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2024.06.02 09:19 Real_Lil_Nugget I (19)F was broken up with (19)M and he won't communicate
Hi ! By the title you may be confused but I promise I'll try to make it maks sense.
I (19)F was broken up with (19)M a week ago after 5 months of dating. For content behind the break up was that we've had some issues over the past month of us being together. We were living an hour n half away and saw each other every other weekend. I would get upset over him being obsess with his friends and how he would hangout with them all the time and spending money when was out with them every week. But when we were together he would complain if I wanted to go to a park or somewhere out rather being inside his house all weekend because it he wanted to save money, but if I suggested on inviting a friend he was more obligated to go out and acted more excited. This caused a bickering for a few weeks until he was at his last straw on mother's day. He came over and had a rundown with me about his feelings and time management that he wanted to have with his friends and me. This made me realize a lot more and I told him I was sorry and that I would be better. After that everything was ok until the week after. Now, I've been wanting to go to the beach for a while now. I would ask him all the time to take me and he would reject. Well, the week after he told me that he was going out to the beach with his friends, Derek, Andrew, and Elizabeth (Fake names) and Elizabeth was a girl he dated back in highschool and when my ex and I we're about to date she messaged him saying "you're hot, but I wouldn't date you". I was upset that he was going with his friends when I've been asking, not to mention I felt uncomfortable with him going with Elizabeth. He told me he was going to go with them to check out the place and see what its "kinks" were so we would go. I got over it until the next day when I was playing Andrew and he told me they we're going to the beach that was 20 minutes away from my house and thought I was invited. This killed me seeing he never told me.
A bit afterwards I was talking to my mom about the situation and then said it's whatever. She went out of her way without telling me that she was going to call him. Apparently she told him that if we were going to be together then its good to merge your friend group with the person you're with so it's easier to hang out. She also asked why he didn't invite me when I've asking and its only 20 minutes away. His answer was he didn't know it was close to me. Then she proceeded to say if I was upset then thats probably why and not to get mad since it's kind of fair. Next day rolls by and I was telling him how I was in pain from work and mention about wanting to go to the beach to relax (not realizing it sounded like an asshole and trying to mention it). He sighed and then brought up that my mom called and I told him I didn't know she did and that I wasn't really upset and it was his time with his friends. I asked him if he was ok and he said he was fine and pinky promised it. After we hung up and I messaged him telling him that I appreciated him and I knew he's been stress, that I was here for him cause I love him. He was acting sweet after and I was getting ready to go out. 10 or 15 minutes later he called to break it off and said he was hurting and that he just can't do it. I asked if he wanted a break and he said no which led me asking what are we then and he said "whatever you want, I don't know what the future looks like".
This leads to me to my question (sorry it took so long, I thought I should give information). So it's been a week and he has been avoiding about talking about me and if I'm brought up he goes dead silent. Some of his friends asked him for his side and he got aggressive and said he doesn't want to say so I've been the only person saying my side. He never unadded me but after 20 minutes of being broken up he removed some loving pictures on his socials but then put it back on recently. I asked him if we can discuss the future a bit more and how long I should leave him alone and he told me he wouldn't talk for a while and just to get him his space (which of course I will). But other than that I'm kind of stuck on what to do cause I don't have that much information to go by. He won't tell me why he was hurting and broke it off ( maybe I'm blindsided) or doesn't say his side to anyone and acting like I don't exist but keeps me around in a way. I don't know if I should be patient and see if something happens or if I should let go. Sorry if it got confusing around the end, it's almost 3am and I'm tired lol.
TLDR: My ex is not communicating with me about what's happening after breaking up with me out of nowhere.
Please reach out and help out if you can, I would really appreciate it!! Thank you for taking the time to reas all of this lol
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I (19)F was broken up with (19)M a week ago after 5 months of dating. For content behind the break up was that we've had some issues over the past month of us being together. We were living an hour n half away and saw each other every other weekend. I would get upset over him being obsess with his friends and how he would hangout with them all the time and spending money when was out with them every week. But when we were together he would complain if I wanted to go to a park or somewhere out rather being inside his house all weekend because it he wanted to save money, but if I suggested on inviting a friend he was more obligated to go out and acted more excited. This caused a bickering for a few weeks until he was at his last straw on mother's day. He came over and had a rundown with me about his feelings and time management that he wanted to have with his friends and me. This made me realize a lot more and I told him I was sorry and that I would be better. After that everything was ok until the week after. Now, I've been wanting to go to the beach for a while now. I would ask him all the time to take me and he would reject. Well, the week after he told me that he was going out to the beach with his friends, Derek, Andrew, and Elizabeth (Fake names) and Elizabeth was a girl he dated back in highschool and when my ex and I we're about to date she messaged him saying "you're hot, but I wouldn't date you". I was upset that he was going with his friends when I've been asking, not to mention I felt uncomfortable with him going with Elizabeth. He told me he was going to go with them to check out the place and see what its "kinks" were so we would go. I got over it until the next day when I was playing Andrew and he told me they we're going to the beach that was 20 minutes away from my house and thought I was invited. This killed me seeing he never told me.
A bit afterwards I was talking to my mom about the situation and then said it's whatever. She went out of her way without telling me that she was going to call him. Apparently she told him that if we were going to be together then its good to merge your friend group with the person you're with so it's easier to hang out. She also asked why he didn't invite me when I've asking and its only 20 minutes away. His answer was he didn't know it was close to me. Then she proceeded to say if I was upset then thats probably why and not to get mad since it's kind of fair. Next day rolls by and I was telling him how I was in pain from work and mention about wanting to go to the beach to relax (not realizing it sounded like an asshole and trying to mention it). He sighed and then brought up that my mom called and I told him I didn't know she did and that I wasn't really upset and it was his time with his friends. I asked him if he was ok and he said he was fine and pinky promised it. After we hung up and I messaged him telling him that I appreciated him and I knew he's been stress, that I was here for him cause I love him. He was acting sweet after and I was getting ready to go out. 10 or 15 minutes later he called to break it off and said he was hurting and that he just can't do it. I asked if he wanted a break and he said no which led me asking what are we then and he said "whatever you want, I don't know what the future looks like".
This leads to me to my question (sorry it took so long, I thought I should give information). So it's been a week and he has been avoiding about talking about me and if I'm brought up he goes dead silent. Some of his friends asked him for his side and he got aggressive and said he doesn't want to say so I've been the only person saying my side. He never unadded me but after 20 minutes of being broken up he removed some loving pictures on his socials but then put it back on recently. I asked him if we can discuss the future a bit more and how long I should leave him alone and he told me he wouldn't talk for a while and just to get him his space (which of course I will). But other than that I'm kind of stuck on what to do cause I don't have that much information to go by. He won't tell me why he was hurting and broke it off ( maybe I'm blindsided) or doesn't say his side to anyone and acting like I don't exist but keeps me around in a way. I don't know if I should be patient and see if something happens or if I should let go. Sorry if it got confusing around the end, it's almost 3am and I'm tired lol.
TLDR: My ex is not communicating with me about what's happening after breaking up with me out of nowhere.
Please reach out and help out if you can, I would really appreciate it!! Thank you for taking the time to reas all of this lol
2024.06.02 09:16 ThrowRA_haiwee ex broke no contact- what do i do
 | we’ve only been no contact for a month but we broke up in march, since then we’ve been on and off no-contact. i recently sent him a goodbye letter (one that he told me he wanted and also one that i wanted to write) and i thought i kept it pretty civil, no mean things or anything. submitted by ThrowRA_haiwee to ExNoContact [link] [comments] i dont know what to do. why would he text me… he never (according to him) cheated on me during the relationship but he did a lot of weird things with other girls behind my back… what broke the camel’s back was him buying another girl’s nudes; that’s when i broke up with him (later found out he also paid her to have phone sex with her after we broke up). do i leave him on read? i’m sorry if this was rambly i’m really shaken up by this because idk i dont wanna be mean and i feel like i turned so evil during our relationship i just want to move on but i am also curious |
2024.06.02 09:16 reirei444 AITA for blocking my girlfriend after she left me alone during the worst panic attack of my life?
So me, F (won’t be marking ages for privacy) and my girlfriend, F, were out with our friend group yesterday evening, smoking and drinking. At around 10:30 PM we agreed it was time for us to head to my house to spend the rest of the evening there as we were both tired and it was getting colder out. At home we cuddled in my bed which quickly turned into kissing, making out and finally sex. After we were done I was all covered in sweat, dripping down from my hair to my face and all over my body. My legs were aching and I was still shaking. All of that combined with the small amount of substances still left in my system triggered a panic attack. I started shaking harder, hyperventilating, and my vision blurred to the point where I couldn’t make out her facial features clearly. All of it scared me, I tried to find my clothes but it was dark and the bed was messy, all of this worsened my situation, and I soon started biting the skin off my fingers, which I do as a coping mechanism sometimes. During all of this my girlfriend kept repeating ”It’s going to be okay” and ”I’m here” while simultaneously getting dressed and calling her dad to pick her up. So now I was not only overstimulated, but also panicking because she was leaving and I was going to be left alone in my dark room feeling like I’m actively dying. The situation also made me nearly non verbal and all I could say was ”no” a couple of times. Despite all this she apologized, and told me that her mom wants her home and left. After a few minutes of calming down I grabbed my phone and blocked her in every single app I could think of that she could possibly contact me with. This was last night, around 30 minutes after I’d blocked her, a mutual friend texted me asking why I did that, I left her on read. Nothing else has happened since, as she basically was no way of contacting me now. I don’t know how to move forward from this point, I guess we’ll in the end have to talk about somehow, but I’m not sure yet if I want to break up with her over this. it So am I the asshole?
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2024.06.02 09:16 ThrowRAdeadnamedot he M20 ended things after 2 dates but can't seem to leave me F22 alone, advice?
I F22 went on 2 dates with my coworker M20 but he cut it off due to personal issues (which he kept vague) this fling only lasted for less than 2 weeks and it wasn't until after I more or less got over it that I noticed and accepted all the red flags that he showed prior and during our fling, such as lovebombing, overstepping boundaries, womanizer habits, anger issues etc...
My problem now is that although he ended things "amicably" ie. asked to stay as friends. he has been giving me mixed signals and it's making me trying to get 100% over him really tough and downright uncomfortable.
example 1; recently whenever I see him at work, he tends to pucker his lips directly at me as if I'd Come running to him for a kiss and even worse he seems to only do this in front of my other male coworkers. it gives me the same feeling of when a cat pisses on the wall to mark it's territory and it's pissing me off (lol)
example 2; he keeps overstepping my personal space. I decided to limit the time I see him at work by only talking to him for only work-related reasons, but it seems like he comes to bother me to invade my space for any reason at all. he tends to also stand pretty close to me (which I don't enjoy because I'm not a touchy Feely kind of person) and I've gotten into the habit of not acknowledging him at all by avoiding eye contact or going into a different section of my department.
during one of my closing shifts, I needed help bringing down a giant balloon from a high shelf which I could not reach, it was nearing my clock out time and I didn't have time to go and look for a ladder AND finish all of my duties of the night, he happened to appear and I asked for his help. ugh. after he assessed the situation he proceeds to call me over which honestly made my stomach sink. "what is it?", "come over here", i walk over but keep about 5 ft in-between us "yes?", "I got an idea, Come here" he does this squat stretch thing and i immediatly knew where this sht was headed. still keeping my distance I proceeded to try to ask him again but not before he janks me from the wrist and in one swift motion lifts me up by holding onto my legs/thighs.
did this work? no. was I flustered and incredibly anxious afterwards? yes.
I know I need to confront him but as someone who HATES confrontation, I'm afraid of saying the wrong things or phrasing it poorly. please offer me advice :(
tldr: coworker fling, can't seem to leave me alone even though he's the one who ended things and it's getting downright uncomfortable
.p.s. I do not wish to contact HR, I want this to be settled between us two. hopefully
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My problem now is that although he ended things "amicably" ie. asked to stay as friends. he has been giving me mixed signals and it's making me trying to get 100% over him really tough and downright uncomfortable.
example 1; recently whenever I see him at work, he tends to pucker his lips directly at me as if I'd Come running to him for a kiss and even worse he seems to only do this in front of my other male coworkers. it gives me the same feeling of when a cat pisses on the wall to mark it's territory and it's pissing me off (lol)
example 2; he keeps overstepping my personal space. I decided to limit the time I see him at work by only talking to him for only work-related reasons, but it seems like he comes to bother me to invade my space for any reason at all. he tends to also stand pretty close to me (which I don't enjoy because I'm not a touchy Feely kind of person) and I've gotten into the habit of not acknowledging him at all by avoiding eye contact or going into a different section of my department.
during one of my closing shifts, I needed help bringing down a giant balloon from a high shelf which I could not reach, it was nearing my clock out time and I didn't have time to go and look for a ladder AND finish all of my duties of the night, he happened to appear and I asked for his help. ugh. after he assessed the situation he proceeds to call me over which honestly made my stomach sink. "what is it?", "come over here", i walk over but keep about 5 ft in-between us "yes?", "I got an idea, Come here" he does this squat stretch thing and i immediatly knew where this sht was headed. still keeping my distance I proceeded to try to ask him again but not before he janks me from the wrist and in one swift motion lifts me up by holding onto my legs/thighs.
did this work? no. was I flustered and incredibly anxious afterwards? yes.
I know I need to confront him but as someone who HATES confrontation, I'm afraid of saying the wrong things or phrasing it poorly. please offer me advice :(
tldr: coworker fling, can't seem to leave me alone even though he's the one who ended things and it's getting downright uncomfortable
.p.s. I do not wish to contact HR, I want this to be settled between us two. hopefully
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Overall, the Victron Energy BAT412025081 has proven to be a reliable and efficient solution for my needs, and I wouldn't hesitate to recommend it. 🔗Affordable, Portable Sealed Lead-Acid Batteryhttps://preview.redd.it/8pdhs0fuz34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=19434efd9714ef53720edf50e2f97eaca51577e7 The Mighty Max battery has been a game changer in my experience. I switched to this sealed lead-acid battery when my old one started causing issues, and I have not looked back since. I use this 12V, 100Ah SLA battery to power my outdoor devices, and the consistent power supply it provides is quite impressive. The rechargeable feature is definitely a plus, allowing me to use the same battery multiple times without worrying about constantly having to replace it. One of the aspects that I appreciate the most about this product is its durability. Despite being subjected to various outdoor conditions, the Mighty Max battery has been quite rugged and held up well. The spill-proof feature is a welcomed addition as well, ensuring that my device never gets damaged due to accidents. That being said, there are a couple of minor downsides to this product. One of them is the weight; it is a bit on the heavier side, which may pose inconvenience when transporting it. Additionally, while the battery offers a decent amount of capacity, the performance under heavy load conditions can be somewhat inconsistent at times. In summary, the Mighty Max battery, despite its minor flaws, has been a reliable and long-lasting addition to my device setup. Its portability could be improved slightly, but overall, I am quite pleased with my purchase. 🔗Mighty Max ML15-12 12V 15AH SLA Battery for Rechargeable Deviceshttps://preview.redd.it/0qj57usuz34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ec119cc6c90ecb78e548f7cee05f785d28dcdef5 I've been enjoying using the Mighty Max Battery Ml15-12 in my daily life. 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FAQhttps://preview.redd.it/pts41fyxz34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=aa91507415ce27a6bbab683170aa9b2c4b9ac1e5 What is the Agm Rattler Battery Pack?The Agm Rattler Battery Pack is a set of premium automotive AGM (Absorbed Glass Mat) batteries designed to provide reliable and long-lasting power to a wide range of vehicles, including trucks, cars, motorcycles, and RVs. These batteries are known for their durability, maintenance-free operation, and exceptional performance in extreme temperatures.What makes the Agm Rattler Battery Pack different from other automotive battery packs?The primary difference between the Agm Rattler Battery Pack and other automotive battery packs is the type of technology used in the battery cells. The Rattler utilizes absorbent glass mat (AGM) technology, which offers several advantages over traditional flooded lead-acid batteries. These advantages include: * Increased power output and reliability
https://preview.redd.it/qqvwhmmyz34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e3cb3a0785030ead041e87fbae1a35554aa52fe1 What is the warranty on the Agm Rattler Battery Pack?The Agm Rattler Battery Pack typically comes with a warranty of at least 24 months, depending on the manufacturer. This warranty covers defects in materials and workmanship, ensuring that the customer receives a high-quality product and peace of mind when making the purchase.What is the size of the Agm Rattler Battery Pack?The size of the Agm Rattler Battery Pack can vary depending on the specific product and the type of vehicle it is designed for. However, most Rattler battery packs have dimensions ranging from 9.5 inches to 10.75 inches in length, 6.9 inches to 7.5 inches in width, and 7.7 inches to 8.3 inches in height. It is essential to consult the product specifications or manufacturer's website to determine the exact size for a specific battery pack.What are the maintenance requirements for the Agm Rattler Battery Pack?The Agm Rattler Battery Pack is designed to be maintenance-free, eliminating the need for regular checking of the water level and acid levels. You should still periodically check the battery terminals and cables for any corrosion, as well as the overall condition of the battery. Proper charging and handling of the battery are also essential to maintain its optimal performance over time.Can the Agm Rattler Battery Pack be used as a secondary power source for various electronic devices?The Agm Rattler Battery Pack is primarily designed for automotive use, supplying power to vehicles' electrical systems. However, it can also be used as a secondary power source for various electronic devices, especially in emergency situations. It is essential to ensure that the battery pack's capacity and voltage output meet the requirements of the device to prevent damage to either the battery or the device.Are there any environmental concerns when using the Agm Rattler Battery Pack?The Agm Rattler Battery Pack is made of lead, which can pose environmental concerns when the battery is disposed of improperly. To minimize environmental impact, make sure to recycle the battery at an appropriate location or facility. Check with your local recycling center for more information on proper battery disposal.As an Amazon™ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.06.02 09:16 NOTaPerP Rent / Advance Issues
Hi,
Two of my friends consider A and B have joined a group apartment 3BHK where the rent was ₹20000 with maintenance ₹500. There were total 7 people after they joined - out of 7, 5 are new flatmates including my friends.
Consider X and Y who already used to live there. X and Y when they joined they paid an advance of ₹5000 as they were only 4 including them. Few months passed by those other 2 had left the apartment leaving X and Y to clear their advance. So now they own the entire advance ₹20000. Room agreement is now on X's name. X and Y now invited 5 new comers including my friends.
They decided to start a new advance cycle now and new comers had to pay ₹20000/7= 2857 ie. X and Y received a total of 2857*5= ₹14285 as advance. which now makes their advance same as others. Stuff happened, minor misunderstandings got huge and 3 out 5 new comers decided to leave the apartment leaving A, B my friends that I mentioned above with X, Y. Those 3 stayed one more month without paying the rent saying as they have paid the advance when they joined so it will be tallied out.
Issue started - Now A, B and X, Y had to bear the burden that month paying up the entire rent. A and B were thinking like this burden will be converted into advance and when they leave they can split the ₹20000 by 4. While X and Y are like they will get only the advance which they paid that is ₹2857 not anything more than that and keep the rest amount for themselves.
Problem - Now all four of them decided to vacate the flat, they had clash for above reasons So they stayed next month without paying any rent as advance was there with the owner. X and Y want both A and B to pay ₹2143 to them saying that thier advance is only 2857. Reason X and Y mentioned for that is they cleared the advance of the 2 other who preciously used to live there(10k) saying that they are the one's who faced the most burden and they deserve the 14k for themselves. While A and B are not agreeing to their reasons and want to split the entire advance equally by 4 (which I think is correct as all of their advance was equal when they started new advance cycle) Now everyone has vacated the falt without paying the rent for last month. X and Y are threatening my friends A and B to pay the advance or pay the entire current bill which is 3600 (also they were using AC all day and geyser, who uses geyser in this burning hot summer? for bath twice a day? just to spike up the electricity bill) they planned it this way as A and B were refusing to pay the additional advance.
Looking for a resolution.
Who's right? A, B or X, Y? And if X and Y want to proceed legally can this be a potential case or a baseless one? Should A and B worried about them and their threats? Can someone give some guidance on how to proceed on this matter?
Thanks.
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Two of my friends consider A and B have joined a group apartment 3BHK where the rent was ₹20000 with maintenance ₹500. There were total 7 people after they joined - out of 7, 5 are new flatmates including my friends.
Consider X and Y who already used to live there. X and Y when they joined they paid an advance of ₹5000 as they were only 4 including them. Few months passed by those other 2 had left the apartment leaving X and Y to clear their advance. So now they own the entire advance ₹20000. Room agreement is now on X's name. X and Y now invited 5 new comers including my friends.
They decided to start a new advance cycle now and new comers had to pay ₹20000/7= 2857 ie. X and Y received a total of 2857*5= ₹14285 as advance. which now makes their advance same as others. Stuff happened, minor misunderstandings got huge and 3 out 5 new comers decided to leave the apartment leaving A, B my friends that I mentioned above with X, Y. Those 3 stayed one more month without paying the rent saying as they have paid the advance when they joined so it will be tallied out.
Issue started - Now A, B and X, Y had to bear the burden that month paying up the entire rent. A and B were thinking like this burden will be converted into advance and when they leave they can split the ₹20000 by 4. While X and Y are like they will get only the advance which they paid that is ₹2857 not anything more than that and keep the rest amount for themselves.
Problem - Now all four of them decided to vacate the flat, they had clash for above reasons So they stayed next month without paying any rent as advance was there with the owner. X and Y want both A and B to pay ₹2143 to them saying that thier advance is only 2857. Reason X and Y mentioned for that is they cleared the advance of the 2 other who preciously used to live there(10k) saying that they are the one's who faced the most burden and they deserve the 14k for themselves. While A and B are not agreeing to their reasons and want to split the entire advance equally by 4 (which I think is correct as all of their advance was equal when they started new advance cycle) Now everyone has vacated the falt without paying the rent for last month. X and Y are threatening my friends A and B to pay the advance or pay the entire current bill which is 3600 (also they were using AC all day and geyser, who uses geyser in this burning hot summer? for bath twice a day? just to spike up the electricity bill) they planned it this way as A and B were refusing to pay the additional advance.
Looking for a resolution.
Who's right? A, B or X, Y? And if X and Y want to proceed legally can this be a potential case or a baseless one? Should A and B worried about them and their threats? Can someone give some guidance on how to proceed on this matter?
Thanks.
2024.06.02 09:15 atcriidp I hit a cat with my car and I feel terrible
The title says it all. I was leaving my neighborhood and saw a cat sitting in someone's lawn. I even thought to myself "damn what a beautiful cat". As soon as I was parallel to the cat it took off to run across the road and ran right under my car. I saw it at the last minute and hit the brakes while praying I wouldn't feel it. It was too late. I turned around and got the owners to come outside so I could explain what happened. I helped the man pick the cat off the ground and put it in a trash bag and he thanked me for stopping. It was a very graphic, traumatizing scene (at least for me it was the owner did not seem too taken back). I was pretty torn up as was one of the teenage girls who lived at the house. I know this is part of life, animals run across roads and get hit all the time. I felt better today trying not to beat myself up about it, and my friends keep telling me I did the right thing given the circumstances, but the image of the poor thing is burnt into my brain and it is a horrible feeling when I involuntarily replay it in my head. Outside cats man.
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2024.06.02 09:13 treeh9m5 How can I go about sending an immediate resignation letter? I feel really bad about it.
Hi all. I have been working at a library for 6 months under my city. Unfortunately I need to quit immediately because I don’t feel safe there anymore after a male library patron has taken it upon himself to make me his target. Long story short, he has a criminal record for being violent, found my social medias and phone number and harassed me via text despite me politely rejecting him but for some reason he didn’t believe me when I said I have a boyfriend. This has been going on since January, but I tried to let it go since I couldn’t afford to quit my job. My breaking point with him was this Friday when he was using a computer (the section of the library where I work) and was getting upset when something wasn’t working and he decided to point directly at me and tell me repeatedly that “its my fault” his computer wasn’t working and that I was doing this to him. I didn’t include every single detail (which I can if anyone cares) but ultimately I was like yeah… this man isn’t okay and I don’t feel safe. I called out on Saturday and planned to send in a letter Monday morning as soon as the library director comes in. Luckily, I had an interview for a different city department that week and they actually called me back the same day all this occurred and offered me the position. Obviously I’m going to take it, but now I need advice on how to go about leaving my current job. My issue is that both jobs are under the city system and I would basically just be transferring, but I can’t stick out the two weeks here before transferring there. I plan on mentioning the new role in the letter, but I’m worried that if I quit immediately they’ll remove my name from the employee list even though I would just be starting somewhere else soon after. I’m not sure how to go about asking to keep me in the system when I’m not staying for two weeks. Also, I’ve never sent an immediate notice before and I feel bad because in my section of the library, it’s only me, my supervisor and another coworker but she just went on a month long vacation last week so I would be basically abandoning my supervisor to work alone. My coworkers here have been fairly good people and I have no issues with them so it sucks to do this. And please I would like no judgement on the reason why I am deciding to quit. I mentioned that I didn’t include every single detail but I’m glad to elaborate if anyone wants to know. Anyways, thanks for any advice you may have!
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2024.06.02 09:13 HarryK1997 I was in a relationship with a narcissistic female for 5 months
This girl in the beginning was amazing, super charming, charastmatic, kind, funny, beautiful at least this was how she came across for about 3 months then the false persona started to fall apart.
I could tell around about the 3 months mark that she had become bored of me and would do openly disrespectful stuff Infront of me like texting other boys. We began to argue frequently about this stuff where she'd make me feel like I was crazy and paranoid. Like she'd openly say to me you're crazy, you need help and make me feel bad. I'd question her and be like look if you don't want to be with me we can leave it and walk away now as nice as it can be and she'd reassure me that everything was okay. Eventually one of her friends come forward to tell me about 2 boys that she knew about that she'd spent a night with. One of them was an ex boyfriend that by all accounts was obsessed with her and she knew it. She would unblock him arrange a meet with him then block him right after, I can only imagine the damage she causes to this boy too.
I also found out she'd lie all the time not just big lies but like small utterly pointless lies too. Like I'm not kidding the amount of meaningless lies she told was insane. Like basically everything her whole life was a lie. After I found everything out about her I've never experienced such a discard. Like there was no sorry, or trying to explain anything it was literally just blocked and not spoken to again. Let me tell you untill you've been with someone like this you'll never understand how addicted you get to this sort of person. This person that enters your life so perfectly then gives you the extreme highs then the extreme lows. It's like coming off a drug you get addicted to the dopamine rushes and begin to need it so much and when it's gone even though you know this person is an awful person you long for that dopamine rush again. I'm currently about 2 and half months into no contact and it's only getting worse, I can barley sleep I think about her all the time meanwhile she's already with another boyfriend. I hope it gets better because so far it's only gotten worse.
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I could tell around about the 3 months mark that she had become bored of me and would do openly disrespectful stuff Infront of me like texting other boys. We began to argue frequently about this stuff where she'd make me feel like I was crazy and paranoid. Like she'd openly say to me you're crazy, you need help and make me feel bad. I'd question her and be like look if you don't want to be with me we can leave it and walk away now as nice as it can be and she'd reassure me that everything was okay. Eventually one of her friends come forward to tell me about 2 boys that she knew about that she'd spent a night with. One of them was an ex boyfriend that by all accounts was obsessed with her and she knew it. She would unblock him arrange a meet with him then block him right after, I can only imagine the damage she causes to this boy too.
I also found out she'd lie all the time not just big lies but like small utterly pointless lies too. Like I'm not kidding the amount of meaningless lies she told was insane. Like basically everything her whole life was a lie. After I found everything out about her I've never experienced such a discard. Like there was no sorry, or trying to explain anything it was literally just blocked and not spoken to again. Let me tell you untill you've been with someone like this you'll never understand how addicted you get to this sort of person. This person that enters your life so perfectly then gives you the extreme highs then the extreme lows. It's like coming off a drug you get addicted to the dopamine rushes and begin to need it so much and when it's gone even though you know this person is an awful person you long for that dopamine rush again. I'm currently about 2 and half months into no contact and it's only getting worse, I can barley sleep I think about her all the time meanwhile she's already with another boyfriend. I hope it gets better because so far it's only gotten worse.
2024.06.02 09:09 Diaxmond I love my girlfriend to much, to the point where I hate everything else
I’ve known her since November of last year, and we really hit it off. We’re pretty much total opposites of each other, which has lead to a much needed addition of variety and change in my life. My issue is that I think I’ve become too attached to her and spending time with her, to the point where I can’t enjoy my life when I’m not with her. We’re in a position where we get to see each other every day, but we pretty much never get to hang out for extended periods of time, two hours at the absolute max. Those times I’m with her are always the best parts of my day, with nothing else ever coming close. It’s gotten to the point where I’ve cancelled plans with other people or made excuses just to hang out with her for a little bit more time. Whenever I do have to leave her side for the day, I’m totally crushed. I can’t enjoy my day at all, and everything I used to do for fun, like going on runs, piano, and video games, don’t bring me any joy anymore. I’m also just really negative and almost an entirely different person when not around with her, when before I pretty much never was.
For added context if it’s needed I’m 15 and she’s 17, she’s my first relationship, I’m not hers, and I’ve never really had anybody I’d consider a best friend before I met her.
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For added context if it’s needed I’m 15 and she’s 17, she’s my first relationship, I’m not hers, and I’ve never really had anybody I’d consider a best friend before I met her.
2024.06.02 09:08 RoyalDevilzzz I’m loosing
Hey. I’m new to this sub. Idk if this post is appropriate. But I need to say this out loud to someone. And subreddit for depression sounds like an okey place.
I’m just so tired. I’ve been fighting it since I was 11. That is 15 years of my life. I’ve been fighting it for longer than I have existed. And I am just so tired. I’ve tried so hard. I’ve tried so hard to make a decent life, to meet good people, to make my life matter. But everything about this life is sempiternal. I always end up in the same place. And I work so hard. But sime days working hard just means getting out of the bed to go for a smoke cause 99% of my energy goes towards not wanting to fucking kill myself. My girlfriend us leaving me. She didn’t last a year. She likes me and loves me. But she’s been trying so hard to help me and make me happy. And she doesn’t understand that I can’t be happy. It’s too much work. And that happens to every one of my relationships sooner or later. Then learn that I am infact a depressed introvert with anxiety. Not the extroverted happy go round person they met. And I tell them. I am not hiding it. And they say they wont leave me because if that. But they do.
Friends do that too
Family as well
Whatever I am made off, whenever someone comes close enough to see it? They leave. I hate myself. And I am just so tired of trying to fix this. I just want to die so bad. I want to stop foghting. Lay down my arms. No more debt. No more dissapointing people I love. No more guilt about the days when I can’t get out of the bed. Just no more. I just want to die.
Please, can I?
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I’m just so tired. I’ve been fighting it since I was 11. That is 15 years of my life. I’ve been fighting it for longer than I have existed. And I am just so tired. I’ve tried so hard. I’ve tried so hard to make a decent life, to meet good people, to make my life matter. But everything about this life is sempiternal. I always end up in the same place. And I work so hard. But sime days working hard just means getting out of the bed to go for a smoke cause 99% of my energy goes towards not wanting to fucking kill myself. My girlfriend us leaving me. She didn’t last a year. She likes me and loves me. But she’s been trying so hard to help me and make me happy. And she doesn’t understand that I can’t be happy. It’s too much work. And that happens to every one of my relationships sooner or later. Then learn that I am infact a depressed introvert with anxiety. Not the extroverted happy go round person they met. And I tell them. I am not hiding it. And they say they wont leave me because if that. But they do.
Friends do that too
Family as well
Whatever I am made off, whenever someone comes close enough to see it? They leave. I hate myself. And I am just so tired of trying to fix this. I just want to die so bad. I want to stop foghting. Lay down my arms. No more debt. No more dissapointing people I love. No more guilt about the days when I can’t get out of the bed. Just no more. I just want to die.
Please, can I?
2024.06.02 09:07 Real-Blackberry2215 I dont think my therapist is helping
I have diagnosed on paper by many professionals and psychs: bpd, PTSD, c-ptsd, adhd, GAD, insomnia and probably something else I might be forgetting.
I've done 4 years of debt therapy including group therapy at one clinic, took a break, a lot of bad stuff happened, realised I started having anger issues and then saw a new therapist who was awesome.
She only does dbt skill training and didnt focus on anything other than dbt and managing my bpd symptoms. Her therapy was great but it felt very surface level and shallow like I was making rather than resolving. I saw her for about a year and a half. She had to go on maternity leave and she referred me on to someone who used to be her colleague to do trauma work/therapy. Specifically emdr and schema.
I've seen this new lady weekly since November and I feel like she isn't helping. We haven't done any schema or emdr because there's always a really big incident or issue in my life happening and she doesnt want to retraumatise me.
The thing is I deferred uni this semester hoping I would be at least a little better, that the edge would be taken off. My previous therapist made a huge difference, like the fog was lifted but here I feel so stagnant like I'm getting worse.
She has the view that I will probably always need therapy and things aren't quick fixes which I do get but every day i feel so sad or stressed or aimless. I asked her what I should do to get through the day and she said my dbt skills. But then she also said dbt skills aren't super effective and are gaslighty.
I dont really know am I the issue for not just getting better? Shes a good therapist she has helped people but I just feel like she doesnt really get me. Last session was telehealth. I was in bed with endometriosis pain and I mentioned that I really struggled with my birthday the day before because I missed a lot of my old friends. She kind of acknowledged that then brushed it off(not the first time shes done this), recommended me a doctor for the endo pain then asked me what I wanted the session to focus on. I felt really stressed out and embarrassed about repeating the friend thing so I tried to deep breath and work my way up. She started asking if I was in a lot of pain, how were other things in my life, am I sure I was a session. This really freaked me, my head started to spin, I felt panicky and eventually through tears I told her I felt dismissed. She apologised and when I worked up the courage to say the friend thing again she instead started saying I need to put myself out there and recommended me groups to join yadda yadda.
I told her I wasnt sure if i was getting better and she said that unfortunately with adhd they struggle to find friendships and people and that's how it is and she wished she had more friends too.
That made me upset again because i felt doomed and i kinda just started agreeing with everything she was saying because I felt nervous expressing myself. She ended up leaving the session 10 minutes early saying she thought I was in too much pain to continue when really I was just stressed. This whole week I've felt depressed and stagnant like nothing is getting better and it sucks.
Sorry for the rant I just feel so lost.
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I've done 4 years of debt therapy including group therapy at one clinic, took a break, a lot of bad stuff happened, realised I started having anger issues and then saw a new therapist who was awesome.
She only does dbt skill training and didnt focus on anything other than dbt and managing my bpd symptoms. Her therapy was great but it felt very surface level and shallow like I was making rather than resolving. I saw her for about a year and a half. She had to go on maternity leave and she referred me on to someone who used to be her colleague to do trauma work/therapy. Specifically emdr and schema.
I've seen this new lady weekly since November and I feel like she isn't helping. We haven't done any schema or emdr because there's always a really big incident or issue in my life happening and she doesnt want to retraumatise me.
The thing is I deferred uni this semester hoping I would be at least a little better, that the edge would be taken off. My previous therapist made a huge difference, like the fog was lifted but here I feel so stagnant like I'm getting worse.
She has the view that I will probably always need therapy and things aren't quick fixes which I do get but every day i feel so sad or stressed or aimless. I asked her what I should do to get through the day and she said my dbt skills. But then she also said dbt skills aren't super effective and are gaslighty.
I dont really know am I the issue for not just getting better? Shes a good therapist she has helped people but I just feel like she doesnt really get me. Last session was telehealth. I was in bed with endometriosis pain and I mentioned that I really struggled with my birthday the day before because I missed a lot of my old friends. She kind of acknowledged that then brushed it off(not the first time shes done this), recommended me a doctor for the endo pain then asked me what I wanted the session to focus on. I felt really stressed out and embarrassed about repeating the friend thing so I tried to deep breath and work my way up. She started asking if I was in a lot of pain, how were other things in my life, am I sure I was a session. This really freaked me, my head started to spin, I felt panicky and eventually through tears I told her I felt dismissed. She apologised and when I worked up the courage to say the friend thing again she instead started saying I need to put myself out there and recommended me groups to join yadda yadda.
I told her I wasnt sure if i was getting better and she said that unfortunately with adhd they struggle to find friendships and people and that's how it is and she wished she had more friends too.
That made me upset again because i felt doomed and i kinda just started agreeing with everything she was saying because I felt nervous expressing myself. She ended up leaving the session 10 minutes early saying she thought I was in too much pain to continue when really I was just stressed. This whole week I've felt depressed and stagnant like nothing is getting better and it sucks.
Sorry for the rant I just feel so lost.
2024.06.02 09:06 notsry4brokenenglish Only making male friends
I moved to a new city recently, so I am technically not traveling. But I have only been to touristy areas and met mostly other travelers and expats.
I usually don’t have a problem meeting people and making friends when I travel, both men and women.
Now, for whatever reason I can only make male friends (many of them a bit older than me too) and some of them say certain things to me that question me their intentions but I try not to think about it because I am new to this place and I need friends.
The female travelers and expats/immigrant I met here are all nice and friendly but most of them seem not too interested in talking to me. I never had this problem before so I don’t know why. On the other hand, men put more effort to keep in touch with me. It’s a lot easier to talk to them, but I feel a bit uncomfortable because sometimes I can’t help but think it’s more like a date.
What should I do to make more female friends? Yeah I am going to meetup and social events but it’s not easy making friends with girls there. They are polite and we chat, but that’s it. They have other plans after this and have to go, talk to other people and then leave, etc.
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I usually don’t have a problem meeting people and making friends when I travel, both men and women.
Now, for whatever reason I can only make male friends (many of them a bit older than me too) and some of them say certain things to me that question me their intentions but I try not to think about it because I am new to this place and I need friends.
The female travelers and expats/immigrant I met here are all nice and friendly but most of them seem not too interested in talking to me. I never had this problem before so I don’t know why. On the other hand, men put more effort to keep in touch with me. It’s a lot easier to talk to them, but I feel a bit uncomfortable because sometimes I can’t help but think it’s more like a date.
What should I do to make more female friends? Yeah I am going to meetup and social events but it’s not easy making friends with girls there. They are polite and we chat, but that’s it. They have other plans after this and have to go, talk to other people and then leave, etc.
2024.06.02 09:02 Local_Bug_262 Girl ended things after 2 weeks over a text without explanation. What should i do? Im 25M, girl is 20F
So I started talking to this girl i knew through my sisters friend. At first i wasn’t really interested as i was not looking to be any sort of relationship because i messed up my life because of gaming addiction and i was just tryna get my shit together. I moved to a different state for a fresh start and slowly am turning my life around. Anyway, we started texting and slowly i started liking her. We started snapping each other back and forth for almost 2 weeks and were planning to meet next week.
While we were talking she brought up the fact that she was Christan which is thought was really cool cause i myself am hindu. Anyway i went over for a dinner to my sisters house one day and told her about this girl and told her i like her and i wanna see where things go but as soon as i told her the girl i was talking to was christian she asked me to end things with her and told me its not gonna work out later on cause of religion issues. I argued with my sister for about an hour and told her that who i choose to date is my business and she should stay outta it and i felt bad after arguing with her cause she has helped me so much in my life and im really grateful.
However today my girl texted me saying my sister sent her dms in her insta. She didn’t exactly say what my sister said but after that she just texted me saying that she cant go through with this relationship and told me that she hates me. I asked her why and she didn’t say anything she just said she hates me and blocked me from snaps and instagram and now i cant reach out to her.
I really like this girl and i really thought this could go somewhere. Now i dont have any way of contacting her. Even if she wants to ennd up with me i just wanted to talk to her and have a chance to explain myself or just ask her listen her side of story.
Im trying to give her some space right now so Im leaving her alone but i dont know how long i should wait before trying to contact her. Im really lost right now and dont know what to do. I know she liked me and i liked her too things were going so well and now all of a sudden our relationship just ended over a text.
I would really appreciate any adivce as i really dont know what to do in this situation.
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While we were talking she brought up the fact that she was Christan which is thought was really cool cause i myself am hindu. Anyway i went over for a dinner to my sisters house one day and told her about this girl and told her i like her and i wanna see where things go but as soon as i told her the girl i was talking to was christian she asked me to end things with her and told me its not gonna work out later on cause of religion issues. I argued with my sister for about an hour and told her that who i choose to date is my business and she should stay outta it and i felt bad after arguing with her cause she has helped me so much in my life and im really grateful.
However today my girl texted me saying my sister sent her dms in her insta. She didn’t exactly say what my sister said but after that she just texted me saying that she cant go through with this relationship and told me that she hates me. I asked her why and she didn’t say anything she just said she hates me and blocked me from snaps and instagram and now i cant reach out to her.
I really like this girl and i really thought this could go somewhere. Now i dont have any way of contacting her. Even if she wants to ennd up with me i just wanted to talk to her and have a chance to explain myself or just ask her listen her side of story.
Im trying to give her some space right now so Im leaving her alone but i dont know how long i should wait before trying to contact her. Im really lost right now and dont know what to do. I know she liked me and i liked her too things were going so well and now all of a sudden our relationship just ended over a text.
I would really appreciate any adivce as i really dont know what to do in this situation.
2024.06.02 08:59 ElephantSouthern9975 This is extremely long but i need to vent, intentions
This os the worst OCD episode of mine. And i feel like im going crazy, im doing wrong things and i completely lost my mind. You guys decide.
If someone will read this, i appriciate you. Thank you for being here.
Notes: i am not in a relationship with my partner. But i will call him "my partner" because i don't want to say his name. + He is avoidant.
I feel extremely bad. Right now I'm having thoughts like "he's a bad person anyway, leave him and find someone else, someone better" and I don't want that. I'm worried that my intention is what I've been afraid of all along. I don't want to look for love, I don't want to look for someone who will love me, someone who will be kinder, warmer, more religious, someone I'll be in a relationship with and I don't want to chase after these things. I don't want to use him for these things, I don't want to want him to be like this and to change. Because I don't want to look for a feeling, for what someone will make me feel, for someone better. I don't want to love the feeling or what I will feel. I want to love the person. And I'm sad that my mind makes him look so bad.
I don't want to have such expectations and terrible feelings and thoughts towards to him. I don't want my intentions to be attract him to me, to bring him closer to me, to make him love me, to stay with him with the thought that "we will be together again anyway", to have a relationship, to feel a specific emotion, to just use him, not to love him if he doesn't behave the way I want him to behave, whim, gaudy emotions, wants relationships, are running after men, changing men every now and then, looking for someone who will treat me "the way I deserve", finding someone who will love only me, finding someone better, finding someone to marry, looking for a relationship and having fun, wanting and "loving" only one thing.
But I don't want those things. I want to love and accept all his flaws as they are, forever, no matter if he loves me or not, no matter what he is, friend or partner, no matter how badly he behaves, even in his worst and coldest, icy state. I want to love and accept my partner unconditionally, without expectation, without feeling dissatisfied or satisfied, unconditionally, loyally, gratefully, adoptively, acceptingly. Only my partner. I don't want to look for someone or imagine what it would be like if I were with someone else, what it would be like if someone loved me, or narcissistically think and imagine what I want people to say about me. After all, I am not with my partner for a relationship. I know somenof y'all think this is weird and pityful but my intentions are a bit different from a person who is in love. I don't intend a relationship. I don't intend a feeling of love. I intend a person. I don't know why but i want to be here for him no matter what. I want him to be my person. I don't want my soul to love anyone other than his.
I am not with him to give me love, so it doesn't matter how he treats me. There are people who will treat me better and love me. But I don't want to want these people, I just want to want my partner. I don't want to chase after an emotion, the way someone makes me feel, and love what I feel. I want to love the person. Not just anyone, not someone better, not someone more sincere. My partner. Only my partner. I don't feel like explaining myself.
I want to love him unconditionally. I may want him to love me, but I don't want that to be my goal. I don't want thoughts that normalize loving only his good qualities, having expectations about him, just because I want him to love me. I appreciate his warmth. But most of all I want to love and accept his coldness and imperfections unconditionally, without expectations, without feeling satisfied or dissatisfied, unconditionally, eternally, faithfully and infinitely. Whether he loves me or not. Whether he cares for me or not, no matter how and what he changes and transforms into. I don't want to make him love me, I don't want to use him only to give love, I don't want to love only one thing about him and I don't want to have selfish expectations when I don't get what I want. I want to love my partner unconditionally.
I feel like I don't want to love him right now, I see only his flaws, I feel like I don't love him just because he doesn't treat me warmly, I feel like I will love only one thing about him, and if he doesn't act like that, I won't love him. I feel like he is a bad person.
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If someone will read this, i appriciate you. Thank you for being here.
Notes: i am not in a relationship with my partner. But i will call him "my partner" because i don't want to say his name. + He is avoidant.
I feel extremely bad. Right now I'm having thoughts like "he's a bad person anyway, leave him and find someone else, someone better" and I don't want that. I'm worried that my intention is what I've been afraid of all along. I don't want to look for love, I don't want to look for someone who will love me, someone who will be kinder, warmer, more religious, someone I'll be in a relationship with and I don't want to chase after these things. I don't want to use him for these things, I don't want to want him to be like this and to change. Because I don't want to look for a feeling, for what someone will make me feel, for someone better. I don't want to love the feeling or what I will feel. I want to love the person. And I'm sad that my mind makes him look so bad.
I don't want to have such expectations and terrible feelings and thoughts towards to him. I don't want my intentions to be attract him to me, to bring him closer to me, to make him love me, to stay with him with the thought that "we will be together again anyway", to have a relationship, to feel a specific emotion, to just use him, not to love him if he doesn't behave the way I want him to behave, whim, gaudy emotions, wants relationships, are running after men, changing men every now and then, looking for someone who will treat me "the way I deserve", finding someone who will love only me, finding someone better, finding someone to marry, looking for a relationship and having fun, wanting and "loving" only one thing.
But I don't want those things. I want to love and accept all his flaws as they are, forever, no matter if he loves me or not, no matter what he is, friend or partner, no matter how badly he behaves, even in his worst and coldest, icy state. I want to love and accept my partner unconditionally, without expectation, without feeling dissatisfied or satisfied, unconditionally, loyally, gratefully, adoptively, acceptingly. Only my partner. I don't want to look for someone or imagine what it would be like if I were with someone else, what it would be like if someone loved me, or narcissistically think and imagine what I want people to say about me. After all, I am not with my partner for a relationship. I know somenof y'all think this is weird and pityful but my intentions are a bit different from a person who is in love. I don't intend a relationship. I don't intend a feeling of love. I intend a person. I don't know why but i want to be here for him no matter what. I want him to be my person. I don't want my soul to love anyone other than his.
I am not with him to give me love, so it doesn't matter how he treats me. There are people who will treat me better and love me. But I don't want to want these people, I just want to want my partner. I don't want to chase after an emotion, the way someone makes me feel, and love what I feel. I want to love the person. Not just anyone, not someone better, not someone more sincere. My partner. Only my partner. I don't feel like explaining myself.
I want to love him unconditionally. I may want him to love me, but I don't want that to be my goal. I don't want thoughts that normalize loving only his good qualities, having expectations about him, just because I want him to love me. I appreciate his warmth. But most of all I want to love and accept his coldness and imperfections unconditionally, without expectations, without feeling satisfied or dissatisfied, unconditionally, eternally, faithfully and infinitely. Whether he loves me or not. Whether he cares for me or not, no matter how and what he changes and transforms into. I don't want to make him love me, I don't want to use him only to give love, I don't want to love only one thing about him and I don't want to have selfish expectations when I don't get what I want. I want to love my partner unconditionally.
I feel like I don't want to love him right now, I see only his flaws, I feel like I don't love him just because he doesn't treat me warmly, I feel like I will love only one thing about him, and if he doesn't act like that, I won't love him. I feel like he is a bad person.
2024.06.02 08:58 boymomX2_sendhelp I just want one person I could call when I need to get out of the house or to just talk to period
Context: I (28F) Moved 800 miles away in 2016 to be with my now husband (m29) in his hometown. We had what I thought was a pretty decent little circle of friends....until we had our kids (M 2&1) Most of the people we used to see on a regular basis haven't talked to us since having our first. Now obviously these were technically his friends that I got integrated into so after having our second, my husband has maintained friendships with 1-2 people he's known way before I came along which is cool but nobody and I mean literally NOBODY hits me up to ask how I'm doing or if I need a break from my kids or if I wanna hang out or go do something when I have the chance to......absolutely nobody,
We used to magnet fish, go kayaking with friends, go to concerts, festivals, dirt track races....but now I literally only leave the house to work part time 7-11p mon-friday and when I go grocery shopping every week. My husband has still maintained somewhat of a friendship with at least 1 person he could call if he ever needed someone other than me. They hang out while I'm at work and go magnet fishing together sometimes and I'm not gonna lie, I'm so jealous that he has a friend and places he could go when he needs to get away. I have no friends and nowhere to go to get away for a little bit when I have the chance. Grocery shopping and work aren't "breaks."
There aren't any "mommy groups" in my area (not like I could get to them anyways when hubs takes our only vehicle to work) I've tried making friends/acquaintances online but I usually can't maintain conversation or genuine connection with someone without being in person and in person I'm awkward because the only thing I have to talk about these days is my kids and most people don't wanna hear you talk about your kids cause most of the time they could care less so I end up just zoning in on my phone so I'm not being weird or awkward (which I usually am anyways) and end up being unapproachable which causes people to not reach out to me again....
I wish I had an identity other than just being a mom to my kids. I don't have any hobbies or passions because I literally suck at everything I try. When they both came, its like everything I was or had before them was just a long ass fever dream. All those "friends:" gone; having outdoor hobbies like magnet fishing: gone; My life revolves around my two still-learning-words toddlers so at this point, I'd be inclined to say I hear more toddler babble than actual adult human sentences because I don't see anyone but my husband each and every day. Don't get me wrong, my husband is an amazing man in everyway possible and I couldn't ask for a better husband and father to our kids but you can't have "girl talk" with a man cause they frankly don't care lol I guess I just wish I had places to go to get a break like my husband does or people to call to go do something out of the house with like my husband does. But I'm not gonna stop him from having friends and a life just because I'm alone and miserable. I'm just so over feeling alone all the time everyday. Sometimes I feel left out just because I don't get to hang out or go wherever.....I don't want to be alone all day everyday but i also don't want to hold my husband back from having his own life, and making him miserable because I have a problem, not him.... sorry its so long thanks for the space to vent
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We used to magnet fish, go kayaking with friends, go to concerts, festivals, dirt track races....but now I literally only leave the house to work part time 7-11p mon-friday and when I go grocery shopping every week. My husband has still maintained somewhat of a friendship with at least 1 person he could call if he ever needed someone other than me. They hang out while I'm at work and go magnet fishing together sometimes and I'm not gonna lie, I'm so jealous that he has a friend and places he could go when he needs to get away. I have no friends and nowhere to go to get away for a little bit when I have the chance. Grocery shopping and work aren't "breaks."
There aren't any "mommy groups" in my area (not like I could get to them anyways when hubs takes our only vehicle to work) I've tried making friends/acquaintances online but I usually can't maintain conversation or genuine connection with someone without being in person and in person I'm awkward because the only thing I have to talk about these days is my kids and most people don't wanna hear you talk about your kids cause most of the time they could care less so I end up just zoning in on my phone so I'm not being weird or awkward (which I usually am anyways) and end up being unapproachable which causes people to not reach out to me again....
I wish I had an identity other than just being a mom to my kids. I don't have any hobbies or passions because I literally suck at everything I try. When they both came, its like everything I was or had before them was just a long ass fever dream. All those "friends:" gone; having outdoor hobbies like magnet fishing: gone; My life revolves around my two still-learning-words toddlers so at this point, I'd be inclined to say I hear more toddler babble than actual adult human sentences because I don't see anyone but my husband each and every day. Don't get me wrong, my husband is an amazing man in everyway possible and I couldn't ask for a better husband and father to our kids but you can't have "girl talk" with a man cause they frankly don't care lol I guess I just wish I had places to go to get a break like my husband does or people to call to go do something out of the house with like my husband does. But I'm not gonna stop him from having friends and a life just because I'm alone and miserable. I'm just so over feeling alone all the time everyday. Sometimes I feel left out just because I don't get to hang out or go wherever.....I don't want to be alone all day everyday but i also don't want to hold my husband back from having his own life, and making him miserable because I have a problem, not him.... sorry its so long thanks for the space to vent
2024.06.02 08:57 RidsBabs Your Unoffical North Offseason Shortlist
Disclaimer - I am in no means an expert, I may be studying to work in football but that doesn't mean I know shit. All opinions are of my own and I will back all arguments made with data and statistics.
Hey, it me, your friendly North supporter Rids. Alright let's get this show on the road. I will be discussing draft, free agents and potential trades.
Best 22 Next Year
Alright so to start, this is what I have the best 22 as for next season based off current players. This is down to identify needs.
Corr / Logue / Goater
Fisher / Chom / Kerch
Alright, so last few weeks Corr has shown he can play as the 3rd tall, could still improve off him and have him as our back up. Logue is our best key back when healthy, Goater is probably our best small defender when healthy, Fisher has been good off half back since Sheezel was moved up forward (averaging 31.75 disposals at 80%, Chom is an elite interceptor statistically and more than serviceable as a key defender, Kerch obviously has been injured the last few weeks but looked serviceable off half back , whether he stays there or goes into the midfield or on a wing will be interesting.
Scott / Simpkin / Stephens
Xerri / LDU / Wardlaw
Scott is a wingman, stop playing him off half back, he's good defensively as a wingman, he's not good defensively as a half back, Simpkin can't stay healthy and hasn't offered much in the midfield, Stephens has offered nothing on the wing, barely getting a touch in the 2s, I know we gave up a pick for him, but he either needs to get his shit together or be delisted, Xerri is a pretty solid ruckman, good ruck work, good around the ground, definitely in our top 5 playres now, LDU is LDU, there are probably only 3 midfields he does not work into, and those would be for structural issues, Wardlaw will be a midfield stud, could win rising star this year (provided Reid and Darcy's suspensions are upheld)
Powell / CCJ / Sheezel
Zurhaar / Larkey / Curtis
Powell is a pretty solid mid/half forward, CCJ can take a mark and compete aerially but we need a 2nd proper key forward, Just stuck Sheezel at half forward because he can play anywhere, but think he should play in the midfield, Zurhaar probably leaves this offseason, hope he doesn't but he probably does, Larkey is an AA, Curtis is flakey like most small forwards.
McDonald / Archer / Phillips / Duursma
Luke McDonald is purely here because it was either him or Tucker, Archer show's good heart and is a solid smaller defender, Phillips I got no clue about, he's had guys go past him this year in the midfield pecking order and can't get a game, Duursma is very streaky, probably replaces Zurhaar, good in the air but tends to go missing for 3 quarters of the game.
Alright so looking at this team, I think Chom has to play down back, and given his intercept capabilities, as the third tall in like the Tom Stewart role where he slacks off his opponent when they aren't a threat and cuts across creating the outnumber and intercepting, this means we need a key back (Love you Dawson but I see you as depth on a premiership flag and like I said, Corr's best role is as a 3rd key back). We need a wingman, Stephens is not that guy, CCJ is good ruck/key forward depth so need a 2nd key forward (preferably who can clunk marks), Zurhaar likely is gone so need a small key forward.
Draft
I am going off the Zerohanger draft order, which is based off the ladder at the start of this round. This has us having picks 1 (First round), 21 (2nd round), 39 (3rd round), 57, 73 (4th round).
We have already traded our compo picks (19 and 20), and got pick 73 from Essendon.
Alright, I think we need to split the pick, more below.
Josh Smillie has gone from a defendemid to being just a mid, and he was probably who we would take first if we didn't split. He is 194cm, and your modern prototype mid having a big body, being strong, big kick, athletic. However he has previously played off half back where he was a strong interceptor and had 20 odd possessions.
But on splitting the pick, there's not really anyone who suits our needs at pick one. Clubs who have multiple firsts are Gold Coast (8, 9, 20), Fremantle (10, 13, 15), Sydney (18, 19).
Guys to look out for -
Jagga Smith - Mid (Wing), 181 cm - He keeps sliding down slightly in rankings as the inside mids go past him in rankings, his numbers are still pretty good for a wingman, 29 touches, 4.7 marks and 3 tackles a game, more of an offensive wingman, which complements Scott's more defensive style.
Malakai Champion - Fwd, 172cm - Live wire small forward, averaging a goal a game and a handful of possessions to go with it, great aerially and can kick some ripping goals.
Jack Whitlock - Fwd, 200cm - Averaging 15 touches, 6 marks and 2.3 goals as a key forward, physical in the air, can run and jump but like most key position players will need to develop.
Free Agents
Don't need all of these guys, only need a couple
Ben Keays - his work rate alone would elevate us massively in the forward line, I doubt he comes but could be very valuable.
Scott Pendlebury - Veteran leader, champion of the game, could be valuable if he wants to come play for 1-2 years and then transition into coaching under Clarko (which it seems like he wants to go into coaching)
Jake Kolodjashnij - Solid key back, can play as our 2nd key back, averaging, 3.7 spoils, wins 70% of his one on ones, 5.5 intercepts.
Levi Casboult - solid veteran key forward who can provide a marking target and veteran presences up forward. Kicked 16 in the VFL, averaging 4.6 marks
Nick Haynes - Veteran defender who is still good, 5 intercepts, 8 marks, 18 touches.
Isaac Cumming - He's had a few injury issues this year but when healthy hasn't been able to get into their best 22, could look to poach him as he is a very good half back.
Tom McDonald - Veteran swingman, can play down back as a key defender or play up forward as a key forward, competes in the air.
Trades
Zurhaar is obviously a restricted FA, meaning that we can match offers if we don't get adequate compensation. I believe that if we trade pick 1 and Zurhaar to Fremantle, we can get their 3 firsts and then a future 2nd or 3rd.
Fremantle get: Pick 1, Zurhaar
North get: Pick 10, 13, 15 and a future 2nd
Ollie Wines has been linked to us a fair amount, likely we would have to give up our 2nd and maybe a 4th to Port if they are willing to part with him. They have Butters, Rozee, JHF, Willem Drew, Jackson Mead as their midfield, so it could allow them to all get more CBAs.
Port get: Pick 21 and 73
North get: Ollie Wines
Rory Lobb, we all know his story, he is likely to request a trade, we probably don't have the assets to get him but he is a key forward, who can ruck, and compete in the air and take a mark, and we need those. I have no clue his value, but I imagine a 3rd rounder would not be enough. So if we want him, we'd likely have to trade for another 2nd.
Caleb Daniel is also another out of favor at the Dogs, half back, again not sure of his value and I doubt we have the assets.
Bulldogs get: pick 39, 57 (currently best other pick we have, I think we'd need another 2nd or 3rd) and a future 2nd
North get: Rory Lobb, Caleb Daniel
That seems like robbery and we don't have the assets, doubt the Dogs say yes, unless Bevo really wants to fuck them off.
Think that's all the blokes we've been linked with, I probably might have missed a few.
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Hey, it me, your friendly North supporter Rids. Alright let's get this show on the road. I will be discussing draft, free agents and potential trades.
Best 22 Next Year
Alright so to start, this is what I have the best 22 as for next season based off current players. This is down to identify needs.
Corr / Logue / Goater
Fisher / Chom / Kerch
Alright, so last few weeks Corr has shown he can play as the 3rd tall, could still improve off him and have him as our back up. Logue is our best key back when healthy, Goater is probably our best small defender when healthy, Fisher has been good off half back since Sheezel was moved up forward (averaging 31.75 disposals at 80%, Chom is an elite interceptor statistically and more than serviceable as a key defender, Kerch obviously has been injured the last few weeks but looked serviceable off half back , whether he stays there or goes into the midfield or on a wing will be interesting.
Scott / Simpkin / Stephens
Xerri / LDU / Wardlaw
Scott is a wingman, stop playing him off half back, he's good defensively as a wingman, he's not good defensively as a half back, Simpkin can't stay healthy and hasn't offered much in the midfield, Stephens has offered nothing on the wing, barely getting a touch in the 2s, I know we gave up a pick for him, but he either needs to get his shit together or be delisted, Xerri is a pretty solid ruckman, good ruck work, good around the ground, definitely in our top 5 playres now, LDU is LDU, there are probably only 3 midfields he does not work into, and those would be for structural issues, Wardlaw will be a midfield stud, could win rising star this year (provided Reid and Darcy's suspensions are upheld)
Powell / CCJ / Sheezel
Zurhaar / Larkey / Curtis
Powell is a pretty solid mid/half forward, CCJ can take a mark and compete aerially but we need a 2nd proper key forward, Just stuck Sheezel at half forward because he can play anywhere, but think he should play in the midfield, Zurhaar probably leaves this offseason, hope he doesn't but he probably does, Larkey is an AA, Curtis is flakey like most small forwards.
McDonald / Archer / Phillips / Duursma
Luke McDonald is purely here because it was either him or Tucker, Archer show's good heart and is a solid smaller defender, Phillips I got no clue about, he's had guys go past him this year in the midfield pecking order and can't get a game, Duursma is very streaky, probably replaces Zurhaar, good in the air but tends to go missing for 3 quarters of the game.
Alright so looking at this team, I think Chom has to play down back, and given his intercept capabilities, as the third tall in like the Tom Stewart role where he slacks off his opponent when they aren't a threat and cuts across creating the outnumber and intercepting, this means we need a key back (Love you Dawson but I see you as depth on a premiership flag and like I said, Corr's best role is as a 3rd key back). We need a wingman, Stephens is not that guy, CCJ is good ruck/key forward depth so need a 2nd key forward (preferably who can clunk marks), Zurhaar likely is gone so need a small key forward.
Draft
I am going off the Zerohanger draft order, which is based off the ladder at the start of this round. This has us having picks 1 (First round), 21 (2nd round), 39 (3rd round), 57, 73 (4th round).
We have already traded our compo picks (19 and 20), and got pick 73 from Essendon.
Alright, I think we need to split the pick, more below.
Josh Smillie has gone from a defendemid to being just a mid, and he was probably who we would take first if we didn't split. He is 194cm, and your modern prototype mid having a big body, being strong, big kick, athletic. However he has previously played off half back where he was a strong interceptor and had 20 odd possessions.
But on splitting the pick, there's not really anyone who suits our needs at pick one. Clubs who have multiple firsts are Gold Coast (8, 9, 20), Fremantle (10, 13, 15), Sydney (18, 19).
Guys to look out for -
Jagga Smith - Mid (Wing), 181 cm - He keeps sliding down slightly in rankings as the inside mids go past him in rankings, his numbers are still pretty good for a wingman, 29 touches, 4.7 marks and 3 tackles a game, more of an offensive wingman, which complements Scott's more defensive style.
Malakai Champion - Fwd, 172cm - Live wire small forward, averaging a goal a game and a handful of possessions to go with it, great aerially and can kick some ripping goals.
Jack Whitlock - Fwd, 200cm - Averaging 15 touches, 6 marks and 2.3 goals as a key forward, physical in the air, can run and jump but like most key position players will need to develop.
Free Agents
Don't need all of these guys, only need a couple
Ben Keays - his work rate alone would elevate us massively in the forward line, I doubt he comes but could be very valuable.
Scott Pendlebury - Veteran leader, champion of the game, could be valuable if he wants to come play for 1-2 years and then transition into coaching under Clarko (which it seems like he wants to go into coaching)
Jake Kolodjashnij - Solid key back, can play as our 2nd key back, averaging, 3.7 spoils, wins 70% of his one on ones, 5.5 intercepts.
Levi Casboult - solid veteran key forward who can provide a marking target and veteran presences up forward. Kicked 16 in the VFL, averaging 4.6 marks
Nick Haynes - Veteran defender who is still good, 5 intercepts, 8 marks, 18 touches.
Isaac Cumming - He's had a few injury issues this year but when healthy hasn't been able to get into their best 22, could look to poach him as he is a very good half back.
Tom McDonald - Veteran swingman, can play down back as a key defender or play up forward as a key forward, competes in the air.
Trades
Zurhaar is obviously a restricted FA, meaning that we can match offers if we don't get adequate compensation. I believe that if we trade pick 1 and Zurhaar to Fremantle, we can get their 3 firsts and then a future 2nd or 3rd.
Fremantle get: Pick 1, Zurhaar
North get: Pick 10, 13, 15 and a future 2nd
Ollie Wines has been linked to us a fair amount, likely we would have to give up our 2nd and maybe a 4th to Port if they are willing to part with him. They have Butters, Rozee, JHF, Willem Drew, Jackson Mead as their midfield, so it could allow them to all get more CBAs.
Port get: Pick 21 and 73
North get: Ollie Wines
Rory Lobb, we all know his story, he is likely to request a trade, we probably don't have the assets to get him but he is a key forward, who can ruck, and compete in the air and take a mark, and we need those. I have no clue his value, but I imagine a 3rd rounder would not be enough. So if we want him, we'd likely have to trade for another 2nd.
Caleb Daniel is also another out of favor at the Dogs, half back, again not sure of his value and I doubt we have the assets.
Bulldogs get: pick 39, 57 (currently best other pick we have, I think we'd need another 2nd or 3rd) and a future 2nd
North get: Rory Lobb, Caleb Daniel
That seems like robbery and we don't have the assets, doubt the Dogs say yes, unless Bevo really wants to fuck them off.
Think that's all the blokes we've been linked with, I probably might have missed a few.
2024.06.02 08:54 midnight-hunger Sick of st8 guys.
i just realized the older I get, the more disgusted I feel by these guys who claim they’re “straight” yet keep posting nudes in gay subs and flirting with gay people just for fun. I’ve met some very nice and friendly straight guys irl, but I can no longer tolerate their homophobia especially when they start saying things like “nothing gay tho,” or making fun of other people just because the feminine behaviors they see even if they’re just joking. I just want to punch them in the face and leave. lol.
Why you gays have to be so nice and keep feeding these attention hungry “straight“ dickheads your attention?
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Why you gays have to be so nice and keep feeding these attention hungry “straight“ dickheads your attention?
2024.06.02 08:54 Notdoinggreat1 AITA For storming out of my own party because my friend brought someone I told him not to?
Hello, this is a short situation but I just have to know if I’m the A-hole. My friend (let’s call him Mk) has another friend (let’s call him Creepy) who I’m very uncomfortable around. In the past Creep hit on, leaned on, and followed me around during our parties in the community room of our dorms while heavily intoxicated, not to mention every time without fail tried to ask fotake my vape even though I’ve told him no time and time again. He was never invited just showed up and we couldn’t kick him since it was the community room. Lately I’ve become decent friends with Mk and about three times he’s invited creep to join us in card games in my room, which I’ve caught creep staring at my ass and more. When I told Mk he was not welcomed to our events if I am the host and relaid the things he’s done he said “I don’t think any of that’s happened but ok” but then two nights later he invited him and had him apologize for the things he’s done and said “I don’t remember doing any of that and I’m not sure it actually happened but I apologize” which I did not take because it truly felt like he did not care about how I felt in that moment.
Flash forward to tonight. I spent hours prepping drinks and baking a ton of food for a Harry Potter themed party for our group. Mk asked if he could invite creep since he “apologized” and I said “I’d rather you not.” And he shrugged. An hour later he calls someone on the phone and walked out of the community room. Moments later he walked in saying “Look who I found!” And creep walks in behind him. Mk then says “Listen Op I know you don’t like him so if you wanna tell him to leave you can” I didn’t want to seem like a jerk because Mk was the only one tracking what creeps done and I didn’t like being put on the spot so I just said “fine”.
Not even ten minutes later after everything has passed on Mk says to everyone but looking at me “I don’t know why you hate him so much it’s a little ridiculous” and all I could say was “I don’t hate him just, can you drop it? It’s over let’s just have fun” and Mk says “I’m just saying you’re being silly and it’s not that big a deal”. I again asked if he could drop it and just stop continuing the conversation in which he proclaimed he wasn’t continuing anything and repeated him self once again ask why and I just got so frustrated that after hours of cooking and prepping this was the treatment I was getting, forced to hang with a creepy guy and being morally interrogated in front of all my friends. I decided to just get up and leave saying “I’m done, I can’t even have fun at my own party”
Mk messaged me saying it wasn’t that deep and I needed to come back but I’m just done, he didn’t even apologize for what he did. I’m also mad none of my friends stuck up for me by telling him to stop or even came to check on me. So AITA for storming out and refusing to come back?
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Flash forward to tonight. I spent hours prepping drinks and baking a ton of food for a Harry Potter themed party for our group. Mk asked if he could invite creep since he “apologized” and I said “I’d rather you not.” And he shrugged. An hour later he calls someone on the phone and walked out of the community room. Moments later he walked in saying “Look who I found!” And creep walks in behind him. Mk then says “Listen Op I know you don’t like him so if you wanna tell him to leave you can” I didn’t want to seem like a jerk because Mk was the only one tracking what creeps done and I didn’t like being put on the spot so I just said “fine”.
Not even ten minutes later after everything has passed on Mk says to everyone but looking at me “I don’t know why you hate him so much it’s a little ridiculous” and all I could say was “I don’t hate him just, can you drop it? It’s over let’s just have fun” and Mk says “I’m just saying you’re being silly and it’s not that big a deal”. I again asked if he could drop it and just stop continuing the conversation in which he proclaimed he wasn’t continuing anything and repeated him self once again ask why and I just got so frustrated that after hours of cooking and prepping this was the treatment I was getting, forced to hang with a creepy guy and being morally interrogated in front of all my friends. I decided to just get up and leave saying “I’m done, I can’t even have fun at my own party”
Mk messaged me saying it wasn’t that deep and I needed to come back but I’m just done, he didn’t even apologize for what he did. I’m also mad none of my friends stuck up for me by telling him to stop or even came to check on me. So AITA for storming out and refusing to come back?
2024.06.02 08:54 Glittering-Wall-9642 I don't know how to manage myself
It's been a while since I've posted here, but things are going downhill again. I'm trying I'm trying so hard, but in some way or the other I trouble myself over unnecessary thoughts. I can't even sleep properly these days, I feel exhausted all the time and I don't even do things I liked to do earlier, because they feel like damn chores. I've stopped hurting myself but then some way or the other I want to. I lip bite all the time till my lip bleeds so excessively, even my mother finds it weird and has told me to stopped. But I can't, I don't know why. apart from all this I'm trying that my mental heath doesn't meddle with my relationships and work and daily life but lo and behold it does, all the darned time. I am so tired of trying, it doesn't even feel worth it you know? But I gotta try to get out of this, for my brother, in the end he's the one I'm holding onto. I can't do this anymore, I need help but I don't reach out because I've been shut out before, I want to make everyone hate me, I tried to make people hate me, I tried making my boyfriend and my friends I love hate me but then I felt like I needed them to be there. But again in me, somewhere I do want people to hate me and leave me to be, alone and lonely. I don't know what my mind's playing at. I don't want to give myself the tag of being depressed, but inside even I know, I'm not all that sunshine and daisies.
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2024.06.02 08:54 MozAk6 I (24M) met a girl (19F) and I thought we were hitting off but her friend said to her something and she immediately lost interest in me. What did I do wrong?
So I met two girls and had great conversion with them but I was obviously inclined towards one of them. Our interests matched and everything was going great. We chatted for like 3 hrs, and the girl I liked wanted to stay more and the other wanted to leave (the other had similar interests and, I'd say, was prettier but her tattoos, piercing and vaping/smoking addiction were a big turn off for me). However, this other girl said something to her friend (the one I liked) and they both left. I was able to take her Snap but she never connected either. What did I do wrong?
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2024.06.02 08:53 Different_Suspect934 AITAH for "kicking out" my bestfriends sister from my bestfriends bridal party?
For some context, i 24(F) and my bsf emma(24 F) have been friends since we were kids, we have always been super close and we call eachother platonic soulmates. Emma has a sister Dana(22F) who i have always had a bad feeling about, emma and dana has never been really close and they often argue a lot.
Emma got married to her now husband Don(25M) about a week ago, when don proposed, emma said yes and she asked me to be her maid of honor, i was thrilled and wasnt shocked but it seemed like dana was, after the engagement party dana came up to me and asked me if i could step down from MOH so she could be it instead, i refused and instantly told emma who talked to dana and they had an argument but they agreed that dana could be a bridesmaid, but not MOH, we thought that was the end of it and we started planning the wedding.
The first problem with the wedding planning was dana complaining all the time, saying things like "if I was maid of honor i would do a much better job at this" but i didnt care that much because i did what emma wanted and it made her happy so it made me happy, dana never stopped with the comments but i had learned to tune her out by then.
The second problem was when we were getting dresses, emma was going to be wearing a beautiful floorlenght wedding gown, with super pretty flower designs and other things that made the dress so beautiful, the bridesmaids were all going to be wearing light purple dresses, while i was going to be wearing a darker purple so people could see i was the MOH(brides descission) after we tried on dresses, dana went of on me again saying i was a b-word for making everything about me, and that i should have worn the same colour purple as the rest of them, i ignored her and told her that it was emmas idea and i had nothing to do with it.
About two weeks before the wedding, dana is complaining about every little detail, mainly critisising me for my decorating skills and other mean comments about me and the other bridesmaids, emma was dealing with a lot of stress because of the wedding chaos and i yelled at dana that if she thought everything about being a bridesmaid sucked so much, why didnt she just leave the bridal party, after that she stormed out and sent a short text to emma that she was not going as a bridesmaid, just as a guest, then she blocked emma, we all thought she did the right thing and we decided to just act like she had never been a bridesmaid snd we just kept going.
On the day of the wedding it turned out just like we all had expected, and it went smoothly, until i noticed dana in the crowd, wearing a white floorlength dress, i elbowed emma kind of and pointed at dana, emma whispered "fix it" and i stood up and walked towards dana, i smiled and waved innocently, i started to make polite conversation, when i got to her however, i "tripped" and spilled my red wine all over her dress, she screamed and she ran out, but problem solved.
After the wedding my phone got flooded with calls from emmas family, saying that i ruined the wedding and that dana didnt do anything wrong, the bridal party and a lot of people are on my side but others are saying i was in the wrong.
AITAH? Should i have done it differently?
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Emma got married to her now husband Don(25M) about a week ago, when don proposed, emma said yes and she asked me to be her maid of honor, i was thrilled and wasnt shocked but it seemed like dana was, after the engagement party dana came up to me and asked me if i could step down from MOH so she could be it instead, i refused and instantly told emma who talked to dana and they had an argument but they agreed that dana could be a bridesmaid, but not MOH, we thought that was the end of it and we started planning the wedding.
The first problem with the wedding planning was dana complaining all the time, saying things like "if I was maid of honor i would do a much better job at this" but i didnt care that much because i did what emma wanted and it made her happy so it made me happy, dana never stopped with the comments but i had learned to tune her out by then.
The second problem was when we were getting dresses, emma was going to be wearing a beautiful floorlenght wedding gown, with super pretty flower designs and other things that made the dress so beautiful, the bridesmaids were all going to be wearing light purple dresses, while i was going to be wearing a darker purple so people could see i was the MOH(brides descission) after we tried on dresses, dana went of on me again saying i was a b-word for making everything about me, and that i should have worn the same colour purple as the rest of them, i ignored her and told her that it was emmas idea and i had nothing to do with it.
About two weeks before the wedding, dana is complaining about every little detail, mainly critisising me for my decorating skills and other mean comments about me and the other bridesmaids, emma was dealing with a lot of stress because of the wedding chaos and i yelled at dana that if she thought everything about being a bridesmaid sucked so much, why didnt she just leave the bridal party, after that she stormed out and sent a short text to emma that she was not going as a bridesmaid, just as a guest, then she blocked emma, we all thought she did the right thing and we decided to just act like she had never been a bridesmaid snd we just kept going.
On the day of the wedding it turned out just like we all had expected, and it went smoothly, until i noticed dana in the crowd, wearing a white floorlength dress, i elbowed emma kind of and pointed at dana, emma whispered "fix it" and i stood up and walked towards dana, i smiled and waved innocently, i started to make polite conversation, when i got to her however, i "tripped" and spilled my red wine all over her dress, she screamed and she ran out, but problem solved.
After the wedding my phone got flooded with calls from emmas family, saying that i ruined the wedding and that dana didnt do anything wrong, the bridal party and a lot of people are on my side but others are saying i was in the wrong.
AITAH? Should i have done it differently?