Okay, today is a holiday. Open assistant, go to family bell... it's blank. Restart app... still blank. "Hey Google, pause all family bells until Tuesday. Silence." I say, "Hey Google, what did I just say?" She repeats it back. "So did you do it?" I ask? "If you're happy I'm happy," she idiotically relplies. Seconds later, the first family bell goes off. Do some Googling, I find that this feature is discontinued! So first of all WHAT THE HELL! You're a multi-trillion dollar company... can't you alert me well in advance that this change is coming? And now, how do I get rid of or edit these family bells?

This is for DISCUSSION! Not to throw shade or stir up anything! Just a thought I wanted to toss out!
SF6 is the first Street Fighter I've played online and put some time in ranked. Putting that as a caveat that I am new to the ranked scene. Also putting the CAVEAT that this suggestion is for RANKED, play one game or a set of twenty in casual - who cares.
It seems some of the major argument I keep seeing from people in defense of leaving after a one and done is "something might have come up", "I don't owe you the FT2", "bad connection", "it takes 30 seconds to find another game", and a lot of ways of framing "I'm not a coward." Which to be honest. These are all valid.
On the other hand the game is clearly set up for a FT2 in ranked. So if all the above reasons are real? Just adjust point gains? This would help defuse one of the major arguments against people leaving - that you are afraid to lose your points and you just don't want to risk losing / losing again.
- THIS IS THE QUICKEST DIRTIEST MATH EVER - math is also based on a semi- ELO system, of points lost and gained being equal if both players rematch, just for ease of discussion.
Adjust points for leaver by lets say a max of 50%?
Example:

1. Player A wins. Player B loses.
   • Both rematch.
     • Player A (+100)
     • Player B (-100)
   • Player A rematch. Player B quits.
     • Player A (+100) - gets what they earned / had. No Bonus.
     • Player B (-125) - players takes a small (25%) penalty for mitigating risk and not finishing set.
   • Player A quits. Player B rematches.
     • Player A (+25) - Takes large penalty. Still gets points, if connection was bad etc. then should still be fine because still leaves with points. But takes penalty for large mitigation of risk.
     • Player B (-50) - Has no chance to recoup points but still leaves with a loss on points.

Additional info:

• Like stated above this is not true ELO, and would have to be adjusted to be much harsher for MR since there has to be equal loss and gain of points.
• Quit / Rematch screen would need to be adjusted so player could not see others choice in order to not have people drain the clock and not chose something hoping to get points / no lose as many points.
• I did this in like 10 mins and am just posting for discussion!

I have a friend who is on a Asylum seeker visa with a work permit. Her work permit only allows her to work i a care homes or hospital. She has been working in a NHS hospital over a year now they refuse to give her permanent position because of her visa status And couple of days ago she got hurt while working and her hand was pretty banged up. Instead of giving her a first aid or a filling out an accident report her manager told her u can go home but you won’t get paid for the day. By then she had already work half a shift for the day, she continued working in a fear of not getting paid. She got home put ice on the swollen wound all night, today she went to Emergency and got it scanned because i forced her to incase she had fractured her bones and she went to work. Her manager came to see her today and told her they will not fill out accident report because it’s a lengthy process. The audacity, like i know its not legal to not report a work accident and you have to fill out an accident report form. Not just that he also told her, if anyone asks what happened to her hand to tell them she got injured elsewhere not at work.
I want to help my friend because i feel this is not fair and not right how she is being treated and I am telling her to file a complaint with HR but she is afraid that she will lose a job and she will have to leave UK because of her visa type.
Can anyone please suggest me what should we do in this case.

Hello everyone, first post in here so please go easy on me lol.
Im 26 years old and live in NY, Long Island specifically. My 2 friends that are in the plumbing union (Local 200) are telling me to get in the union, the apprenticeship program is taking applications mid June. Ive never worked a trade before, I know jack shit about plumbing but im definitely a hard worker, can focus on task and always willing to put the work in wether its in classroom or on the job. A little about my current job is that Im earning around 60k with benefits and pension and year to year percentage increases, but I can see how something like this could be a good career maneuver even if theres a pay cut at first because of the overall benefits/rewards down the line. Would anyone be willing to give me their two cents about what they think? Im obviously going to talk to my 2 friends that are already in the union, but I figured the more input from others outside of my situation the better.

I’m sort of dealing with a dilemma at the moment. I (23F) have intensive intrusive thoughts that I might be lesbian. I have a bf (22M) of about 8 months. About 2 years ago, these thoughts came in the form of being queer and not straight. I looked around at my mostly queer friends, the pop culture media I consumed, and my strong allyship feelings and I concluded it all stemmed from being queer. It was such a violent experience. My mind was constantly racing and testing out if I found who attractive. It felt like OCD. I eventually got tired of the constant rumination and settled on queer. The thoughts didn’t feel like myself. It felt like I was succumbing to something else telling me who I am. While I’ve never had a crush on a girl, I knew that just identifying as queer might help me settle the noise.
Fast forward to today. I currently have a bf. Now I’m questioning if I’m lesbian. Not because I don’t feel fulfilled in my relationship or I’m unattracted to him, but it feels like my brain is telling me that I am. I’ve read the master doc many times in which every time I think to myself “yeah this isn’t me”. But I noticed I started using the doc as comfort to settle my intrusive thoughts to the point where I felt like I needed to read it to feel regular. I would read it, not relate to it, feel better, start randomly having anxiety again later, read it again and the cycle continues. It has been to the point where I feel like I can’t be fully present in our relationship bc I’m afraid of this being true. I go back into my deep memories of childhood and try to analyze if that was a gay experience. My conclusion changes based on the day. I will say, I’ve always had a fascination for the female body. I’ve had physical feelings for them that I couldn’t explain from a very young age. I’ve had one experience with a girl where I danced with her at a club and it honestly felt the same way as dancing with a guy. I had fun. My type in men has always been interesting. A lot of them have been gay or unavailable. I’ve also had an experience with a gay guy friend from college where he would cuddle me at night and touch me in sensual places which caused me physical sensations. Since this was my first time that another person touched me in that sort of way, it was an intense experience. I never had a full on crush on him or wanted to date him, but I knew he had a hold of me in some ways. I dont think he knew what he was doing, but they are now more genderfliud and use they/them pronouns. My attraction to gay or unavailable men was one that I found interesting. I thought stemmed from me being insecure about being one of the only POC in my school and never getting picked. No one ever flirted with me or showed any interested in me. I didn’t feel attractive and never felt worthy enough to be in a relationship. Going as so far as to accepting that I would be alone in my future. People would ask me “why don’t you have a bf” and I never had an answer to that. So I thought if I just pretended to be ok with it, I would feel more in control in my circumstances. I’ve grown more confident over the years. I’ve gotten more attention, but mostly from men in bars or dating apps. However, once I made it upon my self to actually try to be open and recognize that I’m worthy of being loved, I met my bf. Who is not gay and was very available at the time.
As far as my relationship, I love being intimate with him. In fact, I find myself craving his body whenever I’m around him. He’s my first bf so this is the closest I’ve ever been with someone sexually. I’ve never had a problem of dissociating during the act or not enjoying it or having to imagine someone else to get there. It’s all been very enjoyable. I imagine us getting married all the time. I get excited about our future together. However with this, it’s hard to do without feeling guilty. We get along really well and talk about our future together. Besides my intrusive thoughts, I’ve been engaged in our relationship.
Which is what makes it hard. Whenever I feel something my brain is like “what if you don’t feel it?” Almost as if to question my very real thoughts and feelings and accuse them of being fake. It’s weird. I have a therapist that said I might have OCD bc of how debilitating these thoughts are to my day to day. I told my bf about last night through a letter and he told me he had a million questions. I don’t want this to end my relationship.

So i’m an ICU nurse but wanted a side job to replace amazon flex. i have been a waitress for several years prior to nursing and was successful (at applebees, buffalo wild wings, and AMC theater) so i was honestly very excited to get back into it.
my training shifts that were from 11a-4p seemed promising. I had to give the tips to the server training me of course but tips ranged from $10-25 per table consistently for the morning shift. with that i was expecting to be making, at minmum, $100 per shift.
fast forward to now, i've been in the high top/bar section during the evening happy hour on week days and it really hasn’t been worth my time. for the past few nights i’ve been coming home with $50-70. i’m convinced it’s my personality… it has to be? i am on the spectrum so i know i can sound monotoned and flat at times. i try my best to laugh at dad jokes, i always smile, but i can feel that im awkward and normal people pick up on that, i suppose.
mother’s day was the worst. long wait times & a few kitchen errors, angry moms, came home with $65 after seven hours. cried.
so now i’m debating quitting because i’m not driving anywhere to make under $18 an hour. i have my first solo brunch shift scheduled for today & i’m excited to see how it goes but if im still making $50-70 then i’ll know it’s definitely something off putting about me.
i’ve noticed happy hour attracts people who are pressed for cash, i had a very nice mom and daughter yesterday who i had an amazing conversation with & she was honest with me and said she can’t afford to tip. yesterday i also had 3 tables of foreigners (i made the rookie mistake of accepting someone’s request to transfer the table to me) and got $0 each time. the server who transferred the table to me told me they had a caste system and it was on their culture to treat servers poorly and not tip. so idk.
overall so far CCF just doesn’t have the crowd that i expected i’m hoping my morning shift today will be better.
i’m yapping this much because i’m wondering does anyone have a similar experience to mine? is anyone here on the spectrum? and most importantly, should i hang in there or just quit?

So my 40 year old mom is a stay at home mom and has been ever since I was born. They are now divorsed but she still lives off of his money. She refuses to find a job and keeps finding these excuses, for example the fact that she is sick or that she has to take care of me. She is sick and it is true that we cant afford treatment, but that can't stop her from finding a job because I'ts proven she still has the energy to do so. Every day, manual jobs around the house, gets into arguments with me, and redacts essays targeted to my dad expressinng how much she hates him. I also know that it is not because of me that she cant work, since my dad works and isnt bothered when I'm with him. I really respect him, my dad, since he is the one who gives us food to eat and a roof over our heads. He does have anger issues and can be really scary at times, but no one is perfect. Even as I'm typing this he told me that he's trying to get us money from a client. What I'm trying to say is that my mom's not working and we've had this conversation a couple of times but it never works out.. What do I tell her? Are there any mom's reading this that might have been/are in the same situation? If anyone has anything to share, please do so. I don't hate her or anything, but right now, I feel that if she doesn't start getting her shit together, she'll really start losing my respect. Feel free to ask questions (first time using this app so I don't really know how it works) I'm 15 by the way.

We met in the uni and despite we are not studying in the same class, we have a same group of friends, so that's how we met and fall in love to each other. ( that's also a consideration for me to ask for a breakup because we have a same group of friend and it probably will be hard for us to hangout with our friends after our breakup)
The reason i don't feel love anymore in our relationships:

1. He is a normal guy, before he met me, he likes to play computer games, coding and read manga, quite a boring guy for me. I like to socialize with people and hangout with friends, participating in uni activities, so actually im always the one who bring him to meet my friends and socialize, i feel like he dont have his own social circle and never bring me to his friend at all.

2.he is just too boring, im always the one who keep non-stop talking in our relationships, im a talkative person but sometimes when im not in a mood to talk or something i just hope that he could be the one that can at least lead the atmosphere for a bit, or at least think of a topic

1. im always the one who plan for our dates. i told him im abit annoyed by this before, he tried it once , but screwed up our dates, and kinda disappointed me deep inside my mind but i still keep it in my heart and try to comfort and encourage him, but since that he gave up on planning our dates
   
2. he cant provide me any emotional support, and even will give me negative effects sometimes due to his negativities and low self-esteem. I need to get positive energy when i hangout with my friends, and when im with him too long, i feel like im drained.
   

5.he cant even do anything when im sick, which disappointed me the most. His body his bit weak, which im acceptable to it, and when he's sick, i'll always do my best like walk to a pharmacy 1km far away to buy medicines for him, buy food for him, help him massage, etc but when the ridiculous part is when im sick his only respond is just im uncomfortable too/ rest well babe, im really pissed of his attitude

1. NO CHANGES. I already told him all the things im annoyed above, his excuses is always he tried already, but he's just dumb or born to be a boring person, but i really don't see his changes at all
   
2. The most ridiculous part is : he talked to me about his ex. this is literally a red flag for me. im a person who never been in a relationships, he is my FIRST, so his ex is always been a torn in my heart and i know i will be uncomfortable with it so i never ask about the details when they were dating, but one random day, he just talked to me about the details when they were dating , this makes me so uncomfortable
   

8.HE LIED. after the no7, i confronted him one day and told him im damn uncomfortable after he told me about the story. he then told me that actually the whole story is kinda made up, he never actually really dated the girl before, they are more like in a situationship that time. That makes me feel so weird.

1. THE LAST. He still following the girl's social media, which makes me feel so confused. but the weird part is he blocked the girl and just only he can see the girl status, this makes me feel weird, and im gonna tell him ASAP. the saddest part is his mom and the gurl even still following each other....

WHAT SHOULD I DOOOO GUYSSSS....

Hi All
I'd love to hear from those of you who have been on Sema for 3 months or more with a starting weight between 200-250. How many lbs did you lose in the first 3 months? Did you change your habits?
I am just starting with a sw of 228 (first shot at .5 ml last night). I've been working out for 3 years and lost 85 lbs but had undergone 2 surgeries in the past year - when I had to stop working out I gained back 15 lbs. I've been trying to get back to the routine since the beginning of April but it's been a struggle and I haven't lost anything.
It's been so disheartening knowing I'm too big for the clothes I was so excited to buy last summer (size 14 which I hadn't seen for 10 years). I'm hoping to kickstart weight loss and think seeing the scale start to move will motivate me to fully get back to the workout routine. I'm so frustrated with myself for not being able to after 2 months.
For some added background, my former workout routine was 2 Orange Theory classes and 1-2 yoga claases per week, and then on Saturday morning hit the treadmill and do a mile as fast as possible, then lift some weights (walk/run - I got it under 14 min at one point starting at over 18)
My current workout routine is 1 orange theory class and 1 yoga class per week. I haven't even attempted the mile - I'm afraid it's back at over 18 min again.

So, I have PCOS like many here have. I've been to numerous gynos and have been on probably 10 different birth control pills.
A little back story, I was diagnosed and put on birth control about 12 years ago because I didn't get my period for 3 months and thought I was pregnant. Turns out my body just hates me.
Fast forward, after a few years on the pill I start having issues. The first 3-6 months on a new pill and I'll be fine without breakthrough bleeding, however with every single pill brand I take, I eventually end up bleeding through in the middle of my pack and essentially having a second period. I get cramps, feel grouchy, and my body hurts just like a regular period.
Not only that, but sex hurts and I have ZERO libido. I often bleed after sex for a day as well when it's really bad. A couple visits ago they found a fibroid and tried to tell me that was the cause of my problems with pain and bleeding. But I get a pelvic ultrasound every time I visit and it wasn't always there.
I feel like I'm in a constant battle with my doctors to find out what is wrong with me. They keep telling me everything is fine and "we will try one more pill brand" but nothing comes after that and it never solves the problem.
I'm leaning towards endometriosis because my entire abdomen seems to swell slightly when I'm bleeding and I get a lot of pelvic pain, plus the painful sex. I'm also gaining weight like crazy and I'm feeling terrible about myself.
What do we think is wrong with me? How do I approach my doctor about getting a diagnosis instead of putting me on a different pill? Any suggestions on tests I can suggest? I'm just tired of feeling like shit 😭

I 25f married 34m. Our sex life is weird, I'm not satisfied. I lost my virginity to him after getting married to him and he had more girls. I'm not good at sex at all and he is doing more work during sex. I'm not sure what i like in bed, and we both do not use sex toys and I don't think he's comfortable with me buying sex toys. Sex feels quick like after he cums, we are done. He has never asked me what I liked or wanted, but if I told him I needed to cum, he would try and make me cum and I know If I told him that I liked something, he would do it. He showed me some sexy outfits I could order, but I feel these outfits are pointless if he is not even satisfying me. I get myself off all the time. I did briefly tell him that we just rush into sex and he told me it's because I tell him I want it in so suppose he feels rushed because of me as well. Told him we need to do more foreplay and he agreed.
Thing is I'm not sure if I get anxious to cum during sex or why can't I? I'm not even sure if it's because the sex happens quick and randomly, we don't plan sex and maybe I could tell my partner that we should plan sex. For women, I know it takes more time and though I haven't had sexual intercoure before with him because I struggled with vaginismus, my ex partners asked me why I didn't cum or if they should make me cum. I know many guys do make their woman cum first before they do. I just don't know how to bring up sex because of how life is for us. Like, he works long hours or does overtime, we do spend time together of course but when we have sex, it's pretty much rushed. My partner is understanding and he does listen to what I want. I think I feel anxious to cum during sex idk

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Am I the Asshole?
I'm gonna keep this brief as there is a lot of details.
When me and my youngest father broke up, he wanted to have contact with his son, AND my son from a previous marriage. And how he had requested to spend more time with his son, but not my own own son, who I have full custody of, which he requested at first?
When the youngest dad and I first broke up, he wanted to see the kids every evening. He used to have them, make them dinner and I would go out. He would used to go through my drawers, bins and house when I wasn't there. One time I actually watched him going through my bins, and then denied he ever did that. Sometimes when I got back home, he would ask what I was doing, even though it was none of his fucking business. So he started making excuses to why he couldn't come and see the kids. He didn't like the fact I have 2 hours of freedom per day. Then we agreed he came 4 nights a week. Which he did for a little bit then again, started making up excuses why he couldn't see the kids. On a Sunday afternoon I used to go and have a nap. He said there should be no reason why I am napping on Sunday afternoons. I said if I want a nap, I'm gonna have a fucking nap. So one afternoon when I took a nap, he waited till I was asleep, then texted me he was taking his own son out, and not my other kid. I didn't respond because A) I was napping B) I'd thought I'd put my kids with someone who was trusted. When I woke up and realised what he did, left a 6 year old autistic kid home alone, I threw him out. He said it wasn't his fault, my kid isn't his kid and never said he wanted to see him (untrue I have messages to say he wanted to see both children) So I lost my shit and told him he is only allowed to see the kids on a Sunday afternoon, supervised. I actually told my landlord's Mrs and she bollocked him for it. He was still denying fault and saying everyone he spoke to saying it was my fault. Just to make me seem like an asshole. He couldn't be bothered to even wish my own son birthday or got him anything. Said wasn't his child and not his fault. Spoken to my landlord again about this, and he even saidhe was a dickhead. (This is relevant later) He wasn't brought up like this as his younger brother's father still sends my youngest son's dad birthday and Christmas money and card. So anyway Sundays were going well, but then I found out when he had the kids, he spent most of his time on his phone, huffed and puffed because the children didn't fit his idealism. Then he started getting excuses to why he couldn't come and some of them were bullshit. (This was the part when I realised he was seeing someone and getting sex was more important than seeing his own child) He then started complaining that he was missing out on seeing them and worried they won't know who he is. I basically told him to grow up, it's his own fault for not showing up. The kids started to much rather be with me and got bored of him within 10 minutes of him visiting. He's complained it's my fault because I wasn't allowing him to see the kids (like wtf)
Anyway, recently he has requested to see his son every other weekend. It hasn't even been 2 years, he's requested change of visitation 4/5/6 times (I've lost count) and still couldn't be bothered to show up, whether it's sickness ( and yes, we live in the same town, and even declared this still saw him working).
My youngest son is a safe guarding risk, (very highly likely of special needs, recent theory is ADHD with low Autism). If his dad can't cope with 3 and a half hours, which he chooses to when to visit, how can he cope with a weekend?
Like I said, there is more to the story, but to help you all visualise it, the path we are going down is coming to these conclusions, either the dad fucks off, or the child to tell him to fuck off, or the contact as it is, and in 5 years time my youngest son, I have put into therapy because he isn't the child that his dad has visualised in his head, and has issues.
So AITA for not letting extra visitation.
Questions are welcome when I get round to answering.

Me S (f22) and my best friend K (f21) have been friends since 9th grade. we became fast friends and since then we have stuck together. So the problem started when we went to college despite the fact that we were in the same college huge coincidence and had classes in the same building we hardly meet During COVID she broke up with her then boyfriend and had started dating a new guy. I think she cheated but she swore she never did even though she posted about the new guy barely a week after she broke up with her boyfriend of two years. The problem started then. after covid we met up for the first time and when I went her boyfriend was there. I have never meet this guy and she didn't tell me he is coming but was like okay no problem. I can't emphasises how much I don't like this guy first of he was not vaccinated which is fine but the reason he is not vaccinated is not because it could be bad or health reason but because his religion said so. next he has a younger sister and asked him about her he was like she is not allowed to date because she is a girl she needs to come straight home after school she was in class 11 that time. She can't go to friends parties even in restaurants and is not allowed to leave without any male. It would have made sense if we lived in an unsafe place but we don't. When it came to paying the bill I though we will split in three ways because obviously three of us were eating but no we only split it half as she didn't want her boyfriend to pay so I had to pay for his food too. Fastforward three weeks I was at my internship and I got a call from my friend in Singapore to check my bf's snapchat story and I was like it must be funny that she is calling me from Singapore no it was not funny it was rather a video of him pleasuring her. he put that on snapchat my friends was trying to call her but she was not picking up and it had been up for twenty minutes so I called her and she finally picked up after informing she thankfully took it down but I thought she would surely dump him. I mean it takes a lot of steps to post on snapchat she said he was just sending it to himself. I left it there because what more can I say. that is when the real problem started anytime I wanted to hang out he was always their and it was getting really annoying I tried telling her that I just want us to hang out as I wanted to talk about stuff. Her other friends tried making plans but she cancelled everything saying she is busy or sick even when she was posting that she is out with her boyfriend. FFORr 2 years I this was going on I meet with her alone once that was on my birthday but she ditched me early to hang out with and told me to lie to her mom if she called. we were 21 then I said I am not going to lie where you are in school it was fine as we are young and stupid but as adults we need to realise about our own security. she was like fine and left with him.

So it wasn’t nearly as good as TBBT. But it did stick the landing.
To answer one question that was confirmed by producers and I confirmed in a comment elsewhere, if Amy and Sheldon’s scenes felt a little off, it’s because Jim and Mayim mentally had to shift focus of acting for multi camera in front of an audience to single camera no audience. They were used to having to wait for laughs. As a fellow trained actor, they did beautifully.
This show was always supposed to show us how the Sheldon you first meet in TBBT becomes that Sheldon. While the Sheldon Amy scenes saw some of the old Sheldon we knew pre Nobel Speech, his narration throughout the series, his ultimate final scene with Amy and walking through the house show us he has matured. He was always still going to be Sheldon with struggling, and they needed a parallel. Watching little Leonard play hockey was a great parallel.
I’m sure there are deleted scenes, and we probably could’ve benefited from an extended episode. But they showed all the stages of grief through various characters. We weren’t meant to see closure-and I’m not discussing what we know from TBBT or what we might get from the Georgie Mandy spinoff, I’m talking Sheldon closed people off. He was never going to get closure with Dr. Sturgis and Dr. Linklatter. He closed them off due to his grief. Also we did see Missy post her storming out of the baptism. That final scene of her and Sheldon in the dining room gave the same dynamic we saw when Missy first showed up in TBBT.
Was it perfect? No. No finale ever is. But it definitely stuck the landing. It let Sheldon admit he was wrong about he explained his father in TBBT. And for what it’s worth, I’m happy the original gang didn’t dominate the episode. It allowed the YS cast to get their final moments. And for Iain to come full circle as Sheldon.
Also, I think they didn’t reveal their daughter’s name as an homage to never knowing Penny’s maiden name, especially considering it was Penny they mentioned in the same scene.

CONTEXT:
My boyfriend and I (F) have been dating for almost 9 months. When we first started dating, I started spending more time with him rather than with my friend group (lets call it friend group A), which is a bad move on my part to be honest but I have strict parents and not enough time in the day to hang out with both of them. It's not like I completely ditched them, I tried to split my time half half but it was really difficult to. None of them really had a problem with this except my best friend (Also F). Now, again back then we just started dating, and I was blinded to see that I was ditching my best friend. SO again. That's my fault.
A few months after we started dating, my boyfriend and I hung out with some more people as well, and soon we became something close to a friend group (friend group B). (btw: I hadn't ditched friend group A, I still spent time with both of them.) Friend group B consisted of most of my bgs friends, though I'm pretty much friends with his friends so it was fine for me. One day, I invited my best friend to join friend group B because she was closer to 2 of the friends in friend group B than A anyways. Everything was going pretty good with friend group B until my parents thought they were bad influences and told me to stop hanging out with them. Of course, I listened because well, they're my parents and I didn't want to make them mad. I ended up going back to friend group A, sometimes visiting friend group B mainly to see my bf, but here's the funny part. My best friend didn't come with me.
Now, I get that she was closer with some of the people in friend group B than A, and I wanted to be happy for her, because she seemed happy, but I was already really unhappy getting forced to leave friend group B, and it just sucks she didn't seem to care. We barely talked because we never saw each other anymore, and when we did see each other it seemed awkward or forced, nothing like how "best friends" are supposed to act. I always tried to muster up the courage to speak to her about it, but I was always scared it would ruin our friendship, even if it was dangling by a thread. As I couldn't do anything about it, I decided to just leave it alone, and perhaps things will just fall into place one day. Oh how wrong I was.
So I left it alone. I just hung out with friend group A and minded my own business, and I was completely out of the loop of friend group B, beside the occasional visits. When these visits happened, I noticed my boyfriend and my "best friend" starting to get kinda close. They knew a lot about each other and each others weird 'eras' (eg. my "best friends" old anime phase) and had a lot of inside jokes. I, being the one who introduced them to each other, of course tried to ignore it and be happy for them since I HAD originally wanted them to be friends, but now I was really regretting it. Soon enough, I noticed them texting constantly (snap number one best friend for 2months+ goes crazy), playing video games together (even with my "best friends" little sister like what!?!?!), and hanging out and going to lunch together (okay this was usually with friend group B as well but I thought it was weird my "best friend" was able to go out so much since she had strict parents like I did (even stricter actually) and we went out like once a month, but suddenly she was able to go out with friend group B so often?) Also, whenever I went to go visit my boyfriend and friend group B, I would see them interacting and felt like I was being left out. (Honestly I felt left out of friend group B entirely but that's another story) To be fair, these activities were pretty "friendly" but I just felt like there were some weird areas (I wont get into it since this is getting way too long). Or maybe I'm just a really really jealous person (actually that might be it).
I thought about two solutions. 1. I tell my boyfriend how uncomfortable I feel around the two of them, and make him cut her off, but this could risk my best friend getting mad at me idk. (Okay I'm making this whole thing out to be like my best friends an evil villain and im sure shes not (or she wasn't I'm not sure anymore) but I'm just really uncomfortable with what could be going on behind my back. I do trust my boyfriend, I'm just worried about how much my "best friend" has changed and if she'll backstab me). Also I'd feel really controlling even though I know he would 100% understand, it just feels weird to me if that makes sense? Like he has told me to cut contact with people and I've had no problem with that but I've never told anyone to do that before and I'm scared he'll get offended I don't trust him. And they're so close I feel like I'd be ruining their friendship? I DONT KNOW OKAY I have no idea what to do. 2. I tell my best friend everything she's done and how it really hurt me and try to make her understand. Yeah that seems like a better solution so I did just that. I told her everything that pissed me off and how I felt uncomfortable around them. She seemed to have understood (key word: "seemed to") and apologised and felt the same way as I did about our friendship drifting. She also emphasized how she and my boyfriend were "not that close anymore", but I definitely disagree with that (also agreed by another close friend in friend group B). And though she "seemed to" understand and said she would change, I do see changes in our friendship and out dynamic, even if its not a big one, but I don't think she understood JUST HOW uncomfortable I was with her and my boyfriend, because I didn't see a change there.
So the conclusion is, my boyfriend is really close friends with my best friend (now ex best friend ig) even if they don't admit it but its fairly obvious. I'm trying to be okay with it since I introduced them to eachother because I wanted them to get to know eachother, but I'm really struggling to not break into tears everytime I see them talking or sitting together or honestly everything they do together... I have no idea what to do to stop feeling like this. Am I making it sound really serious when its not? What do you guys think? What should I do?!
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PS: sorry this is so long, I haven't talked to anyone about the true depth of this but its seriously unhealthy. this is my first reddit post so if i should make any changes let me know! also let me know if you guys have any questions! thank you !!!!

I got engaged to the love of my life two weeks ago and it was absolutely beautiful. He went above and beyond to make the day special and invite all of my friends and family to celebrate afterwards. It’s like he knew what would make me happy. Now I’m living in engagement bliss, but I’m starting to get a little stressed out. I currently have a lot going on with finding a new job and moving and now I feel this pressure to plan a wedding. We both have decided we wanted it to be very low-key because we are lazy beach people and don’t want any stress.
That being said, I’m starting to stress out and it’s irrational. We’re not even to the planning stage, but I have this hang up surrounding family. My fiancé is a lot closer to his family than I am to mine and it’s not a huge deal but it’s very clear. For example, he wants eight people up on his side, and I want three. We’ve talked about putting some of his sisters on my side to even it out, but I just want my people with me up there. All of this is leading towards me kind of feeling bad his whole family will turn out and I’m actively avoiding trying to not invite some of mine (a great example would be when I told one of my sisters I was engaged her first reaction was “you should really start having kids now because I breed dogs and I have seen the older you are the more likely you are to have girls” 😳🙄😬 implying that that would be a bad thing…. Not to mention my other sister that keeps pushing to be my MOH but I hardly ever see her or talk to her) We’ve talked a lot about how it doesn’t need to be traditional or have any rules, it can be exactly what we want, but I’m still feeling weird about it.
I know I’m probably not the only one, but has anyone else been really stressed out when starting to plan the wedding? Even if it’s going to be low-key in the backyard? Did your partner have more people coming and how did you feel about it?

Seriously. I loved my WP's. I can't tell you in mere words how much I despise my Galaxy. I have come close to intentionally destroying it many times.
I walked my 950XL a year past when T-Mobile said it was at the end of life. Good for TMO, I got lots of warnings about the pending end of 3G service, although it didn't happen until a year later, which was summer of 2022.
I know there were several Voice over LTE WP's. I own one, an Alcatel Idol 4S. Bought it at the first whiff of end of 3G life years ago. I was SO disappointed that it did not have the Glance feature, turns out it was a Nokia patent. Glance was my watch and nightstand clock. So I kept plugging along with the 950XL until I couldn't. I use the Alcatel as a backup phone with a free Lifeline connection in my car.
If I put a TMO SIM into my WP, I get a very weak 1-2 bar signal strength but it won't connect. Something 2G? TMO blasts at my house, so not sure what's up.
Even if I chose to use my Alcatel, the reality is that as the years roll by, WP is less and less a viable phone option even if the phone service still worked. Fewer and fewer features and apps for modern phone life. I've gone through this before several times as technology moved on. Long live Symbian, ha ha.
So other than fond memories like the best girlfriend you ever had, why do y'all keep futzing with Windows Phone?

for context:
I did really well in highschool and got a really good scholarship at UofT but honestly, I had a poor work ethic in highschool, no routine and would get by easy because I found that I grasped and remembered information very well. Coming into UofT i had a massive ego especially with everyone telling me that since I did IB, first year would be a breeze.
Well I was HEAVILY humbled. I failed a course (CNCR) and did exceedingly bad in the other courses first semester. Second semester i pulled myself up and tried again and did somehow better although I was very mentally drained. I have preexisting mental conditions and doing so bad only excerbated them. I have never felt like more of a failure than I did at that moment (and tbh even now).
2nd year i again ahd high expectations. But i also took some notorious life sci courses (BCH210, BIO260, CHM247) because i needed them for my PoST. I did well in BCH210 and BIO260 (now well is subjective but I didnt do as horrible as I thought i would). Second year 1st semsester was good for me until around winter break when i started getting sick out of nowhere. I kept getting viral infections and mentally I was also not doing too well. So what was supposed to be a better second semester, turned into a HUGE slump. I could barely make it through the day but i still forced myself to attend classes and do my work because I knew the consequences laying ahead had I given in to the slump. Overall, i didnt finish second semester as strong as i wanted but it was alright.
Coming to my point, I really do struggle with routine. While I have addressed my mental issues, turns out my previous physician had assigned a very low dosage that wasnt doing anything, I want to address the part that has to do with my own habits. I want to know what you guys do (yall that have 3.5+ GPA'S) what time do you wake up? what do you do between classes? how do you divide studying? how do you space out your repetitions with each subject? what does your weekend look like?
I have resorted to imitation because i also have executive dysfuntion and inability to pick a starting point if something looks overwhelming. Hopefully if i find a good establish routine, i can copy it until it sticks. I know i'm not dumb so its literally just the act of me not being able to establish good routine and work ethic. I can easily adapt to any learning method so feel free to be as bizzare as you'd like. I have also spoken to multiple academic advisors in my college and learning strategists. I dont ened a tutor i just need routine. Thanks for reading if you got this far. It means a lot!!!

Ok so let me breif about my situation. I am 27M from North India belonging to middle class background. I never dated any girl as i was strict with a rule of date to marry .
So from last year i am dating a girl, who is distant relative of mine. We are now deeply in love, she is exactly what I ever needed or admire in girl. She understands me best, i found her beautiful, our menatality, thought process every thing sync well. She also feels same for me. Overall its like dream come true for me, like getting everything whatever i needed in my partner.
Offcourse i wanted to marry her from very first day thats why I initiated this. But now the problem has arised.
After dating for about a year me n her both informed our parents that we wanted to marry eachother. We belong to same religion, same caste, we never thought any of these problem. But now our families dont like each other and each other families. It kinda shocking for both of us as we both always thought they dont have problem.
They always met with love n passion, never said anything bad about eachother ever and my parents always showed her love from before same for me by her parents. They talked to me nicely, with love n respect.
Now when we broke the news both sides parents are not happy. My parents specifically my mom is not liking her mom, saying so many bad things about her and asking me to end this ASAP. My dad is kinda neutral but he is always with momside mostly.
Same in her house, her dad is neutral but her mom and elder sister dont like my mom, my sister and not even me. They literally said they dont like me as a person. I really don't know why n i am shocked as i never felt that they see me like that. Her mom also asked her to not meet me or have any contact with me. Now we both are in panic about what to do. We are very well emotionally connected and it's really not easy for both of us to end this. We really both love each other.
Pls advice me guys what i do. How much parents validation is important. We both wanted n wished that our parents will be with us, but its heart brokening for us. Now how much do I need to think on this issue.
Also my intro:
I am living with my parents being eldest son and earning enough. I also never wanted dowry or something like that, not coz i loved her but if she is not there then also. Very simple, decent and average looking man i consider myself who does my business and live lowkey.
She is in final graduation and pretty, more then that she understands me well, we have great chemistry. If I compare then her family is financially weak then mine but i dont see as problem. Not very weak but comparatively, but same caste n religion no problem in that.