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Hello everyone, I am have been renting a room for 2 years now. The trouble started long before I fell down the stairs and broke my shoulder. About 5 months ago the landlord (lets name him dink), dink decided to to re due the floors in the basement due to water damage in one of the rooms. Dink went with a cheap shoddy repair man, lets call him steve. Steve re-did the whole basement floor and bathroom. I had to move all my stuff out of my room into another room. Only a few months go by and the tiles in my basement room where I live are all seperated. I had to show dink and he didnt understand why the tiles in my room were bascially falling apart. A few weeks later Dink comes by and tells me that (lets call him sam) sam a legit repair man with workers and a company are coming to re due the floor, and do other repairs on the house. Dink tells me not to tell sam that steve did the work. Sam and steve are from the same community and hate eachother. One day Dink comes into my room with sam and shows him the messed up floor. Sam asked who did the floor and why are the tiles separated. Dink tells sam that he did the floor but does not understand why the tiles are like that, my jaw dropped open. Dink lied right to sams face in front of me. A few days ago the repair men show up. They were like animals to say the least. The spray painted the house outside and got spray paint all over the grass as well. They didnt warn me or my roomates that the kitchen was about to be covered in plastic for days so I could not access it. I got up one morning and the kitchen had been like sealed off by plastic. I was really broke at the time but still and had to eat out. Sam's workers also re did the floor in the dining room and living room. They put the whole house into chaos and moved everything around. They were not careful about how they moved are things and damaged my bike and my table in my room. Me and the roommates had to move everything back by ourselves afterwards. They would not flush the toliets after the used them and would not put the seat down either. I had to ask the workers to do this and they still didnt comply. The workers had to re due the whole basement floor again. They woke me up ealry in the morning one day to get started on my room, they made a huge mess of my room. I was put out a second time with my room becasue Dink went with steve who didnt know what he was doing. My mental health was not good at this point and it kept declining. I could not stand that the workers were in my sacred place, my room. So heres the kicker on march tenth I fell down ten steps (the basment steps) and broke my shoulder. I was taken to hospital in the ambulance. I had to take work off for two months, till may tenth for my shoulder to heal. So I lost a lot of wages. The steps were not up to code and there was only one wobbly railing at the time I fell. I was in a lot of pain for weeks and had to use T3s and also have my arm in a sling. Till this day I dont have full range of motion with my right arm and have to go to physio. I confroted Dink the landlord about the stairs and he said it would take hundrends of thousands of dollars to fix the stairs. So i asked the landlord to put up more railings and to buffer the steps with non slip matting. Railings were put up but sams repair men painted all of them so I couldnt use them for a day anyway and risked further injury. The slip matts have been brought to the house but have been laying in the kitchen for two weeks with nothing happening to them. So Dink repaired everything except the stairs. I have also asked the landlord twice if I could have an animal to help with my mental health they have refused twice even though I could have sued them for the stairs. All the other roomates are on board e with having a cat.. So Im in the process of getting documents for an support animal. Legally they cant refuse me under Mantioba law and they cant charge me a damamge depoist. I will be informing Dink soon when I get the proper documents lined up. I have mental health problems and do qualify for this. We will see what happens in the future, thanks for listening!

I (26m) would consider myself 6/10 in terms of physical attractiveness, I've took notice of other guys I've met over the years and I believe it's a fair assesment. Despite not being super attractive, I don't believe my looks are the issue.
I have friends, hobbies and a social life. Although I socialize often, I'm not one for meeting new people.
My issue is 100% mindset. I'm not confident, not good with conversation, nervous to talking to women I find attractive, and overall just a complete failure with women. I've "practiced" since I was 15/16, but still have nothing to show for it.
I constantly compare myself to my friends who are naturals (have 0 issues with attracting women). Over the years, it's turned me into a jealous man who secretly envious of other guys, including two of my closest friends.
It's often said that you should have your shit together, and while that's true, there's plenty of men out there who don't have shit but still manage to maintain an active sex life, simply because they look good, have confidence and social skills.
I have nothing in life to be confident about. As mentioned in the title, I genuinely don't believe any women would be interested in me.
Why would a women be interested in the shy, quite, introverted guy with terrible with social skills?
I've also used dating apps on and off for the part 4-5 years and received hardly anything, let alone met up with anyone. I've now deleted them for the sake of my mental health.
This may sound blackpilled and I'll probably receive negative comments, but i 100% think that only the most attractive men stand a chance, I don't understand how anyone can argue against it.
Overall, I know that I need to man up and grow a pair, but my mindset is beyond fucked and I don't know how to start.

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My ex and I had a very messy 1 year relationship. He was incredibly narcissistic and toxic, he made me distance myself from my family and was very selfish. He also cheated on me many times with his ex. He was also a relationship hopper who did not love himself and did not know how to be alone. I tried to help him many times and took him to therapy but he just did not want help.
Despite all of this, he helped me understand my depression and he made good music that really helped me heal.
The last time he cheated on me was with someone much younger who he met on tinder. I left and never looked back. I blocked him on everything and despite doing this before, we could never keep no contact. But this time I was determined to do so. It was incredibly hard because I cared so deeply for this person and it hurt knowing he was with someone else. They moved in together after 2 weeks and this is when I cut ties.
It took me a good 8 months to forget he existed.
3 years later.. out of the blue, I get an email from him asking if we could speak. I didn’t really want to as I know how manipulative he can be and my friends all told me no, but something in my heart was telling me this was different.
I was SHOCKED he reached out because he has an ego the size of Texas and so I never expected him to contact me.
Something seemed so off.. He called me crying (something he never did) and he apologized for everything he put me through and tells me that I was the only person who truly accepted him for who he was and his deepest regret was treating me the way he did blah blah I didn’t take too much of it to heart as I know how manipulative he can be.
Regardless, I told him I forgave him a long time ago as I truly don’t hold space in my heart for hate or resentment and that I just hope he is now being a better person to others.
We planned to meet face to face a couple of days later.
The day came and he never showed, I texted him but he never replied. I got a call that same day from him at stupid o’clock but I was so mad that he stood me up, so I didn’t answer. I couldn’t believe I was made a fool once again and I fell for his antics.
Well, little did I know that he passed away that night. His pain and regret for the things he did was too much for him to face.
As I spent the next couple of years grieving him, I learned that I actually loved and cared for him more than I thought I did and so did he. At his funeral, I had the chance to speak to his mother who always supported us and who also tried to help him to change. She told me that they did have to go through all of his things with the police, including his phone and computers. I was shocked to hear about how many songs, poems and messages expressing his love and regret. I never thought he actually cared about me at all.
This taught me that you should never underestimate the hole your absence will leave in someone’s life. However, you must give them space to miss you. Sadly, men only learn value via losing.
On the other side, protect your peace, guard your heart and forgive yourself. Apologize to them if you need to, cry if you need to and let it go.
His family kindly allowed his demos to be uploaded onto Spotify for me and his friends to listen to.
If you’re ever wondering if he misses you, of course he does but people miss people dead or alive, it’s nothing new.
Whoever you meet, always try to leave them better than how you found them - and I don’t mean baby them or try and change them - what I mean is, SHOW them, using your actions, how people SHOULD be. No matter how bad of a person they are, always be kind, always be patient, always forgive (but you don’t need to forget) - you may ask why, as some people really don’t deserve it, but please understand that you might be the closest thing to love someone will ever experience.
I hope this made sense ❤️

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We’ve been together for 7 months (dating for 8). I live in an apartment with my sister and niece, we split rent and all bills (which are a lot). I also just graduated university. My bf lives with his mom and the most he might pay for is gas and little things for his car. He works more than me cause his job is some labour job with only men and he does side driving things on weekends. I can’t work either jobs and my job rn is a supervisor at a store but the hours are usually around 24-30 per week. It feels insensitive that he keeps bringing up these $3000 trips when he knows I pay a million bills and I don’t work as much as him. It’s not like he’s offering to pay my share and he knows I’m not rich. It then makes me nervous that he might envy his friends relationships where they go on vacations and stuff and rn we can’t. I’m going to the Caribbean to see some family later in the year and he knows that’s already a stretch financially so it feels insensitive that he would bring up some next trip. Plus, I can’t travel that much when I have work and rent to pay.

So, currently have a crush on a guy and i’ve never talked to him or anything but we have shared glances in the halls. And i see him at lunch one day talking to my friend. I mention to the friend that i like that guy and she gets really happy for me and says she’s gonna try to set us up. Anyway we go to his lunch table later on and he literally doesn’t look at me while we’re there. He just keeps staring at my friend (guys she’s a lesbian, he knows). Later she’s talking to him one on one and asks him what he thought of me. And my friend said that he said I’m cute.
Anyway i was suppose to go to his house when this pool barestaurant with him and friends but my friend couldn’t go so I couldn’t as well. But i was hearing things about drinking and a hot tub and i’m like???? sounds kinda like he a hook up thing. idk maybe i’m overhyping let me know.

How do I live with what I’ve done?
I went to psych ward for psychosis and have gotten oral from men
(M 22) I’m at the lowest point of my life. I’ve made the worst mistakes ever. I was placed in the psych ward for walking outside naked thinking I was Jesus.
I’ve also gotten head from men and kissed 2 of them. At the time I did this I convinced myself a mouth is a mouth and idk why I kissed them. It was a peck, not a make out. I regret this so much looking back at it.
How do I live with this? Every single day I wake up I just want to kill myself. I hate myself so much for doing this. I feel like I’m losing my mind from this

I’d like to hear some perspective to gain insight on ways I can improve holding space for partners in relationships to be a better listener.
I have become aware through talking with friends and my brothers that there can sometimes be issues of communication. When one is listening to their partners needs, acknowledging and constantly reassuring their partners but when they open up to their partner about their fears, reflections or experiences they are met with criticism or told what they “should be doing” rather than being listened to. It makes them feel like their partner sees them or what they’re opening up about as a problem to be fixed. Although this can be the case for any gender, I am curious about men’s perspectives in their own relationships.
In some relationships people deal with the conflict of being told to open up more but when they do they’re met with invalidation, criticism or having to make it about their partners emotions.
What ways does your partner make you feel heard when you open up? What responses make you feel loved and appreciated? What responses feel uncalled for or make you feel criticized/invalidated? What do you wish for your partner to do when you open up and communicate things on your mind or your needs?

28m here. I will be going to MEPS here soon and was wondering will a doctor visit from when I was a kid where the doctor prescribed Ritalin one time DQ me? Or a doctor visit where I got blood work done and had low Vitamin D levels?
I had separate questions about past employment that are bothering me in regard to the SF86 and small credit card debt, there was job I had almost 10 years ago, it was a part time gig that I had for a few months. I stole something but immediately (the next day) came clean about it, no law was involved, and obviously I was fired. Ironically, the company is no longer around. I also around the same time, popped hot for THC at a different job I had just started (I was going through it)
Regarding debt: I have in total debt around $2,400 and it’s credit cards,$400 in collections, (clearing that now) the rest will be the first thing I plan to clear, preferably with the enlistment bonus but also the pay from BMT.
2 years ago I was fired from a job for “attendance” because my car was crapping out on me, I had to jump it every morning for months and also at 5:00pm to go home, I used the delivery van I was driving once I was done and after everyone left,I would hook up cables and start my car. Tried getting it repaired but was sent on an endless loop and the car ended up having major electrical issues. Eventually this wasn’t feasible, I was let go obviously.
My most recent job; it was a mutual agreement to end employment as the job wasn’t what they advertised and I got reprimanded for calling off (I requested timeoff ahead of time for it) to go to my citizenship ceremony.
I plan to disclose everything that’s needed within the time frame, it will all probably come up anyways but are these things I should genuinely worry about?

Prompt: The Variants of Vampires. Think of an alternative vampire that survives on something other than blood. Write a story or scene based on this character.
As the sun faded over the horizon, Vlad’s eyes opened slowly. A sigh escaped his cold lips, and he stretched his long legs onto the red velvet lining of his coffin. Another day has come. He thought sadly, as he had everyday for last 206 years.
He checked his timepiece in the left chest pocket of his silk pajamas, 8:36 p.m. Thankful for the spring sun that set earlier than it would in the coming months, he pushed on the heavy hardwood lid of his resting place. With a creak the wood swung open, landing heavily to the side. While a modern coffin would no doubt be lighter, and easier to open every evening, this one was sentimental to him. As he had been buried in this exact coffin 206 years ago, at 35 years old.
With a heavy sigh, Vlad rose and climbed onto the step that sat beside his coffin. His stomach rumbled, and he knew he had no choice but to venture to the kitchen of his estate home. With his head hung low, he began to undress.
You see, Vlad was not like other vampires. His long life was full of loneliness, even for one who was undead. When he had first been turned by his Maker he was optimistic, excited even, for the wonders of the world he would be able to see. With no time limit, no fear of death, and an infinite supply of food walking the earth- the possibilities stretched before him like the vastness of the night sky.
However, Vlad was unable to satiate the hunger that filled him, that turned him into a ravenous beast, night after night. The mere thought of blood churned his stomach, much to his Maker’s chagrin.
Isabel was her name. Even the thought of her filled him with longing. Her had loved her once, and she him, until they learned the truth: Vlad could not be sustained by blood, but one of the things that all Vampires feared: Garlic. Of all things. The thought still flooded him with embarrassment, even after more than two centuries of living as a Vampire.
He climbed the steps from his dirt cellar, whose entrance lay hidden behind a false door that led into the Master bedroom of his estate. He lifted the heavy wooden lever that would propel the door open to his closet. The clever vault disguised by many shelves of his expensive leather shoes. He kept an armoire near his coffin for convenience, as sometimes he awoke before the sun had set. A terrible habit he picked up 50 years prior.
He wound his way from the closet into the room, down the long hallway, and the curved staircase to the first floor. His heavy footsteps echoed eerily in his quiet manse, as his staff had already left at the end of their workday, thinking that he was abroad on business. A ruse which was quickly growing thin. Soon I shall have to replace my staff again, how much easier this dreary life would be if I could simply drink from them. He mused.
Vlad had no excitement for the night, as even the mere smell of his skin repulsed those of his kind. He was unable to rejoin his coven, the one that he had briefly reveled in. Expensive goblets of crisp red blood he could not drink, dances and guests from around the globe each night, the women with their necks adorned with jewels, some thought long lost to the mortals of the world, but safely stashed in the secret rooms of the elites of the Vampire world. The men in their black tuxedos, fashionable hairstyles and long white teeth often exposed in laughter. His tenure in his coven had been short, merely days, but it had been a lifestyle he mourned. He and Isabel had tried to make things work… But this train of thought was far too painful, and his stomach panged once again, so he quickened his steps and focused once again on his coming meal.
He made his way into the back kitchen, not the formal kitchen he would have likely entertained Isabel in (if he was a “normal” Vampire), but into the staff kitchen where the fridges were, and food was prepared and stored. Rows and rows of dried garlic bundles hung from the exposed wooden beams, all harvested from the garden on the grounds.
Vlad once again rued his life, as he wished the preparation of his meal didn’t fall to him each night. But he reached up and took down a bundle, released a corm from its tight knot, and sat at the stool at the quartz countertop, grabbing for one of his Japanese Damascus knives that made his task of slicing his garlic head easy.
Briefly inspired, Vlad decided a garlic comfit would be nice, and he got to work.

I'm at the point in this (grueling) process where I am turning to the internet for unbiased commentary, guys. Somebody, anybody lol
After 30 years on this planet, many friendships and a few boyfriends, I don't think I've ever just stopped talking to anybody without some kind of a departing conversation. In most situations I think the fair thing to do is amicably go separate ways, both know where the other stands, etc.
Until 2 wks ago when I felt like I was being played and chose to go No Contact with a guy I've been in a 'situationship' with since the Fall. But the way I chose to go about it has me feeling like I did it wrong...and I need advice before I do something too nice like reach back out.
I'm going to spare the full story but just know there were little things that led up to the big thing lol. And if you've been in that stage of seeing someone where you don't know what you guys are, but they're telling you it is going somewhere, this ones for us baby, Cheers.
Let's just say this guy has decently important job, where he's in the process of leveling up in his career (or so I know). He's busy and I've respected that. We make time when it works, which is usually at night and I always accepted that. Our relationship started in the gym, and I'll admit is mainly intimate; we're together at night, talk most of our days thru work, and don't get a lot of time to go out/date. For what it's worth, I'd been committed to him and we agreed we were exclusive (or I would not be involved with what we're doing).
His birthday was coming up. When I asked what he'd like to do, he said it wasn't a big deal this year, that he would be working and he doesn't care to celebrate (go out). That felt odd but I figured since it fell on a weekday it made sense, and that we'd still be together that night after work.
We spoke the morning of his birthday, he said he was working all day and we agreed if he wanted to do anything together later on he'd let me know what's up after work... this man didn't call me til 11PM.
The next day when we spoke, he said he ended up going to the gym and then out to dinner with a co worker very last minute. I was left under the impression he was busy with work!
The day after that he added on to the story that the co worker was a female, I had to ask. A female, married, long time friend and coworker he said I didn't need to worry about. This person met him for dinner at 9PM on a week night on HIS BIRTHDAY without her husband, or me.
I feel like this warranted a reevaluation of what we wanted together convo... both attempts did not go well or get me anywhere. I won't get into how, but just know he basically shut the convo down twice yet still tried to act like everything was fine by continuing to talk to me daily, ask when I was coming over etc. Meanwhile I was stewing, confused, and just trying to process and plan.
Granted, we're not in "a relationship". But I feel so disrespected and it changed my outlook on what I thought we had entirely. All things considered I just know I deserve better than that treatment, and even if this co worker is really just a friend, it's not just that he had his bday dinner with another woman alone. It's that he didn't choose me.
So a week, one last time hooking up (don't judge me please), and some small talk over those few days later, I've just stopped responding to him. I woke up one day and I felt like I deserved way more reassurance than I got and that I just let him slide. The birthday situation just doesn't sit right.
He's called a lot and from multiple numbers. But the few texts he's sent aren't endearing at all. He hasn't apologized, asked what he did, and hasn't professed any love LOL, now he just wants to know if I'm really going to ignore him.
DO I OWE HIM AN EXPLANATION?! Was my timing way off and confusing? Or does he know why?
I don't think he is a bad person. He's just not ready for me.
I went No Contact to protect myself but I also left the line open to see how he acts and what he says. I'm grown enough to know that if the man couldn't live without me I wouldn't be writing to Reddit. So I'll do the math there.....but do I at least owe him a response, or is it better to do what I'm doing?
My empath heart is going to pop help :(

Imagine being told the house would take 10-13 months to build. And then imagine being assigned a crappy construction manager named Kevin Thornton and waiting 18+ months for the completion of your home, who seemed to only been hired because his brother Chris Thornton was already a construction manager for the company.
Being told 4 false closing dates. Having to lose a good interest rate because they don’t know how to build a house within a reasonable time. I’ve seen whole apartment complexes built in the time we’ve been waiting.
Having to reach out to said construction manager and the sale consultant Zac Davidson every single month to get an update when you were told you would get an update roughly every two weeks. Being lied to every single month. Trish is also a dishonest unprofessional woman who constantly dodges phone calls and lies about everything.
Finding a crappy job being done in the primary bathroom shower and them having to rip it out and start over again, because part of the shower wall was bowing out into a triangle shape and the small square tiles were not flat and straight with tons of extra grout around them. Having a crappy grading job where 1/3 of the back yard is unusable. And nothing can be done about it, Holiday Builders just loves cheap labor.
Going through a full roll of blue painters tape to point out all the flaws in the construction, where the manager will run out of tape, but luckily we brought some to continue using half the roll. And they still didn’t fix everything the first go around, where we had to call them back multiple times to fix the issues described at the first walkthrough, after closing. You’ll find paint on every single door handle in the house. And paint splatter all over your floors. Different caulking colors used on the countertops right next to each other. You’ll ask them to paint the water access water into the home because it looked like crap the first time and then they’ll make it worse and also paint the grass and gutter runoff as well because they simple don’t give a hoot about anything.
They even had to rip up two parts of the yard to have water and septic lines in place inspected because they forgot and now we’re stuck with even more shitty grading and yard work because of that.
They’ll schedule exterior stuff after laying sod down that end up leaving the yard dug up and not manicured and looking like trash. And then you’ll wait weeks for them to come fix it.
They give you a smart door lock that’s supposed to come with the Rekeying tool, but they won’t give it to you for unspecified reasons, even though you paid for it. You’ll ask if the front door lock is a smart/Wi-Fi compatible one. They’ll say no, but after reading the manual you’ll find out it is. They don’t even know how the products they’re installing works!
Being told a shower door for the primary bathroom isn’t even included after finding out 1 week before closing, seems like their architects failed physics, because water still gets out the shower with a door there if it’s it recessed. Finding out that something as inexpensive as cabinet handles are not included and finding out after the first walkthrough that they’re an “expensive upgrade”, when it was never mentioned during the upgrades selection. Why would I upgrade to 42” upper cabinets and soft close but not op for handles, does that make sense to you. Paying nearly 400k for a house and they can’t even do these simple thing’s correctly or offer these simple things as standard. What if someone had a disability and opening cabinets without handles is extremely difficult for them. Holiday Builders doesn’t give a single hoot about you if that’s the case.
When blinds and a refrigerator and a washer and dryer and a garage door openers are already not included. I would expect the said things above be STANDARD! And a sales consultant that only cares about his paycheck and his ego, than the customer named Zac Davidson, who won’t let you know certain basic things are an upgrade. Zac Davidson is a man that gets his feelings hurt when he gets caught in a lie and starts to be disrespectful when he doesn’t agree with something you’re trying to explain to him.
Holiday builders doesn’t care about the customer. They only care about their wallets. They’ll rush to get the CO before having everything installed. In hopes of you signing before notice they put a hole in your drywall while installing your shelves. Or better yet the construction manager won’t even walkthrough the house prior to have any touch ups or fixes done before the first walk through. We found out our water heater wasn’t even hooked up correctly after closing. Holiday Builders are real comedians.
The trades that they hire can’t even get simple things done like paint and caulking and not painting the floor and door handles, we basically covered the whole house in blue tape and only 50% of it was taken care it. 50% of the trims around the door frames were missing paint and the other 50% looked like a blind man painted the door frames, thick goops of paint and splatter everywhere. They’ll even make sure the caulking where the base boards meet the dry wall has spider web cracking in every single ROOM. Every single one of these trades and construction managers need glasses because I do not honestly understand how you can be proud of your work and let customers find this type of garbage work.
We were so fed up with this process we ended up just fixing all of the issues ourselves. Don’t build with them unless you’re okay with paying for upgrades on basic things that should be standard and you’ll have to ask the construction managers like they’re a 4th grader if they completed their homework. And having to do all the basic touch ups yourselves. It’s extremely frustrating and sad that I can’t be excited about being my first home because of this shitty fucking experience. Also any response to this review will be taken as passive aggressive, if you state that this was taken care of because it wasn’t, everything still looks like shit.
The plumbers and septic company they use suck too. We’re still dealing with sewage smells in our home that they can’t figure out. Constant back ups due to poor plumbing ventilation and workmanship. The plumbers came to investigate and didn’t even have any of the right tools or equipment to do anything and had to borrow my equipment. If you’re wondering which clowns they use. Naber Plumbing and Brain David Septic.
They even under size the AC unit tonnage for the home. Your AC will run for 18 hours a day. I found that they didn’t even seal the area for where the cold air comes out the air handler. It was just blowing all the cold air into the AC room and into the attic. Mechanical One don’t know what they’re doing and Holiday Builder takes shortcuts everywhere they can with undersizing your AC unit and going with the cheapest labor.
Every single builder in the area builds homes faster than these clowns.
Holiday Builders suck. Ever heard the saying lazy people work twice. Everything about their workmanship is trash. The construction managers do not inspect work done by the trades after it is completed. Their scheduling sucks too. They lie about everything, every step of the way. Don’t build with them. We’re still finding issues every single damn day with this house. Don’t make the mistake of building with Holiday Builders. Build with Maronda or anyone else other than this clowns. Zac Davison sucks. Trish sucks. Chris Thornton sucks and his brother Kevin Thornton sucks even more, Steve Pettko sucks. Chris Cubillos Suck.

So I bought this 2002 325i a few months as a project. When I got it the LCM was fried so I replaced it, should’ve coded it then but didn’t, last week the gauge cluster died so I replaced it with a used one from ebay. As soon as I put it in it worked fine except the mileage was incorrect, I hooked it up to maxisys scanner, went into programming and hit code all units. And since then the cluster just says codE. Is that something I can fix with a pa 1.4?

I'm looking to put a grow light and a fan into a wine cooler but I'm not sure how I would be able to connect wiring from outside to inside the cooler without keeping the door a little open. How do people with fridge/wine cooler setups hook up their lights?

When I(27F) first met this guy(29M) at a bar two years ago, he liked to binge drink on the weekends and do a lot of Coke. I knew it was just a hook-up, but he constantly rubbed other women in my face. He would show me videos of him hooking up with other women and brag about having group sex.
I never expected so much out of the relationship. I had to beg him to wear a condom the first time that we had sex and the entire time that we had sex. He begged me to take it off and asked me every two seconds to take it off.
The next time we had sex, he had left another woman drunk to hang out with me, and I didn’t know until I saw her texting him. Where did you go and her calling him a bunch? I could tell he was mad the next day that he left to hang out with me, even though he was the one who hit me up first, and he called me five separate times. He said I don’t know why I left so early. I don’t know why I went to hang out with you. He was angry with me the following day and said he didn’t remember the night.
His friends came over, and I hid in the closet because I felt hideous that he hated me and that they didn’t want to see me. He was pissed off about that. He looked like he was sulking, and then he asked me to leave because I hid in the closet the next day. He called me a weirdo and stuff. The next time we had sex, my an*s I was bleeding, and he was laughing about it and making it like it was a joke.
Then I asked him to finish quickly because I get nervous during sex sometimes, and he got super upset. He got in my face and told me that he hated me and that my p*ssy stank. Afterward, I gave him a back rub to try to calm him down, then told him to sleep on the other side of the bed. After that, we didn’t talk to each other for eight months, and then I saw him on Halloween.
We had a fun night, but I asked him to finish quickly again, and he got super angry and upset and didn’t even say goodbye to me. He was speaking on the phone that he was hanging out with frat brothers and not me.
Recently, I saw him, and then after, he ghosted me. I am not proud of myself, but I sent a bunch of angry text messages saying that he was short and that he treated me like sh*t. He completely denied treating me like shit and said that I was crazy and that I needed to stop trying to hit him up. When I first met him. He told me he loved me and called me beautiful and stuff when he was drunk and would call me love. I feel stupid.
Why would a man treat me this way? What did I do to deserve to get treated this way? Did the man mistreat me, or?
He mistreated me multiple times, insulted me on numerous different occasions, and made me bleed during sex, but said that he didn’t mistreat me.
TL; Dr. mistreated me multiple times, insulted me on numerous different occasions, and made me bleed during sex, but said that he didn’t mistreat me. Why did he treat me this way?

Please, please avoid at all cost! I worked there for a few months and this is what happens behind the scenes:
Management refused to properly train me or give me credentials to log into company software to monitor entry access etc... I literally worked a 6 hr shift without verifying anybody. (The member "scanners" are theatre... Management didn't even train the person hired after me how to read the access control software)...
Management allowed homeless people to sleep / camp out / have loud phone conversations in the Hydro Massage (Black Card) area. They also wouldn't give us (employees) proper authority or training to prevent literally anyone from just walking in (especially at night)... we had reports of homeless men walking into the woman's bathroom... Now they allow homeless people to sleep in the Men's bathroom (check recent Google reviews)... and worst they don't give proper training to employees to have authority to reject these people! Management is literally friends with these homeless men!
Management would intentionally hide proper cleaning chemicals needed to really clean and sterilize the bathrooms. Because we apparently "used to much and too quick". Management actually told me to clean / mob and horribly disgusting and sticky bathroom with only hot water...
The worst: the bathrooms... while I was there I actually took care and scrubbed, and sanitized the toilets and it was OK but the whole locker room stank. I brought this up with Management and they said "use the febreeze."...Then one day, again without any direction or training from Management, I powerwashed the showers... what looked like years of grit, funk, grime and God knows what else finally came loose... it took nearly 4 hours of near constant blasting from a power washer to make it somewhat presentable. I tried powerwash the drains and years of hair and who knows what else came spewing out. It literally looked like black mold. This was the week I quit, I can guarantee you those showers haven't been powerwashed or even lightly scrubbed since then (months at this point...)
Now I prefaced this by saying I used to work there, I quit because of these issues being ignored... it is unhealthy and unsafe.
I made an anonymous tip to health department.
Throwaway account due to possible retaliation.

My and my gf just got unfairly kicked out from AVA Hollywood. We moved there last year in July. The place was a little expensive but it was a pet friendly places with really nice amenities and my gf was looking to get a dog, which she did two weeks after we moved in (I would like to mention that my gf and I both do music related stuff, I’m a musician and she is a producer so we tend to stay up late working or I sometimes come back late for shows too). For the first couple months we lived our lives our lives normally and had no noise complaints, it all changed in September when the security guard knocked on my door and told me not to do laundry at night which made it hard because it was usually the only time I had to do my laundry but I agreed since it was stated in our resident agreement. I didn’t give it much importance but the next week I started to get notes on my door asking to stop stomping, then she started sending the guards over, at first I thought it was the dog so we started locking him but we were still getting complaints (I would like to mention my gf is Asian so we never wear shoes inside). The complaints kept going so I started sending my neighbor notes too saying that we are not doing anything but she kept saying we were stomping, so we decided to buy cameras and sound level meters and saw that we were in fact not noisy and that all of our levels were within the legal threshold (I would like to bring the fact that we make music, if they had complained about music it would’ve been more reasonable but she was complaining about waking, and it got worse but we’ll get to that). Around October the knocks on my door became more and more common, it got to a point where we would get the SAME guard knock on our door 2 or 3 times a day, sometimes with the apartment completely empty in November management started calling me to my personal number too and here comes Christine. She is one staff member who was very rude and would always discredit everything I said she told me she has talked to my neighbors and they all said we were loud, she also said something that was interesting she said she had heard me stomping the previous day which would not have been possible since that happened at around 10 pm and the office is open from 10 am to 6 pm, not to mention it is in another building so the only 2 options were that she was either lying or she lived under me so I decided to talk to my other neighbors (next door and upstairs) and ask if they thought we were noisy and if management had asked them about us and surprise surprise the answer was no to both questions but they all mentioned hearing their upstairs neighbors walk some even used the term stomp too. So I started gathering all that information along with security footage and sound level graphs with the results thrown by the sound level meter we got and and I started putting it on a Power Point presentation being so focused on this made me start paying attention to my upstairs neighbors too, and I heard the so called stomps to, I decided to measure with the sound level meter and to my surprise the results were similar to a quiet room around 30 dB the only difference was that the so called stomps just showed some higher peaks but they were all within the legal threshold. I kept compiling evidence and talking to other residents to learn about the building and how good was the staff when handling this stuff and one of my neighbors said her upstairs neighbors were throwing a party and that she told management but they said she had to call the security team next time it happened and she did but they couldn’t hear anything outside the door then she asked them to go inside her unit so they can hear it but they said they can’t because that’s against company rules. The complaints kept going but they started sending different guards now, thanks to the information provided by my neighbor I started asking them if they had heard anything and they all said no, I even went as far as having my GF play with the dog and went outside our apartment and downstairs and heard nothing. Eventually Mr Daniel Doroteo who was the guard who had been bothering us came again and I asked him if he had heard anything and he said he did and I asked him how because I was 100% sure there was no way to hear it from outside and he said I was right and that he went inside the apartment so I mentioned that I heard from another resident that was against the rules to which he said they can do it with our permission, I let him off the hook that time which was a big mistake since he denied it all the other times I brought up. On December I got my first notice and they had the times and dates of all the verified noise complaint and there were a couple interesting things, for starters the only person who had verified them was Daniel Doroteo, and then I saw that they omitted a lot of complaints including the ones where Daniel went there more than once, and to make it worse there’s complaints that were verified with the apartment completely empty or when we were sleeping they also omitted one complaint where Daniel said he heard a TV when we have no TV. So I got the security footage from the dates and times mentioned in the notice and scheduled a meeting a little before that Christine (remember her?) called me and started the call by threatening to take me to court so that got mixed with all the stress I was getting from this, I could not sleep and even the slightest noise even if I was outside would trigger a panic attack so I got heated and just started talking over her and screaming so she hung up, I mention this because when I went to tal to the staff, they said they scheduled me with Christine so I would have to wait for her. Meeting her in person was more unpleasant than on the phone she was loud, rude,cocky, and she would do anything to try dismissing my evidence stuff from saying my sound levels were not valid because they were recorded from source which showed she clearly has no clue about how sound works, luckily I had recorded my upstairs neighbor and after she saw that she tried to gain the upper hand by saying I was taking to her like that because she was a woman, to which I responded that I was using the same tone she was using on me and that if I was addressing the other person differently was because he was addressing me in the same way, she did apologize so I gotta give her that. I think we were lucky there was another staff member called Zach because if it wasn’t for her presence we wouldn’t have gotten anywhere if he wasn’t there, but he was only helpful in preventing Christine and I from further escalating this. Like I said I was only met with dismissal from them even with all my evidence they kept deflecting it by saying it had been verified by a third party (that third party being Mr Daniel Doroteo who was hired through the company allied universal making him a third party), they also forced me to buy carpet to cover 70% of the unit. Zach also asked me to email him the evidence and that he would look at it (I later found out that was a big mistake). That’s all for now, I’ll post the next part later, it’s a very long story and I omitted some details to keep it as short as possible (but it didn’t do much haha). But feel free to ask anything.