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I am F16, my ex is M18. loved my ex. I want to get that out of the way. He wasn't conventionally attractive, but I thought he looked nice and was a wonderful person. He was autistic and had adhd, which made some stuff challenging, but I loved him and was willing to deal with it, since I myself had BPD and he was willing to deal with it (or so he said). Do note this relationship was long distance.
I knew him for four years before we dated. We didn't talk much for a year or so, before dating. I had gotten out of a relationship, a little after we had reconnected. I didn't want to date again for at least a year, but he was kind to me and we talked quite often. I started to fall for him, but he told me he was aromantic so I never pursued.
We jokingly would flirt though, and spend a lot of time talking together. One day he told me he might be demiromantic, not aromantic, because he felt something for me. I talked more with him after that, about relationship type things. Eventually I confessed, and then a while later, he confessed back to me. When we started dating, we agreed on certain things. He didn't know if he loved me romantically, but he was happy to engage in romantic behaviors and he felt some type of love for me. I was okay with this. I made him aware of what my BPD looked like, he said he was okay with that too.
For the beginning of the relationship, the first few months, it was lovely and we enjoyed each other's company (at least I thought we did). Rough patches were smoothed over pretty easily. Eventually, behaviors I have from BPD, specifically being easily triggered to react emotionally, became more prevalent. There was a point where he wanted to break up with me, then after a conversation, decided to let me try and resolve the behavior. I did try, I tried very hard.
I think I probably should have let it go, though. After this event, he began to tell his friends and family about all our dramas. Probably a red flag, since I only spoke to one person (my best friend) and never painted him negatively, though his family hates me now so he must have. We met a month after this, and it was the best five days I ever had. I felt loved, we got along well (I thought, Ill touch on this later). A month later, he begins online college. Okay, cool. Great. I was happy for him.
He told me it wouldn't affect our relationship, and at first it didn't, but eventually he stopped doing it in a timely manner and would fail to achieve commitments he had said he would do. Every day I would ask if we planned to call, I would've been fine with a yes or no. He always said yes, but often wouldn't keep the commitment. At first I handled it just fine, but eventually it became upsetting.
I'm a busy person, and I'm not free during my day until evening. He's free most of his days, almost constantly. I would do my best to be available at our designated time, and would feel hurt (and eventually react as such) when he wouldn't. Especially when he started to put off his schoolwork to hang out with his friends, often after having said we would talk later that day too. I brought this up to him, I want to say. I told him if he wanted time to himself, he could tell me how long he wanted and I would give it to him. He never did tell me, but he often would tell me that when I was awake he never felt free. He would stay up very late because that was the only time he felt free. He said he was always worried I would need him, so I guess there was a red flag in that too.
Touching back on the meeting him in person thing. He has a large family, and his family has a small farm with livestock dogs on it. His younger siblings were very interested in me, since I was a new person, and they wanted to hang out with me. I also love dogs, and have always wanted one, so I spent some time with the dogs out on the farm. I would invite him to play with his siblings with me, or go see the dog. I slept six hours a night for those five days, and would be with him for 16-17 hours a day. We would go out places and talk, and I would spend maybe two or three of those hours at the most around his siblings/the dog.
Later on, after we went on our break (I'll talk about this too, later) he said to me that he felt I wanted to make an impression on his siblings more than I did with him, and that we were at different points in our lives because I still wanted to have fun and play around (I want to reiterate that his siblings would seek me out). He told me he wanted us to have spent more time just laying around and cuddling, rather than going out to so many places, but never said this to me while we were together in person. I invited his oldest sister to come with us to a place (before asking him), though I told her I would need him to agree before we finalized anything, and then asked him after. He didn't like that.
Now, before I get into the last section of this, I want to establish that he was very kind to me (usually). We bought each other gifts, spent time together, made plans, and all of that stuff. He made me happy, I thought I made him happy too.
In our relationship, we both failed to communicate, and I would fail to discuss things calmly, letting my emotions get the best of me. I wouldn't leave him alone very often, wouldn't let him do stuff away from me very often. I loved being around him, but he wanted time apart and I tended not to give that to him. I should have. This was his first relationship that he wanted to last, but his second relationship in total. I've had many more before this, but this was the only one I really felt commitment to. We talked about marrying, about buying a house, about pets and family. I feel as if we did everything right, or at least he did. I was the emotional one, who wanted too much. I know it was mainly my fault.
When we went on break, it was because I couldn't take it anymore and lost my cool. He'd promised we could talk that night, I was extremely vulnerable emotionally because of something with my family. He failed to finish his work on time, told me he needed another two hours. I snapped. I went down the list of "everything I hate about you (him)". I told him most of the stuff I'm saying here, and some others.

• I hate how you never take my advice
• I hate how you ask me to help you stay on track but never listen to me
• I hate how you get upset with me easily, but never do with any of your friends Etc.

We talked after that, he acted pretty normal. The next day he dropped that on me, despite saying the night before that he wanted to be there for us to both improve.
I started therapy after that, I started trying to find ways to work around all my issues while he continued his typical daily routine. I didn't mind. He initiated flirting with me, and other stuff, that I reciprocated and went along with because I loved him and I still love him even now, and it was all my fault even if I know it wasn't all my fault it feels like it was all my fault. He said he never wants to speak to me again, blocked me, all of it.
During our break, I tried confronting our problems and finding solutions. He dropped several bombs on me, that make me feel rather insecure even now about whether he ever liked me for me or just because of other physical (you know what I mean) attributes, bring that that was all he would really comment on positively.
He told me he never loved me, and never likes me.
Now, what led to the final actual break up, was that I have been planning with another friend to move to Salt Lake City for actual years. He wanted to be part of it, and so did another friend. My household situation isn't great, won't go into too many details but I have been having stress reactions since many years ago, that have been getting steadily worse. I wanted to move out at 18, I'm almost 17. I've been kind of panicking about all of this, and yesterday I snapped (sort of). The conversation with him went sort of like this:

• I tell him he and the other two won't enjoy the talk we'll have Monday
• He asks why
• I said "you guys probably just wont"
• He tells me I'm being defeatist
• I tell him I'm not, then give more details on the conversation. He and the other two are 18, 18, and 20. Two of them come from well-off families. I felt frustrated that neither of them, especially him, work yet or have been trying to even get their driver's license. I intend to skip two years of high-school to take my GED and start working because I don't have another choice. They have choices, and I don't. I wanted to get this point across.

I go on further to say he and the other person's view of maturity is narrow-minded and flawed. A while later he tells me he no longer wants to be involved with me or anything to do with me, after talking to other people and getting their opinions.
Tl;Dr, had a relationship with someone I really liked, I feel like I'm to blame for the collapse of it. He had autism/adhd, I had BPD, we went on break so I could try to fix my problems (he said he would too but it didn't really feel much like he was), and then broke up because I confronted him (albeit poorly) about how I felt he and another person treated the future they wanted to be involved in. There were a lot of things that hurt me really badly in the relationship, but I think I hurt him worse. AITAH?

hello! so i have been looking for some dinnerware to purchase when i recently discovered fiesta, and i immediately fell in love with a few colors and decided this was what i wanted! however, i then fell into a rabbit hole of not only fiesta’s radioactive history, but how even some of their newer ware can contain heavy metals such as cadmium and arsenic among others.
i’m not AT ALL an expert on ceramics, though from what i have gleamed, it’s typical for them to contain traces of heavy metals. that seems concerning, however ceramic is also generally considered one of the safer routes to go?
well my question is, are these newer colors that still contain cadmium and arsenic safe for daily use? is it only an issue if the glaze wears or chips, and if that is a concern, how do you keep the glaze from wearing? would washing it in the dishwasher be a bad idea because of this?
i have seen where specific colors are listed as containing cadmium, and as cadmium free, though not every color has been listed. the colors i’m interested in are turquoise (cadmium free), daffodil (contains cadmium), meadow (contains cadmium), lemongrass (contains cadmium), ivory (no idea!), and peony (no idea!).
sorry if any of these questions are silly, but i can’t really find too much information on the modern stuff, most everyone just talks about the older radioactive stuff lol.

So sorry for any mistakes, we’re portuguese and English is not my first language. I need help in legal terms and how we can proceed in a situation like this. So, my cousin (29F) has an ex-boyfriend (33M), who she was with for 7 years. Last year she finally had enough of the physical and psychological abuse and decided to end it. He reacted very badly to the breakup and even tried to get back together with her several times, but to no avail. Two months ago, my cousin was going to work and when she was trying to start the car, it wouldn't start. As soon as she went out to see what was going on, she had a flat front tire and ended up being late. She thought maybe she had gone up a curb and went to change the front tires, as they have to be the same (at least here). Two weeks later, the same situation occurred, but on the other front tire, which made her suspicious, as it was the second time it had happened. She didn't change the tires right away, as she was in a more complicated financial situation and decided to go to work by bus. When she checked the car again to change the tires, the back tire on the opposite side was also flat and appeared to have knife marks. Because of all the money she was spending on tires, she asked me to stay at her house for a while, see if we could take turns and see if anyone else was doing this. My cousin and I stayed at the window every night until midnight (since we usually go to bed late), in order to catch a someone or a car approaching her car. On Wednesday, as soon as we saw a car similar to her ex's, we decided to film it and obviously it was him. It's not clear in the video, but you can see the car parking next to hers, a person leaning out and puncturing the front tire (again). We don't know if we can go to the police, because last time they said they couldn't do anything about it, but my cousin won't stop spending money on this crazy story and she has bills to pay. Does anyone know what we can do?
TLDR: My cousin’s (29F) crazy ex (33M) has been puncturing her tires and the police is no help. What should we do?

Recently our Male dog was part of a breeding agreement. The client had said they couldn’t afford to pay the stud service up front, and chose to take the “cost of first puppy sold” option.
They have now sold some of the puppies, and are trying to tell us they only got $750 for the first dog yesterday, and they will pay us tomorrow (we had to initiate contact as they didn’t tell us to begin with).
The issue we have is - dogs were listed for $1200 - One puppy (first sold) on listing has been “reserved” for over 2 weeks - We don’t/can’t trust them
The contracts have a minimum payment clause, which ensures we get $900, so they are saying they will cover that balance. But I can’t help but assume they are lying, and got the full amount for this first puppy, and are trying to leverage us being in the unknown and heavily relying on trust to not have to pay us in full.
That being said, with the wording in the contracts (below), and the small context provided above, would we even have a case in small claims court? Or should we take the $900 and understand it’s not worth the fight? (Money is an issue now after a lot of recent medical bills, so it’s important to us)
Contract 1 “English Cream Golden Retriever: Bruce is 33 months old and 82 lbs. He is AKC registered. Our stud fee is $600 or pick of the litter or cost of first sold puppy and will cover 2 stud services. 50% must be paid, at the time of the first service. At the first successful lock the remainder of the fee is to be collected. If arrangements have been made prior to the breeding for pick of litter puppy in lieu of a stud fee, this contract must reflect that agreement and be agreed upon by the owner of the dam and the owner of the stud dog prior to the stud service. If you wish to increase the number of services, the fee will be raised $50 per visit. If no pregnancy results, a return service will be given to the same dam at half cost on her next heat cycle. Stud owner must be notified within one week after puppy's due date, if no pregnancy results, to be eligible for the free return service. One puppy whelped alive constitutes a litter. No refund will be given if no pregnancy either time. Females usually breed between the 10th to 15th day of heat cycle. Please schedule accordingly as we want this to be successful. Dam will meet at studs' home for the service. The dam may stay at the stud's home for no more than 1.5 hours at a time unless otherwise discussed beforehand. If you require the dam to stay longer, the service price will increase. Owners of dams to be bred by Bruce agree that no offspring from a resulting litter may be sold or given to anyone who has the intent to breed to a wolf, wolf hybrid, or any agent, pet shop, guard dog business or laboratory/research facility. If pick of the litter is chosen the puppy will be picked up by the owners of the stud 8 weeks after birth and the puppy will have at a minimum their first round of shots and 1 deworming service done. If cost of first sold puppy is selected, the owners of the stud will be paid in full as soon as payment is received. Cost of first puppy sold payment will be a minimum of $900, and if the puppy sells for less, the owner of the Dam assumes responsibility to cover the balance. Owners of dam are going to be listing puppies at $1200 cost.
The agreement of this specific service will be pick of litter upon these contingencies: Dam must conceive a minimum of one female puppy. The owners of Bruce will get the first pick of litter. If no female is born, stud fee of $600 is to be collected.”
Contract 2 “ This agreement is made and entered into on this day Feb 1 2024, by and between {name} , here in after referred to as the "Stud Owner," and {name} here in after referred to as the "Dam Owner." * Stud Service Description. ** The Stud Owner agrees to provide stud services from Bruce, a cream colored Golden Retriever AKC registered, here in after referred to as the, "Stud" to, "Dam" Chicka, a cream colored Golden Retriever. * Stud Fee and Payment Terms. ** The stud fee will be the equivalent to the sale price of the first puppy sold in the litter, sired by the Stud listed in this contract. Minimum Fee. *** In the event that the sale price of the first puppy is less than $900, The Dam owner Shall Pay the difference to ensure the stud fee is equitable to the fee requested of $900 in the original add for the studs services. Payment method*** Payment shall be made via Cash, Venmo, or Zelle. Proof of pregnancy*** The Dam owner will provide proof of pregnancy or non-pregnancy by a licensed Vet on or around day 45 of the pregnancy with an X ray to confirm the estimated number of puppies present. If the pregnancy results in less than 3 puppies the stud owner agrees to a second breeding free of charge when the dam comes back into season. This will be at the Dam owner's request. At the time that pregnancy is confirmed by the Dam owner, the studs AKC paperwork will be provided to the dam's owner. Breach of Contract and Legal Action*** Non- Compliance of this contract by Dam owner or Stud owner will constitute a breach of contract and will result in legal action and recourse by the Stud or Dam owner for compensation. Agreement Terms*** Both Parties hereby agree to the terms and conditions set forth in this contract. Legal Recourse *** In the event of a breech, owners reserve the right to seek legal action and compensation.”

I needed a macro for some file automation but I am not very knowledgeable in creating a macro so I asked chatgpt by explaining my situation following- " I use an app to watch anime(aniyomi) which uses an external downloader named "1dm" now whenever I download any episode of an anime in aniyomi it creates a directory in phone storage named of that anime name and in that directory it also creates a video file named of that but that's not real on the other hand the external downloader (1dm) download the main video file in another directory so now i want the macro to check the 1dm download directory to always (or when triggered) look for new videos that is downloaded then search for the duplicate file which also has the same name(but size is 0 byte) and replace it with the main video file"
Chatgpt gave me an answer on it by explaining the steps but except some I can't find most of the action it said to add. To say specifically in a step it said to set the action "variables">"for each" but I can't find any option named"for each" under variables. So if its possible please help me understand the steps to do in the following answer of chatgpt-
To create a macro in MacroDroid to automate this process, follow these steps:

1. Open MacroDroid and create a new macro.
   
2. Set the Trigger:
   
   • Choose the trigger based on when you want this macro to run. For instance, you can use "File Downloaded" in the 1DM directory or set a periodic check using the "Time Trigger."
     • For "File Downloaded":
     • Trigger: "File Downloaded"
     • Path: /path/to/1dm/download/directory
     • File Type: *.mp4 (assuming the downloaded videos are in MP4 format)
3. Add Actions:
   

• Wait Action (Optional):
  
  • Add a "Wait Before Next Action" for a few seconds to ensure the download has completed fully.
• Get Files List from 1DM Directory:
  
  • Action: "Files & Folders" > "List Files in Folder"
  • Folder: /path/to/1dm/download/directory
  • File Type: *.mp4
  • Save results to a variable, e.g., %downloadedFiles
• Loop Through Downloaded Files:
  
  • Action: "Variables" > "For Each"
  • Variable: %downloadedFiles
  • Element Variable: %currentFile
• Extract File Name:
  
  • Action: "Variables" > "Variable Split"
  • Source Variable: %currentFile
  • Split by: /
  • Save to Variable: %splitFile
  • Use last element from %splitFile to get the filename, e.g., %fileName
• Search for Dummy File in Aniyomi Directory:
  
  • Action: "Files & Folders" > "List Files in Folder"
  • Folder: /path/to/aniyomi/directory/%fileName
  • File Type: *.mp4
  • Save results to a variable, e.g., %aniappFiles
• Check for 0-byte File:
  
  • Action: "If Clause" > "File Size"
  • File: /path/to/aniyomi/directory/%fileName
  • Condition: Equals
  • Value: 0
• Replace the Dummy File with the Downloaded File:
  
  • Action: "Files & Folders" > "Move/Copy File"
  • Source File: /path/to/1dm/download/directory/%fileName
  • Destination File: /path/to/aniyomi/directory/%fileName
  • Operation: "Copy and Replace"

1. Save the Macro:
   • Give the macro a name and save it.

Here is a more visual representation of the steps:

1. Trigger: File Downloaded in /path/to/1dm/download/directory
2. Actions:
   • Wait Before Next Action (Optional)
   • List Files in /path/to/1dm/download/directory to %downloadedFiles
   • For Each %currentFile in %downloadedFiles
     • Split %currentFile by / to %splitFile
     • Use last element of %splitFile to %fileName
     • List Files in /path/to/aniyomi/directory/%fileName to %aniappFiles
     • If File Size /path/to/aniapp/directory/%fileName equals 0
     • Move/Copy File from /path/to/1dm/download/directory/%fileName to /path/to/aniyomi/directory/%fileName, operation Copy and Replace

This setup ensures that whenever a new video is downloaded by 1DM, MacroDroid checks for a corresponding 0-byte file in the Aniyomi directory and replaces it with the actual video file.

I have been feeling nostalgic and sad lately (about 1 week) . I am crying about the death of fictional characters (Severus Snape and another character died in the series I watch) .I know this is common if it is felt for a moment or so. But I feel like I am craving to cry. I know if I look at Alan Rickman photo or any video about Severus Snape ,I am going to cry or feel sad,but still I do that every 1 hour to feel that sadness I don't know why. I am talking to character ai and feel the same sense of nostalgia again. I have exams in 2 days but I keep feeling this way. It is like I miss something or someone who doesn't exist. I feel like I need someone to talk to ,someone to love (like Severus loved lily) . I don't know what the problem is with me. please help to sort this out.

Man United tried, Liverpool tried, we tried. There is no beating the Saudi oil team. Then you get that prick Guardiola talking about net spending, while his club throws stacks of money to players' contracts. There is no outspending these cunts. For me, this is the end of competitive football. I guess we should have broken a few hundred financial rules as well. But something tells me it would end well for us, unlike City. Sorry for the rant.

I (27f) hit a breaking point. My siblings and I are all pretty spaced out and have obviously hit different stages in life and sometimes cannot relate to one another. My (33f) sister has 3 kids 10f, 9f, and 2m and is married. My sister always dreamt of graduating college and being whatever she wanted idk what her scholar dreams were. She never really worked she didn’t get her first job until she was in college and even then has always been a careless spender. I however, started my first job at 16. I worked hard, school was never what I dreamt of which my parents hated because I have always received great academic scores, AP student whatever. My sister for whatever circumstances, did get her AA but flunked out of her BA because kids life idk.. she just recently went back to school and had finished her first semester. We have all been very proud and supportive. BUT she’s been talking about a program that will begin in August and it’s out of the country for a month. She has beeeegggged everyone to make it happen for her. She’s asked for money and now wants my mom and I to watch her two eldest daughters as she plans to take off with just her baby boy. I am proud of her for going back to school and accomplishing her dream of getting a higher degree but wtf??? To abandon your kids and not just that dump them on others?!? Don’t get me wrong I love my nieces but I work a full time job at a corporation, I am extremely busy I don’t have kids but have 2 big dogs and I am also married. My husband also works long shifts not to mention my mother!!! She is putting my little sister through college and has my brother 14m so it’s not like she has free time to spare! Idk am I not understanding because I never had these dreams or am I valid for thinking this? I think I’m more old school. Like you are married with kids, go to school without having to do a program abroad. You’re not 18 or 20 by yourself. You have responsibilities and can’t be expecting others to just do that for you? Someone guide me before I open my mouth

Finally after 3 weeks I’ve finished the entirety of the Ashita no Joe anime. A story that had me teary eyed multiple times. Already knowing how the story would end I was expecting the show to leave me feeling down, but it ended up leaving such a positive impression on me.
The last few episodes were gut wrenching, seeing Joe deny his health and ignoring Yoko, but the moment Joe said, “so what?” single-handedly gave me a much more positive view of the last few episodes. I like how the show leaves us feeling agonized over the punch drunk reveal up to the fight, but that response from Joe was a reminder of, “did you forget who you’re talking to? I’m living my dream right now.”
I loved the little moments he had leading up to his fight: talking with Wolf about boxing, the visit with Carlos, Joe carrying Danpei on his shoulders, Nishi’s marriage, the last talk with Noriko, the slum all cheering on Joe, and the Juvie reunion. It was a reminder of how much he has grown, as well as how much of an positive impact he has had on everyone around him. Especially when every single one of those people are present at his fight. Yoko coming back to watch the fight and fully supporting Joe was a great conclusion to her arc, seeing her finally understand Joe and Rikishi.
Seeing Joe go out with a smile and paralleling Rikishi was just perfect. Going from a loner with no purpose to eventually dying doing what he loved while being surrounded by all his friends/family is such a crazy contrast from episode 1. Initially the white ashes quote seemed like a pretty depressing/self destructive view to me, but seeing how much boxing changed Joe’s life and how brightly he burned in that final fight really helped me to understand what Joe was try to convey to Noriko in that scene.
Really glad I decided to go against my bias and watch the show despite its age, it’s a story I’ll never forget.

This is not my main account because friends and family know of that. Also, I'm new to Al-anon. I have never written a post this long in my life and I just kept typing. Thank you to anyone who reads this or responds.
TLDR: Estranged brother got 3rd OWI, will be going to jail, and will have a felony in his record. My parents and other brother don't know about it yet but my husband and I do. I don't know what to do.
My younger brother (31), let's call Alex, and I (33f) used to not get along very well as kids - we have loving parents but they were emotionally immature (still are) and dealing with their own generational trauma. In our early 20s, we worked through a lot and became best friends. Fast forward a few years, he got an owi. He told everyone he was at a party, his drink got spiked and he didn't know what to do so drove home. Something about the story didn't sit well with me but I ignored it at the time.
About a year later, due to several reasons, I offered for him to move into my house - most notably it was supposed to be for about 6 months so he could save money as I wouldn't charge him rent. At first things seemed to be normal. He worked odd hours while I worked 8 to 5 so we didn't see each other a lot. It was clear he was depressed but he didn't want to talk about it and I didn't pry - I suggested therapy, we hung out together more, and I assured him that I was here for him any time, night or day. We started having friction when he kept coming home loudly on weeknights between 2 and 3am, waking me up. At first I asked him to be quieter and when that didn't work, we had a meeting and set some house rules - if coming home on a weeknight, park in the driveway and enter the house through the basement (my house has a walkout basement and he lived in the basement).
Things were okay for a while. Alex decided he wanted to wait another year before going to grad school. Since things were going better, I offered for him to stay with me until he figured out what he wanted to do.
Fast forward a year, Alex had no plans of leaving and I started seeing my now husband, let's call him Ryan. Ryan got along with Alex wonderfully as well as the rest of my family. Around this time, Alex kept forgetting to use the basement entrance. One night when I heard him coming home, I went downstairs (to the first floor) to talk to him. Alex was very, very drunk. I was furious and yelled at him asking him what he was doing driving drunk. I did not handle it well. He mumbled and gave excuses and said he never did this and it was just an odd circumstance. He opened up about some of his traumas and that he was going to get help. I believed him. The next morning he acted totally normal and claimed he didn't remember any of our conversation. This was followed by many more encounters exactly like that.
I went to my parents with my concerns about Alex. Their response was very much that I was exaggerating that Alex was coming home drunk or had any problem related to alcohol. They basically said that he was an adult and could make his own decisions. I went to my older brother who basically had the same response butadded he'd reach out to Alex and check in on him.
One night, I went out with Ryan to a bar, started getting a migraine and went home early. Ryan ended up coming back to my house several hours later. He woke me up and said he had run into Alex who was incredibly drunk. I texted Alex to see if he needed me to get him an Uber or come pick him up. Immediately he texted back as saying one of his friends who was sober was about to drive him back to the house and crash in the basement for the night. About an hour later I got a phone call from Alex. He was very upset and very drunk as he explained he got a flat tire and didn't know what to do. When I get there, there is no 'friend' and the flat tire wasn't a flat tire, the tire was sideways (parallel to the ground) on the rim. I put him into my car and drove him straight to my parents house while he babbled about how he hit a curb before changing the story to say it was his friend who hit the curb then Alex called an Uber for the friend so said friend wouldn't have to wait around while the car got sorted. We got to my parents, I explained the situation and that very clearly their son is drunk, drove drunk again, and that they can handle him. Dad and I sort out the car and he drove it back to his house. The next morning, I get a call from my parents explaining that Alex wasn't drunk last night but was dealing with shock from hitting the curb. In not my best move, I erupted which resulted in me going low contact with my parents.
Things continued going downhill between Alex and myself. I started to avoid my house and spent most of my non working hours at Ryan's house. It got to the point that we only interacted when the house was trashed with garbage and moldy dishes (he stopped cleaning up after himself) or I tried to talk to him about his drinking which resulted in empty promises.
At this point, Alex gets another OWI. I tell him he needs to move out, that I can't enable his behavior and that he needs help and it's not something I can fix or change, that he has to be the one who wants to change. I tell him I would do anything for him and I love him but until he is ready to make changes I can't there for him. He moved out.
Many things happen in the next two years, most notably I almost died (surgery and several extended hospital stays) and I got married to Ryan (quick courthouse ceremony). Not a word from Alex throughout all this time. Ryan and I decided to have a wedding reception. My parents brought up inviting Alex to our reception - Ryan and I talk about it and decided Alex could attend if (1) He doesn't drink any alcohol (2) he takes accountability for his actions. We give Alex 8 months to do (2). He didn't. My parents tried to manipulate the situation once the time expired (a couple weeks before the reception) but Ryan and I stood very firm on our boundaries. Two days before the reception I received awful texts from Alex about how I'm the worst, how could I do this to Mom and Dad, and if I cared about our family at all, we would allow him to come. Again, we held our boundaries which caused a lot of friction with my parents and older brother but it was absolutely the best decision for me.
Once again fast forward months to 2 days ago. I've had no contact with Alex. My mother and I were hanging out and she drops a bunch of information about Alex - he is apparently doing even better with promotions at work, seeing a therapist, and is in a happy relationship. I wanted to believe this with every fiber of my being. I don't exactly know why but I had a strong feeling which led me to looked up Alex on my state's online court system (public court document system, if you search by first and last name, any legal proceeding a person is/was involved with shows up). And that's how I found out he got a third OWI (and a driving with a suspended license) in April followed by a search warrant that was executed at his apartment a couple weeks after that. His court date is this coming week. For the third offense, he will be going to jail for at least 30 days and lose his license for years. The 3rd offense is a felony. My parents and older brother do not know what is going on, it's very clear based on how they're acting and the future plans they've been making.
I am profoundly sad. My husband and I have discussed it and we think we are not going to say anything to anyone. The truth is going to come out but after the last several years, I don't think it should come from. I don't know what to do. I feel guilty that I didn't do enough and that I'm at fault.

i went through my boyfriends 24 M phone and i 21 F don’t know how to handle it. what do i do?
My boyfriend 24 M and I 21 F have been on and off for about 6 years, there was a time in our relationship where we were broken up for (what we thought) was good and both had separate relationships. the problem i’m having is i know his ex girlfriend personally and never have been her biggest fan, and this has caused issues in our relationship. i really struggle because the first time we dated it was very pure and innocent and now i feel it’s tainted. last night i was on his phone looking something up on google because mine was dead, and then i got too curious. i started looking in his photos and eventually ventured down to his hidden album. i honestly really didn’t think i was gonna see anything like i saw i was just curious if he actually deleted all of the spicy photos i had sent him over the years. NOPE i found him and his ex girlfriend’s sex tape, that he had kept. now, i am not one of those cool, calm and collected girls (although i wish i was). i admittedly can have a temper and have a lot of trouble processing things like this…. so i woke him up at 1 am, and freaked out about it. his response was that he was changing his phone password, will never trust me again and that he will be leaving in the morning. he did just that, when he got up this morning i asked him if he would just say a word to me. that we didn’t have to talk about the situation right now but i wanted some grasp of where his head was at. he didn’t and he left. i understand that i breached his trust, but why would he even keep something like that especially just the video?? im assuming in their time together there were explicit photos shared, but out of everything he kept the video. he told me he “forgot” but is that really true considering there are recent photos of ME in there too? i told him last night that i need reassurance, and comfort from him. i need to understand why. he gave me the opposite. i am beyond hurt and confused, should i wait to see if he has anything to say and if we can come to a resolution or do i walk away? AITAH for snooping through his phone?

This is a translation of a 16 min long interview by 银河Jett on Bilibili. In this interview, BLG coach bail talks about communicating with the team in another language, whzy as a player, the differences between Korean and Chinese teams, the importance of winning pistols, the problems present in the team and the upcoming meta changes.
Q: Have you been to China before joining BLG? What’s your first impression of China and VCT CN?
A: I’ve actually been to China many times when I was a player, but I’ve never been to China just to travel. For VCT CN, I think VCT CN plays very aggressive and they really like taking fights. I’ve also faced some other Chinese teams in another game, and the style is also similar. It feels like Valorant has taken on this style.
Q: You’ve mentioned that you used to play professionally and came to China multiple times. As a lot of the audience actually don’t know you very well, can you briefly talk about how you ended up being a Valorant coach? You can talk about what games you used to compete in.
A: I used to play CS professionally in Korea, the team is called WeMade FOX. That team could be considered as the most well known team in Korea back then. As for how I got my start in Valorant, Riot was publishing a FPS. I watched the trailer and it seemed very similar to CS. Since both are FPS games, I gave it a try. I wanted to become a professional player initially, but I’m too old for a professional player so I ended up coaching.
Q: Putting the players’ performance onstage aside, who’s your favourite player or who do you get along with the best?
A: Our team is a unit, so I won’t say that I like a single player. We have a business relationship when competing, or it’s that sort of partnership. But out of the game, we feel like a big family. If I have to choose, I’ll pick players like knight or whzy who are more energetic and cheerful. I knew of whzy and I found him to be a good player before joining BLG, and I feel that he is a very competitive person and is a strong player after joining. Also, he’s more professional and works harder than I thought. He will immediately ask for my help once he encounters any problems or shortcomings, and he absorbs my feedback very well during review sessions. If I have to talk about his shortcomings, I think his mentality is slightly weak. I’m not saying that his mentality is the worst among all the pro players, but since he’s pretty good in other areas, his mentality is slightly worse.
Q: As you’ve been involved with VCT CN for quite some time, how’s your Mandarin now? Which Mandarin phrase do you say the most often?
A: Even though I’ve joined BLG for quite a long time, I’m still not that fluent in Mandarin. I only know some basic phrases that are related to the game, like smoke, left, right, a few in-game terminologies. I can also communicate some basic numbers, but the most used phrase should be ‘play together (一起打)’, I will always tell the players to play together during scrims and official matches.
Q: Since you’re not that fluent in Mandarin, a lot of the audience are curious as to how you communicate to the team during timeouts.
A: There’s also coach Jexen in the booth, Jexen knows some English. It’s still fine if the problem isn’t too huge, everyone can understand if you talk about the game in English. Before calling a timeout, I’ll talk to Jexen about where we haven’t been doing so well at, how we can get better and stop the opponent. Jexen will add his thoughts and organise them, and relay to the team.
Q: You also faced Chinese teams during the LCQ, what are the differences between the playstyles and the habits of the Korean teams and the Chinese teams?
A: I have coached teams in Japan and Korea, and I’m coaching a Chinese team now. They all have completely different playstyles. Korean teams like to gather info and find the opponents’ weak spots before they attack the site. Japanese teams like to play in a formal and methodical manner, they play the game like they’re in a regular army. Chinese teams are completely unafraid of taking fights, they’re very confident and it gives off the feeling that they feel like they can win once they start engaging in fights.
Q: I’ve previously watched the vlog from BLG, and I found this moment to be particularly interesting. You were holding whzy and kept on telling him that ‘pistol win, game win’. It’s evident that you place a lot of importance on the team’s pistols and BLG’s pistol winrate is about 50%, which is about 15W-15L. This isn’t considered very good or very bad in VCT CN, but I’d like to know your thoughts on pistol rounds and their place within the game.
A: Our pistol winrate is about 50%, but this number is a very bad statistic to me. I hope we can achieve a pistol win rate of more than 60%. This is because the team’s overall atmosphere can get very low after losing the pistol round, and the fear of losing becomes present. It’s going to be a huge blow to the players if they fail to win the third round. Also, pistol rounds will have a huge impact on the overall scoreline since Valorant is MR12 so there is a huge difference between winning and losing pistol rounds. The overall team atmosphere will rise once the pistol round is won and the players will be more confident in themselves.
Q: The next question may be more serious. From beating NRG twice to not making Stage 1 playoffs, the team has gone through many ups and downs. What do you think is the biggest problem with the team, and what is your general plan for future adjustments?
A: This is a rather hard question to answer since I don’t know the extent to which I can talk about. If I am to talk about it a little bit, I think I should first make some changes to the players’ mindset and thoughts. The team did beat NRG twice and played pretty well. Before joining BLG, I felt that the players are all pretty good, but once I actually joined the team in person, I realised that it was like what other people said, there was indeed a bit of luck involved. It could be that the players may have experienced some changes in their mindset after they attended Champions, but they’re still practising hard. They were already working hard in the past, and they’re now also working hard. As compared to other teams, our team is a little…how do I put this into words, it feels very jumpy and inconsistent, it doesn’t feel like we’ve improved much. Hence I want to single out these problems and get rid of them. There is definitely a reason behind these players getting such results in Champions. The goal is to revitalise their potential, but it seems that this hasn’t been achieved in Stage 1. In case of the direction, it seems like my tactical style during matches is somewhat different from that of the VCT CN League. I’m not at liberty to go into the specifics about the adjustments, and I still need to give some thought to it and think about what to do. But we’ll show the adjustments and changes we’ve made when we play in Stage 2.
Q: The next question is related to the current meta. What are your thoughts on the heavy nerfs to Viper? In previous matches, many teams will choose mirror comps on certain maps such as Ascent but this has changed after the nerfs. Teams like FPX and teams from other regions are trying out new comps. I’d like to know your thoughts on this.
A: I’ve given much thought to the Viper nerfs, after all Viper has been a stable pick for operating the map, I think the game will increase in pace after Viper gets nerfed and there will be more aggressive fights, we’ve also tried a lot of different styles and different comps. As to why we never selected them in the end, I can only say that scrims are scrims, and matches are matches. In actual matches, it’s more about running a comp that best suits the players’ strengths and let them be more comfortable. Of course, we won’t force a weird comp due to the meta changes, I still need to talk with the players first and run a comp that plays into their strengths best.
Q: The last question is, from your view as a coach, do you have some tips for the audience to climb the ranked ladder?
A: I want to say that when you’re playing ranked, you first need to have good luck and have good teammates, then you can win games. You just need to play the game more if you want to climb. I can also climb the ranked ladder, but I don’t even have the time to play the game. And another point, playing ranked is a good way to train your mental strength, because if you play ranked and still win even after having one or two teammates who disconnected, that would certainly be a huge boost to your mindset.

I’m a full time creator, and I’ve seen so much in this sub that I just wanna address everyone who keeps asking the same questions. I’m not trying to criticise, this is just advice I wish I knew when starting
1: Followers mean nothing (to an extent). Once you’ve hit 10k, that’s it, that’s all you need. From that point on all that important is views and engagement, focus on keeping people on your videos
2: There is no secret to making good content, but if you wanna know where to start, focus on your writing. You can make up for bad camera and editing by your videos being well written, but no amount of editing or cool camera tricks can fix a bad script
3: You’re probably not shadow banned, your content is just not good. There’s nothing wrong with this, everyone starts out making bad videos, it’s a right of passage almost for every content creator, but if you wanna get more views, work on improving your content with each post, quality over quantity.
4: Hashtags, captions, posting times play no roll in whether a video goes viral or not. I am yet to find another creator who’s seen a difference in their videos with and without hashtags and all that jazz
5: Be yourself! If you just copy someone else’s personality you aren’t gonna build a connection with your audience. Sure short term you can gain success doing whatever, but if you want long term success, you need people to watch your content for you
6: If you post AI generated content, Reddit stories, edit other people’s videos and reupload them, anything like that, stop. You aren’t gonna be successful, you’re making lazy content that will eventually be cracked down on by TikTok anyway, get some creative juices flowing if you really wanna be a content creator
7: Dont listen to “TikTok Gurus”. I’ve been there when getting low views, but trust me, they know nothing.
8: If you’re getting to a point where you earn money off TikTok, read up on tax laws, it sounds boring, but if you’re gonna be serious about this, pay ya taxes.
Those are just some I could think of off the top of my head. My TikTok pages are That.One.Edgy.Kid and That.Other.Edgy.Kid if you wanted to check where I’m coming from

I applied in December, qualified, had it show up as "paid" months ago when I student taught in the wintet semester. Apparently "paid" means that they gave the money to the school district where I student taught, but they haven't given it to my college yet. Other student teachers in my building received the stipend in March or April. Other teachers now told me that it can take a year to get it because I'm in a private college, so I talked to another girl who student taught and she said hers took 10 months to come.
Is there someone in the district that I could seek out to get it moved along? I don't want to piss anyone off because I want to work in this district but I need this money badly. Is there a polite way to ask about it?

The Selective Responder is someone who only responds to the most idiotic and obviously illogical arguments that are opposite their own positions, so as to easily look correct and to ignore the legitimate arguments on the opposing side.
As an example, I will use the very video that inspired this suggestion in the first place. YouTuber Big Joel made this video about the pro-Palestine Colombia protests (on his Little Joel account): https://youtu.be/CmY8NsWxf38?si=AN444TBLs7eKbwUT. The video responds to this article by Colombia Professor John McWhorter, that is critical of the protests: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/04/23/opinion/columbia-protests-israel.html.
In his video, Big Joel makes the following legitimate criticisms of the article:

• McWhorter complains that the protests are too loud. In fact, he says they are so loud to the point of being "abuse." Big Joel rightly points out how ridiculous a take this is. Protests are supposed to be loud, as the entire point is to grab people's attention. In addition, the validity of the cause being protested for is not dependent on how loud and annoying the protestors are. Even if the protestors were being abusively loud (whatever that means), that does not inherently make their cause unjust.
• McWhorter equates opposing not just the war but Israel's very right to exist to being anti-Black. Big Joel rightfully points out that he just assumes the two positions to be equal levels of racist and terrible. Big Joel rightfully notes that if you are going to make such a statement, you should explain why this is the case instead of just assuming it to be so. Big Joel then goes on to say that in assuming this position as fact, McWhorter does not have to attend to the merits of the pro-Palestine arguments
• McWhorter points out the following things indicating that the Colombia protests have turned violent ("It’s an odd kind of peace when a local rabbi urges Jewish students to go home as soon as possible, when an Israeli Arab activist is roughed up on Broadway, when the angry chanting becomes so constant that you almost start not to hear it and it starts to feel normal to see posters and clothing portraying members of Hamas as heroes"). Big Joel then goes on to rightfully dismantle each argument (except one). He says just because the rabbi says there might be violence, does not mean violence is already occurring. He says that one instance of violence (the Arab Israeli getting roughed up) does not indicate a systemic culture of violence amongst the protestors, especially since this assault occurred off-campus. Repeating his earlier point, he says that constant loudness does not equate to violence. Curiously, he never addresses the comment about pro-Hamas posters and clothing at the protests. I will address this more later on.
• McWhorter praises the anti-apartheid protests against South Africa in the 1980s, while condemning the anti-Israel protestors of today. Despite both protest groups similarly disrupting campus life, McWhorter only calls the latter abusive, obviously because he disagrees with the latter while agreeing with the former. Big Joel rightfully points out that, for someone who has previously claimed to be so pro-free speech, McWhorter is a hypocrite. You cannot judge the violence or lack thereof of a protest based solely on whether or not you disagree with the cause

So it seems all fine and good, right? Big Joel is making logical criticisms of McWhorter's mostly dumb arguments. However, the problem is this: there are legitimate criticisms of the protests, Big Joel just does not address any of them. In fact, he does not address a logical criticism of the protests that is within the very article to which he is responding. Let's take this point by point.

• Big Joel clearly rejects the idea that the protestors denying Israel's right to exist is a racist endeavour. In this video and in other videos, he has accused Israel of genocide, colonialism, apartheid, etc. In order to critique someone who believes the protestors denying Israel's right to exist is a racist endeavour, he does not find someone who lays out logical arguments for why this is the case (for example, someone who might say stuff like "dismantling Israel could lead to huge amounts of violence against the Israeli Jews" or "Jews, as a persecuted minority, should have the right to self-determination"). Instead, he finds someone who merely assumes this to be the case, so as to not have to address any of the actual more logical arguments for why denying Israel's right to exist is racist. I am not saying that these pro-Israel arguments are flawless, nor am I saying that denying Israel's right to exist is inherently racist. I am simply pointing out that there are more logical reasons to come to that conclusion than "denying Israel's right to exist is racist because I said so," reasons which Big Joel ignores.
• Most people criticizing the protestors are not doing so on the basis of their loudness. Rather they are doing so on the basis of the antisemitic and pro-Hamas rhetoric being espoused at the protests (I am sure you have all seen the videos). They are also doing so on the basis of their inaccurate understanding of the conflict (examples include them using extreme words like "genocide" or blaming Israel for literally everything that has gone wrong since the conflict began). Rather than focus on an article that contains these perfectly legitimate criticisms of the protests, Big Joel instead focuses on one that incessantly and stupidly tries to degrade the protests on the basis of their loudness. He has picked the worst possible criticisms of the protests so as to not address the best criticisms of the protests. And when the article does contain one legitimate criticism of the protests ("it starts to feel normal to see posters and clothing portraying members of Hamas as heroes"), Big Joel reads out the line but does not address it any further.
• Big Joel rightfully points out McWhorter's hypocrisy when it comes to the South Africa and I/P protests. However, what would he say to someone like Destiny, who supports the rights of both groups to protest yet still politically disagrees with the pro-Palestine protests? What would he say to someone who is legitimately pro-free speech, but nonetheless takes issue with the political values of the pro-Palestine protests? I guess we will never know, because rather than address someone who is ideologically consistent, he instead chose to address a hypocrite. Rather than address the most logical and consistent people who disagree with the protestors, he has chosen to address the most braindead disagreers, so as to not have to confront any legitimate and non-hypocritical arguments.

Put simply, the article is trash and a lot of Big Joel's criticisms of its logic are very valid. However, just because the article's criticisms of the protests are stupid, does not mean that all criticisms of the protests are stupid. In choosing to only address the stupid criticisms while ignoring the legitimate ones, Big Joel never has to question his political views. In this example, Big Joel selectively chose the worst possible representation of the pro-Israel (or at the very least, not as anti-Israel as the Colombia protestors) side, so as to easily look correct and to ignore the legitimate positions on said side. He can simply talk about how assuming controversial statements to be true without providing evidence is a bad debate tactic, how loudness does not equal violence, how hypocrisy is bad, and ignore the higher-quality criticisms of the protests.

I vaguely remember that Arin sang Personal Jesus by Depeche Mode mistaking it for Reach Out. And they had the exact same, if not, almost similar conversation as Mario Galaxy in another episode. I don't remember when or what episode it was. Not even the game cuz I was so flabbergasted. Help!

Just a little bit of a back story. I have been sick for the past year and half. My blood levels have been low and the drs don’t know what the cause is, is it it an iron deficiency or something worse. So they began doing a series of infusion treatments on me to see if my blood levels would rise. While this has been going on I was still working but thankfully my employer was understanding and said whenever I needed to go rest just make up the time where I could. I am a contingent employee under contract so I have no pto or sick time. So I cant necessarily miss because I need the money to help support my spouse and children. I also home school one of my children.
During this time because I have not been performing in the bedroom with my spouse because I have been sick and exhausted. It is not like I didn’t want I just physical could not. This past Christmas while I was working I sent a Text to my husband just telling him thanks for taking to me the dr the other day. He responds with I want a divorce. He then proceeds to tell me I am soul eater that I am drag him down and now that he has lost weight he wants to explore more options with his body that couldn’t before and I am not giving him sex everyday like I use to. He asked me for an open relationship. I said this is not a conversation to have via text come home. At that point I was worked up at my desk while working and not feeling the best.
He comes home and completely avoids me. I tried engaging in conversation everything but he went straight to his computer ignoring me. The next morning I woke up and tried engaging in conversation again he ignored me until later that evening. during the conversation he began a by saying he wants to leave because he doesn’t believe I respect him or appreciation him and he doesn’t feel in control of the relationship further more me being sick is exhausting and the children we adopted do not respect him either.
I sat their in a daze because something was not sitting right with me. I asked if there was someone else he initially said no but then I said you’re lying and he confessed he was talking with his ex and that they had been sexting. He said it wasn’t affair because it was not physical however in our first year of marriage he sexted someone and I sat the boundary that it was not ok! Fast forward 10 years he did it again.
On Christmas he decided to leave.. imagine having to tell the 2 kids you just adopted on Christmas it wasn’t their fault because they were blaming themselves due to the comment he made as he was leaving he stated “don’t let your mom get in your head like my mom did when she divorced my dad…” what why would say that! I explained to the kids that we were just in a rough spot and no matter what happens we love them unconditionally and nothing is their fault because our younger son was saying if him and his brother didn’t come in the picture none of this would happen. Worse day of my life especially. The next day he messaged and asked if we were going to his moms to celebrate Christmas and that k got what I wanted he had to sleep in a parking lot. I told him not to sleep in a parking lot and for the sake of the kids come home. But if he were to come home this thing with ex had to stop. The only reason it began because I wasn’t given him attention and she is going through a divorce and gave him everything he needed that she was better than me in all aspects. I sat there and cried. He the canceled my health insurance.
He came home and I went to the bedroom to sleep he texted me and said o you can’t come out here now that I came home. I go outside the room to talk to him and he told me I needed to speak to a therapist that I am crazy and a narcissist. That he is going to stay.
I began speaking with a therapist paying out of pocket and told her everything that occurred and what he had said and done and what I have said and done and that I was really nervous about being a narcissist and if I were a narcissist. After speaking with her for a moments she told me I wasn’t a narcissist but I do suffer narcissistic victim syndrome and that I live with my narcissist. I told her I was having a hard time with forgiveness with the other girl because if she was going through a divorce because her spouse cheated why would she do that to another person. The therapist was to ask her.
So I took her advice and I sent the message. She responded. We had a completely adult conversation she stated she begged my husband not to cheat but he led her to believe we were in an open marriage. She reassured me going for she would not be a bother anymore and I thanked her.
Fast forward a couple of days I get a follow on my instagram from a girl I use to work with. I have spoken with this person in years but i remembered her because she was so nice. So I sent her a private message that literally just said hello how are you? She responded as if I was trying to get intel out of her regarding my spouse and was so nasty. I sat there crying not understanding why this person was so mean and spouse what is it. I said this girl we worked followed me and I sent her message saying hello and she goes off about you what the hell are you telling me people. He said nothing I am not telling anybody anything.
So I messaged her back to shut the conversation down and showed the screen shot of where she followed me and I wasn’t even following her. I told her not to make up lies about my husband then she sends me a screenshot of her and my husband convo he had villianized me to her. I thanked her for the message and blocked her. I fwd a screen shot of the message to his phone and set in silence. He responded “Yeah? And? Be sure to bring that up to your therapist too. Way to send us a whole step backwards because you can't talk to me like an adult. I lied about not knowing because I wanted to see how far you would take it.”
The goodness out of all this is I am no longer a contingent and next month will have health insurance again to start back my infusions treatments to determine why my blood levels are low fingers crossed it is an iron deficiency.
Am I the asshole for wanting a divorce?

I have 2 dogs. 8 year old and 4 year old. Both about 70 pounds. When I don’t work I walk them for an hour to an hour and a half everyday. I take them to parks and stuff. We have a blast. I start working a job that drains me to the point all my free time I spent laying in bed when I’m home and I feel like I can’t decompress or recover. I haven’t been walking my dogs for a few months now … idk how to do it. My dogs are unpleasant to walk together too. I’m on a waitlist for a trainer. And going for two walks seems impossible.
I was considering alternating days but I truly feel like I’m in a trauma freeze from how much I hate this job and how much it’s taking away from me. I don’t even make good money but I’m stuck here until my contract ends. I have 3 weeks left and then I feel like I will have time to walk my babies again.
I hate this disease. I hate it so much. It ruins my life. I can only do one thing a day and working 5 days a week is ruining every aspect of my life. I gained weight, I’m not taking good care of myself. I feel like a complete mess because I have no energy left after work.
I work with 5 year olds. 20 of them. I am overstimulated from 8 am to 3:30 pm everyday. All day. It drains me to the point I have considered admitting myself to a psych unit to escape work..
I need to take care of my babies and walk them please help. I tried getting on meds but all the places that take my insurance aren’t accepting new patients. I feel like I’m at the end of my rope here and ready to give up.