Messages to a boyfriend on a 21st card

Edit: DO NOT message me a simple hi or hello, with no information about you, Put some effort in to your message like i have, come on. Day+Attempt#191
Hello everyone, Thank you for taking the time to read, I know its long, I know - I know. But its worth the read, Trust me. I appreciate you immensely.
Here's a bit about me,
My name is Jay, I live on the East coast of the US. I'm looking for love - like everyone else on here.., but you may not believe or even be doubtful that I've never had a GF before with me being 26, but its true. I'm simply just not willing to "be with" just anyone and I'm very picky. I want us to be a match, more than just have similar things in common.
One thing I have always been told is that I'm a "Real Catch, I'd be extremely lucky to have someone like you" - WELL THEN TAKE ME. I'M FREE. LOL.
About me:
Physically -
~I'm a semi-tall guy, around 5'10.
~I'm thin but muscular.
~I have dirty blonde/ brown hair.
~Changing colored eyes.
~A voice nice enough to melt all your safeguards and get right into your heart and weak spots.
~I do not have any tattoos or piercings. Though I would like to get some eventually.
If you'd like to see a picture of me just ask and I'll show you - IF I may see you as well, I simply just don't want a picture of me out there for anyone to see.
-If there's anything else you'd like to know just ask.
Otherwise -
~I do have 3 pet bunnies I would be more than happy to show you, they are extremely cute.
~I'm a very honest and down to earth guy.
~I'm very patient and easy going.
~I'm very curious and inquisitive. I will try to ask everything I can to learn all about you haha.
~I'm Very VERY Kind & Caring, I will probably ask how you are feeling a bajillion times a day, simply out of care for you.
~I can get pretty clingy, and will always want your attention and to be talking with you. If i have someone im interested in i wont want to talk to anyone else🤷‍♂️
~I'm very trustworthy - you can confide in me, and entrust your deepest secrets and I wont tell a soul.
~I'm a HUGE hopeless romantic, im old fashioned and will always try to impress you.
- I'm, a BIG softie even though I may look a smol bit intimidating, but I'd do just about anything to see you smile or laugh. And yes.., I do mean anything.
~I'm a big goof - I will get up to some silly shenanigans ALL the time, I will crack dumb jokes and send you memes and tik toks just to make you happy, even if its from across the room I'd wait to see your reaction lol.
~I'm extremely loyal, and would never even think of cheating.
~I will cook for you, and clean up too, even around the house, I'm very self productive and don't ask for much. Just don't forget to kiss the cook.
~I'd also love to just cuddle up and watch a movie or read a book together, anything to get us closer. Id try to take you out on dates whenever possible haha. I have a million SUPER romantic date ideas I have but have never had anyone interested enough in me to take out. Here's your chance ;)
~I will always want to share stuff I find interesting with you, and try to share every moment of every day with you. I'm not looking for someone who can only talk for a small amount of time, I want someone who's willing to put in all the effort I put into them back into me, it goes both ways. If I'm "with" someone you are my TOP priority nobody and nothing else would be. You would be the only person I'd truly want to talk to, so rest assured I would NEVER cheat, even more so because no one is interested in me - Hence why I'm here hahaha.
I'm sure there is more to me than this snippet but I cant think of more at the moment haha, so get to know me and find out more about me.
Some of my interests are: Engineering- I'm a nerd. I admit it. I love being technical and hands on, I love building things. All kinds of things, from furniture, machinery, and reverse engineering anything I find. I love learning how things work and trying to improve things.
Music - I prefer music with a very fast pace, or with some very meaningful lyrics I can relate to. I love to sing along to music and songs that have a deep meaning behind it I can sympathize with makes it all the better. Some bands I like are: Bad Omens, Beartooth, Demon Hunter, MIW, I9K - The list goes on. I'm a bit of a metalhead unfortunately.
TV Shows & Movies - I love watching shows, and I'd love to stream some shows and have some E-dates with you, to get to know you, or if you are close to me, maybe we could do it in person. Some shows I like or more of the Fantasy/Sci-Fi, Comedy, Action, stuff like: National Treasure, Halo, BattleBots, Rick and Morty, AHS, Anything Marvel or DC, The Witcher, Wednesday, The Sandman, The Magicians, The Umbrella Academy, ETC.
Gaming - Yes yes I know, Basic guy likes basic stuff. But gaming has been a thing for me since forever. I know most of you wont care or want to hear that, but I'll leave out the specifics on this part unless you are interested in that, MEGA Bonus points if you are.
Here's a lists of Cons to dating me-
~I'm not Ryan Reynolds. Disappointing, I know.
~I will fight you on what goes on pizza lol.
~I'm not rich.., Yet.
~I can't pronounce Worcestershire.
~I'm slightly forgetful, but with good reasoning.
~(Not really a con but- some might disagree) I still have ALL of my firsts, Do with that what you will c:
~I've got an endless pile of love and affection and no one to give it to! What a dilemma! Help me fix it?
Other than that I'll save the rest for a bit more of getting to know each other.
Here's a bit of what I'm looking in you:
~Preferably someone with lots of free time, and loves to chit chat. I'm seriously not interested in getting 1 message a day. Though I understand people get busy, I personally am not willing to try to learn about you and form something with 7 responses a week. Effort gets reciprocated and I appreciate the time you put in me.
~Physically: -I’m not personally attracted to anyone who’s “curvy/ chubby”, I apologize. Not a shallow thing, I just dont have the attraction chemical in my brain for that, I’m sorry. -If you’re shorter than me, thats a plus to me. -I love dimples, if you have those when you smile, bonus points 😊 - I’m not sure what else to put.., but as for nsfw wise find out😂
~I'm a sucker for a different accent other than American, and if you have an Posh English accent you have already won my heart.
~I'm also only really looking for someone within the ages of 18-35. I don't want anyone old enough to be my mom lol.
~I'd prefer (But not a must) people NOT on the other side of the world, as other time zones SUCK. I don't expect to find anyone who also has never had a boyfriend either, but that would be a real plus. I also don't mind a LDR, but I don't want that forever. But it gives us time to get to know each other.
But as for attributes I'm looking for in you:
~Someone who is above all else very very Loyal and would never cheat.
~Someone who is Honest, and will tell me the truth over a little white lie.
~Someone who is Kind & Caring, who'd constantly check on me, and accept me for who I am & help me improve day to day.
~Someone who is trustworthy, and I can count on to keep my secrets safe, or even just help me remember things.., I do tend to be somewhat forgetful.
~Someone who is very Patient and wants to see me succeed and will help me do so, just like I would help you. Even if its small day to day things, I would appreciate your company ANY time.
~I want a partner who is Affectionate, can reciprocate, and loves to snuggle and talk about their day, and what their interests are, and what makes them happy.
~Someone who can admit they get clingy or overprotective is a bonus.
~A partner with good communication is key, if something wrong we have to be able to talk about it.
~A partner who likes to game with me or at least watch me play would be a plus but not a requirement.
~Someone with a good sense of humor and like to joke around, I am a big goof after all and I love to joke around. Sending memes is always appreciated and good to cheer people up too!
~I'd prefer someone with the same music taste, but not a requirement, Plus if you wouldn't mind if I send you love songs occasionally that's a bonus, or sending me some back haha.
~Being willing to voice call is a must, Texting forever is not the way to go. I have to know what your voice is like haha, later on we can video call if you are comfortable with that. I prefer chatting on Discord because Reddit messages of any kind I'm sure you know are unreliable and sucky in general. So please send me your discord if you have one :)
~I would LOVE to see picture of your pets if you have any. Bonus points if it includes your beautiful self haha.
I'm sure there is more I'm looking for but I cant think of it right now haha, I will have to edit this when I think of it.
Please tell me about you as an opener! I told you a good bit about me, now its your turn haha.
Tell me some things like -
~What's your name?
~Where are you from?
~How old are you?
~What are your hobbies / interests?
~What about my post interested you?
~Where is my TV Remote?!
~Selfie? Pet pics?
~Hit me with your best joke or meme :)
~What's your favorite candy?
I'd LOVE to get to know you, and see where things go.
But yeah, I know it was long I'm sorry haha. Send me a message and lets get to know each other! :)

[19F] Navigating a relationship since I was just 14 and he was 18, meeting online, and then finally getting to hang out in person was like a dream come true. We shared everything, from silly inside jokes to deeper fears and anxieties. But my constant battle with anxiety and panic attacks was always lurking in the background, casting a shadow over our otherwise happy moments
When a stressful family event hit, I felt like I was drowning. I couldn't handle the pressure, and I resorted to self-harm. It was a dark and scary time, but I knew I had to reach out for help. Confiding in my mom was the first step, and before I knew it, I found myself in a mental hospital, with my boyfriend by my side, holding my hand and telling me how proud he was of me for being brave enough to seek help
But the road to recovery wasn't smooth sailing. The medication they gave me at the hospital made things worse before they got better. My panic attacks became even more intense, and I felt like I was losing control. I turned to my boyfriend for support, pouring my heart out to him about how tired I was of fighting and how I just wanted the pain to end. And then, out of nowhere, he dropped the bombshell..he was breaking up with me... (also before my birthday)
I felt like the ground had been pulled out from under me. The one person I thought would always be there for me had turned his back on me when I needed him the most. And to make matters worse, his mom, who had always been so sweet to me, suddenly cut me off completely. It felt like I was losing everyone I cared about, and it sent my panic attacks into overdrive
In the midst of all this chaos, I turned to therapy and medication for some semblance of stability. And slowly, ever so slowly, things started to improve. But despite the progress I was making, I couldn't shake the feeling of longing for my ex-boyfriend. I wanted to show him that I had changed, that I was getting better, but every attempt I made to reach out to him was met with silence or rejection. Started telling me how he doesn't think about me anymore and even if we would get back together he might loose one of his best friend ... And he also called me a narcissist.. :(
I'm trying to push forward but it's getting harder and harder... I'm sorry for doing the stuff I've done and I'm sorry for being like this ... I'm really trying to get better ... I still love him A LOT and I'm sorry for being impulse and trying to send him messages now even though he doesn't wanna hear from me anymore...I miss him .... I haven't ate in 4 days and I find myself going to sleep with anxiety and waking up with anxiety.
Please tell me what can I do now...??

My mother had been ill for my entire life. Lots of chronic illness and things they couldn't quite pin down to an exact cause, but were nonetheless there. She had cancer twice in my life, and that was the easy stuff compared to this. My parents didn't get along and were separated. When I was around 10~ she made a deal with my dad. She would get back with him on the condition he helped raise my sister and I.
Well, to say the least, he was still a pretty shitty person. I don't think he has a bad heart, but he certainly is not upto the task of taking care of other human beings. Taking care of my mother essentially got sicced off to my sister and I. She would have grand-mal seizures, blood pool in her legs and come out off blisters that would develop all black, have these weird age regression episodes and all sorts of other medical disasters. She was extremely narcoleptic between when I was about 10 and 16 (this is when she had the regression things too). She also had a rare condition called Addison's which means she couldn't really control her emotional responses and didn't produce the proper hormones. So when my dad would be a dick it'd put her into shock and she'd start turning blue. When this happened you'd have to give her a solu-cortef emergency injection to bring her back into a state of not dying from shock.
My dad was of course clueless and left this all up to my sister and I when we were adolescents, pre-teens and teenagers. I had severe social anxiety my entire life and stunted social development. My mom advocated to put me into home-school after 7th grade since she thought I might do something drastic. I was in home school until we moved to be with my dad as well because of it. She was always my strongest advocate and understood me like no one else on the planet did.
Anyways, to continue her little story. I got sent off to a specialty clinic thousands of miles away with her. Just her and I no one else when I was 14. I lived in a hotel for about a year and then in an apartment near the clinic after that for another year with her. Taking care of her when she could barely move. There was a good half dozen times she was on the brink of death and we barely scrapped by. There was times her heart literally stopped or she completely ceased breathing only to be resuscitated. She would forget who I was for days at a time and regress to being a teenager. She would think I was her brother who molested her when she was little and get moderately violent or irritable towards me (understandably, from her perspective. I do not hold it against her at all). In her times of lucidity she begged me to return to my home with my father. She forced me since she thought she'd really hurt me and my bestfriends father (not even my own father) drove all the way down and picked me up. He drove me thousands of miles all the way back. My dad sent my sister out to take care of her instead for the last year (of 3 she spent down there).
Well, eventually she and my sister came back. I started working at 16 pretty much right after I got home because university was certainly not in the cards economically anymore. When they returned my mom was functional enough to live somewhat normally. She was permanently immune-compromised and prone to fatigue so she was really in no state to work or anything of that sort, but my dad essentially forced her to start working after a few years. He refused to help fix her car (which had just been sitting in the garage rotting away while she had been sick all this time) and would get rough with my sister and I. This would upset my mom so much every-time that she would need her emergency injection or go into seizures. Sometimes he would pin her down or push her down and I would have to fight him off of her and this would make him more and more upset.
My sister left and ex-communicated him. So it was just my mom and I. She secretly stashed away some of her money and came up with a little plot to escape from my dad. Hired a traveling mechanic to fix her car, got extra money from her brother who she barely talked to in years because of history from their childhood. It was a whole situation. She was working in home care for elderly people and turns out one of my dad's childhood friends was on disability. So she took him in so she could take care of him in the comfort of our own home. Less stress, easier, etc.... My dad was naturally pissed for reasons only god knows for her being able to fix her car.
Anyways she finally had enough money. Her and chuck hatched an idea that she takes care of him, she gets paid, and I help with the rest of the apartment cost. I chose last second to stay with my dad. The rationale was I've seen my father have suicidal episodes and knew he was deeply troubled and not fit for the world. He is very old fashioned, only worked for his family, retired at 44 (and then went destitute because the medical debt). I mean this dude can not use a phone to save his life.... He has never written a resume because he never had to. He alienates everyone he has ever known because his ego does not match his status because of our families legacy. He thinks he is some brilliant person that knows all and is infallible no matter what. If you even challenge him he gets violently upset and angry. BUT I still was worried about him. So I stayed with him because I knew he'd be screwed alone.
My mother is much smarter than him.... So I thought she'd be okay with the situation. She was still Ill but I think I was blind to it. Having experienced it my entire life..... So I didn't go with her. Because of her fragile constitution even before she left she had a hip that had broken (and fused back together, without her even knowing), several broken ribs that had done the same, broken knee and a collapsed lung. She also got / had constant shingles because her immune system just couldn't stop it.
Anywho. My mom had been having a rough time after 5 or so months... Seemed the guy she was taking care of was running her super ragged and she was getting super worn down. Due to my stunted development I couldn't drive and my dad was no help there either. He just cash cowed me for my work money like he did to my mother. I was trying to save for a car and driving classes (I'm 24) so I could get a car and visit my mom and help her.
I finally had the resolve... enough of my dad... to admit to her that I should have gone with her. We decided I'd get a car and we would move in together just her and I. Go someplace far away and the rest would be history. She was going to be fine. I was going to be fine. I missed her dearly. When she was gone for 10 months I only saw her face twice when she dropped by. She would hug me and tell me how much she loved and misses me. She absolutely didn't want to see my dads face so I couldn't get him to bring me to where she lived. She didn't want him to know where she was in general.
She was dead less than 48 hours after we had that phone call. She overdosed on her pain medication she had taken for 20+ years while in the ICU (she was in the ICU a lot). The last person she talked to was my grandmother saying she felt like she couldn't breathe and is suffocating. I think it was an accident but I'll never know.
I know the guy she was taking care of was abusing her and that is when I decided that we should move in together. About a week before she died he shit on her carpet and would drag a bunch of homeless people into their apartment and do drugs while she was in the hospital. She kept putting him into rehab and he kept just leaving and coming back. It turns out he fakes a lot of his disability so the government helps him and so he can push people around and is just a drug addict asshole. Last conversation I ever had with her was like 36 hours before she died she asked to borrow money for her phone bill. I of course gave it to her.
After she died and we got the news, by the time we got to her apartment for her belongings everything was taken. Her safe was broken into. The entire place was desecrated and destroyed and looted. Her phone, cards, wallet, purse, car... everything gone. Luckily they left most of the sentimental stuff. There was only 2 people that could have robbed her and the police just kinda don't care.
My dad has been heartless about the whole thing. He doesn't seem to care that much and has been pushing me around harder than ever. Asking me for super large rent payments to live in his house when I told him I need to get a car. It's like he wants me to be imprisoned to him like he imprisoned my mother. Since if I leave he will be absolutely alone. I pay for anything he asks me to already. Thousands of dollars. I didn't mind helping.
I hurt so much inside, since if I went with my mom... chances are she would still be alive right now. She wouldn't have to stress herself nearly as bad ending up in the ICU... getting out and going back to work and repeating. She was always so sick her ending up in the ICU didn't even set off my mental alarms. I would have never known she was so close to death.
She was truly the closest person to me in the entire world. Not a single person was ever more important to me. She made me who I am. She was the only person I saw as not only my parent but an emotional confident. She advocated for me my entire life. She understood me. She in spite of all her own trouble was my rock and my comfort. I loved her with all my heart and I grieve her loss with that and more.
I fear for all the times only her and I shared. Only I have those memories now. I worry about the slow sands of time warping my memories and thoughts. I can never ask her "is that how you remember that". I can never ask her what she thinks of something or for her wisdom. So much of my life just with her it's like it never existed since it only exists within me now. I can never be assured the voice in my head matches her voice in life. I can never be sure she didn't die in loneliness because I didn't make a good enough effort to visit her by my own means.
She was only 48. The idea I'll have lived exactly half my life without her when I reach her age is scary to me. Even more frightening yet is the idea that once I'm old I'll have lived only a fraction of my life with her. She will fade in my memory into the distant past; a nostalgia. I fear becoming someone she wouldn't recognize. I fear every day I have to continue to live without her. When I see the blue skies I think about how it's a blue sky she will never have seen. When I see a TV show I think she would have liked it hurts me to think that I'll never know for sure. It devastates me all the questions I didn't ask her that I'll never know the answer to. What flowers did you enjoy mom?
I wish I would have been less frugal and done more for holidays and her birthday. I so desperately wish for even one hour to talk to her about all this in a final parting.
And what makes me feel just a little better? She had mostly online friends. A self proclaimed recluse. She was very much like me and shy herself. Introverted and just interested in what she was interested in without a care in the world. A lot of her friends have messaged me and other people from throughout our lives telling me how much I resemble her. Not only her physical likeness but in personality. She of course would say this to me herself when she was alive. It comforts me in a weird way to know that I'm so much like her, that I am truly in every way her son, that if I like or dislike something I can say with some confidence she probably feels the same. In a way I feel like I can really experience the things she wanted to do for her. This is the only thing that drives me forward right now. I had been incredibly suicidal until I made this realization.
It also comforts me to know how much people cared for her even when she was in her own world away from the world. When people tell me I have her kind heart and gentle soul I realize that those are qualities they saw in her and respected. And I feel great pride that people would see her in me because I loved her so dearly.
Finding meaning without the person you cared for more than anything is truly a Sisyphean task.
Love you forever and ever mom, I'll never forget you. I'll forever be your little pessimist!

I have been sent money on my Revolut account from a MasterCard and then received a message with an additional transfer of 1€ to send the money back to his Revolut account as they were sent them by mistake.
I never shared my Revolut details with anyone so not sure how they were sent in the first place but anyhow I contacted Revolut and they said they might have been sent genuinely by mistake and I can proceed to transfer the money back.
However, I know that these transactions are sometimes used for money laundering activities and I’d rather not get involved in these and wait for them to reverse the transaction instead.
How should I proceed? Did anyone else experience this?

Hello Reddit, I never thought I’d be making this post, but things have reached a boiling point and I really need advice. My step-father (49M) has been in my (18F) life ever since I was a kid. He’s done everything for me, advocated for me, got me out of the projects into suburban schools, cared for me, gotten everything I could I ever want. But ever since I was a teenager he was acting different—I know dads do this, become more overbearing, helicopter-like.
I am the eldest and designated “problem child” for the following: I struggled so much in a math class to the point of failing and lied to my parents. This set off the course of events for years. I feel so much regret and shame at my cowardice—and I’ve apologized numerous times.
Not to mention, I had a boyfriend in middle school—for two weeks and came out as gay. And I was displaying sexual behavior, like talking about crushes with my girlfriends and saying the “type” of men I like.
So for all of you, it might explain his behavior. I haven’t been perfect. I’ve been callous, hot headed, anxious, and displayed very little emotional control at many points.
He stalked my every move, monitored every message I ever sent friends. I know he’s had bugs installed in my phone, paid people to stalk me, had a report on every keystroke I made. If there were any boys, they were to be vetted as well—if they were gay I was berated and forbidden to speak to them for years. I once sent a racy meme about “cock and ball torture” when I was 12, and I got caught at 14. They banned me from speaking to all my friends. This was in 2020, and I was left virtually friendless and alone.
I was never allowed to speak against this as a child. I was a very depressed and anxious teenager and I attempted twice. I never told my father this however, because any mention of depression or suicidal thoughts makes him angry to the point of violence. He saw “evidence” as I’m calling it once and he took knives and tried to cut me—yelling that he will take my life if I wanted to. This and many other reasons is why I am not that close with him to this day.
Today, he came into my room kissing me on my neck. Like one would do with a baby, that’s not what I had a problem with. I had thought he mumbled in a baby voice “This will turn you on won’t it?” While making vroom vroom car noises. I freaked out because I won’t let THAT fly even if we are playing. My father is not a pedophile, he’s very vulgar and touchy with me especially now as an adult. This was along the lines of something he would say. I shot up shaking my head and stormed away mumbling “I am not having this or doing this.”
My father got very angry, and told me to come here and tell him why, “It made me uncomfortable, and I did not like it.”
This set him off. He started yelling and screaming, pushing against floors, tables, throwing pots and pans, remotes, water bottles anything at me. When I froze and didn’t react, he just kept going. He was slapping me, punching me, hitting me with objects. This beat down lasted for two hours, but the screaming and threats didn’t stop until 7 AM. He threatened to kill me multiple times, kick me out, beat me in front of my family, also to keep me home and do online.
He revealed that he’d been stalking me for 8 months. Recording my every move. Every thing I’ve said in my dorm. In class. Outside my dorm. He showed receipts of him paying people to stalk me. Showed how he bugged my phone.
For added context, I recently got a boyfriend (19M) and he apparently forbade me from them. Though I say he forbade me from sex. Now, he says my mind is tainted from all the sex I’ve been having (For the record, I’ve been intimate with him, but I am still a virgin. Which my father does not believe because of the ‘look in my eye’). I’ve kept him up to date with everything including private intimate details about my life. I mean really intimate. The only things I hadn’t told him were the frequency and when. He demanded to know that night—to see if I am willing to lie.
That meant he’d been recording our intimate encounters, IN FULL! To see if I’d lie! At this point, I’m like WTF?!?!?? We had a long talk about every detail, in which I was shamed, spat at, and treated with vitriol. He said I was bringing shame to the family, himself, and to myself as a woman.
I’m an Honor Student, 3.9 GPA, already accepted into grad school and TWO leadership positions? But I’m shameful? But he doesn’t care about that, I’m not pure and innocent in the way that matters—and I feel so sorry and embarrassed.
My shock and anger dissipated into this overwhelming feeling of shame. Guilt.
I understand no person wants to be called a pedophile, but I wasn’t insinuating that. I said that an action he did made me uncomfortable. He’d provided for me, cared for me when my biological father wouldn’t, have me the best chance in life. And I am squandering it. He points out times when I painted him in a bad light to my friends as a kid, or a few years ago when I was joking and exaggerating with this boy that I didn’t have a bed to sleep on and my dad was making me walk in the hot sun with no water. Most of that was untrue, he was getting a bed and I could go back inside for water. I know he was very hurt by that. I never mean to hurt him.
I agree it was rude and disrespectful of me to storm off and not look him in the eye.
But, I can’t help but think his actions were disproportionate to mine. But I can’t lose my dad.
I know he’s somewhat in the wrong, but to what extent, and how can I fix this?

Today is our third anniversary, my plan was just to wake up and have a candle lit dinner on video chat with her, after that we would watch a movie and read our first messages to each other and talk about our first conversations, after that I would just read her a book to sleep. This was my plan, I just wanted to spend time with her. I had planned a picnic beforehand in a different city she wanted to go, I would do a video tour with her there so that one day we could do it in person together, she told me she didn't want that and that we should just stay home and cuddle. The last year's I wrote her songs for her birthday and sent letters or packages for our anniversary, this year I thought she just wanted to relax. Yesterday she sent me some pizza and chocolates and I was so happy, I decided that instead of cooking something we could just eat pizza again for our candlelit dinner. We have a 7 hour time difference so we try to always be on the phone, yesterday I was busy organizing some things and I gave her a happy anniversary 15 minutes late (because of the timezone difference sometimes it's hard to tell the time), after that we just watched a show and she fell asleep, I woke her up when it was midnight here to wish her a happy anniversary, when I went to bed we were still on call. Today I woke up 2 hours earlier than usual to call her and i could tell as soon as i grabbed my phone that she was/is mad, I called and texted for almost 2 hours without her answering, when she finally did she told me she was mad because she spent our anniversary alone (while I was asleep for 7 hours and we were on call for 2 of them), I tried to explain things but it just led to arguing about how I hadn't planned anything for today and didn't do anything special, she previously told me she just wanted to spend a quiet day at home and that she would probably even be working most of the day. I know I could have planned something different like us video chatting and sketching each other but I thought she just wanted to spend time together. After the pizza date yesterday I decided we should eat pizza again for the candlelit dinner to make it more special, this just got her even angrier, because most of the food apps don't work properly I had ordered her some cookies and other things last week but they arrived before our anniversary, I thought it didn't matter because she knew why I sent them. I didn't want to write a note or a card this year, I just wanted to sing her the old songs I had already written for other events, I just wanted to spend the day with her but instead we ended up fighting. I love her more than anything, always have always will, sometimes I think I'm just not enough, I thought I was doing what she wanted, I thought she would be happy today. I don't know what to do, even if I try to plan something or do something now she will just get even angrier saying I just did these things because she got mad at me, I'm doomed if I do something and doomed if I don't. Sorry for the rant, I just needed to vent.

My friend and I have been playing System Gateway for the past few months. Yesterday I played three games as Jinteki (Restoring Humanity) vs Zahya. And I found that the shell game just wasn't working. So, I'm looking for tips on deckbuilding within System Gateway and piloting versus Zahya.
My deck was very similar to this one, except instead of 3 Palisades, I had 3 Neural Spikes, and instead of the one Ansel, I had all three Anoetic Voids.
My Playstyle
I tried a few different variations, but the best one seemed to be when I iced up all three centrals and let the remotes be un-iced.
I used Spin Doctor and Regolith as shells to get the runner to waste clicks and credits, only activating Spin Doctor when it was accessed. I held on to Neural Spikes in my hand, hoping I could get a win condition with it (but never even came close).
The deck was 18/44, with highly concentrated agenda points. The only successful part of the shell game was when I scored an unprotected longevity serum. After that I managed to advance one Clearinghouse once and one Send a Message once, but by then I was already running into the problem described below.
The Problem
The runner had figured out that it was always good to check remotes. He would click to draw 2 with Verbal Plasticity and then check everything. At most, he lost four cards to two Urtica Ciphers and a couple of clicks to Spin Doctors, but that was a tiny cost compared to all the Clearinghouses he trashed and multiple agendas he gained.
This was worsened by the fact that Zahya heavily rewards running. Even after getting burned by an Urtica Cipher, it'd still put money on Pennyshaver, or allow him to activate Mutual Favour into discounted Carmen.
With Zahya, Pennyshaver, Red Team, Sure Gamble, and a couple of splashed creative commissions, he was never short on money. With Verbal Plasticity, he was never short on cards. He got a buzzsaw out on round 3, I think, and carmen a little after that, and at that point, he was controlling the tempo. With Mayfly and Tranquilizer, there wasn't ever any ice he didn't have an answer to.
My Questions

1. How much and when should I ice remotes in a shell game, and with what?
2. What is the best way to score agendas in a shell game?
3. Does a shell game favour high density agendas (Send a Message) or low density agendas (superconducting hub)?
4. What is the best way to use Anoetic Void in a shell game?
5. What (if any) is the best way to use Neural Spikes in a shell game?
6. Any other tips and tricks on playing the shell game better?
7. Technical question: When a runner approaches an unprotected, unrezzed Spin Doctor, are there enough Paid Ability windows to both rez and use its "remove from game" ability before the runner gets a chance to trash it?

This time every year I always think about this one case that happened in North Las Vegas.
It still gives me chills thinking about it because about less than a week prior to the incident, I had struck up conversation with this girl randomly in line at the store (which is something I never do). I don't remember what it was that initiated the conversation, but she was nice and had mentioned that she was pregnant and living with her bf. We had quickly shared a moment of talking about our boyfriends (not even acknowledging at the time how toxic & abusive both our relationships were) & similar experiences. Her name was Stefany...at one point she had dropped her money & cards and I remember seeing her last name on her drivers license- Sommers.
Then news coverage on every station was showing a residence in N Las Vegas involved in a long standoff with the police. I didn't pay much attention but...later found out that poor girl ended up being murdered by her bf. Only thing is now it's such an old case that I can't find anything anywhere where she herself is referenced...let alone that she was pregnant?
How does one go about getting more info? I feel so bad for her...After everything he's the one that the internet remembers
Any have there own connection to a crime that was committed?
https://lasvegassun.com/news/2011/oct/12/judge-resets-death-penalty-trial-man-accused-killi/
https://www.reviewjournal.com/news/coroner-ids-woman-found-dead-after-standoff-in-valley/

Help!
My partners’ debit card got hacked (Lloyds). We are in the UK. Same week, one of my friends’ debit card got hacked as well (nationwide). This is not a coincidence. It must be a service/app/website that we both frequent. This is a 10 month old debit card.
We received the following message:
Date: 14/05 Amount: 0.00 GBP Merchant: Pontoon Specialists
This just puts me off the whole online payments process and we can’t trust any of the websites/apps anymore. My partner has only used mobile apps and mobile websites (on iOS) for transactions. And they were all well known retailers. I can’t say which one got hacked, but I don’t see any news online about recent card hacks.
I’ve asked our bank to cancel the card and reissue another one, and it’s going to be a massive hassle. I feel violated because our details are out there.
I am worried how the hackers could get their hands on the card details (these were well known merchants, like boots, asda, Amazon etc) and no one has come forward to claim responsibility.
What can we do to ensure this doesn’t happen again ?

About a year ago I broke up with my ex boyfriend but I never told him the exact reason why and I have felt the urge to get this off my chest in the form of a letter to him. We are no contact now, and it would be rude of me to message him out of the blue with this. He is probably still not over the break up and just wants me out of his life. I respect that. But I really needed to write this down somewhere. So here it goes:
I didnt break up with you because I wanted to meet new people. I broke up with you because you're a coward. You dont want to experience anything because youre too fucking scared of the world. We were together for 6 years and you never cared to do anything together that involved going out of the house. We never went on a proper vacation in 6 YEARS. You take no risks because youre too scared to make mistakes. You have no friends, no hobbies, nothing. All you do is play video games and complain that you're miserable because of your depression and adhd. But youre too scared to actually go out and live your life to improve anything about your situation. Always playing it save, never taking any chances or risks, everything has to be meticulously calculated and planed at least 2 weeks in advance. Near the end of the relationship you did improve a bit, and we actually managed to spontaneously go to the cinema once. I was so happy but at the same time I realized I was living off of crumbs and still starving. I couldnt live like that anymore. It made me miserable and it took all the joy out of my life. Sometimes you just have to jump head first into the cold water and see what happens. But you're a coward. I know you have social anxiety, but that doesnt excuse it because you were never willing to do something about it. I told you many times that I need you to be more active and that I want to do things together. Its not like I didnt try or wasnt patient enough with you. Rather the opposite. I stayed too long in an unfullfilling relationship because your fear of everything rubed off on me. Everytime we would go outside together I could feel your entire aura shift. I became scared to be myself because god forbid I embarass you. You would push me around in the grocery store because you felt like I was inconveniencing others with my presence. And all I was doing was putting tomatoes in the basket and someone behind me was waiting for their turn. God forbid I laugh out loud or be spontaneous. You almost treated me like a stranger when we were outside, not showing any affection, not even holding my hand. I cant even begin to describe to you how much that hurt me. I also never took you with me when I was invited to parties, because you're just not fun the be around, and it would make me not have a good time knowing that you're uncomfortable and just want to go home anyway. Maybe it was unfair of me to expect so much of you. Maybe thats just who you are and we're too incompatible. I saw the fun and outgoing person you can potentially be and clinged onto that, hoping you would change, but you never did.
We've been broken up for a year now. And even though I have my struggles I am so much happier. Because Im actually living my life. I'm meeting so many people and am learning so much about myself. Im making mistakes, sometimes I'm reckless, and I dont always say the right thing but Im learning so much because Im actually living my life, experiencing the bad and the good. I feel alive for the first time in 6 years. Too long I waited for you to change. And when I decided to stop waiting and do what I have felt in my heart was the right thing to do for a very long time, I finally started living the live I had always dreamed of having. I dont have a lot of money, I have my fair share of mental issues, and sometimes life is unfair to me. But I am out here actually living it instead of hiding away being afraid of anything bad that might happen.
I dont know what you are up to these days, but the last time I saw you a few months ago you didnt seem to have changed much. I wish I told you all of this when I broke up with you, maybe it would have helped you, but I couldnt do it at the time. Now I don't really care anymore. I wish you all the best though.
If I have learned anything from this relationship, it's to NEVER date someone's potential. If you are dating someone, ask yourself "would I want to marry this person just like they are right now, knowing they will not change, and spend the rest of my life with them?" and if the answer is no you know you are not dating them, only the person they could potentially be. Don't do it.

TW--- Hello everyone. Before I begin - I saw all the red flags, but was wearing rose colored glasses and tried to convince myself being with him, marrying him, and leaving the US to be with him in the UK was good.
He was mostly only ever emotionally & verbally abusive. He had some anger outbursts resulting in throwing things at me, he also grabbed me 3 times in 4 years. The last time we fought and he grabbed me was last November -- neighbors called the police and he was taken into custody just for grabbing my face. My stupid ass didnt give a statement. The police were very kind to me though and kept me in the loop. He was kept from 11am till 7pm. His parents were angry at him but I asked them to get him and bring him back. I, of course, was terrified.
Now 7 months later, now the emotional manipulation is him threatening to k*Il himself if I leave him. I tried to split up a few times and each time that has happened. He even had it planned. Now I feel somehow even more stuck. I have no money, only work part time because he would prefer I not work too much to spend time with him. I'm on his bank account & have a card for it, but I don't use it out of obvious fear. I reached out to one UK dv place but they said they couldn't help me if I still lived with him. I did send a message to the US embassy to ask if they do anything, as I want to go back home and get as far from him as I can. We have no children, but have a cat I love and unfortunately will have to leave behind.. If I leave, I have to leave to the us at once (spouse visa)
No, I don't have friends & relatives that are able to help beyond emotional support.
I know it's a longshot but has anyone else had to escape their partner from one country to another??? How did you do it???

My boyfriend is Western , I'm Asian. He moved to my country and lived with me for 3-4 months. I paid for a gym membership that allowed me to bring 2 more people to there with me. But the rule is that I am always the one who has to check in the code before entering the gym, which means that 2 people cannot use my membership card to go to the gym by themselves. And I used it to go to the gym with my boyfriend every day. But this week I had to visit my hometown for about a week, so I had to contact the person who sold me my membership card to ask him to allow my boyfriend to check in at the gym by himself.
And for every day, we wake up, we text each other good morning, ask basic things like what “how was your sleep”, “what u are doing, “ have you eaten anything” , and he always updates me like “ i will book a car to go gym now” “ im on the way gym now”... so same that time, I can text the staff to wait there for him and support my boyfriend.
Until today, after waking up, I texted him good morning. My mind is quite sensitive today because a really bad thing happened to me yesterday and he also knows that. And Of course, my mood, my body, my weakness feelings felt I really needed his attention and his love his care today even more than other days.
After texting him good morning, I continued texting him to say that I couldn't meet him today as planned, What are you doing, when will u go to the gym, do u need any help, … At that time, it was about 2-3 hours before he got to gym every day, but after I texted for about an hour, I still didn't hear any updates from him about his gym. ( I had discussed with the gym in advance and he could check in without staff help today and I told him last night already. Because I already talked with staff, so I have to make sure to know will he go to gym instead of staying home or dont go anymore)
Then I checked his messages again, I saw he was online not too long ago and left my text on seen. I felt quite disappointed at that time but I still didn't want to send more messages to start a conversation first especially after seeing my messages being seen by him. But after about another hour, I was really worried about when he would go to the gym, and would he be able to check in with the staff ok? So I opened the app again and saw he was online a few minutes ago, but this time I sent him another message say that "I miss you". After that about 10 minutes he replied saying "use this photo for checking at gym?" and thats all… don't care about all the other messages I sent. At that moment I felt really really bad, maybe because I was in a bad mood before, but feel and even worse to think he knew I wasn't okay but thats the way he act.
About another 30 minutes, I had to do something else and couldn't wait for his gym update anymore so I sent a few more messages to ask if he had gone to the gym yet... and straight away he replied me "yea".
When he online at that time, I asked him he didn't reply to my message, leave it on seen that made me feel not good. He answered me that what should he reply me
And I feel that was terrible answer, I said that if he was busy at the time I texted, he could told me he was busy and he would reply to my message later instead of just online, and leave it on seen. Then he said "why he have to tell? You have to know by yoursel" I asked back” how can I know when you and me don't live in the same place” And what he means is that at the time he asked about “ Use this photo to check in gym?” I must understand that he was busy going to the gym. And he feels it's normal to take 2 to 3 hours to reply to someone's message
But I feel it's normal when in non-urgent situations (like me, I need to know about his time to go to the gym, so I can make sure he's allowed to go to the gym and then do another stuffs instead of waiting there for his update). Or when he's really busy and can't receive my messages not there online and seen it without reply. ( Specially, for him, every single day, for whole day, all he has to do is wake up, eat, rest play phone, go to gym, go back home, rest, eat, play phone, sleep thats all. )
I feel like usually a person will take a longer time to replying messages from unimportant people, than for their partner. And It makes me feel like I'm not valuable and not priority to him,
I also feel like he talks to me and updates me " I will go to the gym at 2pm, is it ok? " " i will book the car now".. in the past weeks just because he had to ask me to help him communicate with the staff so he could go to gym only. I feel like he doesn't think about my feelings at all and just keep saying that he's right about everything today. I am so childish to have this argument, overrated for just 2-3 hours without any messages …
Do you guy thinks am I wrong too ? Im happy to hear and receive advices from you guys to improve myself and the relationship… 🥺

My boyfriend is Western , I'm Asian. He moved to my country and lived with me for 3-4 months. I paid for a gym membership that allowed me to bring 2 more people to there with me. But the rule is that I am always the one who has to check in the code before entering the gym, which means that 2 people cannot use my membership card to go to the gym by themselves. And I used it to go to the gym with my boyfriend every day. But this week I had to visit my hometown for about a week, so I had to contact the person who sold me my membership card to ask him to allow my boyfriend to check in at the gym by himself.
And for every day, we wake up, we text each other good morning, ask basic things like what “how was your sleep”, “what u are doing, “ have you eaten anything” , and he always updates me like “ i will book a car to go gym now” “ im on the way gym now”... so same that time, I can text the staff to wait there for him and support my boyfriend.
Until today, after waking up, I texted him good morning. My mind is quite sensitive today because a really bad thing happened to me yesterday and he also knows that. And Of course, my mood, my body, my weakness feelings felt I really needed his attention and his love his care today even more than other days.
After texting him good morning, I continued texting him to say that I couldn't meet him today as planned, What are you doing, when will u go to the gym, do u need any help, … At that time, it was about 2-3 hours before he got to gym every day, but after I texted for about an hour, I still didn't hear any updates from him about his gym. ( I had discussed with the gym in advance and he could check in without staff help today and I told him last night already. Because I already talked with staff, so I have to make sure to know will he go to gym instead of staying home or dont go anymore)
Then I checked his messages again, I saw he was online not too long ago and left my text on seen. I felt quite disappointed at that time but I still didn't want to send more messages to start a conversation first especially after seeing my messages being seen by him. But after about another hour, I was really worried about when he would go to the gym, and would he be able to check in with the staff ok? So I opened the app again and saw he was online a few minutes ago, but this time I sent him another message say that "I miss you". After that about 10 minutes he replied saying "use this photo for checking at gym?" and thats all… don't care about all the other messages I sent. At that moment I felt really really bad, maybe because I was in a bad mood before, but feel and even worse to think he knew I wasn't okay but thats the way he act.
About another 30 minutes, I had to do something else and couldn't wait for his gym update anymore so I sent a few more messages to ask if he had gone to the gym yet... and straight away he replied me "yea".
When he online at that time, I asked him he didn't reply to my message, leave it on seen that made me feel not good. He answered me that what should he reply me
And I feel that was terrible answer, I said that if he was busy at the time I texted, he could told me he was busy and he would reply to my message later instead of just online, and leave it on seen. Then he said "why he have to tell? You have to know by yoursel" I asked back” how can I know when you and me don't live in the same place” And what he means is that at the time he asked about “ Use this photo to check in gym?” I must understand that he was busy going to the gym. And he feels it's normal to take 2 to 3 hours to reply to someone's message
But I feel it's normal when in non-urgent situations (like me, I need to know about his time to go to the gym, so I can make sure he's allowed to go to the gym and then do another stuffs instead of waiting there for his update). Or when he's really busy and can't receive my messages not there online and seen it without reply. ( Specially, for him, every single day, for whole day, all he has to do is wake up, eat, rest play phone, go to gym, go back home, rest, eat, play phone, sleep thats all. )
I feel like usually a person will take a longer time to replying messages from unimportant people, than for their partner. And It makes me feel like I'm not valuable and not priority to him,
I also feel like he talks to me and updates me " I will go to the gym at 2pm, is it ok? " " i will book the car now".. in the past weeks just because he had to ask me to help him communicate with the staff so he could go to gym only. I feel like he doesn't think about my feelings at all and just keep saying that he's right about everything today. I am so childish to have this argument, overrated for just 2-3 hours without any messages …
Do you guy thinks am I wrong too ? Im happy to hear and receive advices from you guys to improve myself and the relationship… 🥺

Throw away account for this story. This is pretty massive, but bare with me, its all relevant. Names are obviously changed. Most of the people in this story are late 20s, to mid 30s.
So sit down. Buckle up and enjoy (i guess?)
Let's call this guy Zack, he was my best friend for almost 10 years. Zack was engaged to Emma for several years, and they had started dating shortly after Zack and I became friends. I had a boyfriend, Murray. Murray had also been part of this friend group for a similar length of time, but I'd only recently started dating him. During the pandemic Zack, Emma and me all moved in together. At the time of moving in together I had been with Murray for about 10 months or so.
When we moved in together Emma's behaviour became quite passive aggressive or even outright aggressive towards me. At the time I had asked Zack multiple times if Emma had a problem with me. He'd always come back to me later saying she didn't have a problem with me, and thought I was nice, but the response never sat well with me considering her attitude towards me.
Looking back on it I reckon her behaviour towards me was triggered by Zack's behaviour. Zack often made comments about how he found me really attractive for years, but I had always brushed him off. But Zack had started making "jokes" about us having a threesome (Usually me joining Zack and Emma) - in front of his fiance, in front of our mutual friends, in front of Murray. I'd made it explicitly clear that I was not interested in him and had even told him multiple times "I consider him like a brother", that the threesome "jokes" were making me really uncomfortable BECAUSE I am not interested in him and they had become EXTREMELY frequent.
This eventually culminated with Emma absolutely cracking the shits with me one day and screaming at me completely upprovoked. This was the first time Zack had personally witnessed her completely unprovoked aggressive behaviour towards me. This was also not the first time Emma had triggered my PTSD/trauma. Emma then gave me the silent treatment for two whole weeks (vacating rooms if I entered, literally ignoring me around the house etc)
After this, Zack and Emma had a lot of arguments (they had arguments before this as well) and Zack broke up with Emma. She shouted and screamed at him during their arguments, even before her last outburst at me (I hid in my room during this due to past trauma/PTSD). A few of them we had comforted each other afterwards (IMO as a friends) - we would sit and talk to each other about what had happened. Emma eventually moved out, about a month later because she just could not be a civil housemate towards me.
At this point it was just me and Zack living in the house, we'd watch TV shows together while eating dinners together. For me the logic was if we're ok with sharing dinner it'd be cheaper rather than buying AND cooking seperate meals - and I'd even shared this logic with Zack and he agreed. We also enjoyed the same shows - like I said we were best friends for almost 10 years, so what's wrong with watching TV shows you and your housemate/friend both like together?
This is where things really start getting spicy, because I discovered the utterly manipulative machinations Zack had been pulling, and the extent that he had gone through. It was actually horrifying to discover the lengths Zack had gone to and to find out exactly what he had been saying to other people.
After breaking up with Emma, Zack was out dating and seeing a bunch of other people and even dating a few people online. And commenting on how attractive he found some of our mutual friends. Not my business what he does - just an interesting point worth knowing considering what is to follow in this story.
Zack had been angling that Murray was a really bad partner for me. Pointing out some frankly really stupid shit about Murray to me at an ever increasing frequency. Granted some of it was valid... but also not my problem. As in not "hey you need to break up with your partner", but "this sounds like a you problem" valid.
Things like making inappropriate jokes, sharing very dark or explicit memes and photos on the discord Zack ran. Zack didn't want that stuff on his discord, which is fair... But not a break up worthy problem for my relationship? At one point Zack informed me he made me a mod on his discord to "manage Murray". At the time I was like yeah whatever, if I get @ I'll deal with it. I was never @ about anything on discord. I was not actively reading what happened or monitoring chats - and I had told Zack this when he made me a mod. I'm pretty sure Zack only did this to try and "expose me to Murray's behaviour". Whenever Zack came to me complaining about Murray's behaviour in the Discord - I told him it's his Discord, if he's breaking your rules, he doesn't need my permission if he feels Murray needs to be booted or banned for breaking his rules. Murray was never banned, though he did get muted a few times. At some point Zack removed me as a mod lol.
Zack also started complaining that Murray was sending him stuff in his DMs. Let's be real here - Zack had told him to DM him stuff rather than sharing it in the Discord, because while he did not want it on his discord, he thought the stuff Murray would said was fucking hilarious. Apparently he'd been seen looking at some of these NSFW messages from Murray at work. I asked Zack why he was opening up Murray's messages at work when he knows 90% chance its probably an NSFW image or meme. Murray also DMs me A LOT of these memes, pictures etc. - he would just find stuff and share it with people he thought would find it funny or interesting - so it's not like I didn't know/see the content of what was shared.
Zach would also complain that Murray would repeat himself if he wasn't heard/didn't get a laugh to something he said the first time around during conversations. Again. Not break up worthy behaviour? Like. Who doesn't repeat themselves if they weren't heard the first time around?
I'd also noticed that Zack had also started saying stuff like "So and so talked to me and they aren't happy with Murray". I will note none of these people, mutual friends, had said anything to me. I later pieced together from talking with people that Zack's strategy was approaching a person in DMs about an issue with Murray and if they had seen it. Said person would respond oh yeah sometimes (or whatever response it might be), and then Zack could take this response to another person and say "so and so came to me about Murray about x, have you had any issues" - and so forth until he could say "hey a bunch of people have this "problem" with Murray". This was pieced together well after I found out what Zack was doing.
Eventually I confronted Zack, asking him if he had a problem with Murray. I got "Murray is great, hes a good friend, I dont hate him etc etc". Again this was an answer didn't sit well with me. If he's a good friend and doesn't have a problem... Why did Zack constantly complain about so many issues he had with Murray?
A few days later I was catching up with another close friend, Mel. I asked if she thought Zack had an issue with Murray. And OMG did Mel unload. I was absolutely shocked and Mel was very apologetic that they had not said anything until now.
Apparently Zack had been making MULTIPLE private chats with a lot of mutual friends and had been trying to triangulate almost everyone I knew into breaking up my relationship with Murray. Zack had in his mind that I was in love with him, that I was in denial for my feelings with him. That I was constantly flirting with him. And had even frequently bought up that "once Murray was out of the way, then Zack could finally settle down with me and start a family" and that "He can see a future with me". And I'm not going to lie... not just friends I'd see regularly... but I had asked a few friends I hadn't had much contact with for a very extended time... and they showed me conversations of the above of Zack trying to convince people how horrible Murray was in an attempt to try and triangulate these people against Murray as well.
I felt utterly disgusted - not only for finding out Zack was ACTIVELY trying to break my relationship up, get everyone to try and isolate Murray out of the friend group, but he was also sharing very private stories that should be my story to tell people. When I say private. I mean stories of Murray and I having sex together - that I had shared with some friends, including Zack. I didn't even get to tell MY STORIES to Mel first, but also realising... how many mutual friends (close or otherwise) had Zack told his version of the story to that makes Murray look really bad? But also makes me look really bad too because how the stories would be framed/told?
And this is where the comments about him dating other people and commenting to me about mutual friends Zack found attractive come in. He thought Mel was attractive. But never told her, BUT he had told he frequently how attractive he found me. What a wierd way to try and pick people up I guess? Mel came up with the most amazing description of Zack tho - he was just swinging his dick around and seeing what would stick.
I tried to calm down before heading home and had planned to try and approach Zack about this calmly. But the second I saw him, I just saw red and I just laid into him about what I had discovered. He just sat there and started crying. I reckon I shouted at him for a good twenty minutes because there was just so much betrayal in what he had done. I have never shouted at someone like that and I'm not proud of it.
After that over the following days and weeks... Zack tried to convince me that it was other people that were trying to break up my relationship, not him. That the other friends were "drama mongerers, shit stirrers and just liked causing problems". He also started talking a lot of crap with the intent of getting me to console him... for the behaviour he chose to enact about my relationship? He would also constantly apologise and project his own behaviour on the friends he tried to co-opt into his manipulations. Eventually I saw through Zack's manipulations and word salad and was even able to start calling him out on it on the spot/in situ. He'd look absolutely shocked and gobsmacked when I started being able to do this. For someone who could talk non-stop and endlessly, it was amazing to have the ability to leave him at a loss for words.
Due to past abuse I could feel my brain trying to just go back to "status quo" and trying to gaslight itself - sharing meals, watching TV together etc. So i'd be flipping between being neutral and being absolutely pissed off at Zack. It was an absolute mind fuck. Especially after being in a manipulative and abusive relationship in the past - but in a way, having had that past relationship - I could actually recognise what was happening now?
I told Zack he needed to move out of the house, he didn't want to "because he was happy here". I told him he's the one that fucked up so he's the one that should leave. Why should I be forced to leave and be inconvenienced further because of what he had chosen to do?
I did EVENTUALLY get him out of the house after he dragged his feet for about 6 months, and during that entire time Zack tried to sweet talk, manipulate, apologise, project his behaviour and literally every trick in the book to gloss over what he had done.
After he moved out he BANNED me, Murray and two friends he targeted heavily as the "drama mongerers" in his attempt to break up my relationship out of his discord, unfriended me on facebook and twitter etc. and started sharing a bunch of memes and things about being the victim in the face of drama/lies and stuff (and god knows what he's ACTUALLY telling people in private). He made a copy paste "apology" to the friends he'd been calling "drama mongerers" (as in he wrote one apology then copy pasted it to everyone) - absolutely insincere, lazy and and just real POS behaviour.
I also later found out he's describing me as "creating drama to get attention", and even more amazingly... is now not only moved on and dating yet another girl, but engaged to her. I feel sorry for her... because she has no idea the absolute monster she is getting involved with.
As it is. I did later end up breaking up with Murray about a year or so later, but not for anything Zack tried to make us break up for.

Sorry this will be a long one that might be all over the place as it's a vent but I also need advice.
I (21F) have been living with my roommate (21NB) for about 8 months now. Due to my roommate's behaviour and the decline in my mental health, ill be moving out next week.
For a bit of background, my roommate has been awful to live with. They have never once cleaned the house, has lied to me about cleaning the bathroom. They didnt start cleaning up after they ate until I told them off about it, if I hadn't said anything, their dishes would be left out dirty in the sink for over 3 days. They have stolen some of my belongings like coat hangers, they have eaten my food without asking, they neglect their cat. Their personal hygeine is so bad that sometimes the whole flat, aside from my room, smells like their BO, and their room is a pigsty. They completely rely on me to take care of the flat and ive never seen them do any sort of house work. I could go on for hours, but to sum it up, it feels like they're a roommate from hell.
A few months ago, I tragically lost my cat due to tumor's in his lungs and it took a huge toll on me. I know it may not seem like too big of a deal, but i rescued him a few years ago when I was at one of my lowest states mentally, and it genuinely felt like he gave me a second reason to live, so having him pass away really hit hard. So that kind of caused me some mental strain in supporting myself living alone.
I ended up visiting my parents for 2 weeks to house sit and baby sit their dog and i really enjoyed the time to myself without the worry of dealing with someone else's mess (aside from the dog). The time away felt really needed. Then I got back home and I just started crying. It took me being away for 2 weeks to realise how bad the place is. The place smelt like BO, the bathroom had grime on the sink, dirty dishes in the kitchen. This ontop of dealing with the death of my cat and then witnessing them neglect their own cat kind of became the last straw.
I really just decided I'd had enough and made plans with my boyfriend to do long distance together while I move out and live with my parents for like 3 months (they live a 5 hour drive away). Then came the issue of having to tell my roommate which is where shit kind of got bad? I had waited for a time where my roommate was home and my boyfriend was visiting so that i could tell them in person to give them 4 weeks notice (even though the legal amount of time i have to give is 2 weeks, but i wanted to give them as much notice as i could) and have my boyfriend's support. I waited days for them to be home at a time that wasn't between 11pm and 5am. That never came, so I just had to send a text message telling them I'm moving out, which they did not take well. It took them 3 days to respond to me. They did sound understanding and everything at least, but the 3 days where they didn't respond were uncomfortable as they purposefully had their back turned towards me everytime we were in the same room and they were just avoiding me.
I had responded to their message, i should state I didn't come across as rude or anything while texting them about me moving out, i tried to be as calm as respectful as possible. I told them I would help them clean up the flat before i leave if they chose to end the lease and help pay for it obviously, and also asked if they chose to look for a new roommate, that they(replacement roommate) could pay me $900 for the bond as i didn't want my money being paid for someone else's bond. It took them another 5 days to respond to my message as we were no longer talking in person due to, I don't know? i guess they were just being petty?
When they finally did respond, the message was nasty, like straight up an attempt of manipulation. They told me they would be keeping the lease, and because of that, they felt it was unfair if i didn't help them look for a new roommate as it was my choice to leave the lease (even tho it was their choice to keep the lease?). Which then they proceeded to tell me that they expect me to pay them rent past the 23rd (my official date removed from the lease) because to them i had a legal obligation to pay rent up until i was removed from the lease, which wouldn't be until a new roommate was found (which is incorrect btw, I asked the real estate agent who wrote me in email to confirm that i would be removed from the lease on the 23rd). They told me if i refused to pay the rent, as i'd be paying rent to my parents, that they'd have no other choice but to take the money out of the bond that the replacement pays me, and then proceeded to, again, tell me that they expected me to look for a roommate. All of it came off as very condescending and manipulative. I had responded to their message telling them i didnt appreciate the way they approached me, and then provided evidence that i did, in fact, not have to pay them any rent past the 23rd. They didn't really respond to my message until a few days later once i had mentioned it to them, but even then it wasnt much of a response.
So basically their communication with me has been really bad, even after mentioning twice that i wanted communication as it would make things less stressful. Due to their lack of communication, i'm starting to worry that they wont let me know once they have found a roommate, so i wont know when or even IF i'll get my bond money as i will be leaving to my parents a few days before im removed from the lease so i won't be there in person. I can understand if I may have done some things wrong, like adding stress onto them by moving out and i hadn't been the nicest before i told them the news due to my poor mental state, but i dont think I've done anything shitty enough for them to not feel like i dont deserve the bond back? But I'm not sure. So i guess my question is what can i do if they dont end up giving me the money? Would i be the asshole if i threatened to take them to civil court if they dont give it to me as it's almost a grand worth of money? Can i even take them to court over this? For context, i live in NSW, Australia, and i do have written proof of everything that has happened.
Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this, i know its probably a mess. Any help is very appreciated.
TLDR: I am moving out of the flat im living at due to living with a shitty roommate and poor mental health. WIBTA if i threatened to take my roommate to court for not sending me bond money that the replacement roommate pays once i move out? They are lacking a lot of communication and i've started to stress over if i'm actually going to get the money back or not as they have not been nice to me ever since i gave them almost double the notice needed of my departure.

Hi! I apologize in advance if I did any of this wrong, I’ve never made a post before. But I just wanted to turn here to ask for help with this issue I keep on repeatedly having.
So I (21F) have an iPhone 11, which comes with 64 GB of storage. Currently I’ve used up 63.78 GB of this. Since maybe a few months ago, I started to run into the issue of running out of storage. When this happened, I would go to my settings, look at which things were taking up the most and do what I can to minimize them, for example: if my messages were taking up a lot, I would go to “review large attachments” and see which longer videos and screen recordings I sent or were sent to me that I could delete, and delete or offload the data of apps that I don’t use. But then time would pass, and it would happen again. I really don’t have that many apps, over and beyond the ones that come with the iPhone (some of which I’ve deleted) and ones that are crucial for banking, transit, and other essential ones, only one mobile game, and I only have two social media apps (3 if you count Reddit I guess lol), etc.
It is currently not at all financially feasible for me to fix this issue by upgrading my phone, unfortunately. Even if it was, I really try to minimize my consumption of new tech with how exploitative, unethical, and environmentally damaging the cobalt / lithium battery mining industry is. So I try to make each devise last as long as possible and only upgrade when I absolutely need to.
Even though I’m young, i have never been the most adept with technology. I’m good enough with computers to have passed a basic coding & programming course for school, but let’s just say I’ve never been the kid who helped the teacher fix the projector, or the family member who messes with the wifi router and TV cables at home. So I’d really love some advice if possible. I’m going to lay out as much info as possible so someone can hopefully identify something that might be the issue and what could help. I wanted to attach screenshots of my storage report in my phone settings to help, but it seems that this community does not allow attachments to posts, so I’ll have to do my best to describe.
The one thing that I do have is a lot of photos. For some background as to why / rationalizing it, next paragraph: if you dgaf then skip to the paragraph after that, where it goes back to being specifically about the situation at hand:
One reason I have so many photos is that I have moved around a lot my whole life, and lived in a lot of different places, so with the very frequent change of scene, you can imagine I would probably have more photos than the average person who grew up and lived in one or two cities their whole life. To add onto this point, I’m currently overseas, far from my home country, doing working a job for the next four months, and this involves a lot of travel, where I’d be obviously want to be taking pictures of the places I go. I’m also in a long-distance relationship, and as such, we send each other photos, and screenshots of how we did on the wordle, etc. I try to delete these afterwards, but it still adds up. Furthermore, I’m an ecology and wildlife biology student, so a lot of what I do involves taking pictures and making sound recordings of observations while I’m outside, both while conducting fieldwork, identifying species, taking down observations for classes, and out of my own personal interest / passion while I’m out and about and find something interesting. One final important reason is that I have a little sister who has stage 4 cancer, of an extremely rare kind, with a very unpredictable nature. It seems that she is ok for now, but I my family and I are burdened with knowing that that could change very rapidly, and we really can’t know how much time we may have together. So as you can probably imagine, I have a lot of photos with her, and of her, that I would not ever consider deleting to make space, as you can hopefully understand.
I do try to go through my photos regularly to clear my camera roll of trash, blurry photos, random screenshots, and pictures of physics questions. But doing this isn’t a solution, or not a sustainable, realistic one anyway. I’ve already spent so much time doing this, to the point that I’m sure there has to be an easier way.
I used to have Google photos and used that, but then my Google account storage was full (google drive documents, emails, photos, everything) and that gave me trouble for a long time so eventually I resorted to deleting the Google photos app off my phone, and downloading my photos only onto the iPhone photos app. But eventually, because I was missing important emails, I decided that I’ll just have to pay the like $4.99/month subscription to get more Google storage.
Now, I’m thinking that I might be better to archive my photos using Google photos instead, now that I’m paying for more storage there, but I already deleted the app and currently don’t have enough storage to download it again. I also can’t download this app that is required in my building to be able to do laundry (which is honestly ridiculous but whatever). Moving overseas in general has required me to download quite a lot more apps than I expected to have to use for daily life, which contributes to my issue.
There’s also been an update available for my phone for some time now, but I’ve been unable to start it because of insufficient storage. In the mean time, my phone has started to have some weird issues it didn’t have previously, like one thing has been that a few days ago, all of my notes on my phone disappeared. This is highly distressing to me because those went back a very long time, and had very important information I’ve carefully recorded over the years I’ve had this phone. This is very upsetting so I’m hoping desperately that once I am eventually able to start the update on my phone, and get more storage, the notes will show up again. Another example is that sometimes, apps will just stop responding to touch, and I’m unable to scroll, to click, to type for a while until I close the app out and open it again, but sometimes that also doesn’t work right away. It usually only responds to sliding up from the bottom to return to the Home Screen, and the volume and power button. And before anyone asks, yes I have tried turning powering my phone all the way off, and on again.
One thing to note is that since arriving to this new country to work 2 weeks ago, I bought a new SIM card so I could have a functional phone number and a cell service plan. I don’t know if that could at all be contributing to any of this..? Maybe? But I also had these storage issues start up months ago, so it’s definitely not entirely that.
Another piece of information is that I do have a laptop, unfortunately it’s a MacBook Air tho (which I know is really not the best PC, it was a gift) which I got in 2020. Is there any way I could download my photos onto my computer to free up storage on my phone? Or would this not work because they have the same connected iCloud account? Also, if my photos were on another device, would that make it more complicated to send people photos from my camera roll, and would I be unable to pull up old photos I have in my camera roll (like of my pets, memories, things that come up in conversations, etc.) on my phone to show people?
Like I said before, I would really appreciate any advice you can offer whatsoever! I really don’t want to into an Apple Store and have to pay a fortune for a consult, when they might end up just telling me that I simply need to upgrade my phone. If you have any questions or points to clarify, please feel free to ask in the comments. Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this, I am deeply grateful, and may life treat you well <3

My (26f) boyfriend (29m) and I have been dating for 9 months and we have lived together for 8 months. We've known eachother since middle school. He had an ex wife for 3 years, whom he divorced 2 and a half years ago. He proposed to her within 6 months of dating and they moved overseas for his army job. He seemed to be very in love with her and bought her anything she wanted. They ended up getting divorced and he had a big promiscuiy phase before dating me. He recently bought a house in which we now live, but I can't get over the fact that she once picked the furniture we have in this house now. He still has their engagement rings and plans to some day sell them. Any time I bring up marriage, he says I'm rushing things, and says he wants to have kids before getting married, which I don't agree to. He didn't do anything for us for Valentined Day or my birthday, and it honestly makes me a bit sad.... He pays all the bills and is even paying for my car while I finish my last year of school, so I'd feel guilty if I did break up with him or ever mentioned my dislike for his lack of romantic gestures. I cook and clean every day, which is the least I can do to thank him. When his friends ask him when he'll marry me, he just stays quiet, and it makes me sad. He doesnt seem very excited to have me. He messaged his ex wife 5 months before we dated to "check on the dog they once had together", but I have a gut feeling he's still in love with her and doesn't love me enough to marry me as quick as he married her. How should i proceed?
EDIT: forgot to add he wants me to have his kids right after I graduate in a year, so he wants to get me pregnant at the end of this year, which is why I bring up marriage whenever he brings this up. I'm not nagging him out of the blue.

I've [22M] been in a relationship with my classmate [23F] for 5 months now and for the second time (we dated for about a month before, broke up, got back together 3mo later). I'm a very jealous person, and she's a very active girl spending most of her time outside (unlike me), whether its work, family & friends transporting, or just hanging out. She just generally dislikes staying at home. So, since we started dating (even before the break up) she's constantly telling me stories of her getting harassed on the road & hit on in work.
She picks time-limited jobs because she's still a student, she only works in vacations and beginning of semester weeks, and almost always theres at least one male coworker crushing on her and trying to get close to her, once she even got asked for marriage (note that she keeps our relationship a secret, so she never mentions that she's taken) And you can guess how would a jealous boyfriend feel knowing that she's having daily chats and laughs with coworkers who got feelings for her.
I'm trying to make my peace with the coworkers thingy convincing myself that she's in need for the jobs (she is) and that work place be like that and theres nothing to do about these relationships she have no other option but to have, (even tho i think she can force a more formal relationship with them), but at the end of the day, as long as they're not directly harassing her, i tell myself "its fine".
What i can't make my peace with is the harassment she gets on the road, when she's driving, almost every day at least one guy would chase her, talk to her, ask for her number and all, believe it or not one time someone waved at her with a stack of money saying "can't i get smt?".. sometimes she get chased by multiple cars, and they be putting her in dangerous situations, one time she got into a car accident because of a chaser. On foot she gets followed too and harassed and exactly the same things that happen in cars.
Yesterday, i decided to show up in her work place which is a fair she's working in a booth at, and neglecting the coworkers chatting and laughing with her while I'm on delivered, i noticed two guys watching her from a far, and heared them whispering about her. As i said earlier, we're secretly together (to her request) so i can't make a direct move, especially that her sister works with her too. At the closure of the fair, the dudes are still around watching her closely as she walks away and started following her, so i stood between them, sent off a msg that I'm aware of what they're doing and kept myself closely behind her and in front of the dudes and kept staring at them not so nicely. My girlfriend was with her sister and they're on their way out. its a big place, very crowded, so i lost them all, the girls and the dudes. She messaged me that they're harassing them and still following them even closer now I'm gone, so i quickly went to where they were and exploded on the dudes yelling and telling them to f off, it almost got into a hand fight because i was so pissed off, but i decided to be wiser cuz there's alot of police and it might turn against me as I'd be the one who started hitting, so i called the police and told them they're harassing them, i made alot of fuss and attention as i was screaming so loud and suddenly around 7 officers were there, luckily they got arrested as the girls agreed to my testimony. Then everyone else got home safe.
I was still furious, cuz i know this isn't the first time nor will it be the last time, I'm just never around when it happens and it was a coincidence that i was there. I talked to my gf about my feelings and started to share procedures i wish she'd do to stop this ever continuous harassment. I told her we need to get her curtains for her car, and pepper spray. She refused and was angry at me, saying that she's I'm overreacting and shouldn't make a big deal of this and that its fine and everyone is getting harassed. And when i told her i can't accept it and i will insist on taking precautions cuz I'm not the kind of dude to let me gf be harassed and sit and do nothing, she continued to strongly refuse to do anything about it and told me i have to deal with it and she's not gonna do anything.
I didn't tell her to stop anything she's doing, i know alot of people who would blame her and ask her to stop working or something, but all i did was asking her to put a curtain on her car windows and a pepper spray in her bag to keep herself safe. Her refusal for anything i ask for is something not new to me, she rarely ever take my advices or urges to do something seriously and almost always meet it with refusal. But this is something i can't comprehend her to refuse it, I'm literally burning from inside knowing that she's daily encountering these situations.
I don't know, sometimes i feel like she doesn't really hate the harassment, she mostly mention it laughably, as if it makes her feel desired. My girlfriend have a self-loathing trait, low self-esteem. And while I'm drowning her with love and affection and flatter, i recently feel she no longer appreciate it. Maybe because I'm overdoing it so now she wants it from outside.
While I'm pretending we're alright, theres alot about our relationship that is not going well, just for the context, this isn't the only thing thats not going right.
TLDR; She gets harassed and hit on daily everywhere, work, street, road, and she refuses to do anything about it, and is telling me its what every girls face and its alright and to "not overreact and exaggerate it", even tho this harassment got her in a small car accident once. I'm not asking her to do anything big, just a curtain on car windows and pepper spray in bag, but she's violently refusing, almost making me feel like I'm badly pushing her in a corner and controlling her. What made me think deeply about it is that she usually mention those harassments in a laughing manner, she rarely seems actually bothered.

I received a message from a strange unknown number. The first message he sent was, "I miss you, man." When I replied, asking, "Who are you?!" he seemed shocked. He exclaimed, "HOW THE FUCK DID YOU ANSWER?" At first, I couldn't comprehend his reaction. But then it dawned on both of us: his friend's SIM card had been inactive for too long, so the company reassigned it to another person—me. He had kept his deceased friend's number to send messages like this from time to time.
He asked for my name, but he couldn't believe it when I answered, especially after I sent a voice message. "My name's Omar," I said. He replied, "That's literally my dead friend's name, and your voice sounds just like his!" He attempted to call me, but neither of us could hear anything during the call, so we continued messaging.
He introduced himself as Kareem Adham. He and Omar had been best friends for around a year and a few months. Although it wasn't a long period, their bond was strong. Kareem revealed that four months before Omar's death, he confided in him about seeing headless ghosts and strange entities lurking in the darkness of his house. Omar never shared this with anyone else. His mental state deteriorated, and he barely slept for two hours a day. I remember that day well.
At 2:30 in the morning, Omar messaged me in a hushed tone: "Kareem, I'm hiding in the closet. These ghosts have gone insane. The electricity went out, and there are three of them in the room. A child, about nine years old, repeatedly hits her head against the corner. A headless man sits motionless on my bed, and a grown woman circles, screaming with a decaying body. They used to vanish after a few minutes, but not today..." Suddenly, the call went silent. I kept asking Omar what happened while rushing to his house. He whispered, tears streaming down his face, "Kareem, I think the woman saw me. She stopped screaming and is staring at the closet. Please, hurry! She's trying to peek through the holes." I assured him, "I'm on my way, Omar. Don't do anything rash. Stay there." I doubted his words, thinking he might be delusional and fearing he'd harm himself. When I arrived, I found his lifeless body on the floor, bones shattered. He had jumped off the roof and taken his own life. or at least‚ that's what the cops thought.
That marked the end of Omar's story. I didn't want to believe him, but the weird ghosts in his story was just like the things i started to see for a short moment in the darkness of my house... I turned off my phone, unwilling to learn more. I convinced myself it was a prank by a friend, yet I had never shared my experiences with anyone. The next day, I asked Omar, "When did you meet your friend Kareem?" He replied after a pause, "On my first day of the English course, May 17th." That's when I lost my sanity. Today, May 17th, is my first day in the English course. As I left home for school, I met a guy in the class who said, "Hey, are you in Mr. *****'s English course too? Nice to meet you. My name is Kareem Adham."

My boyfriend is Western , I'm Asian. He moved to my country and lived with me for 3-4 months. I paid for a gym membership that allowed me to bring 2 more people to there with me. But the rule is that I am always the one who has to check in the code before entering the gym, which means that 2 people cannot use my membership card to go to the gym by themselves. And I used it to go to the gym with my boyfriend every day. But this week I had to visit my hometown for about a week, so I had to contact the person who sold me my membership card to ask him to allow my boyfriend to check in at the gym by himself.
And for every day, we wake up, we text each other good morning, ask basic things like what “how was your sleep”, “what u are doing, “ have you eaten anything” , and he always updates me like “ i will book a car to go gym now” “ im on the way gym now”... so same that time, I can text the staff to wait there for him and support my boyfriend.
Until today, after waking up, I texted him good morning. My mind is quite sensitive today because a really bad thing happened to me yesterday and he also knows that. And Of course, my mood, my body, my weakness feelings felt I really needed his attention and his love his care today even more than other days.
After texting him good morning, I continued texting him to say that I couldn't meet him today as planned, What are you doing, when will u go to the gym, do u need any help, … At that time, it was about 2-3 hours before he got to gym every day, but after I texted for about an hour, I still didn't hear any updates from him about his gym. ( I had discussed with the gym in advance and he could check in without staff help today and I told him last night already. Because I already talked with staff, so I have to make sure to know will he go to gym instead of staying home or dont go anymore)
Then I checked his messages again, I saw he was online not too long ago and left my text on seen. I felt quite disappointed at that time but I still didn't want to send more messages to start a conversation first especially after seeing my messages being seen by him. But after about another hour, I was really worried about when he would go to the gym, and would he be able to check in with the staff ok? So I opened the app again and saw he was online a few minutes ago, but this time I sent him another message say that "I miss you". After that about 10 minutes he replied saying "use this photo for checking at gym?" and thats all… don't care about all the other messages I sent. At that moment I felt really really bad, maybe because I was in a bad mood before, but feel and even worse to think he knew I wasn't okay but thats the way he act.
About another 30 minutes, I had to do something else and couldn't wait for his gym update anymore so I sent a few more messages to ask if he had gone to the gym yet... and straight away he replied me "yea".
When he online at that time, I asked him he didn't reply to my message, leave it on seen that made me feel not good. He answered me that what should he reply me
And I feel that was terrible answer, I said that if he was busy at the time I texted, he could told me he was busy and he would reply to my message later instead of just online, and leave it on seen. Then he said "why he have to tell? You have to know by yoursel" I asked back” how can I know when you and me don't live in the same place” And what he means is that at the time he asked about “ Use this photo to check in gym?” I must understand that he was busy going to the gym. And he feels it's normal to take 2 to 3 hours to reply to someone's message
But I feel it's normal when in non-urgent situations (like me, I need to know about his time to go to the gym, so I can make sure he's allowed to go to the gym and then do another stuffs instead of waiting there for his update). Or when he's really busy and can't receive my messages not there online and seen it without reply. ( Specially, for him, every single day, for whole day, all he has to do is wake up, eat, rest play phone, go to gym, go back home, rest, eat, play phone, sleep thats all. )
I feel like usually a person will take a longer time to replying messages from unimportant people, than for their partner. And It makes me feel like I'm not valuable and not priority to him,
I also feel like he talks to me and updates me " I will go to the gym at 2pm, is it ok? " " i will book the car now".. in the past weeks just because he had to ask me to help him communicate with the staff so he could go to gym only. I feel like he doesn't think about my feelings at all and just keep saying that he's right about everything today. I am so childish to have this argument, overrated for just 2-3 hours without any messages …
Do you guy thinks am I wrong too ? Im happy to hear and receive advices from you guys to improve myself and the relationship… 🥺

Hey all! This is a bit weird for me being almost 40 and looking for friends. But here I am anyways lol. Mainly looking for someone to message throughout the day and get to know. Maybe game with if we have that in common. I do work from home so there’s no one to really talk to during the day.
I’m married and have 2 kids, a 6 month old son and a 9 year old daughter. I’m into basic nerdy things. Gaming, star wars, super heroes, DnD, etc. Also trading card games like Disney Lorcana and Star Wars Unlimited.
I watch a ton of Critical Role stuff especially Campaign 3! Currently on episode 74, so if you watch too, let me know! Also like to watch Battle of the Brands on YouTube.
I’m also into movies and tv, some sports, pro wrestling. Collecting action figures and retro games is one of hobbies as well. Anything 80s/90s nostalgia i absolutely love so if you want to talk childhood and growing up back then, i’m down! I miss the good old days where we went to arcades and italian sunday dinners at the grandparents and where the world just wasn’t as nutso as it is today lol.
My kids are everything to me and I do love talking about them. Love being silly with them and spending time with them (when they aren’t driving me crazy 🤪 lol)..I would prefer you be around my age and have kids as well just so we have that stuff in common off the bat! I’m socially awkward most times but very easy to get along with. I’m definitely considered an introvert. But once you get to know me I break out of that awkward shell. I do like to use sarcasm, and mostly like to try and make people laugh because a world without laughter would just be horrible.
Alright i’ll shut up now but I’d like to think i’m an awesome person to get to know and hopefully there’s more you’d like to know so feel free to DM me! (I looove using GIFs so if you message me, open up with a funny one! Especially since then i’ll know you actually read this 😂)