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2024.05.19 18:17 Inflation_Bright Something that happened to mw
Hi. I'm a 25 year old person and I just wanted a safe space to share something personal that happened to me when I was about 18-19 years old. I could find the date it happened... but doing this would mean going to look through a lot of old memories. It's a good thing and also a bad thing. When it happened, one person new about what really happened and another person thought it was something else completely. I didn't think too much about it when it happened but my body body did in fact remember. I use to get full body tremors something. Like my entire body would get tense and it would force itself to shake off all the tension. Afterwards I would just feel tired. As I have gotten older, I began telling some people close to me. My reaction doesn't change at all all these years later. Sometime I think that it was my fault. Sometimes I think that that person should not have done that and I wasn't my fault. Sometimes I think, in comparison, it wasn't a big deal. But it is regardless. It was just something that happen to me.
Anyway, here is what happened. I'll start with some context first. I was always alone. I didn't really have anyone. All I have was my eldest half sister and her husband and I did almost everything with them (more him than her because she was always working). I started living with them right out of secondary school all the way to university. When I got to university, I got mixed up with a person I shouldn't have and he got very angry with me saying that he tried to guide me to be better since my parents were a waste of time. He would get really mad about it because I would talk about how I was feeling (naivety and all) and he would just say that I was stupid to put it lightly. That was the dynamic of the household at this point in time. Him being stressed about his other life things going on, plus being mad at me (especially since I didn't want to hear good reason, which if he wasn't so mean at that time I might have listened to but honestly I don't think I might have). He would curse some times, be mean, make me feel paranoid about anywhere I was (this paranoia existed before and disappeared when I left home but then came back at a point when I started living with them). I wasn't right in this either, I just kept making mistakes, and they didn't trust me.
Another point of context is that I have always had problems with my body since I was young. For this story, the problem was in my private area (I'm a girl fyi) and there was no one to talk to about it at this time and I always ended up hurt myself. I even have tears on my labia from how much I hurt myself.
So when I started getting an allowance from my parents for university and because I'm an impulsive person as well, decided to go to the doctor. I remembered taking a bus to get to school and seeing a gynecologist office. I've known it was there ever since but I just kept it in the back of my mind for a long time. I was done having all these problems so I just went. It was relatively far walk from where I use to live as well. I can't remember why I didn't take a bus but I didn't. I went in and spoke to the receptionist. She told me that the docter wasn't in office yet and I could wait for him to arrive. So I waited. When I got called into his office I was really really really scared. But I was already stuck being there so I couldn't leave . He asked me if I had a boyfriend. And I told him that I did. He asked if I have sex. (This was my long distance person) I said no. I can't remember all the old things he asked. Afterwards, he told me to go in the back room to do the ultra sound and to take off my pants. So I did. He came in the room and did a check up on my breast (over my clothes) and said then said something along the lines of "I can do the ultra sound on your stomach but I can get a better......" At this point in time, I was on a table with a man with my legs spread and I was alone. I was flustered and didn't really understand what he was telling me but I just agreed. I agreed without thing. Fuck I wished I was thinking. He did whatever he was doing and then insert a probe inside of me. It hurt. It hurt so much and he was just talking like it was a normal thing. To me, I was just trying not too move too much and flinch from the pain I was getting. When he was done, he told me to put my clothes back on and left the room. I went in the bathroom and saw that I was bleeding. I was so startled and scared by this and put on a pad that was there in the room and told him that I was bleeding. I can't remember his reaction but he just said to come sit by the table and said nothing was wrong with me. I asked about things like if my discharge was normal and he said it was fine. He gave me my ultrasound, appointment card and sent me to pay. It took all of my savings to say the least. It was raining when I was walking home. I stopped at a fast food restaurant and waited until the rain stopped. I looked at the ultrasound while I was there and called my friend and showed him. He looked at it and said something along the lines of you don't look pregnant. At some point I made it home and hid away all the things and went on with my day. I can't remember my feelings honestly. I was already going through some other things and this was just one of my many mistakes at that point in my life. Maybe that same day, her husband when looking in my room looking for none existent drugs because he saw charcoal tablets in my room. I didn't do any drugs. Maybe I smoked some weed (once in a blue moon) and smoke cigarettes all because of stress but nothing else. He found the ultrasound and appointment card and called the place. When I got back to the house I remember being confronted about something but I can't really remember what happened. I've blocked out a lot of things that happened back then. I went home for that weekend (I never went home on weekends before and when things started happening I started going home) and I received a missed call from a number I didn't know and a voice-mail. I listed to the voice mail and it was the docter. He called me back and said that I should come back to his office and that a concerned family member called. I called my friend and told him and we had a good laugh about it. I was confronted about it at some point in time by him. I only realized that he went through my things because certain things were not put back in place in my diary. When I remember when he confronted me, I asked if he did look though my drawers. I can't remember if he lied or not but I remember the conversation being that I noticed that something was not put back in place in my dairy and he said he usually does but it pack in place but didn't this time. I feel like I could put more but it would be too much. It all happened such a long time ago and I should just move on but honestly I'm still so angry about a lot of things. It's hard for me to get over. This is just one of them. Sometimes I even wonder that when I do find someone, how do I even explain this. That I'm still a virgin but my hymen was broken by a gynecologist or should I just lie and say I've had sex before and just fake it. If I say the truth would my person even want me? All I can say is that I'm trying. Good enough for me.
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Anyway, here is what happened. I'll start with some context first. I was always alone. I didn't really have anyone. All I have was my eldest half sister and her husband and I did almost everything with them (more him than her because she was always working). I started living with them right out of secondary school all the way to university. When I got to university, I got mixed up with a person I shouldn't have and he got very angry with me saying that he tried to guide me to be better since my parents were a waste of time. He would get really mad about it because I would talk about how I was feeling (naivety and all) and he would just say that I was stupid to put it lightly. That was the dynamic of the household at this point in time. Him being stressed about his other life things going on, plus being mad at me (especially since I didn't want to hear good reason, which if he wasn't so mean at that time I might have listened to but honestly I don't think I might have). He would curse some times, be mean, make me feel paranoid about anywhere I was (this paranoia existed before and disappeared when I left home but then came back at a point when I started living with them). I wasn't right in this either, I just kept making mistakes, and they didn't trust me.
Another point of context is that I have always had problems with my body since I was young. For this story, the problem was in my private area (I'm a girl fyi) and there was no one to talk to about it at this time and I always ended up hurt myself. I even have tears on my labia from how much I hurt myself.
So when I started getting an allowance from my parents for university and because I'm an impulsive person as well, decided to go to the doctor. I remembered taking a bus to get to school and seeing a gynecologist office. I've known it was there ever since but I just kept it in the back of my mind for a long time. I was done having all these problems so I just went. It was relatively far walk from where I use to live as well. I can't remember why I didn't take a bus but I didn't. I went in and spoke to the receptionist. She told me that the docter wasn't in office yet and I could wait for him to arrive. So I waited. When I got called into his office I was really really really scared. But I was already stuck being there so I couldn't leave . He asked me if I had a boyfriend. And I told him that I did. He asked if I have sex. (This was my long distance person) I said no. I can't remember all the old things he asked. Afterwards, he told me to go in the back room to do the ultra sound and to take off my pants. So I did. He came in the room and did a check up on my breast (over my clothes) and said then said something along the lines of "I can do the ultra sound on your stomach but I can get a better......" At this point in time, I was on a table with a man with my legs spread and I was alone. I was flustered and didn't really understand what he was telling me but I just agreed. I agreed without thing. Fuck I wished I was thinking. He did whatever he was doing and then insert a probe inside of me. It hurt. It hurt so much and he was just talking like it was a normal thing. To me, I was just trying not too move too much and flinch from the pain I was getting. When he was done, he told me to put my clothes back on and left the room. I went in the bathroom and saw that I was bleeding. I was so startled and scared by this and put on a pad that was there in the room and told him that I was bleeding. I can't remember his reaction but he just said to come sit by the table and said nothing was wrong with me. I asked about things like if my discharge was normal and he said it was fine. He gave me my ultrasound, appointment card and sent me to pay. It took all of my savings to say the least. It was raining when I was walking home. I stopped at a fast food restaurant and waited until the rain stopped. I looked at the ultrasound while I was there and called my friend and showed him. He looked at it and said something along the lines of you don't look pregnant. At some point I made it home and hid away all the things and went on with my day. I can't remember my feelings honestly. I was already going through some other things and this was just one of my many mistakes at that point in my life. Maybe that same day, her husband when looking in my room looking for none existent drugs because he saw charcoal tablets in my room. I didn't do any drugs. Maybe I smoked some weed (once in a blue moon) and smoke cigarettes all because of stress but nothing else. He found the ultrasound and appointment card and called the place. When I got back to the house I remember being confronted about something but I can't really remember what happened. I've blocked out a lot of things that happened back then. I went home for that weekend (I never went home on weekends before and when things started happening I started going home) and I received a missed call from a number I didn't know and a voice-mail. I listed to the voice mail and it was the docter. He called me back and said that I should come back to his office and that a concerned family member called. I called my friend and told him and we had a good laugh about it. I was confronted about it at some point in time by him. I only realized that he went through my things because certain things were not put back in place in my diary. When I remember when he confronted me, I asked if he did look though my drawers. I can't remember if he lied or not but I remember the conversation being that I noticed that something was not put back in place in my dairy and he said he usually does but it pack in place but didn't this time. I feel like I could put more but it would be too much. It all happened such a long time ago and I should just move on but honestly I'm still so angry about a lot of things. It's hard for me to get over. This is just one of them. Sometimes I even wonder that when I do find someone, how do I even explain this. That I'm still a virgin but my hymen was broken by a gynecologist or should I just lie and say I've had sex before and just fake it. If I say the truth would my person even want me? All I can say is that I'm trying. Good enough for me.
2024.05.19 18:17 HylianHopes I (30sF) want on advice on two relationship patterns I need help breaking: Grass is Greener Syndrome and recently Attracting Creeps.
Yesterday my ex from 2021 wrote a lovely introspective about our breakup. It was a long message, but essentially said that when I was reciprocating his effort every step of the way, he began to try to max out his life and was envisioning every other partner out there that might be a better match. That I was encouraging and adored him so much that maybe, he thought, that he could do better. But that he's ashamed of thinking that and he's sorry for breaking up with me out of the blue and I had deserved better. Thankfully, he left it at saying he'd always think I'm a tremendous and attractive human, without trying to get back together. I think I would have cut him as a friend if he had asked about that possibility.
It wasn't surprising though because he's the fourth ex to do this. Which means I'm 4/4 out of all my exboyfriends coming back months or years later saying they were blind to how good we had it. They admit they were still looking toward greener pastures. That they shouldn't have because I'm so sweet, so smart, so affectionate, so cute, so sexy, so good at communication, so logical, so easy to resolve conflict with, so... everything lined up with their checkbox of what they want (but how does that make sense? They left because they wanted more so I'm not everything they wanted). 3 out of 4 have attempted to rekindle and give the relationship another try.
I've asked them about any blindspots I might have had, and they say that I was great through and through along with the relationship we had. That they wouldn't change a thing about me, except one joked it would be nice if I were an heiress, and another that said he had lied about his feelings on family planning and actually struggled with the idea of meeting my kids and becoming a stepdad but was ready now. I appreciated the candor from him and we tried again, but I ultimately didn't feel like he really wanted to date me and was settling. He was talking about engagement and delaying proposing and then fully back to being uncertain.
So I've learned that you should never go back to an ex. It'll only cause you pain. So that's not an issue or anything I need to learn.
However, how do I stop dating men who don't appreciate what they have and are going to breakup with me even when the relationship is going well? Or how can I combat their growing feeling that really good isn't enough?
And because it's reddit, I feel like I need to include that I'm not chasing the top 10%. I swipe on guys based on the bio they've written.
I've dated a range of everything. I've been down to date people as long as they've been kind, respectful, and share some of my mostly nerdy interests/hobbies. Men who are ambitious/chill, oldeyounger, attractive/not attractive (but attractive in my subjective view), paycheck to paycheck or have retirement all figured out , single dads/divorced/never married/never dated before because of social anxiety, shy/gregorious --- and you get the idea.
Even if I were stuck on someone ideal to my specifications for shallow traits it's still realistic: They'd be the type that enjoys food a little too much and would be fun to go to the gym with, so they're mostly healthy, strong, but also has a bit of a gut. Great eyes and a warm smile. I love short guys and anyone in a range around 5'3" is perfect. But height is only a preference and I've dated tall too. I'm happy dating outside my ideal as long as they're kind, respectful, and gentle.
Then the second issue, attracting creeps. I spent a year intentionally single because I felt emotionally unavailable. I hopped back into dating apps in earnest starting in January and was fine until April. April/May has been unreal. It's completely worse than anything I've encountered before. I've never dealt with anything too creepy or severe sexual harassment before, but it's everywhere I go now.
-First dates have groped me after I said no.
-Flashed their penis and rubbed it on me while in public. (Police report submitted)
-Pressured me for sex right away and this guy, a salesman by trade, was not accepting no for an answer, so I said I would next date but couldn't go to his place that night - just to get away. But messaged him after and told him that I had lied to get away, wrote 100 no's and 1 yes doesn't mean yes, and blocked him.
-I found out another was a sex offender who was convicted of digital voyeurism of a kid under 14 (and preferred Stars Wars over Star Trek, doubly troubling, just kidding š)
-Another man anonymously called my work, could have been a prior date or completely random, and the recording of that could be used as the start of a horror film. He wouldn't tell me who he was, but acted like he knew who I was, and then lewdly asked about my bathroom usage...
-A guy I had barely met, but was not a date with nor interested in, must have hid my phone, then sent me to grab something, got into my phone, I caught him, and listened to him justify that he liked me and just needed to know what kind of person I was before getting attached. I just said it wasn't going to happen and left. He ended up sort of stalking me for a few days before mutual friends out the kibosh on him.
I'm sick of it. I've never felt unsafe meeting people in public, I figured public places were enough protection until this month.
I don't know what I'm doing differently to suddenly be preyed on by a bunch of creeps. I think I'm acting like I always have, but I have gained weight and maybe that's why? But why only now and not in January? Is it all coincidental?
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It wasn't surprising though because he's the fourth ex to do this. Which means I'm 4/4 out of all my exboyfriends coming back months or years later saying they were blind to how good we had it. They admit they were still looking toward greener pastures. That they shouldn't have because I'm so sweet, so smart, so affectionate, so cute, so sexy, so good at communication, so logical, so easy to resolve conflict with, so... everything lined up with their checkbox of what they want (but how does that make sense? They left because they wanted more so I'm not everything they wanted). 3 out of 4 have attempted to rekindle and give the relationship another try.
I've asked them about any blindspots I might have had, and they say that I was great through and through along with the relationship we had. That they wouldn't change a thing about me, except one joked it would be nice if I were an heiress, and another that said he had lied about his feelings on family planning and actually struggled with the idea of meeting my kids and becoming a stepdad but was ready now. I appreciated the candor from him and we tried again, but I ultimately didn't feel like he really wanted to date me and was settling. He was talking about engagement and delaying proposing and then fully back to being uncertain.
So I've learned that you should never go back to an ex. It'll only cause you pain. So that's not an issue or anything I need to learn.
However, how do I stop dating men who don't appreciate what they have and are going to breakup with me even when the relationship is going well? Or how can I combat their growing feeling that really good isn't enough?
And because it's reddit, I feel like I need to include that I'm not chasing the top 10%. I swipe on guys based on the bio they've written.
I've dated a range of everything. I've been down to date people as long as they've been kind, respectful, and share some of my mostly nerdy interests/hobbies. Men who are ambitious/chill, oldeyounger, attractive/not attractive (but attractive in my subjective view), paycheck to paycheck or have retirement all figured out , single dads/divorced/never married/never dated before because of social anxiety, shy/gregorious --- and you get the idea.
Even if I were stuck on someone ideal to my specifications for shallow traits it's still realistic: They'd be the type that enjoys food a little too much and would be fun to go to the gym with, so they're mostly healthy, strong, but also has a bit of a gut. Great eyes and a warm smile. I love short guys and anyone in a range around 5'3" is perfect. But height is only a preference and I've dated tall too. I'm happy dating outside my ideal as long as they're kind, respectful, and gentle.
Then the second issue, attracting creeps. I spent a year intentionally single because I felt emotionally unavailable. I hopped back into dating apps in earnest starting in January and was fine until April. April/May has been unreal. It's completely worse than anything I've encountered before. I've never dealt with anything too creepy or severe sexual harassment before, but it's everywhere I go now.
-First dates have groped me after I said no.
-Flashed their penis and rubbed it on me while in public. (Police report submitted)
-Pressured me for sex right away and this guy, a salesman by trade, was not accepting no for an answer, so I said I would next date but couldn't go to his place that night - just to get away. But messaged him after and told him that I had lied to get away, wrote 100 no's and 1 yes doesn't mean yes, and blocked him.
-I found out another was a sex offender who was convicted of digital voyeurism of a kid under 14 (and preferred Stars Wars over Star Trek, doubly troubling, just kidding š)
-Another man anonymously called my work, could have been a prior date or completely random, and the recording of that could be used as the start of a horror film. He wouldn't tell me who he was, but acted like he knew who I was, and then lewdly asked about my bathroom usage...
-A guy I had barely met, but was not a date with nor interested in, must have hid my phone, then sent me to grab something, got into my phone, I caught him, and listened to him justify that he liked me and just needed to know what kind of person I was before getting attached. I just said it wasn't going to happen and left. He ended up sort of stalking me for a few days before mutual friends out the kibosh on him.
I'm sick of it. I've never felt unsafe meeting people in public, I figured public places were enough protection until this month.
I don't know what I'm doing differently to suddenly be preyed on by a bunch of creeps. I think I'm acting like I always have, but I have gained weight and maybe that's why? But why only now and not in January? Is it all coincidental?
2024.05.19 18:16 zeeloo99 Yakuza 5: A Mega Big Ole Review/Summary for a Big Ole Game! Part 1.
If you're curious about my thoughts on previous Yakuza games, here are my much shorter (except for 4, thats pretty long too) reviews for Kiwami 1, Kiwami 2, Yakuza 3 (Remastered), and Yakuza 4 (Remastered).
All of my reviews are made pretty quickly after I finish the game, this was written right after I finished but I haven't posted it till a month later because its so long I thought no one would ever read this but whatever I gotta get my truth out there.
Per usual I played the remaster of Yakuza 5. I'm not sure of any outstanding changes or things of note like with 3 or 4, but if something I say is exclusive to the remaster please let me know! I may sound overly praising or overly critical of this game, who knows but please be kind when you tell me i'm an idiot for feeling the way I do! Lastly and most importantly please please please don't spoil future games in the comments! Also warning I'm way too active in the comments section.
Because I am an utter psycho and decided to write a fuckin bibles worth of yakuza 5 ramblings, Part 1 is just reviewing the plot and Part 2 goes over everything else. I split this up last second so there's likely some spots where I say something like "we'll expand on this later" then I never bring it up again, that's because it's probably in part 2. If you want my thoughts on things like the substories, side stories, gameplay, and settings you can read Part 2 here: https://www.reddit.com/yakuzagames/comments/1cvrybw/yakuza_5_a_mega_big_ole_reviewsummary_for_a_big/
The Plot:
Like with Y4, I will discuss my thoughts on each section of the game rather than in one long chunk just because I find it more fun. I'm not even gonna try to not summarize this time because this game is so big it needs broken down.
Part 1: Kiryu
You might often find me compare Y5 to Y4 a lot in this review because they're honestly quite similar games and feel like a package. When I started playing 4 I was worried I wouldn't like playing as primarily strangers for a majority of the game, but one thing they did absolutely right was making Kiryu the final protagonist you play as in that game. So going into 5 I was very apprehensive about starting off with Kiryu, I worried they showed their hand too soon and that it would be difficult to stay invested the whole time.
With this feeling going into the game, I was immediately somewhat losing it over Kiryu being an incognito taxi driver with the worst disguise of all time (some sunglasses and a face mask, don't worry he's literally the only one in the game that seems to think it's a good disguise). Right off the bat, this game feels...sad. Kiryu watching Haruka giving an interview on the TV and storming out rather then defend her to some losers who don't get what ART is, was SAD. This part of the game felt so mundane for awhile, but not in a bad way! You wakeup as Kiryu, walk to work, drive your taxi, and go home late at night (usually) alone. The whole time my eyes were drawn to a facedown picture frame and wondering what it could be, but I certainly had a guess. Kiryu is going through a hard, isolating, and depressing time and you can feel that so well from the game and how they have you play as him. Anyways there's also a random gal named Mayumi that will not leave Kiryu alone despite him asking her to. All you're doing by the end of chapter one is going "Huhhhhhhh?" Anyways Kiryu is approached by two dudes named Morinaga and Aizawa in chapter 2, telling him Daigo was???? Kidnapped?? GASP.. Admittidly I wasn't too fond of this duo at first. One thing that was consistent through my playthrough is that I was completely incapable of predicting anything correctly, and it had felt like these two were gonna be my pals for the rest of the game and I just wasn't clicking with them. Not to mention this weird semi-one sided-romance going on with Mayumi.
In chapter 3, we begin with the most heartbreaking thing that could ever happen to me, Yakuza 3 superfan. Kiryu has been pushed out of running the orphanage by a lady named Miss Park. It's all making sense now. He does it so the orphanage can have money and so Haruka can follow her dreams. DOESNT MAKE IT EASIER TO DEAL WITH FOR ME :( . Then we meet Watase, first thoughts? I was like "god I hope this guy isn't the main villain he's kinda lame" Soon after we meet Aoyama and I thought literally the same thing. Clearly by this point in the game I didn't have the highest hopes. I was mostly sad and not liking most of the new characters. But then... things take a turn.
Mayumi was actually a spy! thank god honestly. Kiryu meets Aoyama again but then Morinaga shows up and fuckin kills Aoyama and says he buried Aizawa alive HOLY SHIT? and then soon after I'm told Majima is fucking dead. Figured he wasn't actually dead cuz I've seen pictures of him from later games but holy shit I somehow cried just at the THOUGHT of him being dead. Also at some point here we met a detective who is an important player in this story but at this point not too integral. Also before Kiryu leaves he picks up the picture frame and its the orphanage ;-;
Kiryu final thoughts: This part of the game was fantastic. I'm so glad they started with Kiryu in this case despite my initial unsureness with it. Chapter 4 especially is when everything really falls into place and starts going 100 miles an hour but I also love the slowness of the previous 3 chapters. I do wish we got more Morinaga as this is unfortunately the last we hear of him despite this being a wonderful set up to a really interesting villain. Mayumi was a pretty shit character per seemingly always with any full grown woman in Yakuza games. While I think it's cool she was secretly a spy she was clearly an afterthought as we never hear about her again so that's cool. Basically a mixed bag of new characters overall.
Part 2: Saejima
I jokingly said to myself "Wouldn't it be funny if I had to spend half of this section breaking out of prison again. Thank god that's not the case." and continued hanging out with Majima until I was arrested for two more years of serving my sentence and OH NO IM BACK IN THE BUILDING.
Yeah I was VERY unsure about breaking out of prison again being a good call. Thankfully, and sorry to Y4, this is a much better prison sequence. Another thing I was really unsure about was BALD SAEJIMA! But actually... it kinda slays harder? In Y4 he looks like that guy from the game The Hatred (an insult) maybe it wouldn't be so bad if bro washed or brushed it but he never did and so instead bald was a slay. Anyways We're dropped in at nearly the end of Saejima's serving period with his group of friends/cellmates, newest one being some dude named Baba. We are relentlessly tortured by the scariest man I've ever seen, Viktor Zsasz-I MEAN! Kugihara. Who's honestly scarier looking then Zsasz somehow. But it is ON because Viktor Zsasz framed my bestie Baba and I will not let that slide so I beat the fuck out of him and it's revealed Zsasz was instructed to be a dick to me. By who??????????????????? Then it's double revealed to me that Majima is dead and I'm sad all over again :(
Turns out our warden is actually really chill and nice and somewhat tries to help us survive. What a breath of fresh air after Satan (Saito) from Y4. This guy is so cool infact we are encouraged to break out by him. So Baba and I do in the dead of the night and tell me why I cried over leaving my two other cellmates ;_; they were such bros. Zsasz hinders my escape and we fight, but my absolute PAL Himura fuckin shoots him it was an amazing turn of events and I cheered so loud and was devastated to leave him behind but anyways-
FUCK YEA SNOW MOBILES (they were kinda jank to control honestly but its the thought that counts). I am so glad I didn't know I was going to be fighting a bear going into this because that was easily the most camp thing ever and so hilarious. Then some old guy saves me (and later Baba) and we chill in the mountains for a little while. The mountain has a whole crazy detailed side story of it's own that I'll explain in more detail later but basically it was cool.
So then a ton of important stuff happens in Tsukimino, most notably we hang out with Baba in a bar which is great because I love Baba and him and I are super tight and he's easily the only person I could ever trust at this point without potential for betrayal! :)
Anyways me and Baba fuckin kidnap this guy because his chair is by a sewer manhole? He's gone in a flash so all I can imagine is dragging him down the hole by his ankle or something. Then we talk for awhile, Majima is mentioned woohoo, THEN HE'S sniped! The way I gasped. Longstory short :( Baba is the one who sniped him and not only that he kind of set everything up and wasn't my best pal all along :( Why Baba Why? Then Baba basically confesses his love for Saejima and can't go through with killing him, AAAAAAND Im back on the Baba train. That detective I mentioned from earlier arrests Saejima but not to throw him back in jail, to assemble the Yakuza avengers.
Final Saejima thoughts: This was shockingly fantastic. I was probably least impressed with Saejima's section in Y4, so it was shocking to have basically the same structure and general narrative beats but done well. It wasn't perfect, I didn't love it as much as Kiryu's section as I'm partial to a slow burn, but it was fun I have no real complaints, except MAYBE more then one chapter in Tsukimino would be a better choice.
Part 3 (first half): Haruka
I did not know I was going to get the HONOR of playing Haruka going into this game. We start off very strong, dancing to the greatest song of all time "So Much More." I mean we really get the full idol experience here with mean ass teachers and shady management. I didn't expect to get an Idol simulator in my Yakuza game but it might be the best thing ever. I decided right off the bat to put everything I had into this section of the game so immediately I did literally everything I could. Most of this chapter feels like a bit of a reflection of Kiryu's were working and going back home alone, it's all as monotonous and isolating as can be (except you're a predebut idol) and I love this. We quickly meet a girl who will serve as my bestie named Akari and yes I indeed would die for her thank you. Meeting Akari introduces us to this sections version of combat, DANCE BATTLES! I know some people might be disappointed you don't get to punch people as Haruka, and I get that, but this feels like a more genuine gameplay style for her character. It's hard to imagine Haruka fighting thugs in the street due to her personality (not that i'd be against it, especially after that weird virtual reality game where I get to wack dudes with a wand) plus I found this gameplay style so refreshing. I was never groaning or sighing because I had to dance against someone. I think it helps that I wasn't forced to do it 15 times in a row walking down the street, but I had the option to most of the time unless it was part of a quest. Maybe that's how all the gameplay should be? I don't mind being approached by thugs sometimes but it always feels like it happens too often in these games and with getting the option to while getting to walk around carefree otherwise in Haruka's section was just SO NICE.
Anyways, We get the whole set up here, we are participating in a competition show that will single handedly set the course for our debut. We're competing against this band called T-set. I hate them so much. They're so mean :(. At some point we see Miss Park absolutely SLAY and tell off Haruka's dance teacher and she doesn't take his shit at all. At this point I was like "Uh ohhhh I don't wanna like her but...she kinda rocks" my decent into stanning Miss Park only continues from there. We have to go convince some guy named Christina (interesting name to take but also a slay, much respect to Mr. Christina and his fedora) to be our new dance instructor. This causes drama with me and Akari which devastated me because I love Akari but we made up like immediately so it's chill.
Then at one point, I forgot the context, Haruka is shopping for a gift for Miss Park when stupid T-set shows up and STEPS ON THE BROACH I BOUGHT FOR HER. I was back and forth on them until now, now they may burn in hell. Especially after they made Haruka get on her knees and beg for forgiveness like ???? what gives ??? Park shows up and SLAYS and gets rid of them. Park then wears the broach :(((((((((
Then one of my favorite parts happen in chapter 2, Haruka and Miss Park go hit the town and just bond together. It's so stinking cute I wanted to cry. This whole time I was trying to not get emotionally attached to Park because it really felt like she was gonna end up betraying us. But the night continued and we get some mother daughter vibes going, even so far as holding hands????? Also Im somewhat glad I didn't get to wear the outfit I bought at the store with Park because I was going for a Cheetah girls inspired look then realized far too late how tacky that might come off, not everyone is Raven Symone ya know?
Anyways at this point I'm like wow this is the cutest game ever, nothing can ever go wrong, Park MIGHT betray me but I don't even care. She gives us a cool pen and a tragic anime backstory with an abusive ex husband and everything and we call it a night Well the next fuckin day my world crumbles because PARK IS DEAD! She "committed suicide" as if!
Part 3 (second half): Akiyama
I can't tell you how devastated I was to realize I'd only get to play as Akiyama for half of a section of the game. However, I was also thrilled to see him at all. Apparently he's opening a Satenbori office and also he is the one who financed Park's dream to debut Haruka so that's how he has a hand in all this. There is tragically very little Hana, she calls you twice and both times were fantastic but I wish I had more :(. Anyways Akiyama has heard about Park's death and goes to the office and meets Haruka. I didn't think they'd even really know each other and assumed we'd have an interesting reveal that they both know Kiryu later but nah they know each other. It honestly probably works better this way because we don't have time for such trivial things! Akiyama is a fuckin detective now. I don't know why he has been tasked to do this but he does it so well I don't even mind. He quickly figures out Park didn't actually kill herself and they simply need evidence to prove this. I'm unsure when this happens but at some point while talking about the mystery SOMEONE FALLS OFF THE ROOF! It was Horie :( who I haven't mentioned yet but he's my manager and a real pal. Thankfully he lived but we found out that the former dance teacher pushed him off. I think he also killed Park or Kanai did, who knows, either way someone did and they suck for it.
Chapter 4 has a lot going on, but basically the president of Osaka talent is sus and he's also the secret chairman of Ousaka Enterprises, which is a different thing... but sounds similar. Ousaka is basically a higher up family in the Omi alliance, so he's part of the bad yakuza!!! Haruka keeps doing the competition and T-set keeps sucking. She wins the princess league by a landslide. I don't even see the point in a third round if she won both of the other rounds? Is the third round just worth more points? Either way Haruka destroyed them and they suck. Her poor vocal instructor is working as her manager now. At some point we find out Parks ex husband was none other then Majima! Which is quite the revelation. Japan is such a small world, everyone seems to know each other. This does mean that Majima at least hit Park (I think after her abortion) and I think he's like 10 years older then her yet they were already married when she debuted at eighteen... Is it time for me to confront the possibility that my favorite crazed murderer might not be the most upstanding citizen?
It ends with Haruka being kidnapped, (nothing out of character there), and Akiyama saving her. He and Haruka make their way to Japan for the big ole concert Park had been planning. Wow this story is really picking up! I hope nothing grinds it to a sudden stop!
Part 3 final thoughts: God this was amazing, every step of it. My only complaint is I wanted more, more Akiyama and MORE dancing but I might be the only one who wanted 40 more hours of dancing. Detective Akiyama and Haruka duo was not the team I knew I needed but Im glad it happened. I found all of the music and gameplay here SO fun and I loved the plot too. I really liked Parks character. I wouldn't necessarily hang out with her, but I found her to be pretty well written and its hard to hate anyone Haruka clearly treasures, I am very sad she is actually dead because up until the end of the game I kept thinking she was going to come back.
Part 4: Shinada:
We have come to a sudden stop. We start with a flashback to 1997 where Shinada has debuted as a baseball player for the wyverns, don't forget this moment because the rest of this section of the game constantly calls back to it. In the modern day Shinada is a loser who is really heavily indebt and lives in a weird grimey rooftop shack. He also now writes like ? smut articles ? And he's friend with a girl named Milky which is the craziest name I've ever heard. A loanshark who talks about his kids a lot constantly follows Shinada around and takes his money. There was a lot of promise with this gag, like maybe instead of letting me keep the 100k and still acting like I'm broke he shows up after every side mission to rob me but nope. At the end of the chapter we run into a masked man who is frankly just Daigo stealing Kiryu's disguise idea.
Shinada and loanshark (his name is Takasugi) walk around town looking for leads on uncovering the truth of Shinada's past. Because you see, Shinada one time got fired from baseball cuz everyone thought he cheated, oh you already knew that? yeah same but don't worry you'll hear it at least 40 more times. Daigo asked him to go look for clues about this, why does he care? I still don't know honestly. Takasugi is forcing him to go because...I guess money? and he's walking around with me and were acting like friends now for some reason. Shinada is incapable of having any agency for himself, he just does what people tell him to. He also keeps nearly dying like a looney tunes character with shit falling out of the sky and stuff. Eventually we find out the Nagoya family fixed the match and then some guy Shinada used to know does get smashed like a looney tunes character. Skip ahead, were called to help by Milky and she betrayed us. I am sad cuz I thought Milky was a friend for life. Turns out literally everyone Shinada knows aside from the fkn loanshark are evil, even the old baseball lady. This plot was so convoluted I frankly don't understand why they were doing what they were doing, all I know is they were more like a neighborhood watch situation then Yakuza even though they seemed to do the exact same thing. Also when I say literally everyone he knows is evil I mean everyone, even his old coach or whatever. For way too long I thought they meant the middle school baseball coach so I was hella confused. Anyways we then find out that actually Takasugi is Shinada's number one baseball fan. Okay? Anyways
Chapter 4 things finally pick up a little. Daigo reveals himself like anyone ever was doubting it was him, and he also reveals he cares because he went to highschool with Shinada. Is that fr how were connecting this? Daigo got expelled from highschool because he protected Shinada from a rival school. Once again, okay? I guess Shinada doesn't like that Daigo is a yakuza and punches him out the door. I wasn't a fan of this. Daigo goes down pretty easily, pitiful Daigo strikes again. I love him but can he do anything right? Anyways I guess the fight meant nothing cuz they're pals now and go to Tokyo together. We get a cut to Takasugi getting his money back from Shinada as well as a signed baseball...okay that's really cute I nearly cried. I wish they actually left it there but instead Shinada runs away last minute to meet up on that stupid baseball field from 1997 that we cant go 5 minutes without hearing about and we fight this guy named Sawada who was like the kind of mastermind and also the pitcher. Had Sawada not thrown an easy pitch, Shinada wouldn't have hit it and thus been kicked out for cheating. We fight some Omi then play baseball and OMG WHY ARE WE DOING THISSSSSS
Finally it ends and we go to Tokyo
Shinada final thoughts: If you cant tell I was not a fan of this. I found Shinada to be really inconsitently written. In side missions or when he's playing off of certain characters he's quite entertaining and un, but most of the time, he seems to just be a blank slate who does whatever and only talks about baseball. And omg maybe if I liked baseball this would have been the best thing ever but we did not need THAT much baseball talk or constant referencing to that baseball game in 1997. I get its central to his character but it became a meme how often he'd get misty eyed and talk about getting kicked out. Why did he move Nagoya to escape his image as a cheating baseball player when 1) he constantly talks about it anyways, 2) everyone literally knows who he is here anyways. They make it seem like at first he wants nothing to do with baseball anymore but he also goes to the batting cages all the time and also thinks about nothing but baseball. The plot here is just SO hard to follow and not at all what I want to be dealing with after we were really in the thick of things with part 3's ending. I'm not saying it was impossible for this to be good, I think there was so much potential here! Like seemingly all of Yakuza 4, the concepts are there but the execution is iffy. I think it's biggest downfall is when it happens. It would have made so much more sense to make the last section before the finale the Haruka section. Shinada would have felt much better to play as maybe as a part two or even a part three, but NOT part four. The odds were stacked against him being amongst a cast of characters that I already know and love. I definitely was more of a Tanimura fan, but I liked Shinada as a person. His inconsistent writing, unfortunate story, and tendency to be a little annoying really dragged this part of the game down for me.
Part 5: The Finale
This finale is crazyyyyyyy so strap in. I would expect nothing less then insanity from this game. First Kiryu shows up in Kamurocho WERE HOME BABYYYYYY. Were being followed by BABA!! I missed him. We fight for fun or something then we cut to Saejima who is meeting with the detective who tells us we gotta find Morinaga. OH YEAH THAT GUY. So we go to the Florist and we go to the arena only to find... AIZAWA??? The fuck? I thought Morinaga fuckin killed him cold blooded and made me think he was a cool as fuck villain. Only to find out that GASP Morinaga is actually dead. At this point I literally don't believe it because I guess I was in my era of not believing anyone ever dies.
We go to Akiyama who is told by Osaka ceo to not let Haruka perform. Akiayam says hell no. We also find out that Park and him planned to make Haruka and T-set a group and debut them at the same time but I somehow missed this when playing and didnt realize that till way leter. ANYWAY At some point we also see the CEO doing naked push ups in his penthouse which was so weird. ALSO there is a Date-san reveal. The scream I screamt! I didn't know I missed him or needing him so much in a game till I saw him again. Usually I'm wondering why he's even there or what he adds but I finally get it now, he adds being Date to the table and that's all you need.
Then I do a tower sweep at Kamurocho hills and OMG is this what Majima was building the whole time? To be fully honest it's beautiful and im very proud but its so different and lowkey off-putting. Kind of like Majima himself. I miss him. A whole game and I only be hearing about him second hand its not fair. Question, did literally anyone choose Saejima to do the tower sweep? Anyway were on the top of the tower; Kiryu, Saejima, CEO Katsuya, and Watase. We all have to fight eachother to draw out the one true bad guy and also cuz this is a yakuza game, so off our shirts go and everyone fights. Basically everyone gets shot and the bad guy is revealed... THE DETECTIVE. Who saw it coming? I still kept thinking Park would come back or Morinaga but by this point I was definitely suspecting him too. I don't fully get why he's doing all this but long story short he's purging both the Omi and Tojo of nice? Yakuza? I guess? I think it mostly has to do with him making way for his son to inherit a role in everything but thats not further explored till later. Not to worry tho! Daigo has shown up!!!! But because he is Daigo you should definitely be worried because once again he cant do anything right and he gets shot by Kanai. God dammit Daigo. He is now in critical condition, this is the SECOND TIME THIS HAS HAPPENED DAIGO. He's such a damsel in distress, never change.
Baba tells Haruka the message Kiryu had for her, to never give up. He also asks her to come with him to convince to Kiryu to chillax but she refuses. Sad for no one but me. At the New Serena, where that absolute BOP of a song is blaring, Kiryu is sleeping, while the rest of the crew are chilling and chatting. I forgot to mention Akiyama and Shinada briefly teamed up but frankly who cares. Shinada talks about baseball alot here too just incase you were worried he wouldnt. They conclude that detective bad guy is gonna attack Haruka's concert which I will NEVER allow. I guess Shinada's purpose here is actually tha the knows the stadiuk layout pretty well which I will buy in to. Also I believe here Haruka gets told about her and t-set being a band together now called Dreamline. I also dont love this. The idea of it is fine, Im all for a disney channel original movie plot where the bullies are actually great and we all become friends at the end but the issue is they don't properly develop T-set to do that. The short haired girl gets one little moment of being somewhat nice to Haruka then the very next time I see her she's stepping on my boss's broach and making me beg on my knees like sorry but it's really hard to come around on liking them. Even now when Haruka stumbles duing practice they're rude! This is a tragic ending if anything but Haruka seems happy I guess... Dont worry they will be nothing more then Haruka's glorifed backup dancers.
Okay final chapter, and it's a doozy. We send Shinada of all people to go help Haruka at the stadium, I know i just said I get he knows the layout of the stadium but like :( he's literally the only one who hasn't met her. I guess they don't end up interacting really anyways. Saejima is going to go after Majima because btw he's alive and at the top of the millenium tower. Akiyama and Kiryu stay on the ground to defend against attackers and they probably punch/ kick at least 10000 men. All the while Haruka gives her concert. But Baba is lurking and gonna shoot her, I thought he learned to be good again but whatever. Him and Shinada end up having a confrontation that ends in Baba losing and he's about to kill himself when !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my prison besties and the wardon show and up stop him! Oh my god I loved that so much what a nice resolution for Baba and I love that those guys went straight to a Jpop concert just for their pal. Meanwhile Saejima confronts Detective evil man on top of the millenium tower and !!! there he is, finally Majima is here. But he is not having a good time, turns out he's allowed himself to be captured and tortured for the sake of Haruka and now Majima and Saejima have to fight for the same reason. Then! Daigo shows up, while im literally begging him to actually shoot the bad guy but instead they all talk. Haruka is safe from harm (Baba wouldn't have done that shit anyways) and we officially learn about the plot of him attempting to put his son in charge of everything. Kiryu goes to Tojo headquarters to stop whoever this suspicious son is and Akiyama fights Kanai. Then literally all our friends ever show up to help and that was damn cute.
Kiryu shows up and it's eerie, completely silent with dead people everywhere. We go to the meeting room and the guy behind it all along was Aizawa. I definitely did not see that coming because I forgot he existed. But I suppose thats the point, he was so unassuming. I guess that means Morinaga actually was dead all along. We fight Aizawa while Haruka sings a song that seems very pointed at Kiryu wins (duh) but he is not doing well and tries to make his way through the streets. Meanwhile Haruka announces her retirement because she cant hide who she is or stay away from her family any longer and runs away to find Kiryu and THE GAME ENDS. Other games gave me a after credits scene that somewhat eased my concerns, but 5 is a overall very sad game and it's scene is her managing to him but he's bleeding out in the streets and falls unconcious in her arms.
Finale final thoughts: This was quite the finale! It was much better then Shinada's section but it was still a bit messy and left a lot of plot threads up in the air or had some unfortunate revelations. Nothing bad but things I think shouldve maybe been revealed earlier, like Aizawa. Only finding out with like 20 minutes of the game to go makes it feel too empty or even rushed when we know this game is otherwise not rushed at all. I was a little sad about the ending, I don't think it was bad at all I was just sad. The whole time I imagined it ending with the whole gang going to Haruka's concert and having a good time. For once I dont think the game fully dropped the ball on the finale like they tend to do so I commend it for that.
TLDOverall plot final thoughts: As a whole this is one of the most well written Yakuza stories since Yakuza 3 (obviously in my opinion). I can see that for some people all the plot twists and surprises might have felt like too much but I loved it, I never once could predict where this game was going. Morinaga dying off screen was such a let down and missed opportunity, at the end of Kiryu's section I was thinking he was going to be the best Yakuza villain in awhile but instead he went out in such a lame way. I do kinda wonder who killed him, I assumed it was just the detective guy but Aizawa seemed at least somewhat sad about Morinaga's death. I wonder if that was all a show? Another thing I dislike not just because of how it went, but also that it ended up going no where, Mayumi. They made quite the big deal about her at first and I do like the plot twist that she was a spy, but she wasn't even really acting any different when she was in spy mode and in normal mode. Plus you literally never see her again. I think Saejima's section was just very reminicent of his in 4, but done well. Aside from it taking quite so long to get to the city, by the time you leave it feels slightly rushed. I think the chapter in the woods didnt need to be its own thing. Absolutely no notes with Haruka, only that I'm sad this is all we will see of Park, I found her to be a really interesting character. Akiyama is where my main issues arise, only because I really do think he needed his whole section. He felt a little tacked on otherwise when I think he really didn't need to feel that way. I had hoped he would be part of half of Haruka's section then half of Shinada's where he is used to introduce us to Shinada as a character. But instead we get dropped into that like nothing. I know im probably the only one who cares about Hana this much but I really wish we got more of her. I basically said all my issues with Shinada at the end of his section but once again, I really didn't enjoy that plot. The finale was a mess and unfortunatly left at quite a cliff hanger which I wouldve rather it didn't but Im also okay with how it did. Some other things I wanted in this game was MORE MAJIMA I get why he wasnt for narrative purposes but Im gonna say that in every game. I wouldve loved more Okinawa orphan content. That being said there is way more content for them in this then in Y4 which is wild considering we spent like 5 seconds in Okinawa during a flashback and you never actually see them. It was so nice to hear what theyre up to second hand and some of the side missions expand on them a little more but I am devastated they werent there.
Lastly to briefly compare it to Y4, as they do feel like connected games. Y5 realy does feel like they took all of the concepts of the 4th game that needed to be reworked, and then re-did them to be better. The villains are better, prison break outs are better, and just like way more. I do think there are things in Y5 that are lacking compared to Y4, like general atmosphere, and I do think Tanimura's section in 4, as flawed as it is, is better then Shinadas. Akiyama's in 5 is great, but I love his in Y4 more simply because he doesn't have to share the spotlight. But I really have to emphasize, story and character are done better in Y5, ATMOSPHERE is done so much better in Y5.
TLDR for the TLDR: I liked this game :)
And there you have it, the longest goddamn review of all time. It was a really great game and I wish I could play it for the first time again because it was just SUCH a great experience. If you read this far I am so impressed by you and eternally grateful you even cared to. Please let me know your thoughts! I'm so excited to talk about this game with people. As for my rating, It was going to be a 10/10 until I got to Shinada's section now I'm in between an 8 or a 9. Ill just say 8/10 to be mean.
I am already neck deep in Yakuza 0 so I'm excited to write a much shorter review for that one soon.
Thank you for reading!
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All of my reviews are made pretty quickly after I finish the game, this was written right after I finished but I haven't posted it till a month later because its so long I thought no one would ever read this but whatever I gotta get my truth out there.
Per usual I played the remaster of Yakuza 5. I'm not sure of any outstanding changes or things of note like with 3 or 4, but if something I say is exclusive to the remaster please let me know! I may sound overly praising or overly critical of this game, who knows but please be kind when you tell me i'm an idiot for feeling the way I do! Lastly and most importantly please please please don't spoil future games in the comments! Also warning I'm way too active in the comments section.
Because I am an utter psycho and decided to write a fuckin bibles worth of yakuza 5 ramblings, Part 1 is just reviewing the plot and Part 2 goes over everything else. I split this up last second so there's likely some spots where I say something like "we'll expand on this later" then I never bring it up again, that's because it's probably in part 2. If you want my thoughts on things like the substories, side stories, gameplay, and settings you can read Part 2 here: https://www.reddit.com/yakuzagames/comments/1cvrybw/yakuza_5_a_mega_big_ole_reviewsummary_for_a_big/
The Plot:
Like with Y4, I will discuss my thoughts on each section of the game rather than in one long chunk just because I find it more fun. I'm not even gonna try to not summarize this time because this game is so big it needs broken down.
Part 1: Kiryu
You might often find me compare Y5 to Y4 a lot in this review because they're honestly quite similar games and feel like a package. When I started playing 4 I was worried I wouldn't like playing as primarily strangers for a majority of the game, but one thing they did absolutely right was making Kiryu the final protagonist you play as in that game. So going into 5 I was very apprehensive about starting off with Kiryu, I worried they showed their hand too soon and that it would be difficult to stay invested the whole time.
With this feeling going into the game, I was immediately somewhat losing it over Kiryu being an incognito taxi driver with the worst disguise of all time (some sunglasses and a face mask, don't worry he's literally the only one in the game that seems to think it's a good disguise). Right off the bat, this game feels...sad. Kiryu watching Haruka giving an interview on the TV and storming out rather then defend her to some losers who don't get what ART is, was SAD. This part of the game felt so mundane for awhile, but not in a bad way! You wakeup as Kiryu, walk to work, drive your taxi, and go home late at night (usually) alone. The whole time my eyes were drawn to a facedown picture frame and wondering what it could be, but I certainly had a guess. Kiryu is going through a hard, isolating, and depressing time and you can feel that so well from the game and how they have you play as him. Anyways there's also a random gal named Mayumi that will not leave Kiryu alone despite him asking her to. All you're doing by the end of chapter one is going "Huhhhhhhh?" Anyways Kiryu is approached by two dudes named Morinaga and Aizawa in chapter 2, telling him Daigo was???? Kidnapped?? GASP.. Admittidly I wasn't too fond of this duo at first. One thing that was consistent through my playthrough is that I was completely incapable of predicting anything correctly, and it had felt like these two were gonna be my pals for the rest of the game and I just wasn't clicking with them. Not to mention this weird semi-one sided-romance going on with Mayumi.
In chapter 3, we begin with the most heartbreaking thing that could ever happen to me, Yakuza 3 superfan. Kiryu has been pushed out of running the orphanage by a lady named Miss Park. It's all making sense now. He does it so the orphanage can have money and so Haruka can follow her dreams. DOESNT MAKE IT EASIER TO DEAL WITH FOR ME :( . Then we meet Watase, first thoughts? I was like "god I hope this guy isn't the main villain he's kinda lame" Soon after we meet Aoyama and I thought literally the same thing. Clearly by this point in the game I didn't have the highest hopes. I was mostly sad and not liking most of the new characters. But then... things take a turn.
Mayumi was actually a spy! thank god honestly. Kiryu meets Aoyama again but then Morinaga shows up and fuckin kills Aoyama and says he buried Aizawa alive HOLY SHIT? and then soon after I'm told Majima is fucking dead. Figured he wasn't actually dead cuz I've seen pictures of him from later games but holy shit I somehow cried just at the THOUGHT of him being dead. Also at some point here we met a detective who is an important player in this story but at this point not too integral. Also before Kiryu leaves he picks up the picture frame and its the orphanage ;-;
Kiryu final thoughts: This part of the game was fantastic. I'm so glad they started with Kiryu in this case despite my initial unsureness with it. Chapter 4 especially is when everything really falls into place and starts going 100 miles an hour but I also love the slowness of the previous 3 chapters. I do wish we got more Morinaga as this is unfortunately the last we hear of him despite this being a wonderful set up to a really interesting villain. Mayumi was a pretty shit character per seemingly always with any full grown woman in Yakuza games. While I think it's cool she was secretly a spy she was clearly an afterthought as we never hear about her again so that's cool. Basically a mixed bag of new characters overall.
Part 2: Saejima
I jokingly said to myself "Wouldn't it be funny if I had to spend half of this section breaking out of prison again. Thank god that's not the case." and continued hanging out with Majima until I was arrested for two more years of serving my sentence and OH NO IM BACK IN THE BUILDING.
Yeah I was VERY unsure about breaking out of prison again being a good call. Thankfully, and sorry to Y4, this is a much better prison sequence. Another thing I was really unsure about was BALD SAEJIMA! But actually... it kinda slays harder? In Y4 he looks like that guy from the game The Hatred (an insult) maybe it wouldn't be so bad if bro washed or brushed it but he never did and so instead bald was a slay. Anyways We're dropped in at nearly the end of Saejima's serving period with his group of friends/cellmates, newest one being some dude named Baba. We are relentlessly tortured by the scariest man I've ever seen, Viktor Zsasz-I MEAN! Kugihara. Who's honestly scarier looking then Zsasz somehow. But it is ON because Viktor Zsasz framed my bestie Baba and I will not let that slide so I beat the fuck out of him and it's revealed Zsasz was instructed to be a dick to me. By who??????????????????? Then it's double revealed to me that Majima is dead and I'm sad all over again :(
Turns out our warden is actually really chill and nice and somewhat tries to help us survive. What a breath of fresh air after Satan (Saito) from Y4. This guy is so cool infact we are encouraged to break out by him. So Baba and I do in the dead of the night and tell me why I cried over leaving my two other cellmates ;_; they were such bros. Zsasz hinders my escape and we fight, but my absolute PAL Himura fuckin shoots him it was an amazing turn of events and I cheered so loud and was devastated to leave him behind but anyways-
FUCK YEA SNOW MOBILES (they were kinda jank to control honestly but its the thought that counts). I am so glad I didn't know I was going to be fighting a bear going into this because that was easily the most camp thing ever and so hilarious. Then some old guy saves me (and later Baba) and we chill in the mountains for a little while. The mountain has a whole crazy detailed side story of it's own that I'll explain in more detail later but basically it was cool.
So then a ton of important stuff happens in Tsukimino, most notably we hang out with Baba in a bar which is great because I love Baba and him and I are super tight and he's easily the only person I could ever trust at this point without potential for betrayal! :)
Anyways me and Baba fuckin kidnap this guy because his chair is by a sewer manhole? He's gone in a flash so all I can imagine is dragging him down the hole by his ankle or something. Then we talk for awhile, Majima is mentioned woohoo, THEN HE'S sniped! The way I gasped. Longstory short :( Baba is the one who sniped him and not only that he kind of set everything up and wasn't my best pal all along :( Why Baba Why? Then Baba basically confesses his love for Saejima and can't go through with killing him, AAAAAAND Im back on the Baba train. That detective I mentioned from earlier arrests Saejima but not to throw him back in jail, to assemble the Yakuza avengers.
Final Saejima thoughts: This was shockingly fantastic. I was probably least impressed with Saejima's section in Y4, so it was shocking to have basically the same structure and general narrative beats but done well. It wasn't perfect, I didn't love it as much as Kiryu's section as I'm partial to a slow burn, but it was fun I have no real complaints, except MAYBE more then one chapter in Tsukimino would be a better choice.
Part 3 (first half): Haruka
I did not know I was going to get the HONOR of playing Haruka going into this game. We start off very strong, dancing to the greatest song of all time "So Much More." I mean we really get the full idol experience here with mean ass teachers and shady management. I didn't expect to get an Idol simulator in my Yakuza game but it might be the best thing ever. I decided right off the bat to put everything I had into this section of the game so immediately I did literally everything I could. Most of this chapter feels like a bit of a reflection of Kiryu's were working and going back home alone, it's all as monotonous and isolating as can be (except you're a predebut idol) and I love this. We quickly meet a girl who will serve as my bestie named Akari and yes I indeed would die for her thank you. Meeting Akari introduces us to this sections version of combat, DANCE BATTLES! I know some people might be disappointed you don't get to punch people as Haruka, and I get that, but this feels like a more genuine gameplay style for her character. It's hard to imagine Haruka fighting thugs in the street due to her personality (not that i'd be against it, especially after that weird virtual reality game where I get to wack dudes with a wand) plus I found this gameplay style so refreshing. I was never groaning or sighing because I had to dance against someone. I think it helps that I wasn't forced to do it 15 times in a row walking down the street, but I had the option to most of the time unless it was part of a quest. Maybe that's how all the gameplay should be? I don't mind being approached by thugs sometimes but it always feels like it happens too often in these games and with getting the option to while getting to walk around carefree otherwise in Haruka's section was just SO NICE.
Anyways, We get the whole set up here, we are participating in a competition show that will single handedly set the course for our debut. We're competing against this band called T-set. I hate them so much. They're so mean :(. At some point we see Miss Park absolutely SLAY and tell off Haruka's dance teacher and she doesn't take his shit at all. At this point I was like "Uh ohhhh I don't wanna like her but...she kinda rocks" my decent into stanning Miss Park only continues from there. We have to go convince some guy named Christina (interesting name to take but also a slay, much respect to Mr. Christina and his fedora) to be our new dance instructor. This causes drama with me and Akari which devastated me because I love Akari but we made up like immediately so it's chill.
Then at one point, I forgot the context, Haruka is shopping for a gift for Miss Park when stupid T-set shows up and STEPS ON THE BROACH I BOUGHT FOR HER. I was back and forth on them until now, now they may burn in hell. Especially after they made Haruka get on her knees and beg for forgiveness like ???? what gives ??? Park shows up and SLAYS and gets rid of them. Park then wears the broach :(((((((((
Then one of my favorite parts happen in chapter 2, Haruka and Miss Park go hit the town and just bond together. It's so stinking cute I wanted to cry. This whole time I was trying to not get emotionally attached to Park because it really felt like she was gonna end up betraying us. But the night continued and we get some mother daughter vibes going, even so far as holding hands????? Also Im somewhat glad I didn't get to wear the outfit I bought at the store with Park because I was going for a Cheetah girls inspired look then realized far too late how tacky that might come off, not everyone is Raven Symone ya know?
Anyways at this point I'm like wow this is the cutest game ever, nothing can ever go wrong, Park MIGHT betray me but I don't even care. She gives us a cool pen and a tragic anime backstory with an abusive ex husband and everything and we call it a night Well the next fuckin day my world crumbles because PARK IS DEAD! She "committed suicide" as if!
Part 3 (second half): Akiyama
I can't tell you how devastated I was to realize I'd only get to play as Akiyama for half of a section of the game. However, I was also thrilled to see him at all. Apparently he's opening a Satenbori office and also he is the one who financed Park's dream to debut Haruka so that's how he has a hand in all this. There is tragically very little Hana, she calls you twice and both times were fantastic but I wish I had more :(. Anyways Akiyama has heard about Park's death and goes to the office and meets Haruka. I didn't think they'd even really know each other and assumed we'd have an interesting reveal that they both know Kiryu later but nah they know each other. It honestly probably works better this way because we don't have time for such trivial things! Akiyama is a fuckin detective now. I don't know why he has been tasked to do this but he does it so well I don't even mind. He quickly figures out Park didn't actually kill herself and they simply need evidence to prove this. I'm unsure when this happens but at some point while talking about the mystery SOMEONE FALLS OFF THE ROOF! It was Horie :( who I haven't mentioned yet but he's my manager and a real pal. Thankfully he lived but we found out that the former dance teacher pushed him off. I think he also killed Park or Kanai did, who knows, either way someone did and they suck for it.
Chapter 4 has a lot going on, but basically the president of Osaka talent is sus and he's also the secret chairman of Ousaka Enterprises, which is a different thing... but sounds similar. Ousaka is basically a higher up family in the Omi alliance, so he's part of the bad yakuza!!! Haruka keeps doing the competition and T-set keeps sucking. She wins the princess league by a landslide. I don't even see the point in a third round if she won both of the other rounds? Is the third round just worth more points? Either way Haruka destroyed them and they suck. Her poor vocal instructor is working as her manager now. At some point we find out Parks ex husband was none other then Majima! Which is quite the revelation. Japan is such a small world, everyone seems to know each other. This does mean that Majima at least hit Park (I think after her abortion) and I think he's like 10 years older then her yet they were already married when she debuted at eighteen... Is it time for me to confront the possibility that my favorite crazed murderer might not be the most upstanding citizen?
It ends with Haruka being kidnapped, (nothing out of character there), and Akiyama saving her. He and Haruka make their way to Japan for the big ole concert Park had been planning. Wow this story is really picking up! I hope nothing grinds it to a sudden stop!
Part 3 final thoughts: God this was amazing, every step of it. My only complaint is I wanted more, more Akiyama and MORE dancing but I might be the only one who wanted 40 more hours of dancing. Detective Akiyama and Haruka duo was not the team I knew I needed but Im glad it happened. I found all of the music and gameplay here SO fun and I loved the plot too. I really liked Parks character. I wouldn't necessarily hang out with her, but I found her to be pretty well written and its hard to hate anyone Haruka clearly treasures, I am very sad she is actually dead because up until the end of the game I kept thinking she was going to come back.
Part 4: Shinada:
We have come to a sudden stop. We start with a flashback to 1997 where Shinada has debuted as a baseball player for the wyverns, don't forget this moment because the rest of this section of the game constantly calls back to it. In the modern day Shinada is a loser who is really heavily indebt and lives in a weird grimey rooftop shack. He also now writes like ? smut articles ? And he's friend with a girl named Milky which is the craziest name I've ever heard. A loanshark who talks about his kids a lot constantly follows Shinada around and takes his money. There was a lot of promise with this gag, like maybe instead of letting me keep the 100k and still acting like I'm broke he shows up after every side mission to rob me but nope. At the end of the chapter we run into a masked man who is frankly just Daigo stealing Kiryu's disguise idea.
Shinada and loanshark (his name is Takasugi) walk around town looking for leads on uncovering the truth of Shinada's past. Because you see, Shinada one time got fired from baseball cuz everyone thought he cheated, oh you already knew that? yeah same but don't worry you'll hear it at least 40 more times. Daigo asked him to go look for clues about this, why does he care? I still don't know honestly. Takasugi is forcing him to go because...I guess money? and he's walking around with me and were acting like friends now for some reason. Shinada is incapable of having any agency for himself, he just does what people tell him to. He also keeps nearly dying like a looney tunes character with shit falling out of the sky and stuff. Eventually we find out the Nagoya family fixed the match and then some guy Shinada used to know does get smashed like a looney tunes character. Skip ahead, were called to help by Milky and she betrayed us. I am sad cuz I thought Milky was a friend for life. Turns out literally everyone Shinada knows aside from the fkn loanshark are evil, even the old baseball lady. This plot was so convoluted I frankly don't understand why they were doing what they were doing, all I know is they were more like a neighborhood watch situation then Yakuza even though they seemed to do the exact same thing. Also when I say literally everyone he knows is evil I mean everyone, even his old coach or whatever. For way too long I thought they meant the middle school baseball coach so I was hella confused. Anyways we then find out that actually Takasugi is Shinada's number one baseball fan. Okay? Anyways
Chapter 4 things finally pick up a little. Daigo reveals himself like anyone ever was doubting it was him, and he also reveals he cares because he went to highschool with Shinada. Is that fr how were connecting this? Daigo got expelled from highschool because he protected Shinada from a rival school. Once again, okay? I guess Shinada doesn't like that Daigo is a yakuza and punches him out the door. I wasn't a fan of this. Daigo goes down pretty easily, pitiful Daigo strikes again. I love him but can he do anything right? Anyways I guess the fight meant nothing cuz they're pals now and go to Tokyo together. We get a cut to Takasugi getting his money back from Shinada as well as a signed baseball...okay that's really cute I nearly cried. I wish they actually left it there but instead Shinada runs away last minute to meet up on that stupid baseball field from 1997 that we cant go 5 minutes without hearing about and we fight this guy named Sawada who was like the kind of mastermind and also the pitcher. Had Sawada not thrown an easy pitch, Shinada wouldn't have hit it and thus been kicked out for cheating. We fight some Omi then play baseball and OMG WHY ARE WE DOING THISSSSSS
Finally it ends and we go to Tokyo
Shinada final thoughts: If you cant tell I was not a fan of this. I found Shinada to be really inconsitently written. In side missions or when he's playing off of certain characters he's quite entertaining and un, but most of the time, he seems to just be a blank slate who does whatever and only talks about baseball. And omg maybe if I liked baseball this would have been the best thing ever but we did not need THAT much baseball talk or constant referencing to that baseball game in 1997. I get its central to his character but it became a meme how often he'd get misty eyed and talk about getting kicked out. Why did he move Nagoya to escape his image as a cheating baseball player when 1) he constantly talks about it anyways, 2) everyone literally knows who he is here anyways. They make it seem like at first he wants nothing to do with baseball anymore but he also goes to the batting cages all the time and also thinks about nothing but baseball. The plot here is just SO hard to follow and not at all what I want to be dealing with after we were really in the thick of things with part 3's ending. I'm not saying it was impossible for this to be good, I think there was so much potential here! Like seemingly all of Yakuza 4, the concepts are there but the execution is iffy. I think it's biggest downfall is when it happens. It would have made so much more sense to make the last section before the finale the Haruka section. Shinada would have felt much better to play as maybe as a part two or even a part three, but NOT part four. The odds were stacked against him being amongst a cast of characters that I already know and love. I definitely was more of a Tanimura fan, but I liked Shinada as a person. His inconsistent writing, unfortunate story, and tendency to be a little annoying really dragged this part of the game down for me.
Part 5: The Finale
This finale is crazyyyyyyy so strap in. I would expect nothing less then insanity from this game. First Kiryu shows up in Kamurocho WERE HOME BABYYYYYY. Were being followed by BABA!! I missed him. We fight for fun or something then we cut to Saejima who is meeting with the detective who tells us we gotta find Morinaga. OH YEAH THAT GUY. So we go to the Florist and we go to the arena only to find... AIZAWA??? The fuck? I thought Morinaga fuckin killed him cold blooded and made me think he was a cool as fuck villain. Only to find out that GASP Morinaga is actually dead. At this point I literally don't believe it because I guess I was in my era of not believing anyone ever dies.
We go to Akiyama who is told by Osaka ceo to not let Haruka perform. Akiayam says hell no. We also find out that Park and him planned to make Haruka and T-set a group and debut them at the same time but I somehow missed this when playing and didnt realize that till way leter. ANYWAY At some point we also see the CEO doing naked push ups in his penthouse which was so weird. ALSO there is a Date-san reveal. The scream I screamt! I didn't know I missed him or needing him so much in a game till I saw him again. Usually I'm wondering why he's even there or what he adds but I finally get it now, he adds being Date to the table and that's all you need.
Then I do a tower sweep at Kamurocho hills and OMG is this what Majima was building the whole time? To be fully honest it's beautiful and im very proud but its so different and lowkey off-putting. Kind of like Majima himself. I miss him. A whole game and I only be hearing about him second hand its not fair. Question, did literally anyone choose Saejima to do the tower sweep? Anyway were on the top of the tower; Kiryu, Saejima, CEO Katsuya, and Watase. We all have to fight eachother to draw out the one true bad guy and also cuz this is a yakuza game, so off our shirts go and everyone fights. Basically everyone gets shot and the bad guy is revealed... THE DETECTIVE. Who saw it coming? I still kept thinking Park would come back or Morinaga but by this point I was definitely suspecting him too. I don't fully get why he's doing all this but long story short he's purging both the Omi and Tojo of nice? Yakuza? I guess? I think it mostly has to do with him making way for his son to inherit a role in everything but thats not further explored till later. Not to worry tho! Daigo has shown up!!!! But because he is Daigo you should definitely be worried because once again he cant do anything right and he gets shot by Kanai. God dammit Daigo. He is now in critical condition, this is the SECOND TIME THIS HAS HAPPENED DAIGO. He's such a damsel in distress, never change.
Baba tells Haruka the message Kiryu had for her, to never give up. He also asks her to come with him to convince to Kiryu to chillax but she refuses. Sad for no one but me. At the New Serena, where that absolute BOP of a song is blaring, Kiryu is sleeping, while the rest of the crew are chilling and chatting. I forgot to mention Akiyama and Shinada briefly teamed up but frankly who cares. Shinada talks about baseball alot here too just incase you were worried he wouldnt. They conclude that detective bad guy is gonna attack Haruka's concert which I will NEVER allow. I guess Shinada's purpose here is actually tha the knows the stadiuk layout pretty well which I will buy in to. Also I believe here Haruka gets told about her and t-set being a band together now called Dreamline. I also dont love this. The idea of it is fine, Im all for a disney channel original movie plot where the bullies are actually great and we all become friends at the end but the issue is they don't properly develop T-set to do that. The short haired girl gets one little moment of being somewhat nice to Haruka then the very next time I see her she's stepping on my boss's broach and making me beg on my knees like sorry but it's really hard to come around on liking them. Even now when Haruka stumbles duing practice they're rude! This is a tragic ending if anything but Haruka seems happy I guess... Dont worry they will be nothing more then Haruka's glorifed backup dancers.
Okay final chapter, and it's a doozy. We send Shinada of all people to go help Haruka at the stadium, I know i just said I get he knows the layout of the stadium but like :( he's literally the only one who hasn't met her. I guess they don't end up interacting really anyways. Saejima is going to go after Majima because btw he's alive and at the top of the millenium tower. Akiyama and Kiryu stay on the ground to defend against attackers and they probably punch/ kick at least 10000 men. All the while Haruka gives her concert. But Baba is lurking and gonna shoot her, I thought he learned to be good again but whatever. Him and Shinada end up having a confrontation that ends in Baba losing and he's about to kill himself when !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my prison besties and the wardon show and up stop him! Oh my god I loved that so much what a nice resolution for Baba and I love that those guys went straight to a Jpop concert just for their pal. Meanwhile Saejima confronts Detective evil man on top of the millenium tower and !!! there he is, finally Majima is here. But he is not having a good time, turns out he's allowed himself to be captured and tortured for the sake of Haruka and now Majima and Saejima have to fight for the same reason. Then! Daigo shows up, while im literally begging him to actually shoot the bad guy but instead they all talk. Haruka is safe from harm (Baba wouldn't have done that shit anyways) and we officially learn about the plot of him attempting to put his son in charge of everything. Kiryu goes to Tojo headquarters to stop whoever this suspicious son is and Akiyama fights Kanai. Then literally all our friends ever show up to help and that was damn cute.
Kiryu shows up and it's eerie, completely silent with dead people everywhere. We go to the meeting room and the guy behind it all along was Aizawa. I definitely did not see that coming because I forgot he existed. But I suppose thats the point, he was so unassuming. I guess that means Morinaga actually was dead all along. We fight Aizawa while Haruka sings a song that seems very pointed at Kiryu wins (duh) but he is not doing well and tries to make his way through the streets. Meanwhile Haruka announces her retirement because she cant hide who she is or stay away from her family any longer and runs away to find Kiryu and THE GAME ENDS. Other games gave me a after credits scene that somewhat eased my concerns, but 5 is a overall very sad game and it's scene is her managing to him but he's bleeding out in the streets and falls unconcious in her arms.
Finale final thoughts: This was quite the finale! It was much better then Shinada's section but it was still a bit messy and left a lot of plot threads up in the air or had some unfortunate revelations. Nothing bad but things I think shouldve maybe been revealed earlier, like Aizawa. Only finding out with like 20 minutes of the game to go makes it feel too empty or even rushed when we know this game is otherwise not rushed at all. I was a little sad about the ending, I don't think it was bad at all I was just sad. The whole time I imagined it ending with the whole gang going to Haruka's concert and having a good time. For once I dont think the game fully dropped the ball on the finale like they tend to do so I commend it for that.
TLDOverall plot final thoughts: As a whole this is one of the most well written Yakuza stories since Yakuza 3 (obviously in my opinion). I can see that for some people all the plot twists and surprises might have felt like too much but I loved it, I never once could predict where this game was going. Morinaga dying off screen was such a let down and missed opportunity, at the end of Kiryu's section I was thinking he was going to be the best Yakuza villain in awhile but instead he went out in such a lame way. I do kinda wonder who killed him, I assumed it was just the detective guy but Aizawa seemed at least somewhat sad about Morinaga's death. I wonder if that was all a show? Another thing I dislike not just because of how it went, but also that it ended up going no where, Mayumi. They made quite the big deal about her at first and I do like the plot twist that she was a spy, but she wasn't even really acting any different when she was in spy mode and in normal mode. Plus you literally never see her again. I think Saejima's section was just very reminicent of his in 4, but done well. Aside from it taking quite so long to get to the city, by the time you leave it feels slightly rushed. I think the chapter in the woods didnt need to be its own thing. Absolutely no notes with Haruka, only that I'm sad this is all we will see of Park, I found her to be a really interesting character. Akiyama is where my main issues arise, only because I really do think he needed his whole section. He felt a little tacked on otherwise when I think he really didn't need to feel that way. I had hoped he would be part of half of Haruka's section then half of Shinada's where he is used to introduce us to Shinada as a character. But instead we get dropped into that like nothing. I know im probably the only one who cares about Hana this much but I really wish we got more of her. I basically said all my issues with Shinada at the end of his section but once again, I really didn't enjoy that plot. The finale was a mess and unfortunatly left at quite a cliff hanger which I wouldve rather it didn't but Im also okay with how it did. Some other things I wanted in this game was MORE MAJIMA I get why he wasnt for narrative purposes but Im gonna say that in every game. I wouldve loved more Okinawa orphan content. That being said there is way more content for them in this then in Y4 which is wild considering we spent like 5 seconds in Okinawa during a flashback and you never actually see them. It was so nice to hear what theyre up to second hand and some of the side missions expand on them a little more but I am devastated they werent there.
Lastly to briefly compare it to Y4, as they do feel like connected games. Y5 realy does feel like they took all of the concepts of the 4th game that needed to be reworked, and then re-did them to be better. The villains are better, prison break outs are better, and just like way more. I do think there are things in Y5 that are lacking compared to Y4, like general atmosphere, and I do think Tanimura's section in 4, as flawed as it is, is better then Shinadas. Akiyama's in 5 is great, but I love his in Y4 more simply because he doesn't have to share the spotlight. But I really have to emphasize, story and character are done better in Y5, ATMOSPHERE is done so much better in Y5.
TLDR for the TLDR: I liked this game :)
And there you have it, the longest goddamn review of all time. It was a really great game and I wish I could play it for the first time again because it was just SUCH a great experience. If you read this far I am so impressed by you and eternally grateful you even cared to. Please let me know your thoughts! I'm so excited to talk about this game with people. As for my rating, It was going to be a 10/10 until I got to Shinada's section now I'm in between an 8 or a 9. Ill just say 8/10 to be mean.
I am already neck deep in Yakuza 0 so I'm excited to write a much shorter review for that one soon.
Thank you for reading!
2024.05.19 18:16 Ok-Shower1373 Cis people and gender
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I am a cis woman. I can confidently say that, but I do take it with a grain of salt. Because I have not always been so sure about my gender identity as I am now. I used to question my gender. Hard.
There was a period while I was questioning where, within all my questions about gender and identity and self, the worst possible outcome seemed to be cis. Back then, transness was even less accepted in society, and many online trans communities turned to exclusion of non-binary and/or genderfluid people, or generally anyone that wasnāt as clearly transgender as they felt themselves, in an effort to validate their own identity before themselves and society.
(āThat isnāt real transness, we donāt claim them, they are crazy, we are the actual sane trans people. Ignore them, accept us.ā Gay cis men did the same to trans people - especially trans women of color - following the stone wall riots. Itās a common reaction of any marginalised group that tries to be accepted in general society.)
Naturally, the last thing I wanted to do is invade safe spaces for trans people, take up space and resources that werenāt meant for me. I soothed myself, telling myself that my presence was valid in my pursuit of an answer. Now that I have my answer, I wonder if my experience with gender still has a space within the discussion around it.
I donāt know what itās like to be trans.
I will never claim that.
I do know what its like not to identify with ones assigned gender at birth, and to wish the world saw you differently. As the other binary gender. Or maybe genderless.
Back then, I read an article where the trans author described a conversation they had with one of their friends, a transitioned trans man. They were asking their friend of their experience with gender dysphoria, to which the friend answered: They never had had any.
That was surprising, to both me and the author, because so far, transness had been defined by that very thing: gender dysphoria. The friend explained that they were fine with a female body, in and of itself. But they hated being viewed as a woman. They did not identify with what they had learned a woman to be. They identified as a man. So much so, that they were willing to change their physical appearance. Because you are what people view you as. How they treat you. And they did not want to be seen as a woman.
That resonated with me. My personal issues with my gender, as I realised, were deeply rooted in misogyny, both external and internalised.
Growing up, I was a headstrong little girl. I was loud, I fought with literal tooth and nail for what I wanted, I was the only girl in an anger management group for kids. In media, I associated myself with the archetype of the straight men. The ones with control over the situation, powerful, funny, strong, that saw things for what they are. In no way did I see myself in the oversexualized love interests, the ones whoās only value was connected to what they could be to their assigned man. Furthermore, I remember looking forward to growing up and having a hot woman by my side, like all of these main male characters did. Actually growing up and realising that I was meant to be - at best - that object of desire was sobering to say the least.
I wasnāt that.
I wasnāt helpless, stupid, weak. Actually. I was all of those things sometimes, as is human, but I was never, ever, ever, someone elseās. Someones girl. Adding onto that come all the expectations we have of womanhood and girlhood. Be it interests, characteristics, ways to behave and carry oneself. I wasnāt that. I was myself. Sometimes aligning with my assigned gender, sometimes not. But no matter what I did, how I carried myself and what I spent my time doing, I was always treated as a woman. And that, to me, was the worst thing of all. Still is. That people lay their eyes on me, understand me to be a woman, and then treat me like they believe a woman is to be treated, be that good or bad, regardless of how I actually am.
Altering oneās body does not feel like a dramatic price to pay in order to escape that.
To me, it was my lack of gender dysphoria that led me to accept myself as cis. I carefully tried to explore myself regardless of the gender that I am being perceived as. I know the world still views and treats me as female. I can handle it better now.
I talked to two non-binary friends of mine. I told them that if I woke up tomorrow and the whole world had forgotten what gender is, id be more than happy. Ecstatic. Relieved. I donāt feel defined by my womanhood.
They suggested that the way I feel on gender might mean that I am outside the gender binary as well. I told them no, that I am fine with who I am. I am at home in my body. Breasts, vulva, feminine facial features and all. My struggle with gender is purely external. It lies within the societal expectations, not within me. You see, I enjoy the performance of it. I am envious of femboys and drag queens who can wipe away womanhood with a cotton pad and take it off with their wigs and clothing. I am cis. But I donāt need gender. I wish gender was mine to dress up as, and not for other people to lay on me like a chain around my neck.
And I am certain that I am not the only one who feels that way. I came here wondering if anyone here can relate. Wondering what your gender means to you.
I am aware that the debate about what gender even is (a social construct, an identity, a performance) runs deep, though itās never meant to discredit the experience of an individual.
I suppose I also ask if my experience and feelings are valid within this discussion, or if I am appropriating something that isnāt about me.
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I am a cis woman. I can confidently say that, but I do take it with a grain of salt. Because I have not always been so sure about my gender identity as I am now. I used to question my gender. Hard.
There was a period while I was questioning where, within all my questions about gender and identity and self, the worst possible outcome seemed to be cis. Back then, transness was even less accepted in society, and many online trans communities turned to exclusion of non-binary and/or genderfluid people, or generally anyone that wasnāt as clearly transgender as they felt themselves, in an effort to validate their own identity before themselves and society.
(āThat isnāt real transness, we donāt claim them, they are crazy, we are the actual sane trans people. Ignore them, accept us.ā Gay cis men did the same to trans people - especially trans women of color - following the stone wall riots. Itās a common reaction of any marginalised group that tries to be accepted in general society.)
Naturally, the last thing I wanted to do is invade safe spaces for trans people, take up space and resources that werenāt meant for me. I soothed myself, telling myself that my presence was valid in my pursuit of an answer. Now that I have my answer, I wonder if my experience with gender still has a space within the discussion around it.
I donāt know what itās like to be trans.
I will never claim that.
I do know what its like not to identify with ones assigned gender at birth, and to wish the world saw you differently. As the other binary gender. Or maybe genderless.
Back then, I read an article where the trans author described a conversation they had with one of their friends, a transitioned trans man. They were asking their friend of their experience with gender dysphoria, to which the friend answered: They never had had any.
That was surprising, to both me and the author, because so far, transness had been defined by that very thing: gender dysphoria. The friend explained that they were fine with a female body, in and of itself. But they hated being viewed as a woman. They did not identify with what they had learned a woman to be. They identified as a man. So much so, that they were willing to change their physical appearance. Because you are what people view you as. How they treat you. And they did not want to be seen as a woman.
That resonated with me. My personal issues with my gender, as I realised, were deeply rooted in misogyny, both external and internalised.
Growing up, I was a headstrong little girl. I was loud, I fought with literal tooth and nail for what I wanted, I was the only girl in an anger management group for kids. In media, I associated myself with the archetype of the straight men. The ones with control over the situation, powerful, funny, strong, that saw things for what they are. In no way did I see myself in the oversexualized love interests, the ones whoās only value was connected to what they could be to their assigned man. Furthermore, I remember looking forward to growing up and having a hot woman by my side, like all of these main male characters did. Actually growing up and realising that I was meant to be - at best - that object of desire was sobering to say the least.
I wasnāt that.
I wasnāt helpless, stupid, weak. Actually. I was all of those things sometimes, as is human, but I was never, ever, ever, someone elseās. Someones girl. Adding onto that come all the expectations we have of womanhood and girlhood. Be it interests, characteristics, ways to behave and carry oneself. I wasnāt that. I was myself. Sometimes aligning with my assigned gender, sometimes not. But no matter what I did, how I carried myself and what I spent my time doing, I was always treated as a woman. And that, to me, was the worst thing of all. Still is. That people lay their eyes on me, understand me to be a woman, and then treat me like they believe a woman is to be treated, be that good or bad, regardless of how I actually am.
Altering oneās body does not feel like a dramatic price to pay in order to escape that.
To me, it was my lack of gender dysphoria that led me to accept myself as cis. I carefully tried to explore myself regardless of the gender that I am being perceived as. I know the world still views and treats me as female. I can handle it better now.
I talked to two non-binary friends of mine. I told them that if I woke up tomorrow and the whole world had forgotten what gender is, id be more than happy. Ecstatic. Relieved. I donāt feel defined by my womanhood.
They suggested that the way I feel on gender might mean that I am outside the gender binary as well. I told them no, that I am fine with who I am. I am at home in my body. Breasts, vulva, feminine facial features and all. My struggle with gender is purely external. It lies within the societal expectations, not within me. You see, I enjoy the performance of it. I am envious of femboys and drag queens who can wipe away womanhood with a cotton pad and take it off with their wigs and clothing. I am cis. But I donāt need gender. I wish gender was mine to dress up as, and not for other people to lay on me like a chain around my neck.
And I am certain that I am not the only one who feels that way. I came here wondering if anyone here can relate. Wondering what your gender means to you.
I am aware that the debate about what gender even is (a social construct, an identity, a performance) runs deep, though itās never meant to discredit the experience of an individual.
I suppose I also ask if my experience and feelings are valid within this discussion, or if I am appropriating something that isnāt about me.
2024.05.19 18:15 snoweric Do Vestigial Organs Prove the Theory of Evolution? Does the Human Body Have Useless Organs and Anatomical Structures in It?
Letās use vestigial structures as a specific example of the non-falsifiability of evolution. When it became clear, based on advancing medical science, that the roughly 180 anatomical structures that evolutionists had originally claimed were useless actually were useful, they resorted to a fall-back position, which is a classic post-hoc explanatory device. They now claim that these structures supposedly served some OTHER function in the past, but now they have another function. Crapo in 1985, for example, wrote: āThis is precisely how a vestige should be defined: Not as a āfunctionlessā part of an organism, but as a part which does not function in the way that its structure would lead us to expected, given how that structure function in most other organisms.ā Notice now Crapoās analysis here also confirms how important attacking the belief in God as a wise, efficient, benevolent Creator is to evolutionists: āIt is the existence of such vestiges in such organisms which evolutionary theory would very naturally predict, but which the belief in an efficient Designer would not lead us to expect a priori.ā (Italics removed, Richly Crapo, āAre the vanishing teeth of fetal baleen whales useless?ā 1985). This kind of fall-back position for āexplainingā vestigial structures illustrates the non-falsifiable nature of evolution. When medical science confirms the a priori viewpoint of the creationist model, that all of these anatomical structures really are useful and God didnāt insert useless organs and structures into the human body, the evolutionists donāt admit that their paradigm is falsified. Instead, they simply retreat into other rationalizations to keep attacking God as a shoddy, careless, unwise engineer. Here once again the viewpoint of Cornelius Hunterās book āDarwinās God: Evolution and the Problem of Evilā is confirmed: Evolutionists are engaged in negative natural theology when they argue against a supernatural explanation of the natural world based upon its perceived structural flaws and moral evils. Indeed, they find it crucial and very important to supporting their paradigm to do this. Needless to say, this kind of reasoning is every bit as metaphysical as the theologian who argues that the wonders and complexity of the natural world proves Godās existence. Any claim that evolution, when it enters the world of change above the genus or family taxonomic levels, is more āempiricalā than creationism, is simply false.
The example of supposedly āvestigialā organs is also a great example of how the theory of evolution slows down scientific development and research. If an anatomical structure is a priori judged to be āvestigial,ā then scientists who are evolutionists arenāt likely to study it carefully for what it really does. For example, tonsils were often removed for decades from children since they were judged to be simply āuseless vestiges.ā Later on, oops!, it was found out that they actually do fight disease. They werenāt so useless after all. Basically all 180 organs and anatomical structures that were once listed as āuseless vestigesā (in one way or another) have been found to have real functions. For instance, the āyolk sacā is used by a developing human embryo to make its first blood cells; death would result without it. The coccyx was claimed to be a remnant of our purported evolutionary ancestors having a tail, but itās actually a crucial point for muscle attachment needed for our upright posture (and, well, for defecation). So to say this is about āprior functionsā as opposed to current functions is a great example of how evolutionists attempt to escape falsification of their paradigm. They assume these āprior functionsā really existed a priori, when that remains to be proven. Thereās no way to test, predict, observe, reproduce the selective advantage of supposed intermediate structures for the survival of the species in question, which supposedly occurred long ago in the prehistorical past. This is yet another example of circular reasoning by evolutionists, in which they assume what still needs to be proven.
A great, focused book from a creationist viewpoint on this general subject of "vestigial" organs is Jerry Bergman, Ph.D., and George Howe, Ph.d., "'Vestigial Organs' Are Fully Functional," Creation Research Society, St. Joseph, MO, 1990.
Super erudite, extra scholarly addendum, for those interested in grinding the details:
In response to one evolutionist critic in the past, I decided to do some research on this subject in order to be able to reproduce evidence for my reference about when evolutionists said that there were around 180 vestigial organs. The key evolutionist book that originated this specific number on this subject is Robert Wiedersheim, "The Structure of man: an index to his past history," which was published in English in 1895 and translated by H. and M. Bernard (Macmillan, London), which is available online through Google books since it has an expired copyright. According to Jerry Bergman and George Howe, "'Vestigial Organs' Are Fully Functional," p. 5, he developed a detailed list of 86 vestigial organs and "about 100 so-called retrogressive organs." Here I've reproduced the list of the 86 vestigial organs. I suppose someone would have to do more research to get the list of 100 "retrogressive organs," which apparently come from the same book.
If a medical doctor is available to survey this list, would he or she say that these organs are useless? Wasn't Wiedersheim simply wrong? Do evolutionists ever admit to error in the arguments that they make for their theory? Or do they simply keep pushing the same nonsense, regardless of how many times it has been proven false?
Here is Wiedersheim's list of the human body's supposedly useless vestigial organs/anatomical structures: Os coccygis. Cauda humana.Superfluous embryonic notochord and associated somites.Embryonic cervical, lumbar, and sacral ribs.The thirteenth rib of the adult.The seventh cervical rib in the adult.The interarticular cartilage of the sterno-clavicular joint (probable vestige of the episternal apparatus).Ossa supra-sternalia.Certain centres of ossification in the manubrium sterni.The branchial clefts (for the most part) and branchial ridges.Processus styloideus ossis temporis, and the ligamentum stylo-hyoideum.Anterior cornua of the hyoid, for the greater part.Foramen caecum of the tongue.Processus gracilis of the malleus.Post-frontal bone (?)Ossa interparietalia (and ? prseinterparietalia).Processus paramastoideus of exoccipital.Torus occipitalis.Processus frontalis of the temporal.Processus coracoideus .Os centrale carpi.Processus supracondyloideus humeri.Trochanter tertius femoris.The phalanges of the fifth toe, and less conspicuously of the third and fourth toes.Muscles of the pinna and the Musculus occipitalis. LM. transversus nuchae. L. --Facial muscles transformed into tendinous expansions.Mm. plantaris and palmaris longus, when completely tendinous.M. ischio femoralis.The caudal muscles.M. epitrochleo-anconseus.M. latissimo-condyloideus.M. transversus thoracis (triangularis sterni).M. palmaris brevis.The transition bundles between the trapezius and the sterno- cleido-mastoideus.M. levator claviculae.M. rectus thoracis.M. ere master.The primitive hairy covering or lanugo.Vestiges of vibrissaeThe vertex coccygeus, the foveola and glabella coccygea.Certain vortices of hair on the breast.Nipples in men.Supernumerary mammary glands in women.Alleged vestiges of mammary pouchesSupernumerary olfactory ridges.Jacobson's organ, and ductus naso-palatinus.Papilla palatina and foliata.Plica semilunaris of the eye.Vasa hyaloidse (Cloquet's canal) of the embryo the choroidal fissure.Lachrymal glands, in part.The epicanthus.M. orbitalis.Certain varieties of the pinna of the ear, i.e. Darwin's tubercle.The filum terminale of the spinal cord.Glandula pinealis and parietal organ.The parieto-occipital fissure of the brain .The obex, ponticulus, ligula, taeniae medullares, and velum medullare anterius and posterius, of the brain.The hypophysis cerebri (pituitary body).The dorsal roots and ganglia of the hypoglossus nerve.The rami recurrentes of certain cranial nerves.Certain elements of the brachial and lumbo-sacral plexuses.The coccygeal nerve.The glandula coccygea.Palatal ridges.The sublingua.The formation of rudimentary dental papillae before the sinking of the dental ridge.The Wisdom teethThe occurrence of a third premolar (reversionary).The occurrence of a fourth molar (reversionary).The vestiges of a third dentition.The ciliated epithelium of the embryonic oesophagus.Bursa sub- and prehyoidea (ductus thyroglossus).Musculi broncho-oesophagei.The appendix vermiformis.Ventricle of the larynx (Morgagni's pouch).Lobus subpericardiacus of the lung (reversionary).Certain Valves of the veins.Certain structures of a vestigial nature in the heart.Arteria sacralis media.Arteria ischiadica.Superficial plantar arterial arch of the foot.The vena cava superior sinistra.Venae cardinales posteriores, and ductus Cuvieri.Vestiges (in the female) of the mesonephric system, and (in the male) of the MĆ¼llerian ducts.Conus inguinalis, and ligamentum inguinale.The area scroti.
See also pages 200-209 of Robert Weidmanās book, which he labels āConspectus of Organs Mentioned in the Textā and āList of Organs According to Systems.ā
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The example of supposedly āvestigialā organs is also a great example of how the theory of evolution slows down scientific development and research. If an anatomical structure is a priori judged to be āvestigial,ā then scientists who are evolutionists arenāt likely to study it carefully for what it really does. For example, tonsils were often removed for decades from children since they were judged to be simply āuseless vestiges.ā Later on, oops!, it was found out that they actually do fight disease. They werenāt so useless after all. Basically all 180 organs and anatomical structures that were once listed as āuseless vestigesā (in one way or another) have been found to have real functions. For instance, the āyolk sacā is used by a developing human embryo to make its first blood cells; death would result without it. The coccyx was claimed to be a remnant of our purported evolutionary ancestors having a tail, but itās actually a crucial point for muscle attachment needed for our upright posture (and, well, for defecation). So to say this is about āprior functionsā as opposed to current functions is a great example of how evolutionists attempt to escape falsification of their paradigm. They assume these āprior functionsā really existed a priori, when that remains to be proven. Thereās no way to test, predict, observe, reproduce the selective advantage of supposed intermediate structures for the survival of the species in question, which supposedly occurred long ago in the prehistorical past. This is yet another example of circular reasoning by evolutionists, in which they assume what still needs to be proven.
A great, focused book from a creationist viewpoint on this general subject of "vestigial" organs is Jerry Bergman, Ph.D., and George Howe, Ph.d., "'Vestigial Organs' Are Fully Functional," Creation Research Society, St. Joseph, MO, 1990.
Super erudite, extra scholarly addendum, for those interested in grinding the details:
In response to one evolutionist critic in the past, I decided to do some research on this subject in order to be able to reproduce evidence for my reference about when evolutionists said that there were around 180 vestigial organs. The key evolutionist book that originated this specific number on this subject is Robert Wiedersheim, "The Structure of man: an index to his past history," which was published in English in 1895 and translated by H. and M. Bernard (Macmillan, London), which is available online through Google books since it has an expired copyright. According to Jerry Bergman and George Howe, "'Vestigial Organs' Are Fully Functional," p. 5, he developed a detailed list of 86 vestigial organs and "about 100 so-called retrogressive organs." Here I've reproduced the list of the 86 vestigial organs. I suppose someone would have to do more research to get the list of 100 "retrogressive organs," which apparently come from the same book.
If a medical doctor is available to survey this list, would he or she say that these organs are useless? Wasn't Wiedersheim simply wrong? Do evolutionists ever admit to error in the arguments that they make for their theory? Or do they simply keep pushing the same nonsense, regardless of how many times it has been proven false?
Here is Wiedersheim's list of the human body's supposedly useless vestigial organs/anatomical structures: Os coccygis. Cauda humana.Superfluous embryonic notochord and associated somites.Embryonic cervical, lumbar, and sacral ribs.The thirteenth rib of the adult.The seventh cervical rib in the adult.The interarticular cartilage of the sterno-clavicular joint (probable vestige of the episternal apparatus).Ossa supra-sternalia.Certain centres of ossification in the manubrium sterni.The branchial clefts (for the most part) and branchial ridges.Processus styloideus ossis temporis, and the ligamentum stylo-hyoideum.Anterior cornua of the hyoid, for the greater part.Foramen caecum of the tongue.Processus gracilis of the malleus.Post-frontal bone (?)Ossa interparietalia (and ? prseinterparietalia).Processus paramastoideus of exoccipital.Torus occipitalis.Processus frontalis of the temporal.Processus coracoideus .Os centrale carpi.Processus supracondyloideus humeri.Trochanter tertius femoris.The phalanges of the fifth toe, and less conspicuously of the third and fourth toes.Muscles of the pinna and the Musculus occipitalis. LM. transversus nuchae. L. --Facial muscles transformed into tendinous expansions.Mm. plantaris and palmaris longus, when completely tendinous.M. ischio femoralis.The caudal muscles.M. epitrochleo-anconseus.M. latissimo-condyloideus.M. transversus thoracis (triangularis sterni).M. palmaris brevis.The transition bundles between the trapezius and the sterno- cleido-mastoideus.M. levator claviculae.M. rectus thoracis.M. ere master.The primitive hairy covering or lanugo.Vestiges of vibrissaeThe vertex coccygeus, the foveola and glabella coccygea.Certain vortices of hair on the breast.Nipples in men.Supernumerary mammary glands in women.Alleged vestiges of mammary pouchesSupernumerary olfactory ridges.Jacobson's organ, and ductus naso-palatinus.Papilla palatina and foliata.Plica semilunaris of the eye.Vasa hyaloidse (Cloquet's canal) of the embryo the choroidal fissure.Lachrymal glands, in part.The epicanthus.M. orbitalis.Certain varieties of the pinna of the ear, i.e. Darwin's tubercle.The filum terminale of the spinal cord.Glandula pinealis and parietal organ.The parieto-occipital fissure of the brain .The obex, ponticulus, ligula, taeniae medullares, and velum medullare anterius and posterius, of the brain.The hypophysis cerebri (pituitary body).The dorsal roots and ganglia of the hypoglossus nerve.The rami recurrentes of certain cranial nerves.Certain elements of the brachial and lumbo-sacral plexuses.The coccygeal nerve.The glandula coccygea.Palatal ridges.The sublingua.The formation of rudimentary dental papillae before the sinking of the dental ridge.The Wisdom teethThe occurrence of a third premolar (reversionary).The occurrence of a fourth molar (reversionary).The vestiges of a third dentition.The ciliated epithelium of the embryonic oesophagus.Bursa sub- and prehyoidea (ductus thyroglossus).Musculi broncho-oesophagei.The appendix vermiformis.Ventricle of the larynx (Morgagni's pouch).Lobus subpericardiacus of the lung (reversionary).Certain Valves of the veins.Certain structures of a vestigial nature in the heart.Arteria sacralis media.Arteria ischiadica.Superficial plantar arterial arch of the foot.The vena cava superior sinistra.Venae cardinales posteriores, and ductus Cuvieri.Vestiges (in the female) of the mesonephric system, and (in the male) of the MĆ¼llerian ducts.Conus inguinalis, and ligamentum inguinale.The area scroti.
See also pages 200-209 of Robert Weidmanās book, which he labels āConspectus of Organs Mentioned in the Textā and āList of Organs According to Systems.ā
2024.05.19 18:12 anon1mo56 Treaties of Cordoba translated by me
TREATIES OF CĆRDOBA
Signed
āAgustĆn de Iturbide.āJuan de OāDonojĆŗ.āIt is faithful copy of its original.āJosĆ© DomĆnguez.āIt is a faithful copy of the original that remains in this general command.āJose JoaquĆn Herrera.āAs assistant secretary, TomĆ”s IllaƱez.
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- TREATIES CELEBRATED IN THE VILLA OF CĆRDOBA ON THE 24TH OF THE PRESENT, BETWEEN MR. DON JUAN DE O'DONOJĆ, LIEUTENANT GENERAL OF THE ARMIES OF SPAIN, AND DON AGUSTĆN DE ITURBIDE, FIRST CHIEF OF THE IMPERIAL MEXICAN ARMY OF THE THREE GUARANTEES.*
Pronounced for New Spain the independence of the old, having an army that supported this pronouncement, the provinces of the kingdom decided for it, the capital was besieged where the legitimate authority had been deposed, and when only the town squares remained of Veracruz and Acapulco remained for the European goverment, unguarded and without means of resisting a well-directed siege that would last for some time, Lieutenant General Don Juan de O'DonojĆŗ arrived at the first port, with the character and representation of captain general and superior political leader[viceroy] of this kingdom , appointed by His Majesty, who, eager to avoid the evils that afflict people in altercations of this kind, and trying to reconcile the interests of both Spains, invited the first chief of the imperial army, Don AgustĆn de Iturbide, to an interview in which the great enterprise of independence was discussed, unleashing without breaking the bonds that united the two continents. The interview was done in the town of CĆ³rdoba on August 24, 1821, and with the representation of his character in the first, and that of the Mexican Empire in the second, after having conferred in depth about what was most convenient for both nations. Taking into account the current state and the latest occurrences, they agreed on the following articles, which they signed in duplicate to give them all the consolidation that this type of documents are capable of, keeping an original each in their possession for greater security and validation:
Art. 1. This America will be recognized as a sovereign and independent nation, and will be called from now on āMexican Empireā.
2nd. The government of the Empire will be a moderate constitutional monarchy.
3rd. It will be called to reign in the Mexican Empire (after an oath designated by article 4 of the plan of independece), firstly Mr. Don Ferdinand VII, Catholic King of Spain; and for his resignation or non-admission, his brother the Most Serene Lord Infante Don Carlos; for his resignation or non-admission, the Most Serene Lord Infante Don Francisco de Paula; for his resignation or non-admission, the Most Serene Lord Don Carlos Luis, infante of Spain, formerly heir of Etruria, today of Luca; and by resignation or non-admission of this, the one that the Courts of the Empire designate.
4th. The Emperor will establish his court in Mexico, which will be the capital of the Empire.
5th. Two commissioners will be appointed by His Excellency Mr. O'DonojĆŗ, who will go to the Court of Spain to place in the royal hands of Mr. Don Ferdinand VII a copy of this treaty and the exhibition that will accompany it, so that it may serve H.M. has record while the Cortes offer him the crown with all the formalities and guarantees that a matter of such importance demands, and beg His Majesty. That in the case of article III, you designate to notify the Most Serene Lords Infantes called in the same article by the order in which they are named, interposing their benign influence so that it is one of the designated persons of their august house who come to this Empire, which is why the prosperity of both nations is interested in it, and for the satisfaction that the Mexicans will receive in adding this to the bonds of friendship with which they can and want to have with the Spaniards.
6th. A Junta will be composed immediately, composed of the first men of the Empire by their virtues, by their destinies, by their fortunes, representation and opinion, of those who are designated by general opinion, whose number is considerable enough for the meeting of ilustration to ensure correctness in its determinations, which will be emanations of the authority and powers granted to them by the following articles.
7th. The Junta referred to in the previous article will be called the Provisional Governing Junta.
8th. Lieutenant General Don Juan de O'DonojĆŗ will be an individual of the Provisional Government Junta, in consideration of the convenience of a person of his class having an active and immediate part in the government, and that it is essential to omit some of that were indicated in the expressed plan in accordance with its same spirit.
9th. The Provisional Governing Junta will have a president appointed by itself, and whose election will fall on one of the individuals within it or outside it, who meets the absolute plurality of votes, which if in the first vote is not verified , a second vote will be taken, with the two who have obtained the most votes entering.
- The first step of the Provisional Governing Junta will be to make a statement to the public of its installation and reasons for bringing it together, with any other explanations it deems appropriate to enlighten the people about their interests and way of proceeding in the election of deputies to the Cortes, which will be discussed later.
- The Provisional Governing Junta will appoint, following the election of its president, a regency composed of three people from within it or outside it, in whom the executive power resides and who governs in the name of the monarch, until he takes control, of the scepter of the Empire.
- Once installed, the Provisional Governing Junta will govern temporarily in accordance with current laws in everything that does not oppose the Plan of Iguala, and while the Cortes form the constitution of the State.
- The regency, immediately after being appointed, will proceed to convene the Cortes in accordance with the method determined by the Provisional Governing Junta, which is in accordance with the spirit of article 24 of the aforementioned plan.
- The executive power resides in the regency, the legislative power in the Cortes; But as there must be some time before they meet, so that both do not fall under the same authority, the Junta will exercise legislative power, first, for cases that may occur and that do not give time to waite for first meeting of the Cortes and then it will proceed according to the regency; second, to serve the regency as an auxiliary and advisory body in its determinations.
- Every person who belongs to a society, altering the system of government, or passing the country into the power of another prince, remains in the state of natural freedom to move with his fortune wherever it suits him, without there being a right to deprive him of this freedom, unless he has contracted some debt with the society to which he belonged by crime, or in another of the ways known to publicists: in this case there are the Europeans living in New Spain and the Americans residing in the peninsula; Consequently, they will be arbitrators to remain adopting this or that country, or to request their passport, which cannot be denied, to leave the Empire at the predetermined time, taking or bringing their families and property; but satisfying at the exit by the latter, the export rights established or to be established by whoever can do so.
- The previous alternative will not take place with respect to public or military employees who are notoriously disaffected to Mexican independence; but that these will necessarily leave the Empire within the term that the regency prescribes, carrying their interests and paying the rights mentioned in the previous article.
- Since the occupation of the capital by the troops of the peninsula is an obstacle to the realization of this treaty, it is essential to overcome it; but as the first chief of the imperial army, uniting his feelings with those of the Mexican nation, he wishes not to achieve it with force, for which he has plenty of resources, despite the value and perseverance of said peninsular troops, due to lack of means and resources to support themselves against the system adopted by the entire nation, Don Juan de O'DonojĆŗ offers to use his authority so that these troops can departure without bloodshed and through an honorable capitulation.
Signed
āAgustĆn de Iturbide.āJuan de OāDonojĆŗ.āIt is faithful copy of its original.āJosĆ© DomĆnguez.āIt is a faithful copy of the original that remains in this general command.āJose JoaquĆn Herrera.āAs assistant secretary, TomĆ”s IllaƱez.
2024.05.19 18:12 xeros3D Artisan Zero: The Ideal Blend of Speed and Control
 | Image credit to: daavryl // Original Post: https://x.com/daavryl/status/1767242609599152432/photo/2 submitted by xeros3D to MousepadReview [link] [comments] IntroductionHey gamers! š Just wanted to share my experience with the famous Artisan Zero! During these 5 months i had the Artisan Zero XSoft and the Mid in my mousepad rotation, im pretty sure to have spent enough time to make this "review" or at least to express my opinion over this pad! Hope you will find it useful :)Artisan šÆšµArtisan is a renowned Japanese brand known for producing high-quality mousepads. Since 2002, they have been providing top-of-the-line products, earning a solid reputation in the industry thanks to their excellent build quality and continuous research to improve the performance of their products.
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2024.05.19 18:12 snoweric Are There Useless "Vestigial Organs" in the Human Body? Do They Prove Evolution To Be True?
Letās use vestigial structures as a specific example of the non-falsifiability of evolution. When it became clear, based on advancing medical science, that the roughly 180 anatomical structures that evolutionists had originally claimed were useless actually were useful, they resorted to a fall-back position, which is a classic post-hoc explanatory device. They now claim that these structures supposedly served some OTHER function in the past, but now they have another function. Crapo in 1985, for example, wrote: āThis is precisely how a vestige should be defined: Not as a āfunctionlessā part of an organism, but as a part which does not function in the way that its structure would lead us to expected, given how that structure function in most other organisms.ā Notice now Crapoās analysis here also confirms how important attacking the belief in God as a wise, efficient, benevolent Creator is to evolutionists: āIt is the existence of such vestiges in such organisms which evolutionary theory would very naturally predict, but which the belief in an efficient Designer would not lead us to expect a priori.ā (Italics removed, Richly Crapo, āAre the vanishing teeth of fetal baleen whales useless?ā 1985). This kind of fall-back position for āexplainingā vestigial structures illustrates the non-falsifiable nature of evolution. When medical science confirms the a priori viewpoint of the creationist model, that all of these anatomical structures really are useful and God didnāt insert useless organs and structures into the human body, the evolutionists donāt admit that their paradigm is falsified. Instead, they simply retreat into other rationalizations to keep attacking God as a shoddy, careless, unwise engineer. Here once again the viewpoint of Cornelius Hunterās book āDarwinās God: Evolution and the Problem of Evilā is confirmed: Evolutionists are engaged in negative natural theology when they argue against a supernatural explanation of the natural world based upon its perceived structural flaws and moral evils. Indeed, they find it crucial and very important to supporting their paradigm to do this. Needless to say, this kind of reasoning is every bit as metaphysical as the theologian who argues that the wonders and complexity of the natural world proves Godās existence. Any claim that evolution, when it enters the world of change above the genus or family taxonomic levels, is more āempiricalā than creationism, is simply false.
The example of supposedly āvestigialā organs is also a great example of how the theory of evolution slows down scientific development and research. If an anatomical structure is a priori judged to be āvestigial,ā then scientists who are evolutionists arenāt likely to study it carefully for what it really does. For example, tonsils were often removed for decades from children since they were judged to be simply āuseless vestiges.ā Later on, oops!, it was found out that they actually do fight disease. They werenāt so useless after all. Basically all 180 organs and anatomical structures that were once listed as āuseless vestigesā (in one way or another) have been found to have real functions. For instance, the āyolk sacā is used by a developing human embryo to make its first blood cells; death would result without it. The coccyx was claimed to be a remnant of our purported evolutionary ancestors having a tail, but itās actually a crucial point for muscle attachment needed for our upright posture (and, well, for defecation). So to say this is about āprior functionsā as opposed to current functions is a great example of how evolutionists attempt to escape falsification of their paradigm. They assume these āprior functionsā really existed a priori, when that remains to be proven. Thereās no way to test, predict, observe, reproduce the selective advantage of supposed intermediate structures for the survival of the species in question, which supposedly occurred long ago in the prehistorical past. This is yet another example of circular reasoning by evolutionists, in which they assume what still needs to be proven.
A great, focused book from a creationist viewpoint on this general subject of "vestigial" organs is Jerry Bergman, Ph.D., and George Howe, Ph.d., "'Vestigial Organs' Are Fully Functional," Creation Research Society, St. Joseph, MO, 1990.
Super erudite, extra scholarly addendum, for those interested in grinding the details:
In response to one evolutionist critic in the past, I decided to do some research on this subject in order to be able to reproduce evidence for my reference about when evolutionists said that there were around 180 vestigial organs. The key evolutionist book that originated this specific number on this subject is Robert Wiedersheim, "The Structure of man: an index to his past history," which was published in English in 1895 and translated by H. and M. Bernard (Macmillan, London), which is available online through Google books since it has an expired copyright. According to Jerry Bergman and George Howe, "'Vestigial Organs' Are Fully Functional," p. 5, he developed a detailed list of 86 vestigial organs and "about 100 so-called retrogressive organs." Here's the list of the 86 vestigial organs. I suppose someone would have to do more research to get the list of 100 "retrogressive organs," which apparently come from the same book.If a medical doctor is available to survey this list, would he or she say that these organs are useless? Wasn't Wiedersheim simply wrong? Do evolutionists ever admit to error in the arguments that they make for their theory? Or do they simply keep pushing the same nonsense, regardless of how many times it has been proven false?
Here is Wiedersheim's list of the human body's supposedly useless vestigial organs/anatomical structures: Os coccygis. Cauda humana.Superfluous embryonic notochord and associated somites.Embryonic cervical, lumbar, and sacral ribs.The thirteenth rib of the adult.The seventh cervical rib in the adult.The interarticular cartilage of the sterno-clavicular joint (probable vestige of the episternal apparatus).Ossa supra-sternalia.Certain centres of ossification in the manubrium sterni.The branchial clefts (for the most part) and branchial ridges.Processus styloideus ossis temporis, and the ligamentum stylo-hyoideum.Anterior cornua of the hyoid, for the greater part.Foramen caecum of the tongue.Processus gracilis of the malleus.Post-frontal bone (?)Ossa interparietalia (and ? prseinterparietalia).Processus paramastoideus of exoccipital.Torus occipitalis.Processus frontalis of the temporal.Processus coracoideus .Os centrale carpi.Processus supracondyloideus humeri.Trochanter tertius femoris.The phalanges of the fifth toe, and less conspicuously of the third and fourth toes.Muscles of the pinna and the Musculus occipitalis. LM. transversus nuchae. L. --Facial muscles transformed into tendinous expansions.Mm. plantaris and palmaris longus, when completely tendinous.M. ischio femoralis.The caudal muscles.M. epitrochleo-anconseus.M. latissimo-condyloideus.M. transversus thoracis (triangularis sterni).M. palmaris brevis.The transition bundles between the trapezius and the sterno- cleido-mastoideus.M. levator claviculae.M. rectus thoracis.M. ere master.The primitive hairy covering or lanugo.Vestiges of vibrissaeThe vertex coccygeus, the foveola and glabella coccygea.Certain vortices of hair on the breast.Nipples in men.Supernumerary mammary glands in women.Alleged vestiges of mammary pouchesSupernumerary olfactory ridges.Jacobson's organ, and ductus naso-palatinus.Papilla palatina and foliata.Plica semilunaris of the eye.Vasa hyaloidse (Cloquet's canal) of the embryo the choroidal fissure.Lachrymal glands, in part.The epicanthus.M. orbitalis.Certain varieties of the pinna of the ear, i.e. Darwin's tubercle.The filum terminale of the spinal cord.Glandula pinealis and parietal organ.The parieto-occipital fissure of the brain .The obex, ponticulus, ligula, taeniae medullares, and velum medullare anterius and posterius, of the brain.The hypophysis cerebri (pituitary body).The dorsal roots and ganglia of the hypoglossus nerve.The rami recurrentes of certain cranial nerves.Certain elements of the brachial and lumbo-sacral plexuses.The coccygeal nerve.The glandula coccygea.Palatal ridges.The sublingua.The formation of rudimentary dental papillae before the sinking of the dental ridge.The Wisdom teethThe occurrence of a third premolar (reversionary).The occurrence of a fourth molar (reversionary).The vestiges of a third dentition.The ciliated epithelium of the embryonic oesophagus.Bursa sub- and prehyoidea (ductus thyroglossus).Musculi broncho-oesophagei.The appendix vermiformis.Ventricle of the larynx (Morgagni's pouch).Lobus subpericardiacus of the lung (reversionary).Certain Valves of the veins.Certain structures of a vestigial nature in the heart.Arteria sacralis media.Arteria ischiadica.Superficial plantar arterial arch of the foot.The vena cava superior sinistra.Venae cardinales posteriores, and ductus Cuvieri.Vestiges (in the female) of the mesonephric system, and (in the male) of the MĆ¼llerian ducts.Conus inguinalis, and ligamentum inguinale.The area scroti.
See also pages 200-209 of Robert Weidmanās book, which he labels āConspectus of Organs Mentioned in the Textā and āList of Organs According to Systems.ā
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The example of supposedly āvestigialā organs is also a great example of how the theory of evolution slows down scientific development and research. If an anatomical structure is a priori judged to be āvestigial,ā then scientists who are evolutionists arenāt likely to study it carefully for what it really does. For example, tonsils were often removed for decades from children since they were judged to be simply āuseless vestiges.ā Later on, oops!, it was found out that they actually do fight disease. They werenāt so useless after all. Basically all 180 organs and anatomical structures that were once listed as āuseless vestigesā (in one way or another) have been found to have real functions. For instance, the āyolk sacā is used by a developing human embryo to make its first blood cells; death would result without it. The coccyx was claimed to be a remnant of our purported evolutionary ancestors having a tail, but itās actually a crucial point for muscle attachment needed for our upright posture (and, well, for defecation). So to say this is about āprior functionsā as opposed to current functions is a great example of how evolutionists attempt to escape falsification of their paradigm. They assume these āprior functionsā really existed a priori, when that remains to be proven. Thereās no way to test, predict, observe, reproduce the selective advantage of supposed intermediate structures for the survival of the species in question, which supposedly occurred long ago in the prehistorical past. This is yet another example of circular reasoning by evolutionists, in which they assume what still needs to be proven.
A great, focused book from a creationist viewpoint on this general subject of "vestigial" organs is Jerry Bergman, Ph.D., and George Howe, Ph.d., "'Vestigial Organs' Are Fully Functional," Creation Research Society, St. Joseph, MO, 1990.
Super erudite, extra scholarly addendum, for those interested in grinding the details:
In response to one evolutionist critic in the past, I decided to do some research on this subject in order to be able to reproduce evidence for my reference about when evolutionists said that there were around 180 vestigial organs. The key evolutionist book that originated this specific number on this subject is Robert Wiedersheim, "The Structure of man: an index to his past history," which was published in English in 1895 and translated by H. and M. Bernard (Macmillan, London), which is available online through Google books since it has an expired copyright. According to Jerry Bergman and George Howe, "'Vestigial Organs' Are Fully Functional," p. 5, he developed a detailed list of 86 vestigial organs and "about 100 so-called retrogressive organs." Here's the list of the 86 vestigial organs. I suppose someone would have to do more research to get the list of 100 "retrogressive organs," which apparently come from the same book.If a medical doctor is available to survey this list, would he or she say that these organs are useless? Wasn't Wiedersheim simply wrong? Do evolutionists ever admit to error in the arguments that they make for their theory? Or do they simply keep pushing the same nonsense, regardless of how many times it has been proven false?
Here is Wiedersheim's list of the human body's supposedly useless vestigial organs/anatomical structures: Os coccygis. Cauda humana.Superfluous embryonic notochord and associated somites.Embryonic cervical, lumbar, and sacral ribs.The thirteenth rib of the adult.The seventh cervical rib in the adult.The interarticular cartilage of the sterno-clavicular joint (probable vestige of the episternal apparatus).Ossa supra-sternalia.Certain centres of ossification in the manubrium sterni.The branchial clefts (for the most part) and branchial ridges.Processus styloideus ossis temporis, and the ligamentum stylo-hyoideum.Anterior cornua of the hyoid, for the greater part.Foramen caecum of the tongue.Processus gracilis of the malleus.Post-frontal bone (?)Ossa interparietalia (and ? prseinterparietalia).Processus paramastoideus of exoccipital.Torus occipitalis.Processus frontalis of the temporal.Processus coracoideus .Os centrale carpi.Processus supracondyloideus humeri.Trochanter tertius femoris.The phalanges of the fifth toe, and less conspicuously of the third and fourth toes.Muscles of the pinna and the Musculus occipitalis. LM. transversus nuchae. L. --Facial muscles transformed into tendinous expansions.Mm. plantaris and palmaris longus, when completely tendinous.M. ischio femoralis.The caudal muscles.M. epitrochleo-anconseus.M. latissimo-condyloideus.M. transversus thoracis (triangularis sterni).M. palmaris brevis.The transition bundles between the trapezius and the sterno- cleido-mastoideus.M. levator claviculae.M. rectus thoracis.M. ere master.The primitive hairy covering or lanugo.Vestiges of vibrissaeThe vertex coccygeus, the foveola and glabella coccygea.Certain vortices of hair on the breast.Nipples in men.Supernumerary mammary glands in women.Alleged vestiges of mammary pouchesSupernumerary olfactory ridges.Jacobson's organ, and ductus naso-palatinus.Papilla palatina and foliata.Plica semilunaris of the eye.Vasa hyaloidse (Cloquet's canal) of the embryo the choroidal fissure.Lachrymal glands, in part.The epicanthus.M. orbitalis.Certain varieties of the pinna of the ear, i.e. Darwin's tubercle.The filum terminale of the spinal cord.Glandula pinealis and parietal organ.The parieto-occipital fissure of the brain .The obex, ponticulus, ligula, taeniae medullares, and velum medullare anterius and posterius, of the brain.The hypophysis cerebri (pituitary body).The dorsal roots and ganglia of the hypoglossus nerve.The rami recurrentes of certain cranial nerves.Certain elements of the brachial and lumbo-sacral plexuses.The coccygeal nerve.The glandula coccygea.Palatal ridges.The sublingua.The formation of rudimentary dental papillae before the sinking of the dental ridge.The Wisdom teethThe occurrence of a third premolar (reversionary).The occurrence of a fourth molar (reversionary).The vestiges of a third dentition.The ciliated epithelium of the embryonic oesophagus.Bursa sub- and prehyoidea (ductus thyroglossus).Musculi broncho-oesophagei.The appendix vermiformis.Ventricle of the larynx (Morgagni's pouch).Lobus subpericardiacus of the lung (reversionary).Certain Valves of the veins.Certain structures of a vestigial nature in the heart.Arteria sacralis media.Arteria ischiadica.Superficial plantar arterial arch of the foot.The vena cava superior sinistra.Venae cardinales posteriores, and ductus Cuvieri.Vestiges (in the female) of the mesonephric system, and (in the male) of the MĆ¼llerian ducts.Conus inguinalis, and ligamentum inguinale.The area scroti.
See also pages 200-209 of Robert Weidmanās book, which he labels āConspectus of Organs Mentioned in the Textā and āList of Organs According to Systems.ā
2024.05.19 18:10 gobsmacked_dogtoilet Some grade 9 aic ideas
- Birling isnāt mad at Eric for raping daisy but mad he stole money. This shows that capitalism is so cruel that it dehumanises the lower class that are below Ā£50 so reform society to socialism
- This is a war play as during ww1 many capitalist business owners took advantage of the surge in demand for artillery and machinery. So they also took advantage of ww2 but this lead to economic collapse and mass industry closing. This shows greed leads to worse results and using soldiers and human lives as profit leads to even more societal suffering (as seen in the post ww2 recession.
This is priestly showing that capitalism will never learn their lesson about and continue to avoid responsibility so society will perpetually suffer in āfire blood and anguishā just like the cyclical structure of the play (starts and needs with announcing an inspector called)The audience relates to these consequences as society suffered exponentially worse as capitalist leaders didnāt help victims of war but instead took advantage of them. Therefore reform to socialism
- Most students know birling took advantage of Sheilaās engagement for a union with crofts limited for ālower costs and higher pricesā as women in Edwardian society were perceived as possessions of their father and husband so could be used for climbing the social ladder.
In addition, Sybil doesnāt punish Gerald for committing adultery against her daughter. In fact, sheās glad that Gerald returns when she replies to him asking if they donāt mind him coming back with āof course notā revealing she has no negative feeling towards his actions and acts as if she has forgotten what he did. This is because she knows that Gerald is the only way her daughter is going to have any purpose in life. In this patriarchal society Sheila would have no need or influence to anyone, including women. This could be because Sybil herself has had a similar experience with mr Birling as she said āmen with important work have to spend all their time and energy on their businessā. This could show that Sybil is using the euphemism of āworkā as she canāt bring herself to accept what Arthur may she done when he wasnāt being attentive to her and instead his ābusinessā. The audience feels empathy to her because Sybil understands the significant gender inequality but has to accept that men arenāt faithful. She canāt āprotestā as that would physically ruin her life. Women couldnāt get divorces or have any dominance in their marriage so could object to any of their husbandās action. This is why sybil dismisses Geraldās affair to save her daughter from ruining her life.
- Women can only express power through clothes. Birling says ābut- well, a sort of sign or token of their self respectā this shows that women are objectified to how they present themselves with answers the question to why Sheila got eva fired from Millardās. Sheila would have appeared less dignified or respected compared to beautiful Eva so she had to get rid of the competition. Patriarchy has such an oppressive grip on women that has manipulated them to believe their appearance is the only symbol of their āself respectā
2024.05.19 18:10 Saikik_lover How should I F18 handle a situation where my boyfriend M18 says we both need what I need instead of addressing my feelings individually?
Iām desperate for answers š Iām generally tweaking because I feel like Iām doing something wrong like I am the problemā¦
My boyfriend is really sweet and started our relationship with crazy princess treatment. We hang out almost every day and text constantly; he needs constant updates about what I'm doing. He tells me when heās in his car, about to shower, etc., and expects me to do the same. For me, that's a bit too much.
He's very protective, always holding onto me in public to show I'm his girl because sometimes men will look at me. I think he knows I could do better on physical attraction, not gonna lie.
Itās only been a month, but he acts like weāre married. He gets annoyed if I hang up the phone without saying goodbye and telling him whoās calling. I canāt have or talk to my guy friends when heās around, which feels restrictive.
Whenever I express my needs, he says "we both need" instead of addressing my feelings individually. For example, yesterday I was busy washing my hair, blow drying it, and on FaceTime with friends, so I didnāt text him for 3-4 hours. He knew I was busy, but when I called him later, he was upset and said, "If you didnāt call me in five minutes, I would've gone to sleep." I felt guilty but realized I needed space.
This morning, he apologized for making me feel bad, and I said I needed some space to think. He responded with, "I feel we both need space to recollect ourselves." This is the second time heās done this when I address an issue about how he made me feel.
What does he need space for? How should I handle a situation where my boyfriend says we both need what I need instead of addressing my feelings individually?
TL;DR: My boyfriend is sweet but extremely attentive and protective, expecting constant updates and restricting interactions with male friends. He often says "we both need" when I express my individual needs. It's been only a month, but I feel overwhelmed by his level of commitment. How should I handle this?
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My boyfriend is really sweet and started our relationship with crazy princess treatment. We hang out almost every day and text constantly; he needs constant updates about what I'm doing. He tells me when heās in his car, about to shower, etc., and expects me to do the same. For me, that's a bit too much.
He's very protective, always holding onto me in public to show I'm his girl because sometimes men will look at me. I think he knows I could do better on physical attraction, not gonna lie.
Itās only been a month, but he acts like weāre married. He gets annoyed if I hang up the phone without saying goodbye and telling him whoās calling. I canāt have or talk to my guy friends when heās around, which feels restrictive.
Whenever I express my needs, he says "we both need" instead of addressing my feelings individually. For example, yesterday I was busy washing my hair, blow drying it, and on FaceTime with friends, so I didnāt text him for 3-4 hours. He knew I was busy, but when I called him later, he was upset and said, "If you didnāt call me in five minutes, I would've gone to sleep." I felt guilty but realized I needed space.
This morning, he apologized for making me feel bad, and I said I needed some space to think. He responded with, "I feel we both need space to recollect ourselves." This is the second time heās done this when I address an issue about how he made me feel.
What does he need space for? How should I handle a situation where my boyfriend says we both need what I need instead of addressing my feelings individually?
TL;DR: My boyfriend is sweet but extremely attentive and protective, expecting constant updates and restricting interactions with male friends. He often says "we both need" when I express my individual needs. It's been only a month, but I feel overwhelmed by his level of commitment. How should I handle this?
2024.05.19 18:05 Dumbledores_Bum_Plug Fun fact! Both Sirius Black and Fred Weasley, the leading Hogwarts pranksters of their generation died laughing.
Fred death passage
The laughter had not quite died from his face, but his eyes widened in shock.
Harry released Neville, though he was unaware of doing so. He was jumping down the steps again, pulling out his wand, as Dumbledore turned to the dais too.
It seemed to take Sirius an age to fall. His body curved in a graceful arc as he sank backward through the ragged veil hanging from the arch...
And Harry saw the look of mingled fear and surprise on his godfather's wasted, once-handsome face as he fell through the ancient doorway and disappeared behind the veil, which fluttered for a moment as though in a high wind and then fell back into place.
Harry heard Bellatrix Lestrange's triumphant scream, but knew it meant nothing -- Sirius had only just fallen through the archway, he would reappear from the other side any second.
But Sirius did not reappear.
"SIRIUS!" Harry yelled, "SIRIUS!"
He had reached the floor, his breath coming in searing gasps. Sirius must be just behind the curtain, he, Harry, would pull him back out again...
But as he reached the ground and sprinted toward the dais, Lupin grabbed Harry around the chest, holding him back.
"There's nothing you can do, Harry -- "
"Get him, save him, he's only just gone through!"
"It's too late, Harry -- "
"We can still reach him -- "
Harry struggled hard and viciously, but Lupin would not let go...
"There's nothing you can do, Harry... nothing... He's gone."
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Hello, Minister!ā bellowed Percy, sending a neat jinx straight at Thicknesse, who dropped his wand and clawed at the front of his robes, apparently in awful discomfort. āDid I mention Iām resigning?āSirius Black Death Passage
āYouāre joking, Perce!ā shouted Fred as the Death Eater he was battling collapsed under the weight of three separate Stunning Spells. Thicknesse had fallen to the ground with tiny spikes erupting all over him; he seemed to be turning into some form of sea urchin. Fred looked at Percy with glee.
āYou actually are joking, Perceā¦ . I donāt think Iāve heard you joke since you were āā
The air exploded. They had been grouped together, Harry, Ron, Hermione, Fred, and Percy, the two Death Eaters at their feet, one Stunned, the other Transfigured; and in that fragment of a moment, when danger seemed temporarily at bay, the world was rent apart, Harry felt himself flying through the air, and all he could do was hold as tightly as possible to that thin stick of wood that was his one and only weapon, and shield his head in his arms: He heard the screams and yells of his companions without a hope of knowing what had happened to them ā
And then the world resolved itself into pain and semidarkness: He was half buried in the wreckage of a corridor that had been subjected to a terrible attack. Cold air told him that the side of the castle had been blown away, and hot stickiness on his cheek told him that he was bleeding copiously. Then he heard a terrible cry that pulled at his insides, that expressed agony of a kind neither flame nor curse could cause, and he stood up, swaying, more frightened than he had been that day, more frightened, perhaps, than he had been in his lifeā¦ .
And Hermione was struggling to her feet in the wreckage, and three redheaded men were grouped on the ground where the wall had blasted apart. Harry grabbed Hermioneās hand as they staggered and stumbled over stone and wood.
āNo ā no ā no!ā someone was shouting. āNo! Fred! No!ā
And Percy was shaking his brother, and Ron was kneeling beside them, and Fredās eyes stared without seeing, the ghost of his last laugh still etched upon his face.
Only one couple were still battling, apparently unaware of the new arrival. Harry saw Sirius duck Bellatrix's jet of red light: He was laughing at her. "Come on, you can do better than that!" he yelled, his voice echoing around the cavernous room.The second jet of light hit him squarely on the chest.
The laughter had not quite died from his face, but his eyes widened in shock.
Harry released Neville, though he was unaware of doing so. He was jumping down the steps again, pulling out his wand, as Dumbledore turned to the dais too.
It seemed to take Sirius an age to fall. His body curved in a graceful arc as he sank backward through the ragged veil hanging from the arch...
And Harry saw the look of mingled fear and surprise on his godfather's wasted, once-handsome face as he fell through the ancient doorway and disappeared behind the veil, which fluttered for a moment as though in a high wind and then fell back into place.
Harry heard Bellatrix Lestrange's triumphant scream, but knew it meant nothing -- Sirius had only just fallen through the archway, he would reappear from the other side any second.
But Sirius did not reappear.
"SIRIUS!" Harry yelled, "SIRIUS!"
He had reached the floor, his breath coming in searing gasps. Sirius must be just behind the curtain, he, Harry, would pull him back out again...
But as he reached the ground and sprinted toward the dais, Lupin grabbed Harry around the chest, holding him back.
"There's nothing you can do, Harry -- "
"Get him, save him, he's only just gone through!"
"It's too late, Harry -- "
"We can still reach him -- "
Harry struggled hard and viciously, but Lupin would not let go...
"There's nothing you can do, Harry... nothing... He's gone."
2024.05.19 18:03 fonybalonee I can spend $700 at the Anniversay Sale buying a tent, bag and pad. What should I buy?
Good morning ChatGPT. REI is having their 2024 Anniversary Sale this week. I want buy three items that are on sale (excluding REI Outlet). My budget is $700. Based on the following parameters I want you to pick the best items that will fit into the budget. 1) 2person backpacking tent with highest square footage to weight ratio 2) mummy style mens sleeping bag with a temperature rating of 20 to 30 degrees and the best warmth to weight ratio and 3) inflatable air pad with minimum R-value of 4.0 and high warmth to weight ratio. ChatGPT
Good morning! Let's find the best items from REI's 2024 Anniversary Sale within your budget of $700. Here are the items based on your parameters:
Since this is still slightly over budget, consider checking the sale prices and applying any additional discounts or member coupons REI may be offering during the sale to bring it within the $700 budget.
What if I only want a down filled bag?ChatGPT
Given your preference for a down-filled sleeping bag, let's adjust the selection accordingly. Hereās a revised list of items fitting your criteria and budget:
Since the total is slightly over $700, you can:
If I want to save weight and buy the Magma bag instead of the Kelty could I choose a less expensive tent or pad?ChatGPT
Sure, we can select a less expensive tent or pad to fit the REI Co-op Magma 15 sleeping bag within your $700 budget. Hereās an adjusted selection with the Magma sleeping bag:
Since this is still slightly over budget, you can look for additional discounts or member coupons during the REI Anniversary Sale.
How about if I sell my old car for $300 and raise my budget to $1000. Make sure to keep the Magma bag on the list.ChatGPT
With a new budget of $1000 and keeping the REI Co-op Magma 15 Sleeping Bag on the list, we can choose higher-quality and lightweight items for the tent and sleeping pad. Hereās an optimized selection:
Given this total, you are slightly over your $1000 budget. Let's look for a less expensive but still high-quality alternative for either the tent or pad to stay within budget:
To stay within your $1000 budget, the optimal combination would be:
This combination provides a high-quality, lightweight setup while staying within your $1000 budget. Enjoy your upgraded backpacking gear!
Can you give the total price which would account for the current discounts. ChatGPT
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With your increased budget of $1000, here's a selection of high-quality backpacking gear that fits your requirements and takes advantage of the discounts available during REI's 2024 Anniversary Sale:
This combination totals $747.44, leaving you with $252.56 under your $1000 budget. This allows you to either save the remaining amount or consider purchasing additional gear or accessories such as trekking poles, a backpack, or other useful items for your trips.
These prices reflect the discounts available during the REI Anniversary Saleā (REI)āā (Slickdeals)āā (CleverHiker)ā. This setup offers high-quality, lightweight, and efficient gear for your backpacking needs, maximizing your budget effectively.
If I switch the Half Dome tent for the Big Agnes Copper Spur 2 what would be the total price taking into acount the discounts.ChatGPT
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Switching to the Big Agnes Copper Spur HV UL2 tent and keeping the REI Co-op Magma 15 sleeping bag, hereās the updated total with current discounts:
With your new budget of $1000, this total of $707.32 fits well within your budget, leaving you with approximately $292.68 to spare. This combination optimizes for weight, warmth, and overall value, making it an excellent choice for your backpacking needs.
Thank you for your time. Now I can go to the store and not need to get advice from a sales person. ChatGPT
You're welcome! I'm glad I could help. With this information, you should be well-prepared to make informed decisions at the store without needing further advice from sales staff. Enjoy your shopping and your future backpacking adventures! If you have any more questions, feel free to ask.
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Good morning! Let's find the best items from REI's 2024 Anniversary Sale within your budget of $700. Here are the items based on your parameters:
- 2-Person Backpacking Tent
- Mummy Style Men's Sleeping Bag (20-30 degrees)
- Inflatable Air Pad (minimum R-value of 4.0)
1. 2-Person Backpacking Tent
- Big Agnes Copper Spur HV UL2 Tent
- Weight: 2 lbs. 11 oz.
- Floor Area: 29 square feet
- Peak Height: 40 inches
- Square Footage to Weight Ratio: Approximately 10.5 sq. ft./lb.
- Price: $449.95 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
2. Mummy Style Men's Sleeping Bag (20-30 degrees)
- REI Co-op Magma 15 Sleeping Bag
- Temperature Rating: 15 degrees Fahrenheit (though often rated conservatively, suitable for 20-30 degrees with layering)
- Weight: 1 lb. 12 oz.
- Fill Power: 850-fill-power goose down
- Price: $399.00 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
- Marmot Trestles Elite Eco 20 Sleeping Bag
- Temperature Rating: 20 degrees Fahrenheit
- Weight: 2 lbs. 6.6 oz.
- Fill: HL-ElixR Eco synthetic
- Price: $159.00 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
3. Inflatable Air Pad
- Therm-a-Rest NeoAir XTherm Sleeping Pad
- R-value: 6.9
- Weight: 15 oz.
- Dimensions: 72 x 20 x 2.5 inches (Regular size)
- Price: $239.95 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
- Sea to Summit Ether Light XT Insulated Air Sleeping Pad
- R-value: 4.2
- Weight: 1 lb. 1 oz.
- Dimensions: 72 x 20 x 4 inches (Regular size)
- Price: $199.00 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
Optimal Selection within $700 Budget
- Big Agnes Copper Spur HV UL2 Tent - Approximately $449.95
- Marmot Trestles Elite Eco 20 Sleeping Bag - Approximately $159.00
- Sea to Summit Ether Light XT Insulated Air Sleeping Pad - Approximately $199.00
Total Estimated Cost
449.95 (tent) + 159.00 (sleeping bag) + 199.00 (air pad) = $807.95Adjusted Selection
Since the total exceeds $700, let's swap the air pad for a more budget-friendly option:- REI Co-op Flash Thermal Sleeping Pad
- R-value: 5.3
- Weight: 1 lb. 4 oz.
- Price: $149.00 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
Since this is still slightly over budget, consider checking the sale prices and applying any additional discounts or member coupons REI may be offering during the sale to bring it within the $700 budget.
Final Purchase List
- Big Agnes Copper Spur HV UL2 Tent
- Marmot Trestles Elite Eco 20 Sleeping Bag
- REI Co-op Flash Thermal Sleeping Pad
What if I only want a down filled bag?ChatGPT
Given your preference for a down-filled sleeping bag, let's adjust the selection accordingly. Hereās a revised list of items fitting your criteria and budget:
1. 2-Person Backpacking Tent
- Big Agnes Copper Spur HV UL2 Tent
- Weight: 2 lbs. 11 oz.
- Floor Area: 29 square feet
- Peak Height: 40 inches
- Square Footage to Weight Ratio: Approximately 10.5 sq. ft./lb.
- Price: $449.95 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
2. Mummy Style Men's Down Sleeping Bag (20-30 degrees)
- REI Co-op Magma 15 Sleeping Bag
- Temperature Rating: 15 degrees Fahrenheit
- Weight: 1 lb. 12 oz.
- Fill Power: 850-fill-power goose down
- Price: $399.00 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
- Kelty Cosmic 20 Down Sleeping Bag
- Temperature Rating: 20 degrees Fahrenheit
- Weight: 2 lbs. 10 oz.
- Fill Power: 550-fill-power duck down
- Price: $149.95 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
3. Inflatable Air Pad
- Therm-a-Rest NeoAir XTherm Sleeping Pad
- R-value: 6.9
- Weight: 15 oz.
- Dimensions: 72 x 20 x 2.5 inches (Regular size)
- Price: $239.95 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
- Sea to Summit Ether Light XT Insulated Air Sleeping Pad
- R-value: 4.2
- Weight: 1 lb. 1 oz.
- Dimensions: 72 x 20 x 4 inches (Regular size)
- Price: $199.00 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
Optimal Selection within $700 Budget
- Big Agnes Copper Spur HV UL2 Tent - Approximately $449.95
- Kelty Cosmic 20 Down Sleeping Bag - Approximately $149.95
- Sea to Summit Ether Light XT Insulated Air Sleeping Pad - Approximately $199.00
Total Estimated Cost
449.95 (tent) + 149.95 (sleeping bag) + 199.00 (air pad) = $798.90Since the total is slightly over $700, you can:
- Look for additional discounts or member coupons during the REI Anniversary Sale.
- Consider the REI Co-op Flash Thermal Sleeping Pad to reduce the cost:
- REI Co-op Flash Thermal Sleeping Pad
- R-value: 5.3
- Weight: 1 lb. 4 oz.
- Price: $149.00 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
Final Purchase List
- Big Agnes Copper Spur HV UL2 Tent
- Kelty Cosmic 20 Down Sleeping Bag
- REI Co-op Flash Thermal Sleeping Pad
If I want to save weight and buy the Magma bag instead of the Kelty could I choose a less expensive tent or pad?ChatGPT
Sure, we can select a less expensive tent or pad to fit the REI Co-op Magma 15 sleeping bag within your $700 budget. Hereās an adjusted selection with the Magma sleeping bag:
1. Mummy Style Men's Down Sleeping Bag (20-30 degrees)
- REI Co-op Magma 15 Sleeping Bag
- Temperature Rating: 15 degrees Fahrenheit
- Weight: 1 lb. 12 oz.
- Fill Power: 850-fill-power goose down
- Price: $399.00 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
2. Less Expensive 2-Person Backpacking Tent
- REI Co-op Half Dome SL 2+ Tent
- Weight: 4 lbs. 11 oz.
- Floor Area: 33.75 square feet
- Peak Height: 39 inches
- Price: $329.00 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
- NEMO Dagger 2P Tent
- Weight: 3 lbs. 14 oz.
- Floor Area: 31.3 square feet
- Peak Height: 42 inches
- Price: $479.95 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
3. Inflatable Air Pad
- Therm-a-Rest NeoAir XTherm Sleeping Pad
- R-value: 6.9
- Weight: 15 oz.
- Dimensions: 72 x 20 x 2.5 inches (Regular size)
- Price: $239.95 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
- REI Co-op Flash Thermal Sleeping Pad
- R-value: 5.3
- Weight: 1 lb. 4 oz.
- Price: $149.00 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
Optimal Selection within $700 Budget
- REI Co-op Magma 15 Sleeping Bag - Approximately $399.00
- REI Co-op Half Dome SL 2+ Tent - Approximately $329.00
- REI Co-op Flash Thermal Sleeping Pad - Approximately $149.00
Total Estimated Cost
399.00 (sleeping bag) + 329.00 (tent) + 149.00 (air pad) = $877.00Adjusted Selection with a Less Expensive Tent
To stay within the $700 budget, consider a more affordable tent option:- REI Co-op Passage 2 Tent
- Weight: 5 lbs. 7 oz.
- Floor Area: 31.75 square feet
- Peak Height: 40 inches
- Price: $159.00 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
Since this is still slightly over budget, you can look for additional discounts or member coupons during the REI Anniversary Sale.
Final Purchase List
- REI Co-op Magma 15 Sleeping Bag
- REI Co-op Passage 2 Tent
- REI Co-op Flash Thermal Sleeping Pad
How about if I sell my old car for $300 and raise my budget to $1000. Make sure to keep the Magma bag on the list.ChatGPT
With a new budget of $1000 and keeping the REI Co-op Magma 15 Sleeping Bag on the list, we can choose higher-quality and lightweight items for the tent and sleeping pad. Hereās an optimized selection:
1. Mummy Style Men's Down Sleeping Bag (20-30 degrees)
- REI Co-op Magma 15 Sleeping Bag
- Temperature Rating: 15 degrees Fahrenheit
- Weight: 1 lb. 12 oz.
- Fill Power: 850-fill-power goose down
- Price: $399.00 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
2. 2-Person Backpacking Tent
- Big Agnes Copper Spur HV UL2 Tent
- Weight: 2 lbs. 11 oz.
- Floor Area: 29 square feet
- Peak Height: 40 inches
- Square Footage to Weight Ratio: Approximately 10.5 sq. ft./lb.
- Price: $449.95 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
3. Inflatable Air Pad
- Therm-a-Rest NeoAir XTherm Sleeping Pad
- R-value: 6.9
- Weight: 15 oz.
- Dimensions: 72 x 20 x 2.5 inches (Regular size)
- Price: $239.95 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
Total Estimated Cost
- REI Co-op Magma 15 Sleeping Bag: $399.00
- Big Agnes Copper Spur HV UL2 Tent: $449.95
- Therm-a-Rest NeoAir XTherm Sleeping Pad: $239.95
Given this total, you are slightly over your $1000 budget. Let's look for a less expensive but still high-quality alternative for either the tent or pad to stay within budget:
Alternative Tent Option
- REI Co-op Half Dome SL 2+ Tent
- Weight: 4 lbs. 11 oz.
- Floor Area: 33.75 square feet
- Peak Height: 39 inches
- Price: $329.00 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
- REI Co-op Magma 15 Sleeping Bag: $399.00
- REI Co-op Half Dome SL 2+ Tent: $329.00
- Therm-a-Rest NeoAir XTherm Sleeping Pad: $239.95
Alternative Pad Option
- Sea to Summit Ether Light XT Insulated Air Sleeping Pad
- R-value: 4.2
- Weight: 1 lb. 1 oz.
- Dimensions: 72 x 20 x 4 inches (Regular size)
- Price: $199.00 (Sale price might be lower, check the current discount)
- REI Co-op Magma 15 Sleeping Bag: $399.00
- Big Agnes Copper Spur HV UL2 Tent: $449.95
- Sea to Summit Ether Light XT Insulated Air Sleeping Pad: $199.00
To stay within your $1000 budget, the optimal combination would be:
Final Purchase List
- REI Co-op Magma 15 Sleeping Bag - $399.00
- REI Co-op Half Dome SL 2+ Tent - $329.00
- Therm-a-Rest NeoAir XTherm Sleeping Pad - $239.95
This combination provides a high-quality, lightweight setup while staying within your $1000 budget. Enjoy your upgraded backpacking gear!
Can you give the total price which would account for the current discounts. ChatGPT
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With your increased budget of $1000, here's a selection of high-quality backpacking gear that fits your requirements and takes advantage of the discounts available during REI's 2024 Anniversary Sale:
1. Sleeping Bag
REI Co-op Magma 15 Sleeping Bag (Men's)- Sale Price: $297.49 (25% off from $399.95)
- Features: Down fill, rated for 16Ā°F, 1 lb 12 oz weight, excellent warmth-to-weight ratio.
2. Tent
REI Co-op Half Dome SL 2+ Tent- Sale Price: $262.49 (25% off from $349.95)
- Features: 2-person, 3 lb 15 oz weight, spacious interior, high square footage-to-weight ratio.
3. Sleeping Pad
Therm-a-Rest NeoAir XTherm Sleeping Pad- Sale Price: $187.46 (25% off from $249.95)
- Features: R-value of 6.9, weight 15 oz, high warmth-to-weight ratio.
Total Cost
- Magma 15 Sleeping Bag: $297.49
- Half Dome SL 2+ Tent: $262.49
- NeoAir XTherm Sleeping Pad: $187.46
This combination totals $747.44, leaving you with $252.56 under your $1000 budget. This allows you to either save the remaining amount or consider purchasing additional gear or accessories such as trekking poles, a backpack, or other useful items for your trips.
These prices reflect the discounts available during the REI Anniversary Saleā (REI)āā (Slickdeals)āā (CleverHiker)ā. This setup offers high-quality, lightweight, and efficient gear for your backpacking needs, maximizing your budget effectively.
If I switch the Half Dome tent for the Big Agnes Copper Spur 2 what would be the total price taking into acount the discounts.ChatGPT
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Switching to the Big Agnes Copper Spur HV UL2 tent and keeping the REI Co-op Magma 15 sleeping bag, hereās the updated total with current discounts:
- Big Agnes Copper Spur HV UL2 Tent
- Discounted Price: $300 (40% off from $500)ā (REI)āā (GearJunkie)ā.
- REI Co-op Magma 15 Sleeping Bag
- Discounted Price: $279.93 (25% off from $374.95) .
- NEMO Tensor Insulated Sleeping Pad
- Discounted Price: $127.39 (25% off from $169.95) .
Total Cost Calculation
- Big Agnes Copper Spur HV UL2 Tent: $300
- REI Co-op Magma 15 Sleeping Bag: $279.93
- NEMO Tensor Insulated Sleeping Pad: $127.39
With your new budget of $1000, this total of $707.32 fits well within your budget, leaving you with approximately $292.68 to spare. This combination optimizes for weight, warmth, and overall value, making it an excellent choice for your backpacking needs.
Thank you for your time. Now I can go to the store and not need to get advice from a sales person. ChatGPT
You're welcome! I'm glad I could help. With this information, you should be well-prepared to make informed decisions at the store without needing further advice from sales staff. Enjoy your shopping and your future backpacking adventures! If you have any more questions, feel free to ask.
2024.05.19 18:02 BanananaSquid Need help with colors: Would anyone mind sharing pictures from their moody wedding?
We are having a backyard ceremony followed by a reception at a local art gallery. The very has a more "industrial" feel to it ā you know the look, exposed brick, high ceilings, concrete floor, etc. There will be an TBD art exhibit during the event and it's generally a cool space where I don't feel like I need to do a ton of decorations beyond some tablecloths/runners, center pieces, and maybe som twinkle lights on one of the brick walls, but I know I need to sort out a color palette for the centerpieces and whatnot so things look cohesive. Our wedding website, save the dates, and invites are all black and white since I still have not sorted this out š
The ceremony will be lighter and brighter since it will be in our backyard which will have lots of green and florals, and then I would like to transition to a moodier vibe for the reception. My initial thought is to do deep burgundy and pink bridal bouquets (my partner and I are born women) and then use that same burgundy in the reception space for centerpieces and table runners against the black table cloths that come with the venue. My concern is using the burgundy without it looking like a vampire-y/Halloween-y.
So, all that said I would love some inspiration to see how others have pulled off a moody vibe without it looking gimmicky. Thanks in advance!
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The ceremony will be lighter and brighter since it will be in our backyard which will have lots of green and florals, and then I would like to transition to a moodier vibe for the reception. My initial thought is to do deep burgundy and pink bridal bouquets (my partner and I are born women) and then use that same burgundy in the reception space for centerpieces and table runners against the black table cloths that come with the venue. My concern is using the burgundy without it looking like a vampire-y/Halloween-y.
So, all that said I would love some inspiration to see how others have pulled off a moody vibe without it looking gimmicky. Thanks in advance!
2024.05.19 18:02 SharkEva AITA for refusing to go to my daughter graduation ceremony
I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/Hopeful_Picture586 posting in AmItheAsshole and her user account
Concluded as per OOP
2 updates - Long
Original - 1st June 2022
Update1 - 2nd June 2022
Update2 - 16th October 2022
AITA for refusing to go to my daughter graduation ceremony
I (40sF) have a daughter (18F) who Iāll call Belle. When she was younger, her father (broke up before she was born) was very involved in her life and she was admittedly a ādadās girlā but this all changed when she turned 8 and he got married. He barely called and just abandoned her for his new family. This was obviously hard on her and she rebelled a lot. But she went to therapy and seemed good. Belle has not seen him since she was 12 and he speaks to her maybe 3 times a year maximum. When he calls, she believes he is now back in her life for good then he ghosts her for the remainder of the year. This being said ,Belle and I have a great relationship, we do everything together. She even refers to me as her best friend so Iād say we have a good relationship.
Recently was her graduation and I was excited. But then she came to me a week before and told me she is going to invite her dad and his son. And cos her dad doesnāt want to see me, I canāt come. Belle told me that was the only way he was gonna go. I angrily told her, I felt betrayed and wont forgive her for this. She just told me I have been there for many of her milestones and she wants her father to experience some too. Things got heated and we argued.
The night before her graduation, I pleaded with her but she ignored me when I spoke. And only said āIām sorry but Iām not changing my mind. I left and cried until my sister offered to take me out during the graduation to take my mind of it and I agreed.
I woke up the next morning to my daughter bawling her eyes out. I looked at the time and realised the ceremony starts in 5 minutes. I asked Belle why she hasnāt left yet. Belle then tells me her father ditched her and isnāt answering anymore. I hug her and tell her to make the most of her graduation. She looked shocked and asks if Iām not going to the ceremony now her father isnāt anymore .
And how itāll be embarrassing to be the only one there without parents. I told Iām sorry that I already had plans. She then screamed and called me a bad mom. I apologise once again and got ready to meet my sister. I chose not to go because I felt betrayed and wanted to teach her actions have consequences, even if it broke me that i didnāt go. Since Belle returned she hasnāt spoken a word to me. And she looks depressed and like sheās been crying for ages. Iām starting to regret not going.
My sister says I did the right thing, but one of the moms at my daughter school said she was depressed at graduation and now I feel bad that I ruined what was suppose to be a day to remember because I wanted to teach my daughter a lesson. So aita?
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Mad_Cowboy_64
NTA. You gave her an important lesson about maintaining relationships with the people who are there for you and not blowing them off for the next new thing that comes along.
Agitated_Cheek4890
I fully agree. Daughter treated her horrendously. Daughter might now go NC but she would be an AH to do so given how she's treated her mother. ETA: thank you for the award
Awkward-Wasabi-9262
And OP stop apologizing. You didn't do anything wrong. The more you apologize, the more your daughter believes that her was right in her actions. At best you can say "look, I understand you're hurt and I'm sorry you're upset but this is a consequence of your actions."
Update - 1 day later
I donāt think Iām a bad mom for this one thing. And I accept the judgements and read everything. To answer your question: Belle does go therapy. This isnāt the first time Belle has ditched me for her dad, she been doing it for 10 years. This is the first time I have said no to her after he father abandoned her. I have asked her therapist, if Belle is being manipulated. and she said no based on Belle and her fatherās messages, and my daughter is just grasping onto a reality that isnāt there
Update: I went to my daughter and apologised for not going to her graduation. I also explained that it is not a nice feeling to be left out and I feel under appreciated. Also, that is fine to want her father there for her, but I should too. Belle told me that sheās sorry things ended this way and that she loves me(hugged me)and wants things to go back to normal. And that she acted like a bitch. I told her nevertheless I should have been there and if I could do this all over again, I wouldāve gone. ( honestly I said this as I thought she now knew her dad canāt be trusted- and I felt for her).
Then I asked her if she regret uninviting me in the first place and unsurprisingly she said no. This hurt me but I figured it was because I didnāt go so it was understandable. But no, she continued saying that it was probably best I didnāt go because she wouldāve been more miserable as she would have preferred her dad to be there anyway. Then I got pissed( I didnāt show it). I told her my feeling were hurt, especially since Iāve been there for her.
And she said that sheās always going to want her dad there for her big moments. I asked, even at the expense of me and knowing he most likely wonāt show. And she replied ā I mean if I have to make sacrifices, Iām going to, to have my dad there. I repeated the question as she seemed to be swerving it but she just shrugged and went on her phone. I told her not to expect everyone to apologise and turn a blind eye when she doesnāt value them in the real world. And i also said, knowing how she feels, donāt expect another apology from me and this is the last time Iām doing this. She looked tear eyes but I left.
I donāt know how other parents do this. I know her father is going to keep abandoning her and honestly Iām at my limit. And If I didnāt know whether I was wrong or not before, I definitely know I was right in not going. I know Iām going to get a lot of backlash saying this but Iām bitter and angry. I understand wanting her dad there but I should be on the same level of importance as him. Iām still going to be there for her when he inevitable ditches her again but if this behaviour carries on to her next graduation or wedding day. I canāt say Iāll be that apologetic to her. I shouldāve just listened to NTA.
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Alibeee64
Can I ask why her dad didnāt want you at the ceremony? It sounds like you donāt have an issue with him, but he obviously has one with you. Perhaps your daughter needs to work to understand this, as he seems very vindictive. If she doesnāt learn to set boundaries with him, what is going to happen when he makes similar demands at other important life events like college graduation, or her wedding? Is she going to expect you to keep letting her run over you emotionally in order to accommodate her dadās crazy demands, especially when he keeps letting her down. And is she going to spend her life chasing after men who emotionally distance themselves from her because her relationship with her father has taught her to do this?
Update - 4 months later
Iām sure no one asked for this update but here goes.
Iām going to refer to Belle's father as Frank.
For the past few months Iāve done a lot of reflection. Although, I canāt say I regret not going to Bās graduation ceremony, I do wish I handled the situation more like an adult. Growing up, I was taught never to ask questions I donāt want the answer to and that is exactly what I did with my daughter. I shouldnāt have asked if she regretted uninviting me because truthfully I didnāt want to hear the answer. And for that, i think I acted childish.
To clear up some misconception: I donāt speak to Belleās father simply because he refuses to be cooperative. Also, when I said Belle referred to me as her ābest friendā. This doesnāt mean I treat her like my equal. I do parent her, she did get grounded and got her phone taken away when she misbehaved at school etc( which is rarely). I think she calls me that because she feels comfortable to talk to me about everything.
Now to the update: There was an incident after, where Belle wanted her dadās help her move into her college apartment before term started but he refused because he āhad workā. She begged for weeks. The whole 3 hour ride to her college was her crying hysterically. My sister consoled her but if Iām being honest I was pissed. Pissed at my daughter as she refuses to go therapy anymore, but seriously pissed at my ex.
It took me ages after graduation but I finally got in contact with Fās aunt. I explained the situation and that I need to get into contact with him as heās either ignoring or not getting my messages. He ended up sending me a very long letter. In a small nutshell, it said that my daughter has been stalking and threatening him and his family and heās been trying to have a healthy relationship with her but she keeps being aggressive so he had to distance himself.
He acknowledges he hasnāt been the best father but he tried for the past few years and Belle is too aggressive so he had to put the safety of his family first. As for the graduation, he wrote that he definitely refused to go. And only said it was probably for the best as I probably wouldnāt feel too comfortable with him there. He said not to contact him again and that weāve done enough damage.
He added photocopies of messages between him and Belle, where she āsaysā deeply troubling things, like physical threats. Personally, I thought everything he said was BS and misconstrued. I spoke to Belle and told her of her fatherās accusations. She broke down in tears hysterically and admitted that she hasnāt been the nicest to Frankās wife and child (understandably) but she never threatened and stalked them. I was trying to calm her down. I told her I believe her and suggested therapy. Then she turned on me, blaming me for the breakdown between her and her father relationship.
She swore at me and broke stuff. She told me to stop trying to villainize her father, when Iām the problem. She called me a burden and cancer and said I shouldāve stayed out of her business. I was called a bad mother and told I should burn in hell. To be clear, she was never violent towards me. She packed her stuff and left, presumably back to college. Me or my family havenāt heard from her since. I called and called but only got one message from a random number telling me to leave her alone. I told her Iām always here whenās sheās ready to talk.
Itās been 2+ months since I spoke to her. Iāll never admit this to anyone but honestly I feel relieved. My self esteem plummeted and I felt dead for the longest time because of this situation. Iām going therapy and feel the tiniest bit better. I finally went on a date yesterday for the first time in a decade, without getting guilted. In hindsight, mine and Bās relationship were no where near perfect. I donāt know what more I couldāve done but I wished I did more. Sheās my child and she was a victim of an overall shit situation.
Sorry for the long update.
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maybemaybo
I'm guessing with the graduation he likely said something like "and your mom probably wouldn't be comfortable seeing me.." in an attempt to let her down politely.
And that probably led her to go "well if I uninvite my mum, problem solved!" refusing to actually see the truth, that he won't come because it doesn't fit in with their fantasy.
I would honestly reach out to F's family member and say "pass on that he should use these threats to try and get a restraining order" because now she's cut you off, who knows how much more desperate she is to get to him.
I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP. Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
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Concluded as per OOP
2 updates - Long
Original - 1st June 2022
Update1 - 2nd June 2022
Update2 - 16th October 2022
AITA for refusing to go to my daughter graduation ceremony
I (40sF) have a daughter (18F) who Iāll call Belle. When she was younger, her father (broke up before she was born) was very involved in her life and she was admittedly a ādadās girlā but this all changed when she turned 8 and he got married. He barely called and just abandoned her for his new family. This was obviously hard on her and she rebelled a lot. But she went to therapy and seemed good. Belle has not seen him since she was 12 and he speaks to her maybe 3 times a year maximum. When he calls, she believes he is now back in her life for good then he ghosts her for the remainder of the year. This being said ,Belle and I have a great relationship, we do everything together. She even refers to me as her best friend so Iād say we have a good relationship.
Recently was her graduation and I was excited. But then she came to me a week before and told me she is going to invite her dad and his son. And cos her dad doesnāt want to see me, I canāt come. Belle told me that was the only way he was gonna go. I angrily told her, I felt betrayed and wont forgive her for this. She just told me I have been there for many of her milestones and she wants her father to experience some too. Things got heated and we argued.
The night before her graduation, I pleaded with her but she ignored me when I spoke. And only said āIām sorry but Iām not changing my mind. I left and cried until my sister offered to take me out during the graduation to take my mind of it and I agreed.
I woke up the next morning to my daughter bawling her eyes out. I looked at the time and realised the ceremony starts in 5 minutes. I asked Belle why she hasnāt left yet. Belle then tells me her father ditched her and isnāt answering anymore. I hug her and tell her to make the most of her graduation. She looked shocked and asks if Iām not going to the ceremony now her father isnāt anymore .
And how itāll be embarrassing to be the only one there without parents. I told Iām sorry that I already had plans. She then screamed and called me a bad mom. I apologise once again and got ready to meet my sister. I chose not to go because I felt betrayed and wanted to teach her actions have consequences, even if it broke me that i didnāt go. Since Belle returned she hasnāt spoken a word to me. And she looks depressed and like sheās been crying for ages. Iām starting to regret not going.
My sister says I did the right thing, but one of the moms at my daughter school said she was depressed at graduation and now I feel bad that I ruined what was suppose to be a day to remember because I wanted to teach my daughter a lesson. So aita?
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Mad_Cowboy_64
NTA. You gave her an important lesson about maintaining relationships with the people who are there for you and not blowing them off for the next new thing that comes along.
Agitated_Cheek4890
I fully agree. Daughter treated her horrendously. Daughter might now go NC but she would be an AH to do so given how she's treated her mother. ETA: thank you for the award
Awkward-Wasabi-9262
And OP stop apologizing. You didn't do anything wrong. The more you apologize, the more your daughter believes that her was right in her actions. At best you can say "look, I understand you're hurt and I'm sorry you're upset but this is a consequence of your actions."
Update - 1 day later
I donāt think Iām a bad mom for this one thing. And I accept the judgements and read everything. To answer your question: Belle does go therapy. This isnāt the first time Belle has ditched me for her dad, she been doing it for 10 years. This is the first time I have said no to her after he father abandoned her. I have asked her therapist, if Belle is being manipulated. and she said no based on Belle and her fatherās messages, and my daughter is just grasping onto a reality that isnāt there
Update: I went to my daughter and apologised for not going to her graduation. I also explained that it is not a nice feeling to be left out and I feel under appreciated. Also, that is fine to want her father there for her, but I should too. Belle told me that sheās sorry things ended this way and that she loves me(hugged me)and wants things to go back to normal. And that she acted like a bitch. I told her nevertheless I should have been there and if I could do this all over again, I wouldāve gone. ( honestly I said this as I thought she now knew her dad canāt be trusted- and I felt for her).
Then I asked her if she regret uninviting me in the first place and unsurprisingly she said no. This hurt me but I figured it was because I didnāt go so it was understandable. But no, she continued saying that it was probably best I didnāt go because she wouldāve been more miserable as she would have preferred her dad to be there anyway. Then I got pissed( I didnāt show it). I told her my feeling were hurt, especially since Iāve been there for her.
And she said that sheās always going to want her dad there for her big moments. I asked, even at the expense of me and knowing he most likely wonāt show. And she replied ā I mean if I have to make sacrifices, Iām going to, to have my dad there. I repeated the question as she seemed to be swerving it but she just shrugged and went on her phone. I told her not to expect everyone to apologise and turn a blind eye when she doesnāt value them in the real world. And i also said, knowing how she feels, donāt expect another apology from me and this is the last time Iām doing this. She looked tear eyes but I left.
I donāt know how other parents do this. I know her father is going to keep abandoning her and honestly Iām at my limit. And If I didnāt know whether I was wrong or not before, I definitely know I was right in not going. I know Iām going to get a lot of backlash saying this but Iām bitter and angry. I understand wanting her dad there but I should be on the same level of importance as him. Iām still going to be there for her when he inevitable ditches her again but if this behaviour carries on to her next graduation or wedding day. I canāt say Iāll be that apologetic to her. I shouldāve just listened to NTA.
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Alibeee64
Can I ask why her dad didnāt want you at the ceremony? It sounds like you donāt have an issue with him, but he obviously has one with you. Perhaps your daughter needs to work to understand this, as he seems very vindictive. If she doesnāt learn to set boundaries with him, what is going to happen when he makes similar demands at other important life events like college graduation, or her wedding? Is she going to expect you to keep letting her run over you emotionally in order to accommodate her dadās crazy demands, especially when he keeps letting her down. And is she going to spend her life chasing after men who emotionally distance themselves from her because her relationship with her father has taught her to do this?
OOP: Honestly we broke up on good terms. I havenāt spoken to him in years though. And when I have seen their messages, itās always small talk and nothing about me. So I donāt where this came from.
Update - 4 months later
Iām sure no one asked for this update but here goes.
Iām going to refer to Belle's father as Frank.
For the past few months Iāve done a lot of reflection. Although, I canāt say I regret not going to Bās graduation ceremony, I do wish I handled the situation more like an adult. Growing up, I was taught never to ask questions I donāt want the answer to and that is exactly what I did with my daughter. I shouldnāt have asked if she regretted uninviting me because truthfully I didnāt want to hear the answer. And for that, i think I acted childish.
To clear up some misconception: I donāt speak to Belleās father simply because he refuses to be cooperative. Also, when I said Belle referred to me as her ābest friendā. This doesnāt mean I treat her like my equal. I do parent her, she did get grounded and got her phone taken away when she misbehaved at school etc( which is rarely). I think she calls me that because she feels comfortable to talk to me about everything.
Now to the update: There was an incident after, where Belle wanted her dadās help her move into her college apartment before term started but he refused because he āhad workā. She begged for weeks. The whole 3 hour ride to her college was her crying hysterically. My sister consoled her but if Iām being honest I was pissed. Pissed at my daughter as she refuses to go therapy anymore, but seriously pissed at my ex.
It took me ages after graduation but I finally got in contact with Fās aunt. I explained the situation and that I need to get into contact with him as heās either ignoring or not getting my messages. He ended up sending me a very long letter. In a small nutshell, it said that my daughter has been stalking and threatening him and his family and heās been trying to have a healthy relationship with her but she keeps being aggressive so he had to distance himself.
He acknowledges he hasnāt been the best father but he tried for the past few years and Belle is too aggressive so he had to put the safety of his family first. As for the graduation, he wrote that he definitely refused to go. And only said it was probably for the best as I probably wouldnāt feel too comfortable with him there. He said not to contact him again and that weāve done enough damage.
He added photocopies of messages between him and Belle, where she āsaysā deeply troubling things, like physical threats. Personally, I thought everything he said was BS and misconstrued. I spoke to Belle and told her of her fatherās accusations. She broke down in tears hysterically and admitted that she hasnāt been the nicest to Frankās wife and child (understandably) but she never threatened and stalked them. I was trying to calm her down. I told her I believe her and suggested therapy. Then she turned on me, blaming me for the breakdown between her and her father relationship.
She swore at me and broke stuff. She told me to stop trying to villainize her father, when Iām the problem. She called me a burden and cancer and said I shouldāve stayed out of her business. I was called a bad mother and told I should burn in hell. To be clear, she was never violent towards me. She packed her stuff and left, presumably back to college. Me or my family havenāt heard from her since. I called and called but only got one message from a random number telling me to leave her alone. I told her Iām always here whenās sheās ready to talk.
Itās been 2+ months since I spoke to her. Iāll never admit this to anyone but honestly I feel relieved. My self esteem plummeted and I felt dead for the longest time because of this situation. Iām going therapy and feel the tiniest bit better. I finally went on a date yesterday for the first time in a decade, without getting guilted. In hindsight, mine and Bās relationship were no where near perfect. I donāt know what more I couldāve done but I wished I did more. Sheās my child and she was a victim of an overall shit situation.
Sorry for the long update.
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maybemaybo
I'm guessing with the graduation he likely said something like "and your mom probably wouldn't be comfortable seeing me.." in an attempt to let her down politely.
And that probably led her to go "well if I uninvite my mum, problem solved!" refusing to actually see the truth, that he won't come because it doesn't fit in with their fantasy.
I would honestly reach out to F's family member and say "pass on that he should use these threats to try and get a restraining order" because now she's cut you off, who knows how much more desperate she is to get to him.
I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP. Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
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2024.05.19 17:58 Ihatesolus Is there any real proof that women are sexual beings or is it just hearsay?
Tons of studies that show men releasing tons of endorphins during sex, tons of studies showing pleasure is a man's main motivation to have sex, studies show men initiate sex far more, masturbate far more, think about sex more ect... but I haven't seen any for women
I mean, men have a near 100% success rate of reaching orgasm through intercourse alone, the act that causes reproduction in humans, where as women rarely reach orgasm through it at all. That's pretty insane when you think about it. That pretty much means that nature itself didn't select for female pleasure.
Like, so many things that point towards men being sexual beings and not women. Not to mention, the thousands of anecdotal threads on this site that all have women talking about how inconsequintal intercourse is. Hell, there was a thread that asked if women could live without intercourse in a relationship and most of them said forever. Men would never say shit like that.
Is there any study that proves otherwise? Like a study that shows women brain chemisty during sex or something? I rarely get intimate with my new GF anymore because I'm starting to believe women "give" sex to their partner which is gross to me and is a huge turn off.
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I mean, men have a near 100% success rate of reaching orgasm through intercourse alone, the act that causes reproduction in humans, where as women rarely reach orgasm through it at all. That's pretty insane when you think about it. That pretty much means that nature itself didn't select for female pleasure.
Like, so many things that point towards men being sexual beings and not women. Not to mention, the thousands of anecdotal threads on this site that all have women talking about how inconsequintal intercourse is. Hell, there was a thread that asked if women could live without intercourse in a relationship and most of them said forever. Men would never say shit like that.
Is there any study that proves otherwise? Like a study that shows women brain chemisty during sex or something? I rarely get intimate with my new GF anymore because I'm starting to believe women "give" sex to their partner which is gross to me and is a huge turn off.
2024.05.19 17:58 Beneficial-Mix-9716 Help with Poco x 3 pro
Phone is very faulty. It just randomly got stuck on poco boot loop. after draining battery, wiping data, booting from recovery, nothing happened. I plugged in the charger and wrapped the phone in a microfiber cloth to heat it up to see if it would work and it did. After a few hours wrapped up and heating it starting working. worked for a month then back to boot loop. I did the same thing but this time it only worked after i left it heating for a day. used it for 3 months and now back to the same issue. after heating it came back on again but as soon as i played an instagram reel it got stuck and back to boot loop and now nothing is getting it off the logo and it does not boot into recovery without many many many different tries. I open the back cover and disconnected the batter to try something new but nothing seems to work now. now the charging light only comes on when the battery is disconnected. so confused on what to do from here
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2024.05.19 17:56 No_Huckleberry_6601 [SF] Fence in the Zoo
Mikan has a habit of pondering many things while waiting for her mother to use the restroom. It is not aimless daydreaming, but rather akin to how some people would keep different books by their bedside, toilet, and office. Mikan always use this time to think about light but continuous things. Typically, she'd spend three to five minutes, with the first minute warming up, recalling where she left off in the book from the last time, then staring at her nails, progressing her thoughts bit by bit.
She developed this habit during her first visit to the zoo. That spring, she graduated from kindergarten, and before leaving the house, her mother was in front of the mirror, adjusting Mikanās elementary school uniform. The zoo was on a seaside cliff, connected to the foot of the mountain by a narrow path lined with cherry blossoms. Children of all ages sat on the steps, waiting for a gust of wind to blow so they could shout for their mothers to take pictures. Mikan buried her head and walked up, thinking the others were childish. At that time, her father was still young; his neck had not yet thickened, and his eyelids had not drooped. When they left, she asked her mother who the strange uncle was, the one who knew so much about giraffes. She couldnāt remember how her mother answered, but she remembered seeing a kitten lying on the hillside, showing its belly to the sunset, making her exclaim "wow" to the cherry blossoms. From that day on, one weekend a month, she would go to the zoo with her mother to meet her father. During the time her mother was in the restroom, Mikan used it to think about the kitten. She had imagined raising three kittens: the first was tortoiseshell, then an orange one like her surname, and the latest was another tortoiseshell. Each cat lived for twelve years, and she thought about the world and herself thirty-six years later.
She didnāt always think about cats. Occasionally, when she didnāt go with her mother, she would talk with her classmates about how they envied the animals in the zoo, like gorillas and hyenas. Although there were no lions or tigers, there were lynxes. They looked so ugly, walking on all fours all their lives, but they were lucky to live by the sea and enjoy the sea breeze for a lifetime. The crude boys in her class would retort, saying, "Yeah, yeah, they can even poop directly into the sea."
After graduation, she never saw that boy again. All the boys would go to Tokyo when they were young; that was the rule. Only when they were old and decrepit would they be reluctantly sent back by the younger ones. But she often thought about that classmate. By the time she raised her third cat, he might have come back. When she saw the sea again, the image of a smooth butt hanging over the cliff came to mind. When she got into Waseda University, she told her mother that she might consider marrying that classmate.
When Mikan was little, she secretly asked her father how he fell in love with her mother. The primate area always had a strange smell, between animal and human. Her mother didnāt like the smell, standing five meters away near the door for ventilation (they couldnāt go further in because they were not allowed to meet outside the guardianās sight; that was the rule). She didnāt remember what her father said, but she remembered pressing her hand against the glass, with an orangutan looking at her disdainfully. She felt like she was the one being watched. But her father must have said something, without hesitation, as if talking about a daily matter. It was too mundane, overshadowed by the contemptuous orangutan in her memory.
Influenced by her mother, Mikan also didnāt like the smell of the primate area. It wasnāt that it was unpleasant; it was like touching the residual warmth of someone who just left their seat, the mixed smell of decaying wood and butter in old temples, awkward and cautious. The only chance she almost had to be alone with that classmate was during a field trip. Both happened to be lingering at the entrance of the primate area. Mikan was there first, then the boy appeared behind her, peeking around. The introduction at the entrance had been scanned five or six times. Inside, the darkness reminded Mikan of the anteaterās mouth she had just seen. The boy asked, āAre you afraid to go in?ā Mikan replied, āOf course not.ā The boy retorted, āCoward, the teacher said not to wander off; you definitely wonāt dare.ā Mikan suddenly felt annoyed and walked in. When she reached the orangutanās window and looked back, the boy had already disappeared. Mikan thought, childish.
One summer, a cat sneaked into the zoo and was brutally tortured by baboons before being killed. Mikan learned about it from the morning paper, crumbs scattered on it. The front page was about US-Japan trade friction, followed by news about Tokyo, Syria, obituaries, nuclear, and the next Olympicsā sailing event being held on the local beach. The news was arranged from far to near, and finally, in the middle column, she saw this news.
"Such a pity, so sad, so heartbreaking, so infuriating." She inhaled deeply and exhaled.
She didnāt know what this incident meant for the townspeople. Didnāt the middle column mean it was unimportant? She didnāt understand, but the townspeople seemed outraged, eventually passing a resolution to lower the male zoo supervision age to fourteen. The next day, this proposal moved to the front page, although not the headline, it stood alongside news from the US and Europe.
But this wasnāt a distant matter for her. Recently, she had joined the baseball team because that boy also loved baseball. At a celebration party, when discussing future high schools, he talked eagerly about a famous school in Tokyo, jokingly preparing for life there. Everyone laughed at this joke.
The front-page news explained the lawmakers' logic: due to menās violence and animalistic nature, our country decided to confine men in zoos years ago, something we have always been proud of. Over the years, many outstanding women have joined the country to restrain their husbands' potential harm to the world. But our solution isnāt perfect. When does a child become a man? The radicals believe itās at adulthood, at twenty, the legal marriage age. Conservatives argue that maleness is in the chromosomes and should be separated at the hospital. The incident with the baboons harming the cat further proves the harm of violence and animality to civilization. We should be more cautious and responsible. Thus, in our town, the second sex characteristic is used as the basis for identifying males.
This event was written into textbooks, leading to significant zoo renovations. Besides old mothers bringing their children to see their fathers, the zoo now provided spaces for the new generation of women to date their boyfriends in the park. For the townās zoo, this room added at the end of the primate area, with rain hitting the iron roof, animal calls (and conversations from the menās park) and the sound of waves hitting the cliffs, seemed far from a suitable place for romance. Mikan had never been there.
She never saw that boy again, though he didnāt play baseball. He likely lived the life he joked about, pooping off the cliff.
When her mother came out of the restroom, Mikan was imagining holding the tortoiseshell cat that had just died. She remembered her father saying that the zooās most famous animal was a giraffe, but it was a specimen, transported from Tokyo Zoo, always standing in the most conspicuous place. He saw it every morning as if it were still alive. She asked if he would become a specimen too, but she couldnāt remember his answer (she always remembered her questions but not othersā answers).
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She developed this habit during her first visit to the zoo. That spring, she graduated from kindergarten, and before leaving the house, her mother was in front of the mirror, adjusting Mikanās elementary school uniform. The zoo was on a seaside cliff, connected to the foot of the mountain by a narrow path lined with cherry blossoms. Children of all ages sat on the steps, waiting for a gust of wind to blow so they could shout for their mothers to take pictures. Mikan buried her head and walked up, thinking the others were childish. At that time, her father was still young; his neck had not yet thickened, and his eyelids had not drooped. When they left, she asked her mother who the strange uncle was, the one who knew so much about giraffes. She couldnāt remember how her mother answered, but she remembered seeing a kitten lying on the hillside, showing its belly to the sunset, making her exclaim "wow" to the cherry blossoms. From that day on, one weekend a month, she would go to the zoo with her mother to meet her father. During the time her mother was in the restroom, Mikan used it to think about the kitten. She had imagined raising three kittens: the first was tortoiseshell, then an orange one like her surname, and the latest was another tortoiseshell. Each cat lived for twelve years, and she thought about the world and herself thirty-six years later.
She didnāt always think about cats. Occasionally, when she didnāt go with her mother, she would talk with her classmates about how they envied the animals in the zoo, like gorillas and hyenas. Although there were no lions or tigers, there were lynxes. They looked so ugly, walking on all fours all their lives, but they were lucky to live by the sea and enjoy the sea breeze for a lifetime. The crude boys in her class would retort, saying, "Yeah, yeah, they can even poop directly into the sea."
After graduation, she never saw that boy again. All the boys would go to Tokyo when they were young; that was the rule. Only when they were old and decrepit would they be reluctantly sent back by the younger ones. But she often thought about that classmate. By the time she raised her third cat, he might have come back. When she saw the sea again, the image of a smooth butt hanging over the cliff came to mind. When she got into Waseda University, she told her mother that she might consider marrying that classmate.
When Mikan was little, she secretly asked her father how he fell in love with her mother. The primate area always had a strange smell, between animal and human. Her mother didnāt like the smell, standing five meters away near the door for ventilation (they couldnāt go further in because they were not allowed to meet outside the guardianās sight; that was the rule). She didnāt remember what her father said, but she remembered pressing her hand against the glass, with an orangutan looking at her disdainfully. She felt like she was the one being watched. But her father must have said something, without hesitation, as if talking about a daily matter. It was too mundane, overshadowed by the contemptuous orangutan in her memory.
Influenced by her mother, Mikan also didnāt like the smell of the primate area. It wasnāt that it was unpleasant; it was like touching the residual warmth of someone who just left their seat, the mixed smell of decaying wood and butter in old temples, awkward and cautious. The only chance she almost had to be alone with that classmate was during a field trip. Both happened to be lingering at the entrance of the primate area. Mikan was there first, then the boy appeared behind her, peeking around. The introduction at the entrance had been scanned five or six times. Inside, the darkness reminded Mikan of the anteaterās mouth she had just seen. The boy asked, āAre you afraid to go in?ā Mikan replied, āOf course not.ā The boy retorted, āCoward, the teacher said not to wander off; you definitely wonāt dare.ā Mikan suddenly felt annoyed and walked in. When she reached the orangutanās window and looked back, the boy had already disappeared. Mikan thought, childish.
One summer, a cat sneaked into the zoo and was brutally tortured by baboons before being killed. Mikan learned about it from the morning paper, crumbs scattered on it. The front page was about US-Japan trade friction, followed by news about Tokyo, Syria, obituaries, nuclear, and the next Olympicsā sailing event being held on the local beach. The news was arranged from far to near, and finally, in the middle column, she saw this news.
"Such a pity, so sad, so heartbreaking, so infuriating." She inhaled deeply and exhaled.
She didnāt know what this incident meant for the townspeople. Didnāt the middle column mean it was unimportant? She didnāt understand, but the townspeople seemed outraged, eventually passing a resolution to lower the male zoo supervision age to fourteen. The next day, this proposal moved to the front page, although not the headline, it stood alongside news from the US and Europe.
But this wasnāt a distant matter for her. Recently, she had joined the baseball team because that boy also loved baseball. At a celebration party, when discussing future high schools, he talked eagerly about a famous school in Tokyo, jokingly preparing for life there. Everyone laughed at this joke.
The front-page news explained the lawmakers' logic: due to menās violence and animalistic nature, our country decided to confine men in zoos years ago, something we have always been proud of. Over the years, many outstanding women have joined the country to restrain their husbands' potential harm to the world. But our solution isnāt perfect. When does a child become a man? The radicals believe itās at adulthood, at twenty, the legal marriage age. Conservatives argue that maleness is in the chromosomes and should be separated at the hospital. The incident with the baboons harming the cat further proves the harm of violence and animality to civilization. We should be more cautious and responsible. Thus, in our town, the second sex characteristic is used as the basis for identifying males.
This event was written into textbooks, leading to significant zoo renovations. Besides old mothers bringing their children to see their fathers, the zoo now provided spaces for the new generation of women to date their boyfriends in the park. For the townās zoo, this room added at the end of the primate area, with rain hitting the iron roof, animal calls (and conversations from the menās park) and the sound of waves hitting the cliffs, seemed far from a suitable place for romance. Mikan had never been there.
She never saw that boy again, though he didnāt play baseball. He likely lived the life he joked about, pooping off the cliff.
When her mother came out of the restroom, Mikan was imagining holding the tortoiseshell cat that had just died. She remembered her father saying that the zooās most famous animal was a giraffe, but it was a specimen, transported from Tokyo Zoo, always standing in the most conspicuous place. He saw it every morning as if it were still alive. She asked if he would become a specimen too, but she couldnāt remember his answer (she always remembered her questions but not othersā answers).
2024.05.19 17:55 _Juiceboxhero- Deep Dive
Letās take a deep dive into his clothing choices.
Say he is out in public. He decides to head to the bathroom, he has to deal with shorts, and a bodysuit.
Iām guessing he uses the menās bathroom, but must steer clear of a urinal.
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Say he is out in public. He decides to head to the bathroom, he has to deal with shorts, and a bodysuit.
Iām guessing he uses the menās bathroom, but must steer clear of a urinal.
2024.05.19 17:54 RoseVincent314 Mad Men makes me glad I entered the workforce after The Women's Lib movement.
I am so glad I entered the work force in the 80s...and that most the men I worked with were gay. I owned a Salon and Spa as well as teaching, mentoring, working with my trade magazines and as a photoshoot director. I would not have lasted 5 minutes in any of these offices with all the inappropriate touching, disgusting comments and outright sexual demands. I went through some but nothing like the ladies before me did.
As an apprentice I had a a male client try and grab me while I washed his hair. I held the hose over his face..I was 16...My boss told me to apologize. I told him to eff off. He said 'you're fired' I laughed and said...'I thought you understood that Eff Off meant this job also'. The person to defend me was a gay man. Michael. I walked out...
My parents yelled at me for quitting because I wouldn't say why...I finally told them
My dad went up there with an axe..and said to my boss..'YOU apologize to my daughter'. Then he asked who is Michael... My dad shook his hand and said..'this is how a real man defends a lady. You are welcome in my home anytime. I am grateful to you'. As we left he turned my boss and said...'I can't beat the crap out of you today because there are too many witnesses...but keep an eye out for me'...
Lol my boss looked like he was going pee his pants. My dad said to me...I am proud of you. I don't care who it is, if anyone tries somethingon you at work or any place walk out. You can tell me anything'. My dad was my hero.
I love the show because this is how it was. I saw it as a kid how men behaved back then. I saw it with that generation of men and how they complained when women would not tolerate their garbage anymore. When we demanded equal pay and work without harassment. We are still working on it...
To paraphrase one of my favorite ads... We've come a long way baby!
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As an apprentice I had a a male client try and grab me while I washed his hair. I held the hose over his face..I was 16...My boss told me to apologize. I told him to eff off. He said 'you're fired' I laughed and said...'I thought you understood that Eff Off meant this job also'. The person to defend me was a gay man. Michael. I walked out...
My parents yelled at me for quitting because I wouldn't say why...I finally told them
My dad went up there with an axe..and said to my boss..'YOU apologize to my daughter'. Then he asked who is Michael... My dad shook his hand and said..'this is how a real man defends a lady. You are welcome in my home anytime. I am grateful to you'. As we left he turned my boss and said...'I can't beat the crap out of you today because there are too many witnesses...but keep an eye out for me'...
Lol my boss looked like he was going pee his pants. My dad said to me...I am proud of you. I don't care who it is, if anyone tries somethingon you at work or any place walk out. You can tell me anything'. My dad was my hero.
I love the show because this is how it was. I saw it as a kid how men behaved back then. I saw it with that generation of men and how they complained when women would not tolerate their garbage anymore. When we demanded equal pay and work without harassment. We are still working on it...
To paraphrase one of my favorite ads... We've come a long way baby!
2024.05.19 17:53 Dear_Fox8157 I fucking hate the EA app and buying things in general.
I paid my hard earned money for a fucking game that I canāt even play because I spend more time fixing this shit greedy app than actually playing the games that I fucking paid for. They charge absolute fortunes for their game packs for the sims 4 only to give people who pay Ā£30+ broken packs and broken games along with a fucking app that wonāt even download. It sounds silly that Iām putting this on here but this is a game that so many people have spent hundreds of pounds on and everything nowadays is so expensive in the uk where I live already, and we get scammed by greedy companies and canāt even unwind and relax at the end of the day to play a game WE paid for. This isnāt even just EA. This is so many other companies out there. From clothing, to food, and so on. I feel like this really shows how greedy every single fucking company is nowadays. You canāt buy anything nowadays without being screwed over. You just canāt. Then these exact same companies go round stealing from other smaller ones. So fucking sick and tired of my money going to this crap. The same goes with taxes. Even our taxes go to greedy bullshit. You cannot buy anything nowadays without it being bullshit. You canāt buy a house you canāt buy shit. Iām so sick and tired of the greed. And everyone says oh just donāt buy from them then. I fucking CANT. There is NO OTHER CHOICE SINCE BIG COMPANIES TAKE OWNERSHIP OF EVERYTHING SO YOU END UP PAYING THEM ANYWAY. Thereās no other options for anything you buy nowadays and Iām fucking sick and tired of it. You have no fucking choices but to keep giving these greedy shitbags money.
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2024.05.19 17:52 D1S70R73D_P3RC3P710N What are Hallucinations and Illusions and how are They Different?
Hallucinations:
Hallucinations are sensory perceptions that are not based on actual sensory input. In other words, a hallucination is the mind creating something or someone that does not exist resulting in a false perception of reality. Hallucinations can be visual, auditory, olfactory, tactile, somatic, or gustatory.Visual hallucinations relate to seeing or viewing something or someone that is not there in reality. Examples of this would be seeing a person who does not exist (or is not present) or objects that do not exist (or are not present). Still, many people can also experience visual hallucinations of things that do not exist (or have no evidence of existing) such as ghosts, demons, or other metaphysical entities. Some visual hallucinations can result in anxiety, anger, depression, or other unwanted emotions and may lead a person to become paranoid.
Auditory hallucinations relate to hearing a sound (or multiple) that was never created. Examples of this would be hearing somebody call your name despite nobody saying your name, or hearing voices despite nobody speaking to you. Some auditory hallucinations much like visual ones can result in anxiety, anger, depression, or other unwanted emotions and may lead to paranoia.
Olfactory hallucinations relate to smelling something that does not exist or is not present. Examples of this would be smelling a type of food despite that specific food not being present or smelling something foul despite a source. Olfactory hallucinations are a symptom and can be related to anxiety and/or depression, and can lead to irritability or anger.
Tactile hallucinations relate to feeling a sensation without a cause. Examples of this would be feeling someone touch you despite nobody being around you, or feeling insects crawling on your skin even though insects are not present. Tactile hallucinations can result in anxiety, depression, anger, or other unwanted emotions and may lead to paranoia.
Somatic hallucinations relate to feeling a painful sensation without a cause. Tactile and somatic hallucinations both relate to physically feeling a sensation despite a stimulus, though somatic hallucinations are painful. Examples of this would be feeling animals inside of your body causing pain, or a burning sensation like you are on fire. Somatic hallucinations can result in anxiety, anger, depression, or other unwanted emotions that may lead to paranoia.
Gustatory hallucinations refer to tasting something that does not exist or without a stimulus. Examples of this would be tasting a type of food without eating said food. Gustatory hallucinations are a symptom and can be related to anxiety and/or depression, and can lead to irritability or anger.
Illusions
Illusions are a misrepresentation of perception, in other words, the brain processes information that exists but distorts it resulting in a distorted perception of reality. Similar to hallucinations there are many types of illusions such as visual, auditory, tactile, olfactory, and perceptual.Visual illusions relate to seeing or viewing information differently than it is presented in reality. Examples of this would be seeing objects change in size or color, or seeing the room you are within or yourself shrink or grow bigger. Visual illusions can result in anxiety, anger, depression, or other unwanted emotions that may lead to paranoia.
Auditory illusions relate to hearing sounds differently than they are presented in reality. Examples of this would be hearing the words someone speaks differently than how they spoke them. Auditory illusions can result in anxiety, anger, depression, or other unwanted emotions that may lead to paranoia.
tactile illusions relate to feeling something in a different way than how you would normally. Examples of this would be feeling cold water as hot, or feeling someone touching your left arm despite them touching your right. Tactile illusions can result in anxiety, anger, depression, or other unwanted emotions that may lead to paranoia.
Olfactory illusions relate to smelling something differently than how it smells in reality. Examples of this would be smelling an apple pie as if it were a blueberry pie, this is typically caused by an auditory or visual representation of a blueberry pie (for this example). Olfactory illusions are a symptom and may relate to anxiety and/or depression and can result in irritability or anger
Perceptual Illusions relate to perceiving something differently than what it is. Examples of this would be seeing the clothes in your closet as monsters, or a plant as an animal similar to shape. Perceptual illusions can result in anxiety, anger, depression, or other unwanted emotions that may lead to paranoia.