Cute love sayings for your boyfriend

I need to write this out cause I’m sitting in bed ruminating on what I think is to come and can’t think straight…need to organize my mind of things I think will happen in each ep.
Ep 5: Telling their families. Fight with Eloise she tells her she needs to tell him but doesn’t force her hand in this confrontation. Portia getting some angry Colin when he goes to declare he is gonna marry her and then be like oh yeah and do we have your permission cause I already told my family first. Maybe this leads to a heart to heart with Pen/Portia after Colin leaves. Drawing room scene this episode? Engagement party towards end of ep 5? Eloise ultimatum before engagement party.
What if Colin finds out about LW from Penelope after she faints at the engagement party. He takes her to his room or something. Or he visits her at her home to check on how she is feeling. MVP Rae helps. She just can’t keep it inside anymore and confesses because she knows she can’t marry him without telling him not because of an ultimatum but because he deserves to know and to decide. Consent in all things and all ways works both ways. I need him to know. She tries to tell him her reasons, he doesn’t want to hear it, he gets angry and says hurtful things.
He leaves. She cries. He take some space but they reconcile because he loves her. He finds out she has always loved him. Not sure we will get Colin’s love confession too… but I mean hopefully his confounded feelings are clear to him to be love and not just like cause we all know he loves her. She promises that she is done with LW. She apologizes for the hurt she has caused and explains her truth in the choices me made without excuses just honesty. She gives up LW for Colin. She publishes a goodbye issue and that is enough for Eloise to let it go Tick Tock wise but they are still broken up as friends.
Ep 6: They get married at the beginning of this episode. We better get an actual wedding for POLIN. And a wedding on the show that’s not filled with drama. I need a wedding with no LW secret hanging over them. I need it! Everyone is on a hunt for LW because the Queen is sad no issues are coming out and so does that bounty to find her. Pen and Colin are married and move to their house and have lots of sex including the mirror scene. I cannot have them do a mirror since before he knows the truth. The whole point is to see her ALL of her and vice versa. No lies please Shondaland. They are enjoying marital bliss. Cressida has beer pressure of being sold (married) to some old man declares herself to be LW due to the Queens Bounty. Pen ain’t gonna let her steal her life’s work and breaks her promise to Colin by publishing one last issue and calls Cressida out. Colin catches her doing this. End of episode.
Ep 7: Now this is where we see the really angry Colin. He is pissed that she endangered herself, did this without talking to him, and broke her promise. They have it out in the carriage. Unless the writers decide to go for a carriage kink I cannot foresee sexy times in Carriage 2.0. They continue to have it out at home and they are both honest. Colin about his jealousy and Pen about what LW has been/meant for her all these years and that she felt she had to give it up to not lose Colin. Love Confession from Colin? Stay x3 this episode. Colin supporting her writing and her supporting his.
Ep 8: LW bargain/alliance with Queen to save her family. Colin having Pen edit his writing and telling her he is working on a book. Pen being a new version of LW? Heir Plot is left for S4? I kinda don’t want Pen and Colin to be weighed down to the Featheringtons but I kinda also want Pen to save her family this way and them to bow down to her supremely cause I’m petty vs having LW/Pen at the Queen’s mercy.
Epilogue: They leave for Greece or any city that’s not one of the 17 Colin fucked around in for their honeymoon. J/K…sort of…not really.

I love jersey. Been here for 20yr (my entire life) and I gotta say we got the best of everything.
I have been doing some pondering and came to the realization we all live normal lives and periodically login to reddit just to talk about the wonderful state of jersey and a mutual hate for PA drivers (is it a psychological problem they have to go the limit in the left lane?) anyways, this is just me making a shitpost how we could be neighbors living normal lives and unite on reddit and would defend our state from outsiders shit talking is, blah blah blah Thank you for your time

So, how's everyone feeling about the spoiled cards so far? Obviously price aside, because I don't think they'll be worth the money shops will initially try to sell them for... Do you think they'll be decent decks?
When there was that massive leak, I was so excited for the Eldrazi deck! There were so many splashy, overpowered cards that made me go "this is so extra, it's dumb. It's perfect for casual". Then after that initial wave, there were so many spoiled cards that fuelled the hypothesis that the deck would be filled with mediocre cards with 'devoid', so now I'm split...
The Tarmogoyf deck doesn't seem that good tbh. Tarmogoyf is a bad card in EDH, IMO. Yes, they tried to spice up the goyfs and the commander ability is cool, but having an army of tarmogoyfs is still kinda meh, I'd say. I didn't spot any broken cards there. Could be a fun, definitely nostalgic deck, but as for power level, nothing special (don't get me wrong, sometimes a fun deck is better than a powerful one, as I'm pretty much playing in a casual pod).
Simic seems to be doing simic things. I don't think it'll be particularly powerful out of the box, but it opens up a lot of avenues for simic degeneracy. I love the potential it has (which I'll definitely steal from the creative people here), but I don't think it'll be strong from the get go.
The energy deck is the one I'm most indifferent to. I don't particularly enjoy energy counters and I just got the Fallout energy deck. However, I did see some amazing powerful energy cads spoiled, so maybe this will turn things around. I also dislike the art of the commander. He looks like he's about to ask me "tall, grande or venti" while low-key trying to tell me to listen to his new track on Spotify.
Again, price aside, from the things we've seen spoiled, what are your thoughts on the decks? Both on out-of-the-box power and the upgrade potential.

Bit of a far fetched thing, but since I’ve started Vyvanse I’ve been getting hypothyroid symptoms and recently tested for normal levels besides one being in the subclinical range. Leading to the doctor to presume “subclinical-hypothyroidism”
Has anyone had this experience where the meds were messing with your thyroid production, it’s strange to me but I don’t believe I had any issues with my thyroid before especially given what the current side effects are.
It’s quite disheartening because Vyvanse has really helped me in other ways but would switching to any of the other stimulants have less of an effect on it messing with my thyroid? Or has anyone switched and had say Ritalin or dex IR stop the fluctuating thyroid levels?
It seems a bit rich that all of a sudden I’m having thyroid issues or it was already messed up previously because as I’m aware it’s never been a problem in the past prior to started treatment which leads me to suspect Vyvanse.
Symptoms; (common/uncommon side effects but as a whole point towards something else)

• dry course hair, alopecia, diffuse thinning and eyebrow hair loss (typically a sign of hypo)
  
• difficulty sleeping/nightmares (consistently)
  
• cold sensitivity (especially in the hands)
  
• no consistency day to day on meds (despite being strict w/ diet and supplementation)
  
• fatigue. Muscle/joint soreness (sporadically)
  
• tend to wake up w/ a puffy face/sinus pressure.
  

If anyone has had any experience with these issues, or your thyroid was messing up during ADHD treatment I’d love to hear from you!
Edit: (this is a repost here as I didn’t get any answers on another sub)
I started on 20mg and increased to 30mg at 1 month and have stayed there since.
I understand this isn’t a cure all, and it does come down to working on these things myself. But the main point is I believe it’s effecting my immune system, and 3 months in it’s gotten worse in those particular areas, like the focus of the post being thyroid TSH rising and was wondering if someone in here had experienced this or become diagnosed w/“subclinical-hypothyroidism”, or at least the same side effects that could mimic it. If it’s not common with anyone in the community I guess it shows it could be either a variable of the meds affecting me individually based on my own physiology or is unrelated entirely and is an underlying issue.

I (31F) have been married to my (32M) husband for 6 years, we have been together for 10. We seem to continuously have the same argument, he is not emotionally available for me and I am too "needy" and "sensitive" to him. I complain about this often, as I have felt neglected and unloved for a while now. We sometimes talk about things and then our lives get better until they decline again, this has been the same cycle for years now. I often try things to get him to open up and be more considerate not just for the sake of our relationship but for the world, he can be pretty mean and is definitely a hot head which creates issues with family and work. I purchased a deck of card that has relationship questions to deepen your connection with you sig oth and he reluctantly agreed to play with me, after 4 questions or so, he just gave short answers and at the end he just "couldn't think of anything", this really hurt my feelings as this was a question regarding how he felt about me now versus when we first started dating, I told him this upset me, and he shut down, i started crying and told him I didn't want to keep playing the game. This was a week ago or so. I just let it go and moved on. We did not talk about it. Last night, we had a bbq at a friend's house, at the end of the night everyone went home besides the host/her bf, me and my husband. We had been drinking a bit so she(the host) started thanking us for coming and telling us how happy she is we came over and how she loves us, my husband quickly started reciprocating the feelings saying he had a great night, he is so thankful for our friendship, etc, we all shared a drink and talked about the success of the evening.
Now, I feel so fucking upset over this, it was difficult to watch him express his emotions so clearly and easily to other people when I have been trying for years to get him to express his love for me in any way. I have felt disconnected from him so i have asked for some sort of confirmation of our love, a card, a recording, via text, anything really, and all I get is a shrug, or a "idk what to say", or "that feels like homework". I feel like this was my breaking point after years of trying, I have not spoken to him since last night. I am so drained I honestly don't even want to start an argument and he is an avoidant and is currently nursing a hangover.
I had considered couples counseling in the past so we can work on ways to communicate better since this is a skill I feel we both lack in. He's never been thrilled about it but said he would give it a try. After last night i dont know if my marriage is salvageable anymore. I now see he can be emotional and loving but just never towards me. Im here for an outsiders perspective, am i over reacting? I know im not perfect and have lots of issues im currently working on in therapy myself, but I'd like to feel like my home life is my safe space like it used to be. Thank you in advance.

Just for context my partner and I have been together for 5 years, we have a daughter together who’s 4 and he has bpd. It has always been a struggle in our relationship especially when it comes to me going out without him. I’m not happy with our relationship. I still love him but I just don’t want to be with him. I heard someone say “if you have any doubts about someone then they are not your someone”. I’m just struggling and I want so much more for my life. I don’t want to struggle and I want to live comfortably and financially, with him and I together we might never live completely or buy a house. I struggle to enjoy time with my friends, he needs reassurance and if I don’t text him constantly he gets so angry, if I’m wearing something “too tight” or “too short” I’m either guilt tripped into changing or stuck with him extremely angry with me. I’m just not happy and I feel like a horrible person but I’m just so sick of the fights and arguments and I just want it to feel easy. I just need some advice on what to do. Has anyone been through this before?

I write songs and love poetry. It’s been a while though because I’ve been working and I don’t really have time to think for myself but here’s one I just wrote.
I miss when you told me you loved me When you said that the sun couldn’t touch me Cause I made all the clouds and the storms go away And I made all your horrible days less grey
But now when you touch my face It’s only cause you’re not awake Why can’t you see what you’re doing to me When you said we needed a break
I don’t know who I am without you And maybe that’s a red flag too But only because you could see All the best and bright parts of me
Hurting and hoarding All of these feelings But you don’t feel The tears I am bleeding
I just want you to love me again Just like you used to Back before you’d sneer at me And say “I used you”
Love me still Like we’re pretending Even though I know There’s no happy ending
I still love you But it’s something I’ll have to get used to.
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Okay, so I will give all the background information first and then explain my issue, aka, the part where I need advice.
I am 22 years old, just graduated from college and about to start my first “adult job” in the next coming months (I will be a teacher!!). I live at home with my parents, reasons being: 1) I went to college 10 minutes away and it was cheaper than housing 2) my family is very isolated and we quite iterally are the only 3 people in our family, so I’m close with my parents because they are my only family, and 3) my parents have told me several times that I am welcome with live with them for as long as I need/want so that I can save money and all sorts. I am very grateful for them!!
I currently have a 2017 Civic which my parents bought for me brand new after I got my license. Again, I am extremely grateful and I LOVE my Civic. It has got me through nearly 7 years of school and life!!
My new job a city over which is about 30-45 minutes away and all interstate. I have not had problems with my Civic and I truly believe it will last me until I die. I know that. However, I am the type of person who likes new and so I do tend to gravitate towards things I don’t really need.
I have a lot of money saved up, and have decided that I would like to trade my car in for a newer Honda SUV model, (a car that might do better where I live for icy winters and snow) and pay for the rest (or most of the rest) in cash. I would also like to pay for the insurance and payments on my own— which my parents have very kindly always done for me. I would also like to mention that I have done a TON of research on this entire thing as it has been stewing in my brain for months.
My “reasoning”, or more so my way of justifying buying a car over moving out for those people I know will ask/be curious about, is because realistically, in my state with the salary and savings I have, moving out within the next year or even two isn’t reasonable, unfortunately. If I were to move out rather than buy the car per se, it would be about another 6-8 years before I could think about upgrading my vehicle which at that point will’ve dropped in value even more. I would also be basically living check to check, so all my money would be towards the house and things for me to live. I also think that considering I really have never truly ever paid for anything in my life, that a small car payment and car insurance would be a good way for me to develop some responsibility as an adult.
Long story short, which honestly doesn’t relate to the background info as much as I was thinking, I am wondering how I could APPROACH my parents about doing something like this? I want them to know how grateful I am and what I want to do. I’m pretty determined about my decision, but I really don’t want to hurt their feelings about trading in the car they bought me or make them think I’m being super irresponsible. Maybe I am. But, I don’t know, I’m young and dumb, so sometimes I think about life, how short it is and ultimately start feeling impulsive. I have never asked/talked to my parents about something like this or really anything “big”, to be honest. I’m not sure how to start the conversation without being disrespectful or causing them stress. Also, buying cars in my family is very normal as my dad does so every couple years, if that means anything to you— it did for my personal justification lol.
Also, I would like to respectfully say that I understand not everyone will agree with me or anything I have said, and I don’t expect people to. That’s why I didn’t give any specific details. I’m just here asking for advice on how to talk to my parents about a situation which is considered big in my 3 person family. Thank you for your help!

Fill in the blanks as you wish. I’ve posted here before and had good luck, and bad luck, and in between luck. I’m seeking a genuine connection. Not a rushed love story, not someone who only talks about themselves, but witty banter, light flirting and whatever else comes from that.
Some things that fill my cup are: •My gym routine - I’m dedicated to being strong - trying to prep for my old lady body.
•Craft Beer - I love breweries and trying new beers. My primary go to being IPAs
•Coffee - I take it a million different ways, I’m not a purist by any means.
•My Pets - I have a mutt and a cat (also a mutt).
•Live Music - I’ve been to over 200 concerts/shows/gigs and a few music festivals.
•Dive Bars and nights that never end - does this even need an explanation?
•Baseball and football - I can actually say Bay Area sports and people won’t have to guess anymore, so there’s that.
There is so much more to me and I’m very happy to discuss all of that. The only things that are a hard no for me are anime and video games. I don’t like either. I find that I’ve been told I’m charismatic, sassy and pretty funny.
I feel like transparency is important, I’m chubby. It’s not something I dislike about myself, but I understand if it’s not your type. Here is me - I don’t have too many pictures of me doing things because I’m always the one behind the camera for others: https://imgur.com/a/zRHIu54
Age range is 26+
If this sounds like a good time, or I sound like someone you’d get along with, let’s see where it goes. Chats preferred to start, other stuff can potentially be shared later. I don’t respond to low effort messages.

I (17f) have been with my boyfriend (18m) since October last year. I’ve been sh-ing since I was 11. When we first got together he helped me a lot and I had stopped sh-ing for a few months. Recently, everything has gone south. I’ve been diagnosed with autism and he has a number of neurodivergence’s. This didn’t really have an effect at the start of the relationship, but now everytime I need my own space he kicks off, goes missing, says he wants to khs. He tries to say how long I can stay out and if I don’t stick to that he reverts back to what he does when I need my own space. The problem is: you can tell he cares for me and loves me apart from this and his family will always try to make sure we stay together if something goes wrong, but recently Its really been getting me down, I’ve stopped eating and started sh-ing again. I don’t want to leave him because I’m scared on whether he will go through with his threats, but I’m also destroying myself by staying. What do I do in this situation?

Ok, so to start, I (13, transmasc) have had a shitty journey so far with this gender shit. Idk how to explain it. For most of my life, up until a few months before the summer of 2023, I was a girl. But right before that summer, I realized that I didn’t ever feel like a female. In those same few months, I started dressing more masc, and some of the people around me noticed this change. I also successfully came out to my friends, and they all supported me! I was so happy, but the next step was coming out to my family. I knew my aunt wouldn’t care about this gender change, since she didn’t stress over things like that, but what I was truly afraid of was revealing this to my mother and grandmother. All three of them have always loved me and supported me no matter what, but if my mom or grandma found out, they would probably be pissed. First, we will start with my grandma. She has always been a bit homophobic. Of course, if you ask her opinion about LGBTQ, she will just say she has no input. But if you’ve known her for a while, you would realize that she isn’t very fond of queer and trans folks. I mean, she's not radically homophobic/transphobic, but it’s not like she's very supportive of them either. If I ever revealed to her that I was no longer a girl, she would be furious. A few months ago, I asked my mom for a binder. I made up the excuse that it was for when I cosplay male characters. I could tell my mom was a bit suspicious, but all she said was that she would look into it (aka, she plans to research to see if binders are safe). She also warned me that binders can cause serious damage. My mother wasn't too triggered by this, but when she told my grandma, she got so goddamn mad. She immediately started raising her voice a bit, saying “NO NO NO! You're not allowed to get one! Binders are dangerous and you're a girl! You will always be a girl!” I hadn’t even mentioned anything about gender to her, but she immediately assumed I wanted it for that exact reason (I mean, I do… but they don’t know that yet!). Either way, if she did find out, there's nothing she could do about it. The real problem is my mom. Unlike my grandma, my mom is a bit supportive of the LGBTQ. Even though she's fine with those people, however, if I told her the truth about how I feel, she’d be infuriated. My mom has this thing about how she thinks social media brainwashes children and teens into thinking they are gay/trans, and she refers to all of my queer friends as “confused”. I don’t think she understands that even though some people do it for attention, other people literally just hate themselves for being born in the body they were born in, not everyone does it just to do it. I bet that if I ever came out to her officially, I would have my phone taken away (and all my other electronics), I would be grounded for God knows how long, and I would be reprimanded severely. I just don’t know how I would tell them…what if they don’t view me the same afterward? What if they think it's just all for attention? What if they force me to be feminine after they find out? What if they don’t take me seriously?! Idk atp…some advice would be helpful I guess…….. (And I know I don’t need to come out immediately, I know I could wait, but if I don’t come out soon I’m actually gonna go insane 😭😭)

We have been dating for about a year and together for three months. During time we get sexual he started off introducing to me his kink I personally didn't like it and my feelings still remain the same. He likes to slap my face spit on me and has often times described to me his fantasy of r someone even making me sit in a tub and pee on me to make me feel like trash basically. He has forced anal and oral He's used words like slt bich etc.. I know there are fetishes out there but I never felt comfortable with these sorts of things. He tries to convince me these were my ideas but I truly just want normal intimacy. I've expressed it and often felt him bored. I love him and am quite insecure and afraid to leave. Recently he had a woman move in and was there for 2 weeks where I didn't get to visit and he would come see me. He swares up and down it was just a friend who needed a place to stay. But during a brief period I needed a place and he didn't offer. Not to mention he helped her move. I moved all alone had to sleep on mt moms couch while im his gf. I have found myself drinking and crying in depression as i cant see why he wont just dump me Today was the worst for us and proved to me he doesn't care about me.. my car died leaving his house (i left because i gound a dildo that wasnt mine at his house) and when i valled him ouy he claimed it was old. and when I called him he didn't pick up I was about 5 min drive from him on a freeway exit and couldn't get a tow to help me due to it being electric and completely dead I had to wait until 7 am (this happened around 3 am) because they needed a tow with a special tool. I left my car on the side of the freeway I didn't wanna stay in there until 7. I have heard terrible stories of being stuff on an off ramp. I attempted to call him and no answer. I had to end up walking 1hr towards him with a friend on the phone because I was afraid of the area. Eventually I got tired of walking and hitched a ride(against my better jusgement) but I was afraid and it was so much faster in car. The guy offered me beer and cigarette for the stress but I didn't feel right so I refused the extra offers. I get to his house and he is staring blankly awoken from sleep. I explain the situation and lay on my side avoiding him. I just needed to rest until it was time to reattempt to get the tow truck. I was so tired I just slept with him until he awoke somewhat he then had me reexplain what happened because he was so tired he didn't comprehend what happened that night. I still was bummed he wasn't there for me and feel like this is an ongoing pattern of ignoring my calls. The point is if this is my partner he should have been there for me. In the morning when we awoke around 1030 I began chatting with aaa dispatch preparing to get my vehicle. They didn't understand why I wasnt at it and why there was no key that would work. I explained my phone is the key and the car is dead and my phone would have died as well and at a offramp... after going back and forth and finally getting them to understand the situation they agreed to come get me I waited until the time they agreed to get me and no call. I called dispatch again and they said I needed to be their this time my boyfriend got up angrily and said he would take me to it... I was trying to avoid him taking me. He screamed at me the whole way saying how do I not know where my car was but I knew the whole time and was explaining it's off a specific freeway on a specific exit... he couldn't figure how to.get to it and I was frantically trying to type it into his GPS. He told me how stupid I was for not putting in an address... but it's not an adress he was ready to drop me off and make me walk until we finally spotted the tow truck. He messaged me in apology on text but I feel like all the signs are clear I'm just already to leave

/ Hayes’ pov /
When Solene’s large sable orbs locked on mine, time stopped, the past five years of pain fell away. Her supple rosy lips upturned and slightly parted- the same way they had before. The same lips I fell in love with. She was beautiful, the same stand out features and subtle curves.
It felt as if gravity was pulling me closer, each step unconscious. With our toes nearly touching, every nerve ending in my body urged me to touch her, to tuck a stray strand of hair away.
“Hi.” Her voice velvety and deep, slightly hoarse.
Unsure of what to say I began to speak, “H- wh- how are you?” The future of whatever could be depended on the next few moments, and I didn’t even know where to begin.
Solene felt the same way, it was evident in her tone, “I’m well, not much has changed, I’m slightly older…” she let out a weak laugh “and Izzy is a sophomore in college. He-“.
“That’s gre-“ I began. “Sorry you go ahead.” I could feel my cheeks pinken.
“I was just going to ask if you’d like to sit and chat, I have time before my client arrives and it would be nice to talk.” Her tone was unreadable, I’d hoped she’d wanted me to say yes.
With a nod of my head, she turned on her heels; her now chin length hair fanning out slightly.
————————————————————————————— Once we reach the offices, Tracy peeks her head out of her office and smirks “Ah hello Adonis.” The comment although to me is more geared toward Solene.
“Tracy, don’t you have some art to purchase or someone else’s awkward moment to make worse.” Solene rolls her eyes, the same mischievous sparkle apparent.
With a small smile, I duck into Solene’s office. Taking in the familiar-small- space, I smile, not much has changed. Photographs of Izzy through out the years, multiple paintings from artists all over the world, and even a few of us during the time we spent together on August Moon’s tour adorn her walls.
Leaving the door open slightly Solene sits on the small love seat she added to the room, its vintage, it suits her.
Taking a seat next to her I smile. She seems to be taking me in, inspecting closely how age and life have affected me. “How are you? I saw you on Jimmy Kimmel last week, are you enjoying the solo route?”.
“It’s been a journey of loss and gain. I didn’t know that with love comes pain, until that day five years ago. The music I’ve been writing is not just about infatuation but yearning for what was.” I realize I may be rambling and pause.
“It’s nice to see you passionate about music again, the same way it was when it was just you and your guitar.” Solene’s hand touches mine tenderly, “tell me more about it?”.
“Well, when we went our separate ways I began to see the road ahead was going to be the same as before if I let it. I could keep on as the British boy who messes about and lets everyone around him make decisions for him; or I could be who I am today. I’m finally involved in the process of my music from start to fi-“ a knock on the door brings me to a stop.
“Solene, Ms. Raphel is here. I know she’s a half an hour early, would you like me to tell her you’re in meeting?” Tracy looks pained as if she’s interrupted a super secret meeting- which she has, but it’s not the end of the world.
Solene’s eyes bounce between mine and Tracy’s “Fucking artists. They’re never on time, it’s always absurdly early or laughably late.”
Deciding for the both of us I stand up, “This is important Sol, I’ll be here as long as it takes. As long as your number is still the same, I would be more than happy to schedule something.” Tracy shuts the door slowly and leaves us alone again.
“Hayes, are you sure? I can tell her I’m in a meeting, I can’t expect you to move your busy schedule around because of my client’s inability to tell time.” Solene stands and begins shuffling papers on her desk, no matter what she says I know I’ll go to the ends of the earth for her.
Standing behind her I place my hand on her shoulder “I’ll be available whenever you are. Good luck with the new client.” I walk to the door before turning back “Oh and Solene, you’re still hot or whatever.” With those parting words I open the door leaving her blinking in shock. ————————————————————————————— As I sit on the sofa of my new flat, I’m like a teen boy again. Do I dare flirt with the girl? Keep it simple? I begin typing something only to delete it until I hit send on impulse.
-Hayes- I was wondering if you’d like to get some really fucking good sandwiches sometime? ————————————————————————————— • It’s been two hours since I left the gallery, fifteen since I sent the text, and five minutes since Solene has read it. Patience and tranquility are two things I am fresh out of when it comes to waiting.
-Hayes- I know you’ve read it Sol, it’ll be just lunch.
This time she replies immediately
-Solene- I don’t know Hayes… it was always just lunch.
-Hayes- I’ll behave, or try to. Pls?
Knowing she won’t be able to say no, I prematurely do a little dance.
-Solene- I’ll think about it, maybe.
-Hayes- Go easy on my poor heart Sol. One sandwich. Not even drinks. Just bread. Yes?
At this point I may as well be on my knees, she still knows how to make me work for it. Leaving well enough alone I decide to go for a run. The waterside park in Santa Barbara has become my refuge-aside from my music- the waves and fresh, cool air keep me grounded.
————————————————————————————— After running for an hour I look at my messages to see a simple victory but a victory nonetheless.
-Solene- Fine you win. Lunch. I could go for a good sandwich.
(To be continued)

No one likes what we do in the Dark and yet we all know.
Holding her hand under a gray-blue sky and i'm home until i go home.
No one likes what we do in the Dark. And yet We're in love.
It's a sin, they cry. You'll burn, they yell. God made rainbows. So why do you hate?
That's your daughter, son, child that you birthed with your intent to love unconditionally yet
you
hate
them
for learning to be and accept themselves?
Why do you hate us for finding a beautiful fire in a world full of suffocating mist and water?
We want nothing more than to be accepted, yet we can't even go outside of our own rooms without being criticized for the way we dress how we do our makeup or hair.
Laughed at or hated because of who we like.
Disrespected and sneered at because of the color of
our
skin.
So we try to smile and say i'm fine. But really just skimming the surface. Saying i'm tired not saying it's because I cried all night.
No one likes being in the dark. because that's when we see our truest selves. The monster that feeds on the sadness, anger, emptiness. Waiting for another fix.
I don't like being in the dark because that's when I see me.
(I wrote this on teen ink when I was in high school for an English project)
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I swear I only hear this phrase from them.
Example - A friend of mine recently started saying this after EVERYTHING. He clears the clutter in his car so I can sit down.... He finishes pumping his gas... He eats a mediocre sandwich... Etc. Always predictably follows with the same annoying assed comment.
"weLL tHaTs gOoD eNOugH foR gOveRnMEnT wOrK!"
And it all started after he started working with a bunch of Boomers. That's when I noticed other Boomers saying it as well. Can't be a coincidence.
Anyone know why they say this phrase so much? I mean, yeah, my local Post Office is slower than molasses sometimes, but to me it comes across as punching down (which Boomers would neeeever do).
On that note, I'd love to have a clap back handy to make them feel dumb. Ideas welcome.
Boomer: "That's good enough for government work..." Me: "...unless of course you worked for the EPA. Can you imagine the extra effort required to unfuck the climate left to us by your generation?"

I’m one of the good people, I say to myself – ah, but on the borderline, says my contrarian voice, wagging a finger at some abstract wall of my mind, on which likely hangs a mirror, making the futility of the gesture complete. At the silent Buddhist retreat, I fight the urge to sexualize every single person in the room, one by one, all day long, instead of meditate, and I resist that – but I do indeed sexualize a bit, not graphically so, just the willingness of the mind to wander, which is such a strange thing to do under any circumstance, like your mind is a restless dog that paces from room to room or like the shadows on the floor decide to leap up, make love on the ceiling. The light seems to flicker now and then when the silent retreat folks and I lean into it. I picture high school meditation teams taking on other high school meditation teams, tournaments even.
I don’t want to make too much of this, but there’s an obvious contrarian dimension to the ethos of silent retreats – this is my take – in that they seem so serious from the outside, but once you get into it, you notice the essential feeling is erotic, as least on an interpersonal level. See, when you commit to staying silent all day – as you sit together, as you pass each other in the hall, as you hold doors open for each other – you are hearing the body, and you are listening to your own. The body is the star of the show at a silent retreat, as least among those new to it, meeting as strangers, and when bodies are principally speaking to bodies, if you aren’t actively forcing each other to grow crops or dig minerals out of the ground – if what you are all doing is sitting on big pillows and comfy chairs – then eroticism is in the air. Pleasure is adjacent to inner peace.
The petal in the rose oil is that some of us are living through two-fold consciousness and thus, in various stages of suffering and duress, and so the eroticism must be steered toward empathy and not, for instance, condemnation, which is like what bad bosses get off on. The silent retreat is very anti-bad boss, punctuated by the sort of crises that distinguish mature human concerns from all the rest, and many people in the room are grieving. A father dies. A mother dies. Some part of our lives comes apart – you open the door to see, and the room once there is missing – open air, blue sky, some scrap of a curtain where a window used to be. When the time comes to dedicate the retreat to others outside of the circle, a third of the room says Gaza. Faith and the encampment protestors, I add. Anti-bad boss – may a benevolent spirit make the world right.
Over lunch, I sit in the grass, eat seasoned tofu and pasta, then lay back and let the sunshine throw cosmic fragments through my body, which distinguishes between the impermeable and the permeable by heating up my skin. The rest, which is most of it, goes right through me and then right through the planet, on its way to the end of the universe probably. What I remember, though, is the heat – my body listening to the sun like its singing high notes, especially across my clavicle and along the bridge of my nose. A clavier is the keyboard of a musical instrument, and adversaries swap prisoners every time I sneeze. Does that make sense? The sun is investing my body with a belief in levitation, like its growing the way a dandelion does, and soon I’ll float away. Maybe gravity is going to seed – carried inside lighter-than-air clouds of indeterminacy.
The clouds – my gosh, the clouds – cumulonimbus sweethearts with passion blooming in their breasts. When someone says clouds look like curds of cauliflower, they mean that the same sort of influence that makes cauliflower look that way is likewise producing these formations on the cloud deck. Or maybe they look like mashed potatoes, scoops of lemon sorbet, but none of this really captures the manifestation of such things in the sky. When the edges of the clouds catch the sun, I have to squint to look at them, and the potential for transmogrification seems present – like the clouds become beach sand, the sky the absence of our discontent. The clouds become flashbulbs, and fame-seekers down below keep waiting for it to rain. The clouds are utterly still, like a personal insight that causes the body to stop, the mind to freeze – hours that way. Years.
Later, sitting on a set of steps miles away from the silent retreat, I see the clouds from a different angle, as different seeds float past. Someday the former will pour forth upon the land, and then the latter will pour forth into the air – one tiny seed producing a plant that grows taller than me, like tossing a brick down a well and watching a whole city erupt from it. Above and behind me, beneath the eaves of the auditorium, the sudden and familiar sound of baby birds cheeping for a meal, and I picture a parent pouring everything their child will ever need into their wide open beaks, one after another. The cheeping is continuous, like a rolling metal wheel, so my attention turns to a photographer snapping pics of a recent graduate in white heels, tasteful skirt and red lipstick. A clicking sound comes from a shutter opening and closing, camera set on burst mode.

Hi there,
(F28) I'm going to keep this short as I am in a lot of (both physical and emotional) pain right now and cannot write much. My ex, M28, and I have been together for 7 years (living together for many). I just need to hear from people who have gone through a long relationship break-up, does it get better? I mean, I kind of suppose it does but right now I just miss him SO much. We were so in love with each other for many years, we still love each other so deeply... We are just not compatible (we don't want the same things in life right now). That makes it so extremely painful.
Does it get better? I am emotionally drained.
Also... I am so afraid of forgetting... I don't want to forget the amazing times we've had and how much we have loved each other through these 7 years. I am afraid of forgetting his voice, his smell, and how he used to look at me...
Also, does anyone else feel like other people can't understand what you are going through because what you had with your ex was REALLY special? As if others didn't have such strong connections with their partners and therefore can't understand your pain. I am not trying to compare or to diminish other people's pain and relationships. I am just trying to understand this feeling I have and figure out if other people have this. Does anyone feel like their relationship really was a special one and that other people can't comprehend what you are going through? I don't know if what I say makes any sense, I find it hard to collect my thoughts in this state...
Thank you and stay strong everyone!

• (Short story time)

Might be hard to believe, but growing up I had never played a Zelda game (yes people like me exist haha) so I figured better to start late than never. I had recently found and dusted off my old 3DS I found in the back of the closet and took the opportunity to look at old games I missed out on growing up. As I combed through the 3DS' most popular games and people's recommendations, one that kept sticking out was "Ocarina of Time 3D", universally praised and ranked number one on a lot of people's lists. So as someone 26+ years late to the party, I thought I'd finally play my first Zelda game.
So far, I'm loving the game. It's fun and charming, the atmosphere is so nice and immersive, and I finally discovered all the iconic music and sound effects I've heard for YEARS in other stuff LOL. Currently I'm still early on in the game, just landed into the Royal Family's Tomb in Kakariko Village.

• (Main Topic - Me getting stuck)

I've got a huge question though, is the game supposed to be frustrating and hard to follow? I'm no stranger to these types of games and am used to exploring, backtracking and traveling, but I kept getting stuck ALOT.
In the beginning of the game at Kokiri village, I got stuck immediately. I was told to go find a "Sword and Shield" before I could see the great deku tree. So I went to the shop and bought a shield, and then thought "Well they got a stick for sale in here, so maybe that's the make shift sword for now?" but obviously that wasn't it. After running around the village more, I found the entrance to the The Lost woods. Being such a grand opening of an entrance I thought I was supposed to go in there to find a sword. After running around for 15 more minutes and getting lost over and over I realized this wasn't it either. So after running around the village more I found the crawlspace to learn how to dodge the moving boulder and found nothing again? But I figured that couldn't be it so I keep running around in circles and missed the chest THREE times because of the game's camera controls (maybe this is just a 3ds version issue?). Was I supposed to have a hard time finding the first sword? No one told me it would be at the back of town, behind a small crawlspace, past a moving boulder. The only clue I got was "You need a sword and shield to pass through here". I thought it honestly seemed more like a place to find a secret item, rather than an important story piece?
When I progressed to Hyrule Castle to try and see the princess, I got stuck again. During the portion where you have to sneak past the guards, I found the vines growing on the side of the wall. And after sneaking past to the side of the castle, I found an old guy sleeping? He wouldn't wake up no matter how many times I talked to him and I couldn't figure out what to do. So I thought I missed something and went back to town. When I couldn't find anything different in town I went back to the castle and noticed there was a girl named Malon standing next to the vines now. I talked to her and she said her dad fell asleep on his way to the castle during a delivery and asked if I could "wake him up". I thought "ah, now that I've talked to this girl I can wake up that guy". I did think it was really weird how she wasn't there before hand though, shouldn't she have been there the first time I tried to sneak in? Anyway I snuck to the side of the castle again and the guy WOULDN'T WAKE UP. I was super confused why he wouldn't wake up after I talked to Malon. After running around for 10 minutes and finding nothing, I decided to look up a guide. It turns out Malon gives you an egg, but only after you talk to her TWICE. She only gives you the important item you need if you speak to her again, after she finishes talking the first time?? Wouldn't it make more sense for her to say "hey can you wake up my dad if you find him? Also here is an egg" all in one? Why would I need to talk to her two times in a row for the progression item I need? Anyway, I got the egg and snuck past the guards again and when I made it to her dad it hatched into a chicken. I'm going to be real here, I got stuck again lol. I thought I would just talk to Malon's sleeping dad and he would finally wake up and I would give him a chicken as a gift? I knew chickens were animals in Zelda (and that you're never supposed to attack one) but it didn't even occur to me that the chicken in my inventory was an item to be equipped and used to wake up Malon's dad. I had to look at another guide for that one.
My third time getting stuck was after I talked to Zelda for the first time. After I talked to Zelda for the first time, I got to see the cool cutscene and spy on Ganon in the window. Afterwards, I get the Princess note thing and Zelda stops talking to me (I'm free to move around). At this point, I had been playing for over 2 hours so I saved and closed the game. When I came back to it later in the day, I was SUPER CONFUSED why I was back in Kokiri village. After looking it up, I get sent back there every time I save and close the game unless it's a dungeon?? Shouldn't that be a warning when you save?? "Warning, closing your game will have you awake in your bed in Kokiri village the next time you continue". I was really frustrated that I had to run back to Hyrule on foot, sneak past all the guards AGAIN, and then when I talked to Zelda I had to watch the cutscene AGAIN. It only took like 17 minutes, so it wasn't a huge deal but it was really frustrating how saving and closing the game made me lose progress.
The most recent time I got stuck was at the graveyard in Kakariko Village. After entering Kakariko village, I couldn't find anything to do since I couldn't progress into the mountain without the King's permission. I kept hearing about the graveyard though, so I figured that's where I should go next. I found the graveyard at the edge of town and read the gravestones one by one. When I got to the royal family's tomb some ghost popped out and I defeated them. The ghost told me some things and then disappeared afterwards. After that, I thought I was done in the graveyard, no chests, no branching paths, just the graveyard tour which I assumed was a minigame to get some rupees?. My train of thought was, okay so now maybe the king will be in town and I need to find him so he will give me permission to enter the mountain, I'll probably need to play my ocarina for him since Impa said the song will give me credibility for knowing the royal family. Guess who was wrong lol. I spent 30 minutes running around town checking every nook and cranny for something that would progress me forward. I gave up and looked at a guide again. Turns out I needed to play my ocarina at the royal family tomb to progress forward. Was I supposed to know to do that??? Did I miss some dialog at some point that tells me if I see a triforce symbol to play my ocarina on it? No one told me to do that. It seemed obvious when I thought about it, but there wasn't any tutorial or hints from Navi about it.

• (Conclusion)

Am I just incompetent?? Is progression in OOT supposed to be smooth sailing and I'm just fumbling the bag? I'm genuinely confused why I got stuck so many times this early on in the game. It's just really frustrating and disrupts the flow of what would other wise seem like a great story. Don't get me wrong, I'm going to keep playing, I love the gameplay and the visuals so far, plus it's kind of exciting since it's my first Zelda game. But man, is it supposed to be this frustrating for me? Are all Zelda games like this? Or is this just how games were in 1998? Am I just bad at this game? Lol

Just a really bored 16 year old girl from England looking for somebody to ramble to and eventually send cute letters to! I think I'd prefer communicating via email for a couple of weeks before moving into letters and postcards where I'd love to send little trinkets, photos or just silly things I find along the way. Preferably I'd like an international penpal (aged around 15-20) but the UK is good too. 😋
I'm intrested in talking about: -Anime (mostly shonen and romance with a bit of horror) -Games (mostly indie, Loz, Final fantasy, DSi/3DS, Switch and Wii) -Metal & rock/80's/90's music -Fantasy/Greek mythology/manga books -Any collections you've accumulated (my personal ones are CD's and plushies) -General life (Even the smallest things!!) -Pets (I have two dogs but I love pretty much all animals) -Childhood cartoons -Fashion and thrifting As well as much more... 😈
Just an fyi: Idm sharing struggles/difficult subjects but I don't want to discuss sh or su1c1dal thoughts please 🙏
Please DM if you're at all intrested 🫶🏽

Fill in the blanks at your own risk. I’ve posted here before and had good luck, and bad luck, and in between luck. I’m seeking a genuine connection. Not a rushed love story, not someone who only talks about themselves, but witty banter, light flirting and whatever else comes from that.
Some things that fill my cup are: •My gym routine - I’m dedicated to being strong - trying to prep for my old lady body.
•Craft Beer - I love breweries and trying new beers. My primary go to being IPAs
•Coffee - I take it a million different ways, I’m not a purist by any means.
•My Pets - I have a mutt and a cat (also a mutt).
•Live Music - I’ve been to over 200 concerts/shows/gigs and a few music festivals.
•Dive Bars and nights that never end - does this even need an explanation?
•Baseball and football - I can actually say Bay Area sports and people won’t have to guess anymore, so there’s that.
There is so much more to me and I’m very happy to discuss all of that. The only things that are a hard no for me are anime and video games. I don’t like either. I find that I’ve been told I’m charismatic, sassy and pretty funny.
I feel like transparency is important, I’m chubby. It’s not something I dislike about myself, but I understand if it’s not your type. Here is me - I don’t have too many pictures of me doing things because I’m always the one behind the camera for others: https://imgur.com/a/zRHIu54
If this sounds like a good time, or I sound like someone you’d get along with, let’s see where it goes. Chats preferred to start, other stuff can potentially be shared later. I don’t respond to low effort messages.

I'm a simple player , I love thematic necromancy debuffs. To me it's really frustrating that the strongest debuff is just hypnotic pattern. There's one spell that is iconic of the past for Debuffing and that is Ray of Enfeeblement. Back in 3.5 it was a ranged touch attack that gave you a penalty to strength, which afflicted both hit and damage rolls. No save and to make things better, it was a first level spell.
The overall amount of debuff was comparable to Bane more or less. I love bane. I think Bane is a dope spell even though everyone and their moms play Bless instead.
What I'm saying is that there a certain lack of interest in Ray of Enfeeblement because it's both a hit and constitution saving throw. I've never seen that spell suggested neither here nor in 3d6.
However it's important to note, that Ray of Enfeeblement does not have an initial Saving Throw to the first round effect, only Hit (and thank Gygax for that). So theoretically if you're facing a dragon and you got nothing better to do, you can spam it every turn just to diminish the damage of 1 round of attacks. This spell has another problem, is that tinkering with it in simple ways would make it too good.
Now, there is another 2nd level debuff that is also not popular but is just Con Save. That spell is Blindness/Deafness. It's just a con Save but it gains both Disadvantage to Hit and Advantage to being hit. I think it's dope thematically.
What I'm trying to say is that I wish these spells were kinda good for their own reasons. blindness/Deafness for example is not concentration; meanwhile Bane has a lesser effect but it is AoE and targets a way easier save to land at low levels.
Now, the playtest introduced Chthonic Tiefling, that species has Ray of Enfeeblement but it gets it at level 5 instead of 3. When you're level 5 and you're a fullcaster you have other spells like the new Conjure Animals or Hypnotic Pattern or Spirit Guardians, which are 3rd level but are very effective for their level. This means that you're not likely to use it for the single encounter of the day if you only have 1 encounter a day. Now I don't want to steer this into how many encounters a day a yada yada, that's not the focus. The focus is that the spell is not considered good enough for it's level.
My perception is that in theory that spell is a bit better than people think simply because in some cases, a hit is easier to land than a con Save.
I'm not a designer. I'm not gonna pretend I have the perfect design solution to make the spell meta. There's so many things you can change to the spell and make it too good very easily and that is also a problem.
I still have this burning desire to have this spell more suggested simply because a lot of DMs don't homebrew spells. The majority of DMs (I've encountered) simply say no to a request to change a spell and they have solid reasons to do so.
You have no idea how many times I wanted to pick Infestation but the cantrip was simply just not good. What happens is that you end up picking Toll the Dead every single time and your best bet is to reskin it to adapt to every character which is a symptom of discrepancy between spells.
There was an old post that I made on how Toll the Dead repetition made me empathize with martial problems that just spam attack and that's it. It was Toll the Dead that opened my eyes on how variety of actions is a satisfying aspect of a combat game. That post was well received.
Some Con saves are just not good enough. I don't know if you're aware, some of you are, but Poison Spray has been changed from con save to hit. I was so freaking happy for the change. Ray of Sickness is another spell that requires the hit to land in order for the con save to occur. Is that spell suggested? Well the answer is that people prefer other spells to it like Command, Dissonant Whispers, Guiding Bolt.
Spells can be different and both spells can be good for their own reasons. For example Slow isn't prioritized over Hypnotic Pattern, but Slow can affect more types of targets and doesn't end if you attack the target.
I'm crossing my fingers at this point for Ray of Enfeeblement
Now, if your only response is to just pick it anyway, you're missing the point. The point is that we have the right to bring up balance problems about anything that we want to play. Remember that people felt bad about Rangers in the past. Some are currently feeling bad about monk, even though there is hope for future monk. Don't brush it off as "just play it anyway".

Hey guys..
I know I am not the Admin here for the reddit - I do run the discord though, and some stuff has been brought to my attention that I just wanted to address, especially considering the Snark Page Admin is trying to sift through a lot of mod mail and stuff by themselves..
We need to talk about the Zombie Mom snarking --
While I understand it kinda started off as a joke to poke fun at ZM being a Joannie Cheerleader, I feel like some members are taking the ZM hate too far and it's kind of ruining the fun of this whole thing.
Yes, I know, some people may comment "Well this IS a SNARK page", yes, I understand that, but this is a JOANNIE snark, not a ZOMBIE MOM snark. While we all like to have fun and talk shit here, we need to remember that Zombie Mom is a human being who is not abusing her children. While she may support Joannie, whom we have an issue with, she hasn't done anything wrong herself. As for her wildin' out in the comment section here - I mean, can't we understand her perspective? The whole internet is coming after her and saying some real hateful things towards her and now apparently her children. I don't think this is fair, and at a certain point it does become harrassment. If we want to enjoy our community here, we need to be more careful fucking with other members whether or not they disagree with us. This goes for ZombieMom, LWA..
Natasha, meh, not my cup of tea, but we still should probably be more careful.. you get my point.
At a certain point, we are risking our snark page being taken down completely if the harassment/hate crosses a certain line towards ZM. Let's remember, she finds herself relating to Joannie, and is trying to see the best in her. While we may not agree, I hope we can all agree that ZM isn't necessarily some bad person.
Please, think twice before you engage with her in the comments. She's a human being. Let's keep some integrity here.
Don't be a Joannie.
As far as a message for ZM - Please disengage. I am trying to help you out here, but at this point you're going nuts. You were banned initially for a reason - and at this point you're making multiple accounts harrassing people as well. We all need to take a motha fuckin CHILL PILL, for the love of god. I'm gonna have an aneurysm.
For the love of god and all that is holy, can everyone please. Chill. the. fuck. out.
Thanks guys.
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