So there is a block section on this app for valorant but not an unblock so will there be an update to add one because I accidentally blocked a friend and now we can't play. I was able to give them party code to join and we've played but now that I give party code to join I'm not able to hear them in game. So what can we do about adding an "unblock" section on Riot Mobile? Also how to fix the part where I can't hear that person in game? I do appreciate your time thank you very much.

Before I start this, I just want to answer some question I know I’ll probably have to answer later, or share some information that might be important.

1. I have gone no contact with him. (He tries to bait me into talking to him.) Only my friend group knows about the alcohol.
   
2. I know for a fact he drinks, I was with him once when he did it.
   
3. It’s not his parent’s fault, he sneaks it from open vodka bottles in their refrigerator.
   
4. I know he is drinking while underage, I plan to report him to the school counselor if he doesn’t seek help.
   
5. We’re both gay, though I do not like him like that in any way shape or form. He swears up and down he doesn’t like me like that either, but take that how you will.
   
6. He has allegedly been drinking since he was 7. I can neither confirm nor deny this.
   
7. He blames all of his problems on the alcohol.
   

I, 16m, was friends with another boy, 15m, for roughly 4 years. We used to call each other every day to play games. Every single day for 4 years. Everything was fine until I started hanging out with our other (mutual) friends.
After I started hanging out with other people, he began to get very jealous and bitter towards me and the friend I was talking to. He would act annoyed and upset whenever I would do things with my other friends, even though it’s the same things I would do with him. This is when the arguing began. He would make snarky comments toward me indirectly through his bio on either a game we play together or the app we use to text and call. He would always deny that it is about me, even if it was blatantly obvious. (For example, I used to give myself nicknames on the game we play together. He combined the starting letter of the 3 I've used and said something along the lines of “ABC gave me everything but real love.”)
We would argue like this and he would come to school like nothing happened and act friendly towards me, even if it was obvious that I didn’t want to act friendly with him. He would also frequently block me for absolutely no reason, and unblock me after a few hours. If I asked for a reason, he would get mad and change the subject. Of course, I got tired of this and blocked him back one day. To nobody’s surprise, the next day at school he was talking to me and making jokes like absolutely nothing happened.
One day, he even decided it would be a great idea to ignore me while I was sitting right next to him. I would talk to him, wave my hand in front of him to get his attention, and even tap his shoulder. No response. I obviously got fed up with him and let my friends know in a group chat that he isn’t in what was going on incase they were curious why either of us were annoyed. (This wasn't the best idea, I know, however he gets mad when I hang out or talk to them differently than I do with him so the most logical thing to do was to not let him know when I hang out or text with them.)
Before this next part, I have to go back a little bit. Because we would play games together, we would log into each other’s account to farm or grind for something the other wants. This lead to him knowing my password and email. Since he saw me typing on my phone, he saw the group chat that doesn’t have him in it. He took that as a sign that I was talking shit about him to our friends (I truly was not.) and decided to try and hack my account. Luckily, I’ve always used a secondary email on the games we play, so he only got my old account.
Not knowing that this happened, I forgave him for everything that he did prior. A few days later, at the end of school before I left, we were talking when he said the name of my secondary account. Of course, I asked how he knew about it, and he said he logged in. I obviously got very angry at him for this, as I had not given him permission whatsoever. I told him I would have showed him my messages had he just simply asked. This caused him to get angry at me for being angry at him. (He also got angry at me when he got the notifications that he had been removed from my email. I also changed my passwords, have no fear.)
After discussing this with our mutual friends, they confirmed that what he did was not okay. Because I was getting more distant from him, he thought that he should buddy up to someone else in our friend group. (He barely speaks to anyone else if he doesn’t have to.) Of course, he chose the one person that he supposedly hates based on past events. (Not my story to share, I apologize.)
(I don’t remember this part all too well so take it with a grain of salt.) After a while, I decided to give him another chance. We had a conversation where I brought up all of the issues I had with him in a few paragraphs. (Mainly stuff about boundaries and respecting me. Also for pulling my hair whenever he got the chance even though I told him multiple times on multiple occasions to stop.) His response was changing the subject to something different, and about me. I promptly him shut down, however, as he was bringing up stuff that I didn’t do, insisting that he at least acknowledges his problems instead of pretending everything is fine. This ultimately lead to him getting angry and ending the conversation with his signature “Okay. Bye.”
He then went back to pretending everything was normal with me, though he was talking shit about me in a group chat with our mutual online friends and one of our real life friends (The one he hated that I mentioned previously.) She would tell me everything he said about me, but she didn’t want to get involved so I couldn’t call him out for any of it. At this point, I was just tired of fighting, so I went with it. Many more minor arguments happened after this. I won’t include details for the sake of this post not being too unbearably long, since what happened was basically the previous fight over and over.
A while later, one of our friends called him out for his shit, as I had been letting them know what was going on for every argument we had. He got really heated over this, and told her to kill herself and that he never valued her as a friend. She gave no shits at all. He was promptly removed, or left on his own, from all of the group chats with her in them except our main server. They had each other blocked, though to nobody’s surprise that didn’t stop him from talking about her or to her in the server.
Though 2 out of 5 people in our friend group wanted nothing to do with him, that didn’t stop him from sitting with us and trying to joke around with us like nothing happened. For a while, everything was fine. I wasn’t talking to him, he wasn’t talking to me. Another fight happened between him and the friend he hated before, but that isn’t my story to tell either, sorry. The only thing I can say about the fight is that he mentioned his alcohol addiction.
One thing lead to another and I decided to give him one last chance. Again. So, I had another conversation with him, letting him know that im serious about unfriending him if he doesn’t talk to his therapist about the alcohol, jealousy, and obsession with me.
I gave him until the end of the week to talk to his therapist, or I’m gone. Everything was fine until the weekend. I went on a trip to Dollywood on the weekend, 4 of my friends being there. He of course did not come on the trip, as he isn’t in the school club that took us. I asked him on Sunday if he had talked to his therapist about anything yet, and he had said no. I rightfully blocked him, just as I said I would. He proceeded to play the victim and started asking our friends what he did wrong, pretending that I hadn’t told him anything about blocking him.
I unblocked him momentarily to send a message on why I did it. I told him blatantly that if he didn’t talk to his therapist I would block him, and he did not. I may have been a little harsh with my words, but keep in mind that I have given him many chances to grow and learn from his mistakes that he has not taken. He needs help, and I can’t help him. I wished him the best, but told him that the best is not something I am capable of giving him.
After I blocked him again, he edited one of his messages to “call me out” for not doing what he wanted. He claims that I should’ve just listened to his issues and tell him everything was fine instead of letting him know that what he’s doing is wrong. He doesn’t want help, he wants someone to ignore his problems. I told him that im not that person and im tired of pretending I am. He proceeded to make his bio things along the lines of “You never actually loved me” once more.
After his numerous attempts at getting me to talk to him by making his bio about me, I got fed up. I confronted him, letting him know that I don’t want to be friends with him, I don’t want anything to do with him, and that he needs to stop talking about me in his bio. He of course pretended his issues didn’t exist, instead telling me that he would get help for real this time. I let him know that he just admitted to not trying to get help the first time, and that in lying to me, he broke my trust in him.
Because I knew he wouldn’t try to get help, I blocked him after saying goodbye once more. This is when he started openly shit talking me and the friend that called him out one single time. He changed his bio to things about my body he knew I was insecure about, such as my forehead. While I admit that this wasn’t the best thing to do, I gave him a taste of his own medicine. He’s a bigger individual, and he’s told me that he’s insecure about his weight.
Again, I apologize for what I said to him, I was angry when I said it. He said I have a sixhead, so I retaliated with seventeen stomach and that he can’t be talking about me when he looks 5 years pregnant. I mean no hate to pregnant people, I was angry at him when I said it. I do not condone rudeness towards plus sized or pregnant individuals. Back to the story.
He made a post on a platform we all use about how he hates Taylor Swift fans, especially the blonde ones. (Ironic when he was talking about how he liked her a while ago. Also, the friend that called him out is blonde and a big Taylor Swift fan.) So, in retaliation, our other, OTHER friend commented the username to his twitter account where he actively reposts nsfw images of gay furries, often depicted as children. I was the only person that knew about it, since he reposted such images and showed them to me in class, to my discomfort. I am usually not one to air out dirty laundry like that, however he had done something similar to me a while back, and I honestly didn’t care how it would make him feel.
I took another page out of his book and edited my message since we had each other blocked, telling him to stop shit talking me in his bio, and that I wanted nothing to do with him. Since that happened, he hasn’t made his bio anything about me, instead changing it to some joke about being 5 years pregnant.
Nobody has told me that what I’ve done was wrong, I just would like to make sure that I’m not in the wrong here. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

So I started dating my bf 7 months ago (we are long distance relationship) around October last year and he was one of the sweetest guy I’ve met. Him and me instantly clicked and that rarely happens given my picky nature so I mentally promised myself I’ll make him the happiest he could be and be there for him if he ever needs me. For the first few months or so, everything seemed fine. He did tell me about his family issues and what not but it didn’t really affect him too much so we just did fun couple stuff like Calling on VC, gaming together etc.
I think around late Jan, that’s where he started to become less involved in the relationship and I noticed he started to spiral down. We slowly no longer Game, VC or do anything fun. Initially I just assumed that he’s super busy since he has found a new job and taken on a few more responsibilities but it’s clear it’s more than that since he would not be so responsive and what not but he still had time to make romance with me so I tried to be there as per my mental promise.
Shit started hitting the fan once April started and he told me he wanted a break from the relationship for a few days to a week and I gave him his space. A few days later, he told me that he’s feeling better and is here to stay but things didn’t really change I guess. Just only on one day around mid April did he feel happy enough and we spent the day gaming and VC for the first time in 2.5 months but I had a feeling it maybe the last as once late April rolled around. He told me he wanted to part ways and I of course was devastated so I simply asked him if he truly really wanted to separate. He sounded unsure himself and in the end he reversed that decision after having a heart to heart talk.
May (this month) rolled around and he again said “we should part ways” but he still sounded unsure when he said that because I know deep down he still have feelings for me and I still had feelings for him too. Then he told me that he’s gonna leave and not come back forever to take a break and yeah he unfriended me and blocked me on most socials for a few days before unblocking me but as of right now, he’s just really depressed and moody. Like there’s an air of pessimism around him.
Reddit, tell me what I should to moving forward?
Tl;dr (Bf slowly got more depressed over the months and I’m not sure how to help him)

seeking advice or maybe just to hear from others in similar positions. i’ve always wondered if this person is my twin flame. there has been way too many coincidences. i met him back in 2019, when i got my first job. ironically enough we both started working the same week, and at the same fast food spot that is a couple cities away from where i live. anyways met him at work right? then, one random day while im out on a walk i run into him in front of my house, turns out that he’s practically my neighbor. so FIRST coincidence. lived on the same street all these years but didn’t meet each other until we ironically started working at the same place. so nothing came of it that first year BUT the following year, we began exchanging texts. so one of the things i’ve heard about twin flames is that before the first separation you most likely won’t get physical with them. the times that we did hang out, we could just talk and talk. i remember one night we grabbed icecream after going to the movies and we just stayed in his car talking about conspiracy theories and all that. it felt so special and so intense. on our last hang out we had been previously flirting through text. i just had the feeling that we were probably going to hook up. again, we were hanging out and talking about a shit ton of different things. hours of talking before we started making out (lol) things of course escalated but it didn’t really go down, i guess he wasn’t one to do hookups. and he was in his head about it. so it was a failed hookup. drive back home was awkward and tense. anyways, it wasn’t too many days later when he hit me with a whole explanation of how he doesn’t do hookups and how sex is an energy exchange etc etc. I replied with confusion because he was the one who had initiated the whole thing, even when we were only making out he’s the one who initiated the sex. I tried to be understanding but he quickly just cut me off. we lived near each other so there were unlucky times where i ran into him and he would basically act like i was invisible. not too long after i moved out from my parents house, i was away for four years and always thought of him and even tried to look him up but could never find him. at that point i had also deleted his number so i just knew I wasn’t supposed to contact him. i moved back home last year, within a week of being back home, i run into him. but we just walk past each other and don’t make eye contact. a couple days later, he makes an ig account and even though i don’t have his number, insta send me a notification of “your contact _____ is on instagram as @_______” weird? SECOND coincidence, he had been off of insta all these years and I move back and he goes back on & insta suggests his profile. anyways we reconnect, he apologizes for everything. it’s not long before I realize he is still very unhealed. and i’ve done my own self-healing work. i’ve grown a lot. but when it comes to him it’s like the slightest unhealed part of myself comes out. we communicated for a bit before the toxicity came back and now we’ve been on and off blocking each other. i haven’t ran into him (ironically) but i believe we are on different vibrations which is why the universe is doing its job in keeping us apart. anyways, he recently unblocked me but i reached a point where i finally feel done & fed up with his games. in twin flames i know at one point the feminine becomes the runner, i feel i am there. but is this my twin flame? i know twin flames don’t necessarily end up together because for that both parties would have to heal and do a LOT of work. but i feel like our experience is definitely one of twin flames?

SPONGEBOB SQUAREPANTS NUMEROLOGY DECODE

Since we all know exactly who and what Spongebob is, I am going to do a Numerology decode.
When it comes to Numerology, there are many different things you can look into. I am going to look into the letters, patterns, and Numerology personality numbers.
SPONGEBOB has a personality #6. 6 is the number of compassion, work ethic, criticism, cleanliness, and productivity. In the funny show, we see that Spongebob is a workaholic. He has a 5 destiny number which shapes who you are overall. 5 is connected to youthfulness which explains the silliness of the Spongebob character. He is always laughing and doing things funny. The 5 energy indicates this. 5 also points to people, places, and things that are unique. He has an 8 soul urge which explains his undying ambition and creativity.
We can see that SPONGEBOB has 2 O's which has the numeric energy of 15 and numeric value of 6. 15 is the creative use of energy for productivity. Again, 6 is the number of routine, work ethic and productivity goes with this. This energy is not only his personality number, but also it is within his name. It's really in him.
SPONGEBOB HAS DOUBLE NUMERIC VALUES IN HIS NAME WHICH ARE, 7,6,5, AND 2. This explains why he is able to show his emotions and have moments of sensitivity(2). Very compassionate(2) but also childish and silly(5) and able to come up with plans that work(7). Since these #s has double influence, we must considered what they equal. 7 twice equals 14/5 which shows how he is responsible and can make work fun even though it is a duty(6). 6 twice equals 12/3 which shows his social skills, life, and creativity. Another youthful energy as well. 5 twice equals 10/1 which points to his bravery and capability to take action. 2 twice equals 4 which is home,family,responsibility, and structure on the home front and he would make everyone feel comfortable for the most part.
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R someone give me rational.
okay, first i should say, i have some ideas why he could be doing this. (Bear with me i will share) typical mind fuckery- control and chaos etc.
While i am aware it could be that simple, things with him tend to be much deeper. So humor me with deeper reasoning and rational. I mean unless it can only be that simple.
Okay the deets -
My ex and i have been falling apart and off and on constantly since the beginning of April. It started with complete block out of the blue (it isn’t but it is but that’s a different story, regardless it wasn’t rational how it was handled) a week later he reached out because someone banged on his window in the middle of the night and with his current state (some paranoia and damage coming to the surface from a possible narc and some gaslighting from a parent) he thought it was me and reached out (first I have a feeling he knew it wasn’t but wanted the excuse and with the paranoia and being undermined he wasn’t confident either) So since about the second week of April it’s been very unstable. Nothing abusive, i have my own trauma from a very abusive narc so things would get very heated but other than the mental exhaustion it isn’t like horrific. Just unstable and it’s hard to get my footing. Anyways, we have kept saying we want to go to couples therapy. But also in the week of no contact said parent mentioned talked him into moving across country. Not necessarily a horrible idea I want what’s best for him even if he’s clear across the country. Through all the back and forth and off and on trying to figure everything out I’ve definitely been blocked and no contact enacted. Finally he comes around before moving at the end of April we had some really good breakthrough (keep in mind apparent paranoia and i can be a lot to deal with as well) he ends up going back to the unstable comes over in the middle of the night (we were suppose to drive out there together later in the week) with one hour doesn’t tell me why, and leaves chaotically - he flew. That afternoon he calls me apologetically and explains and how he regrets how he left, and ultimately he should’ve not gone and should’ve waited and gone with me. We have about a 2 hour conversation about everything, and i do understand both thought processes (going together and just leaving ) of course I’m emotional about it but i get mental health and our own traumas trying to run our lives. He asks to come back and take it day by day and either do the road trip, or stay etc. i should mention we are also best friends - we have invested a lot into one another.
Anyways he flys out the next day, of course the paranoia continues to come and go. (I should explain it feels like a witch hunt at this point that i have some angle to hurt him etc) a couple days goes by and finally he takes off, and i assume he leaves to go back. He blocked me no communication and he told me I was the only reason he was here. Well the next week comes around and i realize he had unblocked me and had the phone off or something because suddenly everything i sent that day (just talking into the void i thought) sends. And the next day. And finally midweek we have couples therapy. (Also he had sent an email saying he wants me out of his life) so i am shocked he goes. Of course it doesn’t go well his paranoia is hooked on the fact i did something unspeakable. He does say he loves me etc and that’s why he wants this. It’s just all over.
Anyways, this “pretend blocking” continues. Why? He does not reach out he says nothing. But at this point i know I can send something and i have an idea of when it will go through because im not actually blocked just no service to his phone vs when i am actually blocked.
He owes me some money, and I need it. I wish I didn’t, I hate that I need it that badly, but I have been explaining this and also he literally gets angry at the idea of me ever assuming he won’t pay me back. It’s like a pet peeve he is always one to be good on those things.
Anyways what the fuck is this game? Like either leave me blocked or, say no. Why is he doing this, and he knows I’m aware what he’s doing.
The part that makes me think it’s more than just some immature game is that, through these past two weeks me being done over everything a couple times has been very upsetting to him, like very very visible. Even in therapy, when I said why the fuck after that email - he was completely shocked and hurt. But I am tired of being told I’m manipulating him or doing something evil. I am just trying to get my money and leave him alone. This is for him to work out and get help etc. I have explained it doesn’t change how I feel but I can’t stay begging or getting upset because those feed into the negative thoughts that I have bad intentions.
Why is he doing this? Rationalize it for me. Heh 😅

okay, first i should say, i have some ideas why he could be doing this. (Bear with me i will share) typical mind fuckery- control and chaos etc.
While i am aware it could be that simple, things with him tend to be much deeper. So humor me with deeper reasoning and rational. I mean unless it can only be that simple.
Okay the deets -
My ex and i have been falling apart and off and on constantly since the beginning of April. It started with complete block out of the blue (it isn’t but it is but that’s a different story, regardless it wasn’t rational how it was handled) a week later he reached out because someone banged on his window in the middle of the night and with his current state (some paranoia and damage coming to the surface from a possible narc and some gaslighting from a parent) he thought it was me and reached out (first I have a feeling he knew it wasn’t but wanted the excuse and with the paranoia and being undermined he wasn’t confident either) So since about the second week of April it’s been very unstable. Nothing abusive, i have my own trauma from a very abusive narc so things would get very heated but other than the mental exhaustion it isn’t like horrific. Just unstable and it’s hard to get my footing. Anyways, we have kept saying we want to go to couples therapy. But also in the week of no contact said parent mentioned talked him into moving across country. Not necessarily a horrible idea I want what’s best for him even if he’s clear across the country. Through all the back and forth and off and on trying to figure everything out I’ve definitely been blocked and no contact enacted. Finally he comes around before moving at the end of April we had some really good breakthrough (keep in mind apparent paranoia and i can be a lot to deal with as well) he ends up going back to the unstable comes over in the middle of the night (we were suppose to drive out there together later in the week) with one hour doesn’t tell me why, and leaves chaotically - he flew. That afternoon he calls me apologetically and explains and how he regrets how he left, and ultimately he should’ve not gone and should’ve waited and gone with me. We have about a 2 hour conversation about everything, and i do understand both thought processes (going together and just leaving ) of course I’m emotional about it but i get mental health and our own traumas trying to run our lives. He asks to come back and take it day by day and either do the road trip, or stay etc. i should mention we are also best friends - we have invested a lot into one another.
Anyways he flys out the next day, of course the paranoia continues to come and go. (I should explain it feels like a witch hunt at this point that i have some angle to hurt him etc) a couple days goes by and finally he takes off, and i assume he leaves to go back. He blocked me no communication and he told me I was the only reason he was here. Well the next week comes around and i realize he had unblocked me and had the phone off or something because suddenly everything i sent that day (just talking into the void i thought) sends. And the next day. And finally midweek we have couples therapy. (Also he had sent an email saying he wants me out of his life) so i am shocked he goes. Of course it doesn’t go well his paranoia is hooked on the fact i did something unspeakable. He does say he loves me etc and that’s why he wants this. It’s just all over.
Anyways, this “pretend blocking” continues. Why? He does not reach out he says nothing. But at this point i know I can send something and i have an idea of when it will go through because im not actually blocked just no service to his phone vs when i am actually blocked.
He owes me some money, and I need it. I wish I didn’t, I hate that I need it that badly, but I have been explaining this and also he literally gets angry at the idea of me ever assuming he won’t pay me back. It’s like a pet peeve he is always one to be good on those things.
Anyways what the fuck is this game? Like either leave me blocked or, say no. Why is he doing this, and he knows I’m aware what he’s doing.
The part that makes me think it’s more than just some immature game is that, through these past two weeks me being done over everything a couple times has been very upsetting to him, like very very visible. Even in therapy, when I said why the fuck after that email - he was completely shocked and hurt. But I am tired of being told I’m manipulating him or doing something evil. I am just trying to get my money and leave him alone. This is for him to work out and get help etc. I have explained it doesn’t change how I feel but I can’t stay begging or getting upset because those feed into the negative thoughts that I have bad intentions.
Why is he doing this? Rationalize it for me. Heh 😅

Ideapad Gaming 3 15ARH05 - clean Windows 10 installation issue
Hi everyone.
Recently I bought gaming laptop as in title with Windows 11 installed. It had limited version so I decided to install clean Windows 10 instead. Unfortunately during clean installation from Windows it crashed ("The installation failed in the SAFE_OS phase with an error during PREPARE_FIRST_BOOT operation") as it didn't restarted just looped with restarting and circle still moving.
After that I tried to install clean Windows at the boot of the system and I can't make installer run i.e. on legacy mode installer is starting but after choosing version (64 bit) on the beginning it was choosing the option of update or clean install and then just showing the blue screen and now it's only showing blue screen (cursor works fine).
Do you know how can I "unblock" option to install clean Windows?
Thanks for any help.

In advance, sorry for the rant. It's just after-game frustration.
So, I decided to come back to DBD after taking over a year-long break. In the first 3 games I decided to play Skull Merchant, Huntress and Demogorgon.
Now, I knew people didn't like Skull Merchant but 3 people giving up right from the start? Really? I just wanted to play a less stressful killer to get into the game. Huntress game went pretty decent. 2K but I am hella rusty with her hatchets so I consider that a win overall.
Now, the demo game... I remembered that Demo was frustrating to play after SBMM but holy shit is it frustrating to play Demo now. It might be the stupid SBMM giving me sweats since I used to play Demo practically all the time before it was added so my MMR might be really high with Demo. But combine that with most survivors being on comms, getting into safe spots before I could even have a chance to do anything and a sabo build tailing me whenever someone was gonna be downed. Man...
Now to the main issue, my fellow Demo/M1 killer players. How in bloody hell do you play around the infinite window on Groaning Storehouse? I feel like there's no counter play as Demo, forcing you to force the triple-vault block which wastes a good minute, only to have the survivor get into another safe loop which they leave again for the infinite window whenever it gets unblocked. I thought this would have been solved this long after I left but I guess not.

Well to begin Im sorry for my english Its not my langage but I hope I'll be clear.
I started to talk to this girl on a online game in mid January 2024, She liked me secretly and I do too since months but we never talked, I prefer to not talk on public chat of the game so I talk rarely, until a day she started to talk to me in the public chat then she wanted to add my discord and we talked everyday and we started to be very close.
She had a difficult childhood she grew up with parents that were addict to drgs she spent her life to see social workers etc... she was raised for long by her grandparents and she found them dead one day, her mother did 2 or 3 years ago because of drgs but she said she wasnt affected because her mother used to mock her appearance on social medias, her father broke up early with her mom since 2013 he doesnt talk anymore to her, he just asked if she was okay after her mum did and nothing more.So her stepfather adopted her he was with her mum before she was born and now she live with him his ex and her daughter that come often the stepfather is a alcholic and take drgs sometimes he ask all her money too. Her situation is college in cooking course but she dont go since months, she never had many friends in her life too.
Back to her and me the feeling is so good I am happy I talk with the girl I used to secretly love for months and she is more happy, I treat her very good I always take care of her health (walking to have physical activity ,eating good at the right hours, having better sleep schedules, being careful to her weight up her self confidence etc) I never forced her to do all those things she know its for her good and she enjoy it. I always called her with kind surnames (my life, beauty, my bby etc) she said in febuary I treat her like nobody never done with her, like every couple we do little mistake she used to do alot but I always had empathy to her because I love her I always forgave her very fast and we started to talk back like nothing happened she wasnt affected I wasnt too it never slowed down the relationship.
I'll talk a little about me, I grew up with a violent father who used to bet me and my sister since we are kids (now he stopped to bet us but Its certain he can do it back we are just more careful with my sister) so yes it can happen again. I wont do all my life Ill do the recent events that happened recently; In june 2021 I was in a car crash with 2 friends, nobody were hurt but I had a big trauma then In january 2022 my grandma did of heart attack at 68 she still the only person that protected me when my dad wanted to bet me one time, then in may 2023 my dog did he was 14 I grew up with him I didnt wanted to see him ded but I did I didnt had the choice. In late August 2023 I had a huge beef again with my dad because I was looking sad he insultd and downed me so with my sister we decided to move, 15 days later a classmate I was close from 2017 to 2020 di*d in a car crash at 22 then in december a workmate who helped me alot when I had to move after the beef with my dad left the work place because of toxic bosses. Then I met my girlfriend like I said In january.
She know all that and I know all her past so we were strong until the last week I did a mistake I talked to her badly because she started to show me less motivation I said that to her,I also did a test I asked her to block me everywhere to see if she was able to do this on someone she love and... she did everywhere, she didn't block me on a mobile game so I sent her hundreds of messages to explain her why I talked to her like I done, for 5 days straight she always answer with negative and short responses that reject me, the rest of the day she ignore me. Today I said on the mobile game chat, the only place I can talk to her, that I cant live like that anymore that I dont understand why she do that to me when I always treated her good caring of her health self confidence etc I wished her a good luck and ill always love and miss her, 4 hours later she unblocked me on discord today (12 may) at 16pm she gave me a chance so I reassured her and show her all is good like i always did with her she kept answer with negative replies like I dont want to be in a relation with you right now in some months maybe it affected me but I still reassured her she said she still love me so I wanted to be sure I asked her to say I love you to me and she blocked me again... even on the mobile game that is the only way to communicate with her. So I ask a friend on the online game we met to talk to her and she is still very negative and said she dont want to see screenshots of my messages (the friend lived that too in autumn 2023 and I helped him) to conclude i spoke to her only 2 hours now Im blocked everywhere again.
8 days ago before all that my girlfriend told me a friend (a girl) she know since long is coming to see her the saturday 5 May, I was at work this day I though of her and her sad childhood all the day I was happy the night when I finished work but she was gone with her friend it wasnt planned, I was disapointed but I didnt tell her I said enjoy with your friend then the next day the morning I was busy i was paying my taxes and she said I wasnt busy, I was mad I know Its not a reason to be mad but since I had the car crash and lose my grandma i used to take medication to control my anger but I stopped to take them after I moved out of my parents house in august 2023 then I had to come back to their house 3 months later. That why on the tuesday I talked to her bad (I was awake since 20h straight)I explained why it happened and I buy medications and take them back she know all that.
Now about her friend since she came back in her life now my girlfriend have someone else to spent time with its one of the reason she ignored me alot now I just feel she loved me to fill a miss or to make jealous a ex maybe. I dont understand how she can change so quickly toward me in less than a week she keep giving me fake hopes and she will continue now she have someone to support her.
What should I do I already lose 6 kilos in a week Im starting to be depressed, should I stop trying to ask my friend to ask her to unblock me or I try to reassure her more if she unblock me ? Thanks you.

I know this is obviously not new. I love this game, but does anyone else genuinely consider quitting the game over the RNG on the random tag in mechanic? Like literally mid combo you tag in and either take an unblockable special or you use the special you were tapping on one character om the one who gets tagged in often several specials throughout a fight. I know some might just think to suck it up but it seriously makes me beyond mad when I waste several pips and get almost no where simply because of rng and nothing to do with skill or how hard you've worked on the game.

Hi everyone.
Recently I bought gaming laptop as in title with Windows 11 installed. It had limited version so I decided to install clean Windows 10 instead. Unfortunately during clean installation from Windows it crashed ("The installation failed in the SAFE_OS phase with an error during PREPARE_FIRST_BOOT operation") as it didn't restarted just looped with restarting and circle still moving.
After that I tried to install clean Windows at the boot of the system and I can't make installer run i.e. on legacy mode installer is starting but after choosing version (64 bit) on the beginning it was choosing the option of update or clean install and then just showing the blue screen and now it's only showing blue screen (cursor works fine).
Do you know how can I "unblock" option to install clean Windows?
Thanks for any help.

You have been given the important task of designing your fighting game's final boss, now you just need to figure out the following:

• What theme are you going fowhat is your inspiration?
• What do they look like?
• what would their fighting style be?
• How impossible or easy are they to take down?
• Do they have a second phase? If so, how strong would the second phase be?
• Optional: If you want, you can get into specifics on how they're broken (death combos, specific moves that can chain into unblockables, how broken would the roster version of the boss be, etc).

This has been infesting my skull house for the past few days and I need to know what you guys would do.

Hey 🐞 it’s been a couple months. I’m sorry if It was awkward when we ran into eachother at GoodLife yesterday. I tried making sure u weren’t there when we went as to not start anything. Scott and Liam wanted me to do it because fuck it right. I feel like it’s been long enough. I know ur done with me and u said u wouldn’t care if I texted u so who cares right. The guys were sayin u were being petty by like hovering near us and like talkin to zach and laughin n shit but it is what is dude. Im tired of all this bullshit, blocking me or deleting ur tiktok or whatever u did was the Cherry on top. After months of thinking and ruminating and talking with my therapist lol I’ve like realized most of our relationship I was the one showing u more love than I was getting back. I was the one initiating texts or kisses or cuddling.I know we have different ways of showing love but you can’t tell me I stopped loving you or stopped showing you love.idk I feel like it was an issue and you even brought it up and asked and I said yeah maybe I’m not feeling enough love from you but after a week or two it would go back to normal. Towards the end of our relationship when things started going downhill that’s when I fell into the routine of playing games eating like shit and seeing you everyday. It wasn’t healthy for myself or our relationship and I really truly can’t tell you how sorry I am. How sorry I am for ruining the relationship with a girl who I thought I’d spend the rest of my life with. I understand I’m an anxious person and ur more avoidant so I feel like for the first couple months I’m the one who’s really felt the crushing weight of everything whereas you’ve been goin out with friends forgetting.Why should you deserve this message. Why should I give any more of my fucking time or brain power to this shit. You’ve done nothing but lie to me since we broke up. You’ve done nothing but talk shit to my friends about me. You fucking hate me. And I get it. That’s how I got over 👹. But 👹 is a different story dude. What did I seriously do to deserve to be treated like fucking dog shit. I know how much love I’m capable of giving and you have no roll in it. I know my worth. And I know that I can only love somebody as much as I love myself, you have no idea how hard I’ve been working. Working on myself. You didn’t wanna be there for me when I was going through shit 🐞, it’s not fair. I was there for you through everything that happened last year. And when I lose my job and stop trying you pack ur bags and block me on everything. Then lie and say ur gunna unblock me. Then text me on TikTok a month later and lie again. And about zach dude like i saw the way u were talking to him. You 100% wanted me to see and make me jealous but like dude, that just proves so much abt u as a person. I knew he was ur backup. You knew he was ur backup. It’s just so fucking disappointing. Anyways I’ve emotionally detached from you. That’s why I feel like going to GoodLife manning is no issue at all. See you tmr

Years ago, end of 2020 and very early 2021, I (at the time 19M) became friends with a guy (at the time 26M) through an online server we were in together. After chatting a little, we eventually formed a rapport where we’d text daily and throw jokes at each other. After some time, I started forming a crush on him, which I didn’t entertain because I felt like there was no chance it would come to anything good - he’d constantly make jokes sexualizing me and talking about my (very lacking) sex life, but he clarified once that it was all jokes. He was, in general, much more “active” than I am and would always toss around comments about how many guys he slept with and how good he was at laying pipe or whatever.
He still continued to make jokes sexualizing me, and in-between our dynamic, we had a lot of moments of genuine connection. We texted daily for a really long time and most nights a week, we would send each other “good morning” and “goodnight” messages. He’d ask for me to stream video games for him because he liked watching me play them, he even started buying and gifting me scary video games for me to play since he knew I was a fan of the horror genre. We would watch movies and shows together and have long, long phonecalls into the morning hours since we had a few hours timezone difference. I gave him ideas for planning for his friend’s Vegas bachelors party, and my recommendation actually made it in. I draw for fun and he’d always ask about what I was making and he’d practically beg me to show him if I ever let on that I was working on something. When I was going through the grief of a passed family member, he was there for me and made it clear that he wanted to keep me company so I could feel better.
He worked out and he would sometimes send me photos of him shirtless in the mirror, or sweaty after a session. I’d never really know what to say so I just tried to be supportive.
At the start of summer 2022, I confessed my feelings to him out of a desperate attempt to get the weight that was crushing me off of my chest. I wasn’t expecting anything and I made sure to clarify it - he was kind in his response but something I keep remembering is that he never actually said that he didn’t like me back or not. I don’t know why that stuck out to me.
A month later, he “admitted” to me on a late night phone call that he “didn’t think he was actually gay” and that I was the first person he ever admitted it to. I silently stared at the ceiling and cried. He had only ever told me stories and jokes and comments about how he’d have sex with men. He’d never told me a single moment about having sex or real interest in a woman. He told me that he didn’t feel any emotional connection with any man. His jokes sexualizing me on and off continued. Part of these jokes were how my want for a romantic relationship and my want for safety and affection were somehow more “explicit” than him having sex with people.
We got closer that summer than we had before. We called each other more, we watched movies more often, and he insisted on us marathoning Cowboy Bebop together because it was his favorite anime. I caught COVID for the first time in August due to my fuckhead relatives not telling me that someone had it during a wedding, and I was bedridden for a week. He kept me company for so much time - nearly streaming video games for me every night. I’d hobble downstairs after everyone had left the area so we could play Fall Guys together, and even when he teased me he was kind because every time I tried speaking more than a sentence I would break into nonstop bouts of coughing. He’d wanted to do a DND campaign for me where I would be the only player, and that we’d have fun together where I could play in a sandbox world he’d create for me himself.
After that summer there was suddenly this distance. I’d reach out to ask to watch movies but he was more busy. The streams stopped being regular and he stopped asking for them. The good morning and goodnight messages stopped and the conversations dried up into five-message exchanges where I’d try to engage him but they’d eventually peter out from his end. He started just sending me Twitter memes without any real comments, or the comments he did send were bland and basic jokes.
My father was admitted to the hospital for sudden complications that nearly killed him and I realized I didn’t tell my friend. That was the first nail in the coffin for some reason. Even though he was kind, he wasn’t good at using comforting words - he knew how to comfort me through trying to make me smile and laugh. I didnt tell him and I still don’t fully know why. The distance became more apparent when summer 2023 came and went because I was excited for it. I was hoping we would be able to do stuff and more, but we didn’t. I could have asked him but for some reason I felt like I couldn’t - he was the one that usually asked in the first place. Our text conversations were reduced to him sending me memes on Twitter and he’d turn down my requests to watch movies, even if I asked because I needed the company after a bad day. Out of the blue, one day, he texted me that one of his dogs died. I’d seen photos of his dogs near-daily for years and this sudden revelation shocked me because of how it was just dropped on me out of nowhere - months of this emotional distance suddenly precluding this bombshell announcement. It really upset me and I tried offering comfort but he just brushed it off again when I tried.
At one point I stopped answering his messages because I wanted to see what would happen if I ignored them. The guilt went away for some reason - it vanished and I felt like I was free from the shackles of the situation and like I could breathe in the fresh air. I accidentally messed up though, and after five days of not answering him he chirped and asked how was I, and I broke down. I blocked him before unblocking him a few hours later to confess to him that I was completely melting and that I couldn’t be his friend anymore. I blamed my reaction on myself and my inability to tackle my own emotions, but everyone I’ve explained this to and shown conversations to say that he was emotionally toying with me, even if he didn’t actively realize it.
I explained everything as best as I could through my tears and then told him goodbye. After a few months I wrote a detailed Google doc explaining everything as best as I could and I sent it to him through a social media profile of his that I suspect is dead and inactive now.
I miss him. I miss him so fucking much. I miss his nose and his laugh and his stupid stiff awkward smile and I hate that I ever loved him and that I think I still love him now. Being around him wasn’t good for me but I want him back so badly - I want to go running back to him begging for his forgiveness because I still feel like all of this is my fault. I feel like I pushed through a boundary but the more I look at the big picture I wonder if that boundary was ever really there. He’d make jokes about having sex with me to mutual friends but never having a relationship - hed joke that my need for comfort and emotional vulnerability was because I was a “bottom” and it’s just normal “bottom things”. I miss him so much and I want to contact him again even though everything in me is screaming that that is not the right direction. I see when he’s on Steam sometimes because we’re still friends on that platform and I can’t bring myself to unfriended him even though I unmerged our game libraries.
I miss him. I miss him so so much and I wish he could tell me that everything’s going to be ok, but I think him shoving himself back into the closet broke something so deeply about how I see him that I can’t trust his words anymore.

(I apologize in advance for the long and boring post.)
I got out of an LDR a month and a half ago. I (31) was seeing a guy (he was 27 at the time) from the US. I live in Canada. We met through Snapchat mid-July of last year (he originally found me through the Snapchat subreddit), and I didn’t show much interest in him at first.
It took less than a week for us to basically become best friends. About two weeks into knowing one another, we started dating. We had three anime dates together, then asked me out on our third date. We even dressed up for our first date together (I wore a yellow dress, and a cardigan; he wore a really nice blue button up dress shirt, and black pants).
We were on again and off again for months, with him taking a one week break away from me once in a while, when things between us got too tense, or too overwhelming.
Every time he unblocked me on social media, things would start out slow moving, and kind of awkward, as if we were getting to know each other all over again. And each time it happened, I felt like I was falling more and more in love with him.
We had nights where we’d spend literally all night talking on the phone, with us seeing the sunrise together… our phone calls easily lasted for 6+ hours. We’ve had deep talks about issues with our families (our dads in particular), past jobs, exes, and just about everything under the sun. I’d never bonded with anyone so quickly in my life.
He knows I’m a mom, and it never scared him away. He grew to love my five year old, saying that he wished that he was her father at times. I never liked the idea of stepparents, but before we stopped communicating, I had asked him to be her stepdad. He didn’t refuse.
We were messy together, but we also had so many wonderful and incredible times together. I’ve told him many times about my anxiety, and depression, and low self esteem issues (which he also has these problems), and I told him for months on end that I wasn’t good enough for him, and I couldn’t be perfect like he wanted me to be. He never had any expectations of me, but I felt like I needed to be perfect, because I wanted him to be happy. He was happy with me… I just refused to see it, due to my constant insecurities about us, and my paranoia.
Towards the end of March (a month and a half ago), we got into a “disagreement”, as he called them, over something he had said the night before. His biggest thing with me was communication, and I always failed at expressing my feelings to him if I was upset. I can’t quite remember what was said, but it wasn’t even anything offensive, but I got really torn up about it. He was tired, and wanted to go to bed, but he insisted on staying up with me, so we could talk things out. I insisted that I was okay, and we left it at that.
The next day, things quickly went downhill, and we spent a few hours bickering. He said he wasn’t mad at me, but I felt like he was, so I told him repeatedly that I knew he was upset with me. He didn’t appreciate me telling him how he was feeling, but I kept going… I don’t know if my anxiety was to blame for that, but I couldn’t stop. After a little bit, he decided he couldn’t do it anymore, because I kept reiterating that I wasn’t good enough for him; I kept telling him to dump me, and block me, and that’s I’d never be what he expected me to be.
So, that’s what he did, and I haven’t heard from him since.
We broke up the day before his 28th birthday.
It took a full week for reality to set in for me. Typically, after a week of no contact, he would come back, and we start over on a somewhat clean slate… but not this time.
Before we broke up, I was working on quitting g smoking, and I’d been vaping. Since the breakup, I’ve doubled the amount of cigarettes I smoke in a day (used to be half a pack a day), and I haven’t touched my vape at all. All I want to do is play video games, so I don’t have to think about him; I play for 10-13 hours daily. I struggle even worse now with sleeping at night, because thoughts of him rattle my brain. I have a cyst on my right ovary, maybe the size of a golf ball, and I was supposed to get it checked out a while ago, but I’m refusing to. I don’t even want to look after my daughter, and I’m aware that I’m neglecting her. I’ve stopped cooking, cleaning, and looking after myself. I’ll wear the same clothes night and day, every day, because I don’t care enough to put in any effort with how I appear. I haven’t eaten a proper meal in weeks… just surviving off of pop, junk food, coffee, and cigarettes.
I hate myself for doing this to us. We had plans to meet, eventually get married, and have a family together… and I fucking pissed it all away, all because of my stupid fucking insecurities, and everything else that’s wrong with me. How am I supposed to live with knowing I literally destroyed the one good thing I had in my life??
My heart hurts every damn day for him. I’m still madly in love with him. He has me blocked on every single social media app that we had talked to one another on. I’d kill just to hear from him one more time. I don’t know how to forgive myself, or stop thinking about him. It’s all my fault for driving him away, and I wish I would’ve realized much sooner how truly in love with me he was, and just how good enough I was for him.
This is the roughest breakup I think I’ve ever experienced. I’m done with love. I’m too old to find someone new, and quite frankly, I really don’t want to. He was supposed to be my last, but not like this…
I’m sorry for bitching and moaning to a bunch of strangers on Reddit. I just needed a place to vent, considering I’ve had this all lent up for quite sometime. Not really looking for advice; I just wanted to get everything out in one go. I appreciate anyone who took the time to read this nonsense.

(I apologize in advance for this post - it’s quite long.)
I got out of an LDR a month and a half ago. I (31) was seeing a guy (he was 27 at the time) from the US. I live in Canada. We met through Snapchat mid-July of last year (he originally found me through the Snapchat subreddit), and I didn’t show much interest in him at first.
It took less than a week for us to basically become best friends. About two weeks into knowing one another, we started dating. We had three anime dates together, then asked me out on our third date. We even dressed up for our first date together (I wore a yellow dress, and a cardigan; he wore a really nice blue button up dress shirt, and black pants).
We were on again and off again for months, with him taking a one week break away from me once in a while, when things between us got too tense, or too overwhelming.
Every time he unblocked me on social media, things would start out slow moving, and kind of awkward, as if we were getting to know each other all over again. And each time it happened, I felt like I was falling more and more in love with him.
We had nights where we’d spend literally all night talking on the phone, with us seeing the sunrise together… our phone calls easily lasted for 6+ hours. We’ve had deep talks about issues with our families (our dads in particular), past jobs, exes, and just about everything under the sun. I’d never bonded with anyone so quickly in my life.
He knows I’m a mom, and it never scared him away. He grew to love my five year old, saying that he wished that he was her father at times. I never liked the idea of stepparents, but before we stopped communicating, I had asked him to be her stepdad. He didn’t refuse.
We were messy together, but we also had so many wonderful and incredible times together. I’ve told him many times about my anxiety, and depression, and low self esteem issues (which he also has these problems), and I told him for months on end that I wasn’t good enough for him, and I couldn’t be perfect like he wanted me to be. He never had any expectations of me, but I felt like I needed to be perfect, because I wanted him to be happy. He was happy with me… I just refused to see it, due to my constant insecurities about us, and my paranoia.
Towards the end of March (a month and a half ago), we got into a “disagreement”, as he called them, over something he had said the night before. His biggest thing with me was communication, and I always failed at expressing my feelings to him if I was upset. I can’t quite remember what was said, but it wasn’t even anything offensive, but I got really torn up about it. He was tired, and wanted to go to bed, but he insisted on staying up with me, so we could talk things out. I insisted that I was okay, and we left it at that.
The next day, things quickly went downhill, and we spent a few hours bickering. He said he wasn’t mad at me, but I felt like he was, so I told him repeatedly that I knew he was upset with me. He didn’t appreciate me telling him how he was feeling, but I kept going… I don’t know if my anxiety was to blame for that, but I couldn’t stop. After a little bit, he decided he couldn’t do it anymore, because I kept reiterating that I wasn’t good enough for him; I kept telling him to dump me, and block me, and that’s I’d never be what he expected me to be.
So, that’s what he did, and I haven’t heard from him since.
We broke up the day before his 28th birthday.
It took a full week for reality to set in for me. Typically, after a week of no contact, he would come back, and we start over on a somewhat clean slate… but not this time.
Before we broke up, I was working on quitting g smoking, and I’d been vaping. Since the breakup, I’ve doubled the amount of cigarettes I smoke in a day (used to be half a pack a day), and I haven’t touched my vape at all. All I want to do is play video games, so I don’t have to think about him; I play for 10-13 hours daily. I struggle even worse now with sleeping at night, because thoughts of him rattle my brain. I have a cyst on my right ovary, maybe the size of a golf ball, and I was supposed to get it checked out a while ago, but I’m refusing to. I don’t even want to look after my daughter, and I’m aware that I’m neglecting her. I’ve stopped cooking, cleaning, and looking after myself. I’ll wear the same clothes night and day, every day, because I don’t care enough to put in any effort with how I appear. I haven’t eaten a proper meal in weeks… just surviving off of pop, junk food, coffee, and cigarettes.
I hate myself for doing this to us. We had plans to meet, eventually get married, and have a family together… and I fucking pissed it all away, all because of my stupid fucking insecurities, and everything else that’s wrong with me. How am I supposed to live with knowing I literally destroyed the one good thing I had in my life??
My heart hurts every damn day for him. I’m still madly in love with him. He has me blocked on every single social media app that we had talked to one another on. I’d kill just to hear from him one more time. I don’t know how to forgive myself, or stop thinking about him. It’s all my fault for driving him away, and I wish I would’ve realized much sooner how truly in love with me he was, and just how good enough I was for him.
This is the roughest breakup I think I’ve ever experienced. I’m done with love. I’m too old to find someone new, and quite frankly, I really don’t want to. He was supposed to be my last, but not like this…
I’m sorry for bitching and moaning to a bunch of strangers on Reddit. I just needed a place to vent, considering I’ve had this all lent up for quite sometime. Not really looking for advice; I just wanted to get everything out in one go. I appreciate anyone who took the time to read this nonsense.

I (23M) have been with my girlfriend (25F) for 5 years.
This was my first proper relationship, but she has had multiple relationships before me, the longest lasting 3 years.
I dont know if there's a way to write this post in a non biased way without writing a whole book explaining our life stories.. nor do I know what the purpose of writing this even is, I guess I'm just trying to get some stuff off my chest during a rough time...
I like to think I'm emotionally mature, in reality I don't think I could be labeled as that as I do have ADHD and a good amount of emotional dysregulation and anger issues. But I like to 'think' I am or at least strive to be, because regardless of my issues I do know how a normal person should behave even if I struggle to behave like that, I always strive to be better and only do things with good intentions. I try not to make excuses for myself, I know when I do things that are wrong, I just sometimes don't know how to do the right thing in a way that doesn't come across as wrong.
Ever since me and my girlfriend met I've been telling her - lets be honest to each other, if there are any problems, you can tell me and we can talk about it, communication is key. I always believed all problems can be solved through talking.
But, even after 5 years it's as if she never understood what any of that meant..
We started arguing quite a lot a few months after we started dating, mostly because of petty little things. She'd be dishonest about something, I'd find out she wasn't honest and it'd set me off on a rant complaining about honesty for way too long. For example a common theme at the start was her talking to her ex she dated for 3 years. I didn't really have a problem with that as long as it wasn't cheating, and what she spoke to her ex about was certainly not cheating, her ex was in a commited relationship as well. I knew an emotionally mature person would say that's fine and it was fine to me, I let her know it's fine, but she'd still go and hide that she was talking to them and would lie saying she isn't... Like why? I told you its okay multiple times, you don't have to be dishonest about it, what's the worst that could happen, we talk about it like adults and that's it?
Most of our arguments she'd shut down as well and not say a single thing, it'd be like me complaining to a wall, she would never say she has any issues about me, nothing at all which set me on a tunnel visioned path of even more complaining and failing to comprehend how hard it could be to just talk. A lot of the time I'd say and beg "if you could just talk to me we wouldn't be in this mess", sometimes even begging her to tell me something I did wrong and I'd want her to get upset at me for once so it wasnt so one sided, but that never happened.
I never wanted to be in those arguments, looking back yes it was toxic behaviour from both of us, especially me, and if we argued about such stupid stuff why were we even together?
We stayed together because the times that we didn't argue which were the majority of the time everything felt perfect, so many times we said how great the other person is, it was everything we could've asked for. She was and still is the kindest person I know deep down. We had so many common interests, so many happy memories, so whilst the bad things were blown out of proportion, in the end it was all mostly okay.
Things got better throughout the years, we'd still argue about some of the same issues but we seemed to argue less.
She struggled with mental health just like me, not diagnosed with anything, but she strongly believed she might have autism and was on a waiting list for diagnosis. She's had a lot of trauma in her childhood from bullying at school and even at home because of an alcoholic step dad, she struggled to keep a job for longer than a few months and got diagnosed with some physical problems too like IIH migraines. I tried my best to support her, I researched what we could do to relieve her stress and migraines, how we could get a job for her that she would be happy in, etc.
I saw myself in her as I know how big of a struggle it is to achieve stuff in life when you have problems setting you back. I myself didn't get a proper job until 3 years into the relationship. Then she finally got a job she has been in for about a year now too.
Things were starting to look good, we fought so hard throughout the years to live a better life together and we were finally starting to achieve that, we had money we could spend to go and do things, etc.
Except.. we still had our petty arguments and whilst they did get better for some time, they got worse again. It was exhausting for both of us, I was still mostly the same complaining about the same stuff, she was mostly the same shutting down and making me feel like I'm not being listened to.
Now this is the part which I regret the most that I'm very conflicted by and embarrassed of.. during some arguments things would get heated and I'd end up raising my voice and saying nasty things to get a reaction out of her because it was always so one sided.. I also did things to control her
I don't know if I'm abusive, I don't really understand my actions, I never wanted to be like this, I've questioned myself and read posts online to try and understand what the hell am I, but I just don't know
For example something controlling and abusive I did was only a few weeks ago.. she had plans to go out with her work friends after work, which I truly didn't have a problem with, I was happy for her to go out, she hasn't been going out much and I always thought it would help us having some time away from each other.
I said to her okay, but please don't get home too late and don't drink much. I've had bad experiences with alcohol and drugs in the past, nothing to do with the relationship, just personally it would make me feel terrible so I quit it altogether 3 years ago and haven't been drunk since. Because of her physical problems and mental problems she has to take quite a few medications throughout the day and we always agreed she wouldn't drink much because of it, in case the alcohol triggers any flare ups or interacts with her medication.
She agreed to this, but when the day came she left work at 6pm and only got home at 12am, I could immediately tell she was drunk so I asked her how much she drank. This time she was more honest with me (she was genuinely trying to improve in being honest, this wasnt just the alcohol making her more open) and said she had multiple vodkas, plus a few other drinks, as well as at least 6+ shots, or in her words "so many I can't remember, my friends were just handing them to me and I didnt refuse".
I don't know if I was being unreasonable, but to me getting home around 12am is late and drinking that much alcohol is a lot... which is the opposite of what we agreed on.. now I regret what happened next because she was fine, the alcohol didn't interact with her and she was okay even the next day, but I felt like she didn't listen to something so simple again which set me off on another blown out of proportion rant towards her
But this time it escalated and I blew up at her saying no more going out, she either doesn't go out anymore as she is clearly irresponsible with alcohol or we can break up, I regretted saying it in the moment as I knew immediately that sort of shit is toxic, but in the moment my judgment was clouded by my anger and I just wanted the best for her. I was thinking "but what if the alcohol did react poorly and you didnt listen to me?" I didnt want anything bad happening to her... I felt like I was being disrespected
This wasn't the first time I did something like this when I felt like I wasn't being listened to. Another example would be her playing online games with her friends, which was fine, I'm a gamer myself, but a lot of the time I felt like gaming for her was a higher priority than our relationship.
Multiple times we argued about it and I tried to tell her how I felt, but things didn't really change, which led to me blowing up and telling her she can't use the PS5 which I bought with my own money, I then went and deleted her account and games off of it as a punishment
None of this lasted very long though which is where I'm conflicted as to who I truly am and what my intentions are.. I never enjoyed doing any of this, I hated seeing her cry, immediately after this happened, every time I'd regret it. I'd try and remain stern though hoping it would bring a needed change to our relationship, maybe I'd finally be listened to.. I'd always give in in a few days as I couldn't stand acting like that and things would go back to normal. I'd say things like "PS5 I bought with my money" but that was just to get a reaction, I never tried to control her money, she had her own bank and I had mine, if she needed money I'd give her it every time she asked, I never refused or took anything rightfully hers away from her
Even with the going out with her work friends thing a few weeks ago.. she told me she was invited to go out again this Thursday and whilst at first I reminded her what I said would happen, she said fine she won't go out, within a few minutes I gave in and said "okay I'm not being serious, you can go out, but please please just don't drink too much".
She went out again, I had no problem with it, she got home a lot earlier and said she didn't drink alcohol, I could tell she didn't, but even if she was lying I believed her and said "thank you, I'm glad you had a great day". That's all I ever wanted.. there was no argument, no miscommunication, I was truly happy
I don't know if I'm an abuser trying to justify my actions or if deep down I'm a good person that does things that come across the wrong way like I try to make myself believe..
Now I'm writing this because she acted like everything was fine, we woke up yesterday like we normally do, watched some funny videos, she had plans to go out to see her friend at 12pm and she would stay there overnight. Fine by me, I'm slightly ill and didn't want to go out and we needed groceries so decided to order some before she left, she picked something she wanted, we watched more funny videos and as 12pm came round I hugged her, kissed her goodbye, did our little bye bye ritual, and she left..
Everything was fine, or so it seemed.. until I received a text about half an hour after she left saying she cannot do this anymore and is breaking up with me.. I tried talking to her but she said "I'll be back with my friends at 8pm to get some of my stuff and then I'll be gone forever" and blocked me. Now this sent me into a panic, this felt so unreal, I tried texting her family and friends to see if it was indeed real and to make sure nothing bad actually happened to her.. yes it was real
After talking to some of her friends she unblocked me and I tried talking to her, but she was just refusing it completely this time. She said we would talk in a few days.. 8pm came around, I packed some stuff she requested and put it outside her door for her to grab, she said she didnt want to see me so I respected it and stayed inside.. and now I'm here stuck in this situation
Normally during our arguments she only ever talks through text, if we are arguing in person she rarely ever says anything or voices any issues. This time she didn't want to talk through text either.
I honestly don't know how to feel. It's clear she has been talking to her friends, instead of me about all our issues, she's always screenshoted our arguments and "aired the dirty laundry" to her friends which I mentioned is a problem, but I never tried to control who she's friends and most of the time we made up and tried to move on...
I don't know if I have the right to feel hurt, my emotions are all over the place right now and this feels like betrayal. I feel like she has done a lot of things that were wrong, especially how she decided to end things by acting like everything is fine then leaving and breaking up over text instead of simply talking to me. I feel upset she would talk to her friends and let her know such personal details, but then again maybe it was justified because of my controlling actions.. even though she did a lot of these things way before I did anything controlling..
I feel like she is a good person but has painted a bad picture of me to her friends which has led her friends to influence her decisions based on a one sided story...
None of this makes much sense to me right now, I never tried to control her so I could have power over her, I never forced her to stay with me, regardless of all the things that happened between us I tried my best to improve and do things differently and see her for the good person she is. I made it clear if we ever break up I want to break up in a calm way, I just want to talk and communicate, I said how I believe most things don't last forever and that it's okay if things go wrong, but we need to at least try if we want to make this work..
I want to believe that everything I've done I did because I loved the person she is 90% of the time, I just wanted her to reciprocate and try to improve how she is during the other 10% as I've been trying to improve myself. I feel like I've sacrificed a lot for her but she hasn't done much for me.. no one is perfect and I had good hopes for both of us.
And now the past 5 years feel like a waste. I don't know why we couldnt avoid this mess.. mostly everything was great apart from our petty arguments
I now just wish I could go back in time and not argue, I wish I could've just let her be who she is and ignore all of those stupid little things because I was genuinely happy. I don't want us to split apart without trying one last time.. I know I can't force her and I don't want to, it just hurts so much seeing the potential and have it be destroyed just like that.
She wants some space right now but said we can talk in a few days. I really don't want us to split over this, I believe there is so much potential. How could I get her to see this? In the end I can't change what she wants, but I don't want to just say "okay" and be done with it without giving it a really really good proper attempt. I still love her more than anything else..
How could I stop thinking about her and calm down whilst I wait for her to talk to me and how could we improve things?
TL;DR; : girlfriend seems to have given up on our relationship without a proper attempt to salvage it in my eyes, how do I calm down whilst I wait for her to talk to me and how could we improve things?

I (23M) have been with my girlfriend (25F) for 5 years.
This was my first proper relationship, but she has had multiple relationships before me, the longest lasting 3 years.
I dont know if there's a way to write this post in a non biased way without writing a whole book explaining our life stories.. nor do I know what the purpose of writing this even is, I guess I'm just trying to get some stuff off my chest during a rough time...
I like to think I'm emotionally mature, in reality I don't think I could be labeled as that as I do have ADHD and a good amount of emotional dysregulation and anger issues. But I like to 'think' I am or at least strive to be, because regardless of my issues I do know how a normal person should behave even if I struggle to behave like that, I always strive to be better and only do things with good intentions. I try not to make excuses for myself, I know when I do things that are wrong, I just sometimes don't know how to do the right thing in a way that doesn't come across as wrong.
Ever since me and my girlfriend met I've been telling her - lets be honest to each other, if there are any problems, you can tell me and we can talk about it, communication is key. I always believed all problems can be solved through talking.
But, even after 5 years it's as if she never understood what any of that meant..
We started arguing quite a lot a few months after we started dating, mostly because of petty little things. She'd be dishonest about something, I'd find out she wasn't honest and it'd set me off on a rant complaining about honesty for way too long. For example a common theme at the start was her talking to her ex she dated for 3 years. I didn't really have a problem with that as long as it wasn't cheating, and what she spoke to her ex about was certainly not cheating, her ex was in a commited relationship as well. I knew an emotionally mature person would say that's fine and it was fine to me, I let her know it's fine, but she'd still go and hide that she was talking to them and would lie saying she isn't... Like why? I told you its okay multiple times, you don't have to be dishonest about it, what's the worst that could happen, we talk about it like adults and that's it?
Most of our arguments she'd shut down as well and not say a single thing, it'd be like me complaining to a wall, she would never say she has any issues about me, nothing at all which set me on a tunnel visioned path of even more complaining and failing to comprehend how hard it could be to just talk. A lot of the time I'd say and beg "if you could just talk to me we wouldn't be in this mess", sometimes even begging her to tell me something I did wrong and I'd want her to get upset at me for once so it wasnt so one sided, but that never happened.
I never wanted to be in those arguments, looking back yes it was toxic behaviour from both of us, especially me, and if we argued about such stupid stuff why were we even together?
We stayed together because the times that we didn't argue which were the majority of the time everything felt perfect, so many times we said how great the other person is, it was everything we could've asked for. She was and still is the kindest person I know deep down. We had so many common interests, so many happy memories, so whilst the bad things were blown out of proportion, in the end it was all mostly okay.
Things got better throughout the years, we'd still argue about some of the same issues but we seemed to argue less.
She struggled with mental health just like me, not diagnosed with anything, but she strongly believed she might have autism and was on a waiting list for diagnosis. She's had a lot of trauma in her childhood from bullying at school and even at home because of an alcoholic step dad, she struggled to keep a job for longer than a few months and got diagnosed with some physical problems too like IIH migraines. I tried my best to support her, I researched what we could do to relieve her stress and migraines, how we could get a job for her that she would be happy in, etc.
I saw myself in her as I know how big of a struggle it is to achieve stuff in life when you have problems setting you back. I myself didn't get a proper job until 3 years into the relationship. Then she finally got a job she has been in for about a year now too.
Things were starting to look good, we fought so hard throughout the years to live a better life together and we were finally starting to achieve that, we had money we could spend to go and do things, etc.
Except.. we still had our petty arguments and whilst they did get better for some time, they got worse again. It was exhausting for both of us, I was still mostly the same complaining about the same stuff, she was mostly the same shutting down and making me feel like I'm not being listened to.
Now this is the part which I regret the most that I'm very conflicted by and embarrassed of.. during some arguments things would get heated and I'd end up raising my voice and saying nasty things to get a reaction out of her because it was always so one sided.. I also did things to control her
I don't know if I'm abusive, I don't really understand my actions, I never wanted to be like this, I've questioned myself and read posts online to try and understand what the hell am I, but I just don't know
For example something controlling and abusive I did was only a few weeks ago.. she had plans to go out with her work friends after work, which I truly didn't have a problem with, I was happy for her to go out, she hasn't been going out much and I always thought it would help us having some time away from each other.
I said to her okay, but please don't get home too late and don't drink much. I've had bad experiences with alcohol and drugs in the past, nothing to do with the relationship, just personally it would make me feel terrible so I quit it altogether 3 years ago and haven't been drunk since. Because of her physical problems and mental problems she has to take quite a few medications throughout the day and we always agreed she wouldn't drink much because of it, in case the alcohol triggers any flare ups or interacts with her medication.
She agreed to this, but when the day came she left work at 6pm and only got home at 12am, I could immediately tell she was drunk so I asked her how much she drank. This time she was more honest with me (she was genuinely trying to improve in being honest, this wasnt just the alcohol making her more open) and said she had multiple vodkas, plus a few other drinks, as well as at least 6+ shots, or in her words "so many I can't remember, my friends were just handing them to me and I didnt refuse".
I don't know if I was being unreasonable, but to me getting home around 12am is late and drinking that much alcohol is a lot... which is the opposite of what we agreed on.. now I regret what happened next because she was fine, the alcohol didn't interact with her and she was okay even the next day, but I felt like she didn't listen to something so simple again which set me off on another blown out of proportion rant towards her
But this time it escalated and I blew up at her saying no more going out, she either doesn't go out anymore as she is clearly irresponsible with alcohol or we can break up, I regretted saying it in the moment as I knew immediately that sort of shit is toxic, but in the moment my judgment was clouded by my anger and I just wanted the best for her. I was thinking "but what if the alcohol did react poorly and you didnt listen to me?" I didnt want anything bad happening to her... I felt like I was being disrespected
This wasn't the first time I did something like this when I felt like I wasn't being listened to. Another example would be her playing online games with her friends, which was fine, I'm a gamer myself, but a lot of the time I felt like gaming for her was a higher priority than our relationship.
Multiple times we argued about it and I tried to tell her how I felt, but things didn't really change, which led to me blowing up and telling her she can't use the PS5 which I bought with my own money, I then went and deleted her account and games off of it as a punishment
None of this lasted very long though which is where I'm conflicted as to who I truly am and what my intentions are.. I never enjoyed doing any of this, I hated seeing her cry, immediately after this happened, every time I'd regret it. I'd try and remain stern though hoping it would bring a needed change to our relationship, maybe I'd finally be listened to.. I'd always give in in a few days as I couldn't stand acting like that and things would go back to normal. I'd say things like "PS5 I bought with my money" but that was just to get a reaction, I never tried to control her money, she had her own bank and I had mine, if she needed money I'd give her it every time she asked, I never refused or took anything rightfully hers away from her
Even with the going out with her work friends thing a few weeks ago.. she told me she was invited to go out again this Thursday and whilst at first I reminded her what I said would happen, she said fine she won't go out, within a few minutes I gave in and said "okay I'm not being serious, you can go out, but please please just don't drink too much".
She went out again, I had no problem with it, she got home a lot earlier and said she didn't drink alcohol, I could tell she didn't, but even if she was lying I believed her and said "thank you, I'm glad you had a great day". That's all I ever wanted.. there was no argument, no miscommunication, I was truly happy
I don't know if I'm an abuser trying to justify my actions or if deep down I'm a good person that does things that come across the wrong way like I try to make myself believe..
Now I'm writing this because she acted like everything was fine, we woke up yesterday like we normally do, watched some funny videos, she had plans to go out to see her friend at 12pm and she would stay there overnight. Fine by me, I'm slightly ill and didn't want to go out and we needed groceries so decided to order some before she left, she picked something she wanted, we watched more funny videos and as 12pm came round I hugged her, kissed her goodbye, did our little bye bye ritual, and she left..
Everything was fine, or so it seemed.. until I received a text about half an hour after she left saying she cannot do this anymore and is breaking up with me.. I tried talking to her but she said "I'll be back with my friends at 8pm to get some of my stuff and then I'll be gone forever" and blocked me. Now this sent me into a panic, this felt so unreal, I tried texting her family and friends to see if it was indeed real and to make sure nothing bad actually happened to her.. yes it was real
After talking to some of her friends she unblocked me and I tried talking to her, but she was just refusing it completely this time. She said we would talk in a few days.. 8pm came around, I packed some stuff she requested and put it outside her door for her to grab, she said she didnt want to see me so I respected it and stayed inside.. and now I'm here stuck in this situation
Normally during our arguments she only ever talks through text, if we are arguing in person she rarely ever says anything or voices any issues. This time she didn't want to talk through text either.
I honestly don't know how to feel. It's clear she has been talking to her friends, instead of me about all our issues, she's always screenshoted our arguments and "aired the dirty laundry" to her friends which I mentioned is a problem, but I never tried to control who she's friends and most of the time we made up and tried to move on...
I don't know if I have the right to feel hurt, my emotions are all over the place right now and this feels like betrayal. I feel like she has done a lot of things that were wrong, especially how she decided to end things by acting like everything is fine then leaving and breaking up over text instead of simply talking to me. I feel upset she would talk to her friends and let her know such personal details, but then again maybe it was justified because of my controlling actions.. even though she did a lot of these things way before I did anything controlling..
I feel like she is a good person but has painted a bad picture of me to her friends which has led her friends to influence her decisions based on a one sided story...
None of this makes much sense to me right now, I never tried to control her so I could have power over her, I never forced her to stay with me, regardless of all the things that happened between us I tried my best to improve and do things differently and see her for the good person she is. I made it clear if we ever break up I want to break up in a calm way, I just want to talk and communicate, I said how I believe most things don't last forever and that it's okay if things go wrong, but we need to at least try if we want to make this work..
I want to believe that everything I've done I did because I loved the person she is 90% of the time, I just wanted her to reciprocate and try to improve how she is during the other 10% as I've been trying to improve myself. I feel like I've sacrificed a lot for her but she hasn't done much for me.. no one is perfect and I had good hopes for both of us.
And now the past 5 years feel like a waste. I don't know why we couldnt avoid this mess.. mostly everything was great apart from our petty arguments
I now just wish I could go back in time and not argue, I wish I could've just let her be who she is and ignore all of those stupid little things because I was genuinely happy. I don't want us to split apart without trying one last time.. I know I can't force her and I don't want to, it just hurts so much seeing the potential and have it be destroyed just like that.
Is there any way to salvage this..

So, I'm pumped for this season. Seeing the schedule, I can see an 11-6 or 10-7 season. That should put us in the playoffs. Key word is SHOULD. Last year we had the same optimism, and look how that turned out. So in order to save us from that this year, here are some very realistic possibilities that can lead us to disappointment if we aren't realistic.

1. A Montez Sweat injury. The defensive line is still a massive weak spot. Counting on Zacch Pickens, Gervon Dexter, Demarcus Walker, and Austin Booker to consistently get to another team's QB? Especially in our division with the Lions featuring probably the best OL in the game with Minnesota also carrying a great unit? That scares me. I also don't have huge confidence in any of the guys I mentioned outside of Pickens and maybe Dexter to be able to stop the run. When we talk about how much the "Tez Effect" helped our defense, it scares me to think about the "Reverse Tez Effect" where losing him takes a huge toll on our defense. Now I do love the Washington hire as DC, so I think this is going to be a well-coached, hard hitting unit. But there's no denying that at this very moment, our DL is a very weak unit.
   
2. Underwhelming OL play and injuries. Realistically, Jenkins could definitely get hurt again, Davis could underperform again, Jones could play at his meh level like I seem to remember he did last year for a bit. The center position also give me zero confidence, and it seems like new-age Lucas Patrick/Cody Whitehair group. Veteran guys we were excited for and then... We should've taken Schmitz last year when we had the chance. Oh well. Only guy I really trust is Wright. He was very good for a rookie last year and I can predict more ascension for him this year.
   

I love Jenkins and I think he's probably our best guy when healthy. Hopefully he stays that way, but there's definitely injury risk there. Nate Davis I know had some very tough off-field stuff last year. With a clear head this year I could see him going back to his Titans form. Fingers crossed. As for Jones, I was pounding the table for an Alt trade-up with next year's Carolina 2. Seems like the Chargers loved him as much as I did. To be honest he does need to take a next step up. In this league average LT play (which being honest is usually what we get from him) just will not cut it. If your left tackle isn't great, he's terrible. All of these could lead to the worst one of all:

1. Caleb Williams has a Justin Fields rookie season. Fields getting murdered off the unblocked rush in his first preseason still gives me PTSD and really summarizes his career in Chicago honestly. But he also was not very good in his rookie year. He looked like a deer in headlights at times. Caleb we know is super confident and not afraid to make the impossible play for his team. I fear his confidence breaking after something like a 6-sack, 2-INT, 1 lost fumble game (which lets be honest, that is definitely possible). If we somehow turn Caleb into a one-read pocket passer robot I will have a hard time watching games. That would be coaching malpractice.
   
2. Matt Eberflus remains the coach of the Bears through 2025. Guys I'm sorry, I think I've seen a lot of Eberflus support on here. He seems like a good guy. I do NOT want him as our HC. Not hiring Brian Flores was such a bad mistake at the time and it still is now. Eberflus coached our defense well, but Flores turned the HORRIBLE Vikings defense into a legitimate headache with his blitz schemes (see the game where we played them at Soldier Field w/ Fields constantly pressured until he got hurt for reference). Eberflus could definitely be a high-level DC, but I don't trust him as our HC. The situation reminds me of Nagy-Fields year 1. I though Nagy should have been gone, but they kept him for Fields... who knows how much that hurt Fields' development. I get that the locker room likes Flus, but they liked Fields, and they will love Caleb if he turns out to be the guy. IMO we should've started with a new HC, new OC, new QB this year. Flus is only here cuz of the late season win streak. I'd hate to have another year this year where the team underperforms until the last part of the season and his skin gets saved again. Suffice to say I definitely wanted him fired after this year. He needs to step it up big time.
   
3. Our new OC is a huge toss-up. He can't be worse than Getsy but I'd hate for a player as special as Caleb to be put in a system as out-of-tune with his strengths as Fields was with Getsy. Just please cater to our guy.
   

IDK why I felt the need to write so damn much on a Saturday morning. Just had to list some ideas I had. TBH I am tired of constant disappointment. Even if one or two of these things happen, I'm still hoping to go over .500 and beat the Packers at home. Bears are gonna Bear LOL. I'm gonna return to this post around midway through the season and probably at the end of it to see if I was right or not. I'm hoping to be wrong.
Also FGB.

I am not so good at avoiding his attacks in the first phase, running out of most of my remaining DD. However, the second phase outright puzzles me. He starts out by performing an unblockable attack, where you apparently need to stand in the sole open circle, whose location either changes each run or depends on where you were standing previously? Then, he goes on to execute yet another unblockable, different than the first and lacking a clear indication for how you have to avoid it?
What does one need to be aware to do a little better in this phase? In the first game, knowing you can hide behind a tree or stand behind the boss in the same phase helped a lot early on.