Hi, it's my first time building a PC and I want to know if I need to have a GPU before I build my PC. I live in Australia and right now I only have enough money to buy every component apart from the GPU. I'm planning on getting a rtx 4070 or 4070 super, depending on which one has a better deal. For my CPU I'm getting a ryzen 5 7600 along with 32 GB of ddr5 cl30 ram. (See part picker below) I was planning on getting all the parts except for the GPU and using the integrated graphics on the CPU until I can afford the GPU. I plan on playing games like terraria and making beats in FL Studio while I wait for my GPU. Is the any reason that I shouldn't do this?
Parts (Any recommendations are welcome cuz this is my first time)
https://au.pcpartpicker.com/list/vzBVz6
PCPartPicker Part List: https://au.pcpartpicker.com/list/pjfbgB
CPU: AMD Ryzen 5 7600 3.8 GHz 6-Core Processor ($299.00 @ Centre Com) CPU Cooler: Thermalright Peerless Assassin 120 SE 66.17 CFM CPU Cooler ($59.00 @ Scorptec) Motherboard: MSI B650 GAMING PLUS WIFI ATX AM5 Motherboard ($276.58 @ Amazon Australia) Memory: Corsair Vengeance 32 GB (2 x 16 GB) DDR5-6000 CL30 Memory ($179.00 @ MSY Technology) Storage: Crucial P3 Plus 2 TB M.2-2280 PCIe 4.0 X4 NVME Solid State Drive ($188.00 @ Amazon Australia) Video Card: Gigabyte WINDFORCE OC GeForce RTX 4070 12 GB Video Card ($898.77 @ JW Computers) Power Supply: Corsair RM750e (2023) 750 W 80+ Gold Certified Fully Modular ATX Power Supply ($139.00 @ Centre Com) Total: $2039.35 Prices include shipping, taxes, and discounts when available Generated by PCPartPicker 2024-05-15 18:21 AEST+1000

So I bought 2 diffrent ram kits some time ago and that was before I knew it wasn't smart ( I didn't do any research when buying). After some time the pc became laggy like I it sometimes slow on just google when having youtube open, especially if I got a game open. Like it takes sometimes a video 10 seconds to load or even longer.
what should I do? turn down the speeds, or take them out or somthing out? Ram: Kingston fury 3200mhz ddr4 8x2 + 8x2 Thanks (:

Hiii everyone,
I’m still debating which sport atv im going to buy as my first. I have been strictly looking at the raptor 350 only because I’m familiar with Yamaha’s build quality and just the overall reliability of them.
Edit: Yamaha raptor 700 is way to expensive for me right now!
But when searching for them I also came across some Suzuki ltz 400 offerings ( same price as the raptor 350 sells for in my country ), now I don’t know a lot about the ATVs of Suzuki but I have read some good things about them. My main problem is is that I have heard from almost EVERY YouTube video or forum about sport atvs they always state that the Yamaha raptor is the unbeatable king of the sport atv world. Are the strictly talking about the raptor 700 and 450? Or does it also include the 350?
My main driving experience will be on trails and on the road ( gotta drive to the wood and back home ofcourse ).
Which would be best for mainly CASUAL trail riding and a little bit onroad driving.

It has been around an month after I built my PC, and so far it has been great. Recently, I have been looking at building a smaller (and cheaper!) SFF PC that would go into the cinema room.
Our cinema room has a 4k (pretty sure 120hz) projector from when we moved in, however prior to this we would just connect laptops to it to watch stuff, which is annoying as it takes a lot of time to set up, etc. There was also the occasion in which we plugged in my friends Nintendo Switch and played that.
Since then, we have wanted to build a PC that would multitask for both gaming and video playback. Now, this gaming would probably be something like Minecraft, console games, Nintendo emulation, etc. Maybe more things down the line, but no AAA games. I am going to load up 2 Operating Systems and use GRUB to alternate between them. This is AndroidTV and Windows. Stuff you can play with controllers. However, since the screen is 4k, I would like to make use of that. Would that mean I would need to get something more expensive than my current build that I through together?
The build so far: https://au.pcpartpicker.com/list/xQQJ9c
Please keep in mind that I live in Australia, so prices differ here a little bit. You can choose Australia in PCPartsPicker to see our prices ;)
**Parts**
I chose the Terra case so that it would look nice and fit into the cabinet underneath the screen. If it is too small, I am open-minded about buying one that is slightly larger to fit everything. *Would I need to mod the cabinet for adequate airflow?*
Currently am having a small debate over GPU. Since I want to make use of NVIDIA's VSR (Video Super Resolution) to be able to constantly watch 4k video (YT, etc), I am looking at their GPU's. However, if you think that it isn't practical, I am also not too concerned about getting a GPU from AMD either. *I am thinking of either getting a 4060, a 4070, or a 3080ti.* My friend is selling a used 3080ti for $800 AUD, which is approx double the 4060 but the same price as the 4070. However, would a triple fan GPU even fit in the terra case? The 4070 is also almost $800 AUD. Or is the 4060 enough? It would also be preferably quiet so as to not disturb cinema sessions. (no heat issues)
Also having trouble with the CPU. *Would a 12th gen i5 be enough for all this, or would I need to upgrade to an i7 11th or 12th gen to get stable 4k performance in games?* Will probably use Ryujinx + bedrock mc, however might install some other games later down the line.
**Technicalities**
Now, onto the non-parts part of this post. Would it be possible to connect a remote to the PC, and if so, to turn on the pc based on input from the remote?
Is it possible to basically run an emulator such as Ryujinx as its own OS, or would I need to open it through windows? (Load GRUB, select Ryujinx, that's the only thing open) Basically so that it would function the same as a switch until I shut it off/restart, in which case I would be prompted with OS choice again.
Lastly, is this even worth the hassle? Would it be easier to buy something else to fulfil all of these requirements, such as an xbox, and forget about it? My parents also want to do karaoke off of the PC, and I am sure it is possible through windows, not so much about locked OS's.
Thanks for reading, and I hope you can help me in building a pc for our cinema room with for this functionality.

Mate, let me tell ya, Judaism doesn't buy into any of that prophecy fulfillment stuff that Christianity says Jesus did. But, I gotta admit, there's somethin' about him that pulls me in. I watched this video of his crucifixion, and mate, it hit me right in the feels. I felt this deep sorrow for the bloke. But then, in a split second, it hit me like a ton of bricks, mate. I realised why I felt that way and the whole context of it just smacked me in the face. It's tough for me not to have any sympathy for him after all he's sacrificed.
But getting to the point in the Hebrew bible there was a prophet named "Joshua" which is my name. and oddly enough Joshua is one of the many names related to Jesus. So that's my case here

I need to buy a new laptop for university and remote work. I do a lot of photo/ video editing (1080p footage with 3-5 effects on average), RAM intensive tasks and need something that has a good balance of battery life and performance since I intend on using it for the next 2-3 years before upgrading
The most obvious choice here is an M1 Macbook Air, however I can't seem to find any for under 180k, hardly saw 2-3 ads that had it listed for 175 ish ( plus, havent used MacOS ever in my life so idk if i'll like it). The other choice i have is an HP Victus i5 12th with an RTX 3050. The performance on that one is good but i dont like the bulky form factor since I need something portable. Besides, the battery life on it sucks too (3-4 hrs on one charge) so thats a bummer, yet i can easily find it for around 165-175k range.
Are there any other suggestions in this price range? Currently have an ideapad 3 with an i5 10th gen, 12 GB RAM and 256 SSD. It gets choppy while editing videos and handling more than 15 tabs plus slack/ teams at the same time, looking to sell this one for around 80-90k. And oh, the battery life SUCKS, goes from 100-0 in just 2 hours, stretches to maybe 3-3.5 with battery saver. Defo need something that lasts 6-7 hours.

Hello! I'm building my first PC and I choose to buy the big boy itself, the 14900k, with the motherboard MSI z790 gaming plus wifi. While watching video reviews of the motherboard someone mentioned a "it loses a bit on the VRM as is using the 14 + 1 + 1...." And that's why I'm here. Is the motherboard right for the CPU? Should I change it? I will use this PC as a workstation for my 3D projects, using softwares like Maya, blender, z brush, nuke, Houdini ecc...
Thank you so much, I'm lost.

Can i buy AMAZON PRIME VIDEO TURKEY??

First of ALL

• I don't play games
  • because am busy right now in my life but later on I will be playing games
• am buying the hard disk as a second hand and its very cheap
  • its like new, only 4 months of use
• I wont be putting in it no games
  • I will put videos and memories and large file like back ups
• I haven't in my life did get banned or even account suspended
  • though I didn't play a lot of games
• the driver is permanently banned in modern ware fare, and I don't play it
  • the former owner said that he got scammed and bought a banned pc
  • so every thing in his pc is banned that's why he selling the hard drive even though the hard drive is new and bought after the pc

so the question is :

• will my steam/epic games account get banned ?
  • I have them from a long time ago so it would be a problem

i’ve(25f) been with my fiancé(28m) almost 7 years. he has 2 kids from a previous situation. our entire relationship, i have almost singlehandedly raised his kids. he was their dad of course, did all the dad things, but i always had to be the responsible, organized, “traditional parent” parent, because he just would not break out of this “grown child” behavior pattern. i was waking up at the ass crack of dawn every day to get the kids ready for school, pack lunches, coordinate with their teachers, make meals, do the grocery shopping, give them all their baths, buy their school clothes with my money(bc he seemingly never had a job) and i grew tired of it and left after 5 years. after months of being broken up we hooked up a few times and i got pregnant. we decided it would be best to get back together because he had “turned things around”, had a job, was providing for and taking care of the kids.
surprise, surprise, the baby came along and he no longer has a job, barely contributes as a parent and just plays video games all day. he maybe sees the baby 3 times a day. holds her for a few minutes and gives her back, but when i ask for help, or for 30 minutes to shower or do the dishes, he huffs and puffs about it. baby doesn’t go to bed til 5am every night, and he often pulls all-nighters playing video games, streaming, or just up with insomnia. i have no problems getting to sleep at night, but im never able to because im caring for the baby. it often turns into me sobbing from exhaustion or having outbursts, because when i ask him to keep her so i can rest, his response is “when do you expect me to sleep?” or “it’s not fair that you get to sleep and i have to stay up” when he stays up all night anyway. we argue about his often, among other things. there is no intimacy or romance. i feel like a single mom with roommates, and im growing very tired of it. any thoughts or suggestions?

Use cases:

1. View documents & media
2. Read and reply to emails
3. Video calling
4. Internet browsing
5. Taking online courses
6. Note taking (stylus would be amazing)

My mom stays away from me, alone. When I was living with me, I was responsible to do all the online or PC work for the house. Now that I've moved out, it's difficult for her to get any official work done on her phone. She just doesn't like reading stuff on phone. Small screen, plus it mentally worries her due to her tech paranoia.
Also, a non-negotiable is zero to minimum bloatware apps and stuff. She uses a Realme that she bought on her own because she didn't want to spend a lot on her phone. And now she regrets buying it as the bloatware is nothing but an extra step of worry for her. She ends up clicking pop-ups which has me worried.
I'm looking for a tab that can help suffice her needs. It'll be amazing if the tab takes sim cards, but not a deal breaker.
The budget i have is 20,000-25,000INR (i wouldn't mind pushing it a bit more for a bloatware free experience for her). it would be amazing if there are any sub 20k tabs that fit the need. Thanks in advance guys :)

Hello,
I want to hear people’s thoughts after explaining my situation and experiences as a way of seeking advice. I’ll list things in a random order.
The first time I traveled across the pond was to Europe, specifically to London, Amsterdam, and Kraków. I practically worshipped Europe at the time and thought of it as a wonderland. I don’t want to say specifically, but I experienced romance for the first time since high school. However, things didn't go too well in the end when we messaged each other after parting ways. When I finished my trip, I yearned to come back and stay longer than a week. This was two years ago.
Last year, I visited my ex-girlfriend from Poland and I had the best time of my life. It was really nice spending time with someone the whole time while abroad, seeing her for the first time during our long-distance relationship. However, things changed, and it feels like I don’t have that similar, personal obligation to travel anymore. She was my first girlfriend. I don’t know if I’ve spoiled myself by always wanting to be with someone to travel and stay with, especially someone who I know and love.
I do have aunts and uncles who live in England and the Netherlands, and I’ve visited before and had a good time when I was with them, but I don’t know if I’ll be a nuisance and bother them.
Last autumn, I was in the Netherlands, and I got a really cute Indo-Dutch waitress’s number at a restaurant. I remember my aunt telling me how much she looked at me during our conversation with her. I wanted to see her again, but I was only there for a week and she said she was too busy with university and work. I’ve thought about her ever since.
From last December to mid-January, I was at the Philippines seeing family for the first time with my mom and had a good experience celebrating New Years there. I met a Russian girl at Boracay, and I thought she was the one, but she led me on and was interested in her ex from Moscow.
I always prefer traveling to Europe, but I know that Europe is becoming increasingly more right-winged with immigration. I’m not sure if I’ll feel welcomed anymore if I visit, even when I try my best to respect the culture of every country I visit. I get anxious when people stare at me as a foreigner and somebody who looks different than the average European. In comparison, being in the Philippines felt safe since I was with people who were also Filipino, especially since I was born and raised in the US.
I’ll admit, I’m a hopeless romantic and simple-minded, and I don’t know if I travel for the right reasons. I don’t often experience romance in the States, and it either feels emptying, lonely, or indifferent at times. Girls always say they’re too busy with their schedules, but when I travel, most girls abroad are willing to spend time with me. I prefer traveling to see someone, but I don’t know if have that anymore.
Sorry for sounding so negative and lost. I’m not having the happiest time in my life, given my health condition — chronic fatigue, loss of coordination, muscle weakness, but slowly recovering — and quitting university. I’m not sure what to travel for anymore. I have connections that I can meet and spend time with in Europe, but I feel anchored to stay home in California for some reason. I think it’s fear of going, having heartbreak again, experiencing bad anxiety, or just doing something plain stupid. I don’t have anybody in my life that feels close. I’m 23, and at the same time, I don’t know whether to sit on my ass and act grateful now or still do things that make me feel young again in my 20s.
Now, I have been watching Jacob Koopman’s busking videos of him singing romantic songs in the streets of Dublin, and I’m having THAT feeling again — Europe and love.
I’m hesitant to plan and buy plane tickets for this summer.

I (28f), my husband (31m), our son(1m), my SIL(29f let’s call her Tee), and my BIL(19m let’s call him Jay) all live just moved in a house a little over a month ago. We all agreed to split the rent. My husband and I rightfully take up 2/4 of rent cost because that’s fair. My husband and I have been paying all other bills/utilities.
For some additional context my BIL(we’ll call him Jay) failed his senior year of high school last year as my MIL(Call her Vee is a single parent with a sponsor as a coparent we’ll call him Bee) was traveling for work and wasn’t able to fully focus on Jay’s schooling ect. Jay loves video games a lot and had been playing video games instead of doing schoolwork including instances of my MIL taking away the devices and him sneaking them back. Tee, who until the last 4 years pretty much raised him and at the time lived 4/5 hours away, took his game console from him only for my Bee to buy him a PC instead.
My husband has been wanting to step in and help for a while to kind of act as a “father figure” for Jay. I convinced my Vee to allow us to take over and get him through his second senior year, with lots of pressure from Bee and Tee. The PC came with him as he needed it for school. Despite Tee, Vee, and I protesting that he won’t stay focused. We made an agreement he sends his grades to my husband and does chores and he can have play his video games when he’s not working, weekends and breaks for school. Well Jay will be graduating this year at the end of the month.

Over the weekend Tee and I drove to Vee’s home, who lives a couple hours away, for Mother’s Day. It was about 11am, Tee had just gotten off work as she works 3rd shift and I slept in a bit as I had a late night with my 1yo. Jay doesn’t go as he had to work that night and my husband left ahead of us with the baby as he had other things to do earlier that day. I ask Jay to do dishes and take the trash out before we leave and before he goes to work as we were running . We come home later and neither was done. Jay says he didn’t hear me say it. My husband tells him it’s cool do it when he gets home. Everyone goes to bed as we’d all been gone all day and Jay starts on his chores. 

Monday morning Vee calls asking Tee insisting that she goes to Jay’s school to check him out as there’s only a few weeks left of school and Jay has finished all schoolwork. I know the issues that we’ve had this semester including an instance of Jay showing grades from another semester so that he can keep his gaming privileges for the weekend as per our agreement with him. Him missing days due to having the wrong days for a school break and him lying to us saying he didn’t need to go to his classes in the morning(my husband called the school and it was a blatant lie). So it’s safe to say I think it’s a bad idea as he can still be failed for missing too many days.

Tee loses it because she’d gotten up later in the night and saw him up on his game and the task/chores weren’t done and she’d had to tell him to do them at around 3 am. She’d also woken up around 8 am and he hadn’t gotten up for school so she’d had to also wake him up for school(my husband had to do this multiple times last week as well and he had an important test). She says he needs to stay in school. I tell MIL it’s fine but my only worry is his tardies and absences. Vee calls the school and confirms Jay is good to go. They say yes. So now I’m like ok cool. 

My SIL calls FIL and starts ranting at him about what BIL did the night before and having to wake him for school. He says he feels like we(SIL and I) were jumping on Jay and treating him like a kid, which I can see that. I tell him no the same task/chores he does I do as well besides the trash. I just don’t have to be told as if I see something needs to be done and have time I do it. I also cook, I do grocery/supplies shopping for the entire house and my husband and I pay all utilities. He just continues to say well he pays rent there too. I get angry and just say well we pay everything else. He continues trying to talk over me and reiterating how Jay is an adult. He also starts playing the age card making it seem like because he’s older i need to respect him and just listen and not talk back. I let him talk and he’s just saying the same things over again about Jay being an adult and I just say “well you buy him food and other supplies then.” He then decides that he wants Jay to move out. I just need to know if I’m the AH here? Because I’ve been thinking I could have handled the conversation better with my FIL.

My wife and I are struggling to motivate our 12 year old to do chores of any type.
We have a vacation planned for July that has been planned for about six months. We've asked him to do some chores such as mowing the lawn, walking his 8 year old sister home from the bus stop, assisting in cleaning the kids bathroom etc in order to help earn some of the spending money for this trip. Every day we have to convince him to do this and we are met with excuses and sometimes tears.
He also wants to build a gaming computer and we have told him we would meet him halfway with cost of parts. We don't want to just buy parts with no work from him.
He does not want to do any outside chores and will ask for alternatives every time they are suggested.
Earlier today our 8 year old spilled something on the stairs and we asked him to help her make sure it was all the way cleaned up. He asked my wife how to do that and when pressed he started back peddling and saying the instructions for how to watch her clean just were not clear. This is unfortunately a pattern that has caused us a lot of trouble with holding him accountable, if we ask him to do a chore we have to follow him around to make sure it's done appropriately and a bigger mess is not made. This is not sustainable for our household where my wife is often home alone with three kids while I'm working 12 hour shifts at the hospital.
He won't pack his own lunch anymore so he has decided just not to eat at school because he doesn't like school lunch. He can't clean up after anything in the kitchen because it's a mad dash back to video games and friends or TV.
If we call him on these things he isn't disrespectful but he doesn't hear us, instead be starts profusely apologizing and sometimes will just shut down. We have him in therapy and I've suggested talking to his therapist about it but my wife is concerned we will come off as complaining about him.
Any advice would be very appreciated.

Not sure if this is the right place for this but I've been doing a bit of research on video game music and building up a portfolio and I thought I'd ask the community some pressing questions I have about the career.
I have some high quality WAVs of game music sorted into albums and moods.
Do people regularly buy stock music from sites like Unity Asset Store or itch io?
If I put up my game music on these asset stores and it does get purchased as an official soundtrack can I still share it for streaming on regular distributors like YouTube and Spotify? Would it be more a question of my official soundtracks for specific games are more a custom commission so it wouldn't matter for the songs I have written under my portfolio? The licence would be ad hoc in that case.
Should I be marketing my game music to these asset stores if I want a chance at getting noticed?
I am well aware that the music side is quite saturated but I'd like to try my hand at it anyway. I'd love for a song of mine to get used in video games.

TW: brief mentions of depression, suicidal ideation, and attempted suicide
When I (28F) was growing up, I was the golden child of the family. I didn't know it back then. Up until I was in high school I had a younger sister and an older half sister I only saw a few times a year. It wasn't like I never got in trouble or got yelled at, in fact I have a very vivid and hurtful memory where I was called a liar by my parents when I was being 100% truthful (they just didn't want to hear it and wanted someone to be mad at I guess), and then I was told to just "suck it up and get over it". But compared to my younger sister, who was compared to me in every way, I always had the perfect grades, perfect attitude, perfect behavior, etc. Our parents, especially our mother, who was the main parent taking care of us during the week, pretty much pitted us against each other constantly. My little sister was being told she needed to be more like me, and I was told my sister was a bad kid. I would try to help her stay out of trouble as a kid and would get mad when she didn't listen to me because i didnt understand she was just being herself and didn't need to be exactly like me. Up until college, I didn't understand that my sister didn't need to change, she needed her parents to love her as she was and help her instead of trying to mold her into some ideal of perfection. We were picked apart constantly about every little thing we did, and I was expected to always somehow know everything even if I'd never learned it before. My house was full of constant yelling due to the extremely high expectations and my mother's terrible temper, and it became a very stressful place to be starting when i was around 10. We went through a lot of financial hardships as well since I was very young, so I dont want to dismiss how hard things were for my parents and how much they went through. But I have always been hyper aware of how much it costs for me to exist as my mom stressed so many times over the years that she couldn't afford to buy even a new shirt because she had to buy stuff for us, as if that was at all our fault.
When i was in high school, my baby brother was born. He pretty much instantly became the new golden child, not only because he was the youngest and the only boy, but because it became clear at a very young age how intelligent he is. I was a straight A honors kid and he was blowing me out of the water since he learned to read. I didn't mind at all because 1) I was going to be going to college in a couple years, and 2) with our age difference, he was as much my son as my brother, and I took on a very loving parental role with him of my own volition. I also saw the promise in him and I wanted him to live a happy life. My little sister and him are very close to this day, at least to my knowledge. During this time they were still coming down really hard on my little sister, treating her as well as they always had - meaning they still yelled at her constantly and were overly critical of her and everything she even thought about doing. They talked about sending her to military school more than once, and pretty much resigned themselves to the idea my sister would never be able to live on her own before she even got to high school, let alone graduated.
Flash forward to when I was in college, I started coming home and noticing things about how my parents treated my sister, and for the first time I saw it for how terrible it was for her. The distance and time I spent away from the house helped my little sister and I completely change our relationship by my second or third year. What really solidified it was a series of events that happened my junior and senior years of college.
My sister moved to our town with her husband with their 2 very young boys, and we soon found out she was pregnant with twins. That is kind of where it all began to fall apart. Time showed not only that her husband is a massive pos, but also potentially abusive, although we never got concrete proof. As my sister's pregnancy progressed and they struggled to get on their feet, my parents started watching my nephews for hours at a time, sometimes the whole day. And if my parents had to babysit out of nowhere and put their lives on hold, me and my younger siblings were expected to do the same. No toys, no books, no games - nothing. Essentially, the entire house was expected to babysit in a way that i have been told wasn't normal. Even my little brother was expected to take on this role in caring for kids who were only a couple years younger than him. I spent my entire childhood taking care of my little sister and then my baby brother, and I hated seeing how they were doing the same to him when me and my little sister were at the age where it shouldve been left up to us. I started really butting heads with my parents as the situation progressed because they started yelling at my baby brother when the boys would even bump their heads even though it wasnt his fault. He never mistreated them, hit them, pushed them , or anything, so my parents justified it by saying he wasn't being a "good uncle" by "letting them" bump their heads on the tv stand, for example. He was expected to let them play with all of his toys, and my mom tried letting the boys use things that were very important to my brother, which would've ended up with the boys taking those things home. Saying it that way makes it sound a lot more mild that it was, but I'm trying to save time and not give out too many personal details. I guess you could say in short, my parents began expecting my elementary school age brother to give up his time, his space, his toys, his gifts - anything that meant anything to him, to help care for children when he was still a child not much older than them. I ended up giving my baby brother my room to not only keep his stuff in, but to sleep in.
In the end, my sister had the twins and then moved back to her home state about 6 months later. We think her no good husband lied to her about us and she cut contact with all of us, and we haven't heard from her since. In our house, the damage was done. I had long conversations with my little sister when our parents weren't around about how she needed to get out because of how they were treating her, and how I would eventually graduate and move to a city where I could find a job. But neither of us wanted to leave our little brother in that house because we were worried how they would treat him when we both left. Our parents had already proven they would throw any of us to the side at any second, even their golden child baby boy, and blame even him for anything that went wrong. Our parents have a history of spilling all our business at any holiday meal and badmouthing any little mistake. They would talk shit about us in front of us and shame us in front of family our entire lives, and if my sister and i weren't there to take the brunt of it, how long until they turned on my baby brother. Would they even wait until he wasn't "perfect" anymore?
Throughout all of this, I was struggling a lot in college, and starting around junior year i became very depressed and suicidal, which resulted in a major attempt in my 5th year of college, which to this day i don't like talking about. Before that, however, I went to my mom about feeling depressed and told her i thought i needed to talk to someone. She brushed me off. I was dumb enough to think that maybe she thought i was exaggerating, so i tried a second time to ask her for help about a year later, and she brushed me off again. Part of me blames her almost entirely for my attempts, because i came to her before any of them because i knew thats where it was headed if i didnt get help. All she had to do was make a couple phone calls to find me someone to talk to and she couldn't even do that for me. I was a scared girl who needed her mom's help because i didnt know who to turn to, and she turned her back on me. After my final attempt, I pulled myself up and got help, but my financial aid ran out and I was unable to return to school and finish my degree, so I went back to my parents house and was absolutely miserable for the next 6 months. I felt like a failure, like I wasn't "perfect" like i was supposed to be. I felt suffocated every single day and like the only ones who wanted me there were my siblings. One day I tried a little experiment and sat in the living room with my mom for the entire day and she didn't say one single word to me, didnt even acknowledge my existence. Ever since the stuff with my nephews happened, I had doubled my efforts to protect my siblings and take the brunt of my mom's anger, so I pushed back a lot when they tried to get onto my siblings for ridiculous things. I ended up ghosting my friends for 3 months because I was so depressed, and it really scared them. It was then I knew i had to get out of that house or it would kill me, so I moved into my grandparents' house a town over.
Things at my grandparents' house started okay, and i was even able to confide in them what had been going on at my parents' house, which in the end turned out to be a big mistake. I got a job working overnight at a retail store and met the guy who is now my boyfriend of 3 years. Unfortunately, the longer i spent at my grandparents' house the more i saw where my mom got it from, and they ended up treating me just as bad as what was going on at my parents' house. The only difference was that my sister wasn't there so i was taking the brunt of all of it. When things started getting tough for them after my grandpa retired, instead of sitting down with me like an adult and asking if it would contribute financially, my grandpa cornered me in the car when he was driving me back from work and guilted money out of me with a sob story. And guilted me at the dinner table the second time when they needed more money. One time i walked in the house after work and before i had even taken my shoes off or put my purse down to get my wallet out, he blocked the door to my room with his hand out like a loan shark to give him the money. I payed for all my own expenses, took short showers and kept as many lights off as i could, and told them not to buy me anything, even food. And in the end, even though they guilted me for money, then more money, and promised they wouldnt kick me out, they sold the house out from under me when they knew i was still trying to save for an apartment with what little money i had left a month. I ended up having to live with my best friend and her husband or i wouldve been homeless. I still helped them move even when they f-ed me over. And even after all that, I still went to holidays and visited my parents from time to time.
The last time i saw my grandparents they ran into me and my best friend in a store. My grandpa saw me first (he and my grandma were in different parts of the store), and starting yelling at me for pretty much cutting them off since i hadn't been to see them for months, and then when he started realizing he looked like the bad guy tried to make the reason i stopped talking to them about politics (i live in a conservative area) as if that would justify it. When my friend and i were trying to grab one last thing before we left because i was humiliated and trying not to cry, my grandma cornered me at the deli counter, had me pinned between the counter and a cart so i couldn't leave, and started yelling at me too. I was so broken back then, but i tried to tell both of them i would talk to them but not in the store. They just wanted to scream so we left. I haven't spoken to them since and have no plans to.
Eventually i moved 2 hours away back to the city i had went to college in. During that time, my grandparents drove the 3 hours to try to find where i lived, and then called trying to get me to come downstairs. I was asleep for work at the time but it made me feel so uncomfortable that they would do that. And after living there a year and my bf and i commuting to visit each other every other week, it came to the point where if i wanted our relationship to continue i had to move back. This is not something he ever brought up to me, this was a decision I came to on my own. So two years ago I moved back to the area I grew up in. We live an hour away from my hometown and 30 minutes away from the town i met my boyfriend in. And although he has family in both areas that we visit, I haven't seen or really talked to my parents or siblings since i initially moved out of the area.
A year ago, after a year of silence from me and from my parents, I dropped a box off at my parents' house when they weren't home with souvenirs i got them on vacation when i first moved back, short letters to each of them about the gifts, and a long video letter on a flash drive explaining everything I felt because i knew i couldn't go on without being honest and i knew if i tried to have a conversation in person, they wouldn't listen to me. I told them i wanted to keep them in my life but i couldn't ignore everything that had happened and the ways they treated me and my younger siblings. I told them i had no interest in continuing a relationship with my grandparents and that anything they have told them probably wasnt true. I sent them scans of my diaries as "proof" that i wasn't lying because that's the kind of house i grew up in - if you couldnt prove it, it didnt happen. I laid myself completely bare so that i could heal, knowing the whole time they may never want to speak to me again. I gave them pictures of me and my boyfriend and my new phone number anyway. The only thing i didn't give them was my address because we live on his family's land and his family, knowing a bit about my family and also about my grandparents essentially stalking me, don't want anyone from my family nosing around on the property. I don't want that either so i agreed not to give it out. The people in my life who knew about the box and the letter turned video letter were supportive of the idea given all i had been through, and I thought dropping it off would be the end of things.
Since then, I have healed from everything that has happened. I'm still angry and sad and i feel like I'm grieving every day, but I'm not the spineless, scared girl i used to be. My boyfriend has helped me become a better person in so many ways. But i still miss my family, especially my dad. I feel like he didnt deserve what i've done for reasons i cant go into, because the reality is he depends a lot on what my mom tells him because he works, and he trusts her deeply. I feel like in some regards he depended too much on her word, although he isnt completely innocent. There's obviously a lot more to my story that what I have here or else I'd be writing an autobiography, but just know if this all sounds like it isn't a big deal, I have so many stories and so much more detail that isn't safe to give out here.
The reality is my parents and i pushed each other away until we all became strangers long before everything blew up. I felt like a stranger from the time i left for college. I was made to feel like if i wasn't at home, i was a second thought, and a lot of very serious issues happened while i was away that i didnt find out about until i came home. My last year of college i was physically starving and could only afford to eat one meal a day if that. When i had left for school at the beginning of that school year my mother made it clear i had to figure it all out myself because they had no money to give me, but then i came home for Christmas and everyone but me had all new electronics. I cried asking for money to buy my uniform to start my campus job but they bought all new computers and tablets. And that stung.
Last Christmas, my parents and siblings messaged me. It was the first time I had heard from them since before i dropped off the box. It was just a Merry Christmas, but it absolutely shocked me. And then they all messaged again on my birthday. Same thing, just little pleasantries, but it makes me feel like maybe that door isn't closed. However, I have absolutely no idea if we can move forward, if they want to, or even if its a good idea to try. I have struggled a lot since college about whether or not all of this and everything I wasn't able to share here is or is not a big deal. I've had people close to me listen to my whole story and call it emotional neglect and abuse, but I just don't know. I feel crazy most of the time, and I'm afraid I'm exaggerating or making it up for attention or something, which also doesn't make sense. I struggle a lot in my day to day. I am ruled by the emotions of those around me and i cower like a kicked puppy when people around me are upset, even if its not my fault. I get ashamed when i make a mistake or i'm not "perfect", and if my feelings are valid I have no idea if it would be a good idea to get back in touch. But i think about if/when my boyfriend and i get married, and how i have no family to sit on my side. It sometimes feels like it's my fault because i wasn't strong enough to just shut up and deal with it anymore. At this point I dont know what is the right answer, what's going to finally give me peace. For now, I just keep moving forward trying to build a better life with my boyfriend and hope all the pieces will fall into place later.

I’m just trying to understand if this is something that is common/happens to many women. My stepmom is 36. She used to act like an adult but over the past couple years as me and my sisters got to be teenagers she started acting differently. She dresses like a teenager. She is addicted to tiktok. She buys all the same products as me and my sisters and we’re teenagers. She plays childish video games on her Nintendo. She likes to vape and sit in her room and game and wear pink. She uses a baby voice a lot. She used to be really open minded and direct. Now the whole house has to walk on eggshells with her. Is this a “midlife crisis” (I don’t know if that’s an appropriate term so I’m sorry.) like you can’t say a word to her without her getting immediately defensive. She has a young son with my dad. My dad is a pretty supportive husband honestly, at least from what I see. She works from home and doesn’t get any housework done anymore. She doesn’t make dinner for anyone anymore. It’s really strange. She’s pretty much addicted to shopping online. She had a history of alcohol addiction but is sober. Ever since she came back from rehab she’s been like this. Any ideas on what this is all about? Any idea if I should say something? Any ideas on how to help the situation? It’s very confusing and odd.

Bebika Dhurve is a Mumbai model, singer, and social media star. She became famous in the showbiz business after being born in Mumbai in June 1993. Fame came to Bebika when she played Devika Oberoi in Zee’s Bhagya Lakshmi. The show showed how good an actress she was. In the second season of Bigg Boss OTT, bebika dhurve and Avinash Sachdeva took part. Voot, a streaming service, was the first to show this digital version of India’s popular reality show. Bebika attended a nearby high school, but little is known about her education. We are still determining what she did after she finished high school. Bebika Dhurve is well-known in the entertainment industry thanks to her talent, charm, and rising popularity. Her career as a model, actor, and social media star is set to get much better. Most of the followers want to know the age of Bebika Dhurve. Keep reading to know about her.

Family

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Career

In 2019, bebika dhurve made a big splash when she got her first job playing on the TV show Bhagya Lakshmi. Many people gave her praise for how well she played Devika Oberoi. Awards and honors showed how dedicated and talented she was. Being on the second season of the famous reality show Bigg Boss OTT in 2023 was the next big thing in Bebika Dhurve’s path in show business. She quickly became one of the most loved contestants on the show as people got excited about her. Bebika showed her toughness and charm by making it to the show’s end, where she came in third place.

Bebika Dhurve Husband or Boyfriend

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Medical Career And Beauty Pageants

Bebika Dhurve‘s job is unique because she is talented and promising at many things and has worked in many fields. Her first job was as a dentist after getting her Bachelor of Dental Surgery from the Rajiv Gandhi University of Health Sciences in Bengaluru, Karnataka. On top of having a background in medicine, Bebika is also a qualified fellow of the American Academy of Implant Dentistry at Roseman University in the US. Putting away her clothes, Bebika chose to try something new in 2020: beauty pageants. Her college teacher pushed her into the world of beauty, which made her decide to do this. She entered The International Glamour Project Miss India pageant, which helped her learn more about new things.

Bebika Dhurve in Bhagya Lakshmi

Bebika Dhurve
The Indian actress bebika dhurve is well-known in the TV business thanks to her part in the famous show “Bhagya Lakshmi.” As the figure “Devika Oberoi,” Dhurve has captivated viewers with her unique screen image. Dhurve plays the “Devika Oberoi” role in the famous Hindi TV show “Bhagya Lakshmi.” In the serial, she showed how good an actress she is by being believable. Many people liked her performance because she could show strong emotions and make her character come to life. In her playing career, the part of “Devika Oberoi” has set a high bar.

Bebika Dhurve in Bigg Boss OTT

Do you know in which tv shows with bebika dhurve have worked? Bebika Dhurve made a significant impact as a contestant on Season 2 of the famous reality show Bigg Boss OTT. That made her stand out with her unique style and attitude, and she made it to the finals. She stood out in the Bigg Boss OTT 2 house because she was brave and didn’t hold back her views. Bebika Dhurve became well-known on Bigg Boss OTT for her angry rants and fights with other contestants. Even though things were tense, her fans never stopped supporting her. She talked about how she felt about favoritism in the game, especially how other players, like Elvish Yadav, Manisha Rani, and Abhishek Malhan, seemed to get special treatment. Her appearance on Bigg Boss brought attention to her fearless nature and strong opinions.

Interesting Facts

• She is very skilled in many areas. She is an astrologer, a dentist, a model, and an actress.
• She loves visiting new places, even though she has already visited many countries and areas.
• She likes food a lot, especially fish.
• She was second at the Miss India 2020 pageant and reached the Top 15.
• She feels great about herself and goes to the audition even though she hasn’t done any acting training.
• Bebika Dhurve was a dentist while getting her Bachelor of Dental Surgery at the Rajiv Gandhi University of Health Sciences in Bengaluru.
• One of her college teachers urged her to participate in The International Glamour Project Miss India 2020.
• Bebika played Devika Oberoi in the 2021 Zed TV show Bhagya Lakshmi, but she quit because she didn’t get along with the other players.
• She was one of the contestants on Voot’s Bigg Boss OTT Season 2 (2023).
• Bebika likes to buy gold and diamonds, and she and her father both have expensive jewelry that she bought for them.
• She likes pulling jokes and wants one on Bollywood star Salman Khan.
• Bebika has a dog because she loves animals.
• She would rather watch films and videos than read books.
• Bebika loves drawing and gives the money she makes from selling her art to help people with Down syndrome.

Conclusion

By the end, bebika dhurve has shown herself a complex person with many skills and achievements. Her hard work, determination, and love for what she does have helped her succeed in many areas, inspiring others. Bebika Dhurve is an excellent example of greatness and drive because she keeps working towards her goals and making a difference in her community. Hopefully, you will know who is bebika dhurve.Family
Her family moved to Mumbai. When she’s working hard, her five sisters have always supported her. Her mother is a homemaker, and bebika dhurve father, Pandit Janardhan Dhurve, is a prominent Mumbai astrologer. Bebika demonstrates her affection for her family on social media.

Career

In 2019, bebika dhurve made a big splash when she got her first job playing on the TV show Bhagya Lakshmi. Many people gave her praise for how well she played Devika Oberoi. Awards and honors showed how dedicated and talented she was. Being on the second season of the famous reality show Bigg Boss OTT in 2023 was the next big thing in Bebika Dhurve’s path in show business. She quickly became one of the most loved contestants on the show as people got excited about her. Bebika showed her toughness and charm by making it to the show’s end, where she came in third place.

Bebika Dhurve Husband or Boyfriend

Are you curious to know, who bebika dhurve husband is? Bebika Dhurve is not married and is single. She is very dedicated to her playing job, so she hasn’t thought about getting married and having kids. The people in her family are critical of her and always back her in her work. Bebika said in an interview with TellyChakkar that she is not hurrying to get married. Her main goal is to focus on her work and reach her goals before she starts the process of having a family. She stressed the importance of finding a partner who understands and supports her work goals and busy schedule.

Medical Career And Beauty Pageants

Bebika Dhurve‘s job is unique because she is talented and promising at many things and has worked in many fields. Her first job was as a dentist after getting her Bachelor of Dental Surgery from the Rajiv Gandhi University of Health Sciences in Bengaluru, Karnataka. On top of having a background in medicine, Bebika is also a qualified fellow of the American Academy of Implant Dentistry at Roseman University in the US. Putting away her clothes, Bebika chose to try something new in 2020: beauty pageants. Her college teacher pushed her into the world of beauty, which made her decide to do this. She entered The International Glamour Project Miss India pageant, which helped her learn more about new things.

Bebika Dhurve in Bhagya Lakshmi