour ago, she saw me speeding to my room when she was approaching kitchen and was talking to herself in the kitchen loudly things about HERself like "of course, run away from this fat bi*ch, you dont like to see my ugly face, maybe i should ha*g myself but wire will not hold such a fatas*, i should just take pills so you can be happy finally". I was speeding cause i was quickly going into kitchen half naked filling up water and didnt want her to see me like that. ☠️ She just came up with that from NOWHERE ☠️ And 10mins later she can act like nothing happened. And then change her behaviour again in a split second.
Last for now: she convinced my brother that i have schizophrenia. Spoiler alert, lol: I DON'T. Then i called her out on this BS and later she "diagnosed" me saying that im sociopath. Also - im not. My therapist confirmed this. She is a paramedic but shes not mental health doctor, its so insane that she does this.
My brother is 25, he lost his job and moved in with us (he literally just got a new job and soon will move out again) but he is not getting ANY crap that im getting almost daily. He always comforts her so shes not shouting etc. When he comforts her, like today, she said "at least you are comforting me and care not like her". When i try to tell her about any topic that " this isnt too bad, it will pass" and ACTUALLY trying to comfort her, she shouts back that its all BS and things on specific topic will not get better etc. Its hard to comfort person who yells back that im talking bs when i try to make things better.
Has any of you experienced something similar with your parents? Has moving out of home to your own place changed their behaviour? How have you dealt with this?
TLDR I dont know why my mom hates me. I feel like she is narcissist, from what i have read on internet (lol), she ticks all the boxes for this type of person. She is emotionally abusing me since i can remember myself. Can this change after i move out?

While my amanuensis (my eyes) was browsing Reddit, she was reading me the forbidden text (only Christians) on latterdaysaints. However, for myself I am a mere humanist of the old order, who is older than most on this blog-site. It was an interesting read, as were the comment on the subject of John of Patmos vs John the Apostle. One commentator commented: “It's possible that there was a second apostle named John, despite none of the early Christian fathers mentioning him. Improbable, but possible.” Well, I have news, and I have had this information since my college days back in the early 1950s, that there was, in fact, a THIRD John. And not one of these Johns wrote or had anything to do with the Gospel of John, aka the fourth gospel. Not only that, John the disciple was illiterate (Acts 4:13) and he and his brother James, the sons of Zebedee, had been executed back in the year 43 CE.
The New Testament is full of biblical figures having the same first name, like Mary, for instance. Mary Magdalen, Mary mother of James and Joseph and Mary the sister of Mary, the mother of Jesus. Two Marys in the same family, who would have guessed! It gets perplexing! The same can be said of the name John. The scholar Schonfield writing about the third John, as well as the deaths of John the son of Zebedee, and his brother James, wrote: We have testimony that both the sons of Zebedee, John as well as James, had been executed in Palestine in the early days of Christianity; and the words Jesus quoted by Mark confirm that both had suffered by the time the Gospel was written. When Paul wrote to the Galatians there were three eminent leaders in Jerusalem, James, Peter, and John. But the James of Paul was not the son of Zebedee, but the brother of Jesus, and we cannot therefore assume that John in this case was the son of Zebedee. The John who is associated with Peter in Acts could have been the son of Zebedee; but by the time of the Council of Jerusalem (c. 48-50*) he was ceased to be mentioned. The Beloved Disciple of the fourth Gospel was also associated with Peter, and his name appears to have been John. But this disciple had a house in Jerusalem and was known to the high priest. On the cross, Jesus entrusted his mother to his care. It is brought out that he lived to a great age, so that it came to be believed that he would not die before Jesus returned from heaven to inaugurate his kingdom. Of this John, it was reported that he had been a Jewish priest, and even that he had worn the high priest’s golden frontlet. In his later years he resided in Asia Minor and was buried at Ephesus. The information comes from a reasonably reliable source, a letter from Polycrates bishop of Ephesus at the end of the second century addressed to Victor, bishop of Rome.
The real issue is only obscured by dragging in John, the son of Zebedee. What we need to know is whether the dynamic personality who flourished in Asia Minor at the beginning of the century; was the venerable Jewish priest who had been the Beloved Disciple of Jesus or some other man, the third John.
That there was a third John playing a very active part in Christian affairs at this time is no speculation. He was known as John the Elder (presbyter) and is mentioned in a well known passage found in the Exposition of the Dominical Oracles by Papias of Hierapolis, another Asian Christian, published about A. 140. [Hugh J. Schonfield (1968), Those Incredible Christians, Ch. 12, pp. 180/1, Hutchinson of London]. The (*) emphasizing the date is mine.
The time-honoured question is who wrote the Gospel of John, it certainly was not any of the Johns being mentioned above, the consensus of scholars say it was written by anonymous Greek scholars. But what of the Johns mentioned, well, most Christian factions, especially the more conservative, clump the ~Johns~ together into one, you can see this on any internet search.
What do you say?
Sue for Jero

My father killed my mother when I was just two weeks old. My grandfather adopted me, however, he passed before 7th grade, and my aunt (mom youngest sister) became my legal guardian. For 16 years I didn’t know anything about my mother or father. I was told I was “different” from the time I could talk & ask questions. I’m not even sure if I would’ve found out at 16 if I didn’t open the mail one day to find a letter from my uncle (dad’s brother) wanting to connect. For 28 years I’ve been confused, anxious, and blaming myself for everything wrong in my family’s life & mine. I felt like I was taking on consequences for my father’s actions. Growing up was tough! I was bullied constantly & couldn’t tell my aunt as she was not emotionally available and was a functional alcholic. Her advice was to laugh it off or make jokes back to people because that’s what she did when she would get bullied. We didn’t have a close relationship because her motto was that she couldn’t be my friend & discipliner. So I would try my best to be a “good child” hoping she would be my friend. We look so much alike that people would often ask if I was her daughter & she’d reply “nope, my niece”. That used to hurt 5- 10 yr old me, since I was always wondering why I didn’t have a mom.
I have two older half sisters that I do not have a relationship with. Both have a parent who was not affected by my parent’s actions. They have siblings they are close to and a parent still alive. Both of my parents, I have never known. My immediate family is super close with our extended family, especially on grandmothers side. So holidays & family reunions to see my cousins meant everything to me.
Fast forward, after college I pretty much went into isolation & cut a lot of family off( blocked on everything, no contact at all) all for different reasons but ultimately stimming from the lack of reciprocal support, care, love, time, and effort. I’m the one that is always creating the “vibe” I’m the person you assume is not ok if they’re quiet and out of the way. I always want everyone to feel included & appreciated. That’s my genuine self, but during covid and after college I realized family really wasn’t who I could rely on. Everything happens for a reason so finding out that I was being talked about behind my back with family was tough. Everyone had an opinion on my life, but never called or talked to me to actually know. However no one really knew me. I remember saying “if I were kidnapped or dead, no one would know”. They only knew the people pleasing, putting on a smile while I’m crying on the inside version of me. When I get around my family or even meeting new people, I feel like my teenage self again. No one knew how much a genuine hug, a text, or a simple “I love you” would make me feel seen. I’ve never had a motherly or nurturing embrace. Everyone assumes I’m fine, taken care of, or dare I say not human. It really feels like my family has made it ok for everyone to have vulnerability & emotions except for me because I should be grateful that they adopted. It’s the said, unsaid. Well, it has been said directly by another aunt (I don’t even care to mention her) & sister. They believe I should be the most grateful person in the world. The aunt that raised me would say “you don’t know that if your mother was alive if, your life would’ve been any better”. There’s so much to unpack and yes I’ve started therapy because honestly I just couldn’t find a reason to exist. Thank God for his grace on my life.
Since Covid I’ve been speaking up for myself & setting boundaries. Today, I have absolutely no close friends & no family. I wake up so disappointed and broken hearted some days because I do not know what I have done so wrong to get here. I feel like I’m the black sheep of the family & society. I hide myself & don’t share my story or my feelings. Therapy has just been me venting, but no practical advice I can use.
I’ve been in my current relationship for 6 years now and I know we want to get married soon. These issues are actually preventing me from being settled the way I need to focus on a healthy relationship. I want to be apart of a village. From birth I’ve felt like I’m the problem & alone.
I want to overcome this and I am asking for advice from you Queens on how to stop the self sabotage, make new friends, have a healthy relationship with my family.
Or anyone who has grown up without parents, how have you healed that void, if at all?

Sooo I’m sorry for the lengthy post but it wouldn’t make sense without the back story. I’m newly diagnosed with lupus, fibromyalgia, long covid, POTS and hypothyroidism (I know, it’s a lot. Ugh). To say I’ve been in pain is an understatement. Head to toe symptoms, extreme swelling that makes movement even harder, fatigue, depression/anxiety, you name it I have it all right now. it’s been trial and error with medications so far. I’m still suffering from my first major flare in January.
Anyways, I (27F) was engaged to my boyfriend (29M) of 3 and a half years who I’ve known since I was 14. We are best friends and the love he gives me is like no other. Almost like something out of a movie..We both had shitty upbringings but not to belittle his situation, I definitely had it worse. I get anxious around big groups of people and I unfortunately care about what other’s think too much and my reputation. No one meeting me would ever know. That being said, there’s been numerous times he’s humiliated me in front of his friends and family. Even his own step mom told me a year and a half in when she saw I was frustrated over how he handled something that he used to manipulate and play both his mom and dad to get what he wants. They’re all unstable honestly but mostly the father. I’ve always felt uncomfortable around the family, they’re just not my kind of people and I feel like I can’t be myself around them. A year before my diagnoses we went to his best friend’s wedding. The wife is super mean to others and has started drama with a lot of the friend group especially the other girlfriend’s and wives and even her own husband’s family. My boyfriend has always said “these girls are just jealous because you’re stunning”. I grew up kind of ugly and didn’t get hot until senior year of high school so I was bullied really badly and it didn’t even stop when I got “hot”. A lot of girls were still mean to me just in different ways. I was already not excited to go to this wedding due to that and my boyfriend being in the wedding party. I made friends with this really nice girl who just started dating one of his friends. We went to the bathroom together and on our walk back to the tables we walked past my boyfriend who was standing in the mix of a big group of people and he was talking to one of his friend’s girlfriends. Really nice, cute girl. I didn’t even see him cause there were so many people by him so I walked right past him. He apparently called my name when he saw me but with the music it was so loud I didn’t hear nor see him. Him assuming the worst of me says to this girl “what the fuck is her problem” then this other girl walks up to me asking if I’m mad at him.. I was so confused and said what?! Why would I be mad at him? I pulled him aside and said what’s going on? I was so upset he involved other people over an issue I had no idea about. He’s obviously drunk but to me that’s even worse cause I believe drunk words are sober thoughts so he gives me the nastiest look and says you’re that insecure I can’t even talk to my friend’s girlfriend? I was so angry and said well you must be telling on yourself because I didn’t even hear or see you so he takes my words and twists them saying I said I was mad he was talking to her. I swear I could’ve given two shits less. I sat in the bathroom the entire wedding crying because I was so humiliated everyone was involved and they had heard his twisted version of what happened. Shame on me for thinking we were at a good place. I have no problem admitting I’m wrong but I literally did NOTHING for him to do this. I have had insecurity issues due to my upbringing and being cheated on and I finally got comfortable in our relationship where I stopped needing constant reassurance so for me to just finally feel safe and happy and then to have it all ripped away was like grieving a death for me because who is this person and why would they turn on me like that? he made me Uber with other people back from the venue cause he told them he didn’t want to be by me. No one really knows me so they clearly believe him and I’m absolutely shocked and embarrassed. It was rocky for months but he’d make it up to me then something else similar would happen and he’d involve other people in our business. His friend group is also so immature for their age and the girlfriends as well, so I always felt out of place and wondered why my boyfriend was friends with them. Obviously then it clicked.
Another wedding halfway across the country, he said he didn’t want to go out with the guys the night before the wedding because he didn’t want to leave me alone. I kept trying to talk him into going, especially with the fear that his friends would be blaming me for him not going. Finally after we all convinced him to go, I wanted to watch the football game so I took a Lyft by myself to a local bar that had the game on. Why should I have to sit in the room by myself all night waiting? I love traveling and was in a new city so I figured I’d make the most of it. He was annoyed and all his friends and one of the girls apparently said I was weird for going out to a bar alone. I’m also a loner and used to live out of my home state alone with just my dog and I so it’s literally what I’m used to. I can take care of myself. I dropped everything and sent him a spicy picture when I got back from the hotel bathroom. Him and his best friend came back not too long after to our room to hang out. I was asking them how it was and was telling them about my night and how a girl approached me and I actually made a friend. He was acting drunk which was totally fine cause that’s what most people do when they’re celebrating so I was like oh, you drunk?! Literally in a fun tone, not judgmental at all cause I had a fun night too.. his entire demeanor changed and he gets nasty with me in front of his friend saying that he’s not drunk and didn’t even drink at all. I was like huh? It’s not a problem, we’re literally hanging out having a conversation. He went to the bathroom and even his friend shrugged his shoulders. They were going to party in one of the other guys’ rooms and I didn’t even want to go. I realized he had the room key when I left at the same time to grab water bottles so I followed him up real quick to get it and he was talking shit about me to his friend. I said “hey I can hear you”. every single time something like this happens he takes AT LEAST a day or usually longer to realize how wrong he is. He throws out the excuses “all my friends and their spouses fight no one even cares and no one even remembers it.”
Well, fast forward to Thanksgiving.. his step mom has always been overly kind where it’s suspect because she literally talks crap about everyone including family so I’m obviously the subject when I leave the room. My boyfriend was on the deck petting the dog and I was packing our bags because we were all visiting his family in another state. His grandma goes “where did A(my boyfriend) go? His dad replies “he’s outside petting the dog. The step mom goes “no B(me) is right here. Literally calling me a dog. I went outside to the car and my boyfriend saw me and asked what’s wrong? I told him and he started yelling at ME saying that I made it up and she never said that. He goes in to ask them. All of a sudden his dad, step mom and him all come running out bombarding me it was so overwhelming. She’s trying to tell me she didn’t mean it that way and she thinks I’m gorgeous and loves me and she even started tearing up.. mind you, I’ve already sat out many gatherings the last year due to some of her comments. This ultimately led to a huge fight cause I was crying and explained how he’s never once defended me and I don’t think I can be with someone who acts like this in these situations. He always misses the point or tries to reverse the blame. I grew up walking on eggshells and have also been diagnosed with complex PTSD which I forgot to mention earlier so I really try my hardest to communicate healthy because I hate yelling. I will admit, I’ve fed into and once he started yelling at me I did start yelling back which I know wasn’t good but I truly couldn’t take being so misunderstood this bad like he was always trying to make me a bad guy for no reason. I had booked a mini vacation after Thanksgiving so we were driving to the hotel even though he had already ruined the excitement for me. We get there and everything escalated again. He left the room and said he was leaving me here. He came back in all angry and I said you need to get out of the room but he wouldn’t stop being nasty and I said if you don’t get out I’m literally going to call the cops, I’m not sitting here listening to this all night. I know that was a little far fetched but I actually ended up calling the cops because he kept daring me to and making threats refusing to leave, laughing in my face and taunting me (he was hammered). I literally went to book him another room first and he refused to give me space so I exhausted all options. Looking back, I wish I didn’t call the cops but I was so sick of this shit I pretty much just wanted a reason for us to be done and not have a reason to get back together.. I told the cops to just take him to another room and I didn’t want any trouble at all. He acted like I was trying to get him arrested when I literally stressed to them that I didn’t want that and just needed space but he wasn’t listening. I had called one of my best friends and her boyfriend to come get me over 4 hours from home.
He financed my car for me knowing my ex has ruined my credit when we split but I had cash saved so I paid him $1,000 a month on top of the down payment just to pay off the car super quick. He took the engagement ring from me and left me stranded without a vehicle not even letting me have a day or two to get a different car. We didn’t talk for a week, I refused his texts and calls which were blowing up my phone until I finally caved. He agreed to therapy. I made him apologize to his friends and family and explain that I wasn’t crazy or out of line like he made me seem the last few years. I wasn’t happy with how he did it and think he still defends his case around them as he knows I have no interest in going around any of them except his mother and step father who were the nicest out of everyone but they still were not my cup of tea..
Come January, we split again for a week. This time peacefully because I told him any little slip up and I’m gone, I have to look out for myself. This is when my first flare happened that progressively got worse to where after a month I could barely get out of bed. My heart rate had gone up to a high of 180 at one point while just standing. There’s too many symptoms to write out here as it’s not completely relevant but I have a very poor quality of life right now and I’m trying my best to be positive because I was super active and loved being outdoors before this. My boyfriend has gotten better for the most part but still doesn’t know how to communicate issues without blowing up most of the time and it has caused my pain to get worse each time this happened. One time I told him to stop because it’s making it worse and he says “I don’t give a fuck about your symptoms”. I kicked him out and he apologized tremendously and hasn’t done anything that bad since but still will argue with me over dumb things after I’ve repeatedly begged him to just stop and think first before reacting, especially now with how sick I am..
I’m only explaining the bad here because just envision Prince Charming aside from these scenarios.. he is literally amazing and has taken care of me through all of this, giving up time where he could be having fun to just sit inside with me and cater to my every need which I’m so grateful for. I haven’t been able to go back to work since this happened so he has helped me with a few bills and takes me to some specialist appointments when my grandmother can’t. He cooks often for me on my really bad days and even for my younger brothers. They all love him because he spends time with them but they don’t really know the side that I do. It’s like I’m with two different people and with my heart issue right now I’m scared to lose him because I already feel like I’m having a heart attack on the daily. Should I suggest he goes to a psychiatrist and tries medication or just find the strength to leave him? I don’t look at him the same and all the good seems fake cause I’m just waiting for his next outburst where he holds it over my head or something.

There have been a number of new Bank Switch offers out over the last week. Anyone new to bank switching could make up to £1145 from these offers (or £1345 if you are in Northern Ireland!). Remember: It's not a heist if they are giving it away
Note: The Virgin offer ends on 31/05/2024.

As always with the Bankedex, we need your help.

This is the the ultimate guide to UK bank switch offers - the collective knowledge of ~140k BeermoneyUK members. Switch your bank account, get a cash reward for doing so. But don't switch your main account, open up a second account and switch that to get the money! Or open a second and a third "burner" and grab many switch bonuses at the same time.
The post has been updated with the newest offers, and tips commented in the previous Bankedex posts, and those in other posts on beermoneyuk. **But it is a difficult task keeping on top of all the questions. Please continue to share your experience with Bank Bribes. I will add questions/answers and update the offers as and when they appear. Special thanks to those who highlight the latest offers. u/Fajandar1 caught the latest Lloyds bank addition.

Current bank switch offers (Max £1345 to be made, but likely less for most...)

Bank	Bonus	Offer Deadline	Comment
Barclays	31k Avios for £48 spend	None	£100 profit, Requires premier banking
Danske Bank	£200 to switch	None	Northern Ireland only
First Direct	£175 to switch	None
Nationwide	£200 to switch		Get £200 for a solo and £200 for a joint account
Lloyds	£175 to switch	30/07/24
Santander	£175 to switch	None	£15 extra available
TSB	£160 (£100 to switch, + £60 cashback over 6 months)	Complete switch by 05/07/2024	Up to £20 Extra cash via TCB & Quidco
Virgin Money	£100 to switch	31/05/2024	10% gross interest rates boost to 12% on £1k for 1 year (~£120 total) + extra £30 via Snoop

Total: £1345 if you are in NI and can switch both a solo and a joint account to Nationwide.

No switch, just sign up bank switch offers

Bank	Offer	Comment
Tide (click for details)	Spend £100, get £75 cashback	A beermoneyuk staple
Monzo (click to search)	Spend £1, get £5 or £50	£50 is for a business account
Starling (click to search)	Free National Trust Day Pass

Never switched a bank account before?

You should consider it. It is one of the easiest and most efficient ways of earning a little beermoney. It is advised to leave your main bank account alone. Instead, switch a secondary bank account, or open a new account at your current bank to be used just for switching. Recommended steps:

Open a second current account with your main high street bank (must be part of CASS service)
Set up direct debits on the second account (if required).
Add £1 to your second account. This will be transferred to your new account, allowing you to see when the switch has been completed.
Apply for a new account and arrange to switch to your second bank account (sometimes this is during the application process, other times it is after the account is opened).
Let the current account switch service take care of everything.
Make sure all other terms are met (e.g. pay in money if needed).
Receive your bank switching bonus.

You will hear about lots of people rushing through all of the switch bonuses available. These offers have been coming and going for years, my advice is to do an offer that tickles your fancy and try out a new bank. Then, if you decide you do not like your new bank you should sample another bank and get paid again!

Are there some bank accounts worth keeping?

Why yes. Some are quite good, and give ongoing rewards. For example, Club Lloyds gives free Disney Plus. See the "don't leave us please" bank rewards post. Some also give access to the best savings accounts (e.g. regular savers).

Detailed switch offer information

Whilst we do our best to make sure things are correct, sometimes errors do slip through. Always do your own research. Also, it may not be possible to work through all of these.

Barclays

Current offer: 31k Avios for full switch to Premier Banking, and paying £12/month for “Avios Rewards” for 4 months - works out around £100 profit when converted to Nectar points.

Direct link to offer (scroll down)

You must switch to Premier Bank account.

These are premium accounts, supposed to be for those with £70k+ salaries. However, cycling £4201 each month also appears to do the job

Offer end date: None listed
Requirements:

Open a Barclays Premier bank account & join Avios Rewards (£12/month fee), or

Complete a full switch from a different bank (you do this from within the app, after opening the account).

Reward payable by: 1.5k Avios each month for Avios Rewards, 25k Avios paid in month 4 for the switch.
Available to existing customers: No.
Additional notes: it can be worth doing the Barclaycard Avios Plus offer at the same time, as you will get a discount on the credit card fee.

Danske Bank (Northern Ireland only)

Current offer: £200 for full switch

You can switch to their Danske Reward, Danske Choice or Danske Freedom current account.

Offer end date: No end date given, may be removed at any time.
Requirements:

Full switch (no direct debits mentioned).

After opening account, pay in £1000 within 60 days (can be multiple deposits)

You cannot have had a Danske Bank reward since 01/01/2024

Available to existing customers: only if you are a new personal current account customer. .
How long does it take to pay the bonus: paid within 10 days of meeting requirements.

First Direct

Current offer: £175 when you switch

You can switch to their First account.

Offer end date: No end date given, may be removed at any time.
Requirements:

Full switch (two direct debits or standing orders are required).

After opening account, log in to mobile banking, pay in £1000, and make 5 debit card payments within 30 days.

You cannot have had a 1st Direct account before.

You cannot switch if you have an HSBC account opened after 01/2020

How to do it: Once your first direct account is open, simply log into your first direct app, select the account you wish to transfer into, tap ‘switch to us’ from your account menu and follow the instructions.
Available to existing customers: No. Also can't have had a HSBC account opened since January 2018.
How long does it take to pay the bonus: paid by the 20th of the month following that in which you met all of the criteria.

Nationwide (must have been a NW customer on 31/03/2024)

Current offer: £200 (for a solo AND a joint account - £400 total)

You can switch to either the FlexAccount (free), FlexPlus (free) or FlexDirect (premium) current account.

Offer end date: 30th July 2024 (start switch by)
Requirements: Full switch with:

2 Direct debits transferred as part of the switch

You cannot have had a Nationwide bonus since 18/08/2021.

Reward payable by: within 10 days of the switch completion.
Available to existing customers: Yes but must switch an account held elsewhere.

Lloyds Bank

Current offer: £175

You can switch to either the Club Lloyds, Club Silver, or Club Lloyds Platinum account.

These are premium accounts with a minimum £3/month fee. Can downgrade account after getting the bonus.

Offer end date: 30th July 2024 (start switch by)
Requirements: Full switch with:

3 Direct debits transferred as part of the switch

You cannot have had a bonus from Lloyds, Halifax, or Bank of Scotland since April 2020.

Reward payable by: within 10 days of switch completing.
Available to existing customers: ~~Yes (must switch an account held elsewhere into a new account if you have one already).

TSB

Current offer: £100 to switch, plus £60 double cashback offer (£10/month instead of £5/month for making 20 debit card transactions each month for 6 months), plus a choice of three additional rewards if you use the account in December 2024.
Extra £20: You can get an extra £20 by signing up to a TSB Spend and Save account via Topcashback. If you don't have a Topcashback account, you can sign up here:

Topcashback sign up + Additional £10 Bonus
You can switch to either of their Spend & Save or Spend & Save Plus accounts.

Offer end date: Full switch by 05/07/2024 (or closing date when announced)
Requirements for £150 switch bonus: Full switch by 05/07/2024

Complete the switch, use your debit card 5 times, and set up/use mobile banking.

Requirements for £60 double cashback offer (£10/month instead of £5):

Make 20 debit card transactions each month. Includes the month your account was opened.

Requirements for additional reward:

Complete the switch requirements (for the £100), and do the 20 debit card transactions in December 2024. If you do this, you will get an additional reward of 1) a night away for two, 2) 6 Odeon cinema tickets, or 3) a 6 month Now Entertainment subscription.

Rewards payable by: £100 switch bonus paid by 31 July 2024, cashback paid monthly, additional reward dished out in January 2025.

Available to existing customers: Yes (must switch non TSB account, can't have had a switch bonus from TSB since 1st October 2022).

Santander

Current offer: £175
Extra £15: You can get an extra £15 by signing up to a Santander Edge account via Topcashback. If you don't have a Topcashback account, you can sign up here:

Topcashback sign up + Additional £10 Bonus You can switch to any of these paid current accounts: Santander Edge current account, Edge Up, or the Private Current Account Offer end date: None given Requirements: Full switch. * Apply to switch when you apply to open the account (or existing customers can just switch into an existing qualifying current account). * Complete switch of a non-Santander account, set up 2 active direct debits, and pay in £1500 within 60 days of applying/telling Santander you want to switch. Must keep direct debits active on account * Cannot have had a Santander-group bonus previously (Santander, Cahoot, Cater Allen) Reward payable by: between 60 and 90 days after opening the account. Available to existing customers: Yes (can switch a non-Santander group current account into a new or existing Santander account). Existing customers may need to visit a branch.

Virgin Money

Current offer: Extra 10% interest on £1k for a year (~£100 bonus)

Extra £30: You can get an extra £30 by signing up to Virgin via Snoop (you need to connect your Virgin account to Snoop). If you don't have a Snoop account, you can sign up here for an additional fiver too:
Snoop £5 sign up bonus

You can switch to their M Account (free, ~10% interest total, gross), M Plus Account (free account, ~12% interest total) or Club M Account (costs £12.50/month for insurance and stuff, ~12% total, is one of the best value package accounts - especially if a joint account)

Offer end date: apply by 31/05/24
Requirements:

Full switch (two direct debits required as part of the switch).

Available to existing customers: No. And can't have closed an account since 30/04/2024
How long does it take to pay the bonus: interest is paid monthly, so a a year to get it all!

The most commonly asked bank switch questions:

I started to switch to XXX bank before the offer ended, am I still eligible for the bonus?

Yes, usually, most terms will state that a switch just has to be started (or applied for) before the end date or before an offer ends.

Do I have to transfer the required amount in all in one go, and does it matter if I pay money in before my switch is complete?

No and not usually, as long as the amount you pay in adds up to the required amount, and as long as you pay it in before the deadline stated in the terms. There has been one exception to this - Co-op - so check individual terms.

I need to switch "active" direct debits, does a payment need to have been taken before I switch?

According to Nationwide, an active direct debit is one that has been set up or had a payment taken from it in the past 13 months. So no, according to this. But why not just wait for the direct debit to be taken? You'll not have to worry about it then.

https://twitter.com/AskNationwide/status/1442939781491486720

How do I set up and switch an additional Chase current account?
- See Chase instruction here to open an additional account.
- The second account will be linked to the same card as your main Chase account.
- Use the secondary account details and your original card details when switching.
What are the easiest/best direct debits to use for bank switching?

There are many: Paypal, Ebay, Moneybox savings account, Plum savings account, your credit card, Sprive Mortgage auto savings, Wealthify Robo Saving. We recommend ones that save money into an account in your own name. Here’s useful ones that have additional bonuses available via beermoneyuk

Site/App	Offer	Comment
Park Christmas (Search)	Save for Christmas via direct debit
Plum (Search)	A very useful direct debit	Easy and fast to set up
Sprive (Search)	Autosavings for mortgage overpayment direct debit (£5 bonus)	Easy and fast to set up
Wealthify (Search)	A very useful direct debit (£1/month min)	Easy and fast to set up

General Bank Switch Questions

Current Account Switch Bribes - Why do they offer them?

They want your business. Banks like fighting each other for customers. Most of them know they can't win by highlighting their outdated systems and products, so they fight each other by offering potential customers cash bribes (or equivalent) to switch their "main" bank account.

Can I switch any bank account to get a bribe?

No. You must switch a bank account that is part of The Current Account Switch Service (CASS). Most high street banks are included. But some Neo Banks are not (e.g., Kroo, Revolut, & Monese are not included). You should try to avoid switching your main bank account. You can always open an additional account just to switch.
See here for a full list of CASS banks.

Is it too much hassle?

No. The Current Account Switch Service (CASS) makes switching your account between most banks smooth and effortless. You do not have to do anything apart from apply for and set up a new account at a different bank and tell them you want to switch your account to them. Everything is transferred automatically (except recurring card payments).

Is there the best route to sample all the banks with switch offers?

Do the offer ending soonest first. Then you might switch again. If you complete all offers in this post, you could earn yourself >£1000.

Some of these end soon. Will the offers come back?

Banks have been offering bribes on and off for many years. We can't predict the future. But this is not a new thing.

How long does a bank switch take?

Approximately one week.

Do I have to switch my main account?

You could. But you don't have to. Many people have second bank accounts. One option may be to open up a second account with your current high street bank, add some direct debits to this second account and then switch it to the new bank you want to try out. On the sub, people also like Starling or Monzo as they are easy to set up (but you might want to switch back to them at the end - their functionality wins vs any usual high street bank).
High-street banks also let you open multiple accounts. If you already have an account with one, you might want to open an additional one with your current bank first (Halifax, NatWest etc are reported to allow several current accounts and to be fast to open).

I have savings accounts at the same bank as my current account. Can I still switch to this current account?

Yes. Only the current account will be closed (some linked regular savers may be converted to normal savings accounts). You might want to consider if switching to a secondary account is a better option.

I have linked savers attached to my current account. Can I still switch it?

Possibly.

Which banks let me open a second bank account?

Most of them.

Do I need to activate the card on the account I am going to switch?

Just do it anyway. Some banks require it

What details do I need to switch?

Sort code and account number.

Debit card information.

Usually, but not always, 2 active DDs on the account you are switching.

Do you need to have money in the account you are switching?

No. But it might be a good idea - this will allow you to see when the switch happens (i.e. when the money is transferred!).

I do not have a bank card with my old current account as it is very very old, can I still switch it?

Most online forms require card details, but you can usually switch such accounts over the phone.

My new bank has not given me my account number (e.g. NatWest).

Usually, these are sent via post/email when you sign up. But some banks don't have the account numbers on the card, or maybe letters get lost in the post. If this happens, wait for the card to arrive and contact their support. If you get a bot on the chat thing, type "speak to a human" repeatedly.

My new bank account is a premium account and it has a fee. Do I need to keep paying for this?

No. You can downgrade the account. But you should probably wait until you have been paid the bonus.

I don't like my new bank, do I need to wait for the bank card before switching again?

Yes. See question above. Most banks require the card details of your existing account.

I made an account just to switch. Can I switch before my new bank card arrives?

Best not to. You are asked to enter the debit card information as part of the process.

The offer says I have to pay in £xxxx. Does it have to be in one go?

No. You can transfer in and out. The total sent in has to be equal to or greater than the stated amount. You should be careful with this though, sending money in and out of an account can trigger anti-fraud measures.

The offer says I have to pay in £xxxx. Can I pay it in before the switch completes?

Yes. You can pay it before, after, or during. You can manually transfer it, or it can be transferred automatically from your old account.

I've been asked to verify my identity. Is this normal?

Sometimes automated checks fail. If this happens, you may be asked to manually verify your application by visiting a branch or sending in a copy of your ID.

I switched from Monzo/Starling and want to return, can I?

Starling does not let you return within 12 months. With Monzo, it's possibly a shorter one month that you have to wait.

Do I have to switch direct debits?

Check individual offer terms.

What is an "Active" direct debit?

An active direct debit is usually one where a payment had been taken in the last 13 months. But some bank switch terms require direct debits to have been paid out of the account. If an offer requires an active direct debit, it's safer to switch to an account that has already paid out direct debits.**

What are good direct debits to set up on a second account?

There are many: Paypal, Ebay, Moneybox savings account, Plum savings account, your credit card, Sprive Mortgage auto savings, Wealthify Robo Saving.

I recently switched to XXX Bank, and I do not like it. Can I switch again?

Yes. If you are not happy with the new service, you may want to switch to a new bank that will pay you to give them a try.

Do I have to stick with my new bank for any length of time?

No.

If I switch away, will the bank claw back the bonus?

Very unlikely. They would have to specify this in their terms, and none have ever done so.

My switch is complete, but I have not yet received my bonus. Will I still get the bonus if I switch this account before it is paid?

Probably not.

My most recent switch is not quite complete, but I have already received the bonus. Can I start another switch?

You should probably wait for the switch to complete.

Can I get more than one bribe from each bank?

Sometimes. With some banks (e.g. Nationwide), you can get a bonus for switching one sole and one joint current account. Other banks will pay you to switch again, as long as you have not had a bonus in a specified amount of time. You will need to check individual offer terms.

XXX Bank gave me a bonus before, can I get a bonus again?

You need to check the individual offer terms.

Will this affect my credit score?

Credit scores are a funny thing, What is more important is what is actually in your credit file. Obviously, if you apply for an overdraft then it will affect your "credit score". However, if you do not have an overdraft or you make sure that you have paid off any overdraft before switching banks, then a single current account switch should not negatively impact your credit score. Nevertheless, typically all major banks (excepting Monzo and Starling) do a hard credit search, and this will be recorded on your file. If you plan on applying for a new mortgage soon then you may wish to exercise caution in switching between a load of banks. This is because the hard searches performed by banks will appear on your report and may have an effect for 6-12 months.

Which banks do hard searches and which do soft searches??

See here. Most banks do hard searches.

Hard searches: Bank of Scotland (first account only), Barclays, Co-op, Clydesdale, Halifax (1st account only), First Direct, HSBC, Lloyds (1st account only), Monzo, Nationwide, NatWest, RBS, Santander, TSB, Ulster, Virgin Money.

Soft searches: Starling, Metro Bank, and Chase

I have a bad credit score, will I be accepted to XXX bank?

Unfortunately, we do not know the acceptance criteria of the banks. You might be unlucky with one bank, but lucky with another.

My application was rejected. Why?

Nobody here knows. You could try appealing, but your only way to find out more is to contact the bank.

After switching my account, I still have online banking with my old provider. Do I need this?

No. You do not need to keep the online access (you could shut it down). But you may wish to retain these details in case your old bank suddenly appears with an offer that makes you want to switch back. Or open up a savings account.

Has anyone else been paid for switching to XXX Bank yet?

Check the terms of the offer you signed up for. Some banks have long deadlines and stick to them (e.g. Santander, TSB). Some are quicker. If you haven't been paid within the stated terms, then you should contact the bank's support.

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My steam games for trade (Can make gift links if possible):

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Region is NA.

If you have my wishlist games, Chat with me anytime. Only accept games from your own collection.

My REPs: 200+ successful trades, stopped tracking after 202.

Wishlist is in the end of this post

My steam games for trade (Can make gift links if possible):

Added recently:

Steam games:

My Wishlist: (prefer gift links for bolded games)

other humble choice title games

Here is a guide how to make gift links from support.Humblebundle.com: https://support.humblebundle.com/hc/en-us/articles/202712460-Purchasing-and-Sending-Gifts

I do not believe humble teaches you how to make gift links, so it can ban you, lol

Region is NA.

If you have my wishlist games, Chat with me anytime. Only accept games from your own collection.

My REPs: 200+ successful trades, stopped tracking after 202.

Wishlist is in the end of this post

My steam games for trade (Can make gift links if possible):

Added recently:

Steam games:

My Wishlist: (prefer gift links for bolded games)

other humble choice title games

Here is a guide how to make gift links from support.Humblebundle.com: https://support.humblebundle.com/hc/en-us/articles/202712460-Purchasing-and-Sending-Gifts

I do not believe humble teaches you how to make gift links, so it can ban you, lol

As always with the Bankedex, we need your help.

Current bank switch offers (Max £1345 to be made, but likely less for most...)

No switch, just sign up bank switch offers

Never switched a bank account before?

Are there some bank accounts worth keeping?

Detailed switch offer information

Barclays

Danske Bank (Northern Ireland only)

First Direct

Nationwide (must have been a NW customer on 31/03/2024)

Lloyds Bank

TSB

Santander

Virgin Money

The most commonly asked bank switch questions:

General Bank Switch Questions

Current Account Switch Bribes - Why do they offer them?

Can I switch any bank account to get a bribe?

Is it too much hassle?

Is there the best route to sample all the banks with switch offers?

Some of these end soon. Will the offers come back?

How long does a bank switch take?

Do I have to switch my main account?

I have savings accounts at the same bank as my current account. Can I still switch to this current account?

I have linked savers attached to my current account. Can I still switch it?

Which banks let me open a second bank account?

Do I need to activate the card on the account I am going to switch?

What details do I need to switch?

Do you need to have money in the account you are switching?

I do not have a bank card with my old current account as it is very very old, can I still switch it?

My new bank has not given me my account number (e.g. NatWest).

My new bank account is a premium account and it has a fee. Do I need to keep paying for this?

I don't like my new bank, do I need to wait for the bank card before switching again?

I made an account just to switch. Can I switch before my new bank card arrives?

The offer says I have to pay in £xxxx. Does it have to be in one go?

The offer says I have to pay in £xxxx. Can I pay it in before the switch completes?

I've been asked to verify my identity. Is this normal?

I switched from Monzo/Starling and want to return, can I?

Do I have to switch direct debits?

What is an "Active" direct debit?

What are good direct debits to set up on a second account?

I recently switched to XXX Bank, and I do not like it. Can I switch again?

Do I have to stick with my new bank for any length of time?

If I switch away, will the bank claw back the bonus?

My switch is complete, but I have not yet received my bonus. Will I still get the bonus if I switch this account before it is paid?