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2013.03.01 03:51 JBurto What is this, a subreddit for ants?!?

What is this, a _________ for Ants?? Reddit's Preeminent Subreddit for All Things Tiny and Miniature! (Not about literal ants)
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2009.06.29 14:28 Cilpot It's not TV, it's HBO

A subreddit to discuss all things HBO. Discover full episodes of original series, movies, schedule information, exclusive video content, episode guides and more. See also: /hbomax
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2024.05.14 21:38 Apeacefulmc79 Should I increase

Been on 2.5 for almost two years. Have gone through a lot this past year (marital separation, death of a loved one). But somehow I am fine right now. The main things bothering me is my agoraphobia.
I can drive around most of my city and to my family one hour away most of the time. But I am still not able to travel like I want. My son has a place 3 hours away and I have not been to visit him. I would love to be able to drive with confidence.
Should I increase the lexapro or just try therapy? I start panicking being in an unfamiliar place with nobody to help if I need it. Especially if I’m in an area that I don’t have any family or friends to “rescue me”.
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2024.05.14 21:38 Human-997 Couldn't keep few things in my chest about the in-laws. Rant Part 5 (last one)

He wanted my parents to take me quietly without his parents knowing. But my parents talked to his parents and told them that my daughter called in the middle of night about how their marriage is in trouble and how we have been fighting for so long. His parents as expected shouted and started listed about how i was the only one wrong and obviously my parents. There was a lot of argument and my husband only wanted to get me out of his house. My father now was done with his behaviour and finally snapped at him and took me back to my house. My husband didn't try to contact me for few days but called my father to talk about things. My father didn't even have any idea about what was happening with us. Putting my ego down, i contacted him and asked to talk in private. my husband clearly said to me that he will never be able to accept that his folks are wrong and there is no benefit in talking about what they have done in the past and in his pov only me and my mom is wrong. He suggested that we live separately from his parent for our mental sanity. I asked him if his parents would be able to just behave properly with me, i would have no issues in staying with them. He said that the better option is to move away from his home and mine obviously and live our own life for a while so that everyone and everything calms down. I said i still wanted to communicate my pov to everyone because i have never said anything to his mother at all. No one knows my side. All 6 of us decided to talk and his mother like a mentally insane person started shouting and accussing me and my mother. We stated our side of story but the three of them(MIL, husband, FIL) didn't want to listen to anything we three had to say and just shouted at all of us. Her own son started to calm the monster down but she wouldn't listen to her husband or son. She just wanted to have the last loud word. My husband and I talked separately and decide to give this living alone a try. My husband has not talked to my parents from then even after they try to talk to him when he comes to pick me. I lived in my own house for 1-1.5 months. When we went to live alone, i begged my husband to talk to my parents once as i and them both were uncomfortable on me going wiht him alone based on his behaviour in the past. Since moving out, we still hava had various episodes of us fighting over the old things. I am still not in a very jolly or sane place right now. I still am traumatised by all of this. I still don't trust my husband will ever be with me like he was before. I have started to accept that this is the only kind of life i would get to live and i won't be able to do anything about it. I just don't know how long i would be able to hold my composure. To anyone which whom this story resonates with, you are not alone. Feel free to talk to me about it. Maybe we would be able to find comfort in knowing there are others like us.
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2024.05.14 21:38 axj1910 Am I right to be upset?

I have a story I would like some help with, I'm going to try to make this as short as I can but there's things I wanna say to help anyone reading understand the situation, so this could be a lengthy one.
Firstly, I'm aware this could seem like a stupid post but idk nor do I trust anyone around me to give me a second opinion bc ppl I would think to go to either don't care, don't know what anything I'm saying even means, or have the same "that's how the cowboys did it" stupid fucking response. So I'm making this post to hopefully hear from ppl who are actually willing to help me see from different perspectives rather than brush me off. Considering not having much to look to, I'm fairly easily swayed by ppl I meet who know more about something than I do bc I want to be able to look up to them.
Secondly, some backstory. I have a 21yr old mare who was abandoned with aggression issues. Just straight up left in the field to rot from a very young age, I know this very well bc she used to be owned by my aunt, who dropped her off at my grandparents' farm, who hated her to begin with and having heard about alleged aggression issues refused to do anything with her themselves, such as find her a better home. My aunt bought her with the intentions of growing and learning with her but didn't know enough to properly communicate and they would fight with each other alot so she gave up.
Well I recently finally got her to let me have this horse under the condition that I can prove I can financially support her needs and give her a better home than they could. This was about a year or two ago she finally said yes after years of asking. So this mare, Eclipse, in fact is not at all aggressive, one of the sweetest horses I've ever known. She's just reactive to improper and unfair treatment. Since she was abandoned and left in a field for 15+ yrs of her life she's never had much work done, this includes her hooves which is what I'm here about.
She has all the health issues u can imagine, half of them 2yrs later I finally have under control and I'm currently trying my best to find solutions and manage what's remaining. I've spent the same amount of time trying to get her to pick up her hooves, she is only as of these past few months confident enough to stand quietly and let me work on her, and when she's not she has learned how to safely tell me so. As you can imagine, her hooves contribute to ALOT of her health problems so this is a top priority for me. I spent a good while making sure she was confident enough working with me before having the farrier out, who she has met many other times before bc he comes here for my other mares.
I now have 3 horses in total, all mares as well as a big burly dog. He's not afraid of anything, he guards the property, he's not aggressive but you're guilty until proven innocent. He has also met the farrier many times.
I go thru farriers like candy bc of my location. They hate being here and tell me that just having 2 horses to work on is a waste of their time so every couple years I'm looking for a new one. My horses have hated every single farrier that has worked on them, bc they come out here with negative attitudes, often in a rush, just trying to get it over with and it resulted in "arguments" between the farriers and my horses each time. My horses are super patient and have high tolerances, I can assure you they do their best to not cause problems but I know that's hard when you're trying to be kind to someone who doesn't care enough to be kind to you.
Story time. This new farrier I have has been around for 2 years. He has competed in blacksmithing and farrier championships and has placed in the top 5 multiple times. My horses are barefoot and only have trims done, so it takes him 5 - 10mins per horse. He is super quick and does a fucking beautiful job. Better than any of the last farriers I've had before. He's super considerate of any physical problems any of the horses might have and very carefully works around them. Idk if this is what had me so blinded or what but I told him I finally have full confidence in Eclipse and we're ready for her to be trimmed. I was excited, I put her thru every test I could think of I made sure she was familiar with farrier holds and the feeling of trims and being handled and so on and so forth. I wanted her done first, so I had her first in line when he came out. She must have known what was going to happen bc she panicked like I've never seen before solely at the sight of his truck. He comes up, I made sure to be clear that considering her history and everything ik about her it's important to be slow right now, and I stressed the fact that it took a very long time to get this far with her. It's her very first farrier appointment. He goes to start working on her, she was okay at first but I could see he was rushing her and it started to scare her and the more she tried to express she was getting scared the more aggressive he got. I told him multiple times to stop and give her a second and maybe I misunderstood and she's not ready. Maybe he didn't hear me, bc he didn't quit. She ended up fighting like her life depended on it and it resulted in him hitting her and pressing his hoof knife into her any time she tried to move any which direction. He ended up only getting one hoof partially cut and left unfinished. He did the rest of my horses afterwards but they were extra reluctant.
I'm pretty upset by the way he treated her. She has marks all over her body from being hit and stabbed and pinched. Her back and shoulders are extremely sore, the muscles have lumps from relentlessly trying so hard to move away from him but then being ripped at and pulled around. She's feeling rough right now. I have made a couple attempts to clean out her hooves again and now she won't let me pick them up. I'm worried that I have to restart everything I did with her. I'm going to give her some time to relax and instead just do bodywork and massages for a while, then pretend we're back at square one, just to help bring back her confidence but I'm so worried that we actually are now set back 2yrs, bc if that's the case not only do I have to re-teach her but I also have to reverse the trauma and the effects of that day.
But now for a plot twist, I'm more upset about how I blatantly ignored my horses. Maybe it was bc I looked up to this guy so much, I'm not sure. But it's VERY unlike me to ignore their signs. All 3 horses AND my dog told me that there's something not right with this guy. The dog cowers around him and hides behind me. The other two horses that have been worked on by him before each time expressed severe anxiety when he'd show up for them, but I let it go bc they still stood for him just fine. They were jumpy, they'd move away from him sometimes, they would try hard to stand quietly for him but they were constantly flinching and jerking their heads up and just very clearly uncomfortable with being handled by him. He has never hurt them as far as I've seen, and I'm always intently watching him work bc I'm so fascinated by his skill.
I wholeheartedly blame myself. We wouldn't be in this situation if I would have listened to the other two horses and my dog. I didn't know what any of the things they were saying or doing meant, but what's worse is that I never tried to either. I saw it and for some reason never thought anything of it. I didn't think to try to understand their behaviour or literally anything, and it took Eclipse's situation now to realize what's actually been going on. I can easily compare it to being in a toxic relationship.
Everyone I've gone to about this has said "you're being dramatic, that's how the cowboys did it" or "that's what happens when you're too nice to your horses".
I can't stand knowing that I'm allowing someone who gets physically abusive upon becoming frustrated to work on my horses. I'm being as honest as I can be about what happened that day, what I saw in the horses, what I saw him doing, etc. It makes me sick to think about. Am I overreacting? What do I do about this?
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2024.05.14 21:37 Marauder151 My pitch for a 7 film Soul Caliber movie saga

My pitch for a 7 film Soul Caliber movie saga
So I made this post 11 month ago on Quora and forgot about it until someone liked it today and reminded me of it.
I wasn't in this Reddit group back then and I see it's been a while since there's been any movie discussion type posts here so I thought I'd share my 7 part film saga pitch I had fun coming up with last year, and see what all think. I've attached the link to my original post, filled with nerdy game refrences, so please give it a read.
But to summarize, I'd break up roster of characters and spread them across multiple films, except Sigfried whose in all of them.
Film 1: Cervantes is the main villain, with Sophita, Taki, and the Rock being the main party thar takes him down
Film 2: Kiliks trio versus the Knightmare trio
Film 3: I take a lot of liberties with that games plot. I introduce Tira early, elevate Necrid as an important boss level antagonist, and put Seong-Mina in Raphaels party with him as the main point of view protag. This film is themed on madness.
Film 4: Zasalamel is the main bad guy, and Talim is sort of the main hero along with Sigfried who partied up with Setsuka. And Mitsurugi is a big part of this film too.
Film 5: brings back everyone to fight Algor at the tower. The first real crossover event film in the franchise.
Film 6: most of the characters (all if we can manage it) travel to the future in the aftermath of the last film and see a dark timeline possibility for themselves and have to face their dark future counterparts while trying to set things right.
Film 7: the travel too far back into the past after the last film and end up I the Great War with Luna and Strife. Everyone has an arc to fix it so they don't become what they saw in the future. Also Azwell has been re-written into this past great war as the chief mastermind antagonist, and is responsible for creating the swords. After defeating him they all go back to the future with the swords never created, better people after their adventures with happy endings fitting for all the characters to close on.
I get into the specifics in the Quora post, but that's the general idea. And if I could rewrite it today, I'd probably take care to make use of bonus characters like Arther so that most characters have a theme or lore connecting them to past films. Near every film has someone from Seong Minas village, near every film has a samurai. Re-inventing Olcadad as someone who got his curse like the Lizardman did, because of Hephestus can keep that lore connecting through most of the films. And ofcourse Sigfrieds long arc connects and defines them all.
Let me know what you think of it all. My way of assigning characters to different movies for the first 4 films, the closing time travel trilogy that takes a lot of liberty with SC5, SC6 and SC3, and the Raphal/Seong Mina pair I put together for the film based on SC2. How would you polish off or modify and tweak my pitch to suit your own preferences?
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2024.05.14 21:36 moodykitty27 All-on-4 dental implant nightmare. Please HELP. 29/F needing any answers/advice desperately.

I'm going to try to keep this short, but also give enough information for analysis and advice. Feb. 20, 2024 I underwent the All-on-4 procedure for my top arch. I'm a 29-year-old female battling with chronic illness my entire life. That, paired with other factors, has caused massive tooth decay in my mouth starting very early. I have some fears regarding dental work related to a bad experience having my wisdom teeth & "12 y/o molars" being removed at 15. But I got over it and sought the treatment. Open and willing to do whatever was needed to get my smile back and be able to eat normally. I've lost over 30 pounds in the last year, and I'm basically malnourished at this point.
I went to an implant clinic local to me and financed a 20k loan for just my top arch. Thats all I can afford right now. This whole experience has been SO traumatic for me.
From being fully awake through the whole process, after I was promised that between the night before meds and morning anxiety medication along with nitrous that I would be totally out. The meds were never called into the pharmacy. I was told me they would only be available the night before for pick up. When they weren't found at any pharmacy in town , I called and their office was closed already. Nobody answered the after-hours line. So I just had to show up at 7am for my procedure without having taken them. I let them know and they told me that the nitrous should still knock me out. Which i believed to be true, past dental work with it would have me knocked out!
But I sobbed and cried and prayed for almost 6 hours while they extracted 14 teeth, it wasn't quick or easy at all, then they placed my implants. 5 of them.
All of my care has been from different providers at the same office. The dentist who I was told would be taking care of my entire process did my numbing shots then left. Someone I didn't know took over. I've never seen her in the office since that day. This has happened almost every follow up.
My pain for the first month was truly unbearable. I work 45 hours a week and they promised me I would be totally fine to work. I wasn't. I did still work without missing a single day, but that was by the grace and strength of God. Also, the demand of my huge loan payment monthy. The gum pain, nerve pain, constant intense throbbing finally subsided less than a month ago. I still get a lot of throbbing at my implant sites, but I continue to hope it's just the osseointegration that I'm feeling.
I went in weekly describing my pain and concerns and was ignored and told 'its normal". They refused to do any scans, check my stitches that never dissolved, I had to nicely demand the remove them after about a month in half because they were all untied and hanging out of my temp but also lodged underneath it.
I have almost ZERO ability to clean in between the acrylic temp and my gums. One side has space the other is smashed into my gums. Totally uneven. It even feels completely unbalanced in my mouth and moves and makes loud clicking noises. I've timed the amount of time I am cleaning and water flossing in a single day and it typically is about an hour total. Yet my mouth tastes terrible all the time. I can feel food lodged between that I'm not able to get out. I've told the dentist this every single time and I'm ignored.
I have so many questions and concerns regarding this whole experience, but most importantly is this:
Next week I start gettting fitted for my permanent teeth. I feel so insecure in my knowledge of how this is supposed to look, fit, and feel. I dont know how to properly advocate for myself and care. I always trust the experts. I'm not a dentist, they are. But I dont trust mine. He has mislead me on many things, gets angry if I say i don't want or like something. For example my current and only temp just simply doesn't fit. It looks ridiculous. I'm not the only person wo has expressed this. My entire family has said the same things. But he refused to even discuss a differnt temp that I have had to wear for months. I explained it not even the aesthetic that I can't deal with its the fit and feel. He was clearly annoyed and told me he's not making another. Mind you he prints these in office with a 3d printer. When I had something almost pertruding through my gums in the front of an implant site he wouldn't do a scan. They finally agreed to do it at my next appointment, only because it's time anyway since this would be my first scheduled "pre op" appointment. If I hadn't been there by request weekly the first two months this would've been the only time I was seen or checked in this whole process.
My screws have fallen out and been replaced. Each time this happened I asked if they would please just check underneath for trapped food and I was told No every time. With no explanation. Is this normal?!!? I truly don't know. But it doesn't feel normal or right. I paid 20k for this. I feel like I've been scammed in way.
If anyone at all could give me ANY info or advice I would be so grateful. I can elaborate more on anything needed I just don't want to ramble and complain. I just wanted my smile back and the ability to eat. Im down to 94 pounds. Eating is barely possible. They didn't tell me anything about my diet restrictions until after the implants were in. I totally get why it would be soft foods only, but I don't understand why they wouldn't tell me things like this at my consult. It's one of the many things that I feel was ignored and left out when discussing this treatment option for me.
One final thing. While adjusting my bite one day he was filing down the implants in the back. I must note that my bottom teeth aren't in great condition but I'm taking great care of them until I can afford to have them done as well. Without any warning the dentist starting filling down MY natural bottom teeth. Not just a little, noticiably even to they eye. I made many noises and waved my hands trying to get him to stop. He continued until I got loud and was pulling my head away. He removed he his hands from my mouth clearly annoyed with me. I asked "are you filing my bottom teeth?!?!' His response- "they're bad anyway". He knows that i can't afford to fix them right now. We discussed this many times. Needless to say, I left in a complete panic attack. Why was that necessary?? Or even an option to him. I now understand dental work and standards are different all over the world. I had zero issues with the ethnicity of who provided my care. But after further research I've seen many things about dental work in India and how brutal it can be. I'm truly don't mean this in a bad way. It's just what I've read in my many hours of research on the topic.
Dentists, assistants, anyone with knowledge or experience. PLEASE any info would be so helpful to me.
Please and thank you again. Sorry for the long post. This truly is the abridged version of this story sadly. I'm just read for this to be over. But I just need the results to be worth the 20k and the trauma.
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2024.05.14 21:36 DraganZerfallion My girlfriend is full of red flags but keeps insisting she is not cheating? m28 f26

we have been together for four years and things have been getting rocky for us because of our families and because of my past issues are really starting to fuck with me. all of my past girlfriends cheated on me. most of them with someone they were friends with and "could never let go of". other males of course. so when my fiance asked me if she could have a girlfriend after we had our first child, i thought it was a fun idea. nothing permanent but fun. she ended up finding one and they liked each other alot but my issue with it was the fact that this girlfriend an older woman had a boyfriend and didnt bother to tell my fiance until the first night they get intimate (my fiance has met her mom and kids already at this point). my girl says nothing happened that night between him and her but i didnt like the way it felt because the next week the girlfriend and her guy broke up and my girl decided to bring me along. we had a threesome. afterwards everything was fine. the next week her boyfriend was back and it made something click in my head. was that a payback threesome? we argued about it forever until she finally broke it off with the grilfriend completely.
fast forward to last year she starts to hangout with her male friend more often. this is a male friend weve smoked weed and hungout with before, i dont personally know him. one time he tells her he doesnt like my vibe and that she shouldnt bring me anymore. i already knew that he liked her before this point but this solidified it for me. they started hanging out every week but while shes with him she can never answer the phone.he told her that he liked her and when i found this out she told me that they talked about it and nothing more would come of it. a few weeks later he started picking her up from work and one night i confronted him and he says theres nothing going on, and that he should have never told her he liked her at all in the first place, but ive been the guy screwing another mans woman before and ive also had sex with my former best friend so i know its not impossible. i dont want to lose my relationship because we have teenager history and we found each other randomly after many years and now we have a family. but i dont want to be lied to either.
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2024.05.14 21:35 Xenomorph_kills I want to make a relationship serious after only dating for two weeks.

I (27M) met this girl through the dating apps. But when I matched with her I realized we were Facebook friends since we had alot of mutual friends in college but we never spoke to each other. It felt like that made us hit it off a lot easier since we had similar background and could talk about our similar lives a lot easier. Things have moved pretty quickly in these past two weeks since our first date.
Our First date went super well. Even held hands and kissed by the end of it. Next two dates were casual dinners and a chance to meet her cats. Next one was a spontaneous invite out to a club and even got to meet a friend of hers. And on two of these dates we have ended up sleeping together.
I am really into this person but everytime I try and look at all of this from a distance I feel like it’s all in my head and I’m just falling over someone super fast. And I’m also certain she is using hinge still since I noticed her main pic updated a few days ago. Two weeks is like nothing. And I don’t know if we even know each other truly but all I do know is that I wanna keep knowing this person and I could really see myself being serious with them. I am the type of person to get into something serious and just give it a try. If it doesn’t end up well in a few months then fine but I like giving 100% to someone.
We have a lazy/lounging date coming up.
Is this too soon? Should I ask anyways? How should I?
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2024.05.14 21:35 Important_Brush3716 I 26M have been dating my girlfriend 23F for almost six months - but her parents are very rude. What should i do?

TLDR: I'm in a happy relationship with my girlfriend, but her parents are controlling, disrespectful, and manipulative. I'm worried about the future of our relationship and how her parents' behavior will affect it. I'm considering breaking up with my girlfriend.

Hello everyone,
I 26M have been dating my girlfriend 23F for almost six months. This is one of the most beautiful times of my life.
Together we are happy and happy, and we have already started talking about a wedding in the future.
During all those months her parents weren't the nicest, but I assumed that every family behaves differently.
In every family the relationship between parents and children is very different, so I did not follow up on cases where I raised an eyebrow.
Recently, her parents invited me to a barbecue with the whole family. I wanted to come, and when I saw her parents I offered to bring beer or chips or something else to the barbecue.
Her father started yelling at me in a really scary way, I was shocked. "No!! No!! No chance!!" That's what he said to me in really unpleasant tones, next to his wife and my girlfriend.
None of them responded or defended me.
It connected to me a few other times in the past that he yelled at me or my girlfriend in a really blatant way.
In the previous times I assumed that maybe it was a one-time thing, maybe I was wrong about something..
But this time I realized that it's already a sequence of cases where he yells at me, no one defends me or even tries to talk to him.
So I decide to talk to her father in a pleasant way, to say that I of course respect his decisions and wishes - and I reflected to him that I was very hurt by the way he spoke to me.
I asked that the next one would talk to me when something was on his mind, and not shout at me in a disrespectful way.
He wasn't ready to hear my words, left the room and said "it is what it is" and I have to deal with it.
I realized that something was really wrong and not going well.
For my part, I really invested in the last few months to get to know the family, and to be nice to them - every time I came to them I brought wine or flowers or chocolate, etc.
I made sure to talk to her family, even when her dad was talking to me in a weird way.
I feel that the effort is only one-sided, her parents do not make a special effort to behave with me in an inviting and respectful manner.
I heard from friends who got married that the spouse's parents made an effort to make them feel welcome in their family.
In addition, all kinds of incidents that happened during the last months - which I raised an eyebrow to the heights, now turn out to indicate a pattern of bad behavior on the part of her parents:
* They are very controlling in everything she does - everywhere she goes she has to inform her parents before she goes out, when she arrives, when she leaves, etc.
* Her parents always gossip about other people they know - and even talk like that to me all the time.
* When she and I wanted to spend Shabbat together with friends - her parents yelled at her, then forbade her to go out with me on Shabbat.
* Her mother emotionally manipulates her and me when we do something she doesn't 100% like.
* From the first time her father yelled at me to "move" when I was standing in the kitchen next to a drawer that he had to go to, without speaking in a pleasant way.
* My friend is so afraid of her parents, of their reaction and of knowing that there is no one to talk to - that there are issues that I brought up to her and I had to give up on them only because she is afraid to have a conversation with her parents.
* And many more examples..
At the end of the day her father summoned me to talk to him, I was very afraid but I went because there was an opportunity to talk.
He told me he apologized for yelling at me, but he was aware it could happen again. And if it happens again then he will try to apologize again.
In addition, he told me when he decides something then there is nothing to argue about and nothing to even talk about - as if I or my girlfriend were small children..
In addition, he told me that every time I offer to do something or bring something, it "presses on his sensitive points" and I should avoid bringing small gifts and I should avoid making gestures, etc.
On the one hand, I really love her, and she loves me. we are good together We are happy and happy together.
But I worry about our future.
It's clear to me that this is a pattern of behavior that won't change, the parents are inconsiderate and not nice.
I was deeply offended and I am very hurt.
I was also offended that my girlfriend did not defend me - not even once.
I am afraid that in the future he will continue to yell at me, and at my girlfriend - he may even yell at our children in the future.
I fear that in the future the mother will always do emotional manipulations to make things the way she wants.
I'm afraid that her parents will decide all kinds of things for us and continue to forbid all kinds of things. Now and in the future.
I'm afraid it might get to a point where my girlfriend will have to choose between me and her parents - and I want to avoid that.
I told my friend all these things, and I told her that I need a few days to think about how to set up from here on.
What should I do next? Do I have any future with her?
Thanks in advance!
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2024.05.14 21:34 GODISALIEN energy buildup in focus 12

Hi friends,
I’ve been working on focus 12 for the past couple weeks and wanted to share my experience. I really enjoy reading about everyone else’s journeys so here is mine in focus 12 so far:
The first few times I wasn’t quite sure I made it to focus 12. I felt the numbess in my body and the presence in my head, but I still felt too aware. However, towards the end of each session I started getting this really uncomfortable energetic buildup near where the solar plexus chakra is. It was so uncomfortable that I had to stop my sessions early.
I recognized this is probably somewhere I have energy stuck or something, so I tried focusing on letting the energy out through sounds (yeah just me in a room by myself making weird noises) and I think it really helped (I saw this in a meditation video once but never tried it or gave it any credit, but sound is energy so why not). I went deeper than ever before and lost all sensation in my body, felt like I could just float away.
I went so deep I kept forgetting I was doing an exercise and just floated into the nothingness of my mind, completely present with the experience. Honestly I don’t even remember all the things I tried to pattern.
I had a couple random flashes of places I’ve never seen before— a long hallway with doors, an old hand in front of me— which felt like that place just in between wakefulness and dream. I think I’m starting to really get a feel for that particular brain state. It’s almost like trying to pet a spooked cat and keep it calm, but it keeps getting easier the more you do it. And you can’t force the calmness, only sink into it.
Towards the latter half of the session, the fire alarm in my hallway started glitching (letting out one beep every 30 seconds). I thought I was hearing things at first until my session ended. I don’t know if it is related at all and I still don’t know to fix it lol. I’m afraid to push the buttons. (Vaguely unrelated but there was a big spider chilling next to it and I always tell people that spiders are my spirit animal lol half as a joke bc those guys follow me everywhere)
I started this journey with a lot of fear and difficulty embracing the unknown. Now, I feel like all I want to do is sink deeper and deeper into it. It’s beautiful to have overcome my fear on many levels (not on all yet) and start to really enjoy the craziness of it.
I really am craving having deeper more powerful experiences. It feels so right and good. During my first focus 12 session, it felt like there was a hand in my right hand, pulling me along, encouraging me to keep going. It felt so loving, like my higher self was saying, I’m here with you, I’ve got you. I started tearing up mid-session.
Anyway, I hope this experience is encouraging for anyone moving forward. I’m in this journey for the long run and am really grateful for this community.
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2024.05.14 21:34 Drahcireid Stream Keeps Dropping Frames and Forcibly Ending

First and foremost: YES! Everything is up to date. Can we please skip the customer service idiot 1 copy & paste. I'm literally sick and tired of hearing that when everything has been manually checked and is up to date. I'm not the person calling customer service because my computer won't turn on during a power outage (know someone who worked tech support, and that apparently happens a lot).
So I've been streaming (YT/OBS) since the beginning of the year for the most part (took a couple months off for reasons), and while there have been some issues I've been able to work out (and then subsequently stream for 4-8 hours without further issue) this latest one has me stumped. So what happens is I start streaming, I say my hellos while waiting for the loading screen to pass by, things seem to go okay for a while. Then suddenly out of nowhere, YouTube forcibly ends the stream, I have to close OBS, open it back up, and start a new stream yet again. Now I've had a look over the log files, and honestly, I have absolutely no idea where to look to find what's happening. (Last two stream logs linked.) My eyes start reading from the top line by line and then gloss over by the 20th.
Just to put it out there: when streaming my current game of choice is 7 Days to Die (PC), I'm playing solo, and the only other windows I'll have open is the Steam Library page, OBS (obviously) a single Firefox Tab (to make sure the names are good/monitor stream health as I'm able to look away from the game), and maybe a single tab of File Explorer.
While I may record, edit, upload videos, and stream, I"m not too familiar with all the technical terms and abbreviations. So if possible, please explain like I'm 5.
First Stream that failed:
https://obsproject.com/logs/OlJC7s6Pz6KPtfdT
Second stream that went to completion (for this week anyway):
https://obsproject.com/logs/MRpEBhcPvLogAMBM
Now: I don't care about the recording format, it's the same as my face cam (for recorded videos) so it works. Also who gives a damn about an old version of OBS? I tried to install and run a stream with the latest version of OBS downloaded straight from the site, and it failed to initialize 5 times in a row. Re-installed the old version, and it worked (mostly) on the first try there. Finally, the wifi box (or whatever it's called) is less than a foot away, and I've looked, my computer apparently has no ethernet port.
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2024.05.14 21:33 Pineapple_throw_105 Will I ever be able to fall in love again?

I have gone full circle in emotions towards women what I mean is love-hate-emotioneless.
Despite being 26 I had a stage where I liked certain women I gave them compliments, went on dates, etc. but then things changed and I felt a dislike towards women I felt like they did not want to even casually talk to me and ran from me like I was the ugliest person in the world (I am definitely not), I started to dislike them and when I would see women happy with their men I would get bitter for not having that and disliked women for giving other men a chance but not me. I am now in a stage of no emotion. I see women not as something to love or dislike, but a person who is just there, I have no urges for anything. Today there was a couple (my age) that was kissing on the bus and despite feeling a little like they could have done that elsewhere I remembered how in the past I would have become bitter, but now it just went by.
What is next, its like this emotionelessness can be forever and I feel ok with it. I love being a bachelor, spending for myself and not compromising and yet a part of wants to answer the question will I love again?
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2024.05.14 21:33 51journeys Clothes shopping is a trip!

HW 262 // SW 230 // CW 217
I lost 31lbs before Wegovy and I've lost 13 more since starting, so I'm at a 44lb loss altogether. I can't remember the last time I went shopping for clothes. But I'm starting a new office job next week and I had to get some things because I can't wear what I've been wearing WFH for the past few years lol.
I knew that I'd need smaller sizes, but what I wasn't expecting was my reaction to seeing myself in the smaller sizes. It was like my brain couldn't comprehend what it was seeing. Such a trip!
At Target (notorious for smaller cuts), I'm 2 sizes down in tops. At Old Navy, I'm down 3 sizes in tops. I'M NO LONGER IN PLUS SIZE CLOTHES OMG. I still can't wrap my brain around it, but I'm so happy that this much progress is being made. I see myself every day in my baggy clothes so it's really weird to see clothes that actually fit.
I only tried on 1 pair of pants, and I'm out of plus sizes there too. But even the normal cut of pants was too baggy in the hips. I think I could almost go down 3 sizes there too, but I was too overwhelmed to keep shopping. These are good problems to have!
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2024.05.14 21:33 VegetableFandom As a 22 year old in the "internet age" how can I meet nice people?

Hi! First of all, I hope this text is comprehensible since english is not my first language and I've never been the type to ask for help with these kinds of issues.
I'm a 22 year 2D artist,programmer and entertainer (as in, youtube tiktok this kind of stuff). When it comes to "getting good" on the art area, for many years I adopted a solitude persona, as if I could only improve and focus myself if I was completely alone, kind of a "punishing" for not being good enough, yes it's weird, yes it doesn't make ANY sense whatsoever but it happened. So, for about 3-4 years I've AVOIDED making friends since I thought it was going to steal my attention and I wouldn't get better with my skills, while in a way I was correct this also caused me to have like zero ideas on how to approach people via the internet, I'll share some of my experience below.
Once, a girl contacted me and invited me to her personal discord server because I looked nice and she was looking for friends, this looks like the perfect setup for getting to know people and maybe make some friends. I'm a cautious person so I went through her profile and while she was nice, ALL she talked about was sex, and I MEAN it. It's not my problem, she can do whatever the hell she want, but it wasn't the kind of relationship I was looking for so I just never really joined her discord server... Now, was I wrong? And please tell me if I was because this kind of thing happens far too often with me, I'll meet someone, and not too long after I find out that person is either clinically insane or doesn't take life seriously (don't study, don't have/want a job, have no ambitions)...
Once again, that's fine, people are free to do whatever and that's really cool, but I want to make friends that want to have a carreer, that want to improve themselves, this kind of thing.
I'm also not looking for these "work while they sleep'' kind of mentality, I do like playing videogames and I ocasionally watch TV Shows and movies, we are humans, life is supposed to be good and I don't think we need to get rid of the stuff that makes us happy, so while I believe I sound like those youtubers that make videos about "you GOTTA suffer in your 20s to have a happy life", I'm not extreme like that haha
This is the moment I say that I HOPE TO GOD I am not sounding extremely annoying, or disrespectful as I would never try to offend or harm anyone.
Essentially I'm completely LOST right now. How do I even make friends? My hobbies are watching movies and playing videogames (tho I unfortunately only play single player ones), I don't think discord servers work for me because most of the time they feel like advertisement for youtubers or streamers or people over there fit into the "clinically insane" category.
Is anyone on the same situation? If so, what did you do/are doing to solve it? Thanks for reading and I hope I was comprehensible :)
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2024.05.14 21:33 samtama7 Might be cliché, but do you think there's enough hope that I'll find my first partner past the age of 25?

TL;DR - I'm worried that I might be setting myself up for even more failure by putting more of an effort into finding my first partner, but I'd like to believe the odds are still in my favor given my context (not to say I think it will be easy) and my willingness to improve by any means necessary.
(26M) I got a late start (relatively speaking) at making any real effort at dating by the time I was 24 because I hardly thought about it up until that point, or cared to put myself out there (I had some opportunities in HS, and I didn't attend college). I've been more concerned establishing my career as a freelancer in the film industry (which is still a struggle).
Finally signed up for a dating app at that age, but I haven't had too many dates. Partly bc I'm just new and took too long to ask women out, and partly bc I've been extremely inconsistent/sporadic with using it because of my concentration on work, plus my depression plays into it. Sometimes matches came in a lot easier, sometimes there's a dry spell.
Flash forward to the beginning of this year, I really haven't been using the app at all the past few months. However, I began getting closer as a friend to this one girl I began talking to at first as a freelance co-worker; we would hang out a little more regularly and chat more casually, and I never would've imagined that she would actually end up going out with me. We both had a great time on our first date, and she told me the same thing on our second date, ending in more hugs (I'm shy, what can I say). Although she initially agreed to a third, let's just say that I said something that was totally miscalculated and immature after she originally agreed, which ultimately led her to go back and change her mind (I didn't say anything offensive for the record, but I came on too strong).
We're still friends luckily and have other platonic events planned together, but I'm in so much despair for so many reasons. Besides just losing out on dating her, I feel so distressed that I have to go back to using an app. When I eventually try to get back into dating in general, I'm planning to go the extra mile and start working out more, attending social events, asking friends for help, signing up for a 2nd app, and just improving my first impression and social life anyway I can. But I'm worried that if I put in 2x the amount of work, I might get 2x the amount of failure.
I've heard some men (most of them self-loathing) say online that they've done all those things and still haven't gotten anywhere by the time in their 30s (hopefully taking it with a grain of salt coming from complete strangers on Reddit), but yeah, I'm worried I'll be in the same boat. What if there's no hope even if you supposedly "do all the right things?"
Not to mention that I feel incredibly stigmatized by my old age, and all things considered, 27 will be the first full year I can really dedicate myself to finding a relationship once I stabilize this year. But does it seem like I'm on the right track? A part of me feels so undesirable from my lack of experience, but I'd like to believe there are good reasons to have hope since I've been asked out before a few times as a teenager (I wish I took those opportunities), I've been able to strike up some truly good conversations on the app (even if things eventually fell through) and if anything, being somewhat surprisingly successful with this friend of my in this first place suggests that things can happen unexpectedly.
Does that sound too optimistic though? Dating is hard enough as it is sometimes, and I'm just getting started. Not sure what to expect in my age group.
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2024.05.14 21:33 Rose-bubbles What books about toddlers would you guys recommend?

So I'm a little early on this. I'm 32 weeks pregnant and for the past few weeks I've been worried about how I'm going to handle the toddler phase and things like tantrums. So what kind of books would you guys recommend?
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2024.05.14 21:32 whatnowr Parting is such sweet sorrow

Posting here because I know that even if someone doesn't reply, someone will read it and relate to what I'm going through, everyone here has been so kind and generous that I feel truly seen in my pain, and sometimes that's all you need, just another soul, just another human being to acknowledge that you are in pain.
When I took my lease, I rented a place a little bigger than what I need just for myself, my idea was that my dear friend already struggling would have a place to stay if they wanted to or needed to, they never officially moved in, but they were spending most of their time here, specially over shabbos, it was a safe place they could stay at without having to follow rules they didn't believe in. After they left our community, I was unable to move, I felt that I needed to keep living here, what if my dear friend would come back and needed a place to live? What if they needed help and couldn't find me? They had a key to my apartment so I hold on to the hope, if they need me, I'm right here, they can find me. Over the years that they were gone in the mist of all my pain and grief, this gave me comfort. I was here, they could find me, or just let themselves in in the middle of the night, like they had done countless times before. In the depths of my grief, if I hear a noise in the middle of the night, for a few seconds I think it's them, just letting themselves in.
After I left the hospital, I think it has hit me that my dear and beloved friend is never coming back, that I will have to somehow keep living, a life without them in it, I'm not sure what that is going to look like, how that is even possible. Today with my lease renewal coming up, I told my landlord, I'm not renewing it. I have looked at a few places for the past few weeks and I'm going to take a lease about 30 minutes away, this is a town that people in my community refer to as the place "where self hating Jews go to" people who leave our community. I will fix it for them, this is the place where people move to because they don't want to live in this toxic environment with rules they don't believe in.
I'm not sure where I'm at as far as being frum is concerned, I know that right now for my mental health I need to keep things simple, I want to be able to grocery shop without the stress of having to go to multiple places for different kosher items, I want to dress comfortable clothes without feeling I need to dress a certain way just to fit in, I want to be away from the yentas constantly up on everyone's business, I want peace, quiet and silence, like someone told me the other day, you cannot heal in the same environment that traumatize you. My family is silent, I think they have accepted I'm whatever they think I am at this point in time, after reading so many posts here, maybe silence is good.
This decision comes with more pain and grief that I can put into words, it's more loss, more heartbreak, it's the right decision for me and my mental health but it comes with such crushing and unbearable pain, I'm again just sitting here with this pain that feels like a heavy stone on my heart, I'm not self medicating, I'm just going to sit with it.
Thank you to anyone who may take their time to read. ❤️
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2024.05.14 21:31 whatitdoshordy We live beside our BIL/SIL

This is the first time I have had a truly negative experience with inlaws (I’ve been lucky I know), And maybe im out of line somewhere but its been weighing heavy on me for a while now. Warning this is very long im sorry!
Me and my bf have been living together for a year now and our SIL and my bfs brother are neighours. When I first moved in I thought the dynamic would be so fun and we could all hangout together! My boyfriend however, was never crazy about the idea. Now I see why.
Anyway, time goes on and my bf and I wanted to go to a rodeo and I thought it would be fun to go us 4 (us and the BIL/SIL). So we invite them and they tag along. When we showed up we realized they had no beer tents or alcohol vendors there, ok that sucks but whatever we are here for the rodeo! Oh no, not my BIL. The whole time we are watching from the grand stands, it is non stop complaining about how much this sucks and that theres no booze. Finally, the main event is about to start and he decides we all need to leave because ‘this f*cking sucks!’. At this point im holding back tears because I was genuinely anticipating this event for weeks. The SIL was laughing off his behaviour and not saying anything and my bf was visibly annoyed. This was the cause of one of my boyfriend and I’s first real ‘fights’, although it wasn’t his fault; he did warn me. We didn’t have to invite them to this event but yet we did, and BIL ruined it. So that was my first red flag.
Red flag #2: Errands/favours. Every now and again they would text us and ask if we had extras of something they could use (cheese slices, water bottles, etc.) Which we are more than happy to help out once in a while! But it started becoming frequent. To the point where okay did you guys even bother to do a grocery, when they were both working in town that same day. My bf and I very rarely ask for anything as we are both very independent and organized, we usually have everything we need at the house or if not we make substitutions or do without. It was getting to the point where I couldn’t open their snapchats at the end of my shift because it was most likely them asking for us to pick up something for them. I lowkey (highkey) felt like an uber eats driver! On the other end, BIL who has a border line drinking problem always taking beers off my bf. Apparently it was much worse before I moved in but essentially BIL will ask us if we have any beers before hes finished his last one. It’s gotten to the point where he walks right into the house and opens our beer fridge to look for some (um wtf knock? this is OUR HOUSE not your kitchen also we could be naked like holy shit.) I feel like I almost have to hide my drink when I go outside because if he sees me with one he will want one. Also, both the BIL and SIL work in town, if they know they are running low they should stock up, constantly bumming stuff off us gets old really fast. My bf constantly asks his brother ‘you didnt buy yourself more?’ to which he usually replies ‘well i am out’ (what kind of answer is that lmao). And we live literally 5 minutes away from a store that sells beer, he could send his wife to get some more (but no she doesn’t want to leave the house). Needless to say, they make their poor planning and laziness OUR problem. At one point it got so bad one sunday morning his brother walked over and asked if we have cream for his coffee. We only had the starbucks flavoured creamer so we offered that and I kid you not he says ‘Ew why dont you have regular creamer i wont drink that!’ WHY DONT YOU HAVE CREAMER. Like the entitlement was insane, my bf told him to go get his own creamer and BIL huffed and puffed back to his house. After that incident they stopped for a while but as of now the beer bumming is still very much happening. Just yesterday he walked right in, asked my bf if he had any beers, he lied and said no. BIL walked to and opened our fridge and grabbed beers anyway ‘you do have beers’. Well dont you think if we said no we probably dont want you having them? The entitlement and absolute disrespect of our boundaries was evident. I feel so torn with this kind of thing because you don’t want to be rude and come off selfish by telling them no, but at the same time they are taking advantage of how close we live to each other and for them its convenient to keep doing it and I feel like its not our responsibility at a certain point. Additionally, if we did the same to them, they would not appreciate it. I also notice how my bf and I rarely ask for favours but when we do (ex. bf needs a ride to the garage), they are always conveniently busy. The whole situation is giving selfish.
Red flag #3: Disrespecting our stuff. Last summer my mom’s boyfriend had passed from cancer, and at the same time I was moving in to my bfs. She had given me their very nice blow up pool since she wont have any use for it but she didn’t want to get rid of it either because it was sentimental. We took it, blew it up in the yard and used it in the beginning of summer, it was awesome! My boyfriend had mentioned that his brother hated the way it looked in the yard and thought it looked trashy, (we share our yard but had it on our side). I thought oh well he can have his opinion but its our pool and we are allowed to have it, they also have a small pool they put on the deck for their dog so I didn’t understand the reasoning. Anyway, summer ends and I wasn’t paying much attention but the pool was out of the yard, I had assumed my bf had put it back in its box and in the shed for the winter. So spring comes along and Im walking in the backyard doing something and I notice a plastic blue thing behind the shed covered by sharp metal and wood and its really buried in there. I inspect it closer and I realize it’s the pool! Assuming it was my bf I called him upset asking why he would treat my stuff that way. He assured me it wasn’t him and that he thought that I had put it away for the winter. We both paused and knew right away what really happened. His brother had thrown it behind the shed and covered it. I was baffled at the fact that he had the audacity to take it upon himself to take something that didn’t belong to him and throw it behind the shed like garbage because he didn’t like it. If they had something on their side of the yard that I didn’t like that does NOT give me the right to get rid of it or destroy it! He could have asked us to put it away and even at that it still doesn’t give him the right to dispose of it. My bf confronted him about it and his exact words were ‘I dont give a f*ck.’ My bf has told me he has done this kind of thing before when my bf wanted to sell his budlight umbrella on market place and his brother took it upon himself to take the umbrella and burn it in the fire pit while my bf was on a work trip. I just can’t believe someone can be so inconsiderate and show no respect for another persons property.
Red flag #4: SIL is not self aware at all and has a guise of being a sweet, quiet person but her actions say different. First and foremost, she has a huge issue with the MIL, that is a whole other story but to say the least she has some valid issues with the MIL i will not deny. But, a lot of the things she detests about the MIL she is guilty of herself. In my opinion, they are very similar people and they don’t even realize it. She claims MIL has a huge issue with boundaries and always wants to be part of all the plans that they make. She argues the MIL dictates and controls the situation every time, even if its a plan they invited her to (keep that in mind later). She is right she does do that. It is a very valid thing to have an issue with but on the other end they always want to do stuff with us when we dont! In the past we do and the BIL never DD’s, always gets fucked up on booze or if there isn’t freaks out (the rodeo). The SIL excuses it thinks its cute or has an attitude of ‘aw boys will be boys’ ( drunks will behave like drunks). SIL always wants to be home early for her dog or to smoke weed or both, which is fine if she takes her own vehicle but when she doesn’t its quite a bummer for the rest of us who are having a good time and dont want to exactly leave right when the fun starts. This happens a lot at family events. When SIL wants to leave early she will usually pawn off her husband to us to drive him home, which is not pleasant most of the time when he is drinking because he gets incoherently drunk and argumentative. SIL also dislikes the fact that MIL is very performative and makes out her life to be perfect, and pretends the very real and ever going family issues don’t exist. She is partially right about that but seeing both perspectives I can honestly say SIL is just as if not more performative than MIL. The most obvious reason for her being this way is the fact that she is her husbands biggest enabler. If my bf acted the way BIL acted I would not continue the relationship, but if I did I believe your duty as a partner is to keep each other in check and grow together. Instead, she often laughs it off and has the sentiment that thats just who he is. If she wants to leave early she pretty much gives us no choice but to give him a ride and its hard to say no considering we are neighbours ‘you’ll drive him home right? i told him not to be rude this time!’ (He almost always is, and drunk or sober never says thankyou btw). SIL also does this thing that I never noticed before because it was so subtle and I am trying not to think the worst of people, but until my friends and coworkers confirmed it with me I realized it was rude. So at first, I was still getting to know SIL and I honestly thought she was super down to earth and level headed I felt like I could confide to her and truly build a friendship. To preface, my boyfriend and I have a very happy relationship, but we, just like every other couple, have disagreements from time to time. Unfortunately I chose to vent to her at first and she would always reply something along the lines of ‘my husband NEVER does that, we are so good at communicating’ or ‘My husband always likes when I do that :)’. And the first times I thought nothing of it but then it dawned on me that she wasn’t being helpful, she was just complimenting herself while also putting my relationship down. Once I noticed this, I didn’t stop noticing it. I told her once how I regretted making fun of someone in high school while I was young and dumb and she replied ‘Oh, I was always nice to everyone i met and tried to always be kind:)’. These little comments were belittling me and almost making me feel ashamed for being vulnerable and admitting fault. And it was all disguised as being nice. She will do the same thing with my bf. She will have no issue talking about his faults while in the same breath saying her husband is nothing like that and they do x y and z better. I always hold my tongue when realistically I shouldn’t. If I had the same energy towards her husband she wouldn’t be as calm as I am. The thing is I know my bfs faults and I will agree if you point them out, same goes for my own. But to use our faults against us when we confide in you and you boost yourselves up with it and disguise it as giving advice? Thats not right. Lastly, already touched on this a bit but inconveniencing favours. We ask her for a ride once in a blue moon like im talking twice or 3 times a year if that, and she’s miraculously busy. But she’ll ask us (more me because my bf doesn’t answer anymore and as of now I wont either) to pick her something up at the store after a 9 hour day at work, meanwhile she works from home and her husband works in a city where he could also do the same errand. The other day she asked my bf if I was sleeping (it was 6-7am), and my bf says yes she is. She proceeds to text me while i unfortunately forgot to turn my ringer off. Now I may have fault in this for even entertaining her but Im the type of person who opens snapchats right away, I am trying to get better at this now. So despite my bf telling her Im sleeping aka do not disturb me, she texts me to go bang on her windows because her husband forgot to set his alarm. I told her just one second I will put my pants on and get out of bed and do that for her right away. I should have told her that she interrupted my sleep and went against what my boyfriend told her but I can be bad with people pleasing so I did it anyway. She constantly tells the family she doesnt sleep well with her back pain but she had no problem with the idea of interrupting mine to wake her husband up. She also complains about people walking over her boundaries but she literally ignored my bf saying I was asleep and messaged me anyway.
I think the main problem here is that they have issues as neighbours and as family members respecting boundaries and privacy. I don’t know what else will solve these issues other than my bf really addressing it all or just plain and simple moving out, which is not what we want to do because we love our house and put so much work into it. I could also address it but I feel like they may not be as receptive to me as they would my bf. UGH sorry that was long
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2024.05.14 21:31 xoluts Does anyone else’s gm damage things? This is getting ridiculous!

I started working at jersey mikes about a year ago and when I met the gm he seemed like a cool guy but these past few months he’s been punching things a lot! The other day me and my coworker were in the front and we just hear him in the back scream “NO TIMER?” And we look back and he punched right through the oven glass. That was followed immediately by a painful shriek. He called the owner and said he accidentally broke it by dropping something. Another time a customer came in and he was by the walk in and he just full force punched the walk-in door. He’s thrown a few oil vinegar bottles and shattered them before. It’s scary when he gets angry. The other day he was screaming at the top of his lungs at my coworker for not filling chips! (I think they almost came to blows) he’s told us that if we tell the owner about his anger then we will be fired. I don’t like this job anymore.
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2024.05.14 21:30 Plenty-Tour9110 Stay committed and have a baby or explore new routes

I’m feeling lost and looking for advice.
31f and in an 8 year relationship with partner 32m. Over time I feel like the beauty of our relationship was that I kept falling in love with him in a new way. We have an amazing life together and I love him very much. I’m worried I’m not in love any more. I don’t feel desired by him, or maybe I don’t desire him any more.
We are halfway through selling, and buying a house.
He wants a baby and I’m not sure whether I do. I’m finding it really hard to decide with the body clock time pressure and the irreversibility of the decision. As well as it being an unintentional ultimatum or our relationship.
I don’t know whether I’m cut out for a traditional relationship. I’ve always been bi-curious but I’ve never been with a woman. Again the decision to stay and have a baby feels all or nothing.
I’m finding myself romanticising non-traditional lifestyles and people on my life who embody these lifestyles. People with less traditional relationships: polyamory, people in long distance relationships.
In the past year or two I have become more happy and independent within my relationship than I ever have been. I took time to travel independently and develop new hobbies and forms of expression. I think my partner may have been unintentionally hurt by or not immediately understanding of the solo travel but he also came round to the idea. Normally in relationships I can be quite co-dependent and feel I am losing a part of myself.
I have a history of staying in relationships too long when I know they should end. I’m a serial monogamist.
I think he can tell I’m distant and he deserves to know what’s on my mind but I can’t begin to express it when I’m not even sure what’s going on myself.
I don’t know if I’m just having a panicked response to the level of commitment bringing a child into the world requires. I know we have something precious, we’ve built a life together over the past 8 years. Or if I really want to explore these new routes and possibilities; I don’t want to live with regret and not see myself reach my full potential/expression/identity/courage.
I feel distressed by this, there’s probably things I haven’t mentioned but any advice is really welcome. Thank you
TL:DR Don’t know whether to stay in committed relationship and have a baby or leave and follow a new path exploring my independence.
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2024.05.14 21:30 popsfootloose949 New MVS Speculation: Boomerang Theory

Credit to MultiverSusie on Twitter for pointing this out initially!
On May 28th and 29th, Boomerang will be airing specific programming for the launch of MultiVersus. Breaking down the Adventure Time episodes alone clued me into the fact that these episodes seem HIGHLY relevant for future speculation. Let's call this "Boomerang Theory."
The Rules for Boomerang Theory
Even though clues may be present for properties like Looney Tunes, Popeye, and Scooby-Doo, I personally consider it to be unlikely to come to any informed speculation regarding shows that air on Boomerang daily. There are some exceptions,, but for right now I am only focusing in on the shows specifically coming to Boomerang for the event.
Shows #1-2: Taz-Mania and Duck Dodgers
Movie #1: Aloha, Scooby-Doo!
Movie #2: Scooby-Doo! & Batman: The Brave and the Bold
Show #3: Teen Titans Go!
Show #4: Adventure Time - SPOILERS!
Show #5: Steven Universe - SPOILERS!
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2024.05.14 21:30 hangrybananas 30 [M4F] Canada Vancouver - I hate doing this but what options do I have left?

I'm not interested in international or prolonged long-distance, I'm not interested in those just looking to kill time and with no real motivation to date, I'm not interested in them vs us politics or taking sides to the point where dialogue is impossible, I'm not interested in religion, and I am absolutely not interested in any woke BS.
I have nihilistic and libertarian tendencies, I don't care what people do with their lives but that doesn't mean you're free from judgement or commentary. I'm constantly thinking that I must be insane since I can't see most people as individuals but as carbon copies of each other, but when I speak to people one-on-one I'm able to enjoy myself and engage in decent dialogue for the most part. I like to think I'm a pretty capable introvert but my preference is privacy.
A part of why I don't date or haven't dated in so long is because I don't really go out to meet people in general/casual settings and most of what I do are solo things like I mentioned. I just don't have many opportunities to meet people and while I've been interested in people IRL in the past I feel like it's borderline impossible to meet anyone naturally anymore.
For me casually obsessive is something I know I'm into but don't rush at finishing it. I like to take my time enjoying my hobbies and a lot of them are what I would think of as lifelong interests. I like going deeeeep while not rushing towards an objective end.
I don't think it's required to have common interests but it would certainly help to have a few. I live and breathe cars and racing. I have a love/hate relationship when it comes to games and anime, I can't help but always refer to the good days but still find slivers of hope every so often, really though I blame trends and popular opinion for the loss in quality. I'm a big appreciator for things that are well-designed/engineered and are purpose built, I think I have a decent eye for subjective things but purpose built things are what makes my mouth water. Also am constantly fascinated by all the different ways to cook/bake things that I don't think I'll ever get tired of learning.
I really am not expecting much, I've had success with talking to some nice people over the years but like with everyone else no one stuck around and am pretty tired of all the mindgames people put others through. I'm pretty cold at times but I'm not heartless, just waiting for the right person to open up to. I'm not someone that expects perfection, I just aim to discover the genuine and honest version of yourself and wish to help each other achieve the best version of each other over a long-period of time.
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2024.05.14 21:30 Practical_Step_3930 Even if things do get better I'll never get to experience what I missed out on

I'm in highschool and at the start of it I was always annoyed with the "it gets better after highschool" but, in my case I think it actually will. (in relation to me having bad social anxiety and being friendless to be clear)
I got a job and actually talk to my one co-worker and am able to talk to customers despite having really bad social anxiety. Before I thought I'd never be able to work because I didn't think I could phyiscally interact with others.
This is all great but, it doesn't change the fact that I still at this current momment outside of work am all alone. I've never had friends, elementary and middle school I was picked on and just spent every momment alone in my room outside of school. In school I was of course silent though.
I don't have the best family either and I think theres a good chance I won't be in contact with them when I'm older.
It just really sucks. Things can get better I supposse but, I'll never have any childhood friends. I'll never have any childhood memmories really because I just spent them all alone in my room. No one to share with.
Currently in HS like I said and it really doesn't suck for most people. I have a school of 1200 people and I've seen no more than 10 people eating alone at lunch or being silent like me. Most people actually enjoy themselves.
I wont go to prom. Never went to any dances for that matter (even if they're overrated I just think the experience of going with friends atleast would've been nice). Never celebrated a birthday, probably won't when I'm older either since bday celebrations don't really happen.
Haven't gone to any "last day of schools" either because whats the point? Just a "class party" where everyone talks and eats together while I'd just sit in a corner.
Things really suck for me right in this momment yes but, I'm atleast a bit optimistic college will be far better for me, me just having independence as an adult will be better in generel yet, I don't think I'll ever not be a bit bitter I wasn't able to enjoy anything or do anything in my childhood/teen years.
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