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I am new to posting on Reddit so do forgive me if I make any mistakes.
My husband and I are newly married and looking to rent our first property. I went to view a property and I liked it. I was ready to make a rental offer on the property however the letting agent let me know that the property was no longer on the market, I really liked the property and was quite disappointed.
However, I then noticed the property was relisted on Zoopla so I requested a second viewing via Zoopla and was contacted by the landlord who I had met previously when I originally viewed the property.
The landlord and I discussed the property and he was happy for me to make an offer. We offered five weeks deposit and three months rent in advance totalling to around £6800. That offer was accepted as far as I was concerned and I was asked for a holding deposit of £370 whilst he ran rental/background checks on my husband and I.
I chased him up to find out what was going on as I had not heard back from him in a few days and he explained that himself and his fellow landlords who owned the property were concerned because my partner and I were first time renters and that he had a counter offer to make, I was a bit taken back as I had already paid a holding deposit for my original offer, so I did not know why they were offering a counter offer after having accepted my original offer and taking a holding deposit off me. Their new offer was 6 months rent in advance and then after 5 months another 6 months rent. This was totalling to over £11,000 for the first six months and then again another £11,000, and of course five weeks deposit, I obviously refused the offer because if I had that much money laying around I wouldn’t be trying to rent.
Since their new offer, we spoke on the phone, I texted him and I emailed him, on alll three occasions via text message, over the phone and in an email I explained to him that I cannot accept his offer but he has still tried to make me this offer. The last time I emailed with him explaining that I refuse the offer and I am unsure why he is still trying to offer it to me he has not replied. It has been 10 days and I have not heard anything back from him and he still has my original holding deposit. I’ve contacted him 3 times in the last 10 days and have heard nothing.
The original offer details state that the “holding deposit is refundable if the landlord rejects the offer subject to the reference and offer.”
Seeing as my holding deposit was for the original offer and not the second offer I rejected do I have any right to demand my money back and also do I have any legal recourse as he is refusing to respond to me?
Also to note, this is in London, England. My husband and I both work full time and are both born UK citizens and have fairly decent credit so there would be nothing untoward in our checks besides being first time renters.

I’ve sailed on Celebrity (Alaska) and Royal Caribbean (2 Caribbean cruises) and am on the tail end of my first Princess cruise on Majestic (RT from Seattle to Alaska)

based on Reddit recommendations stayed at the Mediterranean Inn. Well located, well priced, super comfortable with a helpful staff and an option to catch a shuttle to the pier
got to the pier at 11a for a 3p departure. Process was smooth and took under 30 minutes even though I was Blue lane (had to pick up my medallion). Highly recommend getting there early to avoid long lines.
keep your swimsuit in your carryon. Seattle was a great day for the pool but our luggage took just long enough to arrive to keep us from enjoying the pool(s)
the staff is fantastic - if they are forced to smile and greet you, you can’t tell - they seem genuinely happy
there are so many activities throughout each and every day it’s impossible to get bored
manage your expectations about the Hollywood Conservatory- I don’t know how early people were waking to claim a cabana but pretty much once someone was in one they stayed there all day. This won’t be as big an issue with sailings later in the season when it’s warm enough to enjoy the outdoor decks/your balcony if you have one
food is good - some meals were amazing, some were blecch, most were good
if you don’t have reservations at Concerto you will be told to come back later. Allegro was always accommodating
the $10 sale had zero clothing items - I was expecting T shirts but it was beach totes, ball caps, costume jewelry, sunglasses and neckties
this was a well-oiled machine: everything was planned out and ran super smoothly

I would be delighted to sail this ship my next Alaskan cruise! I’m actually considering a back to back for a milestone birthday in a couple of years

Good afternoon my fellow autists
99.9% of the coins that are being launched are designed to benefit the earliest holders, with most ending in a quick and violent rug
The $DGOAT community is a group of $LINK marines and $APU tards, designed with the sole purpose of returning as much value as possible back to the community. We do not pretend to have any utility, but we have some very creative people working behind the scenes to make this something bigger than we had initially planned
So far we have announced that we will be burning 7.77% of the 1 billion total supply in increments of .77%. Over the course of 10 milestones the community will be rewarded with a burn. The next milestone is $750k market cap.
I am a top 5 holder and I have dedicated 100% of my tokens (55 million or 5.5% of the supply) to community rewards and burns. I will not be selling any tokens and we are working on a linear community lock up that many core holders will be choosing to participate in
Current market cap $716k
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Official twitter is @ dgoatfrens
Telegram is in the twitter bio as is the website
Happy hunting out there, I will be back to revisit this post when we cross the $5 million market cap when we have completed the 7.77% burn
Until then be well

Draco is a single parent after Astoria dies/leaves. He has becomes shut in and a lonely person. Harry is interested in him but you know Draco too many walls. Everyone wants him to move on and live his life even Scorpius. Hermione is his friend and there are several people who tries to convince Draco. Happy Ending. That's all I remember 🥺🙃

“I attended middle school with her, although we did not attend high school together (she instead attended a high school that was supposed to help students gain college credits. She earned two liberal arts degrees while there in Social and Behavioral Sciences and Natural Sciences. She now attends an HCBU, and has on her LinkedIn profile that she is presently working toward graduating from her college with a degree in Health Sciences, Pre Med, and a minor in Military Science. She is apart of her school’s Army ROTC.)
I remember that a lot of people in middle school did not like her (although that was also the case for me,) and I understood why. She seemed noticeably introverted, yet also didn’t seem like the kind of person, at least from my perspective, who would try to appease you in the way I imagine a lot of people feel the stereotypical woman might. She had a strong glare (I remember mentioning this to my then best friend’s mom, who agreed with the suggestion) and stood out to me as being weird (it wasn’t necessarily anything she said or did - not her personality, exactly - it’s just the strong glare I mentioned, like she didn’t tend to look sincerely happy nor would she pretend to be unless she was around friends of hers. I remember that she didn’t tend to look happy, in my opinion. It’s possible that she was depressed, or she may have just tended to look irritable, I don’t know. She didn’t strike me as being the kind of person who would make an effort to be polite, struck me as being tomboyish and unladylike, the kind of person who wouldn’t try to change the way she was for you - I wasn’t used to it. Seemed competitive, too. I had truly never interacted with a girl who was like that before. She also struck me as being smart, although she was in the normal math class whereas I was in the advanced one (I was known for being smarter, but thought it should have been her. However, I did notice after looking at her LinkedIn profile that there were more grammatical errors than I expected.)
I remember that she and her friend (who I later on ended up being on good terms with) decided early on that they disliked me, although I hadn’t done anything to them, which bothered me. They also once used me for food in sixth grade, which had also bothered/upset me.
I remember that my former best friend had issues with her ranging back to elementary school, and that in sixth grade in particular they were competing for the attention of an ISFP they’d both been friends with since elementary school. This girl is the one who won the ISFP’s attention/was officially her best friend by the time they were in seventh grade. However, around seventh or eighth grade (it’s been so long that I no longer quite remember,) she “ditched” (in the words of my former best friend) the ISFP and the other friend I’d mentioned in favor of a new crowd. I actually remember my former best friend suggested that the people in her new crowd didn’t like her, either (although she hung out with them throughout eighth grade, and briefly went to high school in person with one of them as a junior whilst presumably taking courses at the other high school online, so I assume that she never knew this/didn’t read them well enough to know or understand this.) I notice that she unfollowed the ISFP at some point as a senior, though the ISFP never unfollowed her (she strikes me as being the kind of person who likely took note of the fact that the ISFP’s life doesn’t seem to be heading in a good direction - the ISFP was abused a few years ago, and has had substance use issues since, in addition to having had to repeat a year of high school. She also unfollowed my former best friend, and my former best friend recently unfollowed her back.)
She figured out that I was the one who owned the middle school gossip account (although most of our peers already suspected, and technically, this girl couldn’t prove it either.) She figured this out because she remembered that I was standing nearby when she told my former best friend who she had a crush on (I was being mean and told our peers who she was crushing on.) However, she never directly confronted me about the matter, even though she told my former best friend that she suspected it to be me. She later on changed her mind when I was kind to her friend who lost the role for graduation speaker to me toward the end of eighth grade (but she was right the first time.)
I noticed around junior year that she has actually turned out to be quite nice looking, even though I had once meanly suggested that she was fat in middle school (she was a tad bit chubby, though as an adult I’m inclined to suggest that this was likely simply baby fat/that with us being so young there wasn’t really anything wrong with this.) She does seem to wear makeup, but also has nice style (she is light skinned, and has a looser hair texture, which are likely factors in me thinking she’s attractive, if I’m being honest - she’s mixed race, with a black mother and white father.) I can’t possibly know, but she gives off the impression to me of being someone who knows that she’s attractive (just something about her energy/facial expressions in photos. She has her Instagram account public now.)”
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Hello! I was previously using a 2017 razer blade stealth 13” intel and it gave out. I remember purchasing it over a Mac before since it was cheaper with more storage (at the time).
I’m now revisiting looking at Mac - specifically MacBook Pro M3 Pro. I love windows user face and prefer it for familiarity, but it won’t stop me from switching to Mac IF the laptop is worth it.
Thank you in advance for all the help!
LAPTOP QUESTIONNAIRE
Total budget (in local currency) and country of purchase. Please do not use USD unless purchasing in the US:
$2,000 max; lower better but willing to invest for higher productivity and reliability
Are you open to refurbs/used?
New preferred
How would you prioritize form factor (ultrabook, 2-in-1, etc.), build quality, performance, and battery life?
Performance / productivity Battery life Low fan / low heat
How important is weight and thinness to you?
Smallethinner preferred but definitely willing to comprise weight/thinness for higher productivity
Do you have a preferred screen size? If indifferent, put N/A.
15” or less
Are you doing any CAD/video editing/photo editing/gaming? List which programs/games you desire to run.
I used a lot of web-based programs (Wix, Squarespace, slack, google workspace, Quickbooks, telegram, company-specific systems, Canva, etc)
I also use Adobe Creative Cloud and Zoom often.
If you're gaming, do you have certain games you want to play? At what settings and FPS do you want?
N/A
Any specific requirements such as good keyboard, reliable build quality, touch-screen, finger-print reader, optical drive or good input devices (keyboard/touchpad)?
Reliable build quality, touch screen optional
Leave any finishing thoughts here that you may feel are necessary and beneficial to the discussion.
I’m not too familiar with all the tech specs and language, so it’s harder to describe exact needs. I do use this laptop daily as my only computer, all remote work + travel, and I loved how reliable my razer stealth blade was up until the end (minus the absurdly loud fan).

Hi, I'd like to start with introducing myself. I'm 24F and Last year this time of the year, I was dating a guy who was a follower of the red pill community. We were in a long distance relationship and met only a few times. The relationship was about 8-9 Months long. For people who are not aware about it, Red pill community is a group of guys that blame females for all there problems and they feel that females are privileged and hence, They've always have an upper hand and have ruined their life by taking away their opportunities and what now.
I wasnt aware what i was getting myself into but I want to make others aware. So I'll talk about the various "red flags" of my relationship and how it affected me. I am not longer in a relationship with that guys.

1. Guy Friends: We meet online and his initial communication never showed any hatred for women as such. He seemed interested in me and quickly asked me to date him as well. He would often "praise" that I had no guy friends which was a "green flag". (In reality I had no friends, let alone male friends.) He said girls with boyfriends should not have guy friends. Its disrespectful to the boyfriend. Even thou, He has a female best friend. I took this lightly. Later in our relationship, he made me unfollow a bunch of guys on instagram. They were former classmates and colleagues. I'd not met most of them for years and months. He would often ask me if my dad had female friends or if my mom had male friends and when I would say no. He would say, See because one shouldnt friends of opposite gender
   
2. Clubbing: He hated girls who were open about their sexuality and would call them names. He said girls in a relationship should not go to clubs as thats a "hoe" place to be in. I remember fighting to go to a club when an old friend was visiting me and she wanted to go to one of our fave clubs from our college days. He said he is disappointed in me and that going to clubs with a single friend is the worst as she might try to hook up with guys and I'll be left alone and then someone will hookup with me. He said and I quote "I will not leave my car in a shady areas and pray to god that it doesnt get stolen. It's my mistake I went there at the first place." I ended up going to a bar instead of a club. He made me feel really bad about that as well later.
   
3. Content: After the 2nd month he would send me red pill youtube and reddit content to normalize such preaching and thats when things really got out of hand because I didnt know what to believe and what not to. I thought maybe I was delusional my whole life and that this is the "reality of the world" where women are these "ruthless" beings. (He said I was special because I was trying to make myself aware about it). He specifically showed and talked about this one story where the wife cheats on her husband because he's always busy at work (He said the poor guy is working his ass off for the family and the wife is so ungrateful) The wife cheats and marries her boyfriend and takes the kid and the guy's money and what not. I'm not saying cheating is good but the interruption of every story led to the same conclusion that women are bad. He said this is the reality. I started questioning myself more and more as I got trapped in the red-pill community.
   
4. Future: He was very sure about our future and said that he wanted me to be his wife. He said he doesnt want me to work. Females should stay at home cook and clean and take care of the babies. He said it would hurt him to see me work as he's the man of the house.
   
5. Comments on Body: I'm overweight atm but when I was dating him I used to be in better shape. He said He likes that I take care of my body and anything else would be a disrespect to the person you are dating. One should always look like how they looked when they first started dating. One shouldnt "let go" of their body. He used to go to the gym and would insist that I go to. Later in the relationship towards the end, I started my masters and Couldnt be active. The relationship was taking a toll on me as well and I started gaining weight. He would comment on it. I would share photos with him and the first comment would always be like "you look thin in this" or " Oh! In picture toh you look fine only " He did motivate me to go to the gym which i was grateful about but at that point I only went to make him happy and not because I actually wanted to go.
   

These were some of the red flags I could think about. He cheated on me. He had been cheating the last 3 Months of our relationship. He initially broke up saying I had gained weight and he wasnt attracted to me and also because he couldnt see any future in our LDR. Later he confessed that he had been cheating on me and left me because he started getting physical with the other girl and it was no longer "just talking". He said I was trying to get rid of me for a while but I never let him leave. All in All. It ended. It took me quite some thing to realize how I was brainwashed into accepting a whole new reality masked as ' I love you thats why I'm helping you understand the real world'.
I have trust issues (ofc!) and It's been hard to undo the damage. I started dated a new guy recently and caught myself saying You cant have girl best friends and it broke my heart later when I realized. Its a long healing path for me. If any of you are experiencing something similar, Please be aware.

I’m sort of friends with this guy. I say sort of cause we’re really not close at all and barely hang out.
Anyways a few months ago when we were trying to hang out we almost did at one point but then on that day they had to cancel. I can’t remember why but it’s no biggie so we just ended up meeting up a few weeks later when we were both free again.
Now today we were supposed to meet up and they cancelled again. They said they had to meal prep or something like that and didn’t think about it beforehand. Keep in mind I confirmed with them like two days ago if we were still meeting up (they kind of gave me flaky vibes for some reason) and they said yes.
I bought a special type of wine they like and everything, I don’t even think I’m gonna like it tbh but I knew they’d enjoy it.
Sooo they want to meet up again next week instead but I think I’m kinda over hanging out w them. I’m not mad at them or anything, they’re a cool / funny person, but I’m not really into flaky ppl (they literally told me they can be flaky btw).
Should I send them a message saying I can’t hangout this weekend and end it there? I just don’t know if that’s dramatic or not - but I really just HATE trying to hang out with flaky ppl.
Again no negative feelings towards them at all!

Looking to chat, get to know someone and hopefully we click and get along well. Ideally there would be a good chance of meeting up in the future. So about myself. Currently 24 from Ireland. Looks wise I’m average height I’ve brown hair and green eyes. Spend a lot of my spare time playing sports or watching. I play football and rugby. Outside of sports I spend a decent amount of time cooking where I’ve gotten pretty good at it. Also play video games, go to the movies, try and go to some live music every month or so as well. Ideally like to always have something planned each weekend. Even if it’s to do nothing. Personality wise I’ve been described as very laid back. If you have read this far might as well message me. You can send me a bit about yourself or try have a go at a icebreaker.

Physical build: 170cm, black hair, brown eyes (with tiny mixture of green), cerebral palsy
Work: I'm currently working as a Technician in 1st-Level-Support in Dusseldorf
Hobbies/interests: Biblical Prophecies, History, video games, politics, fitness
Tell us a bit about your Christian journey:
I am an Orthodox Christian (Eastern Christendom)
My baptism took place when i was an infant, in the Church of St. Demetrius. But like many of my countrymen, i only participated in holidays and rituals just because it is a part of the national identity. I never believed in anything. However that would change through a chain of events that led me to my conviction that i needed to revisit this ancient faith. For the sake of the reader, i will make a bulletin of events to make it easier for you.

1. Came to Germany when i was 15
2. 3 monts later i ended up in foster care
3. led an undisciplined life, be it physically or spiritually
4. The unravelling chaos in the foster care left me bittered
5. saw order in the islamic faith
6. almost converted because of insecurities
7. mother encouraged me to stay in the faith
8. began to learn about christianity in General and worked my way to Orthodoxy

What sort of person are you looking for?

1. A person who tries their best to do the right thing
2. is just
3. strict
4. cheerful
5. charitable
6. likes to stay in shape

The best way to know each other, at least from my pov, is to meet eachother online through a video call. So do not be dismayed if you don't fit everythig in the bill from the get go. That is the interesting part of growing in a relationship, again from my pov.
Age range: 18-25
Would you be willing to do long distance/relocate? I have no issues with long-distance relationships as long as we remain loyal to eachother. Relocating however, is not possible for the time being. that is not to say that i won't relocate, as i am thinking of abandoning the city life and move to a quiet and peaceful village. Wherever the Lord may wish.
May the Lord keep you all safe, regardless of where you are.

Genuinely unsure about this one.
I remember up until a certain point my family seemed happy, but it's all hazy now. And it seems like an illusion.
The most vivid thing I can remember from my early childhood is the house all messed up from my mum and I tearing stuff down and breaking it because she just completely lost it at random points in the week (usually the weekend) for whatever reason and I also started rampaging out of frustration myself. This happened many times but it was always the same. Can't really remember how or why, just that mum couldn't control herself.
It would all be cleaned up and neat by the time dad came home and he had no idea about this since he was always working.
Grandma came in for an intervention at some point and actually took care of me instead of mum who decided she had to run away and live somewhere else, alone. But grandma's also pretty messed up, is clinically depressed, and has a habit of chipping away at you mentally, emotionally. No one around me really seems to believe in family bonds. It's all very transactional.
In the end grandma also had to leave and I spent most of my years alone at home as soon as I was legally allowed to be.
Every time I'd complain about feeling negatively affected by everything happening at home, mum told me that I had it much better than the terrible life she had. And yeah, I guess she did. She'd conclude that no family is perfect, and everyone has it this bad, or even worse, behind closed doors.
I can't tell if what she said was true. Is it even possible for everyone involved in a family to be respectful with each other and get through the hard times together?
Once again, logistic problems... financial problems... etc all preventing me from getting real therapy + counselling. Trying hard not to spiral and posting here instead

I've been using Linux for a while and I'm pretty happy with it. Recently, my girlfriend decided she wants to switch from Windows 11 to Linux for her PC. She plays basic games, most of which have a gold or higher rating on ProtonDB (except for Roblox, which she can play on her laptop).
I've been daily driving NixOS and love it. Before that, I used Fedora but found some things too complicated, like setting up DaVinci Resolve and changing my desktop environment. NixOS makes it easy to revert to an older config if something goes wrong, but it just doesn't have any good graphical applications for installing and updating things.
Her PC runs Windows 11 (with the workaround) but it hasn't been a great experience for her. If Linux doesn't work out, she'll revert to Windows 10 until it loses support.

What We're Looking For:

• Customization: She wants to personalize her system.
• Stability: She needs a stable system that's easy to fix if something breaks, preferably without using the command line.
• User-Friendly: Having a bunch of graphical apps is a huge bonus, including a software store and the ability to try out and switch desktop environments. (She will likely end up with kde)
• Gaming and Discord: She uses an AMD GPU and primarily wants to game and chat with friends on Discord.

My Preferences:

• I'm the one looking for recommendations since I will teach her the basics of Linux and the terminal. However, I don't want to spend my evenings fixing her PC if she breaks it accidentally or if an update causes issues.
• Personally, I've been considering NixOS for her because I can reuse most of my own config and help troubleshoot easily. She's somewhat comfortable using Nix packages and could handle running a simple script to rebuild the system.

Questions:

• What Linux distros should we consider?
• What do you guys recommend for her needs?

Thanks in advance for your help!

Over the course of my 4 year marriage to my partner, I have arrived at the position that I was abused, manipulated, and functionally enslaved to a mentally ill partner.
In simplest form, the progression is apparently observable. She was diagnosed with cancer in October of 2019 while we were engaged. Due to the diagnosis, we moved up our actual marriage date (our wedding was still set for mid-April) to December 1, 2019. Her surgery was December 13, 2019. In my compassion for her, I agreed to move our wedding date up to offset her anxiety around who would be responsible for her if things went south with her surgical treatment.
Our first month of marriage was straightforward; she was on pain meds recovering from surgery, so the main engagement that occurred was me walking her up and down the hospital hallway as she recovered and trying to meet her base physical needs of hygiene, food, and presence. We stayed in the hospital for 2-3 weeks (with recurring hospital visits for complications).
Quickly after we figured out our marital living situation in her small 3-bed apartment with 2 roommates, our relationship devolved. Specifically, she was irritable because of the pain she was in, causing her to lash out at me with regular frequency for small things. If I didn’t put clothes away in the right place, didn’t anticipate her needs (without her communicating them), or ate the wrong food in front of her she would shout at me and decry me for my thoughtlessness.
These small, critical engagements were wounding and created a distance between us – and there was no upside. She was never kind, never paid mind to needs I might have, and started down a path of cultivating a root of bitterness in her soul. She quickly revealed herself to be venomous, hateful, and vindictive when she felt like she was wronged — and any observation of concern about our marriage resulted me in being accused of being mean or insensitive, even if I spent hours or days calculating the best way to share my concern (and I have a master’s degree in communication where I focused in studying disagreement — I know how to carefully package concerns).
During this time, I worked hard to provide for us, foreseeing a significant time period where I would have to be primary financial provider and caregiver. I increased my income each year we were married by around 25%, finishing our marriage at >$80,000 in yearly income, compared to starting our marriage at a modest $42,000 salary (including dramatically improving our healthcare). Frankly, I increased my income to provide for us in spite of the lack of support at home.
But to be clear: I don’t think it would have been particularly difficult to provide financially if I had an ounce of support at home.
However, the relentless criticism and expectation of mind-reading continued through the years. I rationalized this abuse for the first year of our marriage because of all the excuses to be cruel, she had a good one – she had cancer. I hung onto a hope that it would stop. Contrary to my hope, as the years went on – and our expenses climbed – and I continued to work myself to the bone – she continued to relentlessly critique and even started being more emotionally demanding, expecting me to take responsibility for her inability to cope with her emotions – I was drowning. She was asking too much of me. There was no deliverance from her abuse.
I was exhausted. In the peak of the abuse I endured at her hand, I was working multiple jobs, sleeping 10+ hours a night and napping frequently during the day around meetings and work, then coping with alcohol to numb myself to the abusive dynamic and fall asleep with no support from her. The only time I could approach her sexually was when I was intoxicated, with inhibitions lowered. The only time I could have a conversation with her was with a counselor in the room. Without something to mitigate opportunity for her to be cruel to me, either a mediator or self-medication, I was scared.
I lived at home in a constant state of alert and cognitive fatigue. No matter how I tried to make sense of my home life, I couldn’t. When she looked at or touched me, I would recoil in fear, anticipating some sort of incisive critique or demand expressed. Then she would criticize me for not responding warmly to her, exacerbating the cycle.
I couldn’t meet her needs – I was utterly exhausted. When I would tell her of the exhaustion I experienced in marital counseling, her responses were typically something along the lines of not believing me, denying what I was saying was true, or calling my exhaustion an ‘excuse’. I could interact happily with my friends… why not her?
I did not deny her demands were legitimate; rather, I expressed my inability to meet them because of how fatigued I was. I said ‘I can’t’ so many times. I realize her demands were small; affection, saying ‘i love you’, complimenting her. But it’s disorienting to be consistently berated and belittled by a person and then asked to compliment them and tell them you love them.
The push and pull of abuse is exhausting to a person who is not mentally because it does not make sense.
Further, in counseling I realized that I have forgotten that I have needs. I have lost the tools to even evaluate what my needs might be because, implicitly and explicitly in my marriage, I was told my needs don’t matter.
My marriage made no sense; I was obviously drowning, exhausted with the demands our life imposed on me. I was doing everything I could to get straight. I was in individual therapy, marital counseling, pastoral counseling, trying different antidepressants (4 in total – all with no effect), changing eating habits, trying to reduce my drinking, getting medical tests to see if I had health issues causing my fatigue, and being vulnerable in my friendships in an attempt to invite others in to process and move forward and figure out my marriage. I desperately shared everything I could about my marriage, hoping someone else would crack the code where I couldn’t.
None of my efforts worked. I could not get out of the exhausted state I was in. It’s worth noting here that within weeks of separating I almost completely cut out alcohol, got into a regular sleep schedule, was waking up at 6-7am every day and reading multiple hours (which I couldn’t do in marriage due to cognitive fatigue/distraction), and experienced a resurgence of energy. I have felt the duress I was under lift and lift and lift and the weeks and months have went on.
In retrospect, I was experiencing cognitive fatigue because I was taking the demands my wife was placing on me seriously, but no matter what I did I could not make sense of them. How could she not see that I was doing everything I could to make ends meet – the ends which she was imposing on me? I did not have additional energy left. She would ask me ‘Do you love me?’ and I didn’t know how to respond. How is my work not at least some symbol of love? My dream was to be a poor professor, which she knew – instead I was grinding myself to the bone, working in digital marketing with multiple freelance projects, picking up a bartending gig and a teaching gig on top of full-time employment.
The last straw was when she accused me of abuse. I took that accusation seriously, and weighed it against my experience. ‘Am I an abuser?’ I asked myself. I sorted through my behavior and how I treated her. I came to the conclusion that I may be a poor husband in serious ways; but I am not an abuser. And the abuse question opened the door to the question… ‘I may not be an abuser… but is there abuse in our marriage?’ And the answer quickly became ‘Yes.’
When we were married, I understood that she wasn’t going to work much for a while. However, she worked the bare minimum she could for 4 years, earning at most in a single year $18,000. As the years went on and my income climbed, our debt continued to climb as well. She was still contributing the same, yet spending frivolously on useless knick knacks for our home and a cat. As I packed up our home to sell, the majority of items were dozens of boxes of useless junk she’d accumulated.
She lived a life of mania around finances. We would go to marital counseling and she would regularly express, ‘I would rather be poor and happy than rich and sad’. We were poor and sad. Sure, my income was the highest it’d ever been – but we were still drowning, with debts climbing. At the end of our marriage, we’d accumulated about $20,000 in consumer debt between credit cards and personal loans.
It was traumatizing (and abusive) to go to counseling and be told by my partner she would ‘rather be poor and happy and than rich and sad’ when the factual scenario we were living was neither. She actively denied reality – both my lived experience and the reality of our finances – at my expense. It was killing me, trying to make sense of what we were going through but being unable to make sense of what I was being told and what I was experiencing.
Throughout this time, it is worth adding that she also leveraged my spiritual leadership to ‘set me straight’. I was in a conservative Evangelical space, believing that men are the ultimate provider in a family unit and primarily responsible for the status of the marriage. Because I was not doing what she wanted me to (lavishing her with affection), I was muscled into multiple groups and meetings where pastoral care intervened to restore our marriage. In the moment, I submitted to my pastoral care because of my trust for them and my faith in God. Now, I believe this dynamic was abusive; my pastoral care did not care in any sense for my soul; they only cared about fixing my marriage. No questions around ‘why’ my marriage was so bad were asked; only what was going on and how it could be fixed. I relish the thought of my pastoral care being held accountable for the abuse they exercised upon me during this time on judgment day, albeit through a shaken faith in a God that would enable this dynamic.
With my spiritual community, I shared that I felt like she was my tormentor; that she it felt as if I were on the ground due to exhaustion, and she was standing on my throat, telling me to ‘get up’ and ‘tell me you love me’; that our metaphorical life was a boat, sinking, and I was desperately bailing out water. All the while, she stood at the other end of the boat, desperately bailing water in and looking at me like I was a maniac.
And yet, because there was no adultery, there was no category for divorce. We had sworn an oath before God and were required to fix this.
As I reflect upon my marriage (and the ongoing divorce proceedings), a few things are clear.
She is an abuser. I don’t think she intends to be, but impact matters. She is mentally ill and unable to reckon with basic reality.
She is a manipulator. She manipulated my spiritual community against me. I was viewed as someone to be corrected while begging for help from my trusted friends and pastoral care, whom I now regret being vulnerable with due to their abuse and denial of my reality because I didn’t fit neatly into their thin theological categories.
She is an enslaver. In divorce proceedings, she is doing everything she can to get every dollar from me, leveraging student loans I did not co-sign, my continually increasing income due to my hard work, and denying every claim of dissipated assets she can.
It is truly a mind-breaking experience to see your compassion leveraged against you for money. I had to sit under an attorney proclaiming to a judge that, since I consented to move up our marriage date before her cancer surgery, ‘I knew what I was getting into’. That she is entitled to large sums of money (that do not exist; we never had more than $3000 in our bank account during marriage) due to that decision.
Even apart from the abuse, I did not know what I was getting into. Including the abuse, I am full of remorse for having invited such an evil, hateful person into my life.
This experience has been the most challenging to my faith. As I endured abuse from her, I trusted God in a few ways. That the compassion I showed would maybe be rewarded – or, at least not punished. That my spiritual community wanted what was best for me. That God was not a punitive, hateful God (like my partner). I do not believe this trust was well placed, but am open to shortcomings in my views here.
I struggle to consent to a God that allowed my experience to occur. I’m open and processing in some kind of faith, but I really don’t know what it looks like to find a place to put this pain and betrayal that I’m experiencing.
I am a survivor of abuse, and the abuse I endured was mind-shattering. I sacrificed everything to support a partner diagnosed with serious bodily illness, which drove her to hate me and deny my lived experience because she could not reconcile it with the hatefulness she cultivated over our marriage, choosing bitterness over any positivity for four years, poisoning my well-being in the process.
What I envisioned to be the most compassionate moment of my life — marrying a person with cancer and promising to support and love them — has become nothing but a symbol of pain and remorse. I envisioned a life where my partner and I would fight against the terror of cancer; instead she hopped to the other side, choosing her ongoing health issues as the ally and myself as the enemy.
It took me 4 years to realize it. And as she drags me through court to leverage every dollar out of me I can, my only regret is that I didn’t leave my abuser to her own devices sooner; self-pity, hatefulness, and a sheer disregard toward taking responsibility for anything.
I am grateful but drowning. As we are negotiating settlement, the end is near, and my abuser will soon be unable to execute any influence in my life.

I (31F) was sexually abused as a child by my mom’s second husband (my step father). I disclosed the abuse to her the SAME DAY it happened when I was 9, and she chose to acknowledge it and she believed me, but didn’t do anything about it. She openly said to me, that she wasn’t going to act on it and what on earth did I expect her to do. She outlined and guilt tripped me as a child by stating that if we went to the police, we would lose our house, have to move from friends etc. She stayed with him, I stayed in the same house, she brushed it under the rug and pretended like nothing happened. Long story short I had to live another hellish few years of my childhood and teens with this guy still trying to abuse me constantly, with several other incidences happening and with me not telling my mom about the other incidences, as I had no trust in her to do anything. Around the same time she cut me off from my bio father who lived out of state, but who I would see regularly, but from the time I told her of the first incident, I stopped seeing him. As an adult I now see she was trying to avoid him finding out about the SA.
Fast forward in to my adult hood, I left home fast at 17 and waded through addiction, substance abuse and major anxiety… not a wonder though with my past. I get through all this in to adult hood and have 3 beautiful children with my partner. My mom still lives with this guy, I still associated with my mom and visit on holidays and NEVER let my kids near this creep. Most of my time spent with my Mom is her coming to me without the creep.
Fast forward again, and someone approaches me to tell me they have been SAd by this same guy as a child… which brings out that he had also abused ANOTHER child. These two didn’t know I was also abused before disclosing to me, but I then tell them. This starts the process of cop involvement and eventually he was charged, went through trial (where he plead NOT GUILTY all throughout) and in the end he was found guilty and sentenced. The dude is an offical pedo. The cops also questioned why she didn’t protect me as a child, but nothing came of it.
When it came out that pedo had also abused two other children, I went to my Mom and said I think it’s time to stop playing the games, this guy is dangerous, your grandchildren need to be completely away from him and you need to get away from him.
She chose not to. She states that all her finances are tied in with him, she’s nearly retirement age and by going through the court process like I did, I have ruined her life.
I totally understood that this was life changing for her. I also know that she’s sleeping in the bed she’s made by not dealing with my abuse as a child, but I was willing to forgive and help her forge a new life and move on together as a family. Again, never underestimating how her life would be turned upside down. There were multiple offers of support to help her, financially and emotionally.
She has now made my life hell, by turning a lot of close family against me, not telling them the full truth of what actually happened, blatantly lying and saying that he was charged and sentenced because me and the other victims set him up. I have been on the end of some vile comments and messages accusing me of ruining her life.
My partner and I decided enough was enough and cut contact with her.
AITA here? She certainly has told the whole world I am and I’m trying to do what’s best for my family, but I feel like I’m under a spell of manipulation and that she is actually kinda crazy.
Help?

Hello we are 2TMC a 21+ community server much like Hermitcraft. We are a SMP with emphasis on being friendly (with a little bit of chaos) with other players, and trying to be a welcoming community to everyone. We are running a Semi-Vanilla server with a few terrain generation mods and additional mods that enhance the vanilla experience (see list below).
We are looking for players who will be active in game on chat and on our Discord voice channels. The server is in NA but we accept players from all around the world. Discord and a mic are required! We love to chat on voice in game but it's definitely not required! We are also youtubestreamer friendly. So if you love to play minecraft and are looking for a friendly environment where you can prank others and do community projects then send us a message! We'd love to chat with you.
Data packs on the server

• afkdisplay
• anti enderman grief
• armored elytra
• better item frames
• blackstone cobblestone
• blaze and cave's advancements pack
• coal to black dye
• charcoal to black dye
• confetti creepers
• coordinates hud
• craftable notch apples
• craftable coral blocks 3x3
• craftable gravel
• craftable bundles rabbit hide
• custom nether portals
• double shulker shells
• dragon drops
• durability ping
• fast leaf decay
• graves
• larger phantoms
• more mob heads
• mountain angels
• name formatting station
• player head drops
• real time clock
• silence mobs
• straight to shapeless
• unlock all recipes
• universal dyeing
• unpackable nether wart
• villager workstation highlights
• wandering trades hermit edition

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Fabric mods on the server

• armor poser
• audioplayer
• cloth config api
• clumps
• enhanced groups
• fabric per player spawns
• geophilic
• head index
• just an end anchor
• keep head names
• more mob variants
• no chat reports
• player pronouns
• radio
• regrowth
• shulker+
• shulkerboxtooltip
• simple voicechat
• slimyfloor
• status
• stitched snow
• terralith
• towns and towers
• william wythers' overhauled overworld

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Fabric mods required to join the server

• armor poser
• cloth config api
• just an end anchor
• more mob variants
• no chat reports
• shulker+
• simple voicechat
• status
• xareos minimap
• xareos worldmap

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Server Rules

1. Be Respectful
2. No griefing, stealing, or cheating
3. Chat is English only
4. Non-Destructive Pranks are allowed (so Hermitcraft style pranks)
5. Spawn area is for a spawn town
6. Bases must be built 250 blocks away from Spawn.
7. No duping except for carpet, rail and tnt.
8. No combat logging, this means mobs as well.
9. Taking items/griefing from active and maintained ruin sites is prohibited.
10. No hacking or hacked clients
11. No using others builds, items, villagers, etc without their permission.

If you are interested in joining please fill out this application

I was looking for some joke greeting cards one evening after seeing a video on Instagram. The card does not stop playing the music after it has been opened and if you tear it open, it spills glitter all over. I accidentally clicked a bogus link instead of one of the reputable companies that sells these cards. To my defense, I was on a business trip that was quite stressful and it was 1am.
I woke up at 6am and saw my order was confirmed and the domain was just nonsense (blstdispse.com). There was an option to cancel the order so I clicked that and was put in a queue. None of the live agents were available so I waited for a response via email. A few hours later I was told the order was already shipped and I couldn't cancel but could get a refund once I received the items. The charge hit my credit card and it was Blast Dispatch in the UK.
A couple hours after that I got a tracking link that showed my package was received in Ferrara, Italy. After 7 days it made it to Venice, Italy. Another day went by and it now shows in Italian Customs. The tracking page is tracking-hub.com and it claims to track 665 couriers. The funny thing is that my "tracking number" is 20 digits long of just numbers. It only accepts "tracking numbers" in that format. I found that I can change the last number and it shows me tracking for other shipments. They are all in the same format of 1) acceptance, 2) left sorting center, 3) received in another city in the same country, 4) in customs in the same country. It never leaves the country and even shipments within a country, it ends up in customs. A shipment from Houston TX to Sacramento involves US Customs on this website.
I am sure they are sending me something, and it's probably just dropship crap. I already got the real card in the mail from the official site so I filed a chargeback with Citibank. 12 hours later I received an email from customer service at blstdispse.com telling me that they have refunded my order. It was only $45 and I knew I had enough evidence to prove to my bank it was a scam. Still surprised I actually placed the order on this shitty site!

Hello we are 2TMC a 21+ community server much like Hermitcraft. We are a SMP with emphasis on being friendly (with a little bit of chaos) with other players, and trying to be a welcoming community to everyone. We are running a Semi-Vanilla server with a few terrain generation mods and additional mods that enhance the vanilla experience (see list below).
We are looking for players who will be active in game on chat and on our Discord voice channels. The server is in NA but we accept players from all around the world. Discord and a mic are required! We love to chat on voice in game but it's definitely not required! We are also youtubestreamer friendly. So if you love to play minecraft and are looking for a friendly environment where you can prank others and do community projects then send us a message! We'd love to chat with you.
Data packs on the server

• afkdisplay
• anti enderman grief
• armored elytra
• better item frames
• blackstone cobblestone
• blaze and cave's advancements pack
• coal to black dye
• charcoal to black dye
• confetti creepers
• coordinates hud
• craftable notch apples
• craftable coral blocks 3x3
• craftable gravel
• craftable bundles rabbit hide
• custom nether portals
• double shulker shells
• dragon drops
• durability ping
• fast leaf decay
• graves
• larger phantoms
• more mob heads
• mountain angels
• name formatting station
• player head drops
• real time clock
• silence mobs
• straight to shapeless
• unlock all recipes
• universal dyeing
• unpackable nether wart
• villager workstation highlights
• wandering trades hermit edition

​
Fabric mods on the server

• armor poser
• audioplayer
• cloth config api
• clumps
• enhanced groups
• fabric per player spawns
• geophilic
• head index
• just an end anchor
• keep head names
• more mob variants
• no chat reports
• player pronouns
• radio
• regrowth
• shulker+
• shulkerboxtooltip
• simple voicechat
• slimyfloor
• status
• stitched snow
• terralith
• towns and towers
• william wythers' overhauled overworld

​
Fabric mods required to join the server

• armor poser
• cloth config api
• just an end anchor
• more mob variants
• no chat reports
• shulker+
• simple voicechat
• status
• xareos minimap
• xareos worldmap

​
Server Rules

1. Be Respectful
2. No griefing, stealing, or cheating
3. Chat is English only
4. Non-Destructive Pranks are allowed (so Hermitcraft style pranks)
5. Spawn area is for a spawn town
6. Bases must be built 250 blocks away from Spawn.
7. No duping except for carpet, rail and tnt.
8. No combat logging, this means mobs as well.
9. Taking items/griefing from active and maintained ruin sites is prohibited.
10. No hacking or hacked clients
11. No using others builds, items, villagers, etc without their permission.

If you are interested in joining please fill out this application