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2024.05.19 03:18 Designer_Wonder4406 If you love Cassie, you have no right to hate Tony
I'm so sorry but I'm tired of people pretending Cassie is a good person because she really wasn't and in my opinion she was worse than Tony
this is in no way me trying to say that tony wasn't a bad person cuz he was but he was less of a bad person
also btw im not saying that she had a eating dissorder for attention or that her eating dissorder was fake. eating dissorders are very hard and its sad what she was going through but there are some things that have to be said about it
tony was a bad guy but he had his moments and avengely became a better person, he learn from his mistakes and bettered himself but sadly i cant say the same about cassie
when we first meet her in episode one she seems like this funny and nice girl with some problems. she was brought to a party to fuck sid so he would lose his virginity .this is kind of sad. even before we meet her there is said she had problems with eating which is later at the party further shown when she immediately went to the kitchen to sored every this to look at.
even in the first episode the drama starts, when on the trampoline with Sid she tells him that if he wants to fuck her he has to do it fast because she just took a lot of pills.she passes out and they have to steal a car to drive her to a hospital for to then when they get there her to be totally fine.
In episode 2 we find out what her living situation is, which is not ideal. Her parents are dismissive and only think about sex, but compared to the rest, she has one of the best home situations of the group. (this btw isnt her falt but i just wanted to point that out)
she asked sid out which he was clearly not into but he said yes. cassie reminds him of their date but sid tells her that he can't go because he is grounded, but that wasn't good anof for her she tells him the "iconic" line "i didn't eat for 3 days so i could be lovely" that is guilt tripping at its finest. its not her fault she has an eating disorder but using it to make people feel bad for you is just crazy. she asks him if she can come over any ways and he says it isn't a good idea but she comes over any way. to find that sid wasn't there. when he returns home she asks him where he was and he tells her he was with michelle (which was the stupidest thing he could of said at that moment and wasn't even the reason why he snuck out. she gets mad at him and slaps him (with in her defends it was a shitty thing of him to do). the next day she overhears sid calling michelle to make up, she gets up sad and tries to kill herself by overdosing but fails and ends up in a mental hospital. people gave sid the faule which is just not fair. in the Effy episode cassie and sid meet up at the cafe where they share a cute moment and kiss but than he gets a call from michelle because she is worried about tony and thinks he might need help he tells her he really needs to leave and cassie gets upset THIS is there lasts iteraction befor they move(accept for them meeting up on the park bench)....THIS was her reason to leave.....tony did need help and i was glad he did come. this was also the moment where tony realised that mabey somethings he does arent smart.
and dont get me started on season 2 her she was so mean to jal and why????.she was the reason why chris lost his house. she was also weirdly obsessed with chris even tho he had a girlfriend.she was so jealous of michelle and hated michelle even after sid and michelle broke up. when chris was in the hospital they told the doctors that she was his girlfriend. she was so rude about jal not telling chris that she's pregnant....like thats not any of your fucking business. jal is pregnant she decides when she tells him not cassie. then when cas and jal are in the hospital jal asks her what happened and she just ignores her. she finally tells jal that he took some pills but refuses to tell her what kind cuz "i dont tell him your secrets do i" like this isn't about secrets anymore hes fucking dying. she was the only one to be there when chris died and tried to call the hospital but when her phone didn't work she grabbed her stuff and left.not telling jal and not telling sid. just left. when her and sid where broken up she was sleeping with everyone she could find. overall she was a bad person. she had her redemption in season 7 but it was also minimal and soooo boring.
meanwhile after what happened with Effy, tony found out he was being a bad person and tried to change (but he got hit by a bus instead). ofc when he was recovering he mixed some things up like the thing with abigail but that wasnt his fault he just didnt remember eider abi or chelle so when abi told him "im your girlfriend" he ofc believed it. at the end he made up with every one and got back together with michelle. him and sid talked it out and the thing with maxxie was forgotten by him so never spoken about again.he did bad things but he always redeemed himself. the same can't be said about cassie. overal cassie was worse than tony , they were both manipulators but tony got a second chanse and took it and bettered himself. when cassie got that same chans she just looked at it and trew it in the trash
im fine with people who don't like tony i get it but what i don't like is that they than love cassie. she is so much worse and absolute the worst character of gen 1. but tell me your opinian
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this is in no way me trying to say that tony wasn't a bad person cuz he was but he was less of a bad person
also btw im not saying that she had a eating dissorder for attention or that her eating dissorder was fake. eating dissorders are very hard and its sad what she was going through but there are some things that have to be said about it
tony was a bad guy but he had his moments and avengely became a better person, he learn from his mistakes and bettered himself but sadly i cant say the same about cassie
when we first meet her in episode one she seems like this funny and nice girl with some problems. she was brought to a party to fuck sid so he would lose his virginity .this is kind of sad. even before we meet her there is said she had problems with eating which is later at the party further shown when she immediately went to the kitchen to sored every this to look at.
even in the first episode the drama starts, when on the trampoline with Sid she tells him that if he wants to fuck her he has to do it fast because she just took a lot of pills.she passes out and they have to steal a car to drive her to a hospital for to then when they get there her to be totally fine.
In episode 2 we find out what her living situation is, which is not ideal. Her parents are dismissive and only think about sex, but compared to the rest, she has one of the best home situations of the group. (this btw isnt her falt but i just wanted to point that out)
she asked sid out which he was clearly not into but he said yes. cassie reminds him of their date but sid tells her that he can't go because he is grounded, but that wasn't good anof for her she tells him the "iconic" line "i didn't eat for 3 days so i could be lovely" that is guilt tripping at its finest. its not her fault she has an eating disorder but using it to make people feel bad for you is just crazy. she asks him if she can come over any ways and he says it isn't a good idea but she comes over any way. to find that sid wasn't there. when he returns home she asks him where he was and he tells her he was with michelle (which was the stupidest thing he could of said at that moment and wasn't even the reason why he snuck out. she gets mad at him and slaps him (with in her defends it was a shitty thing of him to do). the next day she overhears sid calling michelle to make up, she gets up sad and tries to kill herself by overdosing but fails and ends up in a mental hospital. people gave sid the faule which is just not fair. in the Effy episode cassie and sid meet up at the cafe where they share a cute moment and kiss but than he gets a call from michelle because she is worried about tony and thinks he might need help he tells her he really needs to leave and cassie gets upset THIS is there lasts iteraction befor they move(accept for them meeting up on the park bench)....THIS was her reason to leave.....tony did need help and i was glad he did come. this was also the moment where tony realised that mabey somethings he does arent smart.
and dont get me started on season 2 her she was so mean to jal and why????.she was the reason why chris lost his house. she was also weirdly obsessed with chris even tho he had a girlfriend.she was so jealous of michelle and hated michelle even after sid and michelle broke up. when chris was in the hospital they told the doctors that she was his girlfriend. she was so rude about jal not telling chris that she's pregnant....like thats not any of your fucking business. jal is pregnant she decides when she tells him not cassie. then when cas and jal are in the hospital jal asks her what happened and she just ignores her. she finally tells jal that he took some pills but refuses to tell her what kind cuz "i dont tell him your secrets do i" like this isn't about secrets anymore hes fucking dying. she was the only one to be there when chris died and tried to call the hospital but when her phone didn't work she grabbed her stuff and left.not telling jal and not telling sid. just left. when her and sid where broken up she was sleeping with everyone she could find. overall she was a bad person. she had her redemption in season 7 but it was also minimal and soooo boring.
meanwhile after what happened with Effy, tony found out he was being a bad person and tried to change (but he got hit by a bus instead). ofc when he was recovering he mixed some things up like the thing with abigail but that wasnt his fault he just didnt remember eider abi or chelle so when abi told him "im your girlfriend" he ofc believed it. at the end he made up with every one and got back together with michelle. him and sid talked it out and the thing with maxxie was forgotten by him so never spoken about again.he did bad things but he always redeemed himself. the same can't be said about cassie. overal cassie was worse than tony , they were both manipulators but tony got a second chanse and took it and bettered himself. when cassie got that same chans she just looked at it and trew it in the trash
im fine with people who don't like tony i get it but what i don't like is that they than love cassie. she is so much worse and absolute the worst character of gen 1. but tell me your opinian
2024.05.19 03:17 7_dusty [M4M/A playing M] [DISCORD] The Priest and the Cowboy! (+other plots!)
hallo! It's a pleasure to meet you. I’m Dionysus, Lucky or Ghost.
I've been a writer for over nine years, and at the moment, I'm not actively writing with anyone (but I'm looking to change that!) and I'm open to writing most ideas any partner may have!
let me tell you a bit more about myself and my writing style. I mainly write literate-novella, 1-3k words per reply depending on the partner (and I can go higher!) I can reply normally every day, maybe longer if the post is longer.
when it comes to my writing, I tend to write in the third-person past tense and often include more than one character. I don't mind writing against just one character or a whole bunch, but I do like to keep things organized. because of this, I prefer to use a server with separate channels for writing. I find that discord works best since reddit's formatting is quite frankly appalling.
at the moment, I'm open to any plot my partner may throw my way, or I'd enjoy playing a priest and cowboy plot, which can be discussed in DMs! however, I am fond of fantasy and history, and most of my plots will involve that!
I'm currently located in the GMT-4 timezone, and I'm more active on weekends, mainly on Fridays and Saturdays due to work.
one thing I must mention is that I love partners who are open to communicating and can be not just a writing partner, but a friend. I'm not a fan of people who only reply once in a while with no other communication. if we're going to collaborate, I want us to do so in a meaningful way. it doesn't matter if we communicate outside of writing via voice channels or text messages. as long as we're communicating, that's all that matters.
I hope this gives you a better idea of who I am and what I'm looking for. if you're interested in collaborating, please do reach out to me. I look forward to hearing from you soon! tschüß!
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I've been a writer for over nine years, and at the moment, I'm not actively writing with anyone (but I'm looking to change that!) and I'm open to writing most ideas any partner may have!
let me tell you a bit more about myself and my writing style. I mainly write literate-novella, 1-3k words per reply depending on the partner (and I can go higher!) I can reply normally every day, maybe longer if the post is longer.
when it comes to my writing, I tend to write in the third-person past tense and often include more than one character. I don't mind writing against just one character or a whole bunch, but I do like to keep things organized. because of this, I prefer to use a server with separate channels for writing. I find that discord works best since reddit's formatting is quite frankly appalling.
at the moment, I'm open to any plot my partner may throw my way, or I'd enjoy playing a priest and cowboy plot, which can be discussed in DMs! however, I am fond of fantasy and history, and most of my plots will involve that!
I'm currently located in the GMT-4 timezone, and I'm more active on weekends, mainly on Fridays and Saturdays due to work.
one thing I must mention is that I love partners who are open to communicating and can be not just a writing partner, but a friend. I'm not a fan of people who only reply once in a while with no other communication. if we're going to collaborate, I want us to do so in a meaningful way. it doesn't matter if we communicate outside of writing via voice channels or text messages. as long as we're communicating, that's all that matters.
I hope this gives you a better idea of who I am and what I'm looking for. if you're interested in collaborating, please do reach out to me. I look forward to hearing from you soon! tschüß!
2024.05.19 03:16 ShadowChateau Any thoughts on this metal magic system?
There is a phenomenon, in my world, where metal will grow in places of powerful mental resonance. Places like a battlefield, which resonates with violent thoughts and horrible pain, will sprout iron from the bones of long dead and forgotten soldiers. Places like a temple, which resonates with harmony and hope, may see copper veins growing in the wood of the rafters. Places like a pleasure den, which resonates with passion and ecstacy, might be home to gold growths that may occasionally be found on the bedsheets or inside wine glasses.
This growing metal is a rare phenomenon. Few will ever see growing metal, and fewer will know it's benefits. For simply being in contact with this metal will empower the body or mind in some way until the metal grows warm, at which point the magical effects will cease and it will start to deteriorate.
Iron giving unnatural strength and power. Quicksilver giving precision and speed. Gold closing wounds or healing illnesses. (I haven't figured our all the powers yet but you get the idea.)
This effect can only be found in the grown metal, ordinary metal will not due.
But, through the use of auto-hypnotic trances, one may expand their mind to such a degree that they may force these metals to grow nearby. Some are strong enough to even manipulate the metal they summon into being without touching it.
These trances take years to master and time to perform.
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This growing metal is a rare phenomenon. Few will ever see growing metal, and fewer will know it's benefits. For simply being in contact with this metal will empower the body or mind in some way until the metal grows warm, at which point the magical effects will cease and it will start to deteriorate.
Iron giving unnatural strength and power. Quicksilver giving precision and speed. Gold closing wounds or healing illnesses. (I haven't figured our all the powers yet but you get the idea.)
This effect can only be found in the grown metal, ordinary metal will not due.
But, through the use of auto-hypnotic trances, one may expand their mind to such a degree that they may force these metals to grow nearby. Some are strong enough to even manipulate the metal they summon into being without touching it.
These trances take years to master and time to perform.
2024.05.19 03:16 MentalSand1123 Do people with dyslexia struggle similarly?
I struggle really bad with stubling my words, the faster I talk or the more tired I am where I mean one thing but another word or gibberish comes out. I have a lot of trouble reading books to where I will read the same line twice or my brain just shuts off and I don't absorb anything unless there is maximum interest. I went to speech therapy as a child and it helped me with reading out loud but it still makes me really anxious because I still get stuck sometimes and can't always keep a good flow with my words. When listening to someone talk it sounds like English but my brain has a delayed response before I understand. I cannot concentrate on someone talking to me if I'm reading or listening to someone, AAAnd my writing is terrible even when I write slowly. I've tried learning different languages but for SOME REASON I will try to say a sentence and group 2 languages together. I also say words out of order in sentences if that makes any sense... With all of this plus major procrastination I've always had trouble with any education system I've gone through and it sucks because I want to go to college but I have no idea how to get over everything enough to get passing grades.
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2024.05.19 03:16 Middle_Manager_Karen High School Play leaves audience in tears
 | We laughed, we cried, but mostly we grieved for the children of the future. "It's like severance meets the Broadway musical how to succeed in business without really trying" said one audience member. "It was meta, (pun intended)" said another. submitted by Middle_Manager_Karen to TwinCities [link] [comments] The play centers around new employees of Logic Pittman and Bray but the employees of this Silicon Valley-esque mega company call it "the Logic Pitt" because it is where dreams go to die. My favorite part of the play is that it is sung and performed by teenagers that have barely completed one internship. Maybe two if they have influential parents. Thea art, and masterpiece, of the composition is that they have no idea just how accurate their songs are. From performance reviews to AI taking our jobs. You might want to see this show before the kids grow up. Lord knows the audience already lived it. |
2024.05.19 03:15 AffectionateNoise528 I need to out a trans person as an abuser, and I really need your take on this.
First of all, I am a pansexual cisgender woman. I know this looks like I have the upper hand, but trust me, I don’t.
I dated this person a couple months ago and some things felt off; however, she always played the victim card, the heartbroken, the innocent trans woman who only needed a chance in love. And me, as the underdog advocate that I am, fell for that.
I’m conscious that being a trans person is by itself already a difficult process and that you have to put up with a lot of shit that society gives you. But it’s precisely the respect that I have for your journey that motivates me to do this.
While I was dating her, sometimes she let a sexist joke or two slide. You know, like, “I wanted to be a woman, but now I don’t know if I want to be a 30-year-old woman.“ “I didn’t want to be a girl when I was a kid because while I was playing videogames, my sisters were helping out my mom in the kitchen.”
You know, sexist jokes.
But one day, we were going to order food and she said, “Why would I drink pineapple juice? Are you going to swallow my cum or what?”
And that immediately rang the alarm. She said I didn’t have a sense of humor. She said it was my fault because I took things too personal and if I was queer-er, I would actually just laugh and let it go.
We didn’t last long. She still couldn’t get over her ex (allegedly). She spoke about other women she has dated and it was super off for me. Sex was completely one-sided. She was extremely codependent. She spoke mean things about me with her friends while we were still dating!
I tried to break up with her multiple times. She even threatened me to unalive herself. She shared she had done it in the past and she said that she would do it again if I left her.
It was the worst! I was miserable.
Once we broke up, the real horror began. She started to use me for reassurance in a very twisted way. She moved on immediately with a former ex (she only ever has exes in her radar), and she started to be all like,
“Oh, please, when you go out with new people try not to talk a lot about me. Like, I know you’re still into me, but--”
“I know I was the love of your life.”
“I know you so damn well. I know you are not as happy as you were with me with this new person that you’re dating.”
Etc., etc., etc.
All of this, she told me while being involved with someone else, the ex that she hoovered back in when we broke up.
Next thing I know, something fun happened. I met a person who accused her—before her transition, when she was a man—of abuse.
It’s really weird because they two have friends in common and after she made the accusation, no one believe her. They chose to believe him. So he was a victim. He chose to start his transition not shortly after.
I have been having these ideas in my head trying to make sense of all of it. I know for a fact that she is emotionally violent. I know for a fact that she is a compulsive liar. I know for a fact that even though she is a woman, she has kept the worse aspects of being a man within her personality.
There’s also this thing—she is not friends with straight nor gay men anymore. She has one bisexual friend who identifies as a man and that’s it. And she envies him thoroughly. But she is not friends with men, really.
All of her friends are female and either dated her as a man or now as a woman. She always stays friends with the exes. Good friends. She still talks to them. Mostly, about her new conquest. All she has to tell is about her relationships.
When we broke up, she pretended to do the same. She wanted to stay friends and she started to sell this story where I was the confused ✨cisgender woman✨ since she is now dating a non-binary person.
She almost had a panic attack when I blocked out of my Instagram. She wanted to still see my Stories, see my content. Not because she wanted to keep me in her life but rather as a way of control. That way, she is in control of the narrative. And she was making sure that we are friends, so I wouldn’t expose her?
I am also kind of a closeted writer and while we were dating, I would tell her that I will write a book about our romance. When we were dating, this excited her. Yet, when we broke up, she bluffed, “Oh, I know that writing a book about me is the only natural thing to do after being with me,” but then she warned me, “But you cannot write a book about a villain who is a trans because people will use this as fuel to keep on hating the community.” How would she know she would be the villain?
I think this person is evil. And I want to understand why. I want to out her—not much for me but for the 23-year-old she is dating now. And I want none of this to hace a negative effect on the trans community because she is just 1 fucking person out of millions.
Any input could be of use! Thank you so much.
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I dated this person a couple months ago and some things felt off; however, she always played the victim card, the heartbroken, the innocent trans woman who only needed a chance in love. And me, as the underdog advocate that I am, fell for that.
I’m conscious that being a trans person is by itself already a difficult process and that you have to put up with a lot of shit that society gives you. But it’s precisely the respect that I have for your journey that motivates me to do this.
While I was dating her, sometimes she let a sexist joke or two slide. You know, like, “I wanted to be a woman, but now I don’t know if I want to be a 30-year-old woman.“ “I didn’t want to be a girl when I was a kid because while I was playing videogames, my sisters were helping out my mom in the kitchen.”
You know, sexist jokes.
But one day, we were going to order food and she said, “Why would I drink pineapple juice? Are you going to swallow my cum or what?”
And that immediately rang the alarm. She said I didn’t have a sense of humor. She said it was my fault because I took things too personal and if I was queer-er, I would actually just laugh and let it go.
We didn’t last long. She still couldn’t get over her ex (allegedly). She spoke about other women she has dated and it was super off for me. Sex was completely one-sided. She was extremely codependent. She spoke mean things about me with her friends while we were still dating!
I tried to break up with her multiple times. She even threatened me to unalive herself. She shared she had done it in the past and she said that she would do it again if I left her.
It was the worst! I was miserable.
Once we broke up, the real horror began. She started to use me for reassurance in a very twisted way. She moved on immediately with a former ex (she only ever has exes in her radar), and she started to be all like,
“Oh, please, when you go out with new people try not to talk a lot about me. Like, I know you’re still into me, but--”
“I know I was the love of your life.”
“I know you so damn well. I know you are not as happy as you were with me with this new person that you’re dating.”
Etc., etc., etc.
All of this, she told me while being involved with someone else, the ex that she hoovered back in when we broke up.
Next thing I know, something fun happened. I met a person who accused her—before her transition, when she was a man—of abuse.
It’s really weird because they two have friends in common and after she made the accusation, no one believe her. They chose to believe him. So he was a victim. He chose to start his transition not shortly after.
I have been having these ideas in my head trying to make sense of all of it. I know for a fact that she is emotionally violent. I know for a fact that she is a compulsive liar. I know for a fact that even though she is a woman, she has kept the worse aspects of being a man within her personality.
There’s also this thing—she is not friends with straight nor gay men anymore. She has one bisexual friend who identifies as a man and that’s it. And she envies him thoroughly. But she is not friends with men, really.
All of her friends are female and either dated her as a man or now as a woman. She always stays friends with the exes. Good friends. She still talks to them. Mostly, about her new conquest. All she has to tell is about her relationships.
When we broke up, she pretended to do the same. She wanted to stay friends and she started to sell this story where I was the confused ✨cisgender woman✨ since she is now dating a non-binary person.
She almost had a panic attack when I blocked out of my Instagram. She wanted to still see my Stories, see my content. Not because she wanted to keep me in her life but rather as a way of control. That way, she is in control of the narrative. And she was making sure that we are friends, so I wouldn’t expose her?
I am also kind of a closeted writer and while we were dating, I would tell her that I will write a book about our romance. When we were dating, this excited her. Yet, when we broke up, she bluffed, “Oh, I know that writing a book about me is the only natural thing to do after being with me,” but then she warned me, “But you cannot write a book about a villain who is a trans because people will use this as fuel to keep on hating the community.” How would she know she would be the villain?
I think this person is evil. And I want to understand why. I want to out her—not much for me but for the 23-year-old she is dating now. And I want none of this to hace a negative effect on the trans community because she is just 1 fucking person out of millions.
Any input could be of use! Thank you so much.
2024.05.19 03:14 AdamInJP Porter and Onalfo out.
(Note: I'm writing this as myself, not as a mod or anything else. Just me, a longtime fan who knows this team is light-years better than they've played this season.)
I wanted to give them both the benefit of the doubt. Let them have more than one transfer window's worth of time to put their system into place. Let mediocrity be a symptom of a new structure, one built the same way he'd built multiple MLS Cup Champion teams. After all, only three people have won with multiple teams, and one's dead and the other is apparently still persona non grata for reasons unknown.
But this...this isn't a group of good players working through the kinks of a new system. This is a lack of cohesive system, an inability to field the best players on the team at their respective positions, and a lack of precision and discipline on both offense and defense. And it's been nearly half a season now. Sure, we've had a ton of injuries (and frankly I'd fire the whole training staff, too, there are way, way more soft tissue injuries to this team than is proportionate over the last several years), but enough of this team is the same team that was first in the East one year ago.
Ironically, the Ivacic and Arreaga acquisitions look pretty good. And I still like the Mensah signing. But Porter has had more than enough time to figure out something and Onalfo has had more than enough time to give Porter the something he needs to make this team work.
A good team is better than the sum of its parts. Arena took a Brad Friedel team and made them a playoff team in three months. That's what a good coach can do. Caleb Porter took a team that was a top-four team in July and turned them into the worst team in MLS.
I'm done. Porter out. Onalfo out. Bilello stays only because I believe he's better equipped to make the Everett stadium happen and cause Porter was, on paper, a good choice, so I'm not annoyed at the idea as much as I am at the terrible execution.
Give Tierney the keys as GM. Gio Savarese is still unattached, I'd bring him in to pick up the pieces. But only if an Arena reunion is truly impossible (which I assume it is).
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I wanted to give them both the benefit of the doubt. Let them have more than one transfer window's worth of time to put their system into place. Let mediocrity be a symptom of a new structure, one built the same way he'd built multiple MLS Cup Champion teams. After all, only three people have won with multiple teams, and one's dead and the other is apparently still persona non grata for reasons unknown.
But this...this isn't a group of good players working through the kinks of a new system. This is a lack of cohesive system, an inability to field the best players on the team at their respective positions, and a lack of precision and discipline on both offense and defense. And it's been nearly half a season now. Sure, we've had a ton of injuries (and frankly I'd fire the whole training staff, too, there are way, way more soft tissue injuries to this team than is proportionate over the last several years), but enough of this team is the same team that was first in the East one year ago.
Ironically, the Ivacic and Arreaga acquisitions look pretty good. And I still like the Mensah signing. But Porter has had more than enough time to figure out something and Onalfo has had more than enough time to give Porter the something he needs to make this team work.
A good team is better than the sum of its parts. Arena took a Brad Friedel team and made them a playoff team in three months. That's what a good coach can do. Caleb Porter took a team that was a top-four team in July and turned them into the worst team in MLS.
I'm done. Porter out. Onalfo out. Bilello stays only because I believe he's better equipped to make the Everett stadium happen and cause Porter was, on paper, a good choice, so I'm not annoyed at the idea as much as I am at the terrible execution.
Give Tierney the keys as GM. Gio Savarese is still unattached, I'd bring him in to pick up the pieces. But only if an Arena reunion is truly impossible (which I assume it is).
2024.05.19 03:14 MrPrincesa I couldn’t stop thinking about a one night stand from 5 years ago… then he reached out to me
I recently discovered the definition of limerence and I was alarmed at how much it resonated with me. I have experienced short bouts of infatuation pretty often, but there is one person who I’ve had frequent thoughts about for over 5 years even thought we just met once.
When I was 20 years old, I went on vacation to Europe (I’m from the US) and met a guy through Tinder. We hooked up one night and never saw each other again as I was leaving the next day. We had good conversation and he was very good looking, but I didn’t develop strong feelings towards him until after my trip. I was excited to have met a stranger in a foreign country, as I wasn’t a particularly risky person so this was very thrilling for me. He also said that he had never hooked up with a stranger before.
We followed each other on instagram afterwards, and I would like his posts usually. He messaged me a few times that year asking how I was, but other than that we did not have much interaction. I unfollowed him a few months later because I was in a relationship, and to be honest, I felt guilty for how much I thought about him. Even after I unfollowed him, he was still in the back of my mind. I am a maladaptive daydreamer. I have since gained some control over it, but I used to spend hours daydreaming. He was a frequent subject of my daydreams. I would think about us randomly bumping into each other and hitting it off, or him reaching out to me again. The thoughts would come in waves, with maybe a few months of not thinking about him at all. At one point I thought I had completely rid myself of my thoughts of him. I told myself “You met this man years ago, he probably doesn’t even remember who you are. You are never going to see him again. You are feeding into an unattainable fantasy for dopamine because you’re bored. This is crazy. Just drop it.”
That worked for awhile until my ex and I broke up last year. Then I decided to follow him on instagram again 6 months ago and he dmd me for the first time since 2019. He started reminiscing and telling me how much he thought about our night together. I was shocked that he remembered me, let alone that he could recall the night in such detail. I was extremely flattered, and I felt a sense of closure. Like “Ah, I’m not crazy after all. He thought about me too. I can move on now.”
I was seeing other people casually and felt like I had moved on from him mentally. Except he continued to message me afterwards. He asked a few times where I was, which I thought was odd because I’ve been living in the same city since before we met. The most recent time he dmd me, it was an audio message of him saying that he’s in the city where we met and that he was thinking of me because we had good memories there. He said that if I was ever in city we met or city he lives in now or anywhere in Europe to let him know in advance because he travels a lot. This nearly sent me into cardiac arrest. I couldn’t believe that he was essentially saying that he would meet me. This ignited my feelings like never before.
It also confused me, because I had been fighting off feelings for him for so long that now feel reciprocated. I still feel delusional, and think that maybe he is too? I can’t think of a logical reason why he would be interested in me after so long. He is an extremely good looking guy, by my standards and conventional beauty standards. He definitely does not have any issues meeting women. So why the hell would he be hung up on me unless A) He is also experiencing limerence/delusion or B) He is not actually hung up, he’s just dming every girl he ever slept with for idk… entertainment? None of it makes sense to me. We barely know anything about each other.
The only other person I have thought this much about is my ex, but we were dating for 5 years so that’s pretty understandable. I’ve known people much better for longer periods of time, and I would have dropped them in a heartbeat for this guy. One potential explanation I can think of is that there was a defined “end” to these relationships. I saw things through and then it ended. With this guy though, there is a lot left to the imagination.
My friends have said that it’s “romantic” and “cute” that he said he was thinking of me, but I haven’t gone into full detail on just how much I’ve thought about this man. I can’t tell if I’m experiencing limerence or potentially denying myself happiness by staying away from this man. If it is limerence, is it a bad idea to meet him? Could this offer some form of closure, or would it be feeding a dangerous fire? I have no expectations of developing a relationship with him. I don’t really know what my expectations are, I just have a burning desire to meet him.
I’ve been reading some of the posts here and I see that limerence can last for years, but 5 is pretty damn long. Does this sound like a case of limerence? How do I deal with this?
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When I was 20 years old, I went on vacation to Europe (I’m from the US) and met a guy through Tinder. We hooked up one night and never saw each other again as I was leaving the next day. We had good conversation and he was very good looking, but I didn’t develop strong feelings towards him until after my trip. I was excited to have met a stranger in a foreign country, as I wasn’t a particularly risky person so this was very thrilling for me. He also said that he had never hooked up with a stranger before.
We followed each other on instagram afterwards, and I would like his posts usually. He messaged me a few times that year asking how I was, but other than that we did not have much interaction. I unfollowed him a few months later because I was in a relationship, and to be honest, I felt guilty for how much I thought about him. Even after I unfollowed him, he was still in the back of my mind. I am a maladaptive daydreamer. I have since gained some control over it, but I used to spend hours daydreaming. He was a frequent subject of my daydreams. I would think about us randomly bumping into each other and hitting it off, or him reaching out to me again. The thoughts would come in waves, with maybe a few months of not thinking about him at all. At one point I thought I had completely rid myself of my thoughts of him. I told myself “You met this man years ago, he probably doesn’t even remember who you are. You are never going to see him again. You are feeding into an unattainable fantasy for dopamine because you’re bored. This is crazy. Just drop it.”
That worked for awhile until my ex and I broke up last year. Then I decided to follow him on instagram again 6 months ago and he dmd me for the first time since 2019. He started reminiscing and telling me how much he thought about our night together. I was shocked that he remembered me, let alone that he could recall the night in such detail. I was extremely flattered, and I felt a sense of closure. Like “Ah, I’m not crazy after all. He thought about me too. I can move on now.”
I was seeing other people casually and felt like I had moved on from him mentally. Except he continued to message me afterwards. He asked a few times where I was, which I thought was odd because I’ve been living in the same city since before we met. The most recent time he dmd me, it was an audio message of him saying that he’s in the city where we met and that he was thinking of me because we had good memories there. He said that if I was ever in city we met or city he lives in now or anywhere in Europe to let him know in advance because he travels a lot. This nearly sent me into cardiac arrest. I couldn’t believe that he was essentially saying that he would meet me. This ignited my feelings like never before.
It also confused me, because I had been fighting off feelings for him for so long that now feel reciprocated. I still feel delusional, and think that maybe he is too? I can’t think of a logical reason why he would be interested in me after so long. He is an extremely good looking guy, by my standards and conventional beauty standards. He definitely does not have any issues meeting women. So why the hell would he be hung up on me unless A) He is also experiencing limerence/delusion or B) He is not actually hung up, he’s just dming every girl he ever slept with for idk… entertainment? None of it makes sense to me. We barely know anything about each other.
The only other person I have thought this much about is my ex, but we were dating for 5 years so that’s pretty understandable. I’ve known people much better for longer periods of time, and I would have dropped them in a heartbeat for this guy. One potential explanation I can think of is that there was a defined “end” to these relationships. I saw things through and then it ended. With this guy though, there is a lot left to the imagination.
My friends have said that it’s “romantic” and “cute” that he said he was thinking of me, but I haven’t gone into full detail on just how much I’ve thought about this man. I can’t tell if I’m experiencing limerence or potentially denying myself happiness by staying away from this man. If it is limerence, is it a bad idea to meet him? Could this offer some form of closure, or would it be feeding a dangerous fire? I have no expectations of developing a relationship with him. I don’t really know what my expectations are, I just have a burning desire to meet him.
I’ve been reading some of the posts here and I see that limerence can last for years, but 5 is pretty damn long. Does this sound like a case of limerence? How do I deal with this?
2024.05.19 03:14 Samohtep House poor patio suggestions?
 | Can’t really splurge on anything this summer, but anyone have ideas to improve our patio? In the process of killing the grass that has invaded the stone, and maybe can afford another truckload of stone this fall for under the table. But kinda stuck with what we have for the year. Roughly 20’x30’, one thing that hamstrings us with options is that our septic tank is under this area, access lids roughly in line with the narrow grass line in the first and second pictures. submitted by Samohtep to patio [link] [comments] |
2024.05.19 03:13 whatupsilon How to flip samples with Slicex in FL Studio
 | Just wanted to share some of my favorite tips on using Slicex in FL Studio. submitted by whatupsilon to u/whatupsilon [link] [comments] It works best with instrumentals you want to flip or drum loops. You can also chop vocals and map it to the keyboard like in this video.
Hope this helps, and don't forget to have fun :) |
2024.05.19 03:13 ticklemenazi Isabella Pantheon What to Choose
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2024.05.19 03:13 DirectionNo3071 Got broken up with due to having a perceived similar trait to her ex.
I (M22) dated my now ex girlfriend (F23) for about 2 months, she was my first ever relationship, and we shared a lot of similar experiences in life and had and felt we had a lot of compatibility.
All throughout the relationship I tried to be there for her the best I could be, and understood that we both had issues in our pasts that we needed to address, but to be there for each other and take things naturally as they came. I felt though that she was always withdrawn in things, and seemed not to be 100% in things, feeling almost like she was trialling me of sorts.
about 3 weeks ago, she dumped me over text, didn't explain to me why and just said that she felt that I wasn't benefitting her at all in the relationship, I tried to save the relationship and told her that I do really care and wanted her in my life, but ultimately fell on deaf ears.
I talked to a mutual friend last week and found out that she had been talking to her friends about me a lot and taking their opinions about me as highly important, even though I have never met any of these friends. Apparently her friends are highly protective of her, which I appreciate, but they decided that somehow because I had apparently one similar trait to her toxic ex (what this trait is I'm not sure), that I must also be a highly toxic individual and therefore I would eventually hurt her and therefore she must end things before I did, which she followed.
It really sucks because I really cared for her and wanted to only be a positive impact on her life and had absolutely no intention of being toxic or putting my needs before hers, and was willing to grow as a person in order to be the best partner for her I can be, but she decided not to give me that chance. I find it really difficult to let go of people that I consider close, as I don't have many close people in my life and so losing someone always affects me deeply.
I know I should move on and in the grand scheme of things 2 months isn't that long, and while the idea of being with someone else isn't an unattractive idea, I'm scared that I won't find someone who understood me as well, as our shared histories allowed us to relate to each other a lot. despite the short length of the relationship and the time its been since, I still really miss her and wish I could just fix things and make it work again.
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All throughout the relationship I tried to be there for her the best I could be, and understood that we both had issues in our pasts that we needed to address, but to be there for each other and take things naturally as they came. I felt though that she was always withdrawn in things, and seemed not to be 100% in things, feeling almost like she was trialling me of sorts.
about 3 weeks ago, she dumped me over text, didn't explain to me why and just said that she felt that I wasn't benefitting her at all in the relationship, I tried to save the relationship and told her that I do really care and wanted her in my life, but ultimately fell on deaf ears.
I talked to a mutual friend last week and found out that she had been talking to her friends about me a lot and taking their opinions about me as highly important, even though I have never met any of these friends. Apparently her friends are highly protective of her, which I appreciate, but they decided that somehow because I had apparently one similar trait to her toxic ex (what this trait is I'm not sure), that I must also be a highly toxic individual and therefore I would eventually hurt her and therefore she must end things before I did, which she followed.
It really sucks because I really cared for her and wanted to only be a positive impact on her life and had absolutely no intention of being toxic or putting my needs before hers, and was willing to grow as a person in order to be the best partner for her I can be, but she decided not to give me that chance. I find it really difficult to let go of people that I consider close, as I don't have many close people in my life and so losing someone always affects me deeply.
I know I should move on and in the grand scheme of things 2 months isn't that long, and while the idea of being with someone else isn't an unattractive idea, I'm scared that I won't find someone who understood me as well, as our shared histories allowed us to relate to each other a lot. despite the short length of the relationship and the time its been since, I still really miss her and wish I could just fix things and make it work again.
2024.05.19 03:11 Sweet-Count2557 Babymoon Goa
 | Babymoon Goa Imagine basking in the warm sun, sipping on a refreshing mocktail, and feeling the gentle ocean breeze caress your skin as you embark on a blissful babymoon in Goa.The idyllic coastal destination offers a multitude of experiences for expecting couples seeking relaxation and rejuvenation before their little one arrives. From tranquil beachfront resorts to romantic retreats, Goa provides an enchanting backdrop for couples to create lasting memories together.But that's just the beginning...Key TakeawaysAzaya Beach Resort offers a range of accommodations and romantic experiences for babymooners, including personalized room decorations, private pool access, and candlelit beach dinners.The resort's culinary delights include refreshing mocktails, delectable buffet breakfasts, and private dinner options for an intimate dining experience.Guests can enjoy pampering and relaxation at the resort through personalized room decorations, candlelit beach dinners, maternity photoshoots, and floating breakfast options in the private pool suite.Goa's natural beauty is a highlight of the babymoon experience, with opportunities to explore pristine beaches, go for beach walks, engage in water sports, and visit attractions like Dudhsagar Falls and the Mandovi River for sunset cruises.Beachfront BlissBeachfront Bliss at Azaya Beach Resort offers couples a truly enchanting and intimate setting for their babymoon, with personalized room decorations and a cozy, comfortable ambiance that sets the perfect stage for a memorable getaway. Nestled along the breathtaking coastline of Goa, this luxurious resort is the ideal destination for expectant parents seeking a rejuvenating babymoon vacation.As soon as you step into your Beachfront Bliss suite, you'll be greeted by a soothing atmosphere and stylish decor tailored to create a sense of tranquility and relaxation. The room is adorned with personalized decorations, adding a touch of romance and charm to your babymoon experience. The plush bed invites you to unwind and indulge in moments of blissful togetherness.At Azaya Beach Resort, you'll have access to a private pool, where you can enjoy refreshing dips and bask in the warm Goan sun. Immerse yourself in the serene surroundings and let the worries of everyday life melt away as you float in the crystal-clear waters of your own personal oasis.To enhance the romantic ambiance, the resort offers exclusive candlelit dinners by the beach. 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Designed to create lasting memories for couples embarking on their babymoon in Goa, our retreats provide the perfect setting for relaxation, rejuvenation, and romance.Here are five highlights of our romantic retreats:Personalized room decorations: Our cozy and comfortable rooms are adorned with personalized touches, creating a warm and inviting atmosphere for expectant parents to enjoy.Exclusive candlelit beach dinners: Indulge in a romantic candlelit dinner on the beach, where gourmet cuisine and the soothing sound of waves crashing create an unforgettable dining experience.Professional maternity photoshoots: Capture the beauty of your pregnancy journey with a professional photoshoot in the stunning outdoor locations surrounding the resort. These photos will serve as cherished mementos for years to come.Luxurious floating breakfast: Start your day in style with a unique and luxurious floating breakfast experience in your private pool suite. 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These delicious concoctions won't only quench your thirst but also provide a sense of relaxation and tranquility.As you settle into your stay, be sure to take advantage of our delectable buffet breakfasts, featuring an array of options to satisfy every craving.For an intimate and romantic experience, we offer private dinner options where you can enjoy a delectable meal under the stars, with the soothing sound of the waves in the background. Our skilled chefs will prepare a personalized menu, tailored to your preferences, ensuring a truly unforgettable dining experience.But that's not all! At Azaya Beach Resort, we go above and beyond to make your babymoon truly special. For a unique and memorable experience, we offer breakfast options with pool suites. Imagine enjoying a delicious meal while floating in the pool, surrounded by breathtaking views of the ocean. It's the perfect way to start your day and create lasting memories.In addition to our culinary delights, we also offer a range of activities and experiences to enhance your babymoon. Capture the beauty of this special time with a maternity photoshoot, where our professional photographer will help you create stunning memories to cherish forever.At Azaya Beach Resort, we believe that every aspect of your babymoon should be exceptional. From the moment you arrive until the time you leave, we strive to provide a culinary experience that's both delightful and satisfying.Pampering and RelaxationAs we continue our journey of pampering and relaxation on your babymoon in Goa, immerse yourself in a world of tranquility and rejuvenation at Azaya Beach Resort. This luxurious resort offers a range of indulgent experiences that will make you feel like you're in a better place.Here are some of the highlights:Personalized room decorations: To enhance the ambiance of your babymoon experience, the resort offers personalized room decorations. These thoughtful touches create a relaxing atmosphere that will help you unwind and enjoy your time together.Candlelit beach dinner: Indulge in an exclusive candlelit dinner by the beach, where skilled chefs prepare gourmet cuisine just for you. With the gentle sound of the waves and the soft glow of the candles, this romantic experience is sure to create lasting memories.Maternity photoshoot: Capture the precious moments of your pregnancy journey with a professional maternity photoshoot. Choose from beautiful outdoor locations as the backdrop for your pictures, creating stunning memories that you can cherish forever.Floating breakfast options: Start your day in a unique and memorable way with a floating breakfast served on a floating tray in your private pool suite. Enjoy a delicious meal while lounging in the pool, surrounded by the serene beauty of the resort.Welcome mocktail: Kickstart your babymoon vacation with a delightful and refreshing mocktail served upon arrival. This special welcome gesture will make you feel truly pampered and set the tone for a relaxing getaway.At Azaya Beach Resort, pampering and relaxation are taken to the next level. Indulge in these experiences and create memories that will last a lifetime.Exploring Goa's Natural BeautyGoa's natural beauty unfolds like a breathtaking tapestry, captivating couples with its picturesque corners, pristine beaches, and serene surroundings. Exploring Goa's natural beauty is an essential part of any babymoon experience. From the moment you step foot on the sandy shores, you'll be mesmerized by the sheer beauty that surrounds you.One of the best ways to immerse yourself in Goa's natural beauty is through beach walks. Stroll hand in hand with your partner along the coastline, feeling the soft sand between your toes and listening to the gentle crashing of the waves. As you walk, you'll come across hidden coves and secret spots that offer a sense of tranquility and seclusion.For those seeking a bit more adventure, water sports are a must. Goa's crystal-clear waters are perfect for snorkeling, diving, and even paddleboarding. Dive beneath the surface and discover a vibrant underwater world teeming with colorful marine life. Or glide across the water on a paddleboard, feeling the cool breeze on your face as you take in the breathtaking views.Sightseeing is another way to explore Goa's natural beauty. Visit Dudhsagar Falls, one of India's tallest waterfalls, and marvel at the cascading white waters surrounded by lush greenery. Or take a sunset cruise along the Mandovi River and watch as the sky transforms into a myriad of colors, reflecting off the calm waters.Exploring Goa's natural beauty is an experience like no other. It allows you to connect with nature, rejuvenate your senses, and create lasting memories with your partner. So, don't miss out on this opportunity to immerse yourself in the stunning landscapes and serene surroundings that Goa has to offer.ConclusionAnd so, our babymoon in Goa comes to an end.As we sit here on the beach, savoring the last moments of tranquility, we can't help but feel grateful for this incredible experience.From the personalized room decorations to the romantic photoshoot, every detail has been perfect.We've indulged in culinary delights and pampered ourselves with relaxation.Goa's natural beauty has left us awe-inspired.As we prepare to embark on our journey as parents, we're filled with love, joy, and memories that will last a lifetime. submitted by Sweet-Count2557 to worldkidstravel [link] [comments] |
2024.05.19 03:11 thudapofru This week went well
I'm not sure where to post this, as time passes, I doubt my issue is really AvPD, although some issues are quite similar. For instance, the reason I procrastinate is to avoid difficult emotions and feelings.
This week, up until today (as I had anticipated) has gone quite well. Except for Monday, because I was suffering the consequences of not sleeping enough on Sunday.
There are some almost constant issues with my life that I'm trying to work on. I'll try to be brief:
Some more context: I'm currently working full time and studying a master's part time. I have three subjects this semester and I find all of them interesting, but there is one I love, one that is difficult and one that is boring (the subject is interesting, the assignments are boring). The next deadline is next week for all three (Monday, Friday and Sunday respectively). My uncle is visiting next weekend, so I have to finish them all before the weekend if I want to spend time with him.
A friend helped me with the difficult one, he doesn't know it but thanks to him I have some external pressure to finish it early and discuss it.
This week I planned on working on the one I like. I managed to do something everyday, my plan was to finish it on Friday but I was done on Thursday. I managed to be productive and finish the assignment way before the deadline. This means I wasn't bored, I didn't overeat and I slept better than any other week.
This is huge for me. I mean, I'm sure I could have also taken some time to exercise, but I don't expect to completely fix a problem I've been having for half of my life all of a sudden. I'm being realistic.
I also know this doesn't mean I am half fixed either. I managed to do this only because it was the subject I like. And I knew I would procrastinate again as soon as I started "working" on the boring assignment. Which is what happened today (is knowing yourself too well a "self-fulfilling prophecy"?).
It was a peek of what I can do, of what my life can be. It's a small step on the right direction. And the best part: even though it was an effort on my part, it wasn't a huge one. I feel like it was just the right amount to feel satisfaction after it's done.
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This week, up until today (as I had anticipated) has gone quite well. Except for Monday, because I was suffering the consequences of not sleeping enough on Sunday.
There are some almost constant issues with my life that I'm trying to work on. I'll try to be brief:
- I have trouble sleeping. I feel a lot of anxiety and guilt at night, I don't want the day to end because I don't want next day to begin. I think this happens mainly because I know I'm not spending my time wisely and I waste a lot of time doing nothing (well, not really "nothing", I'm actually avoiding).
- I'm trying to lose weight and it's been incredibly difficult. I'm an emotional eater and I'm always anxious. Eating something I shouldn't eat causes a brief feeling of pleasure followed by guilt and anxiety, which makes me want to eat more. On top of guilt and anxiety, I tend to eat when I'm bored, which happens a lot if I'm wasting my time.
- I procrastinate a lot. I don't want to do boring tasks, I don't want to do tedious tasks, I don't want to face the idea that I'm not smart enough, which happens when I read something and I don't instantly understand it. In an attempt to not procrastinate, I keep myself from doing things I know will absorb too much of my time, like playing videogames I actually like. So I end up doing nothing productive (as in good for me, including having fun).
- My death drive is usually too strong, so I don't really feel like doing things, even if I enjoy them. I mean, one reason of not playing videogames I would enjoy playing is being sensible and knowing I wouldn't be able to control myself, spend too much time playing and then not doing other things I need to do; but this is another important reason. Overcoming this everyday is a huge effort for me. This obviously doesn't help with any of the above. It leads me to procrastinate more, that increases anxiety and guilt, so I eat more and then I can't sleep because of the piled up guilt and anxiety.
Some more context: I'm currently working full time and studying a master's part time. I have three subjects this semester and I find all of them interesting, but there is one I love, one that is difficult and one that is boring (the subject is interesting, the assignments are boring). The next deadline is next week for all three (Monday, Friday and Sunday respectively). My uncle is visiting next weekend, so I have to finish them all before the weekend if I want to spend time with him.
A friend helped me with the difficult one, he doesn't know it but thanks to him I have some external pressure to finish it early and discuss it.
This week I planned on working on the one I like. I managed to do something everyday, my plan was to finish it on Friday but I was done on Thursday. I managed to be productive and finish the assignment way before the deadline. This means I wasn't bored, I didn't overeat and I slept better than any other week.
This is huge for me. I mean, I'm sure I could have also taken some time to exercise, but I don't expect to completely fix a problem I've been having for half of my life all of a sudden. I'm being realistic.
I also know this doesn't mean I am half fixed either. I managed to do this only because it was the subject I like. And I knew I would procrastinate again as soon as I started "working" on the boring assignment. Which is what happened today (is knowing yourself too well a "self-fulfilling prophecy"?).
It was a peek of what I can do, of what my life can be. It's a small step on the right direction. And the best part: even though it was an effort on my part, it wasn't a huge one. I feel like it was just the right amount to feel satisfaction after it's done.
2024.05.19 03:10 simulated_habitat Hello :)
Hello! I am a mother of 5, middle age, zero interest in dating, ever again, but still wanting to reach out and be a little more social. This seemed like a good starting place.
I'm sorry of mid-divorce, getting out of a 23 year long relationship and just kind of enjoying the freedom to be myself.
I like yoga, gardening, crochetting, exploring new ideas, hobbies, places when possible.
I'm in grad school for marriage and family therapy and have one more year. 😁 Yes I see the irony but trust me, it makes sense.
Love to hear about everyone and what brings you to the group!
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I'm sorry of mid-divorce, getting out of a 23 year long relationship and just kind of enjoying the freedom to be myself.
I like yoga, gardening, crochetting, exploring new ideas, hobbies, places when possible.
I'm in grad school for marriage and family therapy and have one more year. 😁 Yes I see the irony but trust me, it makes sense.
Love to hear about everyone and what brings you to the group!
2024.05.19 03:10 Silly_Tap_8264 Went on My First Date Ever!
In my 26 years of existence, I literally went to no dates and had no relationships. It was getting a bit too lonely lately, though, so I invested time and some money in online dating. I heard eharmony has the most serious pool of people, so I paid and subscribed.
I don't live in a very urban city, so the pool of people was small, and I'm not very attractive. Still, within a few days, I somehow got a first date. We went to the cinema and then got some milkshakes and apple pies; it was overall a very nice - albeit somewhat nerve-wrecking - experience. Still, it was occasionally awkward, and the girl seemed a bit cold, so I assumed she wasn't into me. To my surprise, she was the one who texted first the very next day and asked me if I got home safe, which felt weird in a nice way. I waited 2 days or so then texted again and asked her out on her birthday (in 3 weeks), which she agreed to. To my added surprise, she then took the initiative to ask me out on another date before then. I mean, wow!
These are all things I've never experienced before in my life, and although they're probably minor to all you people, they're not to me. I have no idea if this relationship will work (and if so, for how long), but I'm celebrating the small wins :)
Just wanted to share!
And this subreddit encourages leading questions, so maybe people can share their stories, how similadifferent their experiences were, and how they felt about them.
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I don't live in a very urban city, so the pool of people was small, and I'm not very attractive. Still, within a few days, I somehow got a first date. We went to the cinema and then got some milkshakes and apple pies; it was overall a very nice - albeit somewhat nerve-wrecking - experience. Still, it was occasionally awkward, and the girl seemed a bit cold, so I assumed she wasn't into me. To my surprise, she was the one who texted first the very next day and asked me if I got home safe, which felt weird in a nice way. I waited 2 days or so then texted again and asked her out on her birthday (in 3 weeks), which she agreed to. To my added surprise, she then took the initiative to ask me out on another date before then. I mean, wow!
These are all things I've never experienced before in my life, and although they're probably minor to all you people, they're not to me. I have no idea if this relationship will work (and if so, for how long), but I'm celebrating the small wins :)
Just wanted to share!
And this subreddit encourages leading questions, so maybe people can share their stories, how similadifferent their experiences were, and how they felt about them.
2024.05.19 03:09 PainInHerBones Transitioning Happens Slowly, Passing Happens Suddenly?
Hi all,
For context, I'm in my mid 30s, about 6 and a half months on the juice. I started from a very masculine place with hope but no expectation of passing, but then in month 3, I lost all hope and made my peace with being a feminine guy forever.
However, about a month or so ago, I had a male fail... and then another, and another, and now... it's not half the time but I'm getting addressed as a woman a lot. The ai tools I've been using to judge are pretty consistently saying female... but nothing I'm doing has changed? I've been wearing a mix of men and women's clothes, very light makeup, feminine jewelry, etc for months, but now suddenly people see something different? I see her in the mirror sometimes.. but usually I don't. Maybe I just pass as a trans woman now and people are being nice?
Is this how it happened for others? Did you suddenly start passing one day? I feel like I'm supposed to do something now, or like, prepare myself for something. I feel like the dog that caught the car and I have no idea what I'm doing. It's confusing, exciting, and relieving all at once.
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For context, I'm in my mid 30s, about 6 and a half months on the juice. I started from a very masculine place with hope but no expectation of passing, but then in month 3, I lost all hope and made my peace with being a feminine guy forever.
However, about a month or so ago, I had a male fail... and then another, and another, and now... it's not half the time but I'm getting addressed as a woman a lot. The ai tools I've been using to judge are pretty consistently saying female... but nothing I'm doing has changed? I've been wearing a mix of men and women's clothes, very light makeup, feminine jewelry, etc for months, but now suddenly people see something different? I see her in the mirror sometimes.. but usually I don't. Maybe I just pass as a trans woman now and people are being nice?
Is this how it happened for others? Did you suddenly start passing one day? I feel like I'm supposed to do something now, or like, prepare myself for something. I feel like the dog that caught the car and I have no idea what I'm doing. It's confusing, exciting, and relieving all at once.
2024.05.19 03:09 LMC2001CML What can I do? I was falsely accused of assault (I was having a seizure and don’t even know what happened) and pressured into a plea deal for probation.
Texan here. I was told by my dad that we can’t/couldn’t afford a lawyer and by my d/a that if I went to trial I would absolutely be arrested. Yet I was having a seizure during the event. I was living in a motel and trying to pay my rent. Next thing I know I’m in a jail cell for five hours, still in a delirious state. It’s been months and I was under the impression that the case would be dropped given I didn’t know the child and his mother aka the people who assaulted an epileptic having a seizure (me), I was just trying to pay rent and I wasn’t in control of my actions. There are laws set up to help epileptics but I wasn’t aware of them and just signed the papers they pressured me into signing at the court office because my dad and the d/a told me to. I never got an opportunity to explain the situation to the judge and it felt like the d/a was just trying to get the situation over and done with for his own greater good. I had plans. I was supposed to move this year and now I’m stuck in Texas for being assaulted during a seizure. I don’t care what happened during it, if you willingly attack someone who’s obviously not in their right mind you are the one assaulting them. They are total strangers, I have no idea what the pair looks like because I have never seen them aside from during the seizure. I’m being punished for being disabled. Does anyone have any idea what I can do here? I do not want 40 hours of community service, anger management classes and 16 months of probation for being disabled.
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2024.05.19 03:09 kairi240 Stuck in the past (ruminating)
hey so i am (F19) now in college, but the negative comments/experience I had had in high school sticks to me. I had moved around high school freshman - sophomore (covid for half of freshman and full year for sophomore) year i stayed a new high school in a new district, moved again junior year to the old district in a new high school. I had known some people from elementary, tried to catch up, it was good for the first half of the year, but later on it went downhill. people (girls) were not that nice, I would say that I use positive reinforcement in a negative way.
Some girls who I thought were my friends would sometimes say things and in the moment, I would feel for a second that it was hurtful, but because I like to protect myself, I painted it as maybe a joke, them being playful, and I did that for the rest of the school year. It was really the first time people ever really dug at me. I am not good at confrontation and I don't like to see the truth if I know that it will hurt me.
It was the typical things, pretending to be your friends upfront, or making comments surrounding your body, backbiting, being judge mental, making comments surrounding my intelligence, (i would ditch, but i was really sad and I constantly looked for anything to make me happy) I know that from high school to older age, you do hit puberty again and I was a bit skinnier back then and sometimes their comments would revolve around my body and now that I have gained a few pounds I can feel the old comments being reinforced (in my head). Or some comments that I am not that pretty, and somethings I believe in those comments, even though i know they aren't true, I know a part of me believes it. It's hard to think that people who have done you wrong will live a peaceful life.
We live around the same area so smths I fear (even when writing this) that they may see this post or see me and laugh. I have struggled with my sense of self esteem, since I have been little. I tend to cover it by trying to appear confidence, which backfires and I usually end up being cocky. I try to cover it with makeup or my hair, but I know that when I take it all of, it isn't me.
I am obsessed with them and I can find myself ruminating with the idea. I have already talked with a counselor ( i went online for senior year to get mental health) and I fear when I see them (old classmates, not the girls in general) that they smths look at, some have asked, one followed me for a bit, and I know it is none of their business, but it still haunts me.
I constantly feel the need to prove something to them even though they are no longer in my life, maybe my ego is hurt, but I tried talking to counselors and they seem frustrated that I'm stuck in the same situation, so I'm afraid. I want to be better and live free of them.
How do I move forward, live in the present, not fear them anymore, and improve my self esteem. It seems I pretend to be confident ends up in being cocky and cry bcuz deep down I know I’m insecure
please if any advice, whether hard truth or anything nice, I am open
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Some girls who I thought were my friends would sometimes say things and in the moment, I would feel for a second that it was hurtful, but because I like to protect myself, I painted it as maybe a joke, them being playful, and I did that for the rest of the school year. It was really the first time people ever really dug at me. I am not good at confrontation and I don't like to see the truth if I know that it will hurt me.
It was the typical things, pretending to be your friends upfront, or making comments surrounding your body, backbiting, being judge mental, making comments surrounding my intelligence, (i would ditch, but i was really sad and I constantly looked for anything to make me happy) I know that from high school to older age, you do hit puberty again and I was a bit skinnier back then and sometimes their comments would revolve around my body and now that I have gained a few pounds I can feel the old comments being reinforced (in my head). Or some comments that I am not that pretty, and somethings I believe in those comments, even though i know they aren't true, I know a part of me believes it. It's hard to think that people who have done you wrong will live a peaceful life.
We live around the same area so smths I fear (even when writing this) that they may see this post or see me and laugh. I have struggled with my sense of self esteem, since I have been little. I tend to cover it by trying to appear confidence, which backfires and I usually end up being cocky. I try to cover it with makeup or my hair, but I know that when I take it all of, it isn't me.
I am obsessed with them and I can find myself ruminating with the idea. I have already talked with a counselor ( i went online for senior year to get mental health) and I fear when I see them (old classmates, not the girls in general) that they smths look at, some have asked, one followed me for a bit, and I know it is none of their business, but it still haunts me.
I constantly feel the need to prove something to them even though they are no longer in my life, maybe my ego is hurt, but I tried talking to counselors and they seem frustrated that I'm stuck in the same situation, so I'm afraid. I want to be better and live free of them.
How do I move forward, live in the present, not fear them anymore, and improve my self esteem. It seems I pretend to be confident ends up in being cocky and cry bcuz deep down I know I’m insecure
please if any advice, whether hard truth or anything nice, I am open
2024.05.19 03:09 TheChainsawVigilante How many legs do you have?
I'm just trying to get like, a general idea for the average number of legs (or total feet) a person in this sub has. 'Cuz I only got two and I have to stand on at least one of them so some of y'all boards look impossible to me.
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2024.05.19 03:08 ctx429 Looking to move to Anchorage from Las Vegas...
OK, so long story short, I'm just not happy with my current life situation and a big play in that mentally is living in this sand trap desert. I could write a book on why, but I'll save all that typing.
I don't have much experience moving such a distance, especially by myself. I moved to Texas after HS and back to Vegas after graduation so that's really it. But to go as far as the *real* North.. I don't even know where to begin. How do I figure out housing, job, and other types of expenses (plus the whole moving process in general) with a state I have 0 - 2% knowledge of and is what feels like 2x planets away? Like, do I need a passport to drive there since I would have to go through Canada? Could I take a boat there instead? Or would I even want to take a boat there to begin with..? Sounds stupid but I'm just giving half-ass examples of what I think going about such a decision is going to take.
But again, I have no idea. Alaska in general will be a whole new world (again) for me. Reason why I'd like to settle there, reset my life and forget the past, even if it's just a little. My gut tells me Alaska is that place I'm trying to find. But hey, maybe it will be; maybe it won't be...
What I do believe is that it'll be a place I could start another new chapter in my life. Like, do I want to settle with my current stagnating position, living life so dull and alone one could argue it's a pointless existence..? Maybe the opportunities I've been looking for all these years are here... So, any type of advice is greatly appreciated!
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I don't have much experience moving such a distance, especially by myself. I moved to Texas after HS and back to Vegas after graduation so that's really it. But to go as far as the *real* North.. I don't even know where to begin. How do I figure out housing, job, and other types of expenses (plus the whole moving process in general) with a state I have 0 - 2% knowledge of and is what feels like 2x planets away? Like, do I need a passport to drive there since I would have to go through Canada? Could I take a boat there instead? Or would I even want to take a boat there to begin with..? Sounds stupid but I'm just giving half-ass examples of what I think going about such a decision is going to take.
But again, I have no idea. Alaska in general will be a whole new world (again) for me. Reason why I'd like to settle there, reset my life and forget the past, even if it's just a little. My gut tells me Alaska is that place I'm trying to find. But hey, maybe it will be; maybe it won't be...
What I do believe is that it'll be a place I could start another new chapter in my life. Like, do I want to settle with my current stagnating position, living life so dull and alone one could argue it's a pointless existence..? Maybe the opportunities I've been looking for all these years are here... So, any type of advice is greatly appreciated!
2024.05.19 03:07 yourmaxiemaxie what is it like working 2 jobs? what are your hours?
hello, i'm turning 14 this summer and starting to stress immensely about my future and getting a job and attempting to stay somewhere at-least somewhat comfortable once i'm an adult, and having two jobs seems to be what i may do, but i'm curious about what that's like.
a few questions i have are: what are your hours/how does your day go? how do you handle taxes with the two jobs? are most jobs okay with you having a second or is it rather difficult to find somewhere okay with it? how do you handle if one of your jobs wants overtime? if you're sort of young with 2 jobs, is it possible to maybe buy a small house (1-2 bedrooms) soon w/ how much you're earning?
a few ideas i've had for my jobs are medical billing/coding, just managing medical records, being a front office representative/medical receptionist, then also doing amazon flex, waitressing, and usps. my options are after either very minimal research or my mother's encouragement, i'm planning to do my research on those jobs this summer. i'm curious if these jobs are flexible and good when working two jobs. additionally, i'd love to start a band but that'd be pretty hard so unless somehow its successful it couldn't take much of my time as an adult and i understand.
also, if this is important, my parents do want me out of the house at 18, and i'm in arizona. so yeah, if anybody can answer my questions i would greatly appreciate it! sorry if i don't make much sense or if i'm in the wrong place, i'm a bit tired and confused with reddit. again, thank you.
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a few questions i have are: what are your hours/how does your day go? how do you handle taxes with the two jobs? are most jobs okay with you having a second or is it rather difficult to find somewhere okay with it? how do you handle if one of your jobs wants overtime? if you're sort of young with 2 jobs, is it possible to maybe buy a small house (1-2 bedrooms) soon w/ how much you're earning?
a few ideas i've had for my jobs are medical billing/coding, just managing medical records, being a front office representative/medical receptionist, then also doing amazon flex, waitressing, and usps. my options are after either very minimal research or my mother's encouragement, i'm planning to do my research on those jobs this summer. i'm curious if these jobs are flexible and good when working two jobs. additionally, i'd love to start a band but that'd be pretty hard so unless somehow its successful it couldn't take much of my time as an adult and i understand.
also, if this is important, my parents do want me out of the house at 18, and i'm in arizona. so yeah, if anybody can answer my questions i would greatly appreciate it! sorry if i don't make much sense or if i'm in the wrong place, i'm a bit tired and confused with reddit. again, thank you.