Cute things to say to a boyfriend

I moved countries, got a post grad degree with disntinction, found a partner (not Asian which they were perfectl’y ok with, overjoyed even because colonialism) got married, got a job, then got another job and then another one after that. I make more than what 50% of people make at my age anywhere in the world. I work hard and I have job offers from large corporations as I’m looking to move again. And my Indian parents still don’t think I do “A good job”. They call my WFH day my day off. They think I just fuck around all day. I don’t think I’ve ever heard the words “well done” fall out of my mother’s lips. When I tell them I’m looking for XYZ role at a higher position they always say “Why would they hire you for that?” Because I FUCKING DESERVE IT!
All my life I have been trained for one thing and one thing alone, professional success. Since I was a little girl of 4, my parents have conditioned me to believe that my life would fall apart if I don’t get successful independently.
“If you don’t study hard and get good marks, you will be very poor and you won’t ever be able to buy anything or go on nice holidays. And then you’ll have to become a rickshaw driver” my mother used to chant at me as she dressed me for school as a kid. I was 4 and I still remember this. She did this everyday till I was 10.
And that’s whatever, built character, taught me that being my own person means being dedicated to work and that’s ok, because they didn’t have any other expectations from me. They didn’t care if I ever married, I’m not their retirement plan, I don’t support them financially nor will I ever have to. I’m not expected to reproduce, like nothing. I haven’t ever done a single household chore (because that was time spent AWAY from books and studying). I just have to build my own wealth because they are leaving everything to their name to charities (which is totally their choice as it’s their money and I genuinely support them in this endeavour).
But sometimes or even just once it would be nice to hear them say “Well done Princess. We’re so very proud of you” not “You aren’t ready for that position at that company” or “They are the owners, they decide this”.
Just once if my mum said “Good job beta” it would just be so nice or if my dad even said “Very Nice!” Which he literally says about everything.
Does anyone else feel this way?

It sounds weird I know but did Dave and his team really cover the entire clone wars? Or was it just about Anakin and Ashoka 🤷‍♂️ I mean to be honest most of the episodes are just the main characters POV’s like rex and Umbara and other important stuff like fives discovering about order 66 and the last episode literally being about Ashoka in order 66. But can we get stuff that we haven’t scene before like a battle the 501st experience we haven’t scene in the show, new characters from different legions fighting with different Jedi. Like I feel like there’s more things in the Clone War Dave hasn’t told us about because he’s busy or whatever. And Disney focus on Dave bothers like everything we seen is just Dave’s work I feel like it’s possible to get something new (besides andor and visions and the new show coming soon) it’s just like it’s possible to introduce more things we haven’t seen in the clone wars Dave isn’t in control of Star Wars Disney is sadly. he can’t say what’s not and what is canon cause we aren’t touching his stuff (Just incase your know more than me please correct me)

Hey there! Looking for some new people to talk to, down to chat about pretty much anything as long as you can somewhat hold a conversation haha. Not really great at writing these things so I'll just list off some of my interests and things I'm looking for.
About me:
-i like watching sports; baseball, hockey, F1, sometimes basketball.
-i love video games, I play mostly on my PC, but I also have a PS5 and a switch. Right now I'm mostly playing dota 2 and r6 siege, but I have and play a lot of other stuff too.
-I have two cats that I love to death, totally down to show you how cute they are!
I love movies, I have a pretty large physical movie collection of blu rays and 4ks, I especially love horror but I'll watch most genres.
-I also enjoy music a lot, mostly metal, but also pop punk, pop, rap, country, and some other random stuff too. I've been to A LOT of concerts over the past 10 years but haven't been to many recently.
-im pretty introverted, I work a lot and when I'm not working I like to pretty much stay in and relax for the most part.
-i work night shift, i I have a pretty unorthodox schedule and sleep during the day and I'm up all night haha
I have 6 tattoos!
I don't smoke or drink, I don't really mind or care if you do though!
Physically im 6 foot tall hazel eyes with glasses and short brown hair. Medium build, a bit of a dad bod.
That's pretty much it, I'm sure there's a lot more I could include but I'll save that for later. Now here's some things I'm looking for!
What I'm looking for:
-someone who can somewhat hold a conversation and is actually interested in getting to know each other
-down to share selfies and possibly down to voice chat in the near future
down to switch to another platform, I don't really want to use the chat feature on here, sorry.
-open to the possibility of something flirty, and or just friendship. I'm not strictly looking for friendship only.
That's mostly it I think. Shoot me a message with a little about yourself if you're interested

I'm so sorry but I'm tired of people pretending Cassie is a good person because she really wasn't and in my opinion she was worse than Tony
this is in no way me trying to say that tony wasn't a bad person cuz he was but he was less of a bad person
also btw im not saying that she had a eating dissorder for attention or that her eating dissorder was fake. eating dissorders are very hard and its sad what she was going through but there are some things that have to be said about it
tony was a bad guy but he had his moments and avengely became a better person, he learn from his mistakes and bettered himself but sadly i cant say the same about cassie
when we first meet her in episode one she seems like this funny and nice girl with some problems. she was brought to a party to fuck sid so he would lose his virginity .this is kind of sad. even before we meet her there is said she had problems with eating which is later at the party further shown when she immediately went to the kitchen to sored every this to look at.
even in the first episode the drama starts, when on the trampoline with Sid she tells him that if he wants to fuck her he has to do it fast because she just took a lot of pills.she passes out and they have to steal a car to drive her to a hospital for to then when they get there her to be totally fine.
In episode 2 we find out what her living situation is, which is not ideal. Her parents are dismissive and only think about sex, but compared to the rest, she has one of the best home situations of the group. (this btw isnt her falt but i just wanted to point that out)
she asked sid out which he was clearly not into but he said yes. cassie reminds him of their date but sid tells her that he can't go because he is grounded, but that wasn't good anof for her she tells him the "iconic" line "i didn't eat for 3 days so i could be lovely" that is guilt tripping at its finest. its not her fault she has an eating disorder but using it to make people feel bad for you is just crazy. she asks him if she can come over any ways and he says it isn't a good idea but she comes over any way. to find that sid wasn't there. when he returns home she asks him where he was and he tells her he was with michelle (which was the stupidest thing he could of said at that moment and wasn't even the reason why he snuck out. she gets mad at him and slaps him (with in her defends it was a shitty thing of him to do). the next day she overhears sid calling michelle to make up, she gets up sad and tries to kill herself by overdosing but fails and ends up in a mental hospital. people gave sid the faule which is just not fair. in the Effy episode cassie and sid meet up at the cafe where they share a cute moment and kiss but than he gets a call from michelle because she is worried about tony and thinks he might need help he tells her he really needs to leave and cassie gets upset THIS is there lasts iteraction befor they move(accept for them meeting up on the park bench)....THIS was her reason to leave.....tony did need help and i was glad he did come. this was also the moment where tony realised that mabey somethings he does arent smart.
and dont get me started on season 2 her she was so mean to jal and why????.she was the reason why chris lost his house. she was also weirdly obsessed with chris even tho he had a girlfriend.she was so jealous of michelle and hated michelle even after sid and michelle broke up. when chris was in the hospital they told the doctors that she was his girlfriend. she was so rude about jal not telling chris that she's pregnant....like thats not any of your fucking business. jal is pregnant she decides when she tells him not cassie. then when cas and jal are in the hospital jal asks her what happened and she just ignores her. she finally tells jal that he took some pills but refuses to tell her what kind cuz "i dont tell him your secrets do i" like this isn't about secrets anymore hes fucking dying. she was the only one to be there when chris died and tried to call the hospital but when her phone didn't work she grabbed her stuff and left.not telling jal and not telling sid. just left. when her and sid where broken up she was sleeping with everyone she could find. overall she was a bad person. she had her redemption in season 7 but it was also minimal and soooo boring.
meanwhile after what happened with Effy, tony found out he was being a bad person and tried to change (but he got hit by a bus instead). ofc when he was recovering he mixed some things up like the thing with abigail but that wasnt his fault he just didnt remember eider abi or chelle so when abi told him "im your girlfriend" he ofc believed it. at the end he made up with every one and got back together with michelle. him and sid talked it out and the thing with maxxie was forgotten by him so never spoken about again.he did bad things but he always redeemed himself. the same can't be said about cassie. overal cassie was worse than tony , they were both manipulators but tony got a second chanse and took it and bettered himself. when cassie got that same chans she just looked at it and trew it in the trash
im fine with people who don't like tony i get it but what i don't like is that they than love cassie. she is so much worse and absolute the worst character of gen 1. but tell me your opinian

NEED ADVICE. I'm 22. He is 33. He is the most kind and mature and loving man I've ever been with. He treats me wonderfully and we both are extreamly compatible so far. We've been together for a month. We both have agreed that sex is incredibly sacred and that we wanted to wait longer. But the other day, it just sort of happened naturally in his room. It was good sex. He says it's the best sex he's had in years: Yada Yada Yada. Anyways, about 10 minutes after we banged (mind you this was our FIRST time) He says very gently to me that he has plans with friends and asked if I minded if I left.
I live 2 fucking hours away lolz. And we were already planning on me staying a few nights cause I had a concert to see in his city The next day.
I said absolutely! Sure! In a passive aggressive and obviously hurt way I start to pack my things quickly. He then grabs me and says "whats wrong?" I eventually tell him. He seems so genuinely shocked and apologizes and begs for me to stay. I do stay. He doesn't hang with his friends. He says they "canceled". we continued to have a beautiful time since then, but didn't have sex again.
I don't know what to make of this.
I talked to my mother and sister. My mother says "he's 33, he should know better. He knows not to kick a lover out AFTER HAVING SEX the first time"
I totally agree. I can't shake this feeling. I see him on Tuesday. He doesn't think anythings wrong. Family says this was a terribly bad red flag.
Bros....is it over? Plz need advice.
On Tuesday, I plan on bringing this up again. But is there even a point? He truly is the man I want, beautifully lovely and has so much to offer. I'm torn.

as gracie says “nothing happened in the way i wanted” i miss you as per usual. i wonder all the time what it would be like to be with you. what our life together would look like. it feels guilty. thinking of you and our what ifs as i lay in me and his bed in our new apartment with him not you. i constantly wish it was you. i think often about if i just told you how i feel but that would be cheating and i do not do that. but us what i’m feeling cheating? i do not know. i love him but i am miserable with him. no matter how much he tells me he loves me i know he doesn’t mean it. he thinks he means it but he has never treated me like he loved me. i am a shell of a person with him i feel so unloved and unappreciated. you never made me feel that way. i know i have a lot of issues but you knew exactly how to deal with me and how to make me feel loved and appreciated and everything else. i always have chose people that don’t know how to love or treat me but that’s because i have never chosen you. in the end i know it’s my fault i do this to myself. i’m bad at turning everyone down besides you. i was always afraid that you would realize i’m not who you think i am. i’m still afraid. i don’t ever have dreams but i dream about you now. i’m tired and stuck. i can’t get out of bed anymore. i hate it here. i hate my life. i miss you. we still talk every day. it’s innocent but i wonder if you feel the same way i do. i hope you do but at the same time i hope that you don’t because i am a burden. i am no good. i never have been. i wish i was but unfortunately i ensue havoc every where i go. i don’t mean or try to it just happens. i’m a mess. it’s been 5+ years of this on and off thing between me and you and it’s only been “off” because of me. we get serious and i pop out with a new boyfriend. it happens everytime. i’m sorry. like i said i have a hard time turning everyone down but you. i wonder what you’re thinking about me. if you even think about me. i know what i think and feel about you that’s for sure. i love you and i have for 5 years.

I struggle really bad with stubling my words, the faster I talk or the more tired I am where I mean one thing but another word or gibberish comes out. I have a lot of trouble reading books to where I will read the same line twice or my brain just shuts off and I don't absorb anything unless there is maximum interest. I went to speech therapy as a child and it helped me with reading out loud but it still makes me really anxious because I still get stuck sometimes and can't always keep a good flow with my words. When listening to someone talk it sounds like English but my brain has a delayed response before I understand. I cannot concentrate on someone talking to me if I'm reading or listening to someone, AAAnd my writing is terrible even when I write slowly. I've tried learning different languages but for SOME REASON I will try to say a sentence and group 2 languages together. I also say words out of order in sentences if that makes any sense... With all of this plus major procrastination I've always had trouble with any education system I've gone through and it sucks because I want to go to college but I have no idea how to get over everything enough to get passing grades.

Hello! I am an incoming freshman this upcoming school year and I have passed all the college entrance exams I took (two of which are from Big 4). I have been pressured to study hard from kindergarten to elementary by my parents which led me to pressure myself during my junior and senior high school. I have grades ranging from 96-98 and an average enough for me to snatch high honors consecutively for the past two years of my senior high school and is regarded as one of the best students among my batch commended by my teachers. However, even after the accolades and achievements I have, after passing all my cets, my parents suddenly want me to study in a school near us and a course I do not want to take (that school does not offer my dream course). It feels unfair that they want to do that when we have talked not long ago that I would study in my second option (my first choice, I passed my dream school and course but they said it was too far and expensive) but with my second option, they’re okay with me going since the price range is lower than my first choice. Now they’re saying I should just study in a school I don’t even want with a course I don’t like. It feels like I have wasted my years trying to achieve things I thought would be useful for college but ended up being useless. Sana pala kung alam ko lang na ganon pala tung mangyayari sana hindi na ako nagpakahirap mag-aral na sagad sa buto to the point where I breakdown. Para saan pa yung paghihirap ko all those years if they’re throwing it all to nothing

I'm a 46 year old man who's ended up back in the dating game... and it's not a bit like it used to be. Fair enough. Times change.
Still, the difficulties we're all facing seem to boil down to one key difference between how men and women date. Said in general terms; Men are comfortable having sex with someone regardless of any long term romantic interests. Women are comfortable having sex with someone when they trust / 'trust' the relationship is heading in the right direction.
Naturally, there are going to be outliers (some of them extreme). But, the above may serve in the general sense.
This seems like a reasonable cause for the brevity of relationships these days. Man approaches woman. She decides whether he's appealing enough to date. If she approves, they get into a relationship and (eventually) have sex while he decides if she's appealing enough to marry.
As a side note: his choice to find a different partner is too easily conflated with 'taking advantage of her'; a thing that's more often felt by only one person in the relationship. At the surface level, a man deciding that she's not marriage material is akin to a woman declining a date. For us, it doesn't feel like we're taking advantage of women... we're 'doing the things people do in a relationship'. If it doesn't work out, we still enjoyed our time together (which is hoped to be a mutual enjoyment).
But, back on topic: What we're looking at is a 'category' of men that don't qualify for dating and women that don't qualify for marriage... which may cause you to think of certain types of people. But, this is seen through all the different ways in which we present; regardless of health, beauty, wealth, fame, etc, etc. Everyone pre-disqualifies themselves by way of choosing someone that wouldn't choose them. By 'punching above their class' so-to-speak.
When there's a 'difference in opinion', men miss out and ... women get fucked (over). Yet, both will see this as being 'fucked over'; because we can't seem to stop wanting the things we want and we'll take the risk with someone that's highly desirable.
Worse, most of us see 'giving up' (aka, waiting) as a better option than revising our dating selection criteria.
I was curious about people's thoughts... and yes, I'm not arguing that the above is true, or even saying I believe it holds merit. I'm here looking for people's thoughts so I don't end up with the wrong conclusions (and a bad position to start looking for solutions).

I've been with my girlfriend (22f) for 2 and a half years now.
I posted a few days ago about an incident, and was judged harshly, but I listened and apologized. (In summary, I took longer talking to my friend a few nights ago, and it intruded on plans I had with her). It got me thinking how immature I was and how much I was hurting her, so I told her I needed time for me to improve and I would help find her a new apartment. She was all over the place, confused, crying, and said this was an extreme reaction to her just wanting me to acknowledge why she was hurt over what I did.
After leaving for a day we talked things out and decided I could work on growing while still together. She hasn't really been herself, I know it will take time, but she admits she feels insecure and paranoid since what I did.
My friend was graduating college. The ceremony is a 4 hour drive from our town. I told him I would go and due to the long drive I would likely stay into Sunday at his place. My girlfriend seemed upset. She told me she knew I should go, it was just tough after everything that has happened. I told her she was still a main priority to me. I could tell she wanted to say something but didn't. It resulted in an argument and us not sharing much of a goodbye this morning.
Now I'm having a good time with my friend and was proud to see him walk across the stage. I kept my girlfriend updated on everything. Her messages have been shorter.
To be honest, I don't know what to do. My friend means the world to me, but I also love my girlfriend. I think it's possible to love and prioritize them equally, I just feel she makes it harder.
AITB?

Hello im from Southern Cali, heavy guy! shy guy until i warm up and be goofy and random with. Im def socially awkward, open minded nothing is tmi. I like honesty, I dont judge, im a simple guy love a woman in just sweat pants and a oversized tshirt of mine haha or a comfy cuddly oversized hoodie perfect for cuddles. 🥰 which i havent felt like in 15+ years. or a womans physical touch at all.
Im an easy going guy, i do game on Playstation so would be cool to find a game we both play.
Anyways days are lonely i miss the good mornings goodnights having someone to think about all day and randomly smile or laugh. i literally have no friends. Just want to talk without drama.
Someone who has the time and wants to chat back and forth. Not this One off where you chat say hi, act interested then poof ghost. Too old for that crap. So please.
I like being affectionate, yes even in over txt. i adore that stuff, specially my arm being hugged. Omg... maybe im clingy needy wont lie. Just hoping to find someone long term get to know and share our days and nights with.
I love sci fi movies or series shows. Love a good scary movie and having her nuzzle into me if shes scared. i find that sweet and cute. guess i sound desperate , oh well... if i do i do.
penguin hugs. 💙🐧💜

Me and my husband have been together for 7 years married for 1.5. Like most marriages we had are up and downs but always worked through it. My husband is bipolar and I have only experienced 2 episodes in the time we’ve been together, 2nd episode is still ongoing. From the last episode and this current episode it seems he picks a target and directs all that negative energy towards the person. The last episode was his brother, this time it is me. I know he reached peak in his episode when he threatened me with divorce and called me a bunch of awful things, some very unforgivable things, which came out of nowhere. For reference when we’ve gotten into disagreements in the past he has never made a threat of divorce nor spoke horribly to me. This is literally the first time. When these things were initially said not gonna lie I was a complete mess I couldn’t stop crying, I ended up having a full blown panic attack. That day he went off on me, his brother took him ER to get immediate psych help, now he is on meds and have been staying with his parents. It’s been few days since we actually saw or spoke to each other and today he decided to blow up my phone with calls and texts. Accusing me of some gnarly things, One of them was that I was drugging him so he would get an erection so that he would get me pregnant (we don’t have kids). He also said I’ve been taking advantage of his bipolar disorder which I’m not sure how that works but ok. I need to put emphasis that I am in no way shaming him for his disorder, & have done nothing but support him, listen and understand his feelings. He told me about his disorder around year 2 into our relationship and accepted it. Anyways after these recent events, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and well I am hoping he does go through with the divorce. I realized that I am not strong enough to handle this and to be honest since he has been so hateful towards me I have been feeling a bit scared. I love him I really do but I wasn’t made for this and I’m not sure how bad this can get in the future. I hate to say this but this might be my opportunity to leave especially since we don’t have kids. If he gets out of this episode and decides he no longer wants to divorce I would probably start pushing for it on my end. I know timing is important for these things. Please feel free to share your own experiences/advice/ask questions if I wasn’t clear on certain things. So sorry for the jumping around these last couple days have been overwhelming and exhausting and I’ve been trying to get my thoughts together.

NEED ADVICE. I'm 22. He is 33. He is the most kind and mature and loving man I've ever been with. He treats me wonderfully and we both are extreamly compatible so far. We've been together for a month. We both have agreed that sex is incredibly sacred and that we wanted to wait longer. But the other day, it just sort of happened naturally in his room. It was good sex. He says it's the best sex he's had in years: Yada Yada Yada. Anyways, about 10 minutes after we banged (mind you this was our FIRST time) He says very gently to me that he has plans with friends and asked if I minded if I left.
I live 2 fucking hours away lolz. And we were already planning on me staying a few nights cause I had a concert to see in his city The next day.
I said absolutely! Sure! In a passive aggressive and obviously hurt way I start to pack my things quickly. He then grabs me and says "whats wrong?" I eventually tell him. He seems so genuinely shocked and apologizes and begs for me to stay. I do stay. He doesn't hang with his friends. He says they "canceled". we continued to have a beautiful time since then, but didn't have sex again.
I don't know what to make of this.
I talked to my mother and sister. My mother says "he's 33, he should know better. He knows not to kick a lover out AFTER HAVING SEX the first time"
I totally agree. I can't shake this feeling. I see him on Tuesday. He doesn't think anythings wrong. Family says this was a terribly bad red flag.
Bros....is it over? Plz need advice.
On Tuesday, I plan on bringing this up again. But is there even a point? He truly is the man I want, beautifully lovely and has so much to offer. I'm torn.

Hi. This is kind of a nerve wracking post for me to make, cuz I'm not usually one to talk about myself. Especially in a public forum. But I could use some advice from fellow demis.
I've heard that it's a common experience for people who are demi to become attracted to their friends? Well, what do you do when you become attracted to a friend who's unavailable?
This year, I acquired a new friend. We'll call him J. J and I became fast and very close friends within a relatively short period of time. J also has a boyfriend, and they have a great relationship. I'm very happy for them both, and I think J's boyfriend is wonderful and I'm glad they have each other.
...which makes the fact that I'm catching feelings for J really, really difficult. This process has, as many times before, begun. But this time, if it's possible, I'd rather just curb the problem while I'm ahead.
J and I have actually talked about this a little bit, because as mentioned I have a tendency to catch feelings for the people I'm close with. I told him it was inevitable I would catch feelings for him and I wanted him to be prepared for that so we can deal with it correctly. And he's told me that if I need to talk about it, I can.
The trouble is, now it's happening, and I don't actually know how to deal with it. It's why I don't really want to talk to him about it yet. I don't wanna put a strain on our friendship or make things weird, even if he knows this is gonna happen.
This is kind of a scary situation because I really care about J and it's more important to me than anything to maintain a good friendship with him.
I guess my overall goal of this post is that I just need some support. Have you dealt with something like this? If so, how did you handle it? Is it abnormal that I can't just like...turn my feelings for him off? Do you think I should just talk to him about it anyway?
Any and all advice or support would be unfathomably appreciated. I'm...not really used to community support like this.

I'm 16 and I think there is something wrong with my brain. It feels like I got so dumb and I can't put my thoughts into words. I'm even struggling with writing this. I zone out all the time having conversations in my head but I don't do it that much in public. When somebody talks to me I don't know what to say unless it's something simple. If I don't know what to say I just say something dumb without thinking or smile awkwardly. I can tell when somebody thinks I'm weird or is making fun of me but I don't know how to react. I don't know how to stand up for myself at all because I'm afraid of looking dumb. People also tell me I speak quiet and monotone. I forget what I was going to say or think about all the time too. When I do a presentation in school I have an anxiety attack or something and it's so embarrassing. I used to be smart but now I feel so dumb. I understand what I'm supposed to do in social situations but I can't do it. I'm also really awkward. The only times I didn't feel like this is when I ate an edible and when I took acid. When I ate the edible for some reason I got so much better at talking and I had way more energy and the same thing happened with the acid. I know it's bad to be doing that this young but I don't think that's what caused this because it's been happening before that. I also don't feel emotions that much and I can't get excited for anything. I just feel the same all the time but sometimes I feel sad and angry. The only time I'm happy is when I'm eating but I don't want to get fat. I literally can't have a normal conversation with anyone because my brain shuts off and I also don't even know how to talk. I'm sorry if this is hard to read this was so hard to write because I know what I want to say in my head but I can't put it into words.

Plenty of great places to get grilled/roasted/rotisserie chicken but haven't come across too many places that have chicken and tostones.
Talked to the owner at 9 Julio on Claremont (new place, decent empanadas) and they do peruvian roasted chicken with plantain chips. The owner says they might introduce it soon but until then - any go-to's for 1/2 or whole chicken and tostones (or maduros)?
For reference, used to get this in NYC a lot from Puerto Rican and Peruvian places. I've tried A la Mar's - it's decent but $28 for half chicken and a small thing of tostones isn't a regular thing. Thanks in advance!
Edit: open to anywhere in the East Bay 15-20 mins from any point in Oakland.

Long story short, I had a no stalking no contact order on boyfriends bm. Judge stated since I decided to know boyfriend before divorce was final I opened myself up to the harrassment and should attempt to coparent kids that aren’t even mine…
A year later and things are even worse. So bad I was awarded another order.
Bm had her custody lawyer call my boyfriends custody lawyer to state i broke the agreement boyfriend and his bm made in mediation- that ncp nor cp will call the police or cps.
Boyfriend told me all this, and has been passing messages to me from her (the texts don’t explicitly state to tell me). She keeps talking/texting and making up lies that I’m abusive and hurt her kids and he’s just letting it go and refuses to be involved or help me with this. But allows her to continue to contact him regarding me.
Honestly wtf do I do? It’s seriously at the point I’d walk away, risk everything just to get away from her.

To anyone who wants to do north vs south, fuck off. Cultural supremacist/racist are not welcome here.
I'll start off by saying this- it's not a question about if you and I want our taxes to go to uttar pradesh and bihar, it's an expectation. It was mandatory the day this country was born, for the richer regions to help the poorer ones, that is the entire point of a nation state. By god we'll help other Indians.
The problem for us lies in the checks and balances which are currently not checking or balancing. We pool money and hand it out to the states and centre and the balance between each of the states is determined by the finance commission, they are smarter than us by all metrics and have pretty good equations and weights to determine a fair share. But the problems lie where the responsibility of the finance commission ends, they don't determine better or advanced policy that might look at other factors like competitive federalism, it's literally not their job. It leaves us not helping the people of bihar but subsidizing bad governments.
Imagine this, your governments have worked hard on good policies that have improved the lives of many(MH: Midc, kerala: social spending, Tamil nadu: capital spending) BUT for all this extra revenue you bought for the country you get punished by the centre which decreases your alloted share of it. Also fuck you- you don't get a say in it(2026 delimitation)
Quick history: it was argued by many in the constituent assembly that states shall always be weaker than the central government because the past has seen many great empires collapse due to regional autonomy. I believe they were short sighted in their approach to look at the medieval age while building a modern state.
You get an overbearing central govt that's slow to respond to both regional challenges and opportunities. Whose decisions on development projects are always criticized no matter what due to limited funds and having to ignore some regions for the betterment of all. Whose monetary and fiscal polices must hyperfixate on a precarious balance between the vast and diverse conditions across the country.
I wish the states be more responsible for it's own people while the national government can actually focus on improving places like the east, bihar, Chattisgarh etc. I wish we had more of a say in the resources we provide and get back through an opaque body.
The fears of the southern states on things like it's revenue are completely justified as the NITI aayog ceo admitted that modi asked the commission to reduce the state share of taxes while he lied in parliament about being happy with the commission.
Although we don't identify with the Dravidians, it's pretty evident that we have our own sub culture different from the indo-aryan group. I think there's a political party which was formed to remove foreign imposition but I'm unsure lol.
Hindi imposition is real and I like the fact that nationalist try and gaslight us into believing we're all the same and always have been, that our roots are non existent, that we should stop pretending to be like Dravidians and accept national homogeneity.

Hey guys so i had ran a gmod server about 2 years ago or so and was wondering if there is any way that people sell their old account with all the addons and such purchased on it to other people looking to get a deal on a bundle of addons? Just remembered i had put about $200 into addons for the server and even if i could half or more back would be awesome haha. Would say they were pretty common addons nothing super out of place or things that didnt work together.

Let me preface this whole thing with me saying yes I know my swing is gonna be the main game changer and clubs cant fix me completely. Went to my local PGA superstore today looking to get a new driver, been looking around online for a while and before hitting anything kinda had it narrowed down to 2, the TM Sim 2 Max and the Ping G425 Max. Im currently hitting a R Flex old Cobra S3, and while it has been good to me since ive started playing maybe a year and a half ago Ive been thinking I need a stiff shaft now as ive grown into a natural cut/fade and slice on a rough day. So got the the store and learned they had the Sim 2 Max (Stock stiff shaft) on clearance new and a used G425 Max (with X Flex Tensei Orange) , went to hit both and learned i had about a 105 swing speed, didn't really have anyone standing around so no one to ask questions hence why im asking here. But I definitely felt like I was hitting the X Flex G425 better numbers wise, and im just confused whether that was cause it was the club/shaft combo suited me better cause I definitely going into it was thinking I wasnt fast enough for X flex, with that said the Sim 2 max was surprisingly disappointing, felt like it was going nowhere, given it still had the plastic wrap and was taped over with like thick masking tape, but distance wise was probably getting between 275-280 total with G425 and 270 on the top end with the Sim 2, and was definitely also leaking the Sim 2 out to right more. I guess my main concern is that X Flex will be too stiff if I dont have a consistent swing, and maybe I should grow into the Sim 2 Max cause Ive heard great things about both. Any opinions appreciated im just way to indecisive to make purchases like this.

An Irish YouTuber was reviewing a movie from 2015. He complains that the movie was “trying to push the agenda by having black scientists.” Because God forbid there be a black scientist at NASA. Black scientists aren’t a thing, right? People are so disgustingly and openly racist. How could you even fix your lips to say such a stupid idiotic racist thing??

I once too was in your shoes. Broken and lost from a love I thought was forever.
I was with my ex for 7 years. And through those 7 years there were many many good times, and there were many many bad times. They say that’s what relationships are about.
Though there is some truth to that, the real truth is often a bit darker.
My ex dealt with some really horrible things from his childhood. Loss of his parents and family lead to abuse of substance and although he was smart, charming and a good person, these traumas followed him through much of his life and ultimately.. our relationship.
I always thought that I would be the one to fix him. Heal him with how much I cared and loved him. That if I just guided him and provided him with a safe, happy, soft place to land that eventually things would turn around.
The truth is nobody can fix anyone who does not wish to put the effort in to fix themselves.
And through the ups and downs I eventually realized how much of myself I had truly lost. How putting him before myself was my own down fall. I missed out on so many things for myself because I was always too worried about him and what I could do to support him or be around for him just in case he needed me.
From the outside looking into our relationship, someone would probably see two young adults, with good jobs, a beautiful home and a bright future. One with marriage and children so shortly on the horizon.
I often found myself wishing for that, until I didn’t. Until he started talking about it often and I realized it was something that scared me more than it excited me. I realized that if I stayed, if I continued to put this person over myself, that I would never be truly happy and I would always regret what could have been.
Looking back the bad was really bad. The fighting, the yelling the crying and sometimes even the violence that would follow. We never communicated effectively even though I really do think we tried. He was volatile and I was timid. He would scream and I would shut down. We were in a cycle of hurt together that we just didn’t know how to even escape after the life we had built, a life that was so heavily intertwined.
Looking back I was very young and immature when we got together. I think that he saw me as a life vest and took the opportunity when I showed how caring I was of my friends and family. He wanted to be apart of that. And knowing his background I can’t blame him.
But I do blame him for the blame he laid on me at the end. I do resent him for it. After all I did to try to help…To prove how much I loved him over and over he still threw it in my face that it wasn’t enough. That I was giving up. On him. On us. That by me leaving I was damning him to a life of substance abuse and misery forever. Like because of me he would never again have the opportunity to get it together. When in my mind the reason I was leaving was for the Hope that maybe if the life vest was gone he would drown, hit rock bottom, and be forced to work to the surface of recovery on his own.
I’m not sure where he’s at with his recovery today. I hope, truly, that he’s better. I know how badly he needed that for himself.
Even after we broke up I hoped we would find each other again. My friends said if it was meant to be and he got it together that we would definitely work it out.
Instead we usually fought when we spoke. Feelings of anger and sadness would be dredged up for me every time. I’d go days without eating or showering after we’d communicate. So we went NC.
I found someone about 6 months after we broke up. Someone kind. Loving. Giving. Someone who takes care of my heart. I fought being with him because I was so determined that my ex was my person. That certainly was not the case the more and more I spent time with this new person. I felt like I had finally come home. I realized how much trauma I was holding onto, and he helped me let it go slowly. He helped heal me without even trying. Just by being him.
We’re now engaged and recently found out we’re expecting.
I’m not fully healed to this day from my previous relationship, but I think that maybe that’s okay. Maybe that’s what makes the one that’s meant for me that much greater of a love.
I poured all of myself into someone who couldn’t even meet me a quarter of the way let alone meet me half way.
I think because of that, I have a respect and gratitude for my future husband that I maybe wouldn’t have if I hadn’t loved and lost before him.
My ex is now dating someone I was once best friends with. I’m not upset with him about it… I’m more disappointed and wishing better for him honestly. She was someone who hurt me and always envied me openly even while we were friends. I don’t see her being a healthy person for him the way that my person is for me. I want him to find his reason to get sober and I think she may be the opposite of that, and it makes me sad. But it’s not longer my burden or responsibility to hold.
I was in such a dark place for such a long time. I thought pieces and parts of me that died would never come back. But they are.
I can’t wait to be a mom and a wife. I feel content and happy knowing it’s with my true person. I feel loved and valued, everyday. I don’t walk on egg shells or feel down anymore.
When me and my ex broke up I thought truly I’d just lost the love of my life.
If you feel that way rn pls know that you’re not alone, but find some comfort in the fact that your person would never leave you feeling how you do right now. I promise.
I know it’s hard to see the end of it when you’re in it. There is good coming. There is what’s best for you still out there. 🤍