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2024.05.14 20:30 BigGayNarwhal Advice? 6 yr old level 3 refusing clothes or to leave home…
Hello everyone. I hope it is alright that I post here as a parent. I often read and lurk here in an effort to try and learn more about my daughter and how she may be feeling, however I try not to post or comment to respect your space.
My daughter (6) is level 3. She is minimally verbal (kind of like the level of a young toddler, though making great progress every day), uses an AAC (mostly for requests), not potty trained at the moment. She’s a big sensory seeker (proprioceptive and vestibular), and can have some pretty explosive meltdowns when she’s not well regulated and/or upset and frustrated. She’s very silly and active and smart, loves to be outside and play with us and her grandparents and her dog and family friends. She’s the sweetest kid ever.
About 3-4 weeks ago, she refused a new diaper after being changed. This happens sometimes when she’s agitated so we didn’t force the issue and said no worries, just let us know when you’re ready. She continued to refuse her diaper for the remainder of the day, and has not worn once since. Problem being—she was/is not potty trained or really developmentally ready for it (I think her interception is not quite ready).
We offered her undies, have been having her sit on the potty a ton (which she has grown comfortable with since we bought her a special seat and let her watch the iPad while she’s on it). I also put some of her favorite sensory items in the bathroom too. She will go sometimes, but only pee and only like once a day.
Anyway—since that day, she refused diapers or underwear, any and all clothing (normally we don’t make her wear clothes at home, only outside of the house), or to even leave the house in the car. So we we’ve pretty much all been trapped inside, and unable to go anywhere, since she’s fully naked and mostly peeing/pooping around the house while we clean up after her and try to encourage her to use the potty as much as she reasonably can without making her anxious.
So she’s missed like 3 weeks of kindergarten (which she always seemed to love and enjoy and was doing really well), and speech therapy (which she also loved because they had a big play gym). Luckily her OT already came to the house so she still comes to play.
We’ve been working nonstop to try and make sure her sensory needs are being met. We made sure she wasn’t sick and didn’t have an infection. We tried other fits and brands of diapers, undies with her favorite colors and characters and different fabrics, and every form of bribery on the planet. She loves milkshakes, cake pops, the beach, target, visiting her grandparents, the trampoline park, aquarium, zoo, etc. And despite offering all of these things if she will leave the house in clothes, she will not budge.
The only thing that has helped so far is that I bought zip up dresses that are normally swim covers, and she is okay wearing those to play in the yard or go on walks (but still no diaper or undies). I think the clothes over her head and ankles were agitating her. I bought like 8 of these covers and keep one in the car, on hooks by the doors, etc so we are ready whenever she wants to go out.
We started seeing a pediatric psychiatrist on (he sees us on zoom since we can’t leave the house) who has been really helpful. I told him this seems like anxiety and autistic burnout (idk if that’s the right term?), and he agreed. We had been talking about medication anyway for aggression (she’s hurt me pretty bad a few times on accident when angry). He prescribed something to help with anxiety and meltdowns, and it seems to be helping. It’s only been a week, but she’s sleeping better at night and happy during the day. No meltdowns or tantrums, and doesn’t appear to have any bad side effects. But she still won’t get dressed to go in the car anywhere.
I feel so bad because she can’t explain why and despite trying every way I can think of, I can’t figure out what it is. We are trying to keep demands low at home and not force her. Everyone, including teachers and therapists, have all been really supportive and agree nobody should force her, and they all FaceTime her during the week to say hi and tell her they miss her.
Has anyone here experienced this? Or can you offer insight? I really want to help her. And I know it’s not about us (the parents), but I’m just so exhausted and stressed out and sad.
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My daughter (6) is level 3. She is minimally verbal (kind of like the level of a young toddler, though making great progress every day), uses an AAC (mostly for requests), not potty trained at the moment. She’s a big sensory seeker (proprioceptive and vestibular), and can have some pretty explosive meltdowns when she’s not well regulated and/or upset and frustrated. She’s very silly and active and smart, loves to be outside and play with us and her grandparents and her dog and family friends. She’s the sweetest kid ever.
About 3-4 weeks ago, she refused a new diaper after being changed. This happens sometimes when she’s agitated so we didn’t force the issue and said no worries, just let us know when you’re ready. She continued to refuse her diaper for the remainder of the day, and has not worn once since. Problem being—she was/is not potty trained or really developmentally ready for it (I think her interception is not quite ready).
We offered her undies, have been having her sit on the potty a ton (which she has grown comfortable with since we bought her a special seat and let her watch the iPad while she’s on it). I also put some of her favorite sensory items in the bathroom too. She will go sometimes, but only pee and only like once a day.
Anyway—since that day, she refused diapers or underwear, any and all clothing (normally we don’t make her wear clothes at home, only outside of the house), or to even leave the house in the car. So we we’ve pretty much all been trapped inside, and unable to go anywhere, since she’s fully naked and mostly peeing/pooping around the house while we clean up after her and try to encourage her to use the potty as much as she reasonably can without making her anxious.
So she’s missed like 3 weeks of kindergarten (which she always seemed to love and enjoy and was doing really well), and speech therapy (which she also loved because they had a big play gym). Luckily her OT already came to the house so she still comes to play.
We’ve been working nonstop to try and make sure her sensory needs are being met. We made sure she wasn’t sick and didn’t have an infection. We tried other fits and brands of diapers, undies with her favorite colors and characters and different fabrics, and every form of bribery on the planet. She loves milkshakes, cake pops, the beach, target, visiting her grandparents, the trampoline park, aquarium, zoo, etc. And despite offering all of these things if she will leave the house in clothes, she will not budge.
The only thing that has helped so far is that I bought zip up dresses that are normally swim covers, and she is okay wearing those to play in the yard or go on walks (but still no diaper or undies). I think the clothes over her head and ankles were agitating her. I bought like 8 of these covers and keep one in the car, on hooks by the doors, etc so we are ready whenever she wants to go out.
We started seeing a pediatric psychiatrist on (he sees us on zoom since we can’t leave the house) who has been really helpful. I told him this seems like anxiety and autistic burnout (idk if that’s the right term?), and he agreed. We had been talking about medication anyway for aggression (she’s hurt me pretty bad a few times on accident when angry). He prescribed something to help with anxiety and meltdowns, and it seems to be helping. It’s only been a week, but she’s sleeping better at night and happy during the day. No meltdowns or tantrums, and doesn’t appear to have any bad side effects. But she still won’t get dressed to go in the car anywhere.
I feel so bad because she can’t explain why and despite trying every way I can think of, I can’t figure out what it is. We are trying to keep demands low at home and not force her. Everyone, including teachers and therapists, have all been really supportive and agree nobody should force her, and they all FaceTime her during the week to say hi and tell her they miss her.
Has anyone here experienced this? Or can you offer insight? I really want to help her. And I know it’s not about us (the parents), but I’m just so exhausted and stressed out and sad.
2024.05.14 20:16 BrookieCookieCon19 Reposted to add pictures from the dumpster fire wedding
 | My wedding was a dumpster fire... literally... I know it's a long read, but trust me it's worth it. submitted by BrookieCookieCon19 to CharlotteDobreYouTube [link] [comments] I saw your wedding horror story videos and have one of my own I think a lot of people would get a kick out of. Yes, this entire story is 100% true with no real hyperbole, tall tales, etc. This all actually happened and I have witnesses that will attest to this if asked. I'd been with my husband for about 2 years, engaged for 1, when we found out I was pregnant. Obvi, we decided to rush the wedding after we had a talk about the surprise and what we wanted to do. Flash forward a little and my original Maid of Honor and I had a falling out because the last time we had been together and gone to the church the wedding was being hosted, she had gotten disrespectful with the elders and asked questions she thought were funny, but were really just rude. The swearing really didn't help matters either. I asked her if she would be able to try to be more respectful of my beliefs and be gentle with the others that would be there. This lead to a fight and the beginning of the end of a 7 year relationship (when we tried to rekindle our relationship later, she said she hoped my son would get unalived by a cop because he is white and no one cared about it. Thank God I cut ties when I did). This was also the beginning of a new friendship between myself and the best man's fiancé (we are still bffs today) when I asked her to take over. Crisis 1 averted. For the sake of setting some scenes, I worked at a hotel in a podunk town, right off the highway and met with a make up artist that came in for a makeup party gig with housekeeping. We talked and she agreed to work with me and MOH for the wedding. Here comes the beginning of everything going down hill, on fire, in a rickety buggy. The night before, after the rehearsal dinner, at 11pm the makeup artist gets ahold of me saying she has to cancel because her husband got into a water bottle accident (water bottle is oilfield speak for the giant water trucks they have on site) and was in the hospital. We understood and told her to do what she has to, we can handle things ourselves. Meanwhile, my husband's uncle was cooking the pig for the reception dinner as it doubled as his wedding gift to us (which we are extremely thankful for btw). It caught on fire. In the parking lot. Of the hotel I was working at, and everyone was staying. Luckily he was able to save it, but I got to hear about it when I got back to work. They printed the security camera image and everything. It was great. Now it's the morning of the wedding. I realize that I am missing makeup that I need and, living in a map dot myself, needed to drive half an hour away in order to get what we were missing. Thank God for my dad needing to go out that way anyway. He got us breakfast, took us to the store, and we grabbed what we needed and started to take off. The shirt I was wearing, without my knowledge, had popped the button right over my boobs showing God and everybody my goodies and I hadn't realized it until we were on our way to grab the cupcakes and "smash" cake (it was a cheap alternative to a traditional wedding cake and actually save us a TON of money for the "event"[ note for brides on a budget, say event and not wedding to save some extra $]). We get home and nerves take over, coupled with my already awful morning sickness, leading me to be stuck in the bathroom for a while. I finish up, brush my teeth again for the third time and decide to start getting things around and just get ready at the church. I made a Playlist in order, and wrote down the order for my brother to be able to just press play and not worry about ads or anything. I literally went as far as saying song a-c for while you wait, d for the procession, and e for my enterance with the sing titles. This will become a problem apparently. As MOH and I are getting ready, I start to freak out because the makeup I got is streaky and I can barely get anything to blend how I want it to, so my mom had my dad grab her makeup and bring it down and takes over for us. Her friend, who offered to do pictures for us along with my SIL (and I paid them both for) told my mom to give me fake lashes because it'd make the pictures prettier. I told them I wasn't comfortable with it because it was new and I didn't know if I could handle the glue smell and the glue she uses hurts my eyes as is. Mom basically said to hush and let her do it. One thing lead to another, and my mother glued my eyes shut. 10 minutes before my wedding was due to start. Even though I had asked for no fake lashes. Hormones kicked in and I started to cry. After about 5 minutes, we are able to get my eyes opened, but still had bits of glue in my lashes that ended up scratching my eyes throughout the wedding. In one of the pictures, you can kind of see the gap in my lashes where the glue sticks them together and where lashes were literally removed in the process of getting the glue out. My dad came down asking what was taking so long, and my mom snapped at him and told him to go upstairs and wait a second, which made me start to cry again. I calm myself down rather quickly and get dressed (the dress ended up being too big because the morning sickness had made me lose weight without me realizing it) and we all head upstairs only about 5 minutes or so late. At the doors, I can hear the music playing. It's the wrong songs. My dad, in his usual joking fashion, said "It's not too late to run". I told him I just wanted to get this dumpster fire over with. Speed up a bit and during the ceremony, the pastor skipped over the marriage cross ceremony (where the newly weds put a cross together as a symbol of our faith in our marriage), and called my husband Durk. Miraculously, we make it through with those being the only things amiss, besides my husband being tired and looking grumpy the entire time (I guess he and Best Man stayed up half the night BSing with his uncle and having a couple drinks). Now the ceremony is over and we have people heading to the hotel to set up for the reception. Pictures were a cluster, there was yelling, I started to cry again because I just wanted things to be done quickly, and my mom wanted her photographer she had come in take pictures that she promised to pay for. We still haven't gotten any of them from said photographer. After my parents were done with their part, they took off for the hotel and someone accidentally set some of the mac and cheese on fire, setting off the smoke alarms for the hotel. Can't say I cared too much because it wasn't the recipe I'd given my mom to make that she asked me to send her because I'm a picky eater as it is with my "touch of the tism" coupled with pregnancy making things worse. Eventually we get there, and things had gotten flip-flopped as to what was going on and when because Mom wanted it to go her way, MIL was trying to stick to the schedule I had made... It was great. Thank God for hubby's "Aunti B" that was able to take charge and be my voice and fix things where as my mom looked at MIL and Aunti B and said "I don't care, she's you're problem now". Honestly wasn't surprising from my mom. So we wait for every one to file in to the room we were supposed to start in, and I have to teach my brother how to press play on my phone for music. 🤦🏽♀️ Awesome. We get the Mother Son dance and the Father Daughter dance, and by then my husband was done with everything so we just had the food blessed and proceeded to the dining area. No newlywed dance for us. Still pretty upset about that. At this point I'm too upset to eat, but manage to nibble here and there. As things start to come down, Mom's friend (yes eyelash woman) comes up to me upset because I didn't warn her that the hotel had a pool so she didn't bring suits for her girls to swim in while everyone else was prepared. I informed her (and showed her) that on the event page for the wedding I wrote where everything was taking place and that the hotel had a pool they were free to enjoy. The same information everyone else had used before coming. Embarrassed, she left and just had her daughters swim in their underwear and diaper. At that point, everyone had eaten, we did the cake cutting with a little flare to try to lighten our spirits (picture included in regards to the end result. It started as a competition as to who's mason jar would collect the most money, the loser got the cake to the face. Hubby lost and it turned into a little game between us), and a lot of the ceremonial stuff was over so I started cleaning up (condition of being able to use the hotel for free for the event as an employee) and everyone started pitching in. The ceremony was at 3pm, reception around 4pm. We had everything cleaned up by 6:30pm, 7pm at the latest. Everyone that was staying in the hotel hung out for a bit, and my MIL and SIL (bless them) attempted to get the rest of the eyelash glue out of my eyes and managed to get a bit out with only one piece left before I had to stop. I got chewed out about how things went and how bad my parents looked with everything by my mom (OFC) and I decided to say screw it, packed up, and left for home with hubby, MOH and BM. If you thought that was the end of it, you're mistaken. The next day, after my amazing MOH got the last of the glue out of my eye, we saw everyone off, and we were to take off for our honeymoon (a Civil War town because there was quite a bit of fun there when I went, and Hubby hadn't been, and it was cheap). I convinced my dad to let us take the SUV because I had a bad feeling about my car. Thank God I did because despite the "new" engine, the car died on the highway not even 10 miles from home when I took it to work later on. Anyway, we make it to the hotel that had amazing reviews online to discover stains everywhere on the bed and stuff (ew), the pool was atrocious, and the water in the shower smelled like chemicals and started to burn my husband's face. So we checked out saying we had an emergency back home and had to leave. I called a nearby hotel in my brand I worked for and managed to get a room that is usually about $170 a night or so, for $60 a night. Thank God for them. The rest of the honeymoon went on well with almost no morning sickness, and no other issues. The only bout of morning sickness (which reiterates my desire to know why it's called that when it can happen anytime of day) happened when my husband was being sweet and shared some of his food with me he knew I generally liked. The baby decided "I don't like that", sending me to hug a trash can a little while after lunch. In the middle of the section of (Civil War Town). By the (civil war history specific) house. In the middle of afternoon traffic. The family ahead of us glared and started saying something about drunk people in the day 🙄 and my husband started laughing at the irony of it all. He took off to find me napkins to clean up and a good Samaritan stopped to ask if I was ok. I told him "I'm fine, just pregnant" and they chuckled then left. I managed to get cleaned up when hubby came back with the napkins and we continued on our way. For those wondering, we now have 2 healthy boys, 2 dogs, 2 cats, and have been happily married for 5 years in August. We still laugh about my eyes getting glued shut on our anniversary with our friends and how my wedding was a prime example of Murphy's Law. If it can go wrong, it will go wrong. |
2024.05.14 19:41 Puzzleheaded_Fox7412 AITA FOR GETTING RID OF MY TOXIC FRIEND OVER CAKE?
Hi charlotte! Luv your videos. So me (F-17) And friend (F-17) we can call friend; Tiffany (not her real name) Me and Tiffany have had lots of issues. We first met at one of my best friends birthday parties. i always got the sense that Tiffany didn’t like me being friends with “her bestfriend” but i just ignored it and moved on, Me and Tiffany bonded, and Tiffany invited me to her party. We were all having fun playing games, and then cake time came around. I was sitting there eating peacefully, and she then brought up something weird about this guy that we ALL hated. I said “thats disgusting” as a comment on what she had said. But Tiffany and her mom took that offensively and thought i said that about her cake, which was obviously not true, so they were framing me (i guess to get rid of me so Tiffany can have her “best friend” all to herself) I just thought it was weird how Tiffany was framing me, and making rude comments about me. So i texted her to make sure she understood that i was not talking about her cake, i texted in quote “Hey, im sorry about saying something that came off as rude, but i promise you i was talking about that guy, not your cake” I even asked a couple of the other people who were at the party if what i said was okay, and they all said that they thought i was talking about the guy, not the cake. So the next day i went to school, thinking the misunderstanding was resolved. Wrong. Me and Tiffany have a class together, so I walked into class and she almost immediately said “My mom said i’m not allowed to be friends with you anymore” i was shocked and confused, as we are both almost adults, So why would her mom have to make decisions for her. She knew that the comment wasn’t about her cake, but I decided I would ignore it and if she doesn’t want to stick up for me towards her mom, than so be it. We made up quite a bit over time so me, Tiffany, and a couple other friends, all went to the mall for a girls day. (Keep in mind i am short and small) We stumbled upon a store that had baby clothes, and she said “Oh look! You could fit in those!” Very snobby/petty-ish while pointing to a couple baby clothes. I don’t like people commenting on my height, and she knew that. I tried to ignore it, but eventually confronted her as this went on at least three times in the whole day. She just rolled her eyes and said “whatever” when i had confronted her, and if she doesn’t care about my bounderies, then buh-bye. So even though we are not friends, we are on good terms right now but she does make rude comments, and laugh about them, etc. (Btw the only thing i ask for is for people not to comment on my height bc i get made fun of for it)
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2024.05.14 19:13 alexandrabarnell Am I wrong for working in a South American cafe (in England) as an English person?
I work in a South American cafe, I'm not South American (23F). When we were closing today a woman came in and asked me for a Brazilian cheese bread to which I told her we had boxed them up but I would get one out for her. She then proceeded to ignore me and look at the little market of South American food we have behind us. She picked up a few things and asked if we had the flour for the "Brazilian cheese cake", I told her we didn't, but we had the mixture for the cheese bread, looking back in it now she probably meant to say the cheese bread because after I pointed it out to her to which she ignored me again she then picked it up and said "here it is, you clearly don't speak Portuguese", I ignored this comment, it was fine to make, sometimes I feel like an intruder because I can barely speak Spanish and can't speak Portuguese, but most days we deal with ‘northern’ people so I do help out there. She then asked if the owner was in, she is Brazilian, I said she'd just gone home and she'd be in later this week, she then asked if she cooked the food in our kitchen, I said no her husband (white, English, male) and my partner (white, Eastern European) make all the food. This did not impress her, she said she doesn't understand why they aren't Brazilian if they are making Brazilian food, I understand that to a certain extent but at the same time, surely you should be proud that other cultures want to cook your food? It is also very difficult to find a full set of Brazilian cooks that work the hours we need and to be honest, they’re good at their jobs so I don’t see the issue, I said "well you know, it's a South American cafe..." she said "no, no I don't understand" then she said "you seem very eager to go Home" (we had already been closed a couple minutes at this point) I just awkwardly replied to that because I was so I was so uncomfortable at this point. Then she proceeded to ask my name and leave. I feel like was really polite and didn't do anything wrong. I understand if she feels! we're appropriating her culture but I just took the job because I needed it and my boss is from Brazil and I have Brazilian/ Portuguese colleagues and all of the other Brazilian/ Portuguese/South American customers we have are so lovely and proud to share their culture. Am I wrong or is she just rude?
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2024.05.14 18:53 Chemical_Course_7744 AITA for refusing to provide my MIL with more updates?
F26, fiance is M26. Together for over 3 years and live together.
In March, he went through a completely unexpected and severely traumatic event.
He floundered a lot in the beginning trying to cope with what happened.
In the first few days/first week following, he was struggling to manage all the texts/calls/etc from family & friends- not because they were doing anything wrong, it was just a lot during a traumatic time. He asked if I'd mind being his POC for the time- he didn't want his loved ones to be wondering/worried but could not handle the extent of it. I was happy to do so.
As he came out of the initial trauma, he obvs began reaching out to people himself and spending more time with them. His siblings live in our city but his parents live farther away so they haven't seen him.
His mom however still calls me daily for updates and has been asking me about things that are really unnecessary and/or none of her business. I know she's extremely worried about him but they talk on a regular basis now.
For example, she asks me what chores he's "been able to do" and gets upset when I say at this point he's pretty much doing the same chores as before, and says I should be doing them for him since he's recovering, etc. She's asked me weird questions pertaining to our sex life and how the trauma has impacted it, that she hopes I'm not expecting too much of him, etc. Multiple calls/texts per day and always an implication that I'm doing something wrong or pushing him to do too much too fast after a severe trauma.
Over the weekend he made me a beautiful birthday cake and I texted MIL a picture and raved about it and got an upset phone call the next day about how I shouldn't be making him do things like that for me and how unfair I'm being toward him.
I spoke to her Sunday night and told her that for the time being I am no longer going to be taking calls, and am happy to answer texts that do not pertain to "updates" about my fiance, but I won't currently be discussing our daily lives or his trauma with her. She will have to contact him directly.
MIL is extremely upset with me and has been texting paragraph upon paragraph. She's accusing me of isolating him from his family and of negatively impacting his trauma recovery. She has also heavily implied that I could have done something to prevent what happened to him. She keeps posting and sharing very passive aggressive Facebook posts about me and is telling me that she may withdraw her part of funding our wedding if I don't reconsider (her and FIL had previously offered to fund the entire rehearsal dinner and a large airbnb for the wedding party).
We're not worried about that, but I'm frustrated with the way she is acting and her constantly contacting me and posting about how I'm the asshole. Her and I have always gotten along great with no issues and I understand that she's devastated and stressed about what happened to her son. Not sure how I could/should be handling this differently. AITA?
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In March, he went through a completely unexpected and severely traumatic event.
He floundered a lot in the beginning trying to cope with what happened.
In the first few days/first week following, he was struggling to manage all the texts/calls/etc from family & friends- not because they were doing anything wrong, it was just a lot during a traumatic time. He asked if I'd mind being his POC for the time- he didn't want his loved ones to be wondering/worried but could not handle the extent of it. I was happy to do so.
As he came out of the initial trauma, he obvs began reaching out to people himself and spending more time with them. His siblings live in our city but his parents live farther away so they haven't seen him.
His mom however still calls me daily for updates and has been asking me about things that are really unnecessary and/or none of her business. I know she's extremely worried about him but they talk on a regular basis now.
For example, she asks me what chores he's "been able to do" and gets upset when I say at this point he's pretty much doing the same chores as before, and says I should be doing them for him since he's recovering, etc. She's asked me weird questions pertaining to our sex life and how the trauma has impacted it, that she hopes I'm not expecting too much of him, etc. Multiple calls/texts per day and always an implication that I'm doing something wrong or pushing him to do too much too fast after a severe trauma.
Over the weekend he made me a beautiful birthday cake and I texted MIL a picture and raved about it and got an upset phone call the next day about how I shouldn't be making him do things like that for me and how unfair I'm being toward him.
I spoke to her Sunday night and told her that for the time being I am no longer going to be taking calls, and am happy to answer texts that do not pertain to "updates" about my fiance, but I won't currently be discussing our daily lives or his trauma with her. She will have to contact him directly.
MIL is extremely upset with me and has been texting paragraph upon paragraph. She's accusing me of isolating him from his family and of negatively impacting his trauma recovery. She has also heavily implied that I could have done something to prevent what happened to him. She keeps posting and sharing very passive aggressive Facebook posts about me and is telling me that she may withdraw her part of funding our wedding if I don't reconsider (her and FIL had previously offered to fund the entire rehearsal dinner and a large airbnb for the wedding party).
We're not worried about that, but I'm frustrated with the way she is acting and her constantly contacting me and posting about how I'm the asshole. Her and I have always gotten along great with no issues and I understand that she's devastated and stressed about what happened to her son. Not sure how I could/should be handling this differently. AITA?
2024.05.14 18:49 not_a_microwave2 Family Making Negative Comments
I’ve been debating whether or not to post this as i’m not sure if i’m just being dramatic or if i’m right to feel this way. i’m 25f.
lately my dad and his wife “Shelly” have been making really inappropriate and insulting comments on my weight/body. it started a couple weeks ago when Shelly decided to make a public comment telling me to “stop losing weight” and that i’m “too skinny”. i’m not stupid. i know im not fat but im definitely not skinny either. my doctor wants me to lose another 15 pounds. but of course they won’t listen to that. which brings me to the second time a little over a week ago…
my uncle, dads brother, has cancer. i haven’t seen him in about two years unfortunately so i rely on dad and Shelly to update me. they came home after a visit recently and told me that he’s “basically all bone” and that’s him at an “ideal weight”. except after pushing for more detail they admitted that he’s actually about 10+ lbs UNDERweight. i don’t think they realize how drastic 10 lbs can be. but to them, this was just another reason to not bother listening to medical advice. yes. they actually compared me to my uncle who literally has cancer.
last night was what really took the cake. we’re sitting down eating dinner when my dad started asking me, “how much do you even weigh?” and before i could answer, “probably like 90”. then Shelly piped up and said “definitely not even 100”. both comments are untrue but to them it doesn’t matter what i say. they’re both overweight and have made it obvious they’re insecure about it. i just wish they’d shut up. but if i say anything then they act offended and as if im stupid. moving out isn’t an option right now and its a bit complicated to explain. i guess i just needed to vent
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lately my dad and his wife “Shelly” have been making really inappropriate and insulting comments on my weight/body. it started a couple weeks ago when Shelly decided to make a public comment telling me to “stop losing weight” and that i’m “too skinny”. i’m not stupid. i know im not fat but im definitely not skinny either. my doctor wants me to lose another 15 pounds. but of course they won’t listen to that. which brings me to the second time a little over a week ago…
my uncle, dads brother, has cancer. i haven’t seen him in about two years unfortunately so i rely on dad and Shelly to update me. they came home after a visit recently and told me that he’s “basically all bone” and that’s him at an “ideal weight”. except after pushing for more detail they admitted that he’s actually about 10+ lbs UNDERweight. i don’t think they realize how drastic 10 lbs can be. but to them, this was just another reason to not bother listening to medical advice. yes. they actually compared me to my uncle who literally has cancer.
last night was what really took the cake. we’re sitting down eating dinner when my dad started asking me, “how much do you even weigh?” and before i could answer, “probably like 90”. then Shelly piped up and said “definitely not even 100”. both comments are untrue but to them it doesn’t matter what i say. they’re both overweight and have made it obvious they’re insecure about it. i just wish they’d shut up. but if i say anything then they act offended and as if im stupid. moving out isn’t an option right now and its a bit complicated to explain. i guess i just needed to vent
2024.05.14 18:27 alexandrabarnell Am I wrong for working in a South American cafe (in the north of England) as an English person ?
I work in a South American cafe, I’m not South American (23F). When we were closing today a woman came in and asked me for a Brazilian cheese bread to which I told her we had boxed them up but I would get one out for her. She then proceeded to ignore me and look at the little market of South American food we have behind us. She picked up a few things and asked if we had the flour for the “Brazilian cheese cake”, I told her we didn’t, but we had the mixture for the cheese bread, looking back in it now she probably meant to say the cheese bread because after I pointed it out to her to which she ignored me again she then picked it up and said “here it is, you clearly don’t speak Portuguese”, I ignored this comment, it was fine to make, sometimes I feel like an intruder because I can barely speak Spanish and can’t speak Portugueses, but most days we deal with northern people so I do help out there. She then asked if the owner was in, she is Brazilian, I said she’d just gone home and try at she’d be in later this week, she then asked if she cooked the food in our kitchen, I said no her husband (white, English, male) and my partner (white, Eastern European) make all the food. This did not impress her, she said she doesn’t understand why they aren’t Brazilian if they are making Brazilian food, I understand that to a certain extent but at the same time, surely you should be proud that other cultures want to cook your food? It is also very difficult to find a full set of Brazilian cooks that work the hours we need? I said “we’ll you know it’s a South American cafe…” she said “no, no I don’t understand” then she said “you seem very eager to go Home” (we had already been closed a couple minutes at this point) I just awkwardly replied to that because I was so uncomfortable at this point. Then she proceeded to ask my name and leave. I feel like I was really polite and didn’t do anything wrong. I understand if she feels like we’re appropriating her culture but I just took the job and my boss is from Brazil and I have Brazilian/Portuguese colleagues and all of the other Brazilian/Portuguese/South American customers we have are so lovely and seem so proud to share their culture. Am I wrong?
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2024.05.14 18:12 AdSure3336 Freebie cancelled
 | My summertreat order contained 3 products and a Gush Beauty freebie. submitted by AdSure3336 to KultUpdates [link] [comments] Kult emailed me the next day saying 1 product and the freebie was out of stock so they’d be dispatching just 2 products agianst the original 4 in my confirmed order. Out of the many freebies, I had reshuffled repeatedly and finally picked this lip product because I need a red lippie. Had I known this freebie was unavailable I’d def have picked another red one (a Maybelline one was also there). They should have maintained a real time stock inventory to give fair offers to customers. Upon calling CS, they said replacement is not possible. I even offered to wait for delivery until the 2 products are back in stock but Kult said no such option is available. They flat out rejected any other options. The freebie was the icing on the cake when it comes to Kult Unique Selling Point. I feel cheated. It’s akin to excitedly shopping for pastry with cream in the display centre and the order arrives without the cream (you get the drift 😅). What implication does this have on business ethics and fairness? Could they have arranged other mitigating options for customers in such a situation? It’s happened to me one time. You see how it can become a real problem if this becomes a norm. Please share your two cents 🙏🏼 |
2024.05.14 17:55 OiTheRolk Ignoring TC until Silksong comes out
I'm ignoring Team Cherry so hard right now. You have no idea how much I'm not even thinking of Ari's silky smooth face at this exact moment in time. I've never thought less of Jack Vine's chiseled body in my entire life than I am right now. Silksong? What song? I'm not thinking about it so hard right now, that I don't even know it exists! I've never even heard of it, as far as I know, in my current state of not thinking about it! I've been honing my skills lately, and recently I've gotten so good that my lack of Silksong thoughts transcended space and time and even affected my past. Hollow Knight? What's that? Metroidvanias? Never heard of the term. Video games? The void of my thoughts warps reality itself to remove them from the annals of history. Computers have never existed, and therefore Silksong never has, either.
Australia.
What is it? A town? A clown? A Christmas cake? Perhaps a strange dialect from a distant planet? I look into the encyclopedia for clues.
"Australia is a mythical concept that was never meant to be, but had it existed, Team Cherry would have been born."
A strange description, dare I say. I know not of this foreign term, Team Cherry - so I look it up as well.
"Team Cherry was revered in ancient civilizations, but our knowledge of exactly what it was has been lost to time. Some theorize that it was a place of worship where silken gods were revered; others, a manufacturing site for some sort of shamanistic drug called coppeum (name reconstructed based on ancient scripts)."
But I can not-think even harder. How can our eyes be real, if Silksong isn't real? Is my consciousness real? Is the world itself? It cannot be... for if it were, I would be playing Silksong right about now.
The very fabric of reality warps and twists, spiraling into a black hole of my own doing. Sadness, regret, chairs - all things cease to exist as the universe is less and less.
Less and less.
Less, and less, and less, eventually leaving behind nothing but void.
I am become void.
You, too, shall be void with me soon.
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Australia.
What is it? A town? A clown? A Christmas cake? Perhaps a strange dialect from a distant planet? I look into the encyclopedia for clues.
"Australia is a mythical concept that was never meant to be, but had it existed, Team Cherry would have been born."
A strange description, dare I say. I know not of this foreign term, Team Cherry - so I look it up as well.
"Team Cherry was revered in ancient civilizations, but our knowledge of exactly what it was has been lost to time. Some theorize that it was a place of worship where silken gods were revered; others, a manufacturing site for some sort of shamanistic drug called coppeum (name reconstructed based on ancient scripts)."
But I can not-think even harder. How can our eyes be real, if Silksong isn't real? Is my consciousness real? Is the world itself? It cannot be... for if it were, I would be playing Silksong right about now.
The very fabric of reality warps and twists, spiraling into a black hole of my own doing. Sadness, regret, chairs - all things cease to exist as the universe is less and less.
Less and less.
Less, and less, and less, eventually leaving behind nothing but void.
I am become void.
You, too, shall be void with me soon.
2024.05.14 17:27 NosferatuZ0d BBB: Beef cake question
I just want to ask a hypothetical because im just not understanding the Boring But big beef cake plan.
So say my 1rm is 83.5Kg for bench press
What would my top set bench press weights be and what would my FSL bench press weights be? Its to my understanding I must do 5 sets of 10 for both so 100 all together. Can someone please break it down to me please and show me what weights i would be doing? I just dont get it
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So say my 1rm is 83.5Kg for bench press
What would my top set bench press weights be and what would my FSL bench press weights be? Its to my understanding I must do 5 sets of 10 for both so 100 all together. Can someone please break it down to me please and show me what weights i would be doing? I just dont get it
2024.05.14 17:18 OkPound7382 WIBTAH for divorcing my husband after he did absolutely nothing for Mother's Day
Warning: mention of pregnancy loss and death of family members by gun violence
I, 31 female, have been together with my husband, 37 male, for 10 years and married for almost 9. We have two beautiful children, a 4 yr old son and a 2 yr old daughter and he has two other children with two other women that he doesn’t get to see and pays child support for. Before my son we had 12 losses, one of which I hemorrhaged from and then I ending up almost hemorrhaging to death after our son was born. We also had one more miscarriage after our daughter was born and I’ve since decided to not try for anymore even though this breaks my heart a little because I always wanted a bigger family.
I recently lost my mother and 10 year old niece in August after they were unalived by a family friend who also unalived himself. Less than two months later, my sister tragically passed in a car accident. To say that broke me is truly an understatement. For months all I could do was cry everyday and feel excruciating pain. My mom and sister were extremely close. We messaged and called every day, multiple times a day even though we all live within a 10 mile radius. They were there for me through everything life had to spit at us. We already have lost every female on my dad’s side of the family. My sister and I were all that was left besides our own daughters. The future feels daunting knowing that there may very well be decades with them not here with me.
It’s been many months now and I feel like I am finally starting to feel happiness and I’m just doing my best to spend as much time with my kids and remaining niece and nephew. My oldest niece is my partner in crime especially now that we are in the no mom and no sister club. She’s only in her early teens and she had also been shot but thankfully survived.
On to the issue. My husband has honestly never really put in any effort for birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, etc. Usually my birthday I don’t give a crap for but it’s only because in the past I’ve been disappointed because no one ever did anything for it. And I’m talking about just like a card and cake. Nothing serious. I really have dirt floor standards to be frank because I just have learned throughout life not to expect anything. That said I am the person who no matter what kind of financial situation I am in will find a way to show love and appreciation no matter the budget. I’ll make you hand made cards, I’ll personally call you on your birthday or special holidays, and I’ll make cake or cupcakes from scratch. If I have a budget I’ll plan dinner and some time to spend out. I just love making people feel happy and special. I was just raised that way.
So of course I find and marry the one person who honestly could kind of care less. I don’t think he has ever gotten or done anything for my birthday, not for Christmas. I remember he got me something for Mothers Day a few years ago…AFTER I had said something. My mom and sister on the other hand always made sure I got a card and we all had a Mothers Day dinner where we would cook and just enjoy time with our kids and ourselves.
This is my first Mothers Day without them and tomorrow and my sisters birthday without her. I had already verbally mentioned how hard it was going to be and my husband fully knew that it was going to be a hard day for me. My friends even sent him ideas for me, like just cleaning up the house and waking up to make breakfast for me. Things he’s honestly never done ever, but hey those are free things anyone could do to make someone feel special. All he said to my best friend was “lol I don’t have any money.” She got pissed. She ended up buying me flowers, a wind chime, some NA beer (I’m sober), and spent extra time with me because she knew I needed my support people on Mother’s Day. My dad also came out in support and got me more NA beer, bought me lunch, and we picked up my oldest niece and I got to spend a ton of time with her. My husband? Slept in until 10:30am. Didn’t do anything all day. I was up at 6 am with the kids and made breakfast after I realized he was still sleeping because ya know, kids can’t starve and I’m not going to wait 4 hours to have breakfast myself.
The thing is, this is just the tip of the iceberg. He can’t stay employed and oftentimes will switch jobs to avoid paying child support. Sure he’s present for the kids now, but when the going gets tough he pretty much stops putting in effort. I bet if I lived even 20 minutes away from him he wouldn’t see the kids often. He has never ever done much around the house despite me working MULTIPLE jobs at times (at one point I was working 3 and going to school). I work full time for a Fortune 500 company and he can’t even schedule a damn doctors appointment for himself. Any time I try to bring things up he’s dismissive or just denies things. And now he’s also getting more angry and aggressive because child support is being taken out again and he ended up swatting our son so hard our son doubled over…in front of my whole family! This along with Mothers Day has got me just thinking I need to divorce him. He can’t hit our kids like that period. All our son did was throw a damn smore at him! And I have multiple witnesses including my niece, grandfather, brother and SIL. I want to protect our kids. I feel like after that happened if I stay with him I am essentially condoning his behavior. I absolutely confronted him about it and he says he feels bad and should never have done it but he felt justified in that moment. I can’t trust someone like that. And it’s not the first time he’s swatted at our son but this was certainly the worst. So I am ready to leave just for that but then our son would have to be with him unsupervised.
If I am overreacting I want to know. He says I am and constantly says I am. I just need some clarity and maybe just support because if I do this, this is something that once the ball is rolling you can’t really stop it. I’m just afraid…but I think I’m more afraid of what will happen if I stay.
edited to add: As far as the two other children, he used to see his oldest until we moved across the country. Both parents were horrible at communicating and would argue constantly and despite a custody agreement, the mother of said child would block us from talking to him. Turns out, she was abusive and DSS was called on her and the kid lives with his stepdad. my husband was able to contact him after 8 years and they are starting to have a relationship again. The second though, he hasn’t seen since the kid was a few months old. Personally I don’t believe his story that the family drove him out but that was well before me and the mom lives somewhere unknown. That child support order for the second kid came in a few years ago since she filed for public assistance. I still don’t condone not paying either way. He had his opportunities to figure it out and didn’t do it. I’m tired of the financial drain.
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I, 31 female, have been together with my husband, 37 male, for 10 years and married for almost 9. We have two beautiful children, a 4 yr old son and a 2 yr old daughter and he has two other children with two other women that he doesn’t get to see and pays child support for. Before my son we had 12 losses, one of which I hemorrhaged from and then I ending up almost hemorrhaging to death after our son was born. We also had one more miscarriage after our daughter was born and I’ve since decided to not try for anymore even though this breaks my heart a little because I always wanted a bigger family.
I recently lost my mother and 10 year old niece in August after they were unalived by a family friend who also unalived himself. Less than two months later, my sister tragically passed in a car accident. To say that broke me is truly an understatement. For months all I could do was cry everyday and feel excruciating pain. My mom and sister were extremely close. We messaged and called every day, multiple times a day even though we all live within a 10 mile radius. They were there for me through everything life had to spit at us. We already have lost every female on my dad’s side of the family. My sister and I were all that was left besides our own daughters. The future feels daunting knowing that there may very well be decades with them not here with me.
It’s been many months now and I feel like I am finally starting to feel happiness and I’m just doing my best to spend as much time with my kids and remaining niece and nephew. My oldest niece is my partner in crime especially now that we are in the no mom and no sister club. She’s only in her early teens and she had also been shot but thankfully survived.
On to the issue. My husband has honestly never really put in any effort for birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, etc. Usually my birthday I don’t give a crap for but it’s only because in the past I’ve been disappointed because no one ever did anything for it. And I’m talking about just like a card and cake. Nothing serious. I really have dirt floor standards to be frank because I just have learned throughout life not to expect anything. That said I am the person who no matter what kind of financial situation I am in will find a way to show love and appreciation no matter the budget. I’ll make you hand made cards, I’ll personally call you on your birthday or special holidays, and I’ll make cake or cupcakes from scratch. If I have a budget I’ll plan dinner and some time to spend out. I just love making people feel happy and special. I was just raised that way.
So of course I find and marry the one person who honestly could kind of care less. I don’t think he has ever gotten or done anything for my birthday, not for Christmas. I remember he got me something for Mothers Day a few years ago…AFTER I had said something. My mom and sister on the other hand always made sure I got a card and we all had a Mothers Day dinner where we would cook and just enjoy time with our kids and ourselves.
This is my first Mothers Day without them and tomorrow and my sisters birthday without her. I had already verbally mentioned how hard it was going to be and my husband fully knew that it was going to be a hard day for me. My friends even sent him ideas for me, like just cleaning up the house and waking up to make breakfast for me. Things he’s honestly never done ever, but hey those are free things anyone could do to make someone feel special. All he said to my best friend was “lol I don’t have any money.” She got pissed. She ended up buying me flowers, a wind chime, some NA beer (I’m sober), and spent extra time with me because she knew I needed my support people on Mother’s Day. My dad also came out in support and got me more NA beer, bought me lunch, and we picked up my oldest niece and I got to spend a ton of time with her. My husband? Slept in until 10:30am. Didn’t do anything all day. I was up at 6 am with the kids and made breakfast after I realized he was still sleeping because ya know, kids can’t starve and I’m not going to wait 4 hours to have breakfast myself.
The thing is, this is just the tip of the iceberg. He can’t stay employed and oftentimes will switch jobs to avoid paying child support. Sure he’s present for the kids now, but when the going gets tough he pretty much stops putting in effort. I bet if I lived even 20 minutes away from him he wouldn’t see the kids often. He has never ever done much around the house despite me working MULTIPLE jobs at times (at one point I was working 3 and going to school). I work full time for a Fortune 500 company and he can’t even schedule a damn doctors appointment for himself. Any time I try to bring things up he’s dismissive or just denies things. And now he’s also getting more angry and aggressive because child support is being taken out again and he ended up swatting our son so hard our son doubled over…in front of my whole family! This along with Mothers Day has got me just thinking I need to divorce him. He can’t hit our kids like that period. All our son did was throw a damn smore at him! And I have multiple witnesses including my niece, grandfather, brother and SIL. I want to protect our kids. I feel like after that happened if I stay with him I am essentially condoning his behavior. I absolutely confronted him about it and he says he feels bad and should never have done it but he felt justified in that moment. I can’t trust someone like that. And it’s not the first time he’s swatted at our son but this was certainly the worst. So I am ready to leave just for that but then our son would have to be with him unsupervised.
If I am overreacting I want to know. He says I am and constantly says I am. I just need some clarity and maybe just support because if I do this, this is something that once the ball is rolling you can’t really stop it. I’m just afraid…but I think I’m more afraid of what will happen if I stay.
edited to add: As far as the two other children, he used to see his oldest until we moved across the country. Both parents were horrible at communicating and would argue constantly and despite a custody agreement, the mother of said child would block us from talking to him. Turns out, she was abusive and DSS was called on her and the kid lives with his stepdad. my husband was able to contact him after 8 years and they are starting to have a relationship again. The second though, he hasn’t seen since the kid was a few months old. Personally I don’t believe his story that the family drove him out but that was well before me and the mom lives somewhere unknown. That child support order for the second kid came in a few years ago since she filed for public assistance. I still don’t condone not paying either way. He had his opportunities to figure it out and didn’t do it. I’m tired of the financial drain.
2024.05.14 17:08 mark-spline Just foumd
 | *Sorry, the title was supposed to say "Just found this community, and now I'm going to show off" but obviously something happened..... submitted by mark-spline to fireworks [link] [comments] Hello!! While looking for this years fireworks stuff, I found this community. YAY! Makes me excited! So here is a layout of last years display. This year, I want to go bigger: programming with music and lasers. My brother-in-law usually starts things out by hand lighting some fireworks for a bit, then we switch over to my display. I have a 12 shot wireless system. Usually have about 11 cakes and fountains (not shown) each on their own button, then #12 starts the grand finale. The grand finale starts with a slow (fuse is about 12.5 s/f) 24 shot straight up board (8 rows of 4) of consumer shells with a 200g cake or fountain at the end of each row of 4. Next is a 15 shot fan rack (5 rows of 3) of consumer shells, where here I started with a .3- 1 s/f fuse from the middle out, then 2 s/f fuse for the rest. Then on to the 45 shot straight up board (7 rows of 5) of consumer shells, set up like the 25 shot, with the exception of the last 10 shots with 6 s/f fuse. The last 5 rows you'll see 3" shells, a single shot straight up instead of cakes. Things start to get more exciting with the 72 shot fan rack (12 rows of 6) of consumer shells. The fist 36 are fused at about 6 s/f and the last 36 are fused at about 2 s/f. Then we send off the show with a barrage of 3" shells on a 30 shot fan rack (6 rows of 5) where the first 25 are fused at 1.5 s/f and the last row are all set to go off at the same time, as well with as another 4 shot 3" shell fan rack (2 x 2). I am not fan of (and I am not dissing anybody's backyard displays, this is really for the professional shows) the grand finales with the multiple shots that go straight up. With all the colors mixing, I feel you just end up with a blur. With my slow shot boards, as soon as one explodes the next fires, so going straight up is fine. When you get into the barrages and fanning them out, it really fills up the sky with beautiful color! For the consumer shells, I use a mixture of cheapo balls and more expensive canisters (my wife only allows me a limited budget, lol). 99% color, very few salutes. The cheapos stay in the straight up while I reserve the canisters for the fans. For the 3" shells, everything is color except the 4 in the 2 x 2 fan rack, those are my only large salutes. My wife does not like salutes much, so I limit them Hope you enjoy the photos! Oh yeah, all of the grand finale is fused from one rack to the other, set off by the #12 button. https://preview.redd.it/ra6lhrsuqe0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3317d2addbe93577c4477c008164a7f652f0250a https://preview.redd.it/u2ddqqsuqe0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ac8d034dedc8dc7eb04a2d3ec59dc83f83d7e2ba https://preview.redd.it/3mqqutsuqe0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fb3aa4e7d549e19887fbe36acab73cccee645db3 https://preview.redd.it/ik37ersuqe0d1.jpg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=65b3b7e9080413d9d463c18e51e3ec9888ac5816 https://preview.redd.it/0epa5usuqe0d1.jpg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c67bf5e100a84125bbe13975f18b4c809b70ca1b https://preview.redd.it/xcwrzssuqe0d1.jpg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=de177ddec814da7917eb9ad90ede33ffd76db186 https://preview.redd.it/i7u9prsuqe0d1.jpg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5f93de6088f544865d66d42cb08be6116331cbac https://preview.redd.it/65caassuqe0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e901673abee445f35ae012b8b683481b0214c464 https://preview.redd.it/9mwo1ssuqe0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f8abee59fb1e7f582bbe1ab878f836171dac3de9 https://preview.redd.it/yohxkssuqe0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cf9df51b4971e518f7efbea2279bf75145e4a87e https://preview.redd.it/0od7zrsuqe0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f99e42369eb6b49e2b9dd9f3d7a7f5b9c7bcdf47 |
2024.05.14 16:48 ilPolka The story of how I suspect a Big Chinese Publisher "stole" my game idea.
I've been in contact with this publisher for several months, they really liked the game but never went on with an offer, saying they needed at least another build update to compare and make an evaluation.
Months passed and we got back in contact as we had a build update, but once again they didn't go with an offer as they thought we weren't gathering enough wishlists for them to feel confident, they gave us some slides with their in-depth evaluation which we actually appreciated, then basically closed contact as it's clear they're not interested...
...Until a new game demo just came out on steam, with a strikingly similar concept, execution, and even short/long descriptions. This is supposed to be the debut project of a "three-person team" (just how we presented ourselves to the publisher), "coincidentially" Chinese, but it's impossible to track who's behind. What is even weirder is the marketing quality and precision of this game and its usage of Steam algorithm and events, which is too much of a coincidence to assume that they were just doing everything right on the first try as a studio.
Cherry on the cake is that we received this publisher's report the same day they put their demo out and started engaging with their discord.
I don't think the concept of "stealing ideas" even exist, my game itself is a re-elaboration of other devs ideas, but the fact that we directly came in contact with this publisher and everything is laid out to look like a coincidence, still makes me feel viciously stolen of something.
Thanks for reading up to this point. Curious to hear any thoughts you have about this.
EDIT: I care to specify that I don't have 100% proof that this isn't just the biggest coincidence I've witnessed in my life, it's just an educated guess. The publisher I got in contact with itself said that they're under the "big hand of Chinese gaming", so they don't even need to publish it under their own name.
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Months passed and we got back in contact as we had a build update, but once again they didn't go with an offer as they thought we weren't gathering enough wishlists for them to feel confident, they gave us some slides with their in-depth evaluation which we actually appreciated, then basically closed contact as it's clear they're not interested...
...Until a new game demo just came out on steam, with a strikingly similar concept, execution, and even short/long descriptions. This is supposed to be the debut project of a "three-person team" (just how we presented ourselves to the publisher), "coincidentially" Chinese, but it's impossible to track who's behind. What is even weirder is the marketing quality and precision of this game and its usage of Steam algorithm and events, which is too much of a coincidence to assume that they were just doing everything right on the first try as a studio.
Cherry on the cake is that we received this publisher's report the same day they put their demo out and started engaging with their discord.
I don't think the concept of "stealing ideas" even exist, my game itself is a re-elaboration of other devs ideas, but the fact that we directly came in contact with this publisher and everything is laid out to look like a coincidence, still makes me feel viciously stolen of something.
Thanks for reading up to this point. Curious to hear any thoughts you have about this.
2024.05.14 16:43 goooodmornin How to set better boundaries?
My MIL has been pushing boundaries my entire relationship with my husband. We've been together going on 11 years. Sometimes I think she's just dense and can't read the room, and sometimes I think she is conniving and manipulating. I still haven't figured it out. I find it incredibly hard she can’t read a room and hand common sense. We have a 3 month old, our first, and I feel she constantly is taking opportunities away from me. She watches him sometimes while I have to go to work, which is a godsend because it is free and I feel more comfortable with him there vs a daycare with people I don't know, but I still get miffed about the absolutely bizarre things she does. When I was pregnant she got my husband a Father's Day gift from our UNBORN/UNNAMED child and wrote him a card from our baby... I had not even had the chance to get him anything yet before she gave it to him. Today when my husband picked our son up (he was off work before me) he came home with a cake that our son "made him" for his birthday... (his birthday is tomorrow). It says "happy birthday daddy <3 -our child's name-". I am SO freaking annoyed and pissed. Am I overreacting? I've tried my best to make boundaries before (for example asking her to NOT get our son an insane amount of gifts and keep it at MAX 5, she still pushes this envelope, and during Christmas time to not get him and gifts from Santa as that is something my husband and I would just like us to do). Any help on how I can tell her to please stop gifting things on behalf of my son?? I feel like I’m losing my mind 🥴😵💫
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2024.05.14 16:37 TetonsTeaTin Another Sad Mothers Day post
I hate posting this for many reasons. Because a lot of the other Mother’s Day posts are much worse, and because I really do love my husband and he’s a great person.
But he really fumbled this past Sunday. And usually I get over these things pretty quickly but I still feel so hurt. I’m trying to move on but I can’t seem to. So I’m venting here I guess and looking for advice on how to get past this.
I don’t ever expect a parade on Mothers Day, even though I’ve been a “bonus mom” for a decade. And while most of those years have been met with no flowers or anything, he still at least says “happy Mother’s Day” to me. Apparently that had been enough for me to feel fine. This year was nothing. From him or SD (she’s a kid, I don’t fault her - usually her mom takes her to pick me something out, but she has her hands wrapped up this year.)
It doesn’t help that I work 6 days a week and spend my free time with SD. Or that on Saturday I woke up super early to finish my work, then rush to target to pick out a Mother’s Day gift for SD(13) to gift her mom, and then rush back home to start making a cake from scratch for SD’s birthday before people come over to celebrate.
It also doesn’t help that on Sunday my husband showed me the happy Mother’s Day text he sent to his mom and reminded me not to forget to wish my good friend a happy Mother’s Day as she is a new mom. All of that consideration and none for me? And at a week after I paid almost $2k for SD’s school trip that neither him or bio mom could afford.
The lack of acknowledgment has hurt me so much that I’m passively adding things up in my head against my will. Have I really planned, purchased or made every single: birthday gift, cake, party, Christmas present, family trip, extracurricular activity? Did I not get her ready for all of her ballet recitals? Who did she hug after her mom was arrested? Who’s childhood room is she sleeping in? Have I paid a third of the cost for every pair of glasses, and retainer?
All of this is me. I spent Sunday crying the whole day. My husband feels bad. But if after everything, if I’m not even considered a parent, then what
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But he really fumbled this past Sunday. And usually I get over these things pretty quickly but I still feel so hurt. I’m trying to move on but I can’t seem to. So I’m venting here I guess and looking for advice on how to get past this.
I don’t ever expect a parade on Mothers Day, even though I’ve been a “bonus mom” for a decade. And while most of those years have been met with no flowers or anything, he still at least says “happy Mother’s Day” to me. Apparently that had been enough for me to feel fine. This year was nothing. From him or SD (she’s a kid, I don’t fault her - usually her mom takes her to pick me something out, but she has her hands wrapped up this year.)
It doesn’t help that I work 6 days a week and spend my free time with SD. Or that on Saturday I woke up super early to finish my work, then rush to target to pick out a Mother’s Day gift for SD(13) to gift her mom, and then rush back home to start making a cake from scratch for SD’s birthday before people come over to celebrate.
It also doesn’t help that on Sunday my husband showed me the happy Mother’s Day text he sent to his mom and reminded me not to forget to wish my good friend a happy Mother’s Day as she is a new mom. All of that consideration and none for me? And at a week after I paid almost $2k for SD’s school trip that neither him or bio mom could afford.
The lack of acknowledgment has hurt me so much that I’m passively adding things up in my head against my will. Have I really planned, purchased or made every single: birthday gift, cake, party, Christmas present, family trip, extracurricular activity? Did I not get her ready for all of her ballet recitals? Who did she hug after her mom was arrested? Who’s childhood room is she sleeping in? Have I paid a third of the cost for every pair of glasses, and retainer?
All of this is me. I spent Sunday crying the whole day. My husband feels bad. But if after everything, if I’m not even considered a parent, then what
2024.05.14 16:18 _currently_dying_ AITA for throwing the food my mom prepared into the trash in front of her?
I (17F) have suffered from eating disorders growing up, I’ve been to therapy and I do my best to maintain a healthy life style. I’ve already lost a lot of weight (by eating right and exercising) and for a long period of time I was satisfied with myself.
My mom (52F) doesn’t believe eating disorders exist, when I told her what I was going through back in the day all she said was “You’re not eating and you’re still gaining weight? You’re doing a bad job then.”
My mom was in the kitchen making a cake. I approached the fridge to warm myself something for lunch while she stood by giving me a dirty look, so I asked her “what’s wrong?” And she said “Nothing.” I pulled my meal out of the microwave and turned to head back into my room to eat but then I heard my mom saying “How many meals can you eat in one day? My whole work crew combined eat less than you.” Both she and my brother (22M) laughed as if that’s the funniest thing anyone had ever said.
At that moment I felt like six months of hard work to heal myself just went down the drain. I felt so angry I just threw the whole plate to the trash and stormed back into my room. They’re still shouting at me from the living room that I’m a drama queen and that my mom is doing me a favour.
I feel childish, it was just a joke after all. I wasted a whole meal and disrespected my mother, but now I can’t even think of eating again. I mentally and physically lost all of my appetite.
AITA?
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My mom (52F) doesn’t believe eating disorders exist, when I told her what I was going through back in the day all she said was “You’re not eating and you’re still gaining weight? You’re doing a bad job then.”
My mom was in the kitchen making a cake. I approached the fridge to warm myself something for lunch while she stood by giving me a dirty look, so I asked her “what’s wrong?” And she said “Nothing.” I pulled my meal out of the microwave and turned to head back into my room to eat but then I heard my mom saying “How many meals can you eat in one day? My whole work crew combined eat less than you.” Both she and my brother (22M) laughed as if that’s the funniest thing anyone had ever said.
At that moment I felt like six months of hard work to heal myself just went down the drain. I felt so angry I just threw the whole plate to the trash and stormed back into my room. They’re still shouting at me from the living room that I’m a drama queen and that my mom is doing me a favour.
I feel childish, it was just a joke after all. I wasted a whole meal and disrespected my mother, but now I can’t even think of eating again. I mentally and physically lost all of my appetite.
AITA?
2024.05.14 16:06 Cathedral_of_Murder Happy Birthday to a Son, a Brother, a Friend, and Today— a Man.
One’s day of birth is a day to be celebrated. Life can be beautiful, and so it deserves to be cherished— worshipped individually for each person. One day just to them and those they hold dear, where they are offered cake and gifts curated to their liking. For just one day a year, a person may be a god.
At least, that is how Eliot does things.
He stands over a cake, flavored pistachio and decorated accordingly. There are two cakes— the other is a chocolate cake with cream cheese frosting and chocolate ganache spread on top, adorned with raspberries and chunks of chocolate. Decorated by Irving who said, and Eliot could quote;
”Nobody but him— and perhaps Walt— will consume that monstrosity.”
So Eliot prepared for such a case, and once everything was set up accordingly in one of the Famiglia Headquarters lounging areas— cakes displayed, drinks sorted and set aside, cups, plates, utensils, other snacks and gifts all in their rightful places—
“Are we ready?” Irving asks, suddenly returning, to which Eliot nods.
“We are. Go get him.”
[Happy Birthday to George Walton Lucas, author of the beloved American film franchise, Star Wars. While the true person may not be the brightest of stars, the character is a beloved and ambitious boy, one we must gather to celebrate.
All Puzos, come say happy birthday to your favorite little radioactive grape.]
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At least, that is how Eliot does things.
He stands over a cake, flavored pistachio and decorated accordingly. There are two cakes— the other is a chocolate cake with cream cheese frosting and chocolate ganache spread on top, adorned with raspberries and chunks of chocolate. Decorated by Irving who said, and Eliot could quote;
”Nobody but him— and perhaps Walt— will consume that monstrosity.”
So Eliot prepared for such a case, and once everything was set up accordingly in one of the Famiglia Headquarters lounging areas— cakes displayed, drinks sorted and set aside, cups, plates, utensils, other snacks and gifts all in their rightful places—
“Are we ready?” Irving asks, suddenly returning, to which Eliot nods.
“We are. Go get him.”
[Happy Birthday to George Walton Lucas, author of the beloved American film franchise, Star Wars. While the true person may not be the brightest of stars, the character is a beloved and ambitious boy, one we must gather to celebrate.
All Puzos, come say happy birthday to your favorite little radioactive grape.]
2024.05.14 15:43 Philothea0821 My Biggest Problems with Protestantism
I want to take a moment to list out some of my most challenging problems with Protestantism according to what Scripture says, in no particular order. It is not a comprehensive list of all of the problems that I have with it, but having these answered would go a long way to me taking Protestantism seriously from a theological viewpoint.
We should rely on our own personal interpretation of Scripture
And we have the prophetic word made more sure. You will do well to pay attention to this as to a lamp shining in a dark place, until the day dawns and the morning star rises in your hearts. 20 First of all you must understand this, that no prophecy of scripture is a matter of one’s own interpretation, 21 because no prophecy ever came by the impulse of man, but men moved by the Holy Spirit spoke from God.
Here, Peter is saying PAY ATTENTION TO THE CHURCH!!! Listen to what the apostles are teaching and allow that to form your reading of Scripture. If you read the rest of this chapter, He says that "we" (the apostles) have had given to them, "all things that pertain to life and godliness" through knowledge of Jesus Christ. When we read Scripture, we should not read it solely with our own understanding, but allow ourselves to be taught by the apostles (or those appointed by them as successors).
When it comes to Sola Scriptura, I do not see how it is not relying on one's own personal interpretation. How do I know that I am understanding Scripture correctly? How do I know that I do not have an interpretation that is horribly off base? I have never really gotten an answer to this from Protestants.
If I am debating Scripture, according to Protestants, I am debating the sole highest authority. So if I test my interpretation against something else, I am testing against a lesser authority and thus it can still be challenged and I have not sufficiently solved the problem.
We only need to declare Jesus as Lord to get to Heaven
“Not every one who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.
Here Jesus flatly says professing that Jesus is Lord is not enough to get you into Heaven, but doing the will of the Father. Yes, we are saved by faith through grace. If you get baptized and are shot dead the moment you walk out of the church, you will go to Heaven having done nothing except making that "leap of faith." If you are in a car crash and have a minute to live and all you can do is place your trust in Jesus, yes, you will be saved. But for 99.99999% of people, this is not the case. We have our entire lives to live after baptism. So the question is "Do we live according to what we profess with our mouth?"
If I say "I am an Orioles fan." but only ever go to/watch Yankees games and only ever root for the Yankees, would you say that I am actually an Orioles fan? Do I not call into question that statement that I made by my actions? What if I grow up as an Orioles fan, regularly attending games and watching them daily. But then later, my favorite player gets traded to the Yankees and I convert to a Yankees fan. Was I never an Orioles fan to begin with? No. That would be silly. I was an Orioles fan, but then became a Yankees fan.
Likewise, if I say "I am a Christian and believe that Jesus rose from the dead." But I never attend Church, I am not loving others, I am worshipping other gods, etc. Am I really a Christian? Maybe I was at one point, but I certainly am not now based on what I have done.
As such, yes, it is true that works do not save us, but if we act contrary to what we believe, we cannot have assurance of our salvation. Hopefully God still finds a way to bring us to Heaven. I would rather someone spend 1000 years after death having their soul purified knowing that they will go to Heaven then know for a fact that they are in Hell. Even so, we must recognize that Hell is real, it is a real possibility.
Baptism does not save
He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned.
Baptism, which corresponds to this, now saves you, not as a removal of dirt from the body but as an appeal to God for a clear conscience, through the resurrection of Jesus Christ, 22 who has gone into heaven and is at the right hand of God, with angels, authorities, and powers subject to him.
I have ZERO idea where some Protestants get this idea from. The idea that Baptism is not salvific is not at all Scriptural. This really ties into the "Sola Fide" bit of this post.
The Eucharist is merely symbolic
I am the bread of life. 49 Your fathers ate the manna in the wilderness, and they died. 50 This is the bread which comes down from heaven, that a man may eat of it and not die. 51 I am the living bread\)c\) which came down from heaven; if any one eats of this bread, he will live for ever; and the bread which I shall give for the life of the world is my flesh.”
52 The Jews then disputed among themselves, saying, “How can this man give us his flesh to eat?”\)d\) 53 So Jesus said to them, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless you eat the flesh of the Son of man and drink his blood, you have no life in you; 54 he who eats my flesh and drinks my blood has eternal life, and I will raise him up at the last day. 55 For my flesh is food indeed, and my blood is drink indeed. 56 He who eats my flesh and drinks my blood abides in me, and I in him. 57 As the living Father sent me, and I live because of the Father, so he who eats me will live because of me. 58 This is the bread which came down from heaven, not such as the fathers ate and died; he who eats this bread will live for ever.” 59 This he said in the synagogue, as he taught at Caper′na-um.
Jesus flat out says "This bread that I am talking about here is my flesh." So the disciples challenge Him saying "You mean this figuratively right?... RIGHT?
So Jesus responds repeating himself over and over in verses 53 through 58. How many times does Jesus need to say something for you to believe it? You will latch on to a singular verse that teaches something you agree with (or seems to) for dear life at the exclusion of literally any other verse on the topic, but something else is taught multiple times and you don't believe it? I am confused about how Protestants read the Bible. It does not seem to be in any kind of coherent exegesis.
You are allowed to get divorced and remarried... at all.
“Every one who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.
But Jesus said to them, “For your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment. 6 But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ 7 ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife,\)a\) 8 and the two shall become one.’\)b\) So they are no longer two but one.\)c\) 9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder.”
He said to them, “For your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for unchastity,\)c\) and marries another, commits adultery; and he who marries a divorced woman, commits adultery.”
A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. If the husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.
Marriage is "until death do us part." The teachings on divorce from the Gospels is trying to set a trap for Jesus to see which rabbinical school he agrees with. Jesus comes out and says. "Neither." He says "Yeah. Moses allowed for divorce. But this is not how it was from the beginning. What about that "except for unchastity" phrase in Matthew (and only Matthew)?
There Matthew is talking about unions that God did not join together. He is talking about invalid marriages that his primarily Jewish readers would have been thinking about. The gentile converts to Christianity would not have thought about these weird situations, so this is excluded from the other gospels.
You can get re-baptized
There is one body and one Spirit—just as you were called to the one hope that belongs to your call— one Lord, one faith, one baptism,
Some that want to say that you can get rebaptized jump to Acts 19. Reading this passage, it would seem that what is going on here is that the Baptism by John was not in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Paul is essentially saying that the "baptism" that they had received was not valid. He does not say that he "baptized them again into Christ." Rather it says that Paul "baptized them in the name Jesus Christ." As in they were not baptized into Christ, so Paul baptized them "for real this time."
You can only be cleansed from Original Sin once. After that, you can confess your sins and have them forgiven. Baptism is what makes into a child of God. That can only happen once. To do otherwise is a grave sin because you are saying that God was not powerful enough to save you the first time. Again, if a baptism is deemed to be invalid, this is a different story. This is why Paul asks "Into what were you baptized?"
The Church is simply the collection of believers
“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every word may be confirmed by the evidence of two or three witnesses. 17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. 18 Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.
Here it is clear that the "Church" is something more than a collection of believers. Jesus teaches here that first, you deal with disagreement 1 on 1. If that does not work, you go and get other believers to help show that they are wrong. If that does not work, then take to the Church. If even that does not work, they are to be treated as an unbeliever (excommunicated).
Certainly, all believers are a part of the Church - which is the body of Christ. The Church is not a parish or a singular building. The Church is universal, but there is a clear structure to it. There are priests, bishops, elders, etc. There is real authority in that structure. This article goes over in Scripture and towards the bottom the Church Fathers what the Church is meant to look like: https://www.scripturecatholic.com/the-biblical-church/
Many Protestant ideas sound nice, but I do not want to believe something merely because it sounds nice. Dessert for dinner sounds nice but it is not good for my body. Likewise, we should not judge something on "does it sound nice." We should judge something on whether it is good for our souls.
I look at many Protestant theological views and note how they seem to not be based in Scripture or based on a misunderstanding of Scripture. I would love to see if Protestants can properly answer these. Simply quoting verses that seem to back you up is not enough here. You need to show that these other verses are not problematic.
I do not only want to trust in Jesus, I want to trust that I am following everything that he taught. Jesus commanded the apostles to teach all that He has commanded, not just the important stuff. If you get the main stuff right but other things wrong, you still got it wrong. If a teacher gave a 10 question quiz and said, "You got questions 1, 2, 5, and 7 right, but everything else wrong. It is ok though those questions were the most important." I still get a failing grade. So, if you want me to convert to Protestantism you need to show that you actually follow all of Scripture, because I want to strive to get a 100% on the "test" of salvation. After all Jesus told us to "Be perfect as Your Heavenly Father is perfect" Not "Be kind of perfect as Your Heavenly Father is perfect."
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We should rely on our own personal interpretation of Scripture
And we have the prophetic word made more sure. You will do well to pay attention to this as to a lamp shining in a dark place, until the day dawns and the morning star rises in your hearts. 20 First of all you must understand this, that no prophecy of scripture is a matter of one’s own interpretation, 21 because no prophecy ever came by the impulse of man, but men moved by the Holy Spirit spoke from God.
Here, Peter is saying PAY ATTENTION TO THE CHURCH!!! Listen to what the apostles are teaching and allow that to form your reading of Scripture. If you read the rest of this chapter, He says that "we" (the apostles) have had given to them, "all things that pertain to life and godliness" through knowledge of Jesus Christ. When we read Scripture, we should not read it solely with our own understanding, but allow ourselves to be taught by the apostles (or those appointed by them as successors).
When it comes to Sola Scriptura, I do not see how it is not relying on one's own personal interpretation. How do I know that I am understanding Scripture correctly? How do I know that I do not have an interpretation that is horribly off base? I have never really gotten an answer to this from Protestants.
If I am debating Scripture, according to Protestants, I am debating the sole highest authority. So if I test my interpretation against something else, I am testing against a lesser authority and thus it can still be challenged and I have not sufficiently solved the problem.
We only need to declare Jesus as Lord to get to Heaven
“Not every one who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.
Here Jesus flatly says professing that Jesus is Lord is not enough to get you into Heaven, but doing the will of the Father. Yes, we are saved by faith through grace. If you get baptized and are shot dead the moment you walk out of the church, you will go to Heaven having done nothing except making that "leap of faith." If you are in a car crash and have a minute to live and all you can do is place your trust in Jesus, yes, you will be saved. But for 99.99999% of people, this is not the case. We have our entire lives to live after baptism. So the question is "Do we live according to what we profess with our mouth?"
If I say "I am an Orioles fan." but only ever go to/watch Yankees games and only ever root for the Yankees, would you say that I am actually an Orioles fan? Do I not call into question that statement that I made by my actions? What if I grow up as an Orioles fan, regularly attending games and watching them daily. But then later, my favorite player gets traded to the Yankees and I convert to a Yankees fan. Was I never an Orioles fan to begin with? No. That would be silly. I was an Orioles fan, but then became a Yankees fan.
Likewise, if I say "I am a Christian and believe that Jesus rose from the dead." But I never attend Church, I am not loving others, I am worshipping other gods, etc. Am I really a Christian? Maybe I was at one point, but I certainly am not now based on what I have done.
As such, yes, it is true that works do not save us, but if we act contrary to what we believe, we cannot have assurance of our salvation. Hopefully God still finds a way to bring us to Heaven. I would rather someone spend 1000 years after death having their soul purified knowing that they will go to Heaven then know for a fact that they are in Hell. Even so, we must recognize that Hell is real, it is a real possibility.
Baptism does not save
He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned.
Baptism, which corresponds to this, now saves you, not as a removal of dirt from the body but as an appeal to God for a clear conscience, through the resurrection of Jesus Christ, 22 who has gone into heaven and is at the right hand of God, with angels, authorities, and powers subject to him.
I have ZERO idea where some Protestants get this idea from. The idea that Baptism is not salvific is not at all Scriptural. This really ties into the "Sola Fide" bit of this post.
The Eucharist is merely symbolic
I am the bread of life. 49 Your fathers ate the manna in the wilderness, and they died. 50 This is the bread which comes down from heaven, that a man may eat of it and not die. 51 I am the living bread\)c\) which came down from heaven; if any one eats of this bread, he will live for ever; and the bread which I shall give for the life of the world is my flesh.”
52 The Jews then disputed among themselves, saying, “How can this man give us his flesh to eat?”\)d\) 53 So Jesus said to them, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless you eat the flesh of the Son of man and drink his blood, you have no life in you; 54 he who eats my flesh and drinks my blood has eternal life, and I will raise him up at the last day. 55 For my flesh is food indeed, and my blood is drink indeed. 56 He who eats my flesh and drinks my blood abides in me, and I in him. 57 As the living Father sent me, and I live because of the Father, so he who eats me will live because of me. 58 This is the bread which came down from heaven, not such as the fathers ate and died; he who eats this bread will live for ever.” 59 This he said in the synagogue, as he taught at Caper′na-um.
Jesus flat out says "This bread that I am talking about here is my flesh." So the disciples challenge Him saying "You mean this figuratively right?... RIGHT?
So Jesus responds repeating himself over and over in verses 53 through 58. How many times does Jesus need to say something for you to believe it? You will latch on to a singular verse that teaches something you agree with (or seems to) for dear life at the exclusion of literally any other verse on the topic, but something else is taught multiple times and you don't believe it? I am confused about how Protestants read the Bible. It does not seem to be in any kind of coherent exegesis.
You are allowed to get divorced and remarried... at all.
“Every one who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.
But Jesus said to them, “For your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment. 6 But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ 7 ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife,\)a\) 8 and the two shall become one.’\)b\) So they are no longer two but one.\)c\) 9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder.”
He said to them, “For your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for unchastity,\)c\) and marries another, commits adultery; and he who marries a divorced woman, commits adultery.”
A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. If the husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.
Marriage is "until death do us part." The teachings on divorce from the Gospels is trying to set a trap for Jesus to see which rabbinical school he agrees with. Jesus comes out and says. "Neither." He says "Yeah. Moses allowed for divorce. But this is not how it was from the beginning. What about that "except for unchastity" phrase in Matthew (and only Matthew)?
There Matthew is talking about unions that God did not join together. He is talking about invalid marriages that his primarily Jewish readers would have been thinking about. The gentile converts to Christianity would not have thought about these weird situations, so this is excluded from the other gospels.
You can get re-baptized
There is one body and one Spirit—just as you were called to the one hope that belongs to your call— one Lord, one faith, one baptism,
Some that want to say that you can get rebaptized jump to Acts 19. Reading this passage, it would seem that what is going on here is that the Baptism by John was not in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Paul is essentially saying that the "baptism" that they had received was not valid. He does not say that he "baptized them again into Christ." Rather it says that Paul "baptized them in the name Jesus Christ." As in they were not baptized into Christ, so Paul baptized them "for real this time."
You can only be cleansed from Original Sin once. After that, you can confess your sins and have them forgiven. Baptism is what makes into a child of God. That can only happen once. To do otherwise is a grave sin because you are saying that God was not powerful enough to save you the first time. Again, if a baptism is deemed to be invalid, this is a different story. This is why Paul asks "Into what were you baptized?"
The Church is simply the collection of believers
“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every word may be confirmed by the evidence of two or three witnesses. 17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. 18 Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.
Here it is clear that the "Church" is something more than a collection of believers. Jesus teaches here that first, you deal with disagreement 1 on 1. If that does not work, you go and get other believers to help show that they are wrong. If that does not work, then take to the Church. If even that does not work, they are to be treated as an unbeliever (excommunicated).
Certainly, all believers are a part of the Church - which is the body of Christ. The Church is not a parish or a singular building. The Church is universal, but there is a clear structure to it. There are priests, bishops, elders, etc. There is real authority in that structure. This article goes over in Scripture and towards the bottom the Church Fathers what the Church is meant to look like: https://www.scripturecatholic.com/the-biblical-church/
Many Protestant ideas sound nice, but I do not want to believe something merely because it sounds nice. Dessert for dinner sounds nice but it is not good for my body. Likewise, we should not judge something on "does it sound nice." We should judge something on whether it is good for our souls.
I look at many Protestant theological views and note how they seem to not be based in Scripture or based on a misunderstanding of Scripture. I would love to see if Protestants can properly answer these. Simply quoting verses that seem to back you up is not enough here. You need to show that these other verses are not problematic.
I do not only want to trust in Jesus, I want to trust that I am following everything that he taught. Jesus commanded the apostles to teach all that He has commanded, not just the important stuff. If you get the main stuff right but other things wrong, you still got it wrong. If a teacher gave a 10 question quiz and said, "You got questions 1, 2, 5, and 7 right, but everything else wrong. It is ok though those questions were the most important." I still get a failing grade. So, if you want me to convert to Protestantism you need to show that you actually follow all of Scripture, because I want to strive to get a 100% on the "test" of salvation. After all Jesus told us to "Be perfect as Your Heavenly Father is perfect" Not "Be kind of perfect as Your Heavenly Father is perfect."
2024.05.14 15:33 official_rx0rcist Almost 9 Months Out
You can see some of my earlier posts with my gallbladderless journey, but I wanted to give an update since so many who improve move on from these threads and leave these forums with a skewed view of recovery. It took me a good 6 months to start improving. I continued losing weight after surgery and the nausea prompted an MRCP to see if there were any lingering issues. I kept being told everything looked perfect and to give it time. I had a lot of anxiety and panic around food and getting sick. I’m still Covid conscious so I don’t do public outings often, but the one time I tried to eat out early into recovery I cried and had to go home. The mental impact of having a persistent or chronic illness was probably harder than the illness itself, but I forced myself into a routine. The only constants I had were my planned meals and my daily walks, both of which were life saving. I’ve eaten the same breakfast since early in recovery, Kodiak protein waffles and sliced apples. Lunch is usually whatever my 5 year old consumes; peanut butter sandwich or dino nuggets, white cheddar popcorn or baked lays. Snack used to be exclusively an apple cinnamon rice cake with dark chocolate hummus and cut up strawberries, but in the last 2 months or so I eat a Chobani flip (Boston cream is the best one, don’t fight me on this). Dinner 80% of the time is baked chicken breast, a vegetable (usually baby carrots), and, my lord and savior, Costco rice made in my zojirushi rice maker. This was an investment after my sibling made me rice in theirs days after surgery. I didn’t even think I liked rice for 3 decades until I had well prepared rice. I love it so much now sometimes I’ll eat it as a snack or my whole meal. After dinner I have walked every evening since surgery to aid digestion. It really brings the burps and toots out. A month or 2 after surgery my once a day poo turned into diarrhea so I started one heaping teaspoonful of sugar free psyllium husk after breakfast to firm up my poo (the timing is better for bile dumping symptoms for people without gallbladders). I believe this consistency is what helped me improve after my body stopped being in survival mode. I lost 40 pounds in just a few months before and immediately following surgery so it’s clear I needed time to adjust. I let go of the expectation of when I was supposed to feel better and trusted my body. Once a day walks turned into twice a day when I had the energy. My stamina is nowhere close to being at baseline as I’ve lost a lot of muscle tone, but I’m slowly working up to exercising more (walking IS exercise contrary to what some of these gym bros claim). I eat smaller, more frequent meals as opposed to heavy, dense ones. I experience low heart rate and low blood pressure episodes when I am stressed, eat too much sugar, or sometimes it’s random, so I watch my sugar intake (NEVER on an empty stomach), salt load when symptoms come on, and lay down if I can until it improves. I have struggled a lot with freezing at night, but that’s improved in the last month, probably because I’ve managed to gain a few pounds. I’m more liberal with my diet now, but I did so slowly and I don’t push myself. I still get anxiety about ordering out because I have a severe fear of throwing up from eating food prepared by somebody else + the risk of norovirus. I’ve recently been able to tolerate small amounts of heavier dairy like alfredo and ice cream. I eat a couple bites of red meat when served, but it’s infrequent (twice since surgery). Despite what I’m still dealing with I’m very glad I had surgery. I know I would’ve died if something didn’t change. Plus, my lab work is the best it’s been in my adult life. My triglycerides alone dropped by 55% in a year from eating clean. So if you’re reading this wondering if you’ve made a mistake, give it time. Advocate for yourself, but also give your body time to adjust. Some people take years to improve and I think my timeline will be about that to confidently say I’m completely better. Good luck to everyone!
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2024.05.14 14:24 CorrectNature8238 AITA for kicking my friend out of my book club?
I know this sounds childish, but I'm having a hard time figuring it out anyway. My friend Julie and I have been having problems in our friendship for a while. For background information: we've been friends since 2020 and at first it was a normal friendship, but then she became increasingly demanding and needy, and jealous of my other friendships. That was weird to me because we're both adults (late 20s) and her behavior screamed middle school to me. I tried talking to her about this and she seemed to understand and we moved on. Then she started being inappropriate to my other friends (for example, she started hitting on one of my best friend's sister in their house, knowing the sister was in a relationship) so I had to stop inviting her to do things with my friend group. I still would hang out with her, but when it was just us.
She would go out to have a meal with me and expect me to pay, sometimes saying she forgot her wallet, saying she would pay me back but never doing it. She would say she'd meet me at a certain time, only to arrive 2-3 hours later or sometimes she would not arrive at all. But at the same time she'd be angry when I spend time with my other friends or boyfriend.
The last straw was when she insisted I go with her to a costume party with this group of people I didn't know (she met them once before). The thing was, everyone had to pay a sort of fee and bring something to eat, so I payed it and said I would bring a cake. Julie said she'd help me baking the cake, but on the day of the event she texted me saying she had traveled to the countryside with her new boyfriend, and she couldn't help me with the cake nor go to the party. I am an introvert and she knows it, I'm not the type to go to parties where I know no one, but I decided to go because I had already payed for it. But after that, I decided to stop talking to Julie.
The thing is, I have a book club with a few friends and Julie was part of it since the beginning. We have a rule that says that if you do not participate in three meetings consecutively you're out (to make space for other people that want to participate). Julie had said she would come for the last three meetings, but never showed up, so I decided to kick her out of the club. She begged to stay, saying she was having mental health problems and that the book club was the one thing keeping her sane. I said I was sorry to hear that, but I didn't see how the book club was helping, seeing she never read the books or went to the meetings, and kicked her out anyway. But now I'm thinking I may have been to harsh, because if it were someone else, I probably would let them stay, but I just want to Julie to be completely out of my life and that was the last link between us. AITA?
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She would go out to have a meal with me and expect me to pay, sometimes saying she forgot her wallet, saying she would pay me back but never doing it. She would say she'd meet me at a certain time, only to arrive 2-3 hours later or sometimes she would not arrive at all. But at the same time she'd be angry when I spend time with my other friends or boyfriend.
The last straw was when she insisted I go with her to a costume party with this group of people I didn't know (she met them once before). The thing was, everyone had to pay a sort of fee and bring something to eat, so I payed it and said I would bring a cake. Julie said she'd help me baking the cake, but on the day of the event she texted me saying she had traveled to the countryside with her new boyfriend, and she couldn't help me with the cake nor go to the party. I am an introvert and she knows it, I'm not the type to go to parties where I know no one, but I decided to go because I had already payed for it. But after that, I decided to stop talking to Julie.
The thing is, I have a book club with a few friends and Julie was part of it since the beginning. We have a rule that says that if you do not participate in three meetings consecutively you're out (to make space for other people that want to participate). Julie had said she would come for the last three meetings, but never showed up, so I decided to kick her out of the club. She begged to stay, saying she was having mental health problems and that the book club was the one thing keeping her sane. I said I was sorry to hear that, but I didn't see how the book club was helping, seeing she never read the books or went to the meetings, and kicked her out anyway. But now I'm thinking I may have been to harsh, because if it were someone else, I probably would let them stay, but I just want to Julie to be completely out of my life and that was the last link between us. AITA?
2024.05.14 14:16 McBeer89 Fallput 76 is waaay better than it used to be.
I'm rather enjoying how it's turned around. Built a house on a bridge. Been exploring and rather enjoying it. I like that food spoils, keeps me on my toes with inventory management. Fuck microtransactions but they seem mostly cosmetic and can be unlocked for free by just playing the game.
Only thing that's fucked is no survival tent kind thing is purchasable outside of the subscription. Which don't get me wrong I grew up in the age of EQ1, I'm not opposed to paying a subscription for a game but the tent shouldn't be locked behind it. Scrap box, sure, that thing is kind of OP for this games mechanics, but only if you've heen playing a loooong time. Plus side though the subscription is absolutely not necessary.
I gotta say, though, coming from FO4 survival mode, this game is a cake walk. Is there any way to bump the difficulty? I'm having fun, but I think the only time I was sweating was fighting a couple of young Yao Guai. I'm lvl 17, safe to say that 76 gets harder?
That aside, I do like the mix of survival and casual they seemed to have found.
Edit: lmao ofc a rare neighborhood internet outage has shown me 76's Achilles heel. I'm playing fo4 again in the meantime.
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Only thing that's fucked is no survival tent kind thing is purchasable outside of the subscription. Which don't get me wrong I grew up in the age of EQ1, I'm not opposed to paying a subscription for a game but the tent shouldn't be locked behind it. Scrap box, sure, that thing is kind of OP for this games mechanics, but only if you've heen playing a loooong time. Plus side though the subscription is absolutely not necessary.
I gotta say, though, coming from FO4 survival mode, this game is a cake walk. Is there any way to bump the difficulty? I'm having fun, but I think the only time I was sweating was fighting a couple of young Yao Guai. I'm lvl 17, safe to say that 76 gets harder?
That aside, I do like the mix of survival and casual they seemed to have found.
Edit: lmao ofc a rare neighborhood internet outage has shown me 76's Achilles heel. I'm playing fo4 again in the meantime.
2024.05.14 14:13 SekaiIchiapple How to create smaller (half sized) cakes
Hi all! My partner and I both work from home, and I love to bake but we can’t eat a whole cake by ourselves. I love the idea of making a mini round by halving cake recipes. What is the math on this? Let’s say I wanted to make a 2 layer coconut cake which calls for using two 8” cake pans. Would I half the recipe and use 4” cake pans? For some reason I feel like that would be too small?
If I am right, and I should be buying 4” rounds, what is the most common size of pans for cakes? I feel I always see recipes asking for 9” or 8”. If I’m planning on making a lot of “half cakes” what size should I get to be able to make the most recipes?
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If I am right, and I should be buying 4” rounds, what is the most common size of pans for cakes? I feel I always see recipes asking for 9” or 8”. If I’m planning on making a lot of “half cakes” what size should I get to be able to make the most recipes?