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2015.12.10 00:34 trixtopherduke Reactive Attachment Disorder Support Forum
The subreddit's purpose is to learn about and discuss Reactive Attachment Disorder and its many manifestations. The intended audience is parents, friends, partners, or others who know children with Reactive Attachment Disorder. We welcome those with Reactive Attachment Disorder or Disinhibited Social Engagement Disorder, too. Our sister subreddit is DSED. This subreddit requires post approval.
2024.05.18 23:18 Dapper-Outcome7783 How do I get my confidence back post divorce, and dating an older/independent woman?
Guys, I met a woman 10 years my senior. I’m 40. She checks all the boxes, and I’m crazy about her.
I’m 2 years out of a divorce, and this is the first woman that has caught my TRUE interest.
I feel like I’m floundering. She makes me so nervous…I’m afraid to say and do the wrong thing. I have an anxious attachment style, which I’m working on, but it’s almost like she brings out the worst of it. (I’d say she’s a stable/avoidant)
We’ve discussed it a bit, but I feel like she’s given me some cues that I need to be more confident, more assertive. I’m in my head though, and not sure how to make these changes without them seeming reactive.
Any thoughts or advice?
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I’m 2 years out of a divorce, and this is the first woman that has caught my TRUE interest.
I feel like I’m floundering. She makes me so nervous…I’m afraid to say and do the wrong thing. I have an anxious attachment style, which I’m working on, but it’s almost like she brings out the worst of it. (I’d say she’s a stable/avoidant)
We’ve discussed it a bit, but I feel like she’s given me some cues that I need to be more confident, more assertive. I’m in my head though, and not sure how to make these changes without them seeming reactive.
Any thoughts or advice?
2024.05.18 19:58 Jellybean6400 Trying to incorporate NVC into my marriage. Feeling frustrated. Guess I am looking for support/advice.
My husband and I argue all the time. Aside from that, we are extremely compatible in many ways, similar values, similar interests, personalities that compliment each other in really good ways. We have been together for twenty years. Over the years though, we keep getting more angry and reactive each time something comes up that bothers one of us. Our communication sucks. We have tried therapy a couple times, once about 9 years ago and once about a year ago both for about 3-4 months. Neither time did they really seem to help us get to the root of our issues. We don't really have any big "issues", we just can't talk about the stupid every day frustrations and have it go well.
I started listening to several relationship youtubers, and reading (well audiobooks) several relationship books over the past few years. Every one my husband would be interested in reading also, and we would discuss them and try to find ways to apply them to our relationship issues. He said he never really connected well with what any of them were saying though. And I would say I connected deeply with all of them.
We have read John Gottman with his princples that make marriage work, and Stan Tatkin with his relationship agreements and attachment stuff, and watched videos by a guy named Jason Gaddis who has interviewed those guys and many others as part of his relationship advice videos and has a book of his own about resolving confident that I have also read. Recently I found a pair of YouTubers named Ricki and Jimmy and they have videos about relationship advise for people who are anxiously attracted. One of them mentioned "the late great Marshall Rosenberg" and I was intreaged enough to investigate further. I watched a 3 hour seminar of him speaking and listened to a short book by someone else about NVC. When I showed the seminar to my husband he was instantly more excited about him than anyone else we had seen. He bought his physical book on Non-violent communication, read it cover to cover, and wrote extensive notes on it. I am about to read his physical book next too, but have been dragging my feet a bit because I prefer audio and I can't find a good audio version.
Anyway, we have both agreed to incorporate NVC as best we can and have been using it for about a month now. But I'm getting frustrated with it and don't know what to do next. I am having trouble never mentioning anything that is a thought or evaluation. Usually in the form of "I feel like x." And I am trying to say my feelings and needs instead, and am very willing to try to edit what I say in the moment into NVC when I realize it. Plus when my husband says something not very NVC, I try to ask or guess what he feels and needs. That goes well usually and helps him to feel heard a bit more.
With my husband he says the whole "I am feeling because I am needing" thing quite a bit, but most often after we have argued about something, took a break and come back. But we are still arguing quite a bit. I partly struggle because I still want my husband to understand where I am coming from sometimes and what thoughts I am having that are creating a feeling. And I often want to know what thoughts he is having that is fueling how he feels. I usually don't take it personally, if I can get him to share thoughts without implied blame, and I feel better understanding where he is coming from too.
But the reverse never ever happens. Even my using great NVC gets hairy when he tries to explain his issues with a request I have, and we can't get to any compromise that actually makes sense for me getting my needs met that he says he is even slightly interested in trying. Now, arguments usually start with me saying something that isn't in NVC, and my husband starts spouting exactly what is "wrong" with what I have said according to NVC. And even if I can get over how triggering that responce feels to me, which is incredably difficult, and try to focus on his feelings and needs in that moment, he just respond that he is too triggered now to talk any more. Like last night we were discussing previous interactions in a calm way, but after a bit I slipped into mentioning what my impression was about something that bothered me. My husband said in a really irritated tone, "those are thoughts, and I don't care about your thoughts." And I just lost it because I am being vulnerable and trying so hard to be heard about something painful and important to me, and I just don't feel like my need to be heard is being supported. I have point blank asked him recently, using perfect NVC, to use the nonviolent communication techniques with me when I say a thought or evaluation instead of pointing out how what I have said isn't NVC, and all he can say is he must be having some barriers to doing that because he isn't and he doesn't know what they are exactly to explain them to me.
And the other thing I should mention is that he actually won't disregard complaints I have completely. He will later try to change some of the things I get upset about, even though we will have a huge argument about them and he will never acknowledge that I have a valid consern or feeling or anything, so that I actually feel heard about what I am feeling or needing. So its not like he is actually insensitive or doesn't care about what I need long term. We can just never have a good talk about that stuff and get somewhere that feels good to me through talking. It causes me huge pain and is really affecting me emotionally. I was really hoping NVC would be the answer this time, but the same disfunction is looking like it is getting through, and I am feeling feeling stuck again.
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I started listening to several relationship youtubers, and reading (well audiobooks) several relationship books over the past few years. Every one my husband would be interested in reading also, and we would discuss them and try to find ways to apply them to our relationship issues. He said he never really connected well with what any of them were saying though. And I would say I connected deeply with all of them.
We have read John Gottman with his princples that make marriage work, and Stan Tatkin with his relationship agreements and attachment stuff, and watched videos by a guy named Jason Gaddis who has interviewed those guys and many others as part of his relationship advice videos and has a book of his own about resolving confident that I have also read. Recently I found a pair of YouTubers named Ricki and Jimmy and they have videos about relationship advise for people who are anxiously attracted. One of them mentioned "the late great Marshall Rosenberg" and I was intreaged enough to investigate further. I watched a 3 hour seminar of him speaking and listened to a short book by someone else about NVC. When I showed the seminar to my husband he was instantly more excited about him than anyone else we had seen. He bought his physical book on Non-violent communication, read it cover to cover, and wrote extensive notes on it. I am about to read his physical book next too, but have been dragging my feet a bit because I prefer audio and I can't find a good audio version.
Anyway, we have both agreed to incorporate NVC as best we can and have been using it for about a month now. But I'm getting frustrated with it and don't know what to do next. I am having trouble never mentioning anything that is a thought or evaluation. Usually in the form of "I feel like x." And I am trying to say my feelings and needs instead, and am very willing to try to edit what I say in the moment into NVC when I realize it. Plus when my husband says something not very NVC, I try to ask or guess what he feels and needs. That goes well usually and helps him to feel heard a bit more.
With my husband he says the whole "I am feeling because I am needing" thing quite a bit, but most often after we have argued about something, took a break and come back. But we are still arguing quite a bit. I partly struggle because I still want my husband to understand where I am coming from sometimes and what thoughts I am having that are creating a feeling. And I often want to know what thoughts he is having that is fueling how he feels. I usually don't take it personally, if I can get him to share thoughts without implied blame, and I feel better understanding where he is coming from too.
But the reverse never ever happens. Even my using great NVC gets hairy when he tries to explain his issues with a request I have, and we can't get to any compromise that actually makes sense for me getting my needs met that he says he is even slightly interested in trying. Now, arguments usually start with me saying something that isn't in NVC, and my husband starts spouting exactly what is "wrong" with what I have said according to NVC. And even if I can get over how triggering that responce feels to me, which is incredably difficult, and try to focus on his feelings and needs in that moment, he just respond that he is too triggered now to talk any more. Like last night we were discussing previous interactions in a calm way, but after a bit I slipped into mentioning what my impression was about something that bothered me. My husband said in a really irritated tone, "those are thoughts, and I don't care about your thoughts." And I just lost it because I am being vulnerable and trying so hard to be heard about something painful and important to me, and I just don't feel like my need to be heard is being supported. I have point blank asked him recently, using perfect NVC, to use the nonviolent communication techniques with me when I say a thought or evaluation instead of pointing out how what I have said isn't NVC, and all he can say is he must be having some barriers to doing that because he isn't and he doesn't know what they are exactly to explain them to me.
And the other thing I should mention is that he actually won't disregard complaints I have completely. He will later try to change some of the things I get upset about, even though we will have a huge argument about them and he will never acknowledge that I have a valid consern or feeling or anything, so that I actually feel heard about what I am feeling or needing. So its not like he is actually insensitive or doesn't care about what I need long term. We can just never have a good talk about that stuff and get somewhere that feels good to me through talking. It causes me huge pain and is really affecting me emotionally. I was really hoping NVC would be the answer this time, but the same disfunction is looking like it is getting through, and I am feeling feeling stuck again.
2024.05.18 16:34 Naive_House5944 Ambushed on walk.
Good afternoon. Today I was walking my husky boy who is prone to leash frustration. We started to walk him recently using a figure of 8 leash and he’s really good with it, the majority of times we can pass dogs (not too close) and I can redirect him nicely. He was really reactive and hyper aware on his normal leash, we had a trainer who suggested the double halti with gentle leader. I liked that option but I feel I don’t have enough grip on the halti.
I think he is not neutral to dogs because we realised we haven’t socialised him properly as a puppy and I get all the possible responsibility.
Well again, today I was walking him and we got approached / ambushed all of a sudden by an of leash dog. Mid size and curly, I say this because my husky has a thing for doodle, mini doodles etc. This dog stands there like a potato and he doesn’t do anything but he doesn’t go away either. While pulling, the rubber attached to the security clip of my husky leash goes very tight on his neck but luckily I managed to pull it loose again.
I hold my dog by the handle of the harness, I tell the dog to piss off and nothing happens. If I try to change direction, this strange dog follows me. After a bit the dog goes. I go around looking for the owner as I was really pissed.
After we turned the corner, he appears again! This time I managed to grab the handle straight away and as I shout at the other dog to go away he does.
Now my husky is all riled up and he tries to remove the loop on his nose all the time. I saw the owner calling the dog and whistling, he obviously escaped his garden or whatever.
I kept my cool thorough all this pleasant encounter but I keep wondering what I should I have done best. I felt so bad about the leash going to right on my dog neck. I didn’t go back again to face the owner as our husky escaped twice, so I didn’t feel I was in a place to judge.
After many “bad” walks it took so long to build my confidence back, and even if I am not too upset about what happened, I still feel I didn’t handle the situation properly.
Sorry for my rambling, I am moving countries next week (of course dog coming with me) and my head is all over the place. Really just looking for some advice.
Thank you
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I think he is not neutral to dogs because we realised we haven’t socialised him properly as a puppy and I get all the possible responsibility.
Well again, today I was walking him and we got approached / ambushed all of a sudden by an of leash dog. Mid size and curly, I say this because my husky has a thing for doodle, mini doodles etc. This dog stands there like a potato and he doesn’t do anything but he doesn’t go away either. While pulling, the rubber attached to the security clip of my husky leash goes very tight on his neck but luckily I managed to pull it loose again.
I hold my dog by the handle of the harness, I tell the dog to piss off and nothing happens. If I try to change direction, this strange dog follows me. After a bit the dog goes. I go around looking for the owner as I was really pissed.
After we turned the corner, he appears again! This time I managed to grab the handle straight away and as I shout at the other dog to go away he does.
Now my husky is all riled up and he tries to remove the loop on his nose all the time. I saw the owner calling the dog and whistling, he obviously escaped his garden or whatever.
I kept my cool thorough all this pleasant encounter but I keep wondering what I should I have done best. I felt so bad about the leash going to right on my dog neck. I didn’t go back again to face the owner as our husky escaped twice, so I didn’t feel I was in a place to judge.
After many “bad” walks it took so long to build my confidence back, and even if I am not too upset about what happened, I still feel I didn’t handle the situation properly.
Sorry for my rambling, I am moving countries next week (of course dog coming with me) and my head is all over the place. Really just looking for some advice.
Thank you
2024.05.18 13:14 Ok-Tomorrow9184 Gemini Gets Plato and Humor
Prompt
Create a Platonic dialogue between an optimistic creative visionary (OCV), a pessimistic observant doomsayer (POD), an objective meticulous analyzer (OMA), a wise pragmatic planner (WPP), and God (G).
Question: "What is love? (Baby don't hurt me!)"
Output: Gemini Advanced
Scene: A round table discussion in a heavenly cloud-filled room.Characters:
- OCV (Optimistic Creative Visionary): A radiant figure with sparkling eyes, overflowing with enthusiasm.
- POD (Pessimistic Observant Doomsayer): A dour figure, hunched over with arms crossed, muttering under their breath.
- OMA (Objective Meticulous Analyzer): A composed figure with a notepad, diligently taking notes.
- WPP (Wise Pragmatic Planner): A serene figure with a thoughtful expression, occasionally stroking their beard.
- G (God): A luminous being radiating warmth and light, a gentle smile on their face.
OCV: (Beaming) Love! It's the most beautiful, powerful force in the universe! It's the inspiration behind every creation, every act of kindness, every connection between souls. It's the spark of life itself!
POD: (Scoffs) Love? Please. It's nothing but a fleeting illusion, a biological trick to propagate the species. It leads to heartbreak, betrayal, and endless suffering.
OMA: (Clearing their throat) From a purely objective standpoint, love is a complex interplay of neurochemicals and hormonal responses. It's associated with increased dopamine, oxytocin, and vasopressin levels, resulting in feelings of pleasure, bonding, and attachment.
WPP: (Nods) While those physiological aspects are certainly relevant, love is also a choice, a commitment to nurture and cherish another being. It requires patience, understanding, and a willingness to compromise.
G: (Smiles) You all speak truths, but love is so much more than the sum of its parts. It's a mystery that transcends definitions and explanations.
OCV: (Eagerly) It's like a symphony of emotions, a kaleidoscope of experiences!
POD: (Mutters) More like a chaotic cacophony of pain and disappointment.
OMA: (Scribbling) An intriguing paradox, indeed. Love can both uplift and destroy, create and consume.
WPP: (Shrugs) That's why it's crucial to approach love with wisdom and discernment.
G: (Raises a hand) My children, remember that love is a gift, a divine spark within each of you. It is the essence of who I am.
OCV: (Clasps hands) It's the most precious gift of all!
POD: (Sighs) A gift that often comes with a hefty price tag.
OMA: (Nods) A gift that warrants further investigation and analysis.
WPP: (Smiles) A gift that deserves to be cherished and protected.
G: (Chuckles) Indeed. So, go forth and share this gift with the world. Let love guide your actions, inspire your creativity, and heal your wounds.
(The figures nod in unison, a sense of understanding and purpose dawning upon them.)
G: (Softly) And remember, baby don't hurt me... don't hurt me... no more.
(A faint echo of laughter fills the room as the figures disperse, leaving behind a lingering warmth.)
Output: ChatGPT-4o
Dialogue: What is Love? (Baby don't hurt me!)POD: (sighs) You paint such a rosy picture, OCV, but let’s not ignore the shadows. Love, in its purest form, can bring immense pain and suffering. It can lead to heartache, betrayal, and the deepest of sorrows. Love is a double-edged sword.
OMA: Both of you present compelling views. If we examine love objectively, we find that it is a complex biochemical and psychological phenomenon. It involves a range of emotions, behaviors, and physiological responses. From a scientific perspective, love is the interplay of hormones like oxytocin and dopamine, influencing our mood and behavior.
WPP: Let’s balance these perspectives with a touch of pragmatism. Love is indeed multifaceted. It can be a powerful motivator, fostering connections and collaboration, but it also requires careful nurturing and realistic expectations. We must plan and manage our relationships to harness the positive aspects of love while mitigating the risks of hurt.
G: (smiling) Ah, love. It is a concept that transcends the mortal experience, yet it is intrinsic to it. Love is both the simplest and most profound of experiences. It is the thread that weaves the fabric of the universe, connecting all beings. Love is not just an emotion or a biochemical reaction; it is the very essence of creation and existence. It holds the potential for boundless joy and deep learning. Love, in its truest form, is unconditional and everlasting.
OCV: See, love is the light that guides us all!
POD: But remember, even light can cast shadows.
OMA: Therefore, love must be understood and approached with both heart and mind.
WPP: Precisely. We should embrace love's potential while being mindful of its complexities. Planning and wisdom can help us navigate its challenges.
G: Indeed, my children. Love is a journey, a lesson, and a gift. Cherish it, learn from it, and let it guide you toward your highest selves.
2024.05.18 13:13 Ok-Tomorrow9184 Gemini Gets Plato and Humor
Prompt
Create a Platonic dialogue between an optimistic creative visionary (OCV), a pessimistic observant doomsayer (POD), an objective meticulous analyzer (OMA), a wise pragmatic planner (WPP), and God (G).
Question: "What is love? (Baby don't hurt me!)"
Output: Gemini Advanced
Scene: A round table discussion in a heavenly cloud-filled room.Characters:
- OCV (Optimistic Creative Visionary): A radiant figure with sparkling eyes, overflowing with enthusiasm.
- POD (Pessimistic Observant Doomsayer): A dour figure, hunched over with arms crossed, muttering under their breath.
- OMA (Objective Meticulous Analyzer): A composed figure with a notepad, diligently taking notes.
- WPP (Wise Pragmatic Planner): A serene figure with a thoughtful expression, occasionally stroking their beard.
- G (God): A luminous being radiating warmth and light, a gentle smile on their face.
OCV: (Beaming) Love! It's the most beautiful, powerful force in the universe! It's the inspiration behind every creation, every act of kindness, every connection between souls. It's the spark of life itself!
POD: (Scoffs) Love? Please. It's nothing but a fleeting illusion, a biological trick to propagate the species. It leads to heartbreak, betrayal, and endless suffering.
OMA: (Clearing their throat) From a purely objective standpoint, love is a complex interplay of neurochemicals and hormonal responses. It's associated with increased dopamine, oxytocin, and vasopressin levels, resulting in feelings of pleasure, bonding, and attachment.
WPP: (Nods) While those physiological aspects are certainly relevant, love is also a choice, a commitment to nurture and cherish another being. It requires patience, understanding, and a willingness to compromise.
G: (Smiles) You all speak truths, but love is so much more than the sum of its parts. It's a mystery that transcends definitions and explanations.
OCV: (Eagerly) It's like a symphony of emotions, a kaleidoscope of experiences!
POD: (Mutters) More like a chaotic cacophony of pain and disappointment.
OMA: (Scribbling) An intriguing paradox, indeed. Love can both uplift and destroy, create and consume.
WPP: (Shrugs) That's why it's crucial to approach love with wisdom and discernment.
G: (Raises a hand) My children, remember that love is a gift, a divine spark within each of you. It is the essence of who I am.
OCV: (Clasps hands) It's the most precious gift of all!
POD: (Sighs) A gift that often comes with a hefty price tag.
OMA: (Nods) A gift that warrants further investigation and analysis.
WPP: (Smiles) A gift that deserves to be cherished and protected.
G: (Chuckles) Indeed. So, go forth and share this gift with the world. Let love guide your actions, inspire your creativity, and heal your wounds.
(The figures nod in unison, a sense of understanding and purpose dawning upon them.)
G: (Softly) And remember, baby don't hurt me... don't hurt me... no more.
(A faint echo of laughter fills the room as the figures disperse, leaving behind a lingering warmth.)
Output: ChatGPT-4o
Dialogue: What is Love? (Baby don't hurt me!)POD: (sighs) You paint such a rosy picture, OCV, but let’s not ignore the shadows. Love, in its purest form, can bring immense pain and suffering. It can lead to heartache, betrayal, and the deepest of sorrows. Love is a double-edged sword.
OMA: Both of you present compelling views. If we examine love objectively, we find that it is a complex biochemical and psychological phenomenon. It involves a range of emotions, behaviors, and physiological responses. From a scientific perspective, love is the interplay of hormones like oxytocin and dopamine, influencing our mood and behavior.
WPP: Let’s balance these perspectives with a touch of pragmatism. Love is indeed multifaceted. It can be a powerful motivator, fostering connections and collaboration, but it also requires careful nurturing and realistic expectations. We must plan and manage our relationships to harness the positive aspects of love while mitigating the risks of hurt.
G: (smiling) Ah, love. It is a concept that transcends the mortal experience, yet it is intrinsic to it. Love is both the simplest and most profound of experiences. It is the thread that weaves the fabric of the universe, connecting all beings. Love is not just an emotion or a biochemical reaction; it is the very essence of creation and existence. It holds the potential for boundless joy and deep learning. Love, in its truest form, is unconditional and everlasting.
OCV: See, love is the light that guides us all!
POD: But remember, even light can cast shadows.
OMA: Therefore, love must be understood and approached with both heart and mind.
WPP: Precisely. We should embrace love's potential while being mindful of its complexities. Planning and wisdom can help us navigate its challenges.
G: Indeed, my children. Love is a journey, a lesson, and a gift. Cherish it, learn from it, and let it guide you toward your highest selves.
2024.05.18 13:13 Ok-Tomorrow9184 Gemini Gets Plato and Humor
Prompt
Create a Platonic dialogue between an optimistic creative visionary (OCV), a pessimistic observant doomsayer (POD), an objective meticulous analyzer (OMA), a wise pragmatic planner (WPP), and God (G).
Question: "What is love? (Baby don't hurt me!)"
Output: Gemini Advanced
Scene: A round table discussion in a heavenly cloud-filled room.Characters:
- OCV (Optimistic Creative Visionary): A radiant figure with sparkling eyes, overflowing with enthusiasm.
- POD (Pessimistic Observant Doomsayer): A dour figure, hunched over with arms crossed, muttering under their breath.
- OMA (Objective Meticulous Analyzer): A composed figure with a notepad, diligently taking notes.
- WPP (Wise Pragmatic Planner): A serene figure with a thoughtful expression, occasionally stroking their beard.
- G (God): A luminous being radiating warmth and light, a gentle smile on their face.
OCV: (Beaming) Love! It's the most beautiful, powerful force in the universe! It's the inspiration behind every creation, every act of kindness, every connection between souls. It's the spark of life itself!
POD: (Scoffs) Love? Please. It's nothing but a fleeting illusion, a biological trick to propagate the species. It leads to heartbreak, betrayal, and endless suffering.
OMA: (Clearing their throat) From a purely objective standpoint, love is a complex interplay of neurochemicals and hormonal responses. It's associated with increased dopamine, oxytocin, and vasopressin levels, resulting in feelings of pleasure, bonding, and attachment.
WPP: (Nods) While those physiological aspects are certainly relevant, love is also a choice, a commitment to nurture and cherish another being. It requires patience, understanding, and a willingness to compromise.
G: (Smiles) You all speak truths, but love is so much more than the sum of its parts. It's a mystery that transcends definitions and explanations.
OCV: (Eagerly) It's like a symphony of emotions, a kaleidoscope of experiences!
POD: (Mutters) More like a chaotic cacophony of pain and disappointment.
OMA: (Scribbling) An intriguing paradox, indeed. Love can both uplift and destroy, create and consume.
WPP: (Shrugs) That's why it's crucial to approach love with wisdom and discernment.
G: (Raises a hand) My children, remember that love is a gift, a divine spark within each of you. It is the essence of who I am.
OCV: (Clasps hands) It's the most precious gift of all!
POD: (Sighs) A gift that often comes with a hefty price tag.
OMA: (Nods) A gift that warrants further investigation and analysis.
WPP: (Smiles) A gift that deserves to be cherished and protected.
G: (Chuckles) Indeed. So, go forth and share this gift with the world. Let love guide your actions, inspire your creativity, and heal your wounds.
(The figures nod in unison, a sense of understanding and purpose dawning upon them.)
G: (Softly) And remember, baby don't hurt me... don't hurt me... no more.
(A faint echo of laughter fills the room as the figures disperse, leaving behind a lingering warmth.)
Output: ChatGPT-4o
Dialogue: What is Love? (Baby don't hurt me!)POD: (sighs) You paint such a rosy picture, OCV, but let’s not ignore the shadows. Love, in its purest form, can bring immense pain and suffering. It can lead to heartache, betrayal, and the deepest of sorrows. Love is a double-edged sword.
OMA: Both of you present compelling views. If we examine love objectively, we find that it is a complex biochemical and psychological phenomenon. It involves a range of emotions, behaviors, and physiological responses. From a scientific perspective, love is the interplay of hormones like oxytocin and dopamine, influencing our mood and behavior.
WPP: Let’s balance these perspectives with a touch of pragmatism. Love is indeed multifaceted. It can be a powerful motivator, fostering connections and collaboration, but it also requires careful nurturing and realistic expectations. We must plan and manage our relationships to harness the positive aspects of love while mitigating the risks of hurt.
G: (smiling) Ah, love. It is a concept that transcends the mortal experience, yet it is intrinsic to it. Love is both the simplest and most profound of experiences. It is the thread that weaves the fabric of the universe, connecting all beings. Love is not just an emotion or a biochemical reaction; it is the very essence of creation and existence. It holds the potential for boundless joy and deep learning. Love, in its truest form, is unconditional and everlasting.
OCV: See, love is the light that guides us all!
POD: But remember, even light can cast shadows.
OMA: Therefore, love must be understood and approached with both heart and mind.
WPP: Precisely. We should embrace love's potential while being mindful of its complexities. Planning and wisdom can help us navigate its challenges.
G: Indeed, my children. Love is a journey, a lesson, and a gift. Cherish it, learn from it, and let it guide you toward your highest selves.
2024.05.18 04:07 MyspaceMafia Frontiersman (Part 2)
Part One
Frontiersman No. 0012: Duke Collins
"Duke, this course of action is not advised. The proprietary weapons and targeting systems have no been tested in live combat scenarios." Aerie chimed in rather swiftly.
"But the asteroids we tested on were atomized, Aerie. Whoever this is clearly needs some help, and this could be actual first contact!" I retorted, still rocketing towards the fleeing vessel. "I sure hope I'm helping the good guys", I thought to myself.
As we approached the vessel, laser shots rang off my stern, but luckily the reactive shielding took the hit. Aerie spoke up again, "Reactive Shielding reduced to 99.5 Percent."
Point five of a percent from their shots? Are they firing wet sponges? The reactive shielding was new tech, examined and supposedly improved by Aerie, but a shot from one of my own weapons should still vaporize my ship, or at most it may take two or three. I thought lasers were some high tech science fiction?
Nearing the enemy ship, I could see the light shimmer of the nearby star reflecting off of the pulsing light from... "Active Shielding?" I thought aloud. I watched as another shot hit the engines of the escaping vessel, and all power went out. The ship began to tumble through the murky black of space like a sleek white coffin. Surely life support was out, and if there's smoke in the cabin, then that means we only have minutes, if they aren't dead already.
"Aerie, I want to try the darts. Load them up and bring up the crosshair." Immediately, and without word, a crosshair was displayed in my vision. As I focused on the enemy ship, the crosshair began to rotate and lock on. The crosshair flashed, indicating that the automated turret on the underside of my ship had locked onto the enemy. I moved to squeeze the trigger, and before I could do so, the weapon fired, seemingly on it's own.
"What th-"
Aerie cut me off. "Experimental. I have linked the ship's HUD with your implants, and you are controlling the weapon remotely. The crosshair is in your vision, not on the ship's HUD. Focus, and it will do, now keep firing, captain."
With my adrenaline pumping, I had no time to even acknowledge the use of the word captain. My first shot lit up the enemy's shield, firing a magnetically propelled tungsten dart with a chromium jacket for increased magnetism. The darts are small, around 12 inches in length, and move at a not-insignificant percentage of the speed of light, somewhere around 1.5 percent. This results in a clean 40 kiloton explosion, if the projectile has something to "explode". I watched as the projectile made contact with the enemy's shield, but unfortunately it seemed to ricochet. The impact brought the shield down with it, but in the vacuum of space, there is no atmosphere to ignite, nor pressure wave to destroy all in it's vicinity. The round was reduced to molecules on impact, glancing off of the shield and into the void of space. I focused on the ship, and willed the gun to fire another shot. This one was just as accurate, but this time there were no shields to interrupt it's path. The ship was there one second, and the next, there was a ball of fire, with the instant ignition of every molecule of atmosphere inside. Debris would be a concern, but the energy transfer rended the ship into pieces no larger than a single dice.
Satisfied with the outcome, I was reminded of my pursuer as Aerie chimed in over the intercoms, "Wake up, Captain. Reactive Shielding at 97 percent." Oh yea, that's right. I decided to put the inertia dampeners to the test. Without altering course, I wheeled the flight stick hard to the right, kicking in the gyroscopic combat and emergency steering. With a heave and the lurching of multiple gyroscopes stopping and starting, the ship instantly wheeled around at murderous speeds. Even with the dampeners, had I not been wearing my harness, I would have been 3 inches into the wall on my right. With a 180 degree turn, I was moving backwards, now facing my target. 2 more shots from the magnetic dart thrower and the target was drifting toward me, now scrap.
For a moment, we sat there, drifting backwards in space. Breakneck speeds don't feel so fast when the vacuum of space is calm. The slight pressure of Aerie activating the Pilot Assist to automatically slow the ship is what brought me back to reality. "Where is the disabled ship, Aerie?"
"They've activated a distress beacon, bringing it up on your HUD now." She replied quickly. A second later and I was seeing a blue light in 3d space. It was to my left, and on the Ship's HUD, it would have shown up as an arrow pointing off screen, but now i was seeing it through the wall, through my own eyes. This was helpful, but I would certainly have to get used to it. Placing my hands back on the controls, I oriented the ship and moved toward our target. They were dead in space, and drifting, rolling slightly forward like a throwing knife in slow motion. With a designation on the target, I used the asteroid harvesting drones to attach to the ship's hull and slow it's spin, and as I waited in space, it began to drift towards me as the drones did their job. Attempting to hail them, I found that their ship appeared to be completely out of power.
This was bad. I had just remembered that, of all the gadgets my ship had, it didn't have a docking umbilical. I was supposed to be out here alone, after all. "Anything we can do about this, Aerie?" I asked. I donned my PowerSuit and headed for the airlock.
"Unsure, Cap- Duke. There appears to be smoke in the cabin, but I'm reading two life signs. I'll be on coms, let me know if I am needed." Aerie said. She always had her reservations, but she never stopped me from doing stupid things, and rarely protested more than once. She was an incredible AI, and even if I were back in United Terran Systems space, I don't think there's anyone I would want more as a friend.
I left my ship with 2 emergency EVA Slimsuit quickfits. I have no idea what these things will look like, but if they fit inside the suits, then the suit should be able to form to their bodies with the press of a button, or at least seal itself so I can get them to safety.
As I approached the vessel to peer through the front viewport, I instead saw smoke emerging from the top of the ship as a hatch opened, venting whatever atmosphere existed into space. My PowerSuit may have been one of the many experimental techs in my arsenal, but it wasn't pretty. It was boxy and big, filled with tech to keep me safe while working in the unknown. Fitted with experimental exploration safety tech, eva thrusters, boosters for maneuvering in light gravitational pull, and the Crème de la Crème, a brand new personal reactive shield generator for protection from stray debris, this suit had little room for beauty. Originally black, it was now a dark gray with a rounded, blocky helmet that had a tinted gold UV resistant visor, and pocked with impact marks from my time learning how to use the suit properly. In contract, what I saw emerging from the venting airlock was... sleek, to sum it up. The suits were a dark blue, with a black metal skeleton that traced the suit, and a carrier rig on the front that likely held a small amount of oxygen and likely some emergency devices. The helmets were sleek and round, with visors black as night that went from below the chin to the center of the top of the head. If this were a human, it would allow us to use the entirety of our field of vision. And this was the strange thing, as they emerged, they had a head, likely bifocal vision, slender shoulders leading into two arms, average looking torsos......and guns.
Pointed at me.
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Frontiersman No. 0012: Duke Collins
"Duke, this course of action is not advised. The proprietary weapons and targeting systems have no been tested in live combat scenarios." Aerie chimed in rather swiftly.
"But the asteroids we tested on were atomized, Aerie. Whoever this is clearly needs some help, and this could be actual first contact!" I retorted, still rocketing towards the fleeing vessel. "I sure hope I'm helping the good guys", I thought to myself.
As we approached the vessel, laser shots rang off my stern, but luckily the reactive shielding took the hit. Aerie spoke up again, "Reactive Shielding reduced to 99.5 Percent."
Point five of a percent from their shots? Are they firing wet sponges? The reactive shielding was new tech, examined and supposedly improved by Aerie, but a shot from one of my own weapons should still vaporize my ship, or at most it may take two or three. I thought lasers were some high tech science fiction?
Nearing the enemy ship, I could see the light shimmer of the nearby star reflecting off of the pulsing light from... "Active Shielding?" I thought aloud. I watched as another shot hit the engines of the escaping vessel, and all power went out. The ship began to tumble through the murky black of space like a sleek white coffin. Surely life support was out, and if there's smoke in the cabin, then that means we only have minutes, if they aren't dead already.
"Aerie, I want to try the darts. Load them up and bring up the crosshair." Immediately, and without word, a crosshair was displayed in my vision. As I focused on the enemy ship, the crosshair began to rotate and lock on. The crosshair flashed, indicating that the automated turret on the underside of my ship had locked onto the enemy. I moved to squeeze the trigger, and before I could do so, the weapon fired, seemingly on it's own.
"What th-"
Aerie cut me off. "Experimental. I have linked the ship's HUD with your implants, and you are controlling the weapon remotely. The crosshair is in your vision, not on the ship's HUD. Focus, and it will do, now keep firing, captain."
With my adrenaline pumping, I had no time to even acknowledge the use of the word captain. My first shot lit up the enemy's shield, firing a magnetically propelled tungsten dart with a chromium jacket for increased magnetism. The darts are small, around 12 inches in length, and move at a not-insignificant percentage of the speed of light, somewhere around 1.5 percent. This results in a clean 40 kiloton explosion, if the projectile has something to "explode". I watched as the projectile made contact with the enemy's shield, but unfortunately it seemed to ricochet. The impact brought the shield down with it, but in the vacuum of space, there is no atmosphere to ignite, nor pressure wave to destroy all in it's vicinity. The round was reduced to molecules on impact, glancing off of the shield and into the void of space. I focused on the ship, and willed the gun to fire another shot. This one was just as accurate, but this time there were no shields to interrupt it's path. The ship was there one second, and the next, there was a ball of fire, with the instant ignition of every molecule of atmosphere inside. Debris would be a concern, but the energy transfer rended the ship into pieces no larger than a single dice.
Satisfied with the outcome, I was reminded of my pursuer as Aerie chimed in over the intercoms, "Wake up, Captain. Reactive Shielding at 97 percent." Oh yea, that's right. I decided to put the inertia dampeners to the test. Without altering course, I wheeled the flight stick hard to the right, kicking in the gyroscopic combat and emergency steering. With a heave and the lurching of multiple gyroscopes stopping and starting, the ship instantly wheeled around at murderous speeds. Even with the dampeners, had I not been wearing my harness, I would have been 3 inches into the wall on my right. With a 180 degree turn, I was moving backwards, now facing my target. 2 more shots from the magnetic dart thrower and the target was drifting toward me, now scrap.
For a moment, we sat there, drifting backwards in space. Breakneck speeds don't feel so fast when the vacuum of space is calm. The slight pressure of Aerie activating the Pilot Assist to automatically slow the ship is what brought me back to reality. "Where is the disabled ship, Aerie?"
"They've activated a distress beacon, bringing it up on your HUD now." She replied quickly. A second later and I was seeing a blue light in 3d space. It was to my left, and on the Ship's HUD, it would have shown up as an arrow pointing off screen, but now i was seeing it through the wall, through my own eyes. This was helpful, but I would certainly have to get used to it. Placing my hands back on the controls, I oriented the ship and moved toward our target. They were dead in space, and drifting, rolling slightly forward like a throwing knife in slow motion. With a designation on the target, I used the asteroid harvesting drones to attach to the ship's hull and slow it's spin, and as I waited in space, it began to drift towards me as the drones did their job. Attempting to hail them, I found that their ship appeared to be completely out of power.
This was bad. I had just remembered that, of all the gadgets my ship had, it didn't have a docking umbilical. I was supposed to be out here alone, after all. "Anything we can do about this, Aerie?" I asked. I donned my PowerSuit and headed for the airlock.
"Unsure, Cap- Duke. There appears to be smoke in the cabin, but I'm reading two life signs. I'll be on coms, let me know if I am needed." Aerie said. She always had her reservations, but she never stopped me from doing stupid things, and rarely protested more than once. She was an incredible AI, and even if I were back in United Terran Systems space, I don't think there's anyone I would want more as a friend.
I left my ship with 2 emergency EVA Slimsuit quickfits. I have no idea what these things will look like, but if they fit inside the suits, then the suit should be able to form to their bodies with the press of a button, or at least seal itself so I can get them to safety.
As I approached the vessel to peer through the front viewport, I instead saw smoke emerging from the top of the ship as a hatch opened, venting whatever atmosphere existed into space. My PowerSuit may have been one of the many experimental techs in my arsenal, but it wasn't pretty. It was boxy and big, filled with tech to keep me safe while working in the unknown. Fitted with experimental exploration safety tech, eva thrusters, boosters for maneuvering in light gravitational pull, and the Crème de la Crème, a brand new personal reactive shield generator for protection from stray debris, this suit had little room for beauty. Originally black, it was now a dark gray with a rounded, blocky helmet that had a tinted gold UV resistant visor, and pocked with impact marks from my time learning how to use the suit properly. In contract, what I saw emerging from the venting airlock was... sleek, to sum it up. The suits were a dark blue, with a black metal skeleton that traced the suit, and a carrier rig on the front that likely held a small amount of oxygen and likely some emergency devices. The helmets were sleek and round, with visors black as night that went from below the chin to the center of the top of the head. If this were a human, it would allow us to use the entirety of our field of vision. And this was the strange thing, as they emerged, they had a head, likely bifocal vision, slender shoulders leading into two arms, average looking torsos......and guns.
Pointed at me.
2024.05.18 00:27 Gazzy-Boi Trouble in Leo town
 | Hello everyone, submitted by Gazzy-Boi to leopardgeckos [link] [comments] I’ve owned Leo’s for almost half my life and love these little smiley guys. However, I have gotten one of my Leo’s back from my significant other who was taking care of her (I had to move and didn’t know if I could take her or not). She had a fixed schedule for feeding, and water replacements every other day. But the only thing is my partner was too scared to reach into the tank or touch my Leo (who is normally super agressive in terms of anything that moved she’d strike at it.) So the tank was quite dirty with poop and was unsightly. Her substrate was just paper towels for easy clean up. So when I got her back, I noticed that she was very lethargic, rarely opening her eyes, licking her butt, and also eyes. Also has stopped reacting to anything besides touch and is uninterested in food. I know it’s breeding season, but my other Leo is feeding as normal and totally fine. My first thought was impaction, so I gave her a warm bath for 25 minutes yesterday. Sometime today she pooped and peed but the poop didn’t look normal to me, and the urate is all crumbled. She hasn’t eaten in a week and the poop was quite large for not eating for so long. If she doesn’t improve over the next few days I’m going to have to take her to the vet. Anyone have similar experiences or know what I should do? Below I’ve attached a picture of what her poop looks like, though it is not a high quality pic. I am thinking it is a bacterial infection or she is still impacted. After the poop, her eyes are still closed and she’s still non reactive. |
2024.05.17 20:13 Yeahdawwg_ Rehoming
Hello! I’ve posted in this sub a few times- this is in reference to another dog. We have two mini golden doodles, and my Aussie in the home. The two doodles were bought by my mom and she’s since passed, and we still have the dogs. They’re semi reactive, and one has aggressive/excitment reactivity issues. He’s also been virtually impossible to train, and still uses the bathroom in the house regardless of going outside hourly, among other behavior issues. Both other dogs are well trained so I don’t believe it’s entirely our fault,, He’s been very aggressive towards cats, dogs, and especially humans. I live with my dad and two sisters, my youngest sister is especially attached to this dog but he really really doesn’t work in our home and I believe he’d have a better live as an only pet. I’m just so hesitant to rehome him, especially due to my sisters attachment to him. I’m just looking for advice with what to do, or others who have experience with this.
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2024.05.17 14:42 circuitdisconnect Earned secure attachment in RAD cases?
Hi all,
When I was a child I was diagnosed with reactive attachment disorder. A therapist that I was working with about a decade ago would talk about "earned secure attachment".
It's been a while, and I honestly don't remember most of what she had said about it. I tried researching and am now more confused than ever.
If anyone could help explain earned secure attachment, particularly in the context of RAD, I would sincerely appreciate it.
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When I was a child I was diagnosed with reactive attachment disorder. A therapist that I was working with about a decade ago would talk about "earned secure attachment".
It's been a while, and I honestly don't remember most of what she had said about it. I tried researching and am now more confused than ever.
If anyone could help explain earned secure attachment, particularly in the context of RAD, I would sincerely appreciate it.
2024.05.17 10:33 Alioliou Towards advancements in Thaumic research: A strategic approach to Pyrite and Icosahedrite production.
To my colleagues at the Technomagical University of Valencia,
It is with great honor and gratitude that I dedicate these words to the revered institution that has been my intellectual home for decades. As Professor Thaddeus Rune, I have had the privilege of exploring the vast domains of thaumaturgy and materials sciences, unraveling the mysteries of the universe through the lens of magic and science.
Since the dawn of my academic career, the Technomagical University has been my source of inspiration and intellectual refuge, providing me with a conducive environment for the flourishing of the mind and spirit. Here, I have found not only knowledge but also camaraderie and collaboration, fundamental pillars on the path to understanding the secrets of the cosmos.
In this essay, I wish to pay tribute not only to this venerable institution but also to my esteemed friend and research colleague, the eminent arcanologist and Dr. Cornelius Darkwood. Together, we have shared countless hours of research, exploring the boundaries of magic and science with unwavering passion and an insatiable thirst for discovery.
May these words serve as a testimony of my deep appreciation for the Technomagical University of Valencia and for the invaluable friendship and collaboration I have found in Dr. Cornelius Darkwood. May our joint efforts continue to illuminate the darkest corners of knowledge, for the benefit of humanity and future generations.
With sincere affection and gratitude,
Professor Thaddeus Rune
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Pyrite, known for its composition of iron sulfide (FeS2), has long been a cornerstone in thaumic practice. The presence of sulfur and iron in its crystalline structure makes it an ideal source of the ignis, terra, and metallum aspects. Additionally, its perfect cubic crystals offer a generous dose of the ordo aspect, adding an additional level of complexity to its thaumic utility.
However, the growing scarcity of natural pyrite crystals, specially those with cubic shapes, due to its extensive use in the crafting of pyrotic magical alloys and power objects, poses a significant challenge for modern thaumaturges. It is imperative that we explore viable alternatives for obtaining this material.
We must also highlight the importance of emerging materials such as icosahedrite. Icosahedrite, recently discovered and of meteoric origin, exhibits a unique chemical composition of aluminum, copper, and iron (Al63Cu24Fe13). Although its availability is limited and its cost high, its potential in thaumaturgy is extraordinary. In addition to being an excellent source of the metallum and permutatio aspects, the true marvel of icosahedrite lies in its emerging aspects, especially the rare alienus aspect.
This alienus aspect, with its exotic and mysterious qualities, offers a vast field of possibilities in the manufacturing of quantum devices, metamagic contraptions, and artifacts for metric manipulation of space-time. Furthermore, icosahedrite infused with praecantatio essence can give rise to powerful dodecahedrites, with potential applications in the production of high-density magical batteries, wands and scepters of great power, enhanced arcane weapons, and antimagic ammunition.
In conclusion, both pyrite and icosahedrite represent valuable contributions to the thaumic arsenal. Their unique properties and potential in the creation of new alloys and artifacts urge us to explore more economical and scalable production methods.
In this essay, however, my goal is to provide a concise and accessible summary of the synthesis methods employed, as well as the results obtained. While the attached report contains specific technical details and additional experimental data, here I will focus on presenting an overview of the procedures used and their implications in the context of contemporary thaumaturgy.
It is my hope that this summary provides a clear and practical understanding of the synthesis methods employed, as well as their relevance to research and thaumic practice. For those interested in delving deeper into the technical and experimental details, I refer to the attached report for further information and detailed insights.
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In order to advance our thaumic research and reduce future costs, I propose an innovative strategy involving the acquisition of key magical materials for the manufacture of dodecahedrites. These materials, greatwood and thaumite, are crucial for extracting large quantities of praecantatio essence, an essential component in the successful production of dodecahedrites.
Greatwood and thaumite, with their high concentration of praecantatio essence, will allow us to obtain the necessary raw materials to manufacture dodecahedrites efficiently and economically. These dodecahedrites, combined with the icosahedrite quasicrystals we have successfully synthesized, will be used in future research on advanced thaumic applications.
By acquiring these materials in large quantities, we can not only reduce the production costs of dodecahedrites but also ensure a constant and sufficient supply for our thaumic research projects. Additionally, it will enable us to conduct large-scale experiments and explore the full thaumic potential of dodecahedrites in various areas of study.
Therefore, I respectfully request the University of Tecnomagic of Valencia to consider allocating a budget for the acquisition of greatwood and thaumite. This strategic investment will allow us to advance more rapidly in our thaumic research and achieve new milestones in the field of contemporary thaumaturgy.
I am available to provide any additional information that may be necessary and that I am authorized to provide.
Sincerely,
Professor Thaddeus Rune
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It is with great honor and gratitude that I dedicate these words to the revered institution that has been my intellectual home for decades. As Professor Thaddeus Rune, I have had the privilege of exploring the vast domains of thaumaturgy and materials sciences, unraveling the mysteries of the universe through the lens of magic and science.
Since the dawn of my academic career, the Technomagical University has been my source of inspiration and intellectual refuge, providing me with a conducive environment for the flourishing of the mind and spirit. Here, I have found not only knowledge but also camaraderie and collaboration, fundamental pillars on the path to understanding the secrets of the cosmos.
In this essay, I wish to pay tribute not only to this venerable institution but also to my esteemed friend and research colleague, the eminent arcanologist and Dr. Cornelius Darkwood. Together, we have shared countless hours of research, exploring the boundaries of magic and science with unwavering passion and an insatiable thirst for discovery.
May these words serve as a testimony of my deep appreciation for the Technomagical University of Valencia and for the invaluable friendship and collaboration I have found in Dr. Cornelius Darkwood. May our joint efforts continue to illuminate the darkest corners of knowledge, for the benefit of humanity and future generations.
With sincere affection and gratitude,
Professor Thaddeus Rune
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Introduction
Thaumaturgy, the ancient discipline that merges magic and science, has long been a fascinating and challenging field of study. In our ongoing effort to expand the boundaries of knowledge and thaumic practice, we are faced with the challenge of finding and synthesizing materials that are not only abundant but also rich in crucial magical aspects. In this essay, we will explore two such materials: pyrite and icosahedrite, and examine their potential in the creation of new alloys and thaumic artifacts.Pyrite, known for its composition of iron sulfide (FeS2), has long been a cornerstone in thaumic practice. The presence of sulfur and iron in its crystalline structure makes it an ideal source of the ignis, terra, and metallum aspects. Additionally, its perfect cubic crystals offer a generous dose of the ordo aspect, adding an additional level of complexity to its thaumic utility.
However, the growing scarcity of natural pyrite crystals, specially those with cubic shapes, due to its extensive use in the crafting of pyrotic magical alloys and power objects, poses a significant challenge for modern thaumaturges. It is imperative that we explore viable alternatives for obtaining this material.
We must also highlight the importance of emerging materials such as icosahedrite. Icosahedrite, recently discovered and of meteoric origin, exhibits a unique chemical composition of aluminum, copper, and iron (Al63Cu24Fe13). Although its availability is limited and its cost high, its potential in thaumaturgy is extraordinary. In addition to being an excellent source of the metallum and permutatio aspects, the true marvel of icosahedrite lies in its emerging aspects, especially the rare alienus aspect.
This alienus aspect, with its exotic and mysterious qualities, offers a vast field of possibilities in the manufacturing of quantum devices, metamagic contraptions, and artifacts for metric manipulation of space-time. Furthermore, icosahedrite infused with praecantatio essence can give rise to powerful dodecahedrites, with potential applications in the production of high-density magical batteries, wands and scepters of great power, enhanced arcane weapons, and antimagic ammunition.
In conclusion, both pyrite and icosahedrite represent valuable contributions to the thaumic arsenal. Their unique properties and potential in the creation of new alloys and artifacts urge us to explore more economical and scalable production methods.
Summary
Throughout my research in the field of thaumaturgy and materials sciences, I have conducted a series of experiments aimed at synthesizing high-quality materials for application in thaumic practice. These experiments have resulted in the development of innovative synthesis methods, which have been detailed and documented in a report attached to this essay.In this essay, however, my goal is to provide a concise and accessible summary of the synthesis methods employed, as well as the results obtained. While the attached report contains specific technical details and additional experimental data, here I will focus on presenting an overview of the procedures used and their implications in the context of contemporary thaumaturgy.
It is my hope that this summary provides a clear and practical understanding of the synthesis methods employed, as well as their relevance to research and thaumic practice. For those interested in delving deeper into the technical and experimental details, I refer to the attached report for further information and detailed insights.
Method of synthesis for Pyrite cubes
The process of synthesizing high-quality pyrite involves several meticulous steps to ensure the formation of cubic pyrite crystals with optimal perfection and purity. Below is a summary of the main steps of the method:- Preparation of the reactive mixture: The process begins with the preparation of a stoichiometrically calculated mixture of sulfur and iron. 32.06 grams of sulfur and 55.84 grams of iron, both finely powdered, are carefully weighed and mixed.
- Formation of iron sulfide (FeS2): The sulfur-iron mixture is placed in a crucible and ignited to initiate the reaction and form iron sulfide (FeS2).
- Grinding and dissolution: Once the iron sulfide is formed, the product is finely ground. Subsequently, the resulting iron bisulfide is dissolved in a eutectic mixture of sodium, potassium, calcium, and magnesium chloride salts. The exact proportions of these salts and specific temperatures are detailed in the attached report.
- Crystallization and controlled cooling: The dissolved mixture is placed in a crucible inside a glass annealing furnace for slow controlled cooling. This process allows pyrite crystals to form and crystallize in an orderly and uniform manner.
- Extraction and selection of crystals: Once the mixture has cooled and fully crystallized, the salt block is broken to extract and separate the precipitated pyrite crystals. Crystals with the most perfect cubic shapes are selected for use as seed crystals for growing larger crystals.
- Process refinement: Throughout the experimentation, refinements were made to the process to improve the quality and perfection of the pyrite crystals. These refinements are detailed in the attached report.
- Results: After a series of experiments and adjustments, a pyrite cube measuring 3.24 cm on each side was successfully grown, representing a significant success in the synthesis of high-quality pyrite.
Method of synthesis for Icosahedrite dodecahedrons
The synthesis process of icosahedrite dodecahedrons involves a series of meticulous steps to cultivate polycrystalline crystals with desirable thaumic properties. Below is a summary of the main steps of the method:- Preparation of the metal mixture: The process begins with the pre-fusion and mixing of a finely powdered combination of 21.51 grams of aluminum, 19.305 grams of copper, and 9.185 grams of iron, in a controlled argon atmosphere. The mixture is carefully conducted to ensure a uniform distribution of the elements.
- Refusion and controlled cooling: The metal mixture undergoes a refusion process to ensure complete melting of the components. Once melted, the mixture is allowed to cool within a crucible placed in a glass annealing furnace, ensuring slow controlled cooling.
- Addition of ordo aspect essence: During the cooling process, ordo aspect essence is added to accelerate and enhance crystallization. This addition helps promote the growth of desired dodecahedral quasicrystals and improve their quality and purity.
- Formation of the polycrystalline metal matrix: As a result of the controlled cooling process and the addition of ordo aspect essence, a polycrystalline metal matrix is obtained containing a variety of crystals with different orientations and structures.
- Extraction and selection of dodecahedrons: The polycrystalline metal matrix is carefully broken and fragmented to separate and extract perfectly formed and desired dodecahedral quasicrystals. Dodecahedrons with the most suitable shapes and thaumic properties are selected for use in thaumic applications.
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Request for acquisition of magical materials for Dodecahedrite research
Given the success of the icosahedrite synthesis process, I am attaching the reason why I have requested a budget. Although the letter sent details the reasons better, I have chosen to include an excerpt in this essay for transparency purposes.In order to advance our thaumic research and reduce future costs, I propose an innovative strategy involving the acquisition of key magical materials for the manufacture of dodecahedrites. These materials, greatwood and thaumite, are crucial for extracting large quantities of praecantatio essence, an essential component in the successful production of dodecahedrites.
Greatwood and thaumite, with their high concentration of praecantatio essence, will allow us to obtain the necessary raw materials to manufacture dodecahedrites efficiently and economically. These dodecahedrites, combined with the icosahedrite quasicrystals we have successfully synthesized, will be used in future research on advanced thaumic applications.
By acquiring these materials in large quantities, we can not only reduce the production costs of dodecahedrites but also ensure a constant and sufficient supply for our thaumic research projects. Additionally, it will enable us to conduct large-scale experiments and explore the full thaumic potential of dodecahedrites in various areas of study.
Therefore, I respectfully request the University of Tecnomagic of Valencia to consider allocating a budget for the acquisition of greatwood and thaumite. This strategic investment will allow us to advance more rapidly in our thaumic research and achieve new milestones in the field of contemporary thaumaturgy.
I am available to provide any additional information that may be necessary and that I am authorized to provide.
Sincerely,
Professor Thaddeus Rune
2024.05.17 06:23 Minimum_Pitch6213 Bad neighbors
 | *notes attached submitted by Minimum_Pitch6213 to Apartmentliving [link] [comments] This post may be long but good GOD has this place put me through the fucking mud. Firstly, this was me and my boyfriend's first apartment together. I had brought a cat with me at first. We were cool with all the neighbors and we had no one living below us (second floor). Months into moving in i adopted a Mini Aussie (yes bad move on my behalf they need a lot more than an apartment we have a house now!) Unfortunately, we never had a puppy before and all our vets would tell us is not to take them places or let them meet other dogs. Obviously that's very WRONG so he is reactive. The first incident was we got a note after it was our dogs first day being kenneled for longer than 4 hours as i work late and my boyfriend was at a birthday party. There was a note the next day about how our dog was screaming and crying all night into the morning. I literally got home at 8pm.. Next, our neighbor across the breeze way is a wanna be rockstar who is in his late 40's still trynna make it downtown. I'm at work and my boyfriend is home and someone and their dog walks by our door and barks at our dog which makes my dog bark twice and stop. Two minutes later someone is BANGING on the door (i'm not home it's 6pm i work til 8pm) My boyfriend grabs his gun and opens the door and it's the dude across with no shirt on profusely sweating saying how we need to "shut our fucking dog up or he's going to do something about it" and whatever else and bucks up to my bf and he tells him he has a gun and will use it if he needs to. Obviously the dude backs off and says more slick shit. The next DAY we call the office to inform them and they don't answer so we leave a voicemail. They call us a bit later and my bf asks if it's about his voicemail and they say no it's a noise complaint about running from the people below you. It's 11am and i was playing with my dog for 5 minutes while my mom was over. So we asked when quiet hours were since there seem to be so many complaints and they're from 8am to 10pm. They didn't do anything about the dude which is whatever but! Then the bitch downstairs starts knocking on our door a few months later! Always around 5-6pm (keep in mind we could not let our dog be a dog we could not play in the apartment with him at all because we were walking on eggshells and trying to be respectful) Saying that she works at the office and she is also a professional dog walker?? (i've seen this bitch walk her big as dog and she can't even control him) Anyway we apologize move on. She comes up again a couple days later, same time, while we were watching a movie and none of us had moved in an hour. To complain about stomping! So we shut the door in her face. Moved on and continued to try to be respectful of them. Then the nice last and final note! I'll admit we were yk the birds bees whatever at 8pm because we have opposite schedules so no canoodling occurred late in the evening. The next day there's a note saying something about How we needed to fix our squeaky bed. Personally that was the last straw for me. I get being upset about hearing the bed (they have no children they're just a young couple same age as us) But you're going to embarrass me to everyone else? So i wrote a note back to them and stuck it on their door. I never received another note, another complaint, nothing! That's just half of the living of that place don't even get me started on management and the mold! |
2024.05.17 02:34 justanotherjacklee PSA: Do the Boothill Event ASAP
Guys remember to start this quest ASAP! The last time a similar event happened, it caused quite a stir as people realized it was timekept, so if you don't wanna repeat that, start now!
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P.S. if you guys wanna add me as a friend I'm more than willing to accept the invite...
2024.05.16 21:17 Wilfredmmay Deceptors
Played a 2.5k game against tyranids, my foe I knewn would have some damage two flammers and two big blobs of genestealers with broodlord so I took the following: 10 Terminators 1 Sorcerer in term armour 1 Vindactor 10 Havocs 1 Warpsmith 60 Legionaires 1 Sorcerer (with the soul link) 1 Chaos lord 3 MOE 1 Dark Apostle 20 Cultist Using our sub faction rule I did a semi aggressive deployment favoring my right flank, placing half the cultist on the right objective, backed up by two melee squads of ten each legionaries further back (One no attachments, other with regular Sorcerer and a MOE). While I placed my Dark Apostle with MOE in a squad of 10 legionnaires about 4 inches forward of my deployment zone but behind a big piece of cover. My friend got first turn, scout moved his genestealers forward, and moved forward with most of his army. Some overwatch killed 4 genestealers. His shooting killed most of my infiltrating units, and killed just shy of 30 legionaries. He also killed the 10 forward placed cultist on my right flank, 5 of my havocs on my left, decimated my Dark apostle unit and the chaos lord units. His charge and fight phase would wipe out my warpsmith, 5 more havocs and my regular sorcerer unit.
He kindly let me have a rematch and for me to change my list. I removed my terminators and added 40 more cultist and another 5 havocs. I decided to go all in with the infltrate, once again favouring the right flank with an even more aggressive deployment banking on that first turn rush. He got first turn, with me having a near repeat of the last time I conceded once again, thanked him for his time.
What I did learn was a few things, beyond the obvious swinging nature of over committing to infiltration was just how squish we are. Our lack of an equivalent to AOC, a very limited reaction move strat and a lack of good flammers make us feel very flimsy. This is compounded when you remember we are giving up critical hits on 5+, and ease Command Point generation. We feel like a very aggressive sub faction that does have a few interesting cards but the lack of stealth, good reactive shooting, no ability to alter one deployment, lack of AOC equiv, no good HQs to buff shooting (outside terminator sorcerer) and ways to get command points to use our good if sometimes a little niche strats can be devastating. I plan to try again next week with a list focusing less on our sub faction rule and more on a lot of havocs, legionaries with two squads of raptors and far fewer support characters to see if that is better. Yet I am struggling to find a good use of our shooting stratagem that acts the same way a MOE does in melee, the detonate stratagem can be very useful though requires us to be close, our charge strat can be a great way to get a deep strike unit into melee, our reactive stratagems feel weak, not to mention our relative lack of CP and the fact only two of our 6 stratagems can be used for free by our chaos lord. I feel we are weaker then the index sub faction. Not to mention we have no way to buff cultist, like we did a few editions ago or even anything for redeploy.
What do you fellow alphla legionaries think? What lists do you intend to take? Ands whats your out look on the new codex thanks for your time.
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He kindly let me have a rematch and for me to change my list. I removed my terminators and added 40 more cultist and another 5 havocs. I decided to go all in with the infltrate, once again favouring the right flank with an even more aggressive deployment banking on that first turn rush. He got first turn, with me having a near repeat of the last time I conceded once again, thanked him for his time.
What I did learn was a few things, beyond the obvious swinging nature of over committing to infiltration was just how squish we are. Our lack of an equivalent to AOC, a very limited reaction move strat and a lack of good flammers make us feel very flimsy. This is compounded when you remember we are giving up critical hits on 5+, and ease Command Point generation. We feel like a very aggressive sub faction that does have a few interesting cards but the lack of stealth, good reactive shooting, no ability to alter one deployment, lack of AOC equiv, no good HQs to buff shooting (outside terminator sorcerer) and ways to get command points to use our good if sometimes a little niche strats can be devastating. I plan to try again next week with a list focusing less on our sub faction rule and more on a lot of havocs, legionaries with two squads of raptors and far fewer support characters to see if that is better. Yet I am struggling to find a good use of our shooting stratagem that acts the same way a MOE does in melee, the detonate stratagem can be very useful though requires us to be close, our charge strat can be a great way to get a deep strike unit into melee, our reactive stratagems feel weak, not to mention our relative lack of CP and the fact only two of our 6 stratagems can be used for free by our chaos lord. I feel we are weaker then the index sub faction. Not to mention we have no way to buff cultist, like we did a few editions ago or even anything for redeploy.
What do you fellow alphla legionaries think? What lists do you intend to take? Ands whats your out look on the new codex thanks for your time.
2024.05.16 19:05 BLOODDOOT 150th Broadsword Company [A3] [EU/NA] [Semi-Serious] [7pm UTC)
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2024.05.16 18:35 bignoseenergy How to make my family and home happier
I'm 23F, I have a younger brother (15M) who's still in school and lives at home with my parents while I live in a different city.
Recently, my mom lost my grandma (lost grandpa 6 years ago) after a months-long spell of deteriorating health and quite a lot of family drama, and while she has always been a mentally strong person, she is emotionally reactive and has been battling depression and severe mood swings along with her job which has been really hectic and stressful in the past year. My dad is supportive and good at heart, but dealing with his own stress at work etc, so him and mom's fights have increased tenfold - it's like they cannot have a conversation without snapping. I live away from home and also not totally happy in my job, my brother is not focusing on his school work as much as he should - added stressors.
To put it briefly, my family is only the usual amount of dysfunctional, my childhood as well as my brother's has been nice and we are fairly financially stable as well. Mom and dad have had a history of fights over a few contentious issues, but lately it has started to feel like there's like a black cloud over our family. I can't remember the last time we sat together and laughed.
The issue with my dad's side of the family (and tbh my dad too) is that they have terrible EQ and no empathy. The little taunts and ignorance here and there has built up over the years and they just don't realise it no matter how much someone explains. My dad also has this terrible habit of bringing logic into emotional fights and never accepting that he might be wrong. Couple that with my mom being super reactive and being so vulnerable right now - it's a typical anxious and avoidant attachment scenario and I have no idea how to fix it. My mom has 2 brothers who are just useless, especially emotionally - they are more concerned with stupid inheritance issues.
So it's just all fucked up right now and I am feeling kinda helpless. Makes me want to leave everything and come back home but that's not necessarily a solution.
Some more context and constraints - we're an Indian family so that comes with a resistant attitude towards things like therapy, divorce etc. I am looking for therapy options but it's extremely difficult to find a good one here.
Seeking advice on what to do or just some empathy / reassurance from someone who has been through this so I can find a way out without letting my anxiety of all this get the best of me. TIA ❤️
TL;DR - Mom lost grandma this year and dad is supportive but emotionally unavailable at times, causing constant fighting at home - feels like there is a black cloud over our family of 4 and home - I live away from home and don't know how to make everyone happy again.
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Recently, my mom lost my grandma (lost grandpa 6 years ago) after a months-long spell of deteriorating health and quite a lot of family drama, and while she has always been a mentally strong person, she is emotionally reactive and has been battling depression and severe mood swings along with her job which has been really hectic and stressful in the past year. My dad is supportive and good at heart, but dealing with his own stress at work etc, so him and mom's fights have increased tenfold - it's like they cannot have a conversation without snapping. I live away from home and also not totally happy in my job, my brother is not focusing on his school work as much as he should - added stressors.
To put it briefly, my family is only the usual amount of dysfunctional, my childhood as well as my brother's has been nice and we are fairly financially stable as well. Mom and dad have had a history of fights over a few contentious issues, but lately it has started to feel like there's like a black cloud over our family. I can't remember the last time we sat together and laughed.
The issue with my dad's side of the family (and tbh my dad too) is that they have terrible EQ and no empathy. The little taunts and ignorance here and there has built up over the years and they just don't realise it no matter how much someone explains. My dad also has this terrible habit of bringing logic into emotional fights and never accepting that he might be wrong. Couple that with my mom being super reactive and being so vulnerable right now - it's a typical anxious and avoidant attachment scenario and I have no idea how to fix it. My mom has 2 brothers who are just useless, especially emotionally - they are more concerned with stupid inheritance issues.
So it's just all fucked up right now and I am feeling kinda helpless. Makes me want to leave everything and come back home but that's not necessarily a solution.
Some more context and constraints - we're an Indian family so that comes with a resistant attitude towards things like therapy, divorce etc. I am looking for therapy options but it's extremely difficult to find a good one here.
Seeking advice on what to do or just some empathy / reassurance from someone who has been through this so I can find a way out without letting my anxiety of all this get the best of me. TIA ❤️
TL;DR - Mom lost grandma this year and dad is supportive but emotionally unavailable at times, causing constant fighting at home - feels like there is a black cloud over our family of 4 and home - I live away from home and don't know how to make everyone happy again.
2024.05.16 07:31 RationalSchizo812020 Kanye and Kendrick vs Drake and The Diddler: A Conspiracy
Written 5/8/2024- updates attached below
I tried posting this on kendrick almost a week ago and it got no response, I messaged the mods to ask about Karma restrictions or account age requirements and they never replied. I made a new account and it was the same issue, but I found out last night I wasn’t fully banned, so I figured I’d throw it up and see if anyone finds it valuable. It’s written for people who have no prior knowledge of the rap game/music business. I don’t have to go as hard on obscuring names this time. One of the influencers I mentioned in my last post is known for doxxing and threatening violence against people who mention the many contradictions in their stories. (Sorry for any typos/mistakes I want to go to bed.)
Origins
I believe the current Drake and Kendrick Lamar beef is either completely or partially fabricated by certain industry leaders or the parties involved in an effort to distract from something bigger going down behind the scenes. If you were an influential label owner facing major accusations, and you needed to deflect media attention from yourself, recreating one of the most defining moments in rap history during the social media era would be a way to do it. It also wouldn’t hurt that two of the biggest rappers in the world were already sending shots at each other in their music for years prior. The public consensus is they are simply two famous rappers who hate each other and fighting over the spot for the top like in the 90’s. Only people who were directly involved could paint a more cohesive picture of the whole story. Even when all the cards drop, there is a good chance the average person won’t be able to find direct sources on their own and will continue to support their favorite artists and dismiss any evidence of their crimes like the drizzy subreddit or Ak fans.
As I said the beef between Kendrick and Drake has been brewing in the background for years, with both rappers sending shots and sneak dissing each other over the course of at least 8 years. The most agreed upon origin story is the first diss was the 2016 Big Sean and Kendrick collaboration, “Control,” and Drake responded with, “The Language”. Things stayed relatively lighthearted for a while and both were intentionally vague for many years. Before I go deep into the Kendrick and Drake stuff, it’s really important to examine some of Drake’s prior beefs because they add a ton of context to my theory. In my opinion Kendrick and Co. started scheming all of this some time around Mid 2020-Mid 2022, well after the whole Pusha T beef had transitioned into the Kanye beef.
What exactly started the beef is debatable, but at the time many attributed it to rumors of Drake pursuing Ye’s ex Amber Rose. Unfortunately the timeline isn’t 100 percent clear, and if I included every detail this would be at least 200+ pages so I’ll stick with the important stuff. The ultimate outcome of the Pusha T battle in 2018 was the revelation of Drake’s son Adidon that he had previously been hiding from the world along with getting Ye directly involved in the beef.
Here are some more examples of Drake antagonizing Ye and of him trying to use women as pawns to get material for his diss tracks. The Drake line, “Yeah, I probably go link to Yeezy, I need me some Jesus, but as soon as I start confessin' my sins, he wouldn't believe us," could be a reference to sleeping with Kim Kardashian, trying to double down on his threats to harm him or his family, or it could be a double entendre. Another example is using the name Kiki in another song, which was apparently one of Kim’s nicknames. Some other possible examples include the theories he may have tried the same thing with Kendrick’s wife Whitney around 2020-2021 in an attempt to use as ammo against Kendrick, which I’ll go into later. I don’t listen to much of either artist's music, but there are probably many of other examples in Drake’s catalogue that I’m leaving out. There is also his song Omerta released in 2019, which I'll go into below.
“Your baby mother call me when she lonely My tailor see me twice a week, he like my homie Forever grateful, forever thankful Diamond necklace, but she wears it on her ankle”
(Probably referring to Kim Kardashian since she had a few pictures with her wearing diamond ankle bracelets and was trying to make it into a trend.
“I plan to buy your most personal belongings when they up for auction”
(There were various rumors floating around for a while that Drake was blackmailing Ye with something and he was fighting to keep it from the public. I thought about it and this line might be referencing a sex tape with Kim or her little sister who me was very touch before she turned 18. In 2022 there was a whole storyline on Kim’s show where Ye flies to LA to prevent her second sex tape from being released.)
West Hollywood, know my presence is menacing
Cosa Nostra, shady dealings
Racketeering, the syndicate got they hand in plenty things The things that we've done to protect the name are unsettling But no regrets, though, the name'll echo Years later, none greater
Death to a coward and a traitor, that's just in my nature, yeah
(Drake and Ye both frequented the Delilah Nightclub located in West Hollywood and lived closeby on the same street for a while.)
"I don't carry cash 'cause the money is digital
It's the American Expresser, the debt collector"
(Sounds a lot more like it could be crypto to launder or send large amounts of ill gotten gains. It started becoming mainstream around them)
"Last year, niggas really feel like they rode on me
Last year, niggas got hot 'cause they told on me
I'm 'bout to call the bluff of anybody the fold on me"
These lines stood out because they could be referring to Ye telling the public about Drake's alleged threats a couple months before the songs release. This happened not long after the release of Sicko mode which was towards the end of 2018 as well. Ye was discussing the incident on Twitter and reached out to Drake and Travis to talk to him in private. In the next set of tweets Kanye publicly accused Drake of threatening him and his family in a major way. Surprisingly Ye seemed genuinely scared and amongst his, “crazy rants,” some of the stuff he said makes a ton of sense in hindsight. This also the beginning of his second serious public struggles with Bipolar disorder after being committed in 2016 shortly after an on stage rant where he calls out Jay Z for selling out and says he's afraid he might kill him.. As someone who shares the same diagnosis, I have a pretty good understanding of mania and psychosis and firmly believe that it's important not to write people off right away due to their mental illness. Some of my most thoughtful, creative, and productive periods were inspired by mania. Industry bigwigs have also been using mental illness to discredit influential black celebrities and visionaries going back decades, but it really picked up in the 80’s.
Dave Chappelle has gone into this a lot in the past and claims he experienced something similar before he quit show business and dipped to Africa. Their stories have a lot of interesting parallels if you’re familiar or curious. I remember he actually visited Ye at his house in Wyoming after he was reported to have had a, "mental breakdown," during his presidential run in 2020 thus marking his third breakown in six years.. The reason I put it in quotes is because it happened right after he publicly accused Kim of cheating and delivered his legendary speech on abortion. Dave went as far as going on live tv and telling the public he wasn’t crazy, he was just really struggling because he was the only one at the time fighting against the narrative, which can often be a suicide mission or a ticket to obscurity. These are three examples of someone speaking up and being deemed crazy, two years later came the nazi stuff and I'm sure we'll have plenty in store for 2024.
This is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the very common pattern of artists dying or having their careers destroyed either after they try to leave their label or threaten to reveal industry secrets. A few more interesting industry connections I made in my research include the connections between:
T.U.G. records and J Cole's independent label Dreamville are both managed by Interscope Records, whose parent company is Universal Music Group.
Universal Music Group also hac Drake's label OvO label as well as Ye and Kendrick's old labels on their roster before they left to form their own independent labels in 2022 (around the same time the disses between Kendrick and Drake started escalating). Finally Bad Boy Records, which is owned by Diddy, and Motown Records who own Diddy's other R&B label Love Records, are also both owned by Universal. This means every label I mention is currently or was previously owned by Universal Music Group.
Ye tried for years to get out of his contract with Defjam, which happens to be ran by Jay Z who is known to be a close associate of Diddy. Jay would always used his money and power to fight against it. Ye even spoke out publicly on a few occasions, including when he said Jay Z was trying to kill him during one of his concerts. My theory is after years of getting nowhere and having his reputation skewered, in 2022 Ye finally said, "Fuck it," and dropped all the anti- Semetic stuff intentionally in a successful attempt to force his label to into using their morality clause, which requires labels to drop an artist if they're accused of any major controversy that could hurt the label’s profits. For the fourth time in four years the media reported he was having a breakdown. Even though they tried to punish him by cutting off all of his sources of income and freezing his accounts he still managed to bounce back pretty quickly. It was often reported how much he was losing, but it rarely discussed how he still was filthy rich in spite of the retrictions. His label wanted to discourage other artists from trying the same thing. My theory is he might have bought Kim or Kylie's alleged sex tape and used it for his own leverage. For Kendrick, his transition to his independent label ApLang went a lot smoother, but he had to split ownership of his new label with the previous manager owner Dave Free. Sadly it's still difficult for new or more niche artists to establish themselves without the some help.
He may be a lot of things but Ye isn’t dumb just because he has a mood disorder and the guys at the top know this, which is why I think he has really played up his diagnosis when it benefitted him. He’s still one of the most talented musicians in the game and I really think he sees his bipolar like a superpower as he says. It’s like his own invisibility cloak. He can go off his meds for a little, make an album after staying up for 72 hours, go on a “psychotic” twitter rant dropping facts throughout, then start up again once he makes enough news headlines. I think it’s worth noting the first divorce rumors in 2020 coincided with Ye’s abortion speech during his presidential run and the cheating accusations. that led to him dropping out and moving to Wyoming, and a couple months ago in February 2024 he was committed again.
The point I’m making is bipolar is complex, but pretty manageable especially if you have a ton of money to find meds that work for you and a good doctor and can keep substance abuse and stress at a manageable level. I think Ye is smart enough to know this, but it’s just safer for him to really play up the mental issues in the media. He’s proven he can literally say whatever he wants after getting cancelled and the average person is just going to write it off as psycho babble. While bias in health care is a sad fact of society, if you can use it to your advantage I say go for it. It might’ve just kept the microscope off of him long enough to plan his attack.
Ye v. Drake: Quotes of 2018
(Start of the beef, drake threats, and suspicion towards Kardashian family. )
“ It’s not about rap. It’s about family. We have to be close as a family and never let these people infiltrate just for radio spins”
“We need to show the world that people can talk without people ending up dead or in jail.”
”This is a man speaking to a man that has been placed in the program to fuck with Kanye West head and set me up“
”See when you care about your family you don’t let no man push you to do nothing that could risk your freedom“
These first four tweets by Ye were all in reference to perceived threats made by Drake after their beef escalated circa 2018. He began speaking on the industry and talking more about his psych hospital commitment two years prior and how he thought they were going to kill him. It's pretty obvious how the whole thing was planned by the sketchy doctor who called it in and his physical trainer who has a ton of connections to weird shit involving his celebrity clients.
I found interesting that Ye might not have been the first major league rapper whose life Drake threatened. During a similar period of mental illness the up and coming rapper XXXtentacion accused Drake of stealing his flow and dissed him a few times. Not long after he made a post online saying if he dies, it was Drake who did it. There are tons of conspiracies online, but none of the evidence is strong enough to draw a definitive connection. Also while it maybe be coincidental, Kendrick’s latest album Mr Morale also painted the picture that Kendrick was dealing with some serious personal issues. Some lines throughout the album may have been used to bait Drake into escalating, but it wasn’t until The Weekend, Future, and Metro Booming dropped, “We Don’t Trust You,” then Drake and J. Cole dropped, “First Person Shooter,” which was followed a couple days later with, “Like That,” where Kendrick started the chain of events that has led us to today.
Kanye vs. Drake: Quotes of 2020
Summary: Ye runs for president and gets suppressed for saying what very well could be the truth and was immediately deemed insane by the media. Kim did a couple interviews and everything he said was immediatly false. There is almost guarenteed to be some sketchy shit going down revolving her and her family. Ye was absolutely terrified of her keeping the kids away from him and it seems like there are still efforts being made to this day to paint a certain image of him for ulterior motives.
Below are six more quotes from a fan taking a deep dive into his 2020 tweets courtesy of u/ thehatstore42069 on Yeezy
”NORTHY I AM GOING TO WAR AND PUTTING MY LIFE ON THE LINE AND IF I AM MURDERED DON’T EVER LET WHITE MEDIA TELL YOU I WASNT A GOOD MAN,” West, 43, wrote in the tweet, adding, “WHEN PEOPLE THREATEN TO TAKE YOU OUT OF MY LIFE JUST KNOW I LOVE YOU”
"I need a public apology from J Cole and Drake to start with immediately... I'm Nat Turner... I'm fighting for us."
"the utmost respect for all brothers" and said "we need to link and respect each other... no more dissing each other on labels we don't own"
"Ye is constantly trying to tell people that his family does not have his or his kids best interests at heart. He goes on to list others, linking them together with the thinking emoji. These people include rap artist Drake and Larsa Pippen, wife of Scottie Pippe. Kim K is goddaughter to Pippen's daughter, showing how close the families actually are. All of these families that associate with Ye through Kardashian connections, as well as Drake, have been accused of the same thing Kris has. EVERY SINGLE ONE of these people have mixed race children that are groomed from a young age to fuck around with celebrities so the parents can remain famous. Drake on numerous occasions has been accused of grooming girls and then getting handsy on their 18th birthday.”
“These labels want their artists to make them money and they dont care about anything else. When Kanye says things like this in an attempt to expose him, the first thing they wanna do is drug him up and put him back in the studio.”
“Righteous indignation is typically a reactive emotion of anger over mistreatment, insult, or malice of another. It is akin to what is called the sense of injustice. This is how they keep the black man down. Keep people outraged about trivial things and distract them from the real issues in the world. The real problems in the industry. If you tell people enough times that they are unequal or discriminated against they start to believe it. Drug them when they step out of line and toss them aside when the checks run out. Ye is realizing he is pawn in a bigger game, and now that he has all these roots in the game such as Yeezy or the Gap or his music, too many people cant risk (Afford) a Ye who speaks his mind.”
(End of quotes)
Amongst the twitter rant, Ye warned about the predatory nature of record deals and discussed trying to get out of his own deal, and said again how his life may be in danger if it wasn’t already and was doing anything he could to protect his kids. The most fascinating part to me though is the public call to arms he made to Drake, J Cole, and Kendrick on twitter. After inviting them to all link up, he said, “It’s time to get free, we will not argue amongst each other while some guy we don’t know in Europe is getting paid and putting that money in a hedge fund.” I believe if Ye was able to pull off this meeting, there is an ever so slight chance that all four artists might be working together to take down a greater enemy. Weirdly there have been times throughout the last couple years where these supposed enemies were photographed together being friendly or praise each other in interviews, then out of no where the disses would start flying again.
To wrap things up I want to share my a few of my theories about the Drake/Kanye beef
A. Everything is exactly as it seems and the beef is over. Ye let his mental illness ruin his life and career so Drake simply picked another target after Ye stopped putting out disses. All of these connections are just a coincidence and all of this was choreographed to boost Drake and Kendrick’s music sales and possibly distract people from the Diddy trial and possibly the complicated geopolitical issues currently facing the U.S.
C. There is also the possibility that all four rappers are in cahoots and Drake’s dirt isn’t as extreme as people are theorizing, at least in comparison to the rest of the business. This could explain why everything has played out like a movie and how they were able to predict each other’s moves so well. This could either mean they’re all just trying to boost their sales or they’re all trying to take down the “slave masters,” as Ye calls them, and change the dynamic of the music industry in favor of the artist.
D. They may be trying to help their friends in the industry who are being abused or in shitty contracts. I know a lot of famous rappers have done a lot of collaborations with Jhene Aiko and Anderson Paak, who were both signed to T.U.G. records which I mentioned above in the connections to Universal Music Group. Considering they are both frequent collaborators with all of the artists involved on both sides, it’s not unlikely they may have played some part in influencing the takedown.
T.U.G was started by Chris Stokes with his partner Ketrina Askew. Back in the early to mid 90’s were gaining popularity attracting lots of young up and coming talent. They often collaborated with Diddy and his associates. In the 2000’s Raz B from the boy band B2K claimed he was molested by Stokes and his friend Marques Houston, then quickly retracted his claims. Years later he came forward again and said we was bribed into silence and that the rest of the victims were bribed with hush money and had another singer corroborate his story and they came forward together to level the accusations. After some of his former B2K members made fun of him for his claims and accused it of being a shakedown, Raz B revealed Stokes and Houston had preyed a lot of the children associated with the label including at least one of the former bandmates and paid them off.
I thought it was worth noting that the second whistleblower named Quindon Tarver died young in a car crash after mentioning his abuse again a few years prior. He seems to have left the industry not long after the incidents occurred and has few credits to his name. To this day Raz B is still trying to get his justice, while Stokes and his partner Askew, who was also involved in the abuse are still running the label to this day. Askew also has a ton of lawsuits, accusing her of using shady tactics to try to foreclose on houses. (Don’t quote me if a lawyer wants to take a look just google her full name), and has been tied to a ton of LLCs, similar to Drake. This is a good example of a shitty record deal, but I'm sure they have countless other friends in the industry who have even worse. While they were never convicted even Chris Stokes' wife confirmed it to be true.
E. The theory I personally think fits the narrative best and is the most realistic conspiracy is that Kendrick and possibly J. Cole went to the meeting, but not Drake due to his close relationship with Lucian Grange, the president of Drake’s label. Silence often speaks louder than words and this could explain why Kendrick was so ruthless and put so much effort into finding dirt on Drake. Ye, Cole, and Kendrick co-writing would be like the rap allstar team and if J. Cole wasn’t involved, it would also answer the question of whether or not he baited Drake into the battle by asking him to feature. I don’t think Drake is really their primary target though, which would explain letting him off easy. Compared to his bosses and their bosses he’s a small fish. If you take the big guys down you stand a better chance of landing a bigger blow on their operation.
Another really interesting connection is Kendrick and Ye were both signed under Universal Music Group and they both got out of their deals around couple months apart in 2022. As we speak U.M.G’s CEO Lucian Grange, who is often acccused of giving Drake special treatment, is facing charges related to sex trafficking by no other than P Diddy. This could very well explain the timing of it all. The craziest timeline would be Diddy masterminding all of this and using his connections to get it done and all the allegations are bullshit. The guy does seem pretty confident all things considered and constantly posts himself in his Batman costume which could mean he’s a vigilante.
It seems like there's a slight religious angle as well. (Ye and Diddy are both very vocal advocates of Christianity and Drake and Lucian Grange are both Jewish.) Obviously this is a reach, but they’ve been saying rap music was specifically promoted by mostly white label owners in the 80’s to help in the ongoing effort to expedite the systematic oppression of those living in black neighborhoods and the destruction of their family systems. Apparently it was an intentional decision to heavily promote rappers that promoted the very things that were destroying their neighborhoods. (So people know I'm and atheist and have zero agenda, I just thought it was interesting, please stay away from anything antisemitic. War is wrong on both sides.)
*** If my favorite theory is true, there is a possibility the Kendrick and Ye are going after Drake due to their mutual disdain for him and because he’s got a ton of power to dominate the charts and hog the radio airtime like Meek Mill and OG Maco claimed years ago. Even him dropping a record the same day as you could really fuck your album sales up. I’m also sure some of the many rumors throughout the years have had a least some truth and he will most likely snitch to avoid cell block one. I think that Drake could have been instructed to instigate this whole mess in order to draw attention away from the UMG charges brought about by Diddy. Or on the other hand it could be that Kendrick, Ye, and possibly Cole, may have had intel that Drake was going to be involved in the Diddy trial and are just gonna let the receipts show themselves. It might not have been the original plan, but they’ve already accomplished their mission of humiliating him, assuring he couldn’t use his influence to slide through the cracks, and taking over the throne.
Please take everything I say with a grain of salt I have no connection to this world or lifestyle. Regardless I believe all of the knowledge above does a pretty solid job at painting a picture of what may have let up to this and what may have been the source.
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More details found the last couple days…
Drake and Diddy Connections+Coincidences
Drake- In the P Diddy wig video from 2016 he talks about going to party with Drake, Cash, and The Weeknd in Toronto. Drake is also one of Birdman’s protégées who is known for being a predator and is rumored to have used label artists to lure young women.
Travis Scott- Interview where he comes out and says Diddy tried to lure him. Still has a long history of associating with him, video of him running from Diddy, his connection to Ruby Rose while underage.
Tim Westwood- Diddy had connections with sex offender Tim Westwood who also inspired the Drake song, “Westwood”. They also both were victims of drive by shootings along with The Weekend and they were all facing some type of allegations.
T.I.- Also has been associate with Diddy through the years, in 2021 his kid died and 11 women can forward at the same time to accuse him and his wife of drugging and assaulting them. Clearly someone wanted to fuck his life up. Possibly due to him getting arrested so many times for wild shit and people wondering how he continued to get away with it shining a light on how powerful industry lawyers are. He also had recently talked about having a gynecologist check to see if his daughter is still a Virgin, which sounds like it could have been an industrty secret. Could have been because he worried about someone trying to take advantage of her to get to him? Regardless that shit is fucking insane.
50 Cent- Has been saying pretty much the same thing as Travis Scott and has trolled Diddy for most of his career. It came out that his wife was a sex worker who was possibly recruited Diddy to help ruin his career. It sort of worked, which raises the question if 50 Cent is the only victim.
Ray J- Him and his sister worked with T.U.G. records when they were very young. Chris Stokes in the nineties who had connections with Diddy. He has been involved in a lot of sex scandals and allegedly may have played a part in Whitney Houston's death. (Which is also allegedly connected to Michael Jackson's death and both were deemed suspicious and happened during their final tours when their masters (song rights), became more valuable than their lives. Sony Records and Tommy Motolla, who also abused Mariah Carey when she was trying to start her career. These are just a few of the alleged examples of labels taking out musicians when they were worth more dead, another is the signing of high risk artists and requiring them to get life insurance so they can profit beyond releasing all their posthumous records. Also the ever so common story of the rising star artist that die at 21 after their first album or two.
He also partied with Diddy in Vegas with along Floyd Mayweather and a bunch of other famous industry people and athletes.
Tory Lanez- Tons of blackmail, also was signed by Interscope under UMG. got sent to prison for ten years after trying to leave his label. Also history of SA and and other allegations of violence towards women.
French Montana- On Diddy's label, close with Rick and Khaled, tons of drug and sexual assault allegations, also dated a Kardashian. Generally grimy.
DJ Khaled- Diddy said he could get anything in Miami, either referring to drugs or women, could explain his connections and lack of any notable talent. (New update, he was one of the first to promote Chris Alvarez’s instagram not long after he turned 18).
Rick Ross- Diddy said some weird shit about him and licked his lips and kissed him at a show. Ross is also signed to Bad Boy under Diddy. He ended up getting involved in the current feud and spamming social media nonstop dissing and threatening Drake.
A lot of the back and forth was both of them threatening to release dirt on each other. One strange coincidence I found was Drake recently trolled Ross about the 20 million dollar renovation to his home on Star island, where Diddy is currently residing. It’s rumored back in the day that P Diddy was caught in a room full of rich guys on ecstasy possibly at the beginning stages of a gay orgy. Drake also mentioned in the same tweets about Rick Ross that Birdman owned a house on the island and asked Rick Ross why he didn’t help him out.
Considering Ross is so sketchy and Drake claims the house isn’t that big, that’s a ridiculous amount of money. He may be covering up evidence, or creating tunnels in his house to escape if shit pops off and Drake might know what’s good. Interestingly enough Ross is very close with French Montana and also signed to Bad. He said his beef was related to something involving French, and Drake’s tweet popped up the same day the info came out concerning the Chris Alvarez stuff.
The famous line from U.O.E.N.O.
Meek Mill- “OG Maco called himself defending his friend Quentin Miller by substantiating the ghostwriting claims and agreeing with Meek. He hit up Twitter saying, "Some of us been knew. Meek just put it in the air. Sucks to have to compete with 6 n****s and get compared to”
Meek mill also had a short beef with Drake, some disses included lines referring to TI’s homie pissing on Drake at the movie theater, which is also interesting considering the current case against him. He also dropped a line saying Diddy almost got a domestic charge when he smacked Drake, which could either be saying that Drake is like a woman, or saying he was Drake’s boyfriend/sugar daddy.
( If you made it to the end comment with the number 8)
I thought it was interesting how the beef just kind of disappeared and even Meek said it didn’t seem genuine. Considering the allegations against Meek in the Diddy trial, and his rumored affair with Kim contributing to ending Kanye’s marriage, Meek Mill definitely did some dirt on him.
“Niggas frauds I told the truth, don't ask me shit
All this industry fake enemy and rap shit”
“Money make a sucker that told look trill again”
One of the many chapters in Drake's history in which he is seen paying his way out of trouble and starting beefs randomly.
“Now when that shit went down with Chris, you wrote a check”
This line is referring to Chris brown beef, another beef that was lost to time. All I can remember off the top was someone throwing a champagne bottle at the other’s entourage.
Ty Dolla $ign- Huge feature artist, close with Ye. Grew up in the industry and talks about growing up on the road and being in the studio with his dad and Rick James who was should have already been in prison for life for dragging, torturing, and S assaulting multiple women and children throughout his career and was himself a victim of the industry. May be part of Ye's motivation, considering their recent close working relationship.
The end.
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The Randomest Moniker
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I tried posting this on kendrick almost a week ago and it got no response, I messaged the mods to ask about Karma restrictions or account age requirements and they never replied. I made a new account and it was the same issue, but I found out last night I wasn’t fully banned, so I figured I’d throw it up and see if anyone finds it valuable. It’s written for people who have no prior knowledge of the rap game/music business. I don’t have to go as hard on obscuring names this time. One of the influencers I mentioned in my last post is known for doxxing and threatening violence against people who mention the many contradictions in their stories. (Sorry for any typos/mistakes I want to go to bed.)
Origins
I believe the current Drake and Kendrick Lamar beef is either completely or partially fabricated by certain industry leaders or the parties involved in an effort to distract from something bigger going down behind the scenes. If you were an influential label owner facing major accusations, and you needed to deflect media attention from yourself, recreating one of the most defining moments in rap history during the social media era would be a way to do it. It also wouldn’t hurt that two of the biggest rappers in the world were already sending shots at each other in their music for years prior. The public consensus is they are simply two famous rappers who hate each other and fighting over the spot for the top like in the 90’s. Only people who were directly involved could paint a more cohesive picture of the whole story. Even when all the cards drop, there is a good chance the average person won’t be able to find direct sources on their own and will continue to support their favorite artists and dismiss any evidence of their crimes like the drizzy subreddit or Ak fans.
As I said the beef between Kendrick and Drake has been brewing in the background for years, with both rappers sending shots and sneak dissing each other over the course of at least 8 years. The most agreed upon origin story is the first diss was the 2016 Big Sean and Kendrick collaboration, “Control,” and Drake responded with, “The Language”. Things stayed relatively lighthearted for a while and both were intentionally vague for many years. Before I go deep into the Kendrick and Drake stuff, it’s really important to examine some of Drake’s prior beefs because they add a ton of context to my theory. In my opinion Kendrick and Co. started scheming all of this some time around Mid 2020-Mid 2022, well after the whole Pusha T beef had transitioned into the Kanye beef.
What exactly started the beef is debatable, but at the time many attributed it to rumors of Drake pursuing Ye’s ex Amber Rose. Unfortunately the timeline isn’t 100 percent clear, and if I included every detail this would be at least 200+ pages so I’ll stick with the important stuff. The ultimate outcome of the Pusha T battle in 2018 was the revelation of Drake’s son Adidon that he had previously been hiding from the world along with getting Ye directly involved in the beef.
Here are some more examples of Drake antagonizing Ye and of him trying to use women as pawns to get material for his diss tracks. The Drake line, “Yeah, I probably go link to Yeezy, I need me some Jesus, but as soon as I start confessin' my sins, he wouldn't believe us," could be a reference to sleeping with Kim Kardashian, trying to double down on his threats to harm him or his family, or it could be a double entendre. Another example is using the name Kiki in another song, which was apparently one of Kim’s nicknames. Some other possible examples include the theories he may have tried the same thing with Kendrick’s wife Whitney around 2020-2021 in an attempt to use as ammo against Kendrick, which I’ll go into later. I don’t listen to much of either artist's music, but there are probably many of other examples in Drake’s catalogue that I’m leaving out. There is also his song Omerta released in 2019, which I'll go into below.
“Your baby mother call me when she lonely My tailor see me twice a week, he like my homie Forever grateful, forever thankful Diamond necklace, but she wears it on her ankle”
(Probably referring to Kim Kardashian since she had a few pictures with her wearing diamond ankle bracelets and was trying to make it into a trend.
“I plan to buy your most personal belongings when they up for auction”
(There were various rumors floating around for a while that Drake was blackmailing Ye with something and he was fighting to keep it from the public. I thought about it and this line might be referencing a sex tape with Kim or her little sister who me was very touch before she turned 18. In 2022 there was a whole storyline on Kim’s show where Ye flies to LA to prevent her second sex tape from being released.)
West Hollywood, know my presence is menacing
Cosa Nostra, shady dealings
Racketeering, the syndicate got they hand in plenty things The things that we've done to protect the name are unsettling But no regrets, though, the name'll echo Years later, none greater
Death to a coward and a traitor, that's just in my nature, yeah
(Drake and Ye both frequented the Delilah Nightclub located in West Hollywood and lived closeby on the same street for a while.)
"I don't carry cash 'cause the money is digital
It's the American Expresser, the debt collector"
(Sounds a lot more like it could be crypto to launder or send large amounts of ill gotten gains. It started becoming mainstream around them)
"Last year, niggas really feel like they rode on me
Last year, niggas got hot 'cause they told on me
I'm 'bout to call the bluff of anybody the fold on me"
These lines stood out because they could be referring to Ye telling the public about Drake's alleged threats a couple months before the songs release. This happened not long after the release of Sicko mode which was towards the end of 2018 as well. Ye was discussing the incident on Twitter and reached out to Drake and Travis to talk to him in private. In the next set of tweets Kanye publicly accused Drake of threatening him and his family in a major way. Surprisingly Ye seemed genuinely scared and amongst his, “crazy rants,” some of the stuff he said makes a ton of sense in hindsight. This also the beginning of his second serious public struggles with Bipolar disorder after being committed in 2016 shortly after an on stage rant where he calls out Jay Z for selling out and says he's afraid he might kill him.. As someone who shares the same diagnosis, I have a pretty good understanding of mania and psychosis and firmly believe that it's important not to write people off right away due to their mental illness. Some of my most thoughtful, creative, and productive periods were inspired by mania. Industry bigwigs have also been using mental illness to discredit influential black celebrities and visionaries going back decades, but it really picked up in the 80’s.
Dave Chappelle has gone into this a lot in the past and claims he experienced something similar before he quit show business and dipped to Africa. Their stories have a lot of interesting parallels if you’re familiar or curious. I remember he actually visited Ye at his house in Wyoming after he was reported to have had a, "mental breakdown," during his presidential run in 2020 thus marking his third breakown in six years.. The reason I put it in quotes is because it happened right after he publicly accused Kim of cheating and delivered his legendary speech on abortion. Dave went as far as going on live tv and telling the public he wasn’t crazy, he was just really struggling because he was the only one at the time fighting against the narrative, which can often be a suicide mission or a ticket to obscurity. These are three examples of someone speaking up and being deemed crazy, two years later came the nazi stuff and I'm sure we'll have plenty in store for 2024.
This is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the very common pattern of artists dying or having their careers destroyed either after they try to leave their label or threaten to reveal industry secrets. A few more interesting industry connections I made in my research include the connections between:
T.U.G. records and J Cole's independent label Dreamville are both managed by Interscope Records, whose parent company is Universal Music Group.
Universal Music Group also hac Drake's label OvO label as well as Ye and Kendrick's old labels on their roster before they left to form their own independent labels in 2022 (around the same time the disses between Kendrick and Drake started escalating). Finally Bad Boy Records, which is owned by Diddy, and Motown Records who own Diddy's other R&B label Love Records, are also both owned by Universal. This means every label I mention is currently or was previously owned by Universal Music Group.
Ye tried for years to get out of his contract with Defjam, which happens to be ran by Jay Z who is known to be a close associate of Diddy. Jay would always used his money and power to fight against it. Ye even spoke out publicly on a few occasions, including when he said Jay Z was trying to kill him during one of his concerts. My theory is after years of getting nowhere and having his reputation skewered, in 2022 Ye finally said, "Fuck it," and dropped all the anti- Semetic stuff intentionally in a successful attempt to force his label to into using their morality clause, which requires labels to drop an artist if they're accused of any major controversy that could hurt the label’s profits. For the fourth time in four years the media reported he was having a breakdown. Even though they tried to punish him by cutting off all of his sources of income and freezing his accounts he still managed to bounce back pretty quickly. It was often reported how much he was losing, but it rarely discussed how he still was filthy rich in spite of the retrictions. His label wanted to discourage other artists from trying the same thing. My theory is he might have bought Kim or Kylie's alleged sex tape and used it for his own leverage. For Kendrick, his transition to his independent label ApLang went a lot smoother, but he had to split ownership of his new label with the previous manager owner Dave Free. Sadly it's still difficult for new or more niche artists to establish themselves without the some help.
He may be a lot of things but Ye isn’t dumb just because he has a mood disorder and the guys at the top know this, which is why I think he has really played up his diagnosis when it benefitted him. He’s still one of the most talented musicians in the game and I really think he sees his bipolar like a superpower as he says. It’s like his own invisibility cloak. He can go off his meds for a little, make an album after staying up for 72 hours, go on a “psychotic” twitter rant dropping facts throughout, then start up again once he makes enough news headlines. I think it’s worth noting the first divorce rumors in 2020 coincided with Ye’s abortion speech during his presidential run and the cheating accusations. that led to him dropping out and moving to Wyoming, and a couple months ago in February 2024 he was committed again.
The point I’m making is bipolar is complex, but pretty manageable especially if you have a ton of money to find meds that work for you and a good doctor and can keep substance abuse and stress at a manageable level. I think Ye is smart enough to know this, but it’s just safer for him to really play up the mental issues in the media. He’s proven he can literally say whatever he wants after getting cancelled and the average person is just going to write it off as psycho babble. While bias in health care is a sad fact of society, if you can use it to your advantage I say go for it. It might’ve just kept the microscope off of him long enough to plan his attack.
Ye v. Drake: Quotes of 2018
(Start of the beef, drake threats, and suspicion towards Kardashian family. )
“ It’s not about rap. It’s about family. We have to be close as a family and never let these people infiltrate just for radio spins”
“We need to show the world that people can talk without people ending up dead or in jail.”
”This is a man speaking to a man that has been placed in the program to fuck with Kanye West head and set me up“
”See when you care about your family you don’t let no man push you to do nothing that could risk your freedom“
These first four tweets by Ye were all in reference to perceived threats made by Drake after their beef escalated circa 2018. He began speaking on the industry and talking more about his psych hospital commitment two years prior and how he thought they were going to kill him. It's pretty obvious how the whole thing was planned by the sketchy doctor who called it in and his physical trainer who has a ton of connections to weird shit involving his celebrity clients.
I found interesting that Ye might not have been the first major league rapper whose life Drake threatened. During a similar period of mental illness the up and coming rapper XXXtentacion accused Drake of stealing his flow and dissed him a few times. Not long after he made a post online saying if he dies, it was Drake who did it. There are tons of conspiracies online, but none of the evidence is strong enough to draw a definitive connection. Also while it maybe be coincidental, Kendrick’s latest album Mr Morale also painted the picture that Kendrick was dealing with some serious personal issues. Some lines throughout the album may have been used to bait Drake into escalating, but it wasn’t until The Weekend, Future, and Metro Booming dropped, “We Don’t Trust You,” then Drake and J. Cole dropped, “First Person Shooter,” which was followed a couple days later with, “Like That,” where Kendrick started the chain of events that has led us to today.
Kanye vs. Drake: Quotes of 2020
Summary: Ye runs for president and gets suppressed for saying what very well could be the truth and was immediately deemed insane by the media. Kim did a couple interviews and everything he said was immediatly false. There is almost guarenteed to be some sketchy shit going down revolving her and her family. Ye was absolutely terrified of her keeping the kids away from him and it seems like there are still efforts being made to this day to paint a certain image of him for ulterior motives.
Below are six more quotes from a fan taking a deep dive into his 2020 tweets courtesy of u/ thehatstore42069 on Yeezy
”NORTHY I AM GOING TO WAR AND PUTTING MY LIFE ON THE LINE AND IF I AM MURDERED DON’T EVER LET WHITE MEDIA TELL YOU I WASNT A GOOD MAN,” West, 43, wrote in the tweet, adding, “WHEN PEOPLE THREATEN TO TAKE YOU OUT OF MY LIFE JUST KNOW I LOVE YOU”
"I need a public apology from J Cole and Drake to start with immediately... I'm Nat Turner... I'm fighting for us."
"the utmost respect for all brothers" and said "we need to link and respect each other... no more dissing each other on labels we don't own"
"Ye is constantly trying to tell people that his family does not have his or his kids best interests at heart. He goes on to list others, linking them together with the thinking emoji. These people include rap artist Drake and Larsa Pippen, wife of Scottie Pippe. Kim K is goddaughter to Pippen's daughter, showing how close the families actually are. All of these families that associate with Ye through Kardashian connections, as well as Drake, have been accused of the same thing Kris has. EVERY SINGLE ONE of these people have mixed race children that are groomed from a young age to fuck around with celebrities so the parents can remain famous. Drake on numerous occasions has been accused of grooming girls and then getting handsy on their 18th birthday.”
“These labels want their artists to make them money and they dont care about anything else. When Kanye says things like this in an attempt to expose him, the first thing they wanna do is drug him up and put him back in the studio.”
“Righteous indignation is typically a reactive emotion of anger over mistreatment, insult, or malice of another. It is akin to what is called the sense of injustice. This is how they keep the black man down. Keep people outraged about trivial things and distract them from the real issues in the world. The real problems in the industry. If you tell people enough times that they are unequal or discriminated against they start to believe it. Drug them when they step out of line and toss them aside when the checks run out. Ye is realizing he is pawn in a bigger game, and now that he has all these roots in the game such as Yeezy or the Gap or his music, too many people cant risk (Afford) a Ye who speaks his mind.”
(End of quotes)
Amongst the twitter rant, Ye warned about the predatory nature of record deals and discussed trying to get out of his own deal, and said again how his life may be in danger if it wasn’t already and was doing anything he could to protect his kids. The most fascinating part to me though is the public call to arms he made to Drake, J Cole, and Kendrick on twitter. After inviting them to all link up, he said, “It’s time to get free, we will not argue amongst each other while some guy we don’t know in Europe is getting paid and putting that money in a hedge fund.” I believe if Ye was able to pull off this meeting, there is an ever so slight chance that all four artists might be working together to take down a greater enemy. Weirdly there have been times throughout the last couple years where these supposed enemies were photographed together being friendly or praise each other in interviews, then out of no where the disses would start flying again.
To wrap things up I want to share my a few of my theories about the Drake/Kanye beef
A. Everything is exactly as it seems and the beef is over. Ye let his mental illness ruin his life and career so Drake simply picked another target after Ye stopped putting out disses. All of these connections are just a coincidence and all of this was choreographed to boost Drake and Kendrick’s music sales and possibly distract people from the Diddy trial and possibly the complicated geopolitical issues currently facing the U.S.
C. There is also the possibility that all four rappers are in cahoots and Drake’s dirt isn’t as extreme as people are theorizing, at least in comparison to the rest of the business. This could explain why everything has played out like a movie and how they were able to predict each other’s moves so well. This could either mean they’re all just trying to boost their sales or they’re all trying to take down the “slave masters,” as Ye calls them, and change the dynamic of the music industry in favor of the artist.
D. They may be trying to help their friends in the industry who are being abused or in shitty contracts. I know a lot of famous rappers have done a lot of collaborations with Jhene Aiko and Anderson Paak, who were both signed to T.U.G. records which I mentioned above in the connections to Universal Music Group. Considering they are both frequent collaborators with all of the artists involved on both sides, it’s not unlikely they may have played some part in influencing the takedown.
T.U.G was started by Chris Stokes with his partner Ketrina Askew. Back in the early to mid 90’s were gaining popularity attracting lots of young up and coming talent. They often collaborated with Diddy and his associates. In the 2000’s Raz B from the boy band B2K claimed he was molested by Stokes and his friend Marques Houston, then quickly retracted his claims. Years later he came forward again and said we was bribed into silence and that the rest of the victims were bribed with hush money and had another singer corroborate his story and they came forward together to level the accusations. After some of his former B2K members made fun of him for his claims and accused it of being a shakedown, Raz B revealed Stokes and Houston had preyed a lot of the children associated with the label including at least one of the former bandmates and paid them off.
I thought it was worth noting that the second whistleblower named Quindon Tarver died young in a car crash after mentioning his abuse again a few years prior. He seems to have left the industry not long after the incidents occurred and has few credits to his name. To this day Raz B is still trying to get his justice, while Stokes and his partner Askew, who was also involved in the abuse are still running the label to this day. Askew also has a ton of lawsuits, accusing her of using shady tactics to try to foreclose on houses. (Don’t quote me if a lawyer wants to take a look just google her full name), and has been tied to a ton of LLCs, similar to Drake. This is a good example of a shitty record deal, but I'm sure they have countless other friends in the industry who have even worse. While they were never convicted even Chris Stokes' wife confirmed it to be true.
E. The theory I personally think fits the narrative best and is the most realistic conspiracy is that Kendrick and possibly J. Cole went to the meeting, but not Drake due to his close relationship with Lucian Grange, the president of Drake’s label. Silence often speaks louder than words and this could explain why Kendrick was so ruthless and put so much effort into finding dirt on Drake. Ye, Cole, and Kendrick co-writing would be like the rap allstar team and if J. Cole wasn’t involved, it would also answer the question of whether or not he baited Drake into the battle by asking him to feature. I don’t think Drake is really their primary target though, which would explain letting him off easy. Compared to his bosses and their bosses he’s a small fish. If you take the big guys down you stand a better chance of landing a bigger blow on their operation.
Another really interesting connection is Kendrick and Ye were both signed under Universal Music Group and they both got out of their deals around couple months apart in 2022. As we speak U.M.G’s CEO Lucian Grange, who is often acccused of giving Drake special treatment, is facing charges related to sex trafficking by no other than P Diddy. This could very well explain the timing of it all. The craziest timeline would be Diddy masterminding all of this and using his connections to get it done and all the allegations are bullshit. The guy does seem pretty confident all things considered and constantly posts himself in his Batman costume which could mean he’s a vigilante.
It seems like there's a slight religious angle as well. (Ye and Diddy are both very vocal advocates of Christianity and Drake and Lucian Grange are both Jewish.) Obviously this is a reach, but they’ve been saying rap music was specifically promoted by mostly white label owners in the 80’s to help in the ongoing effort to expedite the systematic oppression of those living in black neighborhoods and the destruction of their family systems. Apparently it was an intentional decision to heavily promote rappers that promoted the very things that were destroying their neighborhoods. (So people know I'm and atheist and have zero agenda, I just thought it was interesting, please stay away from anything antisemitic. War is wrong on both sides.)
*** If my favorite theory is true, there is a possibility the Kendrick and Ye are going after Drake due to their mutual disdain for him and because he’s got a ton of power to dominate the charts and hog the radio airtime like Meek Mill and OG Maco claimed years ago. Even him dropping a record the same day as you could really fuck your album sales up. I’m also sure some of the many rumors throughout the years have had a least some truth and he will most likely snitch to avoid cell block one. I think that Drake could have been instructed to instigate this whole mess in order to draw attention away from the UMG charges brought about by Diddy. Or on the other hand it could be that Kendrick, Ye, and possibly Cole, may have had intel that Drake was going to be involved in the Diddy trial and are just gonna let the receipts show themselves. It might not have been the original plan, but they’ve already accomplished their mission of humiliating him, assuring he couldn’t use his influence to slide through the cracks, and taking over the throne.
Please take everything I say with a grain of salt I have no connection to this world or lifestyle. Regardless I believe all of the knowledge above does a pretty solid job at painting a picture of what may have let up to this and what may have been the source.
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More details found the last couple days…
Drake and Diddy Connections+Coincidences
Drake- In the P Diddy wig video from 2016 he talks about going to party with Drake, Cash, and The Weeknd in Toronto. Drake is also one of Birdman’s protégées who is known for being a predator and is rumored to have used label artists to lure young women.
Travis Scott- Interview where he comes out and says Diddy tried to lure him. Still has a long history of associating with him, video of him running from Diddy, his connection to Ruby Rose while underage.
Tim Westwood- Diddy had connections with sex offender Tim Westwood who also inspired the Drake song, “Westwood”. They also both were victims of drive by shootings along with The Weekend and they were all facing some type of allegations.
T.I.- Also has been associate with Diddy through the years, in 2021 his kid died and 11 women can forward at the same time to accuse him and his wife of drugging and assaulting them. Clearly someone wanted to fuck his life up. Possibly due to him getting arrested so many times for wild shit and people wondering how he continued to get away with it shining a light on how powerful industry lawyers are. He also had recently talked about having a gynecologist check to see if his daughter is still a Virgin, which sounds like it could have been an industrty secret. Could have been because he worried about someone trying to take advantage of her to get to him? Regardless that shit is fucking insane.
50 Cent- Has been saying pretty much the same thing as Travis Scott and has trolled Diddy for most of his career. It came out that his wife was a sex worker who was possibly recruited Diddy to help ruin his career. It sort of worked, which raises the question if 50 Cent is the only victim.
Ray J- Him and his sister worked with T.U.G. records when they were very young. Chris Stokes in the nineties who had connections with Diddy. He has been involved in a lot of sex scandals and allegedly may have played a part in Whitney Houston's death. (Which is also allegedly connected to Michael Jackson's death and both were deemed suspicious and happened during their final tours when their masters (song rights), became more valuable than their lives. Sony Records and Tommy Motolla, who also abused Mariah Carey when she was trying to start her career. These are just a few of the alleged examples of labels taking out musicians when they were worth more dead, another is the signing of high risk artists and requiring them to get life insurance so they can profit beyond releasing all their posthumous records. Also the ever so common story of the rising star artist that die at 21 after their first album or two.
He also partied with Diddy in Vegas with along Floyd Mayweather and a bunch of other famous industry people and athletes.
Tory Lanez- Tons of blackmail, also was signed by Interscope under UMG. got sent to prison for ten years after trying to leave his label. Also history of SA and and other allegations of violence towards women.
French Montana- On Diddy's label, close with Rick and Khaled, tons of drug and sexual assault allegations, also dated a Kardashian. Generally grimy.
DJ Khaled- Diddy said he could get anything in Miami, either referring to drugs or women, could explain his connections and lack of any notable talent. (New update, he was one of the first to promote Chris Alvarez’s instagram not long after he turned 18).
Rick Ross- Diddy said some weird shit about him and licked his lips and kissed him at a show. Ross is also signed to Bad Boy under Diddy. He ended up getting involved in the current feud and spamming social media nonstop dissing and threatening Drake.
A lot of the back and forth was both of them threatening to release dirt on each other. One strange coincidence I found was Drake recently trolled Ross about the 20 million dollar renovation to his home on Star island, where Diddy is currently residing. It’s rumored back in the day that P Diddy was caught in a room full of rich guys on ecstasy possibly at the beginning stages of a gay orgy. Drake also mentioned in the same tweets about Rick Ross that Birdman owned a house on the island and asked Rick Ross why he didn’t help him out.
Considering Ross is so sketchy and Drake claims the house isn’t that big, that’s a ridiculous amount of money. He may be covering up evidence, or creating tunnels in his house to escape if shit pops off and Drake might know what’s good. Interestingly enough Ross is very close with French Montana and also signed to Bad. He said his beef was related to something involving French, and Drake’s tweet popped up the same day the info came out concerning the Chris Alvarez stuff.
The famous line from U.O.E.N.O.
Meek Mill- “OG Maco called himself defending his friend Quentin Miller by substantiating the ghostwriting claims and agreeing with Meek. He hit up Twitter saying, "Some of us been knew. Meek just put it in the air. Sucks to have to compete with 6 n****s and get compared to”
Meek mill also had a short beef with Drake, some disses included lines referring to TI’s homie pissing on Drake at the movie theater, which is also interesting considering the current case against him. He also dropped a line saying Diddy almost got a domestic charge when he smacked Drake, which could either be saying that Drake is like a woman, or saying he was Drake’s boyfriend/sugar daddy.
( If you made it to the end comment with the number 8)
I thought it was interesting how the beef just kind of disappeared and even Meek said it didn’t seem genuine. Considering the allegations against Meek in the Diddy trial, and his rumored affair with Kim contributing to ending Kanye’s marriage, Meek Mill definitely did some dirt on him.
“Niggas frauds I told the truth, don't ask me shit
All this industry fake enemy and rap shit”
“Money make a sucker that told look trill again”
One of the many chapters in Drake's history in which he is seen paying his way out of trouble and starting beefs randomly.
“Now when that shit went down with Chris, you wrote a check”
This line is referring to Chris brown beef, another beef that was lost to time. All I can remember off the top was someone throwing a champagne bottle at the other’s entourage.
Ty Dolla $ign- Huge feature artist, close with Ye. Grew up in the industry and talks about growing up on the road and being in the studio with his dad and Rick James who was should have already been in prison for life for dragging, torturing, and S assaulting multiple women and children throughout his career and was himself a victim of the industry. May be part of Ye's motivation, considering their recent close working relationship.
The end.
Courtesy of,
The Randomest Moniker
2024.05.16 06:54 sigawsabuwan dapat naka-move on na ako eh :(
i’ve always been told na malambing ako. then there’s this one guy na attached talaga ako and eventually naging kami. like both sets of parents knew about us, we attend family events and all. grabe sobrang effort namin sa isa’t isa, until i discovered his porn addiction. that i could forgive and help him curb the addiciton. hindi ako nanghihinayang sa virginity ko, i enjoy intimacy with the person i love. pero umabot kasi sa point na nag-add siya ng escorts “kahit hindi ko naman ichachat” he says (ulol).
from this sweet caring girl na willing pa maging catholic at legion of mary member dahil sobrang mahal ko si tita— i was reduced to this nervous wreck that i am now. hindi ako violent but i did curse him sa condo hallway and slammed the door. that’s about it. anything else i just wept. i regret being violent that way though. i really do. i shared to his parents (the only people i trust to help him) the story and screenshots. nagalit siya. oo, mali rin ako but i had no one to turn to. na hindi siya ijujudge. it was so heavy for me to bear alone.
so when he said na na-turn off daw siya sa akin (sa reactions ko precisely), that’s when i lost it. tangina nya ako na itong willing to forgive and compromise, already apologized sa outburst ko pa. sa akin pa siya may issue when i was reactive to what he did lang? na beyond my non-negotiables, na beyond any trusting relationship? fuck him bro. magsawa siya kakajakol sa vivamax at SOPs that leave him empty emotionally anyway.
sometimes i miss him. but mostly, i miss how i gave my love so freely. how sweet i was. how ready i was to share this life with him and his family. i miss how i loved.
minsan din nalilimutan ko paano ba ibuhos na lang itong paghahangad at pagmamahal sa sarili ko. it sucks. my mind wills it, pero the heart? it just wants to ache for a while.
hindi ako religious or what, but i have faith. i pray when genuine love graces my life again, i hope i am already healed. i hope maniwala na ako.
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from this sweet caring girl na willing pa maging catholic at legion of mary member dahil sobrang mahal ko si tita— i was reduced to this nervous wreck that i am now. hindi ako violent but i did curse him sa condo hallway and slammed the door. that’s about it. anything else i just wept. i regret being violent that way though. i really do. i shared to his parents (the only people i trust to help him) the story and screenshots. nagalit siya. oo, mali rin ako but i had no one to turn to. na hindi siya ijujudge. it was so heavy for me to bear alone.
so when he said na na-turn off daw siya sa akin (sa reactions ko precisely), that’s when i lost it. tangina nya ako na itong willing to forgive and compromise, already apologized sa outburst ko pa. sa akin pa siya may issue when i was reactive to what he did lang? na beyond my non-negotiables, na beyond any trusting relationship? fuck him bro. magsawa siya kakajakol sa vivamax at SOPs that leave him empty emotionally anyway.
sometimes i miss him. but mostly, i miss how i gave my love so freely. how sweet i was. how ready i was to share this life with him and his family. i miss how i loved.
minsan din nalilimutan ko paano ba ibuhos na lang itong paghahangad at pagmamahal sa sarili ko. it sucks. my mind wills it, pero the heart? it just wants to ache for a while.
hindi ako religious or what, but i have faith. i pray when genuine love graces my life again, i hope i am already healed. i hope maniwala na ako.
2024.05.16 06:47 reallivewire666 Not sure if I can keep going.
I have a 5 1/2 month old toy poodle. I posted here when I first got him, because I had this huge wave of regret. Now, here we are, and I'm posting again because I don't know if I have the mental fortitude to keep doing this. I've had my baby since he was 9 weeks, and I love him so much. He's so smart, and he has the sweetest, silliest little look on his face like Foo-Foo, the muppet dog. I love him so much, which is what makes this so hard. I severely underestimated how hard raising a puppy would be. I knew it would be a lot of work, but my puppy has not been even an average level of hard. For 3 months I was raising him in an apartment with my partner, and that was hell. I had college classes and had to work a night shift twice a week. I thought it would be okay because my partner agreed to help with him, and we both agreed to share the responsibilities of raising him, but I've had to deal with him most of the time. My partner has been very hands off with him, and my mother and I are usually the ones paying for his supplies and taking care of him. Not that my partner hasn't helped, but this is just how things have worked out and I'm really not okay with it. I feel like a single mom to him. We had a conversation about it, but I know that going forward that he's probably going to mainly be my responsibility. He's extremely attached to me, and pretty much instantly bonded to me. That's why the thought of rehoming him breaks my heart. But he has horrible separation anxiety, and it makes everything so difficult. I'm not equipped to properly handle this. I know he's still really young, but I'm so afraid of damaging him by not accommodating his fears in the right ways. He's so reactive, though some days are better than others. He barks quite a lot, and he's very loud, which is going to make living in a rental with him very difficult. He will scream for sometimes up to 30 minutes when we leave, even with a Kong or some other long-lasting distraction. Regardless of if he's in the crate or left in a puppy-proofed room, he will pace, pant, howl, bark, and yell for so long. He's clearly so stressed when left alone. But he has to be alone. I have to work. Everyone in my life has to work. I would ask my mom to take him, but she's gone for basically 12 hours a day at work. I know he wouldn't get the attention he deserves, even if I continued to take care of him until he's at the age where he can be alone for 8 hours at a time. I just don't know what to do. The thought of rehoming him kills me, and I would have never adopted him if I knew things would be like this for him. I want to enroll him in puppy training, but that's expensive. Everything is so expensive, and he's so stubborn that I know it would take even more work with him. He knows what the words mean, but he doesn't listen. He knows how to drop it, but his resource guarding issues are so bad that he'll "talk back" by barking, rip what he's holding, swallow something before we get the chance to take it, or even worse, bite, when things need to be taken immediately in an emergency. It's an impulse for him, and he doesn't really mean it. He always licks us as an apology after, but it doesn't change the fact that he demonstrates aggressive behavior. I didn't expect any of this when I got him, and his issues will require even more training and time that I don't have. I feel like I don't have any time for myself, and I feel so selfish when I do take time for myself. He's not housebroken yet because he's been used to puppy pads (previous caretakers trained him with those). The resource-guarding issues are really what scare me though, because it means there are some deeper issues that, again, as a first time puppy-owner on top of everything else, I don't know how to handle. I just miss life when it was simpler. When it was just me and my cat, and I could actually play with him and spend time with him and not have to hide all of his toys because the puppy will eat them. All my puppy does now is terrorize him. My puppy chases my cat and my mom's cat, and he'll corner my poor other baby and paw at him. He just wants to play, but my cat wants nothing to do with him. All of this is just so hard. I wanted a dog because I wanted to go on peaceful walks and have another furry companion that I could take on car rides and all kinds of places. But this poor puppy hates the car and hates being alone, along with his crate. He loves destroying his toys, escaping his confinement, and me. And that's what hurts the most. I love him so much and he loves me so much. But I feel like I can't give him the life he deserves anymore.
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2024.05.15 21:38 TSimpsy07 Convo with a pitt owner
I had a service guy at my house yesterday to quote some work. He was in his late 20s. I have a 6 month lab puppy who’s super friendly so when he came in my dog ran over and was greeting him. We ended up chatting about dogs and he mentioned he has a pittbull he rescued. He was going on and on about how hard it was for him to find a rental with his dog. He mentioned that he likes to take his dog to the dog park but the other dogs don’t really like it and the owners get “freaked out” because his Pitt “plays” aggressively. He said she’s totally a loveable couch potato but if I saw how she played with him, I’d probably think I needed to call the cops. Then he showed me all the marks on his arm from their “play time.” He said his gf had her friend over to their apartment and she brought her 1.5 yr old baby. Apparently the Pitt was really “weirded out” by the baby and anytime the baby yelled or screamed the Pitt would come running at her.
This whole time I’m just thinking “wtf.” All of these stories just sound like a mauling waiting to happen. It was so weird how he was excusing all of these behaviors as quirky and almost trying to humanize the dog.
That is part of what the pittbull craze has gotten so wrong. They attach emotional stories and storylines to these dogs so that you look at them through a human lens. But they are dogs with specific genetics, incredible bite force, and the potential for aggressive behaviors. If you know you have a reactive pittbull-it should be immediately treated as a danger.
And as usual-this guy didn’t look physically capable of handling a dog with the type of musculature and power that a pitt has.
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This whole time I’m just thinking “wtf.” All of these stories just sound like a mauling waiting to happen. It was so weird how he was excusing all of these behaviors as quirky and almost trying to humanize the dog.
That is part of what the pittbull craze has gotten so wrong. They attach emotional stories and storylines to these dogs so that you look at them through a human lens. But they are dogs with specific genetics, incredible bite force, and the potential for aggressive behaviors. If you know you have a reactive pittbull-it should be immediately treated as a danger.
And as usual-this guy didn’t look physically capable of handling a dog with the type of musculature and power that a pitt has.
2024.05.15 13:56 UsedLet9343 May have figured something out
(TLDR at bottom)
I grew up as an only child with an essentially single mother (weird dynamic between my parents). My parents were together, but they never lived together due to how different their lives were, and then officially broke up when I was 4/5.
I don’t know whats going on with my mum, but there’s definitely something there, most likely Cluster B, but I’m unsure, she experienced a great deal of trauma from her own father who sounded like an unaware pwNPD.
Because it was only me and her most of the time, and living a very stressful and chaotic life (my mum cannot handle stress at all). I was exposed to this dynamic since birth. My only consistent model of being a human has been my dysfunctional mum. She has always been overly emotional, reactive, overbearing, overthinking, stressing etc, and I remember as a child, I’d be so so embarrassed of her because I noticed how different she was from other peoples parents and mums. I’d notice their reactions towards her - their apprehension, they were obviously uneasy around her. She’d over share and people please, but then also over react over the tiniest of inconveniences and be demanding - it all felt so so uncomfortable and anxiety inducing for me. I’d feel ashamed to be around her in public. But at the same time, because she was all I had, she was my consistent primary caregiver, I always desperately needed her to survive.
So as a kid, because of seeing her being overly emotional and reactive, and noticing how that effected others, I clammed up tight. I would be dead silent outside of my safe spaces, be polite and the good girl, dissociate from my body and needs due to the chronic anxiety. She’s always made decisions for me, put me on a pedestal, compared me to others etc. and because of being so anxious and dissociated from such a young age, i never got that chance to let my true core self learn for itself. The shame swallowed me up because of the shameful enmeshment with mum.
It’s like because she was so emotional (and embarrassing to me), it felt unsafe to be present with her because her capacity to self regulate and soothe and rationally/logically/calmly solve a problem have always been non existent. I think I’ve rejected her because of this humiliation and unsafety to recognise my own needs and have them met by her because her reactions and emotions were shameful to me. But because I’ve rejected her, I’ve completely rejected myself - because at those very young ages, we haven’t individuated from our parents. So to a little kid, the emotions that are exposed to us feel like our own, and if these are too dangerous to feel, we learn ways to shut down and stop those feelings. I think this is the beginnings of learning to ‘split’ - seeing someone as all good or all bad, to attach or discard. For my mum, it’s discard, but because of our enmeshment - I can’t fully because I NEED her. I never individuated from her because of the pain I internalised from neglect and loneliness - it has always felt so unsafe to exist as me.
And then this creates the disorganised attachment wound. Desperately needing someone, but also pushing them away because of the shame of needing them/being exposed of getting hurt.
My question is, how can I heal this attachment? I realise I can’t heal my mum, so how do I heal my own attachments wounds when they’re so deep and have essentially been lifelong. Naturally I want to avoid her and discard her for the shame it brings up to be in association with her. But I’m also starting to realise how she’s her own person, separate from me. How do I re-parent myself when I’ve never been shown what a calm and functional parent looks like? How I internalise being a functional person when I never learned that?
TLDR: My mum has been the person I’ve grown up with, so as a child, I’ve soaked up her behaviour, have felt unsafe, rejected her, then rejected myself for fear of becoming like her dysfunctional self, but enmeshed af, disorganised attachment, how do I individuate, re-parent and relieve shame?
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I grew up as an only child with an essentially single mother (weird dynamic between my parents). My parents were together, but they never lived together due to how different their lives were, and then officially broke up when I was 4/5.
I don’t know whats going on with my mum, but there’s definitely something there, most likely Cluster B, but I’m unsure, she experienced a great deal of trauma from her own father who sounded like an unaware pwNPD.
Because it was only me and her most of the time, and living a very stressful and chaotic life (my mum cannot handle stress at all). I was exposed to this dynamic since birth. My only consistent model of being a human has been my dysfunctional mum. She has always been overly emotional, reactive, overbearing, overthinking, stressing etc, and I remember as a child, I’d be so so embarrassed of her because I noticed how different she was from other peoples parents and mums. I’d notice their reactions towards her - their apprehension, they were obviously uneasy around her. She’d over share and people please, but then also over react over the tiniest of inconveniences and be demanding - it all felt so so uncomfortable and anxiety inducing for me. I’d feel ashamed to be around her in public. But at the same time, because she was all I had, she was my consistent primary caregiver, I always desperately needed her to survive.
So as a kid, because of seeing her being overly emotional and reactive, and noticing how that effected others, I clammed up tight. I would be dead silent outside of my safe spaces, be polite and the good girl, dissociate from my body and needs due to the chronic anxiety. She’s always made decisions for me, put me on a pedestal, compared me to others etc. and because of being so anxious and dissociated from such a young age, i never got that chance to let my true core self learn for itself. The shame swallowed me up because of the shameful enmeshment with mum.
It’s like because she was so emotional (and embarrassing to me), it felt unsafe to be present with her because her capacity to self regulate and soothe and rationally/logically/calmly solve a problem have always been non existent. I think I’ve rejected her because of this humiliation and unsafety to recognise my own needs and have them met by her because her reactions and emotions were shameful to me. But because I’ve rejected her, I’ve completely rejected myself - because at those very young ages, we haven’t individuated from our parents. So to a little kid, the emotions that are exposed to us feel like our own, and if these are too dangerous to feel, we learn ways to shut down and stop those feelings. I think this is the beginnings of learning to ‘split’ - seeing someone as all good or all bad, to attach or discard. For my mum, it’s discard, but because of our enmeshment - I can’t fully because I NEED her. I never individuated from her because of the pain I internalised from neglect and loneliness - it has always felt so unsafe to exist as me.
And then this creates the disorganised attachment wound. Desperately needing someone, but also pushing them away because of the shame of needing them/being exposed of getting hurt.
My question is, how can I heal this attachment? I realise I can’t heal my mum, so how do I heal my own attachments wounds when they’re so deep and have essentially been lifelong. Naturally I want to avoid her and discard her for the shame it brings up to be in association with her. But I’m also starting to realise how she’s her own person, separate from me. How do I re-parent myself when I’ve never been shown what a calm and functional parent looks like? How I internalise being a functional person when I never learned that?
TLDR: My mum has been the person I’ve grown up with, so as a child, I’ve soaked up her behaviour, have felt unsafe, rejected her, then rejected myself for fear of becoming like her dysfunctional self, but enmeshed af, disorganised attachment, how do I individuate, re-parent and relieve shame?
2024.05.15 12:16 Nswayze Stonewalling, No Contact, and Finding Strength to Move On
Hi everyone,
I wanted to share my recent experience with the no contact rule and how it’s been helping me navigate through a very painful breakup. My ex-girlfriend and I had broken up twice previously, and each time, the no contact rule brought us back together. However, this time, things took a turn that made me realize it's not something I should have aimed for.
My ex-girlfriend had a pattern of stonewalling me in and out of conflicts, which left me feeling completely devalued and worthless. The last incident came out of nowhere—I was being loving and kind, and suddenly, she shut down. When I expressed my feelings the next day and set boundaries, she instantly stonewalled me again and hung up the phone.
I gave her the benefit of the doubt after she apologized, but when I came home, she stonewalled me once more. I had to end the relationship, and it was incredibly painful. The final straw was when she walked out into the night after I expressed my confusion and hurt. Feeling abandoned, I went out to look for her, triggered by my anxious attachment style.
When I returned, I found myself locked out of the house. I felt intense emotional pain and complete abandonment. After finding a spare key and going back inside, she ignored me and told me repeatedly to leave, raising her voice. It was one of the most hurtful experiences I've had in a long time. I kissed the animals goodbye and left, and today, I just finished moving all my belongings out of her place.
In no contact with an avoidant person, I initially learned that they feel little to no empathy or remorse. In fact, they actually feel pretty good, somewhat elated like they just got this huge giant boulder out of their life. Then, after some time passes and they haven’t spoken with you, they get a bit curious about what you’re doing. Eventually, they get hit with the realization that it's been a while and nothing at all happened. Suddenly, they’re trying to measure where they are, if they’re actually as valuable as they think they are, and then they get worried and afraid.
That’s been my experience, but I understand that if the relationship failed, it’s for a reason. I understand the urge to reach out because you’re low on oxytocin and other brain chemicals and somewhat addicted to them, but you genuinely have to let go for yourself because who you were wasn’t right for each other.
In terms of manipulative behavior, her actions appear more manipulative in this context. Stonewalling, locking me out, and ignoring my attempts to communicate were behaviors that exerted control and inflicted emotional pain. My actions, driven by emotional distress and an attempt to resolve the conflict, were a response to feeling abandoned and seeking connection.
I'm focusing on self-care and understanding my attachment style better. Surrounding myself with people who value open communication and mutual respect is helping me regain my sense of self-worth and find strength in moving forward.
Thanks for reading. I hope my experience can offer some insight and support to anyone going through a similar situation. Remember, you deserve a relationship built on respect, communication, and love.
Stay strong, everyone.
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I wanted to share my recent experience with the no contact rule and how it’s been helping me navigate through a very painful breakup. My ex-girlfriend and I had broken up twice previously, and each time, the no contact rule brought us back together. However, this time, things took a turn that made me realize it's not something I should have aimed for.
My ex-girlfriend had a pattern of stonewalling me in and out of conflicts, which left me feeling completely devalued and worthless. The last incident came out of nowhere—I was being loving and kind, and suddenly, she shut down. When I expressed my feelings the next day and set boundaries, she instantly stonewalled me again and hung up the phone.
I gave her the benefit of the doubt after she apologized, but when I came home, she stonewalled me once more. I had to end the relationship, and it was incredibly painful. The final straw was when she walked out into the night after I expressed my confusion and hurt. Feeling abandoned, I went out to look for her, triggered by my anxious attachment style.
When I returned, I found myself locked out of the house. I felt intense emotional pain and complete abandonment. After finding a spare key and going back inside, she ignored me and told me repeatedly to leave, raising her voice. It was one of the most hurtful experiences I've had in a long time. I kissed the animals goodbye and left, and today, I just finished moving all my belongings out of her place.
In no contact with an avoidant person, I initially learned that they feel little to no empathy or remorse. In fact, they actually feel pretty good, somewhat elated like they just got this huge giant boulder out of their life. Then, after some time passes and they haven’t spoken with you, they get a bit curious about what you’re doing. Eventually, they get hit with the realization that it's been a while and nothing at all happened. Suddenly, they’re trying to measure where they are, if they’re actually as valuable as they think they are, and then they get worried and afraid.
That’s been my experience, but I understand that if the relationship failed, it’s for a reason. I understand the urge to reach out because you’re low on oxytocin and other brain chemicals and somewhat addicted to them, but you genuinely have to let go for yourself because who you were wasn’t right for each other.
In terms of manipulative behavior, her actions appear more manipulative in this context. Stonewalling, locking me out, and ignoring my attempts to communicate were behaviors that exerted control and inflicted emotional pain. My actions, driven by emotional distress and an attempt to resolve the conflict, were a response to feeling abandoned and seeking connection.
I'm focusing on self-care and understanding my attachment style better. Surrounding myself with people who value open communication and mutual respect is helping me regain my sense of self-worth and find strength in moving forward.
Thanks for reading. I hope my experience can offer some insight and support to anyone going through a similar situation. Remember, you deserve a relationship built on respect, communication, and love.
Stay strong, everyone.