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So shes fucking her boss. She developed feeling for him over the last few months and decided that she felt happier with him. It's still only a few days in.
That being said. She's the only girl I've ever truly loved. She came from a horrible background, and mine not to much better. I feel like we saved eachother and we've been together for 6 years. I want her to be happy..... With me.
I've told her that if she can come back from the ledge I am more than happy to do counseling together, to find what we lost. I would love that. But after talking to a few of her friends who seem disgusted by what she did, I have this desire to call everyone she knows, family, friends, co-workers, and make it so that she had no safe space.
On the other hand, I know that doing something that drastic will essentially destroy any chance that I have of ever getting back together with her, which at this point in time I still want so fucking badly. I go to bed and smell her on the blankets. I walk around the apartment and look at the pictures of us. I look at her name in my contacts and I just want nothing more than to call her. I miss her so much.
What do I do?

Sukihana, an artist, recorded a song called "Selling Coochie." The genitalia of women are called "coochie" in terms of slang. The lyrics make you think however it's not certain what it is exactly, and can be used in various ways. "Selling Coochie" by Sukihana is a captivating video with enthralling visuals and ferocious words you should not miss. Go watch it right now! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VdmhycmORKE

I applied for my wife’s settled status, it’s been two months and still haven’t heard from them. I called them and they said there is currently no time limit as to how long it can take to make a decision. Has anyone faced or is facing a similar issue?

Quote of the Day: "Nothing makes one feel so strong as a call for help."

I'll keep this short because I'm not a good story teller. Recently me and my friend (lets call him Jack) have been hanging out more and more. We hit the gym everyday and run together all the time. The one thing is that he acts really gay around me and I'm not sure if that he's into me or if its just apart of his personality. A week ago he stayed over my house and it got dark outside so I told him he could stay the night over even though we didn't have a spare bed or couch so I let him sleep with me. We stayed up watching movies and got to a point where we got tired and where it got strange. He asked me if it's ok if he sleeps in his own boxers, and I said that I didnt care, but he told me I had to do it to if he was going to because it would make him "uncomfortable" to be in underwear alone. So we both stripped to our underwear and no shirts, I didnt think it was weird at first until I woke up to him spooning me and I could feel that he was hard as a rock. Now, I dont know if he unintentionally did that but it weirded me out. Yesterday was the day I was convincing myself that he was gay, after a long day of working out and training we went to this lake when it was dark and no one was around. We decided to swim but we had no trunks on only towels, so he suggested to skinny dip and I kept saying no but he pushed me to do it. I stripped down and we swam in the water for about two minutes before we were freezing, we ran out of the water and dried ourselves off. He then asked to see my cock because I kept boasting that I had the biggest cock, so I agreed. On the count of 3 we both turned around and flashed each other and he was hard asf, so I started laughing because it started to become awkward. He also like grabbing my ass and touching me. I'm very close with him and I don't want to lose this relationship. What should I do and should I ask him if he's gay or not? Should I pressure him?

Hi!
I always liked music, any kind really but I always struggled to memorize all the different artists, titles, even sometimes music types..
And it's even worse with classical music ! See, not only I'm not very good with memorization, but I also am not a musician *at all*, and remembering the names of classical musics is really tough for me, but not worry, I'm now finally using spotify and and wanted to create a classical music playlist (I also want to precise that I'm not ACTUALLY 100% sure what really is defined as classical music, to me, the planets of gustav holst are classical musics, but maybe I'm wrong and it has another name ? Idk). So I have a couple-three questions :
1- The 'Duet of Flowers, Lakmé' : what 'kind' of music it is ? Is it simply called opera duet ?
2-Do you have a great playlist of classical songs that EVERYONE know, on spotify ? Surely I must be bad at researching things on this app, I just can"t find one where, you know, all the classics of classics are here
3-I love Nepture, Jupiter, from Holst, Gollum's Song from Lotr (idk what kind of music it is, but to my very poor knowledge, I'd call it kind of a classic song), La mer, L.109 II/Arabesques of Claude Debussy, Erik Satie gymnopédies and gnossiennes aaaaaaaand here goes my problem : My memory fails me to remember anymore musics of the kind I like...
In some words, here are the things I'm looking for ; classical musics that are enchanting, peaceful and/or powerful in a peaceful manner (If that makes sense), angelic, nostalgic
Sorry for my ESL skills, must've been shit to read and maybe hard to understand easily, sorry for that, but thanks to any answers :)

It seems like since he’s essentially certain to play, Kohli’s batting position will largely determine the make-up of India’s XI. 6-11 is pretty much confirmed, with Siraj and Chahal likeliest to sit out, given their expensive form of late, and tendency to do the same in T20Is. So it is mainly the top 5 which Kohli’s batting position will determine, the main debates being Samson vs Pant and Jaiswal vs Dube (however, see below for a more out-there option)
If Kohli opens, which is what many people have been justifiably pushing for, then it will be with Rohit, so Surya will follow at 3. For the keeper-batter, Samson is a better bet at 3 or 4, and Pant at 5 or 6. So in this case, it will be Samson. This will mean Dube slots in at 5
1) So the line-up if Kohli opens would be: Rohit, Kohli, Surya, Samson, Dube, Hardik, Jadeja, Axar, Kuldeep, Arshdeep, Bumrah
6-8 is interchangeable, especially since Jadeja > Axar > Hardik in batting this IPL, also Arshdeep could come head of Kuldeep, if ever needed to tonk a few
However, if Kohli bats at 3, then it will be Jaiswal opening with Rohit, and Surya will follow Kohli at 4. This means Pant could well get the nod over Samson at 5, which many may argue is undeserved. Dube will likely miss out, given he is best off in the top 5, where he can primarily focus on dominating spinners. Similarly, Jaiswal over Dube may not be the fair call
2) So the line-up if Kohli bats at 3 would be: Rohit, Jaiswal, Kohli, Surya, Pant, Hardik, Jadeja, Axar, Kuldeep, Arshdeep, Bumrah (again lower part is interchangeable, as explained above)
The only alternative, out-of-the-box option is still having Kohli at 3, but playing both Dube and Jaiswal, going very batting-heavy and leaving out either Hardik or Axar instead. Although perhaps unfair, Hardik is likelier to stay even in this case, due to the need for enough overs of seam, and he is also the selected VC. Again, it would likely have to be Pant over Samson, this time at 6. This option leaves the batting order a little lopsided, and it will also be difficult to rely on Hardik and Dube as the 5th and 6th bowlers
3. The line-up here would be: Rohit, Jaiswal, Kohli, Surya, Dube, Pant, Hardik, Jadeja, Kuldeep, Arshdeep, Bumrah (lower part interchangeable)
To me, it seems that the first option is overall clearly better than the second and third. Kohli is probably best off opening like in this IPL, where he can dominate in the powerplay, and it also allows Surya to face as many balls as possible too. Then the spin-hitters and later the seam-hitters can come in and dominate the rest of the innings. Importantly, Samson and Dube are arguably more deserving of starting than Pant and Jaiswal respectively
So of the 13 main candidates, the XI that gets selected will be greatly determined by Kohli’s batting position. It basically settles the few main debates: Samson vs Pant and Jaiswal vs Dube (or AxaHardik if going batting-heavy). As I said, I’d go with the first line-up, with Kohli opening. What do you guys think?

^{I wish-} there could be less drama.
^{I wish} you would go back and read what you've said to me and see what I've done in comparison.
I ^wish you could act empathetically and with care/caution as if my feelings mattered a bit.
I'm asking for you to be LESS egotistical. You don't see how it makes you blind, not just to me but to risks, bad decisions, and outside threats. "Pride comes before the fall."
With this ego issue, you don't know how or when to make nice. That's the missing element of a disagreement: You lash out and have to make nice. That's always been brushed aside; if it's mentioned, you get nasty. Why are you avoiding mediating the pain you cause?
I tried my best to live up to your image of me for as long as I could. I always stayed faithful in my heart to the decisions I made. If I acted, it was with the information I had then and nothing more. If my decisions were wrong or miscalculated, it was because my information was limited and I made best call I could, not because I was some bad/scheming person.
If you disagreed with my "nefarious" actions, I don't really care about your judgment on that move. It was about maximizing the good in that situation and protecting two people, not just one. Anyway, proof of a good decision is that it's sorted between you two now, right? There was no massive fallout.
ANOTHER ISSUE:
When I'm down and weak, you point, laugh, or find it annoying, pick at me, and then make me weaker. It's paralyzing. NOW- when you're down and weak, I play Governess. Why do you do the reverse of nurture and attack when I'm down; isn't that predatory? Is that how you truly feel?
You forget how I acted when I barely knew you. I saw you at your lowest. Naked, showering without a shower curtain, I kept your thoughts in check and suggested how to make blanket nests without a mattress. Along with everything else. THRU your tears, THRU your mindtrips, THRU your rage.
I had your fucking back. I found it bonding. It forced me to see how I truly felt about you. Which was that I cared.
So, what about you? Did you have my back when I was just as shaken up mentally four days ago? Did you feel drawn closer to me through your care?
NAH. We both know you acted sarcastic, rolled your eyes, and just acted disgusted with my "weakness". That's a GLARING fucking problem for me. You can have your problems with me- that one is MINE.
I fucking miss you, I miss what I still see/know is there, but its obscured by shit that, unfortunately- tells me I'm gonna keep getting hurt. I'm not trying to "Come back" or "resolve" none of this power play SHIT. I just want to know you HEARD me. That's all.

Our cat India is 18 and has early stage IV kidney failure. I couldn’t bring myself to ask our vet what this meant in terms of life expectancy, but from what Google tells me, this probably means she has a few months left. The illness is mostly managed with renal food (she eats and drinks ok) as vet and I agreed other treatment such as IV fluids would be too stressful for her.
She is almost completely blind and is now also starting to pee and poop in random places. She has been treated for UTIs but the last set of antibiotics didn’t seem to have any effect so I’m wondering if it’s behavioural/dementia. She spends a lot of time wandering around crashing into things.
Our vet said to think of her fave three things to do and if she could do 2 of them then she has a decent qualify of life. Those three things would be sleeping with us on our bed, getting cuddles with us while we watch TV or work from home, and spending time in our enclosure soaking up the sun.
But the toilet issues have got to the stage where we’re looking at keeping her in a bathroom for hygiene reasons instead of giving her free range of the house. We’ll try and make it as nice as possible for her with bedding and a heater, and will visit for cuddles, but she’ll still probably hate it as she wants to be with us.
She’s already been banned from our bedrooms due to peeing, so that one is out, plus it’s now winter so too cold for her to enjoy time outdoors on a regular basis. So it’s maybe 1.5 things out of 3 and that’s being generous.
My husband thinks we should make the call to put her down but I feel like we would be doing it for our own convenience and I would hate myself if I did it. Even just thinking about it makes me cry.
I don’t know what to do.

So this guy and I have been talking for about three weeks. The first couple weeks that we started talking, he was a perfect gentleman. He took me out on dates and paid for every single date, Wouldn’t let me touch the car door etc. Very chivalrous guy.
After he showed a pattern of being very chivalrous and romantic, I decided to show him some reciprocity, and I invited him over to my apartment where I provided a meal and refreshments and we watched a show together. I did this just to show him that I liked him and to reward his generosity towards me. I also wanted to show him that I was appreciative of the times where he took me out and never once asked me to pay. Sometimes women use guys for free food and I just wanted to show him that that’s not the reason I was continuing to see him and that I actually enjoyed his company.
After this, we got into the habit of hanging out at my apartment together. He started coming over more and things progressed between us physically. We haven’t had sex, but we definitely fooled around a little bit if you know what I mean.
Anyways, fast-forward to this week. Because he noticed that chipotle was one of my favorite places to eat, when we first started talking he told me that if I was ever craving chipotle that he’s got me and I just have to let him know. So I figured that I would take him up on that because I had a bunch of meal prep in my fridge that I just really wasn’t excited about, so I figured I would just ask.
So I called him, and I asked him if he could cash app me for some chipotle, and he had a super odd reaction and basically told me that it was wild of me to ask him to cash app me for chipotle. I asked him why this was wild. He said that he was open to buying me food if we were on a date or if he was physically present, but that he wasn’t comfortable just sending me money for food. I was genuinely confused on what the difference would be in terms of paying for food for me when he’s physically there vs giving me money for the same food?
I say this because there have been times where we were at the gym together and when we finished working out and we both drove to chipotle and he paid. So I didn’t understand why giving me the money and me picking it up for myself was so drastically different. I also knew that he was busy so I didn’t want him to have to go and physically pick it up. That’s why I just asked him to cash app me.
Anyways, here’s where I feel like I personally messed up and I feel like I could’ve phrased it a lot better so I definitely do acknowledge that but basically when I saw how he reacted, I said something along the lines of “it’s wild of me to request you to cash app me for chipotle but it’s not wild of you to ask me to get on my knees and…….” ( You can use your imagination lol )
But yeah, basically he got super upset and felt like I was throwing that in his face and we’re currently not talking anymore because I said that. I do feel like I could’ve phrased it a lot better. I guess what I was trying to say in a roundabout way was that if we have been being intimate (to a certain extent) and I’ve been giving you access to my body (to a certain extent) why is it wild or weird for me to ask you to cash app me for food? Why would you make me feel weird about that? I definitely do take accountability for the way that I went about communicating that though I didn’t necessarily have to use that specific instance of intimacy between us to make that point.

So, I posted this theory a while back but it seems that most people didn’t read through it due to it being too long. So here I am back again with my best to briefly summarize the theory with the major points of evidence from the comics that I have found. It’s still going to be a lot but, hopefully, this will help get the broad idea across. Then if you have any specific points you can hopefully find them answered in the sections beneath it.
For context, you only need to read the Basic Premise section to get the basic gist of the theory, all the remaining sections are where I outline the evidence to support it.
~Basic Premise~

Nightcrawler is the Winding Way is basically the idea that X-Men’s Nightcrawler got his soul ripped in half when he was a child by his adopted mother – Margali Szardos – who used the magical half of Kurt’s soul to form the source of her power, the Winding Way.
Nightcrawler would have inherited this magical power from Azazel, who he is still technically biologically related to, as well as potentially the combination of genes from Mystique, Destiny, and Baron Wagner.
Amanda Sefton – after seeing Margali use Illyana’s Soul-Sword to obtain power in the Winding Way, took over Limbo to study it before fusing it with Kurt’s soul in the hopes of being able to use the Soul-Sword to undo her mother’s work and restore Kurt to being whole again.
Ultimately, Destiny gave the baby Kurt to Margali knowing full well she would do this to him to hide his true power from Enigma (the Nathaniel Essex that became a Dominion), who she had Kurt concieved in order to defeat.
Additionally, she told Margali of a prophecy about a Soul-Sword falling into Margali’s hands knowing that Margali would attempt to steal Belasco’s Soul-Sword, that Belasco would turn his attention to Nightcrawler to steal that magical power for herself which would result in Illyana being kidnapped by Belasco after he gave up trying to steal the power from Kurt and thus create said Soul-Sword as well as – eventually – the Hope-sword.

~Part 1 – Margali Szardos is the Worst Adoptive Mother of All Time~
Margali Szardos is a powerful witch in Marvel comics who has shown being particularly hungry for magical power – doing everything from manipulating her daughter, Amanda Sefton, into getting her Illyana’s Soul-Sword so that she could use it in a killing spree to obtain magical power from her victims (Excalibur #85), to attempting to steal the power of a demon living under London nearly destroying it in the process (Excalibur #100), to forcibly mind-swapping with her daughter to save herself leaving Amanda to be tortured by Belasco (revealed X-Men: Unlimited #19), opening a magical rift to the World Beyond to obtain its power which forced her daughter to sacrifice herself to close it (4^th Nightcrawler series #1-4), to finally selling Nightcrawler out to ORCHIS to obtain the Hope-sword that was lodged in Kurt’s chest (Legion of X #7-10).
All of these villainous actions raise an important question – why did Margali adopt Nightcrawler? After all, it’s not like Margali went around adopting children – only Nightcrawler. In fact, outside of Kurt, the only other child that Margali has ever displayed an interest in obtaining was a young Scarlet Witch (Mystic Arcanum: Scarlet Witch) which is concerning given just how magically powerful Scarlet Witch is.
This all points to the idea that Margali only took Kurt in because she got something out of it – very likely magical power. This wouldn’t be nearly so concerning if Margali Szardos wasn’t also the Sorceress Supreme of one of the most mysterious and unexplained magical systems in all of Marvel.
~Part 2 – The Winding Way is WIERD~
So, I’m just going to come out and say it - the Winding Way makes no sense in the current understanding of magic in Marvel Comics. Even characters like Dr. Strange – one of Marvel’s masters of magic – has basically no idea how the Winding Way actually operates. There is a data page in Legion of X #9 that outlines the basics of what the Winding Way is and how it operates.
According to the data page, the Winding Way is an exocentric magic system – that is to say a form of magic that is powered by an external source to the user – which its various wielders experience cycles of power and powerlessness. As far as characters like Strange are aware, it remains unclear if there is a physical “Way” or if that is simply metaphor.
The strange thing about the Winding Way is that there is no other magical system in Marvel where this cycle of users having powers and being powerless is even a thing. Whenever an exocentrically powered sorcerer loses their powers, it is always a form of punishment. This is true with Dr. Strange when he lost 99% of his powers back during the War of the Seven Spheres story. This is true with Juggernaut who loses his powers whenever he and Cyttorak – the entity that powers the crimson gem that Juggernaut uses for his powers. It’s even true for someone like Thor and his hammer. No where else in Marvel is there a system of magic where cycles of power is a thing.
All of this raises the question of whether the fluctuating cycles of power the Winding Way are actually a natural part of the Winding Way or whether they due to something else – like, say the power source of the Winding Way trying to continuously punish the various practitioners but being unable to due to their attention being split up.
Ultimately, the only truth that we can glean about the Winding Way is that nobody but the practitioners of the Winding Way ultimately know how it works and even then, characters like Margali and Amanda have proven time and again that their word cannot be trusted.
~Part 3 – the Szardos Family, Cthon, & Wundagore Mountain~
Interestingly, a different Sorcerer Supreme Sgt. Sebastian Szardos – the Sorcerer Supreme of World War II – has his own insights about the Winding Way, though they are rather vague. Firstly, in the 8^th series of Avengers #50, Sebastian claims that the Winding Way has ties with Mt. Wundagore – which was famously the tomb of Cthon before Scarlet Witch absorbed him. This seems to suggest that the Winding Way originates either via Cthon or his creation – the Darkhold.
What is more interesting is that the Winding Way doesn’t seem to be practiced during the time of the Second World War as Sgt. Szardos states that only his great grandmother on his mothers side even knew about the Winding Way – Sebastian himself clearly wasn’t a practicing member. This is peculiar as Margali Szardos demonstrates an unusual amount of familiarity with the position of Sorcerer Supreme in Uncanny X-Men Annual #4 when she stole the Eye of Agamotto off of Dr. Strange with a mere gesture. Given that Sebastian and Margali share the last name and Sebastian was a known former Sorcerer Supreme while Margali – as far as I can tell – has never been, this would seem to suggest that there is some sort of familial connection between Margali and Sebastian. This in turn seems to suggest that the Winding Way experienced some sort of revival with Margali.
My theory is that the Winding Way started out as a sort of ritual that originated with the Darkhold and was initially practiced by the Szardos family over the centuries to siphon power off of Cthon to keep him in check and imprisoned - hence why there are other Szardos clan members such as Theodosia as shown in that run of Avengers. This would mean that if my theory of Nightcrawler being the Winding Way is true, then it would mean that he is only the current source of the Winding Way.
~Part 4 – Nightcrawler is still related to Azazel (and Azazel is a demon)~
Now a major aspect in this is that Nightcrawler is where exactly would Nightcrawler’s magical powers come from? After all, he’s the son of Mystique and Destiny – two mutants with no sort of magical capabilities, right? Well, that’s… complicated.
Firstly, it’s important to note that the X-Men Origins: Blue retcon is… frankly, not very well thought out. There are a bunch of things that it just gets plain wrong and contradict a bunch of previously established X-Men lore – everything from the fact that Destiny would have been too old to give birth to Nightcrawler, to Rogue’s age being way too young (she was adopted by D&M when she was 13 not 5), to the fact that Mystique canonically cannot mimic mutant x-genes - meaning Nightcrawler shouldn’t have teleportation with this retcon, and much, much more. On top of all that, the fact that the only evidence supporting the idea that it ever even happened is from Mystique and Destiny – two of Marvel’s most notorious liars – and you got yourself an extremely messy and rather dubious retcon.
Putting all that aside, going based on what the retcon has established there are a few ways in which Kurt might have inherited some sort of magical power.
Primarily, Kurt is still technically related to Azazel – yes, Mystique “mimicked” Azazel’s DNA in Kurt’s conception but given that in genetics it is the sequence of DNA that matters and not the source of that sequence, Mystique’s “Mimicked” DNA is still ostensibly Azazel’s DNA. Azazel is an established master of dark magic – specifically soul magic – and used to rule over a legit Hell Dimension during the time of Kurt’s birth – making him a legit hell lord similar to Mephisto or Dormammu. Given that Hell Lords are also considered the Sorcerer Supremes (as in the strongest) of their respective dimension, this would suggest that Azazel once held some major power, regardless of if he’s a demon or not. And as it has been established, magic is inheritable as shown with Clea (the daughter of Umar), Daimon Hellstrom (son of Marduk Kurios), and at least half the cast of Strange Academy, it would stand to reason that Nightcrawler could also inherit magical power from him.
Now, I know what you are saying – “But, Azazel isn’t a demon! Chuck Austen said so!” And while, yes, Chuck Austen has clearly gone on record to say that Azazel is only a demonic looking mutant instead of an actual demon, it’s been kind of invalidated by the thing that every other writer for Azazel – including the likes of Chris Claremont – have referred to Azazel as a demon at least once either on-panel or in interviews. And frankly, there’s nothing in the lore that says that Azazel cannot be both a demon and a mutant – after all, Magik is both a demon and a mutant at the same time. And let’s be real here, Chuck Austen doesn’t deserve nice things when it comes to the X-Men.
However, Azazel is not the only DNA that Mystique apparently mimicked – Baron Christian Wagner was also added onto that list for some reason. This is odd as why would Destiny and Mystique feel the need to include Baron Wagner at all in the genetic makeup of Nightcrawler unless there was something special about the Baron. However, the only uniquely genetic thing we learn about him is that he’s seemingly infertile – which may suggest that there is some sort of genetic anomaly going on with him, such as maybe a repressed X-gene.
~Part 5 – Amanda Sefton/Jimaine Szardos history in Marvel Comics~
Another aspect of this theory is that – if it is true – it suddenly explains a lot of what Kurt’s ex, Amanda Sefton has been doing in comics since she was first introduced in 1976. You see, Amanda Sefton followed Kurt back from Germany and began dating him under a different name – which Kurt was not aware of. She only reveals the truth after the events of Uncanny X-Men Annual #4. This unfortunately supports Kurt’s accusation in Uncanny X-Men #206 that Amanda used a spell to make Kurt fall in love with her to begin with – an accusation which Amanda has never confirmed nor denied.
Amanda’s peculiar behavior continued into Excalibur where she was manipulated by Margali into obtaining Illyana’s Soul-Sword from Kitty Pryde – who had previously given the Soul-Sword to Dr. Doom and then Darkoth, with it returning to her both times. Upon obtaining the Soul-Sword, Margali then used it to go on a killing spree against the other members of the Winding Way to obtain their power for herself. Following this, Margali’s failed attempt to steal the power of a demon beneath London, and Kurt and Margali rescuing Amanda from Belasco after Margali body-swapped with her daughter to save her own skin – Amanda ended up taking over Limbo, supposedly in the name of protecting earth.
However, then we have the smoking gun of Amanda’s meddling – during the 3^rd Nightcrawler solo series, it is revealed that Amanda fused the Soul-Sword with Nightcrawler without telling him. Her reason for doing so? “To protect the Soul-Sword from falling into the wrong hands.” This lie is so glaringly bad that not even Nightcrawler buys it and he calls Amanda out for not being honest with him.
~Part 6 – Amanda’s Bad Lie and What it Means~
And frankly why would anyone believe Amanda’s claim? Amanda is a sorceress – which means that she is infinitely more qualified than Nightcrawler to keep the Soul-Sword safe than he is. Even if she couldn’t do so, why didn’t she take the Soul-Sword to someone like Dr. Strange?
On top of that, Amanda took the Soul-Sword away from Kitty Pryde claiming that Kitty wasn’t qualified to keep the Soul-Sword safe due to her not being a trained sorceress. Well, guess who’s also not trained in sorcery and thus – by Amanda’s own logic - would not be able to keep the Soul-Sword safe? Nightcrawler.
Except, Kitty technically was able to keep the Soul-Sword out of the wrong hands – back during Excalibur #37 she phased the Soul-Sword into a rock which even Rachel Summers channeling the power of the Phoenix Force was not able to remove it from – it wasn’t removed until Doom came knocking and got Kitty to willingly remove it for him. So why couldn’t Amanda do something similar? Why fuse it with Kurt and endanger him?
And to top it all off, Amanda still needed the Soul-Sword. She was ruling over Limbo – a dangerous hell dimension full of power-hungry demons. Her magical powers are of the Winding Way – meaning that they wax and wane. So quite literally, Amanda needs the Soul-Sword – a weapon which every demon in Limbo fears – to keep herself in power; something which was proven in New X-Men #37 when Belasco walked back into Limbo and ousted her.
~Part 7 – Amanda took over Limbo to learn about the Soul-Sword~
So, what was Amanda really up to? Well, to understand Amanda’s actions in the 3^rd Nightcrawler series, we first need to go back to Amanda’s actions in previous series. What’s interesting is that Amanda’s interest in the Soul-Sword was first manifest through Margali – who reveals in Excalibur: Minus One that there is a prophecy that the Soul-Sword would pass first into Margali’s hands and then into Amanda’s hands but would result in both of their dooms.
However, Amanda doesn’t really demonstrate any sort of interest in the Soul-Sword until after Margali used it to obtain power in the Winding Way during Excalibur. While she didn’t get the opportunity to act after the events of Margali’s failed London project due to her mother mind-swapping with her, Amanda’s actions in taking over Limbo after X-Men: Unlimited #19 was more likely due to Amanda wanting to obtain and learn more about the Soul-Sword than about her trying to protect earth.
You see, as Limbo was in no position to even threaten earth until Belasco had obtained the Soul-Sword following Margali ending up there – meaning that if Amanda had simply obtained the Soul-Sword and left Limbo, Limbo would not have been able to endanger Earth. Instead, Amanda stayed. Why? Because if there was anywhere in the universe where you wanted to learn about a Soul-Sword and how it works, Limbo is the dimension to do so.
~Part 8 – Nightcrawler and Magik are… Soulmates?~
So, why did Amanda fuse the Soul-Sword with Nightcrawler? Well, ultimately because a major function of the Soul-Sword is that it can be used as a countercharm which can undo other spells – potentially meaning that Amanda could use it to undo the Winding Way and restore the two halves of Kurt’s soul back together again.
However, another aspect of the Soul-Sword is that it is dangerous to magical creatures and Kurt’s magical soul would already be weakened after years of being separated. Amanda must have figured that if she bonded the non-magical half of Kurt’s soul to the Soul-Sword would allow for her to bypass the more dangerous aspects of the Soul-Sword and allow her to restore Kurt.
And as a result of Amanda’s meddling, when a demonically possessed Pixie ripped the Soul-Sword out of Nightcrawler during X-Infernus, it left behind a void in Kurt’s Soul as established in Legion of X #10, which allowed for the Hopesword to later form. This also seemingly gave Illyana’s Soul-Sword a new ability to damage Techno-Organic beings which it did not possess before. This also means that Nightcrawler and Magik are… soul-mates(?) for the lack of a better term, as they are both bound together through the Soul-Sword after Amanda undid Illyana’s bond with Kitty, though this fact has never been established or confirmed in the comics.
~Part 9 – Destiny caused Magik to be kidnapped by Belasco~
Now, I noted in an earlier section that Margali’s fascination with the Soul-Sword was as a result of a prophecy – one that has at least partially come true. The prophecy as laid out during a flashback in Exalibur: Minus One was that the Soul-Sword would pass from into Margali’s hands and then Amanda’s but would result in both of their dooms. Illyana’s Soul-Sword was indeed obtained by Margali back in Excalibur #85 before she lost it to Belasco after falling to Limbo and the Soul-Sword was obtained again by Amanda after taking Limbo over in X-Men: Unlimited #19.
Now, this whole situation is peculiar as Margali herself is not a precog – outside of this one time, we never even hear her do anything similar ever again. However, we know that Destiny is a precog and we also know that she was the one who gave Kurt to Margali, as per the X-Men Origins: Blue retcon, meaning that this prophecy more than likely originates with Destiny. And really, this shouldn’t be a surprise – Mystique hinted at having some sort of a connection with Margali as far back as UXM #142 when she first met Nightcrawler, it was just never clarified what that connection was.
However, this prophecy would have been given to Margali before the Soul-Sword was ever made and before Illyana was even born, which means that either Destiny could predict Illyana being kidnapped by Belasco and creating the Soul-Sword as a result… or she caused Belasco to kidnap Illyana and create the Soul-Sword as a result.
Now, you may question how that’s even possible? After all, how could Destiny cause someone like Belasco to do something when the two haven’t even canonically met?
Well, for this, I would like to point out the unexplained animosity going on between Margali Szardos and Belasco. This is a rivalry that has been mentioned quite a few times – such as back in Excalibur: Minus One, X-Men: Unlimited #19, and the 3^rd Nightcrawler series. For some unexplained reason, Margali Szardos and Belasco have a lot of enmity for one another.
So, what’s the cause of this rivalry? Well, during the Dark Web event, Mary Jane Watson and Black Cat were captured by Belasco and sent to retrieve his Soul-Sword – which, as it is explained in the story is something that Belasco could not potentially use up until the events of Dark Web.
So here’s an idea – what if Destiny didn’t specify which Soul-Sword would end up in Margali’s hands, causing Margali to immediately assume that she was talking about Belasco’s (as that would have been the only one in existence at that point) and try to steal it from him.
This then drew Belasco’s attention and caused him to realize that Nightcrawler was somehow the source of Margali’s powers. This would be why Belasco even had his eyes on the X-Men to begin with and why there was a soulless Nightcrawler back in the original Magik series – Kurt was Belasco’s original target. However, the soulless Nightcrawler and Belasco’s obvious shift in attention to Illyana clearly points to the idea that whatever experiments Belasco tried to use to obtain that magical power from Kurt, it only ended in disaster – causing him to turn to Illyana as a replacement.
~Part 10 – the Big Picture… stopping Enigma~
So, if Destiny was ultimately the cause behind all of this – from orchestrating Kurt’s birth, to handing him off to Margali, to telling Margali the prophecy about the Soul-Sword, what is it all ultimately for?
Well, what it is almost certainly not for is the given answer of defeating Azazel. Simply put, Azazel has never been so major of a threat that creating a super special prophecy child was needed. Heck, he was killed in Dark X-Men by the demonic version of Nightcrawler, so how difficult would it have been for Mystique and Destiny to do it? No, Azazel’s defeat was a bonus that Irene used to justify Kurt’s birth to Raven, not the focus.
Ultimately, there’s only one answer as to who Kurt was conceived to stop – Enigma. The original Nathaniel Essex who transcended space and time and who Irene knew to be an existential threat to all Mutantkind.
This answer even explains some of Irene’s other past actions, such as why she was involved with the Black Womb project – yes, she was keeping an eye on Sinister, but she was also learning as much about the mutant x-gene in preparation for Kurt’s birth.
It also explains why she handed Kurt over to Margali at all – the Winding Way is described in the datapages of Legion of X as being something akin to a No-Place – something that Enigma and other Dominions famously have trouble seeing into. Thus, by hiding Kurt’s magical half in the No-place until the time was right and creating the means by which to release him from that prison, Destiny ensures Enigma’s defeat.
Or does she? Because as far as the current X-Men comics have been going, there is nowhere near the development needed to have my theory take place. At this point, only the Hopesword is established which begs the question of whether the Winding Way is meant to be the thing to stop Enigma or if the Hopesword is. As of this point in X-Men Forever (2024) #4, the Hopesword is what was needed to stop Enigma… for some reason. So far, all that the sword has accomplished is being handed off from Kurt to Exodus to Hope… who was then killed by the Phoenix and sent the Hopesword back to Kurt. We’ll have to wait and see if anything else comes of it.
Personally though, I kind of like the idea that everything Destiny did in orchestrating the creation of the Hopesword and/or the Winding Way was kind of a pointless thing in the end. It’s kind of poignant for Destiny’s character – being the same woman who thought that killing Senator Kelly would prevent the Days of Future’s Past Timeline when she was in fact going to cause that very timeline to happen – to have all her manipulations and schemes to create this weapon against the existential threat that Enigma presented… only to have that threat be dealt with in some other way, leaving Irene to deal with the consequences of her own actions and question whether it was worth putting Kurt through all of that. Maybe that’s just me though.
Conclusion
So yeah, that’s most of the evidence supporting this theory. There are a few other things – such as Margali potentially being the reason why Kurt was killed during Second Coming and potentially causing his mental break down during the Extraordinary X-Men story, but those are more auxiliary to these major points.
But yeah, let me know what you guys think down below. Do you think this theory is onto something or is it way off base?

My (ex)fiancé and I had been together for almost 6.5 years, engaged for almost 2.5. Over the last several months, my (ex)fiancé has sat me down to talk about our relationship about once a month. Before these conversations, he would shut down and barely speak to me for several days even when I would ask what was wrong. Then he would finally tell me he was ready to have a conversation and would express his frustrations with the relationship. By the time of our conversations, I would already be on the defensive from his recent behavior. I also generally do not receive feedback well. When he would try to tell me that he was unhappy in our relationship because I didn't compliment him enough, flirt with him enough, or tell him I loved him enough, I would shut down. I was not able to hear what he was really trying to tell me. Instead, I put up a wall and told him to love me for who I am. I basically asked him "If I'm happy in our relationship despite my frustrations, why can't you be?" I now realize that is not an appropriate or healthy response when your partner is trying to communicate with you.
I did try to hear him. I gifted him some lingerie for the first time and let him take a boudoir photo shoot of me wearing it. I started sending a few more cute messages. I tried to make more time to cuddle with him when he would ask. I tried to give him more hugs. I tried to thank him more for picking up around the house. I wrote him a cute letter and surprised him with a few gifts for Easter. However, about a month ago, we had another one of those conversations. Except this time the first things he brought up were 'wondering what else is out there' and talking about how other girls are always complimenting him. Again came the walls and extra defensiveness. I ended up writing him a letter talking about how I didn't know if I could ever be what he wanted me to be and that maybe he should think about calling things off. This was obviously a defense mechanism to try to beat him to the punch line and talk about a self-fulfilling prophecy. Three weeks later he would sit me down and tell me he wanted to know what else was out there again and that he didn't know if he could go through with marrying me. My efforts did not feel like enough for him and I understand why. I was having a hard time connecting my emotions with my actions which made my actions seem reactionary and not genuine or provoked by love.
I have been through a lot more trauma in my life than I realized. My dad was in the Navy while I was growing up. We had to move every three years. A very pivotal point in my life was when we moved when I was in the 6th grade. I lived right next door to my best friend. I was finding my love for math and theater. I also played soccer and was a Girl Scout. When we moved, I became very depressed, though I didn't understand that's what it was at the time. I stopped all of my extracurricular activities. I stopped getting too close to people because I knew I would have to move or they would have to move eventually. I mostly stayed in my room and kept to myself, even from my family. I also have struggled with anxiety for as long as I can remember. Then, in my senior year of high school, I got my first-ever boyfriend. We were in a relationship for over 4 years. In that relationship, I would always be the one to try to talk about our problems. I would be the one who would always want longer hugs and more cuddles. But it was not a healthy relationship. We broke up and got back together many times. I found several illicit texts to other girls on multiple occasions and he would always gaslight me by saying his younger brother stole his phone or I misinterpreted the messages. I think this caused me not to want to show my emotions because it wasn't reciprocated and resulted in heartache. Then, three years ago my younger brother died in a tragic car accident at the age of 17.
When I realized I could lose the love of my life, I realized that he was right about me not being affectionate enough. I had built up walls to protect myself. I thought I had made progress on my anxiety and depression, but I realized I was wrong. I also realized that I have issues with communication, trust, and vulnerability. I was a great partner in other ways and I did express my love in other ways. I moved across the country, coast to coast, with him to a state where I didn't know anyone so that he could attend his dream school. I take care of the household. I get the majority of the groceries. I do all of the cooking. I do all of the maintenance cleaning. I take care of our 2 cats and 1 dog. I say all of those in the present tense because we currently still live together but are sleeping in separate rooms. I also financially supported him by lending him money and letting him pay less of the rent because I made more money. I accept all of him including that he has terrible time management skills, he can have a hard time controlling his emotions at times, and he is disorganized and messy. I also accepted that I would have to wait for marriage and children because of his school and accepted that he did not have a lot of free time between school, work, and his hobbies. I supported his love for his hobbies by accepting his purchasing of expensive equipment even when he owed me money, traveling to watch several events that were important to him, and traveling to see him win an award from his job. I would write heartfelt cards for every holiday. I also bought him dozens of children's books about love that I wanted us to read to our children one day.
When I realized I could lose him, I felt something change inside me. It was like I could feel a hole being blown in the wall I had built up. I felt all my love for him overwhelm me. I couldn't hug him, kiss him, or tell him I love him enough. I tried to talk to him to apologize for my behavior and how badly I'd hurt him. I tried to explain how I felt like a different person and how I really wanted to work hard on improving myself as a partner to make our relationship work. I tried to prove my words with actions. I wrote a list of things I needed to work on including communication and being more affectionate. I also wrote out a list of ways to work on those things and actually started doing the things on the list. Some of the items I had already begun to do like hug and kiss him more and tell him I love him more. I also tried to ask more questions about his interests/hobbies/day. I was more vulnerable and talked with him about my feelings more. I even initiated intimacy, something I had really only done once in a blue moon when I was intoxicated.
Despite all of my efforts, over the next two weeks, he continued to say he did not know if he could be with me and wanted to know what else was out there. He was very wavering and said multiple times "I don't know what the right decision is." He said he could not trust that my changes would last and that it was probably too late. I begged him to try couples therapy, but he refused and said "Therapy takes too long" and basically said it wasn't worth the time. He finally broke up with me after 2 weeks of going back and forth and I was devastated. He later talked to a mutual friend of ours and changed his mind about therapy. I was so happy to hear that he had changed his mind. However, now I feel like I can't even trust him anymore. He's turning into a person I don't recognize and I don't know what he's capable of anymore. I don't know if the man I love still exists. When he told me he was now agreeable to try therapy he said "We're still broken up, but I won't talk to any other girls." and then promptly said "And it will give me more time to find a place to live if things don't work out." He deleted several Instagram posts that had photos of me after he agreed to try therapy which makes me think he's not actually that open to healing our relationship. He complained to me about how he might have to take out student loans after I told him he needed to pay me for half of the rent while we're broken up and not decreased rate he had been paying me. He also "checked on me" on the night of the 3rd year anniversary of my brother's death when he heard me crying. Then he just sat on the end of the bed scrolling his phone while I cried as if he was checking on me because he felt like he had to and not because he wanted to. When I asked him if he had some sort of deadline in mind for the therapy, because he had previously mentioned that it takes too long, he said July or August and I have a suspicion that is because a girl he likes is leaving for summer break but will be back at the end of August for the next semester.
I just feel like the way he has been acting is not how you act towards someone you were in a relationship with for almost 6.5 years. Especially after saying you still love them and have no negative feelings towards them. That means even though you don't think you are a good relationship match, you should still want to treat them with respect. You should care that they are hurting during this time. You should want to comfort them in their grief of a separate event. You should mean it if you say you want to try therapy.
TL; DR : Do you think therapy will help?

I wanted to do some experimenting with my build. I think you'd call me a hybrid build but my cards are 100% focused on GC, nothing health related. Ever since the invaders update my CPM had been effected pretty bad, thinking it was just a speed bump with the changes. I went nearly full damage since my runs were WAY shorter with just a health build.
During peak CPM between wave 2500 to 3000 on T10 I was happy to get 1.5B/min with the occasional 2B/min.
I reduced my range to the minimum and replaced my range card with extra orbs. Range previously was 225m. After making this change, I am seeing a reliable 3.8B/min to 4.5B/min at the same wave range on T10.
With BH and the coin bot covering more area, it's a HUGE difference.

So I went to Great Adventure today and used my points over the years to get a free large drink. But as usual in the beginning of the season, the new workers have no clue how to redeem them. I don't get upset or annoyed at that and try to explain. Its like they have no clue that exists. I'm at Granny's Kitchen and even the supervisor doesn't know, so his boss comes and gives them. It stays unredeemed on my card but I get my drink, one on my account and redeem one for my wife.
Well, I try to use another redeemed voucher at Mama Flora's to not give the staff here another headache, and they just outright refuse a supervisor and say they won't take it and they dont serve large drinks anymore! So I go to Customer Service and they get annoyed at me too, telling me to call a supervisor anytime I want to use it, telling me I can only use it once a year even if I redeem 2+ of them (that is a scam and makes no sense lol), wont say why the staff has no clue by answering "I cannot say why", and after getting annoyed saying "Im trying to redeem a coupon I already used" I redeemed another one and the worker got angry and told me to go to the Funnel Cake place and ended it there. They did it asap no issues.
I don't get it. I wasn't being aggressive either, but being called almost a scammer or stealing by redeeming it twice and trying to keep me away from using my points is just wrong. I hope staff sees this or changes policy. And a warning to others.

I'm filling out the application and there is a question asking if anything has ever had an adverse effect on my education.
I have a condition called cluster headaches. They are the most painful of all types of headaches, known as the 'suicide headaches' because the suicide rate is high for people that are afflicted with it, and some research studies claim it is the most severe pain condition to affect humans.
Luckily, mine isn't one of the most severe cases. Some people have it 24/7. For me, every year, there is a period of 1-2 months where I get them both daily and nightly, lasting all day and night making me feel like I'm dying and having a brain aneurism. After this period of 1-2 months, they disappear completely until the next year.
When I have these periods of cluster headaches, my life goes downhill. No gym, barely eat, can't go to work, and my grades go down. For example, I was taking a genetics class and for the first exam, I got the highest score of the class. I had already taken my DAT so most of it was easy for me. But, halfway through the class, in which I had an A+, I had one of the most severe bouts of cluster headaches I've ever experienced, and I barely scraped by with a C as my final grade in the class.
I'm not sure if I should mention this on my application. I don't want them to think that this will affect my ability to pass dental school. But it's also something that I am proud of being able to get the GPA I got and the DAT score I got despite this condition.

I have had an account since I was 16 with navy federal. I also owe them 13.5k, just myself no cosingers on an unsecured on a credit card.
I also have a savings and checking account with them. Apart from some subscriptions on the checking account totaling I believe 30$ the account sits pretty low, savings been 0 for years.
My Dad was the one who opened the account with me when I was a minor, he’s been on there since as a joint owner.
He can see my broke checking and savings and occasionally will message me when it goes low balance because he can see it on his app as well as receive notifications.
I know navy federal might freeze my account and display a notice on my account, I am wondering if he will see it as well because technically I think they’ll be looking at all my accounts, which also show on his bank app.
For clarification he can only see my checking and savings account, not the credit card because I opened that alone but I believe even people who only have checking and savings accounts receive that notice on the application and website once navy federal receives the notification that you filed.
I am trying to get him to sign the voluntary release of the account ownership, but I am meeting with my lawyer Friday to sign and don’t know if getting him to do that from across the country and submit it when he’s also busy and has bad service is realistic.
Has anyone dealt with this exact kinda weird situation before?
I called into navy federal to see all the options to remove him and it’s either this form being mailed or close the account and open a new checking/saving account and I don’t think I should make that decision without talking to my lawyer so I declined for now. Feels like that could look suspicious.
I know it sounds stupid but this is just embarrassing and I just want to keep him out of it if I can. He does all his banking for his buisness and stuff with them so I just don’t want him logging in multiple times a day and seeing that.

Not who I want to be.
I hate this about me. I'm always the one picking others up and dragging them.
I dance. I make jokes. I have fun. I'm usually told I'm the bright spark, the one creating a conducive environment.
It's all a front. And while the front can protect you, it can't save you. I tried so hard to find a lady friend to enjoy, even though I'm straight. And everything I do fails. And legitimately everything before - relationships and personal relationships have failed.
I have nothing. And I'm starting to feel hate again.
The worst part is that even though I fucking love the facade personality I put on, that golden person, I still always hate myself. I always will. If not for my ex calling me out I'd keep trying to do it. I wish I hadn't failed eight times. But again. I'm so fucking hateful.
All I ever wanted was to go home. I can't. Bad days come back, whatever I'll never find the atlas.
Anyway, I'll do the same Tomorrow.
Just so hateful
I'm out of my head, of my heart, and my mind. You can run but you can't hide.

Speech of Imam Ali (as) about the innovations of the first three Khalifas
Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father, from Hamaad Bin Isa, from Ibrahim Bin Usman, from Sulaym Bin Qays Al-Hilaly who said:
"The rulers before me (asws) acted in opposition to the Messenger (saww) of Allah (azwj) deliberately breaching the Covenant with him (saww) and altering his (saww) Sunnah. And if I (asws) had burdened the people on avoiding it, and turned it back to its place and to what is used to be in the era of the Messenger (saww) of Allah (azwj), my (asws) army would disperse from me (asws) to the extent that there would remain only myself (asws) or a few from my (asws) Shiites who recognise my (asws) ‘Fazilat’ (virtues). And my (asws) Imamate has been Obligated from the Book of Allah (azwj) Mighty and Majestic, and the Sunnah of the Messenger (saww) of Allah (azwj).*
Consider (what would happen) if I were to order for the Maqaam e Ibrahim (as) to be returned to its place where it was placed by the Messenger (saww) of Allah (azwj), and returned the (plantation of) Fadak to the inheritors of Fatima (asws), and returned to the ‘Sa’a’ (unit of measurement) to just as it was before, and execute the treaties which were made by the Messenger (saww) of Allah (azwj) for the people, which were never executed nor were those ever established, And return the house of Ja’far (as) to his (as) inheritors, and demolish it from the Masjid, and rescind the inequitable Judgements which were judged and remove the women who are under (married to) certain men without right and return them back to their husbands, and issue the order regarding the matrimony, and the orders regarding the captives of the Clan of Taghlub, and return what was distributed from the land of Khyber, and erase the register of gifts and give it out as the Messenger (saww) of Allah (azwj) used to give it out in an equitable manner and not make it to be distributed between the rich, and drop Al-Musahaat (currency), and equalise between the marriages, and enforce the Khums of the Messenger (saww) just as it had been Commanded by Allah (azwj) Mighty and Majestic and make it to be obligatory, And return the Masjid of the Messenger (saww) of Allah (azwj) to what it used to be, and shut what was in it from the doors, and open what has been closed in it, and prohibit the wiping (Masaah) upon the socks, and enforce the punishment upon the partaking of Al-Nabeedh (intoxicant), and make the two Mu’tah’s to be permissible, and order for the Takbeer over the dead body as five Takbeers, and necessitate the people to recite ‘In the Name of Allah (azwj) the Beneficent the Merciful’ aloud (in the Prayer), and throw out the one who has been included with the Messenger (saww) of Allah (azwj) in his (saww) Masjid the one whom the Messenger (saww) of Allah (azwj) had thrown out, and enter the one who had been thrown out after the Messenger (saww) of Allah (azwj) whom the Messenger (saww) of Allah (azwj) had included, And burden the people to the Commands of the Quran and upon the divorce to be in accordance with the Sunnah, and take the charities upon its types and its limits, and return the ablution and the (major) ablution and the Prayer to its prescribed times, and its laws and its places, and return the people of Najraan to their own places, and return the Persian captives, and the rest of the community to the Book of Allah (azwj) and the Sunnah of its Prophet (saww). By Allah (azwj), they would disperse from me (asws) if I (asws) were to order the people not to gather in the Month of Ramadhan except for the obligatory (Prayers) and make it known to them that their gathering for the optional Prayers (Nawaafil) is an innovation. So some of the people in my (asws) army would call out to the ones who are fighting alongside me (asws), ‘O people of Al-Islam! The Sunnah of Umar has been changed. He (asws) is preventing us from the optional Prayer in the Month of Ramadhan, and I (asws) had feared that there would be a revolt in a section of my (asws) army.*
What will be meted out from this community from the sectarianism and the obedience to the imams of the misguidance and their calling to the Fire if I (asws) were to give out from that the share of the near relatives about which Allah (azwj) Mighty and Majestic has Said:
“8:41
if you believe in Allah and in that which We revealed to Our servant, on the day of distinction, the day on which the two parties met”. So we (asws) are the ones Meant by the near relatives whom Allah (azwj) has Joined with Himself (azwj) and with His (azwj) Messenger (saww). So the High Said:
59:7 it is for Allah and for the Messenger, and for the near of kin and the orphans and the needy and the wayfarer, so that it may not be a thing taken by turns among the rich of you, and whatever the Messenger gives you, accept it, and from whatever he forbids you, keep back and be careful of Allah (of being unjust to the Progeny (asws) of Muhammad (saww)); surely Allah is severe in retributing (evil)” to the one who is unjust to them (asws).
(This is) a Mercy from Him (azwj) to us (asws) and a self-sufficiency by which Allah (azwj) has Made us (asws) to be self-sufficient with. And He (azwj) Bequeathed for it to His (azwj) Prophet (saww) and did not Make for us (asws) a share in the charity. Allah (azwj) Honoured His (azwj) Messenger (saww) and Honoured us (asws) the People (asws) of the Household, that He (azwj) should Feed us (asws) from the dirt of the people (charity). They belied Allah (azwj), and belied His (azwj) Messenger (saww) and fought against the Book of Allah (azwj) which Speaks of our (asws) rights, and prevented from us (asws) the obligation which Allah (azwj) has Obligated for us (asws). What has been meted out to us (asws) after our (asws) Prophet (saww), and Allah (azwj) is the Helper against the one who is unjust to us (asws), and there is no Might and no Power except by Allah (azwj) the High, the Magnificent’.*
Grading:
Allamah Baqir al-Majlisi: ضعيف على الشهور معتب عندي - Mir‘at al ‘Uqul Fi Sharh Akhbar Al al Rasul (5 / 130)
Rawdad al-Kafi, H21
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I struggle to understand my feelings with all of this beyond the general names of sadness, frustration, anger, and so much guilt. But here’s what I’ve got:
My father just retired from his very high pay, high stakes job and my mother is a housewife and has had major health issues for years(probably from abuse/anxiety/stress, maybe also eating/exercise disorders). She thought that after years, maybe decades, of him taking his job stress and snapping at her and getting loud to make her be quiet, that their relationship would be fine once he retired. It is not. They don’t comunicate, spend as little time in the same building as eachother as they can, and he still just yells to get his way. Which she still responds to by crying, panicking, and then secretly doing something destructive behind his back(trying to give the family dog that he loves to the pound).
I have had it with this pattern. And I am haunted by guilt because this frustration and anger is mostly with her. Logically I know my father is problematic, but I have a very positive relationship with him. We talk about the things we’ve been doing once a week and he listens to me without being judgemental. Most importantly he doesn’t involve me in their drama. Talking to my mom, however, has a 50/50 chance of ruining my day with guilt, anger, and sadness. I always say the wrong thing and I feel like I’m abusing her or giving the worst advise. Can’t suggest therapy, divorce, or learning to communicate better with him for the 500th time, she will shut down or twist it into me telling her to do something vindictive. My mother is a wall, a very depressing and depressed wall.
I feel so bad, I know my mom is so lonely and scared. But everyone is to infuriatingly stuck doing the same dumb things, mom won’t change, dad won’t change, and that just leaves me confronting my dad as the only untried solution.
Am I a bad person if I don’t? I like having his call each week, and honestly the thought of confronting him about anything makes my stomach drop. Mom doesn’t call anymore, so I call her every 1-2 weeks when the guilt gets to much, and I start on that same guilty note each time.

i got really lucky calling a bunch of pharmacies near me and finding one that happened to have 5mg in stock. i was on 15mg until i got laid off last october and i still had some left over that i stretched the doses to every 10 days until January. by March, my blood sugar went up despite being on metformin, so i was put on glimepiride to hold me over until the insurance at my new job kicked in.
it turns out i am allergic to glimepiride, but i had no other options so i took glimepiride and allegra together to be able to tolerate it even though glimepiride gives me really bad hives. i even regained some inflammation weight in a month
i'm happy to be back on 5g of mounjaro, even though it makes me so nauseous.

Hi Reddit,
I can’t believe I’m writing this post, but this has been on my mind for the past few months and I really need some external input. I need help to figure out if I’m in a toxic relationship, if there’s something I can do to fix it, if I’m over sensitive, or is it time for me to end this?
Context: I (M26) and my girlfriend (F25) have been together for 2.5 years, and known each other for 8 years. We both live in the U.S. but I’m from Europe and she’s from Central America, met in college. Issues started 2 years ago but when things are good she’s amazing (funny/beautiful/caring/makes me feel unconditionally loved/etc) and I always thought the issues were friction we could iron out together. With time I have grown increasingly skeptical of that. This is my first relationship (longer than 3 months) so at the same time I’m worried that maybe I am overly skeptical, that I only see my perspective and fail to see hers. I want to be fair to her, because I love her and care deeply for her as a person, I am just starting to resent the relationship.
History of issues: To me the issues are all centered in my girlfriends anxiety. Frequently, rather than being vulnerable, she projects her anxiety on me and accusing me of all kinds of things. I have both tried to shake off those moments, to recognize that this isn’t her but her anxiety talking, but it still affects me deeply. Not only when it occurs, but when I am doing something and she seems fine I still worry that maybe I will do something wrong and she will snap and this moment will turn to a life or death situation. I have also obviously communicated my concern over this behavior repeatedly, and every time after she takes things too far she apologizes and takes ownership and we come up with a strategy to avoid the issue from repeating. This all sounds very healthy, I think, but the problem is that we’ve had these issues and conversations 25+ times and here we still are. Some things have gotten better for sure but it still feels unbearable to me. Let me provide three examples to illustrate our issues (from my perspective).
Example 1 - 1.5 years ago: My best friend and I were victims of attempted robbery from people affiliated with organized crime, the event went to court, and after the trial we wanted to get away from everything. My girlfriend and I had planned to go to a Caribbean island shortly after, so I invited my friend to come a week before my girlfriend and leave the day she arrived. We were both pretty shaken up and just wanted to talk things out and enjoy a tropical paradise. The first night my friend and I arrive (girlfriend still in the US) she starts texting fervently that my friend and I shouldn’t see any of the sights so she and I can see them together for the first time. I get where she’s coming from but this is also a challenging time for me and my best friend so I am not willing to completely sacrifice his week with me to appease my girlfriend. Things escalate and she demands my attention all the time. When my friend and I is out she is calling me 50+ times in a row, texting me that if I love her I would respond and that I am ruing hers and mine vacation and though I’m trying to deescalate I don’t see how to. I end up turning off my phone, although she begs me not to, but I’m still in my head unable to enjoy the night. When I turn my phone back on next day there’s a picture of herself with a cut (very shallow but still) saying I made her do this. This event is the low point of our relationship, and I told her if she ever hurts herself or threatens to hurt herself I’m out, and to be fair to her she has not once since hurt herself. Nonetheless, the calls continue after this (50+ a day) and I spent 3-4h a day on the phone with her and neglecting the trip with my best friend. Damn writing this out really makes me ashamed for not standing my ground back then. Anyways, this really colored the trip with my childhood friend and I think I still resent myself and her for making that happen.
Example 2 - 0.5 years ago: I visited a close childhood friend in South America for 2.5 weeks. Because of the events that transpired in example 1, my girlfriend was nervous for my trip. She expressed worry that she would act out in the same way as my last trip. I really appreciated this self-awareness. We therefore talked extensively about how to avoid issues. The first few days were alright, with her being anxious but being vulnerable about it and we managed well, calling once a day and texting 15-20 messages a day (more than I’d want, but that’s a compromise I’m okay with). At this point I make a mistake, but her reactions to it is (in my head at least) not proportional. I told her I was going out with my friend and his friend that weekend, and she expressed that this would make her anxious that I would cheat on her. So I asked what can I do, and we decided I’d send her a text once I left the pre-game, once I left the club, and call her once I got back to my friends place. A little bit much I thought, but I love her so a fair compromise for now. Unfortunately, I got caught up in the moment at the pre-game, and forgot to text my girlfriend. I realized as I was walking home from the club with 25+ missed calls and a bunch of emotional messages about how I forgot because I was around beautiful women and how I don’t love her. Here I understand her pain. She was vulnerable, I agreed to a compromise and I didn’t fulfill my end. 25+ calls is never productive but hey I had some blame here. The following day I call her for 1.5 hours apologizing and we talk things out, and it feels like though she is feeling anxious that she accepts my apology and we have now managed to resolve my mistake. The same night my friend and his friends are going to someone else’s house for a BBQ (which I told my girlfriend about days before). An hour before we are about to leave my girlfriend starts telling me to talk to her on the phone, because I hurt her so bad and when I say I can’t because we are 10 people having a beer before we head out she says she doesn’t care and that I hurt her and now she “wants to make my life miserable”. I tell her “hey I understand you’re upset but I never want to hear those words from the person I love. I know I hurt you but never intentionally”. She says she doesn’t care and keeps calling me non-stop for 40 minutes and I’m worried that if I don’t pick up she will start to call my friend. I try to deescalate and beg her to take a step back and that she is pushing me away by doing this. The whole thing culminates by me getting out of the Uber towards the barbecue and telling my friends that I think my girlfriend and I are breaking up and I need to deal with it. I am crying as I say this and feel so damn embarrassed. Even writing it now I can’t believe this actually happened. Damn. Anyways, as soon as I tell her that I am no longer going to the bbq and I left my friends car she becomes a different person (the person I love) and tells me she is so sorry and realize she took it too far and begs me to order an Uber to the BBQ. She says she’ll pay for it and begs me to go. At that point I’m just so embarrassed at the whole thing and tell her something along the lines of “why the fuck did you push me this far then. I told you you are pushing me away”. I head home, and wonder how someone who loves me so much can intentionally cause me so much harm and I seriously begin to doubt if her and I will ever work. I tell her I don’t think I want to be in the relationship, but that I recognize I’m emotional so I need 7 days without contact to process my thoughts. I won’t block her, but if she reaches out I will. She does reach out (albeit with a nice message) but I still block her.
I probably should have left the relationship here, but damn I love her, we live together, and at this point she was depending on me for her visa to stay in the country. I don’t want to rip all that apart from her. So I say I don’t know if we’ll ever feel okay, but I’m willing to give this one last chance.
To her defense, she take a lot of new steps at this point. She tells her mom and sister everything that happened (including her trust issues and jealousy), she starts with anxiety medication and starts being more vulnerable with her therapist. I am still skeptical that things will actually be okay, but I recognize the effort she puts in and I really appreciate it. The frequency of our arguments decrease, and more disputes now end before they become arguments.
Example 3 - Yesterday: My GF flew to Vegas with three of her girlfriends (I know two of them very well) and I know it’s a high risk trip for someone in a relationship but I honestly have complete trust in my GF. I decided to do a dinner with 3 of my friends (who my GF knows equally well, we’re all in a group chat together and do things regularly together) and they invited a 4th person who was part of our sports team (my girlfriend met her 2-3 times, just like me).
She texts me from Vegas asking who’s coming to the dinner and once she finds out this 4th person is coming she asks nicely if we cannot be in someone else’s apartment. When I say hey I’m sorry but I already said we could be at my place she asks at least don’t smoke weed together (my friends are stoners so 100% chance they’ll bring weed), and I say “I’m sorry but I won’t tell them not to and I’ll join In too if they bring it but you have nothing to worry about. I love you and I’ll call you as soon as they leave?” My girlfriend then goes into panic mode and calls me nonstop throughout dinner. I go to the bathroom and begs her to stop, tells her she is ruining this for me, and ask her to trust me. She still calls nonstop until they leave. I try to keep a brave face but again it really ruins the dinner for me.
At this point I have told her how actions like these makes me feel uneasy and prevents me from enjoying life. I told her I need her to trust me. I told her that I won’t have it anymore. And if anything the idea that she doesn’t trust me around 3 people she knows well with a 4th stranger while she’s at a pool party in bikini in Vegas just seems so hypocritical it makes me ever more frustrated.
In her defense: - Her dad cheated multiple times while she was growing up. I understand this makes it excruciatingly difficult to trust a partner. - She started seeing a therapist ~8 months ago. - She now takes medication for her anxiety. - She now has told her mom and sister about her trust issues for the first time in her life. - She began attending codependency meetings regularly. - She says she doesn’t want me to limit my life just for me to communicate better what I’m doing (I think it’s really possible that I’m bad at communicating, because to me this request feels like it comes from a lack of trust).
She is putting in immense effort, but I just feel like I can’t do this anymore. Even when things are good I’m worried that she’s going to explode and that prevents me from enjoying the good times too. I love her and she’s amazing in many ways, but I don’t like feeling responsible for her suffering. I know that by trying to end things she’s going to suffer so much and she’ll beg me to give her another chance. I don’t want to but in those moments I feel like she’s the rational version of herself and that maybe she’ll never explode again. Can I solve my relationship with her? Is it time to leave? Is it fair to leave when she is putting in so much effort? How do I find the courage to go through with it?
Thanks so much in advance, and I’m sorry for such a lengthy post.
TL;DR: I’m I overly sensitive, can this relationship be fixed, or is it time to breakup? Is it fair to breakup if the other person is putting so much effort in?