One man one horsee

Not new to getting tattoos. This is my 5th one, never had a healing process like this. Did the normal drill. The flag and cactus were done at the same time. I know I itched there it's red on the sides on day 5 I think. Day 7 is the first pic. Day 8 is today. It seems like it's gotten worse. What should I do? Is it infected? ( the redness is raised, the ink is low) extremely itchy and irritated.

How many times must I (41m) communicate the same issue to my (46f) gf before I call it quits? What is fair in the name of love?
I've long wrestled with the love vs desire war in my head, but right now I'm feeling so low and hopeless. I love my gf of 6 years, and for the most part it's great, but the reality of it is, I feel loved, just not desired.
After a nasty divorce from a 16 year long relationship/marriage, a few crazy single encounters, I met my current gf. By this stage and my age neither of us wanted anymore kids, I emphasized I didn't want marriage again and we were both happy.
1 year in, she got exposed in a lie she'd told me. I broke my boundary, and accepted the reason why she lied (scared to tell me she'd had a fling with a certain person I knew). I did my best reassuring her I wasn't angry at what she'd done before me, but was furious she chose to lie assuming I would be mad. I accepted the reason (ex bf shaming her) and we moved on. Needless to say she kept getting exposed for another 2 years with countless lies.
We finally (so I believed) knew everything about each other, no more people could expose a lie... So I thought. This last weekend some friends were around and wine was flowing, the topic of anal sex came up. Each women saying their opinion, but then my gf, I overhear bragging about multiple different men including 1 night stands doing anal. Keep in mind, I have been told "tried once with only my ex fiance and hated it, will never do it again".... I couldn't care less for the anal sex, just why lie repeatedly.
For the last year and a half I've been saying we need more intimacy, it doesn't happen unless she's drunk and at most 2x a month. I'm an ex pro athlete and still train daily, I'm younger so I assume my sex drive is higher, but the month will not even be cold and it's exactly the same outcome as before communicating it with her. I'm feeling used and unwanted, and yes I love her, but not feeling wanted or desired, after a marriage I was committed to for 16 years which was basically sexless, is not what I signed up for on top of the lying.
I know many are going to say "people change.... perimenopause be supportive if you love her" but does that mean my needs are unimportant? Being supportive is a 2 way street surely? We have solutions for menopause - she doesn't do anything about it. I've communicated the issue over intimacy 4x at least in great detail - nothing changes.
Since hearing the truth about her anal escapades, I've spiralled into the mental depths of the abyss here. As I said it's not about the anal sex, it's simply just wanting to feel even a fraction of the desire those guys clearly got. I can't help but feel like an HIV infested leper that the woman pressuring me for marriage, that seemed to be so aroused to do anal with a perfect stranger on more than one occasion can't even be bothered if we don't have sex for 6 weeks, yet I must engage the stress of financial burden, step parenting her son, driving all hours of the night dropping or fetching from clubs, paying for ubers because he hasn't got money and his mom is passed out sleeping.
My head is simply telling me, we've all loved someone we wouldn't fuck, but we've all fucked someone we didn't love, love vs desire, and desire seems to win. Being the stable, financial and emotional rock for someone gets you patted on the head like a cute Tamagotchi pet. No desire, no passion.. just pay bills and agree the romanticism of "together forever" is all I need...
I just feel so fucking alone.

AITAH? I (29M) haven't been able to see my gf (27F) for almost a month now, despite offering numerous times to make the trip to come see her. We're coming up on our one year anniversary. I was supposed to go see her last week for her roommates graduation and to meet her family for the first time, but that got canceled because her parents were arguing. I feel like I've been put to the side, meanwhile she's been going out every night having fun with the family. When we do talk she's distant, distracted or just busy, but it feels like she just doesn't care. My head isn't in the best place right now for a variety of reasons and I don't want to take it out on her. I already told her that it feels like she doesn't have time for me, and she doesn't want me to meet her family. That being said she did make more effort to talk with me when I said as much, but that only lasted a day. I don't just want to bitch about my feelings to her but it matters right? Are we not compatible or is this just how a long distance relationship is? AITAH?

My intention is not to make a comparison but NEXZ seems to be getting a lot of international attention. This is evidence in the comment section of their videos is 80% english written and the rest in japanese or other language. While NiziU, it's hard to find one english comment.
NiziU when I first saw them I can see right away they are a typical JYP group. I think NIziU would have gain more attention globally if Jyp debuted them first in Korea and then in Japan. Jyp are doing the opposite with NEXZ.

In the past few days, I saw some pictures of my former high school teachers living their lives overseas and I found myself tearing up because I'm genuinely happy for them.
Alam ko ang struggles ng pagiging public school teacher dito sa Pinas. Overworked, underpaid, and sometimes underappreciated. Naging close ako sa teachers ko noong high school kasi lagi akong kasama sa contests or academic events. Bihira sila magkwento, pero I know they're struggling behind the scenes so I always do my best sa mga nasasalihan ko as a way of making them feel na importante sila sa buhay ng students nila.
Nasa UK na yung former math teacher ko ngayon, and her smile is so different. Alam mong natural and hindi stressed. She's with her British husband and their 1-year old kid. Another is my former science teacher na nasa USA naman and he also looked vibrant sa pictures with her current gf. Complete sa equipment and facilities, and hindi na need maglabas ng pera sa sarili nilang bulsa. Madalas din siyang nagta-travel state by state, unlike dito sa Pinas na halos once a year lang siya makapag-vacation at napakarami pang loans.
They taught me invaluable lessons aside from the ones they teach inside the school premises, and I think I'm a very different person in a lost path without them. Sobrang saya ko kasi deserve nila yung tinatamasa nila ngayon. At the same time, nalulungkot din ako sa teachers here na stuck sa crappy system. Hindi naman mangingibang-bansa kung maayos ang kalakaran dito. Hindi deserve ng Filipino teachers ang basurang treatment.

2024 passed out here
I gave cat 2023 and converted IRMA and I'm waitlisted for FABM and ABM but according to past year movements I won't convert both .
I live in a joint family. My father had a major surgery 2 years ago and he didn't go to work after that. My father's medical expenses range from 15-20k per month. Since we live in a joint family, all the expenses are being taken care from the common earnings of all .
I decided to give another attempt and spoke with my father. He said a few things which I'm not aware of earlier. My father said that " One day there was a small dispute and one of the brothers said that he wants to move out of the joint family and live separately. They're taking care of us for the past 2-3 years , we can't blame them , we should be forever grateful for what they have done to us so far. Idk whether he meant seriously to move out or not .I can manage to hold the family together for a year atleast. If you join MBA this year, we can manage another year by selling your mother's jewels . Then you'll get a job and manage the expenses. I know I'm the reason for you to let go off your dreams and I'm sorry for that. Think about these things and then make a decision " .
I got no words to say and just said I could understand his situation too . Previously when I completed my schooling, I wanted to repeat neet and my father said it won't suit our family situation (before the kidney failure )and asked me to go with my second choice B.Sc agri . I'm regretting not giving neet another try till now .
If I get a job as of now the maximum I would earn is a maximum 20k per month. I'm confused whether to go after dream clgs or take responsibility.

I have recently been diagnosed with a torn shoulder labrum . I received a cortisone shot, (it thankfully helped) but no follow up appointment with my doctor. Even though it helped significantly I still have bad days . I find myself stuck a lot . When I lay in bed I can’t get myself up . While relaxing on the couch or in the bath , I get stuck . I have to scoot myself off the bed or couch . Has any one else ever experienced this with a torn labrum ?

I am a software engineer (SWE) and I was making a professional networking app for this company.
I was connecting it to their existing Wordpress site via APIs.
They fired me claiming I didn’t know the language I was writing in (boss wasn’t a dev and didn’t know it existed before me), I didn’t know WP APIs (connecting this way isn’t documented well and was my first time so I had trouble but I got it done in the end), and lied in the interview about my skills.
I was there for 2 months. Shitty place. There were other red flags that I chose to ignore.
I feel like I wasted time I could have been using looking for more reliable job while I was working there.
Now I feel hopeless, like I’ll never get a stable job, and pissed off.
My background is: I’ve been programming since I was 13. Started with HTML/CSS + PHP blog and moved to WordPress and then MySQL and now I’ve dabled in react, angular, MSSQL and all the C langs. I’m trying to be well rounded. Professionally, I got my degree in 2013 as an IT Management which didn’t require higher level math or an internship and then never used the degree cause I’m an idiot. (Though I don’t fully regret it because I met my husband)
I was retail until 2022 when I got a 11-month SWE job but they wanted senior and I was fully honest about being JR. fired me. That was last year. Since then I worked for another company that barely paid me enough to live. So I moved from FL to Austin, TX and got another job in December. That one I got in August or September. So only a few months. The one in December laid me off in Feb due to financial issues (supposedly). Said they would hire me back though.
Then I was unemployed for a month and got this last job in March.
So I have a spotty professional career but I have been practicing and learning so much in my free time that I consider myself a senior front end SWE and JR back end SWE or JR full stack SWE.
Been applying for jobs over the last 2 weeks but I know the market is crap.
I’m worried I’ll run out of TX unemployment and then have to get retail jobs which will barely pay me enough to live.
We don’t live extravagant. Husband has celiac disease. We shop at Whole Foods but frequently check prices between HEB and Walmart and target and everywhere else is more expensive for what we get. We stick with chicken and shrimp and salads mostly.
All our expenses are the lowest they can be. We rarely eat out and don’t spend money on things we don’t need. Husband is very frugal and isn’t even getting his hair cut until I have a job. I don’t cut my hair or do my nails or do any of that girly crap. I hate coffee so we don’t spend on that stuff either.
We frequently make sure our bills/expenses are as low as possible.
Yet $50k a year or less after taxes will not sustain us. Husband has Autism so can’t work. Once I get a job he plans to sell coral so he will have some income and he has some disability from the VA but that’s it.
My last job was paying us $100k and we barely saved $1k/mo due to expenses. Again nothing changed between then and now. We spend the same amount.
So now I feel like I’m gonna have to get 2 jobs if I don’t get a job and I’ll never see my husband and I don’t want to live like that.
How do I deal with the disappointment of being fired for a lie and not having a stable job/income ? I feel like I’m drowning.

I don’t know how to move on from this. Like someone else said it comes back in waves of nausea when otherwise we are very happy together. We can talk through it now, but for years after I caught him he was very defensive about it.
He has explained that paying for Grindr was only to find trans women. That he used it for getting/sending pics like it was an extension of his porn addiction at the time. He has had sex with a trans lady on the app once, just before we were dating, and he didn’t like It. I found his email receipts for premium Grindr subscriptions dated a year into us being together. He said it was like self harm for him and that it was for porn and he is so sorry he hurt me this way. He was very depressed and it was a way of relieving his stress at the time. He stopped it and it will never happen again.
Honestly If he just told me he was bi or pan I could wrap my head around this. But he swears he has no attraction to men and that he has never been with a man outside of that one trans hookup, which he has no desire for. He is so shy I cant imagine him reaching out to strangers and exposing himself this way in the first place. Make it make sense. I want to move on but i’m worried I’ll never stop wanting more answers. No matter how much he’s tried to make it up to me since.

INTRODUCTION
Diabetes mellitus (DM) is a heterogeneous metabolic disorder characterized by a common feature of increased levels of blood glucose (or blood sugar), which over time may lead to serious damage to the nerves, blood vessels, heart, and various organ systems of the body.
The most characterized feature of diabetes is insulin resistance by the Beta cells of the pancreas.
GESTATIONAL DIABETES

1. One of the types of Diabetes Mellitus is Gestational Diabetes i.e., Diabetes during pregnancy.
   
2. About 4% of pregnant women develop DM due to metabolic changes during pregnancy. Although they revert to normal glycemia (normal blood glucose) after delivery, these women are prone to develop DM later in their lives.
   

OTHER TYPES OF DIABETES MELLITUS

1. Type 1 D. M:

Type 1 diabetes is a condition that results from an abnormal immune response where certain cells called “T-cells” which are a part of the Beta cells of the pancreas are destroyed. Type 1 diabetes is based on the “gene-environment interaction” model i.e., individuals who are susceptible to certain environmental triggers develop resistance to the activity of Beta cells which in turn results in low or no production of insulin. Type 1 diabetes is strongly influenced by genetic predisposition but it does not follow any particular pattern of inheritance.

1. Type 2 D. M:

Type 2 diabetes mellitus is a heterogeneous condition that is characterized by varying degrees of insulin resistance (where insulin rejects synthesis of carbohydrates) and beta-cell dysfunction, Beta cells are those cells that are part of the pancreas that produce insulin. Type 2 diabetes is commonly associated with obesity.
In type 2 diabetes, there are mainly two problems. The pancreas can not produce enough insulin (the hormone that regulates the movement of sugar into the cells). The cells do not respond properly to insulin and synthesize less sugar. Type 2 diabetes used to be known as adult-onset diabetes, but both type 1 and type 2 diabetes can begin during childhood and adulthood. Type 2 is more common in the older generation but due to the increase in the number of children with obesity, more cases of type 2 diabetes are seen in the younger generation.

1. Other specific types:

Only 10% are affected by this type of D. M and this includes Genetic defects, endocrinopathies, etc.
TREATMENT

1. Treatment for Gestational diabetes depends on the signs and symptoms of the individual, the age, and the severity of the condition.
   
2. To maintain blood glucose levels, medication that lowers blood sugar levels may be given in the form of tablets.
   
3. A proper diet has to be followed.
   
4. Exercise as prescribed by the doctor.
   
5. For higher blood sugar levels insulin is required to be administered.
   

SIDE EFFECTS OF INSULIN
Increased insulin leads to increased glucose in a baby’s system which may keep the lungs from growing fully. This can cause breathing problems in babies. This is mostly seen in babies born before 37 weeks of pregnancy.
If insulin is given in higher concentration then it may lead to hypoglycemia (decreased blood sugar level) which may lead to loss of consciousness, coma, severe and irreversible brain injuries, or death.
CONCLUSION
While the right doses of insulin have no ill effects on the human body, higher doses can lead to severe conditions that may even result in death. Therefore all insulin dosages have to be prescribed by a qualified physician.

Not sure if this is currently the system, although I am on the last quest of this new line today. But for events surely everyone would be on the same page that they should carry across between game modes yeah? Obviusly PMC/Boss killing achievements are much different between the two in terms of difficulty to obtain although the event ones should be account wide.

Had a holiday with some of my girls family recently and we left our swim shorts, the girls bikinis and towels etc to dry in a small piece of sun in the corner of the villa.
It was half out of eye line and not directly in peoples line of sight.
I went out one afternoon after a shower.
I got my shorts off the line, shook them out to check they were dry and dropped my towel to put the towel on there where the shorts had been.
As I did that a bug landed near my foot and I spent what must have been a few seconds checking the big didn’t land on me and had ran away
At that moment my girls Mum came around the corner in a swimsuit to check on some laundry she’d put on there and caught me totally starkers!
She smirked, offered her apologies and quickly turned her back and said something like ‘don’t worry sweetie, it’s happened to us all!’
This got back to my girl who was a bit annoyed with me. I told her what happened and she queried why I was stood there naked, why it took so long to change and why did I even wanna strip off in the first place?
I offered my explanations and she sort of accepted them but she was not happy.
As a point of reference, I saw her Mum strip off and do the exact same thing a day later. I didn’t see much as I’d turned away but you could tell she was undressing.
I didn’t throw this fact back in my girls face as I didn’t want to reignite the argument
so, AITAH for stripping off outside to change on holiday?