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bf (19/M) and I (19/F) have been together 1.5yrs and he’s talking to other girls. What should I do?
2024.05.19 03:28 user_8287 bf (19/M) and I (19/F) have been together 1.5yrs and he’s talking to other girls. What should I do?
I don’t really know what to do. I think he is cheating on me. My boyfriend of over a year and a half has had a couple of incidents of talking to other girls while we have been dating. For context, we are both on the summer break in between freshman and sophomore year of college. We started dating when we were seniors in high school and I knew I would be attending a 4-year university when I graduated. His parents were advising him to attending Community College to save money, but ultimately followed me to college and we lived together in the dorms. We are looking into renting an apartment for the upcoming school year. The first time, it was right around my 19th birthday and our one year anniversary. He was texting a multitude of other girls on both Snapchat and Instagram. The messages did not consist of much, and many of the girls didn’t even respond. I don’t remember how I found out, all I know is that it crushed me. We’ve known each other our entire lives. My parents both work together with his dad and our mom’s were pregnant with us at the same time. We didn’t grow up close but we’ve known each other for a long time. We’ve had on and off crushes on each other for a while, but the timing never worked out. After I found out, it was really tough for me to get over it. I’ve been cheated on in the past and had a really hard time trusting a significant other again, all of which he knows about. The second time it happened was only a few months after the first, right at the beginning of December. I found out because he had a secret account on Snapchat that connected him through his phone number. I went through his phone, just to verify to make sure I wasn’t bringing it up without evidence. The texting, again, was over both Snapchat (on a second account) and Instagram (another secret account). The messages consisted of the same thing, with a limited response from the women. This time, he decided to text his ex-girlfriend. This one was really hard for me because he dated me very very quickly after breaking up with her (he claims she cheated on him, but I can’t know for sure because he never confirmed it from her, which was his reason for reaching out to her in the first place, for “closure”). We had a company Christmas party that we were attending together only three days after I found out (both sets of parents and the entire company that we grew up around would be there. It would have been awful explaining we had broken up). After that, he deleted all social media and I worked on building my trust back up. For 4 months it was great. We were in a super great place… until I started getting new suspicions. He downloaded Instagram about two months ago for a valid reason that I was okay with and just kept it downloaded, which I knew. About a week until we are supposed to move out of the dorms, I see him get an Instagram notification. He clicked on it, and when the app popped up, it asked if he wanted to view on his personal account. This only happens if you are logged into a different account before and it has to switch to the account of which the notification was received from. I simply took this as a red flag, and looked through his phone the next day, but didn’t find anything. Fast forward to now, only two weeks into summer break and I saw another thing that raises a red flag. He was on Instagram, and it was very clearly an empty (or maybe only one or two texts) DM of someone. I didn’t get a good look at the screen before he swiped out of it (not fast, like he was trying to hide it though). Now I’m just wondering what the hell im gonna do. We are both staying at our respective parents’ houses for the summer, so we don’t see much of each other during the week because I work 40 hour weeks and he is taking summer classes online. I trusted him enough to download his socials again, but I don’t know if I will ever get completely over this situation, even if he isn’t talking to anyone. We have our fair share of issues within our relationship, my dad and him have a slightly strained relationship, and me and my parents do NOT like his dad (but his dad doesn’t know I don’t like him). His family is wonderful, and I truly do love him, and I genuinely believe that he loves me. But my trust is so thin and I don’t know if I will ever fully trust him if he has social media. The first time I stayed with him because he was sorry and I knew that, I needed to put more effort into the relationship. The second time, I felt like I was staying more out of convenience, and told him that if this ever happened again, I will walk out without even speaking to him. I don’t know what to do. The strain that he has between himself, me, and my family is a major factor into my decisions because I am super close with my family and there have been many arguments about him between us. I don’t know if I should go through his phone to see if I’m just making a big deal out of nothing. I don’t know if I should just break up with him because I don’t trust him. I don’t know if I should confront him and see if he will come clean. I don’t know if I should just shut up because our families are so intertwined. I don’t know where I would live next year when I go back to school (my parents think it’s a bad idea to get an apartment, his parents fully support it). There are just so many factors pulling me in different directions that I don’t know how to handle it. I never told anyone about his shenanigans, so I feel like I can’t talk to anyone about it either. If you were me (or have been in a similar position), let me know what you would do. We are so young, but he has told me many times that he wants to marry me, and he would today if I would let him. I’m just so upset that I thought I could trust him, and he’s broken it many times. Please help!
TL;DR; My bf (19m) and I (19f) have been together over 1.5yrs. We live together at university, but are apart for summer break. I have caught him texting other girls (not full convos, and many without response from the girls) two times, but I am starting to suspect that he is doing it again. What should I do? Try to find an opportunity to look through his phone? Just break up? We have a lot of family that know each other (our parents work together) so it would be so awkward. Confront him? Open to ideas!
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TL;DR; My bf (19m) and I (19f) have been together over 1.5yrs. We live together at university, but are apart for summer break. I have caught him texting other girls (not full convos, and many without response from the girls) two times, but I am starting to suspect that he is doing it again. What should I do? Try to find an opportunity to look through his phone? Just break up? We have a lot of family that know each other (our parents work together) so it would be so awkward. Confront him? Open to ideas!
2024.05.19 03:22 mysweetclover Am I overly attached?
I'm dependent on my parents and I sometimes wonder if I'm overly attached to them, specifically my mum. We spend every day together unless my parents are on vacation or I'm spending the night at my grandma's or my friend's house.
Ever since I graduated from school we've been spending much more time together (because I'm not going somewhere else everyday). I go on her appointments with her (she has chronic illness so there are many) and pretty much go wherever she goes.
I started wondering about this today because she's at a date with my dad right now and I feel sad being away from my parents. I get nervous when I'm home alone, and anxious they might get into an accident and I'll never see them again. Part of me gets scared because I know I depend on them, but another part of me gets scared because I just love them so much. :(
I tried to research if it's normal to feel this way, but all of the results were about kids who would become independent eventually. I can understand that you need to get used to being independent if you're capable of that, but what about if you're not? I'm 23. How can I judge if someone like me, who will always be dependent on their parents, is overly attached?? (Even though I don't like thinking about it, I do know one day they will get old and I'll have to find other care, but I hope you know what I mean.)
I know I can probably survive on my own for a little while, probably a few days, but everytime my parents go on vacation (just a weekend away) I have had my aunt or a friend stay with me. I feel very uncomfortable being alone. Am I just being overdramatic??
I also think my attachment to my parents, my home, and my dogs, are part of why I get so homesick staying at other places. Is this something I should try to "get over"?? I don't know how I could.
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Ever since I graduated from school we've been spending much more time together (because I'm not going somewhere else everyday). I go on her appointments with her (she has chronic illness so there are many) and pretty much go wherever she goes.
I started wondering about this today because she's at a date with my dad right now and I feel sad being away from my parents. I get nervous when I'm home alone, and anxious they might get into an accident and I'll never see them again. Part of me gets scared because I know I depend on them, but another part of me gets scared because I just love them so much. :(
I tried to research if it's normal to feel this way, but all of the results were about kids who would become independent eventually. I can understand that you need to get used to being independent if you're capable of that, but what about if you're not? I'm 23. How can I judge if someone like me, who will always be dependent on their parents, is overly attached?? (Even though I don't like thinking about it, I do know one day they will get old and I'll have to find other care, but I hope you know what I mean.)
I know I can probably survive on my own for a little while, probably a few days, but everytime my parents go on vacation (just a weekend away) I have had my aunt or a friend stay with me. I feel very uncomfortable being alone. Am I just being overdramatic??
I also think my attachment to my parents, my home, and my dogs, are part of why I get so homesick staying at other places. Is this something I should try to "get over"?? I don't know how I could.
2024.05.19 03:20 Aggressive_Recover62 Need Game Plan
I’m 18 (F) I dropped out of public school, switched online, and now at risk of not graduating. I live with my poor immigrant parents, and my brothers going down the wrong path. I have a job but I only get paid 15. I have 200 savings, but I have nothing beyond that. I’ve ruined my reputation, I have no friends, I gained 60 pounds, have acne, been hospitalized, and people in my hometown/fam think I’m a dumb thief/drug addict due to my past actions (I thought it was cool to lie and brag about those things even tho I barely did it.) I didn’t apply to college bc I thought I wouldn’t get in, but now looking back that wasn’t smart. I just want to start small, make money and fix me and my families life. Any tips?
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2024.05.19 03:19 engelthehyp Huang, Ruette et al Communal House Theory
We all know that Cary Huang often films video in a house/houses with other people. Proofs:
More videos obviously filmed on this property are shared between Cary Huang's channels and PeterRuette. Some examples are listed below.
The blue pad room:
You might wonder why I'm doing this. I'm attempting to solve the mystery of Cary Huang - right now, by examining his associates of the first degree as closely as I examined him. It has led to some interesting conclusions. I will keep investigating.
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- BFDIA 12 announcement! (I don't know if this was filmed in the same house. It's so short and dark.)
- BOOTLEG GRASSY PLUSH (ft. @StrangelyUnknown)
- Michael and I are 27 years old!
More videos obviously filmed on this property are shared between Cary Huang's channels and PeterRuette. Some examples are listed below.
The blue pad room:
- "BFDI Chaos" by PeterRuette
- "How to save Evil Leafy!..." by Humany (Cary Huang)
- "Unboxing the Hexagon Klotski" by cubykh (Cary Huang)
- "Fourisbee" by PeterRuette
- "Woody is conquering his fears!" by Humany (Cary Huang)
- "Discord posted a BFDI short and i stitched jt. Glorp glorp" by Humany (Cary Huang)
- "BOOTLEG GRASSY PLUSH (ft. @StrangelyUnknown)" by Humany (Cary Huang)
- "NEW BFDI DANCE TREND ALERT!!!..." by Humany (Cary Huang)
- "Cary says BOTTLE CAP" by PeterRuette
- "5000 subs! Featuring Reginald (the plant)" by PeterRuette
- "Michael and I are 27 years old!" by Humany (Cary Huang)
You might wonder why I'm doing this. I'm attempting to solve the mystery of Cary Huang - right now, by examining his associates of the first degree as closely as I examined him. It has led to some interesting conclusions. I will keep investigating.
2024.05.19 03:14 lightgreenherb Urgent Help with finding housing x-post
Hello, I am writing this post as I desperately seek to better my life and avoid losing out on some help that I desperately need. I have a wife and 5 children in NW MN an hour away. I used to have a bad problem with alcohol and was arrested for a felony DUI on 10/20/2021 I was sentenced to two years in prison. Shortly after I was arrested my two year old daughter was diagnosed with retinoblastoma a very aggressive cancer. At that point I vowed to change my life for good and do everything I can to be with my family. My daughter lost her right eye, but has been cancer free for almost 3 years now. We are still together as a family, although I cannot live with them at their current house because I have a felony record and she lives in public housing. I need to stay in Grand Forks for a year and work, at that point, I will rent a house large enough for all of us to reside in. I am sober, have went through treatment, counselling, parenting skills classes, graduated as a certified paralegal and work full time in manufacturing. I have never violated my probation, and I just work, sleep, and go visit my family. I have a housing choice voucher through gfha, and it expires on the 30th of this month. If I am unable to utilize it by then I will lose it and be ineligible to reapply. I am in dire need of a place to rent prefer a 1 bedroom but a 2br may work as well maximum rent would be $800. If someone is able to help me find a place that can rent to me and will accept a housing voucher I will pay you. I'll take anything at this point, even a slumlord I have tried numerous places just to have apts rented out from underneath me or be rejected. I'm beginning to really lose hope and am sending this out there with the hopes that some of the efforts I have made towards bettering myself will pay off in someone seeing this and giving me a shot. Not looking for a hand out, just a hand up.
Thanks!
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Thanks!
2024.05.19 03:12 lightgreenherb Desperately seeking help with housing
Hello, I am writing this post as I desperately seek to better my life and avoid losing out on some help that I desperately need. I have a wife and 5 children in NW MN an hour away. I used to have a bad problem with alcohol and was arrested for a felony DUI on 10/20/2021 I was sentenced to two years in prison. Shortly after I was arrested my two year old daughter was diagnosed with retinoblastoma a very aggressive cancer. At that point I vowed to change my life for good and do everything I can to be with my family. My daughter lost her right eye, but has been cancer free for almost 3 years now. We are still together as a family, although I cannot live with them at their current house because I have a felony record and she lives in public housing. I need to stay in Grand Forks for a year and work, at that point, I will rent a house large enough for all of us to reside in. I am sober, have went through treatment, counselling, parenting skills classes, graduated as a certified paralegal and work full time in manufacturing. I have never violated my probation, and I just work, sleep, and go visit my family. I have a housing choice voucher through gfha, and it expires on the 30th of this month. If I am unable to utilize it by then I will lose it and be ineligible to reapply. I am in dire need of a place to rent prefer a 1 bedroom but a 2br may work as well maximum rent would be $800. If someone is able to help me find a place that can rent to me and will accept a housing voucher I will pay you. I'll take anything at this point, even a slumlord I have tried numerous places just to have apts rented out from underneath me or be rejected. I'm beginning to really lose hope and am sending this out there with the hopes that some of the efforts I have made towards bettering myself will pay off in someone seeing this and giving me a shot. Not looking for a hand out, just a hand up.
Thanks!
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Thanks!
2024.05.19 03:11 Sweet-Count2557 Babymoon Goa
 | Babymoon Goa Imagine basking in the warm sun, sipping on a refreshing mocktail, and feeling the gentle ocean breeze caress your skin as you embark on a blissful babymoon in Goa.The idyllic coastal destination offers a multitude of experiences for expecting couples seeking relaxation and rejuvenation before their little one arrives. 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This luxurious resort offers a range of indulgent experiences that will make you feel like you're in a better place.Here are some of the highlights:Personalized room decorations: To enhance the ambiance of your babymoon experience, the resort offers personalized room decorations. These thoughtful touches create a relaxing atmosphere that will help you unwind and enjoy your time together.Candlelit beach dinner: Indulge in an exclusive candlelit dinner by the beach, where skilled chefs prepare gourmet cuisine just for you. With the gentle sound of the waves and the soft glow of the candles, this romantic experience is sure to create lasting memories.Maternity photoshoot: Capture the precious moments of your pregnancy journey with a professional maternity photoshoot. Choose from beautiful outdoor locations as the backdrop for your pictures, creating stunning memories that you can cherish forever.Floating breakfast options: Start your day in a unique and memorable way with a floating breakfast served on a floating tray in your private pool suite. Enjoy a delicious meal while lounging in the pool, surrounded by the serene beauty of the resort.Welcome mocktail: Kickstart your babymoon vacation with a delightful and refreshing mocktail served upon arrival. This special welcome gesture will make you feel truly pampered and set the tone for a relaxing getaway.At Azaya Beach Resort, pampering and relaxation are taken to the next level. Indulge in these experiences and create memories that will last a lifetime.Exploring Goa's Natural BeautyGoa's natural beauty unfolds like a breathtaking tapestry, captivating couples with its picturesque corners, pristine beaches, and serene surroundings. Exploring Goa's natural beauty is an essential part of any babymoon experience. From the moment you step foot on the sandy shores, you'll be mesmerized by the sheer beauty that surrounds you.One of the best ways to immerse yourself in Goa's natural beauty is through beach walks. Stroll hand in hand with your partner along the coastline, feeling the soft sand between your toes and listening to the gentle crashing of the waves. As you walk, you'll come across hidden coves and secret spots that offer a sense of tranquility and seclusion.For those seeking a bit more adventure, water sports are a must. Goa's crystal-clear waters are perfect for snorkeling, diving, and even paddleboarding. Dive beneath the surface and discover a vibrant underwater world teeming with colorful marine life. Or glide across the water on a paddleboard, feeling the cool breeze on your face as you take in the breathtaking views.Sightseeing is another way to explore Goa's natural beauty. Visit Dudhsagar Falls, one of India's tallest waterfalls, and marvel at the cascading white waters surrounded by lush greenery. Or take a sunset cruise along the Mandovi River and watch as the sky transforms into a myriad of colors, reflecting off the calm waters.Exploring Goa's natural beauty is an experience like no other. It allows you to connect with nature, rejuvenate your senses, and create lasting memories with your partner. So, don't miss out on this opportunity to immerse yourself in the stunning landscapes and serene surroundings that Goa has to offer.ConclusionAnd so, our babymoon in Goa comes to an end.As we sit here on the beach, savoring the last moments of tranquility, we can't help but feel grateful for this incredible experience.From the personalized room decorations to the romantic photoshoot, every detail has been perfect.We've indulged in culinary delights and pampered ourselves with relaxation.Goa's natural beauty has left us awe-inspired.As we prepare to embark on our journey as parents, we're filled with love, joy, and memories that will last a lifetime. submitted by Sweet-Count2557 to worldkidstravel [link] [comments] |
2024.05.19 03:02 nastynastybluee Me 19F and my boyfriend’s friend 18M don’t get along, do I have the right to hate him?
I (19F) have been with my boyfriend (18M) for almost 2 years now. We met when we were both in high school and a friend introduced us together and eventually it became something more intimate. In some point of my life, I was kick out of my parents house and now living with him at his parents’ house, but that’s a different story. Don’t worry guys, his parents are very supportive and offered me to stay with them until me and my boyfriend find a place on our own.
Our relationship right now has been a little rocky here and there, only because I believe the honeymoon phase is over and part of that reason is because we’re living together now. I’m not saying it’s bad or toxic or whatever, we just have some disagreements and argue from time to time but nothing really major. My boyfriend is a great and mature man for his age, he’s been working hard and raising money for the both of us so he hasn’t been treating me bad at all.
But here’s the problem.. So I actually don’t have many friends anymore after high school because we eventually just drift apart, but my boyfriend on the other hand has a group of friends that he still hangs out with. And yes, I have met most of his friends and they’re really nice, most of them say hi to me when we see each other out in public. But there is this one friend who just kind of seems like they have a problem with me. Let’s call this friend, John. I met John when my boyfriend, myself, and his friend group were at the park skipping class and just playing card games together. We talked for a little bit and he seemed nice and cool so I just thought he was just simply some nice dude. But I was wrong. After i graduated, I had to look for a warehouse job because I wasn’t on my parents’ insurance anymore and I ended up working for some warehouse bakery factory. During that time I work there, I had bumped into John. We saw each other and just said “oh my god, you work here too??!” Blah, blah. So from there, I figured every time I see him, I might as well just be nice and say hi to him. John works 3rd shift while I work 2nd shift. So when leaving to go to my car, I always see him on the way and just simply wave or say hi. John only greeted me once and then never said anything back. I figured he was just grumpy because he didn’t want to go to work. But soon, he just totally ignored me in total.
Have I talked to my partner about this? Yes, yes I have. And you know what he said? He said “John doesn’t want to speak to you because he’s doing it out of respect” Respect of what exactly? It’s not like I’m trying to flirt with him or anything, I am simply trying to say hi to him. So this actually made me angry because John is an 18 year old man who can’t simply say hi to me? Sounds like someone who’s just ignorant and rude. I explain to my boyfriend and even said “baby, I bet you’re like that too. If someone comes up to you right now and asks if you have a girlfriend, you would ignore them too right?” I know, I know. Some of you girls want your man to do that. But you have to look at their perspective, they don’t know your man isn’t single, it’s better for them to say “I have a girlfriend” and most of the time they apologize and move along. And if they don’t, then your man can ignore, insult, or do whatever you want to them. But I digress, I called out my boyfriend for that and he just only said “I’ll say that next time” and he’ll talk to John about it. So I just left it like that.
Until today, I was going through my stuff while he was laying down on the bed looking for houses for us. He came across a house with 5 bedroom and jokingly said “omg baby we should have roommates” and then I said “yeah but all our roommates is gonna be boys” which he mentions “oh yeah, John, he can stay with us because he can afford it.” I look at him with the ‘are you fucking serious look?’ And mention I didn’t like John after he just straight up ignored me. My boyfriend then proceeded to tell “baby, he has money.” And that’s where he fucked up. I took that as ‘who cares about your feelings, money matters.’ So from there, I started spitting out the meanest things, like to the point where i suggested for my ex to come stay with us because he also has money too. My boyfriend is good guy and told me he didn’t mean it like that and he actually said “I’m not on John’s side at all. I think what he did was wrong and yes, he should apologize for it, I’m just trying to understand why you’re holding this grudge on him for so long?” I explain to him because it hurts me that I’m just doing something so simple and now being ignored just because I’m labeled as “the girlfriend we don’t mess with.” The reason why I want to be comfortable with his friends so that way it wouldn’t be so awkward and I have some help like figuring out my boyfriend’s birthday present. Especially John. Since he is the closest friend to my boyfriend. I’m not trying to be friends, I’m not trying to flirt with them, I just simply want the awkwardness to go away. But part of the reason, why I was arguing with my boyfriend because deep inside I told myself ‘my boyfriend is on John’s side because they’re exactly alike.’ My boyfriend eventually gave up and said “whatever, hate him all you want.” Because I just kept saying nonsense.
We made up after a little bit of silence. But for some reason, I’m still a little upset about this and is crying while typing this as we speak. But what do you guys think? Am I over exaggerating about this and should let go of my hate for John? Or should I talk to my boyfriend more about it?
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Our relationship right now has been a little rocky here and there, only because I believe the honeymoon phase is over and part of that reason is because we’re living together now. I’m not saying it’s bad or toxic or whatever, we just have some disagreements and argue from time to time but nothing really major. My boyfriend is a great and mature man for his age, he’s been working hard and raising money for the both of us so he hasn’t been treating me bad at all.
But here’s the problem.. So I actually don’t have many friends anymore after high school because we eventually just drift apart, but my boyfriend on the other hand has a group of friends that he still hangs out with. And yes, I have met most of his friends and they’re really nice, most of them say hi to me when we see each other out in public. But there is this one friend who just kind of seems like they have a problem with me. Let’s call this friend, John. I met John when my boyfriend, myself, and his friend group were at the park skipping class and just playing card games together. We talked for a little bit and he seemed nice and cool so I just thought he was just simply some nice dude. But I was wrong. After i graduated, I had to look for a warehouse job because I wasn’t on my parents’ insurance anymore and I ended up working for some warehouse bakery factory. During that time I work there, I had bumped into John. We saw each other and just said “oh my god, you work here too??!” Blah, blah. So from there, I figured every time I see him, I might as well just be nice and say hi to him. John works 3rd shift while I work 2nd shift. So when leaving to go to my car, I always see him on the way and just simply wave or say hi. John only greeted me once and then never said anything back. I figured he was just grumpy because he didn’t want to go to work. But soon, he just totally ignored me in total.
Have I talked to my partner about this? Yes, yes I have. And you know what he said? He said “John doesn’t want to speak to you because he’s doing it out of respect” Respect of what exactly? It’s not like I’m trying to flirt with him or anything, I am simply trying to say hi to him. So this actually made me angry because John is an 18 year old man who can’t simply say hi to me? Sounds like someone who’s just ignorant and rude. I explain to my boyfriend and even said “baby, I bet you’re like that too. If someone comes up to you right now and asks if you have a girlfriend, you would ignore them too right?” I know, I know. Some of you girls want your man to do that. But you have to look at their perspective, they don’t know your man isn’t single, it’s better for them to say “I have a girlfriend” and most of the time they apologize and move along. And if they don’t, then your man can ignore, insult, or do whatever you want to them. But I digress, I called out my boyfriend for that and he just only said “I’ll say that next time” and he’ll talk to John about it. So I just left it like that.
Until today, I was going through my stuff while he was laying down on the bed looking for houses for us. He came across a house with 5 bedroom and jokingly said “omg baby we should have roommates” and then I said “yeah but all our roommates is gonna be boys” which he mentions “oh yeah, John, he can stay with us because he can afford it.” I look at him with the ‘are you fucking serious look?’ And mention I didn’t like John after he just straight up ignored me. My boyfriend then proceeded to tell “baby, he has money.” And that’s where he fucked up. I took that as ‘who cares about your feelings, money matters.’ So from there, I started spitting out the meanest things, like to the point where i suggested for my ex to come stay with us because he also has money too. My boyfriend is good guy and told me he didn’t mean it like that and he actually said “I’m not on John’s side at all. I think what he did was wrong and yes, he should apologize for it, I’m just trying to understand why you’re holding this grudge on him for so long?” I explain to him because it hurts me that I’m just doing something so simple and now being ignored just because I’m labeled as “the girlfriend we don’t mess with.” The reason why I want to be comfortable with his friends so that way it wouldn’t be so awkward and I have some help like figuring out my boyfriend’s birthday present. Especially John. Since he is the closest friend to my boyfriend. I’m not trying to be friends, I’m not trying to flirt with them, I just simply want the awkwardness to go away. But part of the reason, why I was arguing with my boyfriend because deep inside I told myself ‘my boyfriend is on John’s side because they’re exactly alike.’ My boyfriend eventually gave up and said “whatever, hate him all you want.” Because I just kept saying nonsense.
We made up after a little bit of silence. But for some reason, I’m still a little upset about this and is crying while typing this as we speak. But what do you guys think? Am I over exaggerating about this and should let go of my hate for John? Or should I talk to my boyfriend more about it?
2024.05.19 02:58 adulting4kids Emotional One Page Stories
Use these to draft one page short stories that can be used to give life to emotional reactions.
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- How do you feel when you find out your favorite book has a sequel?
- Describe the emotion when you receive a surprise gift from a friend.
- What emotions arise when you lose a game you were really looking forward to winning?
- Share the feelings you experience on the first day of a new school year.
- How do you react when you have to speak in front of the class unexpectedly?
- Describe the mix of emotions when you meet a new friend for the first time.
- What's your emotional response when you get a good grade on a test you studied hard for?
- Express your feelings when you have to apologize to someone.
- How does it feel when you successfully solve a challenging puzzle or riddle?
- Describe the emotions when you witness an act of kindness in your school.
- Share your reaction when your parents surprise you with a fun outing.
- How do you feel when you receive a compliment from a teacher?
- Express the emotions when you face a fear and overcome it.
- Describe the mix of emotions when your best friend moves away.
- How does it feel when you achieve a personal goal you've been working on?
- Share your emotional response when you receive constructive criticism.
- What are your feelings when you have to say goodbye to someone you care about?
- Describe the emotions when you create something artistic that you're proud of.
- How do you react when you encounter a challenge you've never faced before?
- Express the feelings when you win a competition against your classmates.
- What emotions arise when you have to admit you made a mistake?
- Share your reaction when you successfully make someone else laugh.
- How do you feel when you see someone being unfairly treated?
- Describe the mix of emotions when you receive recognition for your hard work.
- Express your feelings when you have to confront a difficult situation.
- How does it feel when you help someone who is struggling?
- Share your emotional response when you receive a genuine apology.
- What are your feelings when you witness an act of generosity in your community?
- Describe the emotions when you receive unexpected praise from a peer.
- How do you react when you experience a moment of pure joy?
- Express the feelings when you have to deal with a disappointment.
- Share your reaction when you successfully navigate a new environment.
- What emotions arise when you make a new friend during a group activity?
- Describe the mix of emotions when you have to share something important with others.
- How do you feel when you achieve a milestone in a personal project?
- Express your feelings when you have to confront a situation that makes you nervous.
- How does it feel when you receive support from unexpected sources?
- Share your emotional response when you witness an act of bravery.
- What are your feelings when you receive constructive feedback on your creative work?
- Describe the emotions when you discover a new hobby that you love.
- How do you react when you have to face a rule or consequence you disagree with?
- Express the feelings when you overcome a physical challenge or obstacle.
- Share your reaction when you meet someone who shares your interests.
- What emotions arise when you have to work in a group and contribute your ideas?
- How do you feel when you witness an act of perseverance in someone else?
- Describe the mix of emotions when you learn a valuable lesson from a mistake.
- Express your feelings when you receive encouragement from a mentor.
- How does it feel when you are asked to take on a leadership role?
- Share your emotional response when you make amends with someone after a disagreement.
- What are your feelings when you have to adapt to a sudden change in plans?
- Describe the emotions when you receive unexpected assistance from a classmate.
- How do you react when you have to share your personal achievements with others?
- Express the feelings when you successfully navigate a social situation.
- Share your reaction when you find out your favorite activity is canceled.
- What emotions arise when you have to admit you need help with something?
- Describe the mix of emotions when you receive positive feedback from a teacher.
- How do you feel when you are chosen for a special role or task?
- Express your feelings when you witness an act of fairness in a game or competition.
- How does it feel when you learn something new that challenges your perspective?
- Share your emotional response when you have to comfort a friend in need.
- What are your feelings when you participate in a community service project?
- Describe the emotions when you receive recognition for your kindness towards others.
- How do you react when you have to navigate a situation where you feel misunderstood?
- Express the feelings when you successfully resolve a conflict with a friend.
- Share your reaction when you discover a hidden talent or skill.
- What emotions arise when you have to stand up for what you believe in?
- How do you feel when you experience a moment of gratitude towards someone else?
- Describe the mix of emotions when you have to say goodbye to a beloved pet.
- Express your feelings when you overcome a fear and try something new.
- How does it feel when you receive support during a challenging time?
- Share your emotional response when you witness an act of sportsmanship.
- What are your feelings when you participate in a team-building activity?
- Describe the emotions when you have to navigate a situation where you feel left out.
- How do you react when you receive constructive criticism from a peer?
- Express the feelings when you successfully complete a long-term project.
- Share your reaction when you witness an act of environmental stewardship.
- What emotions arise when you have to cope with the loss of a valuable possession?
- How do you feel when you are entrusted with a responsibility by a teacher?
- Describe the mix of emotions when you participate in a cultural exchange activity.
- Express your feelings when you help organize a surprise for someone else.
- How does it feel when you receive unexpected encouragement from a family member?
- Share your emotional response when you witness an act of compassion in your community.
- What are your feelings when you have to navigate a situation where you feel underestimated?
- Describe the emotions when you receive a heartfelt letter or note from a friend.
- How do you react when you have to confront a situation where you feel pressured?
- Express the feelings when you successfully teach someone a new skill.
- Share your reaction when you witness an act of creativity in your school.
- What emotions arise when you have to cope with the end of a school year?
- How do you feel when you participate in a group project and everyone contributes?
- Describe the mix of emotions when you receive an unexpected apology.
- Express your feelings when you successfully negotiate a compromise with a friend.
- How does it feel when you discover a new way to express yourself creatively?
- Share your emotional response when you witness an act of selflessness.
- What are your feelings when you have to navigate a situation where you feel proud of yourself?
- Describe the emotions when you receive positive feedback for your efforts.
- How do you react when you have to face a situation where you feel out of place?
2024.05.19 02:57 ProFather107 Am I in the wrong?
My wife (28f) and I (28M) live in the states. My parents and brother live close by while my wife’s parents and close family all live in Colombia. We have an 8 month old baby. Long story short, she’s flying out to Colombia and my parents want to say goodbye at the airport. We are going to invite them to our place the night before but we wanted that day to be just us 3 at the airport. AITA or in the wrong for telling them this?
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2024.05.19 02:56 spongerd82 Grandparents
This is a bit of a rant but I'm also wondering if others deal with this.
My partner (34f) and I (42m) have a wonderful 2.5 yo daughter. She was born right in the middle of COVID. Of course, the baby always came first and we did what we had to do to avoid getting her sick. Especially without a fully built immune system. We refused to visit with family because they would refuse to wear PPE and kept getting COVID. Almost my entire family simply didn't think it was a big deal.
Prior to the baby, we would go EVERYWHERE to see them. Their houses, sporting events for the kids (cousins), parties, etc. People never came to see us. We were okay with that dynamic. Once the baby was born, nothing changed. People still never came to see us. Only now, we stopped going places. Again, COVID made it hard, but we invited people over all the time, they just needed to wear a mask.
The family has all but given up on seeing our daughter. For the most part, I've accepted that my family just doesn't prioritize her. However, the one that gets to me is my mother. We had a GREAT childhood. She was always there and was a perfect mom. No issues there. She's practically begged me to have a kid for decades. How is she now? Terrible. For the first year, she, not once, asked if she could help us. Not once offered to babysit. The entire 1st year, she came over to visit 4 times. The first XMAS was the worst experience of my life. It was mid-COVID, and we had XMAS at my mothers house. We made the drive (baby has NEVER slept in the car, ever). I paid for the entire family to take a COVID test and simply asked that anyone that wants to hold her (she was 5 months old then) needed to wear a mask. The only person to hold her? My mother, for less than 30 seconds. Why? Because the mask was uncomfortable. The baby had bloody stool because of an intolerance to moms diet (pork, pepper, nuts, and dairy). So, my wife had a pretty strict diet. What was for dinner? A pepperoni and cheese board and honey baked ham. No lie. I was blown away. Not a single thing for my wife to eat. We left and both my wife and baby cried the entire 45 minute trip home.
Fast forward to now. My mother is still not present. She expects us to take the baby there all the time, but make no effort to come here. Even after approaching her about this 2 times in the past. I never expected my father or step mother to care much. My wife's parents live 3 states away and don't really care either. So, my mother is the single only option my daughter has to have a decent grandparent. I feel horrible that my almost 3 year old doesn't really have a grandparent.
Is this a generation thing? Do boomers just not give a shit about being a grandparent? Do they think it's our job to build the relationship for them? I am at a loss for this.
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My partner (34f) and I (42m) have a wonderful 2.5 yo daughter. She was born right in the middle of COVID. Of course, the baby always came first and we did what we had to do to avoid getting her sick. Especially without a fully built immune system. We refused to visit with family because they would refuse to wear PPE and kept getting COVID. Almost my entire family simply didn't think it was a big deal.
Prior to the baby, we would go EVERYWHERE to see them. Their houses, sporting events for the kids (cousins), parties, etc. People never came to see us. We were okay with that dynamic. Once the baby was born, nothing changed. People still never came to see us. Only now, we stopped going places. Again, COVID made it hard, but we invited people over all the time, they just needed to wear a mask.
The family has all but given up on seeing our daughter. For the most part, I've accepted that my family just doesn't prioritize her. However, the one that gets to me is my mother. We had a GREAT childhood. She was always there and was a perfect mom. No issues there. She's practically begged me to have a kid for decades. How is she now? Terrible. For the first year, she, not once, asked if she could help us. Not once offered to babysit. The entire 1st year, she came over to visit 4 times. The first XMAS was the worst experience of my life. It was mid-COVID, and we had XMAS at my mothers house. We made the drive (baby has NEVER slept in the car, ever). I paid for the entire family to take a COVID test and simply asked that anyone that wants to hold her (she was 5 months old then) needed to wear a mask. The only person to hold her? My mother, for less than 30 seconds. Why? Because the mask was uncomfortable. The baby had bloody stool because of an intolerance to moms diet (pork, pepper, nuts, and dairy). So, my wife had a pretty strict diet. What was for dinner? A pepperoni and cheese board and honey baked ham. No lie. I was blown away. Not a single thing for my wife to eat. We left and both my wife and baby cried the entire 45 minute trip home.
Fast forward to now. My mother is still not present. She expects us to take the baby there all the time, but make no effort to come here. Even after approaching her about this 2 times in the past. I never expected my father or step mother to care much. My wife's parents live 3 states away and don't really care either. So, my mother is the single only option my daughter has to have a decent grandparent. I feel horrible that my almost 3 year old doesn't really have a grandparent.
Is this a generation thing? Do boomers just not give a shit about being a grandparent? Do they think it's our job to build the relationship for them? I am at a loss for this.
2024.05.19 02:51 Own-Fee3630 I hate how elitist and exclusionary the culture is in American colleges
I am graduating this year, and I had a God awful college experience. I got rejected from every club and social organization. I never could figure out how to get invited to a party before graduating. People are condescending and speak down to others. I don’t understand why people enjoy college. For me, college was way shittier than high school
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2024.05.19 02:51 zazushu Seeking Advice on Achieving Financial and Personal Goals by 2025
I am 19 years old and currently enrolled in a three-year Advertising and Marketing Communications diploma program at Mohawk College, which is well-reputed for its Advertising program. I’ll graduate in 2026 and already have two years of experience in the marketing field.
I recently secured a summer Marketing Coordinator position at an NGO, earning $16.55/hour for 40 hours a week on a three-month contract. Additionally, I earn $750/month from freelancing and outsourcing clients.
I live with my parents, who cover my tuition costs, and my monthly expenses are less than $400. My total monthly income is approximately $2,600.
I have several goals I want to achieve by January 2025: 1. Save $15,000 (which is challenging for me). 2. Increase my monthly income to $5,000. 3. Move out and cover my semester fees until graduation. 4. Afford a one-bedroom apartment. 5. Have a flexible job that allows me to travel to Europe every three months to maintain a long-distance relationship (not full-blown vacations).
I know some of these goals may seem unrealistic or difficult given the current economy, but I am determined to achieve them. However, I feel lost about where to start. I estimate I can save up to $5,000 from my summer job and hope to increase my freelance income to at least $2,000/month. I am also hopeful that my summer job contract might be renewed to a full-time position, as this was briefly discussed during the interview.
I would really appreciate any advice on how to start working towards these goals and any strategies to make them more attainable.
Thank you!
TL;DR: 19-year-old marketing student seeking advice on saving $15k, increasing income to $5k/month, moving out, paying tuition, and affording travel to Europe by January 2025.
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I recently secured a summer Marketing Coordinator position at an NGO, earning $16.55/hour for 40 hours a week on a three-month contract. Additionally, I earn $750/month from freelancing and outsourcing clients.
I live with my parents, who cover my tuition costs, and my monthly expenses are less than $400. My total monthly income is approximately $2,600.
I have several goals I want to achieve by January 2025: 1. Save $15,000 (which is challenging for me). 2. Increase my monthly income to $5,000. 3. Move out and cover my semester fees until graduation. 4. Afford a one-bedroom apartment. 5. Have a flexible job that allows me to travel to Europe every three months to maintain a long-distance relationship (not full-blown vacations).
I know some of these goals may seem unrealistic or difficult given the current economy, but I am determined to achieve them. However, I feel lost about where to start. I estimate I can save up to $5,000 from my summer job and hope to increase my freelance income to at least $2,000/month. I am also hopeful that my summer job contract might be renewed to a full-time position, as this was briefly discussed during the interview.
I would really appreciate any advice on how to start working towards these goals and any strategies to make them more attainable.
Thank you!
TL;DR: 19-year-old marketing student seeking advice on saving $15k, increasing income to $5k/month, moving out, paying tuition, and affording travel to Europe by January 2025.
2024.05.19 02:50 Weasleygirl7 Does it get better?
I’ve been working in a group practice with about 26-28 sessions per week for about a year now. I’m very new to the field, graduated last year. I specialize in complex trauma and attachment disorders, and have my own complex attachment history with a personality disordered parent for whom I was essentially a parentified / therapist child. I love this work deeply, but often find myself wondering if it’s worth my personal triggers that come up for me on a weekly basis. I often find myself ruminating and having intrusive thoughts about patients. Lots of fear of rejection and wanting to feel “good enough”. I’m in my own psychoanalytic therapy that I do think is helping me get to the root of what is coming up. But I wonder how others have dealt with burn out and their own triggers coming up in the work. Does it get better as you keep doing your own therapy? Or did you adjust caseload number / specialty to address your needs? 28 feels like a lot to me, but I can’t tell what the true root of the problem is. How do y’all take care of yourselves so you can have a good quality of life while supporting your patients?
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2024.05.19 02:48 ProFather107 AITA for this?
My wife (28f) and I (28M) live in the states. My parents and brother live close by while my wife’s parents and close family all live in Colombia. We have an 8 month old baby. Long story short, she’s flying out to Colombia and my parents want to say goodbye at the airport. We are going to invite them to our place the night before but we wanted that day to be just us 3 at the airport. AITA for telling them this?
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2024.05.19 02:47 ProFather107 AITAH
My wife (28f) and I (28M) live in the states. My parents and brother live close by while my wife’s parents and close family all live in Colombia. We have an 8 month old baby. Long story short, she’s flying out to Colombia and my parents want to say goodbye at the airport. We are going to invite them to our place the night before but we wanted that day to be just us 3 at the airport. AITA for telling them this?
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2024.05.19 02:42 Ok_Veterinarian_2765 31M Aircraft Technician, 150k base pay coming 2025
 | Some raw transparency on a realistic growth not some tech bro with massive growth. I got into schooling right before turning 19. Some detailed context on the journey below. Read if interested ignore if not. submitted by Ok_Veterinarian_2765 to Salary [link] [comments] I was raised by a single father, Vietnam war Vet. 100% service connected disabled. He passed in 2011 the Father’s Day after I graduated high school. Me and my mom repaired our relationship after she did the work and got better & beat her addictions ( bipolar, schizophrenic, use to be on drugs and alcoholic) moved with her. Knew I always wanted to go into aviation. I started school in 2019 at a local community college close to my moms apartment in January 2012. I worked part time while going to school to support myself and help my mom / mentally disabled little brother. I also got VA assistance for school. It was about half the BAH ( 900 a month ) so that’s non taxable accountable income. I finished school December 2013. Licensed Airframe and Powerplant Technician April 2014. First Job I got came September 2014 in Everett WA . Hard as hell to find a job at first and moved all around to get it. Moved back to California to work a per diem contract in November 2014. Something told me from my experience with my dad why work far from my family if my parents are getting older and can get sick. Took a full time job non per diem end of 2015. Less than a year later my mom got stage 4 lung cancer mid 2016. Couldn’t balance work, school for my accelerated BA and taking care of a dying mom. I had my own place, paid her bills at her apartment and mine from my savings. I did have a roommate that helped make that possible with reduced hours and FMLA protecting my job. Mom died January 2018. Airline job came in and started June 2018 and been there since. I did get injured and paid through workers comp end of 2018 into 2019 so there’s a gap in pay. 2020 I worked 9 months took off 3 with those 3 months being at 33% pay to not work. Steady union pay increases. Next year I will be finishing the pay scale. How the airlines structure the pay is majority of pay is held until completion year, which takes 5-7 years to complete structured in steps (For me step 7 to 8 is 26k yearly increase coming June 2025). I wish I could post the pay scale in a second pic for proof. I’ll make 139,588 base. With average 7.35% of our annual salary in a bonus paid out every February. 5.5% 401k match at 11% salary. 5 weeks of vacation a year ( With time increases to 9 weeks after 24 years of service). If I want to make more with OT at my station I can but I choose not to do much. Maybe 40-80 hours a year in total but on average guys done with the pay scale make about 180k casually. The ones here who work OT often probably do about 250k. Any questions feel free to ask! Thanks for reading my word vomit . Sorry if it’s hard to read I tried to make it easy to follow. |
2024.05.19 02:37 ImportanceLanky4675 How would you act if your (42f) sister was talking trash about you (24f) to your family?
Hello everyone,
Im coming to this Reddit because I’m honestly not sure how to handle this situation. It honestly makes me very sad and I feel like I’ve moved on and just want to move on with my life but my sister likes to drag me into drama.
For backstory I lived with my sister when I was 15. I slept on the couch and my mom slept in the spare bedroom. We had to move in there because we lost the house after my mom’s very messy and abusive divorce. I had been neglected for years at that point since I was 10 and my sister started to take care of me more than my mom had the time to. Which I loved at the time. She bought me clothes, spent time with me, etc. well after a few months she became less kind and more controlling. I was essentially the Cinderella of the household, needed to get straight As. She would scream at me if I dirtied a dish and if I let my shoulders show she would tell me to go pray to God. I had to memorize bible verses that were posted on my wall and recite them to her Etc.
I eventually became so stressed out I lost a ton of weight and was throwing up from so much anxiety. I also got my period twice a month from stress. I felt like I was always going to get yelled at or grounded; she really got in my head. To the point where I wasn’t allowed to talk to my mother alone, she would always be there to make sure I didn’t say I needed help. My mom noticed something was up and always would tell me we can leave if I want but I was always scared. Eventually it got to the point where I could swear my sister could tell what I was thinking. Looking back I was just very manipulated.
After dating my boyfriend (now Husband) for a while I realized I felt at peace at his family’s house. His parents were kind and I felt safe. I realized what I was going through really wasn’t normal so I told my mom I couldn’t take it anymore and I just wanted my sister to be my sister. My sister kicked me out at 17, told my mom she didn’t have to leave but I did. My mom and I moved into my friends bottom floor and rented a room. I eventually moved out on my own after I graduated and went to college etc. Also my sister sent me demand letters asking for $5k for the time she spent taking care of me and buying me food and clothes. The last I spoke with her I was saying I’m sorry and I hope we can still get along but she sent me lots of “F U” emails afterward asking for money.
Fast forward to now. I’ve been doing well, I’m married, we both have decent jobs and I’m very happy in life and I don’t think much about my past unless my mom or other sister brings it up. My husband and I are very in love after 8 years (total) of being together and enjoy traveling.
Anyway my sister 42f apparently talks about me to my other sister 32f and essentially hates me. My sister 32f told me today my 42f sister has been telling the whole family that I’m terrible and my husband is controlling etc. which gives me anxiety because honestly I don’t want to lose more family nor do I want to be seen as unkind. I’m trying not to stress about it because I don’t want to feel sick but it’s just hard. I have my grandmothers funeral coming up and it really sucks feeling anxious going to it and seeing her while also knowing others may hate me too. Any advice on how I should handle this?
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Im coming to this Reddit because I’m honestly not sure how to handle this situation. It honestly makes me very sad and I feel like I’ve moved on and just want to move on with my life but my sister likes to drag me into drama.
For backstory I lived with my sister when I was 15. I slept on the couch and my mom slept in the spare bedroom. We had to move in there because we lost the house after my mom’s very messy and abusive divorce. I had been neglected for years at that point since I was 10 and my sister started to take care of me more than my mom had the time to. Which I loved at the time. She bought me clothes, spent time with me, etc. well after a few months she became less kind and more controlling. I was essentially the Cinderella of the household, needed to get straight As. She would scream at me if I dirtied a dish and if I let my shoulders show she would tell me to go pray to God. I had to memorize bible verses that were posted on my wall and recite them to her Etc.
I eventually became so stressed out I lost a ton of weight and was throwing up from so much anxiety. I also got my period twice a month from stress. I felt like I was always going to get yelled at or grounded; she really got in my head. To the point where I wasn’t allowed to talk to my mother alone, she would always be there to make sure I didn’t say I needed help. My mom noticed something was up and always would tell me we can leave if I want but I was always scared. Eventually it got to the point where I could swear my sister could tell what I was thinking. Looking back I was just very manipulated.
After dating my boyfriend (now Husband) for a while I realized I felt at peace at his family’s house. His parents were kind and I felt safe. I realized what I was going through really wasn’t normal so I told my mom I couldn’t take it anymore and I just wanted my sister to be my sister. My sister kicked me out at 17, told my mom she didn’t have to leave but I did. My mom and I moved into my friends bottom floor and rented a room. I eventually moved out on my own after I graduated and went to college etc. Also my sister sent me demand letters asking for $5k for the time she spent taking care of me and buying me food and clothes. The last I spoke with her I was saying I’m sorry and I hope we can still get along but she sent me lots of “F U” emails afterward asking for money.
Fast forward to now. I’ve been doing well, I’m married, we both have decent jobs and I’m very happy in life and I don’t think much about my past unless my mom or other sister brings it up. My husband and I are very in love after 8 years (total) of being together and enjoy traveling.
Anyway my sister 42f apparently talks about me to my other sister 32f and essentially hates me. My sister 32f told me today my 42f sister has been telling the whole family that I’m terrible and my husband is controlling etc. which gives me anxiety because honestly I don’t want to lose more family nor do I want to be seen as unkind. I’m trying not to stress about it because I don’t want to feel sick but it’s just hard. I have my grandmothers funeral coming up and it really sucks feeling anxious going to it and seeing her while also knowing others may hate me too. Any advice on how I should handle this?
2024.05.19 02:37 ppBizon16 Can i marry my girlfriend?
[redacted] my question is; can a muslim male marry a nonmuslim if she says she believes in the idea of God? she thinks that religions are silly and by religions she mainly means her (old/family's) religion: catholic and other religions. She thinks there are too many coincidences for Islam to not have some truth in it. she's busy with Uni and important earthly matters so she says that she'll research Islam when things have settled a bit. I'm the male and we're moving in together next year. i want God to guide us and allow us to marry. I'd like to be much more cultured on my religion and to lead by example of myself. i want to be helpful for any of her questions and inspire her about learning the truth by being what a muslim male should be. A decent, faithful (in God SWT) and strong man. we're not married because her parents are in their country my parents are in another country and we live in a completely different country. both our parents know about the "relationship" and my Mom urged me to pray istikhara and see about marrying her as soon as i can. we're still supposed to graduate and she's going to finish before me and she wants to support me so i can work less and study more. do any of you know of any "similiar" stories from the oldtimes? a hadith speaking about a "similiar" situation would be perfect. I know what the automated response is. But guys. i love her so much she is basically a perfect muslim. she doesn't drink. doesn't party. she's had a few relationships before me but she's low-key regretful. she's so good to Animals. she supports Palestine and finds it absurd that people think Israel is like legitimate and stuff. My main thing is that I've asked God privately so much about if me and her can be together and i always have a warm AND cool feeling as i almost automatically take a nice deep breath; a sense of relief instantly strikes me. every. single. time. this is after I've privately asked God if he can be my witness to marrying her, and even if i know of nothing blatantly stating that this was a thing, i kind of feel like it was or became a thing for me when i asked??? and this was back in the beginning of our relationship where we had not had sex for the first year. for context we live in Europe but it's almost irrelevant given that we're basically talking about universal law here. yeah idk
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2024.05.19 02:32 Beneficial-Salary-90 I feel so alone
Everyday i get closer to not being scared of killing myself. I just found out my only six friends hang out one on on with each other but never with me. They will go out in twos to get food, hang out, go shopping or other shit but never with me. My friend told me she went out to dinner with our friend that lives states away and her college friends who were in the area, yet this girl never invites me to go eat. The only time i’m included in shit is if i make the plans and i have to beg to get together. Two of them are graduating tomorrow and our friends are invited but i’m not. I have been begging to get together with my best friend of 17 years to watch a show we were watching together cause the new season just came out. I am begging my friends to get together cause i had a horrible semester and i just want to joke and goof around with my friends and forget about how much of a failure i am but they “don’t know when they can”. I don’t know what i’m doing wrong. I’m tired. No one likes me. No one will care if i die. No one will care if i kill myself. All i have to get over the fear of the pain of dying and i’ll finally be free. I’m done.
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2024.05.19 02:31 wafflemaster20 Student in Need of Guidance!
I am a 21M who needs a bit of financial guidance as to my personal situation. Here are my current assets:
Checking/Savings(Day-to-Day Spending): 4k
HYSA(Emergency Fund): 20k at 4.3%
ROTH IRA: 14k invested solely in VTSAX
Individual Brokerage: 32k Currently UNINVESTED, 2k invested in individual stocks(playing around with this recent chip/tech boom)
Now for some details on my personal situation. I am currently living at home and attending community college full-time. I will be graduating with an AS(Business) this semester and transferring to a local state school for a degree in Finance this August. I have been lucky enough to have parents who are fine with me living at home, rent-free albeit, as long as I am attending school. Because of this situation, I was able to take advantage of working full-time for the past 1.5 years while saving pretty much every penny apart from necessities like gas, occasional bite out to eat, etc. I am very frugal and don't like spending $$$ on much as I grew up with parents who didn't have a dime to spend on much else apart from the mortgage and caring for the kids. I was laid off from this job due to a business closure at the beginning of the year, which sucked monetarily but also presented itself with some benefits. I have noticed a drastic change in my school performance - getting Bs and Cs prior, and now pretty much all As and much more peace of mind with my educational goals. However, I have picked up a part-time gig earning me about $400 a week which allows me to earn some $$ while not mega-stressing myself out by working 40-50 hours a week while in school.
My main concern now is handling my investments now that I will have to pay tuition(CC is free where I am), which is looking to be around 20k total over the next two years. Would it be a good idea to invest that 32k into VTSAX? Should I place that money elsewhere like a 401k? I am very invested in the concept of FIRE and would like to have financial independence so I want to make sure I am properly managing my own money.
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Checking/Savings(Day-to-Day Spending): 4k
HYSA(Emergency Fund): 20k at 4.3%
ROTH IRA: 14k invested solely in VTSAX
Individual Brokerage: 32k Currently UNINVESTED, 2k invested in individual stocks(playing around with this recent chip/tech boom)
Now for some details on my personal situation. I am currently living at home and attending community college full-time. I will be graduating with an AS(Business) this semester and transferring to a local state school for a degree in Finance this August. I have been lucky enough to have parents who are fine with me living at home, rent-free albeit, as long as I am attending school. Because of this situation, I was able to take advantage of working full-time for the past 1.5 years while saving pretty much every penny apart from necessities like gas, occasional bite out to eat, etc. I am very frugal and don't like spending $$$ on much as I grew up with parents who didn't have a dime to spend on much else apart from the mortgage and caring for the kids. I was laid off from this job due to a business closure at the beginning of the year, which sucked monetarily but also presented itself with some benefits. I have noticed a drastic change in my school performance - getting Bs and Cs prior, and now pretty much all As and much more peace of mind with my educational goals. However, I have picked up a part-time gig earning me about $400 a week which allows me to earn some $$ while not mega-stressing myself out by working 40-50 hours a week while in school.
My main concern now is handling my investments now that I will have to pay tuition(CC is free where I am), which is looking to be around 20k total over the next two years. Would it be a good idea to invest that 32k into VTSAX? Should I place that money elsewhere like a 401k? I am very invested in the concept of FIRE and would like to have financial independence so I want to make sure I am properly managing my own money.
2024.05.19 02:27 Royal_Use_5957 How do I help?
Hello everyone. I’ve come to Reddit as a resort to not knowing where else to go. For context, I’m a 25 year old college student living at home with a father who has prostate cancer. He was diagnosed about two years ago after prolonging his doctors visit for body pains after assuming it was pain from a prior car accident. By the time he finally went, he was already stage 4. I’ve had other family members who have had different forms of cancer, so, I’ve seen the physical and emotional toll that accompanies having a sick family member. However, I’ve never experienced something like this that’s this close to me, witnessing the decline in health day-by-day.
I’m writing this post because I feel absolutely helpless, and I’m not sure what more I can do. He’s currently a vegan, and we’ve tried herbal remedies (sea moss, black seed oil, sour soup leaves, etc, with no results. We’ve tried alkaline dieting but found that it’s hard to maintain, especially when he becomes deficient in nutrients. He’s lost 50+lbs in two months because he cannot keep any food down. And as we speak, he is in excruciating pain. The cancer spread to his bone and there’s multiple tumors in his spine and skull. The doctors have put him through multiple treatment’s and medicines like xtandi, pain killers, chemo, etc. Just seems like there’s nothing that’s keeping his psi levels down. I can’t help but to blame the overall American health care system when he’s taken all these treatments with no results, and the immunotherapy Keytruda treatment that could help save his life is denied by insurance.
I mentioned my age and that I was a student because I am not established with a career yet, and I have no clue on how to handle any of this emotionally and financially. I have a job that makes me about a little under 3k a month, it’s not much, but I can’t leave my job because it’s paying for my university tuition. After all expenses (rent, insurances, groceries,etc) I can’t help out any more financially. Ive cut back on useless spending, going out/eating out, and am starting to get into debt ($1.5k) after helping with family expense’s. I’ve thought about picking up another job, but I’ve been doing 15 credit semesters to try and hurry my graduation process (about 1 year left) so I can get a career to help my parents out. The workload is a lot, I shamefully admit that I have to abuse my ADHD medication just to keep up with work, caretaking, and school. I feel horrible even talking about my problems, but emotionally I cannot handle this. I don’t sleep often because of school and the anxiety over the possibility my father will passes. If he passes, I don’t even know how my mother and I will manage. My mother and step father just got married over a year ago, and after all my mother has gone through, for her to finally find her person and to lose him so soon breaks me.
This whole situation isn’t about me, so my problems are way less important compared to the life of my father. That’s why this feeling of helplessness is unbearable because it’s not a matter of wanting to do more, I need to do more for the sake of his life and my mom.
I ask for your advice and opinions on whether I should pause university, and strictly focus on a job that could sustain my family better, or continue with school and pick up a second job and just try to make it work? How does dealing with a sick family member manage emotionally? Also, if there’s any possible resources for prostate cancer treatments, and any sources that can help with the finances? Thank you so much in advance. I wish nothing but good health and a happy life to all of you regardless if you respond or not.
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I’m writing this post because I feel absolutely helpless, and I’m not sure what more I can do. He’s currently a vegan, and we’ve tried herbal remedies (sea moss, black seed oil, sour soup leaves, etc, with no results. We’ve tried alkaline dieting but found that it’s hard to maintain, especially when he becomes deficient in nutrients. He’s lost 50+lbs in two months because he cannot keep any food down. And as we speak, he is in excruciating pain. The cancer spread to his bone and there’s multiple tumors in his spine and skull. The doctors have put him through multiple treatment’s and medicines like xtandi, pain killers, chemo, etc. Just seems like there’s nothing that’s keeping his psi levels down. I can’t help but to blame the overall American health care system when he’s taken all these treatments with no results, and the immunotherapy Keytruda treatment that could help save his life is denied by insurance.
I mentioned my age and that I was a student because I am not established with a career yet, and I have no clue on how to handle any of this emotionally and financially. I have a job that makes me about a little under 3k a month, it’s not much, but I can’t leave my job because it’s paying for my university tuition. After all expenses (rent, insurances, groceries,etc) I can’t help out any more financially. Ive cut back on useless spending, going out/eating out, and am starting to get into debt ($1.5k) after helping with family expense’s. I’ve thought about picking up another job, but I’ve been doing 15 credit semesters to try and hurry my graduation process (about 1 year left) so I can get a career to help my parents out. The workload is a lot, I shamefully admit that I have to abuse my ADHD medication just to keep up with work, caretaking, and school. I feel horrible even talking about my problems, but emotionally I cannot handle this. I don’t sleep often because of school and the anxiety over the possibility my father will passes. If he passes, I don’t even know how my mother and I will manage. My mother and step father just got married over a year ago, and after all my mother has gone through, for her to finally find her person and to lose him so soon breaks me.
This whole situation isn’t about me, so my problems are way less important compared to the life of my father. That’s why this feeling of helplessness is unbearable because it’s not a matter of wanting to do more, I need to do more for the sake of his life and my mom.
I ask for your advice and opinions on whether I should pause university, and strictly focus on a job that could sustain my family better, or continue with school and pick up a second job and just try to make it work? How does dealing with a sick family member manage emotionally? Also, if there’s any possible resources for prostate cancer treatments, and any sources that can help with the finances? Thank you so much in advance. I wish nothing but good health and a happy life to all of you regardless if you respond or not.