im looking to make a pokemon inspired kpop bot and i am in need of a FREE developer. i can pay for bot hosting and we can split future patreon funds but im only a young student so i dont have much money to spare on this project... i have a very determined team with amazing gfx skills so all help is appreciated. leave your tags below or send me a dm if you are interested!

im looking to make a pokemon inspired kpop trading card bot and i am in need of a FREE developer. i can pay for bot hosting and we can split future patreon funds but im only a young student so i dont have much money to spare on this project... i have a very determined team with amazing gfx skills so all help is appreciated. leave your tags below or send me a dm if you are interested!

PROBLEMS: I have tried bulking before. I can make it about 2-3 weeks before it falls apart. I know its basically just discipline - apply the same discipline you apply to the gym. However, I have tried before many times and I want to actually succeed. So I thought I would make a truly brutally honest breakdown (touches on some taboos eg mental health) of some common issues in my life that screw the bulk up/can be an excuse, and hope other people in this forum might have experience with some/all of these and can offer advice for overcoming these problems/Any good fixes for ppl with similar issues? I am sick of being stuck oscillating around the same numbers in the gym for 2 years. List of problems:

• Cost: college student, college budget, self explanatory. Need cheap meals/protein/calories
• Time/Cooking:
  • I am generally incompetent. I dont know how to cook. I also study medicine and really struggle to find the time where I could cook, plus I tbh just dont want to spend heaps of time cooking every day. Its not something I enjoy. Any ideas for us lazy college males who dont particularly want to do shit tons of cooking?
  • Even if I wanted to get good at cooking, I feel like I never have the time to dedicate several hours to learning such skills. For example I am in the middle of exam revision right now. Ideally I need to find the lowest time investment possible.
• Mental barriers:
  • Depression makes it so that some days the only time I leave my room is for the gym and my clinical placement. I often write out massive plans with meals and structured mesocycles, but some days for whatever reason its hard to even get out of bed let alone cook 5 meals and calculate the macros for each of them. Some days getting to the gym is all I can do.
  • Also struggle with general anxiety and a planning and processing disorder. Shit gets overwhelming fast, even when it isn't as hard as it seems.
  • I got a history of OCD and compulsive exercise, so my training consistency is great, and I will almost never miss a session, but that focus is not there for my other lifestyle factors. I dont particularly think trying to give myself OCD about these other factors is the right way to do this either.
  • History of OCD means I can be quite rigid. Get very thrown off and overwhelmed when a plan doesnt go as planned, e.g. planned to progress by 1 rep each week and then on week 3 I go backward 2 reps. Makes me spend hours ruminating and doubting whether Im doing stuff right, rewriting programs, researching exercises/literature, etc. and I lose a lot of energy I could probably spend focusing on my nutrition in this area. However....
  • History of anorexia and body image issues means I can get afraid of getting fat. On days where I haven't made progress in the gym or have gone backwards, it feels like I haven't trained hard enough to earn the right to bulk, and I thus should eat at maintenance or less, Sometimes I feel worried and do cardio later that night as well.
• Poor Organisation:
  • Self explanatory. Plus, I have stated I have a planning/processing disorder and am generally incompetent. I get overwhelmed and spend a lot of time ruminating about the gym when it doesnt go well as it throws my whole day off. I then dont prepare adequately for the next day, and I get stuck having to buy lunch, which are more calories I cant track.
  • This also means I run into troubles actually fitting all my meals into the day.
  • I do like a bit of spontaneity. I dont want to have to worry about my girlfriend asking me over for dinner.
• Environmental barriers: I live in abusive household, my mums a narcissist and I dont have a lot of control over my life. My life tends to be quite resistant to scheduling, as I have to be on call ready for whatever crisis mum throws at me next. The gym is the one thing I enforce my personal boundaries on, refusing to compromise and it has torn my family apart. She has thrown me out to sleep on the streets because I refused to cut my session short when I was only halfway done. She throws up roadblocks at every turn and can uproot my life in an instant, she really loves kicking me out of home or forcing me to spend 7-13 hours of my day apologising or grovelling to make amends for some imagined evil. She also hates that I go to the gym and actively tries to undermine my endeavours, e.g. hiding my food scale. She also actively has said she refuses to respect my time/schedule (along with a lot of other comically evil stuff). She also does these kind of punishments/tantrums for no apparent reason, as narcissists do. She sometimes throws things at me, etc. I thus live in a very high stress and unpredictable environment, and it makes it hard to plan 4-5 meals when some days I dont even know where I'm sleeping. Unfortunately this isn't something I can really change right now as I am at clinical hospital placement for med school monday-friday 6am-5pm and need to study on the weekends; I dont have the time to get money for renting/moving away.
• Hunger barriers:
  • Not a huge natural eater unless I have done some cardio. The food I can eat in large quantities is not high protein (i.e. fruit, sweets, etc).
• Logistics barriers:
  • Problems with fitting and transporting food/meals to various places. I have quite a large backpack. However it currently struggles to fit it textbooks, microplates, laptop, lifting shoes, lifting belt, and even 1 single meal on top of all that, let alone multiple for when I am out and about. I live in the city centre and thus cycle most places, so a car is not really an option.

If you have experience with one, some, or all of these barriers, please chime in with advice on overcoming them. I am a generally incompetent 22 year old male, so keep that in mind 😆
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IRRELEVANT TLDR BACKGROUND INFO:
I used to be an elite rower (ranked fifth in Australia for single scull), did 60-180minute cardio sessions 2-3x per day plus lift 2-3x per week. Eventually got a bit much with medical school and I also just lost my love for it - felt like all that cardio gave me nothing to show for it. Wanted to dedicate my work capacity and ability to work hard into getting huge. Was about 91kg back then. 3 years later and I'm around 93-94kg. Been consistently around this weight since the first 6 months of lifting, give or take 2kg. Fucked around with powerbuilding for a while, got up to a 200kg deadlift, 160kg squat, and poverty bench of 110 with a bounce. Since this year started tried to pursue actual bodybuilding as I wanted to get big. Keep bouncing between certain weights making pseudo progress and regression, and today I benched the same amount I benched 2.5 years ago. Clearly something is stuck. I spent many years obsessing over training split and exercise selection, but I think its clear that the problem likely lies in nutrition.

Hello! Kind of unsure as to how to start this but I'm going to give it my best shot.
About me:
I am 24 years old and I currently work as a Preschool Facilitator in a Reggio Emilia -inspired IGCSE school. I absolutely love my job and workplace and would not consider shifting or relocating, as I have plans of continuing in this organiztion for a long time if God wills it. I was born and brought up Catholic, but I lived in lukewarm faith till I was about 18. I cannot share the entire journey here as it is going to go in a book I am writing :) I can never boast of how much I love God because no matter how deeply I love Him, I can never match up to how much love he has shown to me. My whole spiritual journey, like many others, has been a series of highs and lows, but currently God is teaching me to love - Him, others and myself and life itself. Around Easter Last Year, God completely healed me. After living every day of my life begging God to take me away, I woke up completely free, and filled with a joy that stays with me even today. I want to try my best to spread this joy to anyone who needs it.
I enjoy going to Mass, and listening to sermons or worship music. I am open to experiencing worship in other denominations, because there is beauty in worship, but I am firm in my Catholic faith, and my love for Mama Mary and would absolutely love to have a partner that is too.
Physical Description:
5'2, black curly/wavy hair. I wear glasses, I am a plus-sized woman working to bring down my weight and take care of my body because it is the Temple of The Holy Spirit, but its so hard to do when your'e a FOODIE! That's right, I love food, especially good non vegetarian food.
Oh I am Tamilian, by the way but I talk only in English - a story I will save to share on DM! I love to talk, but I also love to listen. I am learning to speak my mind and communicate clearly. I love all types of cuisine, and am open to trying anything, but I especially love kerala cuisine, being 1/4th Mallu - My family tree story is also a fun brain twister that I will be saving for the DMs.
I did Science till 12th grade and then made a shift to Psychology, English and Journalism in my Bachelors - (I kinda miss learning Science so I read a lot of research articles xD. I also love Calculus) - during my Bachelors' I did an Advanced Diploma in Montessori Teacher Training and saw that I enjoyed working with children and did my Masters of Arts in Education in Azim Premji University - Specializing in Early Childhood Education. I had a dream to join the school I am currently working in (I went to a summer camp here when I was 13 and loved it so much, I went again) but felt they would only take experienced Facilitators (Not teachers, will Explain on DM) but I applied, shared how deeply this school has impacted my life and cleared my interviews and now I am deeply integrated into the fibres of the system of that school, and I hope to impact someone the way I was impacted. I hope to experience Preschool and continue exploring the older grades too as time goes by (Maybe, I'll get to use my love for Science and Calculus here)
Looking for:
A family-oriented, leader-like (not bossy) Catholic Man, slightly older than me. I would prefer if you are from Bangalore and/or have plans to stay in Bangalore permanently. Someone who wants children and who will understand and respect my boundaries. I am not looking for casual encounters and I will not meet up with you early on, for safety's sake, till I am certain that our intentions align. I am looking for a serious relationship that will lead to marriage. Know that, if we dont align, or if we dont work out, I will inform you respectfully.
PS I will Verify myself by sending a picture, if you will be able to do the same!

I know this is something a lot of us are probably struggling with right now. But omfg I feel like I’m losing my mind. Every time I fall back into burnout (it’s been 4 years now 🤠) it’s gotten worse. Which makes sense if we call it what it is- stress induced neurological decline.
But I can’t do it anymore 🌚 which doesn’t really matter bc I don’t have a choice. But my routine has been absolutely f’ed in the A which is why it’s so bad ontop of the fact that despite moving a year ago- I was not stable enough in my routine so is extra messed me up. The past week has been rough and Sunday was peak except now it’s only been two days and yesterday I had to do grocery pick up and the derealization was wild. I know I need new glasses but it felt like my eyes got worse than normal and it was taking me a long time to focus on anything when normally it just takes me a second.
And today I have work and then two job interviews. I don’t know why I’m bothering because there’s no way I can nanny reliably and bc of how bad it’s been lately, especially after developing PMDD I basically can’t go back to an inflexible job. But I don’t really have any skills and WFH jobs are impossible to come by. But I am not making enough working my current job and I don’t think I can manage working more bc I’m already struggling. Maybe I’m just depressed but idk how much longer I can keep working as a whole which is why I’m extra baffled as to why I’ve taken two nanny job interviews. It’s not only that I don’t want to but like I KNOW I am unable to keep that kind of job. But I just don’t know what to do. I’m exhausted and so tired of doing this everyday. I wasn’t meant for this life and idk what to do

alright so im only on episode 21 of nana but i wanted to make this post before i forgot some of the things im going to discuss. so basically idk if this is controversial overall or not since i've never read a post in this sub but this is definitely controversial when it comes to the people from the website i use to watch nana. this will be a long post.

1. nana, up until the point before shoji cheated on her, did NOT deserve shoji AT ALL. shoji had just got accepted to the college he wanted to attend and was working a part time job putting that work in and nana, impulsively and selfishly moving to tokyo without a solid game plan, put a burden on him. now yes they did talk about this a year before where nana says that she would come to tokyo but she was already on the way to tokyo when she called him. her whole half assed "game plan" when she came to tokyo was to live with junko until she got her own place, yet she NEVER called junko and told her about this which is selfish asf and stupid because she really was about to just pop up at junko's doorstep and ask her to live with her without no heads up. this is one of many things she's done to show off her self centeredness.

nana pretty much popped up in tokyo randomly and inconvenienced shoji and would have did the same to junko too. shoji, after getting into the college he wanted to, was contemplating on giving it up and just getting a job just so he can take care of nana. he really wanted to go to that college too but since it would take him a while to be able to support her, he was willing to give up his dream for her because they all know she can't survive on her own.
once nana got to tokyo and moved in with other nana she would also prioritize nana over him sometimes.
in one of the screenshots i have, shoji is talking to nana and telling her how he feels about how he reaches out to her and tries to make time for her and she pretty much goes silent then changes the subject to other nana and starts talking to someone else. you can see this affected him because he just sighed and left for work. this is a good example of when junko said something along the lines of "love is a relationship between two people. if you dont consider the other person, there's no future." nana is so self centered sometimes and doesn't consider other people's feelings sometimes and junko warned her that if she doesn't cherish him enough, she'd get punished for it. nana's problem is that she's delusional and sees love through a fantasy lens and doesn't think realistically. yes she loves shoji and she came to tokyo for him, however, like i said earlier, she was impulsive and had no real game plan which just imo makes her a burden. she was doing nothing but holding shoji back while also not being able to do anything for herself. yes she was trying to become independent, however, sometimes trying aint enough. sometimes love just aint enough. this is their lives we're talking about. i can rant on and on about how nana didn't deserve shoji up until the cheating incident(aka before he became scum) but i already have to address other points. also ima say this now so no "genius" comes to the wrong assumption and think i'm condoning shoji's behavior. shoji is DEAD WRONG for cheating on her. he went about breaking up with nana the wrong way but i truly don't blame him for not wanting to be with her cuz i damn sure wouldn't even contemplate dating her. im just tired of the people i interact with about the show act like nana is just some helpless little victim in EVERY situation she's in. this gonna sound crazy but i genuinely think if nana was a much better gf and was actually listening to shoji and was able to actually help him, he wouldnt have cheated. again, he's wrong for doing that but that's what i believe. especially since he was loyal to her the whole time up until that point where they relationship began slippin more and more.

1. junko wasn't wrong about what she said to nana after shoji cheated. junko admitted shoji was in the wrong about the cheating part but she was fed up with nana acting as if she was just some victim and that she had no part in why shoji felt the way he felt. there's been plenty of times where nana didnt listen to shoji's feelings and toyed with his emotions(not on purpose but still did it) and you have to remember shoji and junko are close and junko stated shoji complains to her about nana so from junko's perspective, they're both wrong asf and do fucked up shit and they're both her closest friends so she can't sit here and take one person's side when they both did stuff to mess up their relationship. i'm 100% on junko's side but i seen people get mad at junko when she's right imo.

the cheating part is shoji's fault for sure (he's scum for that) but why should junko sit there n baby nana and take her side when she told nana to cherish shoji more or she'd get punished. in junko's eyes she's probably like "you reap what you sew. i warned you already and you still keep fucking up. i can't fully take a side with that in mind. you're not some blameless victim." some people also act as if junko didnt lecture shoji as well. she gave BOTH of them an earful yet people were MAD ASF at junko. junko's only fault was saying what she said at the wrong time.

1. not sure if it's different in the manga and i'm not gonna say nana wasn't groomed, however she was not 100% groomed and a victim like people act like she was. call me a victim blamer idc i only try to be fair. ima preface with this, asano is a pedophile and scum for cheating on his wife with a minor. that is an undeniable fact. im not denying that. now onto nana and how she's also to blame.

people keep saying asano groomed nana and i wont say he didnt butttt nana was already in love with asano at first sight. he didnt have to "groom" her to begin with, she was ALREADY pursuing relationships with GROWN men multiple times before she met him. nana literally told junko her type is quiet older guys. she even confessed to one(meaning she was hoping for a relationship) when telling the stories about the guys she liked, she referred to them as "targets" which is weird asf to me. why would a so called victim of asano who's been groomed by him be "targeting" older men before she ever met him and asking them out? she was alr targeting grown men before asano so.... thats actually so weird to me. she literally ordered so much pizza just to see that delivery guy(which is creepy asf btw) asano def wanted to have sex with nana but nana was already "in love" with him soon as she saw him and had no problems being in a relationship with him. yall act as if he really sat there and DECEIVED her when he had a ring on his finger every time they met and he only met up with her 2-3 times a month just to fuck her which was obvious he aint love her fr.
nana deluded herself into thinking he loved her and she was gonna pursue him regardless, hence why she invited him to her work. he was about to go on with his life then she stopped him because she wanted to see him again. there's no way anyone actually thinks she didn't have an ulterior motive inviting him to her workplace especially after knowing she would order pizza just to see that pizza guy and that she only joined art class cuz she had a crush on the art teacher and that she confessed to an employee(hoping for a relationship) and prob only started working there cuz she thought he was cute. idc if you get mad at this but groomed is insane. weirdo and pedo for having relations with a minor? definitely. groomed? he didnt really have to. she's naive but she literally was in love with him as soon as she saw him. she WANTED that man soon as she saw him. again, YES, he's a pedo, cheater and a weirdo FOR SURE but she is NOT 100% a victim. she also knew he was married n aint gaf lmao. "truly thought he loved me." my ass. she deluded herself into thinking that because she lives in a fantasy. asano def gave her a push but he didnt have to really put any effort in to get nana cuz she already liked him soon as she saw him. the point is asano aint just a simple groomer and nana isn't just some helpless victim. they BOTH wanted each other from the very beginning. its asano's job as an adult to not engage in acts with a minor but regardless of that, nana was in love with him before he could even attempt to groom her so acting as if nana didn't know wtf was going on and that she was simply groomed and had NOTHING to do with it is wild. junko also told her he was trouble and nana didn't listen.

1. nana simply came to tokyo w no solid game plan then spent all her money and then ended up getting fired from her second job due to incompetence and carelessness. i wouldn't want a gf like that. she's just too careless.
   
2. nana technically didnt cheat on shoji, however she had googly eyes for MULTIPLE men while in a relationship with shoji. this isnt as bad as shoji actually cheating but nana is still suspicious asf to me. if you're gf or bf had googly eyes when looking at other people you'd feel some typa way. you clearly see nana getting tempted by mizukoshi and i feel like if mizukoshi actually wanted to get with nana, nana would have cheated on shoji that night. nana literally told nana in episode 21 that she was in love with mizukoshi soon as she saw him, WHILE SHE WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SHOJI. she LIED to shoji when he asked who mizukoshi was. she said he's an "old" guy from the store to make it seem like shoji dont got nun to worry about despite the fact she clearly liked mizukoshi. she almost cheated on shoji with mizukoshi that one night as well but luckily mizukoshi didnt like nana or he 100% would have gotten her in bed.
   

junko and kyousuke also have that opinion of nana and thinks she's the type to do that so my opinion isn't baseless. people she's know for years think the same. so while yes she didnt cheat on shoji physically, she be blushing and shit and fantasizing about other men(mizukoshi) while in a relationship.
she's a fickle and impulsive woman . she was even fawning over yasu, takumi and nobu right after getting out of a relationship with shoji. like she just bounces from guy to guy and falls in love too quickly. ngl nana has to be the most realistic delusional character i've ever seen in an anime. nana and the others told her takumi is a player and she still gon go on a date with him and that led to them having sex. shoji deserved way better than nana so im glad they're not together. i still don't condone his cheating but i'm so glad he actually found someone who isn't dumb and falls in love with guys when she's in a relationship. im so tired of people acting like she a victim when she's not as naive as people think. i think she lacks self control more than she's naive but by feigning naivety, she can keep playing victim and not take accountability.
btw i don't hate nana or anything; i actually like her because i love flawed characters but what i couldn't stand was the fact that people i interacted with trying to act like nana is just this poor victim when most of the shit that happens to her is partly her fault. nana and the person who hurt her are BOTH to blame in most situations she's been in. i had more to say but this is already long so i'll just answer in the comments. hate comments are welcome ofc lol im sure this wont be taken well but idc since i'm not wrong.

PROBLEMS: I have tried bulking before. I can make it about 2-3 weeks before it falls apart. I know its basically just discipline - apply the same discipline you apply to the gym. However, I have tried before many times and I want to actually succeed. So I thought I would make a truly brutally honest breakdown (touches on some taboos eg mental health) of some common issues in my life that screw the bulk up/can be an excuse, and hope other people in this forum might have experience with some/all of these and can offer advice for overcoming these problems/Any good fixes for ppl with similar issues? I am sick of being stuck oscillating around the same numbers in the gym for 2 years. List of problems:

• Cost: college student, college budget, self explanatory. Need cheap meals/protein/calories
• Time/Cooking:
  • I am generally incompetent. I dont know how to cook. I also study medicine and really struggle to find the time where I could cook, plus I tbh just dont want to spend heaps of time cooking every day. Its not something I enjoy. Any ideas for us lazy college males who dont particularly want to do shit tons of cooking?
  • Even if I wanted to get good at cooking, I feel like I never have the time to dedicate several hours to learning such skills. For example I am in the middle of exam revision right now. Ideally I need to find the lowest time investment possible.
• Mental barriers:
  • Depression makes it so that some days the only time I leave my room is for the gym and my clinical placement. I often write out massive plans with meals and structured mesocycles, but some days for whatever reason its hard to even get out of bed let alone cook 5 meals and calculate the macros for each of them. Some days getting to the gym is all I can do.
  • Also struggle with general anxiety and a planning and processing disorder. Shit gets overwhelming fast, even when it isn't as hard as it seems.
  • I got a history of OCD and compulsive exercise, so my training consistency is great, and I will almost never miss a session, but that focus is not there for my other lifestyle factors. I dont particularly think trying to give myself OCD about these other factors is the right way to do this either.
  • History of OCD means I can be quite rigid. Get very thrown off and overwhelmed when a plan doesnt go as planned, e.g. planned to progress by 1 rep each week and then on week 3 I go backward 2 reps. Makes me spend hours ruminating and doubting whether Im doing stuff right, rewriting programs, researching exercises/literature, etc. and I lose a lot of energy I could probably spend focusing on my nutrition in this area. However....
  • History of anorexia and body image issues means I can get afraid of getting fat. On days where I haven't made progress in the gym or have gone backwards, it feels like I haven't trained hard enough to earn the right to bulk, and I thus should eat at maintenance or less, Sometimes I feel worried and do cardio later that night as well.
• Poor Organisation:
  • Self explanatory. Plus, I have stated I have a planning/processing disorder and am generally incompetent. I get overwhelmed and spend a lot of time ruminating about the gym when it doesnt go well as it throws my whole day off. I then dont prepare adequately for the next day, and I get stuck having to buy lunch, which are more calories I cant track.
  • This also means I run into troubles actually fitting all my meals into the day.
  • I do like a bit of spontaneity. I dont want to have to worry about my girlfriend asking me over for dinner.
• Environmental barriers: I live in abusive household, my mums a narcissist and I dont have a lot of control over my life. My life tends to be quite resistant to scheduling, as I have to be on call ready for whatever crisis mum throws at me next. The gym is the one thing I enforce my personal boundaries on, refusing to compromise and it has torn my family apart. She has thrown me out to sleep on the streets because I refused to cut my session short when I was only halfway done. She throws up roadblocks at every turn and can uproot my life in an instant, she really loves kicking me out of home or forcing me to spend 7-13 hours of my day apologising or grovelling to make amends for some imagined evil. She also hates that I go to the gym and actively tries to undermine my endeavours, e.g. hiding my food scale. She also actively has said she refuses to respect my time/schedule (along with a lot of other comically evil stuff). She also does these kind of punishments/tantrums for no apparent reason, as narcissists do. She sometimes throws things at me, etc. I thus live in a very high stress and unpredictable environment, and it makes it hard to plan 4-5 meals when some days I dont even know where I'm sleeping. Unfortunately this isn't something I can really change right now as I am at clinical hospital placement for med school monday-friday 6am-5pm and need to study on the weekends; I dont have the time to get money for renting/moving away.
• Hunger barriers:
  • Not a huge natural eater unless I have done some cardio. The food I can eat in large quantities is not high protein (i.e. fruit, sweets, etc).
• Logistics barriers:
  • Problems with fitting and transporting food/meals to various places. I have quite a large backpack. However it currently struggles to fit it textbooks, microplates, laptop, lifting shoes, lifting belt, and even 1 single meal on top of all that, let alone multiple for when I am out and about. I live in the city centre and thus cycle most places, so a car is not really an option.

If you have experience with one, some, or all of these barriers, please chime in with advice on overcoming them. I am a generally incompetent 22 year old male, so keep that in mind 😆

My fiancé and myself bought a 2019 Kia Sportage GT Line from a car dealership in England (we live in Scotland). We paid £17,500 for it outright.
10 minutes into our drive on the motorway, the car warning lights go on and it goes into limp mode. A 4.5 hour drive home took 8 hours to complete as we kept having to stop the car and restart the engine to drive 50 miles before the warning lights came on and we lost power again.
I phoned the dealership first thing next morning and we were passed from pillar to post, ghosted and then told it was our responsibility to phone around Kia garages to get this car repaired. This was in September and Kia couldn't even look at the car until end of November. We found an independent garage and the dealership approved the repair work. 3 times the car was in to be repaired but the problem still remained.
We finally decided to exercise our final right to reject in either February or March (I was so stressed with the situation I was rushed to hospital with a suspected heart attack, so I'm struggling to remember exact dates) and now the dealership have sent us a letter, denying our legal right, claiming we had never informed them of any problems regarding the car.
Due to my position as a carer for a family member with dementia, my own disabiliies and a driving licence issue with the DVLA (which prevented me from renting a hire car or getting a courtesy car), we purchased another, cheaper, 2020 year car outright, as after the independent garage informed us of a potential fraudulent service schedule etc, they told us that we had to wait the 3 months waiting list for Kia to repair the car as the issue required Kia to do the repairs.
We couldn't remain carless for 3 months so bought the new one with most of our wedding fund, thinking that because we had a legal right to reject the Kia, we would get a refund within a matter of 6 -12 weeks.
We did everything through Consumer Advice Scotland (I have a case number) but now we have to pay out of our own pocket for a lawyer to sue the dealership for our money back. Our wedding is at jeopardy now and both myself and my fiancé have suffered stress related health problems due to the situation. The kia has now finally been repaired but we now have 2 cars (we don't need or can afford 2) and possibly no money for our wedding, never mind legal fees.
I suppose my main question is, can we sell the Kia and still sue the dealership? A long legal battle will probably destroy our health further if we have to wait months/years for some of our £17,500 back. We may be looking at cancelling our wedding and losing deposits etc on that as well. How long it takes to go down the legal route?
I finally found a lawyer who would take on our case, but they are expensive and it would cost us over a £1500 upfront before we can ask any questions like this. I need to know our chances of success before losing any more money on this situation. We are at our wits end.

I lost my mom to Covid. It was awful. We couldn’t be with her at all until we took her off life support and even then we had to go in full PPE just to see the machine basically breathing for her. She didn’t even look like herself. Then we had a viewing bc we couldn’t have a funeral and a lot of our family couldn’t make it and even tho I’m not religious I wish her priest was there to give a eulogy. Almost 4 years later and I still feel angry and lost and I’m sure a ton of other emotions that I’m working on recognizing and processing in therapy. Anyways, I started a new job (I’m in the service industry) and I wanted to take Mother’s Day off and brought it up to a manager. He said it’s a blocked off holiday (meaning no one can request off) and “we’re gonna be busy so at least you’ll make some money”. I explained that I wasn’t going to be alright and it basically fell on empty ears. All this just to say; any tips for surviving a day you aren’t prepared to mentally handle?

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1. INTRODUCTION
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   2. Carefully review this document as it outlines the conditions that govern your use of Pacific Spins Casino's services and website.
2. DEFINITIONS
   1. “Terms” refers to the Terms of Service.
   2. “Website” pertains to Pacific Spins Casino’s website at www.pacificspins.com.
   3. “Services” implies the services accessible on the Pacific Spins Casino website.
   4. “We” or “Casino” signifies Pacific Spins Casino.
   5. “You” or “Player” denotes any person using any of the services offered by Pacific Spins Casino.
   6. “Games” means the casino games offered on the Pacific Spins Casino website.
   7. “Software” describes the software Pacific Spins Casino makes available for playing casino games, either in downloadable or non-downloadable formats.
3. ACCEPTANCE OF TERMS OF SERVICE
   1. You are obliged to understand, agree, and adhere to all rules and regulations set out in the Terms.
   2. The Casino has the right to amend or adjust its Terms at any time without providing prior notice. Any changes will be displayed on the Website.
   3. You are obligated to routinely check for any modifications to the Terms as they might alter periodically.
   4. The ownership, title, and all intellectual property rights of the content, including but not limited to images, photographs, animations, video, audio, music, and text belong exclusively to the Casino. Any copying, redistribution, or publication of any content or part of the Website and Software is strictly prohibited.
   5. These Terms represent the full and final understanding of your relationship with the Casino. They make up the entire agreement between you and the Casino, and replace any previous understandings, agreements, or commitments, whether in written or oral form between the parties. No employee, officer, or agent of the Casino, or anyone else involved in creating, producing, or delivering the Casino, may verbally change, modify, or waive any provision of this agreement. By entering the Website, opening a User Account with the Casino, using, or reusing any such User Account, or accepting any cash-in, you agree to all rules given in the Terms, as amended occasionally.
   6. By accessing and using our online casino services, you acknowledge and agree to the following terms and conditions:
   7. Communication Channels:
   8. The player acknowledges and accepts that the casino retains the right to transmit promotional and transactional content via a range of communication channels, including but not limited to SMS, Email, WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram, Telegram, and any other available means of communication.
   9. Consent:
   10. By participating in our online casino activities, the player gives explicit consent to receive promotional and transactional content through the aforementioned communication channels. This includes but is not limited to receiving messages, notifications, and updates related to casino promotions, account information, bonuses, and other relevant communication.
   11. Opt-Out Option:
   12. Should the player wish to discontinue receiving promotional and transactional content through any or all of the communication channels mentioned above, they may choose to opt-out. Instructions on how to unsubscribe or manage communication preferences can be found within each communication received or by contacting our customer support team.
   13. Responsibility:
   14. The player recognizes that it is their responsibility to ensure the accuracy and validity of the contact information provided to the casino. This includes maintaining up-to-date email addresses, phone numbers, and other relevant details necessary for effective communication.
   15. Frequency and Content:
   16. The player understands that the frequency and content of promotional and transactional messages may vary. The casino will strive to provide relevant information and offers tailored to the player's preferences; however, the player acknowledges that the casino cannot guarantee the availability of specific promotions or the receipt of all messages due to technical constraints or other factors.
4. ELIGIBILITY TO USE THE CASINO SERVICES
   1. The following rules apply to the eligibility to participate in the Casino Games:
      1. You must be over 18 years of age.
      2. The laws of the country you reside in must allow online casino gaming and online gambling. The use of Casino Services is forbidden to all individuals living in jurisdictions where such use is illegal or prohibited. It is your responsibility to determine the laws that apply in your country.
      3. Players from the following countries are forbidden to play for real wagers: Afghanistan, Albania, Armenia, Australia, Belarus, Bosnia and Herzegovina, Bulgaria, Costa Rica, Estonia, France, French Guyana, Guadeloupe, Iran, Iraq, Israel, Kosovo, Montenegro, Macedonia, Martinique, Mayotte Reunion, Moldova, Myanmar, Netherlands, Netherlands Antilles, Pakistan, Romania, Serbia, Slovakia, United Kingdom, Zimbabwe. We apologize for any inconvenience.
      4. You must provide complete and accurate User Account information to the Casino.
      5. You cannot be an employee, consultant, licensee, distributor, media partner, promoter, retailer of the Casino, including members of their immediate families.
      6. You must abide by the rules of the Casino.
      7. You cannot play on behalf of an individual that is not allowed to play at the Casino.
   2. The Casino reserves the right to limit access to Players for any reason that the Casino deems necessary.
5. USER ACCOUNT
   1. Establishing a User Account
      1. To participate in Games and place bets on the Website, you first must register with Pacific Spins and establish a User Account.
      2. Only one User Account per player is permitted. If multiple accounts are discovered, all winnings will be voided. If more than one User Account is created, Pacific Spins may close all accounts, and any bonuses and winnings may be declared void.
      3. During the registration process, you will be required to select a Username and Password for your login into the Website. It is your responsibility to maintain the confidentiality of your Username and Password. All activity through your Username and Password is your responsibility.
      4. Should any information you provide to Pacific Spins be found false, your agreement with Pacific Spins will be void, and you will be liable to Pacific Spins for any damages and costs suffered as a result.
      5. Pacific Spins reserves the right to request copies of your identity, address, credit card copies, an approved signed purchase history, and/or other appropriate documentation when making credit withdrawals, in order to ensure fast payout, prevent fraud, and safeguard all financial transactions. If you fail to provide the requested documentation within 4 weeks or submit fraudulent documentation, we reserve the right to cancel the payout and/or close or lock your User Account. We may subsequently ask for these copies at random to ensure the security of your account.
   2. Terminating your User Account
   3. You may close your User Account at any point in time.
   4. To close your User Account, send an email to management@pacificspins.com with your account details and intention to close the account.
   5. Any remaining balance on your User Account post-closure will be refunded subject to applicable deductions, and may not be less than $20.
   6. The method of refund will be at our absolute discretion.
   7. User Account General Rules
   8. Your User Account is strictly for personal use. Commercial usage of Pacific Spins is prohibited. You will play solely for private and non-commercial purposes.
   9. You are not allowed to permit any third party, including but not limited to minors, to use your User Account to place bets or participate in the Games in any way. You are solely liable for any losses, costs, or expenses associated with the use of your User Account.
   10. Pacific Spins is not liable in any way for your participation or attempted participation in any act outside of the rules provided herein, or outside of the normal course of online casino operations.
   11. Pacific Spins reserves the right to close or lock your User Account at any time without prior notice and reserves the right to not provide the reason for doing so.
   12. Pacific Spins reserves the full right to refuse or terminate the User Account of any Player found cheating or attempting to defraud the Pacific Spins Software or making untrue and/or malicious comments in regard to Pacific Spins’s operations, or who exploits the spirit of the promotions offered by Pacific Spins unfairly.
   13. Pacific Spins reserves the right to publicize the actions of Players who cheat and defraud, including their identities and email addresses. These will be circulated to other casinos, banks credit card companies, and any other appropriate agencies.
6. DEPOSIT AND WITHDRAWALS
   1. Depositing to your User Account
      1. You acknowledge that any funds used for participating in Games must be lawful.
      2. You are prohibited from using anyone else’s credit card to place a bet at Pacific Spins.
      3. Once a bet is placed, the transaction is irrevocable and cannot be undone or “charged back”. You cannot reclaim your stake money if you lose your bet.
      4. Pacific Spins reserves the right to limit and/or decline your wager without prior notice. Pacific Spins is not obligated to accept your bet. In case of any dispute regarding a wager or winnings, the decision of Pacific Spins shall be final and binding.
      5. Please note that deposit limits on Bitcoin, Ethereum, Litecoin, and all other cryptocurrencies are not applicable due to their nature. However, we will gladly assist you if you need help in taking a break from gambling. Should you wish to explore this possibility, do not hesitate to contact us.
      6. We do not accept any Crypto transaction below 0.0001 BTC, 0.001 BCH, 0.01 ETH, 180 DOGE, or 0.01 LTC. All transactions that fall at or below this margin are considered non-recoverable and will not be processed into your casino account. Sending less than the aforementioned Crypto minimum deposits to any Crypto address will result in a loss of funds that cannot be redeemed. We will not accept top-ups on Crypto addresses if a player decides to send more Crypto to the same address in order to meet the minimum Crypto margin. Players are solely responsible for ensuring that they always deposit a minimum of $10 (BTC, BCH, DOGE, or LTC equivalent) or $50 (Ethereum equivalent) every time they use the Crypto banking method. Pacific Spins takes no responsibility if the minimum amount was not sent and reserves the right to treat these transactions as lost non-recoverable transactions.
      7. The additional bonus amount given by the casino when a player selects the suggested higher deposit amount is capped at $1000 and is subject to a wagering requirement of 1x.
      8. The maximum bonus for making a deposit through any deposit method for the first 3 transactions is capped at $1000 per transaction.
   2. Withdrawing from your User Account
      1. Withdrawals must be made back to the User Account from which the deposit originated. This might not be possible in case of a credit card deposit, in which case an alternative withdrawal method may be required. All withdrawals from free promotions may only be processed back to the last depositing method.
      2. If you deposit and withdraw without wagering at least 1x the value of the deposit, you may be subject to a transaction fee that cannot exceed 10% of the transaction amount. This can only be done once the deposit has been reviewed and it has been determined that no manipulation of the financial system or money laundering activity has taken place.
      3. Players can withdraw up to $50,000 per week unless granted exceptions per their VIP status. Excess balance can be processed during the following week(s) according to the established minimum amount, potentially adjusted due to VIP status exceptions.
      4. Players can withdraw up to $15,000 per day unless granted exceptions per their VIP status. Excess balance can be processed during the following week(s) according to the established minimum amount, potentially adjusted due to VIP status exceptions.
      5. Only one instant withdrawal is permitted per player per day and is only available if you have deposited via any Cryptocurrency, Neteller, Skrill or EcoPayz.
      6. Please note that to receive a withdrawal after making a bonus-free deposit, you must wager the deposit at least 1x the value of said deposit.
      7. Pacific Spins commits to paying out progressive jackpots within a reasonable period of time, in accordance with the restrictions imposed by Pacific Spins's payment processor for the Player's jurisdiction and in accordance with the player's VIP level. Pacific Spins commits to paying out the full progressive jackpot win within 2 years.
      8. Any withdrawal that is made from the received cashback or any other free promotion will not be eligible for a new cashback. The withdrawn amount will need to be covered with lost deposits first before the account is once again eligible for a cash back.
      9. Upon requesting a withdrawal from a non-deposit bonus, a verification deposit is required, if the customer hasn't made a prior deposit.
      10. Transactions in BTC that are below 0.0001 BTC are not accepted, and all transactions that fall below this margin are non-recoverable and will not be processed to your casino account. Sending less than 0.0001 BTC to any address will result in loss of funds that are non-refundable. Top-ups on addresses will not be accepted if a player decides to send more bitcoins to the same address to meet the 0.0001 BTC margin. Players take full responsibility in ensuring that they always make a minimum $10 (Bitcoin equivalent) deposit each time they use the Bitcoin banking method. Pacific Spins takes no responsibility if the minimum amount was not sent and reserves the right to treat these transactions as lost non-recoverable transactions.
   3. General Deposit and Withdrawal Rules
      1. To protect our interests and those of our financial processors, we reserve the right, should we become aware or suspicious of any combination of deposit and withdrawal manipulation or money laundering activity that constitutes fraud, to withhold payment of funds and inform the relevant authorities and payment processor(s) for further investigation.
      2. Pacific Spins employs various active anti-fraud safety measures for your protection. All transactions are confidential and are monitored solely for your protection. Criminal acts or attempted criminal acts are automatically reported to the appropriate authorities.
      3. Any materials relating to Pacific Spins are automatically voided without notice if you alter, mutilate, forge, tamper with, or otherwise alter such materials in any way or if you attempt or cause others to attempt any such act. Any gaming or attempted gaming or purported winnings during or following such alteration, mutilation, forgery, tampering or similar acts or attempted acts shall automatically and without notice, be void. Any fraud (whether actual or constructive) on your part or caused by you shall automatically void any actual or attempted transaction from the inception and any alleged winnings shall not be actual winnings.
      4. We do not accept any Crypto transaction below 0.0001 BTC, 0.001 BCH, 0.01 ETH, 180 DOGE, or 0.01 LTC. All transactions that fall at or below this margin are considered non-recoverable and will not be processed into your casino account. Sending less than the aforementioned Crypto minimum deposits to any Crypto address will result in a loss of funds that cannot be redeemed. We will not accept top-ups on Crypto addresses if a player decides to send more Crypto to the same address in order to meet the minimum Crypto margin. Players are solely responsible for ensuring that they always deposit a minimum of $10 (BTC, BCH, DOGE, or LTC equivalent) or $50 (Ethereum equivalent) every time they use the Crypto banking method. Pacific Spins takes no responsibility if the minimum amount was not sent and reserves the right to treat these transactions as lost non-recoverable transactions.
7. BONUSES AND PROMOTIONS
   1. General Bonus and Promotion Rules
      1. Specific rules for bonuses and promotions take precedence over the general ones stated here.
      2. Each player can claim only one promotion at a time unless stated otherwise.
      3. Each promotion is limited to one per player, family, address, credit card number, and shared computers (such as those in libraries, workplaces, schools, etc.) unless the casino management has granted prior approval. Verification of a player's identity might involve several forms of identification, including name, mailing address, e-mail, IP address, and credit card number.
      4. The casino, or its authorized agent, reserves the right to limit the number of bonuses given to any single participant in cases where multiple participation is permitted.
      5. Promotions cannot be combined unless specifically mentioned.
      6. Deposit bonuses are strictly for wagering purposes and cannot be withdrawn.
      7. Funds obtained from bonuses do not contribute towards deposits.
      8. Reversed cash-in amounts cannot be used to claim bonuses.
      9. Before claiming any coupon, your User Account balance must be below $1.
      10. You must play through your current deposit, bonus, or free promotion before making a new deposit or claiming a bonus or free promotion. Your balance must fall below $1 before you can deposit or claim another bonus or free promotion.
      11. A minimum deposit of $10 is required to be eligible for any free promotion unless specified otherwise in the promotion.
      12. Previous balances in your User Account cannot be used to meet wagering requirements.
      13. Withdrawals cannot be made for amounts lesser than the bonus.
      14. Upon requesting a withdrawal, any amount up to the equivalent value of the deposit bonus will be deducted from your balance or winnings before settlement. This means if you deposit $500, get a $250 bonus, and meet all wagering requirements, a withdrawal request should be made for an amount less than the bonus received.
      15. Any winnings from games like 777 slot, baccarat, craps, pontoon blackjack, roulette, sic bo, or any Live Dealer games will be withheld if the bonus was wagered on these games. This applies to any amount exceeding your original deposit.
      16. The casino provides bonuses to encourage players. However, they aren't meant for "bonus hunters" or "bonus abusers". Accounts will be reviewed, and any account deemed as a "bonus hunter" or "bonus abuser" will have future bonuses and promotions restricted.
      17. Transaction records and logs may be reviewed by the casino or its authorized agent for any reason. Any strategies deemed abusive may result in the revocation of promotional entitlements and restrictions on eligibility for promotions. This also extends to refusing or rescinding bonuses for any reason, including player abuse.
      18. WELCOME BONUSES, FREE MONEY NO DEPOSIT BONUSES or MATCH BONUSES are accessible for claiming and withdrawing only to players from the following countries: United States, Canada, Italy, New Zealand, Norway and Sweden.
      19. Eligibility for bonuses and promotions is restricted to players from Australia, Estonia, Greece, Latvia, Kyrgyzstan, Kazakhstan, Lithuania, Belarus, Ukraine, United Kingdom, Russia, Uzbekistan, Poland, Moldova, Tajikistan, Netherlands, Netherlands Antilles. cannot redeem or make withdrawals on certain bonuses. All other territories not mentioned can redeem and make withdrawals on certain bonuses after making one successful deposit at the casino. However, players from Thailand, Austria, Sri Lanka, Slovenia and Turkey may not be eligible for certain bonuses.
      20. Tournaments, Progressive Games, 777 slot or any Live Dealer games cannot be played with casino bonuses unless stated otherwise.
      21. All disputes will be resolved by the Casino's decision, which will be considered final.
      22. Once a bonus is claimed, its terms become immediately effective and remain so until a new deposit or bonus is processed, and after the bonus has been cleared from your balance. This also applies if your playable balance falls below $1, or if you deposit on top of your existing bonus balance. Any violations of the terms may result in all winnings being voided.
      23. Please note that all minimum deposit amounts are set in USD (United States Dollar). You must check the cashier for the minimum amount required in your currency before making your deposit.
      24. Only one free promotion may be redeemed between deposit-free bonuses.
      25. No consecutive payouts are allowed from free promotions without making a deposit in between.
      26. The right to decline providing any/all bonus(es) to players who have received an un-proportionate level of bonuses based on their bonus release to deposit ratio is reserved. This rule will not affect the player's existing balance/bonus.
      27. All coupon codes have an expiration date. Ensure you use the coupon code before it expires. All coupons have a 7-day expiration date from the day they are redeemed.
   2. New User Welcome Bonus
      1. The stipulations described here govern the complimentary welcome bonus for new users established upon the inauguration of a fresh user account:
      2. Should you receive a bonus not contingent on deposit (free chips), a wager 30x the free chip's value is requisite.
      3. A single free chip is accredited per individual, family, household address, email address, credit card number, and both individual and communal computing systems (such as a university, fraternity, school, public library, or workplace).
      4. If you've previously capitalized on any Welcome Bonus, subsequent Welcome Bonuses are not accessible to you.
      5. To proceed with any withdrawal from the New Signup Bonus, a verification deposit is essential. Failure to make this verification deposit within 7 days from receiving the New Signup Bonus will result in the forfeiture of all winnings and bonus amount without pre-notice.
   3. Procedure for Cashing in a Coupon:
      1. Sign into your User Account
      2. Select the CASHIER option
      3. Choose REDEEM COUPON
      4. Input the coupon code in the provided rectangular window and select REDEEM.
      5. Click on DEPOSIT.
      6. Your bonus and deposit will be credited to your User Account.
   4. Standard Deposit Coupon Regulations
      1. To cash out wins from a deposit bonus, a Player must bet the deposit plus the bonus amount 15 times, unless otherwise stated (wagers on 777, baccarat, craps, pontoon blackjack, roulette, sic bo or any Live Dealer games are excluded). For instance, with a $300 deposit and a bonus of $100, you are required to wager an aggregate of $10.000 (excluding wagers on 777, baccarat, craps, pontoon blackjack, roulette, sic bo, or any live dealer game) to initiate a withdrawal.
      2. Every coupon code may be applied to a single deposit. More than one coupon code per deposit is not permissible.
      3. Each coupon code can only be redeemed once. After a coupon has been utilized, it becomes void for the next redemption.
      4. All coupon codes come with an expiry date. Ensure to use the coupon code before it lapses. All coupons expire 7 days after being redeemed.
      5. Upon satisfying your wagering prerequisites, any surplus beyond your maximum cashout limit will be automatically deducted from your account.
   5. Standard Free Spin Coupon Guidelines
      1. You are obliged to wager 40x the value of the free spin winnings.
      2. You may withdraw a minimum of $50 and a maximum of $50 from free spin winnings unless stated otherwise in the promotion.
      3. Once your wagering requirements are met, any excess beyond your maximum cashout limit will automatically be deducted from your account.
      4. Every coupon code has an expiration date. It's important to use the coupon code before it becomes invalid. All coupons expire 7 days from the date they are redeemed.
   6. Standard Free Chip Bonus Protocols
      1. You are mandated to wager 20x the value of any free chip bonus, unless otherwise indicated in the promotion.
      2. You may withdraw a minimum of $50 and a maximum of 5x the value of the free chip bonus unless otherwise stated in the promotion.
      3. Upon meeting your wagering requirements, any remaining balance exceeding your maximum cashout limit will be automatically removed from your account.
      4. Each coupon code has a set expiration date. Be sure to use the coupon code before its expiry. All coupons are valid for 7 days from the date of redemption.
   7. Standard Complimentary Point Terms
      1. Complimentary Points, or "Comp Points," can be converted into real money at a rate of 100 Comp Points equating to $1. b. You must have amassed at least 100 points to be eligible for Comp Point redemption.
      2. If your playable balance is above $1, you are prohibited from redeeming Comp Points.
      3. Comp Points cannot be redeemed if you have a pending withdrawal.
      4. You cannot blend redeemed Comp Points with other deposit or coupon balances.
      5. The cashout limit for redeemed Comp Points is 25x the redeemed amount.
      6. Please note that you can redeem up to $20.00/2000 comp points a day unless otherwise is stated.
   8. Standard Terms for Instant Cashback
8. To request a cashback, your User Account balance must be less than $/€ 1.
9. You can redeem multiple cashback promotions unless you've been excluded from participating in bonus offers.
10. Any remaining balance after a cashback withdrawal will be deducted.
11. You must contact the Casino to claim your cashback.
12. Cashbacks cannot be applied to deposits older than 7 days.
13. Cashbacks are only applicable to lost deposits without bonus funds.
14. You can claim a cashback for deposits lost since your last withdrawal or cashback, whichever occurred most recently.
15. If you make a withdrawal from received cashback or any other free promotion, it won't be eligible for a new cashback. You need to cover the withdrawn amount with lost deposits before becoming eligible again.
16. Deposits used for wagering on restricted games (777 slot, baccarat, craps, pontoon blackjack, roulette, sic bo, or any Live Dealer games) are not eligible for cashback.
17. Cashback is reduced by half if you wager any amount on Blackjack or 21 games.
18. Any portion of a bonus-free deposit used to enter a tournament (Buy-in, Add-on, or Re-Buy) will be subtracted from the qualifying amount for cashback.
19. Deposits used for transferring funds to Live Dealer games are ineligible for cashback, irrespective of whether Live Dealer games were played.
    1. Terms for Players Excluded from Bonuses
       1. Should a player who is disqualified from bonuses participate and profit from promotions or money bonuses, they will be obstructed from doing so by the Casino's automated system.
       2. In cases where a player attempts to manipulate the system or engages in dishonest practices, they will face immediate suspension and forfeiture of all bonuses, winnings, and associated privileges.
    2. Bonus Collusion
       1. The Casino reserves the right to suspend your account, pending an investigation, should there be reasonable grounds to suspect involvement in any form of collusion, syndication, or fraud during your interaction with the casino platform, website, and/or systems.
       2. We also reserve the right to withhold part or all of your account balance, terminate your account permanently, and recover from your account the sum of any winnings, pay-outs, or bonuses that have been influenced by any of the following activities:
       3. Collusion: The concerted effort of two or more individuals aiming to gain an unjust edge over the software and other players by pooling funds, thereby artificially increasing available bankroll through multiple bonus awards. This behavior seeks to maximize the probability of significant slot winnings while ensuring the pay-out is distributed to one of the colluding members, compromising the winning potential of other players at the casino.
       4. Syndication: It comes to our notice that you belong to or form part of a syndicate, club, or group where players are given strategies for advantage play to create positive expectancy scenarios via promotional offers.
       5. Exploitation of a fault, loophole, or error in our software or any third-party software provided for the services under this agreement.
       6. We learn that you have been found guilty of fraudulent or collusive behavior at another online gaming business, which includes charge-backs, collusion, or criminal activities.
       7. We find out that you have made fraudulent charge-backs, denied transfers, deposits, and purchases to your account.
       8. Use of automated play software such as 'bots' or any type of simulation tools or systems designed to provide an unfair advantage over the casino.
       9. The original deposit or User Account balance, whichever is the lesser amount, will be credited back to the User Account from which the deposit originated. The original deposit may be withdrawn at a minimum of $50.
       10. As a player at this Casino, you agree not to collude or attempt to collude or intend to be part of, directly or indirectly, a collusion scheme that involves sharing winnings between selected players, sharing funds, or working towards a mutual end goal while benefiting from multiple acquisition incentive offers to the detriment of other players not involved in the collusion. You also agree to inform the Casino if you suspect a player is colluding or planning to collude with other players. You further agree that you are not part of a syndicate or group engaging in advantage play strategies.
       11. We will thoroughly investigate any case where we suspect fraudulent activity, collusion, syndication, or illegal activity. We also reserve the right to inform our business units, processing companies, electronic payment providers, or other financial institutions we use, about your identity and any suspected unlawful, fraudulent, or improper activity.
20. GAME RULES
    1. The Casino's game server has been scrutinized by an independent User Accounting firm and validated for offering fair odds and for compliance with applicable laws and regulations.
    2. The Casino retains the absolute right to modify, withdraw or replace any Game at the Casino at any given time, along with the prices, features, specifications, capabilities, functions or other attributes of Services and/or Games.
    3. You accept the results of all Games as received in the client application from the Casino’s game server and agree that the Casino’s random number generator software determines the outcomes of the Games.
    4. The Casino may limit pending Games (games that have been quit without action from you) to one pending Game per Player.
    5. If a Game remains pending for 30 days without any action from you, the Casino reserves the right to terminate the Game.
21. PRIVACY POLICY
    1. During your Account registration, you will be required to provide certain personal data. This includes, but is not limited to, your first and last name, home address, e-mail address, and phone number.
    2. We pledge not to sell, donate, or otherwise disclose your personal information to any third party. Your personal data will only be disclosed when mandated by any Governing Authority and/or under any legal provision contained in the Governing Law.
    3. Your personal identity and details will remain confidential and we will never disclose wagering information on your behalf.
    4. All communication or correspondence between you and the Casino is considered private and not meant for distribution or publication on Internet forums.
    5. We might ask for certain document copies to verify your identity when you make a withdrawal for the first time. We may randomly request these documents to ensure the security of your account.
22. COMPLAINTS
    1. For any complaints, please reach out to our support team round the clock via email, live chat on the Website, or e-mail our management.
    2. The Casino will make every effort to resolve all complaints. If you remain dissatisfied with the resolution provided by the Casino, your complaint can be directed to Curacao eGaming.
23. LIMITATIONS OF LIABILITY
    1. The Casino bears no responsibility for any malfunctions related to hardware (either yours or the Casino's), network, telephone line, system, or Internet.
    2. If there are any issues with the gaming computer hardware, the gaming server, the implementation of the rules of a Game, the random number generator, or the accounting for the play, or if a human error is made by the Casino, any of its suppliers, or anyone else involved in the process, the Casino is not liable for any winnings that result from these errors. Any winnings resulting from any error are forfeited. In case of any dispute regarding a wager or winnings, the decision of the Casino will be final and binding.
    3. You indemnify and hold the Casino, its software provider (Real Time Gaming), their respective licensees, distributors, parents, subsidiaries, affiliates, and all of their officers, directors, advertising, promotion or other agencies, media partners, and others harmless from any legal action, demand, cause of action, claim, liability, costs, expenses, liabilities, damages, fines, penalties, fees or other charges that may arise as a result of the use or re-use of the Website, the Games, gaming with or through us, or receipt of winnings from us.

I just wanna point out that we did something together to take down a corporate decision and it worked. Why it worked? because we stood united and actually fought back together for once against fifthly capitalists, and this time they 'cared' to change their decision because if they didn't it would've actually damaged their company's income. I want you all to understand that a multibillion dollar company losing a couple million of income is nothing for them if they are satisfying their shareholders, because the shareholders will give them a billion more if they are satisfied, but what we did would've definitely did damages in billions to them in the long run.
The point of making this post is... Yes, we can do what we did over and over to get what we want. If we don't like something, we can revolt against it together just how we did it this time. We have made history with our revolution, and its about time we change its course too, And I am not just talking about this game. I just want all my fellow comrades to know that it is time to stand together against corporates and their predatory business tactics. I love helldivers not just because of the kick ass gameplay and insanely good writing of events, but also because the business model of it is not predatory, it isn't here to 'milk' its players its there to excite them while also making their own reasonable profit, a mutual benefit to put it simply.
And in my personal opinion, I think the business tactics of other companies, such as Blizzard, Activision, Microsoft, Bandai Namco, EA, Bethesda, etc... are made to leech off its players, their business models are not there to provide players a better experience or as a 'mutual benefit', its there to milk them dry. I'm not just talking about microtransactions.

• Just take blizzard for example, we got Overwatch 2, they 'DELETE' overwatch 1 to force players to move on to overwatch 2, a game I paid for doesnt exist anymore, instead we got a poorly balanced 5v5 with a DLC of credit card swipe simulator ranging from battle pass to overpriced individual skins.
• We got EA with them constantly delivering a 'QUARTER' of full game and selling the other parts of it as DLC (example: starwars battlefront) And Apex legends' microtransaction system, they got battle pass so long that it forces you to treat the game like a second job.
• Bandai Namco's Tekken 8, where they not only release a game which doesnt include the roaster of already existing characters they have made, but they quietly put microtransactions into the game as practically the only way to customise your characters which was NOT what they promised. And to top it all off, they sell the characters that we have already seen over the last 10 or so tekken games as DLC individually or as season pass.
• I don't think I even have to mention what Activision did, think we already know they have solo handedly ruined the Call Of Duty franchise which was the greatest franchise of a life time. They delete the previous game and force you to play a new 'morden warfare', which when you start up, has microtransactions as the main focus and the 'game' part is a feature in it.

I can go on for days but my point is, I wish we can stand against this type of behavior because now we know that it actually 'works'. We can change the gaming industry for the better. And just for the record, I am not opposed to DLCs, I AM opposed to microtransactions in a paid game, that also includes season pass, battle pass, skins, etc... and to people who say 'its just cosmetics, it doesnt affect the gameplay', I'd like to tell them that yes, it does affect my enjoyment of the gameplay, and If i paid for the full game, I want the full game and all its content which I can play whenever I want and unlock them by playing the game instead of swiping a credit card and grinding it like its my 2nd job. I do appreciate it when a game I love recieves actual DLCs, just take FromSoft games for example. their DLCs such as 'Ringed City DLC or Painted world' is not there to fill in the story holes, its there to give you more stories. or Monster Hunter's Iceborne DLC or Sunbreak DLCs. I like them because they are there to give more content on top of a completed game, they are not there to fill in what the game is missing. I hope people understand the point im trying to make here, and I hope this is finally the time the gaming industry changes for the better not just for the players but also the developers, because as we saw, Arrowhead did not have much of a say in what to do, Most of the bad decisions in most games comes from Publishers, ranging from adding more predatory business models to their game to milk players further, to forcing the developers to release the game quicker in order to 'make money faster'. So I do not blame game developers, Its usually the publishers that are the problem.

Oh Yea... its a - I just do not feel normal... feeling and I know exactly what will make me feel normal. I think about that remedy non stop some times. But here I am at day 65. Not sure how I got here, fuck I have been grumpy, headaches... major chip on my shoulder.
I am a beer drinker.. everyday if I could, 8-12 per day, everyday if I could. But a normal week of drinking would start Wednesday, feeling good, just had 2 days off... man I have earned these beer. I really want 12, but the wife is watching so I will have 6. Thirsty Thursday, doz... and a spa. Friday.. 12- 15. Wake up feeling crap, get up and take the boys to Saturday morning sport, hope i don't get pulled over on the way. Saturday.. Doz, Sunday Doz... and two days white knuckling it until Wednesday to do it all over again. Unless it is a holiday... DOZ everyday!
So long story short.. wife said ENOUGH.. I knew I had a problem.
So I went to AA... i have been just sitting in the meetings, and it helps a lot. I actually like these meetings, once I get over the shame of the first horrifying meeting. Everyone is great and I am proud of my 65 days.
A lot of people have terrible stories, my story is a life time of stupid things, lost opportunities, black outs and handovers. But I have functioned raised a family, been employed and married for 25yrs... So maybe I am not as much an alcoholic as the others? Yea i am thinking this... I want to drink bad...
One of the old timers at AA said ...... the difference between a heavy drinker and an alcoholic is the heavy drinker is not obsessed with alcohol, they simply don't drink and get on with life until they do... where an acholic is obsessed with alcohol and it seems I can think about it for days ...
Being at day 65 ... i am starting to feel happy again.. never thought this would happen, I go hours now not thinking about alcohol. Red Bull is a my go to... and NA beers. Some times on a Friday or Saturday working in my shed, I will have a little PUFF... just enough to relax. Wife does not know... Helped a lot to start with, i notice i no longer need it to get though those nights... Friday and Saturday... are the worst.
The thought of a holiday, going on a trip.. or anything like that seems terrible if I cant drink...
So this is day 65... hell only 65 days, 2 months, such a short space of time - but seems like months.... forever.. time goes soo slowly. Actually the weekend seemed to last days... it was cool. Feeling good is sooo good.
Now what I like about being sober....
Everything is better... my memory works, its unbelievable. I can spell, true... never been able to do this ever...there is nothing worse. I love it when i feel good... when my brain feels dopamine normally...
This is the first time since I was 18 (36yrs drinking) I have stopped drinking, used to make IPA home brew, my mind was so fucked I do not know how I kept my job... just mushy brain, no memory. I could not concentrate long enough to ride a motorcycle. I even struggled to drive after some big weekends. My mind was mush mush mush...
I raised two boys, did my best, they seem to like me, shame i don't remember all the moments. I am really making an effort now. My father... prick. Airline Pilot.. married 3 times... drinker... never gave me 5min of his time. Mind you I was a fuck up most of the time. We still don't talk or have a relationship, he is 85 now. He does not know I have given up.
My whole life I have tried to be better than him... married 25yrs, great relationship with my boys... two things he could not achieve and I think it annoys him i have done this... I am actually looking forward to emailing him when i have my 100 days and AA badges... i will send him a picture saying how great life is. That will piss him off lol. My life will be better than hi in every way except the $$$. The problem I have with the old man will need to be addressed at some point? Not sure... he will be gone soon enough and nothing will change for me... 100 days... not long now...

Hi Ladies!
Wanna thank this sub for giving us ladies the reality of dating alphas and all that comes with it finding a partner.
Just wanna send out a warning to y'all ladies...
I'd say I'm a good 7.5/10 (a little chubby but working on it) in looks just from the men I've pulled. And 8/10 in my accomplishments (degreed, entrepreneurial, community based, multilingual, well traveled). I also have a Christian upbringing. I'm 9 years younger than him as well.
I was courted by a highly successful self-made new money (6.5/10 in looks but 10/10 in success) for 4 months receiving gifts such has clothing and financial help with my business and such(He offered after I showed him a pitch deck and everything).
Of course I would return appreciation for his gifts and gentleman like behavior by occasionally cooking for the both of us... cooking breakfast for him during his busy days with back to back meetings when we would remote work together. Listening and supporting him when he talked about work and being encouraging and complimenting his masculinity and looks. I picked up lunch for us twice as well. My funds are limited as I'm on a budget right now.
I showed him how coupled life would be with us. I encouraged cooking as opposed to going out for dinners to demonstrate how I value saving money and eating healthy.
From the beginning, I set my standards on requiring a committed relationship before Intimacy. We talked about our family goals and were aligned on that. I did my best to submit to him in public. Be neat and feminine in my appearance. He's a businessman and would travel at least twice a month. He would always send pics of his destinations and trips and check in. Once he sent me on alert because he took a random trip to Cancun... but we weren't official so I didn't flip out but I definitely assume it was with another woman. He said it was a solo trip.
The first sign I feel I should have walked away was when I had to basically offer a soft ultimatum at 3 months. He said he was not able to offer me a relationship due to his schedule with work and health issues. I still stayed around because I liked him and felt he was the one but expressed I'd be dating other men. (Our chemistry ,mentality, and life goals were amazingly in sync) 2 weeks later he only offered exclusivity after he saw another man flirting with me. He said " I make him happy and he doesn't want to lose me".
We were intimate 1 month later. I felt he had shown me over and over he was in it and he didn't pressure me for Intimacy and he had taken me on a nice shopping trip for my birthday. So I was excited and in love. We went on a picnic and dressed matchy and he would introduce me to his neighbors and hold my hand but in some environments he would be very dodgy...so confusing.
Granted after Intimacy, I became super clingy and anxious but I knew I was and expressed that it was because of the Intimacy and it would wear off soon.
His behaviors then were dodging phone calls...not wanting to get a schedule together for dates during the week in advance...him being curt during goodbyes. All of this sent me reeling and I calmly expressed how I needed to take a week to myself to self regulate my emotions and I would reach out the next week.
I reach out next week and he breaks up with me.
His complaints were he felt I use him as a bank and he wasn't sure about me.
I know this sub is anti victim hood. So I will list out where I think I went wrong.

1. Asking for too many gifts/investments. My goal was to present myself as a woman with high standards that should he courted like Arabic and Asian woman have told me they are courted. ... I should have kept the gift requests at a minimum or not at all and just let him lead in that area.
   
2. Not disengaging after he said he couldn't offer me a relationship at 3 months.
   
3. He was very weird about social media... wouldn't follow me/my brands or want me to take pictures but followed other local female DJs and such. He would say things like " don't post our pictures. I'm private" or " I'm not sending these pictures to anyone but you" which hurt me but I'm also private so I let it go.
   

During the break up fallout, I confessed I loved him... and even ran into him at a bar and got drunk and cried in front of him saying I felt used and was everything a lie...( really Low point cuz I never drink usually only mocktails and that night two drinks got me drunk). At the bar he said he's been struggling as well trying to get over me... hanging out with the boys and working out everyday. He said everything had been gray this week and he missed me. But later as he was helping when I was drunk. He said "I'll be back " and left to talk to another girl. Then we talked outside after I got mad when I saw this.
He teared up a little during all this but ultimately sent me home in a cab. I asked him if he loved me and he said no.
I'm an absolute mess. I've worked so hard to keep it all tight and together during this courtship me faltering a bit is horrible but I'm gonna give myself a little bit of grace here. I'm sad and feel like I messed up with a great guy.
He's been texting me to check up on me now... but ultimately it's clear he is trying to relegate me to a plate. I REFUSE! So I'm not responding to him. I just miss the old guy from pre-intimacy.
Warning ladies...don't do what I did with a HVM. Don't be a spoiled Brat and don't beg for a relationship. What do y'all think about this?
Thank yall!

My boyfriend (31M) of 7 years proposed to me (30F) last December and it truly was one of the best days of my life. I love him so much and I do see myself happily growing old together. But I don’t like my ring.. It belonged to his grandmother and he told me that his parents suggested looking through her jewellery box to see if anything would work. The ring itself is a blue zircon with small diamonds on either side, however the zircon is all scratched up. After a bit of research into zircons, I found out that they aren’t really a stone you wear daily because they scratch easily, and if you want it to look shiny, you would have to get it polished every 2-3 years.
My boyfriend has joked to our friends/family on multiple occasions about how he didn’t have to pay anything for my ring, which after the second time, I ended up telling him (in tears) how much that upsets me. He also joked once about how I can look in his grandmother's jewellery box myself and choose something else if I’m not happy with this one. When I later broached the subject with him, he was very taken aback, he suggested keeping this ring as my “fancy” ring and buying a cheap ring I can wear day to day. And he now points out £100 rings when we pass pawn shops. This will sound terrible, but I don’t think he understands that the ring he has given me isn’t “fancy”, zircons were used back then as a cheap alternative to diamonds, they were even labelled “faux diamonds”. And I hate that the materialistic side of me wants something pretty and shiny, but I guess I had high hopes and they feel a bit let down. I’m not saying I want him to spend a fortune on a ring, I don’t think I would feel comfortable with the responsibility of having something so expensive on my finger, but I guess a bit more thought would have been nice.
Over the years, I have always said to him when the subject of rings arose that I would like to choose my own ring and that ideally it would be antique. He keeps fixating on the fact that the ring is from the 60s and saying “you wanted an old ring”, but I don’t feel like he properly understands why I’m upset. And every time I try to explain, I freeze up and struggle to get the words out (I’m not a confrontational person). I feel awful about it as I’m really close with my boyfriend's mum (it’s her mother’s ring). I feel a bit cornered, like I’m not allowed to speak out about the ring, because it belonged to his grandmother. The ring isn’t an heirloom, nor did his grandmother request that he propose with this ring. The whole situation feels very much like an afterthought. It’s reaching the point where I keep working myself up so much in my head, and I end up hiding to have a cry.
I am aware of how ungrateful and spoiled I sound, but every time I look at this ring, it makes me feel worthless. I told my mum about how I was feeling and she basically told me to get over it. (I don’t want to misrepresent my mum, she is a kind and very generous person, but empathy has never been one of her strong suits.) She offered one of her own rings as an alternative, but I declined as I think that would hurt my boyfriend’s mum. I am trying not to let it bother me, but I guess I just never imagined that I’d have such conflicting emotions about getting engaged. And I’m not really sure what to do. Am I meant to suck it up, or is it alright to ask for a new ring?

So I ordered some chicken through Woolworths Online. Got delivered on May 3rd, with an expiry date of May 9th. Tonight (May 7th), I opened it up and it was rank - clearly it had spoiled. Bugger!
So I jumped onto their online chat and got through to a human for a refund. After some palaver, they refunded the money. But then they said this:

Please note that Woolworths has a process control for what time frame is suitable for certain items to be used. For chicken items the time frame is 3 days from the day of delivery. So as a one-off I can arrange your refund today.

What the hell? The chicken still had two days to the labelled used-by date!
When I challenged about this "three day rule", they responded:

Sure it is just a process that Woolworths has in place for to keep track of the minimum days of consumption for all items. For chicken items it is 3 days including the day of delivery or pick up ... If the expiry date is the 9th but the delivery was made on the 3rd then that would mean no refund would be processed as this is within our control process.

I asked if they had any documentation about this "control process" rule. They conceded they didn't publish it and you "have to speak to a team member" on a case-by-case basis and they wouldn't offer any more refunds. What a lot of rubbish.
I explained that consumers expect to rely on the used-by dates and that if I receive spoilt food in the future I will be expecting a refund under Australian Consumer Law, regardless of their unpublished "control process".
At this point, they backtracked and said:

Please note if an item is spoiled we will certainly arrange a refund. The control process is not related to the spoiled items. My apologies for any confusion.

Alright then. Invoking ACL seems to have helped.
So, was this a rogue operator misunderstanding the rules? Or is there some sort of bullshit policy in place here? Are they even within their rights to have an unpublished over-ride on the printed label?

Hi I am a non-binary Individual living in Delhi. I have been pondering over the question of chosen family for years now and in 2022 I lost my mother to covid. Since then my life has been a low ride as I am left with no one. I have a brother who is addicted to drugs and I am planning to move out of my house soon and then India itself. I do have great friends and many of them are queer. But one day I was just wondering that what would it feel like I were to literally put up a call for family members. So if you are someone who is need of emotional support and want to be part of a small community where we will meet online and talk about anything then DM me your email id.
About me: I am a policy expert based out of Delhi with a postgraduate degree in law and political science. I am a certified and trained well-being provider.
Key objective: creating a space for chosen family and becoming friends beyond the darkness of the internet.
Mode: we will meet online once a week or twice a month and if it goes well then we will expand. The idea will be to form community of support irrrespetive of our national boundaries. We can play games, share ideas, share meal plans, ask for help, and provide support.
Requirements: none. But you will have to be 18+ or legally adult in your own country. The reason I am stating this is because I would want people to share their free will. No need to share any pictures or personal details unless you want to. You can choose to be anonymous.
Guidlines: strict confidential protocol, zero tolerance towards sexual harassment, stalking, or making anyone feel uncomfortable. Any person who may feel uncomfortable at any point is free to raise it immediately. Zero space for trolling.
Finally, I understand that this post might come across as something fishy or anything but there is only one intention behind it which is to find members and friends for my chosen family. I am not looking for emotional support or any other kind of support. I am just looking for friends who if we enjoy each other can be my friends spreaded everywhere. Additionally, I want to be able to talk to them about movies, songs, pop culture, being enby, and so many other things.
So looking forward to meet y'all.

Living a boundless life presents itself as a novel strategy for personal development and fulfillment in a time when age is frequently considered a decisive factor. A life that is marked by ongoing discovery, intentional alignment, and wisdom sharing transcends time. From inquisitive youth to contemplative maturity, embrace every stage of life with inquiry, flexibility, and a dedication to personal development.
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The unrelenting quest for discovery is the foundation of a boundless life. This includes mental, emotional, and spiritual investigation in addition to physical discovery. Constant exploration keeps the heart open, the mind bright, and the spirit young. It entails accepting different viewpoints, rising to new challenges, and keeping an open mind to everything that life offers. Exploration is the fuel that keeps an ageless spirit going.
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Living proactively is the key to leading an infinite existence. It entails leading a purposeful and deliberate life. Thinking expansively about what's possible is a necessary part of living an infinite life. It entails going above and beyond your comfort zone in an effort to discover new horizons that might lead to exciting new directions for your own growth and development.
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Let the boundlessness be your boundary! ~ Mehmet Murat Iran

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A Limitless Life—What Is It?

Living a life that aligns with your values and accomplishes all of your own objectives is what it means to have an endless existence. For many leading the aforementioned chaotic life, true happiness is a distant dream. Fears and limitations are frequently in the forefront of your mind and they all keep you from achieving greatness.
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Sometimes there are too many things vying for your attention in life, and it may get overwhelming. Your peace of mind may be undermined by obligations to your family, your job, your health, social pressures, etc., without your knowledge. One might quickly become disoriented by social media and other technological distractions like smartphones, making it easy to lose sight of life's purpose.
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Since most are just going through the motions, you aren’t even conscious of how your days are passing. Everyday activities like waking up, getting ready for work, chatting, browsing social media, shopping, and commuting take up your days without your conscious awareness. Every rational individual would want to take a moment to calm down and see the bigger picture in the middle of this. I believe that everyone should have times when they wish to stop, relax, and reflect on this amazing life.
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Set forth no limits. Keep in mind that your potential is boundless. ~ Sal Martinez

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Meaningful Alignment: Leading the Boundless Path

The foundation of this timeless plan is acting in a way consistent with your highest goals and values. Regular introspection and pivoting are necessary to stay committed to a growing mission. Living a purposeful and meaningful life is ensured by making deliberate decisions that are authentic. Purposeful alignment is the compass that steers the boundless voyage, making sure each choice, adjustment, and turn leads to a rewarding experience.
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To live a boundless life, you must first conquer your mindset. Of course, one's mindset is largely influenced by your beliefs about life, other people, yourself, and current situation. You’ve been conditioned to be a specific way throughout your life, either by others or yourself. These unhelpful ideas, attitudes, feelings, anxieties, and routines will prevent you from leading an infinite existence. Nothing you accomplish will ever bring you the long-term success you want until you take the time to unlearn them.
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There are two practices that can help you gain more control over your thoughts and regular impulses: mindfulness and meditation. Your ability to gain these crucial abilities, which can lead to a boundless life, will improve with practice.
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To lead an infinite existence, the second stage is to gain control over your behavior. It all comes down to choosing the appropriate course of action and doing it in the best way possible to assist you achieve your desired outcomes. Put another way, achieving your goals and objectives essentially comes down to doing the right things at the appropriate time.
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I am soaring, boundless, and free, and I know living my dreams is never a question of time, but one of purpose. ~ Leo Lourdes

Mentoring and Sharing of Wisdom: The Foundations of Boundlessness

Mutual mentoring and the exchange of wisdom among all ages are fundamental to a limitless life. Through the reciprocal sharing of information and perspectives, mutual mentorship enriches the lives of people of all ages. Age is not a barrier to this exchange; it acknowledges that wisdom can flow from young to old and from old to young with equal ease. In this setting, sharing wisdom transforms into a dynamic process of teaching and learning, wherein lessons are transmitted, experiences are exchanged, and mutual progress occurs. It promotes a culture of lifelong learning and interaction by embodying the idea that development and progress are ongoing.
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Mastery over your personal development is the third step to having an endless existence. To assist you advance in a more helpful manner, you must be like a sponge that absorbs as much as it can. You must fully dedicate yourself to lifelong learning, progress, and growth if you want to lead an endless life. A person who is living a boundless existence is constantly learning new things and developing new perspectives on the world around them, other people, and themselves.
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Living a limitless existence entails dedicating oneself to doing their best. Everything you do needs to be of the greatest caliber possible, superior to anything that anyone else could model or create. But remember that ultimately, what counts are the outcomes.
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Even today, I dare not say that I have reached a state of achievement. I'm still learning, for learning is boundless. ~ Bruce Lee

Accepting Adaptability and Change: Handling Life's Cycles

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The only thing that is constant in life is change, and living a boundless existence requires accepting this impermanence. People who have developed resilience and adaptability can handle life's changes with grace, seeing each new stage as a chance for personal development and fresh starts. This method makes sure that one is adaptable and receptive to new directions, welcoming the unknown and the opportunities that come with change.
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The ability to control your physical body is the fourth stage of leading an infinite life. You feel more alive, passionate, and driven when your bodies are robust and you are in good physical and mental health. As a result, this gives you the energy you need when you give more of yourself and continue chasing your objectives when it seems impossible by refusing to let fear stop you.
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Lastly, anxiety is the primary source of your limitations. You frequently concentrate on dangers, potential problems, and challenges to the conveniences you take for granted. Put simply, you're afraid to push outside your comfort zones and take a chance.
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But there's a distinction to be made between perceived and actual hazards associated with an undertaking. You should concentrate on estimating the risks associated with your undertakings. Once you are proficient in that assessment, you will overcome many of the constraints you may currently face and your fears will have less space to grow.
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Desire is boundless, and boundlessness frightens us. ~ Martha Roth

Creating Bridges with Common Experiences

The boundless plan places a strong emphasis on the value of forging close, meaningful connections via common experiences. A shared meal, a stroll in the morning, or a coffee break with a friend can foster deeper feelings of empathy, unity, and understanding that go beyond the simple enjoyment of food, drink, or exercise. These communal meals, breaks, and experiences serve as forums for conversation, reciprocal mentoring, and the fortification of ties between people of different ages.
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Mastery over your power over others is the fifth step to having an endless existence. Although gaining this kind of influence isn't simple or quick, it is something you may focus on improving.
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Having effective communication skills is one key to persuasion and influence. You can connect with others, negotiate, and sell yourself and your ideas more effectively if you have strong communication skills. Outstanding storytellers are also excellent communicators. They persuade others to support their cause by using metaphors and stories to convey their points of view.
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Naturally, it takes years of experience and a profound comprehension of human nature and life patterns to read people. Everyone can, however, acquire better communication skills with a little work, perseverance, and practice.
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The more boundless your vision, the more real you are. ~ Deepak Chopra

How then does one lead an endless life?

Imagine leading a life that is shaped by your genuine values and purposeful objectives in every way—thought, action, and living. Happiness, which is the true aim of human life, can only be attained in that manner. You will recognize the true purpose of your existence and act accordingly once you break free from the limitations you set on yourself.
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If we are to truly strive for an endless existence, there are a few timeless truths that every one of us needs to know. While some of these realities may appear or sound frightening, they are only meant to serve as stepping stones for you to maximize your "one" existence. Let's examine these facts.
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Self is a sea, boundless and measureless. ~ Kahlil Gibran

1. Believe me; this life has an expiration date.

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The first fact, which I hate to tell you, is that you have little time left on this wonderful earth. The most terrifying part is that nobody is aware of the expiration date. It may happen now, tomorrow, or in the not too distant future.
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Why is this truth significant? This has the potential to be a very freeing force for you once you comprehend it. Since you do not know how long this amazing existence will last, wouldn't it be wiser to seize the opportunity while it still presents itself? Accept this reality and this lovely life, then observe the results for yourself.
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Let your mind be quiet, realizing the beauty of the world and the immense boundless treasures that it holds. ~ Edward Carpenter

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2. Your bank account balance isn't "really" important.

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The goal of most people on the planet is to increase their income. Although it’s wise to safeguard your financial position, there is a timeless fact that says having money does not ensure happiness or a boundless life. Never prioritize your financial success over your well-being, intimate relationships, or health. It's not worthwhile.
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The worst thing about wealth or money is that it can disappear at any time. Everyone has heard tales of wealthy individuals failing miserably in their later years or losing everything they had because of illness or a downturn in the economy. Thus, internalize this knowledge to create a boundless life.
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If your past is limited, your future is boundless. ~ Franklin Pierce

3. Your health is your most valuable asset.

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Everybody has a list of goals for their lives, such as writing a book, getting a new career, getting married to someone they adore, etc. However, you have a tendency to overlook the most crucial aspect of your life—your health—amid all these objectives. Your health should be your first priority in life.
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Why? Because being healthy enables you to fully appreciate the beauty that this life has given upon you, including the relationships, objects, destinations, and everything in between. You can very much count on all other aspects of your life to be in good shape if your physical, emotional, and mental health is good.
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Three things have a limited threshold: Time, pain, and death.
While truth, love, and knowledge–are boundless. ~ Suzy Kassem

4. The opinions of most people regarding you are very irrelevant.

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Before doing any action, one thing that worries you is what other people might think. It could be members of your community, acquaintances, coworkers, family, or even complete strangers. This one characteristic of humanity is the largest obstacle preventing anyone from reaching their life's ambitions.
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The opinions of others are completely irrelevant. Even well-known figures like Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King, and Mother Theresa encountered their fair share of detractors. You will ultimately find yourself sad in this wonderful life if you make it your mission to impress other people. Thus, take any necessary action to accomplish your objectives. Therefore, quit comparing yourself with others, or trying to be anything than your authentic self.
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You must be free of any expectations, you must be completely open-minded and polite and grateful. Then, the possibilities for learning and growth are boundless. ~ Jozef Simkovic

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5. Your happiness is your concern, not others.

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I want you to accept one last timeless fact: all humans have a tendency to search for happiness in a variety of things, people, and locations. Many think that having your family around or purchasing the house of your dreams will bring happiness. But how has that fulfilled your life experience? You guessed correctly: nothing or no one can.
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You are destined for misery from the start when you think that other people, things, or occasions will bring you happiness. But if you put your happiness first, you'll be fortunate to lead a calm and boundless existence.
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If I must know something in order to believe in it, what I am able to believe in will be severely limited. If I choose to believe in something in order to know it, then what I believe in can be boundless. ~ Craig D. Lounsbrough

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Boundlessly Moving Forward

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These five eternal truths or principles will therefore assist you in creating a boundless life in which you welcome challenges and find fulfillment. I ask everyone to join me on this wonderful adventure.
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By the way you think about yourself, your life, and your situations, you put limits on your potential. This often puts a cap on your ability to grow and develop. You’re just not able to pass that limit. Unless you believe you are boundless.
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The lesson here is to not put yourself in a box and believe that your potential is finite. Rather, embrace a development mentality and start making small changes to become more boundless in all facets of your life. Everyone possesses this amazing unrealized potential within, in various ways.
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The limitless life plan defies conventional age-based limitations by fostering an intentional lifestyle of lifelong learning and mentoring among generations. There are no limits to exploration, behavior is guided by purpose, and wisdom is freely given and sought for. An enduring passion for discovery, significant accomplishments, and lifelong learning guarantee a legacy that uplifts and encourages people of all ages.
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Behind me is infinite power. Before me is an endless possibility, around me is boundless opportunity. ~ Mac Anderson

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https://www.reddit.com/AMA/comments/1cifiae/i_just_spoke_the_wife_of_the_man_ive_been_seeing/
https://www.reddit.com/confessions/comments/1ci9amt/i_just_spoke_the_wife_of_the_man_ive_been_seeing/
The above links have a lot of information and a lot of questions I answered.
In summary, I was all relaxed and happy and living my life when I received a message from the wife I knew nothing about, of the man I've been seeing for years. She and I began to talk and I chose to be transparent and answer all her questions.
So this is how it all ended.
The wife and I chatted several times. Her phone had 'mysteriously' been factory reset, which is why the last update I felt she had stopped contacting me. Turns out it was her phone and we chatted for 5 or so hours after she got access again.
The snaps he and I had sent disappeared from both our phones. He had gone into her phone where she had uploaded his snap and blocked and deleted me, then deleted his account, essentially losing all that history. I'm sure he made the factory reset happen but she says he denies that. But we retrieved some snaps, because I saved all those, and she has his emails and got the snap account back up, so when she unblocked and added me again it was all still there on my side. We couldn't retrieve a huge amount stuff but that was enough, and with some things I had saved in my camera roll, his minimizing narrative and outright lies didn't hold water. He tried to pretend he had never said anything emotional to me, for instance. But there is was. Him saying emotional stuff. To me.
She and I talked about the whole thing. I was able to set straight his lies (that were constant and ongoing, he really tried to shrink me to almost nothing), but I helped her set the whole thing straight with my saved things, like a pic of himself he sent telling me he loved me, dates, times, etc. We talked for many hours. She was confused about what was so special about me that would make him do this. How I predated her. I was blown away that he met her, got married, had a kid, while he was having this thing with me. I feel us talking made us both clear that it's all on him. There are things about both us he wanted, and he did what it took to have it all.
Her plan was to leave him. I know how persistent and overwhelming he is when he wants something. How he can make you feel things, because I fell under it the times I tried to break it off.
I'm just the mistress. She has to deal with all that multiplied, and a marriage, kids, etc. So I suspected she was likely to go back to him. And so I always said things like: if you decide to work on your marriage you never have to worry about me seeing or talking to your husband ever again, etc. She's got to make her choices, there's a baby involved, and I felt it was not my place to try to influence just because it would serve him right to end up losing everything. It would serve him right.
She messaged me yesterday they plan to work on her marriage. That is understandable.
She has been incredibly gracious this entire time, and has expressed her sorrow, several times at how he didn't even apologize to me or give me any explanation, after he put me through all this. I appreciate that SO much. She had invited me to confront him in person, but I don't want to see him or listen to his lies. And since it's obvious he didn't care for me at all, that indifference up close would bite hard. I don't need to see that. It hurts plenty just to know.
She has every reason to hate me, and it was remarkable she thought about my feelings at all. I didn't say much about how I felt, I thought it inappropriate to make this about me when he has a baby and this is her husband. So that level of classiness and sympathy was amazing in the midst of all this heartbreak and pain.
I told her some couples can overcome this kind of thing, and I hoped that happens for her. She hoped I heal from this. I told her it would happen in time. The feelings I have for him will probably turn to disgust. Since all the things I admired were fake, and who he actually is isn't anyone I would have ever gotten involved with had I known the truth, nothing I cared about was real. That should ease my journey. Maybe.
I don't judge her for her choice to take him back. I don't think he will stop being deceptive. He is too good at it. But I understand where her head is at, with a newborn and a young marriage. I hope for her and the kids sake it works out for the best.
I have an appointment for a referral for some counseling. So the many folks who advised that...I listened. For now I am still pretty shook up. Got real scatterbrained and am dealing with a lot of grief and confusion still. I hold back tears many times. It is on my mind all the time.
But I think it could have been a lot harder. Because the communications I had with the wife made things a lot more clear for both of us. At least I am not trying to answer questions in my head I'd never know the answers to otherwise. I don't have that craziness to deal with, creating narratives from thin air with missing pieces. I understand things a lot more clearly than most discarded mistresses ever get to.
I also get to know how this chapter ends. With them about to try to salvage the marriage. That is very remarkable. She gave me that info too, and I won't be wracking my brain wondering what happened.
I appear to be easily charmed, super naïve, quite gullible, and too trusting when I take people on their word. So I have some soul searching to do. I thought I was way more cool than all that. Turns out I had my self image all wrong. That is another hard part of this. The person I thought was so cool is a total dupe.

I am from a Muslim country where arranged marriage is a normal thing. Me(26) worked my past 4 years in a night shift job to make a better living for my family and didn’t have any social life, thus did not meet anyone. On the other hand my mother was looking for a bride for me even though I didn’t want it. She would send a picture of at least one girl every day. And whenever I came to my hometown to meet my parents, my mom would step a date for me and force me to go. Went through a bunch of dates like these and never liked anyone until this one girl. Daughter of my mother’s friend. I didn’t like her necessarily but she was pretty and didn’t say anything during the date that would turn me off. After the date, as it usually goes my mother asked how it went if I liked her or not. I said “she is okay, but I need to talk to her little more before I can say if she is the right person “. Then I went back to the city where I work. After few weeks my mother started spamming me about this girl, and kept insisting that we should put a ring on her fingers so we can secure, cause apparently there were many guys who wanted to wife her up. Despite my words about how I don’t know her very well and I should see about her little more my mom kept pressuring me. At that point in my life I have not dated anyone for the past 4 years seriously and did not meet any good girls since I work until 2-3 am and only go out at nights, I thought to myself maybe I won’t meet anyone and I should just marry this girl and said okay to my mom and that she can go to their house and ask for her hand, cause that’s the tradition here. So after we secured her, I started talking to the girl and we went few more dates, I started realizing that she was not really my type. Our conversations were so dry, and thoughts never aligned as were from two different planets. I started having doubts about these whole marriage thing. Fast forward after few months, I opened a talk with my mom about how it was not working out with her that we should maybe stop everything. And my mom got dramatic because it her friend and we should not do it, and it is not right. I told myself “okay let me give it a second thought “ cause I don’t want to put my parents in a bad situation. Then I took a vacation from work and went on a solo trip. I wanted to clear my head and really make a decision on this thing. I looked at it from as many angles as I could and didn’t see any future with the girl. Came back to my home country and told my mom that my decision was solid and that we had to break off the engagement. My mom went on full blast arguing with me how it wasn’t right that I should have told (which btw I did)this earlier and now it would affect the girl and her reputation and no one will marry after this (cause people will start gossiping ). I spent a month after that arguing with my mom cause she thought she could change my mind. She even thought that I was going crazy at some point just because I didn’t want to marry this girl. She gathered my aunties, grandma and tried cornering me but I was standing strong about my decision, cause it was my future and I could not just throw it away like this. So finally they backed down and said okay if you really break it off, go ahead do it. So I went and picked up the girl from her house and took her to a nice cafe and explained everything. Told her that we are not good fit, and I would not be able to make her happy and keep her reputation solid I even offered that she can say there is something wrong with me, like I am sick or something and break off the engagement. But she had something else in her mind, she straight away threatened me to kill herself if I don’t marry her. I was shocked. I took her home and dropped her off and told her that I needed to think. I went back to work, which is in a different city if you have already realized. Gave it another thought, I am a nice person and I didn’t want anyone to get hurt, then I thought maybe I should talk to her parents about it. Then came back after few weeks to talk to her father and came to her house and called her and asked her to call her father or brother so I can talk to them and explain everything. She said they were not at home and got into my car and started saying the same things. At this point apparently her mom also found out about what was going on and called me and started crying and telling her that something would happen to her if I didn’t marry her. So now both mom and daughter making threats about killing themselves. My mom called me sobbing and asking me not to break off the engagement. They are even fine with me just getting married to her and divorcing her right away just to avoid people talking. I was mind blown of how low our society was thinking and to see I was the only who is actually caring about this girls future , so she can marry who would actually match her and be happy. No one else cared , everyone including my mom, girls mom and the girl herself is cool with the idea of marrying just for the public and not living together, and they will kill herself if I don’t give them that. Now they want to have the wedding next week and I feel like I am being tricked and played into this marriage by these women and just want to run away leaving everything behind, my career family cause I feel like I give in and marry her right now the same thing will continue they will have their way with me and make me live with a person whom I despise at this point. Let me know what you guys think. I am planning my escape tonight and it is 15:00 here now??

muslim

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This is a story about a song, Remember His Name By Jurassic 5. The song starts off with sounds of a bell which sometimes indicates Death, a wolf howling, someone screaming "HELP HELLO" and other noise's then you here an old phone ringing and glitching whilst a voice of Zaakir who goes on to state to the person ak (akil) "Yo what's up ak" ak says "who is this" Zaakir says "its me zaak--ir" as the old telephone glitches out and we here 2 other voices, a kid saying "hello?" and another man saying "i got it hang up!" ak says "yo speak louder i cant hear" and Zaakir just hurry's up and says "Yo Its me Zaakir!" already not a whole lot going on but then Zaakir describes how he was watching television and feeling disturbed because he's just gotten news that "Some cat" has been shot and ak ask if its a "Gangster rapper." "Perhaps" says Zaakir, but he was looking at the face of one particular "Cat" and he has seen him before, "Can you remember where at"(ak) Zaakir states that he saw him at either the liquor store, the laundry mat or a party "and shit" But the guys this man was with no longer exist, like they just went away like that until ak tells him that he has known this man his entire life "Ever since i was young", he used to he see him rolling dice and he would see him once or twice a week but with all different types of women. This "cat" tried to keep in touch with ak but akil knew what was up with this guy and when ever he would come around his block he would duck or walk away. "In the mid-eighties he went crazy and had ladies selling there baby's for him to get quick easy cash. He had a lot of friends that he would visit and Thrill seeking people under the influence of this guy's teachings. Akil's dad knew the guy well from meeting him at "the hotel" and his friend Johnny "kicked it with him in a jail cell" a lot of people met him with a female and was connected to drug sales for rich and poor some better or worse, The last and the and the first "Walked the earth But Cant Avoid His Turf" and it hurts akil to think about this guy but he still cannot "remember his name" he thinks 2na (another friend of Zaakir's and akil's) knows but his wife cooked and he's going to eat. Zaakir hangs up the phone and rings 2na "Yo! asalaam ulakum" he' says after asking whats up on Zaakirs street "Man the feudin' is on" but the reason he called is because it was the "cat" from his building and asks if 2na's seen him 2na says he met him out in pasadena "Remember seven (another friend) "Boomaringo" and if he wasn't mistaken it was between fair oaks and lake whilst they were getting a lunch break. They then drove right by the place they rest at and it was mayhem the "cats" have pistols and it was brown and black as they patrol the hood looking for trouble but they ended up fleeing the scene "or should we say fled" and suddenly there were 2 cars on the street movin fast and when 2na looked he saw the "cat" in his back passenger seat. But still 2na cant "remember his name". after we hear some voices Zaakir thinks "where have i seen this brother before?" as we get an ad lib of the *well it was either at the liquor store or laundry mat* and *ive been knowing him all my life and also *"Its Like You Cant Avoid His Turf"* and finally Zaakir cracks the code. His name is de-de-death. Yep death so that means everyone one who he met Has Died, akils dad and his homeboy Johnny, all the women he saw him with and the people he "ran with" who no longer Exist. He is Death.
Thanks. My first post and idk if ill do more i just found this song interesting and funny thing is my dad showed me this album and group so thanks to him if you have anything interesting to say please do it would be a pleasure. Bye

Brace yourself for a detailed review! I am sorry for the delayed review in this subreddit. Our trip was two months ago.
Hyatt Ziva Cancun has easily become our favorite destination.
Some background: we split our stay for a 2 week vacation. Our first week was with our grandchildren at Hyatt Ziva Cancun. Our second week was at Hyatt Zilara Cancun. I will post separate review for Zilara.
We arrived in Cancun on a Tuesday morning. Airport immigration was a breeze. No wait for us because we used the electronic fast-lane. If you have kids, you can’t use that service. Our son and his family (kids too) were flying from different location and didn’t arrive until day 2. So because it was just my wife and I, we were able to use the immigration fast lane. We didn’t check bags. We use laundry service at the resorts so were able to easily pack enough for one week and wash and rewear our same outfits for a second week at the Zilara. We each had a carry on and a personal item (backpack) which was enough for us.
For this trip, we used Friends Travel Cancun for private transport. Our flights were early and they must have monitored cuz they were there when we got to the pickup area. They were waiting for us outside the airport with a ‘welcome home’ sign and our name. Made us feel special.
We arrived at the resort around 10:30. We were greeted by bellboys who stored our luggage (our room wasn’t ready but we could use the resorts and eat at the restaurants. My wife had a small beach bag packed with extra set of dry clothes, our swim trunks, and sun block, so we grabbed that and proceeded to check in. We were escorted up the steps by a nice gentleman who welcomed us with some discounts. During the casual conversation, it became apparent that he was part of the timeshare presence at the resort. We declined and told him we already booked through a member and had no interest in buying into their club (more on that later). He said it would just be 30 minutes presentation, and we repeated that we were not interested. He was kind and escorted us to the check-in desk in club tower.
We checked into our room around 3:10 after using the resort for the day. Club ocean front king. Wonderful room and great view. See pictures. The club lounge was a highlight, with 24/7 and a well-stocked fridge. The small bar in club tower was tucked in the corner and not busy during day. We enjoyed our evenings with the bartender and laughed a lot. The lounge bar remained open until 11 PM.
Dining: there are several options for breakfast (room service, coffee shop, club snack bar, Tradewinds and the buffet). We went to all. Once our son arrived with his family the next day, the buffet became more popular since it had EVERY type of breakfast food available plus freshest fruit. Waiters were very attentive with refills and keeping the kids happy with helping with their plates and friendly interactions. There are freshly made churos outside the wonderful coffee shops.
For lunch, Chevy’s was popular. Habeneros was a great ocean front setting, but we weren’t as impressed with menu options. Food was very good, but I guess I’m simple and don’t venture too far from routine. The highlight was the grill by the pools, serving corn on the cob, grilled chicken, hamburgers, nachos, bbq ribs, and other grillers (all on different days).
For dinner, there are many options and we tried them all. One of the meals at Lorenzos wasn’t my favorite, but the remaining dinner options were great. The food was way above average. Every plate was presented with perfection. Definitely check out each restaurant when you’re. No reservations, but we went early enough that we didn’t have to wait.
Can’t forget the candy store Pasteles. We stopped by for ice cream every day after pool or beach. The candy was generic taste as was most of the dessert. But ice cream was our winner for sure. They also had the best chocolate and white covered strawberries.
There are 2 beaches: Norte beach, near Habaneros was beautiful. The soft sand made it an excellent spot for kids. Sahara beach was a few more steps (on other side). VERY calm, and soft sand. The kids club rented toys so we were able to use there for the kids.
For the pools, we didn’t have any issues with finding chairs. We went out about 9:30. There is a lot of umbrellas so ask someone to help setup your chairs. Given them a few bucks as a tip. They work hard to please you.
For cabanas, we rented one but with the umbrellas, you may not need one unless very little kids who want to rest. The kids were in the water most of the time anyway.
Activities and entertainment are plenty throughout the resort but they flip flop to which pool they’ll keep busier. At the club pool, they set up a water obstacle course on two of the days we were there—a hit with the whole family. The kids were all about arts and crafts, but they also had wax hands, created masks, personalized beach bags and hats. On a rainy day, they spent hours at the kids' club, not wanting to leave. The staff in the kids club is wonderful. My daughter in law was very impressed. We all wished there was kids club stayed open later so parents could go do dinner, even just one night of extended hours. There was singers, dancers, and performers out by the norte pool every day. Music and just fun. There wasn’t a foam party there (that we could see).
One thing I can comment about this resort – it’s impeccably clean and beautiful setting. Housekeeping deserves big kudos. Tip the housekeepers!
Just in case you want some tips:
1-use the fast lane at the airport if no kids (electronic immigration scans your passport).
2-pack light as you are in your trunks or swimsuit for most of the day.
3-ask staff for help. Don’t settle; if something isn’t right, they will make it right (but don't be mean or overly needy, be respectful). The staff take great pride in their work and to please guests.
4-if you want to work out, the gym is one of the best we’ve seen.
5-go for beach walks early in morning or late in day; too hot in mid day.
6-Get best prices thru a member. Our friends told us about their trip and saved thru a member of vacation club to book through and compared rates. HIGHLY recommend doing this! Saved us a lot of money (over $1000). I mentioned above that there were timeshare sales when we arrived. When we booked with the member, we specifically asked if we had to sit through membership presentation. We did NOT, so we were well prepared in advance that no sales pitch was required. The member is from Real Club Resorts (not the same as the timeshare at Ziva) and she has a Facebook group but you can send me a private message and I can give you her contact information, too.
Her group is facebook. com/groups/allinclusivediscounts. We've done this a few times with her and also booked our Zilara trip (review coming soon) thru her. Wyndham Alltra as well. Thinking about Royalton next.
7-we didn’t leave the resort for activities except shopping one day. If the kids asked for an activity, we contacted the entertainment staff to give us a rundown of what we could do. But between kids club and the entertainment crew, we were busy.
8-spa is expensive, but we did indulge for my wife and DIL.
9-gift shop is unaffordable. Walk a few blocks to the flea market or mall. LOTS of stuff available nearby (you’ll be hounded by the sellers but we just smiled and kept walking until we found what we wanted). Sunblock is crazy expensive and half the price at the pharmacy down the road.
10-they'll blow up floaties at the store down by the pool
11-make sure you are booking HYATT Ziva CANCUN not HYATT Ziva RIVIERA Cancun. We met two families that originally thought they were same resort and iniitally booked at RIviera Cancun thinking it was Cancun. They are not. While Ziva Riviera is nice, the Cancun site is so much better. Using a member discount (see #6 above) makes Cancun more affordable. But the prices at Riviera are significantly less. Hyatt should consider changing the name!

Hi, 27M here. Long-ish post -- partly writing for catharsis, have posted in a couple of other communities too. Partly just wanting to hear from strangers rather than people close to me. And partly have questions for advice, at the end.
Went through a breakup with my ex (24F) three months ago, two year relationship. This is the first time I had been broken up with. I have been in one serious relationship before this one for three years, and some casual flings before that one.
Things were really, really good. We did everything together, talked all the time, very open communication. It felt healthy and right and I felt fully myself around her. She was always excited to tell me everything about her day and come up with new plans for us to try. Were talking about moving in together. Things went south really suddenly, I could tell she wasn't feeling herself for a month beforehand, but when we talked, it seemed like she was mostly stressed about this graduate program (very close by, importantly, so no secret threat of long-distance) she was applying to. She mentioned strains in the relationship, but when I asked further, she had no further elaboration other than "it feels weird." Unable to get much else out of her, I suggested we wait until after her applications were all done to see if this is partly stress-related, and then we could see where we were. She agreed with this at the time.
Then I'm blindsided as she breaks up with me, first over text after I was getting weird energy over messages all morning, and then a final phone call that evening. Two days before Valentines day, right before we were supposed to go on a small trip together, along with a wedding together later that month. Truthfully, that first month ruined me. You never think the whole "seeing all the hearts and love on Valentine's day" will affect you until you're dealt the killing blow virtually the eve-of. The wedding was even worse. Was my buddy's wedding so I still went solo. Was brutal enough to listen to the vows and be thinking to yourself the entire time "damn but *we* had that too," made worse by far too many questions about my conspicuously absent date. Solidly miserable time.
I know I didn't handle myself well in the immediate aftermath. I didn't send anything bad or pleading, just far too many texts with a false hope of seeking closure, of wondering "how the fuck did this happen when things were so good?" Those unsurprisingly didn't go anywhere, mostly just half-baked apologies and "I don't know what to say - I'm sorry I hurt you" sort of stuff. I naively thought she would treat me the same way she did while we were in the relationship. That we were both people who, even in the twilight hours of our shared time together, were there for one another and would tell one another everything.
Things have ebbed and flowed emotionally since. Some days I go through the motions and more or less don't think about it. Most nights are intolerable though -- the stillness fosters tormented minds. And the mornings where I wake up from dreams about her are terrible too. Initially it was hard because I was still grappling with the reason -- the primary reason she gave being that she felt that I loved her more than she did me, and that was overwhelming her. It still fucks with me if I'm being fully honest. It feels like I'm cultivating a whole different breed of trust issues, where I can feel myself already channeling this toxic attitude of "alright time to play fucking games then I guess, aloof it is next time" that I don't want to harbor. At some level it's the whole thing of being afraid to love again for fear of being hurt again. I get that I shouldn't. But it's really, really hard to not feel that way.
I don't miss her, exactly. I miss the relationship as it was, for sure. But I have fully accepted there's no going back. To restart something the way I feel is not an option, and the way she ended things have permanently changed how I view her, and I would never be the same partner to her again. The damage is done. But I do miss how I felt and how empty those incredibly happy memories now feel. They were happy memories because they were shared. It's hard for me to view them as happy in a purely egocentric way. I was happy because I was happy to have someone's company and they were happy with mine. But the method of the breakup, the words shared since, and how quickly she reset her "digital presence" (yeah yeah I know I should have blocked her on everything and averted my eyes, but I didn't: I'm a glutton for emotional pain) -- all of those combined to make it hard for me believe she shares that same sentimentality.
She sent me a package with a box of my clothes I left at her place (and who knows what else) to the mail office at my apartment. I still haven't gone to grab the box. I'm afraid to see what else is in the box, if there's the gifts I gave her, the art we made together, or whatever else we shared inside of it. It would kill my spirit.
I'm struggling to occupy my mind most days. I used to love to lift, and have been trying to get back into that. Started tracking my macros and lifts again, and I'll keep that momentum for a week before I randomly, emotionally crash again, and spend the weekend bedrotting and feel like I've lost all progress. We did so much together, and I shared so much of my life with her, that it's been hard to do some of the old things I liked to do without associating it with her and having no motivation to do them. I'd honestly love to pull some Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind routine, but the problem is I've watched that movie, so I know how that ends. I try not to bring it up to my friends as much anymore because I know it's tiring and it's been three months (hence why I'm subjecting you, randos of the internet to my emo hours instead).
Yet in spite of all the above, I'm doing OK. But I'm still in a weird place. I just don't know how to emotionally move on. You might have gathered I'm a bit of an emotional, sentimental sap. It's hard for me. I think a part of it is a hurt ego: I don't fully buy the "I loved her more than she loved me" rationale, and I've spent a large (and probably unhealthy) amount of time introspecting to tease out my failings and figure out "how did I fuck up?" Despite everything she said about "you were a wonderful boyfriend; I never felt unloved; I wouldn't change a thing" some nibbling doubt just *knows* I was missing something.
Mostly I think I just want her to give a shit about the relationship. To treat it with some kind of dignity, and by extension, treat me with some kind of dignity. I want some kind of proof that it meant something real to her. I want sentimentality. I want romance, even postmortem. I feel some signal of that kind would give me the closure I need that, rather than words that are now hard for me to treat as anything more than empty vowing that it was a good relationship. But I feel like all I get instead are digital artifacts of our shared history sponged away, and a Pandora's Box waiting in my mailroom of our physical ones. A memorial to love via negativa.
So I don't know. I guess I want to know, for those that were dumped out of a seemingly happy relationship: how did you cope with a detached ex that claims you had no wrongdoing? How do you look back on the relationship with some sense of nostalgia or romance? And if you don't, how have you not become jaded or cynical, or hateful/resentful/ambivalent towards your ex? Am I silly for wanting to see her in a positive light still and be on good terms?