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Princes Boris and Gleb. Proto-martyrs and Passion-Bearers of Old Russia

2024.05.15 10:41 Yurii_S_Kh Princes Boris and Gleb. Proto-martyrs and Passion-Bearers of Old Russia

Princes Boris and Gleb. Proto-martyrs and Passion-Bearers of Old Russia
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Boris and Gleb were the younger and much beloved sons of Grand Prince Vladimir, the ruler of Kievan Rus, who in 988 brought his subjects to the waters of Holy Baptism. The two brothers were also baptized at which time they received the Christian names Romanus and David. The older of the two, Boris, was very gifted and learned to read and write. He shared with his brother his knowledge of the Scriptures and the lives of the Saints whom they both strove to emulate. Indeed, by the time they came of age to rule their respective patrimonies, the territories of Ryazan and Murom, they had already cultivated in their hearts Christian virtues of mercy, compassion and kindness, traits still rare in a land freshly converted from barbarous paganism.
Boris was particularly esteemed among the people and the soldiery. His popularity provoked bitter jealousy in his eldest brother Svyatopolk (known to history as "the Accursed") who scorned the laws of the newly adopted Christian religion, so dear to his younger brothers, in favor of satisfying his unbridled ambition. He saw Boris as a rival for the position of Grand Prince, and when Vladimir died Svyatopolk wasted no time in plotting his brother's murder.
Boris had been sent by his father to fend off an anticipated raid by the Pechenegs. He was returning to Kiev when he was met by emissaries sent by Svyatopolk, from whom he learned of his father' s death and his brother' s self-willed accession to the throne. The latter, knowing that the people would rather have Boris as ruler and desiring to forestall any opposition that this news might stir up, bade his messengers assure Boris of his fraternal goodwill and his intent to increase Boris' domain.
Boris was well aware of his brother's long-standing hatred for him and recognized in this message the kiss of Judas. The young prince knew that his life was threatened. His immediate concern, however, was not the adoption of some military strategy--whether offensive or defensive--but how to act in such circumstances as befits a Christian. Reflecting upon the words of the Gospel: "If any man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar," and "Love thine enemies," he firmly rejected the advice of his father's retainers who urged Boris to oust the unpopular Svyatopolk, pledging their support to such a plan, "Be it not for me," he replied, "to raise my hand against my brother. Now that my father has passed away, let him take the place of my father in my heart."
Knowing that armed resistance would only provoke needless bloodshed, Boris sent away his soldiers and remained alone where they had encamped on the bank of the Alta, together with a few servants, it was Saturday evening and he retired to his tent to recite the vigil service. As he read the Six Psalms, the cry of the Psalmist echoed in his heart: "O Lord, why are they multiplied that afflict me, Many rise up against me..." (Ps. 3:1). Informed that his murderers were approaching, the Prince turned to an icon of the Saviour and prayed beseechingly: "Lord Jesus Christ, Thou didst accept Thy Passion on account of our sins; grant me al so the strength to accept my passion. I receive it not from my enemies but from my brother, Lord, lay not this sin to his charge."
As the murderers burst into the tent, Boris' faithful servant George, a young Hungarian, placed himself between the prince and his attackers in an attempt to save his master's life. The servant was killed at once, while the Prince, grievously wounded by the thrust of a lance, was bound up in the tent canvas and taken on a cart to Kiev. But he never reached the city. When Svyatopolk learned that his brother was still alive, he sent two Varangians to consummate the bloody deed, which was accomplished when one of them plunged his sword into Boris' heart.
Svyatopolk's next victim was Gleb. He sent word to the guileless prince that his father was very ill and was calling for him. Always obedient to his father, Gleb set off at once with a small retinue. Near Smolensk, where his route took him by boat down the river Smyadyn, he was met by emissaries from his brother Yaropolk bearing a letter of warning from their sister Predislava: "Do not come,' she wrote. "Your father has died and Svyatopolk has killed your brother."
But the warning had come too late. The murderers hired by Svyatopolk caught up with Gleb on the river. He knew that he alone was the object of the pursuit and, like his brother, Gleb urged his company not to offer armed resistance, as they were outnumbered and all would perish. After a momentary weakness in which he begged his assassins to spare his young life, he calmly accepted his fate in the understanding that the voluntary suffering of the innocent is a direct imitation of Christ. Gleb was killed by his own cook who, terrified into compliance by Svyatopolk's henchmen, seized the headof the young prince and cut his throat. His body was thrown onto the shore and covered with brush.
Five years later, when Yaroslav finally succeeded in overthrowing the treacherous Svyatopolk, the bodies of the two royal martyrs, discovered to be incorrupt, were laid to rest together in the church of St. Basil in Vyshgorod, Yaroslav' s residence near Kiev. Their tomb immediately became a place of pilgrimage, and the many miracles which took place before their relics persuaded Church authorities to consent to Yaroslav's request and canonize the two brother-princes.
Although Boris and Glob were not martyred for their faith (they are properly called 'passion-bearers' rather than martyrs), their voluntary and meek sacrifice for the sake of averting the suffering of others and preserving the Christian ideal, had a profound effect on the subsequent development of Christianity in Russia. Whereas in Byzantine Christianity God was often depicted as Pantocrator--stern and all-powerful, in Russia the emphasis was on Christ as the sacrificial Lamb Who 'opened not his mouth before his shearer'. Russian piety came to be characterized by a tender humility and an acceptance of suffering following the example of Christ. In this century Russia's New Martyrs offer a supreme testimony to the enduring influence of this otherworldly orientation which that country first witnessed in the exploit of the two youthful brother princes and passion-bearers, Boris and Gleb.
Source: OrthoChristian
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2024.05.15 10:40 Temsei 15th of May updates - Quality of Life changes & bug fixes

The biggest changes in the update are backend ones. We've made lots of progress on and our backend systems are healthier than ever! Work on that front continues as we ensure our systems will be capable of running smoothly as the game and our player base grows.
The main changes that are visible to you as a player though would be the changes to player to player item sending and daily boosts. Read on!
Changes
Bug fixes
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2024.05.15 10:37 JustTeucer I FILED A COMPLAIN AGAIST MY COMPANY TO DOLE REGARDING MY COLLECTIBLES UPON RESIGNATION

WHOLE STORY WITH SIMPLIFIED CONVO
Good day, I was an employee in a small firm, itago nalang natin sa pangalang XXX. It has been a year past before I resigned.
Timeline:
March 21, 2024,
I filed my resignation, and it took 3 processing days before they agreed on my resignation. There is no policy regarding the clearance but only a final instruction via conversation in microsoft (I still have the evidence)
March 26, 2024
is my last day, I already settled all the company assets (like Devices, documents, Company ID's)_ in our office where I reside. The following days, there are no further instructions, so I have assumed that I settled everything to them and at the same time, they terminated my microsoft account.
April 23, 2024.
almost 30 days, I emailed them a short notice regarding my remaining collectibles using my personal Microsoft account since they already terminated my company account. I also texted them on their phone number, but I haven't received any reply text.
"Dear XXX ManagementGood morning, ma'am and sir. ........
  1. OEC (Employment of Certificate) send via email as per meeting
  2. 13th Month Salary as per law
  3. March Unpaid Salary
  4. Other(s):
Remaining Unpaid leaves (as per company policy)Contributions
  1. Payslip (send via email)
April 25, 2024.
I tried to reach them; I talked to my employer thru messenger"Nag good morning ako sa employer and sinabi ko na nag mail ako sa kanila thru outlook, nag reply yung employer at sinabi na, nabasa nila at nalulungkot daw sya kasi wala naman daw akong naririnig sa kanila na demand kahit noon pa, bakit daw ako nag dedemand at hindi naman daw nila tinatakbuhan ang resposisbilities nila sa mga nag resign"The employer said that by the end of april, she will settled all my collectibles and will message me back.
Aril 30,2024
The employer messaged me back, as expected they hold back their promise because the client payment has not yet been reflected on their account, maybe this friday.
May 5,9,13, 2024
I try to follow up my demand, but they still insist because of the similar reason which has been a case on my whole year of working in my company. Despite that, they still give me the same response, so I did asked them about the processing.Medyo nag dududa na ako, it is an instinct sa isang tao ang mag duda right? kaya nag tanong ako
"Sinabi ko sa employer na nag dodoubt na ako, kaya tinanong ko kung ano ba yung courier service nila at ano na ang status. The employer told me na, ganyan na ba kasama ang XXX company saakin para pag dudahan ko, hindi naman daw sila tumatakas sa responsibility nila sa mga nag resign na may mga collectibles, lahat yun na sesettle, sadyang wala talaga kasi hindi pa ang babayad ang client, kahit daw yung employee nila is wala parin sweldo"
On my perspective, since I am no longer working for them, there is no reason to continue withholding my collectibles they should have think this thru since madami ng beses ako pinangakuan hinid lang after ko mag resign, noong december pa sila ganyan, at satingin ko hindi na tama ang action nila, kung hindi man stable ang cashflow satingin ko may iba pa naman paraan ayoko lang sabihin kasi it is not my legal right. After that case, I went to DOLE and inquire before I file a report.
  1. is it legal for the EMPLOYER to be aggressive whenever a EMPLOYEE demand for their final payment, I feel like I am being disrespected by my employer with them being unreasonable with their words since I only want a confirmation and answers. If yes, is there a labor act I can file against them?
  2. what if I nag comply saakin yung company, pwede ko ba i pa cancel yung conference, may consequence ba?
  3. Also, ano ang advice nyo if ever na dumating sa point na both parties are agreed to attend in conference. with arbitrary?Ano po ba ang process ng conference, and if ever may debate, if manalo ako, ano po ang mga consequence ng opposite party?
  4. Do I need to remind my company regarding the conciliation or let DOLE take an action?Thank you for reading.
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2024.05.15 10:34 Blunt552 The Xperia presentation was..... something...

The Xperia presentation was..... something...
The presentation was.... let's call it 'special'. It felt completely soulless and buzzwords got thrown around every single time. We should have an AI counter at this point, maybe someone is up to the challenge.
We were excited and looking forward to the new screen and telefoto, only to be completely dissapointed. The Display is a 1080p FHD+ display and the only thing Sony could say is, well it's 'brighter', whats worse it seems to run at a horribly low PWM, given some reviews it looks like a 120hz PWM panel (yikes). The fact they mention some 'AI contrast' to manipulate brightness in sunlight means the display is actually bottom of the barrell, no modern 2000nits display needs some AI contrast bs to improve viewing in sunlight, not only that but this will make taking pictures comlpetely impossible as youll have a very different picture than what you saw in the display.
They talk about best experience and passion but won't update older Xperia phones and using past media from 1V presentation, they have the balls to talk about creativity while restricting 3rd party and having limited options, can't even select bitrate on video or have RAW recording.
They also pretty much blatantly say, they arent focusing on pros, but normie consumers feeling like a pro. The music was also way to loud over the speech.
The telefoto samples shown were diastrous, they suffered from the same soft, smudgy bad processing from the previous generations, however its somehow even worse, I mean, does this really make anyone feel like macro isnt an afterthought?
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This certainly aint no vivo, that's for sure. Zoom into wonder? More like zoom into mud.
The soulless female (AI?) voice was also not helping making the entire presentation more awkward. They also talk about using Sony alpha tech, yet I don't see any BIONZX chip or similair, so I call bs on that. Also the entire Autofocus thing, just, wow, what a worthless way of using resources.
The Photographer, Oscar part:
Frankly felt just like a bad sales pitch, the video samples also had notably low bitrate, shallow dynamic range and had massive jittering issues. Far interior to what MotionCam can do.
Camera UI also seems pixel inspired and they seemingly market Sony to be usable for dark skinned people. Interesting to test that out later as we know it really struggles there.
The entire Audio part also just felt stupid, literally looked like putting 2 people into a room and ask them to sell the phone. Not to mention the awful idea of FPS boost, good luck having the gen3 running at max clocks at all times.
Then at the end, saving grace, the Xperia 10 VI, it felt way more livelier, fun, cute, creative. Actually was a good ad, whats more, the Xperia 10 VI actually looks like a phone worth getting this time around, upgraded 48mp camera (atho not exmor), improved speakers etc.
Overall this was a dumpsterfire, it seems they downgraded the telefoto in order to shove macro functionality in there.
What i've learned from this presentaton is:
Sony does care in a certain way and does listen, but they listen to the wrong people and implement the wrong things, the wrong way. They lack people who can do proper QA and give proper feedback. They took some risks and wasted ressources on the wrong things and now they kinda have a dumpsterfire on their hands. It's really hard to defend Sony at this point.
We also see a huge influx of ads... *cough* i mean 'reviews' of the new xperia VI popping up.
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2024.05.15 10:31 ajr30 What's going on in Neverwinter during the events of Dragon Heist?

I'm a newer player and we're all level 3 in the Dragon Heist campaign. Our DM mentioned he would love to have us run a one shot if we wanted to give it a try. We're all pretty good friends and somewhat casual so I'm comfortable diving in right away. So I decided to run the new Vecna level 3 quest (Nest of the Eldritch Eye).
I have a way to get the party there (my character is a sailor), to remove my PC temporarily (he'll continue with the ship and return in X days), and add the current DM's temp PC (either another passenger on the ship or a another sword for hire that gets placed with the party after arriving, his choice) So that all fits well within the setting of Dragon Heist and with our characters. But if you've read the intro to Nest of the Eldritch Eye, it says you're invited by Dagult Neverember. He's currently missing in the Dragon Heist campaign.
My hook was to have a letter from "Dagult" ask the adventurers to come to Neverwinter. They'll want to do it because everyone wants to find the guy. When they arrive, they're going to find out someone else is in charge and he lied about being Dagult. But my question, who should be in charge? Normally, I'd assume his son would be in charge but because of the events in Dragon Heist, Renaer is in Waterdeep. So who would normally be in charge of a city during the absence of its Lord?
I'd like this story to fit as neatly as possible in the campaign but don't want to be spoiled by looking up too much information about the Neverember family. I find it hard to make any world building choices without looking through wikis that are chock full of spoilers.
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2024.05.15 10:28 cazaroindia1 The Heart of the Home: Exploring the Endless Comforts and Uses of Sofas

The Heart of the Home: Exploring the Endless Comforts and Uses of Sofas
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In the grand tapestry of home decor, there’s one piece of furniture that stands out as the quintessential symbol of comfort and relaxation: the humble sofa. From movie nights with loved ones to quiet moments of solitude with a good book, sofas serve as the heart of the home, offering a sanctuary where we can unwind, connect, and recharge.
The versatility of sofas is unmatched. They come in various shapes, sizes, and styles, making them suitable for any space, whether it’s a cozy apartment or a sprawling family home. Their soft cushions and plush upholstery invite us to sink in and forget the worries of the day, providing a haven of comfort in the midst of life’s chaos.
One of the most cherished uses of a sofa is undoubtedly its role as the centerpiece of social gatherings. Whether it’s hosting friends for a lively dinner party or simply enjoying a casual conversation over a cup of coffee, sofas bring people together in a way that few other pieces of furniture can. Their ample seating allows for intimate conversations and shared laughter, fostering bonds and memories that last a lifetime.
But sofas are not just for socializing; they also serve as a sanctuary for moments of solitude and introspection. There’s something inherently soothing about curling up on a sofa with a warm blanket and a steaming mug of tea, allowing oneself to be enveloped by its comforting embrace. It’s a place where we can retreat from the noise of the world and find solace in our own thoughts, whether we’re pondering life’s mysteries or simply taking a well-deserved break.
Beyond their primary function as seating, sofas also play a practical role in our daily lives. They provide a comfortable spot for lounging while watching TV, reading a book, or even catching a quick nap. Their sturdy frames offer support and stability, ensuring that we can relax in peace without worrying about discomfort or strain.
In addition to their comfort and practicality, sofas can also make a statement as a design element in any room. Whether you prefer a sleek modern design or a cozy traditional aesthetic, there’s a sofa out there to suit every taste and style. From luxurious leather to sumptuous velvet, the myriad of upholstery options allows you to customize your sofa to reflect your personality and enhance the overall ambiance of your home.
Furthermore, sofas can be versatile multitaskers, serving as makeshift beds for overnight guests or impromptu workspaces for remote workers. Their generous dimensions provide ample space for stretching out and getting comfortable, whether you’re settling in for a movie marathon or tackling a stack of paperwork.
Of course, like any piece of furniture, sofas require care and maintenance to ensure their longevity and continued comfort. Regular cleaning and fluffing of cushions, along with occasional professional upholstery cleaning, can help keep your sofa looking and feeling its best for years to come.
In conclusion, sofas are much more than just pieces of furniture; they are the heart and soul of the home. From fostering connections with loved ones to providing a sanctuary for relaxation and introspection, sofas enrich our lives in countless ways. So the next time you sink into the soft embrace of your favorite sofa, take a moment to appreciate all the comfort and joy it brings to your home.
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2024.05.15 10:20 JustTea5231 How would you make sense of this history of a partner?

I started seeing a teacher when I moved to a new city for a new job (met on Hinge). I was working long hours at the hospital during COVID but got to see her a few times a week. She was a single mother with a 6 month old which I did not mind but as I got to know her I discovered the following things. After 11 months of knowing her she gave me an ultimatum to get a ring and be engaged within the next 3-4 months. Looking back, I ignored and dismissed a lot of things. Here are the things I learned and want to know what you would think if the person you are dating had this history and they were asking for a lifetime commitment:
• She had cheated on her ex-husband with a man at a party. When I asked her what the issues were in the marriage, she said he was a nice man but just neglectful of her in the marriage.
• She spent the next 5 years with the man she cheated with on her ex-husband. She left that man because “he wasn’t going to move on up in the world and make something of himself.” In other words, he wasn’t going to make more money or climb the social status ladder per her. I asked if he was good to her. She said - yes! He was an amazing partner otherwise.
• Then she found a man who is wealthy and educated and a lecturer, who has a good family and generational wealth including properties. He told her that he was polyamorous. She chased him and tried to convince him the entirety of their relationship to convert to monogamy for her. I spoke with him directly because he is the father of her child. He said that she moved fast and was talking about marriage within 3 months of knowing him. He was unwilling to really change his lifestyle and even took her to orgies and shared books on poly lifestyle with her to see if she would be okay with being his main person while he does poly. After 11 months or more of dating and eventually living together, she finds out she is pregnant with his child. She tells everyone that she missed the pill for a day or two and got pregnant. (When she told me this I was very surprised because my understanding is that it’s quite rare to get pregnant with just missing one day). She found out she was pregnant and decides to keep the baby. All the while trying to convince the baby’s father to marry her. He eventually told her that he didn’t want the child or a family. While she is figuring this out with him, she began sleeping with a dentist during pregnancy. I asked her about this choice and why not stay with this dentist. She said that he was burning out and was looking to leave dentistry. Once she knew that the baby’s biological dad would not marry her at any cost, she calls up the ex-boyfriend and starts sleeping with him once the baby is born.
• I discovered recently that during our relationship, she has been scanning for other men and keeping her options open. I am so disappointed and upset with myself for ignoring the red flags.
Tell me if you knew this history about a person, what conclusions you would draw and if you would get into a long-term relationship with them? Thanks for the input.
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2024.05.15 10:11 M0rpo Renewing tenancy - landlord not signed!

I moved into my current rented property in June 2021 with a 1 year tenancy agreement. On the day I was handed keys the landlord mentioned that behind the big fence in our garden was also his plot of land and he was planning to build another property on it. This was never mentioned during our initial viewing or negotiating contract stage. After an argument with the agent we amended the contract to include a break clause.
I lived in the property for a year and renewed the tenancy for another year. No building work had commenced on the other plot of land. I saw the landlord in December 2023 and he mentioned his plan to start building at beginning of January 2024. It had been 4 years of planning application but he finally was ready to begin.
January 2024 came and went, no building work commenced. March 2024, the agent asks me if I would like to stay on at the property or move as the tenancy is coming to an end in June. I say that I would like to stay. A few weeks later the agent states the landlord would like to renew the tenancy but increase the rent. I try to negotiate a lower rent and the agent says the landlord is firm.
I agree the rent increase and am sent a renewed tenancy agreement to sign. It's mid-April and I sign off the tenancy agreement. However, the landlord has not signed the agreement.
About a week after I sign the agreement, the landlord texts me that he wants to have a chat about his building project. Next day he shows up and states he wants to run a hose from our garden over the fence to his building site along with an electricity cable using my utility supply. His building site needs water and electricity and for some reason he didn't arrange this in 4 years of planning.
Going into this discussion, I know that he has not signed the agreement (he probably also knows that I know this). I wasn't happy that he acted dishonestly by raising the rent, getting me to sign and then dropping the news. It felt like he was deliberately not signing in an act of blackmail. After thinking about his proposition, I tell him I feel uncomfortable and don't want to share my utilities and was surprised that he did not mention commencing building works when we were negotiating the renewal.
I worded my email very nicely and just explained I would like to be kept separate to the building project and to enjoy the property in peace. No further reply was received from the landlord.
I noticed the landlord has STILL not signed the agreement. I call the agent at end of April and am told he has 6 weeks to sign and they have not heard anything from the landlord to suggest there's a problem. I am informed if he does not sign, then we go to a 1 month rolling contract. This does not sound right! I can't help but feel there's some games being played in the background and maybe he's going to pull out the "I have to sell the property" card, or look for different tenants.
My questions are:
  1. Have I formed an agreement for renewal already? We negotiated rent, they sent out contracts for signing - surely there was intention to form a contract? Do I need his signature or is that considered "pro forma"
  2. If the landlord doesn't sign, where does that leave me in June when it expires? I have no place to go and can't be expected to find a place with a few days' notice. I have been a good tenant and don't want to be hassled by Section 21 / eviction - the landlord should be upfront about his intentions if we soured things for not bending over to his utility requests.
  3. If the landlord doesn't sign and I am still in the property in June: do I pay the current rent rate, or should I pay the increased rent rate which he has not signed off? I feel that if I pay the new rent rate it will support the idea that the renewal has commenced. Their acceptance of the rent would support this notion.
  4. If I see a different property next week which I like. Can I void this agreement considering the landlord has not signed? I understand there is no cooling off period in tenancy agreements, but surely the other party has to sign within a reasonable period to the other? It's almost taken him a month to sign and he has failed to!
Thank you for any advice.
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2024.05.15 10:07 Sikhdiviner How you start is not always How you finish

How you start is not always How you finish
My first intro to Orisa was a way of Self Discovery, i was already working on my spirituality, training with Mentors in the Psychic community and reading clients when my regular reader Kept telling me that there was an african woman behind me saying the word “O-ri-sha”. Neither of us knew What that word meant but he insisted that I Found out. This Psychic was an old white man. A Message is a message despite the appearance of the Messenger
I eventually Traveled to New Orleans many times, had various experiences, even moved and became a reader there without ever knowing that New Orleans was where my paternal great grandparents immigrated to the USA from Jamaica through New Orleans, which I discovered many years later.
After getting into contact with a well nown Santero in Miami, I flew over to get Divination done, receive my elekes, guerreros, olokun, palo muerto etc. even got scratched in Preparation for doing ocha.
I eventually left the ile and my ocha basket, my elekes and orisas there After many things occurring, things spoken during misas that made me go hmmm and just general blockages. Several times my GPS would stop working and I would find myself lost for hours trying to find my padrino’s home. With him being a santero of elegua, I thought that was significant.
Eventually I took a break, went to a Babalawo and received my hand of ifa, new warriors etc. Discovered that the previous house was planning to initiate me to the wrong orisa, it was supposed to be his orisa and felt a type of ways. The babalawo that cast my odu isefa had the same ifa odu as me and also was a little shocked and my oluwo tried to illuminate my naive mind.
I took a long break from the religion, I had noticed that I garnered way more success without it, I had made the most money in my career, when I just left santeria alone. I tried one last time to give cuban ifa a try with another babalawo who remade all my shrines, taught me, mentored me, gave me me osain and allowed me to help him with clients and basic rituals and sacrifices. Learned a lot but same as before, nothing miraculous really changed. I switched to an Isese babalawo (popoola lineage) for ebbos just for change of perspective. I effectively left santeria, ifa and orisa for good, I would just get an ifa divination once in a while.
I went back to vodou because that was my first ATR experience and the ancestral pull as well as it actually worked for me. But during kanzo in Haiti, I started to dream a lot about Africa, somewhere I had never been or wanted to go, and I blew it off.
Months later, I had this strange dream involving sango, talking about ifa, I thought it was ludicrous so I contacted my babalawo for divination, and the odu cast spoke about both sango and going into ifa. Weeks later, I got another divination from someone from an afa lineage without telling him anything and he had a similar divination result. So I took it seriously after talking to 3 different babalawos from three different lineages and countries.
I found myself in africa for the first time, I was afraid, I did afa initiation as well as other ceremonies, I was still apprehensive though. After coming back to usa, I got an outside divination and it came out in ibi, someone was trying to take me out.
I got very ill, doctors ran tests for 5 weeks even wearing a heart monitor and they could not figure out why my heart was failing. Yup, I was dying at 33 years old, 5 years later my brother died at 33. You probably guessed it, it was an inside the family thing. Anyways, I was terminated from my employer and I threatened to sue them very publicly because I had nothing to lose. They settled, I had a large sum of money but I was still dying so I had two choices have fun or do orisa initiation and hope for a miracle.
I was invited to the ebohon center in Benin city, got my nigerian visa but I was too sick to travel back to africa, didn’t have medical authorization, so I went to Brazil instead, to initiate under one of Araba agboola’s godchildren there, I stayed for 5 weeks. I did a lot of ceremonies. I went into trance with orisa for the first time, then again and again. It was around the third time that I felt a significant change in my heart beat and the palpitations had stopped. Within 3 months, I never had another problem again.
I went back to Brazil and found out I was touched by the candomble bug via my previous godfather, meaning he mixed some things Brazilian and Isese. one tradition does not wipe out the other, no baptism can undo a previous ceremony also finding out that sango never left me alone despite him not being the orisha of my ori. I went to a festa of xango at the famous terreiro do cobre, one girl was mounted with xango, hugged me and wouldn’t let go until I slipped into trance. I woke up in the back room and the iyalorisa of the lineage said I had to do some ceremonies in candomble. I went to various terreiros to get differing opinions and they all said similar things. So that’s how I ended up in candomble when I didn’t want to be.
Before the pandemic, I went back to nigeria and Benin to learn, study, do more ceremonies over a planned trip of 6 weeks which turned into 6 months. Surprisingly enough I ended up in the ile of another popoola lineage babalawo and iyanifa without realizing it.
just clarify my relationship with the popoola family is purely transactional, I bought their entire library of books, lectures, songs, etc, did divination with them for many years and used their olorisas they usually employ but they don’t consider me to be affiliated and so neither do I. I have never met chief popoola in person
Ejiogbe is the odu of many ebbos, sacrifices, orikis, loss, abundance, gossip, jealousy, betrayal, triumph over adversity, healing, longevity, being well known but alone, many taboos, honesty but many lie on you, charity without gratitude or acknowledgment.
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2024.05.15 10:06 ThrowRAbear4929 stuck at a crossroad for a decision

months ago, i mindlessly bought a pair of concert tickets for an acquaintance and i. shes constantly asked to attend a concert together for almost a year now. the opportunity finally came and i felt compelled to buy tickets. to add onto this, i scored front row/meet and greet tickets (which aren’t easy to get). for the longest, i’ve been struggling to decide on whether or not i should go?
i need advice and i need help making a final decision ASAP. i made a list of pros/cons to give more context on things :)
side note: she has other friends sitting directly behind us and she’s closer with them, so if i weren’t going, accommodations/having company are already set up well.
pros of going: 1. a new experience and memory i wouldn’t regret 2. can help strengthen our bond/make memories (which is somewhat meaningful to me bc i’ve been trying to build friendships) 3. front row! plus meet and greet…i’ve never done M&G! 4. a way to celebrate the end of my semester 5. i’ll get signed items, selfies with artists, and cool memorabilia 6. i know 85% songs on the setlist 7. my $800 ticket was paid for (as a gift)
cons of going: 1. parent doesn’t approve of my plan bc they’re rightfully concerned about the following below 2. gas, food, merch will cost like $400 max. money is tight for me rn as a college student 3. traveling solo, no one nearby to rely on if something happens 4. will have to work harder on making money back 5. on a time crunch bc i’ll have to drive back home after concert ends (i struggle longterm driving past 1am, i could get sleepy) 6. general safety risks as i’m going with acquaintances i met online 7. i saw most of those songs performanced last year. only new thing will be the meet and greet for me. 8. i had longterm anxious/uneasy thoughts and feelings about this plan 9. i am only a casual listener, these artists are not my most favorite
pros of not going: 1. i can sell ticket for more than i bought it for 2. i would have saved $1200 after selling the ticket 3. i can put that money towards future concert funds that i will most def need to see my FAVORITE singers in 2025 4. will not worry my parent 5. can attend a grad party i was invited to 6. i am assured that i am safe at home/stress free 7. i can start studying for my summer class that i HAVE to pass 8. i can always hang out with acquaintance another time, when i am in her city
cons of not going: 1. fomo 2. missing out on the meet and greet 3. missing out on getting rare interactive moments with artist 4. missed out on potential good memories for myself and with these acquaintances
please help me decide😭this is stressing me out that i lost sleep over this
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2024.05.15 10:06 Thewhitedragon00 POKÉMON TTRPG

Alright, I might end up regretting putting this invite up on Reddit of all places, but oh well. I'm looking for 3-5 Pokémon/D&D fans who'd be interested in playing a 5e-inspired Pokémon game. Looking for people around 17-21 (I'm fresh out of my first year in college and would love to play with some ppl my age) I spent the last week coming up with the mechanics for how to play and am working on the plot for the game itself. It's very Mystery Dungeon meets 5e mechanics.
Oh yeah, and I'm from NY so I'd love it if anyone interested was from around there too, if anything it's just so the whole party goes by the same time zone.
So again, looking for about 3-5 people aged 17-21 in the EST time zone who love Pokémon and either love or have wanted to try a TTRPG of some kind.
DM me if you have any interest.
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2024.05.15 10:00 BalkanCastevet Modern female director horror

In recent years many female directors are entering horror with good films, this is my list with the respective films that I consider good
Jennifer Kent (Babadook)
Veronika Franza (Goodnight Mommy, The Lodge)
Julia Ducournau (Raw. Titane)
Toby Poser-Zelda Adams (The Deeper You Dig, Hellbender, Where the Devil Roams)
Ana LIly Amirpour (A Girl Walks Home Alone at Night, Mona Lisa and the Blood Moon)
Karyn Kusama (Jennifer's Body, The Invitation)
Rose Glass (Saint Maud)
Natalie Erika James (Relic)
Issa Lopez (Vuelven/ Tigers Are Not Afraid)
Zu Quirke (Nocturne)
Mitzi Peirone (Braid)
Terrie Samundra (Kaali Khuhi)
Jill Gevargizian (The Stylist)
Carlson Young (The Blazing World)
Rebekah McKendry (Glorious)
Leigh Janiak (Fear Street saga)
Lisa Brühlmann (Blue My MInd)
Camille Griffin (Silent NIght)
Hanna Bergholm (The Hatching)
Chloe Okuno (Watcher)
Vanessa Winter (Deastream)
Michelle Garza Cervera (Huesera)
Carlota Martínez-Pereda (Cedrita/ Piggy)
Prano Bailey-Bond (Censor)
Mercedes Bryce Morgan (Spoonful of Sugar)
Anita Rocha da Silveira (Medusa)
Ruth Paxton (A Banquet)
Mickey Keating (Off Season)
Frida Kempff (Knocking)
Sam Walker (The Seed)
Ruth Platt (Martyrs Lane)
Madeleine Sims-Fewer (Violation)
Brea Grant (12 Hour Shift, Torn Hearts)
Stewart Thorndike (Bad Things)
The Soska Sister (American Mary)
Halina Reijn (Bodies Bodies Bodies)
Danishka Esterhazy (Slumber Party Massacre)
Coralie Fargeat (Revenge)
Anna Biller (The Love Witch)
Anvita Dutt Guptan (Bulbbul)
Ambra Principato (Hai Mai Avuto Paura?)
Marina de Van (Dans ma peau/ In My Skin, Dark Touch)
Teresa Sutherland (Loely, Dark and Deep)
Indianna Bell (You'll Never Find Me)
Ariane Louis-Seize (Vampire humaniste cherche suicidaire consentant / Humanist Vampire Seeking Consenting Suicidal Person)
Arkasha Stevenson (First Omen)
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2024.05.15 09:59 TraditionalOrder325 CMV: WW2 should not be seen as a victory

The lead up to WW2 was this: the entente defeated the German Empire, forced them to demilitarize, pay excessive reparations, and cede large amounts of territory. The weakened German state that followed was in a constant state of economic crisis and political instability, which allowed an extremist party to seize power. In other words, the actions of the democratic powers during WW1 through Versailles directly caused the fall of democracy and rise of fascism in Germany. Perhaps this was unforeseeable? Maybe this could have been forgiven if they maintained their domineering stance, but no, just as democracy fell in Germany, the democratic powers withdrew from the Rhineland, allowed them to annex Austria and Czechoslovakia, and allowed them to remilitarize, actively empowering fascists. So no shit they invaded Poland and smoked France, that was literally in the manifesto the nazis, no amount of appeasement could have convinced them not to. But anyways, the war starts (which was very forseeable) and Germany wins many victories in the first years (forseeable). So what can Britain do now? Nothing. They were helpless, and would have lost if Germany didn't keep getting distracted, with Greece, Yugoslavia, and especially the USSR. So they relied on Stalin (who was also a genocidal dictator) to defeat Hitler. Surely once we win Stalin will allow his occupied territory to be free and democratic, right? No, all of Eastern Europe fell under authoritarian regimes. Were there victories in WW2? Yes. There were victories against Hitler and Mussolini, who if they had succeeded then Europe would generally have been worse then it has been under Stalin. Was the war itself a victory? No. A war of that scale which could have been prevented and allowed the rise of dictators like Stalin and Mao can not possibly be seen as a victory for humanity. The simple fact that Germany was allowed to get to the point in which it could conquer Europe singlehandedly was a defeat, and the axis go down in history for having invaded France in six weeks, for winning battles outnumbered 10-1 on the eastern front, while the democracies are remembered for incompetence, needing daddy Stalin to save them. In regards to the Japanese front, I am not convinced the Japanese would have killed more people than Mao, who rose to power due to a weakened Chinese state after WW2, although I admit I don't know nearly as much about this. TLDR: The rise of fascism was provoked by democratic powers, the expansion of fascist regimes was allowed by democratic powers, the inevitable conflict with the fascist powers was made unwinnable by their actions, and only by signing away all of Eastern Europe to Stalin was fascism brought down. Not worth celebrating.
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2024.05.15 09:58 Calamity_Armor So, this is my humble opinion on why the game is not doing well

INTRO: First and foremost, I don't know if anyone cares, but I just reached Plat 2. For someone with a full-time job, I think I did pretty well, although my KDR is quite bad.
HOW IT STARTED: I think the game got a ton of hype in the beta for a good reason. It was explosive, sparkly, good-looking, and the CS:GO x Valorant x Apex hybrid that we were looking for. As a veteran Apex player, I can say that Apex feels so bloated these days, with so many new layers added each season in a desperate attempt to keep the game relevant, that I no longer recognize the game I fell in love with some years ago.
Ending the side story, The Finals did very well in the alpha/beta because everyone was a noob, and we were just messing around. When it got released, the classic "playing meta characters/weapons" settled in, and some powers/weapons/even classes became irrelevant, at the very least for the solo queue experience.
WHAT I LIKE: The graphics and movement system are unmatched for me. Even Apex falls short when it comes to movement and the numerous ways you can approach a situation due to the destruction physics. I think the only time Apex gets the lead is in map sizes, but we are talking about barren lands vs high-dense housing buildings.
The overall Mirror Edge aesthetics and battlefield destruction physics, combined with Apex sweatiness, is a winning combo for me. The game oozes with personality, even in the marketing materials. As a graphic designer, I recognize something that others may not. For example, on most marketing materials including the website, you can see printing artifacts and errors, which in a web environment should not make sense, but the game wants to give you the feeling of "this is a real billboard/poster that is going to be placed in the real world because this is a real event," which I think is really great.
This might be the most fast-paced game I've ever played, and I love it. It really gives you that adrenaline kick, and you don't have to walk 50 km to find an enemy team like in Apex.
Great performance, for the way it looks and moves, the team behind it did a pretty good job preserving the looks that we saw on YouTube (some downgrades happened, obviously) for the time when the game got released.
WHAT I DON'T LIKE: The game fails, and let's not sugarcoat it, we are in freefall as of now because it fails to attract new players. We all know that; even the streamers are not touching it. I think, at the end of the day, the game is not fun solo, which let's be real, not many of us have that many friends, or better yet, not often are you able to sync with a bunch of people in order to play.
Personally, I would've focused more on environmental destruction and less on the pew-pew part. I don't really know how to put it into words, but I believe the game would've been more inviting if the environmental destruction (the main gimmick of the game) played a bigger role and not the classic "HHM or MMM" team combos that we see every day. Most of the time, I play the same game where no one dares to pick the sword, the shield, or another weapon that does not make sense. I am always punished by teammates when I pick the flamethrower, for example.
The new maps are terrible, let's face it. Vegas and the Glitching map are just bad. The starting maps are glorious; the fact that they took real places (most of the time) and transformed them into an arena is genius. They could have expanded it every year with cities around the world and even inspired the battle pass skins on the country the new map was coming from but maintaining the sports apparel vibe and feel of the game.
The game is detaching from Mirror Edge's aesthetics, and this is a big no-no for me. I love skins as much as the next guy, but if you pay attention, most of the free skins the game gives you are sports apparel, which is great for the game. I don't mind if the skins are even fancier sports apparel, but I fail to see how a $19 bunny costume or an Elvis costume would fit into the game. I think the skins are random af and not in a good way.
Lastly and arguably the most important, the lack of any social interaction... I get that text chat was thought through for toxicity reasons, but I think the game could borrow a page from League of Legends or Fortnite's book when it comes to introducing the social element into the game. These things have been said before: a global chat, an actual clan system, menus that help you see who you played with, check profiles, and add those players, make players play with one another, and create the bridges that are necessary for players to connect with one another.
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2024.05.15 09:57 Abushenab8 Meaningful conversations

This is more of a reaction to an earlier conversation posted here about someone who was leaving Thailand. A host of reasons for leaving Thailand was given, one of which was the "lack of meaningful conversation". This reason struck a chord in me as I have literally been unable to have a truly meaningful discussion on ANY topic for the past 15 years (more or less). This sorry state of affairs (555555!!!) came about when at the age of 50 I finally realized that if I truly wanted to understand what life was all about I should end the yearly visits to Peru (15 years of ayahuasca), end all the books/meditation/retreats and all that "stuff" and just do the hard work of sitting down by myself day after day and figure out what was TRUE. Long story short, after 3 or 4 years (I am admittedly a VERY slow learner!!) I arrived at a point where no meaningful conversations can EVER be had!! I laugh and laugh at this state of affairs as it SUCKS!!! I often find myself in my condo lobby having coffee being pulled in by my condo neighbors into "meaningful conversations" which I can only engage in half-heartedly as such conversations are ultimately completely empty regardless of the content or beliefs being discussed. (Just in case my condo neighbors here in Chaing Mai read this - you guys and gals have BRILLIANT minds, certainly far beyond mine, so please cut me some slack when I just sit there like a bump on a log!! 5555555!!!) I guess the MOST enjoyable and pleasant "meaningful conversations" I now have are usually with the condo cleaning staff when we debate the places about town that have the best BBQ or the lady out front selling fruit and our 2-year continuing "arguments" about locations where she could make more money. So, when I read how important it is to engage in "meaningful conversations" with other people I have to go back MANY years to a time when this was a "thing" for me. (Hmmmm!!! Maybe this explains why I don't get invited to a lot of dinner parties!!! 555555!!!!) But, here I sit in Chiang Mai at 71 years old, happy as a fool and knowing full well that "meaningful conversations" were left by the wayside (for me) many MANY years ago.
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2024.05.15 09:57 adulting4kids Figures of Speech

34. Epistrophe:
Craft a moment in your story where a character delivers a powerful speech or internal reflection using epistrophe. Explore the emotional resonance as they repeat a key phrase at the end of successive clauses, emphasizing a central theme or revelation.
35. Hypophora:
Incorporate hypophora into a scene where a character addresses a burning question or issue by posing it to themselves, then proceeding to answer it. Explore how this rhetorical device enhances both the character's introspection and the engagement of your readers.
36. Anadiplosis:
Build tension or highlight a character's resilience by using anadiplosis. Develop a situation where the strength of the team is emphasized through the repetition of a key word or phrase at the end of one sentence and the beginning of the next.
37. Ellipsis:
Create an air of mystery or suspense by employing ellipsis in a scene. Use it to hint at unspoken thoughts, leaving gaps in the narrative that invite readers to speculate on what is left unsaid or what lies beyond the ellipses.
38. Asyndeton:
Write a fast-paced sequence in your story using asyndeton, omitting conjunctions to create a sense of urgency and momentum. Explore how this stylistic choice influences the pacing and tone of the narrative.
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2024.05.15 09:56 InsaneComicBooker Wizards...Nine? A proposal

UNMARKED SPOILERS BELOW, I will sadly go into spoiler territorry so often the post would look like a bad SCP Foundation article if I tried to black out every single one.
First thing I thought upon finding out about the Wizard Three in Sigil was to notice an opportunitty to include more iconic characters. As we learned more about their role I noticed several complaints about them. Like, "why are we having epic level NPCs relegating the work to mid-level party"? Or "isn't Tasha evil? What is she doing here?" Or "how the hell did Kas fool Tasha, who knows Mordekainen very well?". And so an idea to fix these issues all at once presented itself to me.
In this version of adventure, the PCs are summonned not by Wizard Three, but Wizard Nine. Nine iconic, high-level wizards or other magic users from across D&D worlds or even beyond. They were all summonned to Sigil, to each tap into one of Outer Planes of appriopriate aligment and channel that power into Wish, so the Will of the entire multiverse wishes of Vecna's death. Once it fails, the wizards realize it means one of them must nto be who they claim, possibly an agent of Vecna. So they immediatelly lock themselves in Sanctuary - only PCs can enter and leave because they weren't i nthe room doing the casting of that super Wish. And every time they return with next piece of the Rod, they find Wizards in most disfunctional game of Among Us ever, often probably erupting into violence - this is nine geniuses working AGAINST each other as everyone suspects everyone.
Now, you could keep the original reveal, where Mordekainen is the imposter. If you do, I would advocate against bringing any magic users who know him, like Tasha, Elminster, Storm Silverhand or Dalamar the Dark. If you decide to change the imposter's identity, you can happily bring in some of them, but I would avoid those who know each other (so if you want Elminster, then no Mordekainen or Dalamar).
Evil characters can work with this group because of several reasons, which they should be open about. They may vary from "You think I don't realize Vecna is going to screw ME over alongside everyone else", through "uppity gods need to be put in their place, especially this one" to "I would love what the guy is promising to do to all creation, but I'm not bending my knee to NOBODY!".
Below is a list of proposed characters to use from as many worlds I could think of. I will be comign back to this post to add more names and more worlds with further research, potentially going even beyond strictly D&D settings. You ca drop your own suggestions, I will happily add them to the list with next edit. All requirements are that the character is able to cast 9th level spells, if you have any notes for potential DM willing to use them, please provide them as well.
Eberron - I noticed most of suggestions for Eberron are of evil variety, due to the setting's lack of high-level heroic NPCs (with two exceptions that cannot leave their seats of power), but we'll work with what we have
Exandria (Critical Role) - I noticed most Exandria characters don't reach this high level - even Circle of Brass from Calamity were level 15. However, I found two options to provide a bit of fanservice for any critters at your table, both Chaotic Good:
Krynn (Dragonlance)
Magic the Gathering - there are many worlds in this franchise, but they're often very shallow, so I will group this stuff together.
Mystara - one of my beloved classic worlds, poses an issue because it never conformed to classic 9-types aligment, isntead opting for lawful (defined as "altruistic") and chaotic ("selfish"). A rare exception, 2e book Glantri: Kingdom of Magic, was a big help here.
Oearth (Greyhawk)
Toril (Forgotten Realms)
Domains of Dread (Ravenloft) - I put this one last because of unique use we could have out of Domaind of Dread in this campaign. You see, we know that characterstrapped in Demiplane of Dread cannot leave that easily, they need Dark Powers' permission. And Dark Powers are backing up Kas. I have also seen multiple complaints how both main antagonists of this campaign - Vecna nad Kas - are absent from most of it, with many ideas being thrown around about having Kas as an active rival that competes for pieces of the Rod. It occured to me that he may play that role, while we still have an impostor - another character trapped in Demiplane of Dread could be working with Kas and the Dark Powers in exchange for their freedom. This way we could even allow PCs to sherlock holmes who the traitor is between collecting different pieces of the Rod, and still can have Kas show up with hordes of monsters to steal the Rod later. All that matters is they do not impersonate a character of the same aligment. Here are some candidates for this role:
That's for now, but rest assured, I shall be returning to this post to update it with more characters, potentially more campaign worlds even. Your suggestions whom to add are always welcome.
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2024.05.15 09:53 JustTea5231 How would you make sense of this relationship history of a partner?

I started seeing a teacher when I moved to a new city for a new job (met on Hinge). I was working long hours at the hospital during COVID but got to see her a few times a week. She was a single mother with a 6 month old which I did not mind but as I got to know her I discovered the following things. After 11 months of knowing her she gave me an ultimatum to get a ring and be engaged within the next 3-4 months. Looking back, I ignored and dismissed a lot of things. Here are the things I learned and want to know what you would think if the person you are dating had this history and they were asking for a lifetime commitment:
• She had cheated on her ex-husband with a man at a party. When I asked her what the issues were in the marriage, she said he was a nice man but just neglectful of her in the marriage.
• She spent the next 5 years with the man she cheated with on her ex-husband. She left that man because “he wasn’t going to move on up in the world and make something of himself.” In other words, he wasn’t going to make more money or climb the social status ladder per her. I asked if he was good to her. She said - yes! He was an amazing partner otherwise.
• Then she found a man who is wealthy and educated and a lecturer, who has a good family and generational wealth including properties. He told her that he was polyamorous. She chased him and tried to convince him the entirety of their relationship to convert to monogamy for her. I spoke with him directly because he is the father of her child. He said that she moved fast and was talking about marriage within 3 months of knowing him. He was unwilling to really change his lifestyle and even took her to orgies and shared books on poly lifestyle with her to see if she would be okay with being his main person while he does poly. After 11 months or more of dating and eventually living together, she finds out she is pregnant with his child. She tells everyone that she missed the pill for a day or two and got pregnant. (When she told me this I was very surprised because my understanding is that it’s quite rare to get pregnant with just missing one day). She found out she was pregnant and decides to keep the baby. All the while trying to convince the baby’s father to marry her. He eventually told her that he didn’t want the child or a family. While she is figuring this out with him, she began sleeping with a dentist during pregnancy. I asked her about this choice and why not stay with this dentist. She said that he was burning out and was looking to leave dentistry. Once she knew that the baby’s biological dad would not marry her at any cost, she calls up the ex-boyfriend and starts sleeping with him once the baby is born.
• I discovered recently that during our relationship, she has been scanning for other men and keeping her options open. I am so disappointed and upset with myself for ignoring the red flags.
Tell me if you knew this history about a person, what conclusions you would draw and if you would get into a long-term relationship with them? Thanks for the input.
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2024.05.15 09:49 Bintamreeki Friends say I’m too quiet.

When I was younger, I would freely talk. Then someone said I speak when I’m not spoken to. So, I shut the F up. I no longer speak unless someone speaks to me directly.
My best friend took me to a party and I met a few people, but no one really engaged me. So, I sat quietly.
Recently, they say I’m very quiet. One friend said he assumed I couldn’t speak English because I just didn’t talk.
I feel very self-conscious if I’m not verbally invited into a conversation.
My BFF was having a conversation earlier this evening and asked me why I wasn’t adding any input. I said, “I wasn’t invited to the conversation. And you’re talking about an experience you two shared. How can I have input on something I wasn’t involved in?”
I would love to talk. I enjoy talking. But most people don’t engage me. So, I shut the F up.
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2024.05.15 09:46 Majestic-Dark-3453 An unorthodox approach

Hey everyone, this is a first for me, but I thought I would give it a try. I’m 26M, originally from Luxembourg, but currently studying Engineering in the Netherlands. The reason I make this post is, that I’m looking to meet and date women in Luxembourg. But due to me currently only being in the country for the weekends, my social circle in Luxembourg has dissolved after Highschool. Additionally, dating while not being interested in partying or participating in large-scale social events, proves to be quite a challenge. With this post, I’m hoping to reach like-minded women. That being said, I might be an introvert in superficial social environments, but in private I enjoy good company. I love good conversation, debating a large range of topics is a central part of my identity. I’m of average fitness, but I enjoy the outdoors. I love dogs, I’m currently volunteering at a shelter, and considering adopting one. I’m looking for a serious long-term relationship and I know for a fact that after graduating I would like to work and live in Luxembourg. Being interested in building a future and a family there, I’m looking for someone that is also certain that they want to stay in Luxembourg. If anyone feels like this post resonates with them, and they would be interested in chatting and potentially setting up a meet, I would love to hear from you. I’m of course aware that this post provides an almost daring invitations for trolls. I can only appeal to your sense of decency, to rather ignore me than engage in trolling, but for those of you that I cannot deter. Next time when you wash your hands, may your sleeves get wet))
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