Job interview questions and answers for nursing assistnts

i think it went well?? the interviewers were super nice and made me feel really comfortable. they asked a lot of personal questions, even more so than any with technicality. Honestly I was quite nervous, and messed up some of my answers,,, i wasnt coherent enough when it came to getting my point across :( but i hope they liked me as a person enough to overlook that LOL. They were extremely sweet, and didn't make me feel stupid for not knowing something. we also joked around a bit, so i guess it's a good sign?!?!? maybe??? they were really interested in my art too. i hope i get in !!! if u have an interview anytime soon, dont sweat it. just be yourself. i think theyr more interested in seeing you as a genuine human being than they are with the amount of achievements youve had !!! quality over quantity !!1

My boyfriend and I broke up a few hours or so ago and in the middle of us talking about it he says “is being friends out of the question”. At first I said yes cause I was honestly just hurt. He said over the course of the last week his feelings for me had been slipping away. We’ve only been dating (long distance) for 3 weeks. I asked him what caused this and he said stress, mental health, negative emotions, and feeling suffocated. He said be felt suffocated and his heart is worn. I tried to get him to elaborate on all of this to get down to specifics of what exactly caused negative feelings and such, but he wasn’t giving me much with his answers.
Over the past week I will admit I put pressure on him to kick his butt into gear and start making some strides in improving his life. He’s talked about how he wants to find a better paying job and he wants to figure out what he wants to do as a career. We had a conversation about this where he’s said he feel paralyzed with fear and anxiety when trying to make big decisions and to take the first steps. He’s mentioned how he’ll tell people he’ll do something, but not follow through. Almost everyday over the last week it had felt like things were just getting worse. It felt like there was some tension, but I don’t think either of us understood why. We were very kind and nice to each other throughout this short relationship. So, to me there was no reasons for any negative feelings.
When I asked him why he wants to be friends with me he said he feels like he has something to prove and wants to show me he can get out of this rut he’s been in. He wants to show me he can improve his life.
If he has no feelings for me then why would he even care about proving something to me?

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Hi, i have a task to design a wellness and health app for school. I'm at the stage where i need to do user interviews. I made this questionnaire to get a better look into what people actually want and need from wellness apps. It would help a lot if you could answer these questions. :)
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I have had a long journey with this company, so I will tell the story in a chronological manner.
Jan 23 to Jun 23 - I had very smooth interviews with this company conducted over a few rounds, and all went well. My recruiter told me that the co is willing to offer me the job.
Sep 23 - Still no signs of offer, and the co admitted that there's some operational issue that they are looking to resolve. Hiring will be postponed to 2024.
Now, let's fast forward to 2024 and things are picking up again...
Feb 24 - I had a follow up call with the hiring manager, who told me that the operational issue is on track to be resolved and that they will finalise the hiring process by end of May 2024, and for me to start in Aug 2024.
Apr 24- Had a follow up meeting with the hiring manager, who explained in details about the job scope, the responsibilities, and the operational issue that's being resolved.
Early May 24- Recruiter told me that HR got back, and that they are very happy with me and they wanted to hire me. Talked about monetary terms (not specific, but rough numbers), and I agreed to the terms. HR then proceed to put together a package to be approved by the HQ.
Mid May 2024 (now) - This is where I get slightly nervous. I was told that I should expect an offer this week, and it's already Friday and it's been radio silence. Normally I would have been patient, but I was traumatised by the experience in 2023 where the co had to delay the hiring process. Is this going to happen again?
A few more points to consider:
This is a pretty senior role, where I will be heading up a team
It's a large company with > 50000 employees
It's an European company (do they tend to be slower than US companies?)
I have stayed in contact with all the relevant parties (hiring manager, recruiter) throughout this time, and I don't feel neglected/ignored
I have not resigned, and I am continuing to work at my current company, so no pressure there (but I do want to move)
A few questions from me:
What does it exactly mean when they said the 'package to be approved by the HQ'? What's needed to be done, how long is this process? Are European companies slower in general?
I am still on track (based on what hiring manager said about end May 2024), but why would he told me to expect an offer this week and not deliver it? That's making me uncomfortable.
Is this going to be a replay of last year's delay in hiring? Red flags?
Am I being too impatient? Should I be nervous? How frequent should I follow up?

***** I am mainly sending this because I want my evidence back and because I’m pissed that the police department allowed this to happen with next to 0 consequences. Names and identifying info redacted. Let me know if I should change anything, I genuinely am thinking about sending this to whoever I can find emails for at my local PD.
To Whomever This May Concern,
My name is *. I am 21 years old and am a recent graduate of the University *. I have made the difficult decision to write this letter because I am truly disgusted and horrified by the manner in which ** County, the ***** Police Department, and the Child Advocacy Center of *****, NY handled my allegations of rape, sexual assault, and stalking that were filed in 2019. I have allowed myself to move on and grow from this atrocious act that has significantly impacted my life, but my development as a functional, healthy adult has been drastically hindered due to the treatment and negligent investigation into this case.
I would like to describe my story in order to fully convey my frustrations. When I was fifteen years old in late July of 2018, just after my freshman year of high school, I began babysitting the child of a thirty-six-year-old man who my family and I knew quite well and had considered a family friend since I can remember. The premise of the childcare was to assist this man with daily tasks regarding his three-year-old daughter. The man in question was unemployed, but had a difficult time caring for his autistic child alone due to his anger issues, as recognized by the Department of Social Services.
When I began working for this family, the man in question, ****** (*) was in the home at all times in which I was present in the home. The events that led up to the detrimental and life-changing abuse that I experienced are too difficult to describe in one email. To summarize, this man groomed me, sexually assaulted me, and raped me on several occasions in his home over the course of six months. ** sexually abused me in his home, at my home, and in a vehicle. He bragged to his close friends, and specifically, his neighbor ***** and friend ****** about the things he had done to me. These witnesses were willing to comply with any investigation at the time of these events, but were not ever asked to answer questions. In addition, this man isolated me from family and friends, threatened to murder my entire family, and stalked me for a year after I ceased contact with him, which included 5+ drives by my home daily, waiting outside of my place of employment, and cyberstalking. This man used hard drugs in front of me and forced me to participate in and witness several illegal acts. I cannot convey with strong enough language, the impact that these events had on me as a naïve and innocent teenager. He genuinely ruined my life and I deal with the effects every single day.
These events have seriously impacted my development into an adult, and hindered my growth on levels that the recipient of this email may not comprehend. During the end of my relationship with this individual, I had realized that this situation was extremely unsafe and had attempted to break contact. He threatened suicide as a punishment if I left him, so I agreed to meet with him at ******** high school in the mornings after I had gotten off the bus, as I was not yet old enough to drive myself. He forced me to remain in his vehicle from 8am until 9:30am during school hours for multiple days in a row. Several times during these meetings, in the parking lot of the school, he sexually abused me and at other times, drove at dangerous speeds with me in the vehicle on Route 8 in *******. School officials and police officers were well aware of these events after my whereabouts during several of these mornings had been discovered. This individual was then arrested on charges of endangering the welfare of a child but was released on bond the very next day. After much difficulty and explaining, I was granted with a temporary restraining order, which did not stop his advances. To this day, when I return to my hometown to visit family, I am afraid for my safety as I have to see this man in public at a gas station or at a local restaurant.
After a few months, in 2019, I had realized that I wanted to tell my story and that I wanted this man to be held accountable for what he had put me through. At just 16 years old, I went through a series of interviews held at the Child Advocacy Center in ***, NY, which only further traumatized me. A female officer involved with my case made me feel as if I had brought this onto myself due to the sympathy I felt for my abuser and the guilt that I felt about everything that had occurred. To clarify, I was a victim of abuse as a child and did not fully comprehend the extent of said abuse. The female officer was unwilling to recognize that I was a vulnerable, disadvantaged child who did not have the means to advocate for myself. Another male officer, Detective **** collected evidence from me, including an expensive necklace given to me by my abuser with, to my knowledge, a value of $3,000, as well as a letter from him where he confessed his love and relationship with me. He looked me in the eye and promised that I would receive justice. This officer never contacted me again after the interview. If nothing is going to be done about this rage-filled, aggressive, and dangerous pedophile, I would like the necklace and letter back that was entered into evidence in 2019.
I will never understand how a person can be subjected to such atrocious and vile acts, and nothing will be done about it. I am not a religious person, but I wake up every single morning praying that he has not found another victim to control and destroy. I pray for his family, especially his child, and I pray for those who have to encounter him. I pray for myself and my family, as my case has been dismissed and invalidated time and time again by the ***** police department. I pray that no other girl or woman has to experience the things I did, nor has to grow up so quickly the way I did. The treatment of this case taught me that I cannot rely on law enforcement, or on those who are supposed to protect me. I hope that my statements throughout this email encourages more thorough investigations into cases like mine. Women and girls need to be protected fiercely, strongly, and wholeheartedly. I was not provided with further resources to assist with my mental health during this time. The town I have grown up in and have always loved is forever tainted as the place where my life was ruined.
Today, as a strong, accomplished, and college-educated woman, I am extremely disappointed with the way my trauma and physical safety was dismissed by the ***** police department, ***** County as a whole, and the Child Advocacy Center of ******, NY. I will no longer be silenced by fear. I will say his name, as the guilt and shame I have experienced is not mine to bear. I am not looking for retribution, I am simply asking that you dedicate resources to believing victimized women and offering bare minimum, necessary support to women like me in the future.
Thank you for your time,

original song for reference
The planned seven seasons of So Help Me Todd
Shouldn't end on a cliffhanger so help me god
Scott said although the fight might be tough
There might still be a chance if we're vocal enough
The questions and loose ends that leave us all vexed
Cannot be solved just by article text
We want the new stories on our TV
So let's fight for someone to make season 3
When the rain falls down
When it all turns around
When the light goes out
This isn't the end
The fall season schedules are already out
But that shouldn't cause us some despair or doubt
Midseason, cable, and streaming too
Are options to seek to give this show its due
When the rain falls down
When it all turns around
When the light goes out
This isn't the end
When the rain falls down
When it all turns around
When the light goes out
This isn't the end, no
Keep signing and writing and spreading the word
As its chance depends on us all getting heard
Or get on the news if that's not enough
By waging a protest or sending in stuff
This show deserves the ending that Scott had planned
And didn't deserve to get suddenly canned
Keep up the hope and keep up the fight
Help the little guy like Margaret and Todd Wright
The defense attorneys we must defend
It's just the beginning this isn't the end
It's just the beginning this isn't the end
As long as Scott Prendergast says there's a chance we can get more show (and the stories told not just the questions answered in interviews) we should fight to make that chance as high as possible including spreading #SaveSoHelpMeTodd #renewsohelpmetodd #sevenseasonsandamovie every social media hashtags are spreadable on

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SHORT VERSION: She left six days ago and hasn't returned. I haven't heard from her about why, and I had to figure out for myself that it was over.
On June 1, my fiancée (44F) and I (47M) were supposed to get married. This is roughly 2 weeks away, right? Well, last Saturday, she suddenly left the house and ghosted me. No contact, scattered texts, no explanation. She doesn't tell me she's not coming back, either. Doesn't apologize for anything. I've had to discover this for myself, as well as start moving out because she couldn't pay 1/2 rent (which she hasn't done ever...)
I really need some advice, context, insight, comfort and whatever else this sub might be able to provide. She didn't This doesn't hurt so much as blow my mind. Details are below.
My question: How do I process this? How does someone, in one day, go from wedding bells to "it's over" -- and not even tell their significant other?
LONG VERSION:

• I'm almost 47M and she's 44F. We're both white and boring (I thought in a good way).
• We've both been married before. I have 3 kids; she has 3 kids.
• She and I have lived together for roughly 18 months. We've been together for about 3 years. We've known one another for over 10 years.
• I'm an author and screenwriter; she's a mental health therapist.
• I ask frequently how things are going between us and she's always quick to tell me things are great. We've never discussed an issue between us, ever.
• We've never fought. Not really. We're a good team. A heated argument here or there over a world topic, but nothing big. But every single time we've come close to arguing, her first response is always, "We should a couples counselor" and not, "We should talk more about this."
• In the last year, I've had a lot of money screwed up by identity theft.
• I'm admittedly high-strung at times due to stress. But I routinely apologize and check in a lot. Still, my memory isn't great because I'm always wheeling from 1 gig to another. Right now, I have 11 active things I'm working on.
• In recent months, I've had to patchwork-quilt my finances here and there, and I constantly forget to send $ back because of our living situation (more on that in a second). Hell, I even fell for an elaborate scam and accepted a fake job, if that tells you anything about my brain.
• I'm not the world's most hands-on affectionate person, but I am crazy-sensitive (as the length of this thing demonstrates). I feel things deeply. She's emotional, but in a different way. She needs constant physical affection and repeated "I love you's" -- which is fine, but she almost withers without them during the day.
• She avoids conflict and answering questions with straightforward answers. I don't love conflict, but I'm comfortable asking direct and difficult questions.
• I'm very quick to ask how I can improve something or do better the next time around.

So...
Basically, there's too much going on and our wedding day is coming fast. I'm the one in charge of the invitations, save the dates, etc., securing the venue, honeymoon, etc. I'm told I should delegate, but I cannot because no one else has the graphic design knowledge and I'm strapped for cash.
We're two months out and almost no one knows the wedding is still on, but a few things...

• We haven't really spoken about the wedding, not in detail, for a good half-year.
• Last Friday afternoon/Saturday morning, she still didn't have a dress (due to her finances), but she said she was still excited and happy.
• We almost always talk about money stresses, but we never talk about specifics or strategies, etc. That's because she wants to keep our finances separate. I respect this 100%, but I also find this ironic because she's frustrated by having no line of sight into my money...

And then, two things happen: there's a potential problem with the venue and we're a month behind on paying rent (not our fault).
But I suddenly find myself becoming angrier and angrier at her. This is new.
We now had to come up with $2440 suddenly, which is literally another month's rent we never planned on. I warn her that our landlord, if we don't pay this by the 10th, will not renew our lease. She repeatedly shrugs and says, "Well, what can we do?" and goes to bed. This is fine for the first night she says it, but not the next day when she doesn't have clients. We don't have money for a wedding in the first place, but she's adamant that we should find a last-minute replacement venue...
I'm worried about the house. I'll get my $ access shortly (and did, two days later) but for days and nights, I'm calling around and texting to see how to pay this because my money is locked due to fraud for a few days. I'm also up all hours of the night (literally) working on marketing for her new practice, which feels like I'm doing a hell of a lot more than she's doing.
Two final details:

• I've paid the rent in full for nearly a year, plus family-sized internet, renters' insurance, a few new appliances, etc. on top of life's other charming charges. Also, I've come through even when I was unemployed.
• She rents an office space that has held nothing more than a few plants since 1st of the year. Seriously. It's never been used and there's no end in sight for this. She pays utilities and groceries.

I find out that we're losing our place and then she starts paying attention. But I'm angry and tell her so via text. There's a great deal of misunderstanding going on here, too. She thinks I'm saying she needs to get out and move; I'm saying she's going to have to start looking for a place for us to live. The long and short of it is this: I paid for half of this month's rent; she needs to come up with the other half.
Next thing I know, she's up and gone. All of her stuff is still here. Cats and fish, too. Zero explanation. Seriously. She goes to her mom's and says she'll be back on Monday. Doesn't even say she needs space because she's not replying at all. This goes on for days. In fact, IT STILL IS.
When I finally do get ahold of her at midnight, after days of not knowing why she'd bolted, she says she left because "it's not okay how I was talking to her." So we compare iMessage screens and guess what? She didn't receive 4 messages. Problem solved right? Nope. I say that she could help with rent if she wasn't paying for a potted plant to have an office; I also say that I know she has savings, which she admits is true.
She goes on to say that I'm mad at her because she's not behaving the way I expect her to behave.
At first, I say that's not true -- but it is true: I expect my fiancée to talk to me and communicate issues, not suddenly up and run to her parents'. It's a huge leap from earlier that morning going, "I love you" and looking for wedding venues to later that afternoon to not. I send dozens of texts into the void -- some panicked, some sad, some furious, some indignant. But I don't know anything and she knows this. During this time, I surmise that she's not coming back home, which she casually confirms like an afterthought.
I then literally have to break up with her via text.
I get a thumbs-up reaction to that text.
She later goes on to say that it wasn't her plan to leave and that it was because of "everything that ensued" that she's not. I seriously don't know what this even means. Well, turns out -- thanks to phone calls -- that she was calling around to fact-check the status of an injury settlement of mine and other things with friends and my mom (of all people). She calls her twice, in fact. She spends the next 12 hours asking my mom and others things she's never asked me, ever. This is a verboten subject with her, so it's ironic. And why would my mom ever know the status of a malpractice settlement? But she's calling people and sobbing on the phone but tellingly, never once revealing to them why she's actually leaving. It's only questions about my financial situation. She also swears them all to secrecy about the calls.
So.
She leaves after a misunderstanding that could've been cleared up with a quick call. She doesn't like my opinion about her leisurely paced startup/rent. She refuses to pick up the phone, but she's calling all around to people about my money. She owes rent but doesn't pay it, and lets us get booted. She refuses to text, chiding me for my walls of words because I'm talking to myself...
It's almost one full week and she hasn't returned home. I've had to explain to my kids that, no, I don't know why she left. Honestly, I still don't. I'm packing up my belongings and selling things on Facebook Marketplace, etc. and finding a new place in days.
I can't believe someone can have an insta-toggle switch like that, let alone the inability to tell their partner what's going on. It feels cowardly at best and apathetic at worst. Seriously, there was NOTHING said anywhere that warranted her "you can't speak to me like this" or sobbing to my friends and family about ... money?
Thank you, Reddit. Sorry for the novel. If you're the one person who made it this far, I am deeply grateful.
P.S. If she somehow sees this and communicates in the comments section, I think I'll rest my case about her.

I’m a student nurse currently on placement and wanted advice regarding something I witness on placement which has caused me upset.
While on nights on placement, I have noticed the a particular member of staff who works in the kitchen will wake all the patients up at 5am for breakfast and will have patients fill their dinner menues for the next day in at 6am. In my trust, breakfast time is allocated between 7am and 8am.
I have questioned staff why patients are getting woken and breakfast so early to be told this particular staff likes to come in early, get jobs done so she can go home early. I have been told that ward managers are aware as she has been reported many times prior.
I found this very inappropriate reason and unacceptable. I also found it inhumane to be waking poorly patients so early. I fear this may be an accepted culture on this ward. I’m unsure how I should proceed knowing that managers are already aware and this is still occurring.
Any advice would be appreciated as unsure how I would escalate this to the ward manager if they are aware and allowing this to continue.

Hi all,
I recently started a new job as a contractor before I submitted my N400. However, it turned out to be a kind of federal job. I also need to answer questions for the Standard Form background check carried out by the National Background Investigation Services.
During onboarding, I only used my green card and ID to verify my identity. I never claimed that I am a citizen. Even in the form "Declaration for Federal Employment," I answered "NO" to the question, "Are you a U.S. citizen?"
My concern is that non-citizens are usually not eligible for federal job positions, and my interview for naturalization is in a few weeks. Could my citizenship be denied because of my job or background check (I haven't submitted the form yet and have nothing to hide)?
Sorry if I am being too paranoid about this naturalization stuff.
Thanks.

Hi! May question lang ako. So i applied sa tp first week ng may but i wasn't able to answer their calls and also yung assessment since nagka-problema kami sa internet. So iniisip ko nun, since i wasn't able to answer their calls I opt to finding another company to apply to, pero kasi for a first timer sabi sa akin na okay yung tp so i plan to apply again but yun nga😅 nafill up-an ko yung dapat fill up-an pero di ako nakapag assessment test and interview. I'm just gonna ask if I should wait for some time before trying again? Also can anyone recommend me where i can apply? I want to apply to as many as possible companies para mas malaki yung chances of getting hired?
P.s. around pasig area yung mga pinag-aaplyan ko para malapit sana. I'm going to look sa ibang places if naubusan na ng pag-aaplyan sa pasig area😅😅

My(24F) boyfriend (27M) broke up with me one week ago. For context we've been together for 6 years. I was on holiday with my brother and even though he said that he wanted to wait for me to come back to break up with me he said that everytime I said "I love you" he felt like an impostor and so he texted me that we were gonna talk about it when I came back. We met last Saturday and he hugged me,gave me a kiss and we talked. He said hurtful things and I cried a lot, he also cried. He said that he isn't in love with me anymore and he wants to be alone. And that he does not want to put effort to try to fix our relationship. That he wants to be free and not worry about me. He said we were gonna meet this week to get my stuff back. Then for the last week he had been so damn cold to me, I wrote long messages and he just replied with short cold hearted half answers. I did ask him twice if he has someone else and he said no. During our relationship I always put so much effort and love. I love him so much. I followed him to 2 different countries just to be with him. I've done everything all the time to please him. He has a strong personality, always thinks he's right and criticizes others without questioning himself that much. I accepted that. But why can't he also accept me? He's been in a bit of a crises ever since he's not satisfied with work and since his parents are gonna give him an apartment that they already own. He literally has everything, the monthly salary of one average couple, already lives on his own, now will have a new place, a job that even if stressful is still something that he likes. Is he scared? Does he think that by breaking up with me he'll have less responsabilities? Is he scared of commitment? How am I supposed to accept it? We've been together for 6 years. Sure there were problems, as all relationships do. But how can you destroy it like this is a week and be so cold? I think back on all the sweet messages, cards, memories etc and I just can't understand how you wouldn't talk to me and try together to fix it before doing something so drastic. Isn't our relationship worth anything? He's just hiding and not being open with his feelings. I feel like maybe he doesn't know either and just got so obsessed with not wanting to be with me because he himself had to believe it. It's not fair that I have to cry all day, be hurt, have trust issues and I only want him to hug me and comfort me when he clearly is the one who hurt me for so long and isn't even taking accountability for any of his actions. How can I deal with all this? I don't want him to move on

So basically, I was in University for 2 years. I got an associates and ended up dropping out due to depression, burnout, and lack of financial resources. I had saved up all my money for use in a surgery that my insurance was refusing to cover. I was working the best paying jobs for my lack of skills, with no car. This was a batista for around 18/hr and an overnight stocker at for 17/hr. Both jobs were 3 hours away on a bus (20 minutes drive under any other circumstances). I had to sleep at my Starbucks job because the busses did not operate at the time I got off.
Before I started working these jobs and the health situation and all that, I had enough money to downpay a car. With all things considered, I now think moving w/ no car is impossible in most of Florida. 18-20 at the time of moving out, but no license or driving experience.
This fatigue I was experiencing from having to travel so many hours for basic resources (medicine, my job, and an affordable supermarket) with the poor results of my surgery really combined into a nasty mix and I didn't feel like I could do it anymore. I was risking my physical health and compromising my classes for work and to afford things such as textbooks and rent. And due to my financial aid situation, I needed to take a lot of classes every semester to qualify. And I would lose student housing if the semester was taken off.
My family home is on a highway. No one I've ever met would have been willing to let me or any of their friends practice driving their car, under any circumstances. When I was 16-18, everything was shut down due to covid. I was taking driver's Ed and the day I was going to get my license, school shut down. Driving schools shut down as well. One even took money and never refunded it. I spent my last 2 years of high school in lockdown, mostly by myself, because my brother had moved out and I was terrified of getting people sick..
This left the only people I had to supplement this resource being parents. So I had regularly asked them around this age, and the answer was no. It was their only car and they didn't want me to touch it.
The incongruence is that my brother was allowed to when he was 16. To the point they ended up giving him a car. My brother drove on highways when he was 16 with their car vs. Me just wanting to practice on empty parking lots when i was 18, and no one was on the road for miles during lockdown. When I asked them about it, in this way, they were pretty offended about it and said I should have just gotten the license and training on my own. Even when I tell them why that was impossible at the time. Whenever I ask questions like this, they go on a rant to my brother about how I'm selfish and expect them to let me have access to these things. And my brother agrees by saying it's their car

Hi all UPN/Pre-Nursing people! I just wanted to write out some tips on how to look best on your NursingCAS applications for your goal starting semester. This is a pretty detailed guide with some good calculations to determine other scores beyond just the basic impaction score. This also provides some resources for your TEAs that I found most useful. This guide is directed towards those applying to SJSU especially those on the Pre-Nursing Track at SJSU.
Don't flop your first semester: It is true that the first semester of college has a learning curve, but it is still important that you stay focused and maintain a high GPA. For many this is the easiest semester, but don't be fooled English 1A or Chem30A/BIOL65 will bite you in the butt last second.
Aim for a high GPA not solely TEAs: As much as people brag about their TEAs scores a GPA at SJSU is much more important! If you have a 4.0 GPA and score lower on your TEAs you will have a way better shot at getting in. Take this for example: a person got 2 A- in 3 unit courses out of the big 8. This makes their cumulative GPA a 3.94 GPA. If this person applied to nursing against a person with a 4.0 this score is then doubled, for impaction. 8 compared to a 7.88. With 2 A-'s you now need to do better than 3.5% of whatever teas score the kid with a 4.0 got. Also keep in mind that SJSU already requires a 84% to even apply leaving a 16% playing field. If you get a 4.0 and a 84% a person with 3.94 needs to get a 87.5% on their teas!

• BE ADVISED EVERY SINGLE POINT COUNTS!
• Realistically you are okay and should not flip out with a 3.94 GPA to this is just being used as a clear example. Just remember that if you keep a high GPA that you are saving yourself a mental breakdown before taking a TEAs.
  • Be sure to get the extra points as well if you know you don't have perfect stats. This will greatly improve your odds at getting in, especially for Fall applicants.

Don't rely on comparing stats to AllNurses: This is a hot take, but hear me out; 60 kids get into SJSUs nursing program and maybe 10 people post their stats on AllNurses. I am throwing no shade saying this, but these are the people that are for the most part going to get in. Some claim to have 4.0 GPAs, 98 TEAs, 2000hrs of Healthcare experience, and co-reqs done too. Obviously they are going to get in but, that spot is now taken from a person bringing it down to 59 others. It is nice to have a comparison to, but unless more people post on it people are going to have skewed to the right opinions. There are tons of applicants and there are different groups of people apply. The overachievers, the average, and the prayers. Most people are average and do not have the crazy stats these people have. There are some people that do post stats that are more relevant to compare to such as a 4.0 with an 88% or something like that. Again this is highballing and it is important to really dig deep into who got accepted when using this platform. A 92% TEAs is what even the pre-nursing advisors and these guys want you to drop the major. Do realize that if you have a lower GPA you will need a higher TEAs. Doing this calculation [20(4-(current GPA))*3] will tell you what you need in comparison to a 4.0 GPA.

• Here is an example with a 3.8GPA [20(4-3.8)*3] = [20(.2)*3] = 4*3 = 12, this means (excluding extra points), you need to score at least a 96% if a kid with a 4.0 got a 84% on their TEAs.
  • For understanding the 20 comes from the calculation 10 (to make the solution a whole number) multiplied by 2 (because the GPA is multiplied by two in the impaction score calculation) and the 3 comes from the fact each .1 of a GPA equates to 3% of a persons TEAs score (1/30 = .033333*3 = .1). The 20 contains the multiplication factor of 2 already so we don't need to multiply 3 by 2 as well.

The minimum GPA and TEAs: Yes it is true that if you do have a pretty poor GPA (3.3-3.4) and don't have the TEAs to make up for it then it is probably unlikely you will get into the program. But, at this campus the stats are never posted for who gets in and during which semester. Recently SJSU raised their TEAs from a 78% all the way up to a required 84% which to me is crazy high! I assume this is to cut down the amount of applicants and in turn this makes the TEAs pretty irrelevant to the total stats. With only a 16% max gap, now any person who is able to apply to nursing must have at least that score making the GPA that much more important. If you have a 3.9 GPA and a 94 on your teas, a person with a 3.8 will still get outcompeted regardless of TEAs score. This is most likely why the GPA was lowered for nursing and is now a 3.3 instead the previous 3.4 because some kids may have done well in the GPA aspect and messed up their TEAs. Aim for a higher GPA but do realize that a lot of kids do manage to get really good GPAs that correlate with good TEAs scores. Get a good GPA, 3.8 and above is pretty good, a 3.9+ is quality work for both Fall and Spring semesters, and make sure to aim for higher than the TEAs threshold.Nursing advisors deter people from applying but, it is accurate that as of Fall 2024 that you have to be at the top to get in. Keep in mind that there are 500+ applicants and only 60 get in that is only 12% of the applicant pool. You need to aim for the 80th percentile at the minimum to be on the waitlist first round (beating 400 other applicants)
TEAs Test: Now I know I have talked a lot about the importance of the GPA, but regardless you still do want to do well on the TEAs. Your TEAs score, like I talked about above, is directly related to your GPA. If you got a lower GPA you need a high TEAs and if you got a high GPA you can slack on the TEAs score. If you have a low GPA this will make or break the odds of getting in and every 3% on the test you get a .1 point increase. Going against what I think everyone I have ever talked to has said, for me personally I say take the TEAs online, if that is still an option. Not only can you take the test literally whatever day you want, you can also take it at whatever time of that day you selected as long as a proctor is available. Some argue that the they test better when in a school environment and this is valid, but I also test better in those environments and I bombed my first TEAs due to nerves. When I took it online the only stressors were if the test were to crash or the proctor flagged my exam for no reason, but neither of those happened not even close. The low stress of being at home and taking the test when I wanted to allowed for much better results and comfort. You get to finish the sections when you want. If you think you are done and don't want to triple check your answers to save the brainpower for later sections you get that option. Take the test where you think you will test best though and take these words with a grain of salt. I just wanted to say that the TEAs online is the same content as it is in person and at the leisure of your home. Not many people talk about how the TEAs online is positive for some people!
Get the extra points if you can: The extra points are pretty easy to get at SJSU especially as commuters. Of course nobody can make themselves a first generation student, but if you are that is easy free points and congrats. No one has a clue what SJSU gives as a "bump" to an applicants score and it is honestly only there because everyones stats are so similar so they need more tie breakers. Granted, you will most likely want to win the tie breaker and in order to do you have to at least have all the co-reqs done. I want to be straight up and say I think the vast majority of students have these all completed prior to applying for the Fall because you have an extra semester (maybe not Spring idk). So make sure to have these all completed so you are not left behind and waste an attempt in the SJSU applicant pool(unless you have great stats t or have healthcare hrs instead then just apply). You only have 2 attempts at applying to nursing at SJSU so make them count. If you can, there is also the healthcare hours bump. This is a bump isn't achieved by all applicants and could help if you have lower stats. Keep in mind that this usually involves volunteer work once a week for 4hr shifts so you will be wherever you choose to stay for about 6 months (decent time commitment with school). I've heard that the healthcare hrs are pretty lenient about what exactly you did as long as it is part of the healthcare field and you can get it signed. Of course if you already have had a health job within 3 years this is a free point bump too!
Spring semester isn't as easy to get into as it once was: SJSU changed this policy. In 2023 only transfer students can apply for SJSU fall semester cohorts, no longer accepting post-bacs. Whereas spring semester cohorts will accept post-bacs and no longer accept transfer students. This means that Fall semester likely is getting more difficult to get into as all transfer students have to apply for the same cohort. It is believed that the School accepts a bunch of SJSU students and after the initial acceptance everyone on the waitlist is combined meaning more transfers will get in from the waitlist process as they may not have made the original cut with the SJSU students bump. This would also mean there are less opportunities for SJSU students to get in during the spring cohort as they battle against stronger transfer candidates. As for transfers, in Fall there are more opportunities to get in as more are accepted initally and through the waitlist process. For post-bacs the same process is in place but, since the top UPN students (because they were following the exact track) were picked out for Fall stats could be a little lower. Regardless, Fall semester cohorts I would assume have slightly higher impaction scores from all areas that are applying as most students took their time throughout all the courses and UPN program students are all expected to apply for Fall semester. Take this all with a grain of salt since again there are no exact numbers of all that get accepted as transfers and post-bacs and if these numbers have increased because of this change.
Remember your overall GPA prior to applying does matter: Your overall GPA does matter when applying for nursing at SJSU! When it comes to tiebreakers if everything is the same - the gpa, the teas, and the extra points - the school will look at overall GPAs to decide who gets in. So make sure to get good grades in that moral issues class freshman year because it will come back to haunt you if you don't get in because of it.
Don't Break down!: It is easy to read all of this and think that you are screwed, but it is important to remember that many people are in the exact same situation. We are not all getting 4.0s and 92s on our teas like our advisors tell us we need. Expect A-'s and a B+. No stats are published and nobody knows for sure what you need but the advisors say people get "mostly a's". Aim for the highest impaction score that you can get and don't slack on it because literally that is what is determining if you get in or not.

• As a SJSU student you have 2 opportunities to get in, once in Fall (a little more difficult as most SJSU students are on track so there are more of you) and Spring (a little easier just because there are less Pre-Nursing majors applying). So if you don't get in for the Fall and your stats are good, you have a great chance in the Spring
  • PS if you do get declined for the Fall get all the extra bumps you can and if you still have one more TEAs opportunity, TAKE IT AGAIN! If you get waitlisted for Fall there is a really good chance you will get in for Spring as the people you were originally going against are gone.

Waitlist: If you get waitlisted it really is not the end of the world. Most schools send out acceptance letters in two waves one at the beginning/mid of April and at the end of April where people accept of decline their schools. SJSU keeps a long waitlist because a lot of people drop the school for more local schools/bigger name schools so never lose hope. I've heard stories of people being #70 on the waitlist and still getting in. (FYI you have to contact someone to check if you were waitlisted you will not get any notice of what is taking so long for your acceptance. only when you are on the waitlist can you contact staff about your placement. Staff will not tell you where you are if you are not emailed by Nursing that you are on the waitlist.)

• If you are immediately declined from the school, that means that currently they were unable to offer you a seat. However, this does not mean that you are out yet. The school has an original waitlist and if that gets ran though they create another backup waitlist in case more students drop in the summer. This contains around 12 more students and you could be apart of this group.

EXTRA Info:

• Nursing Apps open January 17th for Fall and August 17th for Spring and they both close on the 15th the following month
• If you are a current SJSU student you do not need to apply for SJSU again prior to applying
• However many units a course is will impact your GPA differently (more units means more of your GPA)
• You get about One Week to accept SJSU. SJSU is one of the latest schools to send out acceptance letters so be prepared to wait. 8 Weeks after the deadline is when acceptance letter should begin to roll out.
• Acceptances are sent out around April 10th for Fall and November 10th for Spring.

TEAs Studying TIPs:

• DM me if you want a google doc with TEAs information (it won't let me put it here) it provides, in my opinion, the best ways to study for the TEAs. For me personally I only received a 93.3 but, if I had realized how vital one of the sources before I took the test the next day, I would have performed even better! Please give this a look. If you dont want you I'll put the order of importance here without links
  • 1 Quizlets, #2 the ATI website, #3 Miscellaneous Prep Tests (I provide links in the doc), #4 PocketPrep

Application Assistance:

• Submit all documents separate from each other
• The application pool is Not Rolling meaning you can apply at any time before the deadline and still not be penalized
• Whatever work experience you have will not change the size of the score bump i.e a hospital volunteer will get the same size bump as a person with a CNA.
  • You also do not need any letters of recommendation and don't need to fill out any extra information on the NursingCAS website for SJSU specifically. They will not read any paragraphs that are not relevant to you getting accepted.
• AP credit does not affect the GPA it is solely for credit. If the AP course is not listed on your transcript then you must submit a form proving you passed the exam in the "other" section.
  • Make sure that all your documents that need to be there are there and they will be seen and accounted for. Regardless of where you put the documents the will show up on the application.
• Download you application prior to submitting your application (they will let you do this after you finished all the documents uploading and are preparing to finalize). Look over everything to ensure it's all correct.

I know this whole process is stressful and pretty terrifying, but everyone has a chance. This is just what I have learned throughout the whole process and hopefully it will help others that have 0 clue what is going on. Although some of this may make it seem like you need to have crazy high stats I am just trying to say do your best. If SJSU ever posts the stats for accepted applicants this would a be a different story. This is a CSU so unfortunately this application does follow the "a single number means everything" this means your impaction score is who you are; not necessarily how well rounded you may be. Good luck to all future nursing applicants and congrats.
"Congratulations! This email is to inform you of your provisional acceptance to The Valley Foundation School of Nursing at San José State University" Fall
You can DM if you have any questions.

my girlfriend and i have been together for almost 5 years now and i have plans to propose next month when we go to greece for my grandpa’s birthday. i have never loved anyone the way that i love her, she’s the best person i know. i personally think she’s the most beautiful girl in the world but that seems to be the problem. for a small backstory she’s always had a toxic relationship with her mom, at least as long as i’ve known her. her mom seems like the type of mom that’s jealous of her daughter which is super weird to me. the first time we visited was christmas break during her freshman year of college and her mom made a lot of backhanded comments towards her. like “this is the kid who stole my beauty” and “i hope you have a backup plan for when school doesn’t work out. try taking up modeling.” (my girlfriend graduated summa cum laude, maintained a 3.9 gpa throughout college and is on track to do the same in grad school.) we don’t visit her mom often and we both kinda shrug off her comments when we do but i didn’t know they held so much weight for her. i recently started a new job for a marketing company after graduating from grad school. they had a social night for the incoming grad school new hires and we both attended the event. i introduced myself to my new colleagues and said “and this is my beautiful girlfriend, x” which she kinda smiled shyly but after that she was distant. we stayed for maybe an hour afterwards and the drive home was silent. when we got home she immediately broke down in tears and asked me why do i love her. i was confused and caught off guard with the question and failed to find an answer before she said “exactly” and went back to her apartment. she sent a series of long text messages explaining how much she hates when i say how beautiful i think she is and that she wishes that i would talk about her qualities without mentioning her looks. before i could respond, she turned off her phone. i went to her apartment, she wouldn’t answer the door. i’ve been sitting outside of her apartment for 4 hours. i sent a text message telling her that she’s so much more than her looks. she’s incredibly smart, she’s kind and gentle. she’s extremely funny. she talented in so many ways. she’s an excellent dog mom and just genuinely a good person. she has all of the best qualities in a person that you could find. i just don’t know how to show her that she’s so much more than her beauty. especially when she won’t talk to me.

36F, Australia. My brain slowly burnt out over the last few years and my masking began to slip causing all manner of issues resulting in the eventual diagnosis of ASD and ADHD.
I started seeing a therapist in September 2023 and it was highlighted I might be "gifted" along with ASD and ADHD. I booked appointments for assessments 29th April and 16th March respectively. I continued with therapy and my own research, along with reviewing my old school reports, diaries, notes, previous therapy. I always thought I was high IQ and what people called twice exceptional but never met the social perception of these by the diagnostic standards in the 1990s and early 2000s. By New Years 2024 I was convinced I was High IQ, Level 1 High Masking with some needs and in desperate need of ADHD medication. I was incredibly proactive in my workplace in understanding how all of this affected my behaviours and understandings. I would refer to understanding/needs as Autistic Brain and ADHD Brain. I tried to get work to understand and work with me, yet they failed and fied me at the start of March (totally different story). By the time my appointments come around I knew what I was. I was High IQ, High Masking, Moderate needs level 2 ASD and ADHD. My ADHD assessment was a success and would start medication from my following appointment on 30th April, my ASD assessment confirmed Level 2 and moderate support. Both of these assessments were rather basic in nature in that they were around my current observations and experiences along with what I could recall from my childhood. I attended both appointments fully prepared for a lengthy undertaking of historic records, interviews, family interviews, work reports, yet both were satisfied with meeting the DSM-V critera with my interview.
I had to wait until I received my ASD report before applying for the NDIS (nation disability insurance scheme) where I can receive funding for support. By the time my report came on the 19th of April I was starting to feel more towards a level 3 high support needs. I hadn't worked since the start of March, I had been on Vyvanse for about a week, and was focusing on peeling back the 30 odd years of masks and layers that had built up. I was starting to understand the burnout and overwhelm from both. I even learnt what an autistic meltdown looked like for me and could recall vividly when these had happened!! Mostly because it was such an intensely strong mix of feelings and utter confusion as to what and why it was happening. I receiced my report and it was as expected, and had discussed with the psychologist. I meet all criteria with the exception of 1 being partially met and another not met. I do meet both of these but at the time and how the questions were presented, I didn't understand them. It was about routines, fixations, and the like. The way it was asked didn't trigger correctly to seek the answers in my mind maps. My therapist read the report and explained how she knew I met both criteria and gave appropriate examples.
I had my appointment for NDIS funding 2weeks ago and when I was mentioning all the things I wanted funding for I was asked "how does my autism cause that". Which confused me. The whole appointment was just too much and I didn't the following week with my phone on do not disturb and in bed.
But I've digressed. At this point in my journey and going through the stages learning about my ASD and ADHD I am understanding the differences in what I can and cannot do. Along with what has been around me at those times or what environment I was in. I'm now of the belief that whilst I live alone and am "independent", I actually need quiet substantial support. I essentialy need a mother, as I feel like a toddler. I don't eat unless I am told too or I feel physically ill from hunger. Even then unless the food is ready to eat, I get too exhausted from making it to eat it, and will just get take away (always been a thing but just thought myself as lazy). I shut down regularly and just sleep. I can only function for about 1 day a week and then I need 4days to recover. Not eating obviously doesn't help. I haven't exercised in years and can't because I get overwhelmed with just the thought of putting on appropriate clothing and leaving the house. I am finding out why I always have issues with work and maintaining employment. The list goes on and on.
Is it normal to appear more autistic as you slowly unmask and time goes by? Is it normal to find you require more substantial support as you go through your journey? How do you deal and cope with that? How can you even explain to people that the more you unmask and learn, that your ASD and ADHD appear to be getting more severe when it's always been that way but you've just used up more than your life times worth of mental capacity with hiding all of it to fit in and appear normal.
How does one even come back from literally 30 years of incredibly high masking and hiding and fighting their identity? How do I even figure out who I am and what I truly like?
TL:DR; since September 2023 when it was first indicated I might be autistic until now, I have gone through stages of being "maybe a few needs" to "some needs" to "moderate needs" to the point I am at now which is "substantial needs". Is this normal when embracing your autism as a late diagnosed high IQ ADHD female removing her masks?

Asking because I struggle to support my husband in any actual meaningful way. My husband moved to germany to marry me and to stay long time here. All expenses for living are covered by me as well as german courses, drivers license etc. He struggles, a lot. His german is between B2 and C1, but he's frustrated with his slow progress despite taking clases. A big problem for him is taking to strangers in german as he has trouble to understand them. This does not happen in class. At home we talk roughly 80 % English and 20 % german. Another big struggle is getting the drivers license. Theory troubles him the most. He can do the theory test in english, but the translations are sometimes a little weird, which makes it hard to understand the questions. He's currently unemployed as he needs the C1 certificate for his potential job. I don't want to give too much info, because I know he uses reddit too. I will answer questions in the comments though. My question is how I can support him aside of listening to his rants, beeing understanding and helping him a little with german? Asking here, because I hope that there are some immigrants who might relate to him.

I just graduated nursing school and I’m being declined left and right! I feel like I’m a well rounded person with good experience and some bells and whistles. I’ve applied to nearly 30 jobs with only one interview!
Would someone be willing to look at my resume and give me some pointers? I’m happy to pay for your services!