Texting dirty to your girlfriend

For 16 years my mil an oldest sil have been awful, after dealing with it for so long I developed ptsd from their treatment. I been NC since April and it is absolutely wonderful, I juss wanna talk about some of the things they've done.
After the birth of my first daughter mil an fil were telling bf to not sign the birth certificate, and the nurses were giving me such a hard time for him to sign the paperwork. So when he came to the hospital after work I told him they wanted him to sign the papers he was refusing to go get them from the desk an I just had a c section, so I got mad and walked down there and got the stuff from them an took it back to him he did sign but mil an fil were not happy... it has always been difficult with husband until recently believing me about how awful his mother is to me he didn't wanna deal with any of it an basically wanted me to take their torture which the end result was my mental health, makes me really upset cuz I could of been smarter and just left an maybe today I would be able to go into a large crowd of people without feeling scared an panicking. I can barely go into stores now. But anyway....
Bf was giving me money to help buy baby stuff it was 100 every week, he was also giving mil 400 a week. Mil an sil cornered me and threw a fit about he was giving me to much money. Which i find funny bc he was literally giving her a lot of money, I was also on government assistance for like 3 months an she said bf was entitled to half of that money.
Mil put her electric in bfs name (he still lived there) she let the bill go up to over 2000 dollars and didn't pay it off till he gave her problems cuz they were sayin his wages were gonna be attached, we had juss gotten our first apartment when they threatened to attach his wages. She lied to him about paying it she did some but not all and he still gets letters about that bill.
During the first couple weeks at our new apartment mil would bring a plate of food for just bf an would give me dirty looks while he was eating it 🤣
Now it gets interesting...
Fast forward to our second child mil stated to both of us the baby wasn't his but was my brother's 🙄 that was the first time she did anything Infront of him an he threw a fit after that its all been backhanded she'd do shit when he wasn't in the room.
I had gotten a tattoo on the side of my neck just a lil star and she said only trashy people do that, but it was ok sil got 2 on both sides of her neck.
Mil sil and sils friend came to our wedding in pajamas it was at the courthouse but everyone was dressed up
Mil took both bottom tiers of my wedding cake my friend made for me and my mom had to fight her for the top of it. She had also stole my first babyshower cake I didn't even get a piece
Sometimes on the weekends we would drink beers an have people over, sometimes sil would come over and few times she'd bring her friend and their mutual friend would come now I knew right away they did this on purpose and it was absolutely intentional they had this girl flirt with husband I over heard this girl say something about how her crotch would get so wet and I went off it caused a big fight and when I told that girl we were married she acted shocked an left immediately never saw her again.
Mil brought me pants of this really really big lady we all knew and said these should fit u
This one is the beginning of the end my father passed away and a month after was my youngest bday husband was outside cookin on the grill and mil and fil came in an mil starting making jokes about funerals even fil told her thats fked up. My mom went home later in tears. A few months later after that we learned fil had the same cancer my dad passed of.
Youngest sil overdosed 2 years ago and is bedridden now and mil takes care of her and her 3 kids 2 months before that happened we were all sitting at my kitchen table and mil told everyone idc what kind of drugs you do just don't get caught with them... I thought wow this is insane shit.
In February of this year I had gotten a fb message from someone idk and they were sayin all these things that would definitely make me break up with husband, in the messages they had given their self away sayin only things mil would of known. There was a huge argument and mil ended up writing husband f you and your family. Then all of a sudden sils friend gets a job at husband's shop an works with him... husband an I sat down and were talkin about how that whole thing was a big plan to get us to break up and sils friend to weasel her way into husband's life.
There has been so much more but those r the things that stay vividly in my mind. After the whole fb thing I was done an the last time mil popped up at our home an i had a panic attack she was told to not come here anymore of course she knows nothing and has done nothing wrong 🙄 an is currently telling people she doesn't know what's going on... she has to tell people that so she doesn't look like the bad guy cuz she has talked so much trash about me to everyone that they would know. She even sent her nephew to tell husband to call his mom 🙄 he never did... he texted her happy mother's day and she said to tell me the same from her I'm at the point I don't want to hear from her, don't wanna hear her name, I wanna forget what she looks like.
I forgot to mention they were all on m3th an that just amplified their stupidness which is probably why they thought that fb idea was the plan to finally get husband an I apart 😆 oldest sil is really bad on that stuff now an her life is Fallin apart everyone says she is goin down the same path as youngest sil but all they do is watch and talk about it.
If you made it thus far thanks for reading ❤️

Hey guys, im 19. I just wanted to ask if I did the right thing. (Small backstory) a year ago I was 300+ lbs and somehow found the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen. I fell so deeply in love with her but since I was such a loser and she was my first girlfriend I just didn’t know what to do. I didn’t have a car or we didn’t have a place to just chill at together. So it was rough. This relationship lasted a week before she obviously got tired of that. She left and never texted me again. I also was the one who initiated the breakup. For some reason, I think about her everyday. I lost 150 pounds in a year and I’ve changed my entire life after her. Today i decided to let my feelings talk and I wrote an apology to her via instagram DMs and I can’t unsend it or anything. I just want to know if I did the right thing here? I been growing my relationship with god and others things and I heard that forgiveness just makes your life better. So that’s what I was looking for. I just want enjoy my life now. I don’t want bad blood between anyone. But now I feel stupid for apologizing to her because the last text she texted me was saying how she didn’t find me attractive anyone (a year ago). I know this is probably an off post, I don’t blame anyone who don’t reply to this. I’m just looking for some advice. I hope that I did the right thing. I feel like she deserves an apology. So that’s what I did.

Thank you for this universe!
And many thanks to for being a full co-writer on this project!
Kaeden and Vichee belongs to and I thank them so much for working with us! It was an honor!
Sven belongs to Bjorn the Copper Paladin from Discord. I hope to do more with them in the future, and have tons of fun!
And don’t you worry about that final in the title! We have some news at the end!
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{The average person knows as much about his friends as they do about Mike Collins.}
<...Who?>
{Exactly. 20th century human spaceman, was there for their first lunar landing. Didn’t get to put boots on the ground, and nobody remembers his name now.}

{Hell, I didn’t even know about him until I put in a search query of niche historical figures just to give you an example. Yeesh…}

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Archived Closed Circuit Security Video - Establishment: Exterminator’s Office - Dawn Creek Division - Subbasement - Date Recorded (ST): OCT 31, 2136 - Timeframe (ST): 11:42 - 11:45
The parking bay is silent. Vans are parked neatly in their spots which frame the hallway to the armory and fuel storage for the camera. A ding is heard and something moves in the hallway. Five fully suited Venlil and a Zurulian step out of an elevator and run towards a van. The sound of a door slamming open comes from the hall roughly 6 seconds later. A stream of Exterminators pour out into the hall from the stairwell.
Their voices are indecipherable as they speak over each other. A Sulian runs into the armory and reappears with a huge flamer tank on their back. Another Zurulian can be seen with an extinguisher tank, but a Venlil bleats at them and tosses it aside. They drag the quadrupedal alien quickly into the parking garage before physically throwing them into the back of a van.
From the back of the hallway, a fluid can be seen spreading across the ground. A trio of Venlil back out of a room while holding their flamers up. They are unlit, instead spewing fuel out of their nozzles. The trio twirl around in an overly animated manner as they walk down the hall to the parking garage. A van pulls out of its spot with windows down so the passengers could let out a cheer.
A black-suited Venlil runs up to the spraying trio while waving their arms to get them out into the garage. The microphone just barely manages to catch him saying, “We need to save some for the predators!” One of the other Venlil replies, “Yes sir, Mafchi!” A short flurry of curses is heard as the gathered exterminators pile into the three other visible vans. Two of the vans speed out of the garage, forcing some other Venlil exterminators to dive out of the way in the process.
The black-suited Mafchi picks up a fuel canister that had been dropped and twists off its cap. He slings it under his shoulder and pours a line of fuel. He marches straight to the final van and hops up into the open rear. The van backs itself up to turn out of the garage. The fuel canister clatters to the ground as it pulls away. Before it clears the view of the camera, the Black-suited Venlil is seen standing in its open back. He is holding what appears to be a flare gun.
The flare sails through the air shortly after the van leaves the frame and impacts the ground. It bounces and rolls until it touches the fuel and ignites it in an instant. A small wall of fire proceeds down the provided trail into the hallway, igniting more fuel as time passes. The hallway is quickly engulfed in vividly red fire. Thick black smoke begins to pour out into the garage as the fire inches closer to the primary fuel tank.
Movement can be seen in the hallway between the flickering flames. The silver form of a Venlil Exterminator is seen rushing out of the stairwell and fighting to head towards the fuel storage room. Before they reach, a white flash fills the screen. The feed goes dead, the error code consistent with electrical interruption.
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{Who was what? Mafchi?}

{Hmmm, there aren’t any tags embedded for them. The suits do a rather good job at making the officers anonymous. Let me see…oh.}

{The, uh… the employment records for that Office were…terminated.}

{It looks like…yes, here. Record wipe in 2497. Media with less than 1 bistandannual visit were removed to save space on the university’s central server. It’s…they’re gone, gone gone.}

{Maybe, but that’ll do us no good if we don’t know their name. And because of the chaos of that incident, nobody has been able to accurately reconstruct where every individual was in that office. We’d have to already know who they were to find them.}
<...I guess that’s another person I’ll have to remember then, huh?>
{...Guess so. Speaking of remembering, perhaps you should check out Tarlim’s view again? Seeing how we were just talking about him.}
<...Sure. At least people remember his name, right?>
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Memory Transcription Subject: Tarlim, the Venbig. Date [Standardized Human Time] October 31st, 2136
No matter how much Sven and Anso griped about it, having them leave and return with the trailer was a great idea. The humans who had gone with them the first time were, to my dismay, excited to try and ride in the back. I had at least been able to impress on those four that I couldn’t let anyone else ride like that, and that they were to help with rigging a trailer with some seats.
I had to admit; they did a good job!
Several couches sat bolted to the floor of the covered trailer and even had some ropes that could be hooked across the armrests as impromptu belts. It wasn’t perfect by any means, but it would work as well as any bus or short train ride! Certainly superior to jumping in the bed of a truck.
I strode out into the parking road and swayed my ears to greet Anso. Sven had stayed behind here to meet with the humans and entertain the kids, a job which he was slightly less unenthusiastic about compared to last time. “Greetings, Anso! Have you made the necessary preparations for the humans to leave with you?”
The Yotul hopped out of the truck bed and bounced to me. “We have! I have to say those humans were great workers to have helped get this whipped up so quickly! I hope Sven has been behaving himself?”
I let my tail wag behind me remembering my last glimpse of him. He should really secure his sheath straps! “He has! Been entertaining the refugees while I made sure they all had their belongings ready to go. Come on inside, let’s go gather them.”
I guided him with a wave of my arm as we turned back to the door. To be truthful, I hadn’t expected Sven to win the humans over as quickly as he did. Needless to say, his primitive attire seemed to spark joy within them, a joy sorely needed amidst the sadness of recency.
As we entered the building I noticed something, or rather, the lack of something. When I had exited only a few [minutes] prior, the building had been full of life and noise. Now, it was almost dead quiet, save for the sounds of a holovision coming from the lobby. Rather heated sounds, at that.
“I didn’t think it was already main rest claw,” Anso mused as he, too, recognized the aggravated voices coming from the lobby. “And what are they watching in there? Sounds…angry.”
“Yeah…” I trailed off as I followed the noises. As I approached the lobby, the sound of what I assumed was a Gojid yelling. “You know nothing about my family. TALK, JUST FUCKING TALK, NOW!” My ears pinned back at the foul language at play, hoping that Sven and the children were somewhere else.
As I entered the room, I saw that I was only half right. The children were thankfully nowhere to be found, but Sven was obviously present, as was most of the facility staff. I was about to ask what was going on before another voice drew my attention to the holovision, the same as everyone else. The voice of none other than Chief Nikonus.
“There were three of us who laid out the groundwork for the Federation. When Kolshian explorers came in contact with the Farsul, more than a thousand years ago, the galaxy was young. We were the first in this sector to escape our gravity well. You know about the founding of this institution, but I reiterate it just in case.”
“The Krakotl were the third,” another voice piped up from behind the camera. I thought it might’ve been another Gojid, but the voice was far too breathy. Harchen, maybe? I wasn’t given a chance to consider it further as Nikonus continued. “Yes, they were a problem from the start; aggressive, disagreeable. We tried to identify the problem, and why they were so ill-equipped for spacefaring.”
“We learned they were scavengers, who would occasionally go for fish as well.”
His next line was rendered inaudible by the shocked gasps of both the refugees and residents in the room. I was no different, drawing in a sharp breath at the abrupt admission. I remembered that Arvi had said some aliens were revealed to have eaten meat in the past, but was this the way it was decided to be revealed? With such abject callousness?
Nikonus continued to speak, looking not just proud, but smug with his words. He went on about how the Federation had saved these aliens with their manipulations, but the entirety of his body language seemed to indicate he reveled in how devastating this information would be to the people he was speaking to. How they manipulated an entire culture, a RELIGION!
What if they did the same to ours?
That horrifying thought struck through my mind like a derailing train. I had relied upon the Tenets in some of my darkest moments. Found comfort in them when there was none elsewhere to be found. To have such a comfort revealed as a lie in its entirety, used only for some other group to control you…
The voice of Nikonus hit my ears again. “Oh Sovlin, I already told you. For the small minority of species who don’t find herbivory alone, we teach them the right way. Doesn’t the religion against predators sound familiar?”
The Kolshian was insufferably proud of those words. There was no doubt in my mind now; this was mocking. Mocking a Gojid for following The Protector. For being a predator. For being different, but expecting to still be treated as a person. The Gojid were predators, they couldn’t help it, and they were already being mocked for it.
What might happen to all the other species?
I shifted my focus away from the screen to the crowd, searching for one in particular. Vichee, a Krakotl already so different from everyone else, and now my concerns for them were multiplied with every word that fell from Nikonus’ mouth. Were they okay? They had come in here to see Sven, I had seen them. Where are-
I spotted Kaeden in the corner of the room. Next to him, slumped against the wall, was Vichee. The dual colored Krakotl’s eyes were glazed over as they stared at nothing. I strode over quickly, my instincts wanting to comfort them. Kaeden was simply standing there, it was confusing that he didn’t seem to be comforting Vichee at all. As I got closer, their head tilted up to me, regarding me with an unfocused eye.
“He was right.” They said quietly. My implant almost didn’t pick it up over the sounds of the lobby. “Kaeden had asked me soon after our first meeting if Krakotl had once been meat eaters. Said it was the shape of our beaks. ‘More suited to capturing small wriggling prey than filtering algae’. He told me. I nearly flew away right then… If I had, I would have been alone with this news.”I listened, kneeling down to be closer to their level. “You’re not alone, your herd is here. Right Kaeden?”
He looked over at me and nodded. “Vichee was there with me when Earth was attacked. I’m here for them now. Kaabra and Venik are… together, elsewhere at the moment. But they will be here too.”
I flicked my ears in understanding. “Then I hope they may help in hugging Vichee until their tears are dry.” I turned an eye to Vichee. “Please, I just want you to know that you are still you. What your body does has no effect on your personhood.”
Vichee still sat, their mind still likely whirling with the new information. They lifted their differently colored wings. “I’m well aware. This lesson I already learned. But thank you, I understand what you mean.” Kaeden nodded slowly and Vichee returned to their thoughts.
“There’s going to be trouble soon, Tarlim,” Kaeden stated gravely. “News like this? Nothing good will come of it. I can already tell this won’t go over well. Keep your eyes open.”
As if in response to his words, the sound of clanking metal hits my ears. They shoot up, pivoting to locate its source. There, dashing towards the door, was the armored figure of Sven. I didn’t know him enough to know how this broadcast would affect him, but running was never the best sign. I flicked my ears goodbye to my friends and rose, following after the metal man. In my periphery, I saw the television screen had shifted to show Rolem moving onto the stage. I would have to miss whatever it was he had to say, so ducked through the doors and continued to follow the sound of metal.
As I exited, I saw that I wasn’t the only one to see Sven’s actions. Anso was bounding behind him, shouting something I couldn’t hear. Sven didn’t seem to either as he kept running, but his gait wasn’t one of fear. He looked purposeful, sprinting in a straight line. A line pointed right towards-
Towards the observing Exterminator Van.
The metal Venlil didn’t even hesitate at the presence of the fence. He leapt up in a display of strength and agility, vaulting over the barrier and continuing his beeline into the van. It was like phased through the doors with how fast he moved. There were sounds of commotion that followed his entry, and soon two Exterminators fell out of the van. One Venlil…and one Krakotl. I wonder how Kalek is taking things.
I, too, cleared the fence with only a high step and reached the van, peering in to see Sven at the controls. “Sven! What are you doing?” I asked, the Krakotl officer shivering on the ground in my periphery.
“They got my girl!” He huffed, “She’s a Gojid, they got her, I can’t let them do anything worse to her!” He tried to activate the vehicle to no avail, but his words brought up something that I hadn’t thought much over. I remember hearing about temporary emplacements that were being set up. Paly had texted me about exterminators bringing people there. Her too. And that would mean-
-THOOOOOOOMMMMM-
The wind hit me like a truck and rocked the van I was standing next to. Sven even stopped trying to fiddle with the controls to see what had just happened. In the distance, near the center of town, an enormous black cloud rose into the air, the vestiges of fire still burning in the suspended embers. I couldn’t look away from it as my mind raced with horrible possibilities as my mind tripped over itself trying to concoct a plan of action.
I wasn’t given long to think before the radio in the van crackled to life, startling both Sven and myself. “Attention all True Exterminators! The truth has come out about the taint in our midst! For too long we have lived with its danger in our presence! If any of you still hold the safety of The Herd in your hearts, come join us so we may burn ALL the predator taint from this District! Rendezvous at Vulen’s apartment complex, we shall start our cleansing there!”
The name of one of my landlords sparked familiarity in my mind. They had been working to build a series of new apartments to add to his old, and if I remembered, had agreed to house the Gojid refugees. The Gojid! Paly was housed with them!!
In an instant, I reached into the van and grabbed Sven by the arm. He tried to pull away, but my grip was too strong. “Sven! They’re gonna kill the Gojid! They’re gonna burn Paly!”
He finally managed to shake himself free as my paws became jittery from stress. “I gotta save my girlfriend! She’s in a facility! I gotta save her!”
“But they’re gonna burn people here!” I protested, “we have to do something! We need- We need People who can fight them! Kaeden! I need to get Kaeden! We can save them!”
I pulled myself away from the van and spotted Anso nearby. He must have had to go through the gate, but this was good timing. I pointed a claw at him. “Do Not Let Him drive off before I get back!”
I didn’t give him, nor the Exterminators who had recovered from their shock, time to ask questions. Paly was in danger, as were who knew how many others. I faintly heard my data pad chime from within my shoulder bag, the signal my heart was beating too fast, but I couldn’t deal with it right now. I could get the heart rate under control during the drive. Right now I needed Kaeden, he knew how to fight! How to save people when others were trying to kill them!
My paws guided me and I was back in the cafeteria before I knew it. Some of the crowd had dissipated, but Kaeden and Vichee were still in the same corner I had left them in, but with their Venlil friends now joined. Without leaving time for protest, I grabbed Kaeden’s arm and pulled him away. I heard Vichee squawk behind me, but I was in too much of a hurry. I can’t let her get hurt. I Won’t.
Kaeden started to slap my arm as I dragged the soldier across the lobby. “Tarlim! What the fuck are you doing?? What’s going on?”
“No time, they’re going to burn everyone,” I breathlessly said as I burst the facility doors open to get him to the van.
“What? Who?” Kaeden questioned, still resisting my pull. I could hear a tinge of worry in his voice, and I knew he would understand. Anso looked back from his position as he heard my approach, and upon seeing me dragging Kaeden along, he grew visibly concerned.
“On the radio, something about True Exterminators,” I attempted to explain to him as we neared the gate doors. This time, I simply spread them apart with my free paw, metal screeching against itself as the gate was forced open. “They’re going to burn every cured species they can find, and That Means Paly. I Won’t Let Them.”
Kaeden had stopped struggling as I explained the bare essentials to him, and once we approached the van, he finally had enough sense to ask the right questions. “So what exactly is the plan to stop them? We’re strong, sure, I could probably take most of them. But just two of us against a wall of those flamers?”
“Not two,” I corrected, letting go of his arm and throwing open the back doors of the van. Still seated in the drivers side was Sven, who looked back once he heard me permit entrance into the back. “We have him too.”
“Wh- the LARPer??” Kaeden asked incredulously. I wasn’t familiar with the term he used, but his tone told us all we needed to know. Sven’s eyes narrowed at the perceived insult, but Kaeden continued. “Do either of you have any formal military training?? Rushing down there is only going to get you both killed along with the others! For fucks sake, slow down! We need a plan!”
“T-There won’t be t-time f-for one,” a voice peeped in from behind us. We all turned to face the source, and we found it was the Venlil Exterminator. They recoiled under the sudden gaze of our entire party, but they managed to continue. “I-I recognized the v-voice. It w-was one of the n-new recruits. They m-might as well be Y-Yulpa. If you w-want to stop them, it’s now or n-never.”
We all stared at them for a moment in disbelief that they’d willingly hand over that information to us. They were Exterminators, weren’t they? They should be allied with the voice on the radio! Kaeden, after considering the information, gave voice to my confusion. “And why are you telling us this? You’re an exterminator, shouldn’t you be trying to help them?”
“M-My husband is the Krakotl that was in the van with me!” They yelled back, stamping their footpaw on the ground in agitation. “I-I don’t care what his ancestors did a t-thousand years ago, I will not stand for those zealots burning who knows how many people! We’re not all the same, h-human!”
I was taken aback by their words. I had given up hope that there were any redeemable souls amongst the ranks of those silver-suited brahkasses, but living proof of the contrary stood before us. Their breathing was only matched by mine as my pad continued to chime in my pack. Maybe there’s hope after all.
Kaeden started frantically looking all around, his focused gaze falling on the facility, the exterminator in front of us, and the rising smoke in the distance. After a moment's hesitation, he growled to himself and shook his head. “Fine! Fucking- if you want to prove you’re different, you and your partner stand guard at the gate! They’ll probably try to send a division here, so keep on guard! And for the love of God, go ask for help if that happens!”
My tail wagged behind me as I interpreted what that meant. “So you’ll help us, Kaeden?”
He paused for a second, an agonizing second as he fully took in the situation in his mind. But ultimately, he nodded. “Let’s go, we can figure things out along the way.”
Seizing the moment, Anso quickly jumped into the van and pushed Sven out of the driver's seat, much to their visible frustration. Kaeden quickly hopped into the passenger seat, leaving me with the problem of finding a space that would fit me. I stepped over to the back of the van and threw the doors open.
The flamers and their fuel tanks were useless to us, easy to toss all three sets out onto the ground behind me. I made sure that the flamers were disabled first, of course. Just had to snap the pilot lighters and slice a hose with my claw. Even if these two said they weren’t like these “True Exterminators” I didn’t trust them one bit. I crawled inside the cramped vehicle and wiggled myself to close the doors behind me.
As I got myself settled, I watched as the Venlil Exterminator started to inspect the destroyed remains of their weapons. I squinted a glare at them and positioned myself so they couldn’t enter with me. “You two aren’t coming,” I hissed. “You know why you’re not. Try anything with the humans, and they will stop you.”
I slammed the doors shut as their expressions fell, just in time for Anso to get the van into gear. I curled myself up against the wall of the van, watching out the back window as we sped down the road. We were on our way now. On our way to save Paly and all the people gathered because their ancestors ate meat. My heart hammered in my chest, but I would need to control it for what we were about to do. I needed to focus. I needed to breathe. I needed to be calm.
Focus. Breathe. Calm
Focus.
Breathe.
Calm…
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Memory Transcription Subject: Sol-Vah, Fleeing Predator. Date [Standardized Human Time] October 31st, 2136
My legs couldn’t carry me anymore. I had to keep going, but I didn’t have the strength. My pants became wheezes as my body struggled to keep up with the physical exertion of running almost halfway through town. I hadn’t even looked up before now, at least with eyes not blinded by tears. The pain of Mute’s rejection still stung in my soul, a pain so visceral it threatened to rip me apart worse than any Arxur. Protector, what did I do to deserve this? Is there even a Protector, or did the Federation just- just make that up?
I didn’t have time to think about that now, I needed to get to the office. From what little I caught of the broadcast, Nikonus had said they saved us before. I knew what it likely was, but…I was desperate. I just wanted to go back home and have him embrace me like he did before. The safety and love I had felt from him was still fresh in my mind, and if there was any chance I had to get it back?
I’ll happily take it.
As I approached the office, however, something seemed off. I could smell soot in the air, but not the kind of soot that came from our flamers. This was- was…dirtier smelling, as if the fuel had been impure. Upon looking up, however, I saw something that made my stomach drop. A huge plume of smoke, billowing up into the sky. It shadowed the sun itself with its immensity and hate. Did the Exterminators burn more drugs? Or…or…
I felt a renewed vigor as I started to run towards the plume, hoping against hope that I was wrong. As soon as I turned the corner, though, my worst fears were realized. Where the office once stood now sat a burning stack of glorified rubble, every single window in sight shattered and multiple holes in the outer walls. The building was split, it was as if a giant knife had come down and sloppily sliced off its front half to spill flaming debris everywhere.
I stood in front of the building I had once called my home, surrounded by screams and the awful sound of flames roaring. I knew now there was no hope of salvation, no way this could ever be undone. I would never be able to go back to the way things were, never feel the happiness I had for that brief time. I was doomed to this life, abandoned by my love, and forced to live as an abomination devoid of a home.
I suppose that’s all a predator like me deserves.
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I am falling apart tonight. My girlfriend and I have been living together for almost two years now and it’s been an adjustment. We both have kids from previous relationships and I know blended families are hard. We had four in home till our oldest (her bio) moved out to his own space this year. It’s always been just the two of them and I love her son to pieces. We have had some struggles over the years with our family dynamics and her having different rules for our oldest then for our other three.
We were out driving tonight after the gym we have had a few fights the last few months (mainly over behavior and the rules being different and me feeling like there has been some selfish behavior in her connected to her trauma from her ex) I was feeling rather squishy and I looked at her and said “i m all in, I want you, nothing but you, I want to be your wife and spend our lives together. “ she said “baby I want that to I love You so much and I can’t wait for our lives together” I looked at her and responded with “your going to treat me good and we will love each other and work on things” her response was “ well yeah as long as we don’t have to spend the rest of our lives raising kids and end up having a failure to launch because I’m really worried about it honestly that they will never leave home” our kids are 18(her bio) ( my bio ) 17,15 and 12 she knew going into this that I had three kids. She was the one who asked them if she could be thie parent. That comment hit me like a ton of bricks. Like the way she treated me was dependent on if my kids leave home. It’s been weighing on me all night and it’s all I can think of. I’m sitting here crying because I texted her after she fell asleep saying that I think my three and I need to maybe find a rental close by. That I love her more than anything but I see her struggling and her comments are weighing on my heart. I can’t think of a solution to end the ongoing struggle besides having our separate spaces and just sleeping over and having time together when we can. It’s breaking my heart I haven’t ever loved anyone the way I have her and I thought our family was going to be able to make it through the hard. I just feel so lost right now. I don’t even know what I’m looking for I just needed to be able to put my thoughts down somewhere.

Context: Me and her have been friends since freshman year of highschool. We started to become a thing around august of 2023 around when sophomore year of college started. and started dating around November of 2023 doing long distance. She’s one my exs good friends and they have a decently close relationship. My ex and I broke up over 2 years ago when we were in highschool and now we are entering our junior year of college this fall. Long distance hasn’t been bad at all. We both text a lot and both have good trust in one another. Overall solid relationship besides the occasional argument or disagreement.
For a couple months now I’ve been asking her every now and then when she’s planning to tell my ex girlfriend and when I can tell my friends that we are dating. I don’t want to have to keep on hiding it from all of them. Every time her reasoning for not telling her is that she’s scared that she’s gonna lose her friendship with her. I’ve assured her that if my ex stopped being friends with her, then she truly isn’t your friend. She’s also a very anxious person and has issues dealing with problems. I have zero issues with me telling my ex-girlfriend myself and she insists that I don’t do that which is understandable. She comes back next week for the summer and I’m planning on having a conversation with her about it at some point. I have also expressed to her that if we wanna continue dating that she needs to talk to her about it soon. I’m very worried that shes gonna keep putting off talking to her and that we are gonna have to breakup because she’s too worried she could lose her friendship. I really like her and I’m not sure what to do. I’m trying to figure out what my options are because everything about the relationship is completely healthy but this is the one part that really hurts.
Any advice on what I should say to her and what would be best in this kind of situation?
Sorry if this was written poorly. I’m not the best writer.

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i made a "don't do list" because I can't seem to keep a girl or get past the talking stage and date seriously.
I made this list based on my conversation with the latest girl who's told me she's felt "overwhelmed" and had a change of heart about us,
even though we had a very passionate and open couple of months with each other.
This has happened before with a few other girls in recent years.
Thankfully this one was willing enough to hop on FaceTime to help me understand where she was coming from.
Physically financially and mentally/emotionally I am in a good place. 25yrs old. So this is SO confusing.
I am asking for help.
Is the below accurate to keep a girl interested for the long run?
Or am I just unluckily getting used for my body and good vibe?
Overwhelmed (Don't List):
Don't text a lot
Don't Stay over too many nights, even if she invites you
Don’t help her with her bad habits - even if she says she wants to stop them
Don't be there when she's packing
Going out don't make her feel like she's with her boyfriend
Don't make her feel like she's losing freedom to flirt
If your Actions are what you'd do with a girlfriend you're fxcked
Don't bring flowers or gifts
Don’t give too much effort or support
Don’t get groceries
Don’t talk to her parents
Don’t talk to her friends
Don’t call her romantic names
Don’t support her career
Don’t support her colleagues careers
Don’t let her compliments change your behavior
—
Thoughts ideas questions? Plz where am i going wrong

So a couple of days this happened and I shared it on one of my private women’s groups. And the ladies asked to share it with more people. So here goes.
I was flying home from one event. I was given a seat in second row of the plane and as I sat in that place I got this weird feeling as if the universe put me in that particular place for some reason. At first I thought maybe I will get a reward of being alone in the row of seats so I can sleep more comfortably, but as the last people came in someone sat next to me and I realised I was wrong.
A man with his wife or girlfriend came up to the first row and asked the female flight attendant if they could use the WC before liftoff. The flight attendant said it would be fine, but they would have to wait until all other passangers have boarded. As they were waiting for the WC, they realized that the places in first row are free and so they asked, if they could use them (because, as I understood, they wanted to sit together, but they got separate places). The flight attendant responded that these seats are 20 euro more expensive and they decided to buy them. As I was listening in on the conversation, it was obvious from the way he spoke, that this man was an intelligent and respectful person.
When he sat in this place, he peaked into the pilot’s cabin and said loudly and with a surprise in his voice to the female flight attendant “will the pilot be a woman today?” (I expected him to praise her, but the next sentence rapidly changed my perception of this man…) “Is this even safe?” I was shocked. I saw the flight attendant made herself smaller and said “she is a very experienced pilot”. Then he asked “Very experienced? How old is she? She looks really young… Or maybe she’s like 40?” Now at this point I wanted to scream. But what actually came out of me was a snicker with a headshake. The man that sat next to me asked what this other guy said that made me react this way, I explained and saw a supporting look in his eyes.
After the conversation between the guy and flight attendant ended, I observed her as she had to do the security dance that they always do before the flight. As I have quite an extensive flying experience, I don’t usually take time to watch this safety instruction, but this time I was observing very attentively. Her body was doing the moves and on her face you could very clearly see pain: the type of pain that you have when you want to cry, but you can’t allow yourself to do it.
When the plane lifted, I fell asleep. I woke up an hour later and I received this clear message that I had to pass on to the pilot. At this moment I was extremely happy I bought a pen as I was thinking I would write some song lyrics, while waiting for the plane – I didn’t write much, but now I knew why I needed that pen. I found a small part of the paper that was not full of random lyrics of mine and prepared it for the message. I was very worried to make a mistake on the only small piece of paper I had, so I practiced what I wanted to write next to my lyrics before I actually wrote it out on the page, so this is why I still have the actual text I wrote.
“Hi,
I wanted to express, how sorry I am that you have to experience ignorant comments from m*sog*nist men for choosing to be a pilot.
I believe by following your passion you uplift & inspire women & especially girls that get to experience flying with you.
Some weak male egos get threatened by this, but this is a very needed process for the change that is occurring in the collective in finding more balance after a long history of patriarchy.
On behalf of all the little girls of this world
Thank you.”
As the crew started preparing for landing, I stopped the flight attendant that I saw was really affected by that situation, gave her the piece of paper and I said „This is not trash. This is a message for you and for the pilot. Read it first and if you feel like it, share it with her too.“ The flight attendant thanked me and then read the message. She looked at me with a very warm smile and said she will definitely give it to the pilot. She then pulled back the little curtain they have in their area and invited two other female flight attendants that were on the flight for a chat. I saw them reading the paper, then I saw her pointing to the guy (presumably explaining the context for my message). All three of them then looked at me and smiled warmly.
But then I started having thoughts that I should say something to this guy as well. And the first thoughts that I had weren‘t very nice. Then I heard my teacher‘s voice in my head saying „Now is your chance to turn your poisons into pearls“ and I realised that I do want to draw a boundary, but with love.
When the plane landed, I quickly grabbed my stuff and as I was waiting for the door to open, I was observing this guy collect his stuff. When he finished and stood up to wait, I gathered all my courage (I literally felt my feet physically tremble how afraid I actually was) and I told him:
„I would like to tell you something, because I feel you now have a chance to learn and to grow.
For this lady to pilot this plane, in her studies and work she had to show a degree of excellence that was way above most of her male peers. And this is because of such ignorant viewpoints like yours of some male teachers and colleagues that she must have had in her life. I truly hope that if you ever have a daughter you will not make her feel smaller the way you tried to make the pilot of our plane feel today.“
He said „you probably did not hear the end of our conversation. In the end I told the flight attendants that actually probably it is true that flying with women is safer. And that all of it was a joke“.
I answered „True, I didn‘t hear this part. But then your joke was not funny. Because I saw their reaction. And it was not funny for me.“
I noticed a small supporting smile from the man that sat next to me during the flight. The door oppened and the guy from the first row stepped to the side to let me leave the plane first.
Today absolutely by chance I saw these statistics (from the Female Quotient in fb):
„Women make up less than 20% of the workforce in most aviation occupations: Only 5% of pilots are women and women make up about 6% of airline CEOs. <..>“
I don‘t know what you can take from my story. But what I hope is that you allow yourselves to fly in a pursuit of your dreams whatever your dreams might be, regardless of some men that get scared so easily.
P.S. I got some criticism on the story sounding fake and also that I seem to think I am somehow above all the people I've encountered. This is definitely not the case. I just felt some stronger connection to my inner light on that day. On most days I would not have enough courage to even give a message to the flight attendant. I would not even think of addressing the guy. And I would not expect any person to always be able to stand up for what they feel is right. It took a lot of energy from me. I was literally crying while writing the little note. This was a story of me personally overcoming my fears that made me feel a bit more empowered.

(Long post please read everything) Around like 5 years ago I started working at this fast food place and when I went to the job interview, I had to wait at the front for like 5 minutes and I remember there was this guy that worked there that I thought was hot, while I was waiting at the front I noticed he kept looking/staring at me and making eye contact the whole time. He would look at me, then maybe look away to do something else but then kept looking back at me with eye contact. I noticed him even looking at me during my interview. I remember thinking wow, ok that he definitely had some interest because of him doing that.
When I first started working there and we had the same shifts, he wasn’t staring or looking at me anymore. I didn’t really think anything of it.
At the time I was going to community college and took the bus there every day. I was taking the bus one morning and a few stops later I see him get on and sit down and I remember thinking wow this is weird I had no idea he also goes to the same community college and also takes the same bus? And just thinking how weird it was. Just initially he didn’t notice me or sit by me. Then something really weird happened, halfway through the ride the bus got into an accident and hit a car on the side while switching lanes and it had to pull over and everyone had to get off and walk to the next bus stop and wait for the next bus to come. Something like that’s never happened before, super weird. So everyone was walking to the next stop and I remember I wasn’t expecting him to say anything to me at all and I kind of forgot about it and wasn’t paying attention to him just walking.
Then someone behind me taps me on the shoulder and I look and it’s him and he just says hi and is smiling and asked like “hey do you work at (the job)” or something then he just starts talking to me I think we just talked about work or something but everything seemed fine. He was talking to me like he was interested in me, like friendly he would just make conversation and ask me about work I don’t even remember what else he would talk about. I would get kind of nervous/ my mind would go blank around him because I liked him and I was just happy he was always talking to me. I remember I would sometimes see him when taking the bus to school. But the thing is literally every time we would both be on the bus he would always go out of his way to come and sit by me and talk to me. So I also thought obviously that must have meant he was interested in me because why else would he have done that? To me if he wasn’t interested (not even a little) he would’ve just ignored me on the bus and never sat by me or talked to me. When he would talk to me, his body would just be facing straight forward but he would be looking at me the whole time talking to me. Sometimes he would sit with a very open body, while sitting next to me or talking to me. I also remember him telling me one day how him and a couple of the other shift leaders/ managers would hang out outside of work at one of their houses and play video games. I also remember him telling me that he went to a concert with one of the managers at work, like they went there together and hung out there.
Also around this time I found his Instagram and just followed him and didn’t say anything. He followed me back right after and never mentioned it or acted like it was weird I did that.
He would always talk to me on the bus, but whenever we were at work together I would never see him looking at me and he usually would never talk to me like during the time we were working. He would act different at work I don’t know why. I think a few times I saw him at work before clocking in and I would say hi and he would seem relaxed and talk to me/ be the same as on the bus but that’s it.
I would do this thing during our shift where if it got slow/ empty for a moment I would go over to his area (the grill which was right next to the drive through window) and I would say hi to him or just start talking to him. Also I noticed almost everyone else that worked there would do the same thing with each other all the time so I wasn’t the only one doing this. Sometimes I would get kind of giddy and start laughing a lot (not on purpose it would just happen) he would respond to me, he wouldn’t act rude but not be super talkative. Then one day when I went over and talked to him, this one shift leade manager who was in her 40s and always really rude/ nasty saw me doing that and very loudly was like “uh uh, I don’t think so! that’s fraternizing at work! He has a girlfriend you know that right?” And I got embarrassed as soon as she said that and she was like “yeah that’s right!” I went back in my area and they said something to each other I didn’t hear what but it was a few words back and forth, and ended in the manager kind of making this face and laughing and he just sort of shrugged and was kind of smiling. I have no idea what they said I couldn’t hear. Then they just went back to working and acted normal for the rest of my shift then I left.
Then after that day when I came in to work, he started to completely ignore me and act very cold and completely different. I went up to him at work and tried saying hi to him and he literally just completely ignored me. At first I wasn’t sure if he heard me or not, but he had to have because everyone else around him heard me and was looking at me. I think later in the shift I tried saying something to him again and he still completely ignored me. Also whenever he did this the other guys working in the same area as him were watching and would start laughing but more like lowkey not like super loud and obnoxious. I had no idea why he was doing this I remember being very upset and humiliated.
After that day he started doing this every day and ignoring me, every day I saw him at work he was super cold about it. This continued for the rest of the time I worked there and he never spoke to me again. Total 180 and it was just super out of the blue too. I’ve thought maybe it was because of that one manager that said “he has a girlfriend” but they said something to each other then just kind of laughed and didn’t say anything else after that so I don’t know if that was the reason for this.
About a month after this started, I went in the employee handbook and found his phone number and texted him… I know now this is weird and I shouldn’t have done this but at the time I was really upset and desperate and didn’t think it would be a big deal. I just kind of did it. I just said hi or something but I also said it was me in the text. I did not say anything inappropriate or crazy.
He never responded but the next time I came into work, one of the shift leaders/ managers (the same one that he was friends with and said he hung out with) said he needed to have a talk with me. He pulled me aside and we went into the break room, he said he told everyone to not come down there. He told me that the guy “told a manager” that I texted him and that’s why we were having this talk. He said that most of the managers/ other coworkers know about this situation now and he told me that this guy said he doesn’t know what’s going on between us but he doesn’t like it and wants it to stop. He said that the main manager doesn’t know about this yet and that hes stopping this now so she doesn’t find out, and if she finds out me and the guy would probably get fired. He also told me that if I try talking that guy again, that the guy was going to tell me to stop and he was NOT going to be nice about it. So I better just back off to save myself. Which I remember thinking was so odd because when I talked to him he did not seem like this asshole jerky guy at all so it was bizarre that the manager was saying this and that all of a sudden he literally hated me? And this behavior from him happened just out of the blue with seemingly no trigger so the whole situation was just so weird. During this talk the manager also told me that it was NOT OK that I was going up to him during shifts and talking to him and that it was fraternizing at work and we could both get fired. Then I told him that I saw literally most of the people that worked there talking to each other during shifts, other guys and girls doing it too so why was it not a problem when they did it but a huge problem only when I did it…. I don’t remember exactly what he said but I think he told me that doesn’t happen and that I was remembering wrong. He also said that you are not supposed to talk to coworkers at all outside of work. Which I told him how that guy told me about how they hung out outside of work at one of their houses to play video games and also went together to a concert. He told me that they didn’t hang out together at the concert that they just both happened to be there with their own friends, they unknowingly ran into each other, said hi then went their separate ways. I didn’t remember exactly what that guy told me but I’m pretty sure he said they went to that show together. He also told me to never speak to that guy again, he said don’t look at him, don’t talk to him, don’t talk about him, just act like he doesn’t even exist and just come in, do your job and leave. He told me he was going to bring him in right after me and tell him the same thing.
After that talk I felt totally horrible. I felt like I was a total creep or something like I made someone so uncomfortable like he/ everyone thought I was a creep. I obviously never texted him or tried talking to him again at all after this. The next time I came into work everyone got really quiet when I walked in and everyone was staring at me… I specifically noticed this one girl who was a shift leader. She never stared at me or acted like she even noticed me before but this day as soon as I came in she just was really quiet and stood there and stared at me for like a good 5-10 minutes just looking me up and down. She would look away and do something but kept coming back to look at me. It was very uncomfortable and I felt ashamed and embarrassed after that and started to feel bitter about not having him in my life anymore and not having friends or possible love interest.
Then I noticed they kept scheduling me and him to work at the same time in the morning, and this same girl shift leader was the shift lead that worked every morning when we would come in. He obviously was still ignoring me but I noticed that during his breaks, he would go over to her and talk to her for the whole time but both of their body language was like heavy flirting. He would be standing very close to her and he would always be leaning on the counter but also leaning towards her at the same time. And he would have his hand/arm on the counter resting almost around her. She would mirror his body language minus the arm. While they were doing this she would also do this thing where every couple minutes or so she would turn around, look at me and hold eye contact for a few seconds while smiling, then look back at him and continue talking. He never looked at me again, and wouldn’t even come near me again. After they were done talking she would come over to my drive through area, make a drink then walk back and give it to him.
They would do this literally every day I worked with them which was only once a week then because I started going to a new school. I even remember after that talk with the manager he would talk with this other girl (and that one shift lead) he was friends with there, the same way the manager told ME was NOT ok to do, in front of everyone even managers literally no one ever said a word to them about it. Literally no one cared when they did it, but it was a huge issue when I did it. A couple of other kids even started dating a little bit after this and I would even see them kissing in the back and no one ever said a word to them about anything. I ended up quitting a couple months later because I was so upset about the whole situation.

This is such a long story but I am going to make it as short as possible:
Should I totally cut cords with someone or gracefully let go and stop responding slowly over time.... ?
I had a very toxic relationship with a guy which lasted about five years. During the beginning of our relationship, we arranged a visa that allowed me to stay in this particular country.
He would never commit to me, as he never wanted to be in a "relationship." At the time, I took that as "I'm not good enough to be your girlfriend." By the time we finished the visa process 1 year later I knew I was so over the entire situation, but since we were in the middle of the visa, I just stuck it out.
Eventually, he broke it off with me and wanted to "stay friends." He said he never wanted to lose touch with me and tried to be nice about it, wanting to hang out with me every day which was such a re flag for me and was confusing since he told me he never wanted to be with me. Because of my low self-worth, I thought he would come back, so I let him stay around. About three months later, he got back together with his ex, saying he wanted to marry her. Obviously, this was very upsetting for me, and I got really upset with him. He called me crazy and didn't want to screw things up with her so we didn't speak for two years... reason being he was so pissed at me and blamed me for the loss of his ex ... she didn't like how he was basically with me on paper / had a "visa" with me.
About 1.5 years later, he came back around asking to cancel the visa and I said I needed it one more year BUT WOULD COPERATE & CANCEL IT if he needed it (aka to marry his ex) HE SAID NO .... he also mentioned that he wanted to be my friend again which at the time I wanted too ...not knowing THAT I wanted him to choose me lol/didn't want to fuck up my visa situation.
To this day, I still can't get rid of him. I lived in the same city as him, and when he came back around, it started like once a week and turned into 3 days a week.
I tried to set boundaries, but that was a failure, so recently I decided to move out of the country and back home to get out of that situation. (There were other factors, but the main reason was him, plus the awful economic situation.)
I know it seems crazy that I would spend so much time with him but I did enjoy his company and we did TONS of hobbies together ...had some really good times together
I know what I had with him was a corrective experience, and towards the end, I had changed, and my world became small so he was something fimiliar.
Since I’ve gotten home, he has wanted to reach out to me and speak with me over the phone. I know it has only been three weeks and I am just PROCESSESING what it has been like over the past 5 years and need time .... but deep down, I know this relationship is just so toxic....I feel like because he rejected me, he doesn't deserve my friendship... and I have felt that ever he rejected me but at the same time, I feel bad because of the whole situation with the visa. Plus, I feel like in some way, shape, or form, I should just be kind and let go gracefully after everything that has happened.
How does one let go of this? How does one move on .... do I start responding later, then start waiting a week after he texts ... , then two, then three? I know if more was going on in my life, I wouldn't care, and I know that in a few months, I will laugh about this, thinking, "God, I had such low self-worth." but i am currently obsessing. This is a situation that is very layered ... and meshed ... ah UGH kind of DRIVES ME CRAZY!
Any suggestions on how to leave gracefully, any advice from therapists on corrective experiences ... is it even possible to leave this gracefully or do I totally need to cut cords?
Please note - I plan to work on a therpiast with this once i find the right one. I currently do SE and inner child work which has led me away from this situation.
Thank you and positive comments only.

About 7 months ago, I (37M) married my partner (27F, former coworker) of 4 years. We had a spectacular wedding (no expense spared, I paid for most of it), ~500 attendees including political elite, it couldn't have been more perfect.
As an expat of ~10 years in her home country, I had reservations committing to any local partner due to uncertainty surrounding the cultural, religious, and socio-economic gap. That uncertainty disappeared when, 6 months into our relationship, she casually mentioned her family's elite political heritage (something I would have name dropped on the first date 😅); so I was convinced I had found someone who checked all the boxes... her family is lovely!
~1.5 months after our marriage, she started working late a lot, staying with friends more than usual, and the sex life started deteriorating. Around then, she started planning our honeymoon, but her year-end vacation is much longer than mine so she also planned a follow up trip with a female friend to an exotic'ish country nearby.. fine by me, have fun! During her trip, I asked her to send selfies/wefies with her friend and got nothing... She came back from the trip and told me she thought our relationship wasn't going to work out. 🤯 Lots of gaslighting, silly reasons that could be easily worked through. I put in lots of effort to connect, strengthen the relationship, and was met with more avoidance, work trips, and nights with friends.
3.5 months in, she messaged me that I needed to get checked for STDs because she was positive for gonorrhea; I tested negative, but having had sex with her two days prior, I was tested positive within 7 days. Initially, she lied about where it came from, but eventually she confessed that it came from a one night stand with "Guy S" on her "work trip" two weeks prior, exactly 90 days after our marriage. I was mad, probably shouted a bit, insisted "First time, Last time" and she couldn't agree to that: "I'm afraid it will happen again." I read If you're in my office it's already too late, started The Gottman Method, booked marriage counseling sessions, and honestly forgave her... I had cheated on a girlfriend when I was her age (didn't give that GF an STD! 😒) so I could relate and repair / rebuild.
4.7 months after our marriage, while the work trips, nights with friends, withdrawal continued... I went through her purse and found photos of her kissing "Guy J", love letters from him, and used emergency contraceptives. Immediately, I went to talk to her at her parent's house, she was staying there for a family event. She refused to speak to me 1o1 so the conversation happened in front of her parents. Everything came out. The STDs from "Guy S", the photos with "Guy J", and the countless "work" trips that were lies. She countered with all my shortcomings... gaslighting: my poor sexual performance, how I don't appreciate her cooking enough, etc. I let her get it out, left, she stayed with her parents for a week, and they berated her for her actions.
In the meantime, I started going through bank statements, text messages, talked with her friends (connected with the post-honeymoon trip friend, she friend maintained the lie) and I discovered that her post-honeymoon trip with was actually with "Guy J"... because she bought the tickets & hotel with our money and he repaid some of it with bank transfer "Thanks"... only 1.5 months after our marriage. 😖 When she came back, still in shock / in the fog, I gave her two options: A) Divorce B) Truth & Reconciliation + Postnup. She chose option B, but continued to lie: "he reimbursed me for the trip because he couldn't go". 🤦
I took a month off to return to my home country and broke the news to my mother in person. I didn't tell my mom about the STDs, only the affair, but she didn't need convincing => Option A is the only way forward and she never wants to see / speak to my wife again. During the month away, my wife said she was sorry and she wanted to make everything right... she said Truth & Reconciliation would start when I got back.
I returned this past Monday and I didn't want to break the news to her as soon as I walked through the door, so we've had a week of business as usual. She's been on her best behavior, which is nice'ish, but I can't see past her ability to deceive and I can't ignore everyone's advice that Option A is the only way forward... so I plan to break the news to her tomorrow. 😖 😬
Why am I posting this? Idk; maybe to vent, maybe to seek validation that I'm not being an asshole for ending things while she is finally coming around... mostly to get feedback on how to support her while standing up for myself. I'm not a psychologist so it's unfair for me to diagnose her, but she sociopathically(?) maintained a deeply emotional affair for ~4 months while playing wife... maybe I can do the same, supporting her, while we setup a future without each other? *OR* Break the news, help her pack up, and book a rental for her. *OR* I'm an idiot, this week of normality is a sign that she's turned a new leaf and we'll live happily ever after.
Anxious for tomorrow, thank you for reading, sorry for the long post... most trying 6 months of my life thus far. 🥲 🤗

Hello. For context my and my now bf starting dating in November 23’ and offically was boyfriend and girlfriend by January 24’. Me and him actually had our first contact with eachother in 2018 when we were both in highschool. We went to two different highschools and met over social media. We stopped talking back then, I went to college and we moved cities and started working. 5 years later we live in the same city again and reconnected
A little about my boyfriend. He has been in 2-3 serious-ish relationships. All with white women ( I am African American and he is too). I knew that by keeping up with him throughout the years and we both grew up in predominantly white areas so it is normal. In the past I’ve dated multiple different races so typically I don’t care.
Now, a month after we started dated I had an overwhelming urge to check his phone. I have NEVER went through someone’s phone in the past so idk what compelled me to go through his at this moment but I did. I found a deleted text to an ex “fling” of his. He said “do you even miss me?” The worst part if the girl didn’t even respond. I broke up with him the next night and to my surprise this man started crying pleading for my forgiveness. Blaming his actions as stupidity and he doesn’t even know why he texted her. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and forgave him since technically the text was sent before we offically started our relationship (literally a week before)
Again, in March we started arguing more often and we weren’t really on the same page about a lot of things. Fast forward I went through his phone again. This time I found something worse. On his Snapchat, I found messages to a Snapchat explicit content seller and he texted her “Hey bb how have you been” from a few days ago. After scrolling up to the previous messages I saw exchanges for explicit photos for low amounts of money all from 2020-2021. Obviously I didn’t know him them but even the thought of a man I’m with buying explicit content makes me shiver. And why Is he asking her how’s she’s been. Obviously for more content but he has me now?? That night I also saw call logs of him calling 2 other girls on a night we were having an argument. Again I confronted him, broke up but I eventually forgave him and no we are back together trying to fix things. It has been a month and a half and things are better but i still have fear in the back of my mind.
To end this thread, I’m asking for advice. All the women he has cheated on me with are white. I can’t help to think that I’m not his type or that he’s not as attracted to me as much as he is them. I know he never physically cheated but I still definitely count this as cheating, has anyone gone through this before? Are you ever able to trust your partner again? I am really trying to but I keep letting my insecuries get in the way. This man has been mentioning marriage to me and says he can see me as his wife. I want to protect myself from a cheating husband but we are young and is there a chance he will grow out of this? Has anyone been their partners first girlfriend of color, any recommendations for getting rid of my own insecuries? I do not want my insecuries to get in the way of my relationships. Should I continue this relationship or once a cheater always a cheater?
Thank you.

I (female, 20) hate my blood father. He was abusive in every way, shape, form your mind can possibly think of. ( Trigger warning does contain topics of abuse, SA, guns, s*x workers, R word, and mental health )
For back ground, my parents got divorced when I was around six years old. At the time I had three younger siblings, two sisters and a brother. My sisters and I are full blood siblings (share same mother and father). My younger brother is our half brother (same mother different father). My sisters and I are white and our brother is mixed, that will be needed for later.
My blood father was abusive to my mother my whole childhood. My mother was too scared to leave him but finally got the courage to do when I was about six years old. While in court my blood dad got full custody of my siblings and I. My mother fought it for years and even had proof of the abuse and that proof that my brother was not biologically or legally my blood fathers child. Some how he got custody.
He was abusive in any way you can think of. He was verbally abusive, mentally, emotionally, physically, and sexually. I went through most of the abuse so my siblings wouldn't have to. I would try my best to protect them from him as much as possible.
While I lived with him we were not allowed to see our mother. We would go weeks and sometimes even months without seeing her. My blood father would bring other women around to try and replace her. He was married three other times and would always have other girlfriends moving in and out of his house and even bring in s*x workers around us; he would tell us that these women would be better mothers to us than our mom. (which is def not true at all.) He was rarely ever home, but when he was it was bad.
I was seven by the time most of these events started to get worse and to unfold more. I was trying to protect myself and my siblings while trying to raise all of us as well. I would have to get up early before school, make breakfast for everyone, get dressed, take my baby brother to our neighbors to watch him and get us girls to the bus for school. One day I cut myself making breakfast and my blood father found out and locked me in the basement that night with no food or water at all. The abuse got worse and worse as we all got older.
His last wife had two sons of her own from a previous marriage. Her sons are very mentally ill. They would go off and have an episode, while having them they would get violent and hurt us. My blood father would have to pin them to the ground and restrained them so they wouldn't harm anyone. My siblings and I would have to hide in our bedroom and shove the bunk bed against the door just so they couldn't get to us. Some times it got so bad where I would have to get physical back with them just to protect my siblings and I.
Over the years the abuse from her sons got worse and worse. My blood father was never abusive to them though. My blood father was sexually abusive to me a lot while I was growing up. He never hid it from the rest of the house hold. Sooner or later my step brothers thought it was okay for them to try to do those things to us. I would have to defend myself and my siblings. Also my blood father was fully aware of my step brothers actions towards us and he never did anything about it or to stop it.
Years go by and one day I found out that my step brothers did in fact hurt my siblings. So what do I do? I go and beat the leaving crap out of them. By this time I am around 12/13 years old. My blood father split us up and after he tried to punish me for it and I lost it. All the years of built up pain and anger just came out and I started hitting on him.
That following weekend we go back to our moms house and she can clearly see the makes. I tell her everything. We take my blood father and my step brothers to court. They got away with everything. My blood father did get us taken away from him shortly after court, shortly following after that he gave up his rights to all of us bc he did not want to pay child support. I did not hear from his for years....
Until November of 2023, my sister is 16 now. My sister and her boyfriend decided to run away together bc they were told they are not allowed to see each other. (no my sister did not have any real reason to run away from home. After my blood father lost us we went and lived with our mother and she is a great mother and we got a wonderful new father too. We have always been safe with my mother and adoptive father) News quickly spread about my sister missing and we looked for weeks for her and didn't hear anything.
One day I get a call, its my mother freaking out because my blood father reached out to her and asked what happened to my sister. He was asking why he was never informed about his daughter going missing. He was threatening my mother and saying things I don't even want to repeat. I got absolutely mad and texted him.
I said "Who do you think you are speaking to my mother this way. My sister is no longer your daughter and neither is the rest of us. You were never our father, just someone who was supposed to be our father but instead turned out to be an abusive POS. You have no right to know what is going on in our lives and you lost that right a very long time ago. I hope your new wife finds out what a shitty human being she married. If you have anything to say about my siblings, my mother, or my father you can speak to me and say it to my face." He has nothing to say to me.
A few days after that my sister did return home on her own and she was perfectly safe and find. But while she was gone, my blood father reached out to her. From there she found out he hasn't changed at all and that he is a foster parent now. Ever since then I have been thinking about reporting him and getting the foster children taken out of his care. Yes I know that sounds horrible. But if he is going to do all this (and more) to his own children than what is stopping him from hurting more kids. I don't want more children going through what that man put me and my siblings through. So please, what do I do?

It was my birthday. I had a long distance relationship w/someone I cared about; they flew to my state and stayed at my house for my birthday. This that and the other, happened that day. You know how it is- where you just, have a kind of crappy birthday. All of your other friends are too busy, narcissistic relative pretends to choke on a single grain of rice(those of you with narc relatives know what I'm talking about)and calls the ambulance(which they mysteriously only do when someone else is about to get attention...) and your car gets blocked by the ambulance car so you can't even leave the house without paying for a cab.(She was fine, for the record.)
It is what it is, not the most fun but we've all had worse birthdays, and it's just a birthday- we have those every year; it's OK.
I gathered the money I could to personally buy a private tour with just me and my partner. I wanted something special just for us. I realize birthdays aren't some monolith, but I was already used to having sad ones and decided I wanted to take it into my own hands and make it special. And it was beautiful. We both cried and held hands. It was private- I mean really private, it was a tiny bush plane that only fit us two and the pilot, and I blew a paycheck on it. I know I know, that's my own fault-
That night I walked over to hug him while he worked on his laptop... To learn he was editing the footage to sell. He was editing to sell it as stock footage. He never asked. He never told me. It never even crossed my mind that he was doing that- at first I was happy he was editing it, because I assumed it was to share with our families. Until he gleefully told me how it was so he could make money from the video.
That really... Really, hurt my feelings. It never even occurred to me in the slightest that anyone would take something so special from their girlfriends birthday that she paid for and go out of their way to sell it right in front of her without consent.
I then learned that during that trip he was scrolling through lists of hookers and emailing them while sitting next to me in my house.
You know- your partner kinda scrolls their phone sometimes, that's normal and natural- I didn't think anything of it, he was very present the majority of the time. You can't expect someone to be all eyes on you every waking moment. So when he scrolled his phone I was never weirded out, I didn't feel insulted or suspicious about it. It's normal.
Turns out he was scrolling through prostitutes to have sex with. On the trip where he flew to my state to be at my house. And live with me and my dad and my grandma. For my birthday.
This really, really, hurt my feelings. I told him I needed a break. His friends supposedly told him none of that is cheating.
I dont know. I feel like flying 'to see me for my birthday' then sitting next to me on the couch scrolling to text and schedule and flirt with prostitutes- I feel like that's cheating. I feel that texting other women you intend to have sex with while sitting next to me, is cheating. Even if you've never met them or had sex with them or touched them. It felt to me like I was cheated on.
I felt bad enough about both of these things I said I needed a break... And yes. He did book sessions with the prostitutes he was chatting with under my roof, on my birthday, and he fucked them during that time, before asking to be together again.
Is it cheating. I know I feel like it was. I feel like sitting next to me on the couch in the living room texting other women is cheating. But he wasn't touching them and hadn't actually scheduled all the way yet. I don't know. I've been told it's not cheating and also told it's 'just a grey area', too. I've also been told I'm psycho to have found that such a huge deal.
So what am I supposed to think? My feelings gs are what they are. I know that does EDIT: doesn't mean they're right. I'm scared that I might actually judge be a controlling dick. and that this probably ly belongs in off my chest or vent. but I'm putting it here.
Thank you.
EDITED TO ADD: sorry, forgot to mention. we'd been together over a year.

My girlfriend looks through my phone sometimes she has only found one thing that was weird which was a old photo from 3 years ago that she wished she hadn't have seen, now it bothered her so we spoke about it and resolved the issue.... Then in my infinite wisdom I decided to do the same when she fell asleep and found some texts that were dirty that she had sent someone a month before we started dating and that bothers me because we've been dating about 6 months now and she's never spoke to me the same way, what should I do? Should I speak to her about it or just suck it up and deal with it because it was before me?

I was 17 and in my last year of high school when I met my boyfriend 20 at the time on yubo. A bit of background he love bombed me in the beginning and I didn’t wanna date him but he begged me to give him one chance and if he messed up that chance I would never have to speak to him again. He did this knowing he had already lied to me about his age (he said he was 19 and only told me after i had turned 18).
There have been many many issues in our relationship one of the biggest being his family. They are anti vaxx and during covid in Australia you could not leave your house if you weren’t vaccinated so I celebrated anniversaries and birthdays without him it was very tough during covid era, I paid for a lot for him since he was not allowed to work either. His family also did not accept me being vaccinated and lectured me every time I went over for years.
I have mental health issues and during that time (2020-2022) I was really struggling but have now gotten better. He did not judge me but also was just never really understanding or helpful. even to this day I can never go to him with my problems because he just does not understand he doesn’t even try he just says “i’m sorry” and gets upset.
we have many many issues including - he has always hidden his phone from me - i’ve gotten messages from multiple girls about things he’s done in the past - he yells, has a temper, is easily irritable - he lies all the time about everything i think it’s compulsive - he acts like a child - cannot do simple tasks (brush teeth, clean) - he needs help with everything ‘important’ eg. if he needs to send a message to his boss he needs help from his brother, his brothers girlfriend and his mum - his room is so dirty that i get physically sick when i sleep in there (lips swell, eyes itchy, blocked nose, can’t stop sneezing, eczema) - he never listens - many many more
Even through all this I love him though. I have never felt more comfortable with someone and I know I can be myself he is always there for me even though he doesn’t understand.
A month ago i found out he has been messaging girls using my old phone that i gave him on snapchat for 8 months even over my 21st birthday.
I have recently gone off some medication and have changed completely as a person.
we very much bonded over food as our families are both health freaks and he is a chef who is also overweight and i was on medication that made me crave bad foods.
ever since going off the medication i have lost 7kg and i can’t even eat anything without feeling sick.
when i confronted him long story short he threw a tantrum and threatened to kill himself. i tried so hard to break up with him. i was terrified.
unluckily at that point we had planned a trip to europe with his family and i had already paid a lot of money for it. i decided to give him a second chance because he sounded like he was really going to change but i fear i have been manipulated again.
i gave him the chance and since then have spent thousands more on this holiday.
i really want to stay with him i am so scared to be alone we have been together for so long i don’t know who i am without him. i lost all my friends because of this relationship i have only one friend left. but i know that i just can’t keep doing this i am so unhappy i do not trust him at all i do not feel happy at all. i just also do not want to have to start over in a new relationship when i was ready to get engaged with him next year and move out.
i am basically going overseas with him and his entire family (where we are going lives all his auntys cousins grandparents everyone) then deciding when we come back if i want to stay or not as people say you see the best and worst of someone when travelling. i am pretty sure it’s not going to work though unless i completely forgive him and forget everything he has done.
when saying all this there is also a part of me probably my heart that loves him so much and doesn’t care and still feels as if i can change him and is just ready to be with him forever no matter what. i also am not good at confrontation and i am very submissive i will never be assertive so this is very difficult for me.
i can’t break up with him at my house because he will say he’s going to kill himself and he lives an hour away from me so i don’t want him to die on the drive home i think he only option is to do it at his house but his parents are always home and always listen to what we are saying because his room is next to the lounge and kitchen and you can clearly hear everything. i could probably do it in my car outside his house but i kind of don’t want to drive home because i will also be very upset and crying .
i know he will probably manipulate me into staying with him is there a better way to go about this?
also my mum is very upset that i am going overseas that is a whole other issue she is a difficult person and already thinks i’m throwing away my money. she also does not know anything that is going on at all. so if i break up with him i won’t be able to go home and cry or anything i’ll have to pretend i’m happy and that ‘i found myself in europe’ or whatever and say that we are just not meant to be together. if i cry and stuff and say he cheated she will say i wasted my money on the trip and i shouldn’t have gone and bla bla bla.
anyway this is very difficult and i’m not really sure how to go about it so any advice would be great. even advice on how to get through this if you think that we can because preferably i do not want to break up but i also just don’t feel happy anymore.
i feel like i am growing and he is not.
any advice or thoughts are welcome i would love to know if anyone has gotten through anything like this or if it just never changes at all and also how should i break up with him when he’s a manipulator and i’m very easy manipulated.
thank you!!

We've been together just over 10 months. I have been staying with her at her apt (where she has two other roommates) for the past 2-3 months, not moved in but pretty much living there. At the end of March she brought up that she was re-signing the lease in a couple of days and that the landlord doesn't want people staying there who aren't on the lease and so I need to decide whether I want to sign the lease, or only come over once in a while (I don't have a place for us to go).
She first mentioned that my decision wouldn't affect our relationship, then soon after switched to saying that we couldn't stay together if I didn't move in. I didn’t know what to say and didn't have an immediate decision and she basically took that as a no and pretty much told me to gather my stuff to go. But I stayed. I asked if I could pay rent but not sign the lease, she said it wasn't an option. This is a huge decision for me and with that amount of time to decide I started panicking, was up all night panicking and frantically called all my family members and anyone who would listen for advice (I have really bad anxiety too and tend to spiral badly).
The next day I told her I was panicking and that I didn't know what to do. She seemed understanding saying she knows it's a lot and didn't even want to bring it up, but I guess the landlord thing caught her by surprise. I kept going back and forth in my head but told her the next day "I'll sign the lease I just need to know more information." And she says "but you have to be sure."
The deadline day comes and nothing happens. Turns out it wasn't as important as she said it was and she signed the lease, and apparently I could be added later. So now I have more time but I'm still going back and forth in my mind about it. One of the big drawbacks was it is a shared lease so if one roommate doesn't pay, basically it falls on the others and just from being around there I've seen that turn very bad. I finally mostly made up in my mind that I didn't want to sign the lease and would accept the fact that it would mean we're breaking up. I'm just trying to find a good time to bring it back up.
Then she ends up bringing it back up one night (about a week later?) saying "you're not moving in are you?" and I said "no I can't sign the lease." So she helped me pack up all my stuff and I left. A couple days later she messages saying she has one of my board games I left there. I said I wouldn't care except it belonged to my grandma, but that I had a couple of her clothes. Then I noticed I had her state id and debit card (in my jacket pocket) that she asked me to hold earlier the night I left. And she says "I'm guessing by your response that we're done." and I'm like "that's the assumption I got so yes." Then she basically says that wasn't the case and to bring her her stuff.
So I do and we talk for a bit and she isn't happy with the fact that I left without putting up a fight or trying to figure it out and says I was faking things the whole time and didn't actually have feelings for her and am running at the first hard thing (which is very untrue that it's the first hard thing) and all this stuff. I told her that it isn't true that I don't have feelings for her and that if someone wants me to leave their home I'm leaving. She says she's never messaging me again and I leave.
A couple days later I'm missing her a ton and am feeling super depressed and lonely but know it will pass, but right in the middle of it she messages me this dramatic sad message about how everything is reminding her of me and she wishes she never made eye contact with me that one day and has never been so heartbroken and that the worst part is I didn't want to move in even without being on the lease. I should've taken some time to reply but in my emotional state I said basically how I miss her and thought that wasn't an option and agreed to meet at her apt that night and discuss further. I was picturing in my mind moving in and was totally for the idea at that moment.
Later I was starting to have second thoughts and wished I wouldn't have replied so quick but felt I had to at least go chat with her as we had both planned on it. We talk and I tell her some of my concerns about living there to which she didn't react very well and we didn't get very far and didn't agree on anything other than that we need to discuss further at some point. I still had all my stuff together in the car so I stayed there and we basically went back to our routine of living together, but both knowing everything was still up in the air. Of course our work schedules are very contradictory so a lot of the days we hardly even see each other.
After a little bit it finally hits me that I really don't want to move in and I became pretty set on that. Again I was now waiting for what felt like the right time to reintroduce the topic. And then one day while I'm at work, I get a text from her saying that her and her roommate were having an argument and that it's best if I not be there for a few days (this has happened once or twice before and it's never really anything). Knowing my mind is made up I figure now I have to bring it up because if I'm leaving for a "few days" I might as well not come back. So I say "that's not good. I understand, I just need to grab some things." And I figured when I get there I'd say something such as "I shouldn't come back because I'm not ready to move in." She messaged back saying "if you have the heart for it you can stay." But I say "If you think I shouldn't be there then I'll go." She says I show no concern for her.
I get there and she has all my stuff ready to go, says I have no fight for her and pretty much breaks up with me saying "this time I actually won't message you again." And I leave. As I was about 5min away she messages about something of mine at the apt and I said I'd be right back, then sends me some messages about how I was a terrible boyfriend. I grab it and go.
A couple days with us apart again go by and she messages me saying it feels unfinished and she wants to meet at a bar and talk. I said I can't this weekend, but did leave the option open for during the week. I told her I've realized I'm really in no place to be in a relationship right now and am not ready for the commitment of moving in. She seemed somewhat understanding, wishing me the best. She messages again a couple days later about meeting up and I decided it wouldn't help anything and told her no, there's nothing more to discuss. Then she starts sending long dramatic texts about how I'm a terrible person and I was faking liking her and she doesn't wish the best for me and karma will come for me etc.
TLDR: Girlfriend said If I choose not to move in then we have to break up and after going back and forth I decided not to move in. Now I'm being accused of not having feelings for her and hurting her and I'm a terrible person.

and i know i am younger but please take me seriously lol. I have been talking to this guy for two months, we have been dating for one. Not long at all and so easy to leave i get it i know. We have worked so well together in person and honestly i didnt even know he viewed us that we were “talking” for a month because i rememebr the first time we hung out and the second time like “oh this isnt serious” but our chemistry worked so well. I didnt know i could not even think twice about a person to two hours later being like wtf????? he hasnt love bombed me, has given me a good amount of attention so far, and has done many things that makes me go “awe he cares”.
Now getting into the issue. Last week he said i wasn’t talking to him enough, he brushes it off because i was initially confused, goes hours without texting me and worrying me only for him to get back to some of my texts (i didn’t text too much dont worry) and say “was playing basketball….im sorry” and then i apologize and say i should talk more and tell him i have been in relationships in the past where they have told me theyre bothered by me and i dont want to bother you but you also dont go into much detail about stuff that much and that would be great for the both of us. So we do great for a week. Comes tuesday he asks me to come over, i stay there for 7 hours and we have already had sex before this day but we do that (i know, i get it, dont shame me, i am trying not to feel shameful about it, he is not the one i have lost my virginity to but i am just adding this because i feel it may possibly give insight for things) but then i get home and that night, yesterday, and today he has been really really dry. and not just dry, kinda mean. sometimes i text him and he goes “no”, “stop”, and “idk” or just sends me a snapchat. its not like he has always texted so much but for what he said to me the week before i was like “oh😀” like?? i tell you i feel like i may bother you and you start acting like this. so i bring it up…and im gonna be honest i stay pretty civil and its snapchat so i cant take screenshots but here are a couple of things he said.
“i’ve not been to focused on responding to your or anybody” that is fine…i go why
“we haven’t been talking about much and it just hasn’t been a top priority ig, that sounds bad but like” oh! i say “somebody who was with u for 7 hours on a tuesday who you just started dating should probably be up there ____”
and he responds “okay well don’t tell me my priorities i’m going to have what i want on top on top of” oh.
i stay calm but here are some more things he said
“why are you blaming it all on me”
“i said in sorry and i feel bad idk what you want me to do” you did not say you were sorry and you can easily talk to me more.
“i’m just not having any interest in ralking to you bc it’s just shoulder snaps and the only things you’ve talked to me about is something that is like weird like how i had my eyebrows” again…his responses have been horrendous
“i feel like i’m doing okay i’m just not as focused on talking ti you constantly as you are”
i end up suggesting calling more and he said he didnt like calling but he guesses. (i know this is true because his mom said so one time to his aunt at her birthday party)
i am just not sure how to feel about this, these responses were absolutely horrid when i was staying civil and not arguing at all in any way i was phrasing things.
He often talks about the near future if i will go to his games, he is the one who makes our hangouts (and was the one who made plans to meet my parents and his parents), and when we are in person together he is so great.
Some things he had done that isnt the coolest is snapping only girls basically but i snap only boys and idc much for them so ig i cant put much on him. he was going to go hang out with his ex to a trampoline park (they only dated for a week but it was a month prior but the girl is his bestfriend’s girlfriend’s bestfriend) and he wasnt going to tell me until i asked what he was doing that night, it was before we were dating and our second date but he kept me in the car and asked what i wanted him to do and i say “you are not my boyfriend” and i storm out. he texts me, how he has blocked her and he didnt go to the park, how hs fam loves me and he doesn’t want to ruin what we have over him just not considering something”. i did forgive him. he also gets defensive sometimes even when im just kidding over things he has done. he has never called me pretty only sends “🥰🥰” emojis for my pictures.
i need help, is this just an issue to get around? to communicate out of? i love his mom and his sister and just…idk if i leave him if i am leaving a good thing?? he is a lot of what i want, checks off all the boxes but the arguing issue and communicating issue he has i just dont know. ALSO i am a gift. the smartest in our school, very pretty, athletic, great body, and fucking great, not confident or full of myself but i know i am these things. I have been thinking to myself when we go out with my family in a couple of days to call off hsving sex for a couple of months due to my religious issues. i think that may crack some things. please give me advice, thank you :,)

We've been together just over 10 months. I have been staying with her at her apt (where she has two other roommates) for the past 2-3 months, not moved in but pretty much living there. At the end of March she brought up that she was re-signing the lease in a couple of days and that the landlord doesn't want people staying there who aren't on the lease and so I need to decide whether I want to sign the lease, or only come over once in a while (I don't have a place for us to go).
She first mentioned that my decision wouldn't affect our relationship, then soon after switched to saying that we couldn't stay together if I didn't move in. I was at a loss for words and didn't have an immediate decision and she basically took that as a no and pretty much told me to gather my stuff to go. But I stayed. I asked if I could pay rent but not sign the lease, she said it wasn't an option. This is a huge decision for me and with that amount of time to decide I started panicking, was up all night panicking and frantically called all my family members and anyone who would listen for advice (I have really bad anxiety issues too and spiral badly).
The next day I told her I was panicking and that I didn't know what to do. She seemed understanding saying she knows it's a lot and didn't even want to bring it up, but I guess the landlord thing caught her by surprise. I kept going back and forth in my head but told her the next day "I'll sign the lease I just need to know more information." And she says "but you have to be sure."
The deadline day comes and nothing happens. Turns out it wasn't as important as she said it was and she signed the lease, and apparently I could be added later. So now I have more time but I'm still going back and forth in my mind about it. One of the big drawbacks was it is a shared lease so if one roommate doesn't pay, basically it falls on the others and just from being around there I've seen that turn very bad. I finally mostly made up in my mind that I didn't want to sign the lease and would accept the fact that it would mean we're breaking up. I'm just trying to find a good time to bring it back up.
Then she ends up bringing it back up one night (about a week later?) saying "you're not moving in are you?" and I said "no I can't sign the lease." So she helped me pack up all my stuff and I left. A couple days later she messages saying she has one of my board games I left there. I said I wouldn't care except it belonged to my grandma, but that I had a couple of her clothes. Then I noticed I had her state id and debit card (in my jacket pocket) that she asked me to hold earlier the night I left. And she says "I'm guessing by your response that we're done." and I'm like "that's the assumption I got so yes." Then she basically says that wasn't the case and to bring her her stuff.
So I do and we talk for a bit and she isn't happy with the fact that I left without putting up a fight or trying to figure it out and says I was faking things the whole time and didn't actually have feelings for her and am running at the first hard thing (which is very untrue that it's the first hard thing) and all this stuff. I told her that it isn't true that I don't have feelings for her and that if someone wants me to leave their home I'm leaving. She says she's never messaging me again and I leave.
A couple days later I'm missing her a ton and am feeling super depressed and lonely but know it will pass, but right in the middle of it she messages me this dramatic sad message about how everything is reminding her of me and she wishes she never made eye contact with me that one day and has never been so heartbroken and that the worst part is I didn't want to move in even without being on the lease. I should've taken some time to reply but in my emotional state I said basically how I miss her and thought that wasn't an option and agreed to meet at her apt that night and discuss further. I was picturing in my mind moving in and was totally for the idea at that moment.
Later I was starting to have second thoughts and wished I wouldn't have replied so quick but felt I had to at least go chat with her as we had both planned on it. We talk and I tell her some of my concerns about living there to which she didn't react very well and we didn't get very far and didn't agree on anything other than that we need to discuss further at some point. I still had all my stuff together in the car so I stayed there and we basically went back to our routine of living together, but both knowing everything was still up in the air. Of course our work schedules are very contradictory so a lot of the days we hardly even see each other.
After a little bit it finally hits me that I really don't want to move in and I became pretty set on that. Again I was now waiting for what felt like the right time to reintroduce the topic. And then one day while I'm at work, I get a text from her saying that her and her roommate were having an argument and that it's best if I not be there for a few days (this has happened once or twice before and it's never really anything). Knowing my mind is made up I figure now I have to bring it up because if I'm leaving for a "few days" I might as well not come back. So I say "that's not good. I understand, I just need to grab some things." And I figured when I get there I'd say something such as "I shouldn't come back because I'm not ready to move in." She messaged back saying "if you have the heart for it you can stay." But I say "If you think I shouldn't be there then I'll go." She says I show no concern for her.
I get there and she has all my stuff ready to go, says I have no fight for her and pretty much breaks up with me saying "this time I actually won't message you again." And I leave. As I was about 5min away she messages about something of mine at the apt and I said I'd be right back, then sends me some messages about how I was a terrible boyfriend. I grab it and go.
A couple days apart again go by and she messages me saying it feels unfinished and she wants to meet at a bar and talk. I said I can't this weekend, but did leave the option open for during the week. I told her I've realized I'm really in no place to be in a relationship right now and am not ready for the commitment of moving in. She seemed somewhat understanding, wishing me the best. She messages a couple days later about meeting up and I decided it wouldn't help anything and told her no, there's nothing more to discuss. Then she starts sending long dramatic texts about how I'm a terrible person and I was faking liking her and she doesn't wish the best for me and karma will come for me etc.
TLDR: Girlfriend said If I choose not to move in then we have to break up and after going back and forth I decided not to move in. Now I'm being accused of not having feelings for her and hurting her and I'm a terrible person.

You're mad at me for taking your access away to an online account, months after the breakup, and your next text was I didn't realize how much you wanted me out of your life until today. You didn't pick me, you don't get girlfriend privileges. Your response was yes, I didn't choose you. But you want free access. The nerve!!!

TLDR My boyfriend is generally very generous with people as he likes the reactions he gets. His secretary has been very open about her interest in him in front of me. The way he treats her doesn’t help. Am I wrong to feel uncomfortable with this?
My boyfriend has this company and the work culture is super casual to the point the workers will complain about bosses in front of bosses and text them informally beyond working hours. He recently hired a secretary who’s a super bubbly, chatty person. She’s not particularly pretty but makes my boyfriend laughs all the time. They spend quite some time together as he wants her to bring the company car to him and drive him to work (it’s about 2 hours drive and they do this about 1-2 a week). We’ve met quite a few times casually.
Yesterday my boyfriend got her to drive him back home and wanted to treat her to dinner and asked me to come along. During our dinner, she kept saying how she found my boyfriend so handsome when she first saw him. Showed a picture of him she secretly took and talked about how she tried to find out if he has a girlfriend. She said she would love to find someone that is his type. All these in front of me. I felt it was so inappropriate but didn’t want to ruin the mood/appear too sensitive. She is super chatty and funny. I’m on the other hand more shy and quiet. My boyfriend laughs and talks a lot with her. She is also less educated and not familiar with fancy stuff and goes wowwww so cool at my boyfriend a lot. At the end of the dinner, she said to my boyfriend, so when are you showing me your house! My boyfriend replied that he thinks it’s inappropriate. But it sounded like he was going to which prompted me to question him (she went to the washroom at this point). He said he thought about it because there was quite some time till our planned dinner and he didn’t know what to do with her. But he quickly felt it’s inappropriate and eventually just left her at a nearby cafe instead. She was bored and started walking around by herself and sent him messages. He felt bad. I told him I think it’s very very inappropriate for her to go his place and that I’m uncomfortable with her being so obvious about her interest in you. He said he’s never gonna look her way when I’m so incredibly pretty (esp compared to her). I didn’t feel any better because he has a history of staring at beautiful women. He doesn’t do it now after I talked to him. But I often wonder what if he has a young beautiful secretary and he gives so much opportunities for her to latch on him. He later sent her home by taxi and got her a huge premium car. He said it’s only a few dollars more and he enjoys the reaction he gets. She later texted him thanku so much (heart heart 🥰 emojis). He replied my pleasure. Have a good sleep tonight. I felt really uncomfortable.
Just to give some more info, my boyfriend is generous to people generally. And he sends me premium cars and treats me well often. But whenever he has guests or friends etc around, he will treat them sometimes better than he does me. Or say or do things that will make him seem cool without considering my feelings. Like taking ice cream for her without asking if I want some (she even went how about your girlfriend?). And once he talked about how he woo-ed his ex girlfriend in front of me to his friends. He gives them undivided attention when with them. But spends a large amount of time using his phone when with me mostly for work or texting people.
So I want to ask am I being too sensitive about this? He tells me I’m his first priority but I don’t feel it. We’ve been together one year btw