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This is my dog, Joy. I'm hoping someone might help remove the leash, including the connecting carabiner clip (the harness is fine). Not necessary, but it might also be nice to remove that black crater on the lower left of the wall. I appreciate it and am happy to tip the best one. Couldn't embed for some reason but here's the pic:
https://imgur.com/a/qE93Gz3
Some backstory in case anyone's curious:
Jojo was rescued by the Humane Society International from a dog meat farm in South Korea in 2015. Having spent her first 10 months in a cage, she was practically feral when I adopted her and would buck and thrash if taken on a walk.
Joy blossomed into a wonderful companion; caring for her has been one of the most meaningful privileged of my life. It's a long tale, but we've had a bruising 3 months due to a series of health ramifications. After a lot of effort (and thousands of dollars), we've got her in a good place except for an antibiotic-resistant bacteria on her neck (think doggie MRSA). Without many options left, we gave her one of the few antibiotics that could combat this specific bug. On her vet's advice, we extended a 10-day course to 20 days as a precaution - and it worked.
Sadly, signs of infection have returned. Her vet can't see us until Tuesday but we're feeling anxious and sad while we wait for the appointent. Based on prior discussions, we're aware that there may be no way to help Joy at this point.
With the looming uncertainty, I feel waves of anticipatory grief and it's sometimes hard to keep my eyes from watering. Joy is turning 10 next Thursday, the 23rd, and I worry that it may be her last birthday. Be that as it may, I'm trying to cherish every day I have with her. We took her for a stroll at a local college campus yesterday and it was such a memorable and transformative experience. Jojo was thrilled at every step. The campus has so many squirrels about that it was like we had taken her to doggie Disneyland; she frantically hopped about while we admired the sculptures and flowers. The fog of everyone's sorrow lifted; I haven't seen her so deliriously happy in years.
Anyway, we took this photo of her on the campus as a memento of the great time we spent. It may seem silly, but I'd like to remove the leash and send out the photo to all the humans who adore Joy on her 10th birthday with a message to mark the day. Thanks so much for your kind assistance.

My bf bday is today, for 2 weeks I’ve been asking him what is he doing and does he have plans? He keeps saying no. So I planned a day for him and I was really excited about it. I got him stuff that he talked about when we first started dating and in my mind I was excited to see him happy. Yesterday I called him to confirm the plans I made, I asked him what’s he gonna do. He said he’s gonna sleep in and that there’s a nba game he’s gonna watch and I’m a little taking aback cause he said he wasn’t doing anything and I know these games can be long. So I told him that’s fine and we can just get dinner, he gave me ok with hesitation. 10 minutes later I text him if he doesn’t want to do anything that’s fine, assuming he would text if he didn’t want to do anything. BUT HE DIDNT. So now 5 hours before our reservation he texts me if we can just do it tomorrow. And I’m upset so without thinking I called him to just come get gifts, I just felt like he dismissed everything i was trying to do for him. And he cancels the day off after I asked him for 2 weeks what he wanted to do. Now he’s very upset to where he’s not happy because I was mean and I always want things my way and he can’t even get what he wants on his birthday. Now I’m upset he’s upset on his birthday when it wasn’t my intention. I just wanted him to have a good time. If he said he just wanted to chill and not do anything I would have been fine with that and took him out another day. but he didn’t communicate that to me. AITAH?

Hey! As the title says my best friend Is kinda busy today so I can't really talk to them and I don't really have anyone else to chat with so I'm moving onto here again :3
I don't really know what to put I mean you can ask me questions on stuff I like I'm happy to answer also fun fact it was my birthday Monday so if you wanna send me any birthday gifts I accept thanks in advance
LASTLY don't be a creep and say your age before chatting
Also from the UK

So for background, my partner had to go back to his home country for citizenship reasons & we decided I'd go too. We've been married a year now. He went two months before me, to set everything up. I'd just finished school for the year and didn't want to waste a semester's fees on two months, so I was looking for a job during that time. Couldn't find one due to the time constraints, so was doing odd jobs and taking short courses. Basically, I had almost no money and didn't want to touch my savings until I'd moved. I'd been saving for the move for a year already and had never lived alone before, so wanted to be safe.
My partner found out about a concert for a band we both liked happening where he was, scheduled for after I'd moved. Problem was: concert tickets are expensive and I was already living off instant ramen. Couldn't afford a ticket without being incredibly irresponsible about it.
However, because it was close to my partner's birthday, his mother bought him a ticket as a present. By the time I'd moved to the new country and sorted out my expenses, the tickets were all sold out. I could've been able to afford one if they were still selling by then, but no chance.
I've also befriended my partner's group of childhood friends who are also all going to this concert, and it was a bit awkward when they found out I couldn't go. I did talk to my partner about how I was disappointed, but I didn't say too much because I didn't want him to feel bad. Literally everyone I know in this country is going to this thing, while I stay home because I had no money a few months ago.
Selfishly, I wish he'd sell his ticket and not go. I know that the concert was free for him & we don't lose anything by him going, but I feel irrationally betrayed by it. I put my studies on hold and moved because he had to, and while I'm okay with doing that, I'm frustrated that I feel like I'm stuck missing out on things because he has a support network here and I don't.
Right now, I feel like I don't want him to even acknowledge the concert around me. I keep thinking that he should have tried to pay for me to get a ticket, go halves on the cost or something. He didn't want to do that when I originally brought it up, which felt fair-ish because he was also broke then. It was just bad timing and he got lucky.
There'll be other stuff we can do together in the future, but there's also going to be opportunities he gets that I miss out on. I don't want to feel like a jealous jerk whenever that happens. But, I don't know how to approach the topic without my partner getting defensive and I'm worried this is going to build resentment in future if I don't talk to him about it.
TL;DR, my partner got an opportunity I wanted and I'm upset about it because it feels unfair, but don't want to hurt his feelings or ruin his own happiness over it. How do I navigate dealing with my partner having better opportunities than me without getting bitter?

my sister (19F) and I (17F) have NEVER gotten along for long. we've argued our whole lives and we are the complete opposite of each other. if it helps, shes an INFJ and im an INFP.
so we'd argued all day, literally since I woke up we've been arguing. so things were already tense.
we had to go to my grandparents for a birthday thing for lunch and I don't eat at the table (I never do, this isn't new and no one cares). but ofc my sister takes it upon herself to tell me it's disrespectful. maybe if I was at some formal dinner but these r my grandparents, I stay at their place for weeks at a time (mostly to get away from my sister). I tell her that no one cares and I just wanna watch TV while I eat.
so I put a movie on (I also asked her earlier if she wanted to watch any in there from my collection of blu rays but she said I only have boy movies, bc thats another thing, she criticises my favourite things but whatever). as I'm setting up the movie she comes in and says shes gonna eat in here. I told her I like to eat alone (especially since she's been pissing me off all day) and she's stubborn as hell so I decided to leave and just eat somewhere else.
which is ridiculous, she doesnt even want to watch a movie she just hates our grandpa and our dad so she doesnt want to sit with them (I have great relationships with them too, she hates the ENTIRE family except mum and nana).
but when I left, she gets pissy bc she handles emotions as well as a 6 year old so she narcs to mum (which she does ALL THE TIME). so I don't wanna start anything so I come back and just deal with it but then she just says despicable me. I'm like what? she says I wanna watch despicable me. yeah no matter I'd just spent 5 minutes skipping the ads on this movie and my food is getting cold) but WHATEVER. I go to get it and im changing going thru the motions again, all the ads.
also the movie I'd put on before was hotel Transylvania but she didn't wanna watch it bc its "sad". she calls every family movie sad. I csnt even say the word WALL-E or god forbid fhe lion king. I'm an insanely emotional person, but the difference between us is I like to express sadness and I cry a lot when she expresses all her emotions in anger. she says im depressed all the time and makes fun and asks if I "forgot my anti-depressants". I don't even take them, and if I did she'd mock me and say that that im a bad person for taking mental heath drugs.
so movies on, I can finally eat and for a while we actuslly get along and since it's a background movie rly she's not forcing me to rewind every 3 minutes. that's y I stopped watching movies with her, she made me rewind and it's take a afternoon to watch ONE movie. she also didn't want to watch anything with me when our parents were home as if she's embarrassed to watch stuff with me. which feels GREAT. I think it's bc she doesn't want dad to see her watch a "kids" movie like beethoven.
so we laughing, it's okay. well except the part when she says i need to eat like a "lady" and that i need to be "ladylike". do u know how much that makes me want to burp in her face?im considered relatively "unladylike" i guess. i swear a lot and i make a lot of dirty jokes. its part of my charm lol. she hates it tho. and my sarcasm, REALLY hates it.
i finish eating snd after a while I get a little bored so I start playing temple run 2 on my phone. she HATES me reading, or looking st my phone if she's with me, she gets rly angry but I'd figured since its just a background movie it's fine. she says to me, very blunt, get off her ur phone. and I have this thing where I hate being told what to do, if it's unreasonable or how they say it. so I don't get off my phone. she then opens her phone and starts watching yt shorts very loudly. I think she expects this to annoy me but news flash, I don't give a shit what she does bc I don't obsess over what other ppl do like she does.
still tho, I don't wanna listen to her preachy, anti-feminism, homophobic bullshit on full blast. thats another thing, I'm a huge supporter of the feminist movement and equality and lgbt rights when shes dead against it. she thinks mothers csnt have careers and being lgbt is wrong. she uses her religion as an excuse for it too. I'm a nihilist as well so every time I say jesus or oh my god she freaks out at me. idc what her religion is, I don't tell her what to do but she tells me I'm being disrespectful. oh I csn get real disrespectful real fast but I don't bc thats her opinion and this is mine.
some thing thats ironic is that im super for lgbt and women rights even more bc of her. I hate seeing how hateful she is towards these groups and minorities so it's made me support them even more. also fhe fact that she's called me a lesbian and intersex and a boy snd countless other things bc of my interests. I'm straight and an lgbt ally who loves marvel and star wars and video games and shee sees those as reasons to call me a lesbian? she also says I dress like one but she dresses like strawberry fucking shortcake if she had no style whatsoever. I wear movie referenced t shirts and hoodies and I like to think I have some sense of style but she says I dress like a boy bc of ONE Simpson skeleton on my shirt. she also says fhe complete opposite if I wear my hair in pigtails, that I dress like a little girl. which is it, sister dearest? am I a boy or a little girl?
anyway, as I was saying she starts watching stuff at full blast, I don't say anything I just put my headphones on. then she starts getting mad. oh she HATES my headphones, she thinks its the most disrespectful thing. I have a lot of anxiety when I leave the house so I have my headphones on all the time, music calms me and I listen to music every day and it's just something i do but she hates it. I dont see y it's different for me to wear my headphones if I'm not gonna talk to anyone anyway. she feels the same when I read around her. I love books, I read a lot and its yet AHOTHER thing she hates about me.
so she starts getting angrier and telling me to take my headphones off but by this point I'm done with the movie anyway and I wanna be alone so I get up to leave. I say I'm not dealing with this shit. she then puts her feet up on the pouffe (which I let her use bc theres only one and she was complaining) to block me. I tell her to move and she says to stay and watch the movie with her. now it's her words that I understand what she rly means. she wants me to sit and watch the movie with her for some reason. but no, I'm not dealing with her bullshit. she keeps blocking me and then she gets up and im just trying to get past without hurting her but shes not ceasing.
bc forcing someone to sit with u and bossing them around is the best way to bond with ur little sister ofc.
eventually I start shouting at her bc ik she'll start to panic if our grandpa will hear. (She's so fake in front of him too, all smiley and happy when inside she hates him. shes like that with every human in the planet besides me mum, dad and nana. she just openly hates me and dad. it's interesting to me how she hates everyone and makes fun of ppl online but yet she still worries about hurting their feelings more than anyone ik. she can be empathetic in that sense at least. it's hard for someone who sees the world in black and white tho, as she does. I just see fifty Shades of grey (hah).
but my shouting isn't working so I'm done and I shove her out the way and ofc that rly ticks her off. I don't understand what she expects me to do, but she gets rly angry when it happens. she shouts for mum ofc. I grab all my stuff so she csnt do anything to it (she breaks my lego regularly and changes the bookmarked pages in my books a lot and searches thru my phone and texts if I leave anything around her). im just heading to the backyard so I'm away from her, I thought about leaving the house entirely but we were gonna leave soon anyway (or i was told).
I walk past mum on my way out and she asks what's wrong snd I'm just too pissed off to rly explain anything so I just say my sister js crazy or something like that. I sit outside listening to music and avoid my sister rhe rest of the afternoon. I knew she'd be talking to my mum about what I did and spinning it so I was the hateful sister who doesnt want to watch a movie with her which yeah is technically true but how is it fair that she treats me like that still? am I supposed to just let her walk all over me?
my mum thinks that. she tells me to give in and just agree to anything and just do whatever my sister says. my mum is my sisters slave too. she'll do anything to keep the peace and just agrees to whatever my sister wants. the countless times she gets whatever take away she wants and im left with the leftovers in the fridge bc im the "easy child". Or at least I used to be, fron my mums perspective. just bc im chill and not insanely entitled and demanding like my sister.
so later in the night when we all at home I go to the kitchen and my mums in tjere and my dads rhere too, just eating. little did the man know what he'd be in the middle of in a few minutes.
my mum hasn't spoken to me about what went down at my grandparents, hasn't gotten my perspective but whatever. she asks me what was so wrong with watching a movie with my sister. I didn't even stop watching the movie bc of my sister, I just had it on while I ate my dinner and I told her as much. they always do this, say "with ur sister" when it's just something we just happened to both be doing. they make it sound like I'm deliberately being a dick to her bc im hateful. then my mum starts going off and saying shit like "u watch movies with ur friends and ur father, y csnt u watch them with her?" I didn't wanna say that I csnt watch movies with her bc it gets on my nerves bc my sister csn hear everyrthing in the house, we all constantly aware of that as if she's always listening, its creepy as hell but she's too nosy.
I say that I was done with the movie and she started bossing me around so I left. That's the truth bur my mum was like NO DONT GIVE ME THAT SHIT, U DONT WANT TO WATCH MOVIES WITH HER BUT U DO WITH UR FRIENDS AND UR FATHER. U NEVER DO ANYTHING WITH HER, HOW DO U THINK THAT MAKES HER FEEL? UR NOT UNDERSTANDING HER SIDE
ya know what's even dumber, they use my OWN FUCKING ARGUMENTS against me. I always say to consider the others persons side and to understand everyone's perspective. and she has fhe GALL to say I don't get her side? OFC I DO BUT SHES TOO FUCKING UNBEARABLE
and I never do anything with her or watch movies with her bc she hates mt favourite movies and shows and vice versa. my favourite movies deadpool and j spend mt days watching marvel, star wars, Disney, musicals, sci fi, action, romance, dramas when she watches REALITY TV AND HORRORS.
PROBABLY THE ONLY 2 GENRES I DONT WATCH. I watch SO MANY DIFFERENT THINGS and she happens to watch the ones I HATE. how r we supposed to watch stuff together with all that, and her bloody rewinding and her criticisms? ITS IMPOSSIBLE.
we agree on very few movies and when we do she wants to watch them so much that she thrashes them. now I'm a person who's seen deadpool a million times and I rewatch everything, I've seen the office thousands of times but she still somehow manages to ruin things for me. she nearly ruined fawlty towers.
now on one hand, my sister has no friends and every one she's ever had has always betrayed or bullied her. thats true, mostly. ppl have been horrible to her forever, I understand she is damaged but she takes it out on me. and how can she ever make friends again if they ever make mistakes she never forgives them? I have a friend who ratted me out to the teacher on the first week I met her for swearing bur she's one if mt closest friends going on 5 years now. every friend I have has fucked up before obviously we human we mess up and learn. my sister won't accept any mistake outside of me or mum. my dad has suffered from that as has my aunt and my cousins. they messed up one too many times and instead of communicating with them, she ignored it so it continued and now she'll never forgive them. obviously that doesn't excuse their behavior but she has to forgive or else she'll be alone. this is the only reason y I still give her chances, bc I used to think maybe she'll learn and get better. but she still treats me worse than anyone I've ever known. but I dont want to give up on her like she's done.
when I move out (as fast as fucking possible) I'll still see her but just a lot less. She and I rly don't work well and she hates everyrthing and everyone important to me.
Still tho, perhaps I am the asshole here. Idk rly. I don't treat her perfectly either, I try tho. And I apologise and I mean it. When she apologises she just means she's sorry she's hurt me, not for what she djd. Bc she does it again and again and again.

I just wanted to kinda vent about my relationship.
(English isn't my first language so bear with me please)
So I've known her for more than an year and I've seen her around my neighbourhood for multiple years, and ever since I saw her, she's been that one girl in the back of my mind who I find really attractive but never thought much of it because I assumed she was out of my league.
So about 11 months ago, we had a casual conversation (no context) and endes up exchanging numbers. We texted back and fourth for a while and after a few days, and she, in her own words, "built up the courage and told me that she likes me." When I read that, i really couldn't believe it. But I also kinda knew it because you can kinda tell when someone likes you based on the way they act around you. So after she said that, I also admitted that I liked her. (If this all sounds kinda cringe and childish, bear with me because this is both of us' first relationship and none of us knew how we're supposed to do this)
So we texted almost every day and often met in person as well when we saw each other. So after a month, on her birthday, she asked to meet up and I (obviously) said yes. There she asked me out on a date and I agreed.
After that, we basically... well... dated and I can't express enough how happy I am with her. She's the kinest, sweetest, most caring and the most beautiful girl I've ever met. She's always been there for me and I can confidently say that I won.

Hi. I'm 22 and recently moved out of my parents house 2 weeks ago cause of a new job opportunity. I had to move more than 2000km away from my family for this job. I accept, the job pays well, and its a huge plus in my resume and for my future. The relationship I have with my parents and brother is something extremely special. I would do ANYTHING for them. Since moving out most days have been fine. I wake up, shower, breakfast, work, cook myself dinner and talk with them. My parents gave up everything in their life so my brother and I could love the life we lived. I genuinely love my parents so much. Yesterday (May 19th) was my brother's 18th birthday. I didn't feel much that time. But I am heart broken now. I miss my family so much. I cannot move back due to the clause signed in this company that I would work for atleast 2 years before leaving. I know, some people would be like "Dude grow so balls and push through". I know. But I am extremely lost. I knew one day I had to leave my parents for my own future. But I feel like I never did anything for them. I wanna pay off their enormous debt, I wanna see them happy not worrying about money or life ever. On one end, I wanna push through and stay for my future benefits and my parents'. On the other hand, I just wanna throw everything away and go hug my parents. Im getting scary thoughts of me not being there if something happens to them. Im getting sad that I can't be with them during their birthdays.
I just want to hug them once more.
Why is it so hard to leave the 3 people you would kill for? I still talk with them, but the sudden realization of "From now on, Ill only see them twice or thrice a year" is killing me every second. I sound like a kid left in the kindergarden. I just want them to be happy. How do I manage? How do I cope with moving out? Will it ever get easier? I wanna go back. But I know I will never return if I go back. I just need to know they will be alright.

Hi. I'm 22 and recently moved out of my parents house 2 weeks ago cause of a new job opportunity. I had to move more than 2000km away from my family for this job. I accept, the job pays well, and its a huge plus in my resume and for my future. The relationship I have with my parents and brother is something extremely special. I would do ANYTHING for them. Since moving out most days have been fine. I wake up, shower, breakfast, work, cook myself dinner and talk with them. My parents gave up everything in their life so my brother and I could love the life we lived. I genuinely love my parents so much. Yesterday (May 19th) was my brother's 18th birthday. I didn't feel much that time. But I am heart broken now. I miss my family so much. I cannot move back due to the clause signed in this company that I would work for atleast 2 years before leaving. I know, some people would be like "Dude grow so balls and push through". I know. But I am extremely lost. I knew one day I had to leave my parents for my own future. But I feel like I never did anything for them. I wanna pay off their enormous debt, I wanna see them happy not worrying about money or life ever. On one end, I wanna push through and stay for my future benefits and my parents'. On the other hand, I just wanna throw everything away and go hug my parents. Im getting scary thoughts of me not being there if something happens to them. Im getting sad that I can't be with them during their birthdays.
I just want to hug them once more.
Why is it so hard to leave the 3 people you would kill for? I still talk with them, but the sudden realization of "From now on, Ill only see them twice or thrice a year" is killing me every second. I sound like a kid left in the kindergarden. I just want them to be happy. How do I manage? How do I cope with moving out? Will it ever get easier? I wanna go back. But I know I will never return if I go back. I just need to know they will be alright.

This has been a major shock to our entire family, understandably. Her initial diagnosis was about a year ago, and went into remission just under 6 months ago. It's been about a month since we found out it's back.
I am not close with my mother but was hoping to fix our relationship with time, but we seem to be running out of it. She is still going through chemo, a total of 6 rounds but the responsiveness to the drugs will be assessed after 3, doc said they only work in about 10-20% of patients. They said it's a very poor prognosis. As an RN I understand the severity of the situation, but am also filled with questions... I want to help her (and myself) but I don't know how.
1) How long can I expect her to be here for? I want to be present for her, but find it difficult to put everything else on hold as we face the unknown. Does anyone have experience from a similar diagnosis?
2) She is not eating at all, but still is at home. She can't even eat nuts, berries, yoghurts what she was able to up until last week. She can't down the nutritional drinks we got from the pharmacy either. Any advice on what to try make for her or how to get her to eat anything at all?
3) How do we keep her happy? She is too weak to go anywhere from the house. What can we bring to her to brighten up her day? It's also her birthday in the next month, how can we celebrate it with her without making her feel worse?
4) This is a tough one... I want to make sure her end of life care, wishes for our future and any things still she wants to do dont go unheard. My dad isn't very present at the moment, so I want to step up and be "her right hand" and document her wishes well so we don't end up in a situation where we don't know what she would have wanted (funeral etc). Will she bring this up on her own closer to "her time"?

I was so happy to see that the boys decided to come to Norway, and on my birthday no less!
But the sad fact is that I can’t afford to attend. The tickets for one day at the festival is way too to high for me and my SO. And even if they weren’t I wouldn’t really have the opportunity to attend.. I was blessed with a second child last week and will therefore be busy for the foreseeable future 😅
But if anyone here is attending their performance at the 27th of June I’d love to see clips and videos from the event!

So, very messy and very long situation incoming. I am new to this, never posted before, but I’m going to try and be as all encompassing as possible. I feel there is a lot of context needed to make sure that no one is being misrepresented as I truly want to know if we’re in the wrong.
Essentially, back in April of this year (which feels much further away than it actually is), my wife (26F) and I (29F) got married. I’m American and she’s from another country, we’ve been together for a bit over 3 years and engaged since September 2023. Since we have no way to legally live together at this time, we decided she would come visit me for a few months so we could get a feel for it as much as possible before getting married and officially moving in together.
This was also something we agreed to do to put her parents’ minds at ease. For some more context, when we first started dating, she was not living at home/in her home country. Therefore, this meant when I would visit her, there weren’t any opportunities to meet up with her family (parents and brothers). We attempted offering to do video calls with them or even fly them over for her birthday when we knew I’d be visiting, but they always declined saying they felt calls would be awkward or that they couldn’t take off work to visit (understandable, but we did try to give several months warning and I know they’ve visited my partner there before).
Finally, last year, when my partner was in the process of moving back home, I was able to book a couple weeks off of work and go visit hemeet her family. I was extremely nervous as I’d never met the parents before and I know my own family means a lot to me and I knew then I wanted to marry my then girlfriend, so to me it was basically meeting my in-laws.
Throughout the trip we didn’t talk all that much and they didn’t ask me too many questions, but they seemed perfectly nice and I thought things were going well. Towards the end of the trip, my wife proposed to me and I said yes. This was something we’d been talking about for a while and I was super excited to move forward.
The next day, when she told her folks, they did NOT take it well, even going so far as to say she was confused (about her sexuality). I was not privy to this conversation, so I don’t want to misquote by adding anything else. More context: they knew my wife had purchased a ring and intended to propose. Needless to say, the next few days were ROUGH, but her parents were still pleasant to my face. Her and I ended up going to a different city for the last few days of my trip (which was previously planned) but we were both extremely upset and her guilt-ridden for upsetting her folks.
After that trip, things started to relax a little, bit by bit and we were eventually back to normal. We did all we could (mostly my wife did the leg work as I didn’t want to cross any boundaries) to make her parents feel more comfortable about the plan moving forward, at the time we were considering a fiancée visa since we were, y’know, fiancees lol. She walked them through the timeline and they still weren’t super comfy with it since I’d only met them once (understandable, I think) and we’d not yet lived together. So, we told them we’d have my partner come stay with me for a few months since she wasn’t working and I have an apartment, job, and cats I can’t leave. From what I understand, they liked that idea.
Flash forward to the past few months. She came to stay with me and at the beginning of her 3rd month here we had a consultation with an immigration attorney. In the consultation, the attorney said we’d be better off getting married since nothing was holding us back (like kids, prev. marriages, etc.) as the process is less invasive and we’re working towards marriage anyway. At this point, there were only about 3 or so weeks left in the trip and we had to make a decision as to whether we wanted to wait even longer to start the journey, or get married and start moving forward (this process will take over a year as is).
Ultimately, we decided that we didn’t want to have to keep waiting. We love each other, want to be married, and want to start our lives together. So we did it, we got married! It was a very small ceremony in my brother’s apartment since my step-sister is ordained and we were able to forgo trying to get a date at the courthouse on short notice – meaning we had wifi we could patch people in on Zoom from my wife’s side as well.
Now, here is the issue. Throughout this few week process leading up to the wedding from meeting with the attorney, my partner’s family (parents and brothers) all made it clear they did not approve of the marriage and thought she was “making a mistake”. They also said they wanted to be excited for my partner but just couldn’t be, and asked us to postpone the wedding until later in the year so that they could adjust/come to terms with it/be excited for her. They also made comments about getting married without her family there, which we did feel bad about. We attempted to offer and fly them over (they couldn’t due to work schedules) but we did provide them with the link to the live call. We also made it clear that while we are getting married, we still want to have a larger “wedding” later so that we can celebrate with all our family and friends together (which we intend to have in my partner’s home country). At the wedding, all of her friends signed onto the Zoom and only one of her brothers showed up, not her parents or other brother.
There were several moments leading up to the wedding where we nearly didn’t go through with it because she was so torn up at the fact her family was so upset she was getting married. Trying to help take something off her plate with making a decision, I called it and said maybe we shouldn’t right now. We’ve made it long distance for so long and I would do absolutely anything for her, including wait another 2-3 years before we can realistically be married and live life together. I just didn’t want her to hurt. But ultimately, saying we wouldn’t only made things harder and we kept coming back to it being what we want to do.
Aside from her family, everyone else was super supportive (my family & friends, all of her life long friends). We are happy to be moving forward, no question. Neither of us regret doing it and I’m so happy to finally be married to the love of my life, even as she needs to be on the other side of the world. But as she’s had to return home in the meantime while visas are in process, things have been rough. Her folks haven’t brought up the marriage and when talking to her one brother tonight, he told her everyone has been super upset and not coping well. He explained that her mom was hurt about not being included in the wedding and severely depressed. He also explained her other brother has just been angry. This eventually led to a long conversation with her family. Apparently her parents wanted to join and had intended to but didn't know the exact time or that when the link was sent it was go time. The ceremony literally lasted for two minutes and she said goodbye to everyone on the stream pretty quick because the time difference meant it was late for them. Her brother made it clear that he thought she should have done more like call them or wait until they joined. She was really hurt and the stress was taking a toll in the lead up to the day. She thought they had the information and hadn't wanted to be there. Things remain tense, this literally just happened, but they have said they love her unconditionally and want to move forward but just don't know how.
My wife feels like we could have done more to prevent these feelings being hurt and is dealing with so much guilt. I feel like we did what was right for us and we continuously reassured them that I would still be visiting while we wait for visas to process and that it means a lot to me that we have a good relationship and that they get to know me and my family. I even reached out to her mother via text apologizing about how things were happening, but assuring them that I still want to know them. They didn’t respond. I don’t know, I feel like we just did what was right for us as a couple. Long distance is hard, we want to be together, we love each other and want to be married, and we’re still going to have another larger wedding in the future. But at the same time, I don’t want people to feel excluded or deeply depressed due to our marriage, especially my wife’s family.
Are we the assholes for going through with the marriage right now instead of postponing like they asked?

note: this only includes albums with UNIQUE SONGS. the pingry ep / welcome to tally hall ep both only include songs also found on other albums.
tally hall (released)

• marvin's marvelous mechanical museum
• good & evil
• complete demos
• admittedly incomplete demos
• just a friend
• light & night
• the ballad of nathan naimark
• smile like you mean it
• club can't handle me

tally hall (collaboration)

• brooklyn can wait (robbie cook band)

tally hall (unreleased)

• oliver's birthday song
• praise you
• pure imagination
• because
• happy together
• all together now
• at least a day
• einstein
• kazoo song
• the start of our city
• maple leaf rag
• every day
• cecilia
• free bird
• the tuning song
• maybe in the night
• blinded by the light
• good & evil fanfare
• la bamba
• why don't we do it in the road
• andrew has no power (it's so sad)
• super mario bros theme
• down by the bay
• misfortune
• gonna fly high now
• sir mix-a-lot
• who loves the sun
• stan
• to be with you
• happy together
• stand by me
• i'm superman
• kill ross
• potato vs spoon
• to tell you who i am

tally hall (no recording)

• stranger
• just what i needed

ミラクルミュージカル

• hawaii: part ii
• hawaii: part ii: part ii
• hawaii partii
• variations on a cloud
• candle on the water

joe hawley (released)

• joe hawley joe hawley
• yelwah eoj yelwah eoj
• weird bed &or yes please
• yes please &or weird bed
• sleigh ride invincibility star
• everything means nothing to me
• since i don't have you
• pu (woo-hoo)
• dot's uke
• special

joe hawley (unreleased)

• super guitario
• l'frou jibet
• space oddity
• lady madonna
• the gobble chicken song

rob cantor (released)

• not a trampoline
• mr. president, there's an asteroid headed directly for the earth!!: the musical
• shia labeouf
• christian bale is at your party
• nobody else quite like you
• why bother?
• i stand by your side
• going purple

rob cantor (collaboration)

• the animator (bleu)

rob cantor (unreleased)

• cuckoo
• country good
• winter song
• summer song
• monopoly and clue
• what's your function?
• toys 'r' us
• xfinity
• chevorlet

rob cantor (disney)

• playhouse disney
• welcome to the chibiverse
• goldie & bear
• tiny ones transport service
• the ghost and molly mcgee
• pupstruction

edu (released)

• sketches / sketches 3d
• etudes
• etudes ii
• three tales from a messy kitchen
• the other way soundtrack

edu (unreleased as of may 19, 2024)

• the whole world's in my hands
• good morning, mr. butterfly
• monsters
• fishes
• someone will be there

edu (collaboration)

• the classical album (baker bros)
• toy orchestra (toy orchestra)

happy monster band

• direct from monsterland
• world tour

listedblack (released)

• songs about girls

listedblack (unreleased)

• black and white
• like a prayer
• the sign

cojum dip

• videojuegos volume 1
• videojuegos volume 2
• cojum dip (album)
• the greatest demo cd in the universe!
• where's its $#&_&\@ head?*
• teenage mutant ninja turtles level 1
• pokemon trainer battle
• piano concerto no. 5 mvt. 1
• 346317385

the carrels

• the carrels

mr. f

• mixtape 1
• mixtape 2
• mixtape 3
• bizzare dream rollout
• the way i am
• i dream an ocean
• horizons (remix)

casey shea

• take the bite
• love is here to stay
• in your head
• abcs
• a very merry christmas
• my holiday song
• chop suey!
• miles
• i don't wanna wait
• sara please
• the flood

(Im sorry if my english is bad) For starters me (19M) and my best friend (18M) have known eachother since birth. We are both in a friend group that resulted from all of our parents being friends with eachother. The group consists of us two, another guy (19M) and two girls (18F) and (19F). We all grew up very close in Russia, however I am ukrainian. We went to school together, went on vacations together and generally were all doing everything together. Not long ago, when picking out collages, my best friend was telling me about how he wishes he could stay in Russia and how he cant because of some reasons I will not share here, and so naturally I offered that I could go to college with him in another country. Fast forward a few months later we both got into a pretty good collage in Finland. Now about our backround basically my best friend is very close with one of the girls in the group but they both stated that they do not like eachother and if you ask me, they didnt seem to have any kind of spark between eachother. However he was also very close to the other guy in the group. By close I mean that they literally acted like a couple. Whenever we would have school summer camps they would share a bed and sometimes I would even catch them cuddle, they would hug a lot etc. and generally make a lot of jokes about being gay for eachoter and liking eachother. You should know that my best friend is extremely handsome, I mean like model handsome. He is tall, not too muscular and not too skinny, pale skin, green eyes, soft blonde hair and very beautiful features. He looks so beautiful from every single angle, he looks beautiful while he sleeps, when he laughs, when he cries and is probably the most beautiful person I have ever met in my entire life. Despite that, he has never been in a relationship. A lot of girls have liked him in the past but he rejected them and he is pretty popular on social media and gets praised for his looks online as well. Aside from his looks he is also very smart. He is passionated about history and linguistics, he is good at maths and in general he is a very cultured person. He is very kind, funny, loving and has this sensitive side that he doesnt show too often. He just lights up the room everytime even though he is not that kind of positive and happy person you would imagine. He has gone through a lot in his childhood, things that I will not mention. On his 18th birthday, some things happened and I was lucky enough to be in time to stop them, which resulted into him bursting in tears in my arms and telling me how he feels about his life. A lot of time has passed since that event. Now we share an apartament here in Finland and go to college together. He seems happier, or maybe since he doesn’t spend that much time alone anymore he is just distracting himself from all the things he was going through. It is currently risky for me to go back in my home country and so I usually just go to Russia together with him on holidays. I am really enjoying all the time spent with him and I have never felt happier for such a long period of time. Recently he started hanging out with another guy from the same college and not going to lie but I feel kind of jealous. Since then I started to question my feelings for him. I never pictured myself or him actually being gay, let alone together in a relationship. I feel scared and nervous. My mother and her boyfriend will definitely hate me more than they already do and my father will probably think Im a disappointment. I feel as if I am betraying my religion and my identity but at the same time I feel so happy with this man. And here comes the biggest problem of all, what if after all he isnt gay and I will ruin our friendship. Yesterday night he went over to the new guys house.The guy likes him, he told me, asking for advice and more things about my best friend. I was kind of mad that I didnt get invited too, especially when he knows how close we are. Before going, I acted kind of rude towards him, which I regret, but he brushed it off and just left. Later at night when he came home, I was already in bed, pretending to sleep. I heard him change and get straight into his bed. A few moments later he started crying. He was crying very badly and I could tell he was trying to keep quiet. I dont know if anything happened there or if he was crying about my response or about his past because I simply didnt get up or have any kind of reaction, which again, I regret. I tried talking to him today in the morning, I didnt tell him I heard how he cried, I just acted normal, and although he wasnt his usual self, he didnt act sad or anything. I dont know wether I should or should not ask him about last night. And most importantly I dont know if I should tell him about my feelings for him and explain the situation.

Throwaway account since I don't use reddit, but I have come here for help. I'm scared I either have a stalker or there is a new birthday text message scam I'm not aware of. I received a text at 7:00am on my birthday from a mysterious number. The text read "Happy birthday! Can I send you money for a t*tty pic?" At first I thought it was one of my friends pranking me, but the person refused to give up their identity over the course of that day. I asked who it was and they responded "Your secret admirer." I persisted that they tell me who they are and they said "Really, a secret admirer. I'm embarrassed." I asked them one last time and they responded "If you're down then yeah??" Obviously I ended the conversation and did not send any inappropriate images to this creepy person.
It has been a few days since I received the text and the person hasn't tried to reach out again. This person had an area code close to where I live and green text messages - so I assume it is coming from an android or some kind of texting app. I tried reverse searching the number, and received no results for an owner or it being connected to a scam caller. My friends wouldn't do something like this to me nor do I think they would text me so early in the morning on my birthday to harass me like this.
Does this sound like a familiar scam to anyone? A possible blackmail scam? I'm really hoping this is the case vs. having a real life stalker out there.