"why I can't make friends" rant, read if you want. (looking for emo friends/friend)
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why is it so hard to make friends?
m19 here from (still in) maryland, and lately i've realized how lonely I am, lmao. I have my hobbies and stuff but yet, I'm so lonely, i have one friend, who's been my friend since middle school, he's my bro. but i realized i legit have no friends..or a friend like me, here's some points I've seen/made 👇🏾
° fake people: there's too many fake people in the world today, worried about “worldly” bull crap or something stupid, wanting to be in drama, coming to you, then completely ignoring you or ghosting, I find it fake, sorta bummy and immature. people don't know the definition of a “friendship” or a “very close bond” like i'm gonna stick beside you no matter what, people don't seem to get that, then play victim when you call them out. people will use you, talk poorly of you, do all things wrong, i can't stand that. which is why i enjoy being more of a loner..i hate fake friends and i am not no fake friend, im sorta clingy
° people have weird interests/and are boring: this is, i guess controversial, tough one? but people have their interests but i've met some people (school/outside) that's into some weird crap, pronouns for one, i dislike folk whose interests are gender crap, not much into anime honestly, i do love harry potter though. i find a lot of people boring and never knowing how to have a conversation, never wanna be like “come over and chill, or let's watch a horror film” or anything like that, i've always wanted a male friend to explore stuff with, let's ride our skateboards around and learn tricks/let's ride through the night, i'd love to explore abandoned places honestly, guess i'm more of an that “emo boy that's always up to something”. i also love a childish person, stupid jokes/pranks are always the best, where's the trustworthy people who'd wanna skate all night and go to a pizza joint and chill at each other places all night watching horror films, (and i love horror. anyone seen the movie terrifer? the conjuring? house of 1000 corpses? lords of salem!!) talking about whatever, even deep conversations all night with pizza. play video games with me if you'd want, im a console player, i enjoy my xbox, we can facetime and play stupid stuff or id come to you and chill. who still plays minecraft lmao, im a huge lover of the grunge, skateboard theme, nighttime themed things, yeah i'm a slytherin 🐍. i can't find people like that. also, any other song writers out there? i love making my own music, rock is dope but it depends on the rock..
° bad places and everyone is untrustworthy/ghetto: i grew up in the hood, not to be prideful but it's sorta easy to see through people and know when stupid crap is going down. it's hard finding friends like you in the area you live in. this goes along with fake friends cause people are fake, users, and ghetto af. like what the hell? i mean like dude, if I'm your friend, i mean that, im not gonna use you for money or betray you for some chick or whoever. people don't seem to get that. i also find it stupid how guys, other males are such simps for women and will completely throw you under the bus for a woman, women do the same with men, it's fake af.
° i hate people/large crowds/groups: this i feel like a lot of people can relate to. i absolutely hate people and not on a “woke gen z” area, but on a “people do too much” level, yes people do too much and they always deny that they're doing too much. i hate big groups, because they always fall, which is a heartbreaker dude..it can be 4 of us, then 3, then 2, then none. i've always prefered a group of 3 or just one guy and myself. this gonna sound weird but i've always wanted a male friend, a guys guy really. i don't really go to skate parks, cause it's usually to many people, doing the most per usual, like there's one by the baltimore harbor, i'd rather go at night due to the amount of people there during the day. it sounds cheesy but i hate people. i really do.
° no one has my interest: this is the same as people having weird interests, but this is true. no one has the same interest as me, and i hear that people with the same interest are the ones that argue a lot, fall apart quickly, or just can't get along, i don't know how true that is entirely. but that's where the communication falls in, talk to me man. if there's an issue, open your mouth! don't be a pussy and keep it to yourself and talk poorly of me and hate me. that's not right, it's wack and lame af. people who do that really need to get themselves in check. like again, i love horror, i love the hell out of horror, its all I watch, anyone here watch mr.nightmare ? on youtube, also people enjoy stupid stuff and stay indoors to much. i get it, being in your space in your smelly room is cool and all, it's america, we hate it here, but personally i think there so much more, like I said I love night time stuff, abandoned houses/churches/stores, etc, i'm always down for it all, guess it's my emo horror obsession haha. anyone want to work and save up money together? where's the people like that who wouldn't steal your money, and dip off, like we save and use it for stuff like pizza, new skateboards, deep woods campfires and outings man. spending the night at each other's place, sneaking into spots! and one thing, building each other up, im the type to help you out, if you feel bad or something, let me know and id help, I know depression runs through a lot of people, and if I had that friend that in looking for in gonna be there, no matter what. that's just the kinda person I am, not satanic lol, just..emo? or grunge? i don't know..
° no one is loyal/have bad families/too sensitive: this is a tough one but im just gonna say it. people aways hated that I have no filter, not that I have a nasty mouth and I always have to put my opinion in stuff, i'm more so very quiet. i also have a dark sense of humor, im black, so i definitely do say racial jokes, not as a insult, but a little humor or whatever. dark humor is always the best. but i have no filter, i'm gonna tell you the truth of what it is, what I enjoy, what I hate, just point blank period, and people hate that, i'm nor gonna sugar coat anything! a true friendship circles and stays strong through truth and open words, if you can't handle that, something is honestly wrong with you fr. families, now. i won't judge you for having a bad home, but what i mean is, completely putting all that, that's not your responsibility in the way. i did that once, as an older sibling, i believe younger siblings aren't no one's responsibility, i once canceled plans to “watch and take care” of siblings when their old enough to watch themselves, which i regret. if you're having a bad time, you always got me there. which falls into loyal, people aren't loyal. which is basically people are fake. im a longterm friendship kinda dude. you're my homie, just like that.
° finally, judging and redflags: i don't judge at all, ask ill tell, but I don't judge at all. I don't see a point? none of us is perfect, so I don't see a point, saying what you feel is different than judging fr. same with redflags, guess mines would be im clingy 😂 i love clingy people as well, im not sure. but red flags falls into the same with, people do too much, people are fake, and users. and it amazes me completely how someone will use you, for however long, then completely ditch you in the end, or when you're caught, times get rough, or something like that. I really really hate that and that's what destroys friendships. don't really care if someone is clingy.
guess that's all, i think friendships in 2018-2024 are absolutely awful, and I hate that so much. there's no one else around really, like what the hell 😂 and still today, no friends. i be hoping i can find someone like me, like if you'll be there forever man mean that and stand on it. i think the future of friendships will die out honestly. no one can trust each other, no one can spend nights no more, go out, or anything..im not into politics, I don't care about presidents or anything, nor money, I need it, I know, which is why I'm still job searching, I just think there's more to a friendship besides money, arguing, drama, stupid stuff. that's it from me i guess 😂 just a lil rant since I joined this group. show me your skateboard, songs and favorite bands! mines is behemoth and a few grunge ones.. hopefully id find a friend ..

I’ve been wearing this fake lip ring for a couple weeks and I love it. The sucker keeps falling off though. What’s the actual piercing I would need to get to achieve this look? Google says a vertical labret but to my understanding that has a hole both on the lip and underneath it? Is that the piercing that I would need for this look? I like that it appears like the ring is going all the way around the lip. Thank you for the help! :)

This is an attempt to check the reality of mine, just as it is. In this, I will try and take ownership of the following words, the words I’ve always turned away from.
I’m not particularly good at anything. So I question the point of living here. I could still live on, but it’d be quite meaningless. I don’t have much purpose or significance (at all). And that’s probably because I want to be good at something.
If one just consumes, takes, spends, enjoys, what are they giving back to this world? When I was younger, I thought I would grow up and learn to share my love, knowledge, value, serve, participate, and be in harmony with this world and those living in it. That’s what it means to be a human, together among other humans.
Now I find myself living off this world. Not that I’m worthless, but it’s hard to list the things that make me worthy of being the human I want myself to be.
So it’s probably easier to end it, better to leave the world and let it fall back into balance. I won’t be a burden. Why should one be a weight that sits there idly without any aim and grit to better myself and the others around me.
Otherwise, and only otherwise, you’d have to make something out of yourself to be in this world. I’ve tried, and that attempt lead to nothing… well if anything, it lead to the moment now. It lead me to write this confusing memo.
I know that all things will eventually continue; and I’m not needed there. I’d be in another place, in my own selfish peace. No one’s watching me anyway, but social anxiety makes the world watch my every move. No wonder it’s surprisingly hard to be around strangers.
Then there’s also the option of being a dead man, because at least he gets to live in a peace that’s impossible to disturb. I see this ideal with logic and it makes me laugh… well that’s kind of the problem. Logic is the problem.
I’m at the lower half of people my age. In fact I’m trying to be at least an average person, yet I still tighten my grip onto the painful ambition to be accomplished human.
What’s thought up by my imagination, and what’s materially happening to me, has never matched.
That’s why ambition is wonderfully pathetic. It’s the life support that keeps me trying again, and again. Yet in all iterations - no yield enough to try once more. Isn’t that cycle the life’s pain of mine?
Imagination hurts more than anything, so I try not to check reality. Because that leads me to write and feel as I am doing now.
Of the time I’ve lived, everything, every endeavour pushes me back and forth, and always, I end up back in the same place; fully remembering the taste of the highs, and the lows.
The taste of “how I could have (almost) made it,” and “how those nights alone were so long in the worst of times”. And that’s all so confusing, frustrating, disappointing, a bitter taste that makes me ask myself: why the struggle.
I nonetheless think it’s all a sweet kind of burden, one that might even be pleasant to end. A fitting end to the life lived thus far.
Of the few times I check reality, I choose to turn away. Until I can no longer turn away, that is the last of me.

I've played for a while and I really like the game but now I can't seem to find the motivation needed to play and the thing is that I really want to play it because I used to to love building settlements all over the map and run around the Commonwealth exploring but now I usually start the game, delete some stuff in Sanctuary and then turn it of again because I can't come up with things I want to do... I have a period of depression in my life atm and I was really looking forward to the Fallout:London release to spice it up a little bit but we all know what happened to that one 😒... Do you have any other suggestions on any other mod that changes the game or ad a new twist to it so its not just the same old game? Or anything else I could try?! Any suggestion is welcome!

I got chronically ill at 34 and now I’m 36. This put a strain on our marriage as I’m unable to work or do much. I have two daughters who I feel like I’m failing, and failing as a husband. My wife left me, and took our kids, because she “feels alone”. I’m not perfect but I’m loyal to my family, and love them with my whole heart, but she’s exhausted of not having g a partner that supports her, and it’s breaking my heart. The stress of all of this has caused me to regress and things have gotten worse for me. God is good though, and I hold on to him. Please Pray, Brothers And Sisters of Christ. Bring my case before our Lord and Savior. I need you all now. Amen 🙏

I never did want it to come to this. To the point where I felt so much hurt and hate for and surrounding every situation with you at the same time. I don't understand how you can say you want to kill somebody then run to your little boyfriend about me patting you “really hard” on the shoulder. Like for once in your life grow the fuck up and come get my ass off property. Like literally all you do is run your mouth and I wasn't willing to go to jail before but you don't fucking sit there and tell someone you were going to kill the only person that gave you a home. Like what you do is not okay. Miss “I don't want to be like my mother” but gets herself high on meth and xanax. And yeah we did talk to your dad, we cried our fucking eyes out to him because you werent there anymore. If anyone wanted or wants to ruin anyones life its you wanting to fuck up everyone else’s so they can be sad like you. I miss when we didn’t fight all the time. When we were in 7th grade and didn't hate each other. When you weren't doing all these drugs just to be happy with yourself. I miss when I didn’t feel the need to hurt you like you did me, and all the other people that gave you homes and tried their best to make you feel safe and loved because we knew that your real family couldn't do that for you. I loved you like a best friend, and you fucked that over for yourself. I’m sorry, and I will be sorry when I catch you off property, because a part of me still misses when we would run around late at night, or go to the park and have long trauma dump talks on the swingset. I miss being your friend, and I feel sorry for you. I miss not hating you, I miss not wanting to hurt you. I thought it was me and you, “connected” is how you put it I think. I feel sorry for myself too, for believing that you had any other intention than to hurt me. It sucks. This sucks. Everything sucks.
And now it's later, and I find myself doing the only thing I know how to regulate my emotions. I don't want to hurt you. I never did. 5 people telling me to beat your ass, and I would have if you weren't on property. I feel somewhat glad that you stayed in the seat, though. Somewhat happy that you didn't get up and start talking back. I don't really want to hurt you. I want to show you how I felt when you were the only person I felt I could have TRULY MEANINGFUL conversations with and you wouldn't care what I said or how I said it you would make me feel heard and seen. So here I sit, arm and thigh stinging and sticking to my jacket and boxers. I wish things would have ended differently. I wish you would have pulled your head out of your ass and saw that we needed you as much as you needed us. That we stopped taking care of ourselves to shield you from the world. To help you from everything that hurt you, and you turn on us like we were nothing to you. Do you even stop for a second to think about how that makes us feel? Maybe we do need help, maybe I need help. Maybe I am crashing out and you were my breaking point. I guess we will never know. I hope your arms start to sting when I bring the blade down, I hope your stomach drops whenever you hear my name or see me. I hope you feel everything agonizing just like I am now. I hope that you go back, and rot in the same world you came from, hell. But at the same time you don't deserve anything that happened to you when you didn't know what was going on. I know you didn’t want to end up like her but you did, and you were the reason and will be the reason that I crash out and lose myself once again. I hope you know in the process of doing whatever the fuck you think your doing, you made and make me want to take my own life. You made and somehow still manage to make my life a living hell. If you want to kill me come fucking do it because I don't want to fight you anymore. My life was ehh before you, and is absolute shit now. So please, be my guest, take me away L.

Hello, this is my first time posting so I am very sorry if this formatted weird. I (22) have an older half-brother I considered close when we were younger and before he started getting into gang activities and drugs. He put a strain between my parents that was already there, the tension was high and I was forced in the middle. It fucked me up a good portion of my childhood and it made me resent him for putting us through that. I saw him ODing in my bathroom as a child. He put my mom through unimaginable stress, and the strain between them two ruined my relationship with my mom. I felt like I was put in the middle of their arguements, since he wasn't well-liked among my family. He had stolen hundreds of dollars worth of my dad's things, has had his kids steal from my mom, he has even stolen my things. My mom this entire time is the only one that puts up with him and lets him in the house. Eventually my dad forces me to not let him inside, since he had a habit of knocking on our window at 2-3am asking to be let in, doped up on drugs. If I didn't let him in, my mom would get onto me. If I did, my dad would get onto me. It was an almost everyday thing and it made me very depressed as a child. I felt like no matter what I chose I will ruin the relationship with my family. That's what I felt like up until he went to prison. I felt like I needed to be a support for him because I loved him so much and sympathized with him, but now that I am grown I have realized that he is a selfish person who made shitty decisions. He didn't care about how it made others feel.
This is just a portion of the shit he has done. He was released early on parole two days ago and marked our house as his host house. Nobody in the household was notified and nobody had a chance to get ready for this. I live with my mom, dad, and younger brother. Mind you I was relieved that he was incarcerated and maybe the 5 years would teach him to be better. Now that he is here, he is falling into the same habits of lying. The first day he left out at night and came back at 3am to bang on my window. He found our alcohol and began to drink shot after shot, eventually getting so drunk he started acting very weird and pretty much killed the vibes. He would ask us if we forgave him for what he has done, and he did not like that we had said "Not yet." I feel like forgiveness is earned, and during his incarceration he was still doing bad things. Owing people money, doing drugs, getting into shit. Now that he is out he thinks the world should feel bad but I am having a very hard time sympathizing with him. Our first deep conversation was last night and he had told us if we couldn't forgive him, then what does that even make us? It was so out of pocket that I took the conversation over. I teared up because it was a very heavy subject for me and he told me to stop crying, like it was annoying him and when I did, I told him straight up how it was and how he was making it something it wasn't. He said we were making him out to be bad, and I said no, what you asked was not appropiate and the funniest part is that when I didn't give him the chance to make the conversation about him, he pretty much said this conversation was over and pretended it never was brought up, even tried to be friendly with us and bring up old memories of us. It was fucking awful. For a whole day straight pretended to not know what was wrong, and then talked to my dad about it. Which I aslo found out he pretty much changed the narrative of his story to make it seem like he didn't say anything remotely wrong. My dad says I should feel bad for him but I realistically do not know what I should be doing. My younger brother and him don't even talk now, the energy changed drastically after that day and I again feel like I'm in the middle of this shit again. I'm in the middle of my family's shit all the time and it makes me miserable. I have an almost non-existent emotional relationship with my dad, and even less with my mom. I cannot rely on them to talk to. It's uncommon in my household to speak about your feelings, but now that my brother is bothering everyone in the household it's up to me to figure things out. It is making my head spin. I told him I understand where he is coming from with this and that jail has fucked him up in some ways. I sympathize with him in the way I would when I think of inmates re-establishing normal lives after prison, which is hard enough as it is for some. I want to be understanding of that aspect and not worry too much about his past, since it's done. I really think he is going too fast and wants us to forgive him for everything that he has done to us, but our answer made me see a side of him I quickly recognized. He uses fancy words and changes up his story, he lies all the time even about the most mundane shit it is crazy. He likes to push that he has done his time, and the life made him this way. I don't want to forgive him yet, I am pissed at how stupid he is. He's a liar and a manipulator, acting like the world owes him forgiveness just because he did his time. He went to jail because he comitted a crime. During a time where his family gave him the utmost support and he pretty much shat in their mouths. I don't know what I need to do, or what I should do, or feel, or how to handle all of this. This is on top of so much shit I'm dealing with and it couldn't have possibly been a worser time. It's affecting me and my family, and my mom through this whole ordeal has kept ALL of us, including my older brother, not knowing of anything. I don't have anyone to talk to or tell these things to, a therapist is booked for months and I don't have a lot of time to be spending waiting. I just want to feel okay in my own home and ever since I moved back in with my parents in May last year it has been awful. I feel like my family is looking at me to find a way to fix this but I don't know what to do or if I even want to deal with this family's shit. I've always felt like the scapegoat of my family.
****for short, my brother and i have a bad relationship and he moved into our dysfunctional household and its stressing everyone out, and im p much in the middle

Per capfriendly the bolts have $11.785mm available for next season. Now, I must admit this is an area of our sport that I need to get a better grasp of so I’m posting this for all the more experienced people to chime in. The big question is Stammer. Then Duke, Motte, Dumba, Watson, Fluery, De hann.
So what do you think we should do? What do you think will actually happen?
Once we sort out Stammer then I think we need to focus on our D. I’d like to see Duke back if possible.
I know we will be talking about this all summer but I’d love to get y’all’s thoughts.

I’m really lost for words as I type this but I’ll try and keep it brief. My husband and I had a secret Nikkah where his family was not aware or present as they were against him marrying me and were trying to force him into a cousin marriage (more details on previous post). We got married in February and he left shortly after for 2 months to go America to visit family. It was supposed to be 2 weeks and he cancelled his return after we had an argument and delayed his return for 2 months. When he came back we were supposed to tell his family and move out but he delayed this because of a family emergency. Time went on from August until November and we finally found a place and I had said he has to move out by the end of the year because I couldn’t keep waiting. I moved out once everything was finalised in December and I put the whole flat together myself because he was really immersed with family matters and didn’t have the time to help out. He then didn’t end up moving out till February because his family keep trying to convince him to divorce me once he told them about our marriage, so I was alone for about 6 weeks in the flat. We lived together for 2 weeks before he had to go Pakistan with his mother because his grandad became really unwell. They booked him a one way ticket with the intention of keeping him there indefinitely (in my opinion to cause issues with us) but we booked him a return after 2 weeks and his mother stayed. He promised me at this time he will never leave to go away from me again after he saw the way it affected me and my mental health, he said that if he had to he would take me with him if necessary. He came back just in time for Ramadan because this was our first Ramadan living together and I really wanted him to prioritise me for that time. He currently doesn’t have a job but has been applying for jobs since the time he moved in, I currently take care of bills/rent etc for that reason. I work 12 hour shifts - 4 days on, 4 days off but I changed all my shifts around during Ramadan, working 8 hours with no breaks (05:00-13:00) each day to ensure I was there for each Iftar and Suhoor with him. I’d come home from work and spend time with him before cooking Iftar for us in the evening. He would also visit his family during this time to open fasts with them but they continued to slander me and encourage divorce between us. This is ongoing till this day.
I’m writing this with a heavy heart because I’m feeling a bigger rift between us than ever before. He’s told me he’s going to be going Pakistan again because his parents keep asking this of him. He states his mother and aunt are alone in Pakistan without a male figure and that they need someone there. They have been there by themselves for almost a month now I believe. He’s also been away from me to cover for his family business after a passing in the family for the last week and a half so in addition to this he’s now going to be going away for a minimum of 2+ weeks. He has the option of commuting from our flat to the shop but it would take slightly longer and I suggested he go to his parents so he can spend time with his siblings/nieces to try and repair the relationship and because I know he misses them a lot.
I went into really severe depression when he left so soon after our marriage and was away for two months and since that time I’ve had a huge insecurity about him being away because I don’t trust that he will put me first and come back in good time. In this situation now I’ve said I’m firm on him not going Pakistan because he only went recently and he has a brother at home who is unmarried that can go if it is imperative. His dad went Pakistan a week ago and returned yesterday but didn’t stay with his mum either. I feel extremely alone and isolated, none of my siblings live close to me and I don’t have a strong relationship with my parents. Being away from him is so difficult for me, I feel so uncomfortable in our home alone and further to that I just feel so alone. I feel like he doesn’t understand or comprehend the responsibilities of a husband if he’s so comfortable leaving me alone so often. I am constantly extending olive branches to his family to try and build a relationship with them but they’ll always shut it down and continue to advocate for divorce, his mother especially. He admitted that he thinks previously when he went to Pakistan that part of the reason they tried to keep him there was to create distance between us but if he knows that then why does he not see the impact this will have on our marriage? I’m starting to lose the person I once was. I feel so unhappy and taken for granted. I am constantly trying to do things for him to make him feel special or happy because I know things have been difficult for his family. I dress up for him and surprise him, I booked us a holiday away for his birthday/our anniversary. I cook and clean around the house despite working full time. I feel so heartbroken. He knows how much this affects me but he puts me through it anyway. I love him but I don’t know how long I can keep feeling like I’m in a one sided marriage. I would always consider him and prioritise him and make rational decisions but I don’t think he can do the same and I’m so lost.
I would appreciate any and all advice on this; sisters if you’ve experienced something similar, brothers if you can give insight on the train of thought?

Okay so I need to know if im tripping, so first and foremost, I love Jey Uso, I think hes absolutely fantastic and deserves his flowers for all he has done in WWE, with that being said, I do not believe he is the right guy to be a world champion, don't get me wrong, I know he is over as fuck, but his in ring workbin singles competition? To me is severely lacking, he's not a bad wrestler, he is very very good, but look me in the eye and tell me his match with Jimmy at wrestlemania blew you away? It was a big flop. Jey is a phenomenal tag wrestler, and he really does thrive there, and Im not saying he should be stuck there, but in singles competition, I just dont think he's a believable world champion or a draw.
ALSO i cannot fucking stand the whole YEET thing, its so fucking dumb and nonesensical, like Yeet was funny in a vine and its kinda funny when people use it occasionally but when he uses yeet 24/7 it just makes me think of this SNL clip https://youtu.be/3sxRAeh8f7w?si=rt4E1VtELqXFMmrg
Do you agree? Disagree?

Hey guys, I would love to hear opinions on what I got going on right now. This doesn't have to do with my ex but actually a different girl I was talking to shortly after my relationship had ended. I'll just jump straight into it. It's gonna be bit long, but for those of you who stick it out, I greatly appreciate it.
So, 6 months ago in November my ex broke up with me. It was a 3 1/2 yr relationship. About 3 weeks after the breakup, I decided to ask out a girl who was in my class at the time. I genuinely actually liked her as a person prior to the breakup. She would just come hang/study with me every day before class, and I genuinely enjoyed being around her. I had no intentions of getting into anything with her but one time thought to myself that if I wasn't in a relationship I would totally ask her out and want to get to know her on a more personal level.
Well, low and behold, I was dumped and now actually had the opportunity to ask her out. Idk what I was thinking at time that made it seem like a good idea to go straight into dating after coming out of a 3 1/2 yr relationship 💀. But she said yes to going on a date. I told her we should wait till after finals, which she agreed to (we were in the last 2 weeks of the semester at that point, and the workload was crazy).
In this time, though, I was still in a lot of pain from my breakup and hurting. My ex was constantly on my mind. I was very emotionally unavailable to this new girl. I think to the point where she probably started having doubts by the time we finished the semester. I tried planning 1 date with her, and it didn't end up happening. It was around Xmas though and she had a lot of family stuff going on, which I understood. After Xmas passed, she messaged me apologizing for how busy she was and said we'd figure something out. I told her that was cool and just to let me know when she had time in her schedule. She said that was cool but never reached out about specifically about a date. But in this time her and I would message each other on instagram. We gamed online a little as well.
Once February hit and we hadn't gone on a date, I finally realized okay this is not going anywhere, and I was still deep in my healing process. Reality hit and I could see how not good the situation was that I was in. I never had told her about my breakup either. So by mid-February, I had lowered the amount of interaction to almost little to none hoping it would die out (terrible idea, I should have just communicated to her properly like an adult). But she would still send me stuff on Instagram, so I assumed okay is she still interested? So I messaged her and asked if she was still interested in going on a date, which she said yes to. I told her, though, that I wanted to talk to her over a call to talk about something important. I was going to be straight up to her about my breakup, which I felt was very important for her to know about if she were to invest anymore time into me. I didn't want to talk about it over text, though. She said she was busy atm so I told her it was okay and to let me know when she had some free time to talk. She said okay and I left it at that. I refused to take anything further without having that talk with her. She never reached out about the call but sent a reel here and there. I stopped replying to her and it finally just died out. I told myself I needed to just focus on me.
Fast forward to now. It's been 6 months after my breakup. I haven't had any contact whatsoever with my ex and could care less about anything that has to do with her, her life and what she does is none of my concern or business. I also haven't messaged the other girl since February. I've been committed to heavy personal growth and have detached and healed properly from my breakup. I've been working on my unadressed traumaus, attachment style, and anxiety by doing countless hours of workbooks, courses, and watching videos addressing my mental health and teaching me important skills that are required for a healthy relationship. I now feel like I am truly ready for another relationship.
Looking back on the situation I had started with the other girl, I feel so bad. I had no business asking her out at the time. I was completely in the wrong doing it. I was emotionally unavailable to her and probably came off like I didn't care much. She probably felt lots of mixed feelings cause of my mixed emotions and lack of effort/interest. And quiet frankly I don't blame her at all for how she was acting. I would be acting the same way in her position, having to deal with someone like me at the time.
Since then, I have run into her in person a few times, and we had decent short interactions. I would love to try again with her but properly. I just don't know if it's worth it. I already had put her through a rollercoaster, and we weren't even in a relationship. If I were to start up something again with her, I would want to have an actual conversation with her, apologize, and be straight up front about everything before moving anything forward just to clear things up (if she would even be open to the idea).
So I guess my question now would be, should I reach out to see if something can work? Or should I just leave it be? I don't care about being rejected, I'm just more afraid of disturbing her or making her upset or uncomfortable by reaching out. What's your guys' honest opinion and what would you do in this situation?
Thanks again for those who took the time read through all that. I greatly appreciate it :)

Am I the asshole for reaching out to my niece? Longgg story short -ish- ,im early 20s and I have 2 half siblings in their mid 30’s , a full brother who I grew up with but I never really seen my sisters much growing up since they lived with their mother a few towns away, I seen them a few times and 16 years ago one of them had a kid, ill call her Sophie and another a few years later I’ll call her Stacey, I seen her a few times as she grew up but my sisters hated my side of the family , 2016 I had a car ride with them to see my ex in a different town and I was playing with Stacey and Sophie while my sister drove and her boyfriend at the time in passenger, it was a 6 hour ride and my sister was ALL about her bf wouldn’t even take her kid to the toilet I had to take them , anyway me and little Stacey did everything painted nails took selfies tickle fights etc , she wasn’t old enough to really speak at the time but she was pointing at my sisters boyfriend I asked her does she want me to tickle him too? She got soo excited when I did so I tickled his head anyway I got home and she started texting me pissed off and I was explain it to her why and what I did , she kept going on with ‘Sophie seen you do it don’t even deny it’ when I was telling her what happened (not denying but confirming it) anyway she blocked me and yearrrsss later I have a new fb I got sober from drugs and alcohol I have a new life in a new city , I was feeling good so I tried reaching out to my niece Sophie on Facebook to see how she is doing , first thing my sister said was ‘was she doing drugs on call? Was she drinking? Was she out of it?’ And she had no idea I did that stuff so I had to explain to a 15yr old I did drugs years ago and I’ve been sober for 3yr 3mth and she was proud of me , she loves talking to me , but here’s the thing , her birthday is coming up in the summer and I was thinking of something to get her since she will be in my city when it comes around , she was mentioning self harm scars she wanted covered up with a tattoo , I got curious and asked her what would she get if she could and she wanted her passed grandparents signature saying I love you and I thought it was sweet (and cheaper than a big one lol) so I said I’ll ask your dad (since my sister won’t even answer me or friend request on fb) if he will sign for it still being underage, I messaged him told him what she wanted and I’ll help her with aftercare and all that , he ignored me and told my sister who just started messaging me getting so mad saying she’s too young and I should of asked before putting it in her head I tried to tell her I did ask I said to him he didn’t have to if he didn’t want to and the way she talks about my sister (letting her drink and smoke weed) I would think she would say yes but now it’s a HUGE fight she blocked me and is now wanting Sophie to block me and have no contact with me , but she has no idea who I even am today it’s been so long and it’s really hurting me I’m so lost , my niece doesn’t want to block me I told her if her mom causes stress over it I don’t mind waiting a few more years to have a relationship with her but I said it’s up to her and what she thinks is best and she thinks of talking to me and hiding it Is there anything I can do or am I really crazy for offering a 15yr old a tattoo? I got my first one at her age and it was fine , I have been crying all day I need some advice please

hi! i feel like i’ve gotten opinions from everyone else in my life on this situation, so i’ve resorted to this lol.
for some context, i (19F) am an american born indian daughter, whose parents were born and raised in india. about a month ago, i met this guy (19M, white) in college (this was the weekend before finals) through mutual friends. we went to go get dinner together that night with said friends, both felt a connection, and started to hang out. we’ve gone rock climbing together and got boba/went to the library together as hangouts, then officially went on our first date about 2/2.5 weeks ago. we went on a little picnic at a pond, where we read the books we got from the library and ate snacks together. it was really adorable, and i had decided a couple days before this date that i wanted to kiss him on this date. we had been talking everyday until this point, facetimed when we could, etc. i am relatively new to dating, as i didnt in high school, however, i’ve gone on many dates during the year (downloaded some dating apps to experiment), and normally am pretty quick to realize if someone is worth my time or not. from what i learned about this guy, he and i are very similar in terms of morals, work ethic, and ambition. i was fully okay with kissing him, and we did. fast forward, my parents ended up crashing because i did not tell them i was on a date, and they were not happy with learning that i was “physical” with him. they said that in our indian culture, such physical acts should wait until the two people start dating and are 100% sure about each other. they also said that it’s a slippery slope, and kissing can lead to pre marital sex, which is also not something a part of our culture. i told them that i am waiting until marriage for sex, as that is both something from our culture and also something i’ve decided on my own. however, i had decided days beforehand that i would be okay with kissing him if it happened. i said that if i wasn’t comfortable, i wouldn’t have gone, which is mostly true.
my parents are allowing me to continue seeing him, however, they said i was not allowed to “get physical” again. we went to the zoo a couple days ago, where we were somewhat touchy, and i did kiss him on the cheek, but not much more happened. afterwards, we went to my house to play some card games, and we did get touchy and intimate, but again, no kissing. at this point, it’s been a month of knowing him. i understand my parents concern of not wanting to rush physical intimacy and ensuring that this person is right for me, but i feel like i have a pretty good grasp on who he is now. sure, maybe kissing him at 2.5 weeks of knowing him was fast. but now it’s been a month. we’ve talked about my waiting for marriage and my parents/my own boundaries of no kissing on the date, which he was incredibly respectful of, and he said he is also waiting until marriage for sex. we are both very family oriented, to the point where we both agreed family and friends are the number one priority, even over romantic relationships. we both work hard in school to get good grades, he’s incredibly intelligent, and every day i find myself falling more and more for him. i’m not doing the best job describing just how well we fit together, but genuinely, we do.
here is where i need advice. on the last date, i was okay with not kissing him, and he respected that boundary, although when asked, he said he wished he could but wouldn’t in order to respect my parents wishes. hes worked very hard to ensure my parents like him, which they do, but they are so scared of me getting my heart broken by him. this is their whole reasoning behind “no kissing, you can’t get emotionally attached too early just for him to hurt you.” but like i said before, i feel like out of all the guys i’ve gone on dates with before, i’ve never felt more secure in a person and their values than him. i have virtually 0 doubts about him. he’s kind, he takes care of me, he truly cares about me and doesn’t let me overthink anything. he’s someone that understands me more than i thought possible. our next date is coming up soon, and i really do want to lower this kissing boundary. however, i’m nervous to talk to my parents about it. it’s only been about a week or two since they crashed our date and had this very long lecture with me, so i feel like they won’t take me seriously because i’m young and i have no experience and blah blah blah. but at the same time, i’m my own person and i can make my own decisions? but i don’t want to disrespect my culture and their wishes. i’ve told them multiple times that our morals line up for 90%, and the remaining 10% are virtually the same, but just a little different because of how i decided i want to follow them, and not to the exact T that they want me to. i feel like a bad daughter and that i made a mistake kissing him the first time by rushing into it, but now, i’m so certain i want to kiss him this time. i just don’t want to disrespect my parents. they mean the world to me, and have done so much for me. it would kill me if i hurt them the same way i did when i kissed him the first time.
to end this all of, what is ur advice for how i should go about this? am i in the right at all for wanting to kiss him during our next date? should i wait longer like my parents want me to? to what point do i have autonomy and to what point should i listen to what my parents have to say? (please keep in mind that my parents are born and raised in india while i was born and raised in america, and so our culture is not quite the same as american culture. i also live at home during the school year, so i am living under their roof all year around)
tl;dr: i want to have the autonomy to kiss the guy i like, but my parents are adamant that it’s against our culture and that i shouldn’t do it until i start dating him. however, i am certain that i want to. should i wait? or should i have a conversation with them about it?

My old payment method expired and the Brightspeed website wants 13 different third-party cookies to update payment information...it is really unbelievable...especially for an ISP who should have security at top-of-mind.
Anywho, yada yada yada, chatted with rep, updated payment expiration date, and am then told that I need to move to their New, Upgraded Fiber line. That my account had a "downgrade tag" (those words exactly) and that I would see more reliable uptime and speeds by upgrading.
I was a former CenturyLink customer when Brighspeed bought them. I explained to the rep that I was getting 940 up&down currently with 99.9% uptime. I use a Firewalla Gold firewall device as my modem (ONT > Firewall > Switch) and was just thinking, "If it ain't broke, don't fix it."
She ignored what I said about my uptime & speeds and pushed a $200 Prepaid Mastercard promotion on me if I would agree to swap. The "swap" includes new credentials, a technician coming to my house and installing a new modem (again, I don't use their modem now...it's not even plugged in) and of course I'm worried I'll have worse speeds and/or uptime and that I'm might not be able to configure the new system to use the PPPoE-type credentials I currently use to bypass their modem/router combo.
So, can anyone help me understand why they're pushing 'new accounts' on current customers? I find it hard to believe that they've laid new fiber in my 5 year old neighborhood. The rep had broken English and was simply reading from a script. I can't fault her for not having all the answers to my questions, but in short, I declined her offer to make any changes at this point.
So, Brightspeed, if you monitor this, I'd love a better explanation of why, what, and when.
(I'm going to crosspost in firewalla in hopes of getting a direct answer.

This is a pretty long read but idk how else to explain it..
For context I’m a Male 23 and my gf Female 24 almost 25 and she just broke up with me out of nowhere after dating for almost 3 years.
Everything was perfect, we planned our life out with goals and aspirations, adopted a cat and a dog together and life was great. I was living in my college apartment finishing up school and she was living at home finishing up law school. We supported each other and both couldn’t wait to graduate and move out. We had the typical minor couple arguments but no major fights and no arguments for many many months leading up to it. I graduated a semester early and had a job lined up where I moved back home to Florida to work for 5 months to save up some money to start off on the right foot. She was set to graduate in May take the bar then go on for one more year the University of Florida. During the coming time at UF we discussed that we would look for rings and I would propose that fall (we both agreed and were super excited so we’re both of our parents) but… 2 days ago she calls me after work crying saying she having doubts about a wedding and getting engaged and that she cant be with me because of that and she dosnt want to but we need to be done. Apparently she’s been having these thought for almost 2 months prior but never mentioned it once while we were long distance. As you can imagine I was and still am devastated, this came out of absolutely nowhere and I can’t imagine what caused it.
The following day we both agreed to talk again that night because I was so confused and just wanted some answers and to really know if we were done of if it was some form of panic attack or something. That conversation went amazing she was open to listening about how we can work through this she thought we were going to be able to slowly work through whatever is causing this feeling and so did I. She said that conversation made her feel safe, relaxed, and confident again. Then ended with an I love you from both of us.
Well… this morning I get the “can we talk” text and I already know it’s bad. She says she thought about it and it just wasn’t going to work and it’s just prolonging the inevitable. She said that deep down she knew during yesterday’s conversation that she was just doing this to appease me. We both said our goodbye, wished each other the best, and talked about when we would take down social posts. We decided that we’ll do it the same time but as of now it’s just all too soon and neither of us want to “look single”. We both said I love you and hung up.
Important facts/info:

• she had a bf in hs for a short time and broke up with him before graduation.
• she had a bf in college for 3 years and broke up with him right after graduation.
• she broke up with me a few days after law school graduation
  
• their is definitely not some other guy out there, ik her and the guilt would be just too much and she would tell me.
  
• she mentioned that she dosnt know why and wish’s she could just be like it’s this or that but she honestly said she don’t know
  
• she wants to “be their for each other” if anything happens.(if that even means anything)
  

This is just so hard and painful right now because there were no signs leading up to this and we both were so excited about the future.
In my personal opinion I think she has a deeper physiological issue where her brain has convinced her that before a big change she needs to push people away and even if her heart dosnt want too she convinces herself anyway. Idk what that means for me or our future at all but I’m extremely heartbroken about everything and still so confused…

Hopefully the last time I try this, fingers crossed lmfao Hey, I'm Drake. Been running solo for way yo long and it's really starting to get to me. This summer is already looking so fun so I'm trying to find someone ( Hopefully close) to spend it with.
Just a heads up, I haven't dated in ages, never felt the need or wanted to I was comfy 🤷‍♂️ So I'm still learning all this relationship stuff so just keep an open mind you know?
So bit about meee, I'm like 5'10? Ish (Me!) I'm very very active and would love it if you were too! I'm all about anything outdoors from hiking, camping, fishing anything really! Let me get some sunnnn. But on the other hand I love you read, play video games and cuddling up watch something. Lately I've been sitting outside in the sun to read for an hour or so after work and the gym ( trying to tan up yk?) So yeahhhh
I'm not crazy picky I like to think, but physical attraction is a thing. So if any of this interests you shoot me a pic and a little bit about you I'd love to chat
OH I almost forgot, I adore country music, its my go to playlist for late night drivesss (Be my passenger princess?)

Hi LFG!
Come join me try out a fun system, Icon. I am getting a group together, online only, to do a small adventure about saving a small forest village from demon raids. TLDR: the system is blades in the dark meets fire emblem lets try it out together!
Estimated session count:
5-6 (give or take some depending on roleplay... combat sessions will take entire session most likely)
Schedule Availability:
Fri-Sunday 6pm EST-12pm EST.
Player count:
3-4... 5 if we need to stretch.
System:
Icon(https://massif-press.itch.io/icon) is from the same maker as Lancer (https://massifpress.com/). It is currently not published fully but is "Finished" (lacking some polishing touches). For those familar with lancer they will feel right at home, if not, it is a split system... in no, or low stakes combat you play a system incredibly similiar to blades in the dark... but in combat its a very crunchy tactical rpg, similar to fire emblem, or final fantasy tactics. Imo its very satisfying and the abilities are very cool and integruging. Nothing like you can find anywhere else. The art is also beautiful.
Adventure:
You are icons, capable mercenaries for hire. . you have been sent on an expedition to a forest village to get the the bottom of a series of demon raids. The adventure is a semi-linear classical adventure. You will go from level 0, to level 1.
Who im looking for:
It is a crunchy game especially in combat. Players should either: be somewhat experienced with tactical games, be familiar with blades in the dark, be familiar with lancer, or be eageopened minded/quick to learn crunchy style board games. As long as you dont get overwhelmed at nerdy board games or have some previous experience with similar games, i am confident i can teach this system. Also this isnt just a board game, i roleplay in voice, it would be nice if players are comfortable doing the same.
Also while we all have schedules that shift and change, and canceling is inevitable, if everyone cancels just once, this could extend a month. So please try to keep to schedule.
Who am I:
Ive been GMing for 7 years, i enjoy exploring and teaching new systems that people may not have heard of. I love just trying new things to see how i can constantly improve. I enjoy constructive criticism after the game is done, and I look to make the game as fun as possible for everyone. Im LGBT friendly, and i want everyone to have a fun, but engaging time. While it will be a linear-ish adventure i try to encourage tackling challenges your own way.
DM me and I will add you to a discord...
Hoping to start a session 0 next week.

First lf all, hello potatoes! This is my first ever post on anything, so bear with me!
I (21f), have an aunt who I've finally decided to go no contact with after years of her bs. For the sake of this post, let's call her EA. EA has always been a narcissist, though none of us really did anything about it for a while.
For instance, when I was young, about 12 or 13, she decided it would be a good idea to take me and my three siblings to a youth group, even though we never wanted to. She pretty much dragged us over there and would act like she was doing something good for us so we could pay her back later. We never wanted to go, because of some issues we had with the last religious group we went to, and it became painful for us to deal with.
Anyway, we ended up being late to an event one night, and the entire 30 minute drive down, she had been complaining about how late we were. Once we had gotten to the building, she went inside and talked to the person in charge about it. My siblings and I had come in and she locked eyes with me.
"Thanks a lot, kids."
That's all she had to say to us, then proceeded to complain to the person in charge over the whole ordeal. Being as young as I was and as sensitive as I was at the time, I held on to that feeling. Eventually, we stopped going, again because it was hard for us and EA made it unbearable.
Several years went by, and not long after I had graduated, she had come back into my life, in a much more violent way than before. I had moved out for school and work, so I wasn't physically there, but I heard about it after the fact. It turns out, while my parents and EA had gone to an appointment they both had in the nearest city (3+ hour drive), she had attacked my mother. Not verbally, but physically. She had pounced on her and left scratches and bruises. The cause of the fight? Some water on her butt. She threw a whole fit and physically attacked my mother, over a little bit of water on her butt.
Let me tell you, I was fuming when I had heard about it. She even went so far as to insult us when she attacked my mother, and I'll never forget it.
"You're raising your kids to be just like you!"
She made it sound like a bad thing for us to turn out like my mother. Now, my mother is a kind woman with a soft heart and a soft spot for dogs and cats. She loves crystals and plants, and she loves cloudy days and being by the ocean. She accepts all of us for who we are, and makes inappropriate jokes for us to laugh at. To hear EA insult my mother made me angry, but she had told me not to put any energy into it.
EA began to get worse afterwards. I was working a job that was slowly killing me, and whenever she'd visit, she had that sickly sweet 'I'm tolerating you enough to talk to you' look on her face and tone in her voice. When I was moved to nights, I was hoping to never deal with her again. But then, my grandmother fell down.
I heard about it during one of my shifts, and when I had gotten off, I couldn't sleep. I was afraid something would happen to her if I was asleep, so I stayed awake until my bf (21m) woke up. I told him the situation and we had a talk about it, and we both agreed that it would be best if I moved back to take care of her. So, on my first day off, I packed all my stuff and left. I texted my boss, who I wasn't on good terms with, and told her the situation. I pretty much handed in my two week notice, but only gave her two days.
So, I came home and moved in with my grandma so I could take care of her. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, dishes, anything and everything she needed done, I would do it. I was lucky enough to be able to bring my dog, a chihuahua dashund pug mix, to live with me. Spud made things a bit easier for me, considering everything that I had given up and what was going on. It felt like things were gonna get better.
Until my grandmother had to go to the hospital. I wish I was kidding, but I'm not. She couldn't get out of bed one morning, and since I didn't know what to do, I panicked and called my father. He came and checked on her, gave her an oxygen treatment, and when things didn't improve, he called EA so they could go to the hospital. I was freaking out and pacing around on the balcony, trying to calm down as they carried her to the car and drove to the hospital two towns over. She got better, so that helped, but it scared me so badly I couldn't sleep for a while. We were given an oxygen machine and told to have her on it as often as possible. That first night was terrible. I hadn't slept at all that night, or for the next few nights, because I was afraid of what would happen if I did.
To help with this, my father bought a baby monitor so I could make sure she was okay, and after a few days, I was feeling much better. EA began showing up, when she hadn't come at all before the hospital visit. When she did, the first thing she did was complain.
My little sis (11f), was helping me clean, and we had finished doing what my grandmother needed us to do when EA had come in. The first thing she said to us was that we should be cleaning, and began cleaning the stuff we didn't get to. She then started to complain about how we weren't doing these tasks that my grandmother never asked us to do. My sister and I just looked at each other with confusion. I could tell she was feeling bad, but it wasn't her job to do in the first place. EA took her cleaning to my grandmother's bedroom, and she stayed in there for a long time.
I began to get worried, so I ended up heading to my room downstairs to check the monitor, only to find EA had covered it. I sat, confused by what she had done. It's not like I had the monitor there to snoop around, it was only there to make sure my grandmother was okay. I shrugged it off and uncovered it before I went to bed that night. After a few days, I had decided to make the trip to see my bf. It was almost a 2 hour drive, so I wanted to leave early. I asked my little brother (18), to watch over everything while I was gone for a few days. He agreed for the price of some dark chocolate for his own mochas in the morning. I agreed, and made sure he knew what medications my grandparents had to take and when, where the blood pressure cuff was and how to use it, and the device to check my grandmother's oxygen. After that, I packed the clothes I'd need for four days, and left.
Things were going smoothly for a while. I was laughing and relaxing with my bf, watching videos he had saved to show me, and going on dates, talking and catching up. On the third day, I got a text from my brother saying that he was angry. I asked why, and he explained everything.
He said EA had showed up, and was trying to make me and my sister sound like thieves. She claimed we had gotten into some drinks meant for my uncle, who's diabetic and also lives with my grandmother. I told him I don't drink that particular brand anymore, and my sister only ever got into the milk and some cold water. I showed my bf the messages, and we both had a good laugh over it. He knew that I don't drink that particular brand, and that I enjoy a different brand altogether, so we thought it was just ridiculous.
It continued like this for a while. EA would make little comments and talk with my grandmother about certain topics, trying to make me and my sister sound like we were against her. All the while, I was doing my usual job of cooking and cleaning for her and making sure she was okay. I was pretty much untouchable in her eyes.
My mother had come by to visit for a while and make sure everything was okay one day. We talked, she helped me cook, and we just had a good time, until EA popped in unannounced. My grandmother, wanting them to fix their relationship as sisters, stopped my mother from leaving the kitchen and told them to hug. I was watching the whole thing and heard EA say something thst just made me want to yell.
"Are you gonna attack me again?"
She made herself sound like the victim, and made it seem like my mother had attacked her. They hugged, and things proceeded to get worse from there. I refused to talk to EA when she came by, and I'd watch when she started her random cleaning. If she went into my grandmother's bedroom, I'd go downstairs, watch the monitor and try to make sure she wasn't stealing anything. She coveted the camera again and again, which slowly drove me crazy. I regret not talking to her about it.
She did it again when I was on another trip to see my bf, and this time, my brother called her out on it. He told her to stop covering the camera, that it was only there to make sure my grandmother was okay at night, nothing more. According to him, EA began yelling at him and puffing her chest out over the whole thing, while my brother acted more mature and waited for her to finish. He then asked if she was done, to which she huffed. He was getting pretty angry over it. I had him tell me everything thst was going on, so I was up to date while I was gone.
This would continue for a few more weeks, and again, while I was away, EA would confront my brother, but this time, she said something thst made me lose it. My brother was telling my uncle that it probably wasn't a good idea to take a pastry with him downstairs, since it had a bunch of sugar. EA went ballistic over this and started getting in my brother's face, yelling about it and calling him a few names like r-tard, and said, and I quote, "No wonder you were bullied, you deserved it."
For context, my brother faced severe bullying when we were in school. He was thrown around, threatened, hit, and more. He also has an accent due to having multiple earaches as a baby, so sometimes, it's hard to understand him. He's a smart kid, with a good heart, and having a middle aged swamp monster with a superiority complex getting in his face and yelling at him about how stupid he was and saying he deserved to be bullied broke me and hurt him. He didn't show it, but I know it hurt him.
When I found out, I was angry, sad, and an all around mess. My bf read the messages and didn't know what to do. I was ranting and rambling angrily by this point, in tears and just about seeing red. I was getting more angry as I talked about it, completely unaware that while my bf was playing a game, he was playing with a friend, and they could hear everything. They heard my voice beginning to shake as I let out all my frustrations, and they heard how angry I was that this haggard hoghag of a woman could treat my little brother like that. I ended up crying myself to sleep that night, I was so furious.
After that, she kept coming around and trying to make all of us sound like the villains of the tale while she was the goodie two shoes. I cut all contact with her, refused to talk to her or even acknowledge her existence, and just continued to enjoy myself. My sister had some other plans
EA is diabetic, so she can't really have sugar, so my sister had an idea to pay her back, at least a little. EA had come over to open oysters with us. My grandmother had ordered them for me and my sister, because we enjoyed them so much. My sister decided to get some Popsicles from the freezer upstairs and started to eat one in front of EA. She also handed one to me, so I could enjoy too. We got some looks from EA, but I don't remember hearing her say anything. Later on, we even went so far as to make delicious chocolate chip banana bread while she was there, so she couldn't have some but had to deal with the temptation. I guess this could count as a petty revenge story, but I don't know where else to put this. I just wanted to get this story off of my chest and hear what the other petty potatoes think about this.
So, AITA for going to contact with my aunt? And for going so far as to make treats she can't have?

Hi everyone,
What are your opinions on living in St Pete vs Tampa. From the talk I've had with locals, it seems like St Pete is the more active city for nightlife. Is this true? Curious to hear your perspectives on it.
I am mid 20's years old and will be commuting to Tampa 3x a week and am trying to figure out if it is worth it to live in St Pete for this or just get a place in Tampa for practicality.
I do like active nightlife/party scene. I have a dog that needs walks. My budget is <2500$ a month, ideally (but can flex it as needed). Would love to hear some recommendations/thoughts on where the hot spots are for night life and a good spot to live all things considered.
Thank you!

Hey guys, I would love to hear opinions on what I got going on right now. This doesn't have to do with my ex but actually a different girl I was talking to shortly after my relationship had ended. I'll just jump straight into it. It's gonna be bit long, but for those of you who stick it out, I greatly appreciate it.
So, 6 months ago in November my ex broke up with me. It was a 3 1/2 yr relationship. About 3 weeks after the breakup, I decided to ask out a girl who was in my class at the time. I genuinely actually liked her as a person prior to the breakup. She would just come hang/study with me every day before class, and I genuinely enjoyed being around her. I had no intentions of getting into anything with her but one time thought to myself that if I wasn't in a relationship I would totally ask her out and want to get to know her on a more personal level.
Well, low and behold, I was dumped and now actually had the opportunity to ask her out. Idk what I was thinking at time that made it seem like a good idea to go straight into dating after coming out of a 3 1/2 yr relationship 💀. But she said yes to going on a date. I told her we should wait till after finals, which she agreed to (we were in the last 2 weeks of the semester at that point, and the workload was crazy).
In this time, though, I was still in a lot of pain from my breakup and hurting. My ex was constantly on my mind. I was very emotionally unavailable to this new girl. I think to the point where she probably started having doubts by the time we finished the semester. I tried planning 1 date with her, and it didn't end up happening. It was around Xmas though and she had a lot of family stuff going on, which I understood. After Xmas passed, she messaged me apologizing for how busy she was and said we'd figure something out. I told her that was cool and just to let me know when she had time in her schedule. She said that was cool but never reached out about specifically about a date. But in this time her and I would message each other on instagram. We gamed online a little as well.
Once February hit and we hadn't gone on a date, I finally realized okay this is not going anywhere, and I was still deep in my healing process. Reality hit and I could see how not good the situation was that I was in. I never had told her about my breakup either. So by mid-February, I had lowered the amount of interaction to almost little to none hoping it would die out (terrible idea, I should have just communicated to her properly like an adult). But she would still send me stuff on Instagram, so I assumed okay is she still interested? So I messaged her and asked if she was still interested in going on a date, which she said yes to. I told her, though, that I wanted to talk to her over a call to talk about something important. I was going to be straight up to her about my breakup, which I felt was very important for her to know about if she were to invest anymore time into me. I didn't want to talk about it over text, though. She said she was busy atm so I told her it was okay and to let me know when she had some free time to talk. She said okay and I left it at that. I refused to take anything further without having that talk with her. She never reached out about the call but sent a reel here and there. I stopped replying to her and it finally just died out. I told myself I needed to just focus on me.
Fast forward to now. It's been 6 months after my breakup. I haven't had any contact whatsoever with my ex and could care less about anything that has to do with her, her life and what she does is none of my concern or business. I also haven't messaged the other girl since February. I've been committed to heavy personal growth and have detached and healed properly from my breakup. I've been working on my unadressed traumaus, attachment style, and anxiety by doing countless hours of workbooks, courses, and watching videos addressing my mental health and teaching me important skills that are required for a healthy relationship. I now feel like I am truly ready for another relationship.
Looking back on the situation I had started with the other girl, I feel so bad. I had no business asking her out at the time. I was completely in the wrong doing it. I was emotionally unavailable to her and probably came off like I didn't care much. She probably felt lots of mixed feelings cause of my mixed emotions and lack of effort/interest. And quiet frankly I don't blame her at all for how she was acting. I would be acting the same way in her position, having to deal with someone like me at the time.
Since then, I have run into her in person a few times, and we had decent short interactions. I would love to try again with her but properly. I just don't know if it's worth it. I already had put her through a rollercoaster, and we weren't even in a relationship. If I were to start up something again with her, I would want to have an actual conversation with her, apologize, and be straight up front about everything before moving anything forward just to clear things up (if she would even be open to the idea).
So I guess my question now would be, should I reach out to see if something can work? Or should I just leave it be? I don't care about being rejected, I'm just more afraid of disturbing her or making her upset or uncomfortable by reaching out. What's your guys' honest opinion and what would you do in this situation?
Thanks again for those who took the time read through all that. I greatly appreciate it :)

I would be so appreciative of any guidance you could offer. I'm ready to move forward and shell out some money, but I'm overwhelmed by the choices and confused by the opaque functionality listings of each vendor.
I'm in what may be a somewhat unique situation. I am a totally independent self-publisher who binds the books I print. I am in this for the documentation of my writing, as well as that of a few others, and am not aiming to make any profit. This is a hobby and a labor of love; but that said, I an an LLC, I have an EIN#, a LCCN, ISBNs, a business license, a sales tax permit, and every other damned bureaucratic legal thing in place. I did this for peace of mind, as well as to legitimize my efforts and the books I'm publishing.
Where I am now: I have purchased/parked two domain names for my press and and my imprint. I would like to develop a simple website, have the ability to upload my own images and fonts, but also get assistance with drag and drop features. Most importantly, I do want a shopping cart and all the necessary security. My website would be very simple and is really just an avenue to easily send a link to whomever I choose so they can purchase my books. I want absolutely no marketing add-ons, promotion, social media, keyword searches, etc.
I need hosting recommendations and a website builder with very little learning curve. A hundred years ago I used to create my own websites via self-taught html; I'm good at learning this stuff, but I'm busy and don't want to mess with WordPress (I've tried it) or anything that is not totally straightforward and intuitive.
I got to a point with Squarespace; they let you build a little before buying, but ultimately I wasn't happy with them. It seemed difficult to upload your own fonts (I need these for my branding), and I got confused by what I perceived as a certain rigidity, as well as all the domain transfer rules. *Related question: If you transfer a domain (mine are through domain.com), would I continue paying renewal fees - when the time comes - to domain.com or to the host I transfer to?
I'm also seeing all this new scary stuff about ADA compliance & lawsuits. So yeah, I'm ready for this to be easier. Can anyone help me sort it at all? I thank you most kindly!