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r/raimimemes: The Home of Pizza Time

2017.04.07 19:09 r/raimimemes: The Home of Pizza Time

The place to celebrate the original Spider-Man trilogy, and other Sam Raimi movies, such as Evil Dead and Darkman, and Doctor Strange in the Multiverse of Madness. The largest meme subreddit dedicated to Spider-Man! Join us as we PRAISE RAIMI! discord.gg/raimimemes
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2017.01.16 22:46 r/FMD - home of the Fasting Mimicking Diet - experiences, resources, etc.

The Fasting Mimicking Diet protocol - based on animal and human studies.
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2014.06.30 16:48 Sherlock_House r/MTVChallenge

Welcome to MTVChallenge! The unofficial home for the world's greatest reality TV competition show, The Challenge, and all its spinoffs. We are spoiler free--please take a look at our rules before posting. Join us for live and post-episode discussions, weekly megathreads, and great original content! Threads with the 💣🌋 emojis are open to spoilers from yet-to-be aired episodes, including season winners. If you are Unspoiled, avoid those threads and the mods will play defense everywhere else.
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2024.05.14 21:03 Afraid_Background321 Navigating Diabetes Management: Insights from Personal Experiences with Insulin Pumps and Skin Reactions

Managing diabetes goes beyond monitoring blood sugar levels; it encompasses handling the various tools we use, such as insulin pumps and different insulin formulations. Throughout my journey, I have encountered numerous challenges, especially with skin reactions to different insulin types and pump cannulas. I hope sharing my experiences will help others facing similar issues make informed decisions.
Understanding Skin Reactions
Skin reactions in insulin therapy can stem from multiple sources and often develop progressively with more exposure:
Differentiating Between Cannula and Insulin Reactions
One way to differentiate between an insulin skin reaction and a cannula skin reaction is to switch from a teflon cannula to a steel cannula. Unfortunately, with devices like the Omnipod, you cannot use a steel cannula. Instead, have your healthcare professional fill the pod with saline instead of insulin and wear it for 2-3 days to see how your skin reacts. If there's no reaction to the saline, it's likely the insulin causing the issue.
Investigating Skin Reactions: My Personal Journey
It's crucial to be vigilant when interpreting changes in symptoms, as improvement with a steel cannula may not necessarily indicate resolution of the issue. In my case, switching to steel cannulas initially appeared to resolve the problem. However, after about two years of use, I began experiencing local absorption site problems despite careful rotation of injection sites. To address this, I experimented with inserting the steel cannula more superficially by bending the Tandem trusteel needle at about a 45-degree angle. While this improved absorption, it also led to a recurrence of skin reactions. This led me to conclude that the teflon cannulas were not the primary cause of the reactions, but rather the insulin itself. Infusing the insulin more superficially, whether with a teflon or bent steel cannula, allowed me to observe the skin reactions more clearly, while deeper infusion masked them.
This hypothesis was confirmed when I conducted the saline test with Omnipod and experienced no skin reaction, indicating that the issue likely stemmed from the insulin rather than the cannula material.
The Role of M-Cresol
Research indicates that m-cresol in insulin formulations can cause skin reactions. Insulins with higher concentrations of m-cresol, like Humalog and Apidra, are associated with more inflammation. Studies suggest that removing m-cresol can lessen these reactions.
Detailed M-Cresol Concentrations in Insulin Formulations:
My Personal Journey with Insulin Pumps
Skin reactions can be mentally taxing and complex. The best approach is to methodically test different cannulas (teflon/steel), different perfusions (insulin/saline), and different insulin types until you find the right combination. Research on removing m-cresol from insulin formulations has shown promising results in animal studies, offering hope for less inflammatory and equally effective insulin therapies in the future (https://pubs.acs.org/doi/10.1021/acsptsci.1c00047).
Also, if you keep having skin reactions even with insulin containing less m cresol, know that some physician were able to desentitize a children to this component so he could use insulin in insulin pumps https://jmedicalcasereports.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/1752-1947-6-263
References
· https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9760098/pdf/nihms-1843053.pdf
· https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/epdf/10.1111/j.1398-9995.2007.01567.x
· https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11095-017-2233-0
· https://jmedicalcasereports.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/1752-1947-6-263
· https://pubs.acs.org/doi/10.1021/acsptsci.1c00047
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2024.05.14 20:59 LiteraryHedgehog MEGATHREAD: Camp and Chill Event, May 14-16

A new Camp and Chill Event starts today!
This 2 day event will run from Tuesday, May 14 until 19:00 GMT Thursday, May 16, and is open to all players with version 11.3.0 or above, a minimum of 250 dragon power, and a stable and reliable internet connection.
Points are earned by tapping items, opening chests, and other simple tasks completed in Camp. The Event Capsule Store appears after earning 500 points; free Bronze Capsules containing Event Points can be collected every 3 hours after that.
Please keep questions and strategy discussions about the event in this thread while it is live; good luck and happy merging!
 

ANNOUNCEMENTS:

Event Notes
Elsewhere in the Game
 

EVENT PRIZES

  1. Sprouting Dragon Tree, lvl 2 - requires earning 70 points
  2. Prism Flower Buds, lvl 2 - 1,290p
  3. Blue Belly Shrooms, lvl 5 - 1,840p
  4. Daily Chest (Super Egg Fragment) - 3,190p
  5. Watering Hole, lvl 5 - 4,790p
  6. Aged Glowing Dragon Tree, lvl 4 - 6,420p
  7. Nice Zen Temple, lvl 3 - 7,990p
  8. Golden Sapling, lvl 2 - 9,610p
  9. Wood (A) Dragon Kid, lvl 2 - 11,210p
  10. Jester (AS) Dragon Kid, lvl 2 - 13,590p
Total to collect all prizes: 60,000 points
 

STRATEGY TIPS

This is the only type of event where point producing items can be stockpiled ahead of time; for info and links to guides on bubbling as a storage option, please visit the Community FAQ.
The following are the most efficient or most frequently recommended ways to earn points:
  • Tier 2 Nests of most breeds yield 900 points per tap, for a total of 3,600 to 6,300 points per nest.
  • High level Goal Stars are an excellent source of points; the exact number of taps available varies by level and random chance.
    • L6 Star- 1056, L5 Star- 330, L4 Star- 99
  • Level 2 Materials Chests offer unlimited quick and easy points; stockpiling stone bricks gives more flexibility than buying specific chests ahead of time:
    • Spectral Chest- 1305, Summoned Chest- 820, Chest of Beasts- 300, Solid Gold Chest- 80, Phobos Chest- 40
  • Higher level free chests all yield well:
    • Treasure: L7- 1690, L6- 530, L5- 165
    • Grimm: L4- 792, L3- 240, L2- 72
    • Season: L4- 330, L3- 100
    • Bountiful (Level) Chests- 150
    • Kala’s Rucksacks- 250
  • High level Life Trees can be harvested for quick points:
    • Life Orbs: L9- 1560, L8- 500, L7- 160
  • These chains recharge fast and give unlimited taps; note that multiple mid-level items may earn more than one or two higher-level items.
    • Fruit Trees: L10 Watermelon- 34, L9 Pineapple- 30, L8 Dragon Fruit- 26, L7 Pear- 23
    • Prism Flowers: L7- 42, L6- 36, L5- 29, L4- 23
    • Midas Trees: L11- 145, L10- 135, L9- 125, L8- 115, L7- 105, L6- 95, L5- 85, L4- 75, L3- 65, L2- 55
    • Bushes: L5- 35, L4- 25, L3- 15
    • Graves: L8- 75, L7- 65, L6- 55, L5- 45, L4- 35
    • Fountains: L6- 136, L5- 105, L4- 75, L3- 45
 

ITEM POINTS

(Tap the name of the chain to go to its wiki page)
Alien Obelisks (Requires cash purchase)
  • Alien Obelisk - 45
  • Radioactive Alien Obelisk - 135
  • Pulsing Alien Obelisk - 450
  • Galactic Alien Megalith - 1485
 
Bushes
  • Tiny Cabin - 10
  • L1 Shrub Sprout - 1
  • L2 Budding Shrub - 5
  • L3 Nice Shrub - 15
  • L4 Flowering Shrub - 25
  • L5 Gorgeous Shrub - 35
 
Fruit Trees
  • L4 Grape Tree - 10
  • L5 Raspberry Tree - 14
  • L6 Banana Tree - 18
  • L7 Pear Tree - 23
  • L8 Dragon Fruit Tree - 26
  • L9 Pineapple Tree - 30
  • L10 Watermelon Tree - 34
 
Goal Stars and Dragon Stars (points per tap)
  • L1 Star - 3 (2-3 taps)
  • L2 Star - 9 (2-3 taps)
  • L3 Star - 30 (3-4 taps)
  • L4 Star - 99 (3-4 taps)
  • L5 Star - 330 (3-4 taps)
  • L6 Star - 1056 (6-7 taps)
  • L1 Dragon Star - 30 (2-4 taps)
  • L2 Magnificent Dragon - 90 (7-11 taps)
 
Graves
  • L4 Doom Cross - 35
  • L5 Fiend’s Resting Place - 45
  • L6 Tomb of the Innocent - 55
  • L7 Tomb of the Forgiven - 65
  • L8 Tomb of the Righteous - 75
 
Life Orbs (single tap)
  • L0 Life Essence - 1
  • L1 Tiny Life Orb - 1
  • L2 Small Life Orb - 2
  • L3 Life Orb - 3
  • L4 Furious Life Orb - 5
  • L5 Wondrous Life Orb - 15
  • L6 Great Life Orb - 50
  • L7 Giant Life Orb - 160
  • L8 Life Orb of Souls - 500
  • L9 The Life Orb of Heavens - 1560
 
Midas Trees
  • L2 Golden Sapling - 55
  • L3 Golden Tree - 65
  • L4 Midas Tree - 75
  • L5 Glowing Midas Tree - 85
  • L6 The Orb Holder - 95
  • L7 The Crystal Catcher - 105
  • L8 The Moon Bearer - 115
  • L9 The Star Mother - 125
  • L10 Greater Midas Tree - 135
  • L11 Divine Midas Tree - 145
 
MonsteMythical Idols (single tap)
  • L1 Kattryx - 3
  • L2 Guardian Sphinx - 9
  • L3 Young Cerberus - 30
  • L4 Noble Gryphon - 99
  • L5 Mythical Ogopogo - 330
  • L1 Gromblin - 5
  • L2 Capricorn - 15
  • L3 Dragon Idol - 50
  • L4 Rising Phoenix - 165
  • L5 Mythical Pegasus - 550
 
Mystic Topiaries (single use only, number of taps depends on level)
  • L1 Bunny - 10 (1x tap)
  • L2 Bear - 90 (1x tap)
  • L3 Rex - 150 (2x taps)
  • L4 Swan - 250 (3x taps)
  • L5 Seahorse - 550 (5x taps)
  • L6 Dolphin - 880 (10x taps)
 
Nests/Eggs
  • Tier 1 nest - 20 per tap, 60 to 140 total
  • Tier 2 nest - 900 per tap, 3,600 to 6,300 total (except for Star Dragons)
  • Mystery Egg Nests - 10 per tap, 40 to 70 total
  • Supernest - 20 per tap
  • Meganest - 20 per tap
  • Ultranest - 20 per tap
  • Shimmering Ultranest - 20 per tap
  • Activated Super Eggs - 600 (30 per dragon)
 
Prism Flowers
  • L1 Sprouting Prism Flower - 3
  • L2 Prism Flower Buds - 10
  • L3 Opening Prism Flowers - 16
  • L4 Prism Flowers - 23
  • L5 Blossoming Prism Flowers - 29
  • L6 Gorgeous Prism Flowers - 36
  • L7 Brilliant Prism Flowers - 42
  • L8 Spectral Prism Flowers - 49
  • L9 Glowing Prism Flowers - 55
 
ShimmeSecret Fountains (per tap)
  • L1 Fountain of Legend - 3
  • L2 Ancient Spring - 15
  • L3 Shimmering Spring - 45
  • L4 Fountain of Faith - 75
  • L5 Fountain of Rebirth - 105
  • L6 Heroic Dragon Spa - 135
  • L1 Secret Lifespring - 30
  • L2 Spectral Lifespring - 150
 
Coin Vaults and Stone Yards
  • L1 Tattered - 1
  • L2 Basic - 5
  • L3 Nice - 15
  • L4 Great - 25
  • L5 Opulent - 35
  • L6 Mythical - 45
  • L7 Gigantic - 55
  • L8 Bottomless - 65
 
Chests (single tap only)
 
Camp and Chill Event Items
  • Capsules - 0
  • Pile of Camp Event Points - 5
  • Great Rucksack of Event Points - 10 per tap, 20+ total
  • Wondrous Chest of Event Points - 25 per tap, 125+ total
  • Mythical Coffer of Event Points - 50 per tap, 450+ total
 
Miscellaneous Items
 
Combo Merges Note: this is a partial list — most chains seem to work, with points increasing by item levels and length of chain.
  • Coins - 5, 10, 30, 60 (started with L2)
  • Life Flowers - 5, 10, 15, 20, 40 (start w/L1)
  • Life Flowers - 15, 40 (started w/L5)
  • Life Orbs - 5, 10, 15, 20, 40 (Started w/ heart)
  • Life Orbs - 5, 20, 45, 80 (started w/ L3)
  • Living Stones - 5, 10, 15, 40 (start w/fresh stones)
  • Stone bricks - 5, 10, 15, 40, 60 (start w/L1)
 
No Points Given
  • Currency (Coins, Stone Bricks, and Gems)
  • Loot orbs
  • Dimension Jars
  • Dragon Homes
  • Haunted Houses
  • Boutique exclusive chains
  • Lobelia Topiaries
  • Ornate/Jeweled Statues
  • Small Fluffs
  • Chocolate Fountain chain
  • Dust Bunny Crates
  • Weekly Den Chests
  • Opulent Chests
  • Season Bonus Chests
  • Star Chests
  • Star Dragon T2 nests
  • New items and anything in limited release for beta testing
 

EVENT TROUBLESHOOTING

If the event is not showing up correctly or if glitches are affecting your play:
  1. Check that you meet the version and dragon power requirements.
  2. Try hard-closing and then relaunching your game.
  3. Try rebooting your device (ie, turn it completely off, then back on and allow it to fully boot up before relaunching the game). If you are on wifi and have access to the router, try rebooting that, too.
  4. Try switching to a completely different internet source.
  5. Try clearing your game’s cache (google for instructions for your specific phone type).
  6. If you’re suddenly experiencing multiple issues like lagging or error messages (or if the event vanishes completely), close the game and try again after 2-3 hours. Events are internet-based, and sometimes issues with the servers can cause temporary problems — all we can do for that is to wait it out.
  7. If none of the above helps, contact Gram Games Support through the in-game link or the Support Web Portal for help figuring out what’s wrong.
  • NOTE: Cloud Save is still unreliable: according to the developer, it is not safe to be used and should be left turned off.
  • NOTE: Saving your Progress: Make sure to save your progress by traveling to the World Map screen (and waiting there until everything’s fully loaded) regularly, and especially before closing your game.
 
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2024.05.14 20:42 Plenty_Confection_24 Not feeling anything

So I’m at a very low dose (20 mg) and all I’ve felt is fatigue. The first 2 days were nice, I felt elated and sedated right after I took it. I titrate up this week and I’m giving it the benefit of the doubt. I know it’s too early to say anything but my psych was very adamant about this being fast acting. I was on lamictal for about a month before I got a rash indicating I was having an allergic reaction. I miss the stability from the mood stabilizers but not the numbness to my emotions. On Latuda, I still feel things but I can sort of get over them, and I feel exhausted. Also standing up too fast is no joke, almost passed out at work yesterday LMAO
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2024.05.14 20:17 mousersmb2 Desperate for some advice

I have had chronic GERD for over a decade and really need some help. GI doctors have been totally useless. Every new doctor I’ve seen insists on performing his own endoscopy because, supposedly, no one else’s can be trusted. I’ve had several and all of them result in “minor inflammation of the stomach” with no other findings. The next step is always the same: prescription PPIs. The PPI’s resulted in some minor, very temporary improvement but after a few months lost all effectiveness. More than one doctor suggested that I stay on them indefinitely despite what we know about the long term usage of these things. I understand that this merry-go-round is just the typical profit/business model of these people and so I’ve given up on the medical industrial complex.
I’ve also tried several natural suggestions. I’ve tried low-acid diets. I’ve tried increasing acid before meals with HCL/Pepsin, apple cider vinegar, etc. I’ve ingested ginger in various forms. None of this has made the slightest difference. The GERD is tolerable during the day (its probably quite severe but I’ve been suffering from it for so long, I’ve become accustomed to it). The most difficult thing for me to cope with is disturbance of sleep. It’s infinitely worse when laying down. I’ve tried raising the head of my bed, wedge pillows, etc. Even slightly reclined in a chair, it becomes much worse. I rarely experience much coming up my esophagus- rather there’s a burning in my stomach that goes out of control. My sleep is short and restless.
About a month ago, I was desperate and while at a drug store, I picked up a bottle of maximum strength Pepsid (Famotidine 40 mg). I understand that this is an H2 blocker and it immediately made the strongest impact I have ever experienced. I’ve been taking it every day for almost 4 weeks and have never felt better. With the return of restful sleep, all my other ailments started to improve. Now, as I expected, I have built up a tolerance to it and have returned to my former state.
I’m seeking some advise- I’ve never experienced any sort of substantial relief before and am really hoping that someone may have a suggestion on how to control this in a different way. I’m open to almost anything... thank you for reading this rant!
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2024.05.14 19:30 Super_Somewhere7206 What on earth is going on? I am desperate :(

I haven't been diagnosed with IBS-C but I am posting here as everything within this sub is most relatable. Around the end of January I had bad constipation that was relieved with Milk of Magnesia. Shortly after I got backed up again, and Milk of Magnesia/stimulant laxatives/miralax/enemas didn't help. I went to my GP and got xrays that showed poop backed up to my ribs.
I got an appointment with a GI (which took weeks btw) and did a Colonoscopy prep to clear me out- which it did. Was instructed to follow a high fiber diet, take magnesium citrate daily, Benefiber, and miralax if needed. But ever since that, I have had horrible bloating, incomplete bowl movements, rapid weight gain (went from 150ish to 163lbs despite exercising 3-4x a week and eating healthy/not drinking/not eating out). My stools are very soft and occur daily, but just won't come out fully. They come out in small soft piles or ribbons, that I have to strain to get out.
I had a follpw up appointment and was instructed to keep trying what I am doing, saying that bran flakes and flax seed should help, and to exercise more. The doctor won't diagnose me with IBS because I don't have any abdominal cramping.
By my 3rd appointment, I was so bloated. The left side of my stomach bulges and I feel like I can't have a full BM. My GI instructed me to try taking dulcolax for 2 days at night to see if there's any help and to order a SIBO breath test. I do the dulcolax and the next day have IMMEDIATE relief. Everything comes out. All my bloating is GONE and my weight drops back down to 157. I kept following the high fiber diet and within 3 days I am back to before. I don't dare to take more laxative as I don't want to become dependent on it.
The SIBO test is not covered under my insurance and will cost almost $400. These specialist appointments with the GI cost almost $100 a pop. I am burning through funds with little answers.
I am unsure if I could even have SIBO or what else I could have. It's so strange. I just feel like screaming and crying.
My current symptoms are: Weight gain, bloating, getting hungry but quickly feeling full/uncomfortable, strange partial constipation(going every day but not completely, soft stools likely from all the fiber I've been eating). Ocassionally passong gas. I have only felt true relief after a stimulant laxative. Osmotic ones are not helping and contribute to bloating/discomfort.
Yes I am chugging so much water it honestly hurts with all my bloating. What else could this be? Anyone else relate?
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2024.05.14 18:51 Rare_Mud_6926 Totaled Car - Pain & Suffering

TLDR Version: I need clarification on my total loss situation. I was involved in a car accident in Illinois, where I am not at fault. My car has been deemed totaled, and the damage exceeds what I paid for it new. I provided the other party's insurance company with information for a higher valuation, as I had recently made repairs and added features to my car. However, I'm not satisfied with their second offer, which has only increased by $400. I also want to address the impact on my partner and myself. We didn't sustain major injuries but sought medical care for pain and swelling. My partner has been offered chiropractor care and cash by the insurance company. I have anxiety, which has resurfaced after the accident, that and lack of a vehicle is affecting my ability to attend important upcoming events and work my second job. I've consulted with lawyers, but I'm unsure of the best course of action as they are not following up with me.
FULL Version: Hi all I’m hoping to get some clarification on how to go about my total loss. I’ve never been in this position before thankfully but need some guidance. I am located in Illinois dealing with Geico (other party) and Farmers Insurance (mine).
My partner and I were involved in a car accident last week. Not at fault, however, the damage to my car far surpasses what I even paid for it new so it has been deemed totaled. I provided the other parties insurance company with information for a higher valuation after they came back with the first one as I had some repairs done 6 days before the accident with new breaks, new fog lights, and AC repair. And then within the last couple of years I added a Sony head unit for Apple/android CarPlay and backup camera plus tinting all the windows and new tires.
I understand they can’t pay me out retail value to replace my car (which is total bs if not at fault IMO) and it would cost me double what they are offering me to get the exact same model year and close in miles to what my car had with less features. I’m not happy with their second offer increasing only by $400
I’m sorry this is a little long but I figured details would be important. We didn’t have any major injuries so we are lucky in that regard. My partner and I were both seen by immediate care a couple of days after the accident as pain was settling in for both of us. Nothing broken but just swelling in my neck muscles from what they could see. I was referred to an orthopedic surgeon for further evaluation but the doctor didn’t seem too concerned about anything major being an issue. Insurance offered my partner $5000 in chiropractor care and $1200 cash. He’s held off on responding until I get something through to them.
I have anxiety and before the accident it was well managed. Since the accident I’ve had panic attacks again. I’ve been speaking with my therapist and working on getting back on track. I don’t take meds anymore for anxiety as it was well managed prior to this accident. I have so many once in a lifetime events coming up the next month I’d have to miss not having my car and also missing wages from my second job. I’m fortunate enough my main job is from home 100%.
I’ve tried to get opinions from some lawyers on what I should ask for, for this type of thing as it’s not something you can really put a price on. Or how to even calculate out a monetary amount but my case, I have a feeling isn’t something someone would take or it wouldn’t be worth taking. So that’s why I’m here for guidance. I’ve written a professional letter to send to the insurance company along with a letter from my therapist outlining my anxiety and panic attacks, doctors notes about the physical injuries, and the announcements/invitations for the events I’m missing. Also I have documentation of pay from both of my jobs.
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2024.05.14 18:19 bugbrightbolts Positive withdrawal stories? Encouragement needed

Hello! I was very incorrectly misdiagnosed with bipolar 1 a few years ago when it turned out to be autism and c-ptsd, and I'm in the process of starting to come off of my medications. Seroquel is the first one to go as the side effects I experience are terrifying and my insurance company has stopped covering it. I do not think that Seroquel is inherently bad or dangerous, it just isn't something that has ever helped me because I didn't need it in the first place.
I'm having to decrease my dosage with the pills I have left. I've been on Seroquel 150 mg for about six months now, and I'm four days into a lower dose of 100 mg. I'm going to do five more days of 100 mg, and then seven days of 50 mg, followed by seven days of 25 mg, and then if I'm struggling with withdrawals 25 mg every other day for a week, and then 25 mg every three days for a week. This is the schedule I was told to follow by my doctor.
I'm feeling alright so far, aside from my stomach being a mess. I'm worried that it's only a matter of time before withdrawal symptoms hit. I usually do pretty well with coming off of medications (in the past I've quickly tapered off of lithium, lamotrigine, and lexapro without any issues), but I know that this one is a really high-powered.
Most of the withdrawal stories I've read have left me feeling extremely nervous about this whole process, especially because I'm having to taper off of the medication a lot faster than I would like to. Really, the bad stories have left me more panicked than anything that's going on in my actual body. For the most part I'm just ready to get off of this medication that has been hell for me.
Does anyone have a withdrawal success story to share, or any sort of reassurance? Did things such as exercise, looking after gut health, etc. help? Thank you!
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2024.05.14 17:47 Comfortable-Carry563 Is God trying to take me out ? Lol JK but I definitely feel like it sometimes

I have migraines with aura, and I also get tension headaches. I also suffer from CVS AKA cyclic vomiting syndrome. Sometimes, a wonderful ( Obviously sarcasm) combination of both , called a mixed tension migraine with aura.
I do take rizatriptan if it's only a Migraine with aura . I also have promethazine oral and suppositories if I'm also having nausea and vomiting, or if I'm in a cycle of my CVS. But I also have fiorcet with codeine and 5 mg Valium that I take if I'm having a tension Migraine or a delightful ( Once again, sarcasm.) Mixed tension Migraine with aura. As well as numerous other health issues to the point I'm almost always in pain.
I am blessed to have an absolutely amazing primary care dr who also suffers from mixed tension migraines, so he knows exactly what I'm going through. So, I'm able to get my desperately needed medications from him instead of pain management or a neurologist.
But , in all honesty, I am blessed because I have amazing, i.e., very expensive, private family insurance. I pay a ton for it every month , so I'm sure this helps ! It is an absolute necessity for my child and I to have very good health insurance due to my health history.
I have a history of ovarian and cervical cancer. DVT blood clots, ( which I currently have 3 in my left arm, diagnosed after extensive imaging less than 11 days ago . Which they're guessing this time , that they're from a combo of laparoscopic surgery, plus my blood clotting disorder) last time I had 2 DVT blood clots , 1 in my arm , 1 in my leg from they're guessing , a combo of my blood clotting disorder plus IVF medications .
This led to pulmonary embolism twice in 2021, ( while undergoing IVF, thankfully, before my FET ) 1x before being in the hospital and then again while in the hospital.
I also unfortunately have 47 different severe allergies , some to food , medications, and different environmental factors , think animal dander, pollen, bee stings etc ( most of which are anaphylactic reactions), a rare blood clotting disorder which led to 11 miscarriages and 3 late term losses. As well as adenomyosis, endometriosis, severe stomach bleeding, uterine fibroids, Nonneoplastic polyps in my colon, diverticulitis, obviously migraines with aura and mixed tension migraines, tension headaches, CVS AKA cyclic vomiting syndrome, severe insomnia , anxiety. ( which , duh, look at my health history)
I was also in a devastating car wreck when I was 7, which left me in a coma for 13 months . I've had surgery on both shoulders twice, 4 times on my right ankle, and numerous other surgeries.
I also , after having an emergency c section due to a placental abruption at 31 weeks with my son . I then ended up having severe postpartum hemorrhage and sepsis 7 days later due to the on call dr leaving a piece of my placenta inside me ! ( I had to be admitted to the hospital , thank goodness it was the same hospital that my son had been transferred to because they had a level 4 NICU . The hemorrhage also resulted in me having to have blood and iron infusions numerous times . I also have the BRCA Gene 1 & 2 , an immediate family history of colon cancer and breast cancer, as well as AML AKA acute myeloid leukemia. Heart disease and numerous others.
I once semi jokingly said to my PCP ( primary care provideDr), do you ever get the feeling that God is trying to take you out ? Because it feels like that to me, lol . Being the absolutely amazing Dr that he is , he said , he's not trying to take you out , he's just showing/proving (to) you how strong and resilient you are. He has amazing things for you in the future ❤️ Sorry this was so long ! I didn't realize how long it was going to be !
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2024.05.14 17:03 HuggyB_44 How would you guys handle this?

So I have been working for an independent P&C agency for almost four years now and focus/only get paid on commercial P&C accounts. I started in this industry after leaving public accounting with zero experience and my starting salary was around $50K plus commissions. The first year was rough as I didn’t know enough about what I was selling. Year two I moved into a call center where we sell commercial insurance in all 50 states on the internet. In the call center I was working pretty much three jobs. I was prospecting for my P&C book, answering the phones for the call center, closing business for the call center, and doing all my own quoting and invoicing. I did that for over a year and worked my way up to about $72K.
The company I work for has seven offices in the state and two are in my home town. So the idea was always that I would start out at our corporate office to learn and then they would move me down to my hometown to take over one of the offices and books from an older agent. Well about a year and a half ago I got called into the bosses office. The one young agent we had in my home town screwed up a $300K renewal and quit all at the same time. Because my bosses were secretly trying to sell the company to a giant conglomerate at the time they needed someone down there asap!
They called me into the office and asked if I would move back home and run the book down there. I told them yes as long as I was not going to be punished for the large account that we were about to lose that I had nothing to do with and as long as they felt it was a way for me to increase my income. They agreed and I moved home and back in with my parents in two weeks notice. However, before the move the president of the company told me he did the math on the book of business I was taking over. He told me that the book made $70Kish without the $300K account we were about to lose. Well fast forward a year and I sold half a million in premium last year but some how my W2 came back at $67K…. That’s like $15-20K less than what I was expecting since the book made “$70K” before I got here.
I am beyond furious and really don’t know how to handle this situation. I left a house and a girlfriend to move in with my parents under the impression I would get an account manager (that part actually happened) and make more money. Now it’s been over a year and it seems like I agreed to take two steps backwards. I’ve consistently sold $400-500K a year in premiums which should result in around an additional $8-10K a year in after tax pay.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I can’t continue at my current pay but don’t want to leave what I have worked hard to build.
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2024.05.14 16:28 bilby-00 Hair loss and regrowth. TE?

Hi guys!
So, I'll begin with saying that I've been losing a bunch of hair since being sick in late January this year. Over that time, I'd estimate that I've lost between 50-65% of my hair in not quite 4 months.
I had an appointment with a new doctor almost 3 weeks ago since my old one was genuinely useless. Anyways, she checked my scalp and said nothing really looks out of the ordinary (background; she has worked in dermatology also), she looked through my blood work and said everything aside from iron was good. (It dropped to 24 in that time after being perfect when I had an ER visit back in January.) Based on that, she suggested TE and has said to take hair vitamins, iron supplements and maybe a vitamin d supplement every couple days for a couple months and see if the shedding stabilises or not. She said it's not necessary in her opinion for me to be on minoxidil or fin or anything like that at this point since I've had an episode of drastic hairloss back in 2017 and regained full density.
I had already been taking the hair vitamins and vitamin d for a couple months at that point to do anything to slow the intense shedding. I also added in selenium rich nuts like Brazil nuts and walnuts, as well as cashews, almonds, and hazelnuts. I added protein powder into my diet every couple of days if I couldn't get enough in my meals and snacks. Drank a bunch more herbal teas to help increase water intake and reduce my coffee intake. I've been trying to massage my scalp for 3 minutes minimum a day, using a rosemary, peppermint and argan scalp oil every second day and washing every other day with an anti-dandruff shampoo and conditioner because I had some pretty bad dandruff at one point.
Although it is diffuse shedding, it almost seemed like my hairline and temple hair thinned overnight. Then it was my part became my fixation point. Then it was my crown, exposing my double cowlick even more, making the thinning even more noticeable. (My cowlick has always been noticeable since I have the 2 so close together that go in opposite directions.) My temples have filled back in nicely since falling off my forehead 😂 Not perfect, but acceptable. My hairline recovered, then 2 VERY tiny spots formed on one side and have started filling back in already. I've noticed A LOT of little sprouts coming up all over the top of my head, but definitely not at the quantity of what was there before. I don't expect it to all come back at once. I know it'll be at least a 6 month wait to see any real difference. I've experienced smaller sheds, but this one and the one back in 2017 are by far the worst.
Fast forward to now. I changed my diet as soon as I could stomach solid foods and substantial meals again and added in the vitamins and hair oil (about mid February). I have been taking iron for about 3-ish weeks. So far my shedding seems to be stabilising 🤞 I started around 200+ hairs lost a day (my worst being estimated about 400-500) and most days now I lose at or around 100 hairs. In the past 2 weeks there was only 1 day where I lost around 150 hairs. I even had a few days where I only lost 30-60!
If you've made it this far, my question is: "Should I wait it out for a few more months since I already have a lot of roughly 1 inch or smaller new growths coming in all over the place or do you think I should I maybe start considering some alternative treatments?"
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2024.05.14 16:23 Murky_waterLLC The Greatest Congame in the History of the Universe (Part 1.3)

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...The Dekarr Commanders were far more confident now that they were able to counter the Human Superweapons and engage them in traditional Void-naval combat. The Mercs, however, were not as confident in the Commonwealth’s Admirals. They announced their immediate withdrawal 2-weeks ahead of the Human fleet's arrival. The Mercs didn’t really have a void-based naval force, so their only options were to either hold out on the planet until they were bombed into submission or retreat until the invasion force was either defeated or came out victorious.
It would later be learned that Humans were a species of Risk-takers, even in overwhelming odds they would play their assets to their advantage. Despite this, they weren’t insane, and wouldn’t throw themselves unprotected into a star over the sub-atomically small chance they would survive unscathed. This tells you how low of a chance the Mercs thought the Dekarr fleet had, despite their technological advantages and supposed ‘experience’ in Void-Naval skirmishes.
The Commonwealth, despite the many warnings from the PMC, decided to stay behind and hold their ground, even as Dynamo cut their contract, took their due earnings, and left. The Dekarr was not going to fall to the Humans’ [one-trick-pony] again. And they didn’t. They fell to the overwhelming and [frankly] dishonorable tactics the Humans employed repeatedly… And then they fell to the Humans’ [one-trick-pony], just to add injury to insult.
When the Humans jumped in, the Dekarr Generals reported some 50,000 void craft, mostly corvettes and frigates. ‘Outnumbered but not outgunned’ so the Admirals commented, before being ripped to shreds one by one.
You see, the Humans were playing Confidence games within their Confidence games (Which yes, I’ll get to soon), Where they would pepper formations of cruisers and destroyers from afar, with little to no material effect on the ships, but a huge effect on the pride of the captains and commanders of these formations. The Humans would pester these fleets just outside of their effective range, causing hot-headed commanders to stray away from the bulk of the formation and chase after these cowardly Humans, only to find themselves completely swarmed by hidden corvettes and ripped apart.
This continued for months, the Humans once again playing on their knack for attritionary warfare. One by one the Dekarr captains snapped and veered off-course, sometimes inspiring several others to fall to those foolish fates. The Dekarr Admirals had, throughout this entire engagement, stayed relatively still on their Titan craft. Their orders were to hold this system, but the Humans were whittling away at their formations faster than reinforcements could arrive. It was a similar story wherever other Dekarr fleets went. The humans would chisel away at their fleets until there were no fleets left to attack, or ships armed with M.A.C. weaponry would be destroyed, it was only then that Argo-class ships would arrive to mop up the mess.
The battle of Gespoliin was sealed when the Admrials had conceded to firing their M.A.C. artillery at the frigates just to take a little heat off of them, as the M.A.C. weapons were the only things that had the range and accuracy to effectively target the Human ships that always toyed with them just outside of their effective weapon’s ranges. Of course, the reason the Dekarr Admirals were hesitant about firing these weapons is because they could take up to several [minutes] to reload, but they were reaching the end of their rope, and the Admirals needed to bring the fire off of them. Conglomerate forces had barely suffered 50 ships being destroyed, mostly from unfortunate impacts from the nearby asteroid field they hid within, meanwhile, the Humans had destroyed nearly 1,400 of the Dekarr ships; 20% of the fleet! And that’s after counting reinforcements.
Now, allow me to go on a minor digression here on the wildlife of Earth, and how it may have influenced Human military strategy in this situation. If I remember correctly I watched a documentary about a key anthropoid species known as “Bees”, hive-minded pollinators that are vital for the planet’s flora. While for others, this topic may bring up many jokes about outdated Human scientists describing the impossibility of a bee’s ability to fly, what these bugs bring up for me is their defensive measures against predators. You see, some species of bees do have natural weapons, ‘stingers’ as the Humans call them, which stab into the skin and leave a very painful poison whilst also killing the bee, ripping out its organs, and sacrificing itself for the rest of the hive. However, there are some that possess a far more ingenious way of defense against predators.
‘Wasps’ are a close cousin to the bee, however, they are far more aggressive, and they tend to prey on other anthropoids, including their close relatives. Well, instead of stinging wasps to kill them, these stingerless species of bees will lure the wasp into their hives and let one of their own be purposefully caught and killed, taking the wasp’s attention. The other bees will then take that as a sign to rush in and swarm the wasp, generating a massive amount of heat from the friction of their tiny wings which will roast the wasp alive.
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2024.05.14 16:21 allthebeautifultimes When did it start to work for you?

When I first started, I felt like it was helping. I was having side effects, and thought less about food. After finishing my 0.5 mg month, I had to start from scratch again due to supply issues. Now I'm on my second week of 0.5 again, and I'm not feeling anything. Not even side effects, and I'm thinking about snacking A LOT.
Does anyone have advice? Do I need to wait until I'm on a higher dose before I can expect to feel a difference?
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2024.05.14 14:14 realestmetrofan i spent all my money and now i cant afford my meds or rent

so before you judge me, feel free to, i judge myself really harshly for this: i suddenly got really depressed and suicidal and decided that im nto going to live anymore, but i didnt want to die with money in my bank accoutn so i went on shein, temu, and etsy and bought so much shit i dont do anythign with but what i wanted. i also bougth every single sims4 pack i even slightly ever thought about buying, and even those i didnt even want but just wanted for one item. i ended up using 600€.
well that was all in a span of 3 days and now while im sitting here and have calmed down i realise that i dont think i really want to die and feel better now. well, the damage is done.
im running out of meds and all together my meds cost 200€ even after the goverment pays for a big chunk of it. but still. i dont have a job and i only get paid 100€ a month + 400€ to cover most of my rent. but still , i need to pay 200€ for the rest of the rent. i also get paid 600 € a month since i am a disabled student, but my school ends next month before i would have gotten that months payment so yeah.... i was thinking about getting a summer job but i havent been to school for 2 weeks now because of my depression and school is super easy, im basically on my phone for 4-5 hours adn then go home. so if i cant do that, i will not be able to work.
man fuck my past self, at least i hope i ordered stuff i can sell or at least enjoy a little bit
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2024.05.14 12:54 DrYangHF7 Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door healed my MG after 3 ICU visits (重症肌无力)

Gratitude to the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, Gratitude to Master Jun Hong Lu.
Respected fellow Buddhists, do you know what's worse than death? Have you ever escaped death? Today, I have a firsthand experience of escaping death to share with you.
Have you heard of a disease called myasthenia gravis (MG)? I believe many people have not. As only about 30,000 people worldwide suffer from this disease (Note: This figure may vary as there are differing estimates, with the United States alone having approximately 36,000 to 60,000 cases), where the nerves cannot control the muscles. For example, if the affected area is the hand, it can feel pain, heat, cold, and pressure. But no matter how much you command your hand to move, it won't budge. I am one of those 30,000 people. The affected areas include the cheeks, mouth, left arm, and the chest muscles responsible for breathing. In other words, during an episode of the disease, I cannot breathe. Can you now imagine how close I was to death?
Back to my story. In mid-September 2012, my lungs were infected with bacteria, and I fell seriously ill. On the night of September 29th, my breathing became increasingly difficult, and my family rushed me to the hospital for emergency treatment. The next night, my condition deteriorated to the point of MG, and my breathing became so weak that it was almost cut off. The doctors once again performed emergency procedures for me, eventually placing me on life support system (LSS) and transferring me to the intensive care unit (ICU). The so-called LSS involved many instruments strapped to my body and several tubes inserted into my body. Although the areas where the tubes were inserted were very painful, I dared not move for fear that any loosening of the instruments might endanger my life. So, at that moment, I didn't dare to move at all.
One night, a nurse attempted to draw blood for examination, but the needle just couldn't find the right artery. She would try once, then pull out the needle, try again, and repeat this process several times. I was in excruciating pain, but because my body was encased in instruments, I couldn't move. Finally, I couldn't help but ask myself in my heart, what did I do wrong? Why must I endure all this? I've never harmed anyone, never wronged anyone, so why me?
At that time, I didn't understand Buddhism, nor did I know anything about making vows. But the pain drove me, someone who barely recognized a few Chinese characters despite being educated in English, to silently call out the name of Guan Yin Bodhisattva in my heart, begging her to save me from this sea of suffering. A few days later, my condition improved. The doctors removed my LSS, and I was transferred from the ICU to a regular ward. I thought I would soon be discharged and return to my previous life, believing that everything was almost over. I felt very happy!
Looking back now, I realize how ignorant and selfish I was at that time, even as I began to recover. I was only thinking about my own survival and never cared about other people who were suffering like me. Perhaps it was because of this that I received a retribution. On the same evening that I was transferred to the regular ward, I suddenly had difficulty breathing again, couldn't make any sound, and my whole body was immobilized. I could only use my eyes and hands to draw attention, making small gestures with my hand to communicate.
A nurse noticed and called a doctor from the floor. Surprisingly, after glancing at the readings on the instruments, the doctor told the nurse that my heartbeat and breathing were normal, and then left. Once again, I tried my best to attract the attention of those around me. Thanks to the blessings of the Bodhisattva, another doctor passing by noticed me and observed that something was not right with my condition. He/She called back the previous doctor and urged him to conduct a detailed examination. While they were debating whether I was normal or not, I was almost breathless, mentally giving up on life.
The readings on the instruments once again sounded the alarm. Luckily, with both doctors nearby, they were able to save me at the fastest speed possible. The next day, I woke up in the familiar ICU, with the life support system back on me. Through this rollercoaster of emotions, I finally understood that the suffering I endured stemmed from the ignorance and folly accumulated since my birth, perhaps not just in this lifetime, but through countless past lives. Now, I must face the consequences.
I once again prayed to Guan Yin Bodhisattva and made a vow to her: "Guan Yin Bodhisattva, I believe that every soul, before they pass away, experiences a lot of suffering, and their pain is surely no less than what I am enduring now. I implore Guan Yin Bodhisattva to save me from all this suffering. I am willing to be a vegetarian for the rest of my life."
Whether you believe it or not is up to you. Two days after making this vow to Guan Yin Bodhisattva to be a lifelong vegetarian, my lung infection showed significant improvement, and I was subsequently transferred to a regular ward. Perhaps it was destined. Not only did I start to follow a vegetarian diet, but my parents also understood at the same time that my illness was beyond the control of doctors and only the Bodhisattva could save me. At that time, our entire family had just begun to explore Buddhism.
Every day, my mother devoutly chanted the name of Guan Yin Bodhisattva, while my father recited the Heart Sutra for me diligently.
However, our ordeal was not yet over. One night, I once again experienced difficulty breathing and had to be placed on the LSS for the third time.
I saw my parents kneeling down, praying to the deities and Bodhisattvas to bless me with a safe recovery. They had knelt before doctors before, but this time, seeing them kneel again went beyond what I could bear. I didn't want my parents to kneel for me. Witnessing them kneel deeply wounded me. As a 19-year-old young man, I should be taking care of my parents, yet why were my parents, who were over 50 years old, kneeling for me?
Three times being placed on LSS and admitted to the ICU, followed by three instances of improvement, resulted in my transfer to a regular ward. It was three months later, after my extended hospital stay, that I finally got discharged and returned home. I am deeply grateful for the blessings of the Bodhisattva. Instead of weakening our faith in Buddhism, this series of challenges only deepened our belief in the principles of karma and karmic obstacles as explanations for my condition. After leaving the hospital, my family and I continued to immerse ourselves in the teachings of Buddhism. Grateful for the blessings of the Bodhisattva!
One day, my family and I went to a vegetarian restaurant near our home and discovered Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door. Excitedly, I immediately went online when I returned home and downloaded several Buddhist scriptures in English phonetics from the Guan Yin Citta website to start reciting. Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door truly works wonders. That very night after reciting the Buddhist scriptures, I dreamt that while reciting the Great Compassion Mantra on the balcony at home, the image of Guan Yin Bodhisattva appeared in the clouds.
However, the next day after waking up, I felt a headache and drowsiness when reciting scriptures. My family and I took the liberty of contacting the Guan Yin Citta fellowship in Kuala Lumpur. The Buddhist practitioner who answered the call instructed us to come to the fellowship to recite scriptures. One day, while reciting scriptures at the fellowship, I experienced severe headaches. At that time, everyone was busy preparing for a Dharma conference, and the venue was crowded. I am grateful to the practitioner who cleared some space for me to lie down and gathered many fellow practitioners present to recite scriptures for me.
Later, the practitioner explained that my headaches were messages from the karmic creditors and taught me about releasing lives, making vows, and the importance of Little Houses for eliminating karmic obstacles. I immediately arranged to release thousands of fish. Today, my family still insists on releasing lives for me on the first and fifteenth day of every lunar month.
Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door is truly a miraculous practice. Ever since I began reciting Little Houses under the guidance of the fellow practitioner, I have experienced continuous dreams. On the first night, I dreamt of a seven-story-tall Buddha statue with many people practicing beneath it. Just two weeks later, after memorizing the Great Compassion Mantra, I dreamt of the Dharmakaya of Bodhisattva and two Dharma protectors driving me around in a car. Even more wonderfully, two months later, after memorizing the Eighty-Eight Buddhas Great Repentance, I dreamt of myself having tea with Master Lu.
Most importantly, after continuing to release lives, make vows, and recite Little Houses, my illness has not recurred.
Having now healed from this unusual illness, I'm here to share my story with you. These dreams signify an enhancement in the quality of life. I deeply appreciate the blessings of the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, which have reinforced my resolve to earnestly follow the path of Buddhism and instilled me with confidence. I am dedicated to diligently progressing in the Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door and remain steadfast in my commitment.
Currently, I am studying in Singapore, and whenever I have the opportunity, I propagate the Dharma and benefit sentient beings. Whenever I return to Malaysia, I often volunteer at the fellowship center.
Additionally, I would like to mention two more things. Firstly, on the second night after making my vow to be a vegetarian, I saw a child's spirit clearly flying beside me in the hospital and heard it laughing. Shortly after, I dreamt of a man killing a woman and cutting open her chest. In the dream, I felt that the pain of the woman being cut open was exactly the same as the pain I felt during my surgery.
While many still question the reality of karma and karmic obstacles, doubting Master Lu's teachings, I have personally experienced their effects. Thus, I hope my story can encourage you to embark on the practice of Buddhism and the recitation of Buddhist scriptures, starting today. I wish to prevent anyone from following my path, waiting until karmic obstacles manifest and adversity strikes before beginning their spiritual journey. I am deeply thankful for all those who stood by me during that challenging time, particularly my family and friends, who supported me through my darkest moments. My heartfelt gratitude also goes to the fellow practitioners at the Guan Yin Citta fellowship in Kuala Lumpur, who patiently guided me into the Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door.
Deep gratitude to our Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Master Jun Hong Lu for establishing the Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door, guiding us on a path away from suffering towards happiness. Lastly, and most importantly, deep gratitude to the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, who saves those in distress and hardship. With Her Buddha light blessing each one of us, She guides us back to the right path of learning Buddhism and constantly watches over us, blessing us at all times and in all places. Gratitude to the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva!
Buddhist practitioner: GWT
Speech to text translator: Guan Jing
Proofreaders: Miao and Dong Ri Yang Guang
Date: 2024-05-11
Translator: Frank
Published: 2024-05-14
Statement by translator
The story was translated from video into text, and then translated from Chinese into English. If there is anything that is not rational or in line with the true meaning of the presenter, I pray for forgiveness from the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, Dharma protectors and Master Jun Hong Lu.
Propagation
It would be greatly appreciated if you would forward this presentation to all sentient beings you know, sick or healthy. You will accumulate immeasurable merits and virtues. Saving a life is more meritorious than building a seven-floor pagoda!
Would you like to change your destiny?
We will show you how to do the Five Golden Buddhist Practices of Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door: (1) making vows, (2) reciting Buddhist scriptures (sutras and mantras), (3) performing life liberation, (4) reading Buddhism in Plain Terms, and (5) repenting. You will personally witness how you and your family can achieve physical and mental stability, relief from illness and grievances, wisdom growth, academic progress, career advancement, and family happiness through Dharma. It’s free of charge.
Contact
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原文如下:
下面让我们有请来自马来西亚的郭同修与我们分享:郭同修身患绝症,重症肌无力,饱受病痛折磨几次病危。然而心灵法门使他摆脱病魔,重获新生。让我们掌声欢迎!
感恩大慈大悲观世音菩萨,感恩卢军宏师父。
尊敬的各位佛友,你是否知道什么事情比死更糟糕?你是否曾经死里逃生?今天我便有一个亲身经历死里逃生的故事要告诉你。
你是否听过一种称为重症肌无力的疾病?相信很多人都不曾听过。因为全世界只有约三万人患上这种病,患者的神经控制不到肌肉。举例说,如果患病部位是手臂,这个手就能感觉到痛热冷及压力。但无论如何你怎么叫你那个手动,它都不会动。我就是三万人之一。而受影响的部位包括脸颊,嘴巴,左手臂以及负责呼吸的胸肌。也就是说,当病程发作的时候,我是无法呼吸的。你现在估计到我多接近死亡了吧?
回到我的故事。2012年9月中旬,我肺部被细菌感染,久病不起。在9月29日当晚,我的呼吸也到了越来越困难,家人赶紧送进医院急救。第二天夜里,病情终于恶化到重症肌无力,我的呼吸微弱到快要断气了。医生再次替我急救,最后替我戴上了维生系统,并送进加护病房。所谓维生系统,就是很多仪器套在身上,很多管子插进身体里。虽然被插管子的部位很痛,但万一随便一个仪器松脱了,可能我的生命就会有危机。所以,我当时连动都不敢动。
有一夜,护士替我抽血检查,但是针管却一直插不进正确的动脉。她们这里插一下不行,拔出针管,在那里又插一下,一次又一次。我那时痛得死去活来,却因为全身套满了仪器而不能动。我终于忍不住在心里问自己,我做错了什么?为何必须承受这一切?我不曾伤害任何人,也不曾亏待任何人,为什么是我?
那时还不懂佛法,也不懂什么许愿。但痛苦使得我这个受英文教育认不到几个中文字的人也会在心里喊出观世音菩萨的佛号,祈求她救我出苦海。几天后,我的情况有好转。医生移除了我的维生系统,从加护病房推进了普通病房。我想自己很快可以出院,回到之前的生活,一切几乎结束了。我觉得很开心!
现在回想起来,我才发觉自己当时是多么的愚昧,才开始康复仍然如此的自私。只想着自己生存,不曾关心其他和我一样受苦的人。可能因为这样我受到了教训。就在我被转进普通病房的同一天晚上,我突然呼吸困难,发不出声音,全身又不能动,只能用眼神和手,以我的手用一点小动作来引起别人的注意。
一个护士发现到把楼层的医生叫来。想不到医生竟然看看仪器读数后跟护士说我的心跳和呼吸都正常,然后就离开了。我再一次用最尽力的引起身旁的人注意。感谢菩萨保佑。这时有另外一位医生经过,看到我,察觉到我的神态不正常,并把之前的医生叫回来,求他详细检查。就在他们两个还在争论我究竟是正常或不正常,一旁我已经几乎断气了,心里放弃活命了。
仪器读数也再一次变成警报状态。幸好两个医生在身旁,能以最快的速度把我救了。第二天,我在熟悉的加护病房里醒来,身上又套上了维生系统。经过这一次乐极生悲,我终于明白到我受的苦是源于我出生以来愚昧无知的罪,或许不止只有这一世,而是过去无数世累积下来的因果。如今要面对果报了。
我再次向观世音菩萨祈求,而且向她发愿说:“观世音菩萨,我相信每个灵魂,他们死之前都会受到很多苦,它们的痛苦肯定不比我现在所受的少。请求观世音菩萨救我脱离这一切痛苦。我愿意为此一生吃素。
相不相信由你。向观世音菩萨发愿终身吃素后两天我肺部感染有了明显的好转,之后被转进普通病房。或许是因缘到了。不但我自己开始吃素,我父母也同时明白到我的疾病已不在医生的控制范围,只有菩萨才能救到我。当时我们全家人才刚接触佛法。
妈妈每天勤念观音菩萨的佛号。爸爸找来一本《心经》每天为我念诵。
但是,我们的考验还没过去。某天晚上我再次感到呼吸困难,第三次戴上了维生系统。
我看到父母下跪求神佛菩萨保佑我平安度过。他们之前已经跪过医生了,这一次再下跪,已经超出我能承受的限度。我不要父母为我下跪。看到他们下跪,深深地刺伤了我。我这一个19岁的男孩应该照顾父母,反而为什么要让他们超过50岁的父母为我而下跪?
三次戴上了维生系统住进加护病房又三次的好转,被转进普通病房。我在医院里住了三个月后,才终于出院回家。感恩菩萨保佑。这三好三坏的过程,不但没有减少我和家人对佛法的信心,反而相信只有因果和业障才能解释我的状况。出院后,我和家人还继续研究什么是佛法。感恩菩萨加持!
某一天,我和家人到住家附近的一间素食馆,认识到心灵法门。于是,我回家就急不及待的上网,上心灵法门的网站下载了几篇佛经的英文拼音版开始念诵。心灵法门真的很灵验。我当夜念诵了经文后,便梦见在家中的阳台念诵《大悲咒》时,在梦里天上的云朵化出观世音菩萨的形象。
然而,第二天醒来后我念经便感到头痛及爱睡。我和家人冒昧地拨电话联络吉隆坡心灵法门共修会。接电话的师姐便叫我们到共修会里念经。一天我在共修会里念经时,头痛剧烈。当时大家正在忙着筹备法会,会所堆得很拥挤。很感恩师姐搬开东西,腾出空间让我躺下,还召集了在场的许多师兄师姐们一起为我念诵经文。
后来,师姐解释我的头痛是要经者的讯息,还教会我放生、许愿及小房子并告诉我消除业障的急迫性。我当时便即刻安排放生数千条鱼。如今家人依然坚持每逢初一十五为我放生。
心灵法门真的是很灵验的法门,自从我在师姐的教导下,开始以正确的方式念小房子之后,便不断有梦境显现。第一晚便梦见一座七层楼高的佛像,底下有很多人在共修。心灵法门真的很灵验的法门,两个星期后我背熟了《大悲咒》时,便梦到菩萨的法身,还有两护法神用车子载我兜圈。更美妙的是,两个月后,当我背起了《礼佛大忏悔文》,竟然梦见自己和师父一起喝茶。
最重要的是我继续的放生许愿及念小房子之后,我的病情不曾复发。
现在已经从这奇怪的疾病中痊愈,活下来告诉你们这一个故事。这一切的梦境显示生活素质提升。我都感恩大慈大悲的观世音菩萨的加持,坚定了我学佛精进,很有信心,并立志在心灵法门一门精进永不退转。
我如今在新加坡求学,只要有机会就弘法利生,一回到马来西亚更是经常到共修会工去做义工。
另外,我要补充两件事,第一件事在我发愿吃素后的第二晚,我便在医院看见一小孩子的灵性清楚地在我旁边飞过,还发出了笑声。不久后我又梦见了一个男人杀了一个女人,还把她的胸口割开。而我在梦里感觉,那女人的被割开胸口的痛苦竟然跟我动手术时的痛苦一模一样。很多人还在质疑因果和业障的存在,怀疑卢台长的教导,但是我亲身体验过了。因此,我希望自己的故事能启发你学佛,学习佛法,今天就开始念诵经文。因为我不希望有人跟我一样,等到业障显现坏事发生之后才开始修行。深深感恩所有在我那段时间陪伴过我的人,尤其是我家人和朋友,在我最艰难的时刻,可以为我支持的人。深深感恩吉隆坡心灵法门共修会的师兄师姐们。他们耐心引导我进入心灵法门。
深深感恩我们大慈大悲的卢军宏台长创办了心灵法门,指引我们一条离苦得乐的道路。最后也是最重要的,深深感恩南无大慈大悲救苦救难广大灵感观世音菩萨,以她的佛光加持了我们每一个人,指引我们回到正确的学佛之道,随时随地都在庇佑着我们。感恩南无大慈大悲救苦救难广大灵感观世音菩萨!
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2024.05.14 12:40 Specialist_Bake6514 Vapiano P3: Italian Food Made in Germany

Vapiano P3: Italian Food Made in Germany
The kitchen is on fire. Welcome to the final part of the Vapiano story where the tables are turning. In the first two episodes we followed Mark Korzilius' journey from setbacks to founding Vapiano, a groundbreaking restaurant concept, highlighting its fresh ingredients, dynamic atmosphere, and data-driven operations that drove rapid success. While achieving initial profitability and garnering attention from industry giants like McDonald's, Vapiano's global expansion has led to stellar revenue growth. However, it has also resulted in the emergence of numerous side projects (or distractions), operational challenges, increased costs, significant investments, and a notable accumulation of debt. This underscores the prioritization of top-line growth over profitable growth. We will continue on this thread and see how the story ends, but I would encourage you to read part one and two for better context. Vapiano P1: Italian Food Made in Germany (substack.com). Let's dig in.
Before Going Public
We are now in 2015 and the year is a disaster for Vapiano's PR department. Employee time stamps are being manipulated, endless overtime for employees and high turnover in managerial roles are reported; mice in the kitchen and even rotten food allegedly found.
The company is confronted with allegations of exceeding working hours among trainees in an article published by Welt am Sonntag, while the same outlet accuses Vapiano of manipulating punch times. The auditing firm PwC is commissioned to investigate the allegations and finds that there is no systematic approach but rather misconduct by individual employees, a mistake that’s being corrected. Internal however, investigations into stamp times are carried out regularly now and beyond its obvious reputational impact, this sucks up valuable management time and attention.
In the summer of 2015 CEO, co-founder and investor Gregor Gerlach, who has been running the group since 2011 is stepping down and Jochen Halfmann is taking over. A new Vapiano People Program with an App is being developed with the aim to better interact with customers that will incorporate innovate features such as mobile pay. The German website sees a launch of new magazine to further promote the brand and there is now a full inhouse blogger and Instagram team being installed. In October the company buys seven restaurants from original co-founder, former co-investor and ex-president previously responsible for internation expansion Kent Hahne (2x Bonn, 3x Cologne, 1x Koblenz and one in Cologne that’s under construction). This package of Vapiano restaurants is very successful and generates net sales of more than 20 million euros in 2014. Hahne opened his first Vapiano restaurant in Cologne in August 2006 and in 2015 with his company apeiron AG, Hahne operates six L'Osteria franchise restaurants, a direct Vapiano competitor, and two self-owned restaurants GinYuu.
Then in November of 2015, the next public relations bomb goes off with allegations regarding the company's quality standards. The company immediately investigates the issue through internal and external specialists but finds no evidence of any quality issues. Nevertheless, knowing that the group is now being closely watched, the company’s already in place hygiene standards are being reinforced. Additional audits and inspections are performed nationally. Further, all Vapianos worldwide are being audited twice by the partners SGS Institut Fresenius and SAI Global. Auditing software is purchased to simplify the implementation of the audits and the resulting measures. Apart from the external examinations, there is a food sampling plan in place being performed continuously. Again, all of this sucks up costs, management time and attention. With all these tumultuous developments the company’s growth engine is undeterred. Revenue grows by a whopping 50 million euros to 202 million euros, an increase of 33%. Impressive. While average spent per customer increases in all countries, the number of customers per day in Germany decreases by 3.3% partially due to the negative press towards the end of the year. Five own, four JV and 19 new franchise restaurants are added that year to the group, the total number of own managed restaurants grows to 51, there are 31 JVs and 84 franchises which bringing the total to 166 Vapiano restaurants. Global restaurant sales are now above 400 million euros.
But while revenue grows by an astronomical 50 million euros, operating profits, alarmingly, shrink again. Gross margins are staying perfectly healthy above 75% but operating costs keep growing disproportionately fast. The Company’s outstanding debt jumps by almost 30 million, close to 85 million euros by the end of the year. With operating profits at 9.5 million euros, alarm bells should be going off right now.
In Q4 of 2015, new CEO Jochen Halfmann introduces Strategy 2020. The new strategy includes five essential points. One, profitable growth in the newly defined core markets of Germany and Austria as well as in the UK, Netherlands, France and USA. Two, operational excellence through strict “best practice” management. Three, further development and digitalization of the concept considering guest feedback. Four, greater focus on long-term employee retention and five, building a modern and sustainable IT landscape. Sound’s good on paper but let’s see how things pan out.
Vapiano's investments (capital expenditures) that year are primarily directed towards new restaurant openings, renovations of existing establishments, and share acquisitions in other Vapiano restaurants from franchisees or JV partners. A significant portion of funds is allocated to the digitalization of the guest experience, including the development of a new app scheduled for market release in 2016 and the implementation of a time recording system across all group restaurants. The world's first standalone Vapiano restaurant with a delivery service that year is built in Fürth, Germany. The company keeps expanding its presence in both inner-city locations and international markets, such as Shanghai, China.
To finance all of this, the group has its own operating cash flow which comes in at 18 million while capital expenditures are 26 million euros plus 14 million for acquisitions. The funding gab is filled with 26 million euros of new debt and a seven-million-euro equity raise. At that end of the year and after the equity raise Gregor Gerlach (through his AP Leipzig GmbH & Co. KG entity) holds 30.1%, Hans-Joachim and Gisa Sander through their Exchange Bio GmbH hold 25.5% and the Tchibo heirs, Herz through their Mayfair Beteiligungsfonds II GmbH & Co. KG hold 44,4%.
But for the first time the restaurant’s concept that was so successful to date is being questioned. Some customers are starting to mislike the operational flow of the concept itself. If you want pasta, you must queue for pasta. If you want pizza you stand in a different queue. A small side salad, yet another queue. "You spend more time carrying trays than an actress in Berlin-Mitte. The audience in the pasta limbo can only consist of people who have worked for an insurance company for a long time and, like Stockholm syndrome, they can no longer get away from the industrial canteen feeling," writes TV host Beisenherz provocatively. While overly harsh in his assessment he's not entirely wrong judging by customers venting their frustrations in forums and social media channels. It isn’t uncommon for those who ordered pizza to have already finished eating while there is little movement in the pasta queue. Long term that doesn't go down well, QSRs competitors like L’Osteria are handling this process differently, with much success.
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Tipping Point

Where are now in the year 2016 and things start to deteriorate visibility. Perhaps not for the leman’s eye but any business minded observer can see that there are problems under the hood. Yes, revenue grows yet another whopping 50 million to almost 250 million euros but half of that growth, comes from acquisitions of restaurants that the group didn’t already own 100%, which is now being fully consolidated within the group’s accounts. Here is a concrete example. In the past, Vapiano SE, the group’s top holding company held an indirect 50% stake in a French subgroup via the subsidiary VAP Restaurants SA, based in Luxembourg, and included this as an associated company in the Vapiano SE consolidated financial statements using the equity method. Due to the acquisition of additional shares in September of 2016, Vapiano SE's indirect share in the French subgroup increased to 75%. This means that Vapiano SE takes control of the French subgroup, which is therefore included in the group’s financial statements as part of the full consolidation. The revenue from the acquired subsidiary now recorded in the consolidated income statement amounts to 12.8 million euros. While that’s great for the top line, the loss of the fully consolidated entity equates to 0.2 million euros. Yes, you are buying revenue, but there are losses attached to them, not profits. A similar case is the Swedish entity that runs eight restaurants with revenue of 11.5 million euros but has losses of 235 thousand euros. So much for Strategy 2020 and “profitable” growth.
That year the group’s operating profits are absolutely tanking, halving to 3.5 million euros. Operating profits are now a mere 1,4% of revenue. Remember original founder Mark Korzilius who talked about operating margins of 25% to 28% at the restaurant level? Yes, there are overhead costs for the organization that sits above the chain of restaurants, but operating margins that low indicates a course correction is needed. What’s telling is that in the annual report, in the management discussion section, the company starts talking about EBITDA as a proxy measure of profitability, rather than operating profit or net income. This wasn’t the case in the years before. Is this window dressing for an upcoming IPO? EBITDA is short for earnings before interest, tax, depreciation, and amortization. How can you measure profitability of a restaurant chain that absolutely and unequivocally needs capital investment to maintain its restaurant operations, the very source of cash generation, by simply excluding this maintenance charge (depreciation in the income statement)? Vapiano’s own annual report talks about the fact that existing restaurants must be rejuvenated from time to time and that new interior designs have to be implemented every few years. These things wear and tear, they go out of style, kitchen equipment breaks and needs replacement. This business absolutely needs maintenance capital expenditure, why anyone talks of profits before these maintenance costs is beyond me. Fun fact: in the previous annual report EBITDA is mentioned seven times, mostly around restaurant acquisitions and financing, not however as a profit indication for the group. In the new annual report, EBITDA is mentioned 28 times. Maybe it’s just me but belated Charlie Munger liked to call EBITDA: bullsh*t earnings. When in doubt I stick with Charlie. Interestingly, EBITDA for Vapiano keeps growing while operating and net profits keep falling.
Operating cashflow for the group that year is about 21 million euros, but capital expenditure is 30 million and acquisitions for subsidiaries another 20 million. To finance these expenditures another 28 million euros of debt and 16 million of equity is raised. Net debt rises above 130 million euro. The operating cashflow of the group before any capital expenditures is 21 million euros. I am not sure free cash flow would be significantly positive after maintenance capex is paid out; it’s not broken out so we can’t be sure. Granted, I am not on the ground during this time, and I am not in the board room, I am simply reading what’s in front of me, but to me this is starting to look like a distressed situation. Regardless, the following year the company goes public.

IPO

Where are now in the year 2017 and its Vapiano’s first year as public company. The company’s annual report reads the following “Sales revenue, like-for-like growth (LfL) and the earnings figures EBITDA and adjusted EBITDA are used as the most important financial performance indicators for controlling operational business activities.” The very same report however also says: “The majority of the group's investments regularly go towards opening new restaurant locations and modernizing existing restaurants. The latter are differentiated into regular replacement investments that occur during ongoing operations (Maintenance CAPEX) and fundamental investments in the renovation of a restaurant (Remodeling CAPEX). On average, a restaurant remodeling takes place nine years after opening.” It says it right there in their own report; every nine years a remodeling is taking place. Remodeling and updating is not cost free, so why exclude depreciation charges which reflect capital expenditures? I understand that perhaps you would want to strip out one-off opening costs, that’s fine and fair, but don’t go overboard.
The number of restaurants increases by 26 (previous year: 13) to a total of 205. The increase consists of 27 new openings and one closure. Group revenue grows to an astonishing 325 million euros but here comes the shocker, operating profits turn negative to 25 million. Fine, strip out foreign exchange losses of 3 million, IPO costs of 5.8 million and new opening costs of 6.1 million and you still have 10 million euros of operational losses. All the while the debt load of almost 130 million hasn’t materially changed, so those operating losses are before a six-million-euro interest payment. 184 million euros are raised through the IPO of which 85 million go to the company. This money is earmarked for further expansion as the group has ambitions to almost double the footprint to 330 restaurants by the end of 2020. The company is currently not profitable on an operating basis, and still wants to expand aggressively? I don’t get it. The remaining 100 million euros of the IPO money raised is distributed to co-founder Gregor Gerlach and Wella heirs Hans-Joachim and Gisa Sander. The family office of the former Tchibo owners Günter and Daniela Herz with a 44% stake, don’t sell a single share. After the IPO, 32% of all the company’s shares are now in free float.
One year later, in 2018, things get even worse. Revenue grows to 371 million, but operating losses mount to 85 million euros, that’s before interest expenses of 9 million. Even the beloved EBITDA figure turns negative, meaning the operating business before any expansionary or even maintenance capital expenditures is loss making. All regions are experiencing significant deterioration in their earnings profiles. Like for like sales are down 1% across the board. That’s revenue, not profitability. The question naturally arises: is the Group approaching its natural saturation point here or this operational by nature? The operating cash flow is now 9 million while financing cost are close to 7 million. That leaves 2 million for maintenance capital for 74 own restaurants and 76 joint ventures ones. Describing this as financially tight, would be an understatement.
Things are not looking good at this point. Yet the company still grows restaurants by 26 new sites. 64 million euros are spent on acquisitions, new openings, and maintenance costs, financed through a 20 million-euro equity raise and 72 million of new debt. The Company now has net debt outstanding of over 160 million euros. After the equity raise and by the end of the year 2018, Mayfair owns 47.4%, VAP Leipzig, Gregor Gerlach’s entity owns 18.9% and the Sander couple own 15.5% of the company. Yes, the Sanders and Gerlach may have taken 100 million euros off the table, but they still have substantial skin in the game. Plus, Mayfair hasn’t sold a single share and instead injects more money into the company through the equity round. The stock has now fallen from its IPO price of 23 euros per share to under 6 euros by the end of 2018. Something must be done here. And indeed, there is pivot in strategy and a hard push for change. At last, the management team abandons its aggressive growth plan and curtails new openings significantly. Additionally, the team wants to run a thorough analysis of weak locations to then either discontinue or sell sites. In Europe, the operating focus will be put on corporate restaurants and joint ventures in major cities to ensure the ideal size and location to match the respective demographic target group. Outside of Europe, the franchising business is being expanded and at the same time a consolidation of the existing corporate and joint venture markets is being sought. All future investments will be reviewed to achieve higher rates of returns on new openings. Investments are also being made in the renovation of older restaurants. The goal in the future is to also open smaller formats, like Mini-Vapianos (less than 400 square meters) or Freestander at prominent transportation hubs outside city centers (currently in Fürth and Toulouse) to cater to individual location requirements, and to enter new partnerships. I am not sure why management hasn’t stopped all expansion altogether, bringing the ship in order first, getting profitable, clean up, all hands-on deck before considering any further expansions whatsoever. But again, it’s easy to comment from the sidelines; maybe they saw white spaces that would be covered by competing concepts if they weren’t moving fast and aggressively enough. Although pushing internationally means competing with local players such as Jamie's Italian, Prezzo, Pizza Express, Wagamama, Nando's and many more which brings in its own dynamic.
Management also aims to enhance guest satisfaction. This involves refining operational processes, reorganizing the support center, and refocusing on the core offering: providing fresh and high-quality Italian food at affordable prices for a broad audience. The group also aims to reduce waiting times, especially during lunch, while also improving the evening atmosphere. There is even what I would call an evolution, away from Vapiano’s original concept, reorientating the customer journey. The ordering flow is being changed, offering guests synchronized preparations of all dishes while eliminating wait times at the cooking stations. The open show kitchen remains, staying true to original mantra of freshness and transparency but now guests can choose their preferred method of ordering through a mobile app, using a digital order point (kiosk), or by personally placing an order with a waiter. Guests can still freely choose their table and are then informed about the complete preparation of their order through a pager or their smartphone. This is a substantial deviation from the original concept, but a needed one. The group is also exploring and implementing the expansion of take-away and home delivery services but only at suitable locations, not universally across new openings. I am not sure why home delivery is even a priority here; it adds operational complexity. It’s better to clean up shop first and get back to the basics before adding new complexities. To be fair management does try to simplify. There are 49 different permanent dishes on the menu and additional 10 seasonal ones. Customers can choose from eleven different types of pasta. There is simply too much choice, and it makes orders complicated. The company announced to slim the menu down to its most popular and typical Vapiano dishes. There’s no need for an Asian salad at an Italian restaurant. "We have to go back to the roots, i.e. classic, honest Italian cuisine" says COO Everke. Regardless, in November of 2018, the supervisory board pulls the plug on CEO Jochen Halfmann and replaces him with Cornelius Everke. Everke himself has just become COO five months ago. Since 2017 he was responsible for international expansion. From 2011 to 2017 that role was filled by Mario Bauer – put a pin in that name, he’ll play a key role in the groups fate later. Then nine months later, in the middle of 2019, Cornelius Everke quits. He essentially concludes that his skillset and experience in the areas of internation expansion is no longer needed in the foreseeable future. To put it differently: Vapiano has moved from a growth story and has become a restructuring case, and other skills are required for that job. In June of 2019 Everke says the following “(we’ve) made a bit of a mistake when it came to foreign expansion”. No sh#t. Vapiano postpones the presentation of the 2018 annual financial statements three times in the spring of 2019, citing negotiations over an urgently needed loan of 30 million euros. It’s not until the end of May that a binding loan commitment comes through from the financing banks and major shareholders.
We are now in August of 2019 and the corona pandemic is just around the corner. Supervisory board chief Vanessa Hall takes over as interim-CEO and things are unravelling. Visitor numbers are declining; originally, it was planned to sell the US business but halfway through the year the buyer cannot come up with the money. But not all restaurants are performing poorly. The group's poor figures contrast starkly as an example with the experiences of the Swiss-German franchisee, who runs six restaurants. The Sodano family in Switzerland pays Vapiano a royalty of 6% of sales for the use of the brand. Enrico Sodano explains in an interview that they operate largely autonomously from the licensor. If an “accident” were to occur, he could immediately replace the Vapiano sign with Sodano, he says. The family concluded the rents and contracts with employees and suppliers independently. The Sodano family have six locations in Bern, Basel and Zurich, around one million guests every year and 350 employees. Things are going well on the ground. The delivery service they’ve built is offering them a second income stream. Expansion into Winterthur, St. Gallen and Lucerne are being planned; small locations with 150 to 250 square meters and an attached delivery service. Originally, Vapiano restaurants used to be huge but for such a large restaurant to be profitable, 800 to 1,000 guests per day are needed. That’s possible in medium-sized cities, but not in smaller towns which is why the Vapiano group now also supports smaller formats. Back to our corporate drama. The 2019 annual report would be the last report the group files. By the end 2019 the outstanding debt of the company is at an astronomical 450 million euros. Revenue has grown by another 7%, produced by four net new openings through two JVs and two franchise restaurants but operating losses come in at 317 million euros. That sound like an absolute shocker at first but depreciation and amortization charges are 345 million, so that operating cash flow is actually positive but unfortunately capital expenditures and interest payments are so large that they are eating up all of the company’s operating cash flow. Then in the beginning of 2020 Corona hits with full force and the world shuts down. As a result of the measures to prevent further spreading of the virus, the group is forced to cease all global business operations (except in Sweden). While all these shutdowns are happening, the group is the middle of negotiating with its lending banks and main shareholders. There are additional financing needs for restructuring measures, even without a pandemic happening in the background. The situation is so dire that the company starts pleading to the German government to roll out the package of financial help more quickly. Unfortunately, it’s to no end. The rapid closure of restaurants and the resulting lack of operating cash inflows in conjunction with the additional financing requirements, lead to the company’s final knockout punch. In April of 2020, the Vapiano group officially files for insolvency proceedings. The end of an era.

New Beginnings

Because of the pandemic, the majority of the group's subsidiaries in Austria, the Netherlands, Denmark, the United States, Sweden, and China also file for insolvency or seek liquidation. The US business never gets sold in the end and is wound down. In the summer of 2020, significant group divestments occur, including the sale of 75% shares in the group's French subsidiaries, shares in franchisor companies, Australian subsidiaries, German subsidiaries, associated companies, self-managed restaurants in Germany, and insolvency-related sales in the Netherlands, Great Britain, and Sweden. The buyer of the Vapiano brand and one of these bundles of Vapiano restaurants is company named Love & Food Restaurant Holding, a consortium led by Mario C. Bauer – a name I told you to remember. Bauer was a former Vapiano board member and led the national and international expansion, opening 200 sites in 33 countries from 2011 to 2017 until he was succeeded by Cornelius Everke. Bauer didn’t feel comfortable with the IPO at the time but clearly has a lot of managerial and entrepreneurial talent.
The buyer consortium is an absolute A-Team comprised of European QSR top league hitters, including the founder of the Pret A Manger chain Sinclair Beecham; Henry McGovern, the founder and Ex-CEO of the giant international restaurant and foodservice operator AmRest; the Van der Valk Family that runs hotels and Vapiano restaurants in the Netherlands, and co-founder and ex-CEO Gregor Gerlach. The acquisition value is 15 million euros and entails 30 Vapiano restaurants in Germany, albeit that’s just the purchase price which comes on top of any capital investment needed to refresh and return the sites to its former glory. Nevertheless, just as a thought experiment, if you can get each site to 2 million euros of revenue and 400,000 euros in operating profit on average, which wouldn’t be an overly aggressively assumption given the company’s history, you’ve got yourself a package that can deliver restaurant-level operating profits of 12 million euros or more. It’s not disclosed how much capex was needed to refresh the operations, just that fact that the overall investment plus purchase price was a middle double-digit million-euro figure. Stil, it probably was a decent purchase. The same consortium buys Vapiano’s French business for 25 million euros just two weeks prior. After the transaction concludes, the master franchise is given to Delf Neumann and his Gastro & Soul GmbH. Neumann is an experienced operator, and he is ambitious to revitalise the brand with new services and products. For example, instead of pizza, the restaurants will be serving pinsa - a flatbread made from sourdough, wheat and rice flour, topped similarly to a pizza. It targets a more health-oriented customer base looking for a less calory heavy option. The menu overall is expanded by including a variety of vegan and vegetarian dishes.
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Today Neumann’s Gastro & Soul GmbH operates 18 Vapianos on its own account and has 29 franchise sites, amongst other brands. By the year 2021, Vapiano operates 191 restaurants in 34 countries. This is around 50 fewer sites than before the bankruptcy. The number of branches is particularly thinned out in Germany – from 80 to 55. Nevertheless, Vapiano's home country remains by far the largest market, followed by France with 35 restaurants and Austria with 15 locations. “We have shrunk ourselves to health,” says Bauer in the aftermath and there is no further shrinking planned. Quite the opposite, the smell of expansion is in the air again – pun intended. Not as aggressively as before and with a new menu and ordering process.
Overall, the team around Bauer is filled with industry experts with knowledge and networks gained over decades who have a great track record, a long-term view, and the staying power to let Vapiano breath and finds its way back to success. The pressure of being a public company with all the associated quarterly, half-year and yearly disincentives have been removed. The menu is changed and extended with new types of pasta and sauces with significantly more vegetarian and vegan dishes available. Guests can order with restaurant staff, at terminals or on their phones and there are barcodes attached to the tables identify the respective seat. The food is brought to your table, all at the same time if you are in a group, no more annoyances with waiting in line. There is a plan for smaller, 350 square meter locations, with half the number of guests and significantly fewer staff and less set-up costs required to make the economics work. Locations that capitalize on remote work and increased demand for local lunch options, higher population density with shorter delivery routes and therefore cost-effective in house delivery services are targeted. And Bauer is testing the concept of ghost kitchens, which operate without a dining room or service staff, focusing solely on preparing food for delivery services, which for obvious reasons have a very different operational set up and footprint. Original founder Mark Korzilius however is not entirely convinced. He is not a fan of the pinsa for instance and he considers Vapiano's pizza as its cash cow, flagship product and believes that the core Vapiano proposition of Pizza, Pasta, Bar that has given the company its original success is being diluted. He instead admires the competitor L'Osteria, saying they’ve done a better job by focusing on Italian classics, especially the impressively large pizzas that sticks out beyond the plate is leaving every customer in awe. The guys who run L’Osteria are the same guys who have built Vapiano with him in the first place. Bauer on the other hand, like a true business leader, remains undeterred, stating that he is frequently asked whether Vapiano's restart was bold or foolish. He believes in entrepreneurship, franchising, in his experienced fellow partners and importantly the Vapiano concept. By the year 2024 you can find over 140 Vapiano branded restaurant in 27 countries across the globe, including locations far away from its birthplace like Australia, USA, Columbia, Chile, Bahrain, and Saudi Arabia. And why not? Italian food is, and will remain to be, incredibly popular. Vapiano offers fresh and tasty food at affordable prices in a good atmosphere. This combination of attributes should attract a lot of customers. It certainly has in the past.
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2024.05.14 12:21 sidewalk_ladybug How much bleeding is too much?

I've posted before so I know bleeding on HRT is common.
With that said, I'm 8 weeks in, estradiol patch .1 mg and micronized P 100 mg, and I just started my 3rd period since starting the regiment. Basically I've been having light periods since I started HRT.
Before starting I hadn't had a period in 3 months or so but after starting I was fine for 2 weeks and then the first one hit...2 after that with about a one week break between.
Anyone else experience this?
update: I called the nurse from my GYN and she assured me that the bleeding is normal. said it would take a while to level off.
thanks for the replies. Perimenopause is making crazy!
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2024.05.14 12:05 Remarkable_Plane_794 After a second opinion on my situation currently

For reference I (25 M) make just under 80k p/a gross + Super. Monthly expenses sit at roughly $900.
Have been a long time lurker and first time poster after reading a few threads on here.
Current investments etc. are as follows:
$5k cash in a reasonably good HISA (5.1% p.a)
$10,000 in BetaShares ETHI ETF - has made $250 in the last 3 weeks since investing.
Have worked out I could comfortably drop $1500 / month into this and $500 / month into the HISA.
$1,400 / month SS into Super ($700 / fortnight) for approx. $26,800 p.a w/ employer contributions (allows for any changes in wages etc.)
I am quite a conservative person overall, like to research everything before making a decision etc.
Always have at least $1000 in the day to day account in case “shit hits the fan.”
No intention of buying a house - can’t justify the exorbitant pricing and having a massive debt owing.
Live at home.
Overall goal is to have roughly $750,000 - $1,000,000 by the time I’m 40 to check out on and FIRE.
Earlier would be even better.
How am I doing overall, is there something else I should look at?
Thanks,
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2024.05.14 11:47 digital_bijoy This Mindset Shift Was Key To Finally Building Muscle And Strength

This Mindset Shift Was Key To Finally Building Muscle And Strength
Women's Health
Growing up in Puerto Rico, I was an active child and fell in love with volleyball. When I was 10, my mother and I picked up and moved to New York. While adjusting to my new home and my mom's long work hours, I had to take care of myself more. As a result, I started gaining weight.
By age 21, I was dealing with lower back pain from a car accident and became pregnant with my daughter. I weighed 250 pounds, which caused sciatica pain and made carrying my pregnancy harder. At one point, it was even difficult to walk. My self-image took a hit, I was depressed, and I felt like I lost myself.

My daughter inspired me to make major changes in my health and start a fitness routine.

After I gave birth to my daughter, I hit a turning point.
In 2018, I decided to sign up for XSport, a local gym facility, and started using YouTube to teach myself different workouts. I also worked with a personal trainer for a month to learn the basics of equipment and exercises in the gym and get a meal plan started. My mom was always big on working out, so we would go together as well.
I started seeing results, but at that point, I was only focused on losing weight, not strength or building muscle. I did cardio-heavy workouts seven days a week. It was mostly the treadmill and elliptical.
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When I saw the number on the scale continue to drop, it sparked my curiosity for the machines and weights.

Luckily, my boyfriend at the time was a bodybuilder and taught me a lot. He gave me the tools I needed to build muscle and challenge myself on my own.
Transitioning out of cardio-focused workouts and light weights and into a new routine was challenging. It was exciting to know that I was taking the right steps to see the results I wanted.
Learning so many new things at once and then putting it into action was also intimidating. I felt overwhelmed. Between early morning gym sessions, measuring my meals, creating enough time to stretch, and hitting my water goals, it was a lot.
I knew I had a foundation of fitness, but I needed to put the pieces together in a way that worked for me and for my goals. Things didn't start to click for me until waking up at 4 a.m. for cardio became second nature.

Now, I approach my training like a bodybuilder and often do two workouts a day.

I currently train at a bodybuilding gym (Xtreme Fitness) six days a week and do cardio about seven days a week. Generally, I do my cardio in the morning and go back to the gym in the evening to strength train. I used to have push and pull days, but now I have four leg days and one upper-body day once a week. On my rest days, I'm usually working, so it’s more of an active recovery day.
Some of my go-to exercises include Bulgarian split squats, goblet squats, leg curls, and leg extensions. I try to stay away from squatting because of my sciatica. For upper body, I’ll do side and front lateral raises, lat pulldowns, and seated cable rows.
I usually do four sets of 15 to 20 reps for every exercise. Each week, I’ll try to up the weights and test myself, and if I feel like I can’t hit my usual goal, then I’ll max out at 12 reps instead.
I’m preparing to compete in my first bodybuilding competition later this year in the women’s wellness division, which focuses on bigger legs and glutes and a leaner upper body. I’m also in the process of becoming a certified personal trainer.
Bodybuilding is less about numbers and PR’s, but a few years ago I was able to leg press 675 pounds for 12 reps. We call that “ego lifting,” because it’s not necessary. While I still lift heavy from time to time, I’d rather avoid injuring myself. For example, for leg extensions, I’ll stick to around 135 pounds for 20 reps. And for an RDL, I won’t go heavier than 115 pounds.
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I learned what worked and what didn't trying different diets until I found a sustainable plan and started measuring out my meals.

Before I started hitting the gym, I tried Herbalife and lost 25 pounds. Eventually, it got expensive, so I had to stop. I ended up gaining the weight back. Once I started training, I tried the keto diet for about five months and lost 50 pounds. With that, I hit 170 pounds.
I didn't realize it at the time, but I was actually doing dirty keto, which I found out thanks to my ex-boyfriend. With his help, we restructured my meals, and I got off keto. Not long after making the switch, I had better energy levels, improved focus, and noticeable progress in the gym.
Now, my new bodybuilding coach has me eat 1,400 calories a day. (Reminder: That's what works for me, but you should always work with an expert before making big calorie or diet changes.) For breakfast, I have two whole eggs with lean brown beef and some pineapple. For lunch, I’ll have grilled chicken with any green vegetable.
My pre-workout is 30 grams of cashews, and my post-workout is 30 grams of cream of rice with one scoop of protein and water mixed together. For dinner, I usually eat salmon and sweet potato. I measure all my meals beforehand and drink a gallon of water a day.

I had to reframe my mindset around changes in my weight to enable muscle gain.

One of the biggest blocks I had to overcome was accepting that building muscle also came with gaining weight. People explained the science to me, but I still wasn't processing it. I was so focused on losing weight for so long that I found myself frustrated about working hard at the gym and not seeing more weight coming off.
At the same time, I started to finally see my muscles coming through. That's when I began to understand weight in a new way. It was challenging to think of gaining weight as my new goal. I even had to give myself pep talks to help myself lean into what was needed in order to see progress. Once I let the fear go, everything started falling into place.

Learning the importance of discipline made a huge difference in and out of the gym.

Of all my goals, I’m most proud of my ability to stay disciplined. There are still days I wake up and don’t want to train or eat the same foods. But I feel like I’ve mastered the discipline that was needed to get me to where I’m at. I learned that motivation comes and goes—it’s not consistent. But it’s about showing up for yourself. Discipline has had a positive affect on my work life and at-home life as a mom. I can apply it to everything.
I want women to know how important mindset is. You really have to think about what you're getting into before an attempt at your goal is even made. You have to be willing to dedicate the time and remind yourself that this for you and nobody else. Get comfortable being uncomfortable, and in the end, it will always be worth it.
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2024.05.14 10:11 BipolarBanter Globus Pharyngeus with Complex Comorbidities

I need the otolaryngology medical community’s help, as many physicians have been stumped by my situation. Admins, please read before deciding to delete. I am not a medical professional, but I possess a unique situation that cannot seem to be resolved by the medical professionals available to me. I am not sure how to phrase this without breaking the subreddit’s only rule, so I will try to express it in a manner oriented to my obsessive curiosity to understand my (undiagnosed) condition.
 
For starters, I have no credentials to confidently say anything I am about to; some of it may even be jargon or irrelevant, but I will try my best.
 
Eight years ago, I weighed around 285 lbs. I began an exercise routine that caused me to lose about 20 lbs within a short amount of time. During this period, I developed persistent discomfort in my left ear. I noticed the discomfort after visiting my aunt, where there was a 500’ elevation difference. When I came back home, my ear would not pop. Over the course of a week or so, the ear pressure eventually equalized, but everything sounded muffled.
 
This led me to my first ENT visit. The ENT didn’t really give me much time, and paired me with an audiologist who determined my hearing was perfect. After hearing the unfortunate news of no diagnosis, I asked why I have to pop my ears to hear consistently. I was brushed off and told to see a TMJ specialist. The TMJ specialist told me I’m fine.
 
This is where my independent research began. I determined that my “popping” was actually me forcibly equalizing the pressure in my Eustachian tube by repeatedly moving my jaw. I went to an in-network ENT. This ENT took offense to my self-diagnosis of Eustachian Tube Dysfunction (ETD) and told me my issues were allergy-related. I was referred to their allergy department and put on immunotherapy shots. After completing my treatment and reaching maintenance, my issue persisted.
 
Frustrated, I looked online for the highest-rated ENT in my state. This doctor did not accept my insurance, so I decided to pay out of pocket to get the issue resolved. This doctor’s niche was rhinoplasty, and he was the first (and so far last) to give me the time of day. He performed a nasal endoscopy and a CT scan of my sinuses. Both tests revealed nothing of use. He noted I have a slightly deviated septum, but not nearly enough to cause any of my symptoms. However, he did note the sinuses on the side where I’m experiencing discomfort were inflamed. His diagnosis was chronic sinusitis. I was prescribed Azelastine 0.1% (137 mcg) nasal spray (an antihistamine). I used this medication for about a year in conjunction with Flonase, but nothing changed.
 
Once again, I sought out a different ENT. This ENT also took offense to my description of symptoms because I used medical phrasing (ETD). After a brief consultation, I was told once again that my symptoms were allergy-related. I went back on allergy shots, reached maintenance, and once again the issue persisted.
 
At this point, I gave up and didn’t bother refilling my prescriptions or finishing my shot treatment. Over the course of a year or two, I developed a severe sinus infection that went several months untreated. It came to the point where I was unable to breathe out of my nose at all, affecting me to the point my family members became concerned, as now there were comorbidities (such as sleep apnea). I eventually saw a pulmonologist who made it clear I needed to see an ENT and get my sinus issues fixed.
 
Thinking that maybe if I stuck with the same ENT and followed the trial and error process, I went back to the last ENT I saw. I was diagnosed with a sinus infection and prescribed medication. For the first time in months, I was able to breathe again after excreting from my nose what looked like petrified mucus. With this small victory, I returned to the same ENT and expressed my frustrations. I passionately described the location of my discomfort and explained that I believe the Eustachian tube problems I’m having are not the issue but a symptom of something else. I explained that I feel a mass or some sort of inflammation in my throat and mentioned the inflammation found by the previous ENT who performed a nasal endoscopy.
 
That was a mistake. After expressing my frustrations, I was diagnosed with "globus hystericus." Initially excited to finally have an explanation and a treatment plan, I was disheartened when I was told he could no longer assist me and suggested involving different medical professionals. When I got home and googled my new diagnosis, I realized he was referring me to a psychologist. Needless to say, I didn’t return.
 
Unable to accept my new reality, I resorted to more independent research. Before I even say this, I want to strongly express how much this improved my symptoms. Mewing, changing my tongue posture, and stopping mouth breathing drastically improved my Eustachian tube pressure over the course of a year. Using a jaw exercisegum daily also significantly reduced my ear pressure issues. Although the discomfort was reduced, it was not fully resolved. Sometimes I’d use a massage gun on my jaw, chin, bridge of my nose, head, and neck, which helped with mucus and provided temporary relief, especially lower in my neck near my chests, this seems to what felt like drain mucus/fluid. I am 120% able to the breath better after, but the “mass” still felt present.
 
After a while, my circumstances relocated me to a different state, giving me a new opportunity to finally resolve this. I saw a new ENT, and I gave the full rundown of my symptoms and history. I mentioned every medical ailment, bad habit, and quirk I have ever experienced. I mentioned my frequent regurgitation from overeating, how sometimes ground beef or rice seems to get stuck somewhere in the back of my throat, how I sleep on the side where I’m having discomfort, and how I pick my nose in the morning. I also mentioned that I can feel when my ears are producing wax and can remove hot wax with a Q-tip in real-time. I mentioned having tubes as a kid (as I mentioned to every ENT). This ENT diagnosed my issue as being caused by the acid in my regurgitation irritating my sinuses. I was prescribed Omeprazole 40 mg. I took this for a while but realized it was a bandaid on a bigger issue. I needed to prioritize my weight and eating habits.
 
I eventually started measuring my portions and eating slowechewing my food better, which fully resolved the regurgitation issue. However, I still occasionally get food stuck somewhere in my throat and definitely stuck in my soft palate. I have had my tonsils and adenoids removed when I was a toddler, but I can’t help but wonder if something grew back and is trapping food (I assume this would show in a CT scan).
 
As of recently, my latest symptom is hairs coming from the back of my mouth. Initially, I thought they were beard hairs, but after the fifth or sixth time, I became fully certain that single strands of hair are coming from the side of my mouth where I’m experiencing discomfort. I can replicate this over a long period of repeatedly opening my jaw (like I have Tourette’s) in an effort to equalize the pressure in my ear. I did some research, and it sounds like it could be a million different things. So once again, I have an ENT appointment coming up.
 
Now we’re caught up. I started to about a year ago still use the nasal spray and Flonase daily, and I even have a tablespoon of raw local honey. I have ZERO allergies. My ear pressure has progressively gotten worse over the past month, with the frequency of hairs increasing due to my constant need to open and close my mouth for pressure relief. I am not sure what to even tell this new ENT. I need experts to help me navigate the landscape of this condition.
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2024.05.14 09:37 vvvyan AITAH FOR HATING MY FIANCE

Notes: sorry for the bad English or wrong grammar since English is not my first language
I’m 23 (F) and my fiancé 24 (M) has been engaged for 3 months now. We are exes back at high school but only in relationship for few months. After 5 years, we met again and he propose after few months after we met. Everything was fine before, he took care of my well-being, fulfil my cravings and needs. He has an ex before, she is a cheater and gold digger (from what he told me) he really loved her that he bought the girl almost everything she wanted, an iPhone, iPad, shopping spree, expensive dining and even install the air conditioner and bought furniture at the girl familys house. To the point where the girls family is using him for money. Eventually after 2 years, they broke up.
Back to my story, he changed by time. He doesn’t really pay attention to me like he used to, he plays his phone a lot and no longer fulfil my needs like he used to. I checked his phone few times since I know all his passwords an got access to his social media but theres nothing suspicious, he just scrolling his media social most of the time. The wedding is less than 3 months away and we havent start to prepare anything yet. Just a small talk like where the venue and how many guests we want to invite and that`s all. Every time I try bring him to discuss more about the wedding he keeps saying “whatever u wanted, it will be just fine with me”. At this time, I feel like I am the only one who excited about this wedding. You must be guessing oh he must be working really hard right now to pay the wedding expenses. He is not, his dad lending his money to pay for our wedding expenses and he agreed to pay it back every month after the wedding. I don’t know how to feel about this.
Related to the story of his ex, the girl is jobless and basically his ex-boyfriend who is my fiancé now is the one who provide anything for her. I am working, but the salary is not that much but enough, I notice my fiancé don’t have that much money like he used to so I helped him to cover some expenses using my savings for us to survive. But this is where my hate grew, because just later I know he actually not that broke like what I thought. Few weeks ago, I thought we are facing financial problem that he only bought one meal for me and he refuse for us to share the meal. I, once again use my saving so none of us have to feel hungry and to cover some expenses. He bought a 400 bucks car rims the very next day and told me he wants to join competing a car event that is one month away. As the fiancée I keep thinking why he can`t treat me the way he treated his ex before, she is jobless + cheat on him but he just fine with it and still love and did everything she wanted to just to please her. But when we are together, I am treated this way. I tried confront him few times but he keeps denying and tell me sad story about his previous life. It’s not that I want to be his next gold digger but I sense the injustice in all these issues. Mind that he like to lie with no reason, like just a small inconvenient thing asked and he will pretty much lie.
I don’t know how to feel, what I should do or talk to. because people around me supporting him, saying he is a nice guy whatsoever and it is me who over react all this things.
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2024.05.14 08:20 saturdaystate Bottom growth

I recently started back on T after taking a break for several years (just life being life). I was previously on 50 mg bi-weekly and was on T for a couple years before I stopped. I didn’t really experience any major major changes, and a lot of what did change kinda reversed once I stopped (mainly my voice). I’ve read a lot of other posts that guys usually stop experiencing bottom growth/ growth plateaus after 1-2 years. Given that I was on T before and am now back on, do you think I’ll still be able to have bottom growth? I didn’t have much when I was on it previously, but don’t know if I already plateaued back then.
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2024.05.14 07:07 ThrowRAdavaz My parents (61F & 63M) manipulated me into having them buy me a home. Now they say I’m (28M) a disgrace. How should I navigate this?

Hi relationship_advice,
Some key points before you read; I moved to Orlando, FL from Washington state in February of 2023. It was closer to family and I had a lot of friends here. I truly love it here. I’m convinced there is something mentally not-okay with my mother and we’ve had a hot/cold relationship for years. My dad divorced her and got re-married to her and these days just puts up with it. We used to have a significantly better relationship but this has frankly tarnished all of that and he just puts up with it. My parents are real-estate investors in the Orlando area and generally buy some of terrible homes in even worse areas and somehow find renters. They act like they’re mansions but they truly are terrible. I’m 28 years old.
When I initially moved here, I got my own apartment in a great suburb of Orlando. My parents helped me move and were really excited for me to get back on this coast. At some point during my residency, my parents brought up a notion to attempt to “help” me by buying me a house. My credit is shot and there is no way I qualify for a conventional mortgage. Maybe before the big short but certainly not in today’s housing climate. I didn’t actively reach out to them for this sort of assistance but I toyed with the idea.
Given the fact that they are real-estate investors, their interest rate was going to be somewhere in the realm of 7%. That left me with a max value of about a $400,000 house in order to be comfortable with the payment. Daily my mom would send me listings to some of the shittiest homes I’ve ever seen and get upset when I say I don’t like it. That would generally be when I would cut off the conversation after I’m told I’m “ungrateful”. Mind you they haven’t even done anything yet.
Months pass and I find a decent townhome in a location that I’ve always wanted to live in. It’s a townhome that has 2beds, 2baths and was about $380K. In an effort to make my parents happy and not be so “ungrateful” I agreed that they can put an offer on it. Mind you this house is one that I would likely never buy with my own money, but given the interest rate I sort of had to stick with it.
The agreement was that they would put down $100K for the house, they own (I’m not on the title) the mortgage, I pay the full escrow (mortgage payment, PMI, taxes and HOA dues) and, when it comes time to sell, I would get every dollar above the selling price. It was an enticing deal to get some equity that I otherwise wouldn’t get living in an apartment complex. This was all something that was verbally discussed and I can’t find any physical copy of this being said either over text or another medium. I very well could not see a dime out of this and have no recourse in the eyes of the law as far as I know.
I broke my least and move in came in October of 2023 which also happened to be when I met my current girlfriend who I am extremely happy with. My parents came over in December for Christmas and I actually had my girlfriend stay in my house while my parents were in town so we can all do stuff together. I thought it went well. My parents met her family, my friends and we generally had a great time.
That apparently wasn’t their idea of the week and they are super upset that my girlfriend basically lives here. Text exchanges with my mother generally result in me being called a disgrace, ungrateful, disrespectful, etc.
At the end of the day this is all stemming from the fact that I got a girlfriend, they apparently don’t like her, are losing control of me and now we’re both suffering navigating business and family. It’s taking a huge toll on me to the point where I woke up today and cried after receiving another demeaning text from my mother. That same person they hate was there to comfort me.
How should I navigate this? Every time I try to talk about it it just turns into an attack where she says some terrible things about me and my partner. Is it healthier for me to just cut ties? I’m at a loss. Being worried about my living situation everyday is really taking a toll at this point and I don’t have it in me to start another argument. Almost daily now I get random texts at random hours of the day with her picking a fight. There is no clear path to a cordial conversation.
Your guidance is appreciated.
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