How less offensive is the sanskrit 'yoni' or 'lingam' from the tamil origin 'pundai' or 'kunna' ?

The former is splattered across most mallu temples myths and rituals, without anyone complaining isn't it ? Women have no problem literally worshipping a gods penis , while assigning spiritual symbolic mumbo jumbo to rationalise it ?
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how did we arrive in a language system that assigns tamil words for genitalia as inherently 'uncultured' and sanskrit origin wording as inherently 'acceptable' and respectful ?

Again, Aren't women described as potential sinners / more likely to be corrupt and lustful and all such shit in Bible, Quaran and Manusmriti etc. Ee paranja communities-le aalukal okke athonnum kaanatha pole alle nadakkunne ?
I see no queues of protests denouncing the Bible or quaran for its misogyny ? Many RWs still defend the utterly casteist and sexist shit in many hindu smrithis as 'defending culture'
Those are questions to ponder before people start on shit like this.
Our communities have faced this pressure from both sides, with both the savarna hindus and the abrahamic communities denigrating a lot of our culture and rituals as barbaric and 'inferior' needing to be uplifted by their 'superior hands' either by conversion, or us accepting their inherent superiority by sucking up to their rituals (which many did anyways)
Are people using this ritual as a excuse to go at abusing bystander women ? then prosecute/ jail them for sure . But asking to ban the whole fucking shows how little information or sensitivity you have for native cultures.
There is no denial that some of these rituals evolved to be violent . But that was under sustained pressure of poverty and poor socio-economic conditions enforced on our people over time. Which , YOUR FUCKING ANCESTORS imposed on us.
There has been modernisations and sanitisation that has happened organically. People like narayana guru and ayyankali, and many others helped push a lot of these outdated rituals out of our community or replace them with modern ones. Like animal sacrifices in temples for example. BUT THAT CAME FROM WITHIN the community. Until that comes from here, maybe its better to wait.
I am pre empting the authors community identity reveal by listing out misogynistic practices that are allowed unchecked in major communities in the india context :

• Savarna hinduism - Jauhar and sati (though localised and now extinct) were created specifically to ensure savarna trophies weren't taken by melccha invaders. the former is especially celebrated and worshipped by their communities as 'purity' of their women. Lets not even talk about the smrithis that demand whatever role the women must play, assigns severe punishments to savarna women for sleeping with sudras and son on.
• islam - FGM, all that 'women are candy, must be covered up till right owner needs to consume it ' shit. And whole lot of other crap. Women being baby making machines meant to serve men (common across all three)
• Xtianity - Anti abortionism, anti - pre marital sex, anti - contraceptives, which a massively encouraged by most denominations, especially amongst developing nations. Including celebrated figures like Mother theresa . How many christian women are willing to cancel mother teresa for actively working against contraception in Africa that worsened the AIDS epidemic significantly ?

All these are problems too, you know. If your were personally attacked by some perv using the shield of kodungaloor bharani, then I understand.
Otherwise it's about reconciling the fact that we had a culture that was less puritan before the arrival of victorian or Turkish/Islamic social norms and giving THOSE people the time to work it out on their own .
Bharani in itself is the last remnant of a culture that was screwed over and pushed to 'outcast' status by brahminism in kerala. The communities involved in it were believed originally to be jains who controlled those temples, who were ousted by savarnas with violence . And pushed to lower caste outsider status, both from that temple and malayali society in general
Where is the reconciliation for that ? Or for the thousands upon thousands of peasant women who would be raped, coerced and abused by mallu savarnas (including abrahamic ones) with their peasant men socially powerless to defend , WHILE THERE OWN WOMEN WATCHED IT HAPPEN . The average peasant woman would still get blamed and attacked even if it was their own husband / son caught coercing or forcing them.
Do you think this long , still continuing history of rapes on dalit and poor lower caste women happen without this inherent belief that sudra / dalit women are of loose moral character ?