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Subletter Left My Apartment in a Mess: Can I Keep the Deposit?

2024.05.19 14:12 No_Implement8694 Subletter Left My Apartment in a Mess: Can I Keep the Deposit?

Hey everyone,
I sublet my apartment in Munich for 7 weeks (almost 2 months) and we both signed an agreement that I made. I stated that the €300 deposit would be refunded within 1 week to her bank account if she left the room clean and without any damage. I also reminded her once again in our conversation to always keep the room clean.
Unfortunately, she left the room dirty and not in the same condition that I gave her. Here’s what happened:
I contacted her about all this, and her response was full of excuses. She claimed the items she left behind were meant as a small gesture of thanks, following her traditions of leaving milk and bread. However, the milk and bread were opened and used. I don’t even accept used food from friends, let alone someone I’ve never met personally. Plus, I can’t drink dairy milk, and we don't wear the same size in sandals. Everything she left behind was of no benefit to me and only added to my workload.
She also said the fruits in the refrigerator were meant to leave a good smell, which is a practice in her country. But they were all expired and caused a bad odor.
Her response included: "I was hoping to leave a small gesture of thanks, following my country sweet traditions like leaving milk and bread when you arrive, to show my gratitude." If that was her intention, she should have left something unopened or new, not used. After reading her explanation, I am even more annoyed. It would have been more acceptable if she had admitted she was wrong and either lazy or didn’t have time to throw everything away, rather than claiming the used food and trash were her country sweet traditions meant for me.
After I replied, she gave more excuses, saying her friend who helped her move out didn’t clean properly. But she’s the one who pays the rent and deposit, so it’s HER responsibility to clean the room, not her friend's. She also said she was in a rush to leave because her father recently had an accident and she needed to return to her country. But when I checked our conversation, she told me she was going back to her country in the first week of her rent period. So she had MORE THAN ENOUGH time to clean, organize, and pack everything. I don’t want to say her father's accident is made up, but leveraging his situation doesn’t sit right with me.
What do you guys think? Can I keep any of the deposit, and if so, how much? Thanks!
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2024.05.19 14:09 No_Implement8694 Germany: Subletter Left My Apartment in a Mess. Can I Keep the Deposit?

Hey everyone,
I sublet my apartment in Munich for 7 weeks (almost 2 months) and we both signed an agreement that I made. I stated that the €300 deposit would be refunded within 1 week to her bank account if she left the room clean and without any damage. I also reminded her once again in our conversation to always keep the room clean.
Unfortunately, she left the room dirty and not in the same condition that I gave her. Here’s what happened:
I contacted her about all this, and her response was full of excuses. She claimed the items she left behind were meant as a small gesture of thanks, following her traditions of leaving milk and bread. However, the milk and bread were opened and used. I don’t even accept used food from friends, let alone someone I’ve never met personally. Plus, I can’t drink dairy milk, and we don't wear the same size in sandals. Everything she left behind was of no benefit to me and only added to my workload.
She also said the fruits in the refrigerator were meant to leave a good smell, which is a practice in her country. But they were all expired and caused a bad odor.
Her response included: "I was hoping to leave a small gesture of thanks, following my country sweet traditions like leaving milk and bread when you arrive, to show my gratitude." If that was her intention, she should have left something unopened or new, not used. After reading her explanation, I am even more annoyed. It would have been more acceptable if she had admitted she was wrong and either lazy or didn’t have time to throw everything away, rather than claiming the used food and trash were her country sweet traditions meant for me.
After I replied, she gave more excuses, saying her friend who helped her move out didn’t clean properly. But she’s the one who pays the rent and deposit, so it’s HER responsibility to clean the room, not her friend's. She also said she was in a rush to leave because her father recently had an accident and she needed to return to her country. But when I checked our conversation, she told me she was going back to her country in the first week of her rent period. So she had MORE THAN ENOUGH time to clean, organize, and pack everything. I don’t want to say her father's accident is made up, but leveraging his situation doesn’t sit right with me.
What do you guys think? Can I keep any of the deposit, and if so, how much? Thanks!
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2024.05.19 14:09 Mindless-Ad6066 boymoder visits her dad

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2024.05.19 14:07 space_farmer_luke The Yaire exile to earth chapter-8 parts 1 and 2

The Yaire exile to earth chapter-8 parts 1 and 2
What was I thinking after all those years without a drink? I didn’t even have so much as a drop when Monica passed and now, now I dropped myself into a bottle and I have to crawl back out.
Those were the thoughts running through my mind. I hated myself for it. I pissed away so many years, I couldn’t work cows unless I had a flask. I couldn’t make hay or hell coach Joshua’s baseball games if I didn’t have a half rack in the truck. I hid it from her and the kids. I was a useless drunk. Until one day Monica took the kids and left. That’s what it took to kick me in the ass. I started AA, started going to church with them, and tried my best to be a better man. All these years without the destruction that I caused. And this event, us finding these poor abandon people in the brush, trying to get them help in whatever way we could and I cracked.
I needed to leave. I needed to do something, even if it was wrong. If I didn’t try to abandon these demons, they would most definitely grab me again.
The light was just starting to grow in the distance; my head was splitting me in two. The very act of walking to the barn causes me to vomit twice.
It took a long minute for me to gather my strength as the waves of sick, washed over me. Leaning against the wooden gate that leads to the horse pen was all I could do to stand and be present. Wave after dizzy wave nearly takes my feet out from under me.
Kicking my tongue to the pair of horses in the round pen next to the barn, I hoped I could manage to saddle one and go find some of my still abandoned cows. “Ha girls, I know it was a rough night.” The gray mare snorted her offense at my still drunk odder. The scent of cheap whiskey was obviously drifting to the pair of horses and they didn’t appreciate it. After a lot of effort, I was able to call the gray horse over. Reaching up to scratch her cheek, I realized in my haze that all my tack was in the trailer. “Shit!” I muttered to myself in extreme irritation.
Hanging my throbbing head, I managed to make the short distance to the trailer that I had left half parked in the yard. As I reached the trailers tail gate and slowly opened it, a distant voice reaches me. “Rough night?” I gazed up to the porch to see Joshua with a thermos of coffee, standing outside the front door.
“It wasn’t a fun one,” I muttered, as I could see an out cold Mic propped up on the porch swing. “At least it was too cold out here last night.”
“It wasn’t cold because we brought you two a couple of blankets.” Josh stated as frankly as he could. “You want something to eat before you get knocked off a horse?”
“No, food will just make me sick. I just need to work the poison out of my system.” I said, trying to keep the spins down as a fresh round of dizziness begins.
“So you’re going up the hill. Do you want help?”
Josh asked, sounding concerned. “No, I need to help with..” my voice trailed as I couldn't think through the fog.
.“Yaire”, Joshua interrupted as I searched my hazy mind for the right words.
“Yep, you’re on top of it. Best of luck, boy.” I grunted as I bent to pick up the saddle and tack for my spare horse.
Straining to hold on to my leather implements, I turned to make the trudge back to the round pen. Joshua called over my shoulder. “Just like that?”
“Yes, son, just like that.” A muttered back as I made the short walk back to the horses.
Dropping my saddle so the saddle horn was helping to prop the assembly out of the dirt. I reached out for one of the mares to begin the procedure to saddle up, only to be jerked backwards.
“Wait one fucking minute!” Josh all but spit.
“You help save these people, but now that you’re drunk, you’re going off to ride to the sunset like it’s some shitty western?” He barked.
I reached up and hit him full in his face. “You think I know what to do?” I yelled back. “Some galactic despot has been dropping these people all over the hell and gone leaving them in the sage to die!”
I hated myself for what I was doing; my mind was screaming at my body and mouth to stop. I couldn’t. “I’ll fail these people, Iv already failed you and your sister. I’m a cosmic fuck up without your mother.” Now my tears started to well. I couldn’t stand there anymore. Reaching down, I scooped up my saddle and gear and walked into the corral.
Chapter 8 part 2
Joshua’s personal perspective
It’s been a few hours since dad left. I was sitting on the front porch steps, still stewing in my irritation.
“The eye, better?” A female voice asked from the front porch doorway.
“It’s a little black, but it’s….. ok,” I said, the last word stalling out as the voice came into view when I turned my head. There, standing in the doorway, was Lis, her straight grey hair cut short at an angle, letting the light from the house shine on her angler right cheek. She had on my old ac/dc shirt from high school and a pair of Becky’s “cowgirl jeans”.
Trying hard not to stare, I whipped my head back out to overlooking the farmyard. “You’re picking up English really fast. Another week or two and you’ll be better at it than me.” I stammer out.
The tired wooden floor boards begin to creak with her footsteps as she walks up and sets down next to me on the steps.
“Thank you,” she says with some effort. The words were still being practiced.
“For what?” I said, trying my best to sound cool.
She looked confused, then Mic’s voice interrupted with their native language. A flurry of sounds and vowels later. Lis stood up and turned to go back inside. Stopping long enough at the doorway to turn and look back, “you people saved us.” She said in near perfect English, and with that she turned and walked back into the house.
Still looking over the yard, it was hard to keep a small grin off my face. Flicking a small piece of gravel off the steps, I could hear a fresh set of footsteps walking up to me. With a plop mic flopped himself next to me.
Looking out at the yard with a thousand mile stare, he took a long breath in. After a moment of uncomfortable silence, he began. “What happens now?” He managed, trying hard to wrap his mouth around the words.
“I don’t know, we’ll keep working on your English and you guys can decide. Maybe your people will come back for you.” I said.
“No one comes, Zeen prison word.” He said while pointing to the ground in front of us and shaking his head.
“That’s, that’s not good.” I replied, while not understanding what a Zeen is.
We sat there in silence for a moment longer. Until I finally got up to stretch my legs and headed back inside. About half of the Yaire were seated in the living room, watching the first Hangover and giving their constant commentary. I guess if you have to learn a language from a movie, it should at least be a good one.
Becky was standing in the kitchen, while on the phone, with a troubled look on her face.
“What’s going on?” I whispered. Her response was to hold a single finger up in a just a minute manner.
“Thanks for checking, ya they had it out this morning and dad left in a huff. Ok we’ll look for him tomorrow. Thanks Mary,” Becky set her cell phone down before she acknowledged me. Looking down as she let out a tired sigh.
“So that was Mary. She told me dad went to her and Dave’s after he left here. Dave will give him a hand getting the cows down to his winter feed lot so we can truck them back.” Becky said. “She also said dad was pretty hammered, she thinks he was drinking on the way. Apparently, he was stinking of buzz and babbling about aliens. They're letting him sober up in their spare room before they head up the hill.”
“That’s no good.” I said, still upset about this morning.
“No, it’s not. Do you want to tell me what happened, for dad to get drunk and kick your ass?” she asked, a slight chuckle in her voice at the last part.
“I guess it’s the stress from all of this. But he was going on about being a failure and that someone dumped here the Yaire, I don’t know.” I stated
She just frowned at my explanation. “Well, we’re just in, autopilot around here this afternoon. Can I get you to head to town for some groceries?”
“I guess, are you sure you’ll be ok alone?” I asked, not sure if that was the smartest things to do. Leaving my little sister with a house full of aliens.
“I’ll be fine. The guys are having a hangover marathon and some girls are in my bedroom using your laptop to practice English.” She said dismissively.
“Wait, my laptop?” Embarrassing concern running through my mind.
I all but ran to Becky’s room. The sound coming from there confirmed my worst fears. On the bed Sofia, Ava, and Mia, all I would guess in the early to mid twenties started giggling at my approach, which made this even more awkward. As I entered the doorway, they all reached for the screen and closed the laptop. Our collective embarrassment set the trio to giggling again as now both Lis and Becky walked up behind me. From the bed, Sofia started speaking to Lis in their own language and holding her hands apart giving a literal scale for their conversation.
I was red faced with shame and embarrassment as the giggling picked back up.
“You didn’t delete your search history, did you?” Becky chuckled as I passed her in the door way
“What do you want from the store?”
This story was brought to you in large part due to u/Fit-Capital1536. A big thank you for the collaboration and story ideas.
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2024.05.19 14:06 No_Implement8694 Subletter Left My Apartment in a Mess: Can I Keep the Deposit?

Hey everyone,
I sublet my apartment in Munich for 7 weeks (almost 2 months) and we both signed an agreement that I made. I stated that the €300 deposit would be refunded within 1 week to her bank account if she left the room clean and without any damage. I also reminded her once again in our conversation to always keep the room clean.
Unfortunately, she left the room dirty and not in the same condition that I gave her. Here’s what happened:
I contacted her about all this, and her response was full of excuses. She claimed the items she left behind were meant as a small gesture of thanks, following her traditions of leaving milk and bread. However, the milk and bread were opened and used. I don’t even accept used food from friends, let alone someone I’ve never met personally. Plus, I can’t drink dairy milk, and we don't wear the same size in sandals. Everything she left behind was of no benefit to me and only added to my workload.
She also said the fruits in the refrigerator were meant to leave a good smell, which is a practice in her country. But they were all expired and caused a bad odor.
Her response included: "I was hoping to leave a small gesture of thanks, following my country sweet traditions like leaving milk and bread when you arrive, to show my gratitude." If that was her intention, she should have left something unopened or new, not used. After reading her explanation, I am even more annoyed. It would have been more acceptable if she had admitted she was wrong and either lazy or didn’t have time to throw everything away, rather than claiming the used food and trash were her country sweet traditions meant for me.
After I replied, she gave more excuses, saying her friend who helped her move out didn’t clean properly. But she’s the one who pays the rent and deposit, so it’s HER responsibility to clean the room, not her friend's. She also said she was in a rush to leave because her father recently had an accident and she needed to return to her country. But when I checked our conversation, she told me she was going back to her country in the first week of her rent period. So she had more than enough time to clean, organize, and pack everything. I don’t want to say her father's accident is made up, but leveraging his situation doesn’t sit right with me.
What do you guys think? Can I keep any of the deposit, and if so, how much?
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2024.05.19 13:59 kontinasecret 10 things i hate about u

I hate the way you talk to me,
and the way you cut your hair.
I hate the way you drive my car,
I hate it when you stare.
I hate your bigdunb combat boots,
and the way you read my mind.
I hate you so much it makes me sick,
it even makes me rhyme.
I hate the way you are always right,
i hate it when you lie.
I hate it when you make me laugh,
even worse when you make me cry.
I hate it when you're not around,
and the fact that you didn't call.
But mostly I hate the way I don't hate you,
not even close,
not even little bit,
not even at all.
-William Shakespeare
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2024.05.19 13:56 _IcedTea8_ What does Singaporeans think of Home Based Business?

Seeing the post in sg where a redditor complained about a bicycle workshop in boon lay, was wondering does anyone actually also dislike having home based business?
Personally, think it is a good way to cut cost as compared to going to a shop, wont mind having my bike fixed, having my hair cut, or having tuition class (thou im too old for it haha) . food wise can be a hit or miss, kopitiam is still the way to go for me
But can also understand it may cause noise, and some ppl wont like seeing strangers in their corridor. And of course, I think some is not allowed (like bike workshop?). So what are ur thoughts on it?
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2024.05.19 13:47 DamnitFran I shaved my head

I shaved my head
Fuck patriarchal beauty standards. I have never felt more beautiful than I do with a shaved head!!
P.S. what do you all do with your cut hair?🙃
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2024.05.19 13:42 Responsible_Web_2304 Social services advice regarding welfare of child

First time poster, on mobile so apologies for any formatting issues.
Background info cut very short, there is a court order in place for my niece. I am dad’s sister. After an altercation, niece was kept from any kind of visitation for around 10 months until the court process went through and court ordered EOW visitation and split holidays.
There have been many concerns regarding nieces care, all over looked by social services. This includes drug use by mum, DV in the house hold between mum and new partner, basic needs of niece being met.
This weekend niece has gone to dad’s house covered in wart like spots that have been there for around 4 weeks now. Dad takes her to walk in centre. Doctor takes a look, diagnosed with molloscum contagiosum. He also looked over niece and was conserned with her overall appearance. She has marks on her body in places that are not easily seen/ noticed, scratches that are almost like gouges, her hair is teeming with untreated lice, her toenails are so long they curl over, her oral hygiene is atrocious. The medical practitioner would not let them leave until he had spoken to social services. The social services reported back to my brother and told him that niece should not be returned home as per the court order and that brother had to phone the courts and apply for an emergency order. Fast forward a few hours and later that evening brother gets a call from nieces local social services who have previously been involved and tell him that niece should be returned home as per the court order in place. They have completely dismissed the medical advice and advice of brothers local social services.
I am concerned, I can’t believe that they are being ignored and that two professional’s opinions that have physically seen my niece are being completely dismissed.
Where do we go from here? What can I do to help? What should brother do?
Edit to add we are England
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2024.05.19 13:26 Orange_Menace1 Randyll Tarly - Blackfyre Supporter (my first theory)

Randyll Tarly - Blackfyre Supporter (my first theory)
Note: I started writing this and it got away from me. Rather than fill in the unfinished points, I've just left them there for everyone to consider

Preface

Randyll Tarly on a first read through is a jerk. He tortures Sam, insults Brienne, implements draconian justice and downplays the golden company threat. Prima-Facie, he is a violent commander with little political cunning.
Except for his results. By the end of ADWD
· He receives accolades for every battle fought (I hold fire on the term won)
· He holds the queen in his custody.
· He has a voice at council
· He secured his chosen heir in defiance of westrosi customs
If we assume these things didn’t happen by chance, we can re-examine some of his older achievements, actions, and then try to sort out his motives.

Randyll Tarly as a Commander

Roberts Rebellion

Battle of Ashford

Context: The battle of Ashford was Roberts one defeat in his rebellion. Tarly’s van sailed forward and defeated Roberts host, but the battle was inconclusive. Robert retreated to the stony sept, recovered, regrouped, and when his allies arrived and consolidated forces, used this new army to win the war.

Relevant Sections – directly on point paragraphs:

A Storm of Swords - Tyrion III

Tyrion had to bite his tongue at that. Robb Stark had won more battles in a year than the Lord of Highgarden had in twenty. ~Tyrell's reputation rested on one indecisive victory over Robert Baratheon at Ashford, in a battle largely won by Lord Tarly's van before the main host had even arrived.~

A Storm of Swords - Davos V

"Edric, you ought not boast," Maester Pylos said. "King Robert suffered defeats like any other man. Lord Tyrell bested him at Ashford, and he lost many a tourney tilt as well."

A Storm of Swords - Samwell V

"Your father is an able soldier," King Stannis said. "He defeated my brother once, at Ashford. Mace Tyrell has been pleased to claim the honors for that victory, but Lord Randyll had decided matters before Tyrell ever found the battlefield. He slew Lord Cafferen with that great Valyrian sword of his and sent his head to Aerys." The king rubbed his jaw with a finger. "You are not the sort of son I would expect such a man to have."

A Dance with Dragons - The Griffin Reborn

~He had lost it all at Stoney Sept, in his arrogance.~
~Robert Baratheon had been hiding somewhere in the town, wounded and alone. Jon Connington had known that, and he had also known that Robert's head upon a spear would have put an end to the rebellion, then and there~. He was young and full of pride. How not? King Aerys had named him Hand and given him an army, and he meant to prove himself worthy of that trust, of Rhaegar's love. He would slay the rebel lord himself and carve a place out for himself in all the histories of the Seven Kingdoms.

Other information gleaned from context

· Tarly did not inflict substantial casualties
· Robert won the battle of the trident within a year – Ashford is 282AC and the trident is 283
· Robert fled to and was sheltered in the stony sept, where Jon Connington failed to flush him out. The battle of the bells occurred in 283AC, as did the battle of the trident shortly after

Analysis

Randyll leads the van some distance ahead of the main force, gets into a battle with the rebels, and inflicts minor to moderate casualties before they escape. Tyrell takes the credit.
From a military point of view, if the battle had not been decided before the main force arrived, the war would have likely ended. A much larger force (with assumedly many more horsemen) would have won the battle both more conclusively, and been able to pursue. By all rights, the strategy enforced by Mace Tyrell should have won the war (this theme will come in later in this theory), but for the fact only a fraction of his army engaged far ahead of the main host.
As an aside and jumping ahead a little – Tarly avoids doing this after the blackwater, closing off escape routes and slaughtering everyone. This hints at the fact that Ashford was a tactical mistake.
The first three viewpoints we receive on the battle are of note.
· Tyrion points out the battle was indecisive, and ~decided before the main host arrived~. He focuses on the victory in ‘battle’ as opposed to war.
· Stannis points out how able Randyll is by defeating his brother once at Ashford. Although unable to ascribe any special military strategy to Randyll, he calls him ‘able’ and decided matters before Tyrell arrived. He also flags that Mace Tyrell claimed the honours for the victory and he thinks this undeserved. It’s interesting as it’s Maces host at Ashford, a host that by all rights should have crushed Roberts army in a single battle – given the van alone defeated him. He also ascribes the only kill of note as lord Cafferen
· Maester Pylos points out that Robert lost battles at Ashford and flags it was Tyrell who bested him.
The battle by all appearances, was a farce. Ashford could have ended the war. Arguably, even with the van alone deciding the fight, it very nearly did. Instead, the battle is determined indecisive, there is no ‘impressive kill and capture list’ indicating the host was not captured or killed (as opposed to routed), and Mace has this massive potentially war-ending host not doing much because Robert is in retreat before it arrives.
Furthermore despite all this, Tarly very nearly won the day at Ashford. Robert suffered a serious – but nonfatal wound that seemingly took months (and at least weeks) to recover. The fact that a seriously wounded Robert was able to escape despite distinctive armour and weaponry raises questions of its own.
Finally, when Robert was wounded and hidden in the aftermath whilst he recovered, narratively it allowed JonCon to lay siege to the stony sept. As a parallel, one of the themes I will later touch on is how Tarly changes after this battle, and we know JonCon swears to kill more and become Tywin 2.0. as a direct result of the events at the sept. We see a similar change in Tarly.
It’s also of note that Tarly and Tyrell at this point were on the Targaryen side. This crops up later when we look into other motivations and goals.
Aftermath
So we know that Robert suffers wounds and is somewhat detached from his host (be it they left him in the stoney sept or he scattered off from the main host). We know this as he ends up wounded in the Stoney Sept. After this, the battle of the bells and all the great victories that ended the war occur.
Notably, Tarly has no major military achievements after this battle. Since Mace Tyrell was invested in the siege of Storms end, it can be presumed Tarly was positioned with the main force. The next time we see him is in the battle of 5 kings –

Discussion with Renly – The Siege of Stannis

  • Renly outright ignores Tarly when he says they'll be charging into the sun. In renlys conversation with stannis he points out how overwhelmingly strong his force is and how it will be heavy horse charging into boiled leather. He's not wrong, if the armies clash, stannis will be crushed and waiting is potentially disastrous, as stannis may not engage or slow the whole process down.

Battle of the Blackwater

A Clash of Kings - Sansa VII

They came up the roseroad and along the riverbank, through all the fields Stannis had burned, the ashes puffing up around their boots and turning all their armor grey, but oh! the banners must have been bright, the golden rose and golden lion and all the others, the Marbrand tree and the Rowan~, Tarly's huntsman~ and Redwyne's grapes and Lady Oakheart's leaf. All the westermen, all the power of Highgarden and Casterly Rock! ~Lord Tywin himself had their right wing~ on the north side of the river, with Randyll Tarly commanding the center and ~Mace Tyrell the left,~ but the vanguard won the fight. They plunged through Stannis like a lance through a pumpkin, every man of them howling like some demon in steel. And do you know who led the vanguard? Do you? Do you? Do you?"

A Storm of Swords - Catelyn II

"I told you to hold Riverrun," said Robb. "What part of that command did you fail to comprehend?"
"When you stopped Lord Tywin on the Red Fork," said the Blackfish, "you delayed him just long enough for riders out of Bitterbridge to reach him with word of what was happening to the east. ~Lord Tywin turned his host at once, joined up with Matthis Rowan and Randyll Tarly~ near the headwaters of the Blackwater, and made a forced march to Tumbler's Falls, ~where he found Mace Tyrell and two of his sons waiting with a huge host and a fleet of barges~. They floated down the river, disembarked half a day's ride from the city, and took Stannis in the rear."

We know tywin likes to put his strength on his flanks and in the reserve

Interestingly, Mace is there too, and it’s a tyrell van this time, not tarly
Lord Tywin himself had their right wing on the north side of the river, with Randyll Tarly commanding the center and Mace Tyrell the left, but the vanguard won the fight. They plunged through Stannis like a lance through a pumpkin, every man of them howling like some demon in steel.
ACOK 62: SANSA VII

Analysis

First the parallels. Mace Tyrell is paralleled to Tywin on the two flanks. It is a tyrell in the van who decides the day. Randyll commands the center.
Logistically, the battle is won by Mace Tyrell (whom I love as a character) with a fleet of barges and a huge host already in position (allowing the army to cross quickly enough to intercept the battle of the blackwater). Also the messenger that draws in Tywin’s host comes from Bitterbridge – Tyrell Lands. Given the van wins the battle, there’s a fair argument that Mace could have won the battle alone, albeit with all the support he wins a crushing victory instead.
So Randyll is relegated to an important, but ultimately ancillary position. Whether the battle is won by Tywin or Mace (and by all logistical accounts, it’s Mace), is another question, but the ‘finest soldier in the seven kingdoms’ is once again, somewhat ineffectual. He still commands the center in such a battle, but he displays no logistical or battle prowess in this fight either, just being a renowned commander in the right place at the right time.

Battle of Duskendale

· Lord Randyll defeats a northern army. The army is mostly foot and misplaced
· This time, few excape – XXXX cuts off the retreat.
· Some theories say he was tipped off by Roose Bolton.
· This time he gets the commander
· Figth occurs in FIELDS AND FARMS. Bad terrain for a retreat. Glover TRAPPED against blackwater bay
· Note that Glover had to be captured lest bolton treachery be revealed. Cannot be allowed to send raven.
· Strong implication of a trap and tipoff

A Storm of Swords - Catelyn IV

When they brought him word of the battle at Duskendale, where Lord Randyll Tarly had shattered Robett Glover and Ser Helman Tallhart, he might have been expected to rage.

A Storm of Swords - Tyrion VIII

But who would be mad enough to contest Joffrey's rule now, after what had befallen Stannis Baratheon and Robb Stark? There was still fighting in the riverlands, but everywhere the coils were tightening. Ser Gregor Clegane had crossed the Trident and seized the ruby ford, then captured Harrenhal almost effortlessly. Seagard had yielded to Black Walder Frey, ~Lord Randyll Tarly held Maidenpool, Duskendale, and the kingsroad.~

A Storm of Swords - Tyrion III

"No," their father said. "With the war. Varys."
The eunuch smiled a silken smile. "I have such delicious tidings for you all, my lords. Yesterday at dawn our ~brave Lord Randyll caught Robett Glover outside Duskendale and trapped him against the sea. Losses were heavy on both sides, but in the end our loyal men prevailed. Ser Helman Tallhart is reported dead, with a thousand others. Robett Glover leads the survivors back toward Harrenhal in bloody disarray, little dreaming he will find valiant Ser Gregor and his stalwarts athwart his path."~

A Storm of Swords - Tyrion I

"Until Lord Redwyne brings his fleet up, we lack the ships to assail Dragonstone. It makes no matter. Stannis Baratheon's sun set on the Blackwater. ~As for Stark, the boy is still in the west, but a large force of northmen under Helman Tallhart and Robett Glover are descending toward Duskendale. I've sent Lord Tarly to meet them, while Ser Gregor drives up the kingsroad to cut off their retreat.~ Tallhart and Glover will be caught between them, with a third of Stark's strength."

A Storm of Swords - Catelyn IV

When they brought him word of the battle at Duskendale, where ~Lord Randyll Tarly had shattered Robett Glover and Ser Helman Tallhart,~ he might have been expected to rage. Instead he'd stared in dumb disbelief and said, "Duskendale, on the narrow sea? Why would they go to Duskendale?" He'd shook his head, bewildered. "A third of my foot, lost for Duskendale?"
"The ironmen have my castle and now the Lannisters hold my brother," Galbart Glover said, in a voice thick with despair. Robett Glover had survived the battle, but had been captured near the kingsroad not long after.

A Feast for Crows - Brienne II

Lord Randyll Tarly had commanded Joffrey's army, made up of westermen and stormlanders and knights from the Reach. Those men of his who had died here had been carried back inside the walls, to rest in heroes' tombs beneath the septs of Duskendale. The northern dead, far more numerous, were buried in a common grave beside the sea. Above the cairn that marked their resting place, the victors had raised a rough-hewn wooden marker. HERE LIE THE WOLVES was all it said. Brienne stopped beside it and said a silent prayer for them, and for Catelyn Stark and her son Robb and all the men who'd died with them as well.



Analysis

Firstly we start with the obvious comparison. Tarly lets Robert escape when Mace otherwise very nearly won the war. Given another chance, Randyll pins his enemy against the sea and plans to not let a man escape. Having somewhat surrounded the opponent on known land, with reinforcements (Clegane) behind him, he still manages to suffer heavy casualties, and the target (XXXX) escapes.
What a colossal mistake. The only good news is he intercepted enough of the force that it seems no ravens got sent off showing exactly what happened, as if one message got back, the whole red wedding could have been undone.
Now prior posts have analyzed duskendale about allowing paths of retreat, and number of losses, but I think there are three key takeaways
1) The stark contrast between this and his tactics at Ashford
2) The fact that he failed to capture the host and Gregor Clegane had to clean up the mess
3) The fact he suffered heavy losses when by all rights he had every advantage (and still failed to capture the army)
Interestingly, the message that gets to Robb is that Tarly shattered glover. The actual message from Varys is only 1000 were killed, with Tallhart. Now its difficult to say how many foot there were, but it’s not unreasonable to assume that 1000 is less than to around half the force. Clegane captures Glover in the aftermath (thankfully), and Robb gets the report that Tarly shattered the force, when in actuality a good chunk of it was Clegane.
As a sidenote- this is indicative that Clegane actually isn’t a bad commander, and in turn this makes the fact that Edmure Tully threw him back more impressive.
We also don’t hear of any captives other than the ones taken by Clegane. It appears Tarly is putting men to the sword (SEE EARLIER).
Now before we get into conspiracy theories, we see Glover in ADWD conspiring with Madderly to help the starks and Stannis, so it seems this was not some cunning scheme where he secretly got himself captured.
Interestingly, the graves Brienne sees seem to indicate a crushing victory for Tarly, like the one described by Robb. This however is at odds with the report of Varys, and the fact Clegane had to mop up the leftover army. Now there are a few possibilities for this. Varys could be wrong/lying, heavy losses is being thrown around as a relative term (but that seems suspect), or the total of Tarly dead and Clegane’s role is being hidden. The last seems the most likely, Robb hears of a crushing defeat led by Tarly not Clegane (which we know is at least partially false), the dead he kills don’t add up, and there’s no mention of Clegane whom definitely did some of the work.
Also even assuming the whole situation is true and Tarly killed men at a 2/1 ratio, this assumes there are 500 heroes tombs under the septs at Duskendale. Simply put, there may not be that many. The whole aftermath stinks of a coverup. Tarly is getting Cleganes credit (and interestingly, it’s around now that Tywin decides not to give Clegane to oberyn).
Finally we get to the tinfoily bit. Helman garrisoned with Walder Frey to make sure he kept peace. Of the two lords, Helman is arguably more problematic, he knows more of Frey habits (when Tywin is scheming a betrayal) and his nephew is a possible hornwood claimant (cough Roose cough). If there was a conspiracy to kill one and ransom the other – I can see a world where Talhart is the one to be killed. In all reality though, this is a bit too ambitious, and in reality one just died and one escaped – without some super scheme that Tarly was involved in.
So in summary – once again Tarly fails his mission. At best, he bloodies an out of position army whilst taking heavy casualties, with his reinforcements on the way, and half the army breaks free (admittedly into Clegane). This is not a great display of prowess. We also know its possible to capture these men as hostages, as Clegane successfully does so – and Tarly fails to once again. Now it’s not catastrophic as the Northerners are bleeding men and trading troops tit for tat is beneficial, but the battle itself (the thing Randyll is in charge of) is highly unimpressive. The strategic victory goes to Tywin, whom in truth entrusts it as much to Gregor Clegane as to Tarly. As it so happens, Clegane delivers and Tarly doesn’t.


A summary as a commander

Talk about failing upwards
· Charging ahead, he is able to turn a crushing win into an indecisive one which ultimately leads to Roberts Rebellion succeeding
· He gives counsel to Renly about the sun when renly knows that the sheer strength of his cavalry makes the issue moot. Renly all but ignores him.
· He doesn’t appear to do much during the battle of the blackwater
· He manages to mess up essentially an ambush at Duskendale despite reinforcements being on the way
· As a result of the 4 above points, he is given, lands, titles, honors and a position on the small council.
Upon actually reviewing his achievements and each individual battle, I’ve 180’d on Tarly. George RR Martin does a great job building him up, and having everyone describe him as a great commander, but actually unpacking his battles, he looks pretty underwhelming. The most important battle he won was Ashford, but that was a strategic catastrophe which otherwise could have potentially let Mace Tyrell win the war. Afterwards he’s carefully managed, with Renly outright dismissing him, Mace keeping the key positions of command in other people’s hands and Tywin going so far as to dispatch a trusted force behind him in the event he fails again – WHICH HE DOES.


Politicks, Loyalties and Conspiracies

There’s a lot to get through so I’m not going to source everything here. Rather, I’ll list dot points, and we will be collecting everything under theories. In time it may be worth sourcing this all, but for now, I want to get something out – so it’ll be shortform
· Historically house is blackfyre
· Renly Sworn NOT STANNIS
· Joined at bitterbridge to Renly
· Shadowbaby and killing others
· VIEWS ON MAESTERS
· Killing Stannis supporters at bitterbridge
· Saving Brienne
· Helping Brienne / Bewilderment
· Views on Women and Strongmen
· Sam, Maesters, the Marches and Strength
· Maidenpool Rulership
· Renown amonst common men
· Downplaying the Golden Company
· Bravosi Debts
· Taking the QUEEN ahead of Mace Tyrell

Theoreis Stemming off Data

The Blackfyre Theory

Let’s assume that Randyll supported the Blackfyres because his house traditionally were Blackfyre Loyalists. This is a little thin on evidence, but quite a few of his actions also support this, lending some credence to the theory
1) He swore to Renly not Stannis.
a. Stannis was 17 or 18 when he held storms end. He is approximately 13 years older than Renly, making Renly 5 at the time. This means that during Roberts Rebellion, for all relevant purposes, Renly was a non-participant, whilst Stannis actively fought against the dragons. If Randyll is a dragon supporter, his repulsion at joining Stannis is apparent.
b. In fact, he goes as far as to kill stannis supporters at bitterbridge to consolidate the reach forces. This is interesting as it contrasts stannis whom takes pains to not kill the karstarks to a man once he realizes their treason.
2) He downplays the golden company
a. At the end of AFWC, Randyll is downplaying the golden company as much as he can. If we assume he is pro-dragon, this gives time for the blackfyre cause to swell, as he delays Kevan Lannister to the best of his ability
3) He hates the Maesters
a. Between the Grand Maester Conspiracy [LINK], lady Dustin’s general hatred of Maesters and Marwyn’s comments about Maesters and Dragons, it seems credible that dragon supporters may have cause to mistrust Maesters. Indeed, we get hints of this from Doran, and a general mistrust of Maesters by some of the lesser lords.
i. "I would need a bucket, with this pain. Thank you, but no. I want my wits about me. I'll have no more need of you tonight."
b. This explains also why he is so determined Sam will not become a Maester and why he drives him to the nights watch. If he is a loyalist, he’s never going to let a member of his family into an enemy order. If Sam is given any sort of free reign in a role other than lord, he’s going to end up a Maester (indeed even at the nights watch he ends up there, despite his protests and fears of his fathers wroth).
4) Do we actually see any trouble in the marches. I don’t think we do and it’s only STANNIS who fears dorne through the marches, not Tarly or Tyrell. In fact, this area is left undefended when they march on the blackwater.
a. I have a sub-theory that despite complaining a lot, we don’t see any real antagonism between Dorne and the reach throughout the series, just some loud complaining that makes us think of antagonism. Oberyn hints at this to Tyrion.
5) Killing Florents
a. Florents have ties to Stannis
b. Florents are Tyrell rivals
c. Florents instantly defect to stannis. Note they were set aside by dragons over highgarden
d. Their protests were denied by King Aegon I, perhaps because the Florents had fought House Targaryen when the Tyrells did not.
e. https://www.reddit.com/asoiaf/comments/3tr6gx/spoilers_all_house_of_the_week_house_florent/
i. Theories florents Green
6) This is of course also consistent with him racing Ahead of Mace Tyrell’s army and having the Tyrell queen taken into his personal custody. Unfortunately, this bodes badly for our lovely doe-eyed Margery. Oh well.
7) ~If it were up to me, I would send them all to the Night's Watch, and Connington with them. The Wall is where such scum belong."~ He’s setting it up so the only legitimate claimant of JonCon’s lands is in fact, JonCon. Obviously a new lord can be appointed, but this suggested move adds legitimacy to the blackfyre cause, removing the heir apparent and putting JonCon back in his ancestral lands without a real challenger.

1) The ‘show of strength / toxic masculinity theory’
a. This theory has to do with Tarly appearing competent millirarily rather than being competent. He doles harsh justice and havy discipline, which in some ways hides his lackluster results as a commander. I should note this is the weakest of the three theories, but it sort of feeds into the other two.
b. This would be indicative of his hatred for Sam. The moment the ‘veil’ of masculinity and strength is lifted, his actual achievements are lackluster
c. After ashford he appears much more brutal than before. We have no indication he was brutal pre Ashford, and post ashford he’s executing enemies, cornering and murdering northmen to a man (as best he can at least) and doling out harsher justice than his peers
d. Every character who speaks of Tarly speaks of his millirary accolades. I think his ‘larger than life’ persona has played at least a part in this, and Tarly looks the part as the veteran commander.
e. I ought to note this theory doesn’t stop Tarly from playing the game of thrones, it just suggests he isn’t an exceptional tactical commander. Logistically, he has always been with the winning side as a vassal, he’s been able to spin every battle to gain honors and accolades, and he has a knack for being in the right place at the right time (declaring for renly early, being in the van at ashford etc.)
f. All that aside, this theory also doesn’t stop Tarly from being a jerk. Given how he acts to Sam and both towards and around Brienne, we are naturally inclined to mislike him as a harsh leader.
2) Not as dumb as he looks theory
a. He’s taken the queen into his personal Custody. We literally heard from Renly back in book 1 – he who holds the XXXX holds the crown. With all the chaos in the recent books, it’s easy to miss, but this is a huge move in the game of thrones. The Tyrells do not have the queen. Tarly does.
b. As far as I can tell, he’s never been at real risk in a battle since Ashford. He had backup and numbers at duskendale, a massive host at the blackwater, The Siege of Storms End was just a great big preservation of army by Mace whilst Roberts rebellion raged, and the Siege on Stannis was totally lopsided but for magic shadow-baby.
c. Dorne does not seem to have acted against him once nor demanded concessions. [CHECK]. For a lord in the Dornish Marches which have been tumultuous for years, this is somewhat of a big deal. He also seems to be unafraid of moving his forced forward – we have no indication he left levies to protect himself from Dorne, hinting that he wasn’t afraid of Dorne misbehaving (even if only to harry border towns, a bit like Bolton grabbing up the hornwood lands).
d. He sucks up to the bravosi Banker when all the debts are being called in. We have this picture of this strong, just, military man, but the banker scene shows he’s not just a sword arm, and he knows when to suck up. This is important as it shows he is at least considering the wider world and the future outside of the battles, as opposed to a certain dwarf whom never actually meets the bankers.
e. He has turned a bunch of mediocre achievements into being renowned as the greatest soldier in the realm. By all rights, Stannis and Robb are much better commanders (with the caveat that Robb was only good tactically). If we want to get nasty, Mace Tyrell has only won crushing victories – with the exception of ashford (messed up by Tarly) and storms end (where he lost no troops in a rebellion that depleted most of the realm).
i. The most competent appearing thing he said was to not charge into the sun, which was largely irrelevant when plated heavy cavalry is charging into boiled leather. As Renly said to Stannis, his force wouldn’t survive first impact, so this whole sun business is a bit silly.
ii. Arguably the most competent thing was executing all the soldiers considering going over to Stannis, but I’m not sure if this is truly competent or just brutality – Stannis did not do the same with the Karstarks in a similar position.
f. He’s bypassed succession laws. By getting rid of Sam he has set himself up with his chosen heir. Look at the thorny knot Tywin tied himself with Tyrion, whom still arguably is the rightful heir to Castelry Rock (which he made full use of with the Second Suns). We know Maesters can be kicked out of the order (see our favourite necromancer), and can be used to play with succession (Aemon is a good example, albeit he said no) and I don’t really see Sam as a priest.
i. There’s actually a good question as to whether he would have killed Sam. The gods hate kinslayers, and the threat sufficed. If we assume tarly isn’t an idiot, he would have realized the threat likely sufficient.
g. Given how he sets himself up at Maidenpool, its hinted that the Maidenpool land is part of his reward for the blackwater. We never hear of exactly ‘what’ Tarly’s reward is, except in the aftermath he’s patrolling Duskendale (still seemingly with house Rykker),, Maidenpool and the kings road, and seems to be setting himself up in Maidenpool for the long haul. In AFFC, Tarly’s heir is married off to Eleanor Mooton (the seeming heiress to maidenpool) and Tommen pardons Moonton. Maidenpool is a major port in the world of Ice and Fire, which would make it a fine reward[[1]](#_ftn1).
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Other key takeaways

BRIENNE THING

A Feast for Crows - Brienne III

Randyll Tarly solved the mystery the day he sent two of his men-at-arms to summon her to his pavilion. His young son Dickon had overheard four knights laughing as they saddled up their horses, and had told his lord father what they said.

… "The gods made men to fight, and women to bear children," said Randyll Tarly. "A woman's war is in the birthing bed."
Someone was coming down the cellar steps. Brienne pushed her wine aside as a ragged, scrawny, sharp-faced man with dirty brown hair stepped into the Goose. He gave the Tyroshi sailors a quick look and Brienne a longer one, then went up to the plank. "Wine," he said, "and none o' your horse piss in it, thank'e."

JUSTICE THING


Battle of the Blackwater – a step Sideways



In short
Randyll Tarly is a shrewd Blackfyre loyalist who now has custody of the queen, a position on the small council and whom is not considered a political threat. He’s not half the commander he’s made out to be, probably has anti-maester sentiment and is possibly friendly with Doran Martell. And he has an army.
This has been quite a ride and I’m sure I got many details wrong so let’s end on a high note. Given all this, I expect Randyll to sacrifice Margery and prove ser pounce’s lineage to the age of conquest. Tommen will blindly stamp a document marrying himself to the cat, the white walkers will be appeased (their problem is only humans), and everyone lives happily ever after except for Danerys who dies.
Maidenpool
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2024.05.19 12:58 FingerGlittering1216 I like him but I feel like I’m going to ruin this

I’m sorry I don’t want to give too many details for the sake of remaining anonymous.
I’m a 27f and I’ve never had the pleasure of experiencing a first love romantically. My first serious relationship was 4 years long & Brandon (for the sake of this I’ll call him Brandon) put me through hell. I was 19 yrs old when I first met Brandon 21M. Brandon was absuive mentally, physically, & emotionally. Everything I experienced was manipulation & lies. Realizing that truly broke me even more than I already was after I had left Brandon & was on my recovery journey so to speak. Recently on Facebook I saw Brandon married & expecting his first child. I also saw Brandon is now a successful property manager. It kind of upset me knowing he’s living comfortably & happily after trying to beat me to death but whatever right?
After that relationship ended in 2019 for many reason I decided to stay single and I did my best to heal what I could with therapy. After visiting my family in 2022 bc I took on a job that required me to travel 75% of the time I went home for the holiday to see family. I met this guy Richard 27F on tinder I proceed to date for a short while. Turns out he was a drunk, physically, mentally, & emotionally abusive. After this I cut dating off completely for me as I felt it was no longer an option as that was the second time that happened to me.
Now it’s 2024 & I feel like I’ll never actually find anyone at this point in my life. Recently I’ve started being open to the idea of dating.
Because this is recent I am going to be vague and I apologize for having to be vague in regards to the information I’m giving. Someone I met back 10 years ago recently reached out to me. He apologized about past behaviors that weren’t a huge deal honestly but he took accountability for it so that was nice. He expressed interest in a serious relationship with me. Currently this is “LDR”. At first he messaged & called a lot. Now he doesn’t. Granted he did warn me that it would be like this most days but idk now it’s like I’ll hear from him once a day at the end of the day. He says he gets caught up talking but idk?? Like I get it but at the same time I don’t? He approached me saying he wanted to try something serious but I just feel like I’m possibly being bread crumbed???
Also stupid but I did go through his IG followers & likes & I truly wish I hadn’t bc I feel like this just confirmed my self esteem issues aren’t fully resolved. The women he follows & likes & that like his photos are just so beautiful. I don’t understand how exactly he is apparently attracted to me. These women are like beautiful Latin women with these perfect bodies and I’m literally the complete opposite.. I’m 195 pounds, stretch marks, no butt, black, curly hair, glasses.. like idk just the opposite.. I don’t say anything to him about this because although he says he likes me and I only have his attention I just feel it’s completely out of line to speak up about any of this but this is just bothering me and I really needed somewhere to say this.
As much as I want a relationship, as much as I do like him I just find myself about to turn completely cold toward him and I don’t feel this is the correct way to handle it but at the same time I just don’t know if I’m thinking rationally. I just not sure what I should do. Should I just express my concerns or just break things off before I end up hurting him or vice versa?? This is so stupid and childish I know but any sort of genuine advice would help.
Thank you for reading.
TLDR; I’m 27F never been in love. I’ve been in 2 failed abusive relationships, one 4 yrs long & the 6 months. I am currently seeing a guy after taking a break from dating. I am not sure if he is serious about me or if I am truly now insecure & should just cut ties before I get hurt again/hurt him?
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I’m sorry I don’t want to give too many details for the sake of remaining anonymous.
I’m a 27f and I’ve never had the pleasure of experiencing a first love romantically. My first serious relationship was 4 years long & Brandon (for the sake of this I’ll call him Brandon) put me through hell. I was 19 yrs old when I first met Brandon 21M. Brandon was absuive mentally, physically, & emotionally. Everything I experienced was manipulation & lies. Realizing that truly broke me even more than I already was after I had left Brandon & was on my recovery journey so to speak. Recently on Facebook I saw Brandon married & expecting his first child. I also saw Brandon is now a successful property manager. It kind of upset me knowing he’s living comfortably & happily after trying to beat me to death but whatever right?
After that relationship ended in 2019 for many reason I decided to stay single and I did my best to heal what I could with therapy. After visiting my family in 2022 bc I took on a job that required me to travel 75% of the time I went home for the holiday to see family. I met this guy Richard 27F on tinder I proceed to date for a short while. Turns out he was a drunk, physically, mentally, & emotionally abusive. After this I cut dating off completely for me as I felt it was no longer an option as that was the second time that happened to me.
Now it’s 2024 & I feel like I’ll never actually find anyone at this point in my life. Recently I’ve started being open to the idea of dating.
Because this is recent I am going to be vague and I apologize for having to be vague in regards to the information I’m giving. Someone I met back 10 years ago recently reached out to me. He apologized about past behaviors that weren’t a huge deal honestly but he took accountability for it so that was nice. He expressed interest in a serious relationship with me. Currently this is “LDR”. At first he messaged & called a lot. Now he doesn’t. Granted he did warn me that it would be like this most days but idk now it’s like I’ll hear from him once a day at the end of the day. He says he gets caught up talking but idk?? Like I get it but at the same time I don’t? He approached me saying he wanted to try something serious but I just feel like I’m possibly being bread crumbed???
Also stupid but I did go through his IG followers & likes & I truly wish I hadn’t bc I feel like this just confirmed my self esteem issues aren’t fully resolved. The women he follows & likes & that like his photos are just so beautiful. I don’t understand how exactly he is apparently attracted to me. These women are like beautiful Latin women with these perfect bodies and I’m literally the complete opposite.. I’m 195 pounds, stretch marks, no butt, black, curly hair, glasses.. like idk just the opposite.. I don’t say anything to him about this because although he says he likes me and I only have his attention I just feel it’s completely out of line to speak up about any of this but this is just bothering me and I really needed somewhere to say this.
As much as I want a relationship, as much as I do like him I just find myself about to turn completely cold toward him and I don’t feel this is the correct way to handle it but at the same time I just don’t know if I’m thinking rationally. I just not sure what I should do. Should I just express my concerns or just break things off before I end up hurting him or vice versa?? This is so stupid and childish I know but any sort of genuine advice would help.
Thank you for reading.
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Because I had to leave due to a medical emergency, I couldn't finish watching a certain movie a few years ago. Now I would like to watch the movie again from the beginning, but I can't remember the name. Here's what I remember of the plot:
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Some details that I still remember:
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Because I had to leave due to a medical emergency, I couldn't finish watching a certain movie a few years ago. Now I would like to watch the movie again from the beginning, but I can't remember the name. Here's what I remember of the plot:
The movie takes place somewhere in a major American city (at least I think so). A woman is doing something, I think she wants to go home. Suddenly, without warning, war breaks out (helicopters, soldiers) and civilians are captured or killed around the protagonist, who is trying to escape. I remember that the woman met a man at some point. The man was something like a bodybuilder. He then protected her and the two of them had a destination where they wanted to go because they would be safe there.
Some details that I still remember:
Does anyone have any idea which movie that was?
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Understanding Hair Transplantation
Hair transplantation involves moving hair follicles from a part of the body, known as the donor site, to a balding or thinning area, called the recipient site. The two primary techniques used are Follicular Unit Transplantation (FUT) and Follicular Unit Extraction (FUE). FUT involves removing a strip of scalp from the donor site and dissecting it into individual follicular units, while FUE involves extracting individual follicles directly from the donor site. Both methods have their advantages, and the choice depends on individual needs and the surgeon's expertise.
Top Clinics in Ghaziabad
AKS Clinic
Located in the heart of Ghaziabad, AKS Clinic is renowned for its state-of-the-art facilities and experienced medical staff. Dr. Akhilendra Singh, a leading dermatologist and hair transplant surgeon, heads the clinic. The clinic offers both FUT and FUE procedures and utilizes advanced technology to ensure minimal scarring and natural-looking results. Patient testimonials praise the clinic's professionalism and the high success rate of their procedures.
Dermalife Skin & Hair Clinic
Dermalife Skin & Hair Clinic is another prominent name in Ghaziabad for hair transplant services. Led by Dr. Gaurav Garg, the clinic specializes in FUE hair transplantation. The team at Dermalife is known for their personalized approach, ensuring each patient receives a treatment plan tailored to their specific needs. The clinic's modern infrastructure and use of cutting-edge techniques contribute to its reputation for delivering excellent outcomes.
Hair Science Clinic
Hair Science Clinic stands out for its holistic approach to hair restoration. The clinic, under the guidance of Dr. Ankur Singhal, offers a range of hair transplant options, including FUE, FUT, and Direct Hair Implantation (DHI). Hair Science Clinic emphasizes patient education, ensuring individuals understand the procedure, recovery process, and expected results. Their commitment to post-operative care has earned them a loyal clientele.
Labellezaaesthetica Advanced Hair Clinic
labellezaaesthetica Advanced Hair Clinic is a leading chain of hair restoration clinics with a branch in Ghaziabad. The clinic is known for its innovative techniques and skilled surgeons. They offer a variety of hair transplant methods, including the No Root Touch Technique (NRT) and Bio-FUE, which enhance the survival rate of transplanted follicles. labellezaaesthetica focus on technology and patient satisfaction makes it a top choice for those seeking reliable hair transplant solutions.

Choosing the Right Clinic
When selecting a hair transplant clinic in Ghaziabad, consider the following factors:
Surgeon's Expertise: Research the qualifications and experience of the surgeon. A skilled surgeon with a proven track record can significantly impact the success of the transplant.
Clinic Reputation: Read patient reviews and testimonials to gauge the clinic's reputation. Positive feedback often indicates high-quality service.
Technology and Techniques: Ensure the clinic uses the latest techniques and equipment. Advanced technology can enhance the precision and outcome of the transplant.
Cost: While cost should not be the sole determining factor, it is important to understand the pricing structure and what it includes. Compare prices among clinics to find a balance between affordability and quality.
Consultation Process: A thorough consultation should be part of the process. This allows the surgeon to assess your condition and discuss the best treatment options.
Conclusion
Ghaziabad offers a variety of excellent options for those considering a hair transplant. Clinics like AKS Clinic, Dermalife Skin & Hair Clinic, Hair Science Clinic, and labellezaaesthetica Advanced Hair Clinic provide top-tier services, combining expertise, technology, and patient care. By considering the surgeon's expertise, clinic reputation, available techniques, cost, and consultation process, you can make an informed decision and achieve the best possible results for your hair restoration journey.
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