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2024.05.19 00:49 SilverMarinus My extensive guide to Hanzo playstyle post-nerf
Losing the one shot is definitely disappointing, however I don't think the character is dead. I know there's been a lot of hopelessness in the Hanzo community, but my aim is to help you guys improve your game so you can still excel on Hanzo and feel like a GOAT. In this post I'm gonna talk about the general playstyle that works for me on Hanzo, and how to adapt your playstyle based on the enemy comp. And at the end I'll put a couple tips for improving your aim.
Hanzo still has some distinct advantages that he can leverage against his enemies. His wall climb is amazing for a medium range hero, considering most other heroes either can't access high ground, or need to commit cooldowns to get there. Storm arrows are an incredibly consistent kill tool at medium/close range. And having a leap every 4 seconds, combined with wall climb, gives you the ability to be just as slippery as you are deadly. And of course, sonic arrow lets your whole team have wall hacks 50% of the time, and on defense, lets you see the enemy comp before they even come out the doors, allowing you to plan your positioning accordingly.
The thing is, most people think that hanzo is a long range hero, but he's really not. The only time you want to be shooting enemies from long range is before the fight to do pressure, get ult charge, and potentially get a pick on any hero that's taken chip damage. It's not about being a goat and hitting long range headshots. It's about proper medium/ close range positioning and proper timing, to make your shots easy to hit.
The way I play Hanzo is as a medium range pressure hero with incredibly high dps. You don't want to hold long range sniper angles on your own, you want to be active in the fight from medium range and use your slippery mobility to take off angles and high ground at opportune moments. Getting kills at close range is incredibly consistent with Hanzo, you just can't expect to get a 5k with headshots only. You want to take an off angle to get a kill or two with storm arrows. Then as soon as the enemies turn to react, use your leap and wall climb to escape.
It sounds crazy but you want to play on a razor's edge of feeding to maximize your damage output. Push in close from an off angle near your tank to get easy headshots and storm arrow kills, but always be one leap away from safety... Whether that's a high ground to climb up to, or just leaping back into your team.
I've also had some success with full committing on a hard flank, but the key is timing. You want to get behind/to the side of the enemy backline shortly after the two tanks clash. When the enemy supports are tunnel visioned on helping the frontline, THATS when you pop around the corner and take your shots on the supports and burst them with storm arrows. Best case scenario, you kill the supports, then the DPS, then finish the tank in a perfectly executed pincer attack. Worst case scenario, you distracted the supports and made people turn to shoot you, while the enemy tank is left with no support in the frontline.
There are times where it's better to just spam from main, and I'd say that's usually when your tank has a distinct disadvantage against the enemy tank and both are fighting in the frontline. Keeping constant pressure on that tank can help sway the matchup into your tank's favor, or at least make space for them. But of course, killing squishies can still carry games.
DIVE COMPS:
The other time to stay in main with your team is when the enemy team has flankers/ dive heroes who can kill you if you are isolated. Generally in those matchups, I just try to focus on hitting shots on the threatening mobile heroes. They won't push you if they're half HP. In these cases, using yourself as bait can be very effective.
Let's say there's an enemy Genji, you should play slightly outside of his dash range while also being near your healers. He will want to dash at you, but he will fall just short of hitting you. Then you can pop your storm arrows, but don't shoot. He will instinctively deflect. Now, suddenly the Genji is in the middle of your team with no dash and no deflect, while you still have a full volley of storm arrows. Similar tips can be used against Dva and Winston as well.
Against Wrecking Ball, it depends. You don't wanna try to kill him, just force him out. If he rolls back to his team, keep putting out pressure. But if he chooses to escape BEHIND your team, try to hit him with a sonic arrow as he's leaving, then you can tell where he's going. It helps a lot.
Against Tracer and Sombra, Keeping tabs on their position is key. Sonic arrow is good to scout flanks. Plag near your team, but DONT PLAY BEHIND YOUR SUPPORTS. Play in front of them. The ideal scenario is that they target one of your supports, then you can turn and shoot them while they're tunnel visioned. Your burst damage is high enough to often kill them, or at least enough to force them to run away and reset. When you do force them away, try to estimate how much time you have before they come back, and use that time to apply pressure to the frontline.
But let's say you werent able to scout them, and don't know exactly where they are, but you know they're lurking somewhere. Take a shot at the frontline and then do a 180. Literally check the flank after every shot. Good flankers generally wait for you to be distracted by the frontline before they pounce. By shooting the enemy tank and doing a 180 turn, you can keep applying pressure while still being able to react to the flank at a moment's notice.
This last tip is SUPER risky but it works sometimes. Sometimes when I'm facing a Dive comp or lots of flankers that are rolling me, I will actually flank as Hanzo. I will hide in a concealed area behind the enemy team and then when I'm confident that the flankers are in my backline, I'll start attacking the enemy backline. The reason this works sometimes is because when you're facing flankers, they will be lurking around YOUR backline. But if you're lurking in THEIR backline, you're essentially on the complete opposite side of the map from them and they'll have no clue. This is a strategy that pro players called "trading backlines". If the enemy flankers are going to kill your backline anyway, you may as well target their backline too. After all, Dive comps don't usually peel for their own backline, they commit to killing yours. This works especially well when they're hard targeting you specifically. The last place a flanker expects to find you is in their own backline.
POKE COMPS:
The name of the game is map control. A big mistake Hanzo players make is trying to ego duel hitscans from long range, banking on hitting long range shots to win. Straight up, don't do that. It's ok to aim for hitting one body shot to keep them in check or force them off their angle. Sonic arrow also helps deter them from peeking those angles. But the way you beat those long range heroes is getting up close and dumping storm arrows into their face. I will literally get close enough so that I could literally leap into their face and melee them to finish them if I wanted to. 3 storm arrows is 225 damage, to body shots or one headshot is 240, so getting leap-melee finishers is actually very useful. I KNOW it sounds crazy to play this close, but I urge you to challenge your beliefs about Hanzo. Your damage output is so high that you will beat pretty much every long range hero up close. Storm arrows are ridiculous. Though medium range storm arrows are fine if they're unaware of you or have cover to escape to.
Against Ashe, just remember that you have plenty of ways to delete Bob. Headshots while jiggle peeking from cover, or storm arrow headshots, or even using dragonstrike to melt him if he's near the enemy team.
And against widowmaker, use your sonic arrow to scout her specifically. If she's bad, she'll stay scoped in and let you line up headshots. If she's good, she'll hide for 5 seconds or take a new angle. This means you can push up while she's given up the angle.
Against poke comps, you know that you're always safe in cover, because they have no flankers. So as long as you're controlling the angles and bullying the enemy off of their angles, you will win over time by controlling all the space and winning the objective.
BRAWL COMPS:
Brawl comps are generally slow and tanky, and usually only good at close range. And many of the brawl heroes have big hitboxes, making it easier to hit them from further away. Hanzo LOVES playing against slow brawl comps. With your mobility, you can bully them from angles where they can't even contest you. Even if you don't get kills, you can farm ult so fast that you can zone them off the objective with dragons and do tons of damage to their clumped up team. Just don't spend too much time focusing the tank, because if they have lots of healing you probably won't kill them. Though you can still pressure the tank to make them fall back to buy space for your team.
RUSH COMPS:
Rush comps are kind of a hybrid between dive and brawl, and so many of the tips for both will apply. You want to put out lots of pressure, and take off angles when you can. BUT!!! You need to rotate back to your team sooner than you normally would. You might think you're safe from a decent range on an off angle, but a Lucio speed amp or Junker Queen shout, Rein pin, or Moira fade can let them rush you down much faster than you'd expect. Don't get greedy on your off angles, and dont expect kills. Even just hitting a shot or two to bait out defensive cooldowns like Shout, Wraith form, etc can lower the enemy team's lethality and make them hesitant to rush. If a rush comp gets a numbers advantage, they can pretty much run your team down for free. So don't get greedy.
Also, the baiting tip works well with rush comp too. If you're playing near your team, you can be in the front just behind your tank and bait the enemy team to rush you, and then you can quickly leap away and climb to high ground. Now, you're on high ground above a ground-based comp that just wasted resources to push you. You simply need to watch your spacing and use your slippery movement to dodge the rush. Just remember to play in sight of your healers incase you do take some damage.
People HATE Hanzo to a degree that is completely irrational, and they will literally feed their brains out to try and kill you. You can use that to your advantage. He has the mobility and burst damage to slip out of arms reach and burst them down, making them even more tilted, making them feed harder.
HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR AIM:
A HUGE tip that I've barely heard anybody talk about it a really simple one: Don't focus your eyes on your crosshair, focus your eyes BELOW your crosshair. Essentially you just aim at head height but focus your eyes on the enemy's body. Because it's much easier for your eyes to track a moving body than a moving head. Once I started doing this I noticed an immediate difference.
My personal favorite way to warm up my aim is a custom workshop code for an improved practice range: AJERA
Before every session, I go to the area by the roaming bots, and press interact on the blue orb near the ledge. It will spawn a flying Pharah bot. Then I climb up to the various high grounds and practice shooting Pharah from different ranges. Its hard at first, but once I can hit shots on her semi consistently, then I know I'm ready to queue.
And for practicing close range consistency, the central area has an orb that spawns a Lucio bot who jumps around and wall rides within an enclosed area.
The custom practice range also has a blinking Tracer bot to practice on, which is nice.
The only thing it's missing in my opinion is a jumping Genji bot, but there are other custom codes that have those like VAXTA, which is also good.
If you made it this far, thanks for reading! I hope these tips are useful for you. I know a lot of people are choosing to boycott Hanzo, and I respect that. But for me, I want to keep playing him and prove that he can still carry.
Now get out there and make your enemies tilted. ;)
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Hanzo still has some distinct advantages that he can leverage against his enemies. His wall climb is amazing for a medium range hero, considering most other heroes either can't access high ground, or need to commit cooldowns to get there. Storm arrows are an incredibly consistent kill tool at medium/close range. And having a leap every 4 seconds, combined with wall climb, gives you the ability to be just as slippery as you are deadly. And of course, sonic arrow lets your whole team have wall hacks 50% of the time, and on defense, lets you see the enemy comp before they even come out the doors, allowing you to plan your positioning accordingly.
The thing is, most people think that hanzo is a long range hero, but he's really not. The only time you want to be shooting enemies from long range is before the fight to do pressure, get ult charge, and potentially get a pick on any hero that's taken chip damage. It's not about being a goat and hitting long range headshots. It's about proper medium/ close range positioning and proper timing, to make your shots easy to hit.
The way I play Hanzo is as a medium range pressure hero with incredibly high dps. You don't want to hold long range sniper angles on your own, you want to be active in the fight from medium range and use your slippery mobility to take off angles and high ground at opportune moments. Getting kills at close range is incredibly consistent with Hanzo, you just can't expect to get a 5k with headshots only. You want to take an off angle to get a kill or two with storm arrows. Then as soon as the enemies turn to react, use your leap and wall climb to escape.
It sounds crazy but you want to play on a razor's edge of feeding to maximize your damage output. Push in close from an off angle near your tank to get easy headshots and storm arrow kills, but always be one leap away from safety... Whether that's a high ground to climb up to, or just leaping back into your team.
I've also had some success with full committing on a hard flank, but the key is timing. You want to get behind/to the side of the enemy backline shortly after the two tanks clash. When the enemy supports are tunnel visioned on helping the frontline, THATS when you pop around the corner and take your shots on the supports and burst them with storm arrows. Best case scenario, you kill the supports, then the DPS, then finish the tank in a perfectly executed pincer attack. Worst case scenario, you distracted the supports and made people turn to shoot you, while the enemy tank is left with no support in the frontline.
There are times where it's better to just spam from main, and I'd say that's usually when your tank has a distinct disadvantage against the enemy tank and both are fighting in the frontline. Keeping constant pressure on that tank can help sway the matchup into your tank's favor, or at least make space for them. But of course, killing squishies can still carry games.
DIVE COMPS:
The other time to stay in main with your team is when the enemy team has flankers/ dive heroes who can kill you if you are isolated. Generally in those matchups, I just try to focus on hitting shots on the threatening mobile heroes. They won't push you if they're half HP. In these cases, using yourself as bait can be very effective.
Let's say there's an enemy Genji, you should play slightly outside of his dash range while also being near your healers. He will want to dash at you, but he will fall just short of hitting you. Then you can pop your storm arrows, but don't shoot. He will instinctively deflect. Now, suddenly the Genji is in the middle of your team with no dash and no deflect, while you still have a full volley of storm arrows. Similar tips can be used against Dva and Winston as well.
Against Wrecking Ball, it depends. You don't wanna try to kill him, just force him out. If he rolls back to his team, keep putting out pressure. But if he chooses to escape BEHIND your team, try to hit him with a sonic arrow as he's leaving, then you can tell where he's going. It helps a lot.
Against Tracer and Sombra, Keeping tabs on their position is key. Sonic arrow is good to scout flanks. Plag near your team, but DONT PLAY BEHIND YOUR SUPPORTS. Play in front of them. The ideal scenario is that they target one of your supports, then you can turn and shoot them while they're tunnel visioned. Your burst damage is high enough to often kill them, or at least enough to force them to run away and reset. When you do force them away, try to estimate how much time you have before they come back, and use that time to apply pressure to the frontline.
But let's say you werent able to scout them, and don't know exactly where they are, but you know they're lurking somewhere. Take a shot at the frontline and then do a 180. Literally check the flank after every shot. Good flankers generally wait for you to be distracted by the frontline before they pounce. By shooting the enemy tank and doing a 180 turn, you can keep applying pressure while still being able to react to the flank at a moment's notice.
This last tip is SUPER risky but it works sometimes. Sometimes when I'm facing a Dive comp or lots of flankers that are rolling me, I will actually flank as Hanzo. I will hide in a concealed area behind the enemy team and then when I'm confident that the flankers are in my backline, I'll start attacking the enemy backline. The reason this works sometimes is because when you're facing flankers, they will be lurking around YOUR backline. But if you're lurking in THEIR backline, you're essentially on the complete opposite side of the map from them and they'll have no clue. This is a strategy that pro players called "trading backlines". If the enemy flankers are going to kill your backline anyway, you may as well target their backline too. After all, Dive comps don't usually peel for their own backline, they commit to killing yours. This works especially well when they're hard targeting you specifically. The last place a flanker expects to find you is in their own backline.
POKE COMPS:
The name of the game is map control. A big mistake Hanzo players make is trying to ego duel hitscans from long range, banking on hitting long range shots to win. Straight up, don't do that. It's ok to aim for hitting one body shot to keep them in check or force them off their angle. Sonic arrow also helps deter them from peeking those angles. But the way you beat those long range heroes is getting up close and dumping storm arrows into their face. I will literally get close enough so that I could literally leap into their face and melee them to finish them if I wanted to. 3 storm arrows is 225 damage, to body shots or one headshot is 240, so getting leap-melee finishers is actually very useful. I KNOW it sounds crazy to play this close, but I urge you to challenge your beliefs about Hanzo. Your damage output is so high that you will beat pretty much every long range hero up close. Storm arrows are ridiculous. Though medium range storm arrows are fine if they're unaware of you or have cover to escape to.
Against Ashe, just remember that you have plenty of ways to delete Bob. Headshots while jiggle peeking from cover, or storm arrow headshots, or even using dragonstrike to melt him if he's near the enemy team.
And against widowmaker, use your sonic arrow to scout her specifically. If she's bad, she'll stay scoped in and let you line up headshots. If she's good, she'll hide for 5 seconds or take a new angle. This means you can push up while she's given up the angle.
Against poke comps, you know that you're always safe in cover, because they have no flankers. So as long as you're controlling the angles and bullying the enemy off of their angles, you will win over time by controlling all the space and winning the objective.
BRAWL COMPS:
Brawl comps are generally slow and tanky, and usually only good at close range. And many of the brawl heroes have big hitboxes, making it easier to hit them from further away. Hanzo LOVES playing against slow brawl comps. With your mobility, you can bully them from angles where they can't even contest you. Even if you don't get kills, you can farm ult so fast that you can zone them off the objective with dragons and do tons of damage to their clumped up team. Just don't spend too much time focusing the tank, because if they have lots of healing you probably won't kill them. Though you can still pressure the tank to make them fall back to buy space for your team.
RUSH COMPS:
Rush comps are kind of a hybrid between dive and brawl, and so many of the tips for both will apply. You want to put out lots of pressure, and take off angles when you can. BUT!!! You need to rotate back to your team sooner than you normally would. You might think you're safe from a decent range on an off angle, but a Lucio speed amp or Junker Queen shout, Rein pin, or Moira fade can let them rush you down much faster than you'd expect. Don't get greedy on your off angles, and dont expect kills. Even just hitting a shot or two to bait out defensive cooldowns like Shout, Wraith form, etc can lower the enemy team's lethality and make them hesitant to rush. If a rush comp gets a numbers advantage, they can pretty much run your team down for free. So don't get greedy.
Also, the baiting tip works well with rush comp too. If you're playing near your team, you can be in the front just behind your tank and bait the enemy team to rush you, and then you can quickly leap away and climb to high ground. Now, you're on high ground above a ground-based comp that just wasted resources to push you. You simply need to watch your spacing and use your slippery movement to dodge the rush. Just remember to play in sight of your healers incase you do take some damage.
People HATE Hanzo to a degree that is completely irrational, and they will literally feed their brains out to try and kill you. You can use that to your advantage. He has the mobility and burst damage to slip out of arms reach and burst them down, making them even more tilted, making them feed harder.
HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR AIM:
A HUGE tip that I've barely heard anybody talk about it a really simple one: Don't focus your eyes on your crosshair, focus your eyes BELOW your crosshair. Essentially you just aim at head height but focus your eyes on the enemy's body. Because it's much easier for your eyes to track a moving body than a moving head. Once I started doing this I noticed an immediate difference.
My personal favorite way to warm up my aim is a custom workshop code for an improved practice range: AJERA
Before every session, I go to the area by the roaming bots, and press interact on the blue orb near the ledge. It will spawn a flying Pharah bot. Then I climb up to the various high grounds and practice shooting Pharah from different ranges. Its hard at first, but once I can hit shots on her semi consistently, then I know I'm ready to queue.
And for practicing close range consistency, the central area has an orb that spawns a Lucio bot who jumps around and wall rides within an enclosed area.
The custom practice range also has a blinking Tracer bot to practice on, which is nice.
The only thing it's missing in my opinion is a jumping Genji bot, but there are other custom codes that have those like VAXTA, which is also good.
If you made it this far, thanks for reading! I hope these tips are useful for you. I know a lot of people are choosing to boycott Hanzo, and I respect that. But for me, I want to keep playing him and prove that he can still carry.
Now get out there and make your enemies tilted. ;)
2024.05.19 00:47 SomeGuyInPants (28M) with no desire, ambition, goals, or higher education.
I worked for the same retail company for 8 years, working my way up from associate>key holder>assistant manager. Towards the end of things it became clear I was not respected or valued, so I stopped caring or treating anything seriously and was fired. It's been about 2 months. Education has always been difficult for me due to ADHD and major depression. I am not diagnosed autistic but suspect that I am on the spectrum. I feel socially, emotionally and intellectually stunted (I think also due in part to some severe trauma I experienced in my early 20's that I am unable to get past).
I used to be able to get by because I could get along with most everyone and make them laugh, but I don't have the energy to pretend anymore and my existing relationships are suffering as a result. I feel like I'm going insane. I lost my insurance but luckily my mom found a doctor who's helping me with some anti-depressants for free, though It's been about a week and they don't seem to be helping much.
I had a few interviews with a promising entry-level job in IT but was rejected, I'm assuming because my former boss had nothing good to say about me. I won't be able to afford rent by end of next month. I feel like everything is caving in around me. I haven't wanted to be alive for so long and feel like I'm just keeping myself alive to satisfy everyone else. I figured when my parents died I could finally wrap things up, because they're the only ones that wouldn't be able to handle my death. My sisters have families at least and they've always thought I was a freak loser anyway.
I feel like I cannot cope with my own mind and reality. I don't feel safe in my own skin. Like I don't have self control or self discipline sometimes. And my perception of time feels off. What is wrong with me and how have I made it this far? Please help
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I used to be able to get by because I could get along with most everyone and make them laugh, but I don't have the energy to pretend anymore and my existing relationships are suffering as a result. I feel like I'm going insane. I lost my insurance but luckily my mom found a doctor who's helping me with some anti-depressants for free, though It's been about a week and they don't seem to be helping much.
I had a few interviews with a promising entry-level job in IT but was rejected, I'm assuming because my former boss had nothing good to say about me. I won't be able to afford rent by end of next month. I feel like everything is caving in around me. I haven't wanted to be alive for so long and feel like I'm just keeping myself alive to satisfy everyone else. I figured when my parents died I could finally wrap things up, because they're the only ones that wouldn't be able to handle my death. My sisters have families at least and they've always thought I was a freak loser anyway.
I feel like I cannot cope with my own mind and reality. I don't feel safe in my own skin. Like I don't have self control or self discipline sometimes. And my perception of time feels off. What is wrong with me and how have I made it this far? Please help
2024.05.19 00:35 Gingrboo 10 yr old step son does not respect me
I’ve been around him since he was 4-5 yrs old. His mom isn’t in the picture, he never met his mom so I understand that’s probably a reason why he misbehaves and such. He’s always had behavior problems and anger but once I moved in because we had a child of our own he started disrespecting me and my role in the family. For example, I’ll ask him to help take out the trash maybe 2 hrs after school when I see him reaching for technology devices ( computer, cell phone) or I’ll ask him to change his school clothes and to pick up around his room and he’ll snap back at me by saying , why do you care? Why are you butting in? Why do I have to listen to you? Why do you tell me ? You’re not my parent or mom. He will start yelling and slamming things and then he starts crying out of frustration and just walks away or slams the door on me. By that point I let him be because I approached him respectfully, calmly and I simply spoke to him any way I would be speaking to my children or anyone else. I don’t raise my voice at all, I never have at him, I know I have to control my anger im the adult and example so I maintain my composure and I don’t call him names, I don’t belittle him I truly don’t see anything wrong with how I approach him at all. When his dad gets home I try then explaining by saying, said name I’m just being a parent and I’m asking you respectfully to please start helping by doing said thing because you haven’t done anything and are now on (device). If his grandparents are over they stay quiet and let him talk to me that way and then proceed to let my bf know that I instigated the child and made him get angry and that if I know he gets angry why am I telling him things. I corrected my bf and let him know his parents were wrong and lying he backed me up and then just tells me to ignore his parents because they don’t understand or agree. They’d rather we not tell our son anything because he has anger issues and just let him be but I’ve explained, that doesn’t do anything for anyone not even our son. If anything they’re showing him he doesn’t have to listen and their are no consequences and that the way he speaks to me is perfectly okay and that I’m the problem for trying to simply parent and show him responsibility at his age. I just don’t understand. I’ve told my partner I don’t even know what my role in the family should be, my in-laws don’t want me parenting him or correcting his behavior but they want me to do all the things a parent does. I’m sorry but I’m pregnant and have a 4 yr old and then to deal with him now makes me just not want to cook for him or do anything at all , the grandpa is here everyday because he has a room in the back so he cooks for him after school now and I understand my bf doesn’t appreciate that but I’m sorry I feel so disrespected and unappreciated and unwanted by his son that it now makes it hard for me to want to cook for him. I’m not saying I never do but after school unless I made a family meal I’m not going out of my way any longer to prepare him a meal, i have fruit and snacks for him of course but just not that. I accept it if I’m wrong but I’ve told my bf I feel so unwanted and it hurt and I don’t even know where I fit in this family. Sometimes I want to leave but then I know he’s a child and it’s our job as parents to go to therapy . I’ve asked my bf for 3 yrs now to have him and us go to therapy but he keeps putting it off. I feel that no one cares or takes my feelings into consideration and then I feel silly because I’m an adult and I feel this way over a 10 yr old.
I’d just like to hear if I’m honestly being unreasonable and should just be butting out like completely not saying anything to him or asking anything of him at all and just let him be. Sorry it’s so long but I appreciate anyone that actually read through it all
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I’d just like to hear if I’m honestly being unreasonable and should just be butting out like completely not saying anything to him or asking anything of him at all and just let him be. Sorry it’s so long but I appreciate anyone that actually read through it all
2024.05.19 00:34 Silly-Pie5057 Ideas…
So quick question to the general public… so i have boy (12) who has cell phone recently I just caught him on pornhub. I definitely have his cell phone watch but idk how they keep find ways to avoid parental controls on cell phones. So question’s is had did y’all handle this. I definitely know his at that age where his becoming interested in the opposite sex (F) just thought I would have more time.
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2024.05.19 00:30 Timely_Dimension9128 I need some advice.
Using a burner account because of the nature of this post.
I want to supply some context before jumping into the issue. I have two sisters and we were raised in a very emotionally, physically and domestically abusive household. We all went through a lot of dark and horrible things that children should never have to experience.
My eldest sister who this post is about has two children. Both not planned, and were born less than a year apart from each other. The father is in the picture but mentally unstable. My sister is not financially stable but always make sure that her children are fed well dressed and overall taken care of.
However the oldest of her children a five-year-old is out of control in terms of her behaviour. Drawing all her the house in Nutella, pens, makeup, etc. breaking toys, not listening to anything my sister tells her. Watching things too grown up for her on YouTube which is leading to her wetting the bed every night. She also has a new tendency of grinding food that my sister has bought into the carpet with her feet. Obviously this is not the child’s fault and is down to a lack of proper parenting
However I truly believe that my sister is trying to parent them, but is failing to get through to them. My sister has a very stressful life and itself her boyfriend is present but is in and out of jobs making them financially unstable and she relies on my father for money. She hates her job but has to remain there to try and fund their lives. Her house is the messiest house I think I’ve ever seen to the point where it is a safety hazard. She’s so stressed out that she smokes maybe five cigarettes an hour.
However,
She told me today that her five-year-old pushed her to her limits and she smacked her on the bum. This is something that makes me highly uncomfortable. And I’m not sure whether to report this social services.
It is evident that she cares for these children and love for them so much. I just don’t think she had time to learn how to parent or time to process the fact she was even having children to begin with.
Any advice is welcome, I’m not a parent myself, just a concerned aunt who wants to help.
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I want to supply some context before jumping into the issue. I have two sisters and we were raised in a very emotionally, physically and domestically abusive household. We all went through a lot of dark and horrible things that children should never have to experience.
My eldest sister who this post is about has two children. Both not planned, and were born less than a year apart from each other. The father is in the picture but mentally unstable. My sister is not financially stable but always make sure that her children are fed well dressed and overall taken care of.
However the oldest of her children a five-year-old is out of control in terms of her behaviour. Drawing all her the house in Nutella, pens, makeup, etc. breaking toys, not listening to anything my sister tells her. Watching things too grown up for her on YouTube which is leading to her wetting the bed every night. She also has a new tendency of grinding food that my sister has bought into the carpet with her feet. Obviously this is not the child’s fault and is down to a lack of proper parenting
However I truly believe that my sister is trying to parent them, but is failing to get through to them. My sister has a very stressful life and itself her boyfriend is present but is in and out of jobs making them financially unstable and she relies on my father for money. She hates her job but has to remain there to try and fund their lives. Her house is the messiest house I think I’ve ever seen to the point where it is a safety hazard. She’s so stressed out that she smokes maybe five cigarettes an hour.
However,
She told me today that her five-year-old pushed her to her limits and she smacked her on the bum. This is something that makes me highly uncomfortable. And I’m not sure whether to report this social services.
It is evident that she cares for these children and love for them so much. I just don’t think she had time to learn how to parent or time to process the fact she was even having children to begin with.
Any advice is welcome, I’m not a parent myself, just a concerned aunt who wants to help.
2024.05.19 00:07 createdinheaven My friend can't play Multiplayer
My friend just got Minecraft for his computer and doesn't have anything to do with an Xbox. He has parental controls and they don't allow him to use multiplayer. Does anyone know how to change these settings?
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2024.05.19 00:02 No-Abalone-6205 AITA For telling my mother off?
Hi first time posting here and sorry for my grammar, English is not my first language. I just need some perspective on this matter. So I (22M) live alone with my brother (14M). Our mother(42F) is working abroad with her boyfriend what means she is not at home with us. For some background. My Mother divorsed my father two years ago. He was an alcoholic who neglected me and my brother and thought that if he brings money home then he is releved from any parental responsibility. They lived separately for over 10 years and HATED EACH OTHER with passion, before they divorsed. My mom is no saint either. She loses her temper very fast what makes her say very cruel things. I was the scapegoat in the family because my i can't back off a fight eather, so when my mother attacked me verbaly i always clap back and that's what she wanted to have someone to screem at and blame for everything. My brother is very timid and the complete opposite of me. Oh and what i forgot to mention my mother is a compleat controll freak. There are many things she did (like hitting us when we were little because we did something wrong) but then she would be sweet as honey tu us for the next two weeks and then the cycle repeats. I know that some of you will tell that she is a bad mom but that's how she was raised and she doesn't know better. but in the last 6 or 7 years she tried to be better and it shows, So to the topic. When my mother divorsed my father and getting alimony for my brother (he fought for the lowes he could get) money was tight. My mother worked as a menager and I as a student couldn't get a full time job so i worked in some firms part time and did tutoring whenever I could. We had money to pay the bills and everything but when the month was over we had little savings (we live in a home in a village so there is always something to repair and sometimes it is tough). I wanted to pause my studies and go working but my mother was oposed of that. We fought about it too. So we came to a agreement that I will be living with my brother in our country and my mother will go work abroad. The first couple of weeks were fine but then the controll mode in my mother swithed on. She wanted to know when we get up, when we go to sleep, what we eat, what we are doing etc. And i don't mean like one or two times a day. She wanted to start a call with her on camera and the her everywhere. She was mad because we didn't replay to her messages because we were both in school. And it started to be very pushy, So the accident was yesterday when my brother, me and two of my fiends went out to eat in a restaurant (i didn't want to leave my brother behind and my friends like my brother so there was no problem). So we went out and when my mother found out she started to bombard us with questions like where, with who and other. That was perfectly fine. We answered everything and wanted to enjoy our night. But then She wanted to have pictures of the restaurant, the food - everything. I called her out on the group chat with me, her and my brother that we want to enjoy the food and we will talk to her when we get home. And i thought thats tsht. But then she started to write messages to my brother privetly, with the same questions over and over again. And my brother as a timid person answered. But then we went on a glowing fountain show and i to my brother that he should put his phone in my backpack when we go near water just to be save. The show was over we went bac to my car. Driving back home my brother takes his phone from my backpack and there is like 8 missed calls from our mother. (Quick note I have mostly my phone on silent and everyone who knows me knows that). He picks up the next call from her and then it starts. The screaming "WHERE ARE YOU? DO YOU KNOW WHAT TIME IT IS? WHY ARE YOU NOT PICKING UP YOUR PHONE? WHY ARE YOU STILL UP? WHERE IS YOUR BROTHER (me)? WHY ISN'T HE PICKING UP HIS PHONE" threats and other things like that. My brother tried to say something but she was cutting him off every time. He was about to cry so I said that he shoul give me on speaker (I was driving). When he did that i said that we will contact her when we will be back and we are on the way home so clearly we ar still not back home. She started to screm something about dangers with driving at night but i screamed back that the only thing distracting me from the road is she right now and she should hang up right now. After that she did hang up. And the next day she was like nothing ever happened. Or so i thought because when we came back from some garden work we get a message that She won't bother us because apparently she's bothering us because she's worried and we don't give a damn about it. And other crap like that. My brother starts crying and tries to phone her and she rejects his call, so he starts to apologise to her via text. I on the other hand locked my self in another room so my brother wouldn't hear me and tear my mother a new one via a voice message that if she wants to be angry at someone that better be angry at me because now brother is crying now because her, he is in distress because of that (She loves to use that kind of manipulation). That if she thougt I'm so irresponsible that i took my brother for a nice trip on a WEEKEND and we came back home at 23:30 again on a WEEKEND where he could sleep how much he wants then thats her problem. She answered that she wants just to make shure he and i are save. And thats what was when i lost it because a month prior she didn't had a problem to arrange for him a bus among strangers and for him to travel 15 hours through 3 countries to her place and leaving him alone in a apartment in a forign country for 9 hours and if she really thinks that guilttripping my brother is a good idea then there is something wrong with her. There were many other things said in that text. She didn't replay to it but wrote to my brother like nothing happens. So Am I wrong to tell my mother off?
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2024.05.18 23:52 Overall-Chef-5894 Why does muslims have a hard time accepting others beliefs?
I am an life-long atheist from a Christian country living in a city where about 70% are muslims. Most of my friends from that city are muslims, and I have one friend that really likes to discuss, especially about religion. He constantly tries talking me into reading the Quran, which I constantly refuse saying "it doesn't interest me" and he says he respects it, but then goes onto asking why I don't believe in Islam, even though I've been to the mosque and thought about converting (I got my heartbroken for the first time and was confused, trying to look for meaning, etc.).
My excuse then was that I wouldn't be able to control my desires (sex and bacon mmm) and my father wouldn't accept it. But in reality I think religion is the cause of so many real world crisis (such as Palestine and Israel) and will hold back development, like some of their ethical beliefs such as how he shouldn't act like gods (things we can do with AI). I've never told him, but given him hints about that I think religion is stupid by comparing Islam with the belief that everything is a simulation, as it's all about faith. There is no hard evidence of either and therefore I don't believe in it. It doesn't make logical sense to me and he even once said "you're a pretty logical sense, so don't you think Islam is logical?". I just think it's absurd man.
Parents beliefs will affect their children's belief. I hope the death of religion will happen in the near future (a couple of hundred years or less). I have nothing against people who believe in islam, it's their life and I don't wanna waste my time trying to convince them otherwise. I do believe in fate and a higher power. Not necessarily Allah, just something out there, as I have a very hard time believing that everything happened for no reason and it's all just a coincidence (the precision of physics and math in general is insane and small changes in decimals would be the death of the universe). I wouldn't say I have a lot of knowledge about Islam, but I would say I have enough to not believe in it.
Sorry if there are any spelling or grammatical errors... English is not my first language....
Now for my questions to all you ex-muslims: * Have you had similar experiences, when discussing beliefs with others/muslims? Were you once like this?
* Do you still believe in higher power or officially nothing or maybe another religion?
* What's your view on the conflicts created by religion?
* Are there still things you agree with thats connected with Islam? (not sure if this is phrased correctly...)
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My excuse then was that I wouldn't be able to control my desires (sex and bacon mmm) and my father wouldn't accept it. But in reality I think religion is the cause of so many real world crisis (such as Palestine and Israel) and will hold back development, like some of their ethical beliefs such as how he shouldn't act like gods (things we can do with AI). I've never told him, but given him hints about that I think religion is stupid by comparing Islam with the belief that everything is a simulation, as it's all about faith. There is no hard evidence of either and therefore I don't believe in it. It doesn't make logical sense to me and he even once said "you're a pretty logical sense, so don't you think Islam is logical?". I just think it's absurd man.
Parents beliefs will affect their children's belief. I hope the death of religion will happen in the near future (a couple of hundred years or less). I have nothing against people who believe in islam, it's their life and I don't wanna waste my time trying to convince them otherwise. I do believe in fate and a higher power. Not necessarily Allah, just something out there, as I have a very hard time believing that everything happened for no reason and it's all just a coincidence (the precision of physics and math in general is insane and small changes in decimals would be the death of the universe). I wouldn't say I have a lot of knowledge about Islam, but I would say I have enough to not believe in it.
Sorry if there are any spelling or grammatical errors... English is not my first language....
Now for my questions to all you ex-muslims: * Have you had similar experiences, when discussing beliefs with others/muslims? Were you once like this?
* Do you still believe in higher power or officially nothing or maybe another religion?
* What's your view on the conflicts created by religion?
* Are there still things you agree with thats connected with Islam? (not sure if this is phrased correctly...)
2024.05.18 23:49 No_Way118 Hopeless lonely trans woman
Please do not be concerned for my safety and wellbeing this is a ventpost. I have a partner who is taking care of me but I don't feel like they can take a lot of this self loathing talk.
I'm so sick of letting myself be walked over by people around me. I feel so lacking in connection and my home situation is always making my self esteem even lower than the outside world does.
I don't feel safe leaving the house and I've spent all day crying. I've struggled finding employment that lasts longer than a few months and I'm now 24 feeling like I have no proof of achievement or hope that life is going to get all that much better than this. I'm starting to feel like I'm the worst enemy of my own issues. I'm so anxious and people are put off how fucking miserable I am all the time but I can't help but think I should have more control over my emotions like other people do.
Currently staying at my partner's parents house where I'm not allowed to stay past 10pm on weekdays because it makes them "uncomfortable". I just really hate how my existence and the way I look is so triggering to so many around me, including most my family of which I still talk with only two.
Only escape I can currently find right now is thinking about ending it and hurting myself for attention.
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I'm so sick of letting myself be walked over by people around me. I feel so lacking in connection and my home situation is always making my self esteem even lower than the outside world does.
I don't feel safe leaving the house and I've spent all day crying. I've struggled finding employment that lasts longer than a few months and I'm now 24 feeling like I have no proof of achievement or hope that life is going to get all that much better than this. I'm starting to feel like I'm the worst enemy of my own issues. I'm so anxious and people are put off how fucking miserable I am all the time but I can't help but think I should have more control over my emotions like other people do.
Currently staying at my partner's parents house where I'm not allowed to stay past 10pm on weekdays because it makes them "uncomfortable". I just really hate how my existence and the way I look is so triggering to so many around me, including most my family of which I still talk with only two.
Only escape I can currently find right now is thinking about ending it and hurting myself for attention.
2024.05.18 23:48 AcceptableSet3916 "Jealous wedding guest ruins the money shot": An Essay About The Woman In The Photo
First of all, I would like to say THANK YOU to all of you that showed so much love to my first post ever in Reddit!
Since my girl Millie got too much hate for wearing white and ruining the best photo of the wedding, I decided to write her sad story and share it with all of you. It's a LONG tale, full of ups and mostly downs (TLDR at the end of the post). Sooo, grab some cookies and popcorn while I spill the tea ;)
******WARNING******** The story features what I believe to be unsettling content (pregnancy loss) for some. It's hidden as spoiler, so please don't click it if it's a sensitive issue for you. <3
Our story starts with poor young adult who shall not be named (because I don't remember her name). God (me) had big plans and challenges for her, as she started with 0 simoleons in an off the grid island, with hopes of her becoming a millionaire. She moved in the big island without money, a place to sleep, a toilet, nothing. The challenge goes like this: raise money from beachcombing, buy a towel to sleep on, buy a bush to pee in, snorkel, plant and build a life from zero. And, under no circumstances communicate with another sim.
This challenge was too difficult. The loneliness and hardships, the struggle to just survive and find food, led this young girl to her death by drowning in the middle of the ocean. It was too soon, so God decided to try this challenge again, giving the new sim a head start.
That leads us to the protagonist of the story, Millie Carson.
Millie Carson is a young adult who moved in the same island, like a castaway. All she found on that island was a towel, some planted trees, a toilet bush and a grave.
The ghost from the grave came often to haunt and tease her and finally became her enemy.
At first, young Millie tried to stay away from other sims but, since they kept coming and visiting, God decided that it was ok for her to have some friends.
Millie's neighbors were Miki and Ali, a happy couple with two babies. They kept visiting and bringing food to their poor young neighbor, since she was struggling so much. Millie grew close with Ali, who came swimming to her island sometimes.
Meanwhile, Millie learned some skills that earned her some money and food. She became really good at fitness, gardening and fishing. Little by little, she earned enough money to buy diving supplies and took up some diving photography and treasure hunting. All those helped her build a tiny wood home which finally had a toilet and a shower and even a fridge. Life was getting better for Millie, until she started having feelings for her married neighbor...
Millie was attracted to Ali: his long blond hair, his green eyes and dark skin. To her surprise, Ali was interested in her as well. She tried to fight it but it was over her own power to resist. They made sweet woohoo and became a couple, while he was still married with two kids.
Love makes you do stupid things and that's what happened to Millie. She fell in love with a married man and, surprise surprise, she got pregnant with his kid.
While on her 1st trimester, she visited her neighbolover's home to tell him the news. His wife, Miki, opened the door and the sight was unbelievable: She was pregnant as well, on her 3rd trimester. Millie chatted with Miki as nothing was wrong and even socialized with her kids for a bit. But it was now time for Ali to learn the truth. Millie pulled him aside and told him everything.
To her surprise, Ali was content with being a parent to their child. Millie felt his support and fell even harder for him, causing her to do the unthinkable: Woohoo with him all over his tiny house while his wife and two kids were inside! They woohood EVERYWHERE: The small single bed, the kitchen sink, the counters, standing... They almost got caught by Miki, but hopefully she was so pregnant that it took her an eternity to reach the woohoo spot.
Millie started thinking about their future. Tormented by her jealousy, she asked Ali about Miki. Miki's super pregnant belly was an indicator that Ali still loves and woohoos with his wife, two-timing both women. To her dismay, Ali confessed his love about Miki, but he was willing to keep his relationship with Millie. But that wasn't enough for Millie...
Without hesitation, Millie served Ali an ultimatum: It's her or Miki. No love triangles, no hiding. Her kid needed a father and she needed support as a poor young woman. All those pregnancy hormones made her unreasonable - she came between a happy couple and now she felt that her lover's wife stole him from her, even though they were already together! The irony!
Millie couldn't get over her feelings, so she invited Miki over and told her EVERYTHING. That she was pregnant. That the father was poor Miki's husband. Miki got even yelled at for sleeping with her own husband. Millie was out of control.
Like a tsunami, a force that couldn't be stopped, Millie called over Ali and told him to break it off with his wife. It was now or never. Ali did as told and suddenly Miki broke down crying, hating life and those two who ruined it.
Eventually, Miki left and the.. happy couple were finally alone. Millie asked Ali to move in and he gladly accepted. He even proposed and they stayed engaged until after their baby girl, Angelique, was born.
Meanwhile, even though Miki was hating them, she still came over with extra food like a good neighbor. But her relations with the couple never improved much.
The happy couple decided to get married. Millie wore a pretty but simple boho white dress, hair down and golden jewelry. But her joyful smile was the prettiest jewel she could wear. It was a lovely, quiet wedding on the seashore, during sunset.
Soon after, Millie got pregnant again but wasn't ready or happy for it. Unfortunately, there were some complications with the pregnancy and baby Donovan was born dead. They buried him under a lemon tree and cried for many seasons about him.
Ali started helping Millie with gardening, fishing and diving. But his dream was to finally earn his degree in Communications. He still had 3 classes to pass and then he could enter the PR world. He soon earned his degree with a low to medium score and was ready to start working. There was a huge problem, though...
The island was off the grid and he could not apply for the job, not use the very much needed internet. A decision had to be made: Should they live on this island forever, living off the land, or they should move somewhere else and follow Millie's dream to become millionaires?
The choice was easy. The couple moved to Finchwick, in a big cottage house with a big garden, front and back. They brought with them the plants they had gardened with so much love and also bought some chickens. Life was good for a while, baby Angelique was growing but woohoo life was... fine.
Ali found a job in PR and had to work all day, even from home. He had to polish his charisma and writing skills and meet new people. So, that made Millie a stay at home mom, a gardener, a housekeeper. But there was no time for her lifestyle needs: outdoor living and working out. She became frustrated and was always in a bad and uncomfortable mood. She had gained a lot of weight from her pregnancy, she hardly recognized herself in the mirror...All this bad mood made her cranky. Everytime Ali tried to woohoo with her, she had no drive. So, their love life went down the drain...
Meanwhile, Ali was doing great at work, earning at least 2000 simoleons per day. He had met many people, and one of them became a really good friend of his. His name was Gabriel and he was thin, with black short hair, dark skin and modern makeup.
Ali was tormented by his feelings when he hang out with Gabriel. He couldn't understand how a man can be attracted to another guy like that. He was open to the idea, but had never acted upon it. It wasn't the looks - Gabriel was pretty basic. But there was something about the both of them that made him feel... amazing. The attention he got from Gabriel, the friendship.. It was like they knew each other from another lifetime.
Every time Gabriel came over, Ali got excited. He was interested in his words and inner world, not only his appearance. One night, he couldn't take it anymore. While they were talking the backyard table, Ali started flirting with Gabriel. Things got heated fast and they shared the most beautiful first kiss. That was exactly what he always wanted to feel, but was missing from his other relationships. He proposed to have woohoo in the home office, while Millie and Angelique were sleeping unaware upstairs...
They woohood hard and many times. It was a total WoohooFest. Morning came and Ali, having not slept at all, got ready to go to work. He didn't forget to kiss his wife goodbye, but he spent the entire day thinking about Gabriel. By night, he had decided to ask Gabriel to become his boyfriend.
Millie on the other side, was getting better. She bought a walking machine and she often went swimming in the river. Her woohoo drive was coming back strong and that meant more time with her beloved husband. They started woohooing more often, but Ali was also missing Gabriel...
God suddenly had an idea! Ali should ask Millie to have expanded woohoo with someone else, and that someone else couldn't be other than (yes, you guessed it) Gabriel. Ali went on and asked his wife and God told her that yes, it would be fun! So, unaware of God and her husband's plans, she happily accepted to engage in multiple sim woohoo...
Ali was so excited! He couldn't believe his ears! He immediately called over Gabriel and explained the situation. Gabriel accepted as well and it was time for Gabriel to meet with Millie. Millie tried to get to know him but for some reason he was distant. She tried to flirt with him but he didn't reciprocate. Millie got embarrassed and locked herself in her room for some time, to recollect herself. It shouldn't be so hard, right?
At the same time, Ali made his move on Gabriel and they woohood. Gabriel was more than excited to get together with Ali. So, why not Millie?
After Millie got over her embarrassment, she came out the room. Ali proposed having multiple woohoo and they did it. Everyone had a pleasant time.
After that, they got together two more times. But, the last time, at Gabriel's house, was the final blow.
Millie kept trying to flirt alone with Gabriel, not getting the message but, DUDE. He was NOT into her. It was heartbreaking. She tried so hard for her husband, her self esteem and again, she was turned down. A second choice. She didn't deserve it. And then, she though about it. The flirt between Ali and Gabriel. How they would have woohoo, the three of them, but Gabriel was rejecting her. It was time for answers...
Millie first told Ali to end the expanded woohoo agreement. It was too much for her. He wasn't happy about it, but he agreed. And then, she asked the million dollar question: "What's going on between you two?". Ali tried to hide it, told her they were only friends. But God was starting to feel bad about poor Millie, so had her ask again: "WHAT'S GOING ON BETWEEN YOU TWO?"
The answer was like a knife, going through her heart. Ali loved Gabriel and that's all she needed to know. Their woohoo life was non existent before and now had found someone who made him feel better, more... alive! That's all Millie needed to know. She went over to Gabriel and try to make a last, desperate woohoo pass at him. Once more, he rejected her. It was all so clear. She was the third wheel.
Her ego and her heart were stomped on the ground, like a cockroach. A beautiful, kind, hard working sim shouldn't go through all that. She headed back home, to the privacy of her bedroom and cried her eyeballs out. Ali didn't come home that night and went straight to work.
The next day, Millie invited Gabriel over. Oooh no, she wouldn't let him have Ali so easily. She would humiliate him first. He came over and she started yelling at him. Her face was red and hot, she was fueled by rage. She ending up giving him the beating of his life. When Ali came home from work, both his lovers were black and blue from fighting.
Baby Angelique started crying. She had woken up. Millie rushed upstairs to help her toddler with her needs, but Ali and Gabriel stayed downstairs. Ali tried to comfort Gabriel, asking him to stay. He didn't care about his marriage anymore. God led them to the hall upstairs, outside the bedrooms. They started woohooing again, right there, like animals!
Poor Millie, as she opened her daughter's bedroom's door, she caught her cheater husband in the act! THE AUDACITY!!! And if it that wasn't enough, when she went over to slap him, he acted like she wasn't there and went to woohoo in the shower with his boyfriend - AGAIN! WTH!!!
At this point, Millie knew it was time to give Ali the boot and kick him the hell out of their home, and so she did. After Ali's lover left, the married couple had a long, heated conversation that only had one outcome - Ali had to move out immediately.
So, he left and rented a one-bedroom apartment in the city. He also decided to ask Gabriel to live with him, and Gabriel happily accepted. A new chapter started for Ali but unresolved things were left in the middle with his wife that needed to be dealt with.
While all these took place, Millie had gotten close with celebrity Rahul Chopra. They became good friends and she was invited to his wedding. It was a one of a kind event because Rahul had a shotgun wedding with his wife when they were teenagers due to unwanted pregnancy. After many kids later, Rahul's eldest daughter, with the villainous valentine aspiration (long story) decided to break her eternally faithful parents up for fun. So they did break up, but they were so made for each other, like puzzle pieces, that it was impossible to not end up together again.
Rahul fell back in love with his wife and they decided to do it right this time. They planned the perfect wedding event in San Myshuno's park, during sunset. The whole family was there and their 2nd child, Philip (YA) would take the professional pictures of the wedding.
The ceremony started, everyone (almost) was seated and the photographer (and me) were preoccupied with taking the happy couples pictures. As the ceremony ended, the couple was ready to share their first kiss as husband and wife. The air was filled with confetti that floated playfully around them, the fireworks were set off behing them and the sun was showering them with the warmest rays. It was a one time opportunity to get the perfect picture. Philip got ready to press click. And then, she appeared.
Millie, clearly bothered and heartbroken by other people's love, made a run for the exit and ruined Philip's perfect photograph. The angry look on her face would forever haunt Philip's mind. Why would that woman ruin this happy moment and why the hell would she wear white at someone's wedding? I mean, you wouldn't mistake her for the bride, who wore an expensive wedding gown, but still... Something was wrong with this girl and Philip had to find out...
After the wedding, Millie went back home. The days passed and the divorce was not finalized. She asked her kid who she wanted to stay with, but without reply. She called Ali over, but he texted back he didn't want to come over. Millie had her -now child- daughter call over her dad. This time, Ali responded positively and soon after he arrived. Millie took him straight to the lawyers to see who will get custody of Angelique.
This time, God had no plans, God left it all to luck. So, unfortunately, Ali won custody of Angelique, who immediately went to live with him. Now, Millie was alone. Only her and her money and her baby son's grave in the front yard. Now she was angry, NOW HE WOULD PAY.
Millie grabbed Ali and went once again to the lawyers. It was now time to split the estate. At least 100k simoleons in the bank, plus whatever the house is worth. Millie wants to get everything, but once again, God won't interfere. She comes back home, head down, beaten - she lost 80k.
She turns to her new friend, Philip. He is basic, but he's a good guy. He lives alone in an apartment in San Myshuno, studies Fine Arts in university, comes from a good family. He also has a girlfriend that lives across the hall from him, but Millie doesn't know. And God tells her to come onto him. Now Philip has two girlfriends and God must interfere.
God and luck are playing games with Millie's life.
As I'm writing her story, there's only one thing I feel: Sad.
This girl started out with hopes and dreams. So I think that we should forgive her for attending a friend's wedding wearing white. Some God forgot to change her formal outfit and it was all she had to wear. She's going through a lot!
Her story ends for now, but if you guys like it I might write more about her life's adventures.
Also, what should she do with Philip? Let me know in the comments!
If you read this whole essay / story , you are amazing! And thanks! Hope you liked it! :)
TLDR: YA woman starts with 0 money in off the grid island. Wants to earn a million. Gets pregnant by married neighbor with kids. Marries him and they buy new home. They get pregnant second time, lose the baby.He gets a good job, meets new people, gets new guy friend, has woohoo with that friend. The 3 of them have expanded woohoo. Woman breaks it off. Woman confronts husband about loving other man, he confesses he loves him. Woman kicks him out and he lives alone in flat. The other guy moves in with him. Woman heartbroken, goes to friends wedding wearing white, is angry at happy couple's love, ruins the married couple kiss photo. Photo becomes famous on Reddit. Woman loses custody of only child. Woman loses 80k simoleons after splitting estate. Woman becomes girlfriend of the photographer from the friend's wedding. Photographer already has another girlfriend.
*****EDIT*********** I can't believe I forgot to write this, but Millie also drowned in the ocean while being fatigued from diving for treasures. I decided to not save and give her a second chance. Her life is dramatic, UUUUUUGH!!!!
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Since my girl Millie got too much hate for wearing white and ruining the best photo of the wedding, I decided to write her sad story and share it with all of you. It's a LONG tale, full of ups and mostly downs (TLDR at the end of the post). Sooo, grab some cookies and popcorn while I spill the tea ;)
******WARNING******** The story features what I believe to be unsettling content (pregnancy loss) for some. It's hidden as spoiler, so please don't click it if it's a sensitive issue for you. <3
Our story starts with poor young adult who shall not be named (because I don't remember her name). God (me) had big plans and challenges for her, as she started with 0 simoleons in an off the grid island, with hopes of her becoming a millionaire. She moved in the big island without money, a place to sleep, a toilet, nothing. The challenge goes like this: raise money from beachcombing, buy a towel to sleep on, buy a bush to pee in, snorkel, plant and build a life from zero. And, under no circumstances communicate with another sim.
This challenge was too difficult. The loneliness and hardships, the struggle to just survive and find food, led this young girl to her death by drowning in the middle of the ocean. It was too soon, so God decided to try this challenge again, giving the new sim a head start.
That leads us to the protagonist of the story, Millie Carson.
Millie Carson is a young adult who moved in the same island, like a castaway. All she found on that island was a towel, some planted trees, a toilet bush and a grave.
The ghost from the grave came often to haunt and tease her and finally became her enemy.
At first, young Millie tried to stay away from other sims but, since they kept coming and visiting, God decided that it was ok for her to have some friends.
Millie's neighbors were Miki and Ali, a happy couple with two babies. They kept visiting and bringing food to their poor young neighbor, since she was struggling so much. Millie grew close with Ali, who came swimming to her island sometimes.
Meanwhile, Millie learned some skills that earned her some money and food. She became really good at fitness, gardening and fishing. Little by little, she earned enough money to buy diving supplies and took up some diving photography and treasure hunting. All those helped her build a tiny wood home which finally had a toilet and a shower and even a fridge. Life was getting better for Millie, until she started having feelings for her married neighbor...
Millie was attracted to Ali: his long blond hair, his green eyes and dark skin. To her surprise, Ali was interested in her as well. She tried to fight it but it was over her own power to resist. They made sweet woohoo and became a couple, while he was still married with two kids.
Love makes you do stupid things and that's what happened to Millie. She fell in love with a married man and, surprise surprise, she got pregnant with his kid.
While on her 1st trimester, she visited her neighbolover's home to tell him the news. His wife, Miki, opened the door and the sight was unbelievable: She was pregnant as well, on her 3rd trimester. Millie chatted with Miki as nothing was wrong and even socialized with her kids for a bit. But it was now time for Ali to learn the truth. Millie pulled him aside and told him everything.
To her surprise, Ali was content with being a parent to their child. Millie felt his support and fell even harder for him, causing her to do the unthinkable: Woohoo with him all over his tiny house while his wife and two kids were inside! They woohood EVERYWHERE: The small single bed, the kitchen sink, the counters, standing... They almost got caught by Miki, but hopefully she was so pregnant that it took her an eternity to reach the woohoo spot.
Millie started thinking about their future. Tormented by her jealousy, she asked Ali about Miki. Miki's super pregnant belly was an indicator that Ali still loves and woohoos with his wife, two-timing both women. To her dismay, Ali confessed his love about Miki, but he was willing to keep his relationship with Millie. But that wasn't enough for Millie...
Without hesitation, Millie served Ali an ultimatum: It's her or Miki. No love triangles, no hiding. Her kid needed a father and she needed support as a poor young woman. All those pregnancy hormones made her unreasonable - she came between a happy couple and now she felt that her lover's wife stole him from her, even though they were already together! The irony!
Millie couldn't get over her feelings, so she invited Miki over and told her EVERYTHING. That she was pregnant. That the father was poor Miki's husband. Miki got even yelled at for sleeping with her own husband. Millie was out of control.
Like a tsunami, a force that couldn't be stopped, Millie called over Ali and told him to break it off with his wife. It was now or never. Ali did as told and suddenly Miki broke down crying, hating life and those two who ruined it.
Eventually, Miki left and the.. happy couple were finally alone. Millie asked Ali to move in and he gladly accepted. He even proposed and they stayed engaged until after their baby girl, Angelique, was born.
Meanwhile, even though Miki was hating them, she still came over with extra food like a good neighbor. But her relations with the couple never improved much.
The happy couple decided to get married. Millie wore a pretty but simple boho white dress, hair down and golden jewelry. But her joyful smile was the prettiest jewel she could wear. It was a lovely, quiet wedding on the seashore, during sunset.
Soon after, Millie got pregnant again but wasn't ready or happy for it. Unfortunately, there were some complications with the pregnancy and baby Donovan was born dead. They buried him under a lemon tree and cried for many seasons about him.
Ali started helping Millie with gardening, fishing and diving. But his dream was to finally earn his degree in Communications. He still had 3 classes to pass and then he could enter the PR world. He soon earned his degree with a low to medium score and was ready to start working. There was a huge problem, though...
The island was off the grid and he could not apply for the job, not use the very much needed internet. A decision had to be made: Should they live on this island forever, living off the land, or they should move somewhere else and follow Millie's dream to become millionaires?
The choice was easy. The couple moved to Finchwick, in a big cottage house with a big garden, front and back. They brought with them the plants they had gardened with so much love and also bought some chickens. Life was good for a while, baby Angelique was growing but woohoo life was... fine.
Ali found a job in PR and had to work all day, even from home. He had to polish his charisma and writing skills and meet new people. So, that made Millie a stay at home mom, a gardener, a housekeeper. But there was no time for her lifestyle needs: outdoor living and working out. She became frustrated and was always in a bad and uncomfortable mood. She had gained a lot of weight from her pregnancy, she hardly recognized herself in the mirror...All this bad mood made her cranky. Everytime Ali tried to woohoo with her, she had no drive. So, their love life went down the drain...
Meanwhile, Ali was doing great at work, earning at least 2000 simoleons per day. He had met many people, and one of them became a really good friend of his. His name was Gabriel and he was thin, with black short hair, dark skin and modern makeup.
Ali was tormented by his feelings when he hang out with Gabriel. He couldn't understand how a man can be attracted to another guy like that. He was open to the idea, but had never acted upon it. It wasn't the looks - Gabriel was pretty basic. But there was something about the both of them that made him feel... amazing. The attention he got from Gabriel, the friendship.. It was like they knew each other from another lifetime.
Every time Gabriel came over, Ali got excited. He was interested in his words and inner world, not only his appearance. One night, he couldn't take it anymore. While they were talking the backyard table, Ali started flirting with Gabriel. Things got heated fast and they shared the most beautiful first kiss. That was exactly what he always wanted to feel, but was missing from his other relationships. He proposed to have woohoo in the home office, while Millie and Angelique were sleeping unaware upstairs...
They woohood hard and many times. It was a total WoohooFest. Morning came and Ali, having not slept at all, got ready to go to work. He didn't forget to kiss his wife goodbye, but he spent the entire day thinking about Gabriel. By night, he had decided to ask Gabriel to become his boyfriend.
Millie on the other side, was getting better. She bought a walking machine and she often went swimming in the river. Her woohoo drive was coming back strong and that meant more time with her beloved husband. They started woohooing more often, but Ali was also missing Gabriel...
God suddenly had an idea! Ali should ask Millie to have expanded woohoo with someone else, and that someone else couldn't be other than (yes, you guessed it) Gabriel. Ali went on and asked his wife and God told her that yes, it would be fun! So, unaware of God and her husband's plans, she happily accepted to engage in multiple sim woohoo...
Ali was so excited! He couldn't believe his ears! He immediately called over Gabriel and explained the situation. Gabriel accepted as well and it was time for Gabriel to meet with Millie. Millie tried to get to know him but for some reason he was distant. She tried to flirt with him but he didn't reciprocate. Millie got embarrassed and locked herself in her room for some time, to recollect herself. It shouldn't be so hard, right?
At the same time, Ali made his move on Gabriel and they woohood. Gabriel was more than excited to get together with Ali. So, why not Millie?
After Millie got over her embarrassment, she came out the room. Ali proposed having multiple woohoo and they did it. Everyone had a pleasant time.
After that, they got together two more times. But, the last time, at Gabriel's house, was the final blow.
Millie kept trying to flirt alone with Gabriel, not getting the message but, DUDE. He was NOT into her. It was heartbreaking. She tried so hard for her husband, her self esteem and again, she was turned down. A second choice. She didn't deserve it. And then, she though about it. The flirt between Ali and Gabriel. How they would have woohoo, the three of them, but Gabriel was rejecting her. It was time for answers...
Millie first told Ali to end the expanded woohoo agreement. It was too much for her. He wasn't happy about it, but he agreed. And then, she asked the million dollar question: "What's going on between you two?". Ali tried to hide it, told her they were only friends. But God was starting to feel bad about poor Millie, so had her ask again: "WHAT'S GOING ON BETWEEN YOU TWO?"
The answer was like a knife, going through her heart. Ali loved Gabriel and that's all she needed to know. Their woohoo life was non existent before and now had found someone who made him feel better, more... alive! That's all Millie needed to know. She went over to Gabriel and try to make a last, desperate woohoo pass at him. Once more, he rejected her. It was all so clear. She was the third wheel.
Her ego and her heart were stomped on the ground, like a cockroach. A beautiful, kind, hard working sim shouldn't go through all that. She headed back home, to the privacy of her bedroom and cried her eyeballs out. Ali didn't come home that night and went straight to work.
The next day, Millie invited Gabriel over. Oooh no, she wouldn't let him have Ali so easily. She would humiliate him first. He came over and she started yelling at him. Her face was red and hot, she was fueled by rage. She ending up giving him the beating of his life. When Ali came home from work, both his lovers were black and blue from fighting.
Baby Angelique started crying. She had woken up. Millie rushed upstairs to help her toddler with her needs, but Ali and Gabriel stayed downstairs. Ali tried to comfort Gabriel, asking him to stay. He didn't care about his marriage anymore. God led them to the hall upstairs, outside the bedrooms. They started woohooing again, right there, like animals!
Poor Millie, as she opened her daughter's bedroom's door, she caught her cheater husband in the act! THE AUDACITY!!! And if it that wasn't enough, when she went over to slap him, he acted like she wasn't there and went to woohoo in the shower with his boyfriend - AGAIN! WTH!!!
At this point, Millie knew it was time to give Ali the boot and kick him the hell out of their home, and so she did. After Ali's lover left, the married couple had a long, heated conversation that only had one outcome - Ali had to move out immediately.
So, he left and rented a one-bedroom apartment in the city. He also decided to ask Gabriel to live with him, and Gabriel happily accepted. A new chapter started for Ali but unresolved things were left in the middle with his wife that needed to be dealt with.
While all these took place, Millie had gotten close with celebrity Rahul Chopra. They became good friends and she was invited to his wedding. It was a one of a kind event because Rahul had a shotgun wedding with his wife when they were teenagers due to unwanted pregnancy. After many kids later, Rahul's eldest daughter, with the villainous valentine aspiration (long story) decided to break her eternally faithful parents up for fun. So they did break up, but they were so made for each other, like puzzle pieces, that it was impossible to not end up together again.
Rahul fell back in love with his wife and they decided to do it right this time. They planned the perfect wedding event in San Myshuno's park, during sunset. The whole family was there and their 2nd child, Philip (YA) would take the professional pictures of the wedding.
The ceremony started, everyone (almost) was seated and the photographer (and me) were preoccupied with taking the happy couples pictures. As the ceremony ended, the couple was ready to share their first kiss as husband and wife. The air was filled with confetti that floated playfully around them, the fireworks were set off behing them and the sun was showering them with the warmest rays. It was a one time opportunity to get the perfect picture. Philip got ready to press click. And then, she appeared.
Millie, clearly bothered and heartbroken by other people's love, made a run for the exit and ruined Philip's perfect photograph. The angry look on her face would forever haunt Philip's mind. Why would that woman ruin this happy moment and why the hell would she wear white at someone's wedding? I mean, you wouldn't mistake her for the bride, who wore an expensive wedding gown, but still... Something was wrong with this girl and Philip had to find out...
After the wedding, Millie went back home. The days passed and the divorce was not finalized. She asked her kid who she wanted to stay with, but without reply. She called Ali over, but he texted back he didn't want to come over. Millie had her -now child- daughter call over her dad. This time, Ali responded positively and soon after he arrived. Millie took him straight to the lawyers to see who will get custody of Angelique.
This time, God had no plans, God left it all to luck. So, unfortunately, Ali won custody of Angelique, who immediately went to live with him. Now, Millie was alone. Only her and her money and her baby son's grave in the front yard. Now she was angry, NOW HE WOULD PAY.
Millie grabbed Ali and went once again to the lawyers. It was now time to split the estate. At least 100k simoleons in the bank, plus whatever the house is worth. Millie wants to get everything, but once again, God won't interfere. She comes back home, head down, beaten - she lost 80k.
She turns to her new friend, Philip. He is basic, but he's a good guy. He lives alone in an apartment in San Myshuno, studies Fine Arts in university, comes from a good family. He also has a girlfriend that lives across the hall from him, but Millie doesn't know. And God tells her to come onto him. Now Philip has two girlfriends and God must interfere.
God and luck are playing games with Millie's life.
As I'm writing her story, there's only one thing I feel: Sad.
This girl started out with hopes and dreams. So I think that we should forgive her for attending a friend's wedding wearing white. Some God forgot to change her formal outfit and it was all she had to wear. She's going through a lot!
Her story ends for now, but if you guys like it I might write more about her life's adventures.
Also, what should she do with Philip? Let me know in the comments!
If you read this whole essay / story , you are amazing! And thanks! Hope you liked it! :)
TLDR: YA woman starts with 0 money in off the grid island. Wants to earn a million. Gets pregnant by married neighbor with kids. Marries him and they buy new home. They get pregnant second time, lose the baby.He gets a good job, meets new people, gets new guy friend, has woohoo with that friend. The 3 of them have expanded woohoo. Woman breaks it off. Woman confronts husband about loving other man, he confesses he loves him. Woman kicks him out and he lives alone in flat. The other guy moves in with him. Woman heartbroken, goes to friends wedding wearing white, is angry at happy couple's love, ruins the married couple kiss photo. Photo becomes famous on Reddit. Woman loses custody of only child. Woman loses 80k simoleons after splitting estate. Woman becomes girlfriend of the photographer from the friend's wedding. Photographer already has another girlfriend.
*****EDIT*********** I can't believe I forgot to write this, but Millie also drowned in the ocean while being fatigued from diving for treasures. I decided to not save and give her a second chance. Her life is dramatic, UUUUUUGH!!!!
2024.05.18 23:41 Sweet-Count2557 Best Travel Toys For 5 Month Old
 | Best Travel Toys For 5 Month Old submitted by Sweet-Count2557 to worldkidstravel [link] [comments] Exploring the world with a baby can be an exciting adventure. But, while they may not have any say in where you go and what you do, it’s important to bring along some of their favorite things too! Choosing the right travel toys for your 5 month old is essential for ensuring that both your little one and yourselves are happy on the road. As a travel expert specializing in infant journeys, I'm here to guide you through selecting the Best Travel Toys For 5 Month Old that will keep them entertained and content during those long car or plane rides! Rattles And Teethers Traveling with an infant can be a daunting task, but it doesn't have to be! With the right travel toys for your 5-month-old baby, you can make sure that every journey is enjoyable. Rattles and teethers are essential for any trip - they give babies something to hold, soothe them when upset, and provide hours of entertainment. For traveling purposes, lightweight rattles are ideal - look for ones made from soft materials like cloth or silicone, as those will easily fit in a diaper bag. If possible, find options that come with different textures and shapes; this way you'll keep your little one's attention longer. Soothing sounds are also key: pick out some musical options that will help lull them into peaceful slumber while on the go. When choosing rattles and teethers for your 5 month old baby, always consider portability and convenience over size and complexity. Traveling should never mean sacrificing comfort; by equipping yourself with the right tools you can ensure your child has all the sensory stimulation they need without having to lug around extra items along the journey. And who knows? You might even enjoy it too! Books And Music Now that you have chosen the rattles and teethers for your 5 month old, it is time to think about other toys they can enjoy while traveling. Books and music are great options since they both provide an educational opportunity as well as entertainment during long trips. For books, look into interactive ones with bright colors and fun characters. These types of books will keep your baby entertained throughout the journey: A touch-and-feel book with different textures on each page An alphabet board book that teaches letter recognition A pop-up book made from sturdy paper that stands up to wear and tear Interactive music is also a great tool for keeping your infant engaged during travel. Consider these musical items: A toy instrument like a xylophone or drum set so your little one can make their own tunes Educational songs featuring animal noises, counting, letters, etc. Playlists of calming classical music for naps in transit With books and music at hand, you'll be able to create a learning environment no matter where you are! Keep in mind that safety comes first when selecting any type of toy; always double-check age recommendations before purchasing anything for your 5 month old. Soft Toys It won't be long before you and your 5-month old baby are packing up the car for a road trip. As an expert in infant travel, I recommend having soft toys, to keep them entertained as well as comfortable during their travels. Here's a list of some of my favorite travel toy companions: ToyAge RangeWeightTeddy Bear Rattle0+ Months2 lbs.Cuddle & Coo Owl3+ Months.99 lbs.Soft Book0+ Months1 lbLamaze Activity Gym0+ Months4 lbs. Soft toys are great when traveling with an infant because they provide sensory stimulation through bright colors and engaging textures. They also give babies something familiar to hold onto while exploring new sights, sounds, and smells on the open road. Plus, they're small enough to fit into diaper bags or backpacks without taking up too much space! When it comes time to say goodbye to home comforts, these beloved friends can serve as a reminder that no matter how far away from home we may go, there will always be something along for the ride that is sure to make us feel loved and secure - even if it’s only just a little plush bear rattle! Activity Mats Traveling with a 5-month old can be both exciting and daunting. To make it easier, having the right travel toys is essential. Activity mats are perfect for keeping your baby entertained during long trips. They’re lightweight, foldable, and easily stored away when not in use. Plus they come in many different designs that promote imaginative play and sensory exploration through tactile materials. Activity mats provide endless hours of fun at home or on the go because they’re made from durable yet soft baby-safe materials like cotton and foam which makes them travel-friendly too! Your little one will love exploring all the textures and colors of the mat while developing motor skills as well as hand-eye coordination. They’ll also love getting lost in their own world of pretend play using various shapes, patterns, and objects found on the activity mat! Your 5 month old deserves to enjoy every journey with you just as much as you do! With an activity mat, they won’t only have something entertaining to play with but something that promotes learning too – making it a win-win situation for everyone involved! So why wait? Get creative with your travels by investing in some portable toys that your baby can cherish no matter where life takes them. Stacking Blocks And Puzzles Ah, the joys of traveling with an infant! Nothing quite compares to it. It's a special time - and one that can be made even more enjoyable when you have the right travel toys for your 5-month old little one. Here are some ideas that just might make life on the go a bit easier: Stacking blocks and puzzles: These are great for helping babies develop their fine motor skills while learning about colors, shapes, numbers, letters and other concepts. Not only do they provide hours of fun but also help create strong cognitive connections in young minds. Building Blocks: This is another favorite among five month olds because they allow them to experiment with gravity as well as discover new ways to build structures by connecting pieces together. Plus, building blocks come in all sorts of colors and shapes which helps stimulate tactile senses as well sensory development too. Sensory Toys: Finally, consider investing in a few sensory toys (rattles, teethers, or stuffed animals) that will help engage the baby’s sense of hearing, touch, and sight while on the move. Just make sure they aren't too noisy so as not to disturb other travelers! Traveling with an infant doesn't need to be stressful – especially if you plan ahead and pick up a couple of age-appropriate items like stacking blocks or puzzles before heading out on your journey. With these simple tips in mind, you'll be able to enjoy yourselves during those long days spent away from home without breaking the bank either! Push And Pull Toys When it comes to traveling with a 5-month old, push-and-pull toys can provide an invaluable source of entertainment. From bouncy seats to travel strollers, these items are guaranteed to keep your little one engaged during even the longest trips. If you're searching for something that's easy to transport and set up quickly, a bouncy seat is ideal. Its lightweight design makes it simple to move from place to place without taking up too much space. Plus, its soft material is comfortable enough for prolonged periods of use. Travel strollers offer more stability than traditional ones due to their durable frames and tight turns capabilities. The ergonomic handlebars make them particularly convenient when navigating busy streets or tight corners in airports. Furthermore, they contain ample storage compartments so parents can easily store all the essentials while on the go – like snacks, extra clothes, and diapers! All in all, push and pull toys are must-haves for any parent looking for a stress-free experience when travelling with young babies. Activity Centers When it comes to travel toys for a 5 month old, activity centers offer a great range of educational benefits. Not only can they help promote cognitive development, but they also provide a stimulating environment to help your little one practice their motor skills. Before you buy an activity center, it's important to ensure you're following all safety guidelines to ensure the safety of your baby. Educational Benefits When it comes to educational benefits, activity centers are a great way for 5 month olds to learn and develop new skills! They're designed with language development and motor skill growth in mind. Plus, the bright colors and fun sounds provide plenty of stimulation for their growing minds. And when you're traveling, these all-in-one toys can be easily packed away or even attached to the stroller so your little one has access to them wherever they go. With an activity center, you can rest assured that your child's learning process is not put on pause during your travels - allowing them to continue to grow and have fun along the journey! So why wait? Invest in an activity center today for your 5-month-old traveler – because nothing beats being able to take education on the road. Motor Skill Development As a dedicated travel expert and consultant for baby/infant travels, I know how important it is to help your little one grow even while on the go. Motor skill development can be achieved in many different ways with an activity center! Playing with buttons, pulling strings, pushing levers, or turning knobs - they're all great ways to enhance their motor skills. Plus, these activities will also encourage socializing as you talk about what each part does. What's more? These toys are designed so that they can easily transition from playtime to bathtime without any fuss. So don't wait - get an activity center today and watch your child learn new skills wherever the road takes them! Safety Guidelines When traveling with an infant or toddler, it's important to consider safety guidelines. This is especially true when using activity centers! Make sure that the center has a secure base and won't move once placed on any surface. Additionally, avoid leaving your little one unattended for long periods of time - even if they are sitting in their activity center. Babysitting tips such as having another adult present can help you enjoy some well-deserved freedom while still keeping your child safe. Don't forget: use common sense and make sure all parts are age appropriate before letting them play! With these simple rules, there's no reason why both parents and children alike shouldn't be able to travel safely while enjoying the benefits of an activity center. Baby Gyms The activity centers are great for keeping your 5 month old occupied at home, but when it comes to travel safety and entertainment on the airplane, baby gyms have you covered. Baby gyms come in different shapes and sizes that easily fold away so they can fit into your carry-on luggage with no problem. Many of them even come equipped with a mirror, hanging toys, and activities designed specifically to stimulate developing minds. Baby gyms provide ample opportunities for exploration during flights, as well as being safe enough to use in confined spaces like an airplane cabin or hotel room. You don't need to worry about loose parts or small pieces getting lost; most models incorporate all the elements into one interactive unit. Traveling parents will also appreciate that the setup is quick and easy – just unroll it from its compact carrying case and pop out the connecting rods - so there's plenty of time left over for exploring new places! These versatile items make long journeys more enjoyable by providing endless hours of fun without taking up too much space in your travel bag. Plus, given their unique designs, your 5 month old won't be able to resist discovering what lies inside these colorful play areas! Playpens As a travel expert specializing in baby/infant travel, I recommend playpens as one of the best options for keeping your 5 month old safe and entertained during trips. Playpens offer convenience and portability, allowing you to keep an eye on your little one wherever you go. Plus, they can make any unfamiliar environment more secure and comfortable for babies. Here are some tips when choosing the right playpen: Look for models with adjustable heights so that it can grow with your child’s needs. Select lightweight designs that fold easily and come with carrying cases or straps for extra mobility. Choose materials that are easy to clean and transport without taking away from comfort. Make sure the playpen meets safety standards like ASTM International Standards before purchasing. When traveling with your infant, it's important to have a secure place where you can set them down safely while still having access to their belongings such as toys or diapers. Playpens provide peace of mind by giving parents control over their child’s surroundings without sacrificing freedom or spontaneity of movement during holidays or excursions abroad. The key is finding a balance between practicality, portability, and kid-friendly features—playpens provide just that! Stuffed Animals Stuffed animals may seem like a classic, but often overlooked option when it comes to travel toys for 5-month-olds. But don't be fooled: they can provide just as much comfort and entertainment on the road as all those other fancy gadgets. Portable cuddles and soft sensory stimulation are what make these playthings so great – not to mention that there's something special about loving a stuffed animal from infancy through adulthood. One of the best things about travel toys in this category is their size. Tiny teddy bears, bunnies, and dinosaurs fit easily into carry-on bags (or even pockets) without taking up too much space or adding extra weight. These small wonders also come at an affordable price point, allowing parents to stock up on multiple items without breaking the bank. Plus, since most babies love snuggling with something soft, it's easy to find one that suits your little one's individual preferences. You can have some fun playing around with different textures when you select your baby's new companion. Experimenting with fabrics like plush fur and corduroy gives them plenty of tactile exploration opportunities while providing comforting companionship whenever needed during your travels together. So go ahead and give the tried-and-true stuffed animal a chance: odds are it'll become your infant's favorite toy in no time! Frequently Asked Questions What Age Should My Child Be Before I Start Traveling With Them? When it comes to traveling with your infant, the most important factor to consider is their age. Generally speaking, you should wait until at least 6 months before beginning any kind of travel plans for a baby - this gives them time to build up an immunity and strength in order to handle the stresses and environmental changes associated with being on the go. Additionally, having all your packaging essentials (diapers, wipes, formula, etc) ready beforehand will help make sure that everything goes as smoothly as possible when you leave home. When done right, traveling with a young child can be a fun and rewarding experience – just remember to plan ahead! How Much Should I Spend On Travel Toys For My 5 Month Old? When it comes to travel toys for your 5 month old, one of the most important things to consider is how much you should spend. As a travel expert specializing in baby and infant travel, I recommend carefully selecting quality toys that suit your budget so that both mommy and baby can have an enjoyable trip. With such a wide selection available nowadays, there are plenty of options when it comes to finding the perfect toy - just make sure they meet all traveling requirements! Taking into account cost as well as safety and entertainment needs will help ensure a successful journey with your little one - allowing freedom to explore while still having peace of mind. Are There Any Safety Considerations To Keep In Mind When Selecting Travel Toys? When selecting travel toys for your 5 month old, it is important to consider safety first. Choosing materials that are non-toxic and durable will ensure your baby's health and well-being. Additionally, you should look out for toy features such as removable parts or button attachments that could present a choking hazard. As a travel expert specializing in infant travel, I highly recommend considering these factors when choosing the best travel toys for your little one! How Can I Make Sure That My 5 Month Old Stays Entertained While Traveling? Traveling solo with a 5-month-old can be quite the challenge, especially when it comes to keeping them entertained. However, with some clever planning and socializing tips, you can make sure your little one has an enjoyable journey. You'll need to select toys that are age-appropriate, small enough to fit in their bag, and safe for travel use. Look for items like teething rings or rattles that will keep them interested while also helping them learn new skills such as grasping and reaching. Additionally, provide plenty of stimulation through conversations and songs during long trips! With these strategies in place, you can ensure a fun-filled adventure for both parent and baby alike! How Often Should I Replace Or Upgrade My 5 Month Old's Travel Toys? A travel expert's dream, upgrading and replacing your 5 month old's travel toys are an absolute must for parents on the go! To make sure that your little one stays entertained while traveling, you should always have a variety of toy types and travel gear readily available. From teething rings to stuffed animals, there are countless options that will help keep them content no matter how long their journey may be! With the right selection of toys and a bit of creative thinking, you can ensure that your baby stays happy and occupied - making it easier than ever to explore new places together. Conclusion Traveling for a 5-month-old can be daunting, but it doesn't have to be. With the right travel toys and safety considerations in mind, you'll be able to ensure your little one stays entertained while on the go. You don't need to break the bank when selecting toys; investing in a few good quality items that last is key. It's also important to keep an eye out for upgrades as your baby grows. As long as you're prepared, traveling for a 5-month-old is like taking a journey of discovery - full of fun surprises along the way! |
2024.05.18 23:28 Imaginary_Worker7834 big stupid vent! :D
the sweetest person ever commented on my last post and gave me some really nice advice, i eventually took it and told him everything, im not gonna give any context here because im lazy but it was hard for awhile and eventually worked out, he accepts me and still loves me as long as i dont transition!
even now that things are good with him, the depression and suicidal thoughts and allat arent getting any better, theyre actually getting worse. ive been having really extreme mood swings more often and more intensely, without him i cant even get out of bed or move around, ive barely done any of my schoolwork thats all due by july, and i still very much hate myself!
i pinky promised him i wouldnt leave him, that means no killing myself. i love him so much and i take pinky promises really seriously but i dont know why i did that, i hate it and i want to end everything but i know that im the only thing keeping him here, i guess that why i promised. but frick man :(
i dont know how long i can last, i dont have any sort of future im so incredibly stupid and lazy and i always self sabotage, how am i supposed to get a job or go to college one day? im 14 and ive already tried to kill myself multiple times, hows it gonna feel to be 18 one day???
i just dont know what to do. i dont know if i want advice or if i just want to write this down or something but i dont think any advice will help this time.
im on medication, citalopram, that ive been on for a few months now since my last hospitalization and ive been begging my mum not to make me take it. i know she cant MAKE me but me refusing dtressed her out and i dont want to hurt her anymore i just cant take it. the feeling of taking them just disgusts me and reminds me of my attempt, they make me scared that its gonna control me and then im reminded everytime im happy that its not just me, i have stupid medication in me.
i just dont know what to do. i cant avoid school forever, i dont think i have any sort of future, im genuinely just hopeless. i really wish he fell in love with someone else who was more stable, not me, hes the sweetest boy in the world and he doesnt deserve to have to always deal with me.
last night i got sad because we didnt have one of the ingredients to make a shirley temple at 1 in the morning and started crying, i got all dry and sad and i almost ruined his night. why the hell am i like this.
ive been asking my parents and doctors to test me for adhd, austism and bpd but they wont. i hate it. autism because of my anxiety, bpd because im 14 even though i know that they technically can test me, and adhd for whatever reason, they just wont. i want to kill them all. i dont understand why they cant just get me some tests and let me know whats wrong with me.
my dad too, i want to kill him. i hate him. he ruins everything. awhile ago he (52?) got mad at my brother (19) and my mom (42?) was scared so i went out and he took off his hoodie and started going towards my brother aggressively so i got inbetween them and started SCREAMING at my dad that if he touches my brother ill kill him. now, like everytime, weve just been acting like nothing ever happened. why cant he aknowledge it and kill himself or something, i hate him. he refuses to stop drinking even when its ruining all of us and then he blames me for being young and "selfish" and "ruining all of their lives" i hste him
i got a little emotional writing this so my bad, idek if anyones reading this but if you are have a great day and remember to eat (youre perfect, i pinky promise) and remember to drink some water and dont drink or smoke too much please and remind someone that you love them and just take care of yourself! bye bye, sorry!!
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even now that things are good with him, the depression and suicidal thoughts and allat arent getting any better, theyre actually getting worse. ive been having really extreme mood swings more often and more intensely, without him i cant even get out of bed or move around, ive barely done any of my schoolwork thats all due by july, and i still very much hate myself!
i pinky promised him i wouldnt leave him, that means no killing myself. i love him so much and i take pinky promises really seriously but i dont know why i did that, i hate it and i want to end everything but i know that im the only thing keeping him here, i guess that why i promised. but frick man :(
i dont know how long i can last, i dont have any sort of future im so incredibly stupid and lazy and i always self sabotage, how am i supposed to get a job or go to college one day? im 14 and ive already tried to kill myself multiple times, hows it gonna feel to be 18 one day???
i just dont know what to do. i dont know if i want advice or if i just want to write this down or something but i dont think any advice will help this time.
im on medication, citalopram, that ive been on for a few months now since my last hospitalization and ive been begging my mum not to make me take it. i know she cant MAKE me but me refusing dtressed her out and i dont want to hurt her anymore i just cant take it. the feeling of taking them just disgusts me and reminds me of my attempt, they make me scared that its gonna control me and then im reminded everytime im happy that its not just me, i have stupid medication in me.
i just dont know what to do. i cant avoid school forever, i dont think i have any sort of future, im genuinely just hopeless. i really wish he fell in love with someone else who was more stable, not me, hes the sweetest boy in the world and he doesnt deserve to have to always deal with me.
last night i got sad because we didnt have one of the ingredients to make a shirley temple at 1 in the morning and started crying, i got all dry and sad and i almost ruined his night. why the hell am i like this.
ive been asking my parents and doctors to test me for adhd, austism and bpd but they wont. i hate it. autism because of my anxiety, bpd because im 14 even though i know that they technically can test me, and adhd for whatever reason, they just wont. i want to kill them all. i dont understand why they cant just get me some tests and let me know whats wrong with me.
my dad too, i want to kill him. i hate him. he ruins everything. awhile ago he (52?) got mad at my brother (19) and my mom (42?) was scared so i went out and he took off his hoodie and started going towards my brother aggressively so i got inbetween them and started SCREAMING at my dad that if he touches my brother ill kill him. now, like everytime, weve just been acting like nothing ever happened. why cant he aknowledge it and kill himself or something, i hate him. he refuses to stop drinking even when its ruining all of us and then he blames me for being young and "selfish" and "ruining all of their lives" i hste him
i got a little emotional writing this so my bad, idek if anyones reading this but if you are have a great day and remember to eat (youre perfect, i pinky promise) and remember to drink some water and dont drink or smoke too much please and remind someone that you love them and just take care of yourself! bye bye, sorry!!
2024.05.18 23:21 Proud-Arm7227 My (22F) boyfriend (22M) of 6 years told me he has intrusive thoughts about not finding me attractive. What do I do?
TL;DR: My (22F) boyfriend (22M) might have OCD and has intrusive thoughts about him not finding me attractive and I don’t know how to go forward
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. He was perfect and everything I could have ever asked for. I wanted to marry him and I really thought we were soulmates. I’ve never been a super skinny girl, and always sat around 150 lbs but I carry it well. Three years or so into our relationship, he told me about these intrusive thoughts but they centered around him not finding me attractive after I had kids or how I’ll look once I’m older. We were able to talk through it and move past it, he went to a therapist for a while too and it seemed to be completely fine for a few years. We concluded he might have OCD but he was never diagnosed. Seemingly out of nowhere, yesterday he broke into tears and told me the thoughts have gotten bad again and that he isn’t sure if he finds me attractive or not. He said it’s like his brain has these requirements for a perfect body, which I guess I don’t meet. I asked if this would be happening if I was skinny and he just didn’t say anything. He obviously feels terrible about it but it’s even harder for me to hear. I have gained some weight in the last year due to various health issues that really made it so it was out of my control and this is weight I plan on losing once I’m physically able to. I’m also a college student who doesn’t really have the time to exercise or afford to diet and look like a super model. I left to stay to stay with my parents since we live together and I needed time to think. The last thing he said is that he does love me more than this and he’d be willing to see a therapist again. I just don’t know what to do. He was my whole life and I put so much trust into him. I feel like after this it can never be the same. If we break up, I’d also be stuck in a lease with him for 3 more months. I feel so lost and hurt and am just so unsure of how to move forward. How could anyone ever recover from this?
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I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. He was perfect and everything I could have ever asked for. I wanted to marry him and I really thought we were soulmates. I’ve never been a super skinny girl, and always sat around 150 lbs but I carry it well. Three years or so into our relationship, he told me about these intrusive thoughts but they centered around him not finding me attractive after I had kids or how I’ll look once I’m older. We were able to talk through it and move past it, he went to a therapist for a while too and it seemed to be completely fine for a few years. We concluded he might have OCD but he was never diagnosed. Seemingly out of nowhere, yesterday he broke into tears and told me the thoughts have gotten bad again and that he isn’t sure if he finds me attractive or not. He said it’s like his brain has these requirements for a perfect body, which I guess I don’t meet. I asked if this would be happening if I was skinny and he just didn’t say anything. He obviously feels terrible about it but it’s even harder for me to hear. I have gained some weight in the last year due to various health issues that really made it so it was out of my control and this is weight I plan on losing once I’m physically able to. I’m also a college student who doesn’t really have the time to exercise or afford to diet and look like a super model. I left to stay to stay with my parents since we live together and I needed time to think. The last thing he said is that he does love me more than this and he’d be willing to see a therapist again. I just don’t know what to do. He was my whole life and I put so much trust into him. I feel like after this it can never be the same. If we break up, I’d also be stuck in a lease with him for 3 more months. I feel so lost and hurt and am just so unsure of how to move forward. How could anyone ever recover from this?
2024.05.18 23:13 grandmacuntbell quitting.
i’m 22F in germany as an au pair, i’m looking to leave my host family and rematch. i’ve come to this realisation tonight after i was asked to watch the kids on a saturday night for a few hours.
by the second week here, i knew i didn’t want to continue with this family. but i continued assuming that it would get better and it wouldn’t be that bad, plus i really like the host mom and the family really needed the help.
after 4 months in germany, i am ready to leave my host family, mainly because of the children. they don’t respect me whatsoever.
tonight, the mom told me the kids ( 9M and 7F ) could watch a film, but that would be after they had dinner. i was making dinner for 7F and 9M was eating left overs from yesterday, 9M was told by his mom to not eat until his sisters food was ready but he ignored her and did it anyway and went to the TV room and his sister joined him.
i was looking for his sister to let her know dinner was ready and assumed they would be in the TV room. I go there and tell them that they need to ask before they disappear into the TV room to watch and that they need to switch the TV off and they can continue after 7F has eaten dinner.
this is where it all went down hill. the boy says he will stay there and wait, so i say “okay, where is the remote control?” ( because i know that as soon as i leave he will turn the Tv back on ). he says that his parents dont like it when i take the remote and that i shouldn’t do that, and i tell him that i’m taking it because he’s going to watch TV again when i leave. he throws a fit and gets up, storms out the door and attempts to slam it shut, but i catch it before it slams shut. he says “you’re going to break the door” and i replied that “he’s going to break it if he keeps slamming it”. he slams 2 more doors and storms upstairs.
im in the kitchen with his sister 7F and she says that her parents gave them permission to watch Tv and i explained that i know that, but they still needed to ask because they have to eat dinner first before they watch a movie. and she says that they dont have to ask me because their mother already said so and that they dont have to listen to me. so i asked her “so then why am i here?” and she shrugged and said “i dont know. to pick us up and cook.”
i realised then that they don’t respect me and this was just verbal confirmation. she then suggested that i go down to my room and sleep and her and her brother can take care of themselves. i was stunned, i said “no thanks.”
later, his sister came down after she finished eating dinner and went up stairs to talk to her brother and said that they really want to watch tv. i said “your brother has to come here and speak to me, not you.” and she said that he was embarrassed. later he came down stairs, and i was expecting at least an apology, but no, he said “can i watch tv please” before i could even reply he said “thanks, bye” and ran off with his sister. i couldnt be bothered to do anything, i just let them do what they want. then i cried and knew then that i didn’t want to be here anymore.
the day before this, her brother hit ( punched ) me and laughed when i told him he shouldnt do that, and that he hurt me. after i told his mom what had happened, she told him to apologise and he did so with the biggest shit eating grin and obviously didnt mean it.
early that same day, the mom texted me that the kids shouldnt enter her office because she was working from home and had important teams meetings. i told her kids this ( idk why she would tell me this, because the kids don’t respect her enough to let her work and always walk into her meetings even when she told them not to ). this time, she stressed it was a super important call.
the girl got her tennis racket delivered and she opened it up and realised she didn’t like it. she grew upset and stormed to her moms office, i held the door shut and told her she could talk to her mom about it later because i could hear that she was in a meeting and the last thing she needed was a raging 7 year old screaming about how she didn’t like her new racket. i held the door shut and tried to offer alternatives saying she could send her mom a voice message or a text or even call her dad because he mom was busy. i was firm and told her to stop it as well, but nothing was working. eventually she hit me and i told her to never hit me and that it’s unacceptable and go to her room. she ignored me and started to scream so i let go of the door and let her have her way.
i’m really exhausted, things like this have happened before and i don’t feel happy. i dread waking up to see them and i enjoy every second i am away from those kids. they make me hate au pairing, i really want a rematch and overall to leave this family.
so many other incidents have happened, one of the most annoying ones being the little girl entering my room whenever she feels like it. i can’t even have my space to myself, other incidents ranging from not listening to me at all, and having 0 respect which is most of my issues.
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by the second week here, i knew i didn’t want to continue with this family. but i continued assuming that it would get better and it wouldn’t be that bad, plus i really like the host mom and the family really needed the help.
after 4 months in germany, i am ready to leave my host family, mainly because of the children. they don’t respect me whatsoever.
tonight, the mom told me the kids ( 9M and 7F ) could watch a film, but that would be after they had dinner. i was making dinner for 7F and 9M was eating left overs from yesterday, 9M was told by his mom to not eat until his sisters food was ready but he ignored her and did it anyway and went to the TV room and his sister joined him.
i was looking for his sister to let her know dinner was ready and assumed they would be in the TV room. I go there and tell them that they need to ask before they disappear into the TV room to watch and that they need to switch the TV off and they can continue after 7F has eaten dinner.
this is where it all went down hill. the boy says he will stay there and wait, so i say “okay, where is the remote control?” ( because i know that as soon as i leave he will turn the Tv back on ). he says that his parents dont like it when i take the remote and that i shouldn’t do that, and i tell him that i’m taking it because he’s going to watch TV again when i leave. he throws a fit and gets up, storms out the door and attempts to slam it shut, but i catch it before it slams shut. he says “you’re going to break the door” and i replied that “he’s going to break it if he keeps slamming it”. he slams 2 more doors and storms upstairs.
im in the kitchen with his sister 7F and she says that her parents gave them permission to watch Tv and i explained that i know that, but they still needed to ask because they have to eat dinner first before they watch a movie. and she says that they dont have to ask me because their mother already said so and that they dont have to listen to me. so i asked her “so then why am i here?” and she shrugged and said “i dont know. to pick us up and cook.”
i realised then that they don’t respect me and this was just verbal confirmation. she then suggested that i go down to my room and sleep and her and her brother can take care of themselves. i was stunned, i said “no thanks.”
later, his sister came down after she finished eating dinner and went up stairs to talk to her brother and said that they really want to watch tv. i said “your brother has to come here and speak to me, not you.” and she said that he was embarrassed. later he came down stairs, and i was expecting at least an apology, but no, he said “can i watch tv please” before i could even reply he said “thanks, bye” and ran off with his sister. i couldnt be bothered to do anything, i just let them do what they want. then i cried and knew then that i didn’t want to be here anymore.
the day before this, her brother hit ( punched ) me and laughed when i told him he shouldnt do that, and that he hurt me. after i told his mom what had happened, she told him to apologise and he did so with the biggest shit eating grin and obviously didnt mean it.
early that same day, the mom texted me that the kids shouldnt enter her office because she was working from home and had important teams meetings. i told her kids this ( idk why she would tell me this, because the kids don’t respect her enough to let her work and always walk into her meetings even when she told them not to ). this time, she stressed it was a super important call.
the girl got her tennis racket delivered and she opened it up and realised she didn’t like it. she grew upset and stormed to her moms office, i held the door shut and told her she could talk to her mom about it later because i could hear that she was in a meeting and the last thing she needed was a raging 7 year old screaming about how she didn’t like her new racket. i held the door shut and tried to offer alternatives saying she could send her mom a voice message or a text or even call her dad because he mom was busy. i was firm and told her to stop it as well, but nothing was working. eventually she hit me and i told her to never hit me and that it’s unacceptable and go to her room. she ignored me and started to scream so i let go of the door and let her have her way.
i’m really exhausted, things like this have happened before and i don’t feel happy. i dread waking up to see them and i enjoy every second i am away from those kids. they make me hate au pairing, i really want a rematch and overall to leave this family.
so many other incidents have happened, one of the most annoying ones being the little girl entering my room whenever she feels like it. i can’t even have my space to myself, other incidents ranging from not listening to me at all, and having 0 respect which is most of my issues.
2024.05.18 23:07 SweetBabyBlues Screen time
I want to get better control over the amount of time my kids spend on screens this summer. I have 2 kids, a 10 year old and a 6 year old. I'm trying to limit screens to 2 hours per day across all devices. The kids just fight it so hard. They are convinced there is nothing else to do and don't understand why I limit screens when their friends parents don't limit theirs. Do I just stay the course and hope their attitude improves? We have a large swing set, trampoline, no shortage of Legos, art supplies, plenty of things for them to do outside of screens. Any advice on how to make this transition smoother? When they had unlimited time my 10 year old would often spend 6 to 8 hours on a weekend and my 6 year old maybe spends 3 to 4.
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2024.05.18 22:55 unstuckyourself Wwyd
SS 18 invited me to graduation around December. Called his Dad last week to "uninvite" me. We already purchased plane tickets to travel to his state, which ss knew.
Apparently I'm supposed to go and sit in the hotel during the ceremony or something. I feel like that's demeaning.
This ss is super manipulative, entitled, and parentified (makes choices regarding parent's finances, which of their vehicles (surprise , he chose his older brother's car because it was preferable to the other free car option), expensive private school for him, not the older brother, tells not asks what he's going to do regularly since 12 at least), and always used to getting his way. Period. He is very used to trying power plays almost anytime he can, even in rearranging our furniture , or kitchen in his summer visits to how he prefers (how mom has hers).
His dad says he knows he's trying to pit us against each other but still will never use boundaries and just gives in. Every time. I say he's trying to make his dad choose between us, and he needs to not let him. It feels like he's going to allow him to step between us and create separation just at a whim whenever and I don't choose to let a kid have that control over my life, relationship. Seems like a good way to never know where I stand, and like our relationship is subject to have plans change not by what the two of us choose, but by the intervention of his kids (both adults now) by way of his lack of boundaries.
I feel like he will never have my back or stand up for me. Or as my counselor said when I talked to her "he has no allegiance with you". Basically, that I need to leave, stand up for myself.
Am looking for other people's input here please.
Would you:
A go on the trip, but not go to ceremony
B. Go to ceremony, as previously invited directly
C. Go to it, but dress like Cruella DeVille or Peggy Bundy or something else ridiculous. (dad's joke suggestion, not mine. He said he's going to wear patched overalls.)
D. Not go at all
E. Walk away altogether. Find someone who honors you also and doesn't treat you as if you're irrelevant. Or
F. It all. Being single is the only way to have peace.
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Apparently I'm supposed to go and sit in the hotel during the ceremony or something. I feel like that's demeaning.
This ss is super manipulative, entitled, and parentified (makes choices regarding parent's finances, which of their vehicles (surprise , he chose his older brother's car because it was preferable to the other free car option), expensive private school for him, not the older brother, tells not asks what he's going to do regularly since 12 at least), and always used to getting his way. Period. He is very used to trying power plays almost anytime he can, even in rearranging our furniture , or kitchen in his summer visits to how he prefers (how mom has hers).
His dad says he knows he's trying to pit us against each other but still will never use boundaries and just gives in. Every time. I say he's trying to make his dad choose between us, and he needs to not let him. It feels like he's going to allow him to step between us and create separation just at a whim whenever and I don't choose to let a kid have that control over my life, relationship. Seems like a good way to never know where I stand, and like our relationship is subject to have plans change not by what the two of us choose, but by the intervention of his kids (both adults now) by way of his lack of boundaries.
I feel like he will never have my back or stand up for me. Or as my counselor said when I talked to her "he has no allegiance with you". Basically, that I need to leave, stand up for myself.
Am looking for other people's input here please.
Would you:
A go on the trip, but not go to ceremony
B. Go to ceremony, as previously invited directly
C. Go to it, but dress like Cruella DeVille or Peggy Bundy or something else ridiculous. (dad's joke suggestion, not mine. He said he's going to wear patched overalls.)
D. Not go at all
E. Walk away altogether. Find someone who honors you also and doesn't treat you as if you're irrelevant. Or
F. It all. Being single is the only way to have peace.
2024.05.18 22:49 ed0404040 Review of the Article: "Social Media: What Parents Should Know” and Incorporating the 7 Media Keys
Url: https://caringforkids.cps.ca/handouts/behavior-and-development/social_media
Title: “Social Media: What Parents Should Know”
Author: Canadian Pediatric Society
Date Published: August 2023
In society today, social media has become an essential part of staying connected with others. But as children become old enough to have phones and get social media including apps such as TikTok and Instagram, it’s important for parents to know how to monitor their kids' online interactions and keep them safe from its dangers. Social media has some positive attributes that can benefit children and teens, but also has some negative effects that can be harmful. The Canadian Pediatric Society published an article titled, “Social media: What parents should know,” that discusses how social media is used by kids in both good and bad ways and how parents should take steps in keeping their children safe from the dangers of social media.
The First Media Key: Balance
In the book, Infinite Bandwidth, seven media keys are used to describe and interpret the strengths and weaknesses in the media. The first media key of balance relates to eating healthy and using social media. “That’s what eating right looks like: a little bit of everything, more of what’s good for us than what’s bad for us…” (Gan, pg. 27). This example shows that media can be shown to us in moderation because it is not good to consume too much of it. Using balance also allows us to make decisions about whether the media is acceptable for our children. If we practice the virtue of temperance, then we will be able to use this media key to examine and moderate the media and focus more on the good in the world around us rather than on social media.
An example of balance is when the author suggests that parents use parental controls to block certain websites and use time limits on social media. This shows that if we use social media in moderation then we will be healthier. And by establishing boundaries and guidelines we can protect our children from the dangers of overusing social media. Using temperance will allow our children to experience social media in a safe way, but also enjoy and see the beauty in the world that God has created for us that is right at our fingertips.
The Second Media Key: Attitude Awareness
The second media key, attitude awareness, focuses on the virtue of prudence. “With the help of this virtue we apply moral principles to particular cases without error and overcome doubts about the good to achieve and the evil to avoid” (Gan, pg. 47). This media key shows that we are aware that there is both good and bad content on social platforms and we must use reason and our best judgment when discerning the role of each particular form of media.
In the article, we find an example of attitude awareness when the author discusses how we need to see both sides of the media. “Social media can have both positive (staying connected with friends) and negative (lowered self-esteem, making social comparisons) effects on kids’ mental and emotional health” (Canadian Pediatric Society). This shows that parents need to have prudence when looking at the strengths and shortcomings that media can have on their children. If parents examine social media sites using good judgment and wisdom then they will be protecting their children from the negative side of social media.
The Third Media Key: The Dignity of the Human Person
The third media key highlights the virtue of justice. “Justice towards men disposes one to respect the rights of each and to establish in human relationships the harmony that promotes equity with regard to persons and to the common good” (Gan pgs. 62-63). The dignity of the human person key reminds us to respect one another in relationships, especially as children of God. But also to respect our mind and bodies because they too are a part of us and we need to respect and honor ourselves and the bodies of others.
When discussing social media with children, parents need to teach them how to protect themselves and their privacy. One way we can respect each other is to “[p]rotect and respect their friends’ privacy by asking permission before posting a photo or video of another person” (Canadian Pediatric Society). Also, parents should remind their kids that online photos that they post could be used against them. A person’s body is sacred and photos should not be shared containing anything inappropriate or provocative. These parental reminders reiterate the dignity of the human person and teach children to be respectful of their bodies and the bodies of others in what they post online.
The Fourth Media Key: Truth-Filled
Truth-filled is the fourth media key that follows the virtue of fortitude. The virtue of fortitude “strengthens the resolve to resist temptations and to overcome obstacles in the moral life” (Gan pg. 79). “Whether we’re creating a misleading picture of our life on Facebook, cultivating an online persona who does what we would never do offline, or simply failing to give credit where credit is due, we’re not using the media in a way that reflects or upholds truth” (Gan pg. 76).
On social media, we must remember that not everything we see is true or real. Parents must teach their children to be aware that even when others are not truthful, they need to be honest and true online. “Remind your children that what they see on social media doesn’t always reflect reality, and help them find joy in offline activities” (Canadian Pediatric Society). If we teach them fortitude and strength of character, then they will be able to overcome the obstacles like lies or fake personas on social media that may lead them away from being truthful in real life.
The Fifth Media Key: Inspiring
The fifth media key, inspiring, shows us the best in the media and that it does have a good purpose. By using the virtue of hope, we will be able to “desire the kingdom of heaven and eternal life as our happiness, placing our trust in Christ’s promises and relying not on our own strength, but on the help of the grace of the Holy Spirit” (Gan, pg. 95). God wants us to live a good life full of happiness and love. If we practice hope then it will inspire us to do good in our everyday lives.
There are many negative effects of social media but there are also many positives as well. Children can use social media in ways of “connecting with others, messaging and chatting, and joining groups. For youth with disabilities or chronic conditions, peer support groups can provide a safe place to meet others with shared experiences, and can help rescue social isolation” (Canadian Pediatric Society). This gives children hope and allows them to partake in the good life that God has promised us. Using social media in positive ways shows us the best of this form of media and allows us to understand its purpose in our lives and society.
The Sixth Media Key: Skillfully Developed
The virtue that connects with the sixth media key is faith. Having faith is not only limited to yourself, but also having faith for those in the media. We must educate ourselves in new technology and experience advancements throughout our world. This will shape us to “learn how to recognize and create media that meets the culture’s expectations for what constitutes skillfully developed products” (Gan, pg. 102). If we see this skillfully developed media with faith as our guide then it will allow for us to make a better judgment for us and our children in the future.
“Social media apps are designed to keep people online as long as possible. Constantly checking for ‘likes,’ followers, and messages can lead to unhealthy behaviors and mood changes” (Canadian Pediatric Society). If parents skillfully develop guidelines for media and technology and understand its role in society, then they can set limits and restrictions to minimize its risks for them. Social media is out there, but if parents educate themselves about it, then they can curb its negative effects and instead put their faith in the positive effects for their children.
The Seventh Media Key: Motivated by or Relevant to Experience
The motivated by or relevant to experience media key follows the virtue of charity. “The practice of all the virtues of animation and inspired by charity, which…upholds and purifies our human ability to love, and raises it to the supernatural perfection of divine love” (Gan, pg. 128). Our love allows us to use charity to motivate us into action to protect and care for each other.
“Set a good example by following the rules you set for online behavior. Ask them before you share anything about them” (Canadian Pediatric Society). This quote tells parents what they can do to set a good example for how their children should be behaving online. This media key shows us that our own experiences have an impact on our children and their thoughts and behaviors. If what parents reflect in their social media posts is good and wholesome then when their children get social media they will have an admirable example to follow.
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Title: “Social Media: What Parents Should Know”
Author: Canadian Pediatric Society
Date Published: August 2023
In society today, social media has become an essential part of staying connected with others. But as children become old enough to have phones and get social media including apps such as TikTok and Instagram, it’s important for parents to know how to monitor their kids' online interactions and keep them safe from its dangers. Social media has some positive attributes that can benefit children and teens, but also has some negative effects that can be harmful. The Canadian Pediatric Society published an article titled, “Social media: What parents should know,” that discusses how social media is used by kids in both good and bad ways and how parents should take steps in keeping their children safe from the dangers of social media.
The First Media Key: Balance
In the book, Infinite Bandwidth, seven media keys are used to describe and interpret the strengths and weaknesses in the media. The first media key of balance relates to eating healthy and using social media. “That’s what eating right looks like: a little bit of everything, more of what’s good for us than what’s bad for us…” (Gan, pg. 27). This example shows that media can be shown to us in moderation because it is not good to consume too much of it. Using balance also allows us to make decisions about whether the media is acceptable for our children. If we practice the virtue of temperance, then we will be able to use this media key to examine and moderate the media and focus more on the good in the world around us rather than on social media.
An example of balance is when the author suggests that parents use parental controls to block certain websites and use time limits on social media. This shows that if we use social media in moderation then we will be healthier. And by establishing boundaries and guidelines we can protect our children from the dangers of overusing social media. Using temperance will allow our children to experience social media in a safe way, but also enjoy and see the beauty in the world that God has created for us that is right at our fingertips.
The Second Media Key: Attitude Awareness
The second media key, attitude awareness, focuses on the virtue of prudence. “With the help of this virtue we apply moral principles to particular cases without error and overcome doubts about the good to achieve and the evil to avoid” (Gan, pg. 47). This media key shows that we are aware that there is both good and bad content on social platforms and we must use reason and our best judgment when discerning the role of each particular form of media.
In the article, we find an example of attitude awareness when the author discusses how we need to see both sides of the media. “Social media can have both positive (staying connected with friends) and negative (lowered self-esteem, making social comparisons) effects on kids’ mental and emotional health” (Canadian Pediatric Society). This shows that parents need to have prudence when looking at the strengths and shortcomings that media can have on their children. If parents examine social media sites using good judgment and wisdom then they will be protecting their children from the negative side of social media.
The Third Media Key: The Dignity of the Human Person
The third media key highlights the virtue of justice. “Justice towards men disposes one to respect the rights of each and to establish in human relationships the harmony that promotes equity with regard to persons and to the common good” (Gan pgs. 62-63). The dignity of the human person key reminds us to respect one another in relationships, especially as children of God. But also to respect our mind and bodies because they too are a part of us and we need to respect and honor ourselves and the bodies of others.
When discussing social media with children, parents need to teach them how to protect themselves and their privacy. One way we can respect each other is to “[p]rotect and respect their friends’ privacy by asking permission before posting a photo or video of another person” (Canadian Pediatric Society). Also, parents should remind their kids that online photos that they post could be used against them. A person’s body is sacred and photos should not be shared containing anything inappropriate or provocative. These parental reminders reiterate the dignity of the human person and teach children to be respectful of their bodies and the bodies of others in what they post online.
The Fourth Media Key: Truth-Filled
Truth-filled is the fourth media key that follows the virtue of fortitude. The virtue of fortitude “strengthens the resolve to resist temptations and to overcome obstacles in the moral life” (Gan pg. 79). “Whether we’re creating a misleading picture of our life on Facebook, cultivating an online persona who does what we would never do offline, or simply failing to give credit where credit is due, we’re not using the media in a way that reflects or upholds truth” (Gan pg. 76).
On social media, we must remember that not everything we see is true or real. Parents must teach their children to be aware that even when others are not truthful, they need to be honest and true online. “Remind your children that what they see on social media doesn’t always reflect reality, and help them find joy in offline activities” (Canadian Pediatric Society). If we teach them fortitude and strength of character, then they will be able to overcome the obstacles like lies or fake personas on social media that may lead them away from being truthful in real life.
The Fifth Media Key: Inspiring
The fifth media key, inspiring, shows us the best in the media and that it does have a good purpose. By using the virtue of hope, we will be able to “desire the kingdom of heaven and eternal life as our happiness, placing our trust in Christ’s promises and relying not on our own strength, but on the help of the grace of the Holy Spirit” (Gan, pg. 95). God wants us to live a good life full of happiness and love. If we practice hope then it will inspire us to do good in our everyday lives.
There are many negative effects of social media but there are also many positives as well. Children can use social media in ways of “connecting with others, messaging and chatting, and joining groups. For youth with disabilities or chronic conditions, peer support groups can provide a safe place to meet others with shared experiences, and can help rescue social isolation” (Canadian Pediatric Society). This gives children hope and allows them to partake in the good life that God has promised us. Using social media in positive ways shows us the best of this form of media and allows us to understand its purpose in our lives and society.
The Sixth Media Key: Skillfully Developed
The virtue that connects with the sixth media key is faith. Having faith is not only limited to yourself, but also having faith for those in the media. We must educate ourselves in new technology and experience advancements throughout our world. This will shape us to “learn how to recognize and create media that meets the culture’s expectations for what constitutes skillfully developed products” (Gan, pg. 102). If we see this skillfully developed media with faith as our guide then it will allow for us to make a better judgment for us and our children in the future.
“Social media apps are designed to keep people online as long as possible. Constantly checking for ‘likes,’ followers, and messages can lead to unhealthy behaviors and mood changes” (Canadian Pediatric Society). If parents skillfully develop guidelines for media and technology and understand its role in society, then they can set limits and restrictions to minimize its risks for them. Social media is out there, but if parents educate themselves about it, then they can curb its negative effects and instead put their faith in the positive effects for their children.
The Seventh Media Key: Motivated by or Relevant to Experience
The motivated by or relevant to experience media key follows the virtue of charity. “The practice of all the virtues of animation and inspired by charity, which…upholds and purifies our human ability to love, and raises it to the supernatural perfection of divine love” (Gan, pg. 128). Our love allows us to use charity to motivate us into action to protect and care for each other.
“Set a good example by following the rules you set for online behavior. Ask them before you share anything about them” (Canadian Pediatric Society). This quote tells parents what they can do to set a good example for how their children should be behaving online. This media key shows us that our own experiences have an impact on our children and their thoughts and behaviors. If what parents reflect in their social media posts is good and wholesome then when their children get social media they will have an admirable example to follow.
2024.05.18 22:45 Hot_Reach_7138 Which female character works better as a villain? Malty S. Melromarc or the Queen of Blades/Sarah Kerrigan (from StarCraft)?
 | Malty S. Melromarc submitted by Hot_Reach_7138 to shieldbro [link] [comments] Sarah Kerrigan (Zerg form) Sarah Kerrigan (Human form) If you want to know more about Sarah Kerrigan, I will explain more about the crimes she commits and the redeeming/sympathetic qualities she has below. Here is a list of crimes committed by Sarah Kerrigan:
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2024.05.18 22:36 MS001812 Trying to lose weight when my mom is the one cooking :(
I am desperately trying to lose weight and frankly it feels impossible because of how much stress I have put on my body these past few years. I have always been petite and skinny, and I definitely took my fast metabolism for granted and it is not so fast anymore. To add to this, I was a disordered eater from elementary school to high school and I would not eat breakfast or lunch, I would only eat snacks and dinner. I am 23 now, about to head to med school, and the stress of all of this and my bad eating habits in the past have caught up to me. I have a huge appetite and I am always eating something. I am still a small person, but I do have a tummy now and I weigh a normal amount on the scale (117 lbs and I am 5'1).
I am controlling my eating habits now, but since I live with my parents, I don't cook very much at all. I am on a vegetarian diet because my mom is vegetarian, and I only cook occasionally when I want to eat meat. The problem is, when I tell my mom "I'm done" or "I'm full", she does not let me stop eating. Because of the poor eater I was in my past, she thinks that I'm going back to those bad habits, even though I am eating a normal amount calorically. My mom does not let me cook on my own because she thinks I am trying to starve myself. I will be cooking on my own in a few months in med school, but I want to start eating healthier and losing the fat now. Any advice for someone that has a similar background or eats what their parents cook for them? Please share I'm desperate
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I am controlling my eating habits now, but since I live with my parents, I don't cook very much at all. I am on a vegetarian diet because my mom is vegetarian, and I only cook occasionally when I want to eat meat. The problem is, when I tell my mom "I'm done" or "I'm full", she does not let me stop eating. Because of the poor eater I was in my past, she thinks that I'm going back to those bad habits, even though I am eating a normal amount calorically. My mom does not let me cook on my own because she thinks I am trying to starve myself. I will be cooking on my own in a few months in med school, but I want to start eating healthier and losing the fat now. Any advice for someone that has a similar background or eats what their parents cook for them? Please share I'm desperate
2024.05.18 22:24 lokislolsies Blue Oyster Cult
Stand Name:Blue Oyster Cult
Localisation Name:Sapphire Barnacle Coven
Appearance:The stand Blue Oyster Cult has a Webbing area going from its wrist to its hips this allows the Stand to glide when dropping from high distances also to act as an umbrella only Stand users can see this hides the identity of the user (A Vampire),it has bone like armour and eldritch tatoos along its body and clocks have eyeballs
Ability:The stand has 2 tanks on its back similar to that of Diver down but they are filled with blood instead the more blood in these tanks the more powerful the stand however the user has to consume any form of animal blood as long as its a living animal not only human once the stand has taken the life of a living being it can trap their life energy in birdcages and until the spirit is freed to go to heaven or become a yellow cloud like every jobro their body (and stand if they were a user) becomes a zombie under the control of the user,the birdcage can be broken by stand attacks and if the user is in a very weak state.
The way to obtain: You have to collect the bones of the pillarmen and merge it with your body as a vessel almost like the corpse parts in part 7
Stand User Alejandro Ramirez The User is a side antagonist of the story later on turning neutral Origin Alejandro from birth was the centre of attention and had alot of friends in his school for years this was how his life was he got everything he ever wanted his family wasn't at all rich didn't have everything but they weren't poor and they spent alot of their money on Alejandro's happiness that is until they had another 2 kids and Alejandro had lost his attention a new kid joined his school and he was ignored suddenly he felt a rush of jealousy go to him and this built up inside him for years by now in UK school systems he would be year 6 his brother year 4.One night when his parents were asleep he stumbled across a bone thinking nothing of it he touched it only for it to make its way under his skin and merge with his spine.He never noticed his stand abilities until later on after this but now he releases his anger on the world he grabs his little brothers tie them up and murders their parents infront of him burning the house they loved and cherished down and running away to the countryside never to be seen again by the locals His brothers Cain and Abel suffered the worst of it having to be separated from each other after this incident their new homes 5 miles apart
The user finds out about his powers after not having to consume as much food as he usually does and having a thirst for blood that's when he started attacking cattle attacking them and drinking their blood then running to the woodland cabin he lives in,that's until a cartel looks to recruit him this is the pararse cartel a gang with roles defined by power and every member being a stand user. From here on he becomes an enforcer of the cartel and its laws he usually went to ensure that taxes were being paid and to eliminate any enemy stand users that look to get in the way of the boss
(The story is almost like an alternate part 5 in the same universe as part 7 and 8,basically just my take on part 9 jojo)
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Localisation Name:Sapphire Barnacle Coven
Appearance:The stand Blue Oyster Cult has a Webbing area going from its wrist to its hips this allows the Stand to glide when dropping from high distances also to act as an umbrella only Stand users can see this hides the identity of the user (A Vampire),it has bone like armour and eldritch tatoos along its body and clocks have eyeballs
Ability:The stand has 2 tanks on its back similar to that of Diver down but they are filled with blood instead the more blood in these tanks the more powerful the stand however the user has to consume any form of animal blood as long as its a living animal not only human once the stand has taken the life of a living being it can trap their life energy in birdcages and until the spirit is freed to go to heaven or become a yellow cloud like every jobro their body (and stand if they were a user) becomes a zombie under the control of the user,the birdcage can be broken by stand attacks and if the user is in a very weak state.
The way to obtain: You have to collect the bones of the pillarmen and merge it with your body as a vessel almost like the corpse parts in part 7
Stand User Alejandro Ramirez The User is a side antagonist of the story later on turning neutral Origin Alejandro from birth was the centre of attention and had alot of friends in his school for years this was how his life was he got everything he ever wanted his family wasn't at all rich didn't have everything but they weren't poor and they spent alot of their money on Alejandro's happiness that is until they had another 2 kids and Alejandro had lost his attention a new kid joined his school and he was ignored suddenly he felt a rush of jealousy go to him and this built up inside him for years by now in UK school systems he would be year 6 his brother year 4.One night when his parents were asleep he stumbled across a bone thinking nothing of it he touched it only for it to make its way under his skin and merge with his spine.He never noticed his stand abilities until later on after this but now he releases his anger on the world he grabs his little brothers tie them up and murders their parents infront of him burning the house they loved and cherished down and running away to the countryside never to be seen again by the locals His brothers Cain and Abel suffered the worst of it having to be separated from each other after this incident their new homes 5 miles apart
The user finds out about his powers after not having to consume as much food as he usually does and having a thirst for blood that's when he started attacking cattle attacking them and drinking their blood then running to the woodland cabin he lives in,that's until a cartel looks to recruit him this is the pararse cartel a gang with roles defined by power and every member being a stand user. From here on he becomes an enforcer of the cartel and its laws he usually went to ensure that taxes were being paid and to eliminate any enemy stand users that look to get in the way of the boss
(The story is almost like an alternate part 5 in the same universe as part 7 and 8,basically just my take on part 9 jojo)
2024.05.18 22:23 CharmingAd4516 Question about marital/separate property and previous custodial account that I took ownership of after getting married.
Ok, I have no doubt that this will vary by state, so right now I'm looking for general information that will help me in my own personal research.
General situation: My parents created a custodial investment account for me (i.e. college fund) when I was a child. I have since taken full control of that custodial account and have gotten married.
Questions:
Is that account treated as marital property or as separate pre-marital property?
Are there any situations that might change the status of the account?
If it does become marital property, is the entire account considered marital property or only the change in balance? How is that calculated in terms of withdrawals and deposits?
Thanks all. I'll do my best to come back and make updates to any clarifying questions that get asked.
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General situation: My parents created a custodial investment account for me (i.e. college fund) when I was a child. I have since taken full control of that custodial account and have gotten married.
Questions:
Is that account treated as marital property or as separate pre-marital property?
Are there any situations that might change the status of the account?
If it does become marital property, is the entire account considered marital property or only the change in balance? How is that calculated in terms of withdrawals and deposits?
Thanks all. I'll do my best to come back and make updates to any clarifying questions that get asked.
2024.05.18 22:11 galterius1 How to handle modals with form (SkeletonUI)
Hey guys I'm trying to learn front-end with SvelteKit as a backend dev and I'm struggling a bit with a modal. I'm using SkeletonUI and the modals proveded by them. I got 2 questions:
MODAL:
This is how i submit the parent form, and I dont like it because #1 it refreshes the page and use:enchane doesn't prevents it, #2 its using JS and it feels like a "hack" to do it this way
PARENT:
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- (1) A modal should submit its own data or (2) it should just give the data back to the parent componenet
- If its the first one how can I prevent the page from reloading because use:enchance doesn't work if its the second one what is the best way of doing it
MODAL:
//This 2 are binded to the 2 inputs in the form const holidayRequest = { fromDate: getCurrentDate(), untilDate: getCurrentDate() }; And then returned in such way function onFormSubmit(): void { if ($modalStore[0].response) $modalStore[0].response(holidayRequest); modalStore.close(); } The button which opens the modal in the parent component is also in a form along side with 2 hidden inputs, because I wanted to use the action in the +page.server.ts file to submit the data which came from the modal. This is how i submit the parent form, and I dont like it because #1 it refreshes the page and use:enchane doesn't prevents it, #2 its using JS and it feels like a "hack" to do it this way
PARENT:
let requestHolidayForm: HTMLFormElement; let from: HTMLInputElement; let until: HTMLInputElement; function openModal() { modal.response = (response: { fromDate: string; untilDate: string }) => { if (response) { console.log(response); from.value = response.fromDate; until.value = response.untilDate; requestHolidayForm.submit(); } }; modalStore.trigger(modal); } Thank you in advance!