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2012.12.27 01:26 PabstyLoudmouth Eating healthy on a cheap budget

Eating healthy on a cheap budget
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2009.04.22 18:18 bugpakoo FI/RE - Financial Independence & Retiring Early

FI/RE (Financial Independence / Retiring Early) is a money strategy that's sweeping the nation. It's not easy, but it is simple: earn more, spend less, and use the difference wisely. Build a baseline of financial security with the difference first, then use it to invest for your future. That way you can begin to earn financial freedom and control your own destiny.
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2010.08.20 01:59 alaskamiller Flask

Flask is a Python micro-framework for web development. Flask is easy to get started with and a great way to build websites and web applications.
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2024.05.17 13:09 MooseMint What kind of artefact might the party discover below the coasts of Newthrone, that'll help them defeat the Quori BBEG?

Heya! I've got a session coming up in the next few days and mostly have everything figured out.... except for the central maguffin of this mini-adventure, somehow. The party will be going beneath the waves just off the coast of Newthrone to discover some long-since flooded ruins full of treasure and magical items from Xen'Drik.
They'll be exploring an old underwater temple, getting inside they'll need to find a way to reach the ocean floor, maybe 200-300ft down, make their way past Glimmerfish (reflavoured displacer beasts with swimming speed), and solve some puzzles while avoiding giant crabs and weird mollusc things to open the Temple's vault where most of the treasure from Xen'drik was stored by the pirates of old. There will be a recently arrived (no lair actions) Morkoth in there to serve as the dungeon boss, but then the treasure hoard will be theirs. Among other wonderful shiney things, they're looking for an ancient Giant artefact that will help them defeat the Quori BBEG of the main campaign in some way.
.... Any ideas? Usually I feel pretty confident in making up treasure hoards but for whatever reason with this one, I just can't make up my mind for what should be in there! Any help much appriciated!
Lore behind the Temple: In my Eberron, Newthrone was founded where it was founded because it's an old site of archeological wealth and interest. There actually was a settlement there previously, the name now lost, only refered to as "Old Town", which was mostly Dhakaani ruins inhabited by Lhazaarian sailors and various other merchant and pirate groups, it was a bit of a "neutral" zone for treasure trading. Pirates and raiders would dock in Qbarra to explore and pillage the ruins of the area for treasures, then dock in the Old Town for sell their goods, or find treasures to purchase for themselves. But the Old Town also served as a port for discreet expeditions going to and from Xen'Drik, and was also then a huge stockpile of treasures being brought back to Khorvaire for distribution. One location slowly emerged as the trading hub for Xen'Drik expeditions - anyone who wanted to buy or sell powerful and valuable items from Xen'Drik would know to go there. It used to be a Temple built in the name of the Traveller, but now supertitious sailors simply go there before their journeys to pray for good fortune and mercy while navigating the Traveller's Curse.
In the early years of the last war though, because it had become such an infamous site of powerful treasures, the Elves of Valenar hit the Old Town again and again and again with Earthquake spells, back before high level spell casters were completely wiped out by the war. They were hoping to completely destory Old Town so Karrnath (and it's territories) couldn't take advantage of the treasures for the purposes of war. Valenar was successful: After a month of sieges, the actual tectonic plates gave way and The Old Town sank beneath the waves amidst earthshocks and tsunamis. After the war, Newthrone was founded in it's place partly because history had already shown it was a very successful location for a port city, but the settlers were also hoping to slowly recover the sunken treasures to build their own wealth.
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2024.05.17 13:07 MrMusicAndFilm Looking for an actual friendship/family bond with a female desiring the same

I could type a simple message saying that I'd like to find a genuine female platonic best friend for life that feels like family, but it's more detailed than that. I just prefer to be transparent and detailed about a lot of things up front so there's minimal confusion and/or misunderstanding. So here we go.
About Me: - 47 years of age - black male - heterosexual - married with toddlers - USA / North Florida - introvert (INFJ-A for those into MB) - ex-Christian, agnostic / atheist - day job (Multimedia Developer) - ambitious entrepreneur (a builder) - neurodivergent - self-aware - reserved and level headed - silly, sarcastic, and corny - genuine, authentic, and an empath - very selective about the people in my life - very loyal to those I esteem a real friend - kind of a nerd/techie about filmmaking, music, new technology, crypto, AI, etc. - somewhat frugal and budget oriented
Interests & Hobbies: - filmmaking, composing music, animating, voice overs, photography, web development - bowling - billiards - game nights (card games, Jenga, Taboo, etc.) - movie nights (theater or binging at home) - sci-fi, thrillers, dystopian, comedy, horror, cartoons, superhero, space documentaries, action, adventure - chilling at the beach - even though I'm kind of a homebody, I enjoy walking and jogging - small road trips or cultural travel with a small group - trying new restaurants out - retro video games
Not Into: - not into smoking, vaping, 420, drinking, drugs - i have no tattoos or body piercings - never been the party type - not into big and overcrowded social events - not a dancer - not a huge risk taker
Lacking: - close friendships/family for in-person support and community
Needs: - someone that can genuinely understand/relate to the hardships of being an ex-Christian turned atheist - someone who can handle a deep level of openness (listening and sharing) without being judgmental and jumping to conclusions about things - someone who genuinely desires a close family like bond and is willing to put the time and effort into building it - someone that's not a smoker, drinker, and not into drugs and 420 products (I've spent too much time trying to fit in with people that smoke, drink, and do 420. I'm tired of making "I'll be the designated driver" jokes. I just need someone who's not into those things either.) - please be comfortable with my age if you are 15+ years younger. As I look maybe 10 years younger than my age and may be more open minded than many people my age, big age gaps can pose relatability issues. Just be mindful
As I'm open to platonic online friendships/family, I know I won't do as well with them long-term since I'm really hoping to make some long-term in-person friendships/family connections which would include meeting and hanging out in real life. Again, just being up front and transparent.
But with that being said, I haven't found anyone in my area that I feel connected to. So it only makes sense to consider people from anywhere. But the chemistry has to be there. But if anything is going to last, we'd have to figure a way to connect in person.
Also, I don't care about your orientation, if you are married, single, have children, are poly, or whatever. I'm just looking for someone I can connect with that feels like family.
Anyway, I always feel like I can't articulate what I'm looking for properly, but if this post piqued your interest and you feel you might be someone I'd like to connect with, send me a message.
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2024.05.17 13:07 atadbitrad How can my BF (M 24) and I (F22) fix our relationship? Is it even worth it or should we break up?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now (most of it being LDR), and honestly, our relationship was perfect. I genuinely thought he was the one; he was so sweet and respectful, until he just wasn’t.
To preface this, we did start off casual. We both were drunk at a party, hooked up, and decided to keep it that way until, eventually, one of us caught feelings and the other followed suit. However, he was graduating college and I was only a sophomore, so the idea of this actually working was absurd. But as one thing led to another, we both realized we wanted to make this work, so we gave LDR a shot.
The long distance itself wasn't too bad (initially, at least). We didn't text all the time; in fact, there were days where barely anything was said, but neither of us minded as we understood we have busy schedules. Problems, however, began when my trust was somewhat breached, and I just couldn't deal with things anymore.
So, my boyfriend is a sweet guy, kinda shy and non-confrontational. He has a girl best friend who is a total bitch and has been weird with me time and time again. The first time I met her, my boyfriend and I were only hooking up. It was for breakfast after a night of drinking. We were being a bit affectionate, and she, out of nowhere, exclaimed, "BF name, please behave, stop embarrassing yourself in public." Strange, but I paid it no mind. Of course, that wasn't enough. We were all just sitting, eating, not saying much because she just radiated malice. I didn't want to engage because I would snap and I wanted to leave a good impression. But she continued to pose hypothetical scenarios to my boyfriend about what his ex would think about him being in this situation, overall giving weird vibes. At the time, my hookup (boyfriend) didn't say anything, and I didn't want to assert myself in the situation, so I stayed silent.
Fast forward a few months later, we are at an event in the car. We are all tripping on ecstasy except for his beloved girl best friend, who the whole time is sitting in the back making snide comments about me to her friend, "oh, she's crazy," blah blah. STILL, my boyfriend claims to have not heard and said nothing. STILL, I ignore that.
Fine? Now, this is almost 6 months later. My boyfriend and I are at a party when a girl who was very overtly interested in my boyfriend comes up to him, and they start talking. (The first time meeting post-grad, they both are drunk, so I let it go.) They are sitting on the side. She is holding his hand, and I'm just observing from afar because I don't want to put myself in that situation when my boyfriend calls me (he claims it was to include me). This girl says, "OMG, you're lucky I backed off; you can have him, he's all yours," to which my boyfriend, sitting right there, says nothing (claimed he didn't hear). I avert the topic, ask her about work, etc., but the whole time I am fuming. I bring it up to my boyfriend, and his same response: "I never heard. I love you. Can you stop being dramatic?"
Now I'm a bit suspicious of him. Anyway, it's summer break. I am on vacation, and he's back home. At 4 am, he texts me, saying, "Hey babe, I want to meet a friend of mine. We dated back in school. It was a kiddy relationship. Can I meet her? If it's okay with you, we will just smoke a joint or whatever." I didn't want to be controlling, and if they dated in school, who was I to stop him? So I was like, sure. Months later, I find out it's the first girl he had sex with. Are you seeing a pattern?
In isolation, these micro-breaches could just be looked over, but the build-up is just not giving. Anyways, fast forward some more months. My friend shows me a close friend's post of this girl my boyfriend follows where she's practically naked, and he's liked it. Keep in mind, this is months into our relationship. I screenshot it and bring it up to him. It's the same: "I didn't know, I just like everything on my feed. It's before we had such convos about boundaries." (I have always expressed how icky and embarrassing it is to see your man under some hoe's post.)
So obviously, with all these little instances, I get angrier and angrier. I trust him less, I ask more, and I get angry real quick. Now our relationship has reached the point where we can't go without fighting for more than 2 days (if I'm being generous). I second-guess his every move, I am perpetually suspicious, and I kind of resent him. When we are together, it’s great; there aren't any major problems per se, but in LDR, I just can't. Not only is he an awful texter, but he also makes so many promises that he can't fulfill. An example: he said he’d post our pics. It's been months now, and he hasn't, but if it was some concert of his or a friend's, that post is up and running ASAP.
All his friends are also so man-coded; they act like boys. His own best friend has a shit relationship, but my boyfriend looks at his relationship as the pinnacle because apparently they live together and that's so perfect. He wants to get married and have me uproot my whole life to accommodate his plans because apparently we have to go for masters together, but that can only be when it works for him (so I can't go post-grad as planned). I am also expected to get married as soon as I graduate and move to a super conservative country because his job pays so well, and I "should find work there."
Keep in mind while we do LDR, he barely texts when he is out. I go out; I take out time regardless, and I understand people are different, but his communication is so shit. I understand quality over quantity, and I am okay with that, but the quality of our conversation is also so deplorable. Most times, if I talk to him on the phone for too long, something will make me angry, and things blow up into an argument.
I want to be with him, but I don't know how to fix these problems or if they are even worth fixing. We also talk about breaking up every week, and there are days I literally want to punch a wall.
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2024.05.17 13:05 anonymous2629282929 I think I’ve turned into an Incel

I never in my life thought I would be apart of this type of community but it seems that I might be considered apart of it.
Growing up, I’ve had a good amount of women that were interested in me but I was too much of a pussy to let them know that I liked them. This resulted in me not dating anyone in middle school or high school. In college I decided to make a change and start asking women out. I’ve so far asked out 3 girls and they’ve all said no. Every single one. This has caused me to have a hatred towards W because I got told no 3 times. There were girls in the past who showed interest but I didn’t ask them out cause I scared.
One girl who I knew would’ve probably said yes to me, I didn’t ask because I didn’t like her like that. I now regret not asking her out because at least she would’ve told me yes. Then I could’ve said the 2 girl I asked out said yes to me but I didn’t because I didn’t like her like that. I ended up asking another girl who didn’t show any interest in me hoping she would say yes and she said no. She told me no but I didn’t feel too bad about it.
Fast forward to 2024, another girl showed interest in me but I was too nervous to make a move right away. 2 months later I decided to talk to her and ask her out and she says she has boyfriend. Are you fucking serious? You acted like you were interested in me for 2 fucking months and then I finally build up the courage to talk to you, and you fucking say you have a boyfriend? I got so fucking behind in my school work thinking about how I should talk to her. And I told myself if I got rejected by her I wouldn’t care but I fucking do. I’ve never been this depressed/mad at a rejection like this 3rd one. This 3rd rejection makes me hate W. This 3rd rejected happed months ago too and I’m still not over it.
I never felt this way about women before either. Back when I never asked out a girl or was scared I never had a hatred towards W but now I do because I’ve been told no 3 fucking times. I don’t even want to approach anymore women unless I know she’ll say yes. I want a Yes so I can feel better about myself and know that it only took 4 fucking times to finally get a yes.
How do I stop feeling this way? I want to stop hating W but they’re all I think about now because I’ve been rejected 3 fucking times.
Edit: Also, I had a girlfriend in middle school but we only last 2-3 weeks so I don’t consider that a real relationship.
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2024.05.17 13:04 moneyburnerpro Mortgage Free vs Emergency Savings

Background: 40M, grew up in a home with not a lot of money but enough to get by so investment etc just hasn't been a discussion point or hammered into me and I'm not as financially aware as I should be. I've had a good job (self employed) but not paid a huge amount into a pension. New staff job pays a healthy amount in so hoping to catch up.
I've buried my head in the sand about stuff a little as I'm in a good position I think but experience growing up means I worry I'll get it wrong and lose it. To illustrate how bad I am saving are mostly sat in a current account due to indecision.
Currently I have about £110k left on a mortgage.
Part way into a 2yr Fixed mortgage at 5%, so planing for when that ends.
Savings about to hit £100k in a few months due to a bit of good fortune and work.
Mentally I'm a bit stuck at the comfort blanket stage of there's money to pay the mortgage if I lose job etc. but becoming aware this isn't the right thing.
Should I pay it all off in one go with savings, saving me 40-50kish over remaining life of mortgage and then try to rebuild that savings (as I'll not have a mortgage and can usually save £1k a month on top) so I could build back up savings in 4 or 5 years.
I know I'm lucky to have good job but no clue what to do and feel I'm getting things wrong while doing a reasonably paid job that I hate.
The dream is to take half savings and try something completely different working for myself again but having a 2yr old is putting breaks on that.
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2024.05.17 13:04 Rouxyll My father was scammed years ago and still suffers the consequences

Hello everybody.
First, I want to mention that English is not my first language, so I am sorry for my mistakes. That’s why I am partly working with a translator.
Second, I don’t have every detail on this case, because my father told me for the first time about this a few hours ago. But it feels like I got the most important stuff from him.
Third, I do not know how many years ago exactly this happened. But he told me that he lives with the „consequences“ for 10 to 12 years now.
Oh, and we are from Germany - just in case this in important in any way.
Now on to the story.
Many years ago, my father worked in the warehouse of a relatively large supermarket. There, through some contact (which he didn't go into any further), he was "offered" a building society savings contract through some company. He had accepted this offer and it was handled in such a way that the money he would have had to pay for it was deducted from his salary.
At some point, he went to the bank to clarify something about the building society contract. There, however, he learnt that the company through which it was run no longer existed.
I don't know who exactly it was, but some other company probably wanted money from him instead. His account was even to be seized. Of course, he didn't realise this and went to his bank and explained the situation to them. The bank hadn't really done much, but he has now had a seizure protection account for at least a decade. He has to stay below a certain amount, otherwise he can no longer access the money.
My father said that he had already seen a lawyer. But he couldn't help him. He also regularly talks to his bank about it, but absolutely nothing is happening. Regularly, he gets a letter about a general meeting from that company which want the money from him, but he never was a member there.
Hence my question: Does anyone have any ideas what can be done? Or is this something that cannot be won?
Thanks for reading and I‘m grateful for ever piece of advice we can get. :>
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2024.05.17 13:01 muthafukk How are people affording to leave bad relationships?

I'm not super desperate, but I do need to leave him. It's not violent or anything, but with the cost of everything I cannot leave! I'm miserable, my child is miserable. It's affecting my weight and health - I need to get out of here.
I earn just over the amount to qualify for Centrelink help. I have a small amount of savings that I couldn't probably make last a few months, but after that? On the street? In the car? Do I move way out into the sticks and commute?
My parents are dead and my sister lives in Broome. I really don't know what to do! My business is here, my clients are here. To leave and try and build that up again while travelling back and forth for custody swaps - ugh what a nightmare!
I'm so stuck I can't think straight.
This probably isn't totally Newcastle related, but is anyone else in the same boat?
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2024.05.17 13:00 mangosquisher10 Card Discussion: Begger

Bloating your deck in the most satisfying way
Donald X. Comments:
Secret History: I had the reaction on the original card, with "gain a Silver" as the top. Long ago I had had a straight "gain a Silver" action for $2, and it wasn't good enough, but it seemed like a reaction might prop it up sufficiently. Then it got "+$1" for good measure. And well the card was fine, if not exciting. Then I decided to change Squire, as told in its story, and it took the cheap Silver-gaining, leaving me to replace the top here. Three Coppers seemed flavorful and interesting.
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2024.05.17 13:00 LordVillageHoe Help in clearing a few doubts regarding Masters in GeoTech in Australia

Hey guys, as the title suggests I am planning for master in GeoTech in Australia and I am planning to apply for 2025 intake. I am got by bachelor's in civil engineering back in 2023 and since then I have been working in a start up that specialise in prefab building in their R&D degree. I mainly handle GeoTech and sometimes BIM. (P.S I am a civil engineer based in Chennai)
I have a few doubts regarding this and so if anyone can help me out here it would be great.
  1. I wanted specialise in tunnels and underground structure so as I understand the best way to go about this doing a research in parallel with my masters degree so l came across masters with research degree in most top unis, so is this same as the research assistantship in US unis or basically masters with thesis like in the us ?
  2. I understand based on my research from the Australian skill immigration website, that GeoTech and civil engineering are high skill and high in demand, so this demand in actuality true ? And how is pay, like is it gonna be good enough for a comfortable life.
  3. I have been lurking around this sub for sometime and as I understand there is a poor image for international students particularly from India (understable tbh), so could this affect my employment opportunities and my social life ( I am in the autism spectrum so when it comes to social interaction I am already on the back foot)
Thanks for anyone who gave a few minutes for this post.
NOTE: my main aim in moving to Australia is to pursue my career in GeoTech and civil engineering. It's been my dream since I was in 2nd grade, but in India anything other than IT, Medicine or Finance ur gonna get shit pay and civil particularly has a very toxic environment here, so i have no interest in switching careers and just wanna do my stuff in peace, so do understand.
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2024.05.17 12:59 anonymous2629282929 I think I’ve turned into an Incel

I never in my life thought I would be apart of this type of community but it seems that I might be considered apart of it.
Growing up, I’ve had a good amount of women that were interested in me but I was too much of a pussy to let them know that I liked them. This resulted in me not dating anyone in middle school or high school. In college I decided to make a change and start asking women out. I’ve so far asked out 3 girls and they’ve all said no. Every single one. This has caused me to have a hatred towards W because I got told no 3 times. There were girls in the past who showed interest but I didn’t ask them out cause I scared.
One girl who I knew would’ve probably said yes to me, I didn’t ask because I didn’t like her like that. I now regret not asking her out because at least she would’ve told me yes. Then I could’ve said the 2 girl I asked out said yes to me but I didn’t because I didn’t like her like that. I ended up asking another girl who didn’t show any interest in me hoping she would say yes and she said no. She told me no but I didn’t feel too bad about it.
Fast forward to 2024, another girl showed interest in me but I was too nervous to make a move right away. 2 months later I decided to talk to her and ask her out and she says she has boyfriend. Are you fucking serious? You acted like you were interested in me for 2 fucking months and then I finally build up the courage to talk to you, and you fucking say you have a boyfriend? I got so fucking behind in my school work thinking about how I should talk to her. And I told myself if I got rejected by her I wouldn’t care but I fucking do. I’ve never been this depressed/mad at a rejection like this 3rd one. This 3rd rejection makes me hate W. This 3rd rejected happed months ago too and I’m still not over it.
I never felt this way about women before either. Back when I never asked out a girl or was scared I never had a hatred towards W but now I do because I’ve been told no 3 fucking times. I don’t even want to approach anymore women unless I know she’ll say yes. I want a Yes so I can feel better about myself and know that it only took 4 fucking times to finally get a yes.
How do I stop feeling this way? I want to stop hating W but they’re all I think about now because I’ve been rejected 3 fucking times.
Edit: Also, I had a girlfriend in middle school but we only last 2-3 weeks so I don’t consider that a real relationship.
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2024.05.17 12:58 soupersonic29 Some Things I Didn't Say

To the void, instead of your inbox, because I don't know if you ever want to hear from me again. But I can tell you precisely that my life is much worse for not having you in it.
I'm sorry I ran. Even if it would have been a difficult conversation, you deserved better than that. I thought I was doing the right thing for both of us, and ended up destroying our friendship maybe entirely beyond repair.
I wish I could say that lashing out in such a... let's say unhinged manner was uncommon for me. It's not. I justified it because I was angry at you for not fighting to keep me in your life, which is silly when I told you that I didn't want you.
I do. I do want you. I still want you as much as the last day I saw you.
I lied to you about several things, but not the key features. Yes, my family are like that - but it isn't over, it's still going on, and I didn't want to catch you up in that mess. I stopped going to therapy because I stopped being able to afford it, not because I didn't want to get better. I tried to go back on meds but they wouldn't give me what I asked for and I don't want to try the same thing again and again.
Yes, it was yours. Definitely. But I have slept with someone else a few times, and all it told me was that I am so completely lost on anyone else since I met you. I spoke to many who insisted that I need to get under someone else to get over you, but all I want is to find peace by myself if I can't have you.
It was real. Are you seriously going to sit there and say it wasn't? If nothing else, you were my friend. I wanted to be closer to you. We fit together in ways I never expected to find and I never wanted to lose that. But I did, because I felt the depth of my love for you and thought you would never feel the same way.
But there are so many things that don't make sense, don't add up. Your logic is flawed and I feel responsible. At any point I could have sat down and told you exactly where I was at, like an actual human adult, but no. At least I could have made it clear just how much I didn't want to lose you.
You're still beautiful to me. I haven't seen you in half a year but I can still picture your face exactly. Your voice is still in the back of my head. Your touch lingers on my skin. I will never be free from you. And I don't want to be.
I don't want to lose you. I don't want you to walk away. I don't want you to move away and I don't want to never speak to you again. You are so important to me in ways I can't express in words. You took a chunk of my soul when you left me and now I will never get it back.
Heartbreak is inevitable. It builds us, it shapes us, it helps us grow into the people we were always meant to be. But my grief - the size of it, the insurmountable hill - comes from knowing that this was all preventable, had I taken a second out of my own head.
That I created the conditions of my own downfall. That a split second decision to send you a link smashed through any illusion that I am different. I left you, I abandoned you, when I was meant to be your friend and I know how much that hurts.
Every night I lie awake and hope that I get to see you once more before you go. I want you to remember what we have, and I want you to see my forgiveness in action. I want I want I want but I know I can't do anything.
I am powerless, but I made my bed.
And if I never see you again, your eyes and the way that they stared into my soul, seeing me in a way nobody else ever has, will be with me like a ghost behind my back until the day I die.
My broken heart will always love you in some little measure.
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2024.05.17 12:58 Unable-Recording-796 Gear disparity

Gear disparity
(This picture is just evidence of something i claimed later in this post)
I dont really understand the point of GBMM.
Let me explain - so theres a very real problem right? Gear disparity. Anybody whose anybody knows this. Ive been saying this for a while but for some reason peoples addiction to collecting better and better gear is blinding them to how unhealthy that is for the game.
The upper level of gear is just simply way too strong. Its not fun for anyone involved. The people grinding for it are unhappy because actual boredom. The people dying to it are unhappy because literally just dying to grind and not skill. Creates lackluster pvp experiences where you throw on gear and literally just win - boring for anyone who actually games and enjoys a challenge - which should be the case for a game like this. In fact, the upper level of gear is so good they introduced GBMM ?? So now, weve introduced ANOTHER system to differentiate gear, we already have norms and HR, but now HR is also divided by GBMM? So now we have 2 gear division systems, and inside one division there is another gear division system...thats redundancy. All to solve what problem? Gear disparity. Instead of focusing so hard on GBMM - which legitimately is a waste of time, just reduce the strength of all upper level gear down to the current power level of purples.
Everybody in every lobby should be reasonably killable.
You know what makes normals FUN? An even playing ground. The idea of dropping into a match and picking whatever you can up off the floor, and fighting with it is the coolest way to experience this game, and many agree. Thats why I advocated to have that created. (Pic attached)
Do you know why HR is unfun? Because gear disparity inherently creates unbalanced fights to where people are just scared to fight/unwilling to fight because theres a chance someone just had god gear on. The difference between purples ➡️ uniques is almost twice the gap compared to common ➡️ purple. This creates a pattern where: A.) people are scared to lose gear B.) people less likely to take fights C.) people minmax risk behaviors and literally just loot. D.) Gear becomes less creative and minmaxed, with clear winners in what gear works which comes forward E.) Experiences becoming tame and predictable rather than wild and thrilling.
All of these things are subtractive elements from the experience. We have the makings of something fantastic here, we have a variety of gear options, but if someone gets a hold of some uniques/legendaries it invalidates all of that creativity. Get rid of it. Stop making the power difference so strong, if these people wanna climb the leaderboard, let them be vulnerable and not protected by some god gear acquired by discord teams farming resources. Let the nakeds be risky and try to kill purple geared players and probably die for it or maybe not - but at the very least the chance exists. The thrill is a core element. I think named artifacts should still be allowed, but only 1 equipped at a time. Being able to equip Aegis AND kumas fang? Come on - you should have to balance that kind of power and build around 1 named.
I personally think purple is very strong BUT still killable. Perfect. Its also relatively easy to acquire, which reinforces a good gameplay loop, makes it not too hard to compete.
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2024.05.17 12:57 pskwoodworks Exploring the Timeless Charm of Interior Woodworks

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2024.05.17 12:57 EnvironmentalBag5050 Female in a lesbian relationship but attracted to a male coworker???

English is not my first language so I use google translation. Please bear with me! 🙏🏼
I am a woman, 29, and have been in a lesbian relationship for three years. I am happy and secure with my girlfriend and our relationship, and we are soon getting married. I have never questioned my sexual orientation before or after meeting my girlfriend. Before her, I only dated guys, but when I met her, I just knew, She is my person.
We were friends for about 1.2 years and spent a lot of time together before I took the initiative to become more than friends. It wasn't easy at first, but because we had a strong friendship and knew each other well, we were able to build a stable relationship. Compared to my previous relationships where basic friendship and understanding or the desire to understand each other were lacking.
I have always had issues with guys, both in dating and friendship. Interests in my previous straight relationships started solely based on looks, and it really wasn't possible to just learn about them or hang out as friends, which never led anywhere. Stress and uncertainty in these relationships often made me feel like they were looking for something better. In some guy friend relationships, everything was cool until they got a girlfriend, and then it just went POOF in the air. 💔
Now I've started a new job where there's a guy who I initially found neutral, both in appearance and personality. I'm social and talk to EVERYONE at work, but I've noticed strange looks from colleagues when we interact. I didn't think much about it UNTIL during a shift when my colleagues moved him to my department three days in a row and seemed to expect a reaction from me when handing over information.
  1. That made me start thinking more about him. There were no thoughts or feelings before this, so I'm not sure if I'm influenced by others. During the latest shift, I really felt a curious vibe and avoidant behavior between us. We avoided drawing attention, but I noticed that we often sought eye contact with each other.
We haven't really talked much, 2. which might be why I can't shake off the attraction and curiosity? Our conversations are always interesting and fun, even if they're about random things or work-related. I notice that we get looks when we're in the same room, so I try to keep it short and even avoid looking at him. We're both younger and good-looking compared to other colleagues, and we both seem aware of this and try to avoid drawing too much attention, even though we'd like to talk more (which we do as soon as there's no one nearby).
We work at a preschool, so I see how he interacts with the children and find him incredibly humble, which may contribute to the attraction. My confusion lies in not knowing if my attraction is 3. admiration for how good he is at his job, 4. if it's in a sexual way, or 5. if I find him interesting because of his calming energy, similar to that of my girlfriend. That's what got me interested in her.
I have ADHD and have struggled to understand and regulate my feelings on and off, and I'm not sure if this is something I need to confront or if I'm just influenced by my surroundings. I feel guilty and wonder if this is cheating on my girlfriend. Should I feel this way or not? Sooner or later, I will tell her everything because we have never kept anything secret from each other. I have been thinking, analyzing, and speculating about this for several days now. As I said before, I have never questioned my sexual orientation and have always found masculine women (like my girlfriend, who is androgynous) and humble men attractive when it comes to sexual attraction.
HOWEVER, one thing I have been thinking about for a long time since my twenties, when it comes to making friends of the opposite sex, it seems like we've been indoctrinated by norms and movies to believe that if two attractive individuals talk or hang out with each other or have chemistry, there "must be something romantic or sexual there". This frustrates me when I don't have that intuition?? And maybe that's one of the reasons why I don't have many guy friends. BUT I also get confused and conflicted when I find a guy interesting and maybe just want to be friends with him, as in this situation. That these norms haunt me. AND When it comes to making female friends, you don't get treated the same way by your surroundings.
I have never been attracted to a person solely because of their appearance, but it's the person's personality and our chemistry that determine whether relationships stick or not.
I would appreciate hearing what you think and feel about my situation. Has anyone experienced this before? If so, what did you do and how did it turn out?
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2024.05.17 12:56 karma629 Help Small indie company: Volunteer Social Media Manager

Slimy Studio is searching for a Social Media Manager!

We are currently developing "Project: Gig Crawler", a bullet hell multiplayer online game. We are currently looking for a Social Media Manager to join the team.
This person will be responsible for handling the social media and Kickstarter's communications, and if things go well, this position could be long-term.
As individuals, we already have 5-8 years(each) of experience in the gaming industry and have been involved in a few published titles. Now, as a group, our goal is not to simply develop a title and hope for the best, we want to form a united team with a cohesive vision. "We are all 100% independent, so we are doing it because we care!."
For us, the Social Media Manager must be willing to immerse themselves in the project to give it a playful in-character voice. No one is expecting impressive numbers, neither rapid growth, or neither rigid industry standards BUT we need someone capable of understanding our target audience, embracing the vision and taking control of social media.
If you have a passion for online services and want to join us in building a community that supports this vision, you are probably the right person!
~You can apply for this position by submitting a short presentation at~ [~hello@slimy.studio~](mailto:hello@slimy.studio)~,~
and remember ~just to be yourself~! We need someone in line with the team more than the job itself.
~About the position:~
~WHAT WE NEED:~
- ~3-4 months of "tough" work, then we will see based on Kickstarter.(we expect a minimum of 20h a week+)~
~WHAT WE OFFER:~
- We will be available for any questions! All our team is highly bonded so we will share the vision as much as we can in all forms, 2D,3D, Design and coding!
In conclusion, we would be happy to have a new enthusiastic member in our team, if you are a good human with passion and the will to risk a little with us, we hope to hear from you!.
CHEERS! Slimy Studio
ABOUT US: Web: Slimy.studio LinkedIn: Linkedin.com Discord: Discord.gg
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2024.05.17 12:56 karma629 Volunteer Social Media Manager

Slimy Studio is searching for a Social Media Manager!

We are currently developing "Project: Gig Crawler", a bullet hell multiplayer online game. We are currently looking for a Social Media Manager to join the team.
This person will be responsible for handling the social media and Kickstarter's communications, and if things go well, this position could be long-term.
As individuals, we already have 5-8 years(each) of experience in the gaming industry and have been involved in a few published titles. Now, as a group, our goal is not to simply develop a title and hope for the best, we want to form a united team with a cohesive vision. "We are all 100% independent, so we are doing it because we care!."
For us, the Social Media Manager must be willing to immerse themselves in the project to give it a playful in-character voice. No one is expecting impressive numbers, neither rapid growth, or neither rigid industry standards BUT we need someone capable of understanding our target audience, embracing the vision and taking control of social media.
If you have a passion for online services and want to join us in building a community that supports this vision, you are probably the right person!
~You can apply for this position by submitting a short presentation at~ [~hello@slimy.studio~](mailto:hello@slimy.studio)~,~
and remember ~just to be yourself~! We need someone in line with the team more than the job itself.
~About the position:~
~WHAT WE NEED:~
- ~3-4 months of "tough" work, then we will see based on Kickstarter.(we expect a minimum of 20h a week+)~
~WHAT WE OFFER:~
- We will be available for any questions! All our team is highly bonded so we will share the vision as much as we can in all forms, 2D,3D, Design and coding!
In conclusion, we would be happy to have a new enthusiastic member in our team, if you are a good human with passion and the will to risk a little with us, we hope to hear from you!.
CHEERS! Slimy Studio
ABOUT US: Web: Slimy.studio LinkedIn: Linkedin.com Discord: Discord.gg
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2024.05.17 12:55 Ok_Way_5057 is it normal for your budgie to miss the landing?

my budgie was just chilling ontop of his cage and i think something might’ve scared him or something but he suddenly started flying in circles around the room. after that he tried to land on the railing of my bed but he missed and fell all the way down on the floor. i quickly ducked down to see if he was injured but he got up, flew and missed the landing again. this happened about 3 or 4 times and he kept falling onto the ground lastly he finally made the landing on my bed railing. i quickly picked him up on my finger and started looked around his body for any injuries but i don’t think i found any. i started to pet his head for a while and he just started to bob his head up and down as i pet him
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2024.05.17 12:55 EnvironmentalBag5050 Female in a lesbian relationship but attracted to a male coworker???

English is not my first language so I use google translation. Please bear with me! 🙏🏼
I am a woman, 29, and have been in a lesbian relationship for three years. I am happy and secure with my girlfriend and our relationship, and we are soon getting married. I have never questioned my sexual orientation before or after meeting my girlfriend. Before her, I only dated guys, but when I met her, I just knew, She is my person.
We were friends for about 1.2 years and spent a lot of time together before I took the initiative to become more than friends. It wasn't easy at first, but because we had a strong friendship and knew each other well, we were able to build a stable relationship. Compared to my previous relationships where basic friendship and understanding or the desire to understand each other were lacking.
I have always had issues with guys, both in dating and friendship. Interests in my previous straight relationships started solely based on looks, and it really wasn't possible to just learn about them or hang out as friends, which never led anywhere. Stress and uncertainty in these relationships often made me feel like they were looking for something better. In some guy friend relationships, everything was cool until they got a girlfriend, and then it just went POOF in the air. 💔
Now I've started a new job where there's a guy who I initially found neutral, both in appearance and personality. I'm social and talk to EVERYONE at work, but I've noticed strange looks from colleagues when we interact. I didn't think much about it UNTIL during a shift when my colleagues moved him to my department three days in a row and seemed to expect a reaction from me when handing over information.
  1. That made me start thinking more about him. There were no thoughts or feelings before this, so I'm not sure if I'm influenced by others. During the latest shift, I really felt a curious vibe and avoidant behavior between us. We avoided drawing attention, but I noticed that we often sought eye contact with each other.
We haven't really talked much, 2. which might be why I can't shake off the attraction and curiosity? Our conversations are always interesting and fun, even if they're about random things or work-related. I notice that we get looks when we're in the same room, so I try to keep it short and even avoid looking at him. We're both younger and good-looking compared to other colleagues, and we both seem aware of this and try to avoid drawing too much attention, even though we'd like to talk more (which we do as soon as there's no one nearby).
We work at a preschool, so I see how he interacts with the children and find him incredibly humble, which may contribute to the attraction. My confusion lies in not knowing if my attraction is 3. admiration for how good he is at his job, 4. if it's in a sexual way, or 5. if I find him interesting because of his calming energy, similar to that of my girlfriend. That's what got me interested in her.
I have ADHD and have struggled to understand and regulate my feelings on and off, and I'm not sure if this is something I need to confront or if I'm just influenced by my surroundings. I feel guilty and wonder if this is cheating on my girlfriend. Should I feel this way or not? Sooner or later, I will tell her everything because we have never kept anything secret from each other. I have been thinking, analyzing, and speculating about this for several days now. As I said before, I have never questioned my sexual orientation and have always found masculine women (like my girlfriend, who is androgynous) and humble men attractive when it comes to sexual attraction.
HOWEVER, one thing I have been thinking about for a long time since my twenties, when it comes to making friends of the opposite sex, it seems like we've been indoctrinated by norms and movies to believe that if two attractive individuals talk or hang out with each other or have chemistry, there "must be something romantic or sexual there". This frustrates me when I don't have that intuition?? And maybe that's one of the reasons why I don't have many guy friends. BUT I also get confused and conflicted when I find a guy interesting and maybe just want to be friends with him, as in this situation. That these norms haunt me. AND When it comes to making female friends, you don't get treated the same way by your surroundings.
I have never been attracted to a person solely because of their appearance, but it's the person's personality and our chemistry that determine whether relationships stick or not.
I would appreciate hearing what you think and feel about my situation. Has anyone experienced this before? If so, what did you do and how did it turn out?
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2024.05.17 12:54 EnvironmentalBag5050 Female in a lesbian relationship, attracted to a male coworker???

English is not my first language so I use google translation. Please bear with me! 🙏🏼
I am a woman, 29, and have been in a lesbian relationship for three years. I am happy and secure with my girlfriend and our relationship, and we are soon getting married. I have never questioned my sexual orientation before or after meeting my girlfriend. Before her, I only dated guys, but when I met her, I just knew, She is my person.
We were friends for about 1.2 years and spent a lot of time together before I took the initiative to become more than friends. It wasn't easy at first, but because we had a strong friendship and knew each other well, we were able to build a stable relationship. Compared to my previous relationships where basic friendship and understanding or the desire to understand each other were lacking.
I have always had issues with guys, both in dating and friendship. Interests in my previous straight relationships started solely based on looks, and it really wasn't possible to just learn about them or hang out as friends, which never led anywhere. Stress and uncertainty in these relationships often made me feel like they were looking for something better. In some guy friend relationships, everything was cool until they got a girlfriend, and then it just went POOF in the air. 💔
Now I've started a new job where there's a guy who I initially found neutral, both in appearance and personality. I'm social and talk to EVERYONE at work, but I've noticed strange looks from colleagues when we interact. I didn't think much about it UNTIL during a shift when my colleagues moved him to my department three days in a row and seemed to expect a reaction from me when handing over information.
  1. That made me start thinking more about him. There were no thoughts or feelings before this, so I'm not sure if I'm influenced by others. During the latest shift, I really felt a curious vibe and avoidant behavior between us. We avoided drawing attention, but I noticed that we often sought eye contact with each other.
We haven't really talked much, 2. which might be why I can't shake off the attraction and curiosity? Our conversations are always interesting and fun, even if they're about random things or work-related. I notice that we get looks when we're in the same room, so I try to keep it short and even avoid looking at him. We're both younger and good-looking compared to other colleagues, and we both seem aware of this and try to avoid drawing too much attention, even though we'd like to talk more (which we do as soon as there's no one nearby).
We work at a preschool, so I see how he interacts with the children and find him incredibly humble, which may contribute to the attraction. My confusion lies in not knowing if my attraction is 3. admiration for how good he is at his job, 4. if it's in a sexual way, or 5. if I find him interesting because of his calming energy, similar to that of my girlfriend. That's what got me interested in her.
I have ADHD and have struggled to understand and regulate my feelings on and off, and I'm not sure if this is something I need to confront or if I'm just influenced by my surroundings. I feel guilty and wonder if this is cheating on my girlfriend. Should I feel this way or not? Sooner or later, I will tell her everything because we have never kept anything secret from each other. I have been thinking, analyzing, and speculating about this for several days now. As I said before, I have never questioned my sexual orientation and have always found masculine women (like my girlfriend, who is androgynous) and humble men attractive when it comes to sexual attraction.
HOWEVER, one thing I have been thinking about for a long time since my twenties, when it comes to making friends of the opposite sex, it seems like we've been indoctrinated by norms and movies to believe that if two attractive individuals talk or hang out with each other or have chemistry, there "must be something romantic or sexual there". This frustrates me when I don't have that intuition?? And maybe that's one of the reasons why I don't have many guy friends. BUT I also get confused and conflicted when I find a guy interesting and maybe just want to be friends with him, as in this situation. That these norms haunt me. AND When it comes to making female friends, you don't get treated the same way by your surroundings.
I have never been attracted to a person solely because of their appearance, but it's the person's personality and our chemistry that determine whether relationships stick or not.
I would appreciate hearing what you think and feel about my situation. Has anyone experienced this before? If so, what did you do and how did it turn out?
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2024.05.17 12:53 pixelsimg- The Planning and Execution of the Removal of Article 370: A Detailed Analysis

The Planning and Execution of the Removal of Article 370: A Detailed Analysis
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The removal of Article 370 of the Indian Constitution, which granted special autonomous status to the state of Jammu and Kashmir, marked a significant constitutional and political milestone in India's history. The planning and execution of this decision involved careful strategizing, legal considerations, and political maneuvering. In this article, we delve into the key aspects of the planning behind the removal of Article 370:
Historical Context and Background
To understand the planning behind the removal of Article 370, it's essential to grasp the historical context and background of the provision. Article 370 was incorporated into the Indian Constitution in 1949, granting special status to Jammu and Kashmir and providing it with significant autonomy over its internal affairs, except for matters related to defense, foreign affairs, finance, and communications.
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Political Will and Leadership
The decision to remove Article 370 required strong political will and decisive leadership. Prime Minister Narendra Modi's government, supported by the Bharatiya Janata Party (BJP), had long advocated for the abrogation of Article 370, viewing it as a hindrance to the integration of Jammu and Kashmir with the rest of India.
Legal and Constitutional Framework
The removal of Article 370 necessitated a meticulous examination of the legal and constitutional framework governing the provision. The Indian government invoked Article 370(3) to revoke the special status accorded to Jammu and Kashmir through a presidential order, effectively nullifying the provision. This decision was based on the interpretation that Article 370 was a temporary and transitional provision, subject to modification or abrogation.
Consultation and Stakeholder Engagement
Prior to the revocation of Article 370, the Indian government engaged in consultations with various stakeholders, including political leaders, legal experts, and civil society representatives. While there were differing opinions and apprehensions regarding the move, the government emphasized the benefits of integrating Jammu and Kashmir more closely with the Indian Union and fostering development and prosperity in the region.
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Security and Preparedness
Given the sensitive nature of the issue and the potential for unrest, the government took proactive measures to ensure security and preparedness in Jammu and Kashmir and other parts of the country. Additional security forces were deployed, communication channels were temporarily suspended, and restrictions on movement and gatherings were imposed to maintain law and order during the transition period.
International Implications and Diplomatic Outreach
The removal of Article 370 also had implications for India's relations with other countries, particularly neighboring Pakistan. The Indian government undertook diplomatic outreach to explain its decision and address concerns raised by the international community. While there were mixed reactions from different countries, India reiterated its commitment to upholding the principles of sovereignty, territorial integrity, and national security.
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Conclusion
The planning and execution of the removal of Article 370 represented a significant milestone in India's journey toward constitutional and territorial integration. It involved careful deliberation, legal analysis, political consensus-building, and proactive measures to ensure security and stability in the region. While the decision sparked debates and controversies, its proponents argued that it would pave the way for greater socio-economic development, democratic governance, and national unity in Jammu and Kashmir.
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2024.05.17 12:53 EnvironmentalBag5050 A female in a lesbian relationship, but attracted to a male coworker??

English is not my first language so I use google translation. Please bear with me! 🙏🏼
I am a woman, 29, and have been in a lesbian relationship for three years. I am happy and secure with my girlfriend and our relationship, and we are soon getting married. I have never questioned my sexual orientation before or after meeting my girlfriend. Before her, I only dated guys, but when I met her, I just knew, She is my person.
We were friends for about 1.2 years and spent a lot of time together before I took the initiative to become more than friends. It wasn't easy at first, but because we had a strong friendship and knew each other well, we were able to build a stable relationship. Compared to my previous relationships where basic friendship and understanding or the desire to understand each other were lacking.
I have always had issues with guys, both in dating and friendship. Interests in my previous straight relationships started solely based on looks, and it really wasn't possible to just learn about them or hang out as friends, which never led anywhere. Stress and uncertainty in these relationships often made me feel like they were looking for something better. In some guy friend relationships, everything was cool until they got a girlfriend, and then it just went POOF in the air. 💔
Now I've started a new job where there's a guy who I initially found neutral, both in appearance and personality. I'm social and talk to EVERYONE at work, but I've noticed strange looks from colleagues when we interact. I didn't think much about it UNTIL during a shift when my colleagues moved him to my department three days in a row and seemed to expect a reaction from me when handing over information.
  1. That made me start thinking more about him. There were no thoughts or feelings before this, so I'm not sure if I'm influenced by others. During the latest shift, I really felt a curious vibe and avoidant behavior between us. We avoided drawing attention, but I noticed that we often sought eye contact with each other.
We haven't really talked much, 2. which might be why I can't shake off the attraction and curiosity? Our conversations are always interesting and fun, even if they're about random things or work-related. I notice that we get looks when we're in the same room, so I try to keep it short and even avoid looking at him. We're both younger and good-looking compared to other colleagues, and we both seem aware of this and try to avoid drawing too much attention, even though we'd like to talk more (which we do as soon as there's no one nearby).
We work at a preschool, so I see how he interacts with the children and find him incredibly humble, which may contribute to the attraction. My confusion lies in not knowing if my attraction is 3. admiration for how good he is at his job, 4. if it's in a sexual way, or 5. if I find him interesting because of his calming energy, similar to that of my girlfriend. That's what got me interested in her.
I have ADHD and have struggled to understand and regulate my feelings on and off, and I'm not sure if this is something I need to confront or if I'm just influenced by my surroundings. I feel guilty and wonder if this is cheating on my girlfriend. Should I feel this way or not? Sooner or later, I will tell her everything because we have never kept anything secret from each other. I have been thinking, analyzing, and speculating about this for several days now. As I said before, I have never questioned my sexual orientation and have always found masculine women (like my girlfriend, who is androgynous) and humble men attractive when it comes to sexual attraction.
HOWEVER, one thing I have been thinking about for a long time since my twenties, when it comes to making friends of the opposite sex, it seems like we've been indoctrinated by norms and movies to believe that if two attractive individuals talk or hang out with each other or have chemistry, there "must be something romantic or sexual there". This frustrates me when I don't have that intuition?? And maybe that's one of the reasons why I don't have many guy friends. BUT I also get confused and conflicted when I find a guy interesting and maybe just want to be friends with him, as in this situation. That these norms haunt me. AND When it comes to making female friends, you don't get treated the same way by your surroundings.
I have never been attracted to a person solely because of their appearance, but it's the person's personality and our chemistry that determine whether relationships stick or not.
I would appreciate hearing what you think and feel about my situation. Has anyone experienced this before? If so, what did you do and how did it turn out?
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