Diana Walter is a Journalist in the urban area of Los Angeles, California, focused on getting a promotion at the Media company she works for. She comes from an abusive family and has ruled out every chance of love coming her way. She comes in contact with Bryan Fox, a Neurosurgeon at Kindread Hospital Los Angeles, and a Philanthropist, driven by passion for his work and children. Unexpected rigmaroles bring them together and they realize they just might be what they need for each other, secrets and vulnerabilities are shared, but there are challenges ahead. Their differences and conflicts defeat all purpose and both characters are forced to make a decision. What exactly drives Bryan's love for children? What skeletons does Bryan have in his cupboard? Is Diana willing to commit to a relationship and let go of her fear? Where does this roller coaster of emotions and high flying romance lead Diana? Where does it lead Bryan? Happy ever after? Or not? Read more

just looking for other ppls perspectives maybe support idk idk what to do
~rant/vent~
🔍I had pretyped this just ranting then I realized i can post it anonymously here bc i’m really struggling and would like some outside advice human to human feels like i’m gaslighting myself lol. They have supported me and given me everything I need materialistically and do what they are supposed to as parents in that aspect I am very grateful and appreciative of that. in no way shape or form will I ever complain ab them giving me food, shelter, clothes etc. I’m not seeking to be coddled or get sympathy either i just need to know if it really is that bad or am I tripping.
🔬emotionally manipulative & guilt tripping parents will be their own demise. lol. finally dropping that mask you have with them, making them look at themselves and see the torment i had to mentally internalize & take on over the years > sitting back & letting them continue their behavior and control to keep destroying your identity & self continuing to deal with immense shame, guilt, sadness, and anger because you know how they are and you think theres no point in opening up to them or telling them what they do wrong bc they always do the same shit & continue to blame you for everything. note this though when I finally released all my years of internalized emotions on them and started texting them very knowledgeable shit about themselves, how they treated me, my mom trying to control and ruin me and my girlfriends relationship when we first got together (+ we have continued to be together for 1yr and 3 months still going strong she ain’t ruin shiiiit) & shit talked my gf for no reason at all. When I started texting paragraph after paragraph (+ texting them back and forth.) I was met with my mom thinking something isn’t right regarding my mental health and telling my dad and brother she thinks something is wrong with me again (she was surprised how I could speak so knowledgeable bc I barely even interact with them anymore) them texting my phone asking if everything is okay and they are worried ab me (she’s also made many comments before this situation like “you seem like you need to get back on ur medication you’re being irritable” etc when clearly that was the correct response to some fucked up comment she made i’m sick of that shit.) (sorry that was lowkey irrelevant but holy shit). them throwing what they do for me as PARENTS in my face, blame shifting, manipulation, lying, her saying she has no acknowledgment of ever treating me like that over the years, trying to ruin our relationship, or saying any of the vile shit she said about my gf. OH and how she thought It couldn’t possibly be me that’s writing these exceptional level paragraphs and she thought my gf was controlling me and making me send all of that to my parents(me texting her ab this shit went on for like 3 days, 3 days of her not taking accountability for anything, lying, trying to manipulate by making me feel bad as well and she had the nerve to say “it feels like i’m being abused” GIRLLL STOPPP HUH im still confused ab that one) it’s honestly sickening and baffling knowing ppl can think & say shit like that. i’ve been so detached from them since I was little (never knew why at the time) but THIS makes that detachment 100x worse and I feel like that’s a GOOD thing for me even though the outcome wasn’t what I wanted, bc i’m feeling free, released, not pint-up, etc most importantly more like I can finally be MYSELF!!! i’m way more comfortable in who I am and my Identity now at 19 could you imagine that like damn (just hoping it’s not temporary)!!! just putting this out there in hopes that someone else going through the same thing or similar will see and maybe help them a little. now i just gotta move out.
⚛️ she can’t see how what she says to people effects them drastically and takes 0 responsibility and acknowledgement of doing so and passes it off as “you don’t know me” “i’m a good person” “i have a good heart i love everybody” etc or blame everything on me for examples “we do everything for you” “you’re going to treat us like that when we sacrificed so much for you” etc um .. yeah they signed up for that when they decided to have a child so it’s fucked up to throw that in my face. THEN she loves to do this the most playing the victim card “you’re abusing me” “it feels like you are abusing me” “we feel like we can’t say anything right we are always walking on eggshells around you it’s exhausting” she knows damn well I’m not abusing her in any way shape or form that’s disrespectful to many people who actually had to go through and endure actual abuse. “do you want to hurt us? is that your goal” “you’re destroying the family” “you’re destroying our marriage” etc literally used to be all the timmmme when i was going through sh and stuff too. i didn’t do anything wronggggg all I did was speak up for myself FOR ONCE (bc it’s been YEARS) ab the shit she does and how i’m not okay with it i internalize literally everything (that’s y it took years. just sick of their shit idk what to do). low and behold after all that expressing I get met with all that blame shifting and lying. the reason why i never open up to her is bc when I do ever since i was little she always blamed me and made it seem like this whole other thing so hell yeah i’d rather internalize then talk to her that’s a way better option than getting met with guilt tripping and shit what else could I do but internalize n doing that fucked my head up BAD. there are MANY more examples of what else she would say and my dad too but i really think he’s brainwashed by her so idk that’s just off the top of my head .. lmao. she makes me feel so insaneee i even feel like i’m exaggerating and making a big deal n being too sensitive writing all this😵‍💫. there’s SO MUCH more context but fuck all that i typed enough. thx for coming to my ted talk🕷️.
🤢they are both closeted RACIST and openly HOMOPHOBIC so you can imagine what they say/have said to me and about other ppl. shit makes me so AHHH. anyways.

Even after everything I currently still consider my ex the love of my life,
The situation with him is messy and chaotic and sad and confusing, but still.
I love him.
But I know even who he’s my whole world and was like sunshine right after a rainstorm for me…
I doubt he’ll ever love me back ever again.
I wish more than anything he’d want me again… but I know the harsh reality.
I miss him and what we had.

Hello guys. I'm an incoming college student na gustong mag enroll sa isang private university. Sadly, I didn't pass the passing score for their scholarship. Sabi ko, it's okay lang since marami pa namang scholarships like CHED. (Hindi ako nakapag apply sa DOST dahil hindi ko na naabutan). Double sadly, hindi priority ng CHED yung course ko which is Business Administration. I was devastated kasi ito na lang ang pag asa ko. Fortunately, may isang local scholarship sa city namin, pero I doubt na kasi wala silang updates about their requirements or when will their application start. I was so disappointed in myself dahil I didn't try hard enough sa entrance exam ng school ko and it made me wonder if tama ba yung course na i pursue ko dahil sayang ang CHED scholarship dahil pasok ako sana sa kanilang criteria if it weren't for my chosen course. Hindi pa nga ako nakapasok ng college, parang na demotivated na ako, knowing na malaki ang advantage kung isa kang scholar for credentials if you apply for a job in the future, and overall maraming merits. Do you have any advice for me? What should I do? A big thank you to who'll be replying to this post!

Hindi aakyat yung parents sa stage kapag walang award noh? Ang sad naman kung ganon huhu dapat bigyan pa rin ng chance kahit walang award kasi minsan lang naman tayo grumaduate :< wala lang naisip ko lang hehe

For context i got in trouble at work for 2 conflicting things. First i was told i talk to much about my personal life and it makes my coworkers uncomfortable. And i was super confused because i dont talk to my coworkers. But then like, 3 days later my boss had another conversation with me and said im a negative person and not a team player cuz i don't talk to my coworkers and i "look miserable all the time" and was asked if i even wanted to work there. And this isnt the first time i was told i look sad or miserable all the time. Im not though. It's literally just my face. Some people have resting bitch face; i have resting sad face. I can't help it. If you talk to me you'll see im not sad or anything. Im a generally positive person and i try to be kind and helpful to everyone and customers love me. I've been told by several customers that im their favorite person there. My customer review scores are positive. Even customers that are "problem customers" that everyone hates dealing with like me. And i go out of my way constantly to help my coworkers whenever i have time. So to be told im not a team player pisses me off so badly when its completely not true and only even thought because my face just looks sad. Wtf am i supposed to do? Cuz i tried just keeping a smile/positive expression on my face constantly but then people were saying i look fake and its disturbing/off putting to them.

Hello guys. I'm an incoming college student na gustong mag enroll sa isang private university. Sadly, I didn't pass the passing score for their scholarship. Sabi ko, it's okay lang since marami pa namang scholarships like CHED. (Hindi ako nakapag apply sa DOST dahil hindi ko na naabutan). Double sadly, hindi priority ng CHED yung course ko which is Business Administration. I was devastated kasi ito na lang ang pag asa ko. Fortunately, may isang local scholarship sa city namin, pero I doubt na kasi wala silang updates about their requirements or when will their application start. I was so disappointed in myself dahil I didn't try hard enough sa entrance exam ng school ko and it made me wonder if tama ba yung course na i pursue ko dahil sayang ang CHED scholarship dahil pasok ako sana sa kanilang criteria if it weren't for my chosen course. Hindi pa nga ako nakapasok ng college, parang na demotivated na ako, knowing na malaki ang advantage kung isa kang scholar for credentials if you apply for a job in the future, and overall maraming merits. Do you have any advice for me? What should I do? A big thank you to who'll be replying to this post!

Hi, I'm Greg 28, I'm here to tell you that I graduated from High School (or well the version of that in my country, Spain) I stopped studying after what in the US is middle school I believe.
Had to go trough a fair bit as a child and teen, mental and physical abuse from my elder narcissistic dad who only had me and used me as an emotional outlet in all sort of fucked ways, somehow I ended up trauma bonded and looking after him, I should have left my house years ago, everybody told me, but I never listsened.
To this you can add an alcoholic depressive mother who left the picture when I was 5, isolation, I always felt like an outsider, total lack of healthy emotional connection growing up and social anxiety during my teens because of a fair bit of bullying reason why I left my studies...
Basically a bit too much for a kid, I did what I could but everything seamed to be in flames and hurt. In my twenties I went on and off trough a series of dead end jobs, struggling with a lot of repressed emotional wounds, not really knowing what was I doing, with a shitty ass self esteem and letting life push me around without opposing.
At some point I met a girl tho, I fell in love BAD, she helped me a bunch, I grew emotionally a lot, she showed me what love was supposed to look like, academically she encouraged me to restart studying, she empowered me to try when I thought I was but a fuck up, and so I did.
Long story short I graduated a few days ago.
Thing is she left me in february and I fell deep and hard into a bad bad pit. I realized I had been neglecting my own emotional wounds for too long, while in the relathionship I thought I was doing better but I mostly was just feeling better wich is not quite the same. I'm seeing a therapist and she thinks I might have chronic depression, basically a persistent and mild form of depression as well as anxiety issues.
Honeslty it adds up quite a fair bit with me.
Sadly I also neglected her feelings, I had a big problem being verbally loving, all other forms of showing love (acts, touch, gifts, time, effort etc) YES as much as I could but verbally? God, I was awful... I'm not forgiving my self for this one soon.
Anyways, what I'm trynna say is that as bittersweet as it may be, and it sure is without her around , I finished and I did it despite being in what was posibly the darkest period of time of my life. I'm happy I didn't do anything crazy to my self, it sure was close. Wish I could have felt anything when I finally did it tho, I always thought it was going to be one of those core happy memories but instead I felt nothing.
I've got some plans now, I might pursue what in the US is an associate's degree in programming, I'm going to try an turn my life around for good. I'm also in a quest for emotional growth and trying to learn from my mistakes, I REALLY want to stop the generational trauma that goes down my family.
I think that is all, thanks a lot to those who read this and to anyone answering me :)

Yesterday I found out that my long distance crush and bff met her bf, she used to tell me that she made out with him and yesterday she said something that broke me to an extent I don't think I can recover from. She told me that they met in the morning and that was the best makeout of her life!!! Idk what to say I haven't replied to her yet I feel like a loser.
What hurts me the most since the day I met her (online, haven't met her IRL yet) she has been the nicest person to me she says I LOVE YOU to me everyday I get it's different when u say that to a friend but she has sent me 500+ pics of her hy herself I couldn't help myself but fall for her. She didn't liked when I talk abt different girls. She hates jy every female friend (even today).
She used to call me everyday for hrs but now she doesn't. She wanted to meet me but now she doesn't she refused that was really unexpected for me so I had to go to her city roam around all day and came back at night coz I had already booked the tickets.
She knows that I love her and when I confessed to her she said she doesn't want to be in a relationship it's just not her thing and all I understood. But one day she tells me that she made out with her neighbour who's her childhood friend. Months later she met her ex who has ghosted her and they kissed she didn't told me abt it she told me after few days that they are back together. I knew something was off between us coz the person who says that she loves me everyday didn't even wished me on my b'day despite knowing how imp it was for me coz I literally had no friends at that time. When I didn't replied to her she realised and wrote a paragraph but the damage was already done ig. A month later I made a special video for her bday she told me everyone was there but the person she adores the most wasn't (yes, she said she was talking about me) she spent the day with her bf.
The problem is she has broken up and got back with him multiple times during these 4-5 months and always tells me abt her relationship details coz she claims I'm her bff if anything happens in her life she would come running to me. She wants me to stay with her as a friend as long as possible. Even I can't stop talking to her coz I literally love her. She texts ne she feels lonely she feels anxious she texts me at midnight and I've to be there.
I do understand that I can't force her to choose me and I'm even okay to be her friend and always be with her but she keeps talking abt her bf and relationship even tho I told her to plz not talk abt him but she still does that. This whatever thing I'm having with her is killing me I can't think of anything else I can't look at couples without thinking of her and her bf I can't watch romantic movies songs anything I feel so down I cry all night. I don't know how to get out of this I've tried meeting new girls but it's just not working out I can't get her out of my head. I feel so worthless I literally feel pain in my heart (sounds cringe but true).

Hi! OFW ako sa UAE (26F). So ever since I started sa work ko, there is one kabayan (F) na sobra ang galit sakin. To the point na binabantayan niya yung lahat ng kilos ko. My absences/sick leaves, mga ginagawa ko sa floor. As in lahat. She also tends to make stories and spread it to “recruit” others to hate me. It went on for a year now. Noon kasi, I don’t mind it. Para saakin kasi, I’m just there to work and not to befriend them. Tama na saakin yung 2 or 3 friends. Lahat ng mga sinasabi niya behind my back nakakarating sakin and I didn’t bother to correct them before kasi I thought alam ko naman na hindi totoo yun lahat so okay na siguro yun. I was also thinking na maybe if I didn’t give attention to it, maybe it will just stop. Pero hindi. It went on and on.
Mas close ako sa boys and my husband knows it. He knows everything. The thing is, tuwing may kausap ako na lalake na colleague namin, sasabihin niya (colleague ) na nilalandi ko or na-fuck na ako non. She and her circle of friends calls me “pakarat gaming”. There was also a time na I had a very bad breakout because of my hormonal problems, sabi nila it’s because I’m sleeping around and I have a*ds na. It was so bad.
So last night, may nakarating na naman sakin and they are trying to tell my SIL (which is katrabaho din namin) na I’m having an affair with this guy sa work. My SIL and I was able to talk through it and I was able to prove na wala talaga. I even talked to my husband about it and he told me to report them.
So mga Ka-Reddit, ito na nga. Pagod na kong i-ignore yung mga ginagawa nila and I’m starting to feel uncomfortable going to work. Sa group lang nila ako may problema but the rest of the team esp other nationalities love me naman. What should I do? Is it time to report them to the higher management?

true bi panic is not being able to decide if you're more attracted to cash or harper. i am so in love with both of them, both as characters and looks.

The Context:

/Barcelona is the main sub for the second largest city in Spain and the capital of Catalonia. Long a tourist hotspot, much of the local economy is driven by tourism.
OOP posts a picture of graffiti in a park with the message: “Tourist: your luxury trip my daily misery.” [sic]
Users begin debating if this is a fair take, the effect of tourism on the city, and vomiting memes.
For ease of readability to a majority English-speaking audience, I’ve translated some comments from Catalan, poorly.

The Drama:

Is the graffiti expressing a selfish sentiment?

What a selfish, shitty thing to say to someone trying to live their best lives and share a bit of the magic you enjoy everyday.

Love this comment! Not all tourists are bad.

Tourism is unsustainable.

So we should all just stick to the respective cities we’re born in? What a lovely, thriving, multi-cultural society that’ll end up in /s

Not all the cities have the same problems. Responsible tourism is a thing

[Continued:]

Then why don't you vote for politicians that want to improve the situation?
Tourism tax, restrictions on how many people can visit a park/attraction per day, etc pp.
Instead you get nonstop whining on reddit. Or shared bicycles that can only be rented by Barcelona residents. Wow, good job! The tourism tax is at only 4-5€ per night in Barcelona. Compare that to Berlin where it's a whopping 7% soon (which is usually way higher than 5€).

Who did tell you who I vote for or what I do? [If you want we can talk face to face when you want clown]

Oh no, we got a badass over here. [I didn't say anything like that, of course you tourists are the problem if your head lacks intelligence...]

[It's very good to learn Catalan (good luck with what you have left to reach a decent level, I'm really telling you this with love) but don't put words in other people's mouths without knowing. There are many of us here who are fed up with the borderline situation that the city is living in and if you are a privileged person who doesn't get the slightest bit, I would at least ask you to have the decency to keep quiet when it's time to keep quiet]

[…]

No. We should stop travelling at the expense of the plane, the cities and the people's suffering. And locals should resist what makes their lives more difficult. In this case, a tourist model that hikes rents, contaminates and destroys the social fabric of the community displacing people and creating precarious jobs that provide no stability or value. Barcelona can be a great and fun place if you are staying here for a week, or if you are a remote worker that gets paid by a large firm with headquarters in Amsterdam. But that fun can be, and is, disastrous for other people. That search for sun and beach, of parties and stories uploaded to social media causes many problems for others. That's a fact. Non-sustainable tourism is what it is. Tourists and expats (high earning migrants) can be, individually, very nice and conscious folks. But the dynamics they are participating in are the cause of many problems for the city and its inhabitants.
[It's the market, friend.]

[…]

The problem isn't the singular tourist. The problem is suffocating hordes of tourists that treat your home like an amusement park or museum.
Tourism can be a real economic win for a city, but it also has externalities that can kill the very thing that made it special if not kept in check. Barcelona is a great example of this.
I say this both as someone who loves to travel and who lives in a tourist hotspot.

I mean, there is not too much you can do about it besides a ridiculous tax, and that would be a little hypocritical if you love to travel, because traveling should be accessible to the majority of people.
It makes sense to me if you defend the free market, and you put the price on your city or whatever you want to do like a libertarian, but again,it is hypocritical when we see that the political party that won the elections do not like the free market or libertarian politics.
You can't have all.

Woooosh!
That's the sound of everything going over your head

Lmao, it is the definition of being a logical thinker and not being a hypocrite.

Oh sorry, it went so over your head, that you didn't even hear the whoosh.
You're talking politics when I was talking social and economic. So, not much of a logical thinker.
But it doesn't surprise me that Barcelona would vote that way. It's called the resource curse, and by now tourism will have all but killed all other industries. So yeah, they have no choice now. Which is exactly what I was talking about in my second paragraph.

Who are the users of the sub anyway?

Because 90% of the people answering are expats. They don't fucking care about locals, they mostly despise or ignore them. Most of them live in their own English ghettos, not even bothering about anything else that themselves.

Biggest load of horseshit I’ve read all day.
You live in fantasy land and it’s really, really sad to see. I hope you open your eyes one day.

[How is your Catalan?]

[my Catalan is good. not that it matters]
Nobody “despises” Catalans. Every single person I know that has moved here is desperate to get involved with local culture, history and activities. They try their hardest to learn the language. They try their hardest to make more catalan friends.
Classic Reddit perpetual victim.

Is Barcelona dying?

Barcelona is dying. Soon it will be an empty city, a shiny shell of what had once been alive and authentic. The locals can't face the rent prices, the gentrified shops and bars, we are forced to leave our neighborhoods and give up decent housing.

Looking at rent availability and prices - it is very far from dying.

Are you looking at the prices as a foreigner or as a local? Because wages in Spain for most of us are quite poor, so yes, it's really difficult to find decent housing with those prices

And yet people don't do anything like moving away meaning situation is still not that bad.
When things like that happened in my country - a lot of people emigrated for better work and things normalised at home too.
Economy has a way of fixing itself. No workers to serve tourists - higher wages or fewer tourists.

It will only be expats and tourists here and the 10% rich Catalans in the end. Look at the most common local salary from locals in the city.

You're so close to understanding the root of the issue. Yet so far...

Yeah, it's all the fault of the 10% of evil Catalans. OK. Nobody else is responsable or can do anything.

[Continued:]

Think a little bit harder. You can do it.

[You're enlightening, kid.]

I give you the answer because you're obviously struggling. It's the wages. Your salary is shit, and there's no excuse for that because you live in a rich region, of a rich country, part of a rich continent.
And once again, one of the greatest success of those profiteering is to turn people like you into the useful idiots by pointing the finger to people from your own social class: in this case, the Ryanair flying middle to low income tourists (yeah, far from luxury holidays), who are the majority of the people visiting this city. And with whom you have much more in common than you realize.
While prices have increased, as it did everywhere around the globe, Barcelona remains a cheap city. And that's exactly the reason why it is such a popular destination across the spectrum of tourists, and especially with low income ones.
So, if you really want to change something, start asking yourself why wages are so low in such a rich region. And at an individual level, negotiate (like I did) an income worth your efforts. And if it's still not enough, keep in mind that 80% of the properties are owned by locals.

You don't know shit about how I fight, or any people like me for a more fair society. Probably way more than you. But this post is about overtourism and touristification. I can care about multiple things and fight multiple fights.

Then this conversation is over, you don't have the intellectual bandwidth to understand something as simple as how low wages are linked to the problem you blame "the tourists" for. Also, if me, an immigrant from a poor Caribbean country, is able to live significantly better than you in a place where I arrived few years ago without speaking the language, ask yourself the right questions about your fighting abilities, and probably your life choices.

[Continued:]

Lol you know shit about who I am, my life choices, or the money I earn. Your comment is funny.
I'm a socialist. I care about my family and friends, about people who had less oportunities than me. I despise people who only think about themselves, or fight only for themselves. The last part of your comment says a lot about you. Bye.

Sure, keep telling yourself that you're a socialist while defending a xenophobic agenda benefiting the ruling class. Like I said, useful idiots like you are what's keeping the system on its feet. Great work 👍

A user is crowned king:

When your own city becomes overcrowded all the time and you can’t afford to live in the center because it’s so expensive due to tourist/expats money inflating the market, it doesn’t matter how much money “the city” makes from tourism, your individual life is affected very negatively and you live worst off than with less tourism. I’m not even a local, but this is not hard to understand.

can’t really blame tourists for systemic issues

Erm, says who, you, the king?
If local wages are lower than abroad (not ideal but would be ok in its own, it’s still better than my own country) but due to how attractive the weather and culture is, people from other countries with much higher wages flock here and destroy the market, either by paying much higher (making it impossible for locals) or buying properties to rent (know many who do this, buy something, live in it 3 months of the year, and rent to other expats the rest of the year) - who’s fault is? The locals? lol

then fight for wages, not tourists.

This is why the locals hate you lol

[Continued:]

This is why I don't care bro.
[Photo of a beach]

What are you trying to prove? I’m not even a local, I just have more than a brain cell and understand why the locals blame the tourists, which is what was being discussed.

Nothing mate, I just really don't care who hates me. That is my day everyday at 11 am.

You care enough to have made now 3 comments that are totally irrelevant to what was being discussed.
“I don’t care. I swear. I promise! Let me show you that I don’t care. I really don’t care I swear”.

[…]

People working in tourism related jobs mostly work part-time, have no indefinido contracts and earn minimum wage. You can google that.
Some people are getting rich by tourism, most people are just surviving in it.
But of course 'expats' and tourists who represent most of the sub members and not local or immigrant workers are going to upvote your out of touch comment.

Some of these people need it to survive though

Not the Airbnb owners obviously

I have an Airbnb and I need it to survive.

Get a job.

What is misery?

Misery is that your old neighborhood is full of souvenir shops and none of your friends even live there anymore.

Shut the fuck up, Spain has one of the highest living standards in the world. You’re mad because other people want to visit and have a bit of it in their shitty lives? Spain has it so damn good, the thing youre complaining about is literally a problem around the entire developed world and isn’t necessarily any worse or unique to Barcelona. Stop being so damn dramatic and accept that your ‘misery’ is just you disliking seeing foreigners happy.

If you can afford spending hundreds of euros in partying and Airbnbs, why is their life so shitty? Leave your jobs and come work here as a server, try to rent anything with the minimum salary. Barcelona can be a paradise, but the tourist model is making it a hell for the majority.
Yeah, the market is being a problem for everyone everywhere. Now, people in Barcelona have to fight against the effects of the market in the city. As everybody should do in their home cities. A Barcelona for those who build their lives there, not for those who wish to consume and toss it.

Something tells me, me, a guiri, leaving my job and working in Barcelona makes Catalans even more mad than if I were just visiting.

And that something is in the room, here with us?
in fact if you live and work in Catalonia you are a Catalan. so this comment makes 0 sense at all.

Who’s to blame anyway?

Classic losers playing the victim card. Without tourism beautiful Barcelona's economy would be destroyed. But please keep blaming your shortcomings on others.

Barcelona was beautiful before tourism.

If you live in Barcelona, enjoy it. It is and will always be beautiful, and if you truly believe otherwise you are wasting the time you have in one of the world’s greatest cities. Times are tough, yes, but remember that people are also having tough times in the middle of nowhere, without any cultural outlets or ability to find likeminded people. Real estate greed is running rampant the world over, and hopefully it will not last.
Be a part of the solution, never travel again please. Just spend the rest of your life in Barcelona like a hermit. Otherwise you're a fucking hypocrite.

Hypocrite is thinking that tourism is good for the locals.

Ok great. Then be a part of the solution and never travel again. It hurts the locals. Been to London? Been to Berlin? Been to Italy? Greece? Cairo? Are you going to stop travelling and seeing the world? Everyone here knows perfectly well that you won't. It's just childish whining

The Flairs:

• “But I don't eat and vomit memes like you…”
  
• “Stop getting your news from memes”
  
• “You don't know shit about how I fight”
  

Yesterday on FB memories, a picture of my ex husband and I came up. We were young in the picture, and as someone who doesn’t look good in pictures I was admiring how good I looked in this one. I took a screenshot and sent to my daughter.
I asked her if it was weird seeing her dad and I together. He and I have been divorced for 8 years, and I’ve been remarried to 2nd husband for 4 years. Anyway, she said yes.. it is weird.
I then said “your dad was once very handsome, which is why I fell for him”.. which is true. I literally prayed for a hot husband at the time, not knowing there’s much much more to marriage and love than the superficial. I then mentioned myself, and how different I look in the picture.
We went on to talk about him for a little bit. I started asking questions about how he looks now. This was fueled by recently watching TikTok’s about alcohol cirrhosis, and how people’s stomachs swell up when they have it. My ex is/was an alcoholic.. so my questions about his current physique were trying to see if he has cirrhosis or not. If he was still drinking heavily or not. I asked about his swollen belly, etc.
My daughter gave me long answers. Told me more than whether his belly is swollen or not. I replied with 1 word answers. I just wanted to know if he has a swollen belly.
Anyway, the conversation ended. Went to bed.
But then my current husband somehow saw our text conversation. I don’t know if my daughter showed him or he looked thru her phone or mine. But he saw the texts, came to bed, and said a snarky comment like “he was so handsome” in a mocking way. I tried to explain but he cut me off, put in ear plugs and went to sleep.
This morning he wakes me up early by shouting into the bedroom “I want a divorce”. Then called me a lying ass slut.
I can see how the conversation w my daughter looks like I’m reminiscing and maybe even missing my ex but that’s not the case at all. He won’t listen to my explanation.. and I definitely didn’t deserve to be called a lying slut. I lie.
AITA for having that conversation with my daughter?

I just started medication so I’m still discovering a lot of its impacts.
Usually I have a very active and vivid imagination.
For example, I will hear a sound in the room and it will trigger an invented melody or even harmonies in my head. I hear music all day long and it also triggers images/scenarios. I have also “practiced” immersive day dreaming as far as I can remember. And I mean IMMERSIVE.
I usually picture invented situations, using characters and topics I’m very interested in, often with what I perceive as complex music. The daydreaming used to be maladaptive (I would miss school, not do my work, get late to events and not sleep/eat/rest. It involves pacing in the room, mouthing dialogues and a lot of jumping and some running.) I could daydream for 8 hours in a row, which is of course very bad. Nowadays I considered my daydreaming immersive but no maladaptive, for 1-2 hours a day for my entertainment.
I love daydreaming, it sometimes gives me sad feelings if I’m in a bad place, but 90% of the time It’s giving me very intense joy, because I daydream about things I’m so interested in. I don’t see time passing when I do it and I can struggle to get out of it and go on with my day. It feels the same as hyperfocus to me.
I also daydreaming all day long while I do other things. My mind is effectively doing two things at once. I thinks it helps me not getting bored when I’m doing it alongside something else. Still this daydreaming is immersive as well and I sometimes need to take breaks in what I’m doing when I’m getting too interested in the dream, then I go back to “multitasking”. I think it makes me less efficient in my everyday tasks, it distracts me and makes me slower even though I enjoy it. And it feels out of my control to an extent.
Since I started the medication (one week ago) it just stopped! I also feel like I struggle much more with audiation and picturing things in my mind. Don’t get me wrong , I can still get lost in my thoughts, but it’s mainly a single monologue and much less vivid pictures/sounds. Even though I miss the experience, it has helped me to function better.
I got diagnosed recently so I have some questions:

1. Is this type of daydreaming common in most people?
2. If not, can it be an adhd symptom ?
3. Has anyone stopped or greatly reduced daydreaming on medication ?
4. If I stop the medication in the future, will I be able to daydream vividly like I use to/ go back to my old self?
5. Did your perception of music change on medication ? I feel like I was able to dissect the music and follow a lot of the separate voices composing the harmony. I never had to work or train for it. But now I hear music more as a « block » if that makes sense? I truly don’t think I’m imagining this, it feels like my brain is prioritising the global sound instead of perceiving several details at once.

Hi everyone. I have recently started attending a non denominational house church, after being kicked out of my last church for believing Jesus is the Almighty God. I posted about this and you can read it in my account history if you're interested.
This new church is run by two ex-adventists, and a few of their members are also ex adventists. They are genuinely wonderful, lovely people and are very kind to me. They seemed to have renounced adventism and left because they wanted to follow "truth" which is what i was drawn to, and i travelled a great distance to be with them - but, sadly yet again i've found myself in a place with teachings i don't understand/am concerned about, this teaching here is now that Jesus is not YHVH, that he is the "begotten son" in the sense he was "brought forth" at some point in time, so he is not co equal or co eternal but is still divine and shares the father's nature, but is not the "almighty" God, which they seem to believe is only the Father. They seem to believe YHVH Almighty is only the Father, the Son is some sort of other divine being who shares the nature of the father but somehow is not YHVH. They say the bible speaks nothing about a triune God and it's Catholic etc. I'm beginning to think they have not renounced adventism and this is just adventist theology and i've been deceived again.
Can anyone tell me what is this teaching? I'm despondent at this point and feel like giving up on finding anywhere that teaches what i actually believe is written in the bible - that there is ONE GOD who is made up of 3 persons. To me this is CLEAR in scripture. It doesn't need to be spelled out, it's so clear to me when i read it.
Can someone still be saved believing this stuff? Is it heresy? Do i have to run away AGAIN from another heretical group or does God just not care and would rather us all get alone and issues like the nature of God don't really matter etc. I'm at the end of it honestly it's just so upsetting

~rant/vent~
🔍I had pretyped this just ranting then I realized i can post it anonymously here bc i’m really struggling and would like some outside advice human to human feels like i’m gaslighting myself lol. They have supported me and given me everything I need materialistically and do what they are supposed to as parents in that aspect I am very grateful and appreciative of that. in no way shape or form will I ever complain ab them giving me food, shelter, clothes etc. I’m not seeking to be coddled or get sympathy either i just need to know if it really is that bad or am I tripping.
🔬emotionally manipulative & guilt tripping parents will be their own demise. lol. finally dropping that mask you have with them, making them look at themselves and see the torment i had to mentally internalize & take on over the years > sitting back & letting them continue their behavior and control to keep destroying your identity & self continuing to deal with immense shame, guilt, sadness, and anger because you know how they are and you think theres no point in opening up to them or telling them what they do wrong bc they always do the same shit & continue to blame you for everything. note this though when I finally released all my years of internalized emotions on them and started texting them very knowledgeable shit about themselves, how they treated me, my mom trying to control and ruin me and my girlfriends relationship when we first got together (+ we have continued to be together for 1yr and 3 months still going strong she ain’t ruin shiiiit) & shit talked my gf for no reason at all. When I started texting paragraph after paragraph (+ texting them back and forth.) I was met with my mom thinking something isn’t right regarding my mental health and telling my dad and brother she thinks something is wrong with me again (she was surprised how I could speak so knowledgeable bc I barely even interact with them anymore) them texting my phone asking if everything is okay and they are worried ab me (she’s also made many comments before this situation like “you seem like you need to get back on ur medication you’re being irritable” etc when clearly that was the correct response to some fucked up comment she made i’m sick of that shit.) (sorry that was lowkey irrelevant but holy shit). them throwing what they do for me as PARENTS in my face, blame shifting, manipulation, lying, her saying she has no acknowledgment of ever treating me like that over the years, trying to ruin our relationship, or saying any of the vile shit she said about my gf. OH and how she thought It couldn’t possibly be me that’s writing these exceptional level paragraphs and she thought my gf was controlling me and making me send all of that to my parents(me texting her ab this shit went on for like 3 days, 3 days of her not taking accountability for anything, lying, trying to manipulate by making me feel bad as well and she had the nerve to say “it feels like i’m being abused” GIRLLL STOPPP HUH im still confused ab that one) it’s honestly sickening and baffling knowing ppl can think & say shit like that. i’ve been so detached from them since I was little (never knew why at the time) but THIS makes that detachment 100x worse and I feel like that’s a GOOD thing for me even though the outcome wasn’t what I wanted, bc i’m feeling free, released, not pint-up, etc most importantly more like I can finally be MYSELF!!! i’m way more comfortable in who I am and my Identity now at 19 could you imagine that like damn (just hoping it’s not temporary)!!! just putting this out there in hopes that someone else going through the same thing or similar will see and maybe help them a little. now i just gotta move out.
⚛️ she can’t see how what she says to people effects them drastically and takes 0 responsibility and acknowledgement of doing so and passes it off as “you don’t know me” “i’m a good person” “i have a good heart i love everybody” etc or blame everything on me for examples “we do everything for you” “you’re going to treat us like that when we sacrificed so much for you” etc um .. yeah they signed up for that when they decided to have a child so it’s fucked up to throw that in my face. THEN she loves to do this the most playing the victim card “you’re abusing me” “it feels like you are abusing me” “we feel like we can’t say anything right we are always walking on eggshells around you it’s exhausting” she knows damn well I’m not abusing her in any way shape or form that’s disrespectful to many people who actually had to go through and endure actual abuse. “do you want to hurt us? is that your goal” “you’re destroying the family” “you’re destroying our marriage” etc literally used to be all the timmmme when i was going through sh and stuff too. i didn’t do anything wronggggg all I did was speak up for myself FOR ONCE (bc it’s been YEARS) ab the shit she does and how i’m not okay with it i internalize literally everything (that’s y it took years. just sick of their shit idk what to do). low and behold after all that expressing I get met with all that blame shifting and lying. the reason why i never open up to her is bc when I do ever since i was little she always blamed me and made it seem like this whole other thing so hell yeah i’d rather internalize then talk to her that’s a way better option than getting met with guilt tripping and shit what else could I do but internalize n doing that fucked my head up BAD. there are MANY more examples of what else she would say and my dad too but i really think he’s brainwashed by her so idk that’s just off the top of my head .. lmao. she makes me feel so insaneee i even feel like i’m exaggerating and making a big deal n being too sensitive writing all this😵‍💫. there’s SO MUCH more context but fuck all that i typed enough. thx for coming to my ted talk🕷️.
🤢they are both closeted RACIST and openly HOMOPHOBIC so you can imagine what they say/have said to me and about other ppl. shit makes me so AHHH. anyways.

I know it's gone now but part of me doesn't want to believe it. I miss her intensely want to reach out but I know I cant. It's been 2 weeks. I want nothing more than her love, but neither of us was happy with the relationship. I feel like I put my all into it, but kept getting hurt. I know I can't return to that... but I want to. I love her and it's irreparable because it's been too many days and I'm blocked. I just want to sit down with her and talk to her but I know it's not okay for me to try contact her now. I'm just so scared of that being the last time we speak. Of having to walk away from something I loved. The hurt, avoidant behaviour, her feelings for another guy, her not feeling I was supportive enough, needing to chase her.. But how good it felt in between the roller coaster. I just wish so bad it could of been healthy. I miss her so bad. I loved her and now my heart is just empty without her. Im so sad the relationship is broken, and it can't be healthy. I wish I hadent felt so hurt. I wish we could of reconciled after you broke up. I wish it felt right. But it feels so wrong losing you... I feel like this is one that's going to haunt me for a while. I feel like I'm never going to find someone like her again. I spent so much of my life alone emotionally. Im 27 almost 28, and I miss the connection we had. Our relationship was short and I feel like it could of been so much more. I guess that's what I'm still attached to the potential. The what ifs. You're such a beautiful confident, funny woman and I just lost you. Now I'm so dam alone in myself without you.

So today I had a meeting, it went great, then I found out I was getting some money paid to me soon for a small car crash I was in last year and then a nice bus driver let me on for free. Just a nice run of things this morning, I felt calm and lovely. I got home and suddenly I started feeling my stomach churn, and felt emotional and really anxious. Right now I can feel it inside me like a big ball of nervous energy, I know usually it’ll sit there for a while, I’ve tried to regulate but it keeps coming back, it may or may not turn into a big panic attack later.
My biggest trigger is being happy or relaxed. I’ve been meditating more and trying to get into a more calm state but as soon as I’m there a switch is flicked and anxiety and panic attacks always follow.
My default state from very young has been hyper vigilance, I have had calm periods as a teen and young adult but then a trauma always followed, loss, abuse, assault etc.
I’ve got therapy today so will be discussing this with my therapist. I’ve done tons of CBT and know all the techniques for calming down but this is my body not my brain, my body can’t stand feeling relaxed for long, it must always be on the look out, watching and waiting. It makes me feel so sad, I want to let it all go, and be free to just live my life, but terror and unsafe feelings drag me back to watching and waiting again.
Has anyone overcome this? I want to see the light at the end of the tunnel? Also has anyone had issues even trusting that this is the real issue, I confuse my hyper vigilant state sometimes with being unwell, like “If I feel like this I must be in danger, maybe I’m about to suddenly fall ill or have some terrible medical event” I have health anxiety as well which doesn’t help as I’m always thinking panic attacks are strokes, heart issues or me literally going insane. I’m dissociating a lot less but this feeling everything is pretty terrifying.

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Hi everyone,
I'm in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend. I'm a 27-year-old female, and he's a 29-year-old male. We're going to celebrate our two-year anniversary this August. We met in our hometown through mutual friends during the summer and clicked instantly. He’s a wonderful and caring guy, and I love him so much. He makes the effort to visit me every 2-3 months since I can’t visit him due to visa restrictions.
Initially, the distance was manageable and didn’t affect me much. However, after our recent trip together, I returned home feeling deeply frustrated that he wasn’t with me. To make matters worse, I had a car accident on the second day back. Physically, I’m fine, but mentally, it took a toll on me. I wished he was here to support me.
I have a tendency to isolate myself when I’m feeling depressed. I haven't been to therapy due to the cost, but I try to analyze my behavior and stay aware of my mental state. This time, though, it’s been really hard. I feel miserable in my life here and unhappy. I used to love working out, but it doesn’t bring me joy anymore. There’s not much to do here besides going out and drinking on weekends. All my close friends, who aren’t many, live abroad, including my boyfriend.
My boyfriend has a very active social life, and it seems like the distance doesn’t impact him as much as it does me. I get jealous, not of the people he’s with, but because I want to be the one sharing those moments with him. I’ve started feeling like an accessory in his life. I know this isn’t true, but these feelings build up, making me angry and causing me to overanalyze everything. I struggle to communicate my feelings to him because I don’t want to seem jealous or needy. He gets confused and upset when I don’t communicate, but I just can’t find the right words.
I don’t think there’s a solution to closing the gap between us except getting married, which we haven’t planned. I honestly don’t know what to do.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you cope with it? Any advice on managing these feelings and the long-distance relationship would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you for reading, it means a lot :)