I might be "strange" for my idea of revenge but you know what? I don't care at all hahahah.
So i know that my wife of 9 years is cheating on me with her coworker cause i hired a P.I. and after 2 weeks i got the proofs that i nedeed.
So i know what you are thinking. Why not divorce? The answer is very simple: we have a prenup and according to it before the 10 years everything must be split but after we both will have the assets we came in before marriage. So i'm just waiting hahahah. My assets are, obviously, more important than hers so like i said i'm just waiting the right moment.
Anyway... i knew about her affair about 2 years ago and moved by emotions i immediatly contacted a lawyer but then i understood that immediate divorce would be only worst so according to him i have to wait and i'm doing it. Anyway in this 2 years some things are changed like for example me cause i get a gym membership and actually i'm in the best shape of my life, i accepted a job promotion that i always refused cause i was scared to spend less time with my wife and i planned everything about our divorce in the minimal details so there wouldn't be any surprises.
But coming to the topic my revenge is very simple. It's more a psychological thing and actually it's working extremely well. (Or i hope so)
Cause me and my wife since 2 years never had sex. I mean since i started to go to the gym i saw that my wife started to be more "present" into my life, like she was appreciating my change but i always shutted down every chance to have sex with her cause just the idea makes me throw up. So like i like to say "watch but no touch" hahahah. She see my perfect body everyday but everytime she tries to initiate something i just brush it off rudely and i love to see those delusional eyes. At the beginning it hurted a lot turning down her efforts to have intimacy but now it's all very easy.
The thing that might be off is her changed attitude in this last year cause she started again to be nice, to be more romantic, to ask about my day, she often calls me when i'm at work (but i never once picked up her calls) and to be nicer in general. So it's like she understood her mistake but sincerly i don't care cause i never forgave cheaters and will never do it so she can kick rocks and next time she would think before having an affair. The most absurd thing happened 2 weeks ago when she brought up the idea of couple therapy cause "it seems like we are distant and we lost the connection that we had at the beginning". I mean the audacity of the cheater to just think about this. What a hypocritical woman!
So nothing just this. I'm just waiting 2 months to serve her divorce papers on the day of our 10th anniversary and i'm counting the days to finally get rid of her and to start a new chapter of my life. (Fortunetly we don't have kids cause we never wanted them and i had a vasectomy just to protect myself from "accidents")

Spoilers for Fallout TV Show.
This is what I think happened based off of the TV Show and what I think most people chose for the ending. Aswell as what I chose for one of my endings. Please don't attack me, this is my opinion. Also I do like the theory that the Legion assimilated into the Brotherhood.
Other: President Kimball is Alive General Oliver is Alive Legate Lanius is Alive Mr House is disconnected but Alive
Intro And so the Courier, who had cheated death in the cemetery outside Goodsprings, cheated death once again, and the Mojave Wasteland was forever changed.
Hoover Dam Victory The Courier, with the aid of Yes Man, drove both the Legion and the NCR from Hoover Dam, securing New Vegas' independence from both factions. With Mr. House out of the picture, the remaining Securitrons on The Strip were hard-pressed to keep order. Anarchy ruled the streets. When the fires died, New Vegas remained, assuming its position as an independent power in the Mojave.
The Courier Preferring neither the best of the NCR nor the worst of the Legion, the Courier was the man responsible for a truly independent New Vegas. He had removed Mr. House from power over the Strip and broken the influence of the NCR and Caesar's Legion in the Mojave Wasteland.
Black Mountain Tabitha and Rhonda went east, through Caesar's land. Occasionally tales of their exploits found their way back west, though few believed them. Eventually the stories concerning the duo were collected and published, and proved to be quite popular with children.
Raul Alfonso Tejada Invigorated by his travels with the Courier, Raul once more took up his guns in memory of his lost Rafaela. Soon after, the Mojave was filled with tales of the ghost-vaquero who hunts down those who prey on the weak.
Boomers Though the Wasteland became anarchic after Hoover Dam, the Boomers' display of power dissuaded fortune seekers from attempting to penetrate Nellis.
The Brotherhood The Brotherhood used the battle of Hoover Dam as an opportunity to retake HELIOS One, and came to control the area between it and Hidden Valley. With no organized opposition, their patrols began monitoring trade along Interstate 15 and 95, seizing any items of technology they deemed inappropriate.
Veronica Santangelo Veronica put her moral sensibilities aside and supported the Brotherhood's new campaign of aggression as best she could. Yet deep down, she understood that it meant their end would surely be soon to follow
The Fiends Their leaders destroyed by the Courier, the Fiends scattered throughout the wasteland. Without the organization of Motor-Runner, Cook-Cook, Violet, and Driver Nephi, they were easy prey.
Followers of the Apocalypse After the Courier ensured New Vegas remain free, the Followers found that Independent New Vegas was even more unstable and violent than before. Old Mormon Fort became excessively burdened by the influx of patients, struggling to provide even the most basic of services
Arcade Gannon Arcade was tending to the locals of Freeside when he learned that Caesar's Legion had been defeated and NCR was being pushed out of New Vegas. Though he found that independence for New Vegas was not all he hoped it would be, Arcade did his best to help the locals govern themselves
Goodsprings With New Vegas' independence formally declared, Goodsprings thrived. More travelers stopped by Goodsprings on their way to and from the Strip, and the locals grew prosperous from the traffic.
Rose of Sharon Cassidy I The slaughter of the Van Graffs and the Crimson Caravan caused no end of trouble for NCR back West. Already struggling, NCR's supply lines suffered further as the two caravans withdrew support until the "massacre in the East" was resolved
Rose of Sharon Cassidy II Cass lived to see the Courier bring down three armies and by her count, that was three more than she'd expected. She'd kept quiet about that, though.
The Great Khans During the Battle of Hoover Dam, the Great Khans quickly evacuated Red Rock Canyon and headed north and east into the plains of Wyoming. There, they reconnected with the Followers of the Apocalypse and rebuilt their strength. Bolstered by ancient knowledge of governance, economics, and transportation, they carved a mighty empire out of the ruins of the Northwest
Jacobstown Thanks to the Courier and Lily, a cure for the nightkin's schizophrenia was found shortly after Doctor Henry's experiment concluded. Nightkin and other super mutants in the wasteland flocked to Jacobstown, and the town became known as a haven where a mutant could find peace
Lily Marie Bowen Encouraged by the Courier to take her medication regularly, Lily's mind eventually attained a semblance of clarity. Her memories dulled by the pills, she cast aside the recording of her grandchildren, no longer remembering its significance.
The Kings Following the Second Battle of Hoover Dam, Freeside came to be known as one of the more stable areas in the region. Ironically, NCR refugees found Freeside safer than most of the rest of New Vegas, where resentment still lingers.
Rex With the transplant of Lupa's brain, Rex gained all of the donor's experiences traveling with the Legion. These melded well with his own memories of the Legion, and his new mind quickly adjusted to the myriad memories
NCR - The Misfits Shaped up by the Courier's advice, The Misfits distinguished themselves during the Legion's attack on Camp Golf. Mags was finally promoted to Sergeant, and the rest of The Misfits received an official commendation. They continued to serve with distinction for many years.
Novac Though Novac was a low-priority target for the Legion, many of Novac's citizens died in its defense. In the weeks that followed, several Bright Followers returned to Novac to help restore its defenses, allowing it to remain independent of the NCR.
Craig Boone Though NCR was withdrawing from the region, Boone remained in New Vegas, finding work as a security guard and caravan scout along the highways. While he might've preferred rejoining his old unit, Boone couldn't bring himself to abandon the city where he'd met his wife.
Powder Gangers - NCRCF After Hoover Dam, the leaderless Powder Gangers at the Correctional Facility vanished into the wastes, leaving the prison empty. The Correctional Facility became another abandoned ruin in the wasteland, its carcass occasionally picked over by enterprising prospectors.
Powder Gangers - Vault 19 After the majority of the Vault 19 Powder Gangers joined the Great Khans, the weaker members scattered throughout the Mojave Wasteland. Though a few managed to erase their pasts, most never survived the journey.
Primm After Hoover Dam, Sheriff Meyers runs Primm with his own style of frontier justice. He deals with most folks fairly, but now and then someone winds up dead with little to no evidence against them
ED-E With its logs cleared and its systems upgraded ED-E remained a vigilant and constant companion to the Courier. The Brotherhood used the information recovered from ED-E to create a small army of Duraframe eyebots.
NCR Rangers Due to the Courier's intervention, Chief Hanlon abandoned his plan to sabotage the defense of Hoover Dam. The rangers assisted the troopers admirably during the Legion's ill-fated attack. Though the Courier snatched victory from NCR, only General Oliver was blamed for the loss of Hoover Dam. Hanlon, exhausted after a lifetime of service to the NCR, stepped down from his position in the rangers and retired to his ranch in Redding.
The Remenats After their bold arrival at Hoover Dam, the Remnants disappeared as quickly as they came. Legends of their power spread throughout the southwest, a reminder of why people once feared the sight of vertibirds in the sky
Conclusion And so the Courier's road came to an end... for now. In the new world of the Mojave Wasteland, fighting continued, blood was spilled, and many lived and died - just as they had in the Old World. Because war... war never changes.
As for what happened after, The Courier tried to help Vegas as much as he could, but with no Army Vegas was anarchy. Then the tunnelers arrived. Courier Six asked for NCR help but they failed. The Courier ashamed with themself left Vegas, never to return.

My wife and I are planning to do a road trip from SF to Denver and would like to stop and explore a few national parks along the way including Yosemite, Sequoia, Zion, Arches, and Rocky Mountain National Park. We will take the Las Vegas route as shown in the attached image below. We know 7 days is not going to be sufficient to explore everything that these parks have to offer, so we are happy to see only the highlights of these parks by driving to viewpoints or doing short hikes to capture some memorable photos.
Is 1 week even sufficient to see the highlights of these parks? Should we exclude one or two parks from the list above to maximize our time in other parks? Any additional advice you have for us for this road trip?
Additional Note: We are staying overnight in the following places

• Oakhurst, CA - 2 nights (near Yosemite NP and Sequoia NP)
• Las Vegas, NV - 1 night
• Hurricane, UT - 1 night (near Zion NP)
• Parachute, CO - 1 night (2 hrs away from Arches NP)
• Granby, CO - 2 nights (near Rocky Mountain NP)
• Denver, CO - 1 night (flight back in the morning of the 8th day)

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I have drug resistant epilepsy and have had 6 brain surgeries and on Brivict and Xcopri. I’m proud to say I’m a little over 6 months seizure free!
But this isn’t about me, it’s about a family friend. He came home and he was disoriented, he has no idea he was at the hospital the night before. He didn’t know where he lived, his age barely anything. So we called 911, we thought possibly a stroke, but not many signs of a stroke though. His wife came home and told us how his short term, and long term memory were gone. Then she told us how he got hit in the head by a ball when he was teenager. He started having seizure, he would have amnesia for a couple hours or days. So I was looking it up and I found Transient Epilepsy Amnesia. He also vomited, and hasn’t been able to eat. I was wondering if anyone else has this? He was in the hospital til yesterday, he got his memory back except for like the last 48-72 hours. Does anyone have this?

Long story short, last year I thought I could make money trading stocks in the stock market instead of just simple investing. I lost around $15,000 and it was painful to acknowledge. I didn’t tell my wife about this until April during tax season. It was a tough conversation, she was pissed and felt lied to but eventually we moved past it.
What I was still not transparent about was that I had lost another $13,000 this year trying to recover last years losses so that I could come clean and say “hey look honey, I made it all made”.
Well, that $13,000 has now turned into losing $45,000 this year along. That means over $60,000 the past two years combined.
I know I have a major problem. I continue to double down because I didn’t want to confess to my wife yet AGAIN that I lost money this year trying to make that money back. And now I’m down 3x what I lost last year.
I am going to seek help. I withdrew everything, deleted all apps on my phone and computer. Deactivated my brokerage accounts that I used for this trading. My main focus is to heal from this and seek Christ for forgiveness. And of course my wife as well.
What I am not sure about is WHEN to come clean. It ate me alive last year withholding this information from my wife. And now I have to tell her about an even more substantial loss. I am considering that for her mental health & sanity, it may be best to wait until next year to share about this and use the rest of the year to seek help, take steps forward and accountability in my gambling problem. Then when I share this news next year she can see that I have taken the necessary steps to move forward and not fall back into this sin.
Fortunately I make a good salary as a lawyer ($350k) and she makes around $150k in a tech job. We should make around $500k gross this year. So while this $60k is still a MASSIVE loss, it’s not the end of the world financially speaking. But my wife will still practically faint when she hears this number and news, hence I am prayerfully considering waiting at least a few months to share this with her.
Please any and all input would be appreciated. I am sick to my stomach and don’t know what to do. Please know that I have so much remorse and regret about the whole situation and I know that in time i will heal. But right now I feel broken and that I will have lost my wife’s trust entirely.

We’ve overbooked ourselves and won’t have time to make it to the IaRB anniversary show. Real short notice but I’ve got two tickets for 20 a piece as to not lose all of my money. DM for details.

Me (33f) and my husband (30m) have been married for 5 years now and have a little one who’s almost 2 now. I’m the eldest sister out of two kids and I am the more responsible one but I think that comes with being the older sibling.I tend to be the organized one who plans things, has ideas of what to do and how to get it done, and generally am the one my parents look to be strong since I’m that kid. I’ve always been that way since I can remember.
My grandfather passed away a few years ago and unfortunately didn’t finish his will. This was a point of contention between my mom and her younger brother, my uncle. They were both close all their lives until he married his wife who we’ll call Deborah and had a daughter who is now 18. Deb is not a nice person whatsoever. Their marriage was riddled with her cheating with his friends, stealing from my grandfather, and occasionally trying to fight my sister or I in the front yard via cr*ackhead style because we somehow offended her. She also believes she and her family are divinely blessed and going to heaven unlike my family for whatever reason. My uncle passed away from COVID complications about three years ago now and she broke into my grandfather’s house to take whatever she could get her hands on. She is currently (re)married to, what used to be, his best friend George. This is her third marriage and they have no kids between them.
Fast forward to the past two weeks and my husband and I are going to move into the home once we renovate a few things. We’re putting a few thousand dollars into this house due to Deborah screwing with things. She did a number on a couple of doors and broke a few pieces of furniture. Appliances were broken or stolen and she effed up the floors really bad. While we’re working on it, I politely - because we talked about it once before - asked my mother about the deed, if it was in her name, and how to get everything done so it was in my name. This caused her to pull up short and look at me as if she were going to slap me. She was instantly glaring and visibly angry with me. I got a clipped “Why do you want to know about that?” I was caught off guard since my mom and I have a close relationship. She’s never acted this way toward me about the house.
We’ve always been able to talk to each other and never had serious issues even when arguing. I said I would like it in my name because we would be moving in, paying for it to be fixed, and working to buy it from them. My mom just finished round two of a battle against cancer and she has no living relatives outside of my dad, myself, my sibling, and our kids. My dad has no intention of living in the house, bothering with it etc because my grandfather always said it was for me; he just unfortunately passed before he finished his will. Deborah is the only concern I have because my uncle died before he made a will either and my 18 cousin who’s their kid. She doesn’t seem interested.
I guess my question is, AITAH for asking for the deed to be in my name soon? I understand we haven’t bought it yet but Deborah is a concern since she says my mom will die and she’ll get the house which is pretty effed up and I hate her for it. She’s always wanted the money out of selling it to splurge on whatever and their daughter isn’t too much better. I would love any and all advice. I’ve never owned a home and we’ve been so excited. Have I done something wrong? I really don’t want to hurt my mom; I adore her.

So I’m playing with the idea of investing my money long-term for goals I know I want to reach down the road. For example, I’d love to take my family of four on a trip to Disney World and go all out in maybe 10-12 years. I’m thinking $20k-$30k for that. Also, when my wife and I have our 25th wedding anniversary in 17 years, I’d love for us to have a second wedding and reception. Ours was $25k so somewhere around there give or take for the future. I have other goals in mind but those are the biggest. All of these goals I’m thinking about are at the very least 10 years away.
I’m leaning towards just investing in an index ETF over the years and letting it grow as opposed to just putting the money in a HYSA. Does that sound like a good idea or would a HYSA be better?

Whose around and wanting to chat.
looking for pleasant company. Whether we chat short term or medium or long term it's all fine with me.
Just some random pieces of info about myself.
I am a business owner of 20+ years.
I'm married to my Amazing wife and we have two daughters who are all grown up and they are twins. I am straight too so just looking for friends.
I enjoy gardening and cooking so I'm happy to chat about that. Love my running but also happy chatting about other fitness stuff like sports and the gym.
I love traveling and enjoying vacations come tell me your favourite destinations.
Happy to hear about anything you want to chat about. Please be over 21 and make and female both welcome.

My wife and I and splitting and it's her choice. Basically financial issues that led to constant fighting. says she resentments me for pushing us to get a house and doesn't want to take the time to heal our relationship. We just got in an argument about assets and she said she loved me still even though she doesn't want to be with me. I had to walk outside and cry alone. She then follows me shortly after to really sink her teeth in, just repeats how much she's misses me and loves me. It's really like she's just wanting to hurt me because she's not responding to what I'm saying. I had to walk away again and now I'm just crying with my dog I'm my bedroom. I'm stuck here until I get something in writing about our assets. I just got over having dreams about losing her and now I feel emotionally wrecked like I did at the beginning of the process. It's feels so evil to tell the person your leaving that you still love them. Why leave me in the first place! She doesn't even respect that I'm sick right now.

Today I listened to episode, ​47 of the Cruzyland podcast. In this episode they talked about stereotypes more specifically the stereotype that "children of immigrants shun their culture". I had mixed feelings while listens to this weeks instilment, so much so that instead of the usually review I am going to make a pros and cons list for it and you can decide if it is worth the listen.
Pros Interesting content-this weeks topic of stereotypes was ear catching that if you were doing something else while listening you would have had to stop because you wouldn't be able to follow along.
Personnel stories- in this episode we get multiple heart felt personal story told by this week's guest Zor Kapur.
A beautiful poem- As always they have an end of podcast poem and this weeks poem is though provoking and heartfelt.
Cons ​Poor sounds quality- while the conversations are amazing the sounds in the background do not add to the experience.
​A longer episode the usual- episode was unusually long and might become a bit boring in the middle for the people with a short attention span.
Overall I suggest you listen to the episode because for all of its shortcoming it has 2x as amazing content.

• This is podcasty reviews signing off.

hey, this is my first reddit post and i'll try to be as precise as possible and not prolong this too much.so sorry for grammar mistakes or if this seems chaotic i really don't know where else to turn.
so it all started before i was born. my mom is a woman raised where i was raised as well and my dad came from a country near by due to war. my mom was raised by an abusive mom (my abusive grandma) and by an absent dad(my grandpa was working a lot in the US). my dad was raised by okish parents, his dad died of lung cancer which is a thing my dad never overcame, and my grandma was a teacher who was strict but my dad has a lot of siblings so i guess they managed.
my mom has a brother who is older then her and is a successful businessman. my dad is the oldest of them 4, and is a teacher as well.
my mom and dad met bc of my dad being a teachers assistant and my mom going to his lessons. he is 7 yrs older then my mom so its not as weird as it sounds. eventually they started dating and got me in March of 2000. they divorced in 2006. officially, and were not together since 2004.
so early on i was in care of my abusive mom. she was emotionally and physically abusive from my first memory since 2014. when i decided to run away from "home" forever. i never had a place to call home. my moms place was always cluttered and i could not get any privacy o relax for a second or she would loose her shit. she was diagnosed with depression and cancer in 2017. and that crushed her to a spiraling depression and led me to be forever scared. my mom was so abusive that i had to put foundation on to cover bruises when i was 9 or 10. she called me a slut, garbage, a failure, a bitch etc. all of that stuck to me till this day. i was a straight A student but if i were to get B or god forbid B- i was punished in front of my friends, my relatives or at home. NOBODY SEEMED TO CARE. but everybody knew.
my dad had a very good job at the time. he had quite a bit of money so he'd send some to my mom to spend on me but now remembering i cant say that i remember her spending that amount on me. also i had no concept of money. i was a child. then i hit the age of 10\11 and developed some idea that this was not normal. so every time my mom would harm me i would find a way to call my dad and be crying and begging him to come and get me. i loved my dad the most back then. he would always brush it off or say we'll go to grandmas this weekend but it was only Wednesday so will i survive till then? but it didnt matter i trusted that man with my life.
and so after endless sleepless nights (thats why im short btw) and the never ending abuse, my dad would randomly show up and pick me up from like kinder garden or school like a was some kind of a cute lil pet. and not just that! he would buy me that one thing i wanted as all kids i think at least, have that one thing they like. so he'd buy it for me. and we would go to Mc Donalds since my mom forbid me that kind of food (i was a model and played flute so i ate only small amount of usually boiled rice and fish). so based on all this my dad was a superhero. i loved that man so much.
i forgot to mention but, i was in a mental institution since my dads wife is a doctor and a bitch so she thought it was a good idea to lock me up with seriously dangerous kids and make me stay there for 20 days till it was claimed that i am ok, just has a teenage behavior. i think i will never forgive them for that. im not sure but i think it was 2016.
until October of 2014. i decided to end this vicious cycle. my mom was hitting me and i had enough. i punched back. hard. and i ran through that door like my dad did and never looked back. mom and dad were looking for me for the whole night since i didnt grab my phone while all this was happening. i didnt care. i was with a guy who ended up to be the love of my life and would be killed by his friend in 2018.
after all of this i started to realize i was not small and vulnerable as i was before. so i started to live on the streets. i didnt eat, sleep or shower at home. sometimes i would sleep in front of peoples doors in buildings. i started to fail school. and again it was all my fault. my whole life was my fault. always.
one day my dad had enough since he was always looking for me and not sleeping. so he decided to put me in a campus while im in high school. thats not rly common over here btw. so i went. and i was mad since 150km from my hometown was a lot and my bf(that dude i talked abt already) was in jail so i felt like i was in jail too. i was bullied a lot. and s/harassed. my parents have no idea abt this tho.
so 2018. rolles up. my mom has survived cancer, my dad is proud cuz i graduated and everything seems to be fine. but it rly wasnt. as i mentioned my bf was k!lled that summer(a few days before his birthday) so i was completely alone now. i had some relationships but they didnt matter at all. i was and maybe still am, dead inside.
after that summer i came back to my hometown. this time my dad has planned for me to stay at my grandmas since shes far away from the city center and also has a whole house to her. thats when i developed a bunch of mental disorders, had my first panic attack, went to the hospital o the daily bases, was harassed on the street and had to seek help from a psychiatrist again. only this time i found out that i had depression and this and that and the other. after months of trying to figure out what is wrong with me my latest dr said that it was cptsd and anxiety and since then i have never been the same.
i have had recently an epileptic seizure as well so i am now 10x more terrified of the world. i cant go anywhere without really preparing for it. i was paralyzed for months and suddenly i live w my now boyfriend who doesn't understand shit, have parents who aren't capable of helping led alone love, and with a few friends. and a mean like 3 friends.
i feel so bad. i feel like i don't want to live anymore. please help me im too embarrassed to talk to anyone.
tnx if u read

Hello, I'll try to keep this short, just looking for some advice from people already in the electrical trade.
I'm 28 and I've been working construction for the last 11 years (residential remodel, new home builds, commercial, etc), I have done and know how to do a lot in the construction field, and I've also been running my own small scale construction company for the last few months. My dad was an electrical contractor back in the day until he got injured, so I'm even somewhat familiar with basic electrical work.
My wife and I are expecting our first baby later this year, and I'd just like to go back to working for someone. Ever since I've started doing my own thing I've had hardly any free time and it has been a lot of headache already. I'd really like to get into an apprenticeship with a company if someone would take me on.
So my questions are, is it a good idea to get a resume together and just show up to a company and see if they'd give me a chance?
And will my 11 years of experience (with the same company all those years) help distinguish me from others just a little?
And like I said, I'm almost thirty with a child on the way, which I figured I'd bring up to a potential boss just to maybe give them some assurance I won't be some lazy slacker or something.
Sorry if this is a mess, I'm at lunch about to go back to work so I typed it up quick. Thank y'all in advance!

On a fine night
a jurisdiction emerges,
what blasphemy to the self!
muffled cries seem on the verges
.
Curt responses fill the periphery
the forward trajectory in shambles,
consequences befallen a tad too soon
In the heart's vicinity,
a dark and empty raincloud rambles.
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Stories or dreams, inconspicuous
mild advances cut short again,
A facade of sly smirk appears
For the world is but a play pretend
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Hollow hopes for swift redemption,
porous vessels once brimming with aether,
Shallow shores all washed away,
Heaven's garden enveloped in litter.
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Poem 1
Poem 2

Hey, I have a 2017 FZ-09 that I’ve really enjoyed.. but it’s simply too fast for me and I find the torque too tiring when trying to do short (1 hour) rides with the wife. I’m looking for a replacement that will be much more accommodating for two up riding (only 2-3 hour max trips, not intending to do any major trips) but still similar style with the FZ-09.
I know the FJ-09/tracer would be a logical replacement, but I’m looking for something different than what I’ve had already.
I’ve been looking at the r1250gs, but I’m pretty sure it’ll be overkill for how short my rides are. I also might entertain the idea of commuting during the summers, which would include 8-10 miles of highway driving (and the FZ 09 feels too unstable to me). Does anybody have any thoughts on a bike that could be a replacement? Thank you!

Hello everyone - my wife works at a public school in Canada, and a colleague was advertising a program being held in Nanjing this summer. It is a 4-week summer camp, where students can learn English and also get to know a foreign (Canadian) culture. I assume this just means more time hanging out in an English-speaking setting.
We were offered positions to go there. We were originally told to apply on a Tourist (L) visa, but we pushed back and said it doesn't seem correct as we would be working in China. They then said they can provide the documentation needed for us to apply for a Cultural Exchange (F) visa. We would be reimbursed through their Canadian company and not paid in China.
In short, is this legal? We don't want to get into trouble.
We have a friend in Nanjing who says this school is very new. We have been sent a contract and it explicitly says we would be there to teach and would be paid X amount of Canadian dollars. We want to do everything above board, and my concern is whether the F visa would be sufficient for this type of arrangement. We don't want to get in trouble for anything, and being reimbursed by a Canadian company sounds like a way to get paid under the table.

Literally every uncle, aunty, and kid on the road was staring at me with their mouths agape. I am not exaggerating when I say that I saw 80-90 people literally stop and turn around to watch me. Their judgemental eyes left a crawling sensation on my skin.
Isn't Dubai supposed to be a big city of the most progressive country of the Middle East?? Isn't Dubai supposed to be a "metropolitan" city? Is this what us Dubai citizens can do the best, seriously?
I'm seriously considering emigrating just based off this one incident. Because the street is different- it's all strangers. What hurt the most is when I got home after everyone woke up.
My wife starting crying when I walked into the house. My own kids froze still in terror. My grandmother had a heart attack and collapsed on the floor. May her soul rest in peace.
The United Arab Emirates is not a safe place for balding middle-aged men to go out running in a sports bra and booty shorts.

Quick update first - Life has been getting better!
3 year anniversary was in April, and since then I've started school, been seeing a new partner consistently, overall enjoying life more. The most difficult part is that every time I go to do something I still feel the weight of the boulder that is Long Covid on my shoulders, digging in, clawing at me, holding me down. I'm getting stronger, and can do more, but man do I ever fucking hate this fucking boulder on my fucking shoulders it makes me want to cry having to carry this weight every day.
Most recent talk with my doctor, because my fatigue some days is still extremely bad, that whole body hollowness, like I've just ran an ultramarathon or an ironman, like no amount of water, electrolytes, sleep, meditation, food, or cat cuddles can cure. He suggested trying NALTREXONE.
Honestly, I'm kind of scared as fuck. Last time a doctor recommended something to me it absolutely ruined my sleep and ruined my life (amazing that something could overshadow long covid) for just over 1 year. That was Effexor, fuck that drug, and fuck that psychiatrist for constantly increasing my dosage despite me telling him how horrible the side effects were. Well I guess I have the trauma of effexor now, and I'm lowkey terrified of trying Naltrexone. The FIRST thing the Pharmacist tells me is 'oh yeah this drug is totally fine, most people just report it messing with their sleep a little bit, no big deal'......YEAH.....NO......So fucking triggering.
At least with effexor I didnt have any energy to do anything else really anyways, short walks, short family visits. Now I have commitments, I have school, homework, and a girlfriend who loves attention (who understands my situation, but still I Want to have energy to give to her!), and now this guy is telling me naltrexone might mess up my sleep. lesigh...
TLDR: doc is putting me on low dose naltrexone, looking for success stories, looking for horror stories, looking to hear about side effects.
I'm so tired, every - day, and nobody understands :( ....well, apart from you

My wife and I (Namibian) are planning to cross from Namibia to Botswana in our car for a short holiday. I can't find out whether we need a Police Clearance Certificate to exit Namibia or not. We own our vehicle which is Namibian registered.
Has anyone had any recent experience of crossing into Botswana and can confirm or deny? Thanks

Not sure how else to phrase it, because I love him but he has a really bad way of being thoughtless and selfish. Our first Christmas, I was impressed with a gift that he made for his mom. It was cheap, literally just a bunch of notes in a paper bag labeled "reasons I love you" and each was a sentiment or story or inside joke. It was cheap and I understood because he was a broke-ass teenager who couldn't hold down a job.
Since then, though, I've come to experience his assumption and expectation for what he will be receiving for birthdays and Christmas. For example, he'll assume we were going to spend a few hundred dollars on gifts, and ask for it in cash instead of gifts. He asked for us to renew his medical weed permit ($250 at the time) and claimed that's all he wanted, then acted all shitty when there wasn't much else to open. He knows he gets money from his grandpa, so he's asked for advances on it. Every gift he treats as an expected transaction, taken for granted, not as a gift. For Christmas, his mom got him a necklace I think, that was sort of silly but there was a reason she got it. If he didn't like wearing it, I didn't blame him, but he could hang it from a tac on his wall or something. Instead, he actually gave it back to her right there within moments of opening it, saying it wasn't his style.
What finally pissed me off enough to write this was Mother's Day. I asked him weeks ago what he was going to do for his mom. He's 24 and no longer lives with us, but he has a job and is still getting food stamps from his brief unemployment, Actually has more than he needs to the point of stocking up before the benefits expire. Anyway, I remind him weeks ago that Mother's Day is coming up, his mom doesn't want anything but a nice heartfelt card or note because we know he's working hard and trying to save for a car and a better place. We tell him Mom wants to go to ihop, nothing fancy at all. We didn't offer to pay, but I assumed we would. We pick him up and take him after work. While we are waiting for our food, he gives her a card.
The card was literally a picture on the front and a sentence on the inside that he said "this kinda says how I feel so I didn't write anything else." And to be clear, what I mean is: the card had a sentence printed on the inside. He did not write anything, he didn't even sign his name. If we wanted to return the card, we could have. It was literally right off the shelf, and obviously a last minute purchase that he bought from work just moments before we picked him up.
Number one, I hate how shitty it makes me feel when WE show emotional investment in him with not only our thoughtful gifts but also very sincere cards and notes. We show a ton of support, love, and appreciation for him and everything he does and has done. For him to gloss over that while searching for the money inside the card is like holy shit, you're an adult, are you not aware of how selfish you look? If you're going to be an asshole, at least pretend to not be one in front of us. Second, and this is important: You will not be successful in relationships if you are an emotional slug like that. I can't imagine how his girlfriends would feel or how his wife would feel with this approach to her birthday or anniversary. You cannot half-ass something that is significant to you in any way, especially when it is equally or more significant to people you love.
My wife, who often suppresses her reactions to these kinds of things, actually broke down and told me how disappointed she was when she got that Mother's Day card. If she's willing to say something about it, I can only imagine it's more than what she's expressed because she doesn't want to be negative toward her son. I get that. So I can't imagine how low she felt when after all that she's done for him, especially in the past year, his only gift is a last-minute purchase of convenience, no thought, and not even his own words. Not even a signature.

Hello and thank you for showing interest by clicking this post:)
I'm looking for players to help me stresstest my server. I've added info about the server belov if you are interested in that aswell.
Servertest will take place today (14/05/2024,) 2100 CEST (in 2 hours). Drive, shoot, loot, kill or do whatever you want, I'm just curious about how many players our server can handle and hopefully everybody are having a good time:)
Server info below
Me and my wife have for a long time wanted to play on a hardcore/low loot Livonia server. But haven't quite found what we were looking for. That lead us to experimenting with hosting a DayZ server, and we are now proud to welcome you to test out our server.
Key info: Server name: GRIMWOOD EU TESTING! TESTING! Low Loot Organic RP 1PP Server ip/port : 195.193.192.15 : 2302 Map: Livonia Restarts: Every third hour Max players: 60 Day/Night: x3/x3 Playstyle: Whatever you want, RP/organic RP is encouraged by a small community. Perspective: 1PP Discord: https://discord.me/grimwood Server Location: In my basement, Norway, Europe.
Mods: Codelock, Dogtags, Zenarchist's Cause of Death Mod, Bed-Respawning, PvZmoD Customisable Zombies, Skinning Economy, Trader Mod, VPPAdmin Tools, DayZ Editor Loader, BuilderItems, Dabs Framework, Community Frameworks (more might be added, list is up to date as November 4.)
I won't mention much of specifics, values or positions in the next part of this post to keep spoilers a minimum. This way I hopefully let the player experience Grimwood for them self.
Short description:

• The survivor enters Livonia from the North. How they got there, I don't know. That's their story to tell.
• There are different kind of zombies, some might be limping and can't even jog towards you while a few can't even take a rest. What's common for all these Zeds is that they don't like hits to their heads.
• You might encounter Becky, Steve or Lulu. They buy and sell a few specific things. (NPC traders located around the map, encouraging players to move around the map more. I'm still working on their lore).
• Animals are a little more common than usual.
• You can ''build anywhere'' with only a few restrictions. (See rules in our discord)
• Some minor changes to the map, mostly for Becky & Lulu.
• Bedroll Re-spawn, one time use. This item is ''special'' and does not spawn as loot.
• Food is more rare than normal, all food with quantity spawns with more quantity.
• There's a restock time on ~90% of all items to encourage the players to move around the map, searching smaller areas, desolate huts and sheds instead of only looting the big towns.

Additional: We would like to invite you to test and join our server, maybe you would like to join our community and hang out while playing, or even come with suggestions and help shape Grimwood in the future. We're aiming for a slow paced progression style, especially when it comes to loot. This hopefully leads to the player still feeling some sort of progression after many many hours on the server. If you are a new player, you can direct message any admin in discord, and we might guide you ingame and even in character if you want.
Hope to see some new people in our discord and ingame. Thank you for reading!