The other day my partner and I were hanging out, as they are wont to do, and later in the evening I had to be at an art opening of a good friend of mine. We were both tired after a long day but I felt it my duty as a friend to go (I didn't not want to go, but it would have been a 3 hour drive to and from) and I wanted to support them. I am an artist as well, and openings are often overwhelming and kind of a drag, a sentiment my partner and I are both share, but this was one I felt I needed to go to, and I made mention of that a multiple days prior to my partner. I knew her agreement to go was reluctant, given her tepid response, so I told her "you're not obligated to go so don't feel like you should". She remained steadfast in her decision. Come the day, and I told her again, you really don't have to come but she got ready and was willing to tag along, basically to commiserate, but then she got a text from another friend of hers, a guy whom I've only met once, and I like well enough from what little I know, and hes her only friend out where she lives, Inviting her to a child's birthday party, and while I'm getting to my car I hear her audibly moan, and I ask her whats up, to which she tells me that this friend asked if she wanted to come to this party. For context, this party was like one of those cool adults with kids party, they had a DJ and all in an odd setting, in reality the makings of a could be fun, could be annoying situation. She had mentioned he texted her about this party earlier in the day and thought it would've been cool to go. Seeing how obviously she wanted to go to that party, I told her again, "You really don't have to go to this opening, if you want to go to this party you can.". She told me she wanted to come for support, considering how annoying openings can be, but really wanted to go to this party, and said she would rather go with me, but with an obvious tone of ambivalence. It was glaringly clear she wanted to go to that party, and while I would've enjoyed her company, I felt I'd rather her have fun that subject her to a potentially draining social affair, so I told her I wouldn't be mad if she went to the party. The sort of classic partner conundrum it felt like. I was convicted in my feeling of her doing her thing and I would just go and come back without her, and so that decision was made. She was to go to the party, and I would go to the opening. She asked me if I was fine with that decision and I told her yes, but I felt a little dismayed, and I knew my voice and face betrayed me from presenting otherwise. We parted ways and on the drive I gradually felt more and more bothered by her choosing to go to the children's party. I started over thinking a bunch of things, which felt more like anxious conclusions than logical reasoning, but I continued to get more and more upset that she chose that odd event than going to this opening with me. we haven't seen each other much lately due to the nature of her job, so I figured if I were in her position I would've gone to the opening regardless, but that's just me. either way, as I kept driving, I decided I would curb my social anxiety and just make it a good time no matter what, and yet I continued to get more and more upset by her decision. I think it stems from some deeper feeling about her relationship with this friend and choosing that over an event we both tend to loathe, and I did implore her to stay and have a better chance at a more entertaining evening. But I know in my heart of hearts I wished she would've come along with me, but I'm upset for not being more honest about it. Ultimately I ended up having a really lovely time with friends at the opening and at the after party but I wished my partner had come, and now I feel like a dick head being upset at her decision. I guess I just would like to get the temperature of how irrational I am probably being.

I don’t know what it feels like to have my heart (romantically) broken and it’s devastating
Like the title says- I’ve (34F) never been in a secure romantic partnership/ one in which I was loved correctly. My one and only serious relationship was incredibly abusive and we never had real emotional intimacy- the space wasn’t safe enough for it. I consider myself lucky that I have experienced wonderful familial and plutonic love. But today I was listening to a number of songs about heartbreak (Zach Bryan- something in the orange and Lewis Capaldi- Bruises) and I had an ugly cry in the car. Theyre hauntingly beautiful songs but my inability to relate to them hit me smack in the chest. I so badly want to know what it feels like for someone to want me by their side forever. I so badly want to know what it feels like to hear another human being tell me that since knowing me, they don’t feel like there’s enough time for the rest of life.
I just feel like I’m one of very few people who’s been left out of a secret that everyone knows. This feels like a cruel and crushing joke.
I’ve heard friends and family say that you have to get to a place where “you’re okay without it”. I know they mean well but I think it’s a crock of tomfoolery. Love is just as rudimentary a need as food and water. To try and kill the part of you that wants your person seems like a dishonest and unwise betrayal of a pretty universal human need.
Maybe this sounds dramatic but I can’t be the only one who feels this way. Can someone who can relate please offer some advice for how to cope with this?

due to Vuong Pham's complete control of the Vietnamese media. He censored all the bad news so what appear to the clueless general Vietnamese public is a shinny VF3 and other Vinfast cars as if they are normal cars from a normal car company. Not.
Here are the list of things Vuong Pham censored in Vietnam i.e. no official media is reporting these newsworthy facts and truth:
1/ Vinfast is not a normal car company: it is a company teetering on the verge of bankruptcy with an astronomical debt, $9.3B total and $5.8 short term, huge yearly loss of $2.4B, and only miminal real sale (about $450M in 2023) where 80% of total sale are stuffing to GSM.
2/ Vinfast cars are not normal. They are very buggy with 15 cases of VF8 with broken front wheels. With the low number of cars on the road, the rate is very high, highest among all car brands.
3/ Numerous battery dead problems.
4/ The news of the Pleasanton crash killing 4 people in a burning VF8.
5/ The real world's range of VF3 is only about 120-140km, where the fake range 210 is the unrealistic NEDC standard.
6/ The news of Vinfast did not pay rent to Stanford Mall for a year.
7/ The news of the two ongoing lawsuits: class action lawsuit and the steel lawsuit.
8/ Vuong Pham sold cars in Vietnam at a much higher price than in oversea market, despite only 3% special tax and no import tax for full cars (only minor tax for parts), effectively milking Vietnamese to subsidize oversea customers.
Vuong Pham is all out attack with a media blizt on the VF3 right now and is pumping stock VFS / VIC / VHM full force, hoping that the Vietnamese public is still under his spell due to complete media control that no bad truth can reach the public. North Korean style. The tiny VF3 brouhaha is his last attempt, the swan song of Vuong Pham. News about new plant in Indonesia, expansion to Malaysia, the Phillipines etc... will continue to churn out to keep the media from being dried, but of course, with no substance because Vuong Pham does not have the money and the cars are not competitive anywhere else.
Well, many of these Vietnamese people are just clueless, not their fault but due to Vuong Pham's censorship, and the number of people who buy a Vinfast car will be much less if they know the truth, that Vinfast is a technically bankrupt company selling a buggy car.
Poor Vietnamese living in a communist country with propaganda and censorship.
Well, in this sub, we know the truth, a tiny population of only about 3900 people vs 100M Vietnamese + 400M American out there.
Good to know the truth.
Mean while, time will do their force when it is due: Vinfast will crumble under the weight of ever increasing debts and loss.
Just a matter of time.

My ex and I have been living together and dating for roughly 5 years of time. We met at a university we both attended where we were getting the same degree, and I thought we were deeply in love. We never argued, had the same views and goals for the future, and the 2-3 problems we did develop were communicated and improved in healthy ways. It was a loving relationship that our friends could only hope to have. He had even custom made me a promise ring that I wore every day and never took off. I was a part of his family gatherings in Maine (where he was from), and he was involved with my family back in Michigan as well. We lived together for years, and I had hoped that we would get married after we graduated, like we had talked about. We were living like we were, anyway, so I was under the impression it would be a welcome next step.
A year after we both graduated, he ended up getting a job across the country (Michigan New Mexico). He would have a pretty large salary increase, would be doing things he enjoyed in the workplace, and be closer to his hobbies and a few friends that he had at our university that were older. I would have to move to a state I've never been, away from all of my friends and family, with no personal plan in place (I did not have a job lined up there like he did). However, he told me I could focus on healing from past trauma I couldn't process while I was focused on school, and work on getting my streaming and music career off of the ground, which is something I would've rather done with my life. I had plenty of contacts to realistically attempt something like that. And if it wasn't working, I could always try to get a job where he did. He would cover the rent of the condo we lived at, but I'd still pay all of my own personal bills (food, insurance, phone, etc.). Weighing the pros and cons, and how I believed our relationship to be/where it was headed, I agreed. We went 50/50 on furniture we would need while we were still in Michigan, because the company paid to move our stuff. The moving company damaged some things of mine that were irreplaceable, and I wanted him to deal with the moving company about it, but he never did. When we got there, I unpacked pretty much everything that was moved for the both of us, set up and organized the house, and did all of the cooking, paperwork, and chores I could so my ex could focus on getting settled in his new job. I put together lists of what we still needed, and continued to buy things for the condo 50/50, even when I was running off of low hustle income and savings. I even sold things that meant a lot to me so I'd be able to deal with all of the moving logistics and support myself when my work was "unpacking and settling".
Right before I finished my stream setup, and I was ready to start grinding on my own career, I had stumbled upon evidence of him cheating when I needed to use his computer. I have documented evidence that he has been paying sex workers for various things for the past 2 years, well before this job and move was in the picture. I didn't have access to his socials or accounts to know the full extent of what he had done, but what I had found was more than enough. When I confronted him, he didn't deny it either. I was distraught and depressed. I cut again for the first time in years. I felt lied to, betrayed, suicidal, and alone. I felt unsafe being alone in the condo, so I went to his friend's house after finding out. I told them what was wrong and they were in total disbelief until I showed them the evidence, it was extremely out of character for him. I lost 10 pounds in 2 days. The day of finding out what he did, I had already bought plane tickets back to Michigan for studio work, and couldn't change it. We agreed to take some space to figure out next steps, so I took that flight back to Michigan with two suitcases of my things, not knowing what was happening. I spent another few months unable to work, because my mental state was horrendous, and I didn't want to cash in any favors to get an engineering position when I didn't know where I was even going to be in a month's time. It seemed like we were going to try couple's therapy, because I really wanted to understand why he needed the external validation. I wanted to help him and figure out exactly what went wrong, because I didn't see any signs of this behavior. But we cut it off for good in December, when he had told me he's been seeing his ex. The breakup was slow and painful, and I was constantly living in a state of not knowing what was going on, and suffering mentally and financially for it. All of my plants that were there are now dead because he couldn't care for them, he still has my two cats, and I may have to sell my dream car in order to really afford starting over again. I can't even sell it as is since he didn't turn it on the entire time, so the battery and alternator are now dead too. It feels like my life was ripped out from under me in a blink of an eye, and I was the one being punished for it when I was the one who didn't do anything wrong.
My mom flew me out to Guam in December, knowing how much I was hurting and she wanted to get me away from it all. I was supposed to leave 2 months later in February, but here I am, still here 5 months later. Still essentially living off of two suitcases of my belongings. I am ready to move on with my life. I want my cats and my things back, and I want a fresh start. I have a few jobs lined up for me here to get back on my feet. I had to purchase a new wardrobe for the office, and a new car to get around.
All I asked for him to do was send my stuff back to Michigan, where it came from, so it could be stored at my dad's house until I could get it moved here to Guam. I felt like it was fair to ask, considering he lied to me and cheated on me for two years, when he easily could've just broken up with me before moving for his job. He made the conscious decision to drag me along and shift my whole life for him, when he had no plans to actually be with me. He bragged about the salary increase and I know what it is, I know he can afford to pay for my stuff to be moved out. I have been asking for updates constantly over the past few months, and he gives me spaced and vague answers. He is now saying he wants me to pay for half of it to be moved, which I think is unfair. This situation is entirely his fault, I'm already spending a lot of money starting my life over, and I was the only one unpacking things when we got there. He can pack up my things, and send it back to where it came from. He's also keeping everything we went 50/50 on as well, so I'm still losing even when he pays for the move. Our friends are on my side here, but he isn't cooperating or budging. I wanted to be civil, but he's being difficult to communicate with, and I am on the other side of the world now. Can I/Should I take him to court to pay for my move? Can I/Should I pursue suing him for the other aspects now that he is no longer being civil about this? Will being on Guam while he is in New Mexico complicate a lawsuit? I'm losing my mind at how I have had everything to lose, and he still doesn't have the decency to do what people around me seem to think is the right thing to do. Any advice and further questions to clarify the situation is appreciated.

Okay, I started doing sometimes cool today, and I think it can bring me good benefits.
I'm reading books everyday, and today I started doing something different. Instead of just read, I pause sometimes and think about what I just read.
For example, I'll paste here a short part of the last page I've just read from one of Freida McFadden books:
"I am so lucky. I have a beautiful house, a fulfilling career, and a husband who is kind and mild mannered and incredibly handsome. And as Nate pulls the car onto the road and starts driving in the direction of the school, all I can think to myself is that I hope a truck blows through a stop sign, plows into the Honda, and kills us both instantly."
After reading that I paused and thought:
...Wait a minute, she was just talking about how she's lucky of having a good life, and now she said she wants to die, and worse, she wants her husband dead too... does she has psychological problems? Or maybe her life wasn't so good, and maybe she was being ironic....
I also applied this technique on videos, where I pause the video, made some comments of what I was seeing and sometimes gave my opinions about what I was watching.
Does someone here does this too? Is it good in the long term?

ok! If the title is confusing, that's because my last few posts about this project were literally never responded to. This is part three. I hope you read the other two parts before this! Now let's get back to the thing: it was clear KEL was mad, But concerned for SUNNY. KEL: "sunny...look, Despite everything we've been through while doing this, And everything we've been through before this, i am NOT going down there." SUNNY: "oh, so NOW You're taking this seriously as I am?" KEL: " i TRY To make light of things, And you're phrasing it like I'm treating this like some kind of joke!" SUNNY: "thats because you make everything happy go luck! this is the reallest shit we've ever seen!" KEL: "and THAT is why im so DEVASTATED you aren't scared! You're throwing your own life around like it's nothing!" SUNNY: "what does that even mean?!" KEL: "look! These things both took so much away from us! THE REASON WE STARTED THIS WAS TO LOOK FOR HER! AND YOU PLAY WILLY NILLY WITH THEM!" SUNNY: "well is your so concerned then FUCKING LEAVE THEN!" KEL: "fine... But when you come up, If you come up, Don't come looking for me because you're not going to be the same sunny I became friends with so long ago...." SUNNY leaves the car, And we audibly hear him drive away. It was now footage from SUNNYs POV, Staring at A TV. There is a shadowy figure in the TV (which Resembles MARI). SUNNY: "who are you?". The entity glitches, Showing footage from VOL 1, With a cover of the final duet playing. Although it's very quick, the name "MARI" flashes. And then finally pauses and lingers on the message "remember me?"...we are now at footage of KEL in the car. The rain is heavy and the camera is glitching. The message "They cared about him and you left him behind"...the voice of HERO Can be heard from the back seat. HERO?: "Who are you running from?" The message "who are you running from?" Is repeated like a Recording over and over and over and over... KEL: "S-SHUT UP!" "L-LEAVE ME ALONE!" The car swirls off the road.... A car alarm plays.... And slowly turns into a beeping similar to a heart monitor (note, It never flat lines) While the message "uh oh! Bad decision kel!" flashes on screen, And becomes credits.

LTA says that one of the reason for a 10yrs COE is older ICE cars are more pollutive as the engine parts degrade and become less efficient. With that logic, it doesn't apply to EVs.
Thus when in the future, no new ICE cars can be sold in SG, should COE be longer than 10yrs from a true sustainability practice? Why scrap and lose the huge embodied carbon in building an EV if LTA wants to decarbonise our transport system.
Will be interesting to see what LTA does in the future.

I think I’ve found my calling in life – helping the alone and abandoned street dogs of Thailand.
It’s well known that there’s stray dogs all over Thailand – known as Soi Dogs. In the tourist areas such as Bangkok, Phuket, Koh Samui etc – some of these dogs get lucky and are taken care of by one of the great charities operating in these areas.
However, since moving to a more rural area of Thailand, Huai Krot, I’ve noticed the dogs here seem to have it a lot harder. There’s no charities to take care of them and no tourists looking out for them. The vast majority of the Thai general public have their own concerns and worries and don’t see that taking care of the dogs (and cats, birds etc) is important or should concern them.
Dogs here, for the most part, get treated like pests, almost the same as rats and pigeons etc. They’re hit, kicked, have rocks thrown at them, cars hit them and don’t stop. A lot of them have skin problems or more serious injuries and very people try to help them. They’re also hungry and rarely have access to clean water.
There are some good people here who try to help and feed the dogs out of their own pocket, but when you are struggling to feed yourself and your family, the help you can offer the dogs becomes quite limited.
Since the start of this year I’ve been trying to do as much as I can for the dogs in my local area. I provide as much food and water as I can and I’ve already garnered a bit of a reputation for being “that farang who helps the dogs”. I very much enjoy doing it and I love to see the difference in the timid dogs after you’ve fed them a few times.
However what I’ve been able to do is just a drop in the ocean compared to how many dogs here need some help. I’ve talked about doing something properly for quite a while now – and I think there’s no better time than now to get started helping the dogs of Huai Krot and the wider area.
I’ve also seen some dogs in pretty horrendous states including a dog that had been savaged by a pack of other dogs and had its rear left leg almost ripped off. Helping this dog was well out of my scope – but I hope in the future I will be able to help every dog that needs it.
The eventual goal would be to have a proper facility for homing and taking care of any local dogs that need it. But to get started I’m going to concentrate on feeding, watering and providing medicine and medical care for as many dogs as possible. We are trying to raise $5000 to pay for the following;
• $2000 for food and water supplies including bowls • $2000 for medicines – primarily Bravecto – for helping with Mange which is very prevalent around here. This would also include Tick and Flea medicines/collars • $600 for a Motorbike with Sidecar for transporting large amounts of food – and also for transporting dogs to the vet when needs arise • $400 – the remaining $400 would be kept in reserve for any unplanned emergencies or unexpected costs etc
I am jumping into the deep end here. I just want to help the dogs living around here as they are out of reach of most of the major charities and seem forgotten about. This is just the beginning with the end goal eventually being that we are able to open a facility to not only help dogs but home them as well. This is far down the line though and we need to start somewhere. So making sure as many dogs as possible are getting regular food and water and have access to medications to improve their quality of life would be a good place to start.
Hopefully some people feel the same and will be able to help us on this journey.
Thanks for reading
Sean Wilson Huai Krot Hounds
Donate - https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-the-dogs-of-huai-krot-and-surrounding-areas

I have been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years now and we have two toddlers. We have a rocky past. He was very unfaithful in the beginning, he claims he never had sex with anyone else and I've never found evidence of that but he has been caught on a date with someone and texting many other women in the past. Sometimes explicitly. I forgave him and I was never unfaithful throughout our relationship though I have had many chances. I met him very young and things went fast because I got pregnant early. For the past 11 months or so, he hasn't done anything and has been a great partner for the most part. This past weekend my most recent ex (the guy I was with before my BF) was in town. He always ask to see me when he comes to town and I never reply. This time I replied but I said no. Back story about him: The only reason we broke up is because our colleges were far from each other and I couldn't do the LDR thing. It crushed us both but I honestly thought I was over him. A few months ago he confessed that he was in love with me still and that there was no other girl like me. I shut him down immediately and he said he understood but he still texted me this past Friday when he came to town. He said we could just grab food and catch up but I declined. My bf absolutely hates him so I didn't want the drama. I am graduating from college tomorrow as well. I went to a grad party and he was in the parking lot with a bunch of friends as I was leaving. I got into my car and he texted me asking could he come with me because he wasn't feeling the after party thing and he had rode with a friend. His friend's place was super close to mine where he left his car. I said yes and gave him a ride there. As soon as we parked he kissed me. It wasn't a small kiss and neither of us were drunk. I didn't stop him and things got pretty heated and we did some things but we didn't have sex. I don't know how to tell my boyfriend or if I even should. I feel terrible for doing it. I honestly think I never got over my ex just like he isn't over me but I have two sons with my boyfriend and he is showing he wants to become the man I wanted him to be from the beginning. Not to mention I don't know how I would handle life financially (we are a team) or being a single mom of two toddlers. What do I do?

I think I’ve found my calling in life – helping the alone and abandoned street dogs of Thailand.
It’s well known that there’s stray dogs all over Thailand – known as Soi Dogs. In the tourist areas such as Bangkok, Phuket, Koh Samui etc – some of these dogs get lucky and are taken care of by one of the great charities operating in these areas.
However, since moving to a more rural area of Thailand, Huai Krot, I’ve noticed the dogs here seem to have it a lot harder. There’s no charities to take care of them and no tourists looking out for them. The vast majority of the Thai general public have their own concerns and worries and don’t see that taking care of the dogs (and cats, birds etc) is important or should concern them.
Dogs here, for the most part, get treated like pests, almost the same as rats and pigeons etc. They’re hit, kicked, have rocks thrown at them, cars hit them and don’t stop. A lot of them have skin problems or more serious injuries and very people try to help them. They’re also hungry and rarely have access to clean water.
There are some good people here who try to help and feed the dogs out of their own pocket, but when you are struggling to feed yourself and your family, the help you can offer the dogs becomes quite limited.
Since the start of this year I’ve been trying to do as much as I can for the dogs in my local area. I provide as much food and water as I can and I’ve already garnered a bit of a reputation for being “that farang who helps the dogs”. I very much enjoy doing it and I love to see the difference in the timid dogs after you’ve fed them a few times.
However what I’ve been able to do is just a drop in the ocean compared to how many dogs here need some help. I’ve talked about doing something properly for quite a while now – and I think there’s no better time than now to get started helping the dogs of Huai Krot and the wider area.
I’ve also seen some dogs in pretty horrendous states including a dog that had been savaged by a pack of other dogs and had its rear left leg almost ripped off. Helping this dog was well out of my scope – but I hope in the future I will be able to help every dog that needs it.
The eventual goal would be to have a proper facility for homing and taking care of any local dogs that need it. But to get started I’m going to concentrate on feeding, watering and providing medicine and medical care for as many dogs as possible. We are trying to raise $5000 to pay for the following;
• $2000 for food and water supplies including bowls • $2000 for medicines – primarily Bravecto – for helping with Mange which is very prevalent around here. This would also include Tick and Flea medicines/collars • $600 for a Motorbike with Sidecar for transporting large amounts of food – and also for transporting dogs to the vet when needs arise • $400 – the remaining $400 would be kept in reserve for any unplanned emergencies or unexpected costs etc
I am jumping into the deep end here. I just want to help the dogs living around here as they are out of reach of most of the major charities and seem forgotten about. This is just the beginning with the end goal eventually being that we are able to open a facility to not only help dogs but home them as well. This is far down the line though and we need to start somewhere. So making sure as many dogs as possible are getting regular food and water and have access to medications to improve their quality of life would be a good place to start.
Hopefully some people feel the same and will be able to help us on this journey.
Thanks for reading
Sean Wilson Huai Krot Hounds
Donate - https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-the-dogs-of-huai-krot-and-surrounding-areas

So few months ago and 2 days ago i had water leakin from my visor clip. I made a post about it around the time of the leak here if you wanna check the backlogs. Anyway. Got the headliner out. N found out alot of info about them rivnuts for the airdam is wrong. Ry the car guy is decent on his intel but hes like a learn while filming kinda guy. Case in point he said 2 of the front rivnuts were out in the open. N 2 were under the structural tubing above the windshield. No all 4 are there. Behind that tubing. And as stuck as mine were ya gotta use vice grips. But theres no hole to use vice grips. Brace yourself (pun intended) legit had to use a hole saw to drill a hole on that brace er body frame er wate er you call it to fit vice grips to grip on the rivnut. Btw in nissans great wisdom (because things never fail and you dont need it easy to get go anything because you wont need to get to it ever) they decided to tape the 3rd brake light wire and interior light wire to the headliner. Btw whose wise ass idea was it to use rivnuts anyway when a simple nut n bolt will do anyway like on every other car part? I love nissan but this was a mistake. They should make a recall on the rivnuts since technically it can be a safety issue with rust n mold n electrical hasards and is such a common issue. And for every recall if it takes a long time give a z or gtr as a rental. Fkn bs. Oh n btw its 2 rivnuts i had to drill holes for. Driver side too. Hope i dont get in a rollover. 👍

I think I’ve found my calling in life – helping the alone and abandoned street dogs of Thailand.
It’s well known that there’s stray dogs all over Thailand – known as Soi Dogs. In the tourist areas such as Bangkok, Phuket, Koh Samui etc – some of these dogs get lucky and are taken care of by one of the great charities operating in these areas.
However, since moving to a more rural area of Thailand, Huai Krot, I’ve noticed the dogs here seem to have it a lot harder. There’s no charities to take care of them and no tourists looking out for them. The vast majority of the Thai general public have their own concerns and worries and don’t see that taking care of the dogs (and cats, birds etc) is important or should concern them.
Dogs here, for the most part, get treated like pests, almost the same as rats and pigeons etc. They’re hit, kicked, have rocks thrown at them, cars hit them and don’t stop. A lot of them have skin problems or more serious injuries and very people try to help them. They’re also hungry and rarely have access to clean water.
There are some good people here who try to help and feed the dogs out of their own pocket, but when you are struggling to feed yourself and your family, the help you can offer the dogs becomes quite limited.
Since the start of this year I’ve been trying to do as much as I can for the dogs in my local area. I provide as much food and water as I can and I’ve already garnered a bit of a reputation for being “that farang who helps the dogs”. I very much enjoy doing it and I love to see the difference in the timid dogs after you’ve fed them a few times.
However what I’ve been able to do is just a drop in the ocean compared to how many dogs here need some help. I’ve talked about doing something properly for quite a while now – and I think there’s no better time than now to get started helping the dogs of Huai Krot and the wider area.
I’ve also seen some dogs in pretty horrendous states including a dog that had been savaged by a pack of other dogs and had its rear left leg almost ripped off. Helping this dog was well out of my scope – but I hope in the future I will be able to help every dog that needs it.
The eventual goal would be to have a proper facility for homing and taking care of any local dogs that need it. But to get started I’m going to concentrate on feeding, watering and providing medicine and medical care for as many dogs as possible. We are trying to raise $5000 to pay for the following;
• $2000 for food and water supplies including bowls • $2000 for medicines – primarily Bravecto – for helping with Mange which is very prevalent around here. This would also include Tick and Flea medicines/collars • $600 for a Motorbike with Sidecar for transporting large amounts of food – and also for transporting dogs to the vet when needs arise • $400 – the remaining $400 would be kept in reserve for any unplanned emergencies or unexpected costs etc
I am jumping into the deep end here. I just want to help the dogs living around here as they are out of reach of most of the major charities and seem forgotten about. This is just the beginning with the end goal eventually being that we are able to open a facility to not only help dogs but home them as well. This is far down the line though and we need to start somewhere. So making sure as many dogs as possible are getting regular food and water and have access to medications to improve their quality of life would be a good place to start.
Hopefully some people feel the same and will be able to help us on this journey.
Thanks for reading
Sean Wilson Huai Krot Hounds
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I have some memories of the movie, I remember two scenes, one where a man is on the road with a sleeping blonde woman, I know they were a couple, the fact is that the police stop them and the man wakes up the woman and tells her that Hide the money and a gun, the woman does it, she hides the money in the glove compartment and the gun under a seat, then she changes places with the man to be in the driver's place and talk to the police officer and "seduce" him. The point is that the policeman lets them go, but as soon as they start the car, the gun comes out from under the seat and hits a part of the floor of the car, the policeman realizes it but lets them go. Another scene is with both of them outside from the car, the woman purposely crouches in front of the man and asks him to slap her butt and the man does so. That's the only two scenes that I remember i remember that the man had a white t shirt and the woman had a red lipstick in both scenes

Idk what to do. My bf doesn’t have a car at the moment and uses my car to pick them up AND drop them off. The kids mom does have a car and she doesn’t pick them up or drop them off from my place. I let my bf use my car to drop me off at work and door dash while I’m at work. Then he’ll pick the kids up from school with my car as well. I feel like I’m being taken advantage of by her. She knows he doesn’t have a car and I don’t want him to not see his kids, but I feel like it’s not my part in a way and it’s too much on my car. The drive is over half an hour to and from work on top of him door dashing with my car and then picking them up. Sometimes when he tries to drop them off the mom isn’t home and it’s a waste of my gas and time and she never compensates because she’s broke.

Okay, so I will give all the background information first and then explain my issue, aka, the part where I need advice.
I am 22 years old, just graduated from college and about to start my first “adult job” in the next coming months (I will be a teacher!!). I live at home with my parents, reasons being: 1) I went to college 10 minutes away and it was cheaper than housing 2) my family is very isolated and we quite iterally are the only 3 people in our family, so I’m close with my parents because they are my only family, and 3) my parents have told me several times that I am welcome with live with them for as long as I need/want so that I can save money and all sorts. I am very grateful for them!!
I currently have a 2017 Civic which my parents bought for me brand new after I got my license. Again, I am extremely grateful and I LOVE my Civic. It has got me through nearly 7 years of school and life!!
My new job a city over which is about 30-45 minutes away and all interstate. I have not had problems with my Civic and I truly believe it will last me until I die. I know that. However, I am the type of person who likes new and so I do tend to gravitate towards things I don’t really need.
I have a lot of money saved up, and have decided that I would like to trade my car in for a newer Honda SUV model, (a car that might do better where I live for icy winters and snow) and pay for the rest (or most of the rest) in cash. I would also like to pay for the insurance and payments on my own— which my parents have very kindly always done for me. I would also like to mention that I have done a TON of research on this entire thing as it has been stewing in my brain for months.
My “reasoning”, or more so my way of justifying buying a car over moving out for those people I know will ask/be curious about, is because realistically, in my state with the salary and savings I have, moving out within the next year or even two isn’t reasonable, unfortunately. If I were to move out rather than buy the car per se, it would be about another 6-8 years before I could think about upgrading my vehicle which at that point will’ve dropped in value even more. I would also be basically living check to check, so all my money would be towards the house and things for me to live. I also think that considering I really have never truly ever paid for anything in my life, that a small car payment and car insurance would be a good way for me to develop some responsibility as an adult.
Long story short, which honestly doesn’t relate to the background info as much as I was thinking, I am wondering how I could APPROACH my parents about doing something like this? I want them to know how grateful I am and what I want to do. I’m pretty determined about my decision, but I really don’t want to hurt their feelings about trading in the car they bought me or make them think I’m being super irresponsible. Maybe I am. But, I don’t know, I’m young and dumb, so sometimes I think about life, how short it is and ultimately start feeling impulsive. I have never asked/talked to my parents about something like this or really anything “big”, to be honest. I’m not sure how to start the conversation without being disrespectful or causing them stress. Also, buying cars in my family is very normal as my dad does so every couple years, if that means anything to you— it did for my personal justification lol.
Also, I would like to respectfully say that I understand not everyone will agree with me or anything I have said, and I don’t expect people to. That’s why I didn’t give any specific details. I’m just here asking for advice on how to talk to my parents about a situation which is considered big in my 3 person family. Thank you for your help!

I have some memories of the movie, I remember two scenes, one where a man is on the road with a sleeping blonde woman, I know they were a couple, the fact is that the police stop them and the man wakes up the woman and tells her that Hide the money and a gun, the woman does it, she hides the money in the glove compartment and the gun under a seat, then she changes places with the man to be in the driver's place and talk to the police officer and "seduce" him. The point is that the policeman lets them go, but as soon as they start the car, the gun comes out from under the seat and hits a part of the floor of the car, the policeman realizes it but lets them go, another scene is with both of them outside. from the car, the woman purposely crouches in front of the man and asks him to slap her butt and the man does so.

I know I'm not perfect. I know I fucked up during this situation too, but I feel like my husband is constantly using DARVO against me.
This morning was not the smoothest wake up so he was already a bit frustrated. We decided to head to a cafe to pick up breakfast before heading to the dog park. He promptly hit his shoulder on the car door which made him even more frustrated. At this point I've told him to take a breath and slow down if he needs to at least 3-4 times but he keeps insisting he's fine. I get uncomfortable around people who are upset, so I was a bit quieter.
We get to the cafe and parks. I unbuckled my seatbelt at the same time he did and he snaps at me demanding to know if he's getting it or am I? At this point my discomfort has morphed into irritation. I snap about his attitude and he immediately asks me what the hell is wrong with me? I tell him he's had an attitude since before we left the house. He responds with he just hit his shoulder and why do I always think that he's upset with me when he is frustrated (which I never once said). I said "I'm sorry for losing my composure" and tried to explain why I was feeling the way I was feeling.
I responded that while I had gotten frustrated at the pups earlier, I had only been frustrated at them and didn't take it out on him but he was taking out his frustrations on me. It starts escalating to where we both are raising our voices and he does something he's never done before - he gets out of the car and says he's going to walk home (about 1/2 a mile so nothing crazy but still).
This brought up a memory of when I was 9 and my dad did the same thing. He walked out of the car and left me, my brother, and my mom to drive home without him. Coupled with me telling him numerous times in the past that when he just walks away, it makes things 10x worse in my head, that I'd appreciate it if he tells me he needs to cool down so I don't just assume the worst. So I panicked and shouted that if he left, then we were done.
He returned to the car pretty pissed at me for saying it. I reminded him of what I'd gone through and how that had made me feel. His response was "well your dad isn't the only one who would walk away from your mom" (which, while true because my mom is a whole 'nother problem on her own, hurt). I wrote out my feelings after we got home but he never read the text I sent. In it, I had apologized for my own wrongs during the fight and had told him how I had felt using an analogy of my being soda and his anger being like shaking the carbonation in said soda. How his walking out like that had felt like someone smashed my soda bottle on the floor and then got mad at me for making a mess. He did eventually apologize and I figured we were fine.
We split up for the afternoon and then this evening, I went upstairs to read for a while. I had no idea it had gotten late and that he'd been cleaning the kitchen. He came upstairs and was pretty aggressive with his tone when he mentioned I hadn't helped with the kitchen. For me this had come out of nowhere so I snapped that he should ask for help next time if he needs it.
I realized I messed up so I went, washed my face to calm down, and came back. I said "I don't want to start a fight. I'm sorry I snapped at you. I really didn't like how you talked to me and I'd appreciate you ask me if you need help." His response was that he hadn't gotten an apology from that morning from me. I asked him what that had to do with anything and if that was an excuse to talk like that to me. I also told him we could discuss that after we finished the conversation I had brought up. My goals in the conversation were to establish a better routine for us before bed to help each other more. I'm forgetful and so is he, so I figured it might be a good idea.
Nope. He had no response to my question and instead doubled down that he was still upset from that morning. That I don't help clean in the kitchen enough and he shouldn't have to ask. I do the floors. I load our dishwasher. I do the laundry. I help bring in the trash cans when he asks. I often ask him if he wants my help when cooking or will sometimes just hop in and do something like prep work for him. On the rare occasion, I'll cook myself. I'm not very confident with it and I know I should do it more often, especially since I work from home, but I just don't get hungry as regularly as most people do. Food doesn't always cross my mind. If I do get hungry and don't eat within a certain time frame, I just... stop being hungry and forget about it. I went through chemo and I've just been like that ever since. He knows this.
It wound up snowballing into a huge fight where he gave a half-assed apology about how he'd spoken to me and agreed to ask me for help. This came after I'd already gotten upset over half an hour of bickering. I've told him time and again that he can't expect me to just calm down immediately. My emotions aren't like flipping a switch. I don't get over things as quickly as he seemingly does - he can go from really upset to calm pretty quickly if he's left alone for a bit for the most part.
Again, I know I messed up during this a ton. I know I explode a bit too quickly because my fuse isn't as long as I would like it to be. I've gotten on antidepressants and have come a long way, I think, from who I used to be when I'd get angry. I've asked him to see a doctor because I think he has rejection sensitivity disorder and/or bipolar but he never has. I'm trying to identify where and when I screw up so I can improve myself but I can't see this objectively. Help?

Took a BP half-length prior to beginning content review and my score was a high 480. This was disappointing but not unexpected. I crammed for exams in most of my undergrad classes so I haven’t retained a lot of the info long-term. Also I guessed every question in B/B in a few minutes. Same with C/P lol. I did try for CARS and got 122 which was was concerning since I’m in Canada and aiming for 130. Timing was an issue and I wasn’t able to do the last passage. P/S was the highest section at 125. My plan is to spend the next 5 or so weeks grinding the Kaplan books and Jack Sparrow since I obviously usky have major content gaps. For psych I’ll use Pankow. Planning to spend 5 weeks on UEarth and 5 on AAMC material. Also I’m focusing on biochem and biology first so I’ll start doing UEarth for B/B as soon as I finish those books and continue content review for chem, orgo and physics. Following the testing solutions guide for CARS using JW, EK and TPR passages. My test date is at the end of August and my goal score is above 520 but I would realistically be happy with at least 516. I’ll be spending most of my time studying but also working part-time.

Please Read My Last post before you dive into this one...

Because boy oh boy have things changed BIG TIME.
In the last almost 2 months since I dropped that post, there's been some new people who were hired, and another round of good old combo clerk training. I like usual was not even asked to be part of it. I would have said "No Thank You That Sounds God Awful", but it was another "candidate" who really got my Blood Absolutely Boiling.
We have this newcomer to the company who I will call Guy 1 from here on out.
Guy 1 could not be lazier. The dude on several occasions, just walked out of the store, out to his car, got in turned on the AC and spent 30ish-40 minutes out there. Which wouldn't be so bad if he didnt do it EVERY SINGLE HOUR HE WAS ON THE CLOCK!!!!! We would call his name on the intercom for almost the entire time with no answer. and his lunch breaks were almost an hour to an hour and a half when the rest of the galaxy only takes a half for lunch and then gets their butts back on the clock.
Long story short he's now a combo clerk... let that sink in really quick.
The other day I was helping get carts with this guy because it was his hour, and he was inside until about 40 minutes past the hour. I had done his sweep, then I saw that both sides were getting low on carts. So I let management know that I would be outside getting more carts because it was his hour, and he was in the check stand covering a lunch or something. I went out there grabbed 2 sets of 7 carts, and pushed them in, then Guy comes out vest on but no Ratchet Strap and then proceeds to grab 20 carts and push them into the stall. I told him that he cannot bring 20 carts in and that he needs to go inside and grab a ratchet strap and pull in 7 max because if someone from union or a VP comes in for a little visit, the store gets dinged and our SM would have both our heads for screwing with her records or whatever.
Guy proceeds to yell at me because its fine and SM has seen me do it before and that I do things my own way and that I cannot yell at him. Guy then does another set of 20 before going off to lunch someplace outside of the store parking lot. Leaving me, with left extreme side of the cart corral done and right extreme side of the cart corral done but no carts in the middle.
Later that day he pulls me aside and apologizes for yelling at me, because "I don't like it when people raise their voices at me" when I only did it to get his attention because he was going from a parking lot that might as well be its own rumble strip while going over a rumble strip with 20 carts. He then claimed that his maximum was 56 carts pushed in in one go.
Even the other cashiers saw that I should have been at least asked and were asking management like "what the hell why not me?" and all they said in return was a shrug followed with, "yeah he was an awful choice wasn't he?"
Anyway to answer questions from the last post... apparently there is no such thing as a "voluntary demotion" I asked SM about that and she herself had no Idea what that was. it's just good old-fashioned favoritism, I guess. I asked my manager why I can't go into being on the pickup team and she said that "I spoke with "manager" over there and they said, "my technical skills were lacking."" which I will admit makes sense when I can count the number of orders I've done on my own in the low single digits and I've never done a single carry out.
More than likely, I will be going to the union this week and I'll be showing them both of these posts.

Listen at this point I think I’m cursed because I swear I keep having one of 2 things happen to me in my life. Either I do something incredibly stupid or something incredibly unlucky happens to me and yet somehow I come out unscathed, example being on more then one occasion me dropping glass items due to a completely unlucky set of circumstances yet somehow catching it perfectly or even better having it LITERALLY BOUNCE ON HARD FLOOR and me stopping it before breaking. Or I have the luckiest things happen to me and it looks like I’m guaranteed to succeed in something and then at the absolute last minute despite all odds I fuck it up somehow. Just today I had both of these happen simultaneously. I really liked this girl and I asked her to prom and she said yes. Mind you I literally got full confirmation from her friend that it was a good idea before doing it so it wasn’t a big surprise. Now in the time between asking and prom we progressed so quickly that we agreed to actually start dating after prom. Which honestly I never expected to happen and I was so happy. Prom comes along and I actually nail it. We hugged we held hands we felt like an actual couple and it was great. We even kissed at the end. But of course my curse couldn’t just let me be happy. I said “i love you” and we’d really only been dating for like a week so it’s way too early to say that and I really meant that I just really liked her but my brain just kinda shortened it to one word. Now she didn’t seem mad at first or weirded out so I thought it was fine but it definitely wasn’t. I dropped her off at a party after prom cause I couldn’t stay any later and when I got home I messaged her that shit again CAUSE IM A FUCKIN DUMBASS WHO THOUGHT IT WAS FINE. Come the next day she wasn’t really talking to me and I wasn’t sure why at first but i had this lingering thought that she might be trying to ghost me despite what seemed like a lot of evidence against that. So I asked if she was ok to which she responded with no and explained how she WAS in fact weirded out by it and needed some space. So here we are I’m about to just accept the fact that this shit happened again like it always fucking does and I was about to just be depressed but instead I actually tried to work out. And I explained to her what happened and she understood but said she still needed more time. So I’m thinking welp I tried and I had to get to work anyway so I tried to push it out my mind. But then she messaged me and apologized for being slow to respond to my messages originally because she was “a little hungover.” Now call me a bitch but I don’t drink and don’t plan on it for the foreseeable future so this caught me so off guard cause she also has stated she doesn’t plan to drink. So suddenly I’m thinking shit because I said ONE FUCKING WORD WRONG I stressed her out causing her to drink. Now imagine going to work and trying to serve customers while trying to deal with the fact that you might’ve been the sole cause for an incredibly stupid fucking decision that someone you care about a lot made. Safe to say I was internally having a meltdown while trying my best to seem fine on the outside. My manager could tell something was up and let me take a 15 minute break (which definitely ended up being longer then 15 minutes) where I just fucking broke down in my car cause I was so fucking done with myself. Literally one word was the difference here. One word was the difference between me having a girlfriend and me maybe not having a girlfriend and also causing her to make a horrible decision. But I pulled myself together enough to talk to her about it. She confirmed to me that I was definitely not the reason she was drinking, although I still don’t believe her, and that she would’ve done it no matter what. And on top of that, we talked about the other thing more and how I was seriously still sorry about that and I felt awful. Now I’m still under the assumption that I’ve completely fucked this but then she comes out of nowhere and we actually talked it out like a lot and she was worried about me despite what I had said. And told me she actually understood why I had said that and wasn’t mad at me. She just said she was very taken aback. She then proceeded to grill me to make sure I was ok (in a very similar fashion to how I’d grill her when she wasn’t ok) and also wanted to make sure that WE were ok. At this point I told her exactly why I was so scared and why I was definitely not ok earlier and she told me that I didn’t fuck it up and that this stupid shit I said wasn’t going to change how she felt about me and she still really cared about me and liked me a lot. This all happened in the span of like 2 days btw so I was on the biggest emotional roller coaster. Swear to god I dealt with every single emotion in those two days. Now the crazy part is I realized just now that my curse infact struck twice today. This whole time I’m thinking this shit is screwing me over as always but I forgot about the first part of my curse. The part where I somehow come out unscathed after the stupidest most unlucky shit happens. Now this happened in two ways during this incident. One is the fact that we worked it out despite the chaos. Two which still dumbfounds me is the fact that she didn’t ghost me. She told me that literally EVERY SINGLE ONE OF HER FRIENDS WERE TELLING HER TO JUST GHOST ME! THAT ORIGINAL FEAR I THOUGHT WAS UNWARRANTED WAS ACTUALLY ALMOST TRUE! BUT SHE DECIDED AFTER I ASKED IF SHE WAS OK TO ACTUALLY TALK TO ME CAUSE SHE STILL FELT I HAD THE RIGHT TO KNOW. That god damn curse is also a blessing cause once again the stupidest most unlucky shit happens but somehow by pure fucking luck it ends up avoiding becoming worst case scenario and actually works itself out. When she told me literally all her friends were telling her to ghost me I was actually floored. I swear I thanked her like 5 different times for not ghosting me and actually talking it out. In summary I am the luckiest unlucky man alive and it’s a blessing and a fucking curse.