A funny good luck saying

So this is what I’ve been struggling with lately. When I go through a month and think or say “eh it doesn’t feel like this is the month” or something, I sound negative. It sounds like I’ve given up. But then when I’m feeling good and say “this is it. It’s going to be our month” I sound delusional. And like… too hopeful. I don’t know where the middle ground is. Does anyone else struggle with this?

i had my MA on friday/saturday at my boyfriends beach house, just me and him. he held me, made me food, rubbed my back, all of the above. i felt so loved and supported during the process.
as soon as it was “over” (i say that in quotations because im still bleeding) i felt a huge wave of relief. we are 20 and 21 — nowhere near financially stable, still in school, just not in a good spot for kids, although we want to be parents eventually.
everytime i have seen a small child since this weekend, i feel guilty and overwhelmingly sad. i was only 6 weeks pregnant but i personified my pregnancy with each small child i’ve come into contact with
i feel so guilty. i’m pro choice, but i know that my pregnancy would’ve ended in a human being and i can’t shake this awful feeling that i’ve done something horrible.
can someone who has had abortions AND gone through with pregnancies please weigh in on this? i’m so worried about having kids in the future and having this sense of “what if”. once i have babies of my own am i going to think about this forever? this is awful

Don’t do it. Almost 3k down the drain. This post is for people who want to see if it’s worth the “investment”. Trying to contact Talent Stacker is non existent. Their submit button for contacting them on the THEIR own website does not even work. So good luck trying to get in touch with them to get refund. Their most recent FB posts are from 2021. Twitter page is a completely different company, and their last IG post is from 2020. There are learning platforms that are 10x better and cheaper than Talent Stacker. Save your hard earned money and put it towards a learning platform that actually deserves it. Good luck on your future career in SF. Don’t have to listen to my advice but learn from my mistakes. I wish I read this post before I wasted my money. If Bradley Rice is in your inbox spamming you with emails. Do your wallet a favor and block it.

Everyone keeps telling me, "Oh, just wait, it only gets worse after the 1st trimester." Well, I'm here to say: IT SUCKS NOW! 😭
First off, morning sickness is a damn lie. It's all-day, all-night, whenever-the-hell-it-wants-to-be sickness. I can't look at a piece of toast without feeling like I just rode the Tilt-a-Whirl 12 times in a row.
And can we talk about exhaustion? I thought I was tired before, but now? I could win a gold medal in the Sleeping Olympics, and yet I'm still always tired. How is that even possible?!
Don't even get me started on the emotional rollercoaster. One minute I'm crying over a cute puppy video, the next I'm ready to fight anyone who looks at me funny. I'm basically an overstuffed burrito of rage, tears, and nausea.
So, to all those "it only gets worse" folks out there, thanks for the heads up (MOTHER), but this 1st trimester is already kicking my ass. Any tips for surviving the next few months, or should I just accept that my life is now a series of ridiculous, uncomfortable moments? 😅

This girl and I were dating and stopped because a small miscommunication. But we was talking everyday and heavy and feelings were strong. We started back talking a little before her birthday because I sent her flowers she like. I didn’t call or anything. She texted me that night and we FaceTimed when I got off my plane briefly as i got my baggage. Like 10 minutes. We engaged in convo the next few days..she’d say things like “remember this”… last convo was last week. We were talking about this movie and She mentioned she’d be here “man’s number one fan” which was a whole 30 minutes late after we were off that topic and I kinda ended the convo with like “that’s good” because I wasn’t trying to do too much..I felt she said that to make me jealous so I said “yeah me too” and she replied “I love that for her” and I replied “yeah when I get a girl”…she said she knew what I meant…but I think she was lying… then to put the icing on the cake, my friend that’s a girl blocked me because I didn’t answer her facetime… she play like that so i voice message dm her on IG sayin “why you playin this game blocking me” and I sent it to this girl instead of my friend. She text me on my phone sayin she didn’t block me and I realized it was sent to her and I laughed it off and said wrong person…she replied “you got other people blocking you ?” And I replied it wasn’t what she thought..and she said okay and blocked me on Ig and on the phone ..like wtf… if she didn’t wanna date me why she acting like this?? Could she really still have feelings and trynna act like she don’t ?

So in an arranged marriage setup, if you come across a decent profile where the guy earns good(18 lpa approx) and the personality and everything is really nice but their home is in not so good area ( comparatively in a lower area than yours ) , what would you go for ? Your gut feeling says he is such a nice man ( the best you can get and I am not talking about the looks but nature and sanskaar wise ) or the peer pressure like your cousins/ friends got married into big society home, so you have to let this rishta slide because of insecurity ( I am 31 F).

I have a worry that will probably sound stupid that extends not only to this game but others like it.
Imagine buying your first loot box in shop which hasa possibility of giving you good items. You were reluctant to use money in the game but you couldn't resist after seeing the cool items in the box. However, you get trash items the first roll. The second roll (let's say a week later) you get moderately good stuff but not enough to get you through the game for long. The third time (maybe a month after your first time spending money) you get trash items again. You browse through the internet to see what's going on and notice other people with the same bad luck. You find out that top players (or those who spend more money than others) always have good rolls. You do some more digging and find an article that speculates that the devs implemented some kind of system that monitors user spending and prioritizes giving more success rates to those spending more money in a short peruod of time. Someone spending 20 dollars every two days or so is given more success rates in rolling items than another person who only spends 30 dollars monthly.
It's a crazy scenario but how would you feel about this?

I know the answer to losing weight is a calorie deficit however I feel like I have been in a calorie deficit for most of my life if that is even possible. For background I am 24 (F) 156cm and weigh around 78kgs (I was around 60kgs but 2 years ago I had a freak weight gain of like 15 kgs in a span of a month without changing my habits).
I recently learnt that I’m supposed to aim for 1200 kcal but I realised I eat around 900 kcal daily and since I was little I haven’t had a good appetite I’d eat maybe 2 proper meals so I don’t think I’ve ever reached the minimum calories I should eat. My metabolism is terrible I (TMI) maybe go no. 2 once every 2 weeks and have very low energy. Everyone on here who says long term calorie deficit usually are on it for like 6 months to 1 year but what are the effects of being on it for majority of my life ?
How do I fix this in order to lose weight as I feel I don’t lose weight. I walk around 7k steps daily and do home workouts for 30 minutes a day via YouTube.
I know it’s not good to compare but most of my friends eat around the same quantity I do and they are not overweight. I am on the pill but I have been overweight for most of my life. Not obese but just chubby.
I really want to lose weight but is my solution really to eat less ( do people really eat that much in a day) and exercise more to be in a calorie deficit when I am already in a prolonged deficit? What is reverse dieting? I am scared my body is too used to my eating habits that if I try add more food I will just gain more. What should I do ?
TLDR : I believe I have been in a calorie deficit most of my life so how do I lose weight from here

9 months ago I posted on here asking for advice on deciding between accepting a new job, or staying with my current employer. Link to previous post here
After being in the role for ~ 8 months, I can look back and say it was the right decision for me. Below are the details.
Current job:

• $145k base + 25% bonus prorated for last year.
• OT is not comp'd directly but included in bonus. (Averages to about 5-10 hours/month in OT).
• Hours are solid (8-4:30pm), 30% hybrid in office.
• 100% employer paid benefits ~$5K value.
• Budget for professional growth, utilizing this at ~$6K value
• Good team and great manager.
• Unknown promotion and growth opportunities but opportunities for learning new tech.

Previous job:

• $100k base + 10% employer match (DB pension).
• $5k OT.
• Hours are very decent (8-4pm), 50% hybrid in office.
• 100% employer paid benefits ~$5K value.
• Budget for professional growth - untapped.
• Great team and great manager.
• Limited promotion and growth opportunities (30k 22k increases over 4 years if/when promoted).

Adding in all the perks (less commuting, professional budget, bonus etc), TC is about $195k compared to $120K.
For others who are looking at making similar moves, I highly recommend sitting down and evaluating what's the most important thing to you and if you can stomach the risks of a non-union job, I say take the plunge.

California is supposedly adding the PDP series to the roster, soon tm, according to a well-connected gun store chain.
I know, move out of California cause it sucks for 2A, but I’m not going to move my whole life for a gun.
I’m wondering if people saying it’s as snappy as it is, is true. I’m likely going to pick one up and I’m coming from an M&P 2.0 4.25”. Ever since I saw a recommended post of some dudes PDP PRO set up my mouth hasn’t stopped salivating since at the idea of picking up a PDP.
To those of you who have shot the M&P 2.0 (new trigger) before vs the PDP’s how big is the difference to shooting flat/snappy between the 2.0 and the Compact PDP/PRO? Would you guys also say the PDP PRO is good for competition?

hey guys:) just a dude looking for friends or any connection really
about me: - i give out good advice - i am a great listener - i match energy - i don’t ghost - i will definitely make you laugh - i will spam you( if you’re into that )
only bad thing i’d say is that i am not into vc but i can definitely send voice messages! open to exchange selfies as well! (would never force you to though)
im very open minded as well so everyone is welcome and feel free to ask questions and yeah lets have fun and get to know each other🖤

So I manage a customer service team for a consumer packaged goods brand. You can imagine the stories I could tell... But this one happened this morning, and it's too on brand to not share.
We record all of our calls. We tell consumers we record all of our calls. We still get people who claim the call they had occurred in an alternate reality where they said X and Y instead of B and S.
My employee is a good egg boomer, and unfortunately she got a Boomer this morning who insisted she'd called before (she hadn't), insisted she'd told us everything we needed to know about her issue (nope), and that Employee was being rude and dismissive for asking basic questions like, "Could you have called from another phone number?" and "Can you tell me which bag in the carton had the issue?"
She demands to speak to me. I listen to the call before I accept the transfer. I get to hear this gem:
"You know what, may I have your supervisor? I'm not gonna fight with you. You're here to serve me. I pay for your products to keep you having a job. You don't pay for my support. May I have your supervisor. I don't care for your attitude."
My employee tried to get hold of me and asks her to wait a moment, and Boomer continues:
"If you don't like your job, quit and go find another job and be happy." Employee responds, "Ma'am, I can hear you, " and Boomer says, "I'm glad you can hear me. I'm gonna tell your supervisor. Maybe it'll change your attitude. I hope this call is recorded and your attitude changes for the next person. You're very rude. [You] should be fired for the way you just talked to me. Or at least suspended."
Again... all my employee did was ask clarifying questions and not accept Boomer's contradictory claims as gospel.
When I spoke with her, she played the victim and told me I need to listen to the call, because my employee was So Rude.
Where tf do they get off? YOU'RE HERE TO SERVE ME. Get bent, lady. I hope you have the day you deserve. I'm gonna get my employee a milkshake for having to deal with you.

This post has to do with the AJ situation and him talking to minor. It’s funny how the whole group wants to hold their tongue about this even though they admitted what he did was wrong ,they still haven’t applied any pressure towards this situation. imagine if this was qtop or QB or someone the group didn’t like. Parker, Dean, Tashika and Others wouldve been live together talking about the situation, reading the screen shots and probably would’ve accused him of being a Pedo and having a fucking field day. But since it’s Aj, everyone wants take their precious fucking time with what they gotta say just because it’s their “friend” Dean stated the same day it happened or when Aj “apologized” that he don’t like Aj “likes minors”. They’re being so disingenuous, look at it from face value. He invited a minor to another state to drink with him that’s fucking grooming by definition. But all they can say is “it’s weird” that’s the best they got when being addressed with this situation.
Last thing tashika loves to accuse RANDOM guest of being a pedo with NO evidence. But when evidence comes out with your friend being that fucking Weirdo you’ll defend them hell and back seems pretty odd to me.

hey guys:) just a dude looking for friends or any connection really
about me: - i give out good advice - i am a great listener - i match energy - i don’t ghost - i will definitely make you laugh - i will spam you( if you’re into that )
only bad thing i’d say is that i am not into vc but i can definitely send voice messages! open to exchange selfies as well! (would never force you to though)
im very open minded as well so everyone is welcome and feel free to ask questions and yeah lets have fun and get to know each other🖤

I’m on my re-read of the novels, I’ve seen both Untamed and Donghua.
,
I think WWX throughout the story gets such a bad rep. I know it’s stated that he had a bad reputation and did so much evil.
“This wasn’t the Yiling Patriarch Wei Wuxian, who had once razed the earth and ravaged the world with bloody tempests”.
“Jiang Cheng had known the Yiling Patriarch often appeared together with the Ghost General to wreak havoc”.
But how much did he really do?
The Sunshot campaign
Qiongqi Path x2
Nightless City
One of those was a war! Everyone was okay with him then, as long as it was for them.
But in my opinion, the rest were provoked. WN died horribly and the rest of the Wen’s were being treated terribly. It was revenge, if they were treated better and WN lived, it wouldn’t have happened.
During the ambush, he lost control after Jin Zixun accused him of cursing him and broke the gift for JL. If he didn’t have WN, he would have died there, it was a very emotional moment. I can’t blame him for losing control, it was horrible that JZX died, but it was his cousin and JGY’s fault. He lost his hope here too, he chance to be with his family again, all because of some idiot.
Nightless City was another provoked attack. Again, very emotional. The kid fired the arrow first and he retaliated, then of course, JYL died. He lost control again, using the Yin tiger tally was probably not best choice.
I don’t condone all his actions, but I think it was unfair (for people in the story) to say he went around destroying everything. I just feel for WWX so much.
He destroyed the only thing that kept people at bay for some long, because he knew it wasn’t right, and he died horribly. I think he allowed himself to be eaten by the corpses. He lost everything and everyone. I believe the Wens died before him and that was his last reason for fighting. His emotions were unstable since the Nightless City and JYLs death. (Of we're being completely honest, he started breaking down after JZXs death, which let to WN and WQs).
Each time he's lost control, is when he's been in emotional situations. So during the siege, the Wens are killed, his brother is leading the attack, he's bond to lose control.
Rather than time to regain it, he simply let's the corpses kill him. He would have already been exhausted after destroying half of the Yin Tiger Tally, it would be easier for him to lose control without the added emotional stressor
The fall out between JC and WWX and Madam Yu
I think JC went too far and it wasn’t completely fake to him. I think JC did still love and care for WWX (up until JYL died). He wanted WWX by his side like they agreed. But after he chose the Wens, it just added to JCs bitterness.
Announcing him a public enemy and even stabbing him. WWX aimed for break his left arm so he could still fight. JC stabbed him in his abdomen (if I remember right). I think Madam Yu is the biggest issue between them (I do not like her. I used to hate JC but the more I thought about it, the things I didn’t like all came back to her).
I blame her for a lot of JCs' insecurities. From a young age, she's been telling him how his father didn't like him (I don't think this is true, and WWX was right when he told JC. He's just stricter because he'll be a clan leader, and WWX isn't his child. From my experience this is true, most parents are nicer to others kids). Telling him WWX would bring disaster to the Clan. I know his actions did bring the Wens down on them, but they would have done it eventually, WWX just brought it sooner. They'd already burnt Gusu, so there was no point in attacking there, and Lanling was a bigger sect. Yunmeng was the easier target out of the three that rebelled. Also, WWX was willing to be punished, even lose his arm. Imo, she played a part in the destruction of Lotus pier. She lost her temper (I don’t blame her for that, the Wens went too far but she added fuel to the fire) and thus the signal flares were fired.
I think, if he had paid less attention to his mother, he would have stood by WWXs side and defended the Wens and helped sooner during the cave.
I don't hate JC, but he is so easily influenced by what others think of him. He never liked people saying the Jiang Clan was only doing as well as it was because of WWX. Because of his mother telling him he would never be as good as WWX in any way, he just got more and more jealous and competitive. Which allowed JGS and others to cause the rift.
I also noticed and feel for LXC. During the Golden Carp Tower and the JGY and WWX reveal, LWJ ran off with WWX leaving his brother behind! His brother who just admitted that they’ve been investigating JGY and leaving him surrounded by possible enemies.
And JYL
After JZX death she was by the coffin when WWX appeared and got spotted. My question is Who the hell let JYL out of Golden Carp Tower?
I mean she's holding JL. And for her to catch up to WWX she would have had to find someone to hand the baby over to and run! Why did not one person in the Jin clan stop her?! If its anyone's fault she died, it's the Jin clan for letting her go. It's not even a short walk. It took WWX and LWJ a while to get there! And LWJ was an hour behind!
And I’m not sure where I stand with this yet, but I was wondering what other people think about some stuff in here and JGY and his past.
Had he joined the Wens before killing the guy from the Jin clan?
And did he pretend to be helpless for NMJ?

Question. It says to share what you receive with the world. So I started thinking, what happens if I imagine a friend and share with with him. It's less ambitious than the world, but I can feel it stronger, and he needs it just as much as I do. Or what about if I imagined an enemy? Someone I dont want to succeed, but generate love and good will in my heart to share the blessing.
In buddhist meta the chain is self, loved ones, aquaitances, neutrals, people disliked, enemies.
I think the love and forgiveness generated with such an event could be pretty powerful for SM.
Thoughts, experiences?

So I just finished episode 3 of the new season of demon slayer. And it got me thinking. I personally think Sanami and Obani could’ve taken out a good amount of demons and probably akaza had the demons not disappeared. I say this because there’s a very obvious strength difference between um1 and the rest. And sanami is said to be the strongest Hashira after Gyomei, or in simpler terms the second strongest Hashira. I feel that they could’ve handled akaza and put up a good fight against douma before dying, or killed douma and died against kokushibo.That’s why Nakame hurried and kicked them out. Or muzan gave her the order to.

I am asking here because I can't really get anywhere at the store. I'm a millwork specialist and we have a customer who has been emailing us for over a year to get quotes for her "new house." Problem is, she is lying about this project and is seemingly emailing us out of boredom/loneliness. She has never purchased anything from us and continues to ask for quotes. She sends us screenshots of tiktoks and tells us to quote doors and windows. Every time we send an updated quote she changes something. When she says she's ready to purchase, she ends up adding 5 windows and removing 3 doors. Management is aware and thinks it's just funny while we continue to waste our time.
If we don't respond to her emails she will call and tell us to respond. If we don't answer her calls she shows up at the store. How do I politely tell her that we can't send her quotes forever?

I’ve been at a job for about 10mos now and have been incredibly unhappy most of the time. I was working as lead on one big project, which just wrapped: I got a lot of praise and pats on the back for it, which has sort of confused me on whether I should leave this job I haven’t enjoyed but am good at. (But the pay is also quite sad…)
What moment, advice, or headspace did you need to get to in order to feel confident saying “peace out”? Or do you never feel 100% sure and just take the leap?

Hello, I really need to get this off my chest to people who don’t know me or my situation. I want to be totally honest here and I know it’s not a relationship sub and I know I’m going to look like a bad person but here we go.
Up until I met my boyfriend I rarely drank because I know I don’t have a good relationship with alcohol. Anyway at the beginning he told me he likes to have a few drinks after work and on our first date he wanted to go to a bar and I got black out drunk (common occurrence that lead me to drink rarely)and invited him to stay at mine and he looked after me the whole night and stayed all day the next day until 7pm to look after hungover me.
From then I should have known we maybe weren’t totally compatible in terms of our lifestyle. Anyway a few months in I found him liking another woman’s pics after we’d had a drink and I ended up slapping him round the face. I promised then to stop the drinking and he stopped the liking pics.
The relationship has been great, no issues and for the longest time I’ve been the happiest I’ve ever been in my life with this man. Then he quit his job and got another. He works in a restaurant with bare minimum staff so he gets one day a week off work. He brings beer to my house after work and has a couple of beers every night, sometimes I do and sometimes I don’t have a few with him, I can say no.
But recently I’ve been feeling abit like the relationship isn’t moving forward. When he gets a day off work he splits the day half with me and half with his friend to get drunk. Either at his friends house or pubs or bars. I can only remember one day when we’ve spent the whole day together since he got this new job and that was only because I told him no, because he promised to spend the day with me.
We’ve gotten into heated arguments a lot while we’ve both had a drink because of this and I have banned him from coming to my house after he’s being at a bar or pub, we argue when drunk. He also drink drives which worries me so I end up drinking at home to deal with the stress.
I don’t want to drink anymore. He went out with his friend on Sunday so I went out with my friends (something I rarely do) I was drunk but we had a great night and I didn’t over do it at that point. Then he turned up at end of the night to give me a lift home (drunk) his attitude was awful he argued with me in town in front of taxi drivers and all sorts everyone was looking and I was trying t laugh it off then he had a go at my friends and I ended up punching his car. Me and my friend got the taxi back to mine then he turned up after he dropped his friend off and me and my friends were shouting at him, he apologised to my friend, she left and he stayed for abit. He had a bottle of whiskey in my kitchen so I started drinking that from the bottle. I threw a glass at him (missed) and it smashed all over the floor. I went upstairs took some tablets (I only remembered that today after finding tablet packet in the bin) we argued I got nasty and blacked out woke up in bed with a bleeding hand.
We’ve agreed to break up. I’m scared of myself when I get like this, I just keep thinking I could have killed him or myself or both when I was black out. The intrusive thoughts are telling me all sorts of horrible things. I don’t want my dog to witness these things, I had a good life before and I don’t know what’s happened. I just read a comment on another post which made me think I’m talking all my frustrations out on him from other things he is a good person never violent but he does also cause arguments when drunk as do I.
How do I move forward from this? I’m sorry I really had to get this off my chest.