Ok, so my wife and her brother own a property through inheritance50/50, out of state. Been renting out the property for the last 1 year. For the last seven months, have not seen any record of rent payments. Rent is collected in cash by her(wifes) brother who lives in the property's town. When asked about payments he says he has it in cash at his residence. Wife has set up an joint account in our home state for the deposits to be made to to consolidate the funds, but brother refuses to come sign the paperwork, (even though its not out of reason for the commute.). My question is what is the best way to ensure the money is being contributed to the property fund and not being used for other purposes. We are not trying to collect monies as income but rather build a fund to upgrade and conserve the property.
P.S. all taxes, utilities and various other expenses are coming out of an account consisting of life insurance payouts.

My boyfriend D.C. copied my condo’s keys without my knowledge.
Last September when I went back to another country to see my grandma (for last time, she passed away because of cancer two months later), DC told me he’s returning to Oakland for work (he rent a space in a living room there) but in reality he had my keys and stayed in my place. He does not have a place in Vancouver. When he comes to Vancouver, it’s to visit me only so he stays with me. But I never gave him my keys!
I only just found out about this. He lied on Reddit saying that he is a married man. He also did not mention it’s not his home. He asked strangers, including couples (he wants to be third), to come to my apartment to play with him. He posted so much on Reddit’s related community to a point that he got two Reddit accounts banned.
As a single lady who’s constantly feeling insecure, after dating DC for almost four years and been engaged for a while, I saw him as my family and best friend I can count on. I always appreciated him crossing the border a few times a month to come to Canada to see me.
He has never told me anything about his sexy kinks. He clearly knows I would not be part of any of those given my personality so he did not even mention it whatsoever. When I asked him if he has a special sex kink needs to be fulfilled, he denied, sayings it’s just a dark side of him.
I’ve been going to therapy with this and also dealing with trauma of losing my grandma who raised me. You might judge me but I’m still struggling to move on from this pathological liar.
Financially I’m doing much better than him so there was some pressure on him about starting a family. Therefore he also guilt-trip me for what he did.
Let me know your thoughts or advice. #cheaters #liar #fallapart
TLDR Boyfriend copied my keys without my consent and used my home for threesome, hook-ups and whatever while I’m struggling with my sick family

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Hi,
I plan to leave Germany permanently this July to go back home. Besides the required tasks like Abmeldung, cancelling rent, insurance and internet, and closing my bank account, I still have some questions specific to my situation that I hope you can help me with.

1. What is the earliest time I can do the Abmeldung? I've read that it is possible 14 days before leaving, but can I do it a month or more earlier? I need the Abmeldung paper to cancel some contracts.
   
2. My Aufenthaltserlaubnis expires at the end of June, but I plan to leave in July. Do I need to make an appointment with the ABH for a Fiktionsbescheinigung? The last time I checked, the next available appointment was in October.
   
3. Do I need to cancel my radio contract?
   
4. Since I still have nearly 2 months left in Germany, which task can I do earlier without it affecting me too much? For example, I assume closing my bank account should be the very last thing to do.
   
5. Besides the tasks I listed above, is there anything else people usually forget when they leave?
   

Thank you very much for your help!

I knew my husband was in recovery when I met him (which he so kindly threw in my face Wednesday night) and we’ve been through some rough times with his addiction during our 8 year relationship. This last year, however, has just taken the cake.
He hadn’t used drugs in several years but was still drinking. It escalated to a point last summer where he started hallucinating things, including thinking there were people in our house. He was convinced I was cheating on him, when all I was trying to do was make it to and from work every day without having a meltdown. He finally sobered up in January and was sober until the end of March.
We went on a trip for his birthday in April and he decided it was ok for him to drink. I knew it wasn’t, but that’s not my decision to make. At first it was “manageable” but I could quickly see the escalation even if he couldn’t.
It finally came to a head Wednesday evening when he drank so much that he jumped out of the car while I was driving us home from a concert. He then blamed me for abandoning him, and got violent when he got home which resulted in me calling the cops. He wouldn’t let me get any of my belongings or my car and so I left in a Uber with the clothes on my back. I went back the next day to try to get some things, only to discover that my car had been moved from the garage to the street and it looked like someone had taken a baseball bat to the entire drivers side. I can’t prove he did it but I know he did.
I have been staying at a safe space since Wednesday night and he’s continued to text me on and off since then, going back and forth between being sorry, being hateful, and being all woe is me. Based on his bank account activity, I suspect he’s not only drinking but also using drugs.
The thing that kills me is that he claims he knew I would never see him as enough for me, that I would always want more. The more I sit and reflect on the whole thing, I realize that nothing I did would ever be enough for him to stay sober. I know that’s not my job but it still really freaking hurts. I love that man so much but it will never be enough.
Sorry for the long post. I’ve been trying to be super logical about next steps and the emotions just all hit at once.

I’m a teenage girl, the second and youngest child in my immediate family. My brother, 19, is the worst person I’ve ever had the misfortune of knowing. I don’t even consider him my brother. He’s a leech that’s been ruining my life from the day I was born.
Since we were younger, my brother (i’ll be referring to him as A, for asshole) has constantly criticised or generally treated me poorly. Initially it was a typical sibling fashion - fighting with eachother, verbal and physical tussling, generally snitching on each other to our parents and bickering loads.
A is four years older than me. This means that when he hit puberty, he suddenly became twice as big and twice as strong as I was, not even taking into account the fact he was naturally strong and big for his age anyway, as well as his natural strength advantage being a boy. The typical sibling fighting became pretty one sided from then on.
He was always louder than me, more verbally mean. I just wanted my older brother to like me. I remember the only way I used to be able to make him laugh was to hit myself or anything like that. It sucked. But, I started to naturally distance from him more so than before, with a combination of being fairly independent and the age gap meaning we were at different levels of maturity. We just didn’t mesh well together.
Then he became a proper teenager. He started to lash out at home more, at my parents. He started going out and doing things like drugs and drinking alcohol, smoking and getting into constant fights. He stopped caring about anything school related, and generally became a massive uncontrollable DICK.
He ended up screaming at my mum in mornings before school, with me in the same room as I ate my cereal. He punched a hole in the wall one time because my mum said he couldn’t go out that night. Another time he punched a hole in his bedroom wall because of an issue with his girlfriend at the time (who by the way caused a lot more problems than she was worth).
I was 10. I remember clearly one night. He pulled me into his room, showed me pictures of all his weed and said he was dealing it. While now, I couldn’t care less about that kind of thing, at the time I was terrified for A. I didn’t want my brother getting hurt or being in trouble. He pulled out a balaclava and made me put it on so he could take pictures. It fucking stunk of weed.
I was scared. And humiliated.
It kept going until about a year ago when he began to settle. But there was an instance where it got so bad that my mum screamed at him that she hated him, and tried to hit A. He nearly swung for her if it wasn’t for my dad holding him back. A is 6ft, at the time 5”10 or 5”11. My mum is 5”3 and while now, she’s very muscular and strong, at the time she wasn’t.
Afterwards, he came upstairs and came into my room, laughing and grinning about the whole thing like it was some joke. He thought it was hilarious.
A is a drain on my life. Because of him, I never really grew out of my shell, and I’ve been put to the side by my parents more because they’ve always had to focus more on him. He to this day calls me horrible things, argues with my parents and blatantly tries to make me miserable because he’s just not a nice person.
Recently my parents’s marriage started to go poorly and they debated divorce, which was heavily impacted by his influence on their lives and my own. My mum is miserable. My dad has given up on him completely.
I’ve been depressed for several years, and extremely anxious along side it. My experiences with A have influenced my relationships with other people and the way I view the world alongside the people in it. He’s horrible. I had to resort to therapy as of late, due to my own concern at how bad I’ve been getting. I’ve debated suicide many times, not that I ever think I’d actually commit to it. I don’t know. It’s not the worst situation ever and I feel a little dramatic, but I genuinely can’t stand him.
I can’t help but believe my life would be better off without him.

I attended the funeral of my bfs grandfather a couple summers ago. At the burial his mother stated she wanted to be cremated and for my bf to travel with her around the world in an urn.
I chuckled to myself but don’t think anyone else saw, if they did, they didn’t say anything.
For context this side of the family didn’t come from money and it was gonna take a lot to figure out the funeral costs. A plate sale was an automatic go but of course you need someone to plan what all is needed / who will buy what/ etc. we found out the cost was $5000 so my bf and I planned out a Sam’s trip for everything. My bf knows the owner of a gym and that guy was able to “host” the plate sale for us.
The night before this plate sale comes and my bf is talking to his mom about all the things we did and how I’m coming to help - her response was “what, to just sit there” I couldn’t believe that she said that after all the help I’d done and all I’ve helped her with in the past. My boyfriend’s response was “chill mom” - mind you he had worked 2 14 hour days and was tired. He hung up the phone and I confronted him about it. He said he didn’t even here it or snap because he was “so tired” he said they he would talk to her about it but never did because “why would my mom say that”
This lady has 5 kids- 4b 1g Mine being the 2nd oldest, so why TF do we have to travel with your ashes? Where did you ever take your kids? When have you ever thanks us for anything ? Never .So when the day comes she will sit in that urn and be left at home the same way she left her kids for some d*** in another state. That’s for another story…

Hello, I'm 27F. My mom has always been so generous to other people. Kahit walang wala na siya, she's still gives out a hand. Hindi kami mayaman. Growing up, I've been applying and receiving educational assistance from the government and granted scholarships kaya ako nakapagaral sa private school until college which gave a wrong impression sa family ng isang kapatid ng papa ko. After I graduated college last year, I landed a job right away and dito na nagstart mangulit yung pinsan ko mangutang ng mangutang sa nanay ko. Mind you, we didn't grew up together and I can't remember kung nagkita na ba kami or nameet ko na sila. Di kami close, in short.
Nangungutang si ate girl sa nanay ko. How did I know? I can access my mom's messenger account kasi ako gumawa. Nagmessage din sakin pinsan ko pero sineen ko lang. Yung ate niya kasi may utang pa sakin pero di ko na siningil kasi she's sick rn, like sick sick. I didn't mind at first na pinapautang sila ng mama ko kasi during that time, 500 pesos lang naman hinihingi and for the meds daw ng anak nila. Until, mom asked me if I can send half of her allowance to my pinsan kasi kesyo yung ate niya manganganak na daw. When I started working, I promised to give my mom to give her allowance monthly to help with bills and expenses at home and for herself na rin kung ano man gusto niyang bilhin. Nainis ako sa mama ko kasi malaking halaga yung ibibigay niya pero sabi niya ibabalik naman daw. Sabi ko, fine. Kapag binayaran ka, sayo na mismo idirekta or ipadala kasi nga allowance mo naman yan.
I was so busy for a couple of months and finally I decided to go home with my family. I'm working in Makati so I'm renting near my workplace. Ayan na, nakauwi na ako sa bahay. I was super hungry so I looked for some snack sa ref and to my surprise, walang laman. I, then asked my mom bakit walang stocks, kakabigay ko lang sa kanya last time. Sabi niya, pinautang nanaman niya yung pinsan ko kasi siya naman daw yung nanganak. Tinanong ko si mama kung nabayaran na ba siya last time na umutang siya para sa ate niyang nanganak? Sabi ng mama ko, hindi pa daw. Nainis talaga ako sa mama ko. Sabi ko ma, walang masama tumulong, ang masama is yung tinetake advantage ka na.
A few weeks later, my mom went to Cebu to have a short vacation with her college besties. It's a 3-day vacation. Simula nung natuto si mama magfacebook, hala sigi magpost ng nagpost but I find it cute kasi she's sharing her moments lang naman. So, she's in Cebu with her college besties and she's been posting about it. Out of curiousity, I opened my mom's messenger. I saw my mom's convo with my pinsan filled with "tita!", "tita, napadala niyo na po?", "anong oras niyo po ipapadala?", "tita, tita, tita.." TITANG INA MO! HAHAHA naginit talaga ulo ko beshy! I told my mom to enjoy her vacation and not think of anything that would stress her out so hindi niya pinapansin yung chats ng pinsan ko. Siguro, aabot sa 20-30 chats per day si ate girl. Alam mo kung ano nanaman reason? Binugbog daw siya ng asawa niya. I can feel na she's making all things up. I messaged her on my personal messenger about this matter and I gave her an ultimatum to pay her utang to me. Ako ba yung gago if I blocked her on my mom's messenger? I'm giving everything to make my mom happy because she deserves it.

This is a throwaway so my mutual friends who know my reddit account won't know I'm being douchey. I (M15) have been friends with Amelia (F14) for 3 year. We met during online school in 2021 and exchanged discords. At this time, I was told her father had just passed due to the virus and, being one of the few people Amelia talked to at the time, I was sort of her crutch. I'll admit that at the time, it got kind of annoying whenever our fun conversations would turn into her venting to me about how much she's going through.
Fast forward a few years and we're now finishing our freshman year of high school at separate schools. I go to an arts academy and Amelia goes to a public school a few miles away. Because we go to schools so close to each other, we have some mutual friends that go to either of our schools. Most of these friends we met after online school, in 7th grade. I was talking with a few of our friends and Amelia came up in the conversation. One of our friends mentioned making plans with her and Amelia telling them that their dad doesn't let her hang out with people on week days. I got confused and asked if they meant her mom or her granddad but they doubled down and assured me that Amelia had said her father said no. I informed them that Amelias father had passed over covid and another friend chimed in, saying they had met her father, alive and well.
I went home that night and scrolled through me and Amelias texts, making sure that I wasn't making the whole thing up in my head. Sure enough, there were hundreds of texts about how her dad was dead, gone, absent, etc.. I texted the friend that had "met" Amelia's dad and she sent me a photo of the two recently from Amelias Instagram account. I don't have Instagram so it was a shock to me. I immediately texted Amelia about this with screenshot of the photo. She tried deflecting, saying she had never told me he died or was gone but I pulled up screenshots of old text conversations and she admitted she just wanted to feel special and supported. I told her that she's an awful person for lying about those things and have been ghosting her ever since. Our friends say I'm being petty and she was just in a bad place but I'm having none of it. So am I the asshole?

Hello, I'm 27F. My mom has always been so generous to other people. Kahit walang wala na siya, she's still gives out a hand. Hindi kami mayaman. Growing up, I've been applying and receiving educational assistance from the government and granted scholarships kaya ako nakapagaral sa private school until college which gave a wrong impression sa family ng isang kapatid ng papa ko. After I graduated college last year, I landed a job right away and dito na nagstart mangulit yung pinsan ko mangutang ng mangutang sa nanay ko. Mind you, we didn't grew up together and I can't remember kung nagkita na ba kami or nameet ko na sila. Di kami close, in short.
Nangungutang si ate girl sa nanay ko. How did I know? I can access my mom's messenger account kasi ako gumawa. Nagmessage din sakin pinsan ko pero sineen ko lang. Yung ate niya kasi may utang pa sakin pero di ko na siningil kasi she's sick rn, like sick sick. I didn't mind at first na pinapautang sila ng mama ko kasi during that time, 500 pesos lang naman hinihingi and for the meds daw ng anak nila. Until, mom asked me if I can send half of her allowance to my pinsan kasi kesyo yung ate niya manganganak na daw. When I started working, I promised to give my mom to give her allowance monthly to help with bills and expenses at home and for herself na rin kung ano man gusto niyang bilhin. Nainis ako sa mama ko kasi malaking halaga yung ibibigay niya pero sabi niya ibabalik naman daw. Sabi ko, fine. Kapag binayaran ka, sayo na mismo idirekta or ipadala kasi nga allowance mo naman yan.
I was so busy for a couple of months and finally I decided to go home with my family. I'm working in Makati so I'm renting near my workplace. Ayan na, nakauwi na ako sa bahay. I was super hungry so I looked for some snack sa ref and to my surprise, walang laman. I, then asked my mom bakit walang stocks, kakabigay ko lang sa kanya last time. Sabi niya, pinautang nanaman niya yung pinsan ko kasi siya naman daw yung nanganak. Tinanong ko si mama kung nabayaran na ba siya last time na umutang siya para sa ate niyang nanganak? Sabi ng mama ko, hindi pa daw. Nainis talaga ako sa mama ko. Sabi ko ma, walang masama tumulong, ang masama is yung tinetake advantage ka na.
A few weeks later, my mom went to Cebu to have a short vacation with her college besties. It's a 3-day vacation. Simula nung natuto si mama magfacebook, hala sigi magpost ng nagpost but I find it cute kasi she's sharing her moments lang naman. So, she's in Cebu with her college besties and she's been posting about it. Out of curiousity, I opened my mom's messenger. I saw my mom's convo with my pinsan filled with "tita!", "tita, napadala niyo na po?", "anong oras niyo po ipapadala?", "tita, tita, tita.." TITANG INA MO! HAHAHA naginit talaga ulo ko beshy! I told my mom to enjoy her vacation and not think of anything that would stress her out so hindi niya pinapansin yung chats ng pinsan ko. Siguro, aabot sa 20-30 chats per day si ate girl. Alam mo kung ano nanaman reason? Binugbog daw siya ng asawa niya. I can feel na she's making all things up. I messaged her on my personal messenger about this matter and I gave her an ultimatum to pay her utang to me. Ako ba yung gago if I blocked her on my mom's messenger? I'm giving everything to make my mom happy because she deserves it.

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I am the heaviest I have ever been in my life (stress eating), and need to work on losing around 30 kilograms to be an ideal weight (going by BMI, yes I know it doesn't account for muscle).
I'm not bothered about getting jacked, I just want to lose some fat and feel better. I have been noticing a difficulty in being able to take deep breathes as of late.
I will be evaluating my diet shortly to support a calorie deficit, but was thinking about incorporating some exercise into the mix. My work is office based, so I have a pretty sedentary life style. I've been tossing up between trying to get out of the house and walk the neighborhood for an hour each day, joining a gym to use their cardio equipment, or getting a stationary bike for home use.
I'd love to hear of any exercise or dieting tips that anyone can provide to make my journey sustainable in the long term, and dare I say, enjoyable.
Cheers

Hello, I'm 27F. My mom has always been so generous to other people. Kahit walang wala na siya, she's still gives out a hand. Hindi kami mayaman. Growing up, I've been applying and receiving educational assistance from the government and granted scholarships kaya ako nakapagaral sa private school until college which gave a wrong impression sa family ng isang kapatid ng papa ko. After I graduated college last year, I landed a job right away and dito na nagstart mangulit yung pinsan ko mangutang ng mangutang sa nanay ko. Mind you, we didn't grew up together and I can't remember kung nagkita na ba kami or nameet ko na sila. Di kami close, in short.
Nangungutang si ate girl sa nanay ko. How did I know? I can access my mom's messenger account kasi ako gumawa. Nagmessage din sakin pinsan ko pero sineen ko lang. Yung ate niya kasi may utang pa sakin pero di ko na siningil kasi she's sick rn, like sick sick. I didn't mind at first na pinapautang sila ng mama ko kasi during that time, 500 pesos lang naman hinihingi and for the meds daw ng anak nila. Until, mom asked me if I can send half of her allowance to my pinsan kasi kesyo yung ate niya manganganak na daw. When I started working, I promised to give my mom to give her allowance monthly to help with bills and expenses at home and for herself na rin kung ano man gusto niyang bilhin. Nainis ako sa mama ko kasi malaking halaga yung ibibigay niya pero sabi niya ibabalik naman daw. Sabi ko, fine. Kapag binayaran ka, sayo na mismo idirekta or ipadala kasi nga allowance mo naman yan.
I was so busy for a couple of months and finally I decided to go home with my family. I'm working in Makati so I'm renting near my workplace. Ayan na, nakauwi na ako sa bahay. I was super hungry so I looked for some snack sa ref and to my surprise, walang laman. I, then asked my mom bakit walang stocks, kakabigay ko lang sa kanya last time. Sabi niya, pinautang nanaman niya yung pinsan ko kasi siya naman daw yung nanganak. Tinanong ko si mama kung nabayaran na ba siya last time na umutang siya para sa ate niyang nanganak? Sabi ng mama ko, hindi pa daw. Nainis talaga ako sa mama ko. Sabi ko ma, walang masama tumulong, ang masama is yung tinetake advantage ka na.
A few weeks later, my mom went to Cebu to have a short vacation with her college besties. It's a 3-day vacation. Simula nung natuto si mama magfacebook, hala sigi magpost ng nagpost but I find it cute kasi she's sharing her moments lang naman. So, she's in Cebu with her college besties and she's been posting about it. Out of curiousity, I opened my mom's messenger. I saw my mom's convo with my pinsan filled with "tita!", "tita, napadala niyo na po?", "anong oras niyo po ipapadala?", "tita, tita, tita.." TITANG INA MO! HAHAHA naginit talaga ulo ko beshy! I told my mom to enjoy her vacation and not think of anything that would stress her out so hindi niya pinapansin yung chats ng pinsan ko. Siguro, aabot sa 20-30 chats per day si ate girl. Alam mo kung ano nanaman reason? Binugbog daw siya ng asawa niya. I can feel na she's making all things up. I messaged her on my personal messenger about this matter and I gave her an ultimatum to pay her utang to me. Ako ba yung gago if I blocked her on my mom's messenger? I'm giving everything to make my mom happy because she deserves it.

My wife and I have a contracting business. Business is good enough for us. We do about 650,000-950,000 in gross revenue a year. This grosses us about 245,000-300,000 between our salaries and business profits. Last year, we had an exceptional year. We did 1,300,000 in gross revenue and grossed 580,000.
We currently have about 450,000 cash in the business account. 100,000 of it is in a money market account with a 3% return, 250,000 of it in a 7 month 5.2% CD and 175,000 inheritance my wife got that needs to be taxed next year in another 7 month 5.2% CD. The other 100,000 we use for working capital. We have about 20,000 in personal savings. Our home equity is about 250,000-300,000. We only have 99,000 debto. I also have a pension with roughly 250,000. The wife has about 60,000 in 401k.
I have an unrealized loss of 17,000 out of 20,000 by investing in the stock market in 2020 and an unrealized loss of 30,000 out of 40,000 in crypto from 2020 investment decisions. So, needless to say, I'm skeptical of individual stocks and crypto.
I would like to make some what safe investments with 5+% returns. Just don't know what that should be. I'd like to invest in real estate if prices come back down to precovid prices. It seems like everything in the real estate market is inflated by roughly 100% right now. I would like to buy 2-3 bitcoins if prices slump back to 20,000.
I dont have an issue with working hard and making money. Im just stuck on how to have my money make more money. Any advice from someone who is smarter with money than me?

Looking for some help with wrapping my head around our current situation.
We have about $180k left on our current mortgage with a 4.125% interest rate. We are in the very beginning stages of thinking about our next move, our family is growing and we need more space.
Not sure how accurate Zillow is but it has our current home valued at around $300k more than we owe on it.
We just found out that we will be receiving an extremely generous gift of $100k. This obviously changes our budget a bit.
Wondering if we should use this $100k to pay down our current mortgage, or to put it in a HYS account and use it for a down payment on our next home. We are in no immediate rush with our next home but I would expect another 6-18 months until our next move.
Thanks in advance!

I learned many ways where the game will trigger the trophy celebrations at the final games of the league season usually in april and may of the european calendar
1.At the moment you win the league Playing on the home ground although there might be a glitch where the trophy celebrations cutscene triggers earlier than it should because it doesn’t take account your opponent’s results they think a win for us is enough but it depends on other results
2.If you win the league playing away the trophy is presented at your club next home match but there is also a possibility of you lifting the trophy away i will explain later
3.If the league title decider goes to the final day of the season there is a rare possibility of your club playing the final day of the season against 2nd place if the dirference is less than 3 points and if you are in first place a draw is enough but if you are behind the leader you must win to win the game randomly draws opponents home or away so there is a possibility of your team deciding the league tittle either home or away depends on the league fixtures draw

1. If nothing happens you either bottled everything and your team lost the league or the game for some reason gets broken

Married couple, mid 30's. I make ~150k self-employed income. My wife is currently full time stay at home with our kids. The better part of the past 5 years our savings/investments have gone towards buying and renovating our current home. We're pretty settled in and my business has been improving so I really want to focus on getting back into investing and building our portfolio.
I haven't done any sort of self employed ira/401's etc. I have a sep ira from a old job but havnt touched it. Between saving for a home and being at a low tax bracket, anything we saved was just put into a post tax brokerage account.
Current financials:
Cash / Checking: $45,000 My Brokerage: $25,000 (vtsax) Sep IRA: $10,000 (vtsax) Wife Brokerage: $50,000 (ekbax - high fees but mostly all profit so we've been avoiding a taxable event)
Home Equity: ~$325k
Debt: Mortgage: $400k @ 3.25% Car Loan: $4800 @ 2.95%
Monthly Net after all personal & business expenses paid: ~$3750
I guess my main two questions would be:

1. Where should I be putting $X/mo? Split between brokerage and self-employeed accounts? Or primarily all self-employeed pre-tax accounts? We may consider investing in additional real estate in the future so I'm not sure if I want everything tied up in retirement accounts. For the time being my accountant says the tax savings are minimial so it really comes down to wether or not we plan on accessing the money in the near future.
2. Do we sell my wifes brokerage account and combine all of the funds in vanguard. Her current fund has a 1.1% expense ratio and we dont contribute anything towards it. It will have roughly $35k in capital gains when we sell tho. How will that effect our overall tax bracket for that year?

Hello everyone -- Since April 24th I have had connectivity issues with my iPhone 14 Plus. This also impacts my wife's iPhone 14 Plus, but mine seems to exhibit the issue more.
The issue appears to be only when on 5G. My phone will jump to 5G or 5GUC and will have an excellent signal but data is erratic. I can drop from 5G/5GUC down to SOS, where it will sometimes stay until I toggle data/airplane mode until it starts working! Upload and download can drop to nearly 0 Mbps and packet loss can be extremely high, rendering any app that's always looking for data. The only solution I can find is to force LTE, which is not the end of the world since we still have amazing LTE where I live. But when traveling for work, sometimes there is not great LTE.
Our T-Mobile 5G Home Internet is working fine all along, so I am guessing this is an iOS, modem firmware, or carrier bundle issue. Perhaps it's an issue on the T-Mobile side, but it sure doesn't feel like it.
Since April 24th, I have:

• Had my account refreshed on the T-Mobile side
• Deleted / added eSIM
• Had T-Mobile reprovision my line
• Removed data plan and re-added the data plan
• Completed a DFU restore as new
• Restored from backup using Mac
• Restored from iCloud backup
• Waited for iOS 17.5 and updated as soon as it came out on May 13th
• I have a few tickets open with Apple, have done data logging sessions twice, have not heard anything truly helpful back from Apple Support (even with AppleCare)

Is anyone else experiencing this on iPhones after 17.4.1 or 17.5? I have had this issue on both.
Any Android users with similar issues? Just curious. If the issue goes on much longer I might look into alternative devices. Thanks!

I have a 7 year old with ADHD. They are medicated (lasts through school hours) and able to behave pretty well at school—for whatever reason, my child seems affected by the behavior chart system at school and does not want to be publicly shamed.
The problem is, at home, (even on weekend and still medicated for the day) they are defiant and rude. When I say defiant, I mean they hear requests and say ‘but i want to…’ or just doesn’t speak and continues doing what they want.
Basically my kid has their own agenda and doesn’t give a crap about what anyone wants them to do. Another example is, at a local playground/park, one of the moms told my kid and a bunch of other kids that were around not to touch her dog as they were anxious and didn’t like it. Well, my child just kept. On. Touching. The. Poor. Freakin. Dog.
Recently our nanny who’s here for a couple hours with my child after school has resigned. My child has attempted to spit on her twice (via raspberry type mouth movements directed at her) —why? For kindly asking my kid to clean up their toys. I don’t blame her for resigning.
We’ve tried punishments, rewards, and if anything works it’s only for a short amount of time. On top of it all, my kid never apologizes or shows guilt/remorse for any rude or bad behavior. I find this to be particularly worrisome and really sad. I have other kids who are neurotypical and are absolute angels in comparison.
Just wondering if anyone out there could offer…anything. Feeling pretty hopeless here.

Hello,
I just got the Unifi Cloud Gateway Ultra today, along with some switches and a U6 Pro. I have a fiber connection and the ONT connects directly to my routers WAN.
When I change my router, the normal procedure is to call the ISP and provide the MAC address. They put it on my account, provision it, and ta-da I have internet again. Normal stuff.
That failed with the new UCG Ultra. We double, triple, quadruple confirmed the MAC address, and still no joy. We restarted the UCG about a dozen times, restarted the ONT a dozen times, and nothing would work. They wanted to send a tech to my home on Monday, but I cannot be without internet that long (I work on-call IT for an airline).
In between waiting for them to call me back a second time to retry, I plugged in my Netgear LM1200 I use for my LTE backup and the UCG had internet no problem.
I had them put the MAC address of the Netgear modem on the account as a last resort, which after a few hiccups on their end we got working. I have internet, and I am using the UCG Ultra via the ONT to Netgear modem to UCG. The thing is, I want the ONT to connect directly to the UCG. I've noticed I am only pulling around 400-600mbps on this setup, and when I had my consumer router directly connected to the ONT I was able to get my full 1g if not low to mid 900's.
Is there anything I may have been doing wrong? I can't imagine what it would be but if any of you more knowledgeable people have an idea, please let me know. They have left my case open and are awaiting my call back to try the UCG again tonight or tomorrow.
EDIT: ISP is TDS Telecom

The moment a lot of you have been waiting for is here!
A couple of notes before you read (or after because I would just jump into the list right away too)

1. Direct quotes from Ali herself are in italics.
2. I tried my best to keep everything in timeline order. Some people like The Come Back Kid I placed in the order where they reconnected/talked about on the pod. But I did my best to note this.
3. All this information came from the FMH podcast, the Patreon, the original FMH blog, TikTok and other podcast that feature FMH/Ali. I also crossed reference information with this sub. I got most of this done with the help of the Patreon and listening to 1.75x speed but I lost accessed to the Patreon because my subscription ended.
4. I'm open to edits! Things around the matchmaker era confused me and if anything is incorrect or if I'm missing someone, please let me know! I will note where corrections are made.
5. Some people don't have anything simply because only a name was said or I couldn't find any details about the person/date
6. And of course, please be respectful of all the sub rules!

Names on the original FMH blog

• Mr. Adorable aka The Coach
• Trouble
• Waffles
• Future Husband Brian (FHB)
• Cookie
• Peter Pan
• Ambiguous Goodbye Guy
• Bad Bitch Man

AOL chatroom Boyfriend
Mentioned on Tiktok and on the pod once
Myspace Boyfriend
Mentioned on Tiktok
Third Boyfriend
Met on eCrush.com in 2002 and this was mentioned on the Cracked Up podcast, The Dave Glaser Podcast and Tiktok
The Kiwi
Met on a 2 week Model UN type youth trip in high school when Ali was 15, never a boyfriend but she had a huge crush on him, he tried to kiss Ali and she literally ran away, didn’t talk the rest of the trip but exchanged numbers and screen names (Ali’s was FineGal13 or BeachJewel760), she made him a mixtape cd called “Ali’s really cool mix for The Kiwi” but never sent it and she still has it. In 2021, he DM’d her when she posted photos of her and her mom in France and invites her to visit him in London, she says she can’t but says they should catch up if he comes to NYC
Fourth Boyfriend
Met on OkCupid when you had to use it on the computer, this was mentioned on Tiktok
The Homecoming Date or Light Switch
First boyfriend? (she goes back and forth calling him her first bf or a situationship), a family friend, a month younger than Ali, dated in high school but went to different high schools, football player, made him ask her to her Homecoming dance over email (her words), Ali hid in the bathroom the whole Homecoming dance, 3-4 revisits of this situations as adults, saw him on Bumble a few years ago and texted him that he had a typo in his bio, “he very much wanted to be with me” and now he’s married with a kid. His mom is still “obsessed” with Ali and she listens to FMH
Random college guy
Freshman year of college, Ali doesn’t have a nickname for him/doesn’t remember his real name, met this guy through a friend, was texting him to invite him over to hot tub but her phone autocorrected to “how about some hot rubbing tonight?” but Ali didn’t noticed/didn’t correct it and he never replied, Ali had a house party and got really drunk and was all over him, he left the party early, she messaged him on MySpace 3-4 times asking why he left
The Resident
Matched on Match.com, first guy she dated in NYC after college, older than Ali, a doctor, lasted 3 months ”maybe”, he didn’t like Ali’s friends, got a card from him on her birthday and it said “Love, The Resident” and it took Ali back a little, Ali drinks black coffee because of him, he coordinated having her mom visit NYC for her birthday then he broke up with her a week later
The Ghost
Met at a bar when she was 25, turns out they matched on OkCupid and they already had a date scheduled next week, they dated for 6-8 weeks, had sleepovers, “The worst ghosting experience I’ve ever had”, he borrowed The Great Gatsby from Ali’s roommate, planned to make dinner together after a beach trip in August with her friends and never showed up, Ali is blowing up his phone and gets no reply, two weeks later she finally texts “are you alive? check yes or no” and he responds “Yes”, Ali then ask if he could return the book and gets no reply again, 5 months go by and she receives the book in the mail with the note: “Here’s the book back. Sorry. P.S. sorry about last summer. I was in a bad place. You’re a great person and your salmon is amazing”, since then she has ran into him twice on the streets and matched with him on Bumble
The Coach/Mr. Adorable
First serious boyfriend at 26/27 in 2013, matched on Match.com or met through work depending if you’re listening to the pod or reading her OG blog, clean-cut look, played volleyball, Ali invited him to a friend’s birthday party and they made out in the streets at 4am, on their second date he asked Ali if she was seeing any one and when Ali said no he ask her to be his girlfriend 3 days after their first date, dated for almost 1.5 years or almost 2 years depending on if you’re listening to the pod or the Patreon, first time saying “I love you” to a guy, “lovely guy“, never would posted Ali on his instagram until Ali said something, he “lived” with her for two weeks while he was in between apartments, tried blind folding/hair pulling during sex and she didn’t like it, by the end of their relationship Ali didn’t like sex and thought she wasn’t a very sexual person, after they broke up Ali drunk texted him at 2am and he picked her up and she spent the night and she took her things in the morning in a rolly suitcase, from her blog in 2015: “I just want to be careful I don’t end up with another Mr. Adorable situation, where I find myself dating my platonic best friend”, had drinks with him in 2016 from the blog: “Not in a romantic way (at least on my end)”, Ali still talks to him sometimes through casual instagram DMs, he’s currently (as of 2021) dating someone for 4+ years and Ali thinks they’re going to get engaged
Trouble
OG 2015 FMH blog, never mentioned on the pod, “I was immediately enamored with him”, met at a Beer Olympic party but he worked with one of Ali’s best friends (Ali was still dating The Coach at the time), lived in BK, tattoos and stubble, Ali’s best friend said he was a “fuck boy”, “he very much made me see that it was the right thing for me and The Coach to not be together”, from her blog in 2015: “he has this look in his eye like he’s constantly laughing at me – in a super sexy way”, he texted her saying he didn’t see anything romantically with her and she sent a gif of someone shrugging
Personal side note: Ali has mentioned she has cheated on someone but never disclosed who she cheated on or with. I feel like she cheated on Mr.A/The Coach with Trouble because of the timeline. Just a guess.
Waffles
Matched on Bumble, OG 2015 FMH blog, he asked Ali fuck/marry/kill breakfast foods, dated 2 months around summer time, on Fourth of July while watching fireworks he said how they had a great day and Ali replied with something along the lines with “yeah, it would be better if I could call you my boyfriend”, he said he wanted a relationship but just not with Ali and shortly afterwards they stopped seeing each other
The Buffalo
Lived in Buffalo NY, 6’5, Scorpio, met in 2015 at Adults National volleyball (Ali’s team won that year) where he was heckling her while she was playing, asks Ali’s mom for her number and Ali’s mom said “I guess you’re tall enough” and told him to ask her himself, he flew her out and she met his parents, dated over summer, exclusive but never boyfriend/girlfriend (but called him her LD boyfriend on TikTok), texted and talked on the phone a lot, Ali’s best friend’s favorite ex “they had really good banter”, in October he invited her to his cousins wedding and she invited him to her friends wedding, after Ali bought her ticket to his cousins wedding (with the promise he would buy her ticket to her friend’s wedding) he ghosted and stonewalled her, she “poured her heart out to him on voicemail” and he never replied, she asked him to pay her back for her ticket and he got mad that she “made this about money”, 2 years later he told Ali that he freaked out because he really liked her and saw a future with her but knew she would never move to Buffalo and it would “never work”, Ali said at the time she would have considered moving for him, Ali used to have him blocked on Facebook and told all her friends not to update her on info about him (unless she asked). He’s now married and goes to Disney with his wife (which Ali kind of scoffs at?), Ali said on TikTok that she dodged a bullet
Baby Bic
Met him at Adults National years ago, had a flirtationship with him in 2016 when he was 19 years old, ran into him at the Adults Nationals 2021, last texts she got from him were about getting his fake ID taken away at the bar and him visiting her in NYC but Ali didn’t want to buy him beer and drink at her apartment
The Chef
Matched on Tinder around 2016, he loved karaoke, “total shit”, asked Ali to be his girlfriend and to meet his mom after a month, off and on dating, broke up the first time because he was talking to his ex, lied and flew to Mexico to see his ex while dating Ali, that ex sent Ali a Snapchat of them in bed together on that Mexico trip, Ali broke up with him via text and called him a shitty boyfriend, he’s the reason Ali deleted her Snapchat because of drunk Snaps he would send post break up, FB messaged Ali 6 years later (while Roark was visiting/staying with Ali) and said sorry for being a shit head. Ali’s best friends hated him
The Dentist
Met on Halloween in the wild, Canadian, dated NYE 2016- May 2017 “nice guy, not my guy”, one of Ali’s best friend’s favorite ex “he adored you, “he was too sweet for me” and “he had no edge to him”, he painted Ali’s cat for her 30th birthday but she was annoyed it was just Rory and not both cats, The Chef texted Ali while on a date/sleeping at his house
ASV - Aspiring Sober Vegan
Met through a friend (her best guy friend’s college roommate) the day before she had to fly out to her dad’s memorial, a doctor, into meditation, remembered him “being cuter” when they went on a first date, felt “the spark”, had “omg this is awesome sex”, Ali described this relationship as a “slow burn” and “the most attracted she ever been to a partner” even thought she didn’t think he was that cute in the beginning, dated 2-3 months before he tried to ghost Ali but they talked and broke up, four months later they start casually dating/FWB because he’s moving but this turns into a ‘middle distance relationship’ and he moves to Philly, had a lot of communication issues but didn't have a lot of fights, wants to live in Ohio and give a % of his income to charity, Ali was close to saying ‘I love you’ but didn’t, he uninvited her to meet his extended family and they got in a fight, broke up with her a couple weeks before their 6 month anniversary at the park while on a picnic and told her that she’s still his favorite person, Ali used to think he was “the one that got away” and would frequently have dreams about him. From what Ali knows, he's sober but not vegan
The Scientist
2017 or 2018ish, from San Diego, went on one date, Ali ended up ghosting him due to the decline in her dad’s health, saw him on Hinge while she was in San Diego for 3 months in 2020, texted him and apologized for ghosting him, ended up going on 2-3 more dates, took a selfie in front of his house and sent it to him but acted like she didn’t know that was his house and made a TikTok about it, things ended up not working but she doesn’t make it clear on who ended it. She can now see she shouldn’t have been going on dates during this time when her dad was sick.
Good on Paper Divorced Dude
Met a couple of years ago (she told this story on TikTok in 2020) on Bumble
The Groomsman
Met at her friend Ashley’s wedding in Chicago Oct 2019, had a “two night stand” with him, texted/talked/FT’d for 3-4 months, divorced, never dated seriously/FWB, saw each other a couple time when he came to NYC, Ali stopped talking with him due to FMH and her trying to find a serious relationship, he starts dating someone, follows FMH on insta, slid into her DM in 2022 and then sent her soup while she was sick, turns out he’s single again, 2 months later Ali is heading to Chicago and texts him “Hello! Reminder that my arrival to your neck of the woods is imminent” and turns out he is now seeing someone and Ali doesn’t see him while in Chicago (at least she doesn’t mention it)
Unnicknamed person
He was her plus one at her best friend from college’s NYE wedding 2019/2020, met and hung out with Ali’s mom, posted photos of them together on her personal Insta story, “fully dating but weren’t official hehe” doesn’t have a nickname/never gave him a nickname? This could be The Latvian/the person she texted her friend in DC about saying “I think I’m on a date with my husband”

Starts FMH on January 2020 on Instagram/TikTok

The Traveler
He was browsing Bumble while Ali was in the bathroom during their first date, he was banned from Bumble and was using his grandma phone number. Ali turned down a second date
The Duke
Early FMH, went for long periods of time in between texts, 7-8 Zoom dates while Ali was in San Diego and he was in NY, Ali said you could see three of his ex’s on his instagram page (without scrolling), they finally went on one date and it was “meh” but they did kiss on their date
The Oyster
Matched on Bumble (he had one photo and no bio) two weeks before Valentines Day, Gemini, a lawyer, part of the 13 First Dates in 30 Days series (he was #13), dated Feb 2020-Aug 2020, love bomber, felt “the spark” and became official after 3 dates, best first date ever??? at the time, said “I love you” to Ali after two weeks, “For most of my relationship with The Oyster, he didn’t live in the city he had moved to Connecticut without telling me”, would fight all the time, opposite political views, Ali felt like a “fucking summer camp director” because she planned all their dates and he would get upset if Ali didn't have a plan, sought out a therapist (Megan) because of her relationship struggles because of him, went to Mass/church, he wanted a traditional marriage/life/wife/kids (at one point had Ali thinking she wanted that), didn’t want to live in NYC, didn’t support BLM, Cindy hated him
The Pilot
Went on 3 dates, texted a lot, didn’t hear back from him in four days and when she said she was looking to date someone who showed more consistency, he replied saying he met someone the day after their last date who seems to have more free time than Ali and he wants to pursue that but would like to be friends, Ali said on TikTok that this other women “bent her schedule to his schedule” and she was unwilling to do that. Mostly talked about him on TikTok
The Analyst
Matched on Bumble two years ago and went on one date, re matched in 2021 and he stood Ali up, she send him a text “getting stood up” script and he never replied. Only mentioned him on TikTok (?)

Ali and Roark start FMH: The Podcast February 2021

The Boomerang
First date on the pod? I couldn't find anything else about him
The Scuba Diver
The Music Man
One date, “he didn’t do anything wrong, he’s just not for me”, amped up small talk, complimented Ali a lot which made her feel awkward cause she wasn’t feeling it, he texted her and asked for a second date and Ali sent the no ghosting script
The Bet
Uses the phrase “ok bet”, 28 years old shoe designer, only went on one dinner date to a spot he picked, turns out its cash only and he didn’t bring cash, was not into him , not looking for the same thing
The Dinosaur
Nickname was previously The Hawaiian, first date at Dinosaur BBQ, stood in a parking spot to save for Ali, he asked for a kiss after their date and Ali declined saying maybe next time
The Rose
He sent her a rose on hinge, first date was an hour long walk in the park while drinking beer
The Comic
Matched on Hinge, older than Ali (Ali’s friends express how happy they were to hear that), had brunch on their first date (was the first part of a double header but the second guy canceled), listed as “moderate” politically on Hinge, good and easy convo, went back and forth twice over text and then never heard back from him, “technically not ghosting...”
The Camper
Met in the wild at a volleyball tournament in July, lives in Chicago, 27 years old, hung out the whole time, over heard Ali asking someone to get her a make out partner, gave Ali his number, drunkly ask him for a FT date in the future and he didn’t reply, Ali texts him again about a volleyball thing and he replied back with not a lot of enthusiasm, Ali is going to Chicago in Sept for a volleyball tournament and she’s already planning on playing 4-on-4 with her best friend vs. his roommate and maybe The Camper, he texts her saying he has to work on the date of the tournament and won’t be able to do the 4-on-4 game, “I feel like I got broken up with someone I never want to date in the first place”

Ali’s Matchmaker contract starts in August 2021 - 6 matches

The Schmoozer
Went on a dinner date, was chatting up the waitress in a kind of creepy way, was bragging about a lot of things and it turned Ali off and Ali texted him her no ghosting script
The Accountant
1st matchmaker match, 31 years old, lives in BK, his dad has also passed away, easy to talk to, on the third date she wasn’t sure if she saw a future with him and in her gut doesn’t feel like this would be a slow burn, Ali breaks things off with him, months (?) later he sent Ali a 5 min long voice memo and they said they were both down to see each other as friends. He later on dated and ghosted Erica
The Aussie
Matched on Hinge, in politics, from Australia but lived all over the place, asked Ali what she’s looking for on the first date and he said he’s “casually looking for something serious”, Ali accidentally walks up to a different person on their second date, Ali texts him saying she would love to see him before he leaves on a trip and she wasn’t happy that it took him till the next day to reply and he can’t see her before he leaves
The Goalie
Was supposed to be Ali’s 2nd match, he’s a paying client, Ali didn’t hear back from him for a while when she told him where she lived, he wrote to the matchmaker saying that she lived too far away even though it states where she lives in her matchmaker profile
The Journalist
2nd matchmaker match, ended things because she was dating/pursuing things with The Discoball and paused her matchmakers matches

The Threepeat
Matched multiple times on dating apps but this recent time with Hinge, Amazon seller, first date was a pizza lunch date (with bubbles aka champagne) and he gave her a single yellow carnation, talked a lot about her “side hustles” aka her food blog, coaching, FMH and the pod (Ali didn’t mentioned the name on FMH), had an awkward half kiss during the date and then gave her a peck when they said goodbye, he had no night stands by his bed?, spent the night but told public pod they had a movie night, different kissing styles, 6 dates, broke things off with Ali two days before her first date with The Rower WHILE Ali was on a Halloween girls trip
The Rower
Dated from Halloween 2021 till early Feb 2022, Pisces who is 6 days older than Ali, has an ex-fiancé (they dated for 8 years, engaged for two of them, she broke off the engagement with him 1.5 years ago once he started dating Ali), has a shared dog with this ex, slept together around Xmas on the fourth date and Ali got a UTI, first time having “omg this is awesome sex” since ASV, first person Ali slept next to wearing an eye mask "that's a big step for me", had him watch 90 Day Fiancé, on New Years Day told her that he sees “long term relationship potential” with her but doesn’t want to be exclusive after 5 dates, “we didn’t talk all week”, he said he wasn’t as ready as he though to date someone seriously and “I don’t know why I don’t want to be in a relationship with you” they broke up over the phone, Ali said he’s a good human and wants to date someone like him, 3.5 weeks later Ali drunk texted him at 3:00 am saying “its really hard not to talk to you” which Ali said was a lie, he replied back (few days? A week later?) while Ali was on another date and it made her cry a bit, she replied back saying “the door is closed but not locked” in regards if he wants to get back together. “Fin… for now”

2022

The Discoball
Matched on Hinge but didn’t go on a first date for two week, Gemini, used to be a singer in a band, moved from DC to NYC, went on 7 dates in 2022, had a dog w/ ex and ex got full custody once he moved, met one of his friends on the second date, slept with him on the second date “morning and night”, he tried to find the podcast without knowing the name, podcasted from his house in DC, he would send Ali photos of them together “all the time”, gave a virtual presentation from his hotel room, did Molly together in DC, had him watch 90 Day Fiancé, moved to BK (didn’t see each other for 2 months pre-move), had a sex-less sleepover (a milestone for Ali), he showed up for her on her dad’s death date (something that a person she’s dating has never done), used to listen to the pod but stopped before they stopped seeing each other, ghosted her after they had a talk about moving things forward to exclusive and Ali texted him something along the lines of “your silence is the answer” when she didn’t hear back from him for a week and he ghosted her. Ali said he sucks in #77 AUA
Lisbon
The Brit
M&M
The Come Back Kid
They went on 2-3 dates in Nov 2018 and reconnected in May 2022, "felt immediately comfortable", sat next to a very drunk lady on their second 1st date and was supportive but "didn't step on Ali's toes" when the drunk lady said something offensive to Ali, couldn’t remember if they slept together or not, knows about FMH, ghosted Ali
The Trainer
The Cold Brew
The Nomad
3rd matchmaker match, reminded Ali of The Oyster, wanted kids and didn’t want to live in NYC forever, Ali was upset at first because her matchmaker was supposed to screen for that but the matchmaker DID check and it wasn’t mentioned when she was screening The Nomad, no second date because those are dealbreakers to him
The Catcher
Matched on Bumble, “good not great” after their first date, ~April 2022, talked about sports a lot on their first date
The Gentleman
4th matchmaker match, knew about Ali’s FMH socials before their date, Ali didn’t like his texting style, awkward intro on their first date “like hugging a 2 x 4”, he runs a dating event company and actually email Ali to be a guest on the pod when FMH first started, awkward goodbye, didn’t discuss the actual first date on the main pod because she doesn’t want to give him a reason to reach out again
The Tennis Pro
Ali had a good time on their date, “He is an adult, he’s mature” BUT “I don’t think he was into it”
The Padre
Matched on Bumble, 3 dates, from San Diego, “energy mismatch”, doesn’t want to know or listen to FMH, no psychical connection/kiss, only a kiss on the cheek on their last date, “I haven’t spoken to him since Friday night [a week]”, she didn’t want to do what The Threepeat did to her (break up while on vacation/traveling), she said it might be a MOO

Roark leaves and Erica joins the pod Oct 31st 2022

Captain Kirk
5th matchmaker match, found him on Bumble before their in-person date, ghosted Ali AND the matchmaker???
6th matchmaker match
Last match and Ali states she will not talk about this date or anything about it
JFK Kirk?
Matched on Bumble, didn’t realize he’s located in SD, exchanged personal instagram info, not sure where things went or how things ended

Kirk #1
Met in the wild, make out a lot the night they met, “stealing kisses throughout the night”, exchanged numbers, planned a date (no specifics, just the day) but when Ali texted him day of he asked to reschedule (no specifics again), he replied back that he’s picking up a rental car, told him she’s looking for someone to respect her time and he never replied back

2023

The Falcon
First date of 2023, matched on The League, first nickname was “League Kirk”, hard to talk to, felt like Ali was always reaching for the next topic, likes to travel, “there wasn’t a vibe”, MOO
The Roommate
Used to be her friend’s roommate and have met before (Ali doesn’t remember but it was the day after that exclusive convo with The Rower), “totally cute”, reunited at their mutual friend’s engagement party January 2023, made out at the bar, comes back to her place and sleeps over (no sex), Ali questions why her friends never set them up and its because he was taking a break from dating, first date they made out a lot at the bar (again), “I really felt like we were already a couple”, “It didn’t feel like a first date”, mentions her FMH content has popped up on his FYP, tried texting him after their date and he wasn’t giving effort, she’s glad she didn’t sleep with him because “one night stands aren’t my thing”, MOO
The Belgian
Matched on Bumble, accidentally had their first date during a trivia night at a bar, easy to talk to
The Viking
Ali forgot they had a first date on the day of said date
Tinder Man
Matched on Tinder (duh) on Valentine’s Day, first Tinder date in three years, good convo on first date but got a pushy vibe from him at the second bar they went to, put his hand up her sweater and was kissing her in the bar, made Ali uncomfortable and she told him that after her asked her on a second date
The Historian
Matched on Bumble, good conversation on the first date with a wide range of topics like “urban planning and its impact on feminism”, he’s in grad school
The Georgian
Matched on Hinge, he asked if she was free on Friday and she said yes but didn’t hear back from him in two days and in that time she made plans for Friday, rescheduled for a Saturday afternoon date at a dive bar, ate on her way to her date “it would be next level rude to eat on the subway”, good first date, talked about places he wants to take her to
The Publicist
Matched on Tinder, lives in BK, Jewish, one year younger then Ali, good first date, invited him to the Chaotic Singles Party that night, came over to Ali's apartment (which Ali said was messy) before and he made her favorite cocktail for her, a couple of listeners met him at the CSP, goofy and silly convo mixed with deep and serious convos, second date was at the Brooklyn Botanical Gardens and a tasting menu dinner, he made a Resy reservation and Ali got an email saying she was added to it ”fuck receiving gifts, THAT’S my love language”, he's into words like Ali, he sneezed and Ali said "God bless you" but then corrected herself and said "gesundheit" and he leaned over and kissed her and said he loves that she cares about her words, he met her friends on the third date ”It felt so easy. It felt so comfortable”, her friends took “sneaky” picture and videos of them together which Ali said she loves a sneaky pic, took all their date recap videos on his phone, cooked Ali steak on their fourth date, "it's very comfortable", had him watch 90 Day Fiancé, Ali met two of his friends and some of his teammates he plays a rec sport with, had sex the day they took a trip outside of the city, Erica met him before their trip to Greece and I said “he’s dorky in a good way”, WhatsApp video chatted while in Greece and told her “see you in two days!” at the end of their call, said she felt less anxious about him compared to other relationships while on vacation, sent him a birthday present while she was in Greece, felt an energy shift coming back from vacation and didn’t hear back from him 3 days after she came home, Ali requested a call to talk about this distances she was feeling, ”I did the 12 date rule and it didn’t work!”, she said the distance help her see that they’re not compatible, went on a total of 9 dates. Ali talks about the “break up” on episode 123
Mr. Chaotic
Matched on Tinder but he saw Ali at the Chaotic Singles Party and Cassidy the host is there mutual friend, went to a brewery and played games on their first date (Ali said this was her favorite first dates in episode 147 where they recapped 2023), works in entertainment industry, very high energy, knows about FMH and he said she's entertaining to watch, splits his time between NYC and some unknown city, texted while she was in Greece, ”The man gives good texts”
Random Matchmaker Match
Withdrew his match to Ali because he found her FMH socials. Talked about on #71 AUA
Gone with the Wind
Matchmaker match, said some gross things about women in volleyball outfits on their first date, Ali told her matchmaker about this, ”I would describe him as misogynistic overall”, Ali was glad he did say those weird things so early on so she didn’t waste her time, the matchmaker flagged his account. This was around June 2023
The Rock
Ali knows him from an activity that they used to be involved with in the city (she's very vague about what this is) from 8 years ago, he had a very serious/long term GF when they met, follows her personal Insta, has never talked about him because he’s never been a “prospect”, summer 2023 they met up to catch up and found out that he’s now recently single but he’s moving out of NYC for work, Ali texts Cindy saying she thinks this is a date, Cindy said to tell him that you really want to kiss him, he ends up telling Ali “I really want to kiss you”, made out at the bar, Ali invited him back to her apartment and they had sex the night before Ali ended things with The Publicist, “one night stand vibes” but she said she was down to do it again, Patreon only and talked about on #75 AUA
The Tourist
Matched on Hinge, just moved to Brooklynn, went to a brewery in BK for their first date, Ali showed up to the date dripping in sweat, allergic to cats, he sent Ali a ‘no ghosting’ text the next morning
The Stout
Matched on Bumble, ”we had really great banter right away”, laughed the whole time on their first date, talked about going on a second date during their first date
Speed Racer
Matched on Bumble, drinks first date, axe throwing second date, made out after their second date, MOO, randomly texted Ali ~6 months later because he said one of Ali’s date recap videos about him popped up on his FYP (Ali and Erica think this is a lie), he thought Ali wasn’t into him, he claims he was doing all the work with texting even though there was only a few messages since they exchanged numbers after their second date
Billy Joel
Recently sober, Ali said she felt like they had several inside jokes before they met in person, ate pizza on her way to their first date, second date was getting coffee and going to the museum, they cooked dinner together for their third date at Ali’s apartment and they watched 90 Day Fiancé (he didn’t like it), he Googled how to clean a red wine stain when it spilled on her countertop, he asked if she wanted to have sex and she turned it down, the next day/the day before a 7am flight Ali booty called him and they had sex, she was drunk and said the sex wasn’t good/they stopped mid way, helped Ali pack for her flight, Ali said he’s at a crossroad and he doesn’t seem like a long term fit, Erica found a condom on the ground while cat sitting, Ali said she didn’t regret hooking up with him but wishes she hadn’t done it, MOO
Sales Cycle
30 seconds in and Ali said he was very boring, only really talked about his job, stared at Ali’s boobs, “might be a MOO”, texted her ‘merry christmas’

2024

Pie Guy/Dr. Laundry
Matched on The League, 34 years old, requested a nickname change from Pie Guy to Dr. Laundry, he had to cancel their second date because he got hit by a car, went on two dates, Ali sent him a pic of his subway stop saying something along the lines of “the stop isn’t looking as cute today” and turns out someone he dated with in that photo, were supposed to go on a third date the night she got back from a bachelorette party but he didn't answer her text when she said she landed, the next day he asked her how her trip was not acknowledging her previous text at all, Ali expressed her disappointment and he replied that he was tired last night, she said she would've been understanding if he said something then ghosted her
Andddd I stopped listening to the podcast around the Dr. Pie Laundry Guy but have stayed up to date with everything via this sub.
I have a huge interest in dating culture, human behavior and data similar to Ali and this little project of mine was really interesting once I got the framework of this list. I started this list once I found this sub in December 2023 and started re listening to the Patreon while working out (and lost 10 lbs ayeee) and writing down information in my notes app. I did my best to keep this list unbiased and just give facts and information that was said.
My own thoughts after making this list is that I'm very sad for Ali. I didn't realize the extent of her dating history. I think about my own dating history or even my friends who are in their 30's and dating and Ali's dating lore runs so deep. Is Ali unlucky with love? Did she pass on someone that could have been great for her? How has she had so many dates with little success in a long term partner or even going beyond 6-8 dates? Or is Skyline the person she has been waiting for? What's the pattern with all this dates/men? So many questions.
I truly do hope Ali finds her guy because I believe theres someone for everyone. Until then, I'll be hopping into this sub (cause y'all are too funny and give the best advice) and waiting for Ali to find Mr. Height.
Enjoy and I look forward to everyone thoughts! I'll keep my eye out for any edits that need to be made.
Bonus quotes:
“Longest relationship was a little under a year and a half. Haven’t made it past 6 months with anyone else” - AUA #7 11/27/21
“I spent the first 10+ years of my dating life being sort of perennially single” -1. The Actual First One episode 2/21/21
"I think my parent's story is the reason why I think that I can romantically get back together with an ex and it'll work out" -The Dave Glaser Podcast 4/5/21
“Almost every relationship I’ve ever been in, with a couple of exceptions, started as a situationship.” -21. The Undefined One 7/11/21
“All of my boyfriends have been white” -Ali’s BFF Special on Patreon 4/23/22
“You definitely need an older guy” -Cindy on Ali’s BFF Special on Patreon 4/23/22
“I’ve been on the dating apps since high school. Dating websites at the time” -Ali’s BFF Special on Patreon 4/23/22
“Who would be the perfect man for Ali?”
“Clearly a combination of the The Dentist and [the early stages of] The Buffalo” -Cindy on Ali’s BFF Special on Patreon 4/23/22
“Do you consider The Rower or Disco ball to have been situationships?”
“No, I don't consider either The Rower or The Disco Ball to be situationships” -question asked on TikTok 11/9/22

So this is an insane story that I've put a post on LegalAdviceUK to try get some advice from the legal eagles but that didn't really cover the full story. But having an informal chat in a comments section of this page about it and posting the legal ins and outs yesterday has given me some strength. And if I need to I will have the tub of cookie dough ice cream to comfort my big fat butt. So here we go a story which I've been trying to do for months without feeling nothing but shame and humiliation for allowing this parasite into my life enough to impact it like this.
So some backstory on my life in January 2023 I was working for Uber Eats as a delivery driver and had a Motorcycle accident. As a result I broke my foot, lost my insurance as Uber did everything they could to make sure it was invalidated to avoid responsibility for me. As a result I became jobless and homeless within a matter of days as I was already behind due to high insurance costs and low pay. I spent the next 9 months couch surfing and jumping from job to job until I finally settled working for a convenience store chain and leaving the city of Portsmouth for the town of Gosport across the way. I was settled with a roommate in October and I was doing well again.
During this I'd won a seat for myself into a semi major Poker tournament that I cashed in during August. I made £1300 for a weekend. In enters Mr S the person who will be the focus of this piece. He needed me to help him out with opening up some betting accounts for some online sports betting. He sweetened the deal by saying that he would invest in me to make my dream company come true, making a film business. He would invest £5000 into me to get me started which is all I needed because my plan was to work from home and get film clients and work up to an office. I too would invest £5000 over time. You see Mr S was a successful businessman in the community, a former sports personality and everyone loves this guy. Couldn't find someone to curse his name in a thousand miles I'm pretty sure. I had known him through my times as a poker player for nearly 12 years myself and I couldn't say I knew a bad thing about him. So I opened the accounts thinking nothing of it, then he asked to borrow money off me which I thought nothing of at the time as he said that he had it in cash and could pay me back in the morning as it was in cash not the bank apparently. He regularly did have this issue apparently because he worked in a cash heavy business (buying precious metals) and he was a regular at casinos. So I gave him the money. He paid me back some of it then made me wait another week to get the rest after I was calling him regularly to make him respond. This would be a recurring theme throughout the story.
After this issue was resolved I made a thought to push for the money to secure the investment. Mr S got the call and stated that we needed a business meeting in his office. So I asked to set up the business meeting which he regularly called to reschedule. After two months of this I got fed up of him brushing me off whilst he's borrowing my entire salary to gamble on and off when he ran out of his own money. So I changed the passwords on all the gambling sites to force him to take a meeting and pay me back the most recent amount he borrowed. I was naturally pissed off that this multi-millionaire was so reckless with his money that he was borrowing off of me and was constantly late paying me back. He paid me back and set up a meeting. He didn't make the meeting but assured me he was going to transfer me £3000 without one. He did not claiming his accounts were frozen by the government (I know I should have ran like a Gazelle from a Hyena at this point). Well I excused this behaviour because he reassured me everything would get sorted. This accounts frozen issue also became a recurring theme throughout the story too.
For a while Mr S didn't borrow any money off of me, he just used his own money (or some other poor sods), I kept asking him to invest into the business as I had opened a business account and I was investing my own money and borrowing money via a credit card. In total I put in £5000 whilst working a minimum wage job and using small amounts I'd earned through a bit of penny stock trading and poker, trying to get the money together. I worked 50-60 hours a week to pay for Christmas and invest in the business because of the fact that I didn't want to waste time. I set up business meetings, got business cards, bought equipment and got my friend who I will simply call Angel to work with me to put together a team. My friend Alf and a guy we found on LinkedIn I'll simply call J became our first team. We also found a lovely Graphics Artists online who I'll call Ally. Everyone was on freelance for now as we needed to get clients but we assembled the team. Mr S kept missing business meetings with clients that I set up for him to secure including three major ones that might have cost me a potential 6 figure contract that I spent two months setting up. Making County Football (Soccer for you Yanks) games on a Patreon page and YouTube for live streams. This mega pissed me off and Mr S reassured me he would get the contract back or getting a bigger one. I entrusted him with this task but as far as I can tell he never did anything for it.
On the night of his youngest child being born, whilst his wife was giving birth he spent his time playing online poker or sports betting, I know this because I had the transaction record and he even borrowed money off of me. He took a week to pay me £500 and I almost lost my brand new housing because of this. Thank goodness for my new friend and housemate being understanding of the situation and after this I put my foot down and said no more borrowing from me and if he asked again I would cut him off. I also insisted again that he should invest into the business. He made his excuses of the bank being frozen again and I told him to get his shit sorted out and invest because I'm getting annoyed waiting on him. I wanted to make an advert and without his money I couldn't do this.
So it comes January 2024 I lost my job with the convenience store after I stopped a shoplifter who'd assaulted me when I turned a corner. And by stop I mean used my big boy voice and scared the crap out of them. Don't know why they fired me for that but what do I care it freed me up and paid me £2000 to go away. I got a new job whilst also securing my first client. The client paid the first half of the money which they owed for the filming to be done and Mr S knowing this asked me to lend it to him for the purpose of gambling which I flatly shut down because it was staff wages for the project. When I told him this he said "I'm sure I'll have it back in time and if not they won't mind because they'll get experience." Yep you read that right he was willing to let the staff work for free so he could bet on horses. I told him that I would never put myself or him above my team when it comes to pay because we have no right to ask anyone to work for nothing when they are all multi talented individuals.
Angel was a video editor, animator, photographer, camera operator and lighting expert. She holds a Masters degree in film technology.
J was a camera operator who had worked on major TV documentary sets and was already taking a pay cut to work on this as an investment in the companies future. He held a BA degree.
Alf is a sound operator and musician with a masters degree in music.
Yep this guy wanted to not pay these guys so he could gamble recklessly. I semi caved though by giving him my personal money because he would repeatedly call me three times an hour over this. This was his tactic, begging and harassing me so he can get the money and then when I want the money back ignore and excuse the debt for a week. He regularly said he'd have it back in a day and it would take a week. He gave me £200 extra on top of this debt and said to put it into the business account to help pay for an advert. I did it and yeah that apparently was all I was going to need to make and distribute an advert in his mind. In reality it would barely cover the graphics and music for the advert.
Finally my old debts were catching up with me in March 2024 and I got myself an IVA (Individual Voluntary Arrangement) to protect myself and the company as a debt management option. This is because of the fact that old bills, credit cards and loans that I'd taken out were catching up with me that I expected to pay off by now. Which I might have done, had Mr S not been screwing around with the investment. In this process I had to shut down all the gambling sites to comply with the IVA. I called Mr S and informed him to which he promptly told me he was no longer going to invest in my business if I won't let him gamble and risk my IVA. According to him he was going to invest when he won £10000 and was going to give me half of the money as his investment forgetting he'd already won that and then some 2 weeks prior and I knew it. I called him out on this fact and told him to pony up or bugger off because he'd wasted 8 months of mine and my teams lives promising his investment and failing on every level. He exploded on me telling me no one talks to him like this, how dare I describe him as a con artist and a fraud. He demanded his £200 back which I flat out refused as I didn't have it. I spent it paying the Angel the money I owed her because she did extra work on the editing that I failed to secure the money for from either Mr S or the Client. She offered to work for less but I flat out refused that offer because it was my mistake and my problem to deal with.
Over the next 6 weeks now I've been harassed every few days over £200 to be paid back which I'm now refusing to pay because screw him. He lied to me for 8 months and as far as I'm concerned he stole money out of the company and then wants me to pay him more money to buy him out and disregard the team members so he can get his money when he's a multimillionaire and the team are like me on minimum wage and freelancing. So AITA for calling him a thief and con artist whilst refusing to pay him a penny so I can prioritise fixing the damage he had caused? If he'd had invested in the business the way he said he would and it was a normal falling out I probably would pay him out as the business would have been more likely on solid ground with an advert made and a chance for the business to thrive. But this was my lot. I've since been told I'm a worthless person because I won't pay him back and take his calls. I'm a terrible friend for letting such a small issue like me trying to sort out my life at the expense of Mr S's gambling life.
As it stands I haven't paid Mr S back, I still owe a small amount to Angel but am paying her back and I've taken a new job at my local Maccies to insure I do. I'm still looking for more clients to do film work with to get my team into the swing of it. Hopefully we do get more work as I have a wonderful team and I want them to get work with me and make a very successful future for us all. I'm looking into getting a start up business grant from the UK government as well so we can go forward properly as well.
So AITA for cutting Mr S out of the business, trusting him at all and risking so much on his word or for not paying him back the £200?
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For all you reading/listening this short novel I thank you and I wish you well. I hope I get more business soon and I want everyone to know that we will be posting up Patreon work soon covering Entitled People and Neckbeard Stories from Reddit along with Documentaries that we might be making with Sky TV, English Heritage and also a planned comedy show in the style of a budget John Oliver Last Week Tonight. Again sorry for plugging myself Lady Charlotte Dobre and I send you love and respect because your videos make my days feel better when depression is biting my ass.
PS - That Ice Cream Tub didn't survive.