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I hired a company that was supposed to send two photographers and two videographers. I asked numerous time to be able to speak with the team before the day of the wedding and they assured me that I would be able to speak to the team. No one reached out to me at all. The Wednesday before my Saturday wedding, I begged to speak to someone and the lead photographer texted me and told me “I don’t know the rest of the team so you’ll have to reach out to someone else if you want to talk to them.” I talked to him on the phone and he was very rude. I expressed my concerns to the company and they told me not to worry.
On the day of my wedding the lead photographer never showed up. I guess he had gotten into some drama with the company so he decided he was going to bail and not tell anyone. They sent a replacement that arrived 2 hours late, (30 minutes before we were supposed to leave for church). The photographer that was supposed to meet the boys was also 2 hours late. We rushed through as many photos as we could get and headed to church.
At the end of it all, they missed a LOT of photos that were on my must have shot list because everything was so rushed since they showed up so late. The photos they did have for us were not great (detail photos have the shoes backwards with the back of the invitation instead of the front). There are no pictures of my grandparents or my husband’s grandparents at all other than walking down the aisles. Not one. There are NO PICTURES OF THE BOYS GETTING READY AT ALL even though they said they had 20 minutes and took a couple of these photos…they can’t find them.
The video is okay…but there are no clips of our siblings at the reception at all. When we filled out the pre-wedding video form there was a question that asked if we want them to do video interviews of our families and bridal parties and we marked NO but they pulled guests and did the video interviews anyway, therefore missing key dancing moments.
When I look at the photos and videos all I can think about is how stressed I was that morning that the photographer didn’t show up, how sad I am to have missed those special moments and to not have very specific photos that I asked for, and how rushed the entire morning and afternoon was because we were trying to get as many photos as we can since the photographers were two hours late. It makes me mad and sad and very stressed.
I paid $7200 (plus tips) for the photo and video. How much is it reasonable to ask for a refund?

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I'm currently playing through Dead Space for the first time and the version I chose is the remake. (Which makes this my first post in the Dead Space subreddit, so hello there lol.) Anyways after spending a few hours running around and shooting Necromorphs, there a few things I already think the remake does well that I feel like talking about. Just to ensure I'm being fair to die hard fans of Dead Space, I also watched a bit of the original game on Youtube as research for any positives the original has.
First up is Isaac Clark himself, or should I say how he's portrayed in the remake compared to the original. Now I absolutely understand the complaint of Isaac talking in the remake and I actually can say there's merit to him being a silent protagonist in the original. However judging the remake as its own thing so far, I'd say Isaac as a character is pretty good. I like how he's a competent engineer who's not really the boss of the team, but can take charge of the situation when he needs to, like in the opening scene where the Kellion crashes into the space station. I also like how he yells at the crew to run when we're introduced to the Necrocorphs and curses when he watches one of them get smashed by elevator doors because it gives him emotion during intense circumstances.
Side note: I also think how the crew reacts in the Necrocorphs' introduction is better in the remake since they sound more panicked and are trying to escape on comms while Isaac is running.
Another thing I think is good in the remake is how Kindra Daniels is introduced. As opposed to the original, Kindra is sympathetic towards Isaac when he watches the video call from Nicole and doesn't mind that he watched it on repeat since he really misses her. A small bit like that makes the crew feel like a team I should fear for while fighting the Necrocorphs. Now this is a comparison to the original, but I kinda don't understand why Kindra yelled at Hammond for crashing the Kellion into the hangar since his plan worked and everyone survived. Just seems forced to me and it's why I think her reaction in the remake is better with her complaining about the guidance system being a deathtrap.
Lastly is the lighting of the game's environments. I know the common complaint that remakes or remasters of a game takes away the atmosphere of the original and won't dispute it. However I think the lighting in the remake on its own is really good since it makes the space station look dark and can be unnerving to navigate without a flashlight. Makes my heart beat more for whenever the Necromorphs bursts out of nowhere and attack me.
Now there is one negative I have that the original did better.....Nicole's face change. Yes even without playing the original, I do agree that it looks worse on the remake and it could've been improved even if they had to make changes to Nicole's design.
So those are some of my thoughts on the Dead Space remake so far. I'm somewhere in Chapter 2 right now and hopefully the game will still be good as I go along. Feel free to leave your thoughts in the comments, with minimal spoilers.

In August of last year we had a whirlpool tub crack and leak water into the downstairs office. Mitigation teams were called out to deal with the water damage and they ended up tearing up the ceiling of the office and both the bathtub and the floor of the shower in our master bathroom, leaving me and my husband with no upstairs shower.
A little backstory - we have tenants/friends living in our downstairs basement. At the time of the incident, they were living here rent free because my disabled father was also living with me and I agreed to let my friends live here for a year with no rent because they had just moved here from Texas and were trying to save money and build credit to buy a house as long as they helped me care for my father. They did so and it was overall a great deal for everyone involved and I'm happy to have been in a position to make that arrangement with them.
So there are three full bathrooms in my house - the basement bathroom that my tenants used, the main floor bathroom that was my fathers (and needed to be available at all times because when he needed to go he needed to go and he couldn't do stairs and was 100% oxygen bound), and the upstairs master bathroom - the bathroom that is no longer useable.
After the bathroom got torn apart, we had to start sharing a bathroom in the basement with our teneants. My dad's shower was converted to be an elderly walk in tub so it wasn't even really a viable option for us to use because it took too long to fill the tub and my dad used the bathroom on average once an hour.
We called out our favorite plumbing company to survey the damage and he recommended a contracting company. Owner of the company, we'll call him Mark, came out and met with me and I showed him what I wanted to do to the space, let him know how much insurance was willing to cover and let him know what my budget was for the remaining work. (The existing bathroom had a shower smaller than most closets and a bathtub that could have fit 8 people comfortably, and that was not serving us so I decided if we were living through construction I might as well pay the extra and get a bathroom I wanted out of it complete with a bigger shower, smaller tub, and some semblance of storage space.)
Mark came out and seemed very agreeable at first. I told him what my vision was - showed him what vanity I had picked out, photos of what I was hoping to accomplish, and basically my list of priorities in the build out. The entire time I was speaking to him I was making sure to say "this is what I'm hoping for, but if that's not reasonable or doable just tell me and we can adjust." I am aware that I am not a contractor and if a professional tells me there are fundamental issues or complications with what I'm requesting, I can easily pivot to plan B or plan C. At no point did he say "whoa, I don't think that'll be doable" or "If you do x we'll need to do y and z which will cost v" - he just kept saying "Oh yeah, we can make that happen. That sounds good. Ok, perfect." Basically he was 100% a yes man re: everything.
After this conversation, he wrote me out an estimate for 18k over what insurance was covering (14k). It was steeper than I hoped for but I was going to have my dream bathroom at the end so I took the financial blow and agreed. The contract that I signed also stated in no uncertain terms that the estimated time for the project was 2-3 weeks. Which, from my research, sounded about average for what a bathroom buildout took. It also clearly stated "labor and materials" were being accounted for in the estimate.
December 27th, Mark and company came in and did full demo on the bathroom. Full demo in this case included removing the toilet, though after us expressing that sharing a restroom with my dad was not really possible, he did put the toilet back in place in the down-to-the-studs-and-plywood bathroom and we had to do the awkward skip down the stairs holding our hands up so we didn't touch anything so we could wash our hands in the kitchen sink after every trip to the restroom for two months. After the bathroom was full demoed it was almost an entire 3 weeks before they even returned to start anything. Already well past the initial estimate of time.
Everything got worse from there and I'll summarize the rest with cute little bullet points for simplicity.

• They would not give us any indication of when they were coming or when they were done for the day, meaning our dogs were in their crates way more than necessary because they have stranger danger and because of the location of the bathroom and the access points to the house there was no safe way to have the dogs out while the crew was present.
• At no point did Mark create any kind of a draft of a floorplan with the information I had given him. He took no notes at our first conversation where I told him what I was looking for and he said "YEP WE CAN DO IT NO PROBLEM." As more time passed and more subcontractors got involved, I found myself having to remind Mark of our initial conversation a lot. Things like a nook in the shower for shampoo bottles, the glass enclosure for the shower being a full enclosure instead of partial, etc. - sometimes these reminders came too late and required something to be redone, which he of course blamed me for even though I had mentioned everything up front. I literally had a list of bullet points I had walked through with him at our first meeting. I'm very organized and thorough with stuff like this so the fact that he had the nerve to try to blame me for him forgetting or neglecting to write anything down is beyond me. It became very clear that his MO was to overpromise and underdeliver.
• My biggest want with the bathroom was a "wet room" type of design that had a glass wall/door encapsulating both the shower and the bathtub. I wanted this because I also run a dog rescue and giving puppies a bath would be so much easier if I could just enclose them in the shower area to dry off and suds up. If you know, you know. When I first showed him inspo photos and explained to him what I was looking for he enthusiastically said "oh, yeah, I got a glass guy I can have set that up for you no problem." But he seemed to completely put that out of his mind and then acted like it was a huge deal when I reminded him about it. He behaved as if this was an entirely new thing that I was springing on him. It wasn't. This was part of the mock floor plan I had literally texted him on day one. So then it became "well if we can't do a shower pan, we have to tile the shower floor" (WHICH I HAD ALSO REQUESTED IN THE BEGINNING). and then "the bigger the floor tile the better" turned into "we have to use the smallest tile possible in the bathroom because the tile guys have to slope the entire bathroom floor to the drain now since "the wife" doesn't want a shower pan. Keep in mind, I never said I wasn't ok with having to step into a shower over a short tiled ledge... I just wanted the floors and walls to be tiled and to have it enclosed by glass. Had he said to me "it's going to be 5k more expensive to slope the floor" I would have said oh no that's too much, what are the other options -- but never did he discuss options with me. Never did he discuss that any of these things that I was reminding him that we had ALREADY TALKED ABOUT BEFORE HE GAVE ME THE CONTRACT TO SIGN were going to cost more and more money. It wasn't mentioned until after it was done and the money was magically owed.
• There was a nearly 1 month delay for the tile work because the tile guys just straight up stopped coming because Mark hadn't paid them. They would show up at the house and say "Mark said he can't pay us because you haven't paid him -- leading to me showing them the receipts and text conversation where it showed we were paid up -- leading to them literally leaving saying they can't do work that they're not being paid for (understandably.) 20 minutes later Mark called us and lied to us saying the tile guys had something come up at a different project and couldn't make it to work on our project today because he didn't know we just sat on my porch and had a conversation about it. When we tried to call him on the lie he got beligerant and started yelling at me and telling me I kept moving the goalposts and it was my fault everything was taking so long.
• When we started this project I bought everything up front. Tub, vanity, shower head, etc. -- Mark picked it up himself stating that he wanted to "have the measurements" and kept it at his shop. Somehow, despite the fact that the vanity was sitting in his shop since January, he did not give the plumbers the correct information when they came to do the rough-in plumbing in February - so the plumbing was set up incorrectly for the vanity and needed to be completely redone, which was a cost that got passed down to me. An extra 1.6k to redo the plumbing for the vanity. When I asked the plumbers why they didn't do it correctly in the first place they said that Mark had told them the plumbing wasn't changing from the original vanity (not true, the new vanity we got is VERY different.) -- so now again because of Mark's inability to communicate, I'm out an extra almost 2k on top of the extra 5k from the tile work and 1k from switching our order to a different tub because he insisted a tub that took a month to be delivered would delay the entire project and then they didn't even TOUCH the newer more expensive tub until 2w after the original tub would have been delivered.
• His original estimate stated "materials and labor", therefore leading me to believe that the cost of all the tile, grout, drywall, etc. would be included in the 18k estimate. Not according to all the photos of receipts he sent to me and the fact that I had to order the tub, the vanity, etc. all out of pocket and STILL paid him 18k+ -- His original contract also did not mention anywhere that subcontracting work would need to be paid separately, but somehow his "glass guy" that installed the glass enclosure for the shower charged us 2k on top of everything else, too. I'm literally hemorrhaging money. I acknowledge, of course, that this could have been my misunderstanding, and if that is the case I still have PLENTY to be mad about aside from this.
• At one point they put up a temporary piece of drywall to cover the hole in the office beneath the bathroom. Apparently when he did this, he did not cap off any of the pipes in the ceiling, and when the piece of drywall was brought down for final plumb out to be completed, the plumbers discovered a giant pile of human waste that slowly leaked out of the open pipes onto the ceiling of the room my father on hospice had been living in. Cute, right?

This entire situation has caused me so much turmoil in my life.

• We own a dog rescue and I foster pregnant dogs and litters of puppies. I said no and turned down SO MANY FOSTER DOGS during that initial time period because I didn't want them to have to give birth through the stress of construction noises. We finally said yes to an urgent case in late January and those puppies were born, raised, and adopted without ever being able to be bathed in a tub because this project has taken so long. Dobermans are not kitchen sink dogs and having to bathe them in the sink was a nightmare.
• My dad was hospitalized twice with lack of sleep being a contributing factor both times because he lived through two and a half months of not being able to sleep during the day because of the construction noise. The second time he returned from the hospital it was on hospice care. I couldn't have family come and stay with us to say goodbye to my dad because I had nowhere to put them because all of our bathroom stuff was in the one spare bedroom and we couldn't have MORE people sharing the downstairs bathroom.
• My dad passed away a week after returning home on hospice care. I still could not have my family come and stay with me and help me in the wake of my father's passing because I had no bathroom or spare bedroom for them to use.
• I run two side-businesses. One of which is dog-sitting. My summer calendar has been filling up for months, but in January when I started saying yes to the spring/summer dog sitting requests, I would never have dreamed the construction would still be going on. I've had to call people and tell them I can't watch their dog that is terrified of loud noises because my house is still regularly burdened with the sounds of drilling, sawing, tile cutting, etc. - I've probably lost $3k in revenue from those cancelled appointments.
• My other side business is an actual retail shop that I run online. We closed down orders in January because the spare bedroom that got taken over by bathroom stuff was also our office for product manufacturing, shipping, etc. and it's not a functional space with all the bathroom stuff in there. Literally at times theres just been a toilet sitting in the middle of the room. It's not a useable space. 3+ months of lost revenue from that business is probably close to 3k at this point as well.
• Since my dad passed away and my tenants hit the year mark, it became time to start collecting rent. I can't yet collect full rent in good conscience because they don't have their own private space because my husband and I have to keep coming down to use their bathroom and I can't move my stuff upstairs because the spare bedroom is still full of the bathroom stuff, the office still has a big hole in the ceiling with debris falling through constantly (thankful my dad isn't still living in that room, to be honest. I'm sure the constant debris wasn't helping his lung diseases). They agreed to pay half of what rent would be until we no longer have to share their private space with them. That's about $400 a month I'm losing out on while this project is still going, so approximately $1200 now.
• My husband and I have both used more than 8 days of PTO a piece taking time off to be here to let new subcontractors in or receive deliveries being sent to our house, or just be present so we could talk to the team and get a status update. I'm not sure the monetary value of that loss, but it's there.

When I started to get frustrated with Mark about the crappy communication, the length of time everything was taking, the lying, etc. - he got very defensive, told me it was entirely my fault, took zero accountability, and basically said he wanted to only talk to my husband from then on out. Since then, we have more than 4 recordings of Mark standing in MY LIVING ROOM talking shit about me to my husband. Literally trying to bro out with him by being a misogynist mf saying stuff like "women getting involved in stuff like this is always a nightmare" and my husband saying "no, she's been pretty consistent the entire time." or "no, I get why she's frustrated".
All of the subcontracting companies he's been working with have informed me that all he does is complain about this project and how much money HE'S OUT because of it. All of those contractors have also informed me that they will never again do business with this guy because of how unprofessional he's been through everything.
That said, as of today, the bathroom is still not done. it has been over four months since this "two week reno" began, and almost 8 months since the inciting incident that caused the damage. We thought we were nearing the end, but now the toilet that was finally reinstalled is not flushing and an extra plumbing charge later ($300 for 2 hours of their troubleshooting time) we have to have the water-jetter truck come out to blast the pipes because there is evidence of a bunch of plaster having been dumped into the pipe. Was that just his employee's being careless or did he do it on purpose? Who knows. But if the plumbing hadn't been sitting there open for over 3 months I assume this wouldn't have been an issue. The jetter truck is going to cost us 1k per hour and if they can't dislodge the block with that truck they'll have to cut further into the ceiling below and fully replace a large section of the pipes. Estimated cost for which will be between 2.5k and 5k depending on severity.
All in all the project cost $9k more than what was estimated at minimum plus 2.5k-5k more for whatever plumbing has to happen tomorrow,(and not including all the big ticket items we had to buy that we expected would be a part of the "supplies" in "supplies and labor"), has taken 8x the amount of time originally quoted, and cost us an additional almost $10k from ongoing loss of profit from our home-run businesses. In addition, the emotional and mental toll that this has taken on me, and that it took on my father before he passed away, is something that I will never forgive. The way that this guy just could not give a crap less about how much he's destroyed my life over the last 4 months is baffling to me. My last days with my father were filled with so much stress about contractors coming in and out and disturbing his sleep and impacting his ability to visit with his family, etc. -- we've cancelled family visits and trips home so that work could continue on this project and I've literally never been so mad and misled in my life.
Mark and team was supposed to be out to my house today to finish the minor things they had left to do, but he texted this morning and said they weren't coming and hasn't responded to any inquiries since. We cancelled a trip to Michigan to see my nieces perform in a musical because of this, and he's not even going to show up. Again.
I've been told that I should take him to small claims court and sue him, but I'd love to hear other people's experiences with things like this to gauge how much of a fight it will be. In the meantime I still have a bathroom that is not completed, a toilet that doesn't work, and an absolutely depleted savings from all of the residual costs this project has continued to incur for us.
My instinct today is to call out some contractors and get a quote from them on how much they'd charge to fix what is remaining to be done and then let him know how much they're charging me and ask him for a refund of that amount and put his mountain of tools taking up permanent residence in my upstairs hallway out on the porch and tell him to come get his equipment and be gone.
Any advice appreciated. If there are parts of this story that I am clearly in the wrong for and just not identifying them, please let me know, because I am not afraid of taking accountability for anywhere that I may have created issues.
Thanks for listening, reddit.

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Mangrove is an upcoming towny and survival server prepared to create a community that is loving and lasting. Mangrove has a promising future with a diverse community and communicative staff team. We do wars every week that pins town vs town for 3 days. Money will be rewarded to war winners that you can use in the shop or to rank up for better commands and rewards. (if you are a streamer looking for a place to start a new minecraft adventure I will 1. Make you a custom streamer tag 2. Give you special privileges And 3. Give you a quiet place away from stream viewers where you can do what you want and they can't reach you. No matter how many followers you have I will do these things for you)

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My 5 month old mini goldendoodle (please no hate, I didn’t know how unethical they were until after I got her) has been to the groomer 5-6 times now for free “puppy integration sessions,” where she just hangs out in the salon and gets used to the noises and other dogs. I’m really glad the groomer offers this because it made her first groom seamless! My puppy also LOVES the groomer now.
This groomer is great and does a wonderful job, but she charges $180 for my 17lb puppy. I’ve asked a few other doodle owners in my neighborhood how much they pay for their dog’s grooming at different salons, and they all pay closer to $100.
My puppy has gotten used to her groomer, and I know that the groomer really cares about her clients. She even offers free boarding. But I’m not sure if I can keep paying $180 (plus tip) every 6-8 weeks. I’m considering switching to one of the other groomers in the area.
Is this bad for me to consider? Going in, I knew grooming would be expensive, but I guess I accidentally chose the most expensive groomer in the area! I know my puppy feels comfortable with her current groomer, and I don’t want to cause her anxiety by switching groomers on her. The other groomers don’t offer puppy integration sessions.
What are your thoughts?

I'm planning out something of a build for a dream PC, including all the extras, and budget is high - which is not something I have huge experience with. I built my own PCs when I was younger, had far less budget, and when things were a bit different to how they are today (NVMe's didn't exist and a 2080ti was the big dream card back then). I know how to assemble a PC, but when it comes to optimising a build, making sure I'm getting things that will run at good temperatures, make full use of speeds and are all parts that compliment each other, I could use you guys' help. The main thing I'm scared of is spending a lot of money on parts that don't make sense together due to factors I'm not tech savvy enough to have spotted.
The budget is between £8-10k for everything with some wiggle room if you have cool ideas. The 'everything' part will make sense in a minute.
The goals I have for the PC are as follows:

• 4k Gaming targeting 80-120fps on high settings
• Use of Adobe and other design products (I will be using the full adobe graphic design suite and some 3D tools to visualise and render mockups of interior design spaces) - this also comes with a need for high speed, high storage capacity drives. I'm looking for a minimum of 4TB (but ideally much more to be honest) for 'deep storage' of years worth of hefty design files into the future, be that on an SSD or good HDD, and whatever will get me the best boot and run speed for the OS on a main NVMe. If the suggestion ends up being getting external storage for design stuff then that's fine but be aware anything external will still need high read/write speeds because of the way Adobe stuff works with temp files. And if we go external I'll still want a good few terrabytes in the tower for game installs.
• Potential streaming in the future
• 3 monitors, with the central one being 144hz for FPS games like R6 Siege. I've seen that triple mounts often support everything up to 30" with 3 screens fitting nicely side-by-side, so would be nice to get as large as we can go. I really would want to go with a mounted solution as it frees up so much space on the desk.
• A sit/stand motorised desk such as the SecretLab Magnus with good cable management options would be a nice optional extra
• Will be getting a Secretlab Titan XL chair as I'm a 6ft 5, quite heavy guy and this is the only chair I've found to reliably last with someone my weight slumping into it for years on end, don't worry about a headset or mouse as I have those covered - but I could use a good high end mechanical keyboard. No real preference on switches - just no membrane.
• Potentially the ability to hook the machine up to a projector for movie nights, I'm sure something bluetooth or USB exists for this if we run out of HDMI/DisplayPort slots
• I'd like it if the PC was aesthetically pleasing, so as much as I'm sure a large case will be a necissity, something visually appealing that isn't too anglular and 'futuristic' would be good. I'm not looking for a Pacific Rim mech looking tower. Think high end luxury feel or just very clean to show off the interior parts. Plenty of glass and/or some nice material finishes to let the inside of the PC speak for itself.
• I'd very much appreciate intel suggestions, no hate towards AMD, but I've had two AMD builds give me grief and I'm just fed up of it... last 2 PCs have been intel and I'd just rather go with that.
• I would really prefer to avoid a full water cooled build. Regardless of quality that's just not something I want to get into. It's a ton of extra money and effort, there's the constant nagging thought of "what if it leaks", and I actually find the pipes kind of ugly.

Throw me some ideas Reddit, much appreciated. If in doubt, go a little crazy on it.

Not as much fun as some of the other posts but very curious to hear others’ experience. And if there’s a better sub for this question, lmk!
I recently went to get my standard 3 month STI screening and was shocked to see a positive result for syphilis. I had no previous history of syphilis and I’ve been in a monogamous relationship since November. The doctors office said it was a false positive, which can happen for a host of reasons, and I should go back in 4 weeks to get retested.
Has this ever happened to you? If so, what caused your false positive? I’m nearly certain my partner hasn’t cheated (we spend nearly all our free time together, and I’m generally the hornier one lol), and the only major changes recently have been to take new digestive enzymes and fiber supplements. I have no symptoms of syphilis either. Genuinely so curious how this happens and have to imagine someone else on here has experienced it!

Been playing this on PS5 over the weekend and really enjoying it.
The only previous Ratchet & Clank game I have played was Quest for Booty back when it was a free PSN game back on the PS3. It didn't leave much of an impression on me aside from even though I didn't pay for it I felt ripped off that it was only about 3 hours long. I just remember being amazed that such a short game could be released as a standalone title even one that is released at a budget price. I don't mind short games but I at least want to be able to have time to get into it before it ends. If I wanted something just to keep me occupied for 3 hours I would watch a movie.
For me a short game is in the 10 hours-ish ballpark something I can complete in 2 or 3 quick sessions - Step forward Ratchet & Clank: Rift Apart. I was looking for something lightweight and fun to fill my weekend and this game delivered. It doesn't try to be a huge sprawling open world adventure or re-invent the wheel in terms of gameplay but everything it does it does very well. It looks great, with some very impressive set pieces plays incredibly smoothly and intuitively and just focuses on being fun without need for too much exposition. It feels like a game that was designed to sit perfectly within the capabilities current generation of consoles rather than push their limits
The weapon upgrading system is simple and well designed and it never feels like you really need to grind to get enough resources to get the next weapon or upgrade. The "raritanium" resource for buying upgrades is actually incredibly common. There's optional sidequests and collectibles for those who want to collect everything but they never feel like they are there to just pad out the game and never drag you too far away from the games main path. Likewise they are not essential to completing the game. The game is not overly challenging so the upgrades are not essential to progressing. Most weapons have 3 types of upgrades with several slots for each so the improvements that each slot provides are so incremental that they are barely noticeable until they really start piling up later in the game. The only time you may find yourself struggling is when facing a large number of enemies and ammo starts running low.
Storywise it's nothing special and nor would I want it to be, it's like playing a saturday morning cartoon (think Bucky O'Hare). There's a fair bit of "videogame logic" at play - Like how the two playable characters share an inventory despite never actually being on the same planet as one another until late in the game. And having 2 characters seems a bit redundant when they both play exactly the same.
Overall it's a solid 7/10 game that's big on the fun factor. The perfect game for a lazy Sunday when you don't want to face the grind that comes with a lot of AAA titles these days but want something that actually feels modern and takes advantage of your PS5's hardware in a way that indie games don't
Additionally whilst playing it I did start wishing that Sega would let Insomniac take a shot at a Sonic game. Some of the set pieces were very Sonic-esque as to is when you get the ability to dash around the bigger areas on hoverboots or ride around on the Speetles (Super fast rideable creatures). If they just swapped out guns for jump/spin attacks they would have the best 3D sonic game ever made on their hands.

I'm planning out something of a build for a dream PC, including all the extras, and budget is high - which is not something I have huge experience with. I built my own PCs when I was younger, had far less budget, and when things were a bit different to how they are today (NVMe's didn't exist and a 2080ti was the big dream card back then). I know how to assemble a PC, but when it comes to optimising a build, making sure I'm getting things that will run at good temperatures, make full use of speeds and are all parts that compliment each other, I could use you guys' help. The main thing I'm scared of is spending a lot of money on parts that don't make sense together due to factors I'm not tech savvy enough to have spotted.
The budget is between £8-10k for everything with some wiggle room if you have cool ideas. The 'everything' part will make sense in a minute.
The goals I have for the PC are as follows:

• 4k Gaming targeting 80-120fps on high settings
• Use of Adobe and other design products (I will be using the full adobe graphic design suite and some 3D tools to visualise and render mockups of interior design spaces) - this also comes with a need for high speed, high storage capacity drives. I'm looking for a minimum of 4TB (but ideally much more to be honest) for 'deep storage' of years worth of hefty design files into the future, be that on an SSD or good HDD, and whatever will get me the best boot and run speed for the OS on a main NVMe. If the suggestion ends up being getting external storage for design stuff then that's fine but be aware anything external will still need high read/write speeds because of the way Adobe stuff works with temp files. And if we go external I'll still want a good few terrabytes in the tower for game installs.
• Potential streaming in the future
• 3 monitors, with the central one being 144hz for FPS games like R6 Siege. I've seen that triple mounts often support everything up to 30" with 3 screens fitting nicely side-by-side, so would be nice to get as large as we can go. I really would want to go with a mounted solution as it frees up so much space on the desk.
• A sit/stand motorised desk such as the SecretLab Magnus with good cable management options would be a nice optional extra
• Will be getting a Secretlab Titan XL chair as I'm a 6ft 5, quite heavy guy and this is the only chair I've found to reliably last with someone my weight slumping into it for years on end, don't worry about a headset or mouse as I have those covered - but I could use a good high end mechanical keyboard. No real preference on switches - just no membrane.
• Potentially the ability to hook the machine up to a projector for movie nights, I'm sure something bluetooth or USB exists for this if we run out of HDMI/DisplayPort slots
• I'd like it if the PC was aesthetically pleasing, so as much as I'm sure a large case will be a necissity, something visually appealing that isn't too anglular and 'futuristic' would be good. I'm not looking for a Pacific Rim mech looking tower. Think high end luxury feel or just very clean to show off the interior parts. Plenty of glass and/or some nice material finishes to let the inside of the PC speak for itself.
• I'd very much appreciate intel suggestions, no hate towards AMD, but I've had two AMD builds give me grief and I'm just fed up of it... last 2 PCs have been intel and I'd just rather go with that.
• I would really prefer to avoid a full water cooled build. Regardless of quality that's just not something I want to get into. It's a ton of extra money and effort, there's the constant nagging thought of "what if it leaks", and I actually find the pipes kind of ugly.

Throw me some ideas Reddit, much appreciated. If in doubt, go a little crazy on it.

(before anyone asks, school is almost done, but I am still with my mum. only leaving home once 2025 starts)
Guess who's mother just walked into his study to complain about what I eat again? that's right. this guy.
Guess who's mother who just suggested "threatened" to send me to go live my dad? this guy.
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anyway. yeah. I'm just chilling after revising for my final exams for highschool. when my mum walked into my study to complain about my weight again. ... I EAT THE CALAORIES OF ONE MEAL A DAY. She complains about my diet insisting I eat more protein... I mainly eat meat based food.
the only thing that is unhealthy is the Soda I drink. I will admit, not a good thing. but it's a guilty pleasure to keep my mind at ease. I drink 2-3 cans of soda (non sugar) a day. but that's only if I don't fruit juice instead. I eat mainly meats, eggs, and rice. that's my main diet.
But overall. my body is the "strong man" body structure. I'm larger but not Ripped. which my mum always thinks is what being "fit" means. We've had this conversation too many times. Way too many times.
My mum walks in and starts talking about my weight so I retort that "we have had this conversation before. no. if you bring this up again, I will lose my mind." my mum then replies. "then I should send you to live with your dad instead." she always does this whenever we argue over something. cause she knows I dislike living with my dad. I love my dad, but I can't live with him for long periods of times.
anyway. My goal is joining the navy. which means I have to be healthy. the plan is, during the time from july to the beginning of 2025, I will be working to be fitter, stronger, faster, etc. I'm already pretty strong physically, but I can't run. but that's due to my joints not being great, which I compensate with with my strength and the knee braces I wear. but my mum always blames my weight. even when doctors already said it's nothing to do with my weight. Also, I'm physically strong enough to pass many of the tests of the navy already. but I need to work on it a little more to make it easier for me. but my mum insists I "can't do it cause you're too fat and heavy."
thing is. you poke my stomach, it's like a rock. you push most of my body, it's pretty sturdy. So I don't know where my mum keeps getting the whole "fat" thing from. the closest thing to fat it the bit of fat that goes over my waist, but it's really not noticeable unless you're my mum, who's always looking at it.
I honestly don't know why my mum is so obsessed with looks. (btw, we have gone to a doctor and a nutritionist, and they said I was fine. little big compared to most people my age. but my body is mainly muscle and healthy.)
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wanna know something stupid? she asked her boyfriend to help me get fit. and he agreed... but he also agreed with me I wasn't fat or unhealthy. he just needed to help me refine my strength to handle running. (cause my muscles in my knees didn't form properly. so my doctor recommended I build the other muscles to compensate. but he said I was still pretty strong anyway. so it wouldn't need to be too much to build the needed muscles). HEr boyfriend, someone she thought would agree with her, said to her "he's not fat, he's big, but that's how he is, he's a big boy, he's bigger than most, but that's mainly muscle. just need to shape it a little for running, but he's fine in terms of strength."
he also tried to explain how weight lifting works and how working out works. that it isn't "jump on the treadmill and sprint." there is more to it. but she won't listen. (she likes to compare me to local kids when she looks up averages. she does not take into account my lifestyle is different than the "local kids".)

TLDR; want to get married in a very small “ceremony”, then have the family reception 5-10 years into future depending on our bank accounts! Is this tacky? And should we get married before baby comes?
Idk if this is the right place to post this! But I am going to because I have received insightful feedback from here before!
My fiancé and I will be engaged for a year this month! We definitely planned on being married in October 2025, but we were struggling with the whole cost thing lol. Since I’ve been off work for 2 months only getting half my pay we are even shorter on money and my wedding budget plan is out the window with half our income! I won’t be able to have my student loan debts paid off like I would have wanted to so a big wedding isn’t really an option for this coming October. (We have already cut the guest list as much as possible and we still have 100 people! We both have large families we are close to and a healthy circle of friends. Which is great with the baby, not financially awesome when planning events haha).
ANYWAY the point of all this! I was thinking we’d still get legally married in October. My thought process was a JOP with our siblings to witness and just our parents/grandparents down at the beach or in the backyard or something. Then having a family dinner back at our place to celebrate together!
I still want a big wedding reception when we can afford it. I’ve always loved weddings and it’s one of the times our family actually gets everyone across the country together. We used to have them yearly! Would it be tacky to have a large wedding reception kind of thing 5-10 years in the future when our kids are older and we have some money put away/debts paid off?
I wouldn’t want a bridal party or anything like. Maybe a vow renewal and dinneparty at a hall! And no gift expectations at all.
A little addition, curious if people think we should get married before the baby comes! I was planning on it but a lot of things happened and we kind of lost track of time, but we could get all this done before baby as well. So feel free to provide advice on that front as well!

It's Tuesday, and you know what that means. Yes, tomorrow is Wednesday.
The relationship that I’m after is the one that goes the distance, the one that results in love and, when the time is right, the ‘m word’. I’ve never been into anything casual, and it would be great to find someone who has the same mindset as I do regarding relationships, and is looking for the same things that I am.
My love language is physical displays of affection, both public and otherwise, things like touching, holding, hugging, etc, so you should be into that as well. I love the excitement and warm feeling that come with being close to the one you love. It’s also important that you’re willing to put in the effort when it comes to regular communication because communication is a big thing for me.
The type of person I’m after is kind and caring, someone I feel can feel relaxed around; it’s incredibly stressful being around people where you have to walk on eggshells because you don’t know what little thing will set them off. Bonus points for having a similar sense of humour to my own, which can best be described as something of a mix of Chandler Bing (RIP) and Edmund Blackadder.
I’m an introvert and my ideal night would involve spending time with my partner at home, perhaps doing something as simple as curling up on the sofa and introducing each other to our favourite shows or films; I’ve got many that I’d like to share with someone, and maybe you do too, and you’ve been waiting for the right person to share them with. My main solo hobbies can be found on my friends post.
I watch little in the way of TV and films, and almost no sports. When I’m part of a couple, I’m open to almost anything my partner may want to, and I’m not against the occasional day/night out if it’s just the two of us. Overall, though, I prefer the quiet life, sometimes something as simple as sitting in the garden in the evening and enjoy the night air.
As I’m in the UK, I would better to talk to someone who is also in the UK for reasons of convenience; not only would it make meeting up easier, and I would want to meet up if things progress well, it would also make communication a lot easier as we’d be in the same time zone.
I am open to talking to people who are overseas, as long as you’re moving to the UK in the near future, and that the move is, if not set in stone, then is at least guaranteed to happen or to be able to happen. Be aware that I am unable to travel overseas, although not for any nefarious reason.
I’m a vegetarian, though I don’t mind being around meat eaters as long as they’re respectful of how I feel. I don’t drink and, while I’m okay being with someone who does, it won’t work if you’re a person who drinks frequently. I’m non-religious and non-spiritual, and this will never change, and my views are generally what you’d call progressive and liberal. Disparate views are one thing, but if you use terms like ‘PC/PC culture’, ‘liberal’ or ‘woke’ as pejoratives, we will not get along. In addition, I do not smoke and will not be with a smoker.
I’m okay with either private messaging or Reddit chat, though I’d like to move off Reddit once we both feel comfortable doing so. Once we’ve moved to a different platform, exchanging pictures is then also something that would be done once we’re both comfortable, as would voice and video chat, especially because the best way to really get to know someone is through real-time communication.
Your opening message doesn’t have to be that long, just give me something to work with, something that can spark conversation. If you have any questions, queries, posers, then feel free to ask.

I have a friend who was arrested yesterday and I’m trying to figured out how to best help her. I’m going to try to make this as detailed as possible while also doing what I can to protect this person‘s privacy. I also don’t have all the details because the jail will only let you call five minutes at a time.
There’s a woman I’ve been helping who is from out of state. Let’s call her Betty. She has been doing well in some really tough circumstances. Yesterday around 4 pm she was with a friend. I’m not sure why the cops came, but they did. She had been at her friend’s house and was ready to go home. She was sitting in her friend’s car with the key in the ignition. The friend was inside the house. The cops came; not clear why. I’m guessing that a nosy neighbor called the police on a person they didn’t recognize sitting in a car, but that’s purely a guess.
The cops questioned Betty and her ID didn’t match the name she gave them. Her ID had her married name and she’s been divorced for awhile; she gave them her maiden name. Everything else on the ID was correct. According to Betty the cops went to her address and spoke to the person she lives with who gave them the same name she did. She actually said the police went six different times to the house trying to confirm information.
Meanwhile the friend came out of her house. The cops asked if they could search her and she consented. They found two loose pills in her pocket. The friend ended up being arrested for public intoxication.
Betty was eventually arrested for attempted theft (first offense) and providing false information. I was able to confirm those are her charges. Apparently they suspected her of trying to steal the car. The friend told the police Betty was not trying to steal the car and that she had her permission to be there. Betty said the police didn’t acknowledge the friend. Betty also said they took testimony from two neighbors that Betty was sitting in the car and had not made any attempt to steal it.
Betty had surgery several days ago. and when she arrived at the jail, they noticed her injury and sent her to the emergency room. The emergency room cleared her to go back to the jail. The jail said she may be allowed to move to the medical portion of the jail if she is in too much pain, but she does not want to do that because they do not get free phone calls. She did get her medication today.
Her bond hearing is set for Wednesday. She is terrified she will be given a high bond she can’t afford - she basically has no money. She has kids at home with a family member and it isn’t the best situation. She is essentially worried she won’t get out of jail and her kids will be sent to foster care.
I plan to attend the hearing with her. She said someone told her that she wouldn’t be allowed to speak but that people with her could? That doesn’t sound right to me but I’m not sure. Obviously she can’t afford an attorney and one isn’t provided until after your bond hearing.
I am just wondering how I can best help her, and what is likely to happen at the bond hearing. I am always hearing about how our county jail is overcrowded. It seems to me since this was a nonviolent offense and a first offense, they would let her go home. But I certainly can’t afford to help her pay a high bond.
I know this is kind of vague, but I’m really just looking for any pointers at all that might help help or anything. I can say to her that will encourage her a little bit. She is understandably very stressed.

Hey,
I was finding myself curious about different topics and talking with ChatGPT a lot, learning more about different concepts. For example, I went to a trip in Vienna and wanted to learn more about Vienna aristocracy history. In another example, I was interested in learning how John Oliver's satire methodology works, or how I can improve my surfing skills.
I thought that although it was fun talking with ChatGPT, I was looking for a podcast-like experience. I wanted to choose a topic, or just write the idea in free form and the get a 5-15 minute podcast episode about it. I also found out that the tone is very important, and wanted it to be more casual listening experience.
That's how KnowMore came to mind.
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/knowmore-app/id6476094966
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.knowmore.app
Looking forward to your feedback :)

TL;DR & I bolded a TL;DR paragraph later down I feel is most important: I guess my biggest question would be... What would you recommend looking out for in regards to whether breast reduction is better to get than top surgery?
Prefacing... I am well aware you can get a breast reduction first, and then top surgery at a later time. Ideally I don't want that. Between the scarring and the fact that it's a pretty big surgery in that area twice. Just not something I want to have done if I don't need to. I'm also afraid of going through breast reduction to still be dissatisfied (hence this post... I'll elaborate in a bit).
I've been looking into top surgery pretty much since I've had breasts (8 years now, am 19). Did crazy extensive research on pretty much every avenue of top surgery and was confident I wanted it for ever. Never felt pressured to get top surgery or to feel any particular way about my body (bullying, sexualization, being forced into women's gender roles, etc.). All of it has come from my own feelings and mainly dysphoria that's never changed or gone away.
My chest dysphoria has always been extreme. During my tween years I was very suicidal and the best way I could describe it was wanting to rip my skin off, metaphorically. Now that I'm able to bind mentally it's more manageable but I'm still harming myself which sucks. Severely damaged skin from tape, and I've never really used a binder safely. It's just way safer than when I used to use 2-3 too small training bras and I'm thankful I did not break a fucking rib looking back on it.
It sounds like top surgery would be the correct thing for me. I'm just wondering about a few things.
For starters, because I've been thinking about top surgery for so long, I never really considered breast reduction. Truthfully breast reduction wasn't considered a "gender affirming surgery" until recently so it really didn't feel like an option for me at the time when I was still a binary-leaning trans person.
There's a "what if" going through my head about how maybe I haven't considered breast reduction enough yet. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to be considering about it though, hence this post. I want to hear from people who either got reduction (whether you then got top surgery later or not), and those who wish they'd gotten or considered it. As well as anyone who has insight even if you got top surgery and don't regret it at all. I just need some other perspectives.
One hesitation I have towards reduction is truthfully I never feel flat enough. My chest is very small as is, but it's not so small it can disappear and look flat the way I want it. It can get me to "pass" (I never actively try to pass, I'm essentially pre-T and am closer to looking like a tomboy than a man, but there's a 10-30% chance someone might gender me male), so obviously it's flat enough. I'm not particularly concerned about getting mistaken as male although it does feel nice, it's the fact that I'm still uncomfortable with myself.
I will say when taping it gets me considerably flat and from certain angles it becomes really easy to imagine myself with an entirely flat chest and I always feel a lot of joy and happiness about my body whenever I do that. I guess sometimes I focus so much on my distress I kinda forget I also have joy when I present the way I want to.
If binding doesn't get me flat enough, even though I have an already small chest (26D, odd proportions I know but trust me it's small I'm just also small)... Would a breast reduction be enough either?
One thing I'm thinking about, I've never seen my "not small enough" chest as a natural female shape, only in the binding state which does not look like breasts really. So I guess there's that. Maybe that's why breast reduction is far harder to consider.
I'm not sure if I have any attachment to my chest at all. Not sure what an attachment is supposed to feel like to begin with though. I've heard from some people who regret not having a breast reduction that they felt attached and were worried about losing them, or something along those lines.
I saw a YouTube video by a non-binary lesbian who regretted their top surgery, pretty much only because they had never gotten a chance to experience intimate things with another partner who had breasts. Like, they wanted to have a connection with someone who also had breasts. Nobody had ever made them feel bad, it was something they just genuinely wished they had thought about prior.
Since I'm attracted (and only attracted) to women, I do also feel some fears of not being "normal." "What if other lesbians won't like me?" for example. Or "why can't I just try harder to like my breasts since most women do?" Stuff like that. And I know there's plenty of women especially butches who get top surgery. I'm still having trouble accepting how queer my gender is.
And also not caring about what others think because I know ideally you should find someone who loves you for you and you shouldn't force yourself to be normal just so others like you but damn. It's hard.
Granted, I am asexual-ish. Like, truthfully I don't know what attraction feels like. It's just describing my desires as attraction is easier than having to explain "I'm not really attracted to most people I'd just like to cuddle with someone I find pretty so that's basically attraction." Or maybe I'm ace but not aromantic. Dunno. With that said, not only do I have trouble imagining myself in a situation where I would use my breasts, I have trouble imagining myself in those situations at all. I'm not quite sure if or when I'll ever have a partner. I have a theoretical desire but in practice it's not something I care about a lot.
I think some of my recent worries are because I used to be so dysphoric I was so focused on dysphoria I never really thought much about my sexuality. I knew I was attracted-but-not-attracted to women I just never actually explored it in any way. Some of this might be "Do I want her or do I want to be her," as in "Am I trying to talk myself out of top surgery because I want her, or am I trying to talk myself out of top surgery because I want to be her?" I want to be able to function as a typical woman. But no matter how hard I try I can't. Every time I see a woman I find pretty, though, I absolutely tell myself I'm just not trying hard enough.
Anyways. If you read any amount of my ramblings I appreciate it lol.

I'm DIYing my wedding makeup.
I like a lighter, more natural look. With that said, I couldn't justify paying the hundreds it would cost for 1 day of makeup, especially when I wouldn't go full-glam, just an elevated look of my daily makeup. So might as well spend that money to buy myself really good products that I can use for a while afterwards!
What tips, tricks, and product recommendations do you all have??
I'm fairly decent at makeup, but on a drugstore budget. I still want to focus on a budget, so not everything will be "luxury" brands. I'm interested in trying hour glass foundation, I've read a lot of great reviews on it, but hoping i can find samples as I don't want to pay $60 and hope I like it. Also interested to know what concealer you'd use! Most likely looking at Tarte Shape Tape since I've used it and like it, but will it work well with the foundation?
Products I plan to use: Elf halo glow contour want, kim chi chic puff puff pass powder. Blush is TBD, I really want to get rare beauty, but might save money and go with Elf.
**For context: I have combination skin. Some spots are super dry, some areas are super oily. I have fairly good skin, don't have much to cover so I like less coverage, just enough to smooth out my tone. I hate having tons of product on my face, but I've figured out how much is good for me and it lasts all day! I don't want a heavy concealer that will cake under my eyes. I also like matte looks.

I’m the nanny for a nanny share with two families, one of which has a 10moM. He’s had belly issues since he was born, and it took months for his parents to listen to me when I said it was probably the formula. Once he was switched to a soy free formula, he no longer was screaming with every bottle. After they introduced solids, it became clear that he has a sensitivity to a few foods because they really upset his stomach and gave him terrible diarrhea and constipation. DB is a doctor and said he’s not going to stop giving him the foods because he doesn’t want NK to develop an allergy to these foods. Obviously it’s not my kid and I can’t tell them what to do, but I told MB and DB of the boy SEVERAL TIMES to please not feed him these foods the day before I’m scheduled to watch him, because I spend my whole day trying to calm him down since he’s in so much pain. It’s not fair to the other NK who is 6mo and doesn’t get my full attention on those days.
Today’s my day to watch only the 10moM and MB let me know that DB gave the baby a full jar of a food that makes him sick last night. The poor kid is crying from how constipated he is and wouldn’t even eat the toast I gave him to settle his stomach. He also couldn’t keep a bottle down for MB before I got to work.
DB is a very hands off parent and what he says goes in their house. MB knows how much certain foods hurt the baby’s stomach, but nervously laughs when she tells me how DB gave them to him yet again.
I absolutely love the 10moM and his mom, and I love the other NF. It’s the dad who’s making my job incredibly difficult and I’m not sure what to do.