I met my baby daddy at the end of 2020 through tinder. We were together from December - May 2021. From then we were very on and off. Whenever we were “on,” it was always for several months at a time (don’t quote me on the actual dates but another time we were on was from SeptembeOctober 2022-March 2023, for example). Multiple times we talked about moving in together and yadda yadda yadda all that couple shit, just for it to never work. In October of 2022, I got my IUD out because it was time and I was going through a “find myself” phase so I opted to go off birth control entirely. He knew this and we had both agreed that we would continue to have sex without a condom. I was into natural cycle planning and would avoid my fertile windows and would even let him know of my whole cycle - I’m a very open book type of person. Well, lo and behold in February (found out in March) of 2023 I got pregnant. I waited a few days to tell him so I could confirm it and he lost his shit. We immediately broke up and he spent the next two weeks on and off texting me about how I’m “ruining his life” and he “won’t be able to live like he does now.” We barely talked during my pregnancy. Once I made an ultrasound appointment for him to come to and he never showed up to it. Fast forward a month after I gave birth I texted him asking him if he wanted to meet his child. He did meet him. It was then that we talked about child support and I told him I was going to file and he said he understood he has a duty to pay.
To my knowledge he has yet to tell ANYONE that he has a son. I attempted to message his parents on Facebook but it’s been almost a year since my first message and they have never opened it (I don’t think they really use Facebook). I really want to give them the option to know my son! I’m not sure if I should show up at his parents doorstep (they have never met me) or if I should mail them a letter. I also know his sister-in-law is very active on Facebook. I have thought about messaging her. Should I do it? How should I do it? Legally we do not have paternity established yet. I am waiting to find out if he requested a DNA test or just signed the papers.
I don’t want to piss him off but I have no grandparents left and I wasn’t my son to have a relationship with all of his family!
Added Info: we were on good terms until the day he got served child support. He lost it on me again over text message and hasn’t responded to anything I’ve messaged (only questions regarding support or our son).

When I was a lil fry, I grew up with my parents having fish tanks but never really had my own and always wanted one like the giant 175 gallon tank my dad built. Once I finally got my own house about... ten years ago?? I started this hobby with a 10 gallon tank, put all different kinds of fish from Bala sharks to crawdads and Mubana cichlids....horrible combo I know....and learned fast what not to put together. So I expanded my love for fish and added a 55 gallon tank....it still didnt work for all the fishies and learned I need to keep certain kinds with others.... Also that hang over baskets weren't enough for 55s but big canister filters were the best find of my life. My love for fish encouraged me to expand. I bought two more 55 gallon tanks aaaaand it still wasn't enough. After countless hours of fish tank cleanings, learning cichlids needed more room, I wanted bigger!! A 75 gallon tank it was!!! Along with all the other tanks I was slowly building a collection. At one point my garage had a wall to wall of 55 gallon fish tanks. At the end it had a horseshoe pattern of tanks where you could sit down and be surrounded by fish.
By now I had so many tanks, but not what I really wanted...a 125 gallon. I spent days and nights scouring through facebook marketplace and craigslist hoping to find an affordable huge fish tank... Yes you guessed it!! I found a 125 in town and grabbed it as soon as I could. Yes it was used but so were most of my fish tanks. This gigantic tank was a huge eye opener on what I could build and become. I created a beautiful little community of tetras, plattys and mollys. Learned how much they mass produce and how to use breeding baskets. Next thing I know its been 3 years into the hobby and something super unexpected happened!! My Dad gave me the 175 gallon fish tank he built when I was a kid!! I immediately found a few friends to volunteer to help load this behemoth on the trailer and get it to my home. We Finally got it home however it was in rough shape from sitting in the old house for 2 years..... I had to teach myself how to reseal fish tanks, rebuild the tank stand and refurbish wood to look new. Two weeks later and alot of elbow grease we turned this 20 year old tank into a brand new looking 175 gallon tank....we even found a singing bass to go where the old one used to be.
Few years later I had grown a small reputation as the fish guy and accumulated 20+ fish tanks from 10 to 175 gallon tanks. Thanks to building that reputation people had started to give me fish tank after fish tank with fish after fish. I needed somewhere to put them and in order to do that I needed to build a shelf or rack of shelves. Our local lumber yard business always drops off giant pallets that can hold lots of weight. With a little bit of cutting, hauling away and building, we made a giant fish tank stand. Its made to hold from top to bottom, six 10 gallons, six 10 gallon, five 20 gallons and five 20 gallons. All made to hold rescued/donated fish and running off 10+ donated bubblers; a crazy air line system I jimmy rigged. next thing I know I'm getting calls or messages left and right to come rescue fish from people who can no longer care for the fish. those tanks were filled with fish faster than I expected, some even being potential monster fish I thought would fit in 175....they wouldn't.
I had to expand even more..... I ended up moving all of the fish tanks into my spare bedroom and officially becoming the fish room!! Doing this gave me a whole garage to work with and let me tell you, I put it to work immediately!!! I found a 10ft x 7ft x 28in kids above ground pool(1000 gallons) that me and a few volunteers set up into the garage and filled with water!! I used a few of those YouTube Videos on how to build your own canister filtration and we went to work. Built a 55gallon drum canister filter that does 10,000 gallons per hour keeping the pool crystal clear with gravel, filter pads and clarifying pads. Before I could even get the pool fully up n running, people were already donating monsters!! At one point I had redtails, arowanna, pacu, iridescent shark, shovelnose catfish n more all in this 1000gallon pool!! Sadly over time the pool rotted and started getting pinhole leaks throughout the pool. I needed to find a way to fix this...I tried to line the pool with flex seal and the seam. However I was impatient, due to the monsters freaking out in 55 gallon totes with bubblers that weren't big enough. I filled the pool up to early and the flex seal never cured in time....causing us to lose most of our monsters....Good news though! I was donated 1000 gallon stock pool to house the remainder monsters.
7 years into this hobby it had really turned more into a career. I got so busy that I started going out of town to Lake Havasu, Laughlin and even Vegas! Eventually I needed to find a way to pay for all these fish besides working an every day job. One day I just couldn't do it anymore.... I left my job and committed to fish tank cleaning professionally!! It has slowly picked up and started to pay for the expenses of my fish and get the bills paid. I am still cleaning tanks to this day and rescuing fish. I can't do this alone and I need your help finding all these rescues new homes. I hope to one day turn this to a non-profit and build a facility for all these fish. Tank you for spending the time reading this.

The people who are mad over Fiona being identified always talk about what Fiona and Martha have in common - appearance, accent, fake job, etc. However, none of those things could have been used as an identifying factor if people didn't find her real name from Fiona's own tweets. That's the bridge here. If her tweet to Richard - specifically "@MrRichardGadd my curtains need hung badly" from 09/23/14 - had been deleted, would Fiona have been found at all? It's perhaps possible, but maybe less likely. And certainly not as fast. Richard said she tweeted him over 700 times, Only a handful of those alleged tweets remain live today.
Once that tweet was found and people found a Fiona Harvey matching the similarities to Martha, that's where things started spiraling. Mind you, instead of finding a lawyer and protection after being identified, Fiona, being Fiona, immediately confirmed she was Martha and went on dozens of public facebook rants a day followed by paid interviews.
Maybe this "duty of care" discussion really comes down to one thing: the tweet. Obviously Richard Gadd has every right to use true quotes in a show based on a true story. Was it Netflix's responsibility to make sure none of those tweets were still public? Without those tweets, it seems likely that Fiona may have never been found, certainly not as quickly anyway. But even with that tweet, if Martha didn't have those things in common with Fiona, then perhaps we would still be sitting here wondering who she was.
So who bears the responsibility here? Richard, for using the quote? For not doing enough to hide his stalker's identity? Or Fiona, for being a stalker who left a breadcrumb along the trail? Or do they both share responsibility? From the perspective of a defamation suit, of course.

its like 9 am for me rn woke up at 6, got a healhy 4 hours of sleep. anyways i kinda just wanted to talk about something rq about i pretty much have lost most of my friends over the past years since i got out of highschool. they had it coming, snake ass mfs wanted to ditch one of our friends dispute him being there for us through thick and thin. anyways i kinda used to be a incel? i guess i wasnt like a neo nazi or anything i was just a loser playing hoi4 and minecraft all day. in november i got into the gym which is nice, spend less time now at home speaking of which is often. I cant find a job anywere, and im going to have to likely go to work with my dad in the summer which isnt bad just alot of work but also a alot of money. i have dreams, most of which are going into the financial sector, as you can see my grammer and spelling is just really fucking bad, no idea why im 18m btw and it looks like a 9 year old. i saw this quote a few days ago saying "live your life like your father was dead" on real note this hits 2 cords the first one being a kinda love it, and i wouldnt wanna face him after i failed at something he told me not to do. one the 2nd cord being that he one day may die, he drinks like 4 beers a day used to be way more, his brother died at like 60ish? idk that was when i was in 6th grade, on top of that he has told me many times he is going to die. i feel like hes depressed since im not doing well in life. my mom is kinda diffrent, i will always respect her but shes kinda just stupid, and with that cant see that shes wrong. as i have got older i have realized every "bad" thing shes done she was just acting out of anger or just didnt understand. my sisters one doesnt matter, i will never talk to her again, the other is wonderful, good future she helps me out alot with school stuff and i really wish she does well for me and she wishs well for me aswell. shes not around much anymore as shes busy with school i cant blame her shes not my mom anyways. in the way of friends i mostly just chill with my true og ill call t, t was the one i talked about before, i also chill quite alot with one of my cousins. to make it worse canada kinda been in a economic rut since 2020, house prices have skyrocked over the last 10 year in this area from what was 500k for one to 1.4 million over the last 15 years or so. girls are kinda weird to me, i dont really like them per say, i have never had a crush on one in my entire life, from what im guessing some have had a crush on me, im not really unattractive anymore. im built alot better and am fairly tall at like 6'1, i just dont form a crush. i think i might also post this on trueoffmychest

Hello! I'm looking for some advice/your insight. Here's my dilemma:
Main idea: how to get rid of my many things
Option 1 - I have an estate sale. A local highly rated business owner came over and looked at my items and quoted me to make about 5-7k if I were to have an estate sale. This estate sale that she can run would have to happen next weekend when I'm already scheduled to be in Florida, so it would happen with me not in the area (which makes me nervous). The lady said she will draft a contract which I haven't seen yet. She takes 35% of the total purchases and itemizes the big items I have for sale only. She would hire people to help with the sale, averaging $15 p/h, which we would split the cost for. She can haul anything that doesn't sale for extra $. This would also mean I have to board my dogs or rent an airbnb for the 3 days of the sale (thur-sat) so they are out of the house. The house would sit empty when the sale is not happening.
Option 2 - I sell everything myself for cheap/in bundles on Facebook marketplace. I listed about 5 things so far (small items) and about 50% has sold within a day. I would make far less money this way and would donate more (most likely) but I do have 2.5 weeks to sell things.
Option 3 - I would do my own yard sale or estate sale, but I don't have any help, so I would have to reach out and see if I can pay people to help.
Thoughts y'all? Open to any ideas

I can feel a long post coming in the air tonight... 🎶
It was a few months ago when my fiance proposed!! We went on a trip, he proposed when we were alone in a beautiful place and I was extremely happy on this day, it was one of the best days of my life. But... the next day was a disaster! I called my cousin, lets call her Gina, and told her that I was getting married, I called because she was one of my best friends and we have been close all my life. Gina lives in a different city from me, but we managed to get together often, she stayed with me for a year after college and generally I thought we had a bf-cousin relationship.
I was always in a better position than her financially but I've always given her everything I could, I'd buy her clothes, I've been paying her drinks and meals whenever we got out and always trying to make her feel welcomed and safe.
l called to tell her the news but I specifically asked her not to tell my parents until I was home from the trip. I wanted to have the pleasure to tell that I am getting married to my parents myself. I am an only child and my parents were waiting this moment for a long time since I am kind of "old" in their minds. As you have guessed Gina CALLED my parents before I could return from the trip and tell them...
What a b*tch!!!
We had no idea, we were so happy, when we returned from the trip we first went to my in laws who are really lovely people!! His mother baked and neighbors were coming and my SIL came all wishing us the best and everybody where happy about us.
After that we went to my parents to announce the news and I was very excited.
Their reaction was I quote "ok nice, now please send an email for me (something related to their work)"
I was devastated, I had a panic attack and left crying at that moment. Actually I opened the door and stormed out while my fiance was trying to catch our cat that went running behind me. We saved the cat!!🐈
My parents didn't speak to me for 3 days and they were very mad. Remember, I didn't know that Gina blabbed about me and I thought that they were just indifferent or didn't liked my fiance.
After 3 days my mum called and informed me that Gina told them before I could return from the trip and they were angry because my first thought was to tell my friends that I am going to get married and not to my parents!! Personally idk why they were so shocked, since we aren't so close and I think my best friends ( including Gina) as more of my family (and the cat).
Gina didn't have the right to tell, I texted her but she avoided me and then I was so mad I didn't speak to her for three weeks.
I went to her city to straight things out and when I got there, she hides behind her fiance. He was mad with me for not contacting them for 3 weeks ( i think he just found something to grab on ) and I asked my cousin directly why you spoke to my parents when I told you not to and she didn't speak back to me. Her "lawyer" did the indictment and I said to him to stay out of this and that Gina can speak her mind without his "help and guidance". Finally she started talking and without the presence of our dear "lawyer", she told me that she called to tell my parents out of excitement and among other things she said that her fiance announced that they were getting married to facebook first!! And that was the way her parents found out .....you see where this is going right?? She was frustrated that she didn't have the time to announce this to her parents properly and i don't know why in this f** world but maybe she thought that I had to pass through the same sh*t.
I left silently because really I didn't want to lose a cousin over this, a mess that I didn't initiated.
Now regarding her wedding, Gina is not well financially so she struggles with the wedding costs and also she asked me to be her MoH, really I think it's because she doesn't have other friends, she hangouts only with the friends of her fiance. I accepted of course before all this happened and I planned and saved to give Gina 5.000$ for her wedding. After this story, I only gave her 500$ which she thanked me a week later with just a typical "Thanks".
Everyone is expecting, because i am more financially stable than my cousins ( Gina and her brothers), to support my cousin at her wedding, but I am f** tired. I am tired of giving everything I can, since I was little, so they don't feel less or unequal, I was trying always to be very careful with that balance. All I ever had in mind was their best interest and considered them the brothers and sisters I never had.
I recently gave my cousin ( her brother ) my used car without asking for money and even paid for his insurance and other costs and he didn't even had time for coffee. I asked him 3 times to go for coffee or dinner, that I would pay, just to celebrate his new car and he never came.
When I think of my proposal I get all teary because that day I won a husband but lost a friend and cousin.
I've always dreamed that Gina would have the best wedding but now my heart can't reach the generosity I thought I had, plus when i went to her city she didn't come to greet me.
This is how you slowly become the bad relative, the Scrooge McDuck relative who doesnt ever give to other relatives.
Also my fiance is furious with all of them. And the cat, the cat is mad with all of us.
I dont want to be the MoH but she doesn't have any other friends (and I don't like the groom) If I resing all the other relatives will wonder why I am not her MoH since we had been very close.
Thoughts???
Thank you and sorry for the long post!!!
Ps: I am used to that kind of behavior from my parents so it doesn't matter anymore!!

Long story short,I just remembered several facebook exclusive games, One of hem was icy tower facebook, And to anyone who doesn't know, Facebook used to have games, They were sort of like mobile games, or proto mobile games, They were all free, But Had Ingame Micro transactions, i think most of them were really easy to cheat on and hack, Like the icy tower facebook version, Or That one pet society clone by zynga. But in 2016, Facebook had shut them down. And their now lost media, well, the thing is, They aren't completely shutdown but you no longer have access to those pages.
There used to be alot more facebook games, Like a jetpack joyride edition for it, That had its own exclusive vehicles, Or Plants vs Zombies Adventure that is heard of but completely no longer exists. Lots of facebook games have been lost media.
Now as for Icy Tower Facebook, Along with other facebook games, Their exists several footage of them all over luckily.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Js0DwiISO4k
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-uba8w0Jp0s
Just to post a few, But yeah I think its a good idea to shine some light on some games that used to be on facebook, Since there were tons of them, Some that are not even known may be lost forever. There just used to be lots and lots of them back in the 2010s I recall a monopoly world builder and so on.
I am at least trying to make an attempt since the developers of icy tower are apparently kind of active on facebook, So I'll take the risk of trying to dm them asking about the game somehow, But I wanted to atleast shed some light on icy tower facebook and other facebook games.
Thank you very much

Hello fellow potatoes! And to the potato queen herself, girl, you're amazing!!! I just found your channel a few months ago, but I'm a huge fan. I don't have a lot of time for videos, but when I do get to watch, I watch yours.
Have I got a boomemil story for you! Let's go on an adventure...warning...I tell stories with rabbit holes and tangents. This is probably gonna be too long. I'm sorry!!!
So, the characters are me (40f), boomer MIL (64f BM for short, like bowel movement bc she's caca), my oldest son, (17m), and my church "mom" (65f CM for short).
A little background: BM thinks she's an awesome mom and grandma even though she's not. She uses my kids as facebook props to show off how "wonderful" she is. The only reason she was around my kids so often was because we went to the same church. She lived 10 minutes down the road from us, but could never be bothered to come over or have anything to do with any of us is if we didn't initiate. She has always said that if we ever try to threaten to keep our kids away from her, like if we were having a disagreement, that she would not fight to see them. We've never threatened to keep our kids from her, she just wanted us to know that she didn't give a sh!t to see her gandkids. So, that tells you right there, that she's a grandma when it's convenient for her.
She's of the boomer mentality that mental health issues are made up and aren't real. "You have nothing to be depressed about." "Just snap out if it." "Just be happy." You get the point. I struggle with depression, I always have. She doesn't understand or even try to understand and is the least empathetic person I've ever met.
When I get overwhelmed, I get depressed, and I start shutting down. My plate is overflowing right now. Between the end of the school year and the possibility of us moving states, I've been overwhelmed. My oldest is a senior and the last month of senior year is crazy busy. I have another child (11m) in public school and this is his last year of elementary school, so this has been an extremely busy month for him. I have 3 more kids that do online public school/homeschool. So, they're home all day with online classes, but since they're a public school, they have mandatory state testing just like regular public school. I have had to take them to do state testing on 4 different days overyhe last few weeks and the meeting place was 45 minutes from home, at a conference room in a mall. I also babysit 3 kids (1m, 4m, 4f), so hanging out for 4 to 5 hours a day on 4 different days with a shitload of kids at the f#cking mall was not easy. Not to mention the positions and "jobs" that I hold at church. To say I'm busy is an understatement.
We've been planning on moving for the last few months because a position at my husband's work is coming open near where he grew up, which is in another state. His parents recently moved back to their hometown after my FIL retired, so one reason for the move would be to be closer to them. They are getting older, so I would be taking care of them once they needed it, so moving closer seemed like a great option. Also, it's a lower COL area than we live in now. Currently we live in the metro area of a capital city and we would be moving to a middle of nowhere po'dunk town.
Told you, rabbit holes, thanks for still being with me!!!
And this is just the straw that broke the camel's back, this is not the only reason for my decision.
So, to the actual story...
Last week, I got a mother's day card in the mail from BM. She's a dollar tree card fanatic. It was a very typical card that she sends me. Nothing handwritten except for "love, grandma and grandpa." This is what she writes in all my cards. (Another tangent...last year my mom passed a month before mother's day and that actual mother's day was her and my dad's anniversary. And I had a super complicated relationship with my momster. So, it was an exceptionally hard day for me. The card she got me said "Daughter" in huge letters on the front. I thought it was so incredibly passive aggressive and completely inappropriate for that year. If it would've been any other year, it would've been fine. Also, she never gets me cards that just say "daughter" so, to me, it was a low blow.) (Yet another tangent...she does passive aggressive crap all the time, for instance when she used to do fb birthday posts, she would always ask me to send her a pic to post. I'm picky about what pics are used and she knows that. Last year, I sent her a great pic of me and her son to use. So, she used one from about 12 years ago that looked like absolute poop. It was a surprise pic, so like not even posed, stupid look on my face. No matter what pic I send, and usually send like 3, she uses a completely different one that doesn't even look good.) I got the card last Tuesday. Hubby happened to be talking to her while driving home from work that day, so when he got home, I thanked her for the card and just wanted to give her a heads up that I hadn't gotten a chance to mail hers yet because of everything I had going on. I kinda broke down and was sharing how I felt and she basically just said, "suck it up, it'll be fine." She's always been dismissive of my feelings, always.
So, my CM is the sweetest lady you'll ever meet. She listens to me, lets me share my feelings without being dismissive, and actually shows she cares. I see her twice weekly at church, and text with her during the week. Since BM has moved 8 moths ago, she has called or texted "just to talk or check in on us" less than a handful of times. She only calls/texts when she needs something or on a special occasion. She called my husband to ask about something, not just to talk. I understand now why the oldest grandson, my nephew, didn't even bother to invite her to his and his girlfriend's baby shower where he proposed. She thinks she's an amazing grandma bc she sends birthday money in a card and posts their pics on Facebook. And, she even stopped posting the kids birthday messages on fb bc she said it was "too much trouble." So, she just sticks to her 30 daily inspirational Bible quotes posts. She's the type that was so pissed off that both of her kids went with courthouse marriages instead of going into debt for a wedding because she didn't get to walk down the aisle at her kids' weddings and post pics on fb. She's mentioned this several times, but definitely wasn't even willing to spend a dime towards a wedding that no one wanted except her. She was also unwilling to take a day off work to go to the courthouse with us. With both of her kids' marriages, the kids and partners were together for a while and had kids before getting married, so spending tons of money on a huge wedding for either of us couples wouldn't have been the best way to spend money.
On mother's day, I gave my CM a card with a few lines written in it about how amazing she is and how I'm so grateful for her. I'm way closer to her than BM. CM is my chosen family and to me, your chosen family is the one that means more because you chose them, you didn't just get stuck with them. My blood family is incredibly toxic, so I stick with my chosen family. CM made a fb post with all that she got for mother's day. It was gifts and cards from her own children, and of course my card as well. CM & BM are fb friends, so of course BM saw it. Also, BM has everyone convinced she's this sweet, little old church lady, but she is far from it.
So, this Tuesday she got her cards in the mail. I always give her one from hubby and myself, and a separate one from our boys. I wrote a nice little note in it. Not long, a line or 2, but it was more effort than she put into my card. She sent me and hubby the following in a group text...
Copy and pasted, only edited out names.
"Got my cards in the mail today. 😭. They were post marked Saturday. You could of kept them til I got there or next year. It's like yall bought them Saturday, wrote a few words and rushed to get them to post office. My heart 💔broken. I thought I deserved better. I wish I could send pictures of my card verses [CM] 😩 card. I couldnt tell which gift was yours. But least I have a year to try do better and be worthy of such wonderful words of love and praise that was written to her.
I don't mean to complain or seem ungrateful but I wished you hadn't mailed them.😭😭. I can't explain how crushed I am.😔 Anyway hopefully I will see yall on the 20th."
Note: my oldest son is graduating on the 20th. She was supposed to drive down and spend the night with us to attend the graduation. I honestly believe she picked this fight because she doesn't want to drive the 6 hours down here.
If you "don't mean to complain or seem ungrateful" then why tf did you send it? I asked my husband what was his initial reaction and he said, "Really?!? All she had to do was say thanks."
So, after I talked to my husband and oldest son (I wanted to make sure everyone was on board with what I was saying before I sent it) , I sent her this response:
"I mailed them on Friday, I bought them several weeks ago. I told you I hadn't mailed them yet because I've been in a deep depression and you dismissed my feelings like always. I have real, valid feelings and you always dismissed them as silly. And come after me because now you're feelings are hurt. Wow, ok. The absolute audacity. And it's not just with your cards that I'm slacking. It's with everything. Because I have depression. I'm overwhelmed on top of that and literally the only thing you care about is a card. I tried to express my feelings the other day on the phone and you dismissed them like you always do. I know things will be fine, but in this moment they are not and you don't get that. Because you don't understand how or why I feel the way I do, then my feelings are silly or invalid to you.
And I never gave [CM] a present. Don't know why you thought that.
Don't worry about coming down on the 20th."
She replies by trying to blackmail me;
"Well my am so sorry I said anything. I never realized you thought that about me. I never dismissed your depression but yes i never knew what to do for you. I am not going to go back and forth about this. I will text [son] and let him know you told me not to come."
She's not sorry to me for being dismissive, she's sorry because now she doesn't get her "Proud MeMe moment" and can't post pictures of her at his graduation on fb. And even if she didn't "know what to do" for me, all she had to do was ask. Or listen. Or give a damn hug. But, no, she just dismissed me bc to her depression isn't real. And she's not going back and forth bc she knows shes wrong! Little did she know that I had already cleared it with hubby and son before sending the text, so I think she thought it would make me look bad to my oldest son that I told her no to come. Oldest son said, "I'm neutral, I don't care if she comes or not. It's not like she's had anything to do with us since she moved, and barely had anything to do with us when she was here."
So, my last text to her said, "He knows. I asked him before I texted you, and he's good with it."
All she had to do was say thanks or not even say anything at all. But, no, she had to say something stupid. Even her own son said that she's lucky she even got a card bc if it was up to him, her actual son, she wouldn't have gotten anything. So, not only is she not invited to the graduation, she's never welcome in my home again. The great part is I don't have to share my holidays with her ever again!!! And please know that I'd never keep her grandchildren from her, but if she wants a relationship with them, she'll have to put some effort in. And we all know boomers hate effort.
If you made it this far, thanks for reading my rant. I appreciate you my friends!

For context I callmy step dad (dad) and i call my actuall dad buche cause i never knew him like a father alight thats it
Well i got alot tbh that i dont even know where to start. Well ig first im already in my 20’s and it all started to go downhill since i was 7 my dad got deported to salvador for hitting my mom and fighting so loud that the cops came cause the neighbors called them. But before that i had told my dad to stop hitting my mom ( me trying to defend my mom the only way i could but i can only remember i was scared for my life ) and he scram at me telling me to stfu cause im not even his kid
In that moment everything went blank i was confused and flabbergasted not knowing what was coming after this
I remember running down the hall to the apartment complex next to us where out aunt lived (this was before the cops got here) we where getting away from him because he told us he had a gun and he was going to kill all of us and them him self cause he wasn’t going to let a slut do whatever she wanter with his kids ( my mom told us years later that in the months before he had started to use cocaine with one of her uncles and he had guns always and thats probably wher he got that bs from)
After he left everything got harder and we would barely see my mom she would work up to 2 jobs in the day and in the night she would work as a bar tender in cantinas witch to say the least its a horrible job But she did wtv to get us ahead Until one day i got courios of who was my real dad and u asked my mom all she told me was that he was really young when they where dating and that he ditched when she was pregnant with me She had never mentioned him before and i had never asked but i was always courious since the day my dad got deported i had messaged him on facebook and we started to text and i asked him to meet up and he agreed
(I went to his house this was when i was around 11 or 12 ) i had went to his house it was a nice big house with 4 rooms a pool and the whole thing while me my mom and my 2 brothers and my 2 uncles and there families where living in a 3 room apartment to say i was jealous is an understatement but i keep my cool especially since i had not even seen him much since he had spent his whole time in his room wich was weird cause he had said over text that he wanted to have a talk bu wtv after all that i was annoyed especially since i had told him i was going to miss a day of work if i went to see him(since it was summer and i would work with my uncle ) but he had told me he would take me to get my hair cut and would give me my days worth of pay and at the end he didn’t even have de audacity to take me to get my hair cut but anyways at the end of the day i never needed him
Well after that my mom got sick we where living with my uncle in a house and since there was problems between his wife and us and then they found out i smoked weed they decided to move and we had till the end of the contract to see what to do i started to work and left school and tbh for a while stuff seemed to go well i was making alot in remodeling for my age and i was going up in the ranks but when job went down and people started being let go i was fucked cause i had no money saved so i lost my job car and was close to losing our apartment but i got job again and kept us aflot tbh there is alot more to this but depends how this go il goninto more details but yhea just glad to chare a lil of what has happend to me

Am I the only person experiencing this?
I am moving out of state and have been posting on Facebook marketplace, Craigslist, OfferUp- and I’ll have people ask me if an item is available and then just completely ghost me. Or they’ll say they will meet up and never show. I honestly feel so disheartened and feel like crying :/ it’s such a stressful process and the thing that sucks is I have such good quality stuff, it would just cost way too much to ship it.
I’m going to try here, if anything interests you let me know and I will work out a good deal for you. It only allows me to post so many pictures so if anything interests you ask me and I will send you pictures of it. Good and genuine Vegas locals please come through.
BRAND NEW TV STAND‼️ Still in box, never got a chance to use: Selling for $250 (picture is what it looks like when put together) 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
Outdoor backyard table set with 4 chairs, just got this for 770, selling it for $550- shoot me a message and I’ll give you a better price or send me your best offer. 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
(PRICE LOWERED‼️)✨Cherry wood desk / top quality wood Bought this for around 2000, selling for just $650 but will give you a better price- or send me your best offer. Willing to work with you 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
(PRICE LOWERED‼️) ✨65 inch Sony Bravia $550 + $75 Klipsch subwoofers and speaker: AVAILABLE ⭐️ and we made it a better deal for all of you so someone can enjoy. Must be bought together as a set to get this deal 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
3 piece wood set, living room Table, side table, table holding TV (can also be used for other things like putting pictures flowers etc) $300 for all 3 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
I have 1 great blender available: High, strong, speedy, quiet, works great. $25 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
BRAND NEW ‼️ still in case, never used : Floating shelf home decoration. This is your sign to beautify your home. You can put pictures on there, plants, vases, anything and it gives it more of a home like feel. Selling for $25 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE 🌺
Crystal home decor: $15 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
Food Processor: works great! $15 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
Portable stove: perfect for having shabu shabu, or hot pot, or bbq at home together at the table to enjoy together. Great to enjoy outdoors for parks & camping as well $15 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE 🌺
1Strong sturdy Iron Board used twice $20 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
Tripod can be used small on the table and extends huge up to 75 inches. Has a holder for camera or phone: $20 🌺 CURRENTLY AVAILABLE 🌺
BRAND NEW: YAHTZEE Board game still in wrapper with price tag on it bought for 20, selling for $10 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE 🌺
Tower fan, just got this for 70 bucks, selling for 50 but I’ll give it to you for a better price. Just shoot me a message with your best offer🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
MARBLE BOARD: $20 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE 🌺
5 pound weights : $6 each both for $10 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
Wi-Fi extenders: 45 each or 75 for both 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
Waffle maker: $10 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
Skewer grill brand new still in box, never used : $20 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
ceramic big vase: bought for 70, selling for 30- send me your best offer we will work something out 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE 🌺
Electric hand mixer: works great and makes baking a breeze!! A must for baking $15 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
Super cute weighted soap holder brand new: $5 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
Couch is from Jubilee LV luxury modern couch purchased at 3,150. Selling it for 1000 shoot me a message and I’ll give you a better price or send me your best offer. We work something out. 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE 🌺
lamp: $15 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
Air fryer, used a few times. $20 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
realistic faux plant decoration $10 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE 🌺
This couch is the comfiest couch. It is stuffed with goose feathers so you just melt into the couch. needs to be lightly cleaned (was quoted $50 for a cleaning but I have no time so just selling the couch for super cheap) but this is the most comfortable couch, best naps on it ever! I just got these covers for 120 (they’re removable super easy no worries) lolll but you can have them for free with this couch. Probably should take it off and let the couch shine $200 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
small dresser: Has a little chip on it but nothing too noticeable $10 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE 🌺
(PRICE LOWERED‼️)✨Round table with Tempered glass with 4 chairs and cherry wood stand- this is a 2000 tempered glass table imported from Italy- selling for $600 but shoot me a message and we can work something out or send me your best offer. 🌺CURRENTLY AVAILABLE🌺
okay hear me out I know Christmas is a little ways away but it sneaks up every year and this year you’re going to be like man when that Asian girl was selling the Christmas stuff I should have gotten it for cheap lol ✨pine cone ribbon lamp battery operated: $5 🌺currently available🌺 ✨nutcracker: $5 🌺currently available🌺 ✨gnomes there’s 2 $5 each 🌺currently available🌺 ✨light up wreath: $5 🌺currently available🌺 ✨Christmas table decor: $5 ✨currently available✨ ✨Christmas towel: $2 🌺currently available🌺 Christmas plate/tray: $5 🌺currently available🌺 Or take all the Christmas stuff for $20 total

Lets see if this post belongs here?
We live in residential area at the neck of a cricle of a sibdivision, cars general speed past even though theres alot of children about during the day. Anyway. Ok our dog who "never" goes out the front of the house. Snuck out with me when I took the garbage out about 9pm (was dark). I thought he went down a cpl houses, you can't really see as there's not a street light down there.
The kids were walking down to get him, calling his name a car turned down the road, as the dog was crossing the kids could see him in her headlights.. well he didn't make it, she didn't slow down at all i was behind them all i heard was what i thought the dog splattering in the road.
Well she was going so fast he bounced off her car, and smashed into the curb.. shattering his tibia and fibia(sp?). Kids screaming several neighbors came over sampson (dog) came running back on 3 leg. He laid down in the garage everyone immediately started looking up er vets.
She didn't stop, but she did come back. Said she wasn't paying attention it was her fault and offered to pay for all his injuries to fix him. Well was 1700 first night I pd. Surgery was quoted at 5100.00 we asked they offered 3000.00 secured the rest so he could have surgery through fundraising and such.
I have soo much going on right now, I work full time, school full time. My son just turned 18 last week we race mx every weekend. My mom's estate just got filed. Like just alot... it just dawned on me I can't go to any of the races as I can't put a crippled dog onto someone else.. like my whole summer is ruined being my son's last yr of racing, this bums me out.
I get mad like why am I begging for money when I didn't do it. Why am I making multiple 2 hr trips to the vet because of her negligence?
I messaged her all that pretty much and asked if she had any ideas maybe her car insurance would pay etc. Idk I'm just overloaded with shit right nowhe is a 100lb dog we had him home for a cpl days waiting for surgery and its not easy getting him in and out and babysitting his splint to not get wet.. baggiesnon his foot etc diapers on inside to not leak. Just alot.
She said we were hoping 3000 was enuff to help amd said take care!
So my quesrion is do i just deal with my stress load and max out my credit cards due to her negligence or run it through small claims?.
Am I at fault for the dog crossing the road? Or her for being on her phone? Cops weren't called, I can go make a report though and I have neighbors that she told she was texting too and would write a statement, they also heard her say she would pay for it all..
I just don't want to bring it to court and end up with a ticket, I mean I don't mind if I get a ticket but its her fault right? In the end...
I dont know what to do.. maybe the stress is getting to me amd I'm just being a baby with the 8-12 weeks of additional responsibilities I don't know anymore!
Thanks for any advice!

Posted a job on facebook for tv wall mounting and wire concealing and got some cheap quote from one of the electrician. He seems to be an experienced DIYer and holds some good reviews on facebook. One of my friend told me that creating a new electrical point through a DIYer can void insurance if it causes short circuit and fire takes place. Is that true? Is it like getting it done through a licensed electrician a paying atleast $200 bucks is the only option? This is in Ontario, Canada if that makes a difference.

Posted a job on facebook for tv wall mounting and wire concealing and got some cheap quote from one of the electrician. He seems to be an experienced DIYer and holds some good reviews on facebook. One of my friend told me that creating a new electrical point through a DIYer can void insurance if it causes short circuit and fire takes place. Is that true? Is it like getting it done through a licensed electrician a paying atleast $200 bucks is the only option?

EDIT Wanted to just add a few edits to clarify some things that have been brought up in the replies because I think it may add some context for everyone calling me the devil and a negative influence on her healing
-I do not hate my SIL. I love her. She is a good person. This post is me getting off 15 years of feelings for the first time. My brother and family as far as I know do not share any of the feelings below. I have not expressed them to anyone but here. This is simply me getting something "OFF MY CHEST" This was my own therapeutic way of wrestling with my feelings. God forbid any of you have had breaking points from festering frustrations.
-My niece is currently receiving help. My brother has put his life on hold to move to a hotel next to the treatment center where he will drop her off and pick her up and be with her every day. He also continues to drive home several hours out of state to be back home to help care for his wife.
-My words below were not well thought out regarding my neice. I do not judge her. Everythign she is going through is very serious and we as a family are doing everything we can to help her. I used the word attention seeking simply to describe her personality. She is a bubbly, loud :), lovely girl. She seeks attention as much as any other kid, maybe a bit more extreme than the average.
-For everyone sharing their stories with EDS/POTS - I truly appreciate your comments and know that I have read what you've said and will take it to heart. I think it will make me a more undersadning person and help me wrestle with this. I am not convinced of ANYTHING below. I simply don't know how much, if anything, she is faking. It's simply how I feel, I don't feel good about it, and I have serious doubts.
-I put "diagnosed" in quotes because it took many years of searching for help before any doctor applied it to her. She self-diagnosed after years of not know what was going on, and then found some sort of specialist who deals with POTS and EDS who confirmed what she believed. Many have said "several doctors confirmed" which I don't believe is true. The skeptic in me, right or wrong, put less weight on this diagnosis because of how difficult it was to get. I undertand this is not a well understood syndrome so that would make sense.
-This is not the only case where she was "diagnosed" with something that did not turn out to be true. She was celiac for about 18 months before they realized that wasn't an issue. Now it's one thing to hypothesize that this could be an issue and try it, but her status as celiac took over her life and they operated as though it were a fact, including completely consuming her facebook activity. Eventually they determined through a genetic test that it wasn't an issue.
LONG ONE but this is 15 years in the making.
So my brother and his wife have been married for about 15 years. Ever since the beginning, I've always felt a little skeptical of her. She's a southern gal that likes to romanticize everything. Think a Facebook junky that loves posting inspiring messages that are totally over the top. "From the depths of my soul, I wish you all to find happiness in your life. I truly do. Never give up! #MiraclesAreReal #HeHasAPlan" Etc. That sort of shit.
She's a sweetheart though and doesn't have a malicious bone in her body, but she's the type of person who wishes she lived in a hallmark movie. And she LOVES attention.
Over the last 15 years, she's had one thing happen to her after another. About 10 years ago she also started "feeling chronic pain" and was more and more reclusive, opting to spend most of the time we visited them in bed. Now she wasn't ignoring us, because we always made it a point to come up and even would spend time in their room watching movies and just talking, but for the most part, she stayed in bed.
Eventually it was determined that she had something called POTS, and then later Ehlers Danlos. These were both pretty much self-diagnosed, and then "confirmed" by doctors. But since then both of these afflictions have completely taken over her life. She started using a wheelchair, her body has deteriorated, she basically has zero leg muscles, with a much larger upper body from eating terribly. She's had highly invasive procedures like spinal fusions, ports, and all sorts of other shit over the years.
Everything is a "miracle cure" on Facebook and she talks about how she's a girl boss. "Guys!! I DID SOMETHING TODAY! I walked down the stairs to get a drink without my caregiver!" is a typical post on Facebook. Of course next week when I ask my brother how she's doing, she's had setbacks and is feeling worse than she was before. It's always one step forward and three steps back.
What gets me is that these posts are OBVIOUSLY pity parties, but of course she would never ask people to cry for her and talk about how terrible things are. No. that's not what the protagonist does in a hallmark movie. They have stiff upper lips, they are courageous! They never complain and live life to the fullest, despite how terrible things are.
So she makes a post with her sitting in her wheelchair or wearing a neck brace, and will say things like "Guys, I just had the best day EVER. I sat up! Normally when I sit up I get lightheaded and pass out, but today, thanks to my 3 Physical therapists, i've been able to sit up! These are the little things people sometimes take for granted, but I just had to share :) #EDScantStopMe! #GurlBoss #NotToday".
So she gets a million likes and comments saying how "Proud they are" of her and how she's an inspiration. We're all supposed to be so thrilled and excited, but all it really is is a reminder that she's basically bedridden and should be pitied and lavished with attention. Thankfully, she hasn't tried to move into influencer status, and I honestly don't feel like she has financial incentives at heart. She simply craves the attention, the pity, and the "status" as being an inspiring role model for other people a and being the main character of her own hallmark movie.
And I fucking can't stand it. I think this is all bullshit. I'm sure she's in pain, but that's what happens when you're body deteriorates from not doing shit for 10 years. She tries to solve all her issues with pills and procedures, but doesn't do fuck all when it comes to actually working hard at rehabilitating her body.
I know EDS is a real thing, but I've also read how commonly it's faked. Certain types can be genetically tested for. Of course hers hasn't.
Throughout all of this shit, my brother has been a fucking saint. He's never complained. Luckily he owns a business that does well enough that nothing has led to financial issues, but it easily could have since nothing is covered by insurance. He's a very active and outgoing guy, so it kills me seeing him spend his entire young adult life basically being her caregiver.
In the past year however, he has reached a breaking point. He had a short-lived affair, realized life was slipping by, and immediately told her about it. She's forgiven him, and basically will say things like "you can win me back. Lets renew vows, get me another ring" (All the bullshit you would see in a movie of course). He knows deep down that he doesn't WANT to win her back, and has essentially been letting the relationship die over the past 9 months. He wants to take care of her financially, but wants out. He needs a life.
Well, this past weekend, she finally sends a text saying that they are done, and the separation is moving forward. Oh and what do you know? She has started making posts on Facebook about how she hasn't used her wheelchair in days! She can now walk a mile in a day when she couldn't walk 20 steps. Where the FUCK was this 4 years ago when you maybe could have rehabilitated and lived an actual life? Where the fuck was this when my brother was wasting away his life, not traveling, not creating memories for his girls, having memories that he had growing up as a kid going on hikes and going to the beach.
On top of all of this, they have two daughters. The older one is 12 and is having all sorts of other issues, including anorexia and self-harm. I love her, but I see this as a response to the bullshit that her mom has put her through her entire life. She has always been an attention seeking kid. She is also very sweet, but unfortunately I believe that all of these cries for help wouldn't be happening if her own mother wasn't the way she is. I know this last part makes me an asshole, and I honestly have no ill will towards the daughter. I think what she is doing to herself is very serious and I don't want to take it lightly. But she is also a very sheltered girl and it's hard not to believe that the mother isn't the root cause.
I'm so happy that my brother is finally going to be rid of this soon. Obviously he plans to take care of her financially in perpetuity, and isn't planning to have any toxic fights over money or custody. He will do what's right. The only thing now is that I'm terrified that one of her stupid "followers' is going to share what happened and he somehow becomes some viral villain that gets crucified by assholes who have no idea what the actual situation is.

UNCLE SOLF'S 22nd (didn't camping die two years ago?) ANNUAL LOA CAMPING TRIP

... do I even need to make this post at this point or can I just say 'SEND ME MONEY'?

Friday July 26th, Saturday July 27th, Sunday July 28th & Monday July 29th.

Where?
Jerry's Three River Campground 2333 NY-97, Barryville, New York 12770 https://jerrysthreeriver.com google maps (845) 557-6078
The Skinny

• Friday July 27th

Everyone shows up and sets up camp. People usually start getting there around noon and trickle in all day. We set up the party area (tent / bar / lights / fire) Make sure you eat and pump the brakes on the lucky juice ... don't be the yearly casualty .... and we drink our faces off and have a blast.

• Saturday July 28th

People stumble out of their tents and do their best to keep their collective shit together. "i feel fine" Around noon people go rafting. (MAYBE ... check the poll posted on the FB event page) Joni @ Reber River Trips will have us picked up and drive us up the river, we raft back to our camp site, just like we are used to. We get back, pull ourselves together, everyone fixes themselves a meal, and we set up for: Uncle Solf's 17th (I think) Annual Poker Tournament $40 dollar buy in Texas Hold Em Blinds double every 20 minutes or so There is no pressure to play poker - 100% optional. Then Saturday Night we drink our faces off again. Rinse and repeat.

• Sunday July 29th

A chill day. Some people pack up and go home that day (fools). The rest of us slow roll the day - we day drink, play board games, talk a mad amount of shit, eat a ton of food, and this goes on into the night... (again)

• Monday July 30th

Go Home. #sadface Seriously. Pack up your shit and get the fuck out. Party is over.
Let's Get Down to Brass Tacks Here - How Much for the Ape?

• Camping is $33 per night / per person
• Rafting is $63 per per person
• Firewood is $10 per person (for the weekend)
  
• I'm not going to charge extra for the other bullshit I bring ... but donations are appreciated (I'm getting to old for this shit)
  
• Poker money will be collected at the camp site before the game - please do not send me poker money, just bring some cash with you.
  

You can camp or raft in any combination you want:
Want to camp friday and saturday night with no rafting for one person? - $76.00
Want to bring 4 people Friday Saturday and Sunday nights and you all go rafting? - $660.00

• You can PAYPAL me the monies (preferred): solf -at- optonline -dot- net
• Or you can mail me a check: PM me for my mailing address

If you paypal me the money - please add 3% to cover any potential paypal fees.
That's it - figure out what you want and do your own math - then double check it you dumbass (i've seen some of you try to count)
Who is camping?
campers and shit talkers will be tracked on the facebook event page.
if you don't get your name posted with a THUMBS UP you ain't paid. you ain't camping. shit talker. you ain't shit.
Get it together son.
what do I bring?
sigh ... if you don't know by now:
The basics:

• a tent
• clothes
• food
• drink
• money
• bedding
• personal hygene essentials
• a camping chair
• shit for swimming
• towels
• plates & utensils

anything else is optional
Last Item - PSA
The cutoff
Friday, July 19th is the hard cutoff date for getting on board. Also - no refunds after that date. I need to get my shit in order that final week, I can't be managing people's inability to commit. That's all I have to say about that.
Did I miss anything?
Quote - "Let's do the damn thing" - LLoyd Johnson

Hello. Im posting in this subreddit as i have yet to find an answer to my questionable situation. I have this friend which i spent most of my hours at school with, and sometimes even after school, (though rarely). We met roughly a year ago and in very unpleasant circumstances, i was going thru alot as a person and as well as the new kid at the school, he was likewise experiencing an unpleasant amount of nudging from our classmates, (Although not in protest for his new arrival in the school, as hed been there for years) even though he is generarly a good and honest kid. Needless to say, during that first span of few months in the new school (a year ago currently) i went up to him and slowly yet steadily we became very close, we hang out at lunch, at our classes we were desk-mates and we'd walk to the bus stop together... As is evident, we became close friends, and currently i can even talk to him about my deepest concerns in life, though hes not much of a comforting guy, i nevertheless found and still find reassurance just by him allowing me to talk about my problems. Our friendship has gone thru a lot of distortions, friend-group breakups, new friends, but i unfortunately believe our friendship is unable of adjusting to the new person of which i am becoming.
I used to be a very troubled kid, id smoke a lot, drink if given the chance, and i was deep in depression. If i had the chance to be intoxicated i would to it uncontrollably which didn't helped the addiction genes passed on from my family. I used to have no interest in school, no future goals, no literature, or the wellness of myself and body. I used to seek external approval, from my classmates as well as from strangers. I've got a feeling i sound pretentious at the moment, but bear with me. I have now become a completely different person, though i admit i still hold some traits as before, for example, i would smoke or drink but not excessivly as i did before, though undoubtibly its not my biggest worry at the moment. I have now started studying, set up some high goals for the future for which i pleasantly prepare for, i have the dream of becoming a special forces operator in my home-country one day and that is possible starting from a military academy. That academy requires plenty of studying and preparations which i find contentment in doing.
It goes without saying, i am not the same person i was, yet i fear our friendship is stuck in the past. He has started calling me stupid or dumb infront of our friendgroup, and one of them has also picked up on the same habit, though less frequently. I hope my friend expresses it in a joking manner rather than a serious intently-offensive manner (as we usually harmlessly joke around. Now in brainrot mostly from my part), though i fear theres more to that.
I, in real life, do not use such vocabulary, and my way of expression doesn't not align with the one i have in this post, for as i like being and feeling an easy going 'momentum' if not needed otherwise, i slouch and i walk in a relaxed manner, i sometimes act aloof as it brings me a sense of calmness and carelessness. Regardless, as i did not acted in an announcement fully regarding my new way of being, i have shared some goals and ambitions, aswell as frequent training progresses with him and some of our friends. Im not sure whether im taken seriously though, only comments are ''nice'' or ''cool'' , unfortunatly their microaggressions have yet to stop, im usually not taken seriously when speaking in an anything other than aloof manner. And those 'stupid', 'slow', 'dumb' responses to my expressions are exaggerated, spoken loudly with a feeling of exasperation, and that is, to things that just happen to be some silly mistakes, as for when i forgot my book, stuttered at a word, or when speaking slow. I just speak in brainrot (skibidi toilet, munting, jelking and etc), not fully, but in quiet environments in order to spark up a laugh, a few managable words.
i have yet to improve my need for others approval though its in a better state than before. Although, i believe that i want of approval from ones imposingly good friends is not instinctively bad, i used to consider these guys good pals, ones ill want to keep in touch in the future, but as for now, im starting to grow a disinterest and disgust in the way they treat me.
I hate to admit that these comments have impacted me to a level -that i do not find appropriate for my self-progression. I fear that i am the quote on quote 'stupid' friend of the group, which i would not find in any way hurtful if it wasn't for the complete disinterest and indifference when i do not express in their 'biased' and stereotyped self of me, commonly resulting in my progress going undermined and/or completely ignored.
What should i do? I have yet to speak to my friend about this, or our other friend, though i fear if they were to shown compassion, it would be an artificial one, a pity disguised as compassion and understanding. I have now stopped informing my friends about my random funny incidents which, long ago, would bring in a good sincere laugh with no hidden haughtiness from their part.
The reason why i am asking this is because i also have another friend which i do not share the same school with but he has known me longer than the others have, and hes really sweet and supportive, i consider our friendship with that guy from a different school to be sincere and healthy. We can joke around and still indulge in deep conversation from both parts... Comparing these two friendships have put me into a thinking spiral, regarding my perceived self and my actual self, a healthy friendship and ones thats taking a toll on me, making me question my abilities... I hate that their words impact me even the slightest, and im starting to feel a strain on our friendship as i can no longer share meaningful subject with them nor random silly instances as i will be taken with an offensive unseriousness regarding what im speaking of...
To add, ive also recently started receiving comments labeling me as a narc or drug user (referring to their slow nature of speaking and thinking) and even sometimes as homeless, which worsens this situation deeply. The reason as to why i speak in a managable slow pace or i randomly stop talking in order to think is to be sure of what to say so they wont have any chances of labeling me as an idiot, though now, it seems inevitable.
This is too long, what should i do?Cut em out? I dont understand why they are treating me this way.. im too deep in and the year school ends soon, i fear this friendship wont hold after the year's end, as well as the new beginnings arrivals.

It’s been about a week since I posted and I wanted to give an update on how things ended up with my now former friend. I agreed to meet with him last night and hear him out. So we went for a drink and he apologized profusely for putting me in this spot and said he would never do that again.
So I took this opportunity to really express how disgusted I was with his behavior and that I couldn’t be friends with someone that intentionally tries to ruin families. I tell him Tom and his wife have 2 children they were happily married and he’s now destroyed their family. I ask if that is something he feels bad about. He says yes but I can tell he’s bullshitting.
I ignore the fact that he’s lying because I want to know how all of this went down. Tom’s wife didn’t want to share alot of detail with him so I promised that I would find out as much as I could. So I ask to see the texts between them. He resists but I threaten to walk out and never talk to him again so he gives me the phone.
He contacted her on Facebook after the party and they talked there for a day or two before switching to text. The conversations turned sexual very quickly and it was clear that Tom’s wife was interested in a quick fling. She says in the texts that she loves her husband but that doesn’t stop her. I’m shocked by this but my friend isn’t. This isn’t the first happily married woman who took up is offer for strings free sex.
Beyond what is in the texts my friend says Tom’s wife just wanted a temporary escape, to be someone she can’t be with her husband and once she got it out of her system she would just go back to normal.
Then he starts telling me what she was like when they were together but I stop him. I say we aren’t teenagers anymore and none of this is funny. I tell him I’m done with this and both you and Tom’s wife disgust me.
I leave and block his number. I know I should have done this years ago but I didn’t. I call Tom after I leave and lie. I say I wasn’t able to get any detail. I can’t tell him that his wife just wanted some wild sex. That isn’t something I would want to know. Tom and his wife are a going to go to counseling. If it were me I’d divorce her. The level of disrespect is off the charts but maybe Tom is a better man than me.
My fiancé is happy that I have finally cut off my now former best friend. But I am sad, I hope he gets help someday before he fucks with the wrong guys wife. Thanks for listening.
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My best friend has a thing for married older women.
Over the years he has had surprising success in this area. It started when he was 18 and slept with a married 30 year old woman with a kid. They were both waiters at a restaurant and after months of flirting she slept with him.
In the 7 years since there have been 12 of them. All married or engaged, with ages ranging from 30 to 52. In the beginning I thought the whole thing was funny but as the years have gone on I have grown disgusted by this behavior.
If we are at a bar and he sees a bachelorette party he is hitting on the bride to be. He coaches his nephews little league team just to meet the moms. He’s had to leave 3 different jobs because he was sleeping with married coworkers and the husbands found out leading to confrontations while he was on the job. The last straw for me was last week. I recently got engaged and my fiancé’s family threw us an engagement party. It wasn’t a surprise so my fiancé and I both invited who we wanted and one of the people I wanted there was one of my former managers at work, let’s call him Tom. I am a CPA at a big firm and Tom was really a mentor to me when I started. He left to work in industry but we kept in touch and are still close. Tom is 40 and just the nicest guy you will ever meet.
So he and his wife (38F) come to our engagement party. I had never met his wife before, she is beautiful by the way. And at one point during the party I see my friend talking to Tom’s wife while Tom took a phone call. I immediately go over and interrupt the conversation and pull my friend aside and tell him to not even think about it. My friend says he wasn’t. Which was bullshit but I thought he took my warning seriously.
I was wrong. A few weeks later Tom calls me and tells me that his wife had been acting strange since the engagement party and he went through her phone and found text messages with another guy. The texts included nudes exchanged on both sides and it was very clear that they had met up for sex. Tom had confronted his wife the night before and of course it was my friend who she’d slept with. Tom was devastated, crying on the phone. He wasn’t even angry he just wanted to know why she did it and was asking me to talk to my friend to get some more details. I called my friend right after I got off the phone with Tom and exploded on him, basically ending our 20 year friendship. It’s been a week and my friend hasn’t stopped apologizing. Other than his despicable behavior with married women he has been a good friend to me. We have been like brothers since kindergarten. It hurts to throw away someone who has been such a big part of your life but I just can’t be party to this anymore. I’m making the right decision, right?
TLDR: My best friend sleeps with married women and I don’t know if I can be friends with him anymore.

tl;dr: I am having a difficult time choosing a dedicated track bike... do I get a ninja 400 and upgrade the brakes, suspension, rearsets, and clipons for a few thousand or do I pick up an Aprilia RS 660 or ZX-6R and keep it stock for now?
This season I want to start riding on track and have begun my search for a bike that I can use as a dedicated track bike. I've completed California Superbike School levels 1-4, and currently ride a Ducati SFV4 on the street. My goal is to improve my skill and confidence on the track.
My original plan was to spend around $5k and get a used ninja 400. In my area, Denver, dealerships are selling used n400 with 3k miles for $7500+, and on Facebook marketplace all of the bikes either have high milage (15k+ and selling for $5,500) or have been beat to shit by squids with a few thousand miles and they are still asking $5k+. A dealership did quote me around $6,500 for a brand new ninja 500.
The used market is absolutely bananas! I then started thinking, if I'm going to spend a few thousand to upgrade the ninja, would I be better off buying something like an Aprilia RS 660, or a ZX-6R? I wouldn't need to make upgrades because their suspension, brakes, etc are good enough.
What advice or recommendations do you have?
More context below: I do not want to buy an already built, dedicated track bike. I would rather buy a stock bike, then upgrade things as I go so that I can learn and feel the difference.
There seems to be two schools of thought on a track bike that I have heard in person and read online:

1. Get a ninja 400 or an R3 because its better to ride a slow bike fast, than a fast bike slow, and it'll improve your skill because you can't rely on power to fix your mistakes. Plus they are cheap and have great support for aftermarket parts.
   
2. Get a 600cc bike or equivalent because n400 is too slow, everyone will pass you and you'll get bored and want to upgrade to a faster bike pretty quickly.
   

I also understand that I'll likely go down and need to repair the bike, so good support for aftermarket parts and a certified mechanic/dealership is important. I know it's more expensive to fix an Aprilia than a Kawasaki.
I have always wanted a Ducati 749 dedicated track bike, since I can find them for $5-6k, but I know this won't be the best bike to learn/improve my skill on. But damn do I want to say fuck it haha This can always be a second or third track bike.

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Stream - Streamus
Show Time: Doors 6:30pm CEST, Grace Cummings ~7:45-8:20pm, King Gizzard ~9-11pm (3pm EDT, 12pm PDT, 8pm BST, 5am AEDT)
Setlist:

1. Am I In Heaven?^a
   
2. Flamethrower^b
   
3. Witchcraft
   
4. Supercell
   
5. Crumbling Castle >
   
6. Fourth Colour^c
   
7. This Thing^d
   
8. Iron Lung^e ->
   
9. Hypertension^f >
   
10. Work This Time^g
    
11. Magma
    
12. Float Along - Fill Your Lungs
    

Show Notes: Grace Cummings was shouted out before Witchcraft. Doom City and Minimum Brian Size were cut due to time.
a. Contained Intro Jam, Flamethrower tease, Cut Throat Boogie tease, Witchcraft tease, jam with Iron Lung quotes
b. Debut, Missing Synth Outro
c. Jam with Iron Lung teases
d. On The Road Again tease, unknown lyrics, La Grange tease
e. Hypertension tease
f. Flamethrower tease, Ice V tease
g. Drum Solo
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Its the age of internet or I should say, IT, the world has changed at a rapid rate in past 15 years, especially post 2010 and then after Jio's free internet gamble, the internet connectivity and dependence has increased. I being, 27, I spent atleast first 10-12 years of my life, without phone, without internet and it seems like a totally different era now.
Now, hardly anyone comes in sreet and play, most kids can use phone at 3-4 years, they can open Youtube, they can play games (though its fault of parents), most kids are socially awkward and are exposed to so muvh irrelevant information from a young age, including porn, nudity , social media - likes and follow concept and social image.
Parents too, are addicted to phone, mothers or fathers, everyone has a social media account, they post pictures, they put status, they change dps ever other day, and kids learn from that. The stability and patience has vained. The longevity in relationships is fast vanishing. Adultery is becoming common, if not physical atleast virtual.
One thing I have observed is that, attitude of parents towards children has changed alot. Like especially in people married after 2017-2018, they are very casual about children and children are being seen as burden. And they are not being raised well. Most often, in India, if mothers are not workinh they primarily look after children but now a days they busy making reels and seeking validation on internet and men are not far behind, they also have their own internet presence (I mean Indian men are infamous for sliding into dms) and children are being seen as irrelevant suddenly or mostly a content (like a puppy) to be put on reels or facebook.
Other thing is, children are learning this behaviour of seeking social validation, this addiction to likes and followers from their parents and they are also being impacted by clothing trends online. Children are being exposed to so much without filter and this is also leading to premature sexualization of them.
For example, an example, my great aunt got a Indian salwar kamiz for one of my nieces as a gift on Diwali and her first reaction (she is 7) was "cheeee, i want skirt, ye nahi dalungi, ye aunties dalti hai"
Like for a kid to have such an opinion and she associating clothes to age, is making them more judgemental and more desperate in the society. Many times kids are walking and dancing and acting like adults. Its like they are so eager to get old. Kids are watching problometic content at 9-11 now a days.
Third is, parents and children are not talking and Indian parents already talk less but in Indian society setup where children are overly dependent on parents its leading to communication gap and fracturing relationships in long run. And though society is same and setup is same but viewpoint has changed leading to more frustration.
Fourth is, Indians are feeding on western content alot which also some how makes them feel like a misfit in Indian subtext and the way they think is American but their reality is Indian, like on reddit, most edgy teens hate on parents and want full freedom, but like their American counterparts they dont do part time jobs and neither will support themselves after 18, so they are learning these things blindly without understanding their own state.
Fifth is, identity politics, children especially teens are getting brainwashed ideologically, they are becoming more intolerant, they all have identity now - caste, religion, gender, nationality, ideology, when I was 13-14, I never cared for these things. .Only got to know about reservation in Class 11 lol. So, these things are making people intolerant.
Sixth is mental health crisis, double lives - one on internet and one in real and no real friends.

So I'm going to be visiting the Green Bank Telescope in West Virginia later this year and the hiking area around it (and the other telescopes on the grounds) do not allow any digital cameras or phones since it interferes with the telescope's readings. Only analog cameras are allowed.
I had gone last year without a camera and really regretted it because there is so much cool stuff in the area I would have loved to try taking photos off. I'm not a photographer in the slightest, but had always liked the idea of giving it a try and thought this might be a decent excuse to buy a camera.
I decided to get a used Nikon N60 + Nikkor 28-80mm f/3.3-5.6G lens together off Facebook Marketplace for $35. I know it's a pretty obsolete camera, but I'm a graduate student on a pretty tight budget. When I was looking through the viewfinder I noticed some dust spots and found out that it was on the camera's sensor. It looked like the repair place closest to me charged $50 for sensor cleanings and I really can't afford that, so I decided to try cleaning the sensor myself. I'm sure you see where this is going.
I bought a little $10 kit online with a little air blower and some dry swabs. And, somehow, the sensor wound up even worse than before. I also think I broke something in the lens connector when taking the lens off because now I'm getting a FEE error as well. (I've tried all the error fixes I can find online - set the aperture to F22, locked the aperture, shifted the aperture around a whole bunch, etc. - but nothing has worked.) And I definitely can't afford however much that fix would cost.
So, at this point, I'm kinda stuck. I honestly don't want to resell the camera - the nearest used camera shop is 40+ mins away and I their online quote thing says they're not buying either the body or the lens right now. And I feel slimy buying something used, breaking it, and then just turning around and selling it to someone else. I also do not have time to deal with trying to ship it anywhere or sell it online since I will be traveling a lot very soon. And, while the lens is fine, I can't afford to buy a new body to go with it.
I'm thinking of donating the camera and lens together to a local charity shop, but I'm worried a broken, obsolete camera wouldn't sell and it would be more trouble for them than it's worth. It also doesn't have a case so I'm worried it would get more broken in the process. Does anyone have any ideas of where a broken camera could do the most good at this point? I at least want something somewhat positive to come out of this absolute disaster I managed to make for myself. (And I'm not interested in selling/trading it with anyone on here, sorry - just looking for donation ideas.)
TL;DR: I have a used Nikon N60 that a managed to totally screw up (botched sensor cleaning + probably broken lens connector) and a Nikkor 28-80mm f/3.3-5.6G lens that I'm thinking about donating to a charity shop. Would that be more trouble for the charity shop than it's worth? Is there somewhere else I could donate the camera where it would do the most good?