2nd grade possessives worksheets

Not really sure how to process this; whether to be angry or not, what to do, etc.
My best friend who I’ve been close with since 2nd grade (we’re 25 now) made out with my ex a few times at his place after the bars closed last night.
Her and I have been broken up for a year now. She was in town for a bachelorette party and he told me when they saw each other, they were basically talking about the relationship all night, airing out their frustrations and sides of the story since at the time she didn’t think a particular situation with her guy bestfriend and another one of her guy friends was considered wrong to do/emotionally cheating on me.
After last call he said they weren’t done with the conversation, had no intention of doing anything physical, and invited her over to talk about it more on his parents house dock. They kept drinking discussing the relationship and I guess she initiated the flirting, saying that “he’s much more mature now and that’s hot.”
He said at first he didn’t reciprocate. He kept asking when her Uber was getting there. Then somewhere along the line they kissed a few times. Then in the morning he called her because he honestly thought it was a dream - and she said it was “fuzzy” to her too but they were both pretty sure it happened. He said she asked if he would tell me, and he said “yeah probably,” and did end up telling me.
When I found out about the stuff with her two guy friends, he was the first person I told and really chewed her out for it. At the time she had the same excuse saying she didn’t really remember what she said to one of the guys - that it was “fuzzy” so that hurts even more. From then on she hated him and had some valid reasons (thought he was a bad friend to me sometimes) and he strongly disliked her too but she was basically trying to drive a wedge between him and I from there.
I just don’t know how to feel or what to do. Feel disrespected by both of them. Not sure whether to call her and get her side of the story or if that’s necessary. He said he doesn’t know why he did it - he couldn’t tell me why, it just happened I guess. He emphasized he’s never felt that way towards her ever and… yeah.
Do I cut him off? Second chance? Contact her to get her side? I just can’t believe out of anyone in my life he’d do something like that. Any advice or thoughts are appreciated.
TL;DR - Upon seeing my ex at a bar, one of my bestfriends of many years talked about my relationship with her for a long time, then they decided to finish the conversation on his dock, which lead to them kissing a few times.

I recently learned about APP piercers (after getting my lobes done). I don’t have one anywhere near me, and don’t really trust any shop near me now either. I just changed out a 2nd and 3rd lobe piercing and realized the piercer put a small curved barbell in as the jewelry?! 😅 I now have more lobe piercing by the same piercer and I know they have the same jewelry in them.
I can not, within a reasonable amount of time, get to my closest app piercer to have them changed out.
I’ve asked around a couple of shops and been told they use implant grade titanium, but when I go in, the jewelry looks cheap.
Should I change them out myself? Sterilize them as best I can and switch out, or leave the curved barbells in the new lobe piercings? I think the curved barbell screwed up one of my lobe piercings, bc I had trouble getting a new earring to go in it.

Hi. First time ko dito, wala lang talaga akong mapaglabasan ng sama ng loob, im F(25) callcenter agent. Isa akong ampon, inampon ako ng mag partner na lesbian, 3yrs old ako nung namatay yung isa sa mga nanay ko, sya din yung nakapangalan sa birthcert ko. Natira yung isa ko pang "nanay" na nakasama ko habang lumalaki ako, actually kilala ko rin mga magulang ko eh. Di ko parin talaga alam kung ano yung totoo bat nila naisip na ipamigay ako, basta ang kwento lang sakin e after manganak ng nanay ko sa bahay ng umapon sakin umalis nalang syang psrsng walang nangyare. So fast forward nung 5yrs old ako, may nakilala yung nanay ko na lalaki, pinapasok nya sa buhay namin, kinalaunan namolestya ako, nag try ako mag sumbong mga 9yrs old na ata ako nun, pero di ako pinaniwalaan. Ang sabi nya pa sakin "malandi ka kasi!" Para sa siyam na taong gulang na bata hindi ko alam bakit nasabi nya yun, ano bang alam ko? Sobrang sakit. Hanggang sa nag tuloy tuloy, hinayaan ko nalang para bang naging parte na sya ng buhay ko. Tapos nung graduation ko ng grade 6, pinasok nya akong katulong, all around, laba, linis, bantay sa matanda sa totoo lang di ko nga alam pano ko nasurvive yun hanggang 2nd yr hs haha. Minsan sinasama nya kong maglako ng paninda sa mga construction site at ayos lang sa kanyang bastusin ako, customer is always right daw eh. Alam ko namang mahirap ang buhay at mahirap mag palaki ng bata ng mag isa, pero putangina ang sakit kasi, ninakawan nila ko ng kabataan. Paulit ulit narin yung chismis sa brgy namin noon na pokpok ako, malandi, mabubuntis ng maaga dahil hinahayaan nya kong gaguhin ng lalaki nya!. May long time bf ako noon na ayaw nila, kasi ang sabi nya para daw akong namamangka sa dalawang ilog kung pagsasabayin ko yung bf ko at yung lalaki nya. Di ko talaga maintindihan yung logic nya tangina. Wala akong magawa noon kasi sabi ko hindi ko pa kaya.
Dumaan yung mga taon pinilit kong makatungtong ng kolehiyo, di ako nakapag tapos pero sapat na yun para mapunta ako kung nasaan man ako ngayon, lumayas ako iniwan ko sya, iniwan narin sya ng lalaki nya. Sumama ako sa bf ko at nakipag live in. Sa wakas naranasan kong sumaya, maging malaya. Makain mga gusto kong pagkain, pumunta sa mga lugar na noon pinapangarap ko lang puntahan. Maswerte ako kasi mabuting tao yung sinamahan ko, mabuti rin ang pamilya nya.
Pero parang ayaw ako tantanan ng nakaraan ko, matanda na yung nanay kong umampon sakin, senior na. Nag papadala naman ako pag kaya ko pero minsan tinitiis ko kasi nalalaman kong sinasabi nya pala sa iba na pabaya ako at ni minsan di ako nag bigay, kaya tinotoo ko na yung kwento nya. Ang sabi nya pa sakin nung huling tumawag ako e wala akong utang na loob, pinalaki nya daw ako para mabayaran ko sya sa lahat. Ang sabi ko kung tutuusin quits na kami sa lahat ng pinagdaanan ko sa kanya, sa kanila. Ngayon pati mga kamag anak nya inaaway at sinumbatan narin ako, kaya sabi ko kung kaya nya palang mag sumbong sa kanila at gumawa ng kung ano anong kwento bat di nya ring subukan manghingi ng tulong tutal ang lakas naman ng loob nilang pag salitaan ako ng kung ano ano.
Til now kinukulit parin nila ako, kesyo pambayad daw ng bills nya sa bahay, mga gamot, pag kain etc. Kaya ko naman mag provide kung tutuusin pero ewan ko ba pag dating sa kanya ang bigat ng loob ko mag labas ng pera. Siguro dahil sa trauma. Minsan di ko nalang alam kung matatawa ako sa mga kamag anak nya e kasi ang lakas nilang ganunin ako e sila nga di naman natulong. Kadugo pa nila yun mismo.
ABYG? Di ko alam bakit ko sya natitiis ng ganito, pakiramdam ko wala na akong awa sa kanya, puro sakit nalang. Pero tuwing naaalala ko sya umiiyak parin ako, iniiyakan ko lahat. Nasasaktan ako pag naiisip kong mag isa sya, pero hindi ko rin kaya na magkasama kami, sobrang sakit nyang kasama to the point na gusto ko nalang mamatay kesa makasama sya. Di ko na alam nararamdaman ko, ano ba to? Ano na ba ako? Tulungan nyo naman ako.

As an adult i am scared of intimacy, being sexualized, and just relationships in general, I think it might have something to do with my childhood but idk. So as a kid I talked to random strangers online and got groomed. But I always had a feeling it was wrong so I never let them like do anything sexual. But they still sexualized me despite saying it made me uncomfortable. And me being uncomfortable with sexual stuff made them sexualize me more, because I was so “innocent, pure, and quirky”. There was one particular guy that I talked to for 2 years ish, from age 14-16, he was 2 years older than me. He confessed his love for me so many times and dated my friend and other people to make me jealous, but it didn’t work because I absolutely hated him and wanted him to die. He’d always manipulate my friends and me saying stuff like “I should just commit suicide, no one would care anyways”. Please do. I remember praying to god that this man would kill himself, or die in some way. I told my friends I hated him and didn’t want to talk to him but they wouldn’t take no for an answer and kept making me talk to him. He said he had wet dreams about me and a bunch of other stuff happened and it all made me uncomfortable. I think It really made my personality switch. He’d always say how I was kind, pure, and innocent. And how I was so nice to everyone, so I just tried to be a total bitch. And I don’t know if I ever stopped. I was also sexualized by older men, growing up I worked at a restaurant with my mom when I was 13-14 ish, and old men would always compliment me but in a really weird way. “You’re so much prettier than your (adult) sister”. “You look like you’re old enough to run the bar!” And a bunch of other crap like that. I’ve had many other creepy coworkers since then, I think the most appalling one was “don’t worry daddy’s got you”- a 50 year old man after i made a mistake. But also as a kid I wasn’t allowed to hang out with my best friend (who was a boy) because my parents thought we’d do sexual acts together, MIND YOU THIS WAS LIKE 2ND-7TH GRADE. I remember bawling my eyes out in the church basement because I was so sickened that my parents would think that about me. I remember just wanting to not be sexualized. My dad also is kind of sexist and says stuff like; “when women started voting this country went to hell” “I can’t imagine being a women and being infertile, I mean that’s my only purpose” and just a bunch of stuff like that. I told him how I wanted to move to a city one day and just try it out and he was like but the end times!!! And so I said I’ve spent my whole childhood caring and grieving about politics and the end of the world, I’m so tired of caring, it’s not good for me to worry about that stuff. “Well you’ll be caring when they’re raping you!!” What. What the fuck? My parents are Christians and taught me what’s right and wrong from an early age so I think that’s just been drilled into my brain and effects the way I live now. But I don’t know, I’m just kind of mad at myself because I don’t want to be in a relationship and never have even though I’m 18. I feel like I’m missing out but the idea of doing all that disgusts me.

Hi. First time ko dito, wala lang talaga akong mapaglabasan ng sama ng loob, im F(25) callcenter agent. Isa akong ampon, inampon ako ng mag partner na lesbian, 3yrs old ako nung namatay yung isa sa mga nanay ko, sya din yung nakapangalan sa birthcert ko. Natira yung isa ko pang "nanay" na nakasama ko habang lumalaki ako, actually kilala ko rin mga magulang ko eh. Di ko parin talaga alam kung ano yung totoo bat nila naisip na ipamigay ako, basta ang kwento lang sakin e after manganak ng nanay ko sa bahay ng umapon sakin umalis nalang syang psrsng walang nangyare. So fast forward nung 5yrs old ako, may nakilala yung nanay ko na lalaki, pinapasok nya sa buhay namin, kinalaunan namolestya ako, nag try ako mag sumbong mga 9yrs old na ata ako nun, pero di ako pinaniwalaan. Ang sabi nya pa sakin "malandi ka kasi!" Para sa siyam na taong gulang na bata hindi ko alam bakit nasabi nya yun, ano bang alam ko? Sobrang sakit. Hanggang sa nag tuloy tuloy, hinayaan ko nalang para bang naging parte na sya ng buhay ko. Tapos nung graduation ko ng grade 6, pinasok nya akong katulong, all around, laba, linis, bantay sa matanda sa totoo lang di ko nga alam pano ko nasurvive yun hanggang 2nd yr hs haha. Minsan sinasama nya kong maglako ng paninda sa mga construction site at ayos lang sa kanyang bastusin ako, customer is always right daw eh. Alam ko namang mahirap ang buhay at mahirap mag palaki ng bata ng mag isa, pero putangina ang sakit kasi, ninakawan nila ko ng kabataan. Paulit ulit narin yung chismis sa brgy namin noon na pokpok ako, malandi, mabubuntis ng maaga dahil hinahayaan nya kong gaguhin ng lalaki nya!. May long time bf ako noon na ayaw nila, kasi ang sabi nya para daw akong namamangka sa dalawang ilog kung pagsasabayin ko yung bf ko at yung lalaki nya. Di ko talaga maintindihan yung logic nya tangina. Wala akong magawa noon kasi sabi ko hindi ko pa kaya.
Dumaan yung mga taon pinilit kong makatungtong ng kolehiyo, di ako nakapag tapos pero sapat na yun para mapunta ako kung nasaan man ako ngayon, lumayas ako iniwan ko sya, iniwan narin sya ng lalaki nya. Sumama ako sa bf ko at nakipag live in. Sa wakas naranasan kong sumaya, maging malaya. Makain mga gusto kong pagkain, pumunta sa mga lugar na noon pinapangarap ko lang puntahan. Maswerte ako kasi mabuting tao yung sinamahan ko, mabuti rin ang pamilya nya.
Pero parang ayaw ako tantanan ng nakaraan ko, matanda na yung nanay kong umampon sakin, senior na. Nag papadala naman ako pag kaya ko pero minsan tinitiis ko kasi nalalaman kong sinasabi nya pala sa iba na pabaya ako at ni minsan di ako nag bigay, kaya tinotoo ko na yung kwento nya. Ang sabi nya pa sakin nung huling tumawag ako e wala akong utang na loob, pinalaki nya daw ako para mabayaran ko sya sa lahat. Ang sabi ko kung tutuusin quits na kami sa lahat ng pinagdaanan ko sa kanya, sa kanila. Ngayon pati mga kamag anak nya inaaway at sinumbatan narin ako, kaya sabi ko kung kaya nya palang mag sumbong sa kanila at gumawa ng kung ano anong kwento bat di nya ring subukan manghingi ng tulong tutal ang lakas naman ng loob nilang pag salitaan ako ng kung ano ano.
Til now kinukulit parin nila ako, kesyo pambayad daw ng bills nya sa bahay, mga gamot, pag kain etc. Kaya ko naman mag provide kung tutuusin pero ewan ko ba pag dating sa kanya ang bigat ng loob ko mag labas ng pera. Siguro dahil sa trauma. Minsan di ko nalang alam kung matatawa ako sa mga kamag anak nya e kasi ang lakas nilang ganunin ako e sila nga di naman natulong. Kadugo pa nila yun mismo.
Di ko alam bakit ko sya natitiis ng ganito, pakiramdam ko wala na akong awa sa kanya, puro sakit nalang. Pero tuwing naaalala ko sya umiiyak parin ako, iniiyakan ko lahat. Nasasaktan ako pag naiisip kong mag isa sya, pero hindi ko rin kaya na magkasama kami, sobrang sakit nyang kasama to the point na gusto ko nalang mamatay kesa makasama sya. Di ko na alam nararamdaman ko, ano ba to? Ano na ba ako? Tulungan nyo naman ako.

throughout my whole life, i've been to 4 different schools. nursery to kinder 2, grade 1-6, grade 7-10, grade 11-present. normally my reason of transferring schools is either the distance or the rate of the tuition fee, but my reason why i transferred schools after grade 10 is a different story. to cut the story short, i was bullied 4 straight years of my life, from grade 7-10. and throughout that experience i was diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and more. leading me to lose myself and let myself go, resulting in me not attending classes and not submitting required works resulting for me to fail. my mother saw how i am suffering and decided to transfer me to another school. my life became way better when i am in this new school, i became stronger, happier, overall even better than i was before. i have friends who support me and love me unconditionally. i joined the school's dance team which made me really happy. everything is just going great. until a week ago. my dad went in my room, asking if we can talk. i said yes, of course. basically, he asked me to take an entrance exam at this university near our house. of course i can't hide the fact that i was upset so i spoke my mind and heart to him. he told me he isn't sure yet if i'll transfer but ever since i took the entrance exam, he's been nonstop on about me transferring there. don't get me wrong though. i get why my dad asked me these. it is because he brings me to school and fetches me everyday, so i know he's tired and all. but the thing is, i've been offering that i can commute/travel to school on my own. it's him who won't let me. i live in Las Piñas and my school is at Manila. and i have two ways to commute to school and vise versa. 1. i take a jeep to the lrt station (baclaran) then take the lrt to school (vito cruz). 2. i take a tricycle to casimiro (alabang zapote) then i take the bus to school (vito cruz) it isn't really that hard. but my dad won't let me and he is insisting that i should transfer.i'm college now btw and it would be hard for me to adjust if i will transfer to another school on the 2nd year of college. are my feelings valid? do i have the right to be upset/sad? please give me your insights and maybe some advices aswell :(( i really don't want to transfer.

-My husband & I have been together for 8yr. Below is a timeline of my MIL issues starting when we first began dating, to now, several years married.
Before meeting my now-husbands mother, VERY early on in our relationship and before we were even official, his mother requested to follow me on all my social media accounts. I had not met her at the time and found it way too soon & creepy. Even at this point I got the initial feeling she was the type who forces levels of intimacy that she has not made the effort to genuinely attain.
-In the beginning I did make a concerted effort w/ his family. I quickly learned his Mother asks v. intrusive questions. It’s clear her questions aren’t genuine, but for the sole purpose of having ‘intel’. As if it’s ’information gathering’ for her benefit.
-The 2nd time meeting his mother she immediately asked me what year my parents got married. I told her I wasn’t sure & she began asking me if I knew what decade.. followed by questions re: my mom’s birthdate. Then she told me what she really wanted to know was my mom’s age (always an ulterior motive..). She was beyond giddy to discover she was younger than my mom. I told her my mom was slightly older than some of my peers mothers bc she had a daughter (my sister) before I was born who passed away and she had trouble conceiving afterwards. His mom didn’t react or respond to this as she was still so giddy to over the fact she was younger than my mom. Red flag..
-When my husband and I were first dating, he lived in a house w/ several guy friends. He was 26. Whenever we’d visit his family his mom would beg him to move back home so he could save money. I found this odd behavior for a mother wanting their son to grow & flourish as an adult.
-After a year & a half dating we decide to move in together. My future MIL pulls me to the side for a 1 on 1 conversation & tells me, “if things don’t work out, don't worry, there’s always a way to break a lease & get out of living together if things aren’t going well” (..why would things not go well…?). She continues on, quizzing me ab my prior relationships and how they ended. Before reverting back to the topic of me and her so moving in together, basically telling me she doesn’t approve.. conversation leaves me feeling unaccepted, awkward and gross. I immediately told my partner how uncomfortable this made me. He was upset and went to have a talk with her. In their conversation- she gaslights him, telling him she feels like she’s walking on eggshells w/ us & she did nothing wrong, we are so sensitive, how she doesn’t do anything right, etc.
-She begins incessantly planning get togethers with us, telling us she never gets to see us (when we visit 1-2x/month). We don’t even live in the same city. Not to mention we’re busy in our 20’s w/ friends & establishing our own lives. Every time she sees us she leads w/, ‘oh I’ve missed you sooo much. when did I see you last? Why has it been so long? I’m soooo happy to see you. (On & on, guilt trip behavior).
-Our first Christmas dating we spent w/ his family, the 2nd year w/ my family. When we told her we planned to spend the 2nd Christmas w/ my family, his mother had a huge outburst which I’d describe as frantic/triggered/unhinged. My husband and I were upset by her reaction and left shortly after. The following day I txted her we were upset she reacted to our plan that way, we spent the prior Christmas w/ them & it was our decision.. and that moving forward we’d be splitting holidays. She played it off, said: “I wasn’t upset at all if you thought that I really wasn’t! I don’t think I came off like that, sorry if you felt that way” then proceeded to change the subject. Once again gaslighting (this being the last time I confront her on my own. My husband handles from here on out).
-She begins asking where I buy all my clothes. Nonstop questions ab my material possessions. Then starts going out and buying the same items for herself.
-She starts constantly telling my husband on the phone how she never sees him, leaving him feeling guilty (he’s improved a lot on the guilt-front, since our early dating era). When we see his parents 1-2 times a month.. and live 2 hrs away.
-Around this time, If I stated an opinion ab something (as in I would bring a topic up on my own) she’d debate everything I’d say as if I wasn’t allowed to have my own opinion.
-Pulls me to the side of a party 1 on 1 & tells me in private ‘you’re so lucky to have my son, I just want you to know that you’re really lucky.. I hope you know it’ she wasn’t being nice when she said it.
-Around this time she tells us how my partners sister is so sad he has a gf (me), yet she doesn’t have a boyfriend. Triangulating her 2 children, w/ the goal of wanting her son to feel guilt for being happy and in a successful relationship.
-Husbands mom starts getting jealous when we go on family beach trips w/ my family. We go for a week every year. She makes disapproving comments to us/ is generally unhappy her son is enjoying vacations.
-She starts making comments to my partner ab how I’m so closed off and won’t open up to her (making me look bad while playing the victim) and crying to him about never seeing him and how he doesn’t make enough effort..
-Begins incessantly micromanaging my husband: texts him reminding him of this and that, tells him my (as in me…) birthday is X days away, to make sure to get me something, to get his sister something, reminding him he should ‘make plans with his dad soon or go see his dad soon’ or ‘have you called your sister recently? You need to call her it’s your job as a brother’
-Begins generally undermining how we live our lives and casting judgement on any and every decision we make unless we do exactly as she sees fit/what she believes is ‘the right way’. It feels like she believes we were put on this earth to obey her and there is only one way, her way. She does out of her way to show us she thinks she is smarter and more savvy than us, in this game of life.
-Around this time his sister who is only 2 years younger begins acting bratty- we give her furniture, tvs, clothing large items she says she wants and she is super ungrateful, complains about the items we give her, tells us they’re too heavy for her & that we need to carry it for her and put it In her house for her. Only calls or texts us when she needs something, wants advice, or wants to complain to us. Never any other times. It’s always all ab her.
-His sister then keeps our dog for us when we are out of town for a few days (which we were shocked she even agreed to since isn’t exactly supportive or helpful). We stocked the fridge w/ 7-8 bottles of wine for her and made our home lovely/ special for her stay. Her new boyfriend even came to stay at our home with her (they both have roommates so this was also an opportunity for the 2 of them to be alone together). After our trip we were over the top grateful, thanking her many times. She then pitched a fit to my now husband telling him we bought her cheap Trader Joe’s wine and she can’t believe we didn’t bring her back a tshirt from our trip or pay her money for the sacrifice she made, complaining on and on while yelling at him. I would personally never keep my siblings/family members pets for them and expect payment. I would however pay a friend.
-My partner and I get engaged and his mom/sister begin trying to force get togethers, my husband sister starts asking me to go to workout classes with her, painting classes, massages, etc.. which is v. out of character for her. It continues & becomes apparent this is happening only bc I’m now engaged to her brother. It feels disgenuine as she never made these efforts in the 5 years before we were engaged…
-My bridesmaids are my closest, nearest dearest friends who I’ve known for 10+ years. My husband’s sister cried when she found out she wasn’t a bridesmaid and started calling my husband weekly crying / begging him to be a bridesmaid. Then my MIL starts calling, telling him how disappointed she is. He tells his mother, I’m not sure why she’d expect to be a bridesmaid, she’s never made an effort, they aren’t close, she gets to select her closest friends to stand by her side. This has nothing to do with not liking or leaving anyone out on purpose. His mom cries, repeats how deeply disappointed she is, how wrong this is, etc. My husband tells his mother he plans to ask his dad to be his best man. Disclaimer: neither of my brothers were by husbands groomsmen, they couldn’t have cared less…
-My husband asks his father to be his best man. His father declines and says ‘no, not unless your sister can be a bridesmaid’………………….
-My MIL creates her own wedding hotel block for her friends and family, sending out a mass email to them. This is outside of the 4 hotel blocks we already have on our wedding website.
-I start hearing my MIL is saying to friends/family, ‘As long as my son is happy that’s all I care about, I just really hope that he is. All I can do is hope’ and telling people how devastated she is that her daughter isn’t a bridesmaid and how messed up and wrong it is and how weddings are a family celebration for the family. No one ever confronts me once about the bridesmaid situation.
-My husband ends up telling his mother to never mention the bridesmaid topic again, how he won’t tolerate it and is done hearing about it.
-We ask my SIL to give a reading at our wedding. Her response: ‘if I have to’. She is a pill our entire wedding, in almost every photo she is scowling.
-When we receive our wedding photos & upload online, my SIL/MIL text and ask me where all the photos of them are (there were plenty…). I told them I uploaded every photo our photographer sent. They told me this wasn’t true, were extremely disrespectful to me, basically told me I was lying when I wasn’t. I uploaded every single one. I even reached out to my photographer to ask if she’s deleted any of the photos before sending…
-My husband & I got into a disagreement with my SIL where we had a huge argument resulting in a 6 month period of no contact. This arises after we confronted her, calmly & maturely about an issue we had to which she cussed us out and called me every terrible curse word you can imagine. My husband was livid- told her she would not talk to/ab me that way & how childish she was behaving, how we should be able to confront her when we are upset about something she’s done, etc. After several months of no contact w/ my SIL, my MIL begins calling my husband saying: you ‘will/must’ resolve things w/ your sister. He says no & it’s not her business. My husbands father then calls him, clearly deployed by MIL (as he’s very chill/no-drama). The situation becomes even more stressful due to my MIL pressuring my husband re: a topic that doesn’t involve her. I too become stressed, seeing my in laws trying to control him. My in laws then have my SIL’s bf text my Husband saying, ‘I really hate seeing this for the family I want everyone to be ok’ (although once has my SIL attempted to reach out & apologize for calling me a bit** cu**, etc). When his attempt doesn’t work on my husband, my MIL then sends my husband & me a joint text message ab How she wouldn’t be intervening if her daughter could handle this on her own & how we need to fix it. My husband responds & tells his mom off, essentially saying: This isn’t your business. My wife is owed an apology, you guys also have never apologized for how horribly you treated us during our wedding.. the happiest time of our lives, a day we get to have exactly how WE want. My sister can handle her own problems she’s an adult, shes never going to learn bc you meddle in every problem she has bc you want things your way. Then when you don’t get what you want, you get everyone to do your dirty work for you in hopes you can bulldoze & get your way. You make everything ab you, what you want, when & how you want it. Those days are over (this is a summary of his response).
(hmm wonder why my SIL doesn’t know how to handle adversity, bc you handle everything for her even though she is an adult)
-SIL reaches out to my husband and says she wants to talk. He says no, you treated my wife poorly. You will reach out and apologize to her, not me. You won’t disrespect my wife. And she does do this although it takes her a week or so. And it did seem genuine.
-I think this all stems from drama my MIL creates, and when things don’t go her way she pulls others in to manipulate them & do her dirty work for her.
-husband and I lived 2 hours from his parents. We end up moving 10 hours away to create distance from his family. They disapprove and generally disapprove of any and every decision we make, as they don’t act with love and support our decisions as loving parents would.
-In laws announce they are starting an annual family vacation…to the private beach MY family has vacationed at since I was born (it’s not a mainstream location…it’s rather obscure). My in laws have never even been there before. I tell my husband I absolutely refuse to go & will not enable the intrusive/copying behavior.
-My husband & I take a trip just 2 of us. We stay in an airbnb. 3 months later his parents tell us they planned a trip to the same location for the 2 of them & they’d also found & booked the exact same airbnb we stayed at so they could experience the same exact trip my husband & I went on….
-Additional overstepping, intrusive, creepy behavior like above persists. They start buying many of the same exact material items, or furniture we own (obscure antiques, designer items, etc….), essentially copying everything we do. We want our own unique & individual things that make us, US. & it seems as if demand to show us they won’t allow us to have that for ourselves under and circumstance. Almost as if they aren’t entitled full access to our lives, so they will bulldoze and access our lives in their own ways to make them feel in control. This is my take.
-There’s no major animosity now but we have majorly pulled away from them. My husband calls his parents once a month or so. We now see them 3-4 times a year.
-Things will be nice & relaxing for a month or 2 then out of the blue my MIL will blow up out of nowhere calling my husband 8x in a row telling him he will speak to his mother he will do this and that. Often he simply ignores her or waits several days to respond. She likes to tell him ‘you need to call your father and speak with him’ ‘hey it’s dads birthday make sure do this and that’ (obviously we know when their birthdays are… we are pretty on top of things, still she cannot stand not being in control).
-MIL just flipped out on my husband for not calling her on Mother’s Day, though we send a gift, card, and send multiple texts first thing in the morning. My husband received multiple messages from his dad : why have you not called your mother??? Did you forget? Call your mother now. We’re skeptical the texts were actually from his dad..
-Although we’ve distanced ourselves, the every 2 mnth outbursts are exhausting. I am now 6 weeks pregnant. So excited! BUT Dreading telling them as I envision MIL & SIL making it all about them, freaking out ab how we aren’t involving them enough.. I imagine my MIL starting to disgeuninely call/text me constantly, demand to be involved at the level she expects & believes she deserves, will probably buy high chairs, cribs, etc for her own home.. and make it about her In any way possible.
Any advice on how to deal with a woman like this? I feel like I have to constantly prepare for her actions, outbursts, or things she might say. She’s draining, the pressure she puts on my husband is absurd, her expectations are outrageous, she’s judgmental and controlling, everything is about her, and she is emotionally immature in every way. I feel protective over my husband and our marriage and can’t stand them constant trying to order him around with their high expectations and demands. Help!

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hello,, im a grade 11 student. we have an ongoing study entitled "Uncovering the World of Game-Based Learning through Teachers' Perspective: A Qualitative Study", exploring the experiences of teachers in using gamification techniques in classes, as well as their insights about gamification itself (like, is it a recommended strategy?) and their perceived pros and cons.
i know the basics of conceptual framework (ID, DV, etc) but somehow, we're having a rlly hard time in constructing one for this study.
here's our SOP: 1. What are the lived experiences of teachers in utilizing gamification techniques? 2. What are the insights of teachers regarding the use of gamification? 3. What are the advantages and disadvantages of using game-based learning, whether traditional or online?
please don't judge our work, this has been approved by our adviser and again, this is only our 2nd research study ever. thank you! 🥲🥹

TREATIES OF CÓRDOBA
TREATIES CELEBRATED IN THE VILLA OF CÓRDOBA ON THE 24TH OF THE PRESENT, BETWEEN MR. DON JUAN DE O'DONOJÚ, LIEUTENANT GENERAL OF THE ARMIES OF SPAIN, AND DON AGUSTÍN DE ITURBIDE, FIRST CHIEF OF THE IMPERIAL MEXICAN ARMY OF THE THREE GUARANTEES.
Pronounced for New Spain the independence of the old, having an army that supported this pronouncement, the provinces of the kingdom decided for it, the capital was besieged where the legitimate authority had been deposed, and when only the town squares remained of Veracruz and Acapulco remained for the European goverment, unguarded and without means of resisting a well-directed siege that would last for some time, Lieutenant General Don Juan de O'Donojú arrived at the first port, with the character and representation of captain general and superior political leader[viceroy] of this kingdom , appointed by His Majesty, who, eager to avoid the evils that afflict people in altercations of this kind, and trying to reconcile the interests of both Spains, invited the first chief of the imperial army, Don Agustín de Iturbide, to an interview in which the great enterprise of independence was discussed, unleashing without breaking the bonds that united the two continents. The interview was done in the town of Córdoba on August 24, 1821, and with the representation of his character in the first, and that of the Mexican Empire in the second, after having conferred in depth about what was most convenient for both nations. Taking into account the current state and the latest occurrences, they agreed on the following articles, which they signed in duplicate to give them all the consolidation that this type of documents are capable of, keeping an original each in their possession for greater security and validation:
Art. 1. This America will be recognized as a sovereign and independent nation, and will be called from now on “Mexican Empire”.
2nd. The government of the Empire will be a moderate constitutional monarchy.
3rd. It will be called to reign in the Mexican Empire (after an oath designated by article 4 of the plan of independece), firstly Mr. Don Ferdinand VII, Catholic King of Spain; and for his resignation or non-admission, his brother the Most Serene Lord Infante Don Carlos; for his resignation or non-admission, the Most Serene Lord Infante Don Francisco de Paula; for his resignation or non-admission, the Most Serene Lord Don Carlos Luis, infante of Spain, formerly heir of Etruria, today of Luca; and by resignation or non-admission of this, the one that the Courts of the Empire designate.
4th. The Emperor will establish his court in Mexico, which will be the capital of the Empire.
5th. Two commissioners will be appointed by His Excellency Mr. O'Donojú, who will go to the Court of Spain to place in the royal hands of Mr. Don Ferdinand VII a copy of this treaty and the exhibition that will accompany it, so that it may serve H.M. has record while the Cortes offer him the crown with all the formalities and guarantees that a matter of such importance demands, and beg His Majesty. That in the case of article III, you designate to notify the Most Serene Lords Infantes called in the same article by the order in which they are named, interposing their benign influence so that it is one of the designated persons of their august house who come to this Empire, which is why the prosperity of both nations is interested in it, and for the satisfaction that the Mexicans will receive in adding this to the bonds of friendship with which they can and want to have with the Spaniards.
6th. A Junta will be composed immediately, composed of the first men of the Empire by their virtues, by their destinies, by their fortunes, representation and opinion, of those who are designated by general opinion, whose number is considerable enough for the meeting of ilustration to ensure correctness in its determinations, which will be emanations of the authority and powers granted to them by the following articles.
7th. The Junta referred to in the previous article will be called the Provisional Governing Junta.
8th. Lieutenant General Don Juan de O'Donojú will be an individual of the Provisional Government Junta, in consideration of the convenience of a person of his class having an active and immediate part in the government, and that it is essential to omit some of that were indicated in the expressed plan in accordance with its same spirit.
9th. The Provisional Governing Junta will have a president appointed by itself, and whose election will fall on one of the individuals within it or outside it, who meets the absolute plurality of votes, which if in the first vote is not verified , a second vote will be taken, with the two who have obtained the most votes entering.

1. The first step of the Provisional Governing Junta will be to make a statement to the public of its installation and reasons for bringing it together, with any other explanations it deems appropriate to enlighten the people about their interests and way of proceeding in the election of deputies to the Cortes, which will be discussed later.
   
2. The Provisional Governing Junta will appoint, following the election of its president, a regency composed of three people from within it or outside it, in whom the executive power resides and who governs in the name of the monarch, until he takes control, of the scepter of the Empire.
   
3. Once installed, the Provisional Governing Junta will govern temporarily in accordance with current laws in everything that does not oppose the Plan of Iguala, and while the Cortes form the constitution of the State.
   
   1. The regency, immediately after being appointed, will proceed to convene the Cortes in accordance with the method determined by the Provisional Governing Junta, which is in accordance with the spirit of article 24 of the aforementioned plan.
4. The executive power resides in the regency, the legislative power in the Cortes; But as there must be some time before they meet, so that both do not fall under the same authority, the Junta will exercise legislative power, first, for cases that may occur and that do not give time to waite for first meeting of the Cortes and then it will proceed according to the regency; second, to serve the regency as an auxiliary and advisory body in its determinations.
   
5. Every person who belongs to a society, altering the system of government, or passing the country into the power of another prince, remains in the state of natural freedom to move with his fortune wherever it suits him, without there being a right to deprive him of this freedom, unless he has contracted some debt with the society to which he belonged by crime, or in another of the ways known to publicists: in this case there are the Europeans living in New Spain and the Americans residing in the peninsula; Consequently, they will be arbitrators to remain adopting this or that country, or to request their passport, which cannot be denied, to leave the Empire at the predetermined time, taking or bringing their families and property; but satisfying at the exit by the latter, the export rights established or to be established by whoever can do so.
   
6. The previous alternative will not take place with respect to public or military employees who are notoriously disaffected to Mexican independence; but that these will necessarily leave the Empire within the term that the regency prescribes, carrying their interests and paying the rights mentioned in the previous article.
   
7. Since the occupation of the capital by the troops of the peninsula is an obstacle to the realization of this treaty, it is essential to overcome it; but as the first chief of the imperial army, uniting his feelings with those of the Mexican nation, he wishes not to achieve it with force, for which he has plenty of resources, despite the value and perseverance of said peninsular troops, due to lack of means and resources to support themselves against the system adopted by the entire nation, Don Juan de O'Donojú offers to use his authority so that these troops can departure without bloodshed and through an honorable capitulation.
   

Villa de Córdoba, 24 de august of 1821.
Signed
—Agustín de Iturbide.—Juan de O’Donojú.—It is faithful copy of its original.—José Domínguez.—It is a faithful copy of the original that remains in this general command.—Jose Joaquín Herrera.—As assistant secretary, Tomás Illañez.

My 6 year old daughter (going into 2nd grade) was diagnosed with dyslexia and performance anxiety (from an outside evaluation but our school district accepted.the diagnosis) we will have our iep meeting soon. From talking to the psychologist at her school, they do not do a specific dyslexia curriculum rather just use a multi sensory approach to teach it in the learning support classroom. (But do not use wilson, etc or have anyone certified to teach it) Side note,I do a OG reading program (all about reading) with her at home and it's the first time she has made some progress all year and her benchmark testing went up the highest we have seen all year since we started this program. How do I ask her school for a specific reading program (like wilson, etc) and stress that she needs it?

Hi, This is more of a cry for help rather than a rant. I am Indian (its imp for the lore), just completed my senior year and got accepted into ASU on the basis of my 2nd choice of degree - B.A in Global Logs. My first choice was Finance, so when i got my acceptance offer. Not being admitted for Finance was a bit of a shock, upon inspecting ASU told me that i don't meet the requirements. What requirements you ask? even i had no clue back then. After more digging, I found out that they have a criteria that I should have completed 4 years of maths and 3 years of lab science ( lab science for finance, nice...) . From where I come from, u have the option to not opt for maths in the last 2 years of your senior years which is what i did. I took the subjects -: Economics - Accountancy - Marketing - Business Studies. And for some reason people at ASU don't want to understand that INDIA isn't the same as the U.S when it comes to education system. I tried telling them that i completed these requirements back when I was in 7th grade but unfortunately they only consider transcripts starting from 9th grade. So basically I'm f'ed and cant study either finance or accountancy cz I completed the requirements long before I was supposed to.
What i wanna know at the end of the day from you fellow Sundevils is whether i can talk my way into finance or accountancy, AFTER I reach uni and meet with an admission officer irl. Cz emailing isn't cutting it. It might not sound like it in this rant, But I've been at this little game for close to 2 months now.
CHEERS

For background: I feel like I am risking too much here at UST because I set high expectations for myself. I didn't pass the UPCA back in 2023, yet passed the USTET with my priority program, AB in Political Science. Kaso, my family wasn't financially well-off but I still persevered, promising them that I would take any scholarship opportunity.
Luckily, I passed the San Lorenzo Ruiz (Working Scholar) scholarship. It was manageable at first during our 1st semester and survived. Yet, 2nd semester came and it was hard to cope with, especially bumigat yung readings and schoolwork. I was constantly getting low scores on quizzes kahit na wala ako tulog from studying. Tapos, it was hard to manage my time, being a working scholar, required to render 24 hours a week. I was super drained and lost my motivation, all together.
I feel like I over-estimated my capabilities, and risking too much nga sa UST. But, I am uncertain if makakapasa pa ba 'ko sa major subject ko, so I want to shift sa UPD para at least kahit bumagsak, libre.
I just have some questions, if anyone can answer, it would be a big help. 1. If I get a singko in my grade, but still pass the required GWA (which is 2.00), can I still shift? 2. If I manage to shift, would I be disqualified for Latin honors?

For background: I feel like I am risking too much here at UST because I set high expectations for myself. I didn't pass the UPCA back in 2023, yet passed the USTET with my priority program, AB in Political Science. Kaso, my family wasn't financially well-off but I still persevered, promising them that I would take any scholarship opportunity.
Luckily, I passed the San Lorenzo Ruiz (Working Scholar) scholarship. It was manageable at first during our 1st semester and survived. Yet, 2nd semester came and it was hard to cope with, especially bumigat yung readings and schoolwork. I was constantly getting low scores on quizzes kahit na wala ako tulog from studying. Tapos, it was hard to manage my time, being a working scholar, required to render 24 hours a week. I was super drained and lost my motivation, all together.
I feel like I over-estimated my capabilities, and risking too much nga sa UST. But, I am uncertain if makakapasa pa ba 'ko sa major subject ko, so I want to shift sa UPD para at least kahit bumagsak, libre.
I just have some questions, if anyone can answer, it would be a big help. 1. If I get a singko in my grade, but still pass the required GWA (which is 2.00), can I still shift? 2. If I manage to shift, would I be disqualified for Latin honors?

Ask ko lang po pra sa requirements sa college admission. Ano pong ilalagay sa GWA? Yung pinakamataas po ba? General average ko kasi sa grade 12 sa 1st sem is 87- 2nd Sem is 88 oops ang baba

Demographics

• Gender: Male
• Race/Ethnicity: Indian
• Residence: Massachusetts
• Income Bracket: Upper Middle Class
• Type of School: Mediocre Public school
• Hooks: Immigrant but US Citizen
• Intended Majors & Minors: Applied Math, AI, Entrepreneurship, Engineering & Computer Science

Academics

• GPA (UW/W): 4.0/4.6
• Rank (or percentile): 8/300
• Classes: 12 APs, 3 Dual-Enrolments
• Senior Year Course Load: 3 APs (Computer Science, Chemistry, Psychology) 3 Dual-Enrolments (MIT OCW Linear Algebra, MIT OCW Multivariable Calc, English), Teacher Assistant for Calculus and Teacher Assistant for AP Physics C

Standardized Testing

• SAT: 1570 (770RW, 800M)
• AP Exams: Calculus AB (5), Physics 1 (5), Statistics (5), World History (5), Physics C: Mechanics (5), Calculus BC (5), AP CSP (4), US History (4), Lang (3)
• AMC 12: 136.5 (Top 200)

Awards/Honors

• Coca-Cola Scholar (150 Selected from 100K+)
• Harvard Guest Speaker on AI & ChatGPT in Education (6K+ Listeners). The Harvard Gazette wrote an article on me.
• MIT Hackathon 3rd place winner 2x (AI Recipe Generator & AI Therapist)
• Presented at International Education & Social Justice Conference (Peer-reviewed) at University of Hawaii
• MIT LLCipher Summer Program (3% Acceptance Rate). Invited back as Guest Speaker the following year.
• Wrote Boston Globe Article on AI & ChatGPT in Education
• AMC 12 Distinction (2x) and AIME Qual (2x)
• President's Volunteer Service Gold Award
• AP Scholar with Distinction & AP Scholar with Honor
• Multiple other Math Competition, Model UN, and Marching Band Awards

Extracurriculars/Activities

• MIT Lincoln Laboratory Summer Intern: Advanced Research in AI & Networking (1% Acceptance Rate). Internship primarily for Grad and Undergrad students. Received a return offer for summer before college.
• Writer: 110+ articles on Medium with 200K+ reads. Published by the Boston Globe and other publications.
• Antarctic Research: Climate Research and Data Analysis at UW-Madison.
• MA State House Internship: Worked for State Rep. Wrote a policy brief on AI. Promoted to Campaign Manager in 2024.
• Math Team Coach & Captain: Coach students and top scorer. 4x Regional Champions (First time in history). 2x AIME qual and 2x AMC Distinction (AMC Score: 136.5).
• Students of Color Affinity Group President: Mentor students and lead professional development workshops; presented at International Education & Social Justice Conference at University of Hawaii.
• AP Physics C & Calculus Teacher Assistant: Help teach 70+ seniors at my school (ran out of classes hence TA lol).
• Model UN President: Perfect record and multiple awards at regional conferences.
• Karate Black Belt: 10+ years and help teach classes.
• Marching Band: 2nd in USBands Nationals (3x).
• Coding Instructor: Taught kids how to code in Python and JavaScript.
• Sales Head & Data Analyst at National STEM Honor Society: Promoted STEM education to underrepresented populations.
• JV Tennis: Doubles Player

Letters of Recommendation

• AP Calculus Teacher
• Math Department Head and Physics TeacheMath Team Coach
• MIT Lincoln Lab Research Mentor (MIT Alum)
• Diversity, Inclusion, and Equity Director of my school (Harvard Alum)
• Massachusetts State Representative

Essay Summaries

• Common App: During the pandemic, I found personal growth and a deeper understanding of myself and society through writing, which led me to explore artificial intelligence and its applications, culminating in an internship at MIT and advocacy work, and inspiring my entrepreneurial ambitions.
• Community Disruption: When the pandemic disrupted my activities, I leveraged online platforms to continue learning and leading, discovering new interests in AI and entrepreneurship, and demonstrating resilience by revitalizing my school’s clubs and engaging in new ventures, setting the stage for my future in innovation.
• Additional Information: Links to various articles and videos, and other activities and awards.
• Supplementals: Some were very reflective about my identity, activities, and goals in life. Others were light-hearted and quirky. They were very personalized to the school and emphasized how I fit in, what I would bring to the school, and how I would use the school as a catalyst for my entrepreneurial ventures.
• Additional Uploads: Uploaded my Resume, portfolio of Articles, and a summary of my Research at MIT Lincoln Lab.

Interviews

• Harvard (REA): Great Conversation and said Harvard would have to fight MIT for me. 9/10
• MIT: My Interviewer was very disinterested and didn't care. It was 15 minutes and he said if I don't get in then who would. 6/10
• Princeton: It was a great conversation and said he would fight for me. 8/10
• Yale: It was also a good conversation and she said she would fight for me. 8/10
• UPenn M&T: Guy kept asking technical questions and I was lost. But in the end, he said I did good and he would fight for me, even though interviews don’t matter too much. 7/10
• Dartmouth: Lady was super impressed and said if I don’t get in then she is quitting doing interviews for Dartmouth. 9/10

College Results
Accepted

• WPI (with Max Scholarship, Half off)
• UW-Madison
• Northeastern (with Max Scholarship, Half off)
• Georgia Tech for CS (Early Action)
• Cornell (Meinig Family Cornell National Scholar)
• Dartmouth
• Duke
• UPenn (Waitlisted M&T)
• Harvard (Waitlisted → Accepted)
• Princeton (Committed)

Waitlisted

• UMich (Early Action)
• Vanderbilt

Rejected

• USC (lol)
• Yale
• Stanford
• MIT (This one hurt)

Reflections:
I'm super grateful and happy with my decisions. I have committed to Princeton, and it definitely is the best fit for me. College results this year were very random, but I couldn’t be more thankful to get into the #1 undergraduate university. I was worried that since most of my application was MIT-related (Research, classes, Letters of Rec, Awards, Activities), other universities would think I was going there and reject me. College results were super random and stressful, but it worked out better than I could have ever imagined. It's funny how I got waitlisted and rejected from all my target schools (Vandy, UMich, USC) but then got into most of my reach schools.
Advice for Future Applicants:
Be authentic. There is no formula that gets you in. Sure, you have to do a couple of things like getting good grades and SAT scores and having some unique activities and awards, but especially for Top 10 schools, you just have to be unique and authentic. I didn't have any connections or background (like private school and college counselor) that provided me with opportunities. I was literally the first kid ever from my school to get into Princeton. I was authentic and hardworking, did stuff I enjoyed, and one thing led to another. I also spent a lot of time on essays and my application. 50% of the work is actually doing stuff, and the other 50% is showcasing it in your college application. Also, have balance in life. I had a lot of fun in high school and enjoyed the stuff I did. Live life with no regrets. Feel free to DM me.

Does anyone know of any 2 to 3 year nursing programs in the GTA, other than York? I don't know if I'll get into the 2nd Entry Nursing Program. I applied on the February 01st deadline and people in a groupchat are telling me that this deadline is for the 4-year program only. I'm so stressed out at this point. It doesn't help that psychology courses have been kicking me in the teeth. I dropped a 3000-level psyc course before last Friday because I was not doing well in it. I didn't want it to impact my grades.
Some people were recommending that I apply for a program change but I am a non-degree student. They do not allow for changing of program. I'm not in a specific program. Is it difficult to set up an appointment with Advising? Do I go through my home faculty of LA&PS or do I go to the Nursing faculty for help?
To top it all off, I was trying to get into a Summer psych course and was denied because some profs thought I was too late. I contacted them before the last day to add with permission of instructor. What is the point off having that date if you don't give students access and you have space?????? A professor also lied to me about "waiting lists". I was so embarrassed when I found out from the department that this isn't a thing.
Does anyone know any other Nursing programs in GTA? Aside from York and UofT?
Thanks

My background: Finished my 3rd year of undergrad in CSE at one of the mid-IIITs (estd. 2013). Managed to earn around 3L+ last year through internships and hackathons. This might not be a lot for you, but this has been my entire year's hard work. And I am pretty sure there might be people who are earning a lot during their B.Tech, very happy to interact with them and share their findings and experience as well on this post! Let's get started.
Saw a lot of questions in this community, like how to earn during B.Tech, etc. Thought I could share my story and it could be helpful to some of the people. I have been very mediocre throughout my life, found CS and coding really interesting while I was in 9th Grade and started coding, thanks to my school for introducing it. Used to code in Java, solve really basic problems like Armstrong Number, etc till my 10th Grade. 11th started and gave up coding altogether for JEE.
I hardly coded for the next 2 years, barely. Just enough to pass my school exams. Gave JEE, got a 97%ile-ish percentile (26-27Kish Rank), had no options but lower branches at NITs and CS and ECE and newer or mid IIITs. Went for CS at IIIT (they are pretty expensive). Always had that feeling that I am wasting so much of my parent's money and wanted to pay back my tuition fees. So actually I started coding again as soon as I could.
I'll break it down for you in a few pointers -
Explore what you find interesting
Explore as much as you can during your first and partly second-year. By the end of your second year, you should be sure about what you want to do. Be it AI, ML, CP, Web3, etc. Anything that interests you.
I found open-source interesting and tried to contribute to a few projects, but couldn't. It was overwhelming, and was able to make some meaningless contributions, not proper features. Disappointed, tried to do CP. As you can imagine, more disappointment. Spent 3-4 months and realized this was not for me. During my 2nd semester, started exploring web development towards the end. Hated it a lot, it was really boring at the start. I am pretty sure you all felt that way when started. The turning point for me was Smart India Hackathon (SIH), which brings me to my next point.
Participate in as many hackathons/events/conferences you can
Nobody is going to judge you if you don't win a hackathon. We participated in SIH, just for fun in our first year (2nd semester). Funny enough, our idea got selected and we were in the finals. We went to the finale (3rd semester) and we won that too. That experience taught me a bunch of stuff. One of those things is:
You need a good team
You need to surround yourself with people who don't give up, who are ready to give all they have got, be it in any hackathon, any class project or anything else. I hadn't touched React before SIH, started with it a week before the finale, and learnt most of it in those 36 hours. I was writing something that I had no prior experience in, and that feeling was amazing, which brings me to another point.
Practice as much as you can. Get as much real-world experience as you can.
One of the best advices that I had ever gotten from a senior was, "Expose yourself to as much technologies as you can and get familiar with them." That worked like a charm. I am still hungry for learning something new. We won SIH, btw. We were super elated. We got selected in our first year and won by the time we reached our second year.
From there on, I started looking for internships because I was familiar with React now. I did everything I could. Tried to keep my LinkedIn active, made a Wellfound account (back then, it was called AngelList), Internshala, did everything I could. A lot of my internship search was off at times. I never did it consistently during my 3rd semester. Plus I think, it's very hard for companies to take a 2nd year student seriously, everyone wants an internship and money but do you really have the skills? I found a teaching assistant intern for Java through Internshala (even Idk how), they paid me around 8K for 20 days. That was my first ever earning after the SIH's prize money. I was pretty happy, but that just motivated me to get more internships, this time, actual development internships.
Soon after, found one through Linkedin in my 4th semester itself and after that, there was pretty much no stopping which brings me to my next point.
Be consistent in your internship/job search
I started being more active on professional platforms. I used to apply at at least 15-20 openings daily through different platforms like LinkedIn and Wellfound. Mostly on Wellfound. For a month or so, no callbacks. It was a drought. And it is really disheartening to watch that, but that's when you just gotta keep going. I kept applying and soon enough, I was giving 2-3 interviews a day for weeks. Interviews helped me. My 2023 summer vacations went in improving my resume, making a good project, adding it to the resume, getting my resume reviewed multiple times by my seniors and implementing their feedback.
During summer vacations, I started exploring web3 and it was interesting. Started applying for web3 companies for fun. Interesting enough, got some callbacks. I still remember a company, a web3 one. Their process went on for a month, 4 rounds, 2 take-back assignments, I did everything and yet I was rejected xD with no feedback. That hurt. But just a week after, I had gotten myself another interview at an Indian web3 company. I was really excited because they had raised around 20 M USD 2 years back so really wanted to work for that company.
It's a long story, but I officially joined that company for 6 months starting in October 2023. I loved the culture, the people, and everything was great. Except, I had too much free time. So started looking for more work. Long story, interned at an AI startup as a Product Engineering Intern for 2.5 months during October to December. In February, another web3 startup, worked for 2 months and the pay was great, but left it because it was getting really hectic. I switched departments in my original web3 company and got another intern for 6 months in the new department, hoping for a full-time role in this department xD
So that's pretty much it. That's my story, or at least the gist of it. Participated in several hackathons along the way, lost most, won some, but at the end of the day, it's the experience for me. Definitely, my most interesting year.
I'd love your guys's questions on this post. If anyone else wants to post their experience in the comments, they are free to! Also any suggestions to the post are appreciated. This is my first time writing such a long post here on Reddit.
EDIT: Getting a lot of queries, might take me some time to reply but you can DM me. I want to answer all the queries here so rest assured, I'll reply to you, sooner or later.

Edit: I’m going to eat, find my meds and try my best to finish it. Thanks all for being gentle but real with me 😭 because all the comments telling me I have time to grind it out is code for “you’re gonna be fucked if you don’t.” Take care of yourself and your mental health everyone. Don’t be like me - I’ve had straight A’s throughout grad school and this is my last course for my degree. It’s been rough 😭😭
TLDR; This is mostly a vent, but gentle advice would be nice. (1) I would like to send my professor short, honest email to communicate this but I’m not sure how to word it. (2) is my 1.5x extended time exam accommodation applicable and is it still reasonable to to request one? What are your thoughts and experience with this? Thank you and congrats to all graduating this semester
I have no excuse for not having anything to submit. I’ve been completing all my worksheet assignments to prepare for writing the research proposal as a whole and received good feedback from the professor. My mind has been blanking this entire week trying to put it all together into writing with an annotated bibliography.
It’s due tonight at 10pm and my professor doesn’t accept late work. It’s whatever at this point. I was planning on emailing her saying I’m not sure how to explain myself but that I don’t have a research proposal to submit by the deadline tonight. I accept the consequences of failing … I don’t really have an excuse. I’m not really sure what else to say. And how to word to the professor that I’m not expecting anything from her.
I do have 1.5x extended time on final exams through the school’s disability office. While the research proposal is the final project for the course, I don’t think it’s justified to receive an extension because I’ve had more than a week to work on it. Even then, it just feels so last minute requesting one on the same day it’s due. My exams were typically open for a week for most of my prior classes. I always meet with my professors at the beginning of the semester to review my approved accommodations and they would tell me to let them know if I needed more time. They didn’t mind giving me 1-2 day extensions as long as I communicated with them ahead of time. This time it feels harder because it’s a writing course. My professor is nice and gave me an extension when my Masters exam was the same weekend as one of her graded assignments. But she also gives off the vibe that she’ll stick to her late work policy
I take medication for both adhd and anxiety and it usually helps somewhat with focusing. But this semester my brain completely shuts down each time I have to put my thoughts into writing and I just end up staring all day at a screen unable to organize anything. It took me 3 days just to pick my annotated bibliography sources and figure out how to organize them. This brain fog feels the same as I did a few years ago when I experienced serotonin syndrome from taking another anxiety med. I’ve been on a different SSRI ever since, so many it’s underlying depression and anxiety… I thought I was just burnt out, but life has been relatively lax this year and my motivation hasn’t improved since November.
Anyways, I’m not expecting the professor to give me an extension or incomplete. Not sure how to conclude this but please read the TDLR if you plan to respond to this.

I am in a love triangle. Two girls are in love with me.
It's like one of those Romance movies I watch, and problem is I was the main focus of the love triangle. This sounds like out of a movie.
For some context I(15m) and my bsf, let's just call her Ashley(15f) had been friends since childhood. There was never really going on between us- I mean people had been shipping us ever since we were kids and my mom still teases me to this day that we will end up together. I just brush those aside because to be honest I felt no romantic feelings towards Ashely( at the time) but it all changed during Valentine's Day at School.
Now Ashley is bisexual, she dates both boys and girls. When we were thirteen I was the first one of our friends to support her on coming out as bisexual when she was dating this girl. Unfortunately her girlfriend cheated on her with a guy and their relationship only lasted five months. After that she dated guys, I don't remember how many guys but if I can accurately estimate it was around two guys.
During lunch at Valentine's day at school, she gave me chocolates for being a good friend. I asked her" Don't you have a boyfriend?" When I asked that she brushed me off and said" Nah! We broke up."
I told her thanks and gave her the chocolate I had bought for my crush( she rejected me so I gave it to Ashley instead) and when she received it she gave me a look which I can only describe as romantic love. We both laughed it off and continued to the next period. The few days after that was normal, but next Monday my homeroom teacher introduced an exchange student from another school. This was weird, because it was in the middle of the school year. My homeroom tasked me with showing her around school and I did.
Let's call call her Alexa- Now Alexa transferred to my school because her dad had a new job so her family moved in my city and she and I have a lot in common. She was bold and started flirting with me as a joke, now I noticed that Ashley did not seem to like that. She did not really do anything, she was busy with her club and her upcoming competition at the time and along with her grades so she did not seem to bother with the fact that I was spending more time with Alexa.
Ashley ended up in second place(congratulations girl!), she searched for me at the crowd and I congratulated her. She seemed to be happy, but her mood changes when she sees me alongside Alexa who was " very" close to me. She shot a glare at Alexa before directing her focus to me. She invited me to come with her since her team alongside her coach is going to this Italian. I politely declined and told her I was going at Alexa's place to finish our science research.
Ashley nodded, I could tell she was hurt but she tried to play it off cool and went to celebrate with her team.
Alexa asked me if I was dating her, I said no and and told her that she was a childhood friend.
Ever since that Ashley avoided me and made up excuses on why we can't hang out like we used to. Being the direct person I am, I asked her why she's acting like that. She ignored me and went to her class(rude) and after school I chased her at the terminal. I asked her again, which resulted in her snarling at me and telling me that I now have Alexa. I was confused at the time and told Ashley that Alexa is just a friend and that she is dating another guy so there's no need to worry.
Then Ashley glared at me and said that Alexa broke up with her current boyfriend after three weeks. I was dumbfounded on how a relationship can end that fast.
This month Ashley confessed thru text that she likes me very much and had romantic feelings for me ever since childhood. My heart pumped like a thousand times reading her heartfelt confession, but then I remember that this was the type of girl whose relationships ends very fast.
As for Alexa she had been making a move on me after she broke up with her boyfriend. I only knew this girl for three months, and seeing how her relationships ends I am skeptical of even starting a relationship with her. I don't really know much about her, unlike Ashley whom I knew since we were like six.
But despite that I am starting to develop feelings for both girls. I am blind to a person's red flags, and I had never been in a relationship before. Right now I can't say who I like more because of how conflicted I felt. Any advice will do. For the time being I won't make any move since I'm more busy on my graduation and getting into 10th grade.
Alexa and Ashley too, they are busy. Though Ashley will sweep in every time she gets, whenever I have free time she will invite me to hang out where she will show signs like hugging me more tightly, being more possessive and being more serious.
I'm trying to distract myself with playing games, doing hobbies and going outside. Just give advice, people of reddit. I am an insecure, immature, inexperienced guy who has never been in a relationship.
Don't mind the grammar and spelling mistakes since English is not my first language. I left out huge details and I made this look like out of a slice of life anime, but this is driving me crazy. Both girls are driving me crazy. I know people in the comments will say" Go for Ashley" but I need your thoughts please.