this kinda breaks down the processes involved with the dissemination of a target.. remember that this is all a big psychological mind game that has been bestowed upon you. everything these teams tell you and everything they know about you was learned after the point of first contact. they don't know you they use neural linguistics to make you believe that they know you. they have no interest in you as a person. no matter how personal they try to make it. you have an RFID chip in your dental work somewhere and a satellite they access acts as a giant rfid reader. this and only this is how they locate you.
they can't engage physically with you it's against their protocols. they can't see you either. they will do anything to convince you that you are being recorded, taped or have a visual of you that is being live streamed like the truman show. they have none of that. they can even make phone calls out.
they lie and deflect. they distract and mislead and the infrasound and ultrasound they use to imitate other men and women is just voice over. it has real time capabilities and they can alter their current speech by demodulating any regular male / female generic voice and tweak it to sound like anyone they want.
there is nothing but malware and constant redirects on your online accounts. apple id, safari, google, amazon, ebay and any and all apps. they again use neural linguistics to password mine. the goal is to fear or frustrate you away from social platforms or anywhere that your name on it. they do this because they want to erase you from anyone's mind by way of social and communication engineering. they won't kil you but they want you to feel that way regardless.
the more you panic and say "people are trying to kill you" the more "cry wolf" syndrome sets in. they are not near you. they are a state away with admin homes often times as close as next door. those people were brought here from their hub in ohio. they are decoys that see brain wave activity on devices by way or remote neural networks and neural linguistics (machine learning).
they are lying cowards, please don't give into their pursuit of the modernization of human slavery and their agendas. they will lie to protect this program and never risk exposing them selves to law enforcement because this has been a felony act of domestic terrorism since 1989

"Congratulations. You just completed a four or five year engineering program where you pulled countless all-nighters, studied several subjects at once with exam averages in the 30s, and even managed to graduate with a high gpa while also volunteering 20 hours a week. So what? So did thousands of other graduates. You just want to walk right out of school into a job? Like a lazy entitled brat?"
Yeah. Yeah, actually I do. And I'm not AT ALL sorry for thinking that spending 80 hours a week on everything from abstract topics that go way beyond the scope of daily job tasks (professors even admit this) to working on projects with a ridiculous amount of unrealistic time constraints (professors ALSO admit this) to the point where I sometimes sleep on the floor of the classroom should qualify me to work 40 hours per week in my own field of study.
"BUt WhaT ProjEcTs OutSiDe oF ScHOol HavE yOu..." Shut up. Truly shut the FUCK. UP. Literally 98 percent of these graduates are perfectly capable of doing the job. Look at any architecture, engineering, or other STEM exhibit and you will see even the least creative projects are more creative and elaborate than 90% of what you see in the real world. Out of 100 candidates, the 10th worst is probably 95% as good as the 10th best. STEM school is purposely overkill to create a factor of safety so that bridges don't fall down and kill people. We could just accept this fact and hire 98 percent of graduates who are not a closet serial killer or borderline failing school instead of 80 percent. But *GASP* that might lead to more employees working fewer hours, possibly... gulp... 35 hours a week!!!!!
Instead, we have this rat race. This sadistic crossover between Stockholm syndrome and prisoners' dilemma where we split hairs and quadruple stress and tell people who have worked their ass off that they're entitled and not good enough to try to find employees that MIGHT be 5 percent more productive so that share holders can improve their liquidity.
It's really sad to think about how my friends and I would play kickball as the sun sets and our biggest source of stress was some drama at the lunch table. We would gossip about our teachers and roast each others' driving skills while play Mario kart until we get called up for dinner. All that childhood innocence thrown in the trash to become a cog in the machine who has to wear a plastic smile and uncomfortable suit and this insufferable holier than thou attitude about how they did one percent more work than the next person.
And the craziest part? The vast majority of people in the same boat as me seem to have no objections to this. Brainwashed into disrespecting their own lifetime accomplishments. Just fuck me harder daddy.

Is it bad that i miss the former assistant GM despite how irate he was getting which I don't miss. but I miss what it was like before that kind of when I first started when things didn't get ut of control. maybe I need to get over my stockholm syndrome. But here I am being talked down by the current one now and I don't know why I feel that way and I'm trying to see a positive. but I just come to work frustrated and feel like I want to leave. sometimes I wonder how long I'm going to last at my job. but it has been a weird place for me in general trying to figure where I navigate in life and how do I get to where I want and need to be. I'm slowly becoming a curmudgeon and I don't like it.

I gave panera bread three years of my life. It was my first job and for the first year I really loved working there. I became a team lead in my first year and was being considered for going into the management position multiple times my whole career. I am so glad I left because all the bullshit this company has put me through.
Belittlement from managers who believe they are above it all when I had worked for the company longer and knew more then they did. The drama would just never end constantly something needed to be happening.
Management never listened to team leads and any concerns we had for the store or new hires they ignored and just said “it would work out”. Then we would be absolutely screwed over.
I had a few good managers but most of the others hide in their office and will get upset if we dont get them if we started to drag behind. But a manager should be on the line we shouldn’t have to beg to have some help. Especially when there were two managers on shift and both would be in the office.
I tried to leave the store on good terms I was good friends with most managers at least the ones I could stand. I wasn’t rude and I finished out on a smile. I now work at a completely different company and my life has gotten so much better. I work about 10-15 hours more and it doesn’t even feel like it. I have never been happier at my new job.
But Panera is such a sad vacuum of negativity and hatred. Even now after being gone so long I am constantly trashed on because all of their workers got feed up and left. Its pathetically childish and everyone acts like its high school with the bullying and dramatics.
Upper management will bully and pester people to take up roles they don’t want and the people who do want them are over looked. I did my best for Panera and I was one hell of a worker.
Get over yourselves and maybe you wouldn’t have your workers quit so often. Don’t play with peoples livelyhoods and wonder why everyone is gone because you made it impossible for them to afford anything because you gave fulltime workers little to no hours.
To anyone just starting there or anyone who has panera Stockholm syndrome. Get out while you can any job is better then that shit hole.
-A bitter ex employee

Man is a social creature and it is usually uncomfortable for him to live alone. There are many reasons for loneliness, including unsuccessful experiences in relationships, prolonged searches for the ideal soul mate, and lack of self-confidence. It is possible to overcome this condition and it is not so difficult to do. We’ll tell you how.
Why is loneliness so bad?
In fact, the answer is not as obvious as you might think. In addition to not having a loved one nearby, there are other negative consequences. If you don’t see your friends often and are focused only on work, your social skills are lost and you become more withdrawn.
Temporary loneliness develops into chronic — it is simply difficult to let another person into your life, even if you want to. Over time, a career will cease to bring joy, and without support at home, problems will begin in it.
Living only for yourself, there is a higher risk of acquiring a destructive addiction, for example, to alcohol, which will affect all areas of life. Also, a significant disadvantage of such a life is the immediate absence of a large number of advantages that stable relationships provide: mutual assistance — domestic and financial, support, and more varied leisure time. In addition, it has been proven that people who are happy in their personal lives live longer.
Of course, there will be those who will say that single life also has many advantages, and will not want to change anything. But if you are reading this article, most likely the problem of loneliness is relevant to you. First, it’s worth figuring out whether this is a pattern or a pure coincidence.

The main reasons for loneliness

Single men are not uncommon these days. More and more representatives of the stronger sex are choosing a bachelor lifestyle, ignoring any attempts by women to involve them in a serious relationship. Sometimes the reason for this lies in deep psychological trauma, which must be dealt with exclusively with the help of a therapist. It could be loneliness syndrome, chronic depression, or something similar. But most often the desire to remain single is caused by social factors. Let’s consider the main ones and solutions.

High expectations

If your image of an ideal life partner has little in common with reality, finding “the one” can be extremely difficult. When setting any requirements for a future girlfriend, you need to clearly answer three questions. Are these qualities really important to you, and not imposed by someone? Are there even women who combine such qualities? And do you yourself meet such high criteria?

Failed Relationships

If a person’s past relationship ended badly, he will not strive to enter into the next one, so as not to get burned again. Usually, it takes time for mental wounds to heal; you definitely don’t need to overpower yourself and look for a new girl immediately after a breakup.

Reluctance to get married and take responsibility

The world is changing rapidly and marriage is no longer the only possible option for two loving people. But here it is important to distinguish your desires from imposed stereotypes. Even in a situation where you are firmly convinced that marriage and children are not for you, it is not at all necessary to remain single. You just need to find a girl whose values ​​coincide with yours. Or maybe you really want a family, but are afraid to destroy the image of the “alpha male”? You shouldn’t give up happiness in order to meet someone else’s expectations.

Lack of financial well-being

If you understand that family is a big responsibility, including finances, that’s good. So you are an adult. The lack of a stable income or the desire to live for oneself for now are fair reasons to avoid a serious relationship. It is important that you continue to develop so that by a certain age you can still achieve financial stability.

Benefits of Solitude

It’s hard to argue that there are many advantages to a single life: freedom, the opportunity to lead a wild life, or, conversely, to be in complete peace 24/7. But many are so carried away by them that they acquire the habit of always living independently. Is this your case? Think about it: do you still want to start a family in the future? If the answer is yes, the main thing is not to prolong this pleasant solitude. After all, sooner or later it will stop making you happy, and there is a risk of missing out on happiness.

How else can you cope with loneliness?

Play sports
An active lifestyle is the best cure for any emotional distress. So, when in doubt or after a serious breakup, sport is especially indicated. And in the gym or in the park you can meet the same active girl.
Look for new hobbies
Communication based on common interests can be a great start to a long, happy relationship. Or you will find a new talent or even a calling. Don’t close yourself within four walls, try different hobbies. Not in order to definitely meet someone, but so that life sparkles with new colors.
Focus on work
A career is a good way to distract yourself if things are not going very smoothly in your personal life. This will also allow you to gain financial independence, which will also be a plus when you finally want to start a family.
Meet with friends
Even if you don’t have a significant other right now, this is not a reason not to communicate with other couples. Who knows, maybe, looking at the relationships of your friends, you yourself will want such stability. And your bachelor friends will definitely help you take your mind off any dreary thoughts.
Get a pet
When the feeling of loneliness becomes too strong, you should get a pet. It doesn’t have to be a big dog right away; even small animals will make your life more meaningful and rich. And if you are already so used to loneliness that you don’t know how to start making acquaintances, definitely get a dog. You will have to walk a lot with her and periodically communicate with new people who will not be able to resist your four-legged friend.
So, have you realized that being alone has more disadvantages than advantages for you, and are you ready to change the situation? Then it’s a matter of time. An active social life and a positive attitude will be the first steps towards a new relationship. But if you feel that some internal complexes are preventing you from moving forward; or you have developed a strong fear of loneliness, you literally cannot be left alone — this is a signal that you should consult a psychologist. As we noted above, psychological trauma is sometimes to blame for chronic loneliness, and only a specialist can help cope with it. Why men get lonely and how to avoid itMan is a social creature and it is usually uncomfortable for him to live alone. There are many reasons for loneliness, including unsuccessful experiences in relationships, prolonged searches for the ideal soul mate, and lack of self-confidence. It is possible to overcome this condition and it is not so difficult to do. We’ll tell you how.Why is loneliness so bad?In fact, the answer is not as obvious as you might think. In addition to not having a loved one nearby, there are other negative consequences. If you don’t see your friends often and are focused only on work, your social skills are lost and you become more withdrawn.Temporary loneliness develops into chronic — it is simply difficult to let another person into your life, even if you want to. Over time, a career will cease to bring joy, and without support at home, problems will begin in it. Living only for yourself, there is a higher risk of acquiring a destructive addiction, for example, to alcohol, which will affect all areas of life. Also, a significant disadvantage of such a life is the immediate absence of a large number of advantages that stable relationships provide: mutual assistance — domestic and financial, support, and more varied leisure time. In addition, it has been proven that people who are happy in their personal lives live longer.Of course, there will be those who will say that single life also has many advantages, and will not want to change anything. But if you are reading this article, most likely the problem of loneliness is relevant to you. First, it’s worth figuring out whether this is a pattern or a pure coincidence.The main reasons for lonelinessSingle men are not uncommon these days. More and more representatives of the stronger sex are choosing a bachelor lifestyle, ignoring any attempts by women to involve them in a serious relationship. Sometimes the reason for this lies in deep psychological trauma, which must be dealt with exclusively with the help of a therapist. It could be loneliness syndrome, chronic depression, or something similar. But most often the desire to remain single is caused by social factors. Let’s consider the main ones and solutions.High expectationsIf your image of an ideal life partner has little in common with reality, finding “the one” can be extremely difficult. When setting any requirements for a future girlfriend, you need to clearly answer three questions. Are these qualities really important to you, and not imposed by someone? Are there even women who combine such qualities? And do you yourself meet such high criteria?Failed RelationshipsIf a person’s past relationship ended badly, he will not strive to enter into the next one, so as not to get burned again. Usually, it takes time for mental wounds to heal; you definitely don’t need to overpower yourself and look for a new girl immediately after a breakup. Reluctance to get married and take responsibilityThe world is changing rapidly and marriage is no longer the only possible option for two loving people. But here it is important to distinguish your desires from imposed stereotypes. Even in a situation where you are firmly convinced that marriage and children are not for you, it is not at all necessary to remain single. You just need to find a girl whose values ​​coincide with yours. Or maybe you really want a family, but are afraid to destroy the image of the “alpha male”? You shouldn’t give up happiness in order to meet someone else’s expectations.Lack of financial well-beingIf you understand that family is a big responsibility, including finances, that’s good. So you are an adult. The lack of a stable income or the desire to live for oneself for now are fair reasons to avoid a serious relationship. It is important that you continue to develop so that by a certain age you can still achieve financial stability.Benefits of SolitudeIt’s hard to argue that there are many advantages to a single life: freedom, the opportunity to lead a wild life, or, conversely, to be in complete peace 24/7. But many are so carried away by them that they acquire the habit of always living independently. Is this your case? Think about it: do you still want to start a family in the future? If the answer is yes, the main thing is not to prolong this pleasant solitude. After all, sooner or later it will stop making you happy, and there is a risk of missing out on happiness.How else can you cope with loneliness?Play sportsAn active lifestyle is the best cure for any emotional distress. So, when in doubt or after a serious breakup, sport is especially indicated. And in the gym or in the park you can meet the same active girl. Look for new hobbies Communication based on common interests can be a great start to a long, happy relationship. Or you will find a new talent or even a calling. Don’t close yourself within four walls, try different hobbies. Not in order to definitely meet someone, but so that life sparkles with new colors.Focus on workA career is a good way to distract yourself if things are not going very smoothly in your personal life. This will also allow you to gain financial independence, which will also be a plus when you finally want to start a family.Meet with friendsEven if you don’t have a significant other right now, this is not a reason not to communicate with other couples. Who knows, maybe, looking at the relationships of your friends, you yourself will want such stability. And your bachelor friends will definitely help you take your mind off any dreary thoughts.Get a petWhen the feeling of loneliness becomes too strong, you should get a pet. It doesn’t have to be a big dog right away; even small animals will make your life more meaningful and rich. And if you are already so used to loneliness that you don’t know how to start making acquaintances, definitely get a dog. You will have to walk a lot with her and periodically communicate with new people who will not be able to resist your four-legged friend.So, have you realized that being alone has more disadvantages than advantages for you, and are you ready to change the situation? Then it’s a matter of time. An active social life and a positive attitude will be the first steps towards a new relationship. But if you feel that some internal complexes are preventing you from moving forward; or you have developed a strong fear of loneliness, you literally cannot be left alone — this is a signal that you should consult a psychologist. As we noted above, psychological trauma is sometimes to blame for chronic loneliness, and only a specialist can help cope with it.

The best tips for a vibrant intimate lifeThe best tips for a vibrant intimate life

Man is a social creature and it is usually uncomfortable for him to live alone. There are many reasons for loneliness, including unsuccessful experiences in relationships, prolonged searches for the ideal soul mate, and lack of self-confidence. It is possible to overcome this condition and it is not so difficult to do. We’ll tell you how.
Why is loneliness so bad?
In fact, the answer is not as obvious as you might think. In addition to not having a loved one nearby, there are other negative consequences. If you don’t see your friends often and are focused only on work, your social skills are lost and you become more withdrawn.
Temporary loneliness develops into chronic — it is simply difficult to let another person into your life, even if you want to. Over time, a career will cease to bring joy, and without support at home, problems will begin in it.
Living only for yourself, there is a higher risk of acquiring a destructive addiction, for example, to alcohol, which will affect all areas of life. Also, a significant disadvantage of such a life is the immediate absence of a large number of advantages that stable relationships provide: mutual assistance — domestic and financial, support, and more varied leisure time. In addition, it has been proven that people who are happy in their personal lives live longer.
Of course, there will be those who will say that single life also has many advantages, and will not want to change anything. But if you are reading this article, most likely the problem of loneliness is relevant to you. First, it’s worth figuring out whether this is a pattern or a pure coincidence.

The main reasons for loneliness

Single men are not uncommon these days. More and more representatives of the stronger sex are choosing a bachelor lifestyle, ignoring any attempts by women to involve them in a serious relationship. Sometimes the reason for this lies in deep psychological trauma, which must be dealt with exclusively with the help of a therapist. It could be loneliness syndrome, chronic depression, or something similar. But most often the desire to remain single is caused by social factors. Let’s consider the main ones and solutions.

High expectations

If your image of an ideal life partner has little in common with reality, finding “the one” can be extremely difficult. When setting any requirements for a future girlfriend, you need to clearly answer three questions. Are these qualities really important to you, and not imposed by someone? Are there even women who combine such qualities? And do you yourself meet such high criteria?

Failed Relationships

If a person’s past relationship ended badly, he will not strive to enter into the next one, so as not to get burned again. Usually, it takes time for mental wounds to heal; you definitely don’t need to overpower yourself and look for a new girl immediately after a breakup.

Reluctance to get married and take responsibility

The world is changing rapidly and marriage is no longer the only possible option for two loving people. But here it is important to distinguish your desires from imposed stereotypes. Even in a situation where you are firmly convinced that marriage and children are not for you, it is not at all necessary to remain single. You just need to find a girl whose values ​​coincide with yours. Or maybe you really want a family, but are afraid to destroy the image of the “alpha male”? You shouldn’t give up happiness in order to meet someone else’s expectations.

Lack of financial well-being

If you understand that family is a big responsibility, including finances, that’s good. So you are an adult. The lack of a stable income or the desire to live for oneself for now are fair reasons to avoid a serious relationship. It is important that you continue to develop so that by a certain age you can still achieve financial stability.

Benefits of Solitude

It’s hard to argue that there are many advantages to a single life: freedom, the opportunity to lead a wild life, or, conversely, to be in complete peace 24/7. But many are so carried away by them that they acquire the habit of always living independently. Is this your case? Think about it: do you still want to start a family in the future? If the answer is yes, the main thing is not to prolong this pleasant solitude. After all, sooner or later it will stop making you happy, and there is a risk of missing out on happiness.

How else can you cope with loneliness?

Play sports
An active lifestyle is the best cure for any emotional distress. So, when in doubt or after a serious breakup, sport is especially indicated. And in the gym or in the park you can meet the same active girl.
Look for new hobbies
Communication based on common interests can be a great start to a long, happy relationship. Or you will find a new talent or even a calling. Don’t close yourself within four walls, try different hobbies. Not in order to definitely meet someone, but so that life sparkles with new colors.
Focus on work
A career is a good way to distract yourself if things are not going very smoothly in your personal life. This will also allow you to gain financial independence, which will also be a plus when you finally want to start a family.
Meet with friends
Even if you don’t have a significant other right now, this is not a reason not to communicate with other couples. Who knows, maybe, looking at the relationships of your friends, you yourself will want such stability. And your bachelor friends will definitely help you take your mind off any dreary thoughts.
Get a pet
When the feeling of loneliness becomes too strong, you should get a pet. It doesn’t have to be a big dog right away; even small animals will make your life more meaningful and rich. And if you are already so used to loneliness that you don’t know how to start making acquaintances, definitely get a dog. You will have to walk a lot with her and periodically communicate with new people who will not be able to resist your four-legged friend.
So, have you realized that being alone has more disadvantages than advantages for you, and are you ready to change the situation? Then it’s a matter of time. An active social life and a positive attitude will be the first steps towards a new relationship. But if you feel that some internal complexes are preventing you from moving forward; or you have developed a strong fear of loneliness, you literally cannot be left alone — this is a signal that you should consult a psychologist. As we noted above, psychological trauma is sometimes to blame for chronic loneliness, and only a specialist can help cope with it. Why men get lonely and how to avoid itMan is a social creature and it is usually uncomfortable for him to live alone. There are many reasons for loneliness, including unsuccessful experiences in relationships, prolonged searches for the ideal soul mate, and lack of self-confidence. It is possible to overcome this condition and it is not so difficult to do. We’ll tell you how.Why is loneliness so bad?In fact, the answer is not as obvious as you might think. In addition to not having a loved one nearby, there are other negative consequences. If you don’t see your friends often and are focused only on work, your social skills are lost and you become more withdrawn.Temporary loneliness develops into chronic — it is simply difficult to let another person into your life, even if you want to. Over time, a career will cease to bring joy, and without support at home, problems will begin in it. Living only for yourself, there is a higher risk of acquiring a destructive addiction, for example, to alcohol, which will affect all areas of life. Also, a significant disadvantage of such a life is the immediate absence of a large number of advantages that stable relationships provide: mutual assistance — domestic and financial, support, and more varied leisure time. In addition, it has been proven that people who are happy in their personal lives live longer.Of course, there will be those who will say that single life also has many advantages, and will not want to change anything. But if you are reading this article, most likely the problem of loneliness is relevant to you. First, it’s worth figuring out whether this is a pattern or a pure coincidence.The main reasons for lonelinessSingle men are not uncommon these days. More and more representatives of the stronger sex are choosing a bachelor lifestyle, ignoring any attempts by women to involve them in a serious relationship. Sometimes the reason for this lies in deep psychological trauma, which must be dealt with exclusively with the help of a therapist. It could be loneliness syndrome, chronic depression, or something similar. But most often the desire to remain single is caused by social factors. Let’s consider the main ones and solutions.High expectationsIf your image of an ideal life partner has little in common with reality, finding “the one” can be extremely difficult. When setting any requirements for a future girlfriend, you need to clearly answer three questions. Are these qualities really important to you, and not imposed by someone? Are there even women who combine such qualities? And do you yourself meet such high criteria?Failed RelationshipsIf a person’s past relationship ended badly, he will not strive to enter into the next one, so as not to get burned again. Usually, it takes time for mental wounds to heal; you definitely don’t need to overpower yourself and look for a new girl immediately after a breakup. Reluctance to get married and take responsibilityThe world is changing rapidly and marriage is no longer the only possible option for two loving people. But here it is important to distinguish your desires from imposed stereotypes. Even in a situation where you are firmly convinced that marriage and children are not for you, it is not at all necessary to remain single. You just need to find a girl whose values ​​coincide with yours. Or maybe you really want a family, but are afraid to destroy the image of the “alpha male”? You shouldn’t give up happiness in order to meet someone else’s expectations.Lack of financial well-beingIf you understand that family is a big responsibility, including finances, that’s good. So you are an adult. The lack of a stable income or the desire to live for oneself for now are fair reasons to avoid a serious relationship. It is important that you continue to develop so that by a certain age you can still achieve financial stability.Benefits of SolitudeIt’s hard to argue that there are many advantages to a single life: freedom, the opportunity to lead a wild life, or, conversely, to be in complete peace 24/7. But many are so carried away by them that they acquire the habit of always living independently. Is this your case? Think about it: do you still want to start a family in the future? If the answer is yes, the main thing is not to prolong this pleasant solitude. After all, sooner or later it will stop making you happy, and there is a risk of missing out on happiness.How else can you cope with loneliness?Play sportsAn active lifestyle is the best cure for any emotional distress. So, when in doubt or after a serious breakup, sport is especially indicated. And in the gym or in the park you can meet the same active girl. Look for new hobbies Communication based on common interests can be a great start to a long, happy relationship. Or you will find a new talent or even a calling. Don’t close yourself within four walls, try different hobbies. Not in order to definitely meet someone, but so that life sparkles with new colors.Focus on workA career is a good way to distract yourself if things are not going very smoothly in your personal life. This will also allow you to gain financial independence, which will also be a plus when you finally want to start a family.Meet with friendsEven if you don’t have a significant other right now, this is not a reason not to communicate with other couples. Who knows, maybe, looking at the relationships of your friends, you yourself will want such stability. And your bachelor friends will definitely help you take your mind off any dreary thoughts.Get a petWhen the feeling of loneliness becomes too strong, you should get a pet. It doesn’t have to be a big dog right away; even small animals will make your life more meaningful and rich. And if you are already so used to loneliness that you don’t know how to start making acquaintances, definitely get a dog. You will have to walk a lot with her and periodically communicate with new people who will not be able to resist your four-legged friend.So, have you realized that being alone has more disadvantages than advantages for you, and are you ready to change the situation? Then it’s a matter of time. An active social life and a positive attitude will be the first steps towards a new relationship. But if you feel that some internal complexes are preventing you from moving forward; or you have developed a strong fear of loneliness, you literally cannot be left alone — this is a signal that you should consult a psychologist. As we noted above, psychological trauma is sometimes to blame for chronic loneliness, and only a specialist can help cope with it.

The best tips for a vibrant intimate lifeThe best tips for a vibrant intimate life

It’s been almost a year since I’ve gotten out of the army. It felt like time was moving infinitely slow while I was active duty. Between basic, AIT, OCONUS and FORSCOM, the crazy hours and amount field trainings, looking back, I realize it now that the years all went by so quickly the army is just really good at making one day feel like two days, and it was almost like a dream. I guess I got out because I was burnt out and expected more in the civilian side and looked at everyone around my age group starting to graduate college which made me feel like I was being left behind, but honestly I should’ve never compared myself, I never took leave (which was a bigger mistake). After ETSing it was like nothing ever changed back home. My experiences in service changed me significantly and quickly started to die down back home. For me now, time has been flying since I’ve left and it’s scary. Looking back at AD it wasn’t so bad, I had all my basic needs, it was simple! I had my hard earned money to spend on fun things for myself and got to see quite a bit of the US and places I would’ve never seen if I hadn’t joined, I had a nice routine and vacations/reunions were fruitful. Unlike most I had very competent leaders who I could look up to and met some amazing friends and connections. I miss that gut feeling of the unknown, where I could be next year, who I would be working with or who I’d meet, what the next training would look like. I enjoyed being in the field at night and seeing the stars in the field, I wish I could’ve given the army a chance as a career maybe looked forward to the possibility of being sent overseas to Germany or Italy or who knows maybe would’ve been sent to the gulag at hood, but nonetheless I’m unfulfilled now with no sense of direction, my mind was a lot sharper while I was in service, i was actually a lot happier, physically fit and proud of myself, and I was good at my job, simply put i was good at being soldier, and I flourished in the structure. I always was adventurous looking back at pictures of myself, i hate to admit it but i enjoyed the suck, i smiled through it and at the end of the day i always had fun being in the wilderness and exploring new regions, I always took extra time to take training seriously on my part because who knew if we would ever be down range. Didn’t realize it at the time but it was fun being able to look forward to returning from a field exercise, a good shower and a good beer before Mondays PT, the simplicity of wearing a uniform for work, and it was like a milestone every time i got to come back home to visit my family and friends. I realize now it was different from most of my friends because it was my path, After being back in the civ side i realize I don’t belong in a cooperate America. I never asked myself before leaving service, would you be willing to stay in one spot or job for the rest of your life, do I have it in me to climb a corporate ladder? I enjoyed my own little bubble in the army away from my hometown and now I feel like a fish out of water. I would reenlist but I ended up getting 100% service connected, I would give it up to have my life back. I was told that it’s risky and I might be left with nothing because I have to give it up before evening trying to go back to Meps and unfortunately I have a pretty long medical history for physical injuries so I might be SOL under genesis portal. I’m still young in my mid 20s, and no fellas I don’t have Stockholm syndrome. Can anyone relate or give advice?

“the initial grip of fear, that turns into the unexpected earning for your capture.”
the poetry in here is about survival and surrender. it delves into the complexities of a karmic love. being trapped in a situation, while still being aware of its toxicity. my poems are meant to convey the tumultuous journey of being in love with a narcissist. (your “capture”) the lessons you learn, as painful as they can be, invite you to take a step into the shadow side of love. if you feel at home here, I’m truly sorry. there is a way out. I hope you break free. -with so much love, gillian.
and when you retreat,
i’ll wear this shirt for days.
intoxicating & sweet,
with your cologne interlaced.
breathing in your deceit,
it kind of feels like mace.
denial mixed with defeat.

• i’ve always had bad taste.

i knew you weren’t game.
still i chose to play.
it isn't fair to blame.
believe me, i carry my own shame.
poured myself into your glass,
played the waiting game.
leaking through your cracks,
our imperfections the same.
-i recognize a glass half full, even when it’s shattered.
every summer, we reheat.
you left your roots behind
seasons change, but cycles repeat.
if you see the same tree in the forest twice,
it’s time to face defeat.
must come to terms,
the truth can be bleak.
-you’re lost.
got a god complex,
but you’re not religious.
searching for who’s next.
never fearing Jesus.
sit back & count your checks.
blame your mistakes on demons.
make your excuses.
you’ve got your reasons.
-false prophecy
you remind me of an onion.
make me cry as I peel away at you,
in search for your seed.
but you’re just a facade of skins.
layers of deception,
concealing the truth.
disappointing.
you have no core,
only hollow creed.
-my mother’s disdain for onions.
there’s always been a haze between us.
murky, convoluted, undefined.
more than friends, less than lovers.
simultaneously strangers.
but in this ambiguity, I find solace.
-for grey is my favorite color.
i’ll play bartender,
make you something nice.
your heart in my hand,
gripping your ice.
drain me dry,
leave me hollow & still.
next week you’ll return,
thirsty for your refill.
-whiskey sour
bittersweet.
should have read the label.
“poison”
sitting so pretty on my table.
calling like an offering,
tempting & fatal.
it won’t go down smooth,
leave me unstable.
i tried to resist, i was unable.
now i see that love exists,
but only in fables.
-why do mistakes taste so good?
your lips left a bruise.
just here to distract.
but i admit i’m confused
when you kiss me like that.
aware i’m being used.
still comfortable where i’m at.
position i choose
complacent doormat.
-welcome home
you prefer car rides.
a space to talk, yet evade my gaze.
unable to sit still, restless in your ways.
never one to settle, always seeking the next best fling.
oh, how I long for the days when adderall made you sing.
-my fuel light is on
I broke my own heart,
more times than a few.
i may have lied,
but never to you.
if i faced the truth,
then what’s left to do?
i’m comfortable here,
wasting my youth.
i hate to admit it,
but i know it’s true.
i’m scared of change,
you run from it too.
i won’t forgive myself,
for always forgiving you.
-can you be home sick from people too?
You’re dead to me.
-Necrophiliac.
come on.
i forgave you,
without an apology.
convinced myself it was closure.
started our anthology.
this will never be over.
it’s in our biology.
let’s have a do over.
can you just come fuck me?
-delusional. & i can’t rhyme either.
i’ll read between your lines,
decipher each clue.
search for the signs,
follow your cue.
you’ve spun me around,
think i’ve lost a few screws.
still i rise, dust off the bruise.
maybe i’m drawn to a challenge,
perhaps it’s not you.
denial is my shield.
my safe space, my refuge.
the truth will not prevail
defeat? i refuse.
my final boss,
I aim to subdue.
-sore loser.
my mom said i felt cold.
I always tell the truth.
the words escaped my mouth.
“i get it from you.”
funny, she hugs me now.
never in my youth.
conceal carry my trauma.
play it cool, keep it smooth.
use my words as a weapon.
daddy taught me how to shoot.
-target practice
it’s lonely as a ghost,
been trapped here for years.
lingering around,
mopping up your tears.
do you sense my presence?
can you feel me near?
if I dare make a sound,
will you even hear?
or am I just a whisper?
it’s never been quite clear.
promised to stay beside you,
my love was sincere.
-invisible
afraid to release
what's just a mist.
I must learn to respect
your lack of interest.
hard pill to swallow,
if i could just take the hint.
i hate letting go
of what doesn't exist.
-maybe i’m the problem
chasing you down as you flee,
why look back, just to see?
i’m gaining distance, is this what you need?
only now I realize, I'm your source of glow.
i feed your flame, you need me to grow.
without my warmth, will your embers persist?
or will they die out, because I was your wick?
I can go the distance, even do it quick.
didn’t think I could pass you but, tag, you're it.
so when your lost in the dark,
just look for my light.
for my flames eternal.
vivacious and bright.
-Ruled by the Sun.
you love her like a one-way mirror.
boosting your ego, making thoughts clearer.
she stands before you, but can you even see her?
soon her time will come, to be valued, to be known.
to be more than a reflection, to be art on her own.
-shattered
i feel as though i’m trapped
in a museum.
exhibits of my past.
meticulously preserved & on display.
forced to observe and to my dismay..
no exits.
-i don’t like it here
i am an esteemed professor.
teaching you how to love.
i am a well-traveled guide.
leading you to your full potential.
i am a warrior.
going to battle for your reputation.
i am an artist.
molding you into your greatest self.
i am a generous humanitarian.
donating my most precious piece to another women.
she sees no flaws.
enamored by your beauty.
a saw the hardened marble slab
i chiseled away for years.
only to reveal the beauty underneath for someone else to cherish.
-wasted potential
when we were pretending to be strangers, I loved you from afar.
when we were playing house,
I welcomed you with all my heart.
you left me here, with nothing but a scar.
sad and empty.
headed to a bar.
light up a cigarette.
fill me with tar.
I hope you think of me when you see a shooting star.
-maybe you loved me in a past life
only one day will i realize
the last thing i should feel is surprise
my personality has been downsized
because i chose to compromise
with a man wearing a disguise
your plan was always devised
but I’ll meet you at our spot
-king sized
you can fill your bed with anyone.
but who can fill your void?
you’ll never solve the puzzle
-sincerely, the missing piece.
ravenous for praise.
the apex predator.
you feed on the weak.
but never leave satisfied.
your greedy but insatiable.
devoured your feast
how can you be famished?
-taste me and see me why you’ve been starving
there’s things i wanna say to you.
but i’ll just let you be.
you have a way of always avoiding
-accountability
you’ve got walls up
but i know where the windows are
-can i come in?
maybe you do
love me
but only in the dark
when no one’s watching
-conditional.
i wish i was tired of you.
forgiveness, i can’t escape.
they say patience is a virtue,
but it’s a habit i can’t break.
-if i had a dollar for all the times i should have blocked you
the spot i had for you was soft.
made for you, a perfect fit.
delusion is wearing off.
disgust is starting to hit.
gave it all to you, at any cost.
-should have known it wasn’t permanent.
and just like that,
2 steps forward. 10 steps back.
why do i feel comfortable in this trap?
-i hope you run away and never come back
I don't wish you well, that would be too easy.
I wish you self-reflection.
-internal accountability.
i am the girl that learned
to do everything by myself.
to not depend on others to save me.
to fill up my time, or entertain me.
he said to go where i am appreciated, so i went to therapy.
-i’ll send you in the invoice.
in order to heal a wound,
you have to stop touching it.
-i have dermatillomania
thank you for reading! far from perfect but i took up writing as a way to express myself and it really helped me heal and process my emotions <3 thanks guys

I'm not sure if Kuandyk Bishimbayev has been covered yet but he's the man who beat his wife to death for 8 hours. He got 24 years, but the country had to reverse a domestic violence law to do it, since it wasn't illegal to hit your spouse.
I linked a detailed video about it if anyone has the time to watch. It's 2.5 hours but there are shorter videos/articles about the man. Lots of women protestors, attempted cover up, Stockholm syndrome, infidelity, king man baby, and the wife's murder when she finally decided to leave. https://youtu.be/DfbtEa0btSs?si=XcANrB8PgE8plSlf

All names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved.
I (F, 28) and my partner (M, 28) are in the process of moving in with my longtime friend, Bobby (F, 38) and her partner, Max (NB, 40).
Max has a child, age 11, from their previous marriage, who lives here half time, so my friend Bobby is the child's stepmother.
My partner and I are supposed to be moving into the back bedroom of the house, but a few weeks ago Bobby and I went a mission an hour away to pick up her friend Jenny (F, 34?), and bring her here because she is the victim of domestic violence, and her husband was staying in a hotel a few blocks away "in case she needed help with anything."
Her husband, Kam, beat her so badly she has two detatched retinas (and is therefore mostly blind now) and several chipped teeth. He also works for Shmoogle Shmaps, so there are major privacy concerns.
We do not want Jenny to leave. We have made it very clear that she is welcome here basically forever. Max and Bobby each have their own rooms, so my partner and I have been staying in Bobby's room. Eventually, we do need to finish moving our stuff, so we'll need our own room, so we've been fixing up the side room of the garage to make it comfortable. Kick ass heater, bed, couch, rugs, fridge, tapestries, plants, and art so it doesn't feel like a garage.
Here's the thing: Jenny has been drinking heavily since before we picked her up. This is understandable; if my partner blinded me, stalked me, manipulated me, stole from me, called the cops on me, etc. I'd be in a pretty bad place, too. But, along with some suspected brain injury, this has made her impossible to deal with. She is constantly going back and forth about wanting to go home. She turned her phone back on without resetting it on her first night here, making it plausible for Kam to know where she was. Things have progressed from there to the point where she is calling him, and saying things like "I'm sorry for everything," which is going to totally fuck her up legally in the divorce.
Like, I get it. She's been victimized. Kam "saved" her from sex work and married her and never treated her like a real human being. It's Stockholm syndrome. But, it's getting out of hand. Not only do we suspect she's probably told Kam where she is, but we have a child living here. After what he did to her, it's not safe to have him around.
She can't take care of herself. She only eats when we make her, and has grown extremely thin and pale. She is still learning how to be blind. She missed her eye surgery today because she couldn't stop drinking. If she goes home, Kam will too, and it's already remarkable that he didn't kill her the last time he beat her up, when he detatched her retinas.
I would gladly sit with her and let her bounce her feelings off of me and help her to stay organized (because court stuff, lawyers, medical appointments, etc. are a lot to manage any time, let alone when you are recovering from such major trauma) every damn day until she is healed enough to move on, and I know the rest of the house would as well, EXCEPT that she keeps trying to leave and is now putting all of us at risk.
Because she's Bobby and Max's friend, and they don't necessarily want to burn bridges with her, I'm going to be the one to talk to her. I can tell it like it is. However, what I would prefer, is to say something that will make her want to stay, and stop talking to Kam. I know this is basically impossible. I have known many women to be trapped in relationships who have dealt with many physically, mentally, sexually, socially, etc. abusive partners. I was in one myself when I was young. I know it's a long, frustrating road, but I have to try.
What do I do???

I love being shaved. I feel so much better, more soldierly, more disciplined. It’s not that I can’t grow a beard or anything like that, I just feel better when I shave every morning. Not only that, but if I go periods without shaving, I feel like a shitbag. Even if I’m on leave thousands of miles away from post, I feel like if I don’t shave every day I’m a failure to the Army. I get an unnatural sense of pleasure feeling my face devoid of any discipline destroyers after a clean shave at 0400.
Is this autism? Stockholm syndrome? Some other mental disease?

For context, my story is meant to have an enemies to lovers plot. The MC is a mermaid, while the ML is a Pirate. He captures the mermaid and I want them to fall in love, but I don't know how to do so without it sounding like stockholm syndrome. Any advice?

Recently graduated and was looking into post docs for a few months, hell I even helped write a grant for one( fine out in September). I had a few promising leads and my old lab offer d to keep me on for a while if need be. However I am location limited because my wife's job so I really couldn't leave NJ. So I reluctantly started applying for job to appease my wife. And I'm so happy I did. My starting salary is 25k higher than post docs, I get to choose whero e I live, i get benefits, time off and I DONT HAVE TO WORK AFTER WORK ANYMORE. my stress is so much less, I no longer have that toxic feeling to be better than my colleagues ( even the least toxic ppl in academia are always comparing themselves) and my wife and I can actually afford a house instead of having to relocate every 2 years. Also many postdocs don't even having better job prospects !!!!
Post docs are bullshit, YOU HAVE A FUCKING DOCTORATES after 4+ years of making nothing you shouldn't be making less than the STARTING PAY of a public school teacher in NJ( you know the profession that people are always saying is underpaid, which is true). Yea 65k sounds good when you've been making 30k for all your 20's but it's bullshit and we've been conditioned to live below our means for the joy of work. Im done putting my personal life on hold so I can have a job people don't even respect.
Sell out, the postdoc system is currently fucked and shouldn't require such sacrifice after you've already been in school for ~10 years and aren't guaranteed a job after. If you truly love your work, you can come back, hell I'm still writing papers from my PhD and have been invited to help other group, but now I get to enjoy my life a little and stop putting all my life events on hold
Sorry for the rant, but as some who was all in on academia I felt I had to spread to good word, as I'm so much happier in such a short period of time, and I loved my PhD work.
Also fun fact my new job actually respects my PhD a lot because I'm the only one, whereas in academia you're a dime a dozen
TLDR: post docs only look good because phds are so depriving, the system is fucked making people move and often have more than 1 post doc just to possibly have a good job in their 40s is fucked up and not worth it.
Edit: I'll also add I moved from Marine biology to biotech, if you focus on transferable skills ( cell biology for me) you can move further than you'd expect.

Does Aerith have a Stockholm's syndrom affaiaffection with Tseng? Thank you.

For context, my story is meant to have an enemies to lovers plot. The MC is a mermaid, while the ML is a Pirate. He captures the mermaid and I want them to fall in love, but I don't know how to do so without it sounding like stockholm syndrome. Any advice?

”Stop.”
I was doodling cats when our teacher announced we wouldn't be leaving the classroom.
We were trapped, or as he put it, safely tucked inside a single second.
2:52pm.
Mr Brighton locked us in, blocking us from looking out of the classroom door.
Everything was frozen, except the twelve of us.
The man explained there was no need for food or drink.
Our bodies were locked in stasis.
Frozen.
Not dead, and not alive.
Roman Hemlock threw a chair at him.
“Behave.”
The boy slumped into his seat, falling into a trance-like state I was terrified of.
Our teacher seemed to be able to manipulate things.
Time.
Minds.
And slowly… us.
In the single second we were trapped, I felt days go by. Then weeks. Months.
I never grew hungry or tired, and my bodily functions were none existent.
The only thing that was changing, was our slowly unravelling metal state.
I wasn't sure what day, time, month, year it was. What I did know was that we were playing a game of Monopoly that had been going on for a week.
I was aware of my foggy thoughts that could barely coerce a sentence, and the smile on my lips. Next to me, Roman Hemlock was winning, after buying half of the properties on the board.
His smile was, dare I think, genuine.
Happy.
Looking around at my classmates, I had a sudden, terrifying thought.
Was I enjoying this? Was this Stockholm syndrome?
In the corner of my eye, however, someone was still awake. Ren Matthias, who had been slowly inching towards our teacher, a box cutter in his hand.
I didn't see the exact moment he stabbed the blade into the man's neck, but I did feel time around me start to falter and tremble, the clock on the wall creeping towards 2:53pm.
Roman’s half lidded eyes snapped to me, fully awake.
Something wet pooled across the floor, sticky and red.
Blood.
Blood, that was running.
2:53.
We were free.
The piece of paper glued to the door slipped away.
But Roman’s gaze was still on the doorway, his face paling.
His lips parted into a silent cry.
Following his eyes, I found a shadow.
What our teacher was hiding from us.
A shadow, who was frozen at 2:52pm.
A shadow, with a gun.
I saw Roman's lips move.
"Fuck." He whispered.
"Get DOWN!"
I dropped onto my knees, crawling under a desk, the classroom exploding around me.
2:54.
Blood splattered the walls, and I was crawling in it, stained in my friends.
2:55.
I grabbed Mr Brighton's hand, squeezing for dear life.
Roman joined me, his trembling fingers feeling for a pulse.
A gunshot rang in my ears, rattling my skull.
When Roman went limp next to me, I wrapped my arms around my teacher.
“Mr Brighton, say Stop.”
He was so cold…
“Mr Brighton! Take us back!”
Footsteps coming towards me.
2:56.

Ever since I started taking psych classes project 863 have gotten interesting by the minute rewatching it and reading the books. It very interesting to use deeper knowledge. Like clearly Deb has trauma and tad bit of Stockholm syndrome it almost feels she feels guilty for turning against Nelson but did because of ethics and how her brother were treating the patient. It very interesting to look at this in deeper perspective. Let me know if you think I should do deeper analysis of series based psychology?