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SECRET

2012.05.12 01:45 fiveSeveN_ SECRET

Secret (Korean: 시크릿; Japanese: シークレット, often stylized as SECRET) is a South Korean K-pop girl group formed by TS Entertainment in 2009. Their official fan club name is SECRET TIME and fandom color is WHITE. On Oct 13, 2016, Sunhwa will leave Secret and TS to pursuits her career as an actress.
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2014.01.15 03:10 GOT7 - GOT7

Welcome to Got7, a subreddit dedicated to the boy group, Got7! News, images, videos, and anything else that relates to them are welcome! Check out our menu below the header for rules, and other useful things!
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2024.05.07 16:46 This_Rub4353 One Thing You Should Never Say to a Friend Going Through a Breakup

Breakups are a special kind of emotional hell, so finding the right words to comfort a friend going through one can be tricky. Case in point: There’s one thing a lot of well-intentioned people say to ease their pal’s pain that isn’t as supportive as it seems. Not only is this common sentiment counterproductive—it can also be downright insulting.
Never tell a friend that you knew their ex was ‘bad news’ from the start. Urging your best bud not to waste tears over a jerk who cheated, say, or a workaholic who couldn’t even send a happy birthday text might seem like a reassuring reality check. However, this type of criticism isn’t all that helpful for a few reasons.
First off, if your friend ends up rekindling things, the fact that you called their partner an inconsiderate asshole or an emotionally unavailable child may linger in the back of their mind and cause them to second-guess getting back together, Even if the issues that led to the breakup were resolved. Not to mention, your friendship could also take a hit: Your pal may hesitate to open up to you about their love life moving forward, since you’ve made it pretty clear you’re not the biggest fan of their relationship.
Remember that when a loved one is going through a breakup, empathy is one of the most important things you can offer. This can include reminding them that it’s okay to feel sad—and that you’re there to listen. Or just showing up at their place with a bunch of their favorite snacks and watching Netflix on the couch together so they don’t have to wallow alone.
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2024.05.07 16:44 This_Rub4353 One Thing You Should Never Say to a Friend Going Through a Breakup

Breakups are a special kind of emotional hell, so finding the right words to comfort a friend going through one can be tricky. Case in point: There’s one thing a lot of well-intentioned people say to ease their pal’s pain that isn’t as supportive as it seems. Not only is this common sentiment counterproductive—it can also be downright insulting.
Never tell a friend that you knew their ex was ‘bad news’ from the start. Urging your best bud not to waste tears over a jerk who cheated, say, or a workaholic who couldn’t even send a happy birthday text might seem like a reassuring reality check. However, this type of criticism isn’t all that helpful for a few reasons.
First off, if your friend ends up rekindling things, the fact that you called their partner an inconsiderate asshole or an emotionally unavailable child may linger in the back of their mind and cause them to second-guess getting back together, Even if the issues that led to the breakup were resolved. Not to mention, your friendship could also take a hit: Your pal may hesitate to open up to you about their love life moving forward, since you’ve made it pretty clear you’re not the biggest fan of their relationship.
Remember that when a loved one is going through a breakup, empathy is one of the most important things you can offer. This can include reminding them that it’s okay to feel sad—and that you’re there to listen. Or just showing up at their place with a bunch of their favorite snacks and watching Netflix on the couch together so they don’t have to wallow alone.
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2024.05.07 16:42 TamiroRabbit Happy Birthday MrBeast! 🎉🎂

Happy Birthday MrBeast! Reddit is buzzing with excitement as fans from around the world come together to celebrate the philanthropic YouTuber's special day. Known for his generous acts of kindness, jaw-dropping challenges, and entertaining content, MrBeast has captured the hearts of millions with his unique approach to making a positive impact. From planting trees to surprising strangers with life-changing gifts, his dedication to spreading joy and positivity has inspired a global community to join him in making the world a better place. Here's to another year of spreading happiness and making a difference, Happy Birthday MrBeast!
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2024.05.07 16:39 Half-BloodPrincesss I made this lemon raspberry cake for a friend's 30th birthday!! Big big fan of the "vintage" piping trend coming back around

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2024.05.07 16:39 Ansfelden Bar/brewery rec near pedestrian bridge, that matches my probably-impossible specifications below

I am taking my wife out to birthday dinner at Bayberry Garden with her parents and sister on Friday.

Either before or after dinner, I want to set up a causal hang with friends, open invite like "hey we'll be here at x pm, stop by to say happy birthday!". For that, I'd like a venue that is:

  1. Easily walkable to Bayberry Garden
  2. Casual enough for friends to drop in
  3. Classy enough to be a nice birthday spot
  4. Large enough that a group of indeterminate and variable size wouldn't be a problem for the place
The Guild Beer Garden in the park would be 100% perfect...casual, open, close to dinner. Except it's supposed to be like 50 degrees and raining Friday evening.
So aside from hoping the weather changes, what are some other good options?
What I have considered so far, and why they are sub-optimal (please correct me where I'm wrong!)
- Tiny Bar: perfect vibe, but too small for inclement weather when we won't want to be on the patio
- Hot Club: similar problem, not great when the outdoors parts are off the table
- Nick-A-Nees: too loud for actually chatting with friends
- 345: nice classy vibe, but probably too "formal" for friends to drop in...? Also I'm not crazy about supporting Plant City.
- Walnut Room: similar problem, too classy for drop-ins
- Wild Colonial: may be a good option? I haven't been yet, it's not too dive-y, right?
- Red Door: I don't really know anything about it, but may be a good option

Any others I should be considering?
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2024.05.07 16:22 its_me-of_course Wealdstone subreddit.

Dear users of the national league subreddit, over the past 24 hours I’ve been attempting to make a subreddit dedicated to Wealdstone FC, I’m aware that there aren’t many Wealdstone fans on Reddit but I’m inviting anyone to join to follow what happens with and Involving the club, have a good day all.
Wealdstone_Fc
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2024.05.07 16:18 PitifulCall9574 4.6 Using Hong Kong Dollar to Realize the Bitcoin Standard


4.6.1 The advantage of the Hong Kong dollar realizing the Bitcoin standard
  1. The external environment is getting better
  2. Hong Kong is a more neutral region
  3. Hong Kong is a small government
  4. The Hong Kong government has assets
  5. tax advantage
  6. Hong Kong Economic Freedom
  7. A financial model that lives within our means
  8. Hong Kong dollar is a stablecoin
  9. Hong Kong dollar pegged to the U.S. dollar
  10. The future social model of the asset currency
  11. It is a strong competitor to the Bitcoin dollar standard
4.6.2 How to realize the Bitcoin Hong Kong dollar standard
  1. Principle of implementation
  2. Specific operation
  3. The HDAI Stability Fund with a long-term appeal
  4. Bitcoin HKD standard needs to balance the interests of big countries
  5. There is national competition to achieve the bitcoin standard
In Chapter 12 of the article “Invite Satoshi Nakamoto to Welcome the New World,” I proposed the Bitcoin dollar standard. The most common opinion I heard was that the idea was good and the logic was correct but not feasible. The Fed can’t use it because it destroys their vested interests. I have a sentence in the previous article that the Bitcoin dollar standard is the Fed’s competition to get this position. In other words, the Fed and others may realize this vision. This article takes the Hong Kong dollar as an example to talk about how the Hong Kong dollar realizes the Bitcoin Hong Kong dollar standard.
4.6.1 The advantage of the Hong Kong dollar realizing the Bitcoin standard
1. The external environment is getting better
The Hong Kong government hopes that “From governing to thriving”, make a big move in the blockchain field. The new SAR government is fully promoting the combination of “promising government” and “efficient market”, and is doing its best to “grab enterprises” and “grab talents.” On October 31, 2022, the “Policy Declaration on the Development of Hong Kong’s Virtual Assets” was published. Relevant officials actively participated in blockchain-related meetings, because they know that only by developing and strengthening Hong Kong’s status as a financial center can Hong Kong have a future.
At the blockchain conference on January 9, 2023, Chen Maobo, Hong Kong’s financial secretary, said: “Hong Kong has been based in the international financial market for decades and enjoys a good reputation. Our regulatory framework and system are in line with international rules and have received international recognition. It is widely recognized that fintech companies in Hong Kong can better use this as a platform to develop international business and explore cross-border cooperation.” In addition, the good rule of law environment has cultivated high-quality citizens throughout the years.
Regarding the blockchain, Hong Kong’s support and encouragement attitude are completely different from that of the mainland, and the mainland has not opposed it. Therefore, let us believe that the Hong Kong government has the potential to become a “promising government.”
2. Hong Kong is a more neutral region
I said in the previous article that the Bitcoin standard should be neutral. Hong Kong circulates Chinese and English, speaks Cantonese, Mandarin and English, and the combined population of Chinese and English covers nearly 3 billion people. Hong Kong has people of all races, and it is an international metropolis. If the Bitcoin standard is realized, it will make it more neutral.
The mainland backs Hong Kong. According to the “2021 RMB Internationalization Report” of the People’s Bank of China, in 2020, the total RMB settlement volume of overseas RMB clearing banks was 369.49 trillion yuan, of which Hong Kong accounted for 76%, and trade settlement volume accounted for 42%. It is one of Hong Kong’s strengths. The reason why RMB has such a large clearing volume is mainly due to the RTGS system. RTGS is a real-time gross settlement system; Real Time Gross Settlement is a cross-bank electronic settlement system established by international standards, which specializes in handling cross-bank transfers initiated by the payer’s account bank.
RTGS has four major systems: Hong Kong Dollar, U.S. Dollar, Euro, and Renminbi. In the financial field, Hong Kong is a trusted financial center for all parties. Generations of hard work have forged Hong Kong’s status as a financial center. It is the lifeline of Hong Kong’s survival. It cannot be destroyed but should only be strengthened.
3. Hong Kong is a small government
There are 175,000 civil servants and 7.2 million Hong Kong residents, and the proportion of civil servants is 2.4%. The critical reason for the small government is to anchor the dollar and economic freedom, so there is no need for complicated management agencies. Moreover, it is most in line with the law of natural economic growth.
4. The Hong Kong government has assets
The Basic Law of Hong Kong stipulates that the state owns the land in Hong Kong. The government of the Hong Kong Special Administrative Region is responsible for the management, use, development, lease, or grant to individuals, legal persons, or groups for use or development, and all income is at the disposal of the Government of the Hong Kong Special Administrative Region. Having assets is the guarantee to realize the Bitcoin standard. It is also an advantage that the U.S. government does not have. The disadvantage of Hong Kong is that its size is not large and it has reliable assets to provide background support for the Bitcoin Hong Kong dollar standard.
5. tax advantage
Hong Kong’s land advantage has been transformed into a low tax rate advantage, and the policy is stable.
6. Hong Kong Economic Freedom
The Fraser Institute in Canada’s 2022 Annual Report on the Economic Freedom of the World continues to rank Hong Kong as the world’s freest economy. Among the five assessment items, Hong Kong continues to rank first in “freedom of international trade” and “regulation.” Hong Kong continues to top the list with a score of 8.59. This position has not changed in the rankings for 27 years. However, this year’s economic freedom score has dropped by 0.28 points from the previous one, which is higher than the global average drop of 0.16 points. The Fraser Institute think tank believes that China should be blamed for this, Implement new harsh policies in Hong Kong. Maintaining Hong Kong’s degree of freedom is the guarantee for maintaining Hong Kong’s status as a financial center. It is also the fundamental guarantee for implementing the Bitcoin Hong Kong dollar standard.
7. A financial model that lives within our means
It is how every family lives, and we must, because we can’t print money. Living within our means does not mean that we cannot borrow money. The key is to consider whether we can repay the debt. Failure to pay back the debt is a family disaster. If the financial management of a country is not as good as that of a family, what is the reason? They can print money, inject water into the currency, and cause inflation. The so-called moderate inflation is the act of stealing money. The reason we discussed earlier.
The Hong Kong dollar is a fiat currency in name, but it is actually a stablecoin model. Reliable assets must back the stablecoin, so the Hong Kong dollar is fiat in name but an asset token. Since currency cannot be issued indiscriminately, it must live within its means. The sign of living within one’s means always has a fiscal surplus. It is a classic case of the fundamental difference between asset and fiat currencies. Before 1983, Hong Kong implemented many measures, but they were not stable enough. When the linked exchange rate was implemented, Hong Kong’s economy underwent risk tests and is rock solid.
Henry Bremridge, the architect of Hong Kong’s peg, was an entrepreneur-turned-official. His characteristic is grasping the problem’s essence and creating rather than executing. The founder of fiat money was English entrepreneur William Paterson. The fiat currency method he proposed is a method of creating currency with government credit, which alleviates the debt crisis of the English government. To him has different evaluations. Coincidentally, they are both entrepreneurs. Is it accidental or inevitable? In the preface to the article “Inviting Satoshi Nakamoto to Welcome the New World,” I said that economists are good at describing problems, and entrepreneurs are good at solving problems. What are officials good at? The first characters of official and administrator are pronounced the same in Chinese. In fact, good officials are good at management. Mr. Joseph Yam Chi-Kwong, the first CEO of Hong Kong’s Monetary Authority, is an outstanding representative of management. His characteristics are not in creation but in the implementation and research of system details. Through the efforts of his generation, the linked exchange rate system was consolidated. Their foresight has created a great Hong Kong dollar and Hong Kong’s status as a financial center, becoming the basis for a currency model that represents the future asset currency era. When a bitcoin Hong Kong dollar standard model exists, Hong Kong officials can create a system.
8. Hong Kong dollar is a stablecoin
The Hong Kong dollar has the same characteristics as the stablecoin. It is anchored to the U.S. dollar, and The exchange rate between the U.S. dollar and the Hong Kong dollar is fixed in the range of 7.75-7.85. The method is simple and reliable, so the behavior is easy to predict, and the transparent of the whole process generates credibility.
The Hong Kong dollar does not have the function of economic adjustment, and the adjustment of interest follows the U.S. dollar. Therefore, although it is called a fiat currency, it is completely different from the U.S. dollar and the renminbi. Therefore, there are a few hurdles to introducing a bitcoin standard.
The most important thing is that Hong Kong has a group of well-trained officials familiar with the stablecoins principle and the rules and regulations that have been gradually established since 1983, and there are related running procedures. It is the most experienced official team in the world.
The Bitcoin standard only adds an anchor object to the Hong Kong dollar, forming a dual-anchor structure, and the nature of the Hong Kong dollar remains unchanged. Using assets from Hong Kong to add credit to the government, the Bitcoin Hong Kong dollar standard, the first step can make the Hong Kong dollar (HDAI) the leader of the stablecoin in the cryptocurrency market. The existing stablecoin of cryptocurrency is 150 billion U.S. dollars, which is very suitable for the Hong Kong dollar to enter the market.
The Linked Exchange Rate System design in 1983 was 32 years ahead of blockchain stablecoins. However, evaluating the linked exchange rate with the idea of blockchain, it is found that the ideas are surprisingly similar. Furthermore, due to the stablecoin nature of HKD, it is not surprising that the first stablecoin USDT appeared in Hong Kong.
9. Hong Kong dollar pegged to the U.S. dollar
The Hong Kong dollar range has a fixed exchange rate against the U.S. dollar and flows freely. As the anchor currency of Bitcoin, it is equivalent to anchoring the U.S. dollar in disguise. It is the advantage of the Hong Kong dollar. It is the bitcoin dollar standard in disguise.
10. The future social model of the asset currency
What is the social form of Bitcoin standard, and how should its political, economic, and legal relations be arranged? Hong Kong started an unconscious experiment in 1983, and it has been running for 40 years and is running well today. She is the embryonic form of the future human society. Hong Kong can seamlessly connect the Bitcoin standard and the current linked exchange rate and implement a dual-track transition. If the anchor is more stable than the U.S. dollar, the economy will be more stable than the peg U.S. dollar. The essence of legal currency is to anchor the inflation rate. There was no problem in the early stage. We discussed earlier that this anchor fails when finance and industry go hand in hand. The degree of so-called moderate inflation cannot be grasped in advance. It has been 20 years since we entered the 21st century. Finance theories and methods are still at the level of the 1930s. It’s better not to manage. Practice in Hong Kong has proved that if the U.S. dollar does not move, there will be no interest rate hikes or cuts in Hong Kong.
11. It is a strong competitor to the Bitcoin dollar standard
Hong Kong is positioned as a financial center. If it becomes a bitcoin-based financial center, it will surpass New York and London and start 120 years of glory. Hong Kong people will realize their coveted status as financial leader. In Chapter 13, Bitcoin has a market capitalization of 10 trillion U.S. dollars in the sixth cycle; that is, the status of the U.S. dollar, and Bitcoin will begin to reverse in 2032. It is a historic opportunity. The key is to have a courageous “promising government” that dares to create history and, after a full demonstration by managers, seize the opportunity to enter the cryptocurrency stablecoin industry quickly. The curve in Chapter 13 becomes the guideline. Otherwise, the curve in Chapter 13 does not hold.
Chapter 13 forecasts are based on the base currency M1, and M1 has statistical data which are not the same. Therefore, the difference in M1 affects the accuracy of the forecast. However, as long as it is the Bitcoin standard, the whole logic makes sense, and the trend remains unchanged.
4.6.2 How to realize the Bitcoin Hong Kong dollar standard
  1. Principle of implementation
https://chainless.hk/2023/02/04/4-6-the-difference-between-the-fiat-currency-standard-and-the-bitcoin-dollar-standard-part-6/
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2024.05.07 16:14 Lopsided_Spell_3200 Margate Kent

Is Margate a cute town to visit as a couple? Never been or heard much about it but it’s coming up as a surf town close enough to London. Looking to get a few nights stay for my partners birthday so any insight would be helpful. I’ve been to seaside towns north west coast and wasn’t a fan (a bit like how I envision Blackpool)
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2024.05.07 16:13 No_Guarantee_5106 Finally quit stalking my ex on social media…

Hi all. This is a (VERY LONG…) post for both dumpers and dumpers - I’d really welcome any experiences people have had in going cold turkey in the face of what (for me, at least…) has been a truly debilitating and serious exGF (dumper…) social media addiction.
In my case, it’s gone both ways - I think that’s made it more challenging in many ways. It’s confusing when an ex dumper won’t contact you directly, and in every other sense the relationship is over, but yet they are still watching every single story you post, and sending the odd like or reaction as if they are your greatest fan, right?
Whatever the motive on the part of the dumper - whether it be guilt relief, ego, mind games, a brief pang of nostalgia, boredom, or some kind of power game - or just genuinely liking your post/story, for the dumpee, it can be a really unhelpful and false hope inducing experience to have this ongoing “kept at arms length” virtual only kind of voyeuristic relationship.
But from my experience as classic blindsided and totally heartbroken dumpee - the urge to constantly check my exGFs very public and abundant social media updates across multiple platforms has been a form of debilitating self torture that has left me feeling at times as if I need some kind of intensive post addiction therapy.
Everyone’s time frames and circumstances are different, so it probably doesn’t matter my exact context - but - if of interest - we met online in lockdown, and it was LDR for the first 9 months or so, and so videos and FTs and pics/digital really was the foundation. I do wonder if that has made letting go of the social media more difficult.
We then met IRL, and it was fairy tale, though I was the person who felt like taking things slower, and on several occasions felt smothered and love bombed, as if things errr moving too fast, so broke up with my ex a few times, always giving reasons and explaining I didn’t feel ready to fully commit.
But - slowly I went about changing my life in these temporary break ups, and eventually felt ready to take a big leap, and moved cities to be with her, leaving behind family, friends and changing jobs.
It was more or less exactly at this point that my ex began to pull away. The moment she felt I wasn’t going to leave her, she went from anxiously attached bordering on stalker to dismissive avoidant, and thus ensued a year or so of her increasingly picking me apart and in January 2022 she finally dumped me.
To be fair to her - I was a shadow of the person she’d originally met at that point. I was a doormat, totally revolved around her and her life, and we experienced a near 180 in terms of the dynamic. I became needy, emotional, lost my confidence, and in particular started to suffer the same crippling separation anxiety and panic attacks she’d experienced with me in the first half of our relationship.
Whether it was love, or trauma bonding I don’t know, whether she was a narc who’d love bombed then slowly devalued and finally disguarded - or whether there were undiagnosed personally disorders or any other issues I’ve had to concede I will never find answers for, and accept that all that matters now is recovering. Maybe she is just immature and one of those people who loved the honeymoon period, but jumps ship the moment things become real and involve unselfish compromise and unconditional commitment to make things work.
Anyway - immediately upon dumping me what is now more than 2.5yrs ago, she put me under a lot of pressure to be friends, and I in my addicted state obviously made the rookie error (this was my first great love…) and spent the next 2yrs in some kind of situationship/frienship/hot and cold kind of hell.
At times it felt like we were back together but no one was saying it. Our mutual friends would react with confusion and often said how we were clearly meant to be and so forth. But this was also peppered with long periods of low contact in between in which we both tried to move on to no avail. It was always me requesting this, and it was never what I wanted but was really struggling to shake what at this point had become an entirely self destructive pattern of self abuse and obsession with hoping to “get my ex back”.
Like so many, I listened to endless podcasts and read countless articles about no contact, and getting your ex back and so on. At one stage I managed 5-6 months of low contact. I say low contact, because it was essentially no direct contact, but the elephant in the room is that I haven’t gone a single day since January 2022 without obsessively checking my exes social media/last online/status updates etc. (I don’t post nearly as much as she does, but she has also remained my number one social media watcher - something I’ve had to concede I will never understand, but which I’m also learning means nothing whatsoever in real or meaningful terms….)
Finally, at the end of last year - after several months of hanging out as friends (and acting as if a couple…) I hit my limit when it became clear that she had a crush on someone new, but that she wasn’t being honest with me about this (to be fair, she didn’t need to be - it’s her business - BUT - she was still keeping me around on the back burner and using me for lifts everywhere and emotional support and so forth, just entirely on her terms in a way that was very obviously opportunistic).
It was like some kind of painfully slow death - one of those slow fades - a ghosting but with her entirely in charge of the pace of it. I was facilitating her moving on - it was humiliating, and extremely painful, as whenever I questioned why she was eg. suddenly ignoring my messages for a week it suddenly treating me differently, of course she denied it and gaslit me a lot (and also herself, I think).
So - in January of this year, I finally had to accept it was time to let go of all hope.
There was zero risk of me reaching out and contacting her, and I’ve spent the past 4 months properly confronting the reality that we are truly over (and that even if she changed her mind one day, it would only be because whatever grass is greener plan she had wasn’t working, or I’d be her safety net in between new relationships, then the moment she met someone better I’d be kicked to the curb once more…)
I went fully no contact, and vowed to never reach out to her again, but of course we stayed connected on social media (I’d previously blocked/unfollowed enough times to know that for me, the cold turkey was too much before I was ready….)
Anyway - since then - I’ve found ways to still keep track, and she’s remained in my vision and I in hers, and just spent the past 2 months or so feeling really uncomfortable as if we are now in some kind of virtual friendship that I really don’t need or want as it’s only a matter of time until the dreaded “two drinks” pics, or the “romantic sunset with heart emoji” posts start, and I’ve FINALLY realised that I no longer want this. If I get out now, ignorance really will be bliss.
I’ve prayed for this day for 2.5yrs - to actually truly let go of all ties, and to go fully no contact, rather than spend all my time outside of work and other commitments being some kind of forensic data analyst, and all the shame and pain that comes with that.
I suppose my over arching point here is to share with any others who can relate - and I know to some extent it’s pointless telling other dumpees to simply “block your ex on everything and stop looking - ex is an ex for a reason - just move on” etc.
To someone grappling with a serious ex social media addiction - presumably caused by a lock of closure and an overwhelming desire to find answers and help force oneself to accept the break up - it’s pointless saying “just stop doing it”
But for whatever reason - suddenly, after 4 months of social media only - no meaningful or direct exchanges (other than a couple of obligatory and polite happy birthday’s/condolences and so on…) I have suddenly reached a point of no return.
Finally it feels as though the relief of giving it ALL up outweighs the pressure of keeping it going. I feel as though (this stupidly long rant aside….) I am exhausted, and my mind has gone blank - I’ve overturned every stone on the beach in terms of rumination and trying to find answers. With no success. But that in itself is the answer.
I guess I’m writing this to all dumpers stuck in a crippling rut of social media stalking. I prayed for 2.5yrs to no longer feel compelled to look, and spent the past couple of months feeling as though I would never be able to detach. Then yesterday it just happened.
So keep going, forgive yourself for what feels like self abuse each time you login and see something that makes your chest hurt, or feel anxious every time your exes last seen hasn’t updated for 24hrs - and just know that one day, you will have turned over every stone, and will likely lose all desire to check in a way that feels like a massive relief. You will get there. I never believed I would. But I’m taking my lucky stars that I’ve finally seemed to understand that ignorance is bliss, and it feels like a huge weight has finally been lifted.
Never again will I have to see her loving her life without me. Never again will I read about her promotion, amazing new house, huge army of adoring friends, massive glow up, load of new followers who might or might not be her newest love, what looks like a romantic date, or - conversely read of some sad news/see that she’s feeling lonely etc etc ever again. Nothing. It’s a massive, long coveted relief, and I am in a state of euphoria - it really feels like finally this dumpee is dumping the dumper back.
TL;DR: a very long description of why I am elated to have finally gone cold turkey on my exes social media, largely for anyone who - like me - feels they will never be able to quit social media stalking.
Would love to hear of others experiences, whether dumpee or dumper. Resisting the urge to ask any dumpers how they felt when their dumpee stoped watching their stories because finally I don’t care how she feels!
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2024.05.07 16:01 ManyMention6930 Playing Bayo 3 for the first time

So my brother-in-law gifted me Bayonetta 3 for my birthday and so far I’ve got mixed feelings about it but generally speaking I’m pretty much loving it. The story is a bit… weird. I say this because the tone just seems so different from the other games, but tbh I like to appreciate things for what they are and if I separate it from the other two games I can enjoy it. I have to say though, I’m really curious to see what will happen later on. At first Bayo didn’t really seem to have the same charisma as the other games but eventually she does seem to go back to her old quippy campy self. The introduction, while epic, didn’t really feel very exciting, something just felt off, and I realized that this is because the story is simply darker this time around, which actually made me like it a lot because this is apparently the conclusion to bayo’s story so the stakes need to be high. The combat is buttery smooth and I simply adore it, maybe even a bit more than Bayo 2’s combat. I do have to say that so far I’m not really a fan of the giant demon mechanics. Since it’s a central mechanic and the game really wants you to use it, it’s safe to say that’s not a good thing. I feel like it gets in the way of the fun sometimes, but tbh, holy guacamole does it look and feel cool. So idk, I like this game for what it is so far. I like how different it feels and the identity it’s creating so far. Honestly I just feel happy that Bayo managed to not only get a sequel, but two of them AND a prequel. Bayo is and always will be one of a kind. Bayo forever. And Jeane 😍
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2024.05.07 16:01 96Freya96 Dogs of War Gaming / Music / Anime Hybrid server

Introducing Dogs of War, a cutting-edge boosted experimental server. Our mission is to unite diverse communities within a dynamic environment shaped by member feedback, where every voice matters. Our current focus areas include:
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2024.05.07 15:58 Featherbye AITA for calling my husband a brat?

To start off, my husband (35 m) wanted to go to a certain restaurant for a while now. Yesterday my father in law invited me (35 f) and my daughter (4) to go eat somewhere, but I didn’t know where we were going until my daughter and I were already in the car with my father in law, on our way. My husband had to work, but everyone else had the day off. My husband knew I was going out with family, and was all for it, since I don’t usually get to go anywhere as a stay at home mom.
Turns out we were going to the same restaurant my husband’s been wanting to go to; keep in mind I didn’t really have a say where we were going because the person who invited us came up with the idea.
While we were at the restaurant, my brother in law’s girlfriend made easy chopsticks for my daughter to practice using. She did wonderfully for her first time! So good, in fact, I videoed her and sent it to my husband. He texts back, “So...when I'm not there is when y'all want chinese? I'm not hurt...” And I replied with, “Pay attention the the freaking chopsticks she's using.” I was LIVID. He replies with, “She’s trying.”
And today I bring it up again about how mad I was that he didn’t acknowledge our daughter using chopsticks. He told me he wasn’t happy that I went to a restaurant that he’s been talking to me for DAYS about. I told him that he needs to stop waiting on an invitation from people when he could take his family any time. I told him I understand he feels hurt, but his response sounded bratty, and he got very upset I called him that, and I told him I call it like I see it. I told him that he was acting like a boy, and not a man, since he couldn’t be happy for his daughter for doing well with some dang chopsticks for the first time ever. I told him I can understand if he’s upset he wasn’t there to see it, but he didn’t acknowledge any of this and continued to cling to the fact that it’s apparently my fault I was at the restaurant without him. I told him I get he wanted to go to that restaurant, but I had no say where we were going!
AITA? Please be kind in the comments—you’re welcome to call me out if I’m wrong, but leave your insults out of this. I just want to see if I’m crazy and my husband’s right in this scenario. Outside opinions are nice to have because maybe I’m not seeing something. He said he wants to talk about it later, so hopefully something positive can come out of it when we’re both cooled off. Thank you in advance!
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2024.05.07 15:54 MalkenZandon AITAH for not appreciating a surprise party?

So my birthday was a few weeks ago and I am someone who doesn't like to celebrate it. Personal reasons and past experiences just make it not an enjoyable thing for me. Knowing this, my roommate decided the week after to ask me if I wanted to go to dinner because he felt bad that we didn't do ANYTHING!
Now, he is aware of my feelings towards my birthday so I didn't think anything and said sure. This was apparently my mistake, because when we arrive at the restaurant, I get to discover as he has a big grin on his face, that he has invited several of my friends and has planned a suprise birthday dinner for me. I'm pissed, and he instantly knows it because I KNOW my face showed it, but not wanting to make a scene, I just bit my tongue and tried to enjoy it.
As the dinner goes on, I guess it was obvious something was up and I was asked if I was okay and in a moment of anger blurted out to the entire group that no I wasn't, because I had been tricked into coming here, and gave the roommate a death stare.
Of course, this makes things awkward and now it's just because, can we all just finish our meals and go, so we all do. The whole ride home, I'm now being talked down to like somehow, I'm the asshole for not being thankful and appreciative for a party I had expressly said I didn't want. Of course the argument is, "I should appreciate that someone even wants to do this for you, because a lot of people who want this don't have friends who will do it for them."
Since this occurred, I'm basically getting the cold shoulder from everyone involved, so I ask, am I the asshole for not thanking my friends for throwing me a surprise party I didn't want?
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2024.05.07 15:38 Pavarottiman53spam My boyfriends girl best friend makes me uncomfy

I 16 am a girl in a relationship with a guy 16. I will call him C his girl best friend A and the other guy friend E. We are very mature and have an amazing relationship and are going on 2 years. We are best friends and are supportive of each others dreams and goals. I couldn’t ask for a better friend or boyfriend. We go to the same school and we have had some difficulties in the past. Long story short we had a bad period cause E saw something and long story short they thaught I was being abusive to my bf. E talked to us and we both confirmed it was not abuse and it was a mistake by me due to a trauma I’m working on in therapy. (I’ve been abused) well E spread rumors around that I was abusing my bf(C) and this almost killed me. My social life was ruined and my grades dropped and I tried to kill myself . Well A his best friend has always been kinda mean to me. They give me ugly looks and ignore me. They planned my bf a surprise birthday party and didn’t invite me to make me look bad. Me and E are ok but still a bit shaky. But A helped spread these things. A’s mother is the principal of my school and could get me expelled . A fake fights with my boyfriend, draws on him and talks and texts with him all the time . C was texting her while we were hanging out and it makes me sad. I’m really hncomfortable with her being friends with my bf but I don’t wanna be controlling . I know C wouldn’t cheat on me but I really think A likes him. I need help on how to approach him and talk about this.
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2024.05.07 15:25 gizzlyxbear I watched Blow Out )1981)

I watched Blow Out )1981)
Brian De Palma hates boring openings. He’s gone on record saying as much. De Palma thinks that opening shots consisting of either a) aerials of a city or b) a car driving somewhere are creatively bankrupt. How does he solve this?
He creates a devastating, electric opening—that’s how. The opening to Blow Out is nothing short of attention-grabbing. Two things make it so: a downright deadly Steadicam and De Palma playing into the sexist stereotypes of his filmography. Sleazy, total horror in prelude to a much more subtle, much more sophisticated horror.
For this scene, De Palma went to camera operator and Steadicam inventor Garrett Brown. He had just come off of doing the extensive Steadicam for Kubrick’s The Shining, so he was prepped for anything. Anything except for what De Palma had in mind. Brown wasn’t expecting Brian to request him to track a “crappy slasher parody”. And so, Brown unlearned most of what he did on The Shining and went into meticulously planning and memorizing the shot with De Palma. That’s something that often goes under-appreciated in Steadicam shots, especially more complex ones like this: they have to be memorized by the operator. It’s some truly inventive Steadicam work, as is the, at the time original, running tracking shots at the end of the movie.
One of the most effective aspects of this cold open is the immediate sense of mistrust it creates between the filmmaker and the audience. If the opening can’t be trusted, what else can’t be? It’s a clever way of establishing immediate tension without having to change the story. It’s also a smart way of holding tension without having to extend it scene-by-scene.
Heavy themes of obsession, paranoia, and the idea of accidentally finding something bigger than yourself run amok throughout Blow Out’s 103 minute runtime. In large part, this comes from De Palma’s own obsession with the Kennedy assassination. In an interview conducted by Noah Baumbach (found on the Criterion blu), De Palma mentions that part of the feeling he hoped to get across with the film was the same ones he experienced as he dove further into the conspiracy himself.
The heavy use—borderline abuse—of split-screen and split diopter shots adds to the paranoiac feel of the film by creating an information overload for the audience. The eye is unsure where to land, forcing the viewer to take all the information in frame in at once. The rest of the film, when the camera can only focus on what’s directly in front of it, is achieved through the use of shallow lenses.
This inability to let the audience focus on any one given subject at once also allows for much stronger usage of close-ups. They are few and far between here, so the ones that do happen are that much more impactful—even voyeuristic.
Another effective building block of this conspiratorial filmmaking comes from De Palma’s obsession with Hitchcock. He’s a big believer in part of what he [De Palma] calls “the grammar of cinema”: it’s the only medium in which you can show the audience and the character the same amount of information in any given moment. As such, the audience is taken on the same ride as Travolta’s character and led to the same near-delusions. However, by carefully controlling this flow of information, the director also lets the audience in just enough to create further suspense. Again, a trick picked up from Hitch.
I’ve used the word “obsession” a lot throughout this review. That’s because, at its core, that’s what Blow Out is all about. It’s both about the obsession of conspiracy and about its director’s own tendencies towards obsession. It’s an effective example of anxiety and suspense building, cementing De Palma as a master alongside Hitchcock. Any scene of Travolta in the editing room, meticulously going through every millimeter of tape to piece together his evidence is especially striking. It’s a careful exercise in both lens and audio trickery. The gear porn is an appreciated touch as well. There’s one editing room scene that stands out above the rest; when Travolta is checking the audio on a number of tapes, the camera slowly rotates in place, covering every bit of the room in one continuous, hypnotic motion; mimicking the reels on the tape machines. As Travolta’s character becomes more frantic, so too does the camera start to move faster and the audio becomes louder.
Present throughout are also a number of impressive indoor aerials. These were achieved through the use to carefully crafted sets with cranes overhead used to achieve the shot. This creates a surreal, dreamlike look to these scenes that separate them from the normal reality of the film. This is a look that’ll be explored multiple times throughout the runtime, culminating in the firework finale.
Cinematography is more than just camerawork, though. It’s also the department responsible for directing the electrical, lighting, and grips. The lighting of Blow Out in all of its technicolor noir glory is exquisite, especially on the 4k Criterion print. There’s enough colored lighting here to make Dario Argento blush. It’s striking and visually interesting to see bright reds, whites, and blues used in a chiaroscuro manner; bright colors contrasting with the film’s ideologies to create a dark, moody atmosphere.
Another factor to take into consideration when discussing cinematography is shot length. Here, De Palma opts for longer takes with a tight, controlled level of shot efficiency. If the story can be told effectively with only 1-2 shots in a given sequence, then it’s going to be told in 1-2 shots. There’s little wasted movement or placement, making for a perceived obsession regarding shot economy; De Palma admits to as much in the previously mentioned Baumbach interview.
A movie is more than just lighting and camerawork, though. For any narrative feature to work, it needs actors. The primary cast of Travolta, Allen, Franz, and Lithgow (but mostly Travolta and Allen) play up their noir tropes well. Travolta in the “wrong man” narrative fits like a glove. It’s the classic film-noir trope of someone stumbling into something bigger than themselves. On the other hand is Nancy Allen’s Sally; she’s sexy, naïve, and still dangerous—the perfect blend of femme fatale and damsel on distress. Franz is such a sleaze in so many different ways, that it manages to make my skin crawl. Seedy, secretive, and conniving; a grifter of the highest order. Lithgow, on the flip-side is cold and calculated. His killer is exacting and predatory; watching his character hunt down others is as tense as anything else.
Using actresses that were similar in appearance to Nancy Allen for the string of cover-up serial killings also lends to the general feeling of unreality. It makes the viewer double take each time, needing to confirm if the character is Sally or not. The most extreme example of this is actually a piece of stunt-work. In the opening scene of the movie, when the car takes a dive into the drink and Travolta pulls Allen out of the car, it’s actually a body double. Nancy Allen is very claustrophobic, so sticking her in a car filling up with water was nigh impossible for De Palma (who was also her husband at the time). Although it’s a bit of a goof onscreen, it does happen to lend itself well to the dreamier qualities of the movie.
The costuming in Blow Out does a surprising amount of heavy lifting as well. From those coordinating the conspiracy dressing in suits and ties: the uniform of politicians, bankers, and high society to Travolta’s plain, red shirts and working man looks—another type of uniform. In this way, De Palma is able to play visually with ideas of classism and how it often relates with conspiracy. It’s a subtle, but interesting way of conveying power dynamics.
In Blow Out, De Palma shows a rigorous attention to detail that pays off in spades by the end. From the news reports given onscreen throughout to the allusions to the revisiting of his previous works. At one point, there’s a movie that plays in Dennis Franz’ apartment that provides some diegetic audio; it’s actually De Palma’s debut feature, Murder à la Mod. For film fans, the movie also complements other movies like Antonioni’s Blowup and Coppola’s The Conversation; each of them involving obsessive characters reconstructing recordings.
Blow Out is one of De Palma’s best and easily one of his most technically impressive films. Through themes of obsession, paranoia, and the blurred line between reality and illusion, Blow Out engages audiences on multiple levels, inviting them into a world where nothing is as it seems. On every rewatch, another layer of the film reveals itself, only deepening its hidden, labyrinthine nature. This will always be an easy recommendation for me to give, especially to other fans of noir and genre filmmaking. The Criterion 4k release is worth every penny.
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2024.05.07 15:24 gizzlyxbear Brian De Palma’s “Blow Out” (1981) review. Let’s discuss!

Brian De Palma hates boring openings. He’s gone on record saying as much. De Palma thinks that opening shots consisting of either a) aerials of a city or b) a car driving somewhere are creatively bankrupt. How does he solve this?
He creates a devastating, electric opening—that’s how. The opening to Blow Out is nothing short of attention-grabbing. Two things make it so: a downright deadly Steadicam and De Palma playing into the sexist stereotypes of his filmography. Sleazy, total horror in prelude to a much more subtle, much more sophisticated horror.
For this scene, De Palma went to camera operator and Steadicam inventor Garrett Brown. He had just come off of doing the extensive Steadicam for Kubrick’s The Shining, so he was prepped for anything. Anything except for what De Palma had in mind. Brown wasn’t expecting Brian to request him to track a “crappy slasher parody”. And so, Brown unlearned most of what he did on The Shining and went into meticulously planning and memorizing the shot with De Palma. That’s something that often goes under-appreciated in Steadicam shots, especially more complex ones like this: they have to be memorized by the operator. It’s some truly inventive Steadicam work, as is the, at the time original, running tracking shots at the end of the movie.
One of the most effective aspects of this cold open is the immediate sense of mistrust it creates between the filmmaker and the audience. If the opening can’t be trusted, what else can’t be? It’s a clever way of establishing immediate tension without having to change the story. It’s also a smart way of holding tension without having to extend it scene-by-scene.
Heavy themes of obsession, paranoia, and the idea of accidentally finding something bigger than yourself run amok throughout Blow Out’s 103 minute runtime. In large part, this comes from De Palma’s own obsession with the Kennedy assassination. In an interview conducted by Noah Baumbach (found on the Criterion blu), De Palma mentions that part of the feeling he hoped to get across with the film was the same ones he experienced as he dove further into the conspiracy himself.
The heavy use—borderline abuse—of split-screen and split diopter shots adds to the paranoiac feel of the film by creating an information overload for the audience. The eye is unsure where to land, forcing the viewer to take all the information in frame in at once. The rest of the film, when the camera can only focus on what’s directly in front of it, is achieved through the use of shallow lenses.
This inability to let the audience focus on any one given subject at once also allows for much stronger usage of close-ups. They are few and far between here, so the ones that do happen are that much more impactful—even voyeuristic.
Another effective building block of this conspiratorial filmmaking comes from De Palma’s obsession with Hitchcock. He’s a big believer in part of what he [De Palma] calls “the grammar of cinema”: it’s the only medium in which you can show the audience and the character the same amount of information in any given moment. As such, the audience is taken on the same ride as Travolta’s character and led to the same near-delusions. However, by carefully controlling this flow of information, the director also lets the audience in just enough to create further suspense. Again, a trick picked up from Hitch.
I’ve used the word “obsession” a lot throughout this review. That’s because, at its core, that’s what Blow Out is all about. It’s both about the obsession of conspiracy and about its director’s own tendencies towards obsession. It’s an effective example of anxiety and suspense building, cementing De Palma as a master alongside Hitchcock. Any scene of Travolta in the editing room, meticulously going through every millimeter of tape to piece together his evidence is especially striking. It’s a careful exercise in both lens and audio trickery. The gear porn is an appreciated touch as well. There’s one editing room scene that stands out above the rest; when Travolta is checking the audio on a number of tapes, the camera slowly rotates in place, covering every bit of the room in one continuous, hypnotic motion; mimicking the reels on the tape machines. As Travolta’s character becomes more frantic, so too does the camera start to move faster and the audio becomes louder.
Present throughout are also a number of impressive indoor aerials. These were achieved through the use to carefully crafted sets with cranes overhead used to achieve the shot. This creates a surreal, dreamlike look to these scenes that separate them from the normal reality of the film. This is a look that’ll be explored multiple times throughout the runtime, culminating in the firework finale.
Cinematography is more than just camerawork, though. It’s also the department responsible for directing the electrical, lighting, and grips. The lighting of Blow Out in all of its technicolor noir glory is exquisite, especially on the 4k Criterion print. There’s enough colored lighting here to make Dario Argento blush. It’s striking and visually interesting to see bright reds, whites, and blues used in a chiaroscuro manner; bright colors contrasting with the film’s ideologies to create a dark, moody atmosphere.
Another factor to take into consideration when discussing cinematography is shot length. Here, De Palma opts for longer takes with a tight, controlled level of shot efficiency. If the story can be told effectively with only 1-2 shots in a given sequence, then it’s going to be told in 1-2 shots. There’s little wasted movement or placement, making for a perceived obsession regarding shot economy; De Palma admits to as much in the previously mentioned Baumbach interview.
A movie is more than just lighting and camerawork, though. For any narrative feature to work, it needs actors. The primary cast of Travolta, Allen, Franz, and Lithgow (but mostly Travolta and Allen) play up their noir tropes well. Travolta in the “wrong man” narrative fits like a glove. It’s the classic film-noir trope of someone stumbling into something bigger than themselves. On the other hand is Nancy Allen’s Sally; she’s sexy, naïve, and still dangerous—the perfect blend of femme fatale and damsel on distress. Franz is such a sleaze in so many different ways, that it manages to make my skin crawl. Seedy, secretive, and conniving; a grifter of the highest order. Lithgow, on the flip-side is cold and calculated. His killer is exacting and predatory; watching his character hunt down others is as tense as anything else.
Using actresses that were similar in appearance to Nancy Allen for the string of cover-up serial killings also lends to the general feeling of unreality. It makes the viewer double take each time, needing to confirm if the character is Sally or not. The most extreme example of this is actually a piece of stunt-work. In the opening scene of the movie, when the car takes a dive into the drink and Travolta pulls Allen out of the car, it’s actually a body double. Nancy Allen is very claustrophobic, so sticking her in a car filling up with water was nigh impossible for De Palma (who was also her husband at the time). Although it’s a bit of a goof onscreen, it does happen to lend itself well to the dreamier qualities of the movie.
The costuming in Blow Out does a surprising amount of heavy lifting as well. From those coordinating the conspiracy dressing in suits and ties: the uniform of politicians, bankers, and high society to Travolta’s plain, red shirts and working man looks—another type of uniform. In this way, De Palma is able to play visually with ideas of classism and how it often relates with conspiracy. It’s a subtle, but interesting way of conveying power dynamics.
In Blow Out, De Palma shows a rigorous attention to detail that pays off in spades by the end. From the news reports given onscreen throughout to the allusions to the revisiting of his previous works. At one point, there’s a movie that plays in Dennis Franz’ apartment that provides some diegetic audio; it’s actually De Palma’s debut feature, Murder à la Mod. For film fans, the movie also complements other movies like Antonioni’s Blowup and Coppola’s The Conversation; each of them involving obsessive characters reconstructing recordings.
Blow Out is one of De Palma’s best and easily one of his most technically impressive films. Through themes of obsession, paranoia, and the blurred line between reality and illusion, Blow Out engages audiences on multiple levels, inviting them into a world where nothing is as it seems. On every rewatch, another layer of the film reveals itself, only deepening its hidden, labyrinthine nature. This will always be an easy recommendation for me to give, especially to other fans of noir and genre filmmaking. The Criterion 4k release is worth every penny.
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2024.05.07 15:14 ThrowRAm19f19 My(19M) girlfriend(19F) is annoyed because I'm also going to a birthday party where her ex is. What to do?

Hi guys,
I need help with a situation with my girlfriend.
A few weeks ago she told me that she was invited to a birthday party by a friend of her ex, who is also friends with her (not very friends, she sees him every few months), her ex is also coming to the party (she didn't tell me that). Now she didn't say if she wanted me to come or if she was going alone (which would be fine with me), she just said she was invited.
Over the course of the last week, I brought up the birthday again and asked if I should drive her there or pick her up, which would have been an opportunity for her to ask me if I wanted to go or to tell me that she wanted to go alone. However, she quickly changed the subject.
Today we met the friend whose birthday it was in the city, after a short small talk he asked me if I would come too, because I was overwhelmed by the situation I simply said that I would like to come. I could see that my girlfriend was very annoyed at that moment because I had practically invited myself, but afterwards she said that it would be ok for her if I came along. later I asked her if she had asked me if I wanted to go and she said yes, she just didn't know if plus ones were allowed.
So i dont know how i proceed with this situation?
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2024.05.07 15:10 Boot_inc should I cut them off ? (also a bit of a rant)

Hi, I'm a teenager, and there are some friends that I've known for years now, but I don't feel that close to them anymore.
We've never been the best of friends, but I always try my best to get closer to them. I organize hang outs, invite them to my birthday, buy them birthday gifts even though I'm not invited, stuff like that. We're in the same friend group, and I often text them to ask how they're doing, and see if they are free. Thye never really answer, and they definitely don't say anything if I don't text them first. It's been months since I've talked to one of them. When we get together, we do get along, and they're nice to talk to. I like being around them, though maybe they don't like me as much. It just, hurts a bit, to always be the only one trying and putting in efforts in a friendship. Another one of my friends, says I should let them go. Am I missing the point ? Or being too clingy ? I don't really know how friendships are supposed to work, but I don't feel that great these days, and I'm hoping to work on myself. I think I'm doing too much, and I suffer from it. I try too hard, for others, and never enough for myself. I don't want to be selfish though, they're really busy and don't have any obligations toward myself. I mean, I'm doing stuff, but they don't have to respond to it. Like, they're being put on the spot, when maybe I'm only inconveniencing them with my questions. The funny thing is, they're the social ones, when I'm actually pretty closed off. But when I'm friends with someone, I really try to be better for them. Am I at fault ? Or are we simply not compatible ? I realise what I'm saying sounds like self pitying, but I'm just very worried I'm judging them too quickly ^^'
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2024.05.07 14:54 NumerousAd7092 I didn’t know that I ’25/M’ lied to my fiancé, and now I have to come clean.

Sorry for the long read, but if I want the truth out, I have to write it as a whole. Also pls forgive for my broken English.
I grew up as an orphan in Poland. Yes it was rough, but it turned out to be worse later . When I was 14 I started to work for a construction company. Mainly manual labor on weekends when I didn’t have school. Yes. It is totally illegal, but still better than stealing food from supermarkets. You would probably ask, what company is offering the opportunity to a child? Turned out a pretty shitty one of course. It was a living hell, but it was just on weekends.
Thanks to the incredible people at my High school, I managed to finish my studies, around when I turned 18. With that, I was not eligible for the government issued accommodation no more. So I was 18, unemployed and homeless.
When the boss on my weekend job heard about it, he offered me a full time job. Same work, still off the record, but I would get cash biweekly. First I declined the offer, because the monthly salary didn’t even add up to be enough to rent a room somewhere, let alone make a living. So he came up with the idea to move in a room inside the workplace. I was desperate. It was this, or the streets. I accepted the job.
Soon I realised I am basically held hostage. They don’t pay me enough to make a living, but still enough to don’t starve to death. If I want to quit, I am becoming homeless. 12 hours work + unpaid overtime, for not so few times 20 consecutive days in a row, without day offs. If somebody said something about it they threatened to lay you off.
So I put up with that for years. One time I broke. My soul, and self-esteem was already broken, with my hopes and dreams, when my body also said it’s time to stop. I lost my vision during work. Out of nowhere. They said I will be fine, but when I fainted they had to call an ambulance for me. It was a TIA. A minor stroke. The doctors said that it can caused by stress, sleep deprivation, and malnutrition.
That’s when I started my lie. I looked up a brain desease, that can cause TIA online. I figured if I tell my boss I have it, they maybe leave me alone. Stupid plan, I know. They didn’t give a shit about it, besides bullying me.
That’s when the Miracle no. 1 happened.
“L” ’24/F’was come to an interview to the company as accounting assistant. She was everything that I wasn’t. Smart, Beautiful, Full of Joy, Happiness, and Life. It happened to be on one of my few day offs when she arrived there. I was the only one in the building because my boss forgot about the interview. So we called him up, and he said, if she wants the job, then she will wait for him to be back in a few hours. And She stayed.
We clicked right away. I still don’t know what she saw in me that day, but we chatted for hours. She didn’t asked about the job, she just asked about me. My boss came back after 6 hours, completely shitfaced drunk, and said that she got the job. The reason was, if “L” is so desperate for a job to wait for an interview for 6 hours, He can probably take advantage of her.
Oh. There comes Miracle no. 2
Later turned out she was only stayed for me. In two weeks we were a couple. In two months I saw her beautiful smile to fade away, her joy that lives her in her eyes, and that she is also slowly braking down under the work pressure. After 3 months we were together, I couldn’t see this anymore. When my boss made “L” cry, and have a panic attack, I knew it’s time to leave. I went to his office, shouted everything I wanted to shout for years, and just left with L.
Miracle no. 3
L’s family took us in. She called them, explained the situation, and they invited us to their home. I cannot even explain the kindness, love, and care they gave me. They never even met me before, and after a single phone call, I am in their house eating a home cooked meal, (We can say the first in my life) with their daughter. I broke down crying of joy at the table. The next year we lived together as a Family I’ve never had. L’s dad taught me how to drive, her mother taught me how to cook, and L taught me how to love. After a single night, I was part of the family.
Miracle no. 4
There is no words, how Wonderfull L is. She is loving, caring, and if I want to list all the beautiful things about her, this post would not end ever. Let’s say this: in the year we lived at her parents, she asked me what’s my dream job. I said, I want to be a photographer. We both worked at that time and saved the money to move out together, because I didn’t want to take advantage of their kindness. One time we gathered together for dinner. They said we are celebrating something. It was a celebration of me. They put together some money, and they managed to buy me a second hand, but still proffessional camera. They were not so well financially either, and it turned out L took overtime at the bakery she worked at so they can afford it. That’s the second time they saw me weep like a baby.
Miracle no. 5
I started doing gigs as a beginner photographer. I am no exceptional talent or anything, but I was interested in taking photos in the past (okay. I was obsessed with it), so I picked it up really quickly. With the additional money we had the opportunity to move out to a nice apartment. On L’s next birthday I rented out a studio to surprise her with a gift portrait photo session. Did I mentioned that she is beautiful? When I posted them on my IG, people thought I work with professional models. (The pros of being in a relationship with a 10/10) That post single handedly kickstarted my career.
Miracle no. 6
I established myself as a freelance photographer. I have enough jobs, that L’s quit her day job, and helping my business with the organising and paperwork. In 2,5 years we worked our way out of extreme poverty, to comfortable middle class. The first thing I did was to buy a ring when we can afford it. She didn’t even let me finish the question, just screamed YES.
Miracle no. 7
We managed to save enough for a downpayment for the same apartment that we rented. Took out a loan. Bought the thing. When we finished the paperwork, we went to celebrate with her family. And there was me. Everything that I wasn’t before. The homeless orphan, who was scared to change anything, even in the worst of situations, and was always alone, now have a fiancé, a loving family, a successful business, and a fuckin home. (I am still in shock) The third time I am crying in front of everyone.
Thats where the list of miracles end.
2 days ago, a faulty light equipment electrocuted me. It caused me to faint, and the next thing I remember was waking up at the hospital. Around me my loving family, and my future wife. They are all completely horrified. The Dr.-s said, I will be fine. A young man like me could get away this stuff, but they want to monitor my heart rate, for 24 hours.
L was not worried about my heart tough. She was worried because of my never even had brain disease. I couldn’t address the situation then and there. It looked like, they all knew about it. I said everything will be fine. No need to worry.
I completely forgot about it until that day. She heard it from our ex boss, and asked me if it’s true around when we have known each other for a week. I don’t know why I said yes. It was a lie, that lived me for a year at that time, and it was so easy to just go with it. I told her, that they are bullying me for it, so I don’t like to talk about it. So she respected my boundary, and we never spoke about it since. But now I know. Even tough I’ve forgot. She never. Whenever I felt she is worried for me, and I brushed it off. She was thinking about it. I have never felt this much of shame when I realised.
I got send home, and I am scared. I am second guessing myself. What if they only helped and loved me, because they feel sorry, for the poor, orphan with a fake terminal sickness.
But I know I have to come clean. Tomorrow, I have to tell L, and her family.
I guess I need Miracle no. 8
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2024.05.07 14:53 adulting4kids Holiday

  1. Hanukkah:
    • Prompt: Explore the journey of a character from a different cultural background attempting to understand and participate in Hanukkah celebrations, navigating the significance of the menorah and the joy of shared traditions.
  2. Diwali:
    • Prompt: Tell the story of a character who, despite being unfamiliar with Diwali, finds themselves immersed in the festival of lights, grappling with the symbolism and attempting to connect with the community's vibrant customs.
  3. Kwanzaa:
    • Prompt: Follow a character who is introduced to Kwanzaa traditions and principles, struggling to reconcile these new concepts with their own beliefs and family customs, ultimately discovering the beauty of shared values.
  4. Las Posadas:
    • Prompt: Write about a character unfamiliar with the Mexican Christmas tradition of Las Posadas, who faces challenges participating in the reenactment while learning about the cultural significance of the journey to Bethlehem.
  5. St. Lucia's Day:
    • Prompt: Craft a narrative around a character outside of Scandinavian culture who is invited to partake in St. Lucia's Day celebrations, grappling with the symbolism of light and the unique customs of wearing candles.
  6. Winter Solstice:
    • Prompt: Explore the experience of a character from a culture without Winter Solstice traditions, as they encounter rituals and celebrations centered around nature and the changing seasons, prompting a personal journey of understanding.
  7. Chinese New Year:
    • Prompt: Tell the story of a character navigating the lively festivities of Chinese New Year, struggling with the customs, symbolism, and the significance of the zodiac, ultimately finding common ground and embracing the spirit of renewal.
  8. Ethiopian Christmas (Ganna):
    • Prompt: Follow a character introduced to the Ethiopian Christmas celebration, grappling with the unique cultural and religious aspects, and discovering the warmth and inclusivity of the festivities.
  9. Oshogatsu (Japanese New Year):
    • Prompt: Explore the challenges faced by a character unfamiliar with Oshogatsu traditions, as they navigate visits to shrines, partake in traditional rituals, and strive to understand the importance of family and new beginnings.
  10. Global Celebrations:
    • Prompt: Craft a story about a character from a culturally isolated background who, through exposure to diverse global celebrations, initially struggles to connect but ultimately finds unity in the shared human experience of joy, love, and celebration.
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2024.05.07 14:49 Ill_Sentence6723 It's a good thing she wasn't invited to the birthday party. ALL her kids dodged the B👀ty hole licking bandit. They need to get a VPO on that mouth!

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2024.05.07 14:39 DaToti Recommendation for a Ryokan (with or without) private Onsen nearby Tokyo in October

Hello everyone. My wife and me are planning to visit Japan in the middle of october for three weeks. We recently booked our flights and we are still in the planning phase, that means we are not 100% sure yet which places we are going to visit, but my wife is going to have here 30th birthday party soon so i planned to surprise here with an additional gift regarding our trip.
My plan was to book something were we can experience an onsen or a traditional hotel for one day together to relax and have this traditional feeling. Also we are both fans of saunas and relax bath and the old traditions of japan.
So i was thinking of something like a Ryokan with or without a private onsen or at least a possibility to experience an onsen together. I know that there are some restrictions in Tokyo thats why i was thinking of another prefecture nearby. It wouldn't matter if it would be a day trip with an overnight stay. Btw. we are also visiting Kyoto, Osaka and some non yet decided other destinations. So in any case if you have recommendations for any other location regarding the topic im also interested to hear from it. I also heard that some people recommended "Hakone" back then for Ryokan or any kind of onsen. Is that still the case?
So does anybody have any recommendations or any other location that you would suggest and combine with the things I described?
Thanks in advance!
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