What to say on an outgoing voicemail

I own a duplex. I live on the top, I have a tenant who pays me rent living on the bottom. ETA: this arrangement has been this way for 3 years.
The house has a driveway that is narrow such that only one car at a time can park on it. The width does not allow for more than 1 car. As a result, my tenant and I have an unspoken rule to neverarely park on the driveway and always park in the 2 car garage at the end of the driveway so either of us can get out without an issue.
I have been a way for a few days and a I returned home to find a car parked in the driveway, blocking my path to my garage.
My tenant came out and asked if I wanted her friend who was visiting her to move her car or park on the street (ample legal and safe street parking) so I could park in the garage. I said no, and parked behind the car, blocking them from reversing should they have to leave. (I do not know the friend who was visiting her).
I went inside, got ready for work, showered etc. While I was in the shower my tenant texted me twice asking me to move my car because her friend had to leave. As I got out of the shower she left me a voicemail. She called me again as I was getting ready, saying her friend really needed to leave and could I move my car. I answered and said “no, she’ll have to wait. Maybe she will learn not to park in other peoples driveway.”
I finished getting ready for work and went downstairs to leave. Before I left, I knocked on my tenants door and told her and her friend, “do not park your car in my driveway in my house, that I own.” They stuttered making excuses etc and I simply repeated, “do not park your car in my driveway in my house, that I own.” They apologized, and I pulled my car out and left.
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My opinion: I probably could have been politer and laid ground rules down before this incident. But it just seems obvious to me you don’t go around parking in stranger’s driveways. Especially if they only allow for one car. (What if an ambulance had to come and they couldn’t get to the door because a car was blocking it? My tenant is elderly) By this logic (parking in stranger’s driveways) I could just park in anyone’s driveway willy nilly. Even when I was a kid visiting my friends I never parked in their parents driveway, always on the street. And then to get upset because I won’t move my car in my own driveway? Seems a little absurd.
AITA?

The Injustice Initiative and Megaverse Council did not grieve with their former leader for too long, due to the combined forces of Venessa and Velocity making swift progress in uniting dozens of Omniverses under their heroic banner. Velocity used her direct and demanding demeanor to influence the defenders of each Omniverse to join the Council and was brutally honest in her meetings with the current situation. She stressed that if they refuse to join then they will face extinction and the Council will not help them when they are attacked due to them only having priorities for attacking the demons head on. Venessa on the other hand focused her attention in strengthening the Injustice Initiative with rigorous training and firing incompetent people in leadership positions and swiftly replacing them with those that were far more competent and understood the severity of the situation. In the span of 16 days, the combined efforts of these two feminine leaders made great leaps in progress that equaled or surpassed Diamond's own work in the past three months.
While these two were on a mission together, The Researcher contacted them regarding a very important matter. When the two heroines arrived at the Council's headquarters The Researcher revealed to them two enormous discoveries. "We finally found them. The place where our foes call home, Omniverse 6,666,666. We do not know much of this Omniverse other than the Diamond from Omniverse 8 being aware of its potential and became paranoid of its existence leading him nearly wiping all traces of it from the Council's database. I happen to uncover the last fragments of his report that failed to be deleted. Furthermore, the Core of that Omniverse is deeply fractured, completely drained of all power. We can deduce with sound reasoning that the landscape of that Omniverse is something out of an apocalypse with everything that could have gone wrong, definitely went wrong. In addition, it is a very wide and vast Omniverse similar to the Main Omniverse. In fact, before its current miserable state, it was a near copy of the Main Omniverse. We are trying to scout and analyze the area as best as we can, but it is blocking all of our scanners. Our supernatural sensors can barely last four seconds before frying when they sense the amount of dark negative energy that shrouds that Omniverse." Velocity, "And the other news?" "We also found a very promising Omniverse that was elusive to our map, but just appeared and is surging with radiant energy from the Light." Venessa abruptly, "Light? Like The Light......... not just colorful lights?" "Correct. Would you care to guess what this Omniverse's number is?" "I would assume it would be the polar opposite of the other, so Omniverse 7,777,777?" "Bingo. Apparently, they have a hierarchy over there and their King requests your presence. His words not mine were King Alexander humbly requests the presence of Empress Venessa of the Main Omniverse and any companions she wishes to bring for a formal meeting in regards to the future protection of the Megaverse."
"Alright, message King Alexander and tell him I will adhere to his request. She accessed her communication com and ordered Tray and Cross to join her on the mission. She then turned to Velocity. I would have you join me on this mission, but I do not want to delay the progress you are making in convincing more Omniverses to join our cause." A short time passed as the three members arrived for their briefing with Venessa. After their meeting, they used their watches and traveled to Omniverse 7,777,777. Their eyes were blinded by the bright rays of the sun, before they could tell where they were at. At last, their eyes adjusted to their environment, which resulted in them being astonished at the shining city that was before them. They observed trains similar to bullet trains zipping back and forth through wind tubes and the residents there in very intricate clothing. The residents either had high collar jackets, dazzling shirts, and most importantly, Venessa could sense all of them having unusual levels of the Light inside of them. A loud voice could be heard behind them. "Are these the people who the King wishes to speak with?" The group turns around and sees two men standing a few feet behind them. One appears six foot and a few inches, he did not wear a shirt but was surrounded with gold and red armor, a long red cape, black pants, and long flowing blonde hair. The other was a little shorter around five feet and possibly 11 inches with black and purple hair, a black and purple cape, purple pants, and purple armor in the exact areas as the first man. The second one responded to his companion in a soft-spoken manner,"Yes, these are the three we were assigned to escort back to the castle." Venessa, "Hey, are you two like siblings or something? You two kind of look alike." The purple one, "That assumption is correct. I am Lucrest and this is my older obnoxious brother Leoped." Leoped, "We are two in a handful of select individuals, who serve the King by carrying out special assignments and investigations." Lucrest, "If you will please follow us, the King is eager to greet you."
The three heroes followed the two guards to the castle, during their walk Venessa teased her sibling, Tray. "It appears those two brothers have larger swords than you. I think they are far superior swordsmen if they can handle large blades like that. It fails to even compare your toothpick of a sword." "Shush! I don't want to hear it. I choose elegance and gracefulness over something flashy." The group finally reached the castle as several guards in colorful shining full body armor saluted the group as they stepped inside the large white crystal doors of the castle. Leoped and Lucrest led the trio right towards the throne room; no sooner than when the doors opened, King Alexander leaped from his throne and welcomed his guests. The King's outfit was composed of expensive black cloth with silver and blue crystals creating his unique armor with gold outlining around the edges and his crown. His hair was white as snow with a cape flowing from his waist with two metallic angelic wings attached to his back. He appeared as someone who was no older than their early 20's, much less muscular than Leoped, while possessing a staggering height of 6,7. "Greetings Empress Venessa, first adopted child of Diamond! A pleasure to finally meet you. Greetings to you Tray, second adopted child of Diamond! And a very warm welcome to Cross, the last member and headmaster of the Royal Guard!" Cross' attitude changed from being standoffish to one of utter shock. No one has addressed him as headmaster since the days of the Clone War. Tray whispered to Venessa, "Headmaster of the Royal Guard? I never knew that about Cross." "Yes, many years in Cross' realm he was headmaster of the Royal Guard, an elite group of warriors who protected his realm from malevolent threats under the orders of a man named the Keeper. This was brought to an end when.........Alastor manipulated him to massacre all of his fellow friends and the Keeper towards the end of the Clone War, mere days before order Kingdom Come was initiated."
King Alexander, "Empress Venessa please accept these gifts as a sign of good will. He signaled for four servants to step forward with bundles of technology and scrolls. The Alphaverse is more than ready to work closely alongside the Megaverse Council to defeat the fallen angels and corrupted souls of the Demonic Council! Please follow me to our war chambers." King Alexander led the heroes down several steps to a room that was protected by several guards. They were granted access and upon entering, the heroes were stunned to see holographic displays of plans and projects that were scattered as two male figures were debating with a female. The figures turned to the doors and quickly turned off the scattered plans and pulled up a file that said, "Propositions and explanation for the Megaverse Council." One unique hologram Venessa saw before it disappeared was a hologram of the Matrix of Eternity with a subject line under it labeled "Restore the Matrix to its former power?" As Venessa was deep in thought, King Alexander spoke to his guests who the other three figures were, "The lanky one with grey hair and a gas mask is our lead chemist, Lorenzo. The other one with him with the crimson operator hat, black and red hair, and basically black and red from his natural wings to his armor adored with many medals is our head of homeland security, Viciate. Last but not least is our lead scientist of technology, and weapons, whose brilliance I cannot put into words, Malissia." Malissia had medium length jet black hair that only left her left eye visible, yet it appeared she had unique facial marks that were long black lines leading up to her eyelids. She wore a long black coat that went just above her ankles with boots in the shape of heels. Nearly everything she wore was black except her shirt which was white with print that resembles computer chips. Malissia, "I prefer to go by M." Tray in a playful manner, "A little gothic in your appearance compared to everyone we've seen today!" "Simply a matter of taste and perception." Tray then noticed Malissia had white irises as the rest of her eyes were black, which created a sense of mystery behind them.
Lorenzo, "The disgraced Royal Guard is here......." King Alexander disappointingly, "Lorenzo......we talked about this." Venessa, "Hey what was that project regarding the Matrix of Eternity about? How would any of you be able to reload it?" King Alexander, "We have the source that originally fueled the Matrix. We were the ones who originally created it." Cross and Tray were shocked to hear such a revelation. Was the king bluffing or legitimately telling the truth? Malissia, "The reason you saw so many other projects scattered was due to these two knuckleheads trying to push these loose ideas my way, knowing full well we had a meeting today." Viciate, "Then Lorenzo and I should be going." Viciate and Lorenzo leave the room as King Alexander and Malissia start speaking with Venessa, Tray, and Cross. Lorenzo and Viciate journeyed far from the castle's boundaries and into the outskirts of the gorgeous city into a dark alleyway where a female was waiting for them. "Have you two finally reached a decision?" Lorenzo, "Yes, we have, Paradox." Paradox in a feminine form smiled while twirling their hair, with a snap of their fingers a contract appeared before Lorenzo and Viciate. "Both of you sign there. Viciate tried to sign with a pen, but Paradox stopped him. Nuh uh uh, in blood!" Viciate pulled a dagger and cut a piece of flesh off him and Lorenzo as they signed the contract that bonded them to Black Hat. See that wasn't so hard. Now I sense you have something to tell me?" Viciate, "The Empress, playboy, and ex-harbinger of darkness are here. They learned of the plans to restore the Matrix of Eternity." A sadistic smile appeared on Paradox's face, "Wonderful! Wonderful! Things could not be better! With your help we can kill those three now and you two will rule this Omniverse as the new kings only in service to Black Hat and the Council. Let them retrieve the remains of the Matrix, and we can either strike before or after they restore the Matrix, then steal it and place it within the treasury with the other dangerous objects that could pose a threat to our reign. Run along now and continue to play your parts like good little errand boys." Paradox gave them a wink. Lorenzo, "Freak! When it comes to your services, we work with you, not for you!" The two then leave as Paradox continues to smile in the shadows.
Back in the war chamber. Venessa, "Impressive. All that you are proposing will greatly benefit us. I can see your offers are sincere, but I must ask, why it took you this long to reveal yourselves?" King Alexander, "That is........simply because of an old law......that had been in effect for thousands of years. I wanted to honor my father and his father, but eventually my consciousness allowed me to overturn that old silly law." Loud footsteps could be running through the halls as a young teenage girl open the doors to the room with pieces of paper in her arms. She began to speak clearly out of breath, "I'm here sister. The documents you wanted." Mallisa, "A few minutes late like usual, Joan." "It's not my fault, military class went on longer than normal! Gosh, how many times do I have to tell you I hate it that mom and dad forced me to become a soldier!" "Everyone, this is my younger sister, Joan. Joan this is Empress Venessa and her two colleagues, Tray and Cross." Everyone exchanged friendly greetings except for Tray who stared at Joan. There was something about Joan that captivated him, it was either the childish way she speaks or the fact she had navy hair like he did. Instead of a handshake, he wrapped both his hands around hers and knelt down, "My fair lady, it is with great honor to meet you. I pray that you will accept my greeting as one of humbleness and may good health and prosperity follow you all the days of your life, my dearest madam." Everyone in the room stared dumbfounded at Tray's speech. Cross, "Where the crap did that come from Shakespeare?" Joan stood there blushing as she stuttered while addressing Tray, "Th....thank y...yo.....you." King Alexander, "Well this meeting is nearing its end, so why don't Tray and Joan spend some time with each other while the rest of us handle the closing logistics?" Mallisa, "WHAT THE?" "Alright it's settled then. Tray and Joan, you two are dismissed."
Joan and Tray stared at each other before she offered Tray some lunch, which he readily agreed to. Alexander turned back to Venessa, "Venessa, if you don't mind, I will like you and your party to stay here the next four days. The first two can be used to handle business regarding our technology and battle tactics as I introduce you to our greatest soldiers, warriors, and fighters. The last two days can be a sort of mini vacation." "Well..........I don't think such an offer will hurt. You have yourself a deal King Alexander!" At lunch Tray and Joan were deep in conversation. Tray, "You look much different than your sister. Your eyes are normal, you are much more cheerful, and just overall livelier." "My sister takes all the stress and responsibilities of the family upon her. That and her role in the kingdom just adds more stress to her. As for her eyes and facial markings, those came when she felt called to the Spring of Restoration." "What now?" "The Spring of Restoration grants those worthy unique properties or powers. Only a select few experience a change from the spring. It is not heavily protected because the spring prevents anyone unworthy from stepping foot in its waters." "Radical." "Mhm!" "So, I heard you fighting with your sister about you hating being trained as a soldier. Why is that?" "It freaking sucks! My parents do not want me to be an astronomer or engineer! They want me to become a Celestial Crusader. On top of that, I don't even get to choose what I want to do or what I want to eat a majority of the time! Eating lunch with you right now is a rare occurrence." "Have you brought your problems to the king?" "Yes, but I don't know if he is hearing my pleas or not. If he's not, I don't blame him, he has a lot on his mind and considering my parents are very influential in terms of politics, if the king makes a brash move, my parents will give him political turmoil." Tray abruptly received a message from Venessa stating their four day stay. He was excited and already made up his mind that he will spend these four days showing Joan the freedom she is missing out on.
The next two days, King Alexander did everything he said he would to Venessa and Cross. Among the strongest warriors and fighters were Ezekiel with his four angelic wings and star saber, Phonix with his ability to control time and fire, Ian with the ability to create things out of metal at will and his large sword in the shape of a key, Vivi with her ability of harnessing animal souls and acquiring their powers and abilities to her disposal, and with several other notable fighters. Yet, the group was slowly stalked by Lorenzo who reported all of their movements to Paradox. The next two days arrived where Venessa and Cross briefly parted ways in order to find some way to relax before returning to base. On the fourth day, Venessa contacted her adoptive mother, Selena, for a special request. She wanted Selena to travel to the Alphaverse with the Matrix of Eternity in order to restore it with wisdom capable of changing the tide of the war. As for Joan and Tray, the two traveled all across the kingdom from going to the beach, kayaking, visiting the aquarium, and art museum. Tray taught Joan how to properly duel and was deeply proud when she complimented him on his elegant sword. Unknown to them Viciate was also reporting their activities to Paradox. On one of their stops, Joan brought Tray to the Spring of Restoration just for them to sight see. Yet, she was startled when Tray stopped responding to her. His eyes were affixed at the spring as he slowly started to step towards it. Joan tried to stop him, but her petite body could not stop him.
Suddenly, he stopped on the edge of the spring and bent down scooping up the water as he started to drink it from his hands. Joan was confused at Tray's behavior, "Are you......alright?" Before Tray could turn around, he collapsed on the ground. "TRAY!" She ran to him, but when she arrived, his eyes opened wildly as his body started to glow with an unearthly light. Tray's body started to transform with his pupils becoming white similar to Mallisa but instead of the other part of his eye becoming black, it became a bright cyan color. His navy hair became white with a few streaks of cyan along with his olive skin changing to being white as quartz. His outfit even started to change around him with his clothes glowing with a clear like cyan substance with a hood gently resting on his hair. Gold embroidered his collar as a unique glowing cyan halo appearing over his head. "Joan.....please tell me I'm not dead." "I uhhhh you mmmmmmm I guess not? Here let me show you what you look like." Joan opened her camera and took a photo of him in order for Tray to see the photo. "Oh my gosh I became even more handsome." "Seriously, that's what you think about after looking like you just died on me!" "Hey, I'm sorry for zoning out on you like that. I just heard a soothing voice calling me from the Spring and I could not help but follow it." "The voice was more than soothing than mine?!" "Well yes...CRAP NO NOT LIKE THAT I SWEAR!" Joan started punching Tray as he let out a hearty laugh. From the shadows Viciate contacted Paradox on what happened and for Paradox to arrive swiftly to exterminate the couple.
The two continued on their walk after having their emotions die down. Yet, there was a sort of tension in the air between the two as one waited for the other to speak first. At last, Tray was the one to break the tension as he stopped Joan and decided to finally reveal to her the thoughts that had been plaguing his mind the past few days. "Joan, I don't know how to say this but, whenever I am around you, I just feel warm inside and what I could only describe as butterflies, erupt in my stomach." Joan blushed deeply before responding, "Oh Tray!" "Joan, if you do not want to enlist in the Celestial Crusaders, you don't have to. I'm offering you a choice. I see how much you care for your older sister and your eagerness for freedom. I encourage you to follow your heart and join me. I promise with every fiber in my being that my family and I will protect you and support you with whatever decision you make." Joan with tears in her eyes. "Oh Tray! Thank you! I want to briefly stay here so I can help my sister with any last assignments and join you on exploring the Megaverse and you taking me back to the Omniverse you call home! Thank you, thank you for being such a wonderful person to me these past four days. Truthfully, I can say I feel the same when I am around you. Your outgoing free-spirited nature is very cute and contagious." Tray extends his hand towards Joan, "Then what are we waiting for? Take my hand and I will show you all the wonderful places in my Omniverse! Obviously after you are done helping your sister of course." He gave her a big comforting smile as he waited for her to wipe the tears of gratitude off her face. However, just before she could place her hand in his, a gunshot went off as a singular bullet went through the right side of Joan's head and exited out of the left. Tray opened his eyes and was horrified at the pool of blood emerging from Joan's body as she lay lifeless on the ground. He was shaken as he heard a sickening laugh. He hastily turned his head to the direction of the laughter.
Tray's eyes widened in confusion as he saw Gadget Bandito emerge from the shadows. "What.....what are you doing here? How did you get here? Why have you done this after being a loyal member of the Initiative for many years?!" "Doesn't matter. Any last words kid?" Tray thought inwardly, "Wait......no......there is no way he is the real Gadget Bandito. The real one does not even know a lot of the Megaverse, much less keep up with any news from the Initiative." He finally spoke out loud. "My powers and senses are telling me you are Gadget Bandito. But my heart, mind, and soul tell me otherwise! WHO ARE YOU?" Paradox finally revealed himself to Tray as he morphed into his mechanical appearance. Tray finally spoke after being at a loss for words, "I know you. I know who you are. No, you are not even a person anymore. You have turned yourself into something unrecognizable. I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE! YOU ARE THE CREATURE WHO MURDERED MY FATHER'S PARENTS ON THE NIGHT OF HOLY THURSDAY!" Paradox had a twisted malicious grin on his mechanical face as he spoke, "Aren't you a smart one." Tray began to channel his new powers granted to him from the Spring of Restoration. "I WILL NOT ONLY AVENGE THE DEATH OF DIAMOND'S PARENTS! BUT FOR JOAN WHO YOU SHOT IN COLD BLOOD! DIE YOU BODY MORPHING BASTARD!"
Filled with pure rage, Tray could not control his powers as Paradox merely toyed with him before using Tray's disorientation to his advantage. Paradox was able to overpower the young hero, but briefly underestimated his new power buff when Tray's halo pierced itself into Paradox's chest. This comeback was shortly lived due to the intervention of Viciate who incapacitated Tray and tied him up. Elsewhere, Venessa felt a disturbance in her gut and thus gathered Cross and met with King Alexander to ask where Tray and Joan were at. The King did not know of their location much to the dismay of Venessa, but suddenly in the throne room a thick green mist entered the room which knocked the guards and the heroes unconscious. Lorenzo did his best to pick up the bodies of the heroes and tie them up, "Now we just wait for the Queen of Asteria to arrive and snatch the Matrix from her by ransoming these hostages."
Meanwhile Selena took care of Diamond and would not allow him out of her sight. If he had to leave her house, she would go with him wherever he went, due to the public opinion on him fiercely divided. There were some who believed the attacks were caused by him while others knew that he would never do such a thing and it had to be an imposter. She would fiercely criticize any bystander who booed or tried to assault Diamond. Diamond on the other hand did not like how Selena was being overprotective of him, and her reasoning was that his mental state was not in a good place. Truthfully, it felt like he was on house arrest. One day the two of them took a nap on Selena's couch, when Selena was notified to embark on the mission to Omniverse 7,777,777. She did not have Diamond know what mission it was, but said it was important. "Don't do anything stupid or silly while I'm gone. And do not go on any adventures either! If I find out you left the town, you won't hear the end of it!" "Alright sheesh I got it."
Selena traveled to Sanctuary and entered one of the passwords a few of the elite members possessed in order to gain access to the broken remains of the Matrix of Eternity. She grabbed the pieces and created a portal to the Alphaverse. Once Selena teleported off to her mission, Diamond took advantage of this opportunity and decided to venture into town. He grabbed his Bluetooth earbuds and walked outside to his favorite coffee shop. While walking, he played Have You Ever Seen The Rain, by Creedence Clearwater Revival, one of his father's favorite bands. He could not resist but sing along with the lyrics, "When it's over so they say it'll rain a sunny day, I know, shining down like water. I wanna know, have you ever seen the rain? I wanna know, have you ever seen the rain? Coming down on a sunny day." During his stroll a handful of protestors spotted him and began to yell, "Murderer! Thief! Crook! Liar!" One such protestor threw a pot of hot water at him, which nearly resulted in Diamond retaliated, but he bore these wrongs patiently and continued on his way. He turned a corner into an alleyway and started to dance and jump in the puddles. On the other side were a set of stairs where he slowly danced his way down each step to the closing parts of the song still singing with raw emotion. "Yeaaaaahhhhhhhh I wanna know have you seen the rain? I wanna know have you ever seen the rain? Coming down on a sunny day."
He turned off his music when he entered the doors of the small shop and waited patiently in line. After he finished placing his order and pulled out his wallet to pay, the cashier whispered to him, "It's on the house. You are still a hero to us who work here." "Are you sure ma'am?" "Yes. It'll be out shortly." He took a seat near a window and started reading the local newspaper in silence. Just then a little boy who was with his parents came to his side and started to speak with him. "Excuse me sir, but are you, Diamond?" Diamond chuckled to himself, "Well there is no use in hiding my identity. Yes, I am." "Can you tell me what it was like during the year I was born?" "Uh, odd request but yeah I can tell you, first I have to ask how old are you?" "I just turned four!" "Well happy birthday! Let's see four years ago was 2016.....wait no it was 2020. Gosh was 2020 four years ago? Man, all these adventures all start flowing together kid. So, around this time an old enemy of mine named......" Diamond abruptly stopped speaking as he felt a disturbance. "Named who, sir?" Diamond stood up and slowly walked to the doors as a giant explosion went off in the center of town. Everyone started screaming, running in all directions from the blast, as Diamond signaled his AI using his nanotech vision glasses. "HONEY what are we looking at? HONEY? Crap I never turned you back on." Diamond hastily had his nanotech grow on his left arm as he turned on the setting to activate HONEY. "I'm back! Are you ok boss, did you do anything brash when I was gone?" "We can catch up later HONEY, right now I need you to prevent traffic from entering this street and alert the local authorities." "Yes sir!"
While all of this was happening on Earth, Selena's portal finally brought her to the Alphaverse. She begins to mutter to herself, "Alright Venessa I'm here. Hopefully we can get this done quickly, because I don't trust Diamond being by himself." Selena was cautious of her surroundings, due to being greeted with an eerie vacant throne room. She suddenly heard a quiet "help me," this prompted her to locate the source of the voice which resulted in her finding Lorenzo lying next to a pillar. "Please help me." "Who did this to you, where are they now, and have you seen a young girl with pink and blue hair go by?" Selena used her powers to silently read the injured person's mind, but before her powers could alert her of it being a trap, she heard another voice which caused her pupils to shrink with fear. "Hello my precious doll." Selena turned to face the new voice and to her horror, she saw Paradox standing behind her, appearing the same way he looked the day before he died. The trauma from the mistreatment and terror she received from him overridden her senses and caused her to stand completely motionless. Behind her Lorenzo leaped and took off his mask expelling a strong toxin into her lungs causing her to faint and drop the pieces of the Matrix. Lorenzo, "Why did you change the plan to capture her instead of bargaining with her?" Paradox, "Because I want the last thing, they see is me holding the reloaded Matrix and handing it over to my masters." Paradox then switched back to his mechanical body and wrapped Selena in thick pairs of chains. He then took her body along with the rest of the heroes to the depths of the castle.
Simultaneously on Earth, Diamond slowly made his way to the source of the blast as he yelled at the pedestrians to head southbound. When he reached the center of the blast three figures emerged. A hulking lizard creature, a humanoid squid, and a tall figure wrapped in black cloth with piercing red goggles. "HEY! THIS TOWN IS CLOSED TO THUGS LIKE YOU TODAY!" The man in black cloth responded back, "We were wishing for a fight with Selena, but facing you is even better!" "I suggest you stand down before I rip a tentacle from your friend Squidward!" "Grok shut his mouth." The hulking creature lifted his axe from his back and started charging at Diamond. Diamond tapped his chest as his nanotech started to form around him as he created several large blasters from his back and fired at Grok. The blasts sent Grok flying backwards to his two other companions, but the man in black simply waved his hand to the right which sent Grok crashing into a local store. Diamond flew towards the humanoid squid and started punching him with unrelenting force that caused the squid to vomit quantities of ink. The man in black teleported behind Diamond and used his mystic powers to gain the upper hand by distorting the reality around them. The squid shaped his head into a spear and tried to pierce Diamond with his poison, but Diamond dodged it and sent him hurdling towards the man in black, breaking the reality illusion. He then had his suit create a sticky net which he shot to capture both the man in black and squid. Grok finally managed to get back up, but upon seeing his comrades captured, he clicked a button on his belt that resulted in him exploding creating a blast deadlier than the first. Diamond noticed there were a few people that were in the blast radius of this second explosion and flew towards them using his strength to hold the falling debris from the tall business building. The debris piled the streets with dust and papers, until the sound of sirens broke the silence. Law enforcement arrested the two other villains while Diamond was barely holding large portions of fallen walls, glass, and stone from crushing him and the civilians under him. The leading officer noticed Diamond struggling in the debris, but decided not to help him, he thought to himself, "Let's see if he can truly save others and be the hero the weak minded believe him to be." The crushing weight began to take a toll on Diamond as he slowly began to lose his footing until he was on his knees holding the debris up.
"I promise.....I will get all of you out alive!" Negative thoughts began to enter his mind as various voices began to call out. "You are not good enough. You couldn't save your own parents; how can you save these unfortunate souls? You are playing a fool's game. See how the law enforcement refuses to acknowledge your existence. Face it your story is over. Finished. You are nothing but a weak boy who thought he could have been a great hero." Diamond tried to block out these voices, but they began to take a toll on him, nearly causing him to give up, but then a quiet voice entered his mind. A voice smooth like honey but strong as thunder echoed in his mind. "You are something more. Look inside yourself, you are something far more than when you started all those years ago as a small-town hero. Do not listen to their empty words, listen to me. Do you renounce sin?" "I do." "Do you renounce the Devil, the sin whisperer, and all his empty promises?" "I do!" "Do you believe in the Faith of your fathers, the Resurrection, and life everlasting?" "I do!" "Arise my child." At that very moment Diamond felt the power of the Light course through him at greater quantities than before as his body began to glow with gold and white light. With a newfound access to the Light, Diamond felt it was only natural to change the wording when harnessing its power, "Through the power of Heaven's Light.......All things are possible!" Diamond effortlessly lifted the debris away from him as the civilians under his care ran to the rest of the crowd. The onlookers stared at Diamond's glowing gold and white body. They were baffled in amazement as a few murmured amongst themselves, "Truly this is the act of a selfless hero."
Diamond did not hear the crowd's cheers, whistles, and praises as he stood deep in contemplation. Deep within his soul, he was able to sense his family was in grave danger. With his connection to the Light restored, he made it his new mission to travel to the Omniverse where he sensed the disturbance. He quietly spoke to himself, "Oh yeah I'm ready to whip the person who is so bent on ruining my life! But first, I have to do it in style. He allowed his suit to create two large speakers; HONEY make sure the volume is on max. Time for us to go back into the Megaverse!"
To Be Continued In The Alphaverse Part 2

I need some opinions of those with experience if my new partner is narcissistic or overly sensitive/emotional.
I’m 6 months into a new relationship, for background not much has changed he’s still the same nice guy as when we started but he has some red flags such as tested to see how much I care/what I’ll do for him, lots of gifts, lots of future talk & trip & I’ve caught him in lots of little lies. All the above could be normal but the multiple little lies are concerning nonetheless. Today he left a voicemail pretty much in tears about an awful vivid dream he had of me leaving him for my ex and how he just wanted to hear my voice (he works away so we do chat on the phone). Is that normal?
The little lies are strange too, they are lies to impress me but he blows his cover so fast, a couple examples: says he quit vaping but I seen it in his pocket, says he bought my fave ice cream but when I came over he said he didn’t buy it yet, says he’s viewing a house to buy but when I ask about it later he said he cancelled, and others similar. The thing is, he has a pretty good memory, he remembers little things about me.

I 20 (F) have never been in any kind of romantic relationship...I know I prefer guys sexually. However, I've made friends with this 20 (F) lesbian, and honestly, it's been great she's the most wonderful person I've ever met, she's thoughtful, caring, and genuine, and she makes me feel seen and valued as a person, she does this cute thing where if she finds something that makes me flustered she'll emphasize it make me blush (I think she just thinks it's funny but it makes me feel safe almost) that's another thing I feel completely safe with her...im generally an outgoing person but not public with my emotional baggage but I honestly can't not talk about shit when I'm around her because I feel so safe and I'm just so confused because I've watched lesbian porn and it's just so uninteresting to me...so what do I do, how do I be friends with this girl who I want to do romantic stuff with, I want to hold her hand amd maybe some light kissing and i want to cuddle (the thought of her holding me in her arms almost makes me want to cry from a feeling of validation) (I'm an artist) I want to paint pictures of her (man when she's studying by the window I swear the way the mid-day light hits her face through her brown wavy hair makes her face look like it's glowing, she is a work of art in an of herself ) but like I want to have the late-night phone calls, I want to go to Barn and Noble and spend hours with her while she studies for college and I read random books, I just want to be with her (maybe I'm obsessive, maybe I'm just crazy)
But like is it selfish for me to say that I want that with her even if I knew it couldn't last forever and eventually we'd both have to move on, is it selfish for me to want to be with her but not be with her lady parts? She would satisfy my emotional wants, but I wouldn't satisfy her physical ones and eventually in the end I would just hurt her.
I don't know she's been working more and we don't talk as much, and maybe that's a good thing maybe I need the separation before I get us both hurt.
Sorry for the rant between the ADHD and this melting my brain over the last few months I'm a little haywire ;)
And so reddit, do you think I'm crazy and should just get over it or what do you think?

I posted this in divorce but i just really dont know what to do.
Its been 1 years and 3 months since my(29m) divorce. To spare the details she left while i was away on a business trip after accepting a significant sum of money and while my divorce was finalized very quickly after she left it took a year and another 5 figure sum to get her name off of my house (i owned it before we met and she didnt want it)
I dont miss her so much anymore but im so lonely and dont know what to do.
I work 60 hours a week in a solitary job. So i dont see anyone all day. Then i go home and dont see anyone. If im not too tired i might get to talk to a friend on discord for a little while. All my friends are either married with children or in long term committed relationships, most with children so i dont see them often.
Today (3rd day off since april) i went to the mall and was excited to look at board games until I got there and remembered i have no one to play them with and this really shot my day.
Ive never hadnt much luck with women. Even as a teenager. I dont think im ugly. I get compliments from a lot of people, including attractive girls but its like once we start to talk i always get ghosted. Lately, ive had some girls talk to me a few days then after i ask them out theyll excitedly say yes, make plans with me, and THEN ghost me.
I go to the gym a lot and i see lots of women but i feel like you really cant talk to anyone there. I made eye contact with someone once after they walked past my machine and they actually freaked out and wrapped their sweater around their waist. So i dont think thats a good place to meet people.
I have facebook dating. Tinder and bumble had too many bots and i have a lot of matches but they never seem to make it past 4 or 5 messages.
I did go out with a girl at work for a few weeks. That was a lot of fun. She was outgoing and pursued me and not to sound shallow but she was “that girl” at work. The one all the guys talk about wanting so that was a nice confidence boost for a bit but after the guy she was previously involved with at work threw a fit about it she broke things off and they got really chummy again so i think she just used me to get a rise out of him.
Im really not sure what to do. I think i have self esteem issues with dating and always have. In other aspects of life ive never lacked confidence at all. Like with guitar i used to be really good and i knew it and was never scared to show what i could do but now, i cant even hold one in public without fear of being judged by other good players.
I dont think this would be so hard if i had anyone to talk to. All i have is my parents but they recently retired young and are going out together all the time but im happy my parents love each other, and my friend who makes an effort but hes engaged and has a soon to be step daughter hes raising so hes busy.
Also, i tried therapy but work wont accommodate me going to therapy. They just tell me they need me and schedule me anyway.
Im sorry this was so long. I just needed to vent.
At least i have my fur babies to love and keep me company. They really have kept me going.

Hey, im not sure how to really even start this post.
Its been 1 years and 3 months since my(29m) divorce. To spare the details she left while i was away on a business trip after accepting a significant sum of money and while my divorce was final very quickly after she left it took a year and another 5 figure sum to get her name off of my house (i owned it before we met and she didnt want it)
I dont miss her so much anymore but im so lonely and dont know what to do.
I work 60 hours a week in a solitary job. So i dont see anyone all day. Then i go home and dont see anyone. If im not too tired i might get to talk to a friend on discord for a little while. All my friends are either married with children or in long term committed relationships, most with children so i dont see them often.
Today (3rd day off since april) i went to the mall and was excited to look at board games until I got there and remembered i have no one to play them with.
Ive never hadnt much luck with women. Even as a teenager. I dont think im ugly. I get compliments from a lot of people, including attractive girls but its like once we start to talk i always get ghosted. Lately, ive had some girls talk to me a few days then after i ask them out theyll excitedly say yes, make plans with me, and THEN ghost me.
I go to the gym a lot and i see lots of women there but i feel like you really cant talk to anyone there. I made eye contact with someone once after they walked past my machine and they actually freaked out and wrapped their sweater around their waist. So i dont think thats a good place to meet people.
I have facebook dating. Tinder and bumble had too many bots and i have a lot of matches but they never seem to make it past 4 or 5 messages.
I did go out with a girl at work for a few weeks. That was a lot of fun. She was outgoing and pursued me and not to sound shallow but she was “that girl” at work. The one all the guys talk about wanting so that was a nice confidence boost for a bit but after the guy she was previously involved with at work threw a fit about it she broke things off and they got really chummy again so i think she just used me to get a rise out of him.
Im really not sure what to do. I think i have self esteem issues with dating. Always have. In other aspects of life ive never lacked confidence at all. Like, with guitar, i used to be really good and i knew it and was never scared to show what i could do but now, i cant even hold one in public without fear of being judged by other good players.
I dont think this would be so hard of i had anyone to talk to. All i have is my parents but they recently retired young are going out together all the time which im happy my parents love each other, and my friend who makes an effort but hes engaged and has a soon to be step daughter hes raising so hes busy.
Also, i tried therapy but work wont accommodate me going to therapy. They just tell me they need me.
Im sorry this was so long. I just needed to vent.
At least i have my fur babies to love and keep me company.

As the title says, the last three months have been miserable, and I've been smoking weed every day like a degenerate stoner. It all started when my closest friend (23F), let's call her N, in university asked us to be more than friends (she just went for the kiss, and I let her, to be honest). I'll admit I had a bit of a crush on her too, but it wasn't to the extent where it could have hurt me if I hadn't allowed those feelings to grow.
A little bit of context: N and I met at our part-time job. For whatever reason, she just started hanging out with me at least twice a week. When I met her, it was my first year in university, and I was basically all alone in a new city, living completely on my own for the first time (I am 21 now). None of my close friends from high school had decided to start university (very normal in my country, Scandinavian laziness, I guess), and admittedly, I'm not very good at making new friends (I relied pretty much on my best friend for breaking the ice as I was always the quiet one, and he was the talker). So for her to be so outgoing and ask me to hang out all the time definitely felt like a gift from the universe.
She was also so much different from all the other people in my life. I don't think I would have ever become friends with her if she didn't try. We don't study the same things, listen to the same kind of music, or even have any hobbies in common, other than drinking/partying (if you can even call that a hobby—it's more like ritualistic self-destruction with the purpose of being back to 100% after the weekend, which is very normal here). But she would still always ask to hang out. She would talk about her day, and I would talk about mine. We gave each other advice, etc. Pretty standard stuff.
Except she had these habits that were kinda cool, like how she was extremely generous (she would always pay for random shit and insist that I don't pay, but I would always just take the bill somewhere else so we were kept even). I get that for a lot of people, this may seem like standard stuff, but in Scandinavia, it's not. As an immigrant, I can tell you that in this country, if you start paying for things, people start expecting it without ever returning the favor. So giving and taking is not something you do here, and this just made her feel a lot warmer than people usually are here. It's not just me she was kind to; she was pretty much a kind person to everybody. I guess somewhere along the line, I decided she was in the group of "good people" and that I could trust her, which led to me being perhaps a lot more open with her sooner rather than later, like I had with my oldest friends.
After a while, I started opening up to her about personal stuff, as she had done with me. She would often talk about the guys she was dating or crushing on, etc., and ask me for advice, which I tried my best to give. At some point, she would keep pressing me about how I was doing in my love life, and I opened up to her about it. Here is the gist of what I communicated to her in the span of a whole bunch of different sessions of going out for beers and just talking, which gets relevant later, so bear with me.
I don't feel like I fit in with this generation or at least this country's dating culture. I can't just move on from person to person like most people here seem to do just fine. Not because of parents teaching me stuff or religion (I was born and raised atheist), but simply because, to me, it feels wrong. Also, my parents did pretty well in that regard—I just wanted what they had. I am also very career-focused (engineering, CS with business combined honors program that's very highly regarded here, and the goal is to get to Partner at a consulting firm by the time I am 30). So setting aside time for serious stuff is just not something I can do lightly. Besides, the last relationship I was in almost cost me my spot in the program when it went south, so at least at the start of the year, I was not looking for anything, to say the least.
Another aspect of why I have not been "as active as I should be" for my age compared to peers is also because I did not want to have sex with just anybody. For me, it meant something (used to mean something now). My ideal was to pick a person who I think is "good" and hopefully we stick together (that's how I learned about relationships at least—you make things work by working through them). That's simply not something that people do where I am at in life; at least it just feels like pure lust with zero love involved, to be honest. All in all, I was waiting for the right person because I had decided the next person would have to be it, because anybody after that would simply not feel special anymore (I just kept moving the goal post like it fucking mattered XD).
Fast forward a year and half, and we were still great friends, it was just another standard day out with some friends, when i was about to leave when she came by the door to say farewell, and as i was done tying my shoes and getting my jacket she was standing really close to my face looking at me straight in the eye, this is not the first time she had done that, and i usually would just play dumb even though it was obvious every time where she wanted to go with that action. We would just never talk about it because one could always say "we were just drunk or whatever" but this time she was like insanely close, and i guess i was just a bit tired of doing this, so i whispered to her "N, we cant" (because we work together, and a piece of advice from an older friend i always tried to follow was, Dont shit where you eat, so yes even when i had for months realised i possibly had a little crush on N, i did nothing about it and was not planning on doing anything about it), To my surprise she responded with "why not, why cant we just try" and i guess that was about the limit to which i could hold back because we ended up kissing, which ended pretty quickly because another friend was coming through the hallway and i didn't want this to become a problem so i just said goodbye and left. So far no big deal i guess, i was honestly expected it to just be an awkward conversation we would have to have later on, 30 minutes later, she sent me a text, "Do you want to come over?", i said yes, and got to her place. just even talking was awkward at frist, but once i just remembered that hey, neither i or her have changed, we got back to normal, and we discussed things, i admitted my feelings for her and she did as well, i spent the rest of the evening and night talking to her (i pretty much grabbed the last bus ride back to my place) i honestly was shocked at finding out the way she claimed to feel about me, i did not think i was her type at all (yes even with the coming close my face every time she gets too drunk, i had just kept telling myself its only cause she is drunk) she even displayed jealousy and asked me to stop talking to an older lady (30F) i had started talking to (and told her about) after a weird night out with a company which was advertising its positions (Companies take us out to fancy places to try and get dibs on contracts with us)
The timing of this was a bit weird, we were going for easter break and i was actually going home the day after, and honestly i kept myself kinda skeptical about the whole thing during the entire break, i was just bracing for the "it was a mistake" to come out, cause i had been burned like that before, and i didn't want to let my feelings grow any bigger before i was sure about her feelings. When i got back, i didn't push to meet her even though i wanted to, i was trying to see what she would do, and again to my surprise she asks if she can come over, we talk more, i started to think, hey maybe this is for real, but i still wasn't 100% going in just out of caution, by the next week, we ended up sleeping together for the first time, and honestly it was great, it was also here where i actually let myself have hope that hey, maybe she is different, i mean it should be different now that i am an adult right, i mean she knows so much private shit about me, she know the way i think, she knows how i feel about these things, and she is a good person, there is no way she could play me like the previous times i had let myself get real feelings for a girl. After about a month and us hanging out even more, and me starting to get used to it, she asks me out for a beer, than tells me she wants to go back to being just friends, because she "feels closed in, and thinks its too early for her to be in a serious relationship" mind you i had not even talked directly about things being serious or whatever (I might be naive sometimes, but im not a fucking idiot i now your not supposed to put pressure like that early on.) all in all deep down i was expecting something like this, because i never have luck with these things, but i would be lying if i said i didn't feel hurt. As for how i reacted, i just told her its ok, and that we cant control the way we feel so she shouldn't feel bad, went home and started smoking weed, i always have some for certain nights but from this day i started doing it everyday since.
We were supposed to go to a party together that weekend, and we were going to pregame at her place with a few friends, ill get to this, but before that there was a job event where i pretty much did not talk to her at all, and i had not talked with her on socials like we usually did. she suddenly sends me an SMS asking if i am mad and not want to talk to her again, i said no and that everything was fine, and resumed communication like normal from here on. Truth is i just needed some space i dont hate her, i just needed a bit space, but i get that she got concerned or whatever. Anyways the weekends here, and she asks me if i am still coming over, honestly i had planned to just meet up at the party and drop the pre game but i just told her i could come if she wants me there. She obviously said yes and i went there, we had other friends there who did not know (besides a very kind friend of ours) the pre game went without mostly any trouble, and i even told her we were cool and that i was sorry if things got weird when we had a private moment. Fast forward towards the end of the night we were at a club (where i have a friend who works there foreshadowing) i was at a separate place within this club which is massive, and sometime later she finds me sits next to me, and within a few minutes she ended up kissing me again. Our friend who was also at the table, the universe bless her, grabs her and takes her away to talk (yell at her) somewhere private.
when the whole group of us returns one of the apartments for the afterparty, i decided i was going to try to figure this shit out and talk things out with her, figure out wtf is going on and all that. But she was being very childish and avoidant in our conversation. she lived close by and i lived far away so when people were leaving (it was very late as well so i would have had to walk home drunk) she asked med to come over, i went only because i was not going to let her just shove this under the rugg. I asked her what this all meant and what she meant by "feeling closed in" when she broke up, because at that point i didn't really understand it, lets say i did not get my answer, but she did however end up admitting to me that already 3 days in, the day before this day she had one of her ex FWB over at her place. Now thats would have been all fine and dandy if she had not kissed me again and told me this right after, it really hurt to know that, to the point that i walked home for 40 minutes from one end of town to the other 15 beers and a joint in, instead of sleeping on her sofa (she was also insisting that i sleep on her bed while she takes the sofa, like it fucking mattered at that point, and she was not sleeping until i did, so i used it as an excuse to leave).
I dont quite remember what i was feeling during the walk home but it was not great, now remember the friend who works part time at that club, he just happened to have been working when all this went down, and me and him and a few other friends (all from highschool who started their first year here) were chilling and decided to invite me. This friend had meet N before once at a party at my place, and apparently what seemed to me like N randomly finding me at the Club was her looking around for me, the way. i found this out was because N had ran into my friend and asked him about my whereabouts, so now i am sitting here thinking well this just went from a dumb accident to a premeditated. Lets just say i was a combination of very annoyed, pissed and sad. For my own sake i decided not talk to her for a while, and this time when she did send an sms i just simply told her something along the line of i am not mad, i just need time. she stopped bothering me for 2 weeks and then she just suddenly asked me if i wanted to go for a beer. In these two weeks i had avoided even looking at her, when we were attending a work thing again, and after this she had sent me a long as message basically being pissed at me for being like this, and me being the gigantic pushover that i am, said sorry and that "i just need a little bit more space", So when she asked if we could hang, i just said yes because it felt as if i had to.
We talked like we normally would, i tried to avoid the topic of us, after a while we went for a walk, and i honestly just tried to defuse any serious conversation with humor, at some point she mumbled something to herself, along the lines of "I fucked up", i said "what?" and she goes on about how she sabotaged us, and she feels bad about it. My initial reaction was something along the lines of "Womp Womp" but obviously i listened to her, talk then cry, then talk again about it all, and kept quiet and tried to think through the things she said, while i waited for her bus to arrive. She had a great many excuses for why things went the way the did, Like for example "being afraid of holding me back from my ambitions" (she thinks i am really smart and hardworking and that my goals are so hard to achieve she would've gotten in my way, truth is i do just enough to be in the clear for the next goalpost, i dont feel like a hard worker nor do i feel smart, its just she is not great at school and thats fine everybody has their own talents i guess), nothing she said really felt like a good explanation, and i did not see the point to this, but it did make me want to ask about it again and try to figure shit out.
So the day after i asked her out for a beer again and asked if we could talk, this time she gave a better answer, she just said, she did not feel like she could be in a relationship because she didn't feel ready to i guess settle down, but that she found me attractive but because of the things we had talked about, (my ideals when it comes to romance, see here is where the jargon got relevant) she was not going to make a move unless it was serious, and that at some point she had to try to see if she was done with fooling around and wanted to have a serious relationship but that it felt like too much pressure in the end (¯\_(ツ)_/¯, This is my fucking reaction to but belive me, this is not the first time i have heard shit like this and its completely normal in this hedonistic godless generation, at least in my circles it is). Anyways believed her and this gave me a bit closure but it still hurt, we decided to just talk about other stuff and drink since it was the weekend and we were out anyways, and she starts getting handsy and giving me the eyes again, i thought about it while talking to her, and just said, "Are we going to keep doing this stuff every time now, cause its gonna get annoying if i have to worry about it every time we are out" and that "we could maybe just do what she does with other guys while she is single" (she just has a few FWB) "she lights up and is like alright if you really are ok with that" and we ended up at my place and we ended up sleeping together again talking about the rules of our new "arrangment"
Now why did i do this, it seems hypocritical to my ideals and whatever and honestly i see that. it is fundamentally just a degradation of my boundaries and ideals, and honestly to me it just felt like a wall i have been keeping up that simply is becoming unsustainable.
The next time we ended up being together was a few weeks ago during a weekend out, we actually ended up not sleeping together cause she was tired, but more likely she was probably on her period but did not say out of fear of me being annoyed at her still saying yes to coming over (its like an unwritten rule to these things here), but i guess she did not want to say that cause she just wanted to sleep next to someone out of loneliness which is honestly understandable to me at least but a lot of guys are just assholes about that.
This is all happening while we are in the middle of the examination period so communication is being slowed down, not that i mattered much i have my own shit to do as well, but before that we had returned to talking like we normally do and me putting shit behind me, she is on her 3rd year as well so this year was obviously important for her career wise so it was not strange that we weren't talking as much, anyways i meet her yesterday just for a break and to have a few drinks and somewhere in there she gives me the heads up that she has started talking with someone and that we cant do any "stuff" until further notice, which is again fine and what she is supposed to do, and i did not react much to this, but deep inside it was like i just got another knife in the chest, i mean its been what, a month since she did all of that and told me she is not ready for a relationship and she is already talking to a new guy and wants to see if shit is gonna get serious.
Now for my feelings that i needed to get off my chest, Props to you if you bothered to read so far, this felt great to write out, but i cant belive i just wrote that much and there is no way i am proof reading this shit. I am kinda afraid of this blowing up rn, incase anybody i know in loop who might see this, but it will probably be fine, and if you are one of those brain rot instagram profiles, YOU DO NOT HAVE CONSENT to make on of those shitty AI voice videos with this.
Not that i was hoping to get together with her again at some point, i would not even if she wanted that, i am done with her in that way, but this makes the second time she has lied to me, cause what this implied just now is that she was bullshitting the whole time (Womp to the fucking Womp, i get it i am an absolute fucking idiot for even believing it in the first place) but man how can people be like this, am i just a fucking insane, or is everybody just completely detached. I trusted her so fucking much and there she was just smiling like she just got a text from Ken from barbie himself. the real hurt is the speed at which she just moved on, i had to have assumed that she must've felt at least something when she basically risked our entire friendship over it. Did she care so little about my feelings, am i just too emotional? i dont think of myself as an emotional person, i mean last night was the first time i cried since i belive when i was 15 or 16 (mostly due to my dad pavlov'ing the shit out of me cause "men dont cry", i dont hate him for this btw, he would probably agree that it was wrong now, but its just the way it was when i was child in my country)
The worst part is the moral degradation of it all, i feel like that was the last straw, the last few weeks all i have been able to listen to is fucking Future other "toxic" rap shit, usually i dont even listen to these stuff outside of parties, but for some reason i get it now, i feel toxic, i feel like i just wanna go around and sleep around, i wanna fucking break someones heart, between all the different times i have had my heart broken, to my own amazement at how many times this shit would end up happening to me, THE GUY, i mean when i growing up i was raised mostly by my grandmother since both my parents worked all the time, and all they ever taught me about stuff like this is, that as long as you are a good person, you will be fine, its always the guys that are assholes in relationships, now i dont blame her or my parents as it was mostly true for her generation, but goddamn i wish i was better equipped for this shit. I wanted to be a good person, i wanted to have something pure for once, something i can be proud of and say hey, everything is else is lowkey fucked up, but hey at least i got this part of my life that i can see is true and honest and not a two faced power play but nah, thats just wishful thinking. between the immature girls in Highschool which is like fine, okay we were all kids figuring shit out, or the getting fetishised as the "white enough to test my boundaries guy for rich white college girls" but goddamn it its getting enough for me at this point. every god damn time i get played like this, and i am just tired honestly i dont want to feel like this but i really feel bad for the next girl who ends up trying with me if they end up being genuine, because after this one i honestly cant, there is no excuses this time, every other girl before i could blame it on myself but if i couldn't tell that i should not have trusted N with my feelings than it does not feel like it was my fault for being gullible, nobody deserves that kind of trust in my eyes now and thats the saddest part, i feel like a worse person, i feel like i am turning into the kind of person i would look down on and there is nothing i can tell myself to stop that.
Sorry if this felt like a giant rant from a wussy as mofo, thats for sure what my dad would have said, and i did write this high asf, so sorry about all the typos i did not catch. i did not really have anybody i could tell this to, without completely destroying the semi-stoic character i have tried to present myself as publicly sure as hell felt better then reading for that god forsaken DBMS test i have coming up (driest fucking shit in CS, besides networking and communication protocols).

Friday I had a hospital appointment at an area hospital. I needed to take a Lyft to that appointment. On the way to the appointment I made a call to my friend after the Lyft driver made two errors in directions. I got my friend's voicemail and left a message saying something to the effect "yes, on my way to surgery and I will call you when I need you to pick me up." So this way the driver knows I am going someplace really important, surgery, and to stop screwing around. It's a 4.5 miles drive, not complicated. 5 minutes later the driver says, do you think that Biden should pardon Trump if he's elected? Now at this point I've had a kidney stone for about 5 days, I'm feverish, I am sorely uncomfortable and my only important thing is to get to this surgery. I raised my head and said I have more important things going on in my life right now then to think about anything but what's going on in my life. BUT Boy oh boy did I just want to scream, this is the day after Trump was indicted on all 34 counts, felonies. By a 12 person jury, how glorious! Question is why would a Lyft driver ask their customer a political question? They need to better trained, these drivers. Seriously.

Hey everyone, today I moved out of my first apartment into a single family home (still renting)! This is my first time moving out of my own place (previously lived with my mother, so moving out was easy) and I am looking for advice on my situation. This is not an independent LL.
Yesterday (May 31st), I was text messaged by the Leasing Office;
"Good Afternoon, office will be opened tomorrow for key drop off, just keep us updated once unit is vacant"
Simple, straight to the point. I did not respond to the text message. The leasing office hours on Saturdays are 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. I wasn't worried about the time frame because I had actually already moved out on May 1st, I just didn't surrender the unit early because I would have owed that last months rent anyway, because less than 60 days notice with this company would have meant I still owed. So since I had the entire 30 days, I slowly moved out over the course of the month, little by little, till that last day.
Now June 1st is here, I took out my last couple of items. I was done by noon. I stopped by the leasing office to return the keys, and noticed that it was closed....lights off, door locked.
I didn't think anything of it and just assumed whoever was there was on lunch? So I told myself I'd just come back. I came back at exactly 1:40 p.m. Still closed. At this point (having since lived there 2 years) I KNEW that whoever was due to work must've called out. I've had problems with these leasing office people before, so badly to the point of reporting the assistant manager to corporate, and ultimately I do feel like leaving the office closed today was deliberate but that is (unfortunately) besides the point.
I called the number that texted me the message yesterday, it dials the leasing office, and an automated message (of course) says no is available and to leave a voice message at the tone. In this voice message I stated the time, my name, my (ex) unit number, the situation, then said anybody can get back to me if they get this message while I'm not around and I'll happily come back with the keys.
After leaving the voice message, I also emailed the off-site Property Manager (she manages multiple properties so she's not around this one unless she's inspecting units), all I did was email her even thing in my voicemail - the situation, the time, my old unit number, my name, and contact info.
I decided I would come back before closing JUST IN CASE.
I did come back, 2:45 p.m. on the dot. No one there. I left another voicemail, this one saying I wasn't waiting anymore, and I was leaving. I can return the keys anytime in the next few days BUT if during the week it would be after I leave work. I also emailed the property manager again with the same information and that unfortunately I could not wait for someone to show, but if any of the on-site maintenance people are willing to take the keys then I can return it to them (because the office is closed Sundays which would be June 2nd, and I am personally very cool with one of the maintenance guys).
Due to these circumstances not being my fault, what legal upper hands do I have here? I know I made good moves already with the voice and emails, I have done enough lurking in this subreddit to know how to cover my bases (lol). But what I'm basically asking is - what am I protected against that the leasing company might try?
If they tried to charge me fees or extra rent for the late return, I have enough evidence to fight that easily correct? If I had to fight anything, would it be smalls claims or can I use my Renters Insurance? I know I should just call my Agent about the situation but it's the weekend so I can't get to him until Monday :/
Thanks to anyone who answers, this is a learning experience for me, and I appreciate any intel available.

Sorry in advance for any mistakes, English is not my native language. And sorry, it's very long but I am really lost.
I would like to have your opinion because I don't know at all how to interpret this. I have the impression that she doesn't understand at all what I want her to understand.
The context: she's my bff, let's call her Clara (21), since we were 15 and we've known each other since we were 7.
Since last summer, she has gotten closer to a high school friend whom she had not seen again and they have clearly become best friends. They talk together every day, they do almost everything together, and they videotape or actually tell each other everything they do. You should know that when I was in the same city, we never did all that. We just talked to each other almost every day on a social network.
Since September, I have had to go abroad for my studies and obviously, my bff has become closer to her than to me.
It hurt my feelings but I preferred not to say anything because it's cool that she's making new friends and I wasn't going to make a fuss about jealousy.
There was a lot going on, Clara met her boyfriend while going to her bff's wedding around September. Eventually it turned out that her boyfriend was an idiot. And she went back with him once in April. She didn't stay with him very long (around 1 or 2 months each time). She knows I never loved her.
I decided to send a message to Clara this morning because the situation was weighing more and more on my heart.
I would like to know what you understand in this message :
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"Hello Clara, I waited a bit to be sure before sending you this message. I wanted to see if I was imagining things or if I was just hiding, but I have the impression that this is more likely to be confirmed.
The last time I didn't talk to you for a week to see if you sent me messages from yourself was when you were with your boyfriend but this time I can see that it doesn't come from there the problem.
I noticed especially recently that you were taking longer to respond to me or that you weren't trying to continue the conversation. And I think what opened my eyes was when I noticed that you were doing that because you were either talking to your guy or Karen.
At New Year's, I was surprised that you didn't go to the mountains with your parents like every year. I thought we could finally celebrate it together but in the end you suggested that we all go to a villa with Karen's friends which I couldn't because: 1. I had to study and I couldn't afford to leaving for 3 days and 2. I clearly didn't want to spend my New Year with people I don't know, especially with Eloise and Charlotte who I clearly don't like. It surprised me that you wanted to spend it with them knowing everything they did in middle and high school. Afterwards maybe they have changed since then but I haven't kept good memories of them and I plan to never speak to them again.
When we met at Scarllet's house together, it surprised me that you wanted to come home early to talk with your boyfriend. I thought you were going to call him at Scarllet's and that we would spend the evening together, especially since we don't see each other often. Afterwards you didn't seem so happy to find yourself there.
When you spoke to your boyfriend again, you only told me a few days later. But I told myself that it wasn't safe and that you preferred not to talk about it beforehand even though I would have liked you to tell me, especially given what he did to you the first time. And I told myself that it didn't matter that you told Karen about it before because in the end you told me. Even the fact that you didn't put your position when you went out was quite worrying. The worst part was the first time, you only shared it with Karen but you didn't think I wanted to check.
Same when you saw it again, you warned me at the last moment and I said to myself that it was a bit of a shame that you told me after Karen. I felt like your plan B to talk about it.
After thinking about it, I realized that it wasn't the first time that you talked to me about important things a few days after the fact or at the last minute. Afterwards I told myself that I had done the same in 3rd grade with John but I thought that since then we had moved on to something else.
When you talked to me about your boyfriend for a long time and directly, I realized that in fact it was only because Karen was busy or that you talked to me about it after telling her, when you had finished talking. talk about.
Even at your cousin's wedding, I told you to send me the preparation of your dresses and everything. And when I watched your private stories, it hurt me a little that you said that only Karen will watch your entire stories, as if I didn't count or that you had completely forgotten me. Especially since you know very well, that I watch all your stories all the time, even when you send me videos and everything, I always answer you everything. I really felt like I was counting for nothing.
On snap you tell me that you send videos to Karen all the time, so much so that you get fired up, and in the end, even when I send them to you, you don't send them back.
Even on bereal I noticed you reacted more to mine but I told myself it was nothing. Afterwards when I noticed that you weren't doing it on my Instagram stories either, I was a little disappointed all the same but hey I told myself that afterwards there wasn't much to say and that it wasn't very serious .
I think it started to change this summer without me paying attention and it really accelerated when you had your guy. But afterwards I didn't really pay attention to it because I told myself that you also wanted to change even if I didn't think it was going to be in the bad direction on that point.
This Thursday it had already been a few days since you had tried to restart the conversation, but I told myself that afterwards it was probably because you were revising and that I was too.
When you posted your story on your oral, I told myself that afterwards you would talk to me about it as I told you when responding to your story, but in the end you sent me 0 messages. I saw that you went shopping so I thought maybe you wanted to talk to me about it in the evening by voicemail. When I saw that you were at the restaurant in the evening I told myself that maybe you were going to do it when you got home or the next day if you were tired. In the end, I have the impression that you just forgot about me and that it didn't impact you a lot, or that you just didn't want to talk to me actually. Especially since I had wished you good luck for your oral exam, but you didn't wish me good luck for my exams in return, probably because you had forgotten.
The next day, I saw that you still hadn't sent a message and that's when I really realized that you actually didn't like talking with me that much. I hid my face until you posted another story, I was really convinced that you were going to tell me. I took it really badly, it was the straw that broke the camel's back especially since I was super tired with the accumulation of exams. So I told myself that it was often me who asked you and that I was going to wait for you to tell me this time but ultimately no.
So I decided to wait if you were going to send me a message for 1 week but ultimately I only found out from Camille that it had gone well.
I thought that seeing that I watched your stories might remind you, but in the end I was wrong. Even when I didn't react to your bereal you didn't seem to care so I really didn't know how to take it.
Afterwards I understand if you prefer that we talk just from time to time or not at all, I will stop forcing it. But I didn't think that was really what you wanted and I really considered you my best friend who I talk to all the time.
I know you consider Karen your best friend, and that in itself doesn't bother me. But the fact that you left me aside really hurt me and I think that either you didn't realize it or it was me who didn't understand the message.
We've been friends since elementary school and even throughout middle school and high school we always got along so I didn't think it was going to change like that.
I admit that being next to two friends already didn't help me think.
Afterwards, I prefer that things be clarified rather than misunderstanding things. So tell me clearly if you want to talk to me anymore or something else."
She responds :
"hello already yes I noticed that you were distant for a few days. I think you have a hard time getting used to the idea that I can have other friends without just replacing you. Plus you're in [country] so I don't see how you want us to see each other and that we are as close as before me at no time, when you tell me about your friends from [country], I felt in competition or ordinary on the contrary, I always said to myself so much the better if she has - new friends there because at least she is not alone and even at the beginning when you started telling me about your arrival in [country]. I was waiting for you to make new friends so you don't feel alone
I clearly wasn't aware that you had a problem between Eloise and Charlotte, and that you don't like them at all. You never told me about it. Even less. Tell yourself that I had some preconceptions about Eloise and Charlotte from primary school but I have learned to rediscover them especially since I have been seeing Karen and frankly they are super super nice. Super cool with me, it's really a shame that you have this vision because precisely in relation to the New Year when I proposed to you it was a matter of bringing together all my friends and that we have a good time together so from there to talk to me again about a story from six months ago and moreover in a bad way whereas when I proposed it to you, it was clearly more positive than well I find it a shameAnd in relation to the New Year, I also have the right to party with my friends and not necessarily to stick to my parents. You know after a while I grow up I'm 21
compared to [her bf] I didn't talk to you about it from the start because I know very well that you don't appreciate it and so it slowed me down a little so I preferred to wait before talking to you. talk about it to be sure. Tell yourself that all the things I told you, it's often just you and Karen that I talk to you about, but I don't understand at all this focus that you have on Karen, it's really too much, it's really a shame what do you think of Eloise Karen because they really had nothing against you and on the contrary they were open because we all see each other at the New Year with our group also in relation to my defense, tell yourself that Thursday I had my defense the morning after I left I came home super late after midnight because yes I celebrated it with Karen and Eloise and I was really disconnected from my phone. That day. Yesterday I worked. I came home very late and I only told my parents about it this morning. It was really since this morning that I told myself that it had been a few days since I had heard from you and I was planning to send you a message especially when I saw that you hadn't reacted too much to my last Stories I told myself that it wasn't normal, because I know that you usually react all the time even when I wake up I already had it I I had noticed it but I really didn't expect you to send me a text like that or to be really that angry and for me to get it in the face. I admit to you that That I'm a little surprised
There I admit to you that I don't really know anymore, we're not at the level of friendship, what you have just done to send me a message on things that I have done to go over each element of my life for a year I I don't really know how to take it though I have the impression that you feel very much in competition with Karen when really there's nothing wrong with it, you're just as much my friend and you just have to accept that I can have d 'other friends and I have a social life because you're not in [city] so I don't see how we can see each other "
I was really shocked by his response, I wasn't expecting that at all. I asked three friends (two who know her and one who doesn't) what they understood in my message and in hers. I would like you to tell me what you think about it too because maybe, it's me who is not clear.
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I respond :
" I don't think you understand the meaning of my message at all.
The aim of my message was not at all to criticize you for being friends with other people, on the contrary good for you. I just wanted to compare the situation with Karen to show you that I feel left out.
I don't see why the fact that we're far away means we can't stay close. Knowing that when I was in [city], we hardly ever saw each other except last summer. I never said I wanted to see each other even though I'm not in [city]. I just wanted us to continue talking to each other often on social media, like before.
I never wanted competition. I just compared the situation with Karen because that I wanted to make you understand that you were telling me everything late and that it made me feel left out.
I never said that I wasn't happy that you made new friends, on the contrary I was happy for you. That really wasn't the point of my message.
The fact that I don't like Eloise and Charlotte that much is just that I don't appreciate what they did throughout school and I don't necessarily want to get closer to her. Afterwards, if you say that they have changed and that you get along well with them, that's really good for you.
For the New Year, it was very nice of you to suggest but you knew very well that I couldn't afford not to revise for several days anyway.
And I never said you had to stick to your parents, on the contrary it's cool if you go out with friends. I wanted you to understand how I felt about the fact that for once you weren't celebrating it with your parents, I felt like plan B when you preferred to celebrate it elsewhere.
Regarding your boyfriend, even if you knew very well that I didn't like him, you knew that you were going to talk to me about him at one point or another.
The fact that apparently I focused on Karen was just to compare and for you to understand that I felt left out. I never said I wasn't open to her.
And I knew very well that you were going to come home late at night and that you weren't necessarily going to answer me but I would have thought that you would send me a message later, just on the bus to let me know or during your break, the next day for example. Because we're even friends, suddenly.
When I wrote this message it was only so that you understand how I feel about the situation, that I feel abandoned. It was only so that we could talk about it and communicate, which is the goal of a friendship when there is a problem. I just took up the things that happened over the course of a year to argue and show you how I felt.
Throughout my message, I have never tried to compare myself with other people. On the contrary, I really tried to explain and show you how I felt.
I never said I wanted to see each other even though I'm not even in [city]. Obviously it's cool if you have a social life and you see other people and I'm happy for you.
I just talked about how you left me aside and didn't talk to me for 3 days, how you didn't even try to contact me even when you noticed things weren't going well.
If for you it was an aggressive message that really wasn't the goal. I just wanted to resolve this problem that was making me sad.
If the fact that we are not in the same city for you is a reason for us to move away, I respect your choice.
Afterwards I really didn't think that long distance relationships were condemned in love but also in friendship for you."
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She responds :
I find that between what you say this morning and this evening you contradict yourself a lot. You say that you don't compare yourself with other people but if throughout your message this morning you compare the friendship that I have with you and Karen, that's why I have the impression that you feel in competition with Karen
You're clearly blaming me for telling her things before you and seeing her, so I have the impression that it really bothers you a lot.
It's really stupid to put our whole friendship into question just because of that because on my side there's really no animosity, you've always been someone that I've greatly considered.
But I don't at all condemn long-distance relationships in friendship re it's you who thinks that if for 2 days we talk it's the end of our friendship and that's a shame really you shouldn't think that
Instead of sending me a huge message about everything you've been feeling for the past year, you should have told me before if you had this feeling.
Afterwards I find that you extrapolate a lot and that you take things the wrong way. Honestly, I would have sent you a message and I would never have known that it was the end of our friendship if for 2 days we didn't speak, especially since Thursday I had my defense after which I disconnected from my phone a little and yesterday I was working and when I work I don't calculate my phone at all practically so sorry if for 2 days I didn't think about talking to you lol
Afterwards you could also have reacted to my stories it's a bit like messages but grouped so it's not pck I'm not sending you a message privately that you can't react to
I admit that this is a bit of a shock. I realize that it's been a year since you analyzed everything I'm doing wrong to bring it all out today without talking to me about it before and that even what I'm doing in Well, like having proposed to you for the New Year, you are turning it around for the worse.
There's a lot of things you're talking to me about that I've gotten over for a long time and I wish you remembered it all at this point. We have to move forward and not worry about things that happened a year ago and that you didn't even talk to me about.
So concretely tell me what you expect from me
And for the New Year this year you had absolutely nothing planned in advance, even the day before we were bowling you hadn't planned anything even though it was the next day whereas with Alyssa and everything we said well We had been planning to do something 3 months in advance so blaming me for not having done it with you is a bit cheeky"
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I respond :
"Well you still don't understand so I don't know what else to add.
I really wanted to know your point of view on our friendship. I think we just didn't have the same vision.
Basically I just wanted to improve the problem.
And I don't blame you at all for telling Karen everything before me, I was just explaining to you that telling me things several days later, for me, means you're not close to someone.
And it wasn't the story of the 2 days that put me in this state, it was just an accumulation of things that hurt me and that I wanted to talk to you about. But there's nothing more I can do if you don't understand
And yes, I could have reacted to your stories but I just wanted to check if it was still up to me to ask you things.
I didn't tell you everything directly because I already told myself that it was nothing and I knew that it wasn't going to change much if I told you about it. I told myself it would just pass.
The fact that I've been analyzing everything for a year, I can't control my memory and my brain. And it's normal that in a friendship we talk about our feelings.
Afterwards if you think that I said all that as reproaches and that I take things badly because you didn't understand, I can't change anything. Really, I just wanted to talk to sort things out and for us to share our points of view but if you take that as an attack, I apologize, that wasn't the goal.
And if for you we have to forget all the problems, sorry but I can't do it
Afterwards for me, I thought that with our friendship you would have asked about my exams and you would have told me about yourself about your oral exams.
And for the New Year, I didn't even try to organize anything since I knew you were going to celebrate it somewhere else.
I was just waiting for you to be a little more present, for me to feel less left out. That I be made aware of things without necessarily being the one to ask you.
Afterwards I know it will never be like before, given the distance and this conversation. I really just wanted to talk about it so you would understand me. But suddenly, we know that we don't have the same vision of friendship.
But now I get the message.
We were both hurt by what the other said so I don't think it helps move the conversation forward either. And I think if we talk about it over the phone or face to face, we might understand each other better. But I think we should perhaps give ourselves time to think about it while you finish your internship and I finish my exams"
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I don't open already her message but I have read that she said that she finds it completely stupid that I want to take a friendship “break”
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I felt really sad for all the responds but I am really angry that she tells it is stupid for the break because I never said that I didn't want a friendship break, I just said to wait until the end of the exams and the internship to talk about it again
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I ( 23M ) first met this woman ( 23F ) when we were both five years old and in kindergarten together. She was my first true female friend that I can remember. Despite my shyness and social awkwardness even back then, we both took a liking to each other and got along really well, but I ended up moving to a different elementary school from her after 1st grade before we could grow too close or I could even properly say goodbye to her. We both still live in the same town where we met to this day, but for some reason we just haven't talked or crossed paths for over 15 years.
Months ago, after years of wondering what she's been up to in the back of my mind, I finally decided to look her up on Instagram and facebook. Much to my surprise, she has grown up to be quite possibly the most beautiful woman I've ever seen in my life, and I can't deny my attraction to her. Last month I even tried to message her on Instagram to try and catch up after all these years, but much to my dismay she still hasn't replied to or even seen my message ( she has thousands of followers and isn't active on insta very often )
As beautiful as she is, I sometimes tell myself that I'm being absurd by just wanting to pursue her. People change so much in 15+ years. I don't even know if we would get along as adults like we did as children. Besides, she can have just about any man she wants with her gorgeous looks. What are the odds that an outgoing extrovert like her would choose to be with a socially awkward introvert like me, especially one who she wasn't that close with anyway?
I would still love to see and talk to her in person again, but if I end up liking her for her personality, too, I'm worried about potentially ruining our friendship just as we begin to rekindle it.
Like I said, she's quite possibly the most beautiful woman I've ever seen, and I would love to form a relationship with her if we're both compatible with each other, but I'm just so conflicted on what to do.

I ( 23M ) first met this woman ( 23F ) when we were both five years old and in kindergarten together. She was my first true female friend that I can remember. Despite my shyness and social awkwardness even back then, we both took a liking to each other and got along really well, but I ended up moving to a different elementary school from her after 1st grade before we could grow too close or I could even properly say goodbye to her. We both still live in the same town where we met to this day, but for some reason we just haven't talked or crossed paths for over 15 years.
Months ago, after years of wondering what she's been up to in the back of my mind, I finally decided to look her up on Instagram and facebook. Much to my surprise, she has grown up to be quite possibly the most beautiful woman I've ever seen in my life, and I can't deny my attraction to her. Last month I even tried to message her on Instagram to try and catch up after all these years, but much to my dismay she still hasn't replied to or even seen my message ( she has thousands of followers and isn't active on insta very often )
As beautiful as she is, I sometimes tell myself that I'm being absurd by just wanting to pursue her. People change so much in 15+ years. I don't even know if we would get along as adults like we did as children. Besides, she can have just about any man she wants with her gorgeous looks. What are the odds that an outgoing extrovert like her would choose to be with a socially awkward introvert like me, especially one who she wasn't that close with anyway?
I would still love to see and talk to her in person again, but if I end up liking her for her personality, too, I'm worried about potentially ruining our friendship just as we begin to rekindle it.
Like I said, she's quite possibly the most beautiful woman I've ever seen, and I would love to form a relationship with her if we're both compatible with each other, but I'm just so conflicted on what I should do.

I 20M and my girlfriend 19F have been together for just over a year now, for a little backstory, I met her right after getting out of a physically and mentally abusive relationship which meant that I had a lot of issues with trust and personal space. My girlfriend on the other hand, has a small form of autism which makes it much more difficult to read body language and other basic hints on peoples mood and feelings. Because of this, she has a hard time understanding when I'm upset and gets really defensive. With that information I can tell you about what has been happening lately. 2 weeks ago, I found out that my great grandparents have fallen very ill and have stopped taking care of themselves to an extent. This shattered me because they had practically raised me my whole life. This situation has really put me on edge these last two weeks and because of this, I keep accidentally getting a little too aggressive when we have disagreements. Like today, I had gotten a call from my mother while I was at work that her neighbor had been threatening her and laying hands on her when no-one was around. They had threatened to burn her house down at night and that they didn't care about going to jail since they had been to jail before. I should add that my mother lives in the worst part of flint that you can, so that might give you a picture of the kind of people her neighbors are. After I had received this call, I tried to text my girlfriend about what was going on with my Mom, when I notice that she hasn't messaged me in a few hours and my messages aren't saying delivered. This was the first red flag that something wasn't right, I tried calling her a few times but they all went to voicemail. After getting the call from my mom and already mentally dealing with my great grandparents being sick, my mind instantly went to think the worst. I ended up texting her brother to check and see if she was at home, we share each others locations but hers wasn't working. He had responded saying that she wasn't home and her phone went straight to voicemail, he also mentioned that she had left earlier in the day with her mother. This calmed me down a little bit because it meant that her phone was probably dead which would explain her location not working, texts not going through, and her going straight to voicemail. I eventually texted her mom because I thought that maybe she didn't have a charger and couldn't reach out to me. When her mom didn't respond to my texts is when I started getting scared again, in my mind I thought they probably got into an accident and are at the hospital right now, I realize this is an unhealthy mindset to have but I have trauma from my past that got triggered in this moment. After around 45 minutes of no contact, she reached out to me that she had turned her phone off and forgot to turn it back on. I responded asking why her phone was turned off and she said it was off because it had stopped working and forgot to turn it back on. I responded with "I thought you were dead, I cried". I realize that this didn't help the situation at all hut I was just a little upset because it seemed like she didn't care. She responded saying " omg, I'm sorry I didn't do it on purpose" I responded saying" and your mom was responding". By this point I had started driving home and didn't want to text and drive so I went radio silent for a few minutes. This I think is something that had upset her because it seemed like I was intentionally ignoring her. She responded to this text with "I'm sorry jeez, I didn't do it on purpose, LMAO." This is when I waited till the next red light to see what she had said, and since I didn't wanna text and drive I told her I'm on my way home and that I'd see her in a few. This is where she starts getting really defensive because I didn't tell her it was okay. She responded with " why aren't you saying it's okay, It's not like I did it on purpose, It's not fair to be mad at me when it was an accident." I responded with "I'm not upset about the phone thing it's more that I didn't know where you were so I got scared." During this time I had realized that she was getting the wrong tone from my texts so I had tried to call her which she didn't answer. She got mad and responded with "what do you mean, You have my location why do I need to update you everywhere I go, I literally texted you as soon as I remembered my phone was still off, I'm getting really pissed off now so please just drop it. I didn't do it on purpose so therefore it was an accident, I had a good day so please stop acting like this." I responded with " It's okay, I'm sorry I'm just stressed from what happened to my mom and then I couldn't get ahold of you so I thought the worst." She responded with " that's not fair to me though to get upset with me because I simply forgot." I regret responding this way but I said her location was off since her phone was off so I couldn't see where she was. She said " Because my phone was fucking off, dude please stop being an asshole, it's not okay the way your acting towards me right now, I forget things, I'm a human." I said I know I'm sorry. She finished her texting with " I don't know why you must act with such aggression, just leave me alone." When I got home from work she was in the living room on her phone watching Tiktok. I walked up to her and she looked at me very mad. I tried apologizing for how I acted over text and tried to explain what was going on with me that day, but she wouldn't except it. She told me to leave her alone so I did, I went to my office and went to change clothes. She came in after me pissed because I left her alone. I should add that this is something that we have been over multiple times in the past, when she tells me to leave her alone, she doesn't really mean it, but with how mad she had gotten I thought she was being serious, and me being around her was making her even more mad. She yells at me over this and storms back out to the living room getting back on her phone, this is when I follow her out there and try to talk to her again. I tell her things about how I wanna find a therapist to help with some of my trauma because I think I'm not okay mentally with everything going on. She tells me that she doesn't care, that nothing can excuse my actions and how I treated her. She told me that the only thing that can help is if she see's me treating her nicer, which is hard to do when everything I try is instantly turned down. I asked her if she wanted something and she said no, so to try to lighten the mood I asked her if this was like the leave me alone thing meaning that she actually did want something, and she responded saying that she actually wants me to leave her alone, and now I'm here typing this. I guess I just need a better understanding as to what happened and how to solve it, I love her with all my heart and never enjoy upsetting her, How can I make things better and work on losing my cool less around her?

Part 2
While I was deciding what to do next, Aimee burst through the door. She was soaking wet and shivering. Her clothes were matted down with dirt and mud.
“Where were you?” I asked.
“I was lost in the woods,” she said.
“How did you get there?” I asked.
“I don't know…I just remember going to sleep next to you and then all of a sudden I was in the woods,” she said as she continued to shiver.
I helped her into the bathroom and wrapped my arms around her to try and warm her up.
“You'll get all dirty,” she said.
“It's okay, I don't mind at all,” I said.
She kissed me before leaning her head into my chest. Then she stepped back and looked at me. “Looks like we'll both need a shower now,” she said. “Want to join me?”
She carefully took off her dirty clothes and piled them on the floor. Then she helped me get mine off before grabbing my hand and leading me into the shower with her.
After we were finished and dry, we got dressed. She put on new clothes and I had to put the same ones on again. “Guess I should have gotten clean clothes first,” I said.
“I'll go with you so you can get changed and hopefully Josh will be there…we really need to talk to him,” she said.
“I agree. He's been acting weirder than the rest of us have.”
We took the stairs to my floor and walked over to my room. The door was slightly ajar. We pushed it further open and peeked inside before going in. At first, we didn't see anything, but after we walked in, Aimee was the first to notice him.
“Oh my God!” she shouted.
It was Greg's roommate, Amir. He was lying on the floor behind my bed. Bubbles of drool were coming out of his mouth and his eyes were wide open. He looked terrified and his mouth was twitching but he made no sound.
“Get help!” shouted Aimee before she knelt down beside him.
I called 9-1-1 on my phone while running into the hall and yelling for help. Some of my floormates came over first. Then the RA joined us with a first aid kit. He pulled out a CPR mask and began doing chest compressions before breathing into Amir's mouth.
The paramedics arrived pretty quickly and took over for the RA. Campus police showed up next while the EMTs were putting Amir on a stretcher and wheeling him to the elevator.
We were questioned by the campus police and then by the local police. Greg and Emily came over while we were still talking to them and couldn't believe what happened. The police told us to stay out of my room while they looked around but that we were free to go.
I peeked inside before we walked away and saw a dark shape moving around inside. “Hey, I think someone's in there!” I shouted to the police. They ran inside and looked around. There weren't many places to hide so their search was quick and didn't turn up anyone.
“Sorry,” I said when they came back out. “I thought I saw something move in there.”
“You can stay in our room,” Emily said. “I'll stay with Greg…poor Amir. I wonder what happened?”
“We should look for Josh,” said Greg.
I tried calling Josh but it went straight to voicemail. “Call me back,” I said before hanging up. I also sent him a text message asking where he was and to call me.
“He's probably in the room,” I said.
Emily brightened up. “We should go now and see if he is there,” she said.
“I need something to eat first,” I said. “Want to go to the cafeteria first and then head out?”
“Good idea,” said Greg.
We went to the cafeteria and shared a table after getting our food. All of us, except for Emily, had class today, but we were all okay with skipping so we could find Josh.
After we were finished eating, we went outside. The sun was out but there were a lot of clouds moving in.
“That doesn't look good,” said Aimee, pointing to the low dark gray clouds heading towards us.
Lightning flashed followed pretty quickly by a rumble of thunder.
“Maybe we should go back in and wait this out,” I said.
Before anyone answered, the rain began to quickly fall. We all ran back inside as more lightning lit up the darkening day.
“Now what do we do?” asked Greg.
“I guess we should go to our classes,” I said.
Emily let me borrow her umbrella since I couldn't go back to my room yet and we all went our separate ways.
I sat down near the back in my Economics class and hoped nothing weird was going to happen. The girl that was at Josh's table the other day was a couple rows in front of me. During class she kept looking back at me every so often and smiling.
After class was over she came over to me. “Aren't you Josh's roommate?”
“Yes, I'm John.”
“My name is Nicole. Can I talk to you for a moment?”
“Sure. Let's go out in the hall.”
We found a bench to sit on. Her eyes were wide and she seemed to be having a hard time containing her excitement.
She waited for the last few people from class to clear out of the area before talking.
“Do you know where Josh is? He was supposed to text me earlier so I could go with him to this special place he found.”
I was about to answer, but she cut me off and kept on talking.
“He told us all about this room where the ceiling is alive. None of us believed him at first until he showed us this trick. I don't know how he did it, but he had us come to his room and he did something with the ceiling. I was sure there was a projector but I couldn't find one. Do you know how he did it?”
This time she waited for me to answer. “I don't know how he did it and I am trying to find him too. The room he is talking about might be dangerous…I wouldn't go if I were you.”
“I have to see it! The others want to, too,” she said.
“Who else did he tell about it?”
Her phone buzzed. She quickly pulled it out of her backpack and looked disappointed. “It isn't Josh, but I have to take this.”
She answered her phone as she walked towards the door to go outside. I wondered if she knew what happened to Amir. I felt like I should tell her.
When I stood up to go follow her, I heard a door opening behind me with an audible creak. I turned around and watched the door gently bounce off the rubber wall protector.
The hallway was silent and it didn't sound like anyone was in the room. I looked back outside and I didn't see Nicole…or anyone else. There should be people here for their next class. I looked up at the digital clock on the wall. It showed 1:00.
I pulled out my phone and texted Aimee. She was in class so I didn't want to call her. I heard noises coming from the classroom that I couldn't make sense of. Before I knew it, I was walking towards the open doorway. When I walked inside the room, I saw black fog coming down from the ceiling. The walls seemed to pulse with life and I felt my shoes sticking to the floor. I tried to lift my foot but it wouldn't budge. The fog was growing bigger and filling up the room. I felt it swirl around me and felt voices inside my head. They were trying to tell me something but I couldn't understand.
I looked at the floor again and saw eyes staring up at me. The whispers turned into pictures in my head and I knew what I had to do. I turned around and walked back into the hallway. Pushing my way through the doors out into the cold stormy day.
I walked down the steep hill leading to the baseball field and toward the woods. Thunder rumbled all around me and the strong winds pushed through the trees.
I still hadn't seen anyone, but I didn't care, I just had to get to the room. Voices filled the silence and encouraged me on my path.
Music tool my attention away from the room and I reached for my phone. Aimee was calling.
I stopped and answered. “Hi.”
“Hey, where are you? Your class was done hours ago and no one has seen you,” she said.
It was like the view in front of me glitched. Then blue sky appeared and I could hear cars driving by behind me.
“I'm by the rec center,” I said. “Are Greg and Emily with you?”
“No, they just left to get some food. Are you coming over here?”
I looked towards the woods, which would take me to the room and was trying to think what I should do.
“John…John!” Aimee shouted.
“What? Why are you yelling?” I asked.
“You wouldn't answer me but it sounded like you were mumbling something to yourself,” she said.
“That's weird. What was I saying?”
“I have no idea. It was gibberish to me…so, are you coming over?”
“Yes…yes, I'll be there shortly,” I said.
“Great! Can't wait to see you.”
“Same here,” I ended the call and headed towards the dorms.
A sudden loud rumble of thunder made me jump. I looked up at the mostly clear sky above me and as far as I could see. I heard another loud one just before I ran into the dorms.
I went up to Aimee's room. She ran over and gave me a hug. “We were worried about you.”
We sat down and started talking. At first we spoke about everything but what was currently going on. Finally, Aimee steered the conversation to what we really should have been talking about and asked, “What do you think happened to Amir?”
“I don't know,” I said. “But he looked absolutely terrified.”
“I wonder what he saw,” she said.
My mind was spinning with everything happening and I didn't really want to think about it anymore. I leaned in and kissed Aimee. She wrapped her arms around me and kissed me back. We made out for a while before falling asleep in each other's arms.
I woke up to shadows dancing along the walls and dim light coming in through the window. Aimee was sitting at her desk. She was drawing something.
“Hey, what are you doing?” I asked.
“I had this nightmare,” she said. “And I keep seeing these pictures in my mind when I close my eyes.”
I looked at her drawing. It was mostly water with thick black strands coming out of it in the middle. She pulled out another piece of paper and it was just this scribbled out human shape with long tendrils coming out of its head. There wasn't much detail to the drawing but it reminded me of the shadow I saw on the wall in my class.
“I saw something like that in my class,” I said. “Thought I must have imagined it.”
We met Greg and Emily for breakfast in the dorm cafeteria and made our plan for going back to the tunnels. It was raining outside but there was no thunder or lightning. The way Emily took us last time was mostly outside and we didn't feel like getting drenched before going back to the room.
I was weirdly excited to be going back there and it looked like the others were as well.
“I want to see if I can go back in my room and get changed before we go,” I said.
We finished our food and took the elevator to my floor. When the doors opened, there was a loud boom of thunder and the lights flickered.
“That’s great, maybe we won't be able to go,” said Emily.
“Let's just see how bad it is, maybe we can still just run quickly to the tunnel entrance. Or maybe we can find another way in from the basement of one of the other buildings,” said Aimee.
Lightning flashed outside the windows at the end of the hallway followed by an even louder roar of thunder.
The storm was getting worse and the building shook with each rumble of thunder. The lights flickered a few more times when we walked through my door and then they completely went out. I used my phone light to find my flashlight in the desk drawer while the others sat down.
When my light moved past Josh's desk, I noticed paper everywhere, including on the floor. Each piece had some writing on it.
“What the hell,” I said, picking up a piece of paper. There were unique looking symbols drawn all over this one. They were written in organized columns and were intricately detailed. Another piece had what looked like mathematical equations except there were no recognizable numbers or symbols.
“What is it?” asked Aimee.
“I don't know,” I said.
The others came over and started looking through the pages with me.
“This one looks like cursive writing but doesn't make any sense,” said Emily.
I picked up another one that had random letters spaced out like words but none of them made any sense. I turned towards Emily. “This reminds me…Emily, I forgot to ask about this weird text you sent me.” I opened up my messaging app and showed her what she had sent.
She stared unblinking at the message. Then she apparently tried to read it out loud. “Ph'nglui mglw'nafh umr wgah'nagl fhtagn.”
Emily grabbed the paper I had been holding and started to read that one too. Of course, none of it was making any sense to us, but she was reading it aloud like it was normal English.
“Ngai syha'hrii hupadgh ep shugg. Ngai shagg nafl shuggog ftaghu hrii stell'bsna throd y-s'uhn. R'lyeh hrii kadishtu, ya s'uhn ngai vulgtlagln.” Emily closed her eyes and dropped the paper. There was a rumbling above us that wasn't from the storm.
Aimee, Greg, and I looked up to see the night sky where the ceiling used to be, with the stars brightening the darkened room. A ripple flowed across the ceiling and we stared in amazement at it. It was beautiful just like the room in the tunnels. Time seemed to stand still as I lost myself in the neverending night sky.
I climbed on my bed and raised my arm, stopping my hand just before where the ceiling should be. Then I slowly reached up with one finger breaking the plane into the impossible sky above. There was surface tension that caused more ripples to spread across the ceiling and then my finger broke through.
I shouted in pain, immediately pulling my hand back down. It was freezing cold. My fingertip had no color to it and now felt numb.
“What happened?” Aimee said as her gaze slowly turned away from the ceiling and towards me.
“I don't know,” I said. “But I think we should get out of here.”
Greg was still looking up and didn't move when we called his name. Aimee grabbed my pillow and put it over his face so he couldn't see the ceiling anymore. He looked over at us like he was waking from a dream.
“Come on Greg, let's get Emily and go somewhere else,” I said.
Emily was now sitting at Josh's desk flipping through the papers and whispering fast. It was more of the nonsense words she was reading before.
“Emily…we need to go,” said Greg.
She continued reading and didn't move. Then she stood up and raised her hands towards the ceiling. As she moved them, we could see the stars above moving just like what Josh had done the other night when I thought I was dreaming.
New stars appeared as the night sky circled around above us. Aimee and Greg appeared to be stuck looking at it again. Although I wanted to see what would happen, I think the pain in my finger must have allowed me to keep some focus on the real world around me.
We stood there watching for a long time as the sky continued to move. A brighter star appeared with planets spaced out around it. The biggest planet grew closer and eventually took up the whole ceiling. Then the middle of the ceiling began to droop down like a slow drip of syrup. I felt a low rumble inside my head and could hear some of the words Emily had been speaking. Pictures of a barren planet with a vast ocean appeared before me. Something big was coming out of the water. I started to focus back on the pain in my finger and the room around me.
I grabbed Aimee by the arm and pulled her towards the door. She didn't even seem to notice what I was doing. After I got her through the door, I ran back and did the same for Greg.
The part of the ceiling that was dripping down formed into a large tentacle and began reaching for me. Another one emerged and went towards Emily. I ran to her and pulled her to the ground with me. The rumble in my head grew louder, causing excruciating pain. I fought through it and crawled along the floor dragging Emily with me and staying just out of reach of the appendages. When we reached the door, one of them slid across Emily's leg. She screamed. I stood up and pulled her quickly out the door, slamming it shut behind me.
Aimee and Greg were just standing there in a daze. Emily was crying with her eyes wide, frantically looking around. The thunder outside was almost constant, but I didn't hear any when we were in the room. It must have masked the sound of Emily's scream as I didn't see anyone else in the hall.
I shook Aimee and Greg and called their names. It took a while but they both eventually returned to consciousness.
“Emily needs help,” I said.
I looked at her leg and it was much worse than the marks on Aimee's back. There was a thick patch where the skin was gone and blood was coming out. Greg kneeled down beside Emily, who didn't even seem to notice he was there while Aimee and I went to get help. We knocked on a few doors but no one answered. I ran to the bathrooms and grabbed some paper towels to use to stop the bleeding.
In a minor pause between thunder, I heard the tornado siren as I ran back to Emily. Greg took the paper towels from me and held them to her leg.
“I heard a siren,” I said. “Everyone must be in the storm shelter in the basement.”
“What do you think is happening in your room?” Aimee asked.
“I'm afraid to check,” I said. “But at least nothing is trying to break down the door.”
Greg had grabbed Emily's head and was looking in her eyes. “Emily, it's me.”
He kept talking to her and trying to get her attention. Aimee and I grabbed Emily's arms and pulled her up. She still didn't seem to be aware of her surroundings but she could at least stand with minimal help from us.
“Let's take her to her room,” said Greg.
We led her down the stairs and into her room. Then we got her to lie down on her bed while Aimee ran to the bathroom for antibiotic ointment and bandages.
“I should go see what is happening in my room,” I said.”
“I'll go with you,” said Aimee. “Greg, we'll be back soon.” She grabbed her flashlight and we went out the door.

Hello there,
I'm real mad at myself for this one 'cause I can't place anything about it except it's story. I really enjoy when a song has a story to it, so sometimes I, very frustratingly, only remember the story and not the song itself. So this one's a bit of a shot in the dark.
What I can recall is:
A song about a cheating boyfriend, sung from the perspective of telling him about what she's done, as opposed to telling the listener what she has done. The song's intro could've been interpreted as a phone voicemail. I'll detail the way the story flows as a listener in brackets, because that's part of why the song's story was memorable to me.

• There's a little bit of a timeline in how the lyrics are sung, in that, there's a part where she mentions taking his credit card and cashing every penny he's got out of the bank ( we, as the listener are like "Hah!" ).
• Then talking about his car, I believe she scratches it up, too, but I'm not certain ( again, we're like "Hah!" ) and then talks about pouring gasoline on it. The little twist then comes in a small "Oh, and by the way" type of line, where she details right at the end that she put all his money in the car that she's about to/has just set alight. ( Which then turns into an 'oh!', She didn't use the money to spend it on herself, she took it to set it on fire. )

Genres it might be: Rock, metal, pop, country, folk, blues
I believe the singer is a woman, I'm picturing her in my head as an Elle King type, with more of a rock tone to her voice, but it really could've been a pop singer, too. If it was pop, I think it had a southern flair. I know for certain that it wasn't Taylor Swift. It may have been a popular singer but it could've been more indie. I think she was a white lady.
It's possible that I might have found it in a random, themed youtube playlist about 'revenge' or something. I listen to music from every genre, so unfortunately I can't narrow it down to any particular one.
From one other namethatsong post with a similar premise, none of the answers were the one I'm thinking of. So I can say in advance that it's not Mineli Rampampam or The Chicks Goodbye Earl.
Thanks for reading!
( Update edit: I checked out your suggestions: It's not Carrie Underwood's before he cheats or Miranda Lambert's Kerosene, but, both songs gave me the feeling of being on the right track. And I get the feeling that whoever made the song I'm thinking of was likely inspired by those artists. )
( Also, thank you so much for your suggestions! They still help me a ton by pushing me in the right direction! <3 )

During my time at my old campus the teacher I was working with and I had a strained relationship. I often felt excluded from conversations and like I was in the way. It was frustrating and I would try to approach cautiously as I had asked before if it was harder for them to develop relationships with others and they had said yes. My team would ask me how things were and I was honest because they’re my team and well I figured they should know what’s going on.
With that said, in the conversations I had with my team, the experiences I had seemed to be mutual with said teacher. Unfortunately, the environment and the way the school was ran got to be too much and I left to a new campus. I was the first of many people to leave that school which I believe, speaks for itself. Before I left I had offered to leave my books behind because the kids enjoyed them and I didn’t mind coming back at the end of the year to collect them.
I had reached out to that teacher about picking up my books. I sent 3 messages over the course of a month and a half just checking if it was ok to pick them up but did not receive a response. I called the office to see if they would be able to let me know when it was ok to pick them up but was told I needed to contact that teacher directly. Earlier this week I reached out to two other teachers as I was getting worried I wouldn’t get them back with the school year ending.
Then i get a voicemail saying I had till the end of yesterdays work day to pick them up as they would have nowhere to store them. Not long after, I get a response from the teacher I had reached out to saying I was unprofessional for reaching out to others about my books, and that they didn’t care to speak to someone that said untrue things about them. I felt so hurt and cried. I thought about reaching out to explain myself but didn’t. It feels as though the things i spoke to my team at the time about were twisted and made out to look like I was saying awful things about the teacher when I was simply just telling them my feelings and experiences when asked about it.
I have never had an experience like this before in my four years of teacher so hearing that was a major blow to me. Was my brain too literal and that’s why this happened?

I (35m) have been married to Lisa (28f) for 3 years, together 7. A year ago, I fell deeply in love with Amy (24f), and had been planning to end my marriage for her. I know it's terrible and not what my wife deserves, but we were the real thing.
Two weeks ago, she had an allergic reaction when we were getting food after work, but she used her epipen and seemed mostly okay afterwards. She usually gets checked at the hospital after a reaction, but I asked if I could take her home and she could get her friend to drive her there because my wife was expecting me back. All I know is that she had a secondary reaction that evening and died. I didn't even find out about it until the following Monday, through a work email. It has been eating me up ever since and I will never forgive myself for not sacrificing an hour of my time to possibly save her.
I sent some childish messages to Amy when I didn't hear from her over the weekend because I thought she was angry I didn't take her to the hospital. I am thankful she never saw them and ashamed that I assumed the worst. Our relationship was great and the highs far outweighed the lows, but I have always hated being ignored and I lose my cool when it happens. It is not a regular occurrence and I would have more than made it up to her.
Yesterday at work, HR and legal were in the CEO's office all day and my manager ended up cancelling our project meeting because he was with them all afternoon. I was on edge, but an affair isn't exactly a corporate crisis and I thought something would have already happened if anyone knew. I am now 99% certain it was about me.
A few hours ago I received a message from Amy's phone which said "This is Amy's brother, Tom. I want you to know it was me". I tried to call but it went straight to voicemail, and none of my messages have been delivered.
I tried to call my manager more times than I should have and he sent a message saying "Please don't contact me until Monday morning. I can't discuss anything with you right now". So it looks like my universe is going to collapse. I am going to be fired and my wife will definitely find out why. All I can do is hope that Amy's brother only showed them the messages from that weekend, and they were bad enough. I have no family except my wife and daughter and nowhere to go. All of my friends are either people I've met through my wife, or my colleagues. On Monday, everything I've spent over a decade working towards disappears. I can't stop it. I can't talk to anyone about it.
So here I am. I know cheaters are the devil so I'm not expecting sympathy, but this is making my chest hurt and I need to get it out there.

So the titel basically describes what this will be about. Some background information important to know: I just turned 21, come from an Turkish islamic and very cultural family and I go to college.
In summer 2023 I started working in a fastfood restaurant and got to know this girl. She is Albanian. Similar to Turkish culture since they were in the Ottoman Empire for over 500 years, yet a little different in traditional values. She is from the city, so more outgoing, more openminded, more open for new thins etc. However my parents come from a village from the mountains and hold some old values. They are modern but old at the same time.
My parents don't mind I have a girlfriend, they mind if we sleep together. Except for that we can do whatever we want. Her mother is okay with us going and staying places. This is where there is a lot of difference.
Some other important info: my girl's dad died not long ago from cancer but she got a very well upbringing, she is very chaste. She has had no "firsts" before me. No kiss, no sex, no holding hands, no dates; literally nothing. She has this from her parents, who have always stayed together and were together since they were young.
The issue comes when we go places together. Very stupid, but in January I arranged my flight to my parents vacation home to relax, but I love my girlfriend a lot and have a hard time going without her and so does she, we are childish and stupid and didn't think things through and I asked her to tag along when I was already there and she immediately came; there was no thinking. Anyways of course my parents wouldn't approve this, but we did anyways and they found out despite the effort we did to hide things.
The way they found out is because my sister is crazy and stalked social medias and went there and called me out. So she got furious and of course told my parents about it and made them mad even though I know my parents already knew. I was planning on telling myself eventually when things settled down a bit, but I did not get the chance. I was lying the whole time that I was alone but in reality I was there for a few days with my girl.. I do feel bad about that because I misused their trust in me and that is something I do not want to do. But I want to go places with her and enjoy my life with her and so on.
We went on hotel last week for my birthday, and I was with friends I told my mom, but my girl uploaded pictures of the day on TikTok on her NEW TikTok profile and somehow my sister got to it, called me, cursed me, told me me and her are whores and said that im a lying bastard, that I shit on my parents because I lie, I went to the vacation home and slept in the same bed as my parents with a girl, that she is impressed because I only bought her a Swarovski and that that's the reason she's with me, that she (my sister) wished for her (my girlfriend) to break my heart, that im just too quick in doing this and taking things serious (referring to being loyal, going places with my girl, going all out, spending, ...) and leaving my family behind for her.
I want to say this is really not the case. I love my family how I love my girlfriend like it's not that I place one above the other im just doing my thing with her and my parents don't approve unless we get married.
Now that's a thing on it's on, my sister is now calling. I told my mom I wanted to do this islamically so I fear god and my girlfriend agrees she does to because she wants to better herself in the eyes of god too and wants to go all out aswell and showing her loyalty. I met her mother, but she hasn't met my parents. Well to undergo this I want to introduce my girlfriend to my mother. This is where the problems settle. My sister curses my girlfriend, calling her a whore because she opens her legs for some Swarovski, that she is cheap, no upbringing and of course the same about me but even worse because "our parents did so much effort to raise us and you are out there doing crazy stuff that stressing them, especially mum out, so I will burn anyone to the ground for my parents, even my own brother". Note: she is 29, studied her whole life to become a pharmacist and still lives with us. She truly has nothing better to do and this is becoming very dramatic.
I know that if I just go and marry my girl in the mosque and tell my parents they will be disappointed and probably distance themselves from me. They are already doing that. Especially my mom because she is really hurt I am lying to her when I go with my girlfriend but I don't know what the fuck to do I love my girl I want to see her and spend time and nights with her, its not just for sex but for spending time with her and she is 10000% the same she is so good for me she cooks always brings me tasty pastries I cannot even begin to name and count how good she for me is it would seem a fairytale, and yes, go ahead and explain that to my sister and parents.
Now, my sister is only calling me a liar, says I shit on everyone, I am the reason dad is so much in hospital, the family is falling apart and calling me all the words like whore and so on and my girlfriend too and I can not introduce my girl like this.
I am left so clueless I really don't want to lie and just set things straight tell how things are. My parents just think I am too young, I don't know anything and so on. I say I can manage it but they are not impressed at all and just basically say to fuck off because they know I will do what I want anyway but I want their approval its just so hard because I rather just be good to everyone..
Dad got hospitalized that same night we were on hotel and when then found out they said I don't give a fuck about my family, I left my dad for dead and more similar things. I am so tired of it because I asked is it bad? they said no no need to come then when they found out then were very mad..
After going to the vacation home, I promised I wouldn't do this again. But my birthday was last week and my girl arranged hotel room and I was like okay.
My sister says if I ever bring this girl to my parents house (she lives there), she will curse her and make it known she is not welcome and I just think this is not done, we want to better ourselves and just take this step and she is hindering us now..
I am so desperate right now and I don't know what to do. I don't want to keep lying to my parents it hurts them (and me so much). I don't want to lose my girlfriend and she doesn't want to lose me ever. I don't want to never speak to my parents but they think I hate them because I lie to them but I love them and my sister makes it that im lying and shitting on their faces

I am sorry for this being so long but I am desperate for help.
My boyfriend John and I have been together for a year and a half. We started dating January 2023. We met on a dating app and everything was great for the first year. He and I work opposite shifts pretty much. I work the typical Monday to Friday 8am-4pm with weekends off while he works night shifts 6pm-6am working 2-3 weekends a month. We barely have time to see each other. After work, I normally go to the gym, cook dinner, and head to bed around 11pm-12am. After his night shifts, he would sleep until 5pm, go to the gym, cook dinner, and not go to bed until 5am. He told me he could not switch to a semi-day schedule on his days off because he is always tired. I used to work nights so I understood but anytime he had daytime responsibilities such as a training workout, an outing with his friend, or golf with his dad, he is up and at it. When I am asleep at 12am, he would watch tv in the bedroom super loud and play games on his phone without headphones. I have asked him multiple times to put on headphones. He would but then the following night, he would just go back to watching tv loud. I don't believe he is prioritizing me.
Things started to go down in January 2024. Prior to us meeting, he had a crappy apartment in an unsafe neighborhood. I closed on a house September 2023 and asked him to move in. My mortgage is $3,000. I only charge him $900 (his apartment's monthly rent was $1,500). He was agreeable to paying until January 2024 when he told me he was running out of money. It made no sense to me as he has been making 80k at his job for the past few years. When I asked him why, he said he wants to build his savings account. I make 180k a year so I was financially able to support both of us. That's what I did. I paid the whole mortgage, all the bills (electricity, gas, water, internet, garbage), and about 75% of the groceries.
From January 2024 until April 2024, I have noticed a few things. I had gotten into a car accident in 2023 and we have been sharing Snapchat locations since just for safety reasons. I am a pretty light sleeper and am always up at least once a night to pee. For the last few weeks, I. have noticed he is missing at least twice a week when I am asleep like around 2am-3am. The first few times I let it go because I thought he went for a drive or something. Then eventually, I noticed his Snapchat location would be off. I have called him a few times and asked and he said to save battery, he had to turn his location off. However, his car would be missing so I know he takes his car. His car has a phone charger....
He has also been getting mean. I got started on an anti-anxiety medication and have put on 15 lbs. I like to run and just ran my first marathon last week (go me!). However, the night before my race, he proceeded to ask me how does it feel to have extra weight while running? I told him it affects me but not too bad and he said, "no shit." I was so taken aback because this was the same guy who told me how beautiful and amazing I was last year. Every time I try to bring up a situation in which I am unhappy (him not wanting to spend time with me, him leaving in the middle of the night for hours, him making fun of me for my physical appearance), he would raise his voice, yell at me that I am dragging it, and then disappear for the day or give me the silent treatment (in my own house).
I am not sure if he found a new girl but last night was the last straw. John isn't a big drinker but he has told me in the past, if he goes out, he will black out. Once he starts, he cannot stop. During our talking days and the beginning of our relationship, he cut back tremendously to maybe one a week. If he is hiding an alcohol problem, he is REALLY good at it. I mean where would all the alcohol bottles go? I have not seen any. Yesterday morning while I was at work, John texted me that he was going out for his friend's birthday. When I asked which friend, he left me on seen. I go about my day, make dinner, and start getting ready for bed at my usual time 10:30pm. I check his Snapchat location and it is off. I give him a call twice. He doesn't pick up but calls me 5 minutes later telling me he needs me to come pick him up or to call him an Uber because his phone was going to die. Mind you, he drove there and he has a phone charger in his car. I am sure one of his buddies had a phone charger too. He tells me where he is at and I go and look for him in the bar. I cannot find him but his car is still in the parking lot. I give him a call and it went straight to voicemail. I ask a security guard on my way out showing him a picture of him and he says he hasn't seen him. I go home and try my best to try to fall asleep but I obviously can't. It was 1am at this time.
He FINALLY comes home at 5am. The bars here close at 4am. I asked him where he was all night and he brushed me off telling me he was out having fun with his friends. John doesn't go out very much. When I asked then why did he ask me to come het him around midnight, he lost it and yelled at me, saying to me, "AM I NOT ALLOWED TO GO OUT NOW?!" He told me he went to his friend's house to sober up but he was still heavily intoxicated. I asked him why didn't he just keep me in the loop and he said his phone died. I have a hard time believing his friends didn't have a phone charger. He also has my number memorized so he could've texted me from a friend's phone. I ask him whose birthday was it and he gave me a name. I looked up the profile on Facebook and see he is friends with a guy on Facebook with the same first and last name. I check to see if he has his date of birth public. He does and he was born in September. He finally falls asleep and I cry myself to sleep.
Today is Saturday. It is his only weekend off this month. I wake up around 10am and I guess I disturbed him because he asked me why I was making so much noise (but it is totally ok for him to watch tv super loud when I am sleeping). I apologize and said I needed to take the dog out. He gets up to the bathroom and I asked if he wanted to spend time together. He said, "I can't, I got golfing today." I left the house with the dog and am just around town grabbing coffee, walking him, going to the dog park.
I have had it with him and want to break up with him. I am scared of the consequences because he has joked about it in the past saying if I ever broke up with him, I would end up being a missing person. I have no family here and have a few friends. Should I just quietly find an exit plan and make sure I have everything set up or just break up with him now?
Thank you.

Hi,
As the title says I’m considering cancelling my IVA- After doing more research I’ve realised that this is possibly the worst solution for my situation. I have good income & have made some very poor financial decisions over my life which resulted in £12,000 debt.
I have a means of paying off this money quicker than I would in an IVA & don’t need to pay additional costs to do this meaning bills paid quicker.
If I cancelled now & set up independent payments with each creditor, my credit score would get better quicker & the black mark of insolvency would be removed from my credit score quicker, at least that’s what I’ve gleaned from my research. In the next 5 years I want to buy land & build a small home there, which I will require a small loan for some of the cost.
Income £4400-£6500 PCM Outgoings £3800-£4200 PCM
Credit score -10 due to Iva
Predicted credit score after 12 months of on time payments outside of IVA 300, inside IVA I will remain at -10 until its repaid & cleared for 12’months meaning 7 years from now.

What I’m looking for: I’m on the search for someone that I can truly vibe with to be my best friend and life partner 🫶🏻
‼️ Very important to note:

• I really hate flying on planes, so if you are big on travel by plane and want a partner that will join you, I’m probably not the one for you!! At least as of the foreseeable future. (I’m so sorry- I’m very very uncomfortable with flying, but in a hypothetical scenario I would do my best to accomodate long distance travel for you!!)

About me!:

• Location: I currently live in Ohio and am stuck here for the next 4 years of college :,D
  
• I’m a trans guy (ftm) 🏳️‍⚧️, I’ve been on testosterone and had top surgery, but don’t want bottom surgery. I do pass and look like a guy, so please be aware, I am not a girl!!!
  
• 5’4” (5’5” if I really stretch..), average build, a lil soft which is good for cuddles (I like to workout but won’t say no to desserts >:3)
  
• I’m a nerdy guy! I love science, physics, pc stuff, astronomy and deep topics (big brain interests, even though I can be a dumbass LMAO)
  
• Other interests: video games (minecraft, stardew valley, fortnite, dbd, etc.), anime, webtoons/webcomics, movies/show, nature, walks and hikes, reading, and animals :D
  
• I love being clean, smelling good, and practice good hygiene! I even FLOSS 🙂‍↕️
  
• A bit shy at first, can be quiet and I’m comfortable with silence, but also very outgoing once I open up and connect with someone!
  
• I don’t really like parties, and I don’t drink or do drugs. I love quiet activities with that one special person, walks, star-gazing, picnics, thrifting, book stores, nights in, cuddling, that sort of stuff 🫶🏻
  
• I’m affectionate, cute, excitable, empathetic, and understanding. I really love self-awareness and communication!
  
• Some flaws: My anxiety can be very bad and cause me stress at times, and I can be a bit of a hypochondriac and germaphobic, especially when stressed but I do my best to manage it, and majority of the time am okay!
  

For compatibility reasons:

• I am a sensitive person, and have sexual anxiety. I also have a lower sex drive and need to be very comfortable with someone to do these things, which takes time. It is never my priority with my partner, emotional connection comes first!
  
• I’d prefer having pets over kids in the future, and it’s a dream of mine to some day live in a rustic style home near lots of beautiful nature! I’m more of a countryside or mountains guy as opposed to cities :)
  

I bet you’re wondering what I’m looking for? Only requirements tbh:

• Age 18-26
  
• Good hygiene and sense of taking care of yourself (showering, brushing teeth, a sense of responsibility and maturity)
  
• Smells good (smell is a BIG factor in my attraction, I have a sensitive sense of smell, and if you smell good to me I’ll be very attracted, if you’re stinky.. I cannot 😭)
  
• Good personality, and we vibe >:3
  
• You’re honest about your intentions, have good morals, are gentle and understanding
  

Anyway! Phew! If you’re still here after all that text, I’m honestly impressed, because my keyboard started lagging while typing it all :,D
If you’re interested in me, please don’t hesitate to reach out! Send me a message with an introduction and your age, description of yourself, and why you thought my post was intriguing to you!! We can trade face pics if that’s cool with you to see if there’s some mutual attraction! 🫶🏻🙂‍↕️