Tried this in marriage advice but won’t let me post so here I am asking the world. Met 2005, dated 1 1/2yrs, got back together in 2018. Now 2 kids later (5yrs & 5 weeks) I’m just about done, but don’t want to be. I’ve started to destroy our marriage gifts and just feel depressed everyday. We’re together now (if that’s what you call it) I really don’t have anyone to talk to so I’m just hear to listen to others.
Separated for 5 months ( not even a year after marriage) Infidelity/adultery ( 1-2 that I know of) + (got into this relationship the same way it ended when separated: slept with me while married the slept with someone while married to me) Made me feel like me daughter wasn’t mine (knowing there was a lie while separated) Lies (continued to lie even though I knew until I showed proof) (even asked me “let’s get everything out of the way getting back together knowing she was lying) No trust in me ( makes decisions off not believing what I say) Aggression (everything has to be an argument) She’s Not willing to move forward Won’t make room for me in bed (after baby born was supposed to be back) Finds everything I say offensive (I don’t feel like I can talk) (also anytime I speak it’s usually cut short with a “no” then corrected) Argue over everything No love left (not sure how much love was there to begin with) Everything I do is wrong somehow ( or sure what to say. Not sure what to do) Never really get an apology it’s more like “NO” and “BECAUSE “ I feel alone even when I’m not…
I feel broken and unwanted. I don’t know how to move forward and there’s no moving backwards. I just feel like I should have never existed. Dad wasn’t there. Mom was physically but not mentally/emotionally. Everything race based going up. Family feels like they never truly cared for me other than I’m just family.
I truly don’t know how much longer I’m supposed to survive, but I try. Getting beat down by all sides. Ready to just give up on myself. I just don’t want to disappoint my son.

With unmatched arrogance they thought they could nullify the legitimate votes of eighty-seven million Americans, overthrow our government and install a despotic tyrant in the White House. With complete disregard for the will of the people this cadre of criminals. political opportunists, and power-seeking megalomaniacs thought they could undo over two hundred and fifty years of democracy, shred the Constitution rescind civil rights, and with Mafia-like tactics bring our country to its knees.
If the Chinese, the Iranians, the North Koreans, or Russians attempted such a thing the nation would rise up and tear them to shreds; and that is just what the law enforcement agencies in seven states (With more coming) have done.
Each of these seditionists. traitors, and internal terrorists have been indicted and will be tried for this, the vilest of crimes, and will suffer long prison sentences for the lowest of crimes known to man. There exist a list of felonies for which they must answer, a list too long to enumerate here, but one that will illuminate just how despicable they are and will stain the names of their families for generations to come.
They thought they were smarter than us, thought we would roll over in fear of their power and influence, but that isn't what Americans are made of. Too many of our ancestors paid the ultimate price to ensure our freedoms and no cabal of smarmy thugs will ever waltz in and deny us what's been paid for by so many heroes.
There is an ultimate price for treason and with God's grace the worst of all will pay it at the end of a rope!
It starts here -- see below. Italics mine.
A lawyer who was the architect of a plan to subvert the 2020 election and return Donald Trump to the White House denied all charges against him when he appeared in an Arizona court Friday. John Eastman is the first of 18 people charged in the battleground state to appear in court over the scheme to empanel fake electors to support their favored candidate. Others include Trump's former personal lawyer Rudy Giuliani, one-time Trump White House chief of staff Mark Meadows, attorney Jenna Ellis and campaign adviser Boris Epshteyn.
Eastman on Friday entered not guilty pleas to nine counts including conspiracy, forgery, and fraud.
If he is convicted at a trial currently set for October, the crimes could entail prison time. Eastman told reporters outside court that the charges should never have been brought. "I had zero communications with any of the electors in Arizona," he said. "Zero involvement with any of the litigation or the legislative hearings in Arizona. We will proceed to trial, and I'm confident, if the law is faithfully applied, I will be fully exonerated." A US Congressional committee examining the events leading up to the January 6, 2021 attack on the Capitol recorded that Eastman was the author of memos claiming that then-vice president Mike Pence could refuse to count electoral votes from certain states, thereby preventing Congress from certifying the results.
Democrat Joe Biden won Arizona, a critical election battleground, by just over 10,000 votes, but many Republican Party officials insisted -- without evidence -- that there had been fraud and that Trump had been the real winner.
Under the US electoral college system, each state appoints electors to represent the candidate who won the most votes in the presidential poll. Those electors sign official documents that are sent to Congress; these documents are tallied, and the winner is the person with the most electoral college votes. Despite Trump's loss in Arizona, his representatives nonetheless signed documents saying he had won.
When Congress reconvened after the violent attacks on January 6, it ultimately ignored Arizona's fake electors and certified the genuine results, officially sending Biden to the White House. Arizona is the fourth state to seek charges against people who tried to form an alternative slate of electors, after Michigan, Georgia, and Nevada. Meadows, Giuliani, Ellis, and Eastman have all been charged in Georgia, alongside Trump in what is probably the most explosive of the four criminal trials he faces. As a swing state and something of a ground zero for election conspiracy theories peddled by rightwing Republicans, Arizona is once again expected to be closely contested this November when Americans head to the polls.
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I just had a long standing friendship end and most of it was my fault. I was a drunk, needy, bitch most of the time. I hate that part of me and now i'm sober and working on it. One of the things that was the catlyst for our breakup was I mentioned I was envious of their progress and wish I had parents like theirs.
I grew up with conservative fundy-type religious parents. Gay bashing was sport to them. When I started having feelings for women around age 12 I thought Satan himself had come to curse me. A mental breakdown at 18 forced me to confess my queerness and my parents took it awful and commited me (for other things as well). Since then it's the big secret in my family. We just pretend my queerness doesn't exist. I still have to live with them.
I think my friend thought my envy was malicious or maybe it was damn annoying. I can see that. I just wish they would have acknowledged the privilege they had growing up with liberal, non religious, queer accepting folks. It gave them an advantage to be themselves and follow their path with familial support.
I just was thinking about how this isn't really talked about much in queer spaces and think it's important. I was severely stunted by a religious and homophobic upbringing, I may never be able to be my full queer self. It's hard to grapple with, and hope there's someone out there that's dealt with anything similiar. Thanks :)

Please understand I’m not looking for sympathy and before people start saying “you’re not stupid” “how can you say that about yourself” I’ve literally been called stupid by friends, classmates, and family since I was 4 years old. I’m in my early 30s now and can say I’ve without doubt done stupid things so I don’t want to hear people say I shouldn’t call myself and idiot when I am. I feel like I’m a functioning person with no common sense whatsoever causing me to get by in life while being a complete idiot along the way.
Now, having said that I managed to get by in school, despite my stupidity and I obtained overall average grades. Afterwards I went university and graduated with a below average marks but admittedly this was due to me doing literally no work when I was in university. I pretty much spent at a push 10% of my time studying. Foolish I know and was doing a challenging degree.
Despite that set back I pursued a career in banking and so far earn above the London average salary. Things on paper don’t actually seem to be bad right? Yet I do stupid things from time to time. In addition to this my memory is bad, particularly my short term memory. It’s caused me humiliation over the years and even as of recent. It makes me so depressed when I think of all the dumb things I’ve done over the years and feel like I’d be the happiest person in the world if not for my stupidity. I feel like I’d be sooo much more confident in myself if not for my stupidity. Below are some examples of the stupid and weird things I’ve done over the years:
1) Bad memory - will do something and forget a couple mins later at times; like forgetting the number of the locker I put my gym clothes in, when I was learning to drive I kept forgetting the basics such as putting the handbrake fully down. There are times where I’d forbid myself to say something only to stupidly say it a few minutes later. - there are more examples I could use but simply put this is my primary issue and it’s gotten a little worse as I’ve gotten older.
2) Sometimes I can’t hear things properly- I’ll hear words but not the right words forming at times - but this maybe happens a handful of times a year if that. Not an everyday thing at all but nonetheless still a problem.
3) Forgetting to open the wine bottle cap before pouring into the glass a few times on dates.
4) Not knowing that paracetamol could be classed as a painkiller. Always just referred to it as medicine.
5) Sometimes I’ll read something then temporarily forget it. E.g. on someone’s Instagram post a woman said she was having a boy. In the subsequent post showing the birth of her baby for some reason I thought it would be a girl just because the pictures looked like it would be one.
6) Only recently classing coffee as a hot drink. For whatever reason i classed hot drinks as hot lemonade or hot versions of any other forms of fruit juice.
7) Didn’t realise “cuppa” meant coffee for some reason. Whilst I was familiar with the phrase cuppa coffee for some reason if someone just said “cuppa” I’d be a little puzzled.
8) As a child I was known for throwing a ball and doing pushups weirdly. - maybe this was an early sign of poor motor skills?
I think you guys get the idea, I’m an idiot. I could list so much more examples but don’t want this turning into a long winded essay.
In addition to the above I’ve always struggled with concentration, distractibility and of course poor memory which makes me think I have ADD or maybe some form of dyspraxia.
As mentioned above I’m not seeking sympathy or attention I just want straightforward answers on how I can get better and whether the above examples could be linked to a form of learning disability. I just want to get better and potentially receive treatment via the NHS.
Thanks

I hope I'm not in the wrong place here, because the story itself has a religious connotation, so I mean that in two ways I suppose, possibly blasphemous to question God, or just breaking subreddit rules because it doesn't fit. Anyway, here goes.
When I was roughly 16, I got into a bad car accident. I was in the back seat, in the middle, no seatbelt on. We were in a head on collision with a local power company truck, 40mph. I woke up in an ambulance, and my mouth was... I have no way to describe it really in any non gruesome fashion. Let's just say that when I woke up in the ambulance, 90% of my teeth had broken, and the ones that didn't were outright ejected from my gums. The best explanation I was given was that I went face first into the shifter knob, or possibly the parking break but I dunno why that would've been raised. The reason we crashed was because my friend, the driver, was looking for something we could use to break up weed on, and was trying to reach for a paper plate on the floor of the passenger side (even though my girlfriend at the time was in the passenger seat). In so doing, he completely ducked his head underneath the glove box. I remember frames of him leaning down, and then smack and I'm in the ambulance. Both of them were fine, the car was totaled but they had airbags. I was the only passenger unprotected by either seatbelt or airbag, and that was due to my own choice of where I was sitting, and not electing to wear a seatbelt (I never forget to put one on anymore, let me tell ya, I don't care if I'm in the trunk, I'll figure something out). I was referred to an oral surgeon shortly after, who, for reasons that to this day are still completely unknown to me, prescribed me with a ludicrous painkiller prescription for a 16-17 year old still in HS. At first he was giving me 90 30mg oxycodone a month, 3 a day. Near the end I was getting those 90, and a supplementary 30 vicodin 10mg for as needed pain. Me being a dumb stoner at the time, and having little to no experience with opiates or anything like that, I took the medication as prescribed, didn't think anything of it really. I noticed how it made me feel, definitely, but for the most part I never really strayed from the prescription directions, 3 a day, with the occasional vicodin to either help me sleep, or for an extra painful day with my teeth. This went on for almost a year. One month, I went in and found not my doctor, but a nurse practicioner I had never seen before. Long story short, the doctor I was seeing lost his license for sexually assaulting two female patients, one underage. The NP hands me a prescription for 30 5mg oxycodone, and tells me this will be my last prescription as the practice was closing for good. At the time, it didn't really register with me what this meant, as I had never experienced withdrawal before, and because of the lack of communication from my doctor (he didn't speak english in a very discernable way.. he spoke english, but figuring out what he was actually saying was the tricky part). Suffice it to say, I went through those 30 pills in a matter of three or four days, and even that was a big step down from my daily intake prior. Soon after, I experienced withdrawal for the first time. I actually thought I was going to die, I was a stupid kid though, and looking back I should've just toughed it out but that's life. I started to buy pills from people at school, turns out there's no shortage of suburban teenagers who have parents with, or had easily accessible painkillers, but this was also during the "oxycontin epidemic" caused by purdue pharma, not sure if correlation is causation here but it's worth noting. Anyway, since most of this was just a preamble to the event itself, I will summarize the rest as concisely as I can. I went down the opiate addiction rabbit hole, and let me tell you, I wouldn't wish that fate on my worst enemy. It's really hard to describe, but you really become a different person. It really doesn't matter what you have to do, you'll do it to make sure you get your fix and don't have to go through the sickness/WD's, whether thats ripping people off, stealing/boosting, burning every family/friend bridge you ever had, intentionally injuring yourself in the hope that the hospital will prescribe you pain meds, I could go on. Eventually I got to a point where I was in the-darkest frame of mind in my entire life. This is where the event itself comes into play. One morning I woke up and just layed there in bed, I knew once I got up, I would have to begin the daily journey of making sure I could get my hands on some pain pills, and at that point, heroin if pills were unavailable. I could not think of a valid reason to get out of my bed and subject myself to that again, and was on the verge of a mental breakdown I'm sure, but, for some reason, I decided to pray. When I was a kid, I attended a youth group of sorts called 'Stockade' at a local church, which was a lot of my introduction to religion/christianity. It was an awesome youth group and I look back on those memories and cherish some of those times I had. At the point where I decided to pray, in my bed that morning, God had not been in my life for a decade, I was something like 21 or 22 at the time (so this was YEARS into my addiction). I prayed, I have no idea what compelled me to that moment, but I prayed to God and asked for a sign.. a reason, anything at all to show me that it was worth living. A reason to get out of my bed, and not just give up. At the time, I was sleeping on a bunk bed, top bunk, and at the feet of my bunk was my closet. Door was open, light was on, and it was early enough in the morning that it was still dark. I prayed for a sign, begged for forgiveness for all I had done and what my life had come to, and the MOMENT I said amen, my closet light burned out. When I say the moment, I couldn't be more literal. From amen to lights out, not even half a second had passed, but long enough of a delay that it didn't seem coincidental, like something was answering back. It audibly made a BZZZT noise and burned out, my room went almost completely dark, save for a few dim blue rays of light sneaking through gaps in my blinds. It scared the shit out of me, I'm not gonna lie. I immediately was like shaken to my very core, trembling, I didn't know how to react, it was almost as if I was in shock. I will remember this moment until the day I die, and I still think about it often. I'll be ten years clean from opiates or any other hard drugs next year, I went to rehab in 2015 and never looked back. This wasn't directly after the event, but I can say that the event led me to change things in my life that ultimately led to it. I'm not going to pretend I instantly became a church going christian, not even close. I accepted Jesus into my heart when I was in stockade, but at the time it was just words I was saying because everyone else was doing it, I didn't feel it in my soul or truly believe it. After the event, I didn't become religious but I definitely became much more spiritual, started looking at life in a more glass half full kind of way at least. Anyway, I guess I just wanted to get someone elses take on the story, I know it's a lot to read but I feel like the parts of my life that lead to it are connected. From addiction beginning to saying the prayer in my bed I mean. Was this truly God answering my individual prayer? Something inside me doubts that, why me? I was just some shithead junkie at the time, there are kids with cancer in St. Jude, I felt so undeserving if it was indeed God. Was it the universe answering back? Was it the simulation trying to tell me it wasn't my time yet? Some other force entirely? Coincidence? I will live the rest of my life debating these things. Thanks for reading.

With unmatched arrogance they thought the could nullify the legitimate votes of eighty-seven million Americans, overthrow our government and install a despotic tyrant in the White House. With complete disregard for the will of the people this cadre of criminals. political opportunists, and power-seeking megalomaniacs thought they could undo over two hundred and fifty years of democracy, shred the Constitution rescind civil rights, and with Mafia-like tactics bring our country to its knees.
If the Chinese, the Iranians, the North Koreans, or Russians attempted such a thing the nation would rise up and tear them to shreds; and that is just what the law enforcement agencies in seven states (With more coming) have done.
Each of these seditionists. traitors, and internal terrorists have been indicted and will be tried for this, the vilest of crimes, and will suffer long prison sentences for the lowest of crimes known to man. There exist a list of felonies for which they must answer, a list too long to enumerate here, but one that will illuminate just how despicable they are and will stain the names of their families for generations to come.
They thought they were smarter than us, thought we would roll over in fear of their power and influence, but that isn't what Americans are made of. Too many of our ancestors paid the ultimate price to ensure our freedoms and no cabal of smarmy thugs will ever waltz in and deny us what's been paid for by so many heroes.
There is an ultimate price for treason and with God's grace the worst of all will pay it at the end of a rope!
It starts here -- see below. Italics mine.
A lawyer who was the architect of a plan to subvert the 2020 election and return Donald Trump to the White House denied all charges against him when he appeared in an Arizona court Friday. John Eastman is the first of 18 people charged in the battleground state to appear in court over the scheme to empanel fake electors to support their favored candidate. Others include Trump's former personal lawyer Rudy Giuliani, one-time Trump White House chief of staff Mark Meadows, attorney Jenna Ellis and campaign adviser Boris Epshteyn.
Eastman on Friday entered not guilty pleas to nine counts including conspiracy, forgery, and fraud.
If he is convicted at a trial currently set for October, the crimes could entail prison time. Eastman told reporters outside court that the charges should never have been brought. "I had zero communications with any of the electors in Arizona," he said. "Zero involvement with any of the litigation or the legislative hearings in Arizona. We will proceed to trial, and I'm confident, if the law is faithfully applied, I will be fully exonerated." A US Congressional committee examining the events leading up to the January 6, 2021 attack on the Capitol recorded that Eastman was the author of memos claiming that then-vice president Mike Pence could refuse to count electoral votes from certain states, thereby preventing Congress from certifying the results.
Democrat Joe Biden won Arizona, a critical election battleground, by just over 10,000 votes, but many Republican Party officials insisted -- without evidence -- that there had been fraud and that Trump had been the real winner.
Under the US electoral college system, each state appoints electors to represent the candidate who won the most votes in the presidential poll. Those electors sign official documents that are sent to Congress; these documents are tallied, and the winner is the person with the most electoral college votes. Despite Trump's loss in Arizona, his representatives nonetheless signed documents saying he had won.
When Congress reconvened after the violent attacks on January 6, it ultimately ignored Arizona's fake electors and certified the genuine results, officially sending Biden to the White House. Arizona is the fourth state to seek charges against people who tried to form an alternative slate of electors, after Michigan, Georgia, and Nevada. Meadows, Giuliani, Ellis, and Eastman have all been charged in Georgia, alongside Trump in what is probably the most explosive of the four criminal trials he faces. As a swing state and something of a ground zero for election conspiracy theories peddled by rightwing Republicans, Arizona is once again expected to be closely contested this November when Americans head to the polls.
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Hi all,
Throw away account here. I’m currently an ophthalmology fellow finishing up fellowship in FL and have been job hunting for the past 6 months.
Originally I had a job offer that I signed in FL 4 weeks ago that was supposed to be a done deal, but they are now playing games with me and are trying to renege on the starting salary because I am a new grad.
To provide context, the starting salary they’re offering is $325k and I negotiated to $335k. The practice owner has not made it clear what he wants to bring it down to but he says he can’t make the originally negotiated $335k work.
To make things more complicated, my significant other is also an ophthalmologist one year ahead of me who took a job here in FL while I complete fellowship. The past several months of job hunting in FL have been disappointing as all the job offers pay below market rate and all the practice owners have an expectation of the new associate buying the practice of the future. Me and my significant other are from the north east and we eventually would like to go back. Her contract that she signed is for two years, and without penalty. Since I have to look for jobs in her area, the opportunities have been limited as I mentioned above.
Given the not that great opportunities around here so far, I actually have started to look at jobs back where I am from in the north east. I am in talks with another practice closer to home, that pays 40% more post tax. It is private equity owned. Once I brought this up with my significant other, they got very mad and argumentative that I am selfish, and that I do not recognize the sacrifice that they made. I remember when I matched in fellowship last year, I even told them that they can choose whatever other they prefer whether that is their sibling or their family member as I complete training. They made their own decision to come down with me.
I guess I want to see what is the sub reddit’s opinion in terms of what I should do
I understand I am a new grad, and it seems that I cannot command much in terms of negotiating power. However, even just looking at one job back where I’m from, I’m able to command more compensation as opposed to schlepping it down here in Florida
AITA for wanting to look for jobs back home? Should I take the FL job just for a year or 2 to build experience? The only lead I have is that job that I mentioned before in the NE so I haven’t even looked really hard for other positions back home.
I’m not a big fan of being The only lead I have is that job that I mentioned before in the NE so I haven’t even looked really hard for other positions back home. being down here and neither is my SO, but she doesn’t want to leave earlier than her contract. If I didn’t have her around, honestly I would just go back to the NE and not deal with the shadiness I’ve been experiencing here in FL.
The biggest arguing point that we have been having lately is that she feels that she sacrificed for me, and I’m not willing to do the same by taking a job down here. My big issue has been this owner has been jerking my chain for the past month. Idk what to do as my SO says I should just suck it up down here vs just leaving her here and meeting up again in the NE. We have tried to compromise but she has been uncooperative saying that since she sacrificed for me by being here (when she doesn’t want to be) that I need to do the same. Please advise

i used to get sexually assaulted from the age of 7-9 by 2 family members on my dads side. i then got sexually assaulted at 18 by a friend at a party. as a child, i didn’t understand that what was happening to me was wrong so it literally took me 10 years to realize that i got raped by my family.
i started having flashbacks when i was 17 but it wouldn’t happen so often. but at 19 they would happen way frequently. i would have sex with my ex and then imagine one of my abusers assaulting me and i would freak out. then i would have vivid flashbacks and literally have to hit myself in the face to make it stop.
at first the flashbacks would get “triggered” by sex but now it’s all the time. it’s always in the back of my mind and i feel so dirty. i walk in the street and get a flashback and i have to hit myself in the face and blink rapidly to stop them. i obviously look crazy so are there any other survivors who experience flashbacks and know some tricks to help get through them? please!!

Hello. I'm not non - binary but i am a gay male and today i went to have a nice Sunday lunch with my uncle and my aunt. My uncle is my father's brother and since i was little i always viewed him as a second father. I loved him since i can remember. He always loved me like his own kid too. My whole family is extremely religious (greek orthodox) and very traditional and don't approve of everything lgbtq. When my parents found out that i like men a few years ago we had issues for a long time. Then i moved away in the country capital and everything was better. My only relatives close to me here are my uncle and my aunt where i go for a family meal every one or two weeks.
So yeah i went to my uncle, we were cooking and drinking coffee. I always kept personal things to me just because i knew my uncle wouldn't understand and when we discussed about everything else, he was very open and informative. Keep in mind that i always adored him like a superhero. Then i asked a simple question "Did you watch Eurovision?". He immediately said that it was great that he didn't because there was this "demon witch with the pentagram". I understand that a pentagram can scare an orthodox but i never expected what came next:

• Ok i understand, but the winner song was amazing. Such an amazing voice.
• No, it was disgusting. They try to provoke us and pass this "neutral gender thing" as a fashion and they hurt the children of the next generation.
• But they don't try to force it on anybody, they just try to express themselves. I have even met people like them and you have no idea what they struggle with. Some even "end themselves" and that's sad.
• Well, they better end themselves than show us these things. They try to force all these anomalies. All these people are followers of Satan etc etc etc

I understand that he may not understand or like the LGBT, he doesn't have to, but people, the momment he talked about how they should end themselves, i started panicking. I myself struggled with these thoughts and had many difficulties for many years. I have received a lot of support from friends, boyfriends and my sister. But hearing all these mean, inhumane things from a "christian orthodox that preaches love" was devastating to me. Funny thing is he "didn't want to hear a single word about it" but he kept talking to himself over and over as long as the words weren't coming from me. I went out to the balcony alone to try and relax. I was shaking. It was not that i was sad for me as an lgbt who previously wanted to end his life. I was sad that my childhood hero said mean things like these to people who just tried to find themselves. I found it unfair how Nemo grabbed the mic and preached for love and unity as a "satan follower" and the "god follower" wished death upon people. That moment i decided that even if it would hurt my uncle, i would pack and go back home for the day. My uncle said he wanted to talk but i was already packing. I know that maybe i should have stayed and talked but i was scared, sad and didn't have the courage to sit and eat or talk with him. When i was leaving he told me that "i was making him sad and that what i was doing was not right". I replied "you shouldn't go to sacrament (i had to google that) next Sunday in church". I left. I was shaking and crying all the way back.
The internet is a dark place. I know that here i might get some amazing tips about what to do next, a few discussions but also some mean things. Some people will hate the fact that a gay man tried to defend a non binary person. I mean, if people want to be mean to me they will find a way. Still, i felt the need to defend you people, even if it means ruining the relationship with my family members. I hope that i did the right thing. Even if i don't manage to get any more tips about what i should do next, the fact that i took all these thoughts out of my chest and expressed myself makes me feel relieved already. Thank you for reading my story.
P.S: Please don't show a lot of hate to my uncle :)

I apologize in advance, as english is not my first language. Pretty much everything here I've translated on google. Two weeks ago, my wife (F26) and I (M30) were at a party, her father's birthday party. It was going well, then her parents ntroduced us to an old couple of friends of theirs, from when they were around our age, and their daughter (F29) too, who I recognized as an old friend from high school. Let's call her Andrea (fictional name). For context, me and my wife are not the jealous type, as our relationship is based on trust, and has always been. So, when Andrea and I sat together on a table and started talking, my wife didn't mind it, and stayed with her family. I remember Andrea as being the fun kid when we were in highschool, and she was still just as funny. We're laughing and having a good time, and she started getting a bit "touchy", but nothing worth worrying about, I thought. I was wrong. She was definitely getting touchy, feeling my arms and asking if I started working out and this type of stuff. That's when I fucked up, because I didn't stop her. In fact, I held her hips at some point, and then my wife came in. She was obviously jealous and angry, but didn't make a scene. She started asking Andrea if she's married, or has a boyfriend, that type of territorial stuff, and at some point, Andrea got uncomfortable and excused herself. I told my wife she was being rude, and she started accusing me or flirting with Andrea. Of course I told her I wasn't, that she was overreacting and Andrea was just an old friend, but my wife insisted that I was flirting and cheating. Then I got mad. Cheating? I snapped at her and said she was being childish and insecure, overreacting. What then if I was enjoying the attention? It is definitely not the same as cheating, is it? She then said something that made me go silent, something along the lines of "cheating starts in thought, you don't need to have sex with someone else to cheat". I insisted I didn't cheat on her, and that I never would, but she just gave up on arguing and tried to enjoy the party with her family. When we got home, later that night, my wife was silent. I didn't say anything either, just assumed that we were over it, since she didn't bring it up. For the next couple weeks, she still didn't mention anything, and neither did I. We didn't talk much, and she was also never in the mood for any intimacy. I thought it was okay, and that everything would be back to normal in a week or two. It didn't, and now I know I made all the wrong decisions. Last night when I got home, my wife was in our bedroom, staring at herself in the mirror with a grimace. I asked if she was alright, and she just shake her head. I kept asking what was wrong, and she broke down in tears saying she looked hideous. For context, my wife is far from hideous. To me, she's the complete opposite, and so to everyone else. I'm not exaggerating when I say she can't even go out for groceries without people ciming to compliment her beauty and her nice hair. So, to hear she say that, it broke me. Of course I told her she's beautiful, but she kept on sobbing and saying she never felt so ugly before. I didn't know what to do or say, I just held her and kept telling her just how pretty she is, but she had that apathetic and gloomy expression on her face, and kept crying herself to sleep. I'm writing this as she sleeps besides me. My heart is completely broken, and I just wish I could go back in time and never hurt her in the first place. My wife mean everything to me, and I don't know how to fix things. Has anyone here ever been through something like this? How do I make my wife feel pretty and special again?

With unmatched arrogance they thought the could nullify the legitimate votes of eighty-seven million Americans, overthrow our government and install a despotic tyrant in the White House. With complete disregard for the will of the people this cadre of criminals. political opportunists, and power-seeking megalomaniacs thought they could undo over two hundred and fifty years of democracy, shred the Constitution rescind civil rights, and with Mafia-like tactics bring our country to its knees.
If the Chinese, the Iranians, the North Koreans, or Russians attempted such a thing the nation would rise up and tear them to shreds; and that is just what the law enforcement agencies in seven states (With more coming) have done.
Each of these seditionists. traitors, and internal terrorists have been indicted and will be tried for this, the vilest of crimes, and will suffer long prison sentences for the lowest of crimes known to man. There exist a list of felonies for which they must answer, a list too long to enumerate here, but one that will illuminate just how despicable they are and will stain the names of their families for generations to come.
They thought they were smarter than us, thought we would roll over in fear of their power and influence, but that isn't what Americans are made of. Too many of our ancestors paid the ultimate price to ensure our freedoms and no cabal of smarmy thugs will ever waltz in and deny us what's been paid for by so many heroes.
There is an ultimate price for treason and with God's grace the worst of all will pay it at the end of a rope!
It starts here -- see below. Italics mine.
A lawyer who was the architect of a plan to subvert the 2020 election and return Donald Trump to the White House denied all charges against him when he appeared in an Arizona court Friday. John Eastman is the first of 18 people charged in the battleground state to appear in court over the scheme to empanel fake electors to support their favored candidate. Others include Trump's former personal lawyer Rudy Giuliani, one-time Trump White House chief of staff Mark Meadows, attorney Jenna Ellis and campaign adviser Boris Epshteyn.
Eastman on Friday entered not guilty pleas to nine counts including conspiracy, forgery, and fraud.
If he is convicted at a trial currently set for October, the crimes could entail prison time. Eastman told reporters outside court that the charges should never have been brought. "I had zero communications with any of the electors in Arizona," he said. "Zero involvement with any of the litigation or the legislative hearings in Arizona. We will proceed to trial, and I'm confident, if the law is faithfully applied, I will be fully exonerated." A US Congressional committee examining the events leading up to the January 6, 2021 attack on the Capitol recorded that Eastman was the author of memos claiming that then-vice president Mike Pence could refuse to count electoral votes from certain states, thereby preventing Congress from certifying the results.
Democrat Joe Biden won Arizona, a critical election battleground, by just over 10,000 votes, but many Republican Party officials insisted -- without evidence -- that there had been fraud and that Trump had been the real winner.
Under the US electoral college system, each state appoints electors to represent the candidate who won the most votes in the presidential poll. Those electors sign official documents that are sent to Congress; these documents are tallied, and the winner is the person with the most electoral college votes. Despite Trump's loss in Arizona, his representatives nonetheless signed documents saying he had won.
When Congress reconvened after the violent attacks on January 6, it ultimately ignored Arizona's fake electors and certified the genuine results, officially sending Biden to the White House. Arizona is the fourth state to seek charges against people who tried to form an alternative slate of electors, after Michigan, Georgia, and Nevada. Meadows, Giuliani, Ellis, and Eastman have all been charged in Georgia, alongside Trump in what is probably the most explosive of the four criminal trials he faces. As a swing state and something of a ground zero for election conspiracy theories peddled by rightwing Republicans, Arizona is once again expected to be closely contested this November when Americans head to the polls.
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With unmatched arrogance they thought the could nullify the legitimate votes of eighty-seven million Americans, overthrow our government and install a despotic tyrant in the White House. With complete disregard for the will of the people this cadre of criminals. political opportunists, and power-seeking megalomaniacs thought they could undo over two hundred and fifty years of democracy, shred the Constitution rescind civil rights, and with Mafia-like tactics bring our country to its knees.
If the Chinese, the Iranians, the North Koreans, or Russians attempted such a thing the nation would rise up and tear them to shreds; and that is just what the law enforcement agencies in seven states (With more coming) have done.
Each of these seditionists. traitors, and internal terrorists have been indicted and will be tried for this, the vilest of crimes, and will suffer long prison sentences for the lowest of crimes known to man. There exist a list of felonies for which they must answer, a list too long to enumerate here, but one that will illuminate just how despicable they are and will stain the names of their families for generations to come.
They thought they were smarter than us, thought we would roll over in fear of their power and influence, but that isn't what Americans are made of. Too many of our ancestors paid the ultimate price to ensure our freedoms and no cabal of smarmy thugs will ever waltz in and deny us what's been paid for by so many heroes.
There is an ultimate price for treason and with God's grace the worst of all will pay it at the end of a rope!
It starts here -- see below. Italics mine.
A lawyer who was the architect of a plan to subvert the 2020 election and return Donald Trump to the White House denied all charges against him when he appeared in an Arizona court Friday. John Eastman is the first of 18 people charged in the battleground state to appear in court over the scheme to empanel fake electors to support their favored candidate. Others include Trump's former personal lawyer Rudy Giuliani, one-time Trump White House chief of staff Mark Meadows, attorney Jenna Ellis and campaign adviser Boris Epshteyn.
Eastman on Friday entered not guilty pleas to nine counts including conspiracy, forgery, and fraud.
If he is convicted at a trial currently set for October, the crimes could entail prison time. Eastman told reporters outside court that the charges should never have been brought. "I had zero communications with any of the electors in Arizona," he said. "Zero involvement with any of the litigation or the legislative hearings in Arizona. We will proceed to trial, and I'm confident, if the law is faithfully applied, I will be fully exonerated." A US Congressional committee examining the events leading up to the January 6, 2021 attack on the Capitol recorded that Eastman was the author of memos claiming that then-vice president Mike Pence could refuse to count electoral votes from certain states, thereby preventing Congress from certifying the results.
Democrat Joe Biden won Arizona, a critical election battleground, by just over 10,000 votes, but many Republican Party officials insisted -- without evidence -- that there had been fraud and that Trump had been the real winner.
Under the US electoral college system, each state appoints electors to represent the candidate who won the most votes in the presidential poll. Those electors sign official documents that are sent to Congress; these documents are tallied, and the winner is the person with the most electoral college votes. Despite Trump's loss in Arizona, his representatives nonetheless signed documents saying he had won.
When Congress reconvened after the violent attacks on January 6, it ultimately ignored Arizona's fake electors and certified the genuine results, officially sending Biden to the White House. Arizona is the fourth state to seek charges against people who tried to form an alternative slate of electors, after Michigan, Georgia, and Nevada. Meadows, Giuliani, Ellis, and Eastman have all been charged in Georgia, alongside Trump in what is probably the most explosive of the four criminal trials he faces. As a swing state and something of a ground zero for election conspiracy theories peddled by rightwing Republicans, Arizona is once again expected to be closely contested this November when Americans head to the polls.
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I drank at least 2 glasses of wine per day for about a month straight, on the weekends I’d drink a little heavier. About 2 weeks ago I woke up with a bad hangover (hangxiety) I decided to get a hot shower, and while getting out of the shower I had such a horrible experience, I felt like I was about to faint, or have a seizure, I had zero energy, and a couple of times my heart was racing and I felt like I couldn’t get the proper oxygen I needed, I also felt like I was leaving my body (so weird). Ever since then I quit drinking, but I keep having ongoing episodes. I thought these were panic attacks, but I’m starting to think it’s something more because they keep happening so often. I’ve always had anxiety but never had panic attacks. The feeling is lightheaded, can’t get enough oxygen, chest tightness, heart palpitations, extreme chills, and the most awful brain fog. Sometimes I can’t even think of the words I need to say. It’s very scary. I went to urgent care yesterday, and she suspected possible arrhythmia with my symptoms, my ekg was weird too, she said it kept changing a lot but she said it could be from anxiety. I’m making an appointment with my doctor on Monday so I can get a monitor to wear for a couple of days, and I’m terrified that I jeopardize my health. I’m a very healthy 34/F & I’m also a runner. Is this life threatening if this is what I have? & can it be cured? I keep getting these episodes pretty often. It’s upsetting to me. I just need some advice, or some reassurance that I’ll be back to normal lol. Pretty sure I have afib.

This did not happen recently but a few months back.
I was looking for a job (double digit years in experience) and a HR from Nagarro reached out on LinkedIn. I sent her my details, did a proctored online test and was selected for a 2nd round face to face. Since the interviewer was in US, the slot I had was Sunday at 9:45 PM IST [I was given a choice of slots but they were either 7 in the morning or 9-10 in the night, only weekends].
I joined the Teams meeting at 9:40 PM on a Sunday, turned on my camera, and waited 5 minutes for the interviewer. As soon as it became 9:45, I heard the Teams chime that I was let in, but before the sound ended, a voice started speaking. "Alright, so what things you take care?"
I looked up to see this Indian guy wearing a red hat (not THAT red hat) indoors, looking at me. I said, "Sorry, what?" And he said exasperatedly, "Your work. What. Is. It. that. You. Do." in clipped tones, as if I was not a mentally sound person.
My hand automatically moved my mouse over to the disconnect button and I almost clicked but stopped myself at the last moment. I decided to see how the interview went. I had not given an interview in a long time and wanted to get an experience.
I composed myself and started to explain my resume. In the middle of it, he stopped me and said, "Are you using dual screens?" I said yes. He scolded me for using dual screens for an interview and made me turn one off. I was on camera the whole time and it was a face to face interview so not really sure what the concern was but I still did it. The funny part was, during the interview I could hear pings from his side and see him turn to his own second screen to reply to some chat/IM messages. Anyways, I asked, "should I continue explaining my resume" and he said, "no that's alright."
"Tell me about any recent deliverable you have worked on", he asked next. I had recently worked on implementing a customized DR system so I started to explain how it was implemented and the architectural changes done. He was distracted the whole time, replying to some ping, constantly muting and unmuting his audio and saying, "That's fine. Keep going." I completed my explanation and waited. He realized I had stopped talking and said, "All that is good but I do not see the architecture change you have done." I summarized the server re-organization, the load balancers, the customized back-up and archival, even some code level changes we had to do, but he said, "I still do not see the architecture design change." I said, "I can draw an architecture diagram to show it clearly", and he said, "no that's alright. Let's move on."
I come from a .NET background, so he asked me, "do you have experience with .NET core?" I said, I did. And this is where the most weird part of the interview starts. He spent 20 minutes on a single question and you will see why, in a minute.
He asked me, "Do you know the three types of dependency injection?" I answered the three - singleton, scoped and transient.
He said, "good, now tell me how do you decide which one to use." This is a standard interview question, I gave the standard answer. It was not good enough.
He did a "tch" sound of exasperation. "All that is good, but how do you decide?" I explained again, adding more details.
He did that "tch" sound again. "All that is good, but how do YOU decide?", stressing on the word "YOU". I explained again, this time with examples of when I would make which choice and why.
He did that "tch" sound again. "All that is good, but those are textbook examples. Tell me about an example that you have implemented in your system"
I explained how we had used a singleton for application level settings. He did that "tch" sound again. "All that is good, but what made you decide that the application settings need to be in singleton?"
I was confused at this point. What was he looking for! "The settings need to be the same throughout the application and so a singleton is a logical choice", I said.
He shook his head, this time not making the "tch" sound. "No, you are not getting it. I want to understand what made you decide to make the application settings class a singleton? Was it because of the name of the class or because somebody told you or because you got a feeling?"
I was angry at this point, so I repeated the same answer as before. He said, "Maybe I am making it complex. Why don't I give you an example and you can explain your choice." I said OK.
"Alright, so suppose that I created a class called "" and asked you how should I use it. What will you say?"
I stared at him for a moment, wondering if this was real. I asked him what was the functionality of the class, and he launched into the most unnecessarily complex (and to me, wildly unrelated) functionality regarding uploading documents from an API to an azure storage account involving Virtual Networks, Key Vault, different Blob types and an Azure SQL database to store blob metadata. I asked him, how the class is supposed to be used. He said, "I don't know. I am the author of the class. I have given it to other people to use. Ask me questions you would ask the author of the class."
My mind was hurting at this point so I repeated, in the most bored voice, the very first standard answer I had given. He must have realized my disinterest, for he said, "Alright, I get it. Let's move on. Do you have experience writing SQL?"
I said Yes. So he asked me to share my screen and gave me a written scenario for which to write a query.
While I was working on the query, he said, "I have your resume so let's take a look at that." He opened the resume, I could see that he actually did open it then, by the screen brightness reflected on his face change. And as I worked on the query, he kept going through my resume and making what I can only describe as "Passive-Aggressive comments" in a low voice in the background. E.g. "worked at So-and-so (one of the Big 4 companies)... In ", "worked with XYZ technology... for ", "SME for ABC technologies... for DEF use case"
I was done at this point so I drafted out a query with as low effort as I could and then explained it quickly. It was wrong for sure, and not fulfilling the use case completely but I had stopped caring. He also realized it because he said, "Alright, I think that is it. Do you have any questions for me?", in a very smug voice.
I said, "No, thanks for the experience", and disconnected the call.
So, that was it. The most WTF interview of my life. So far. I am not really sure what was wrong with that dude or maybe I have been out of touch for a long time and this is how it is now, but damn, man. I sat in shock for a few minutes after the call. I did check out the interviewer's profile on LinkedIn, wondering if we had crossed paths before. But he was been with his company for a long, long time, first company since college and never switched. So I don't really know.
Anyways, so, yeah. Hope you are having a better experience than me.

There’s 2 major points of context I need to share to help you understand where I’m coming from.
The first is that my dad and I have never had a great relationship. When I was young I never felt like I was “man enough” for him. He always worked manual labor and would build things around the house. I was a really passive kid who clung to my mom and came to rely on her as my role model for how a person should act. And I relied on her even more when my dad started traveling for work. We’d see him maybe 5-6 times a month when he wouldn’t really engage with us and there would be constant screaming matches with my mom, and later my sisters. And before you think to ask yes, there were multiple affairs. At least 5 my mom found out about and most likely a lot more. I saw how that impacted my mom and it made a huge impact on me and my feelings towards relationships. They got divorced eventually and my mom, like the saint she is, had the lawyer file it as an ‘amicable’ divorce. No blame was placed on anyone, no fault was assigned, no custody battle was waged. She had them split the assets and the debts 50/50 and walk away completely free and clear. It was benevolence that my dad frankly didn’t deserve.
As I got older, and he got older, things started to improve between us. He wasn’t really good at guiding and teaching a child but he was great at meeting me as an equal. He readily saw me as an adult, a responsible man. Someone he could converse with honestly and openly. We were working on getting on better terms. (He’s a stubborn 1960s kid with some more conservative views than me but nothing bigoted.)
Which leads to the second context point and the real linchpin of my issue. My mom passed away just over a year ago. She’d been battling cancer a long time so it wasn’t out of the blue but it just left me broken for months. Her estate is beginning to settle (aka payout to her debtors, allow transfer of ownership of her house, etc.) and I found out that my dad put a claim against her estate. A claim for his half of the credit card debt he and my mom amicably spilt in the divorce and he has since paid off.
This absolutely fucking incensed me like nothing else I have ever experienced. The amount of money is relatively small and not the issue at hand. What I cannot stand is the idea that he thinks he is owed this money from her estate (literally her cold, dead hands) when she isn’t here to fight him anymore. He was given such a clean break from the marriage when my mom could have saddled him with all the credit card debt, all the mortgage debt, all the car payments, all the student debt, demanded alimony, she could have buried him if she wasn’t such a better person than him. And even now, with her dead and gone, he just has to pick at her a little more, make himself out to be the victim in all this who was so unfairly saddled with this credit card bill. A credit card that paid for me and my siblings to take dance classes, and buy soccer cleats, and cheerleading outfits none of which he ever bothered to be around for!
Obviously when I’m mad it’s easy to think “yeah fuck him” but at the end of the day it is just money. My family tree has gotten so thin in the last few years I don’t want to lose both my parents before I’m 30. I just don’t know if this is even a reasonable response and I think some unbiased 3rd parties might be needed.
Thank you for reading all this, just typing it out helps.

As she lets me in, the real estate agent says that I am responsible to return the house to its original condition for the new tenants, otherwise the landlord will hire professional cleaners and claim the bond to cover the cost. She threatens to pursue the estate if the bond money does not cover the clean. I don’t know what gave her the idea that there is an estate.
‘A good family would do at least that much for each other, wouldn’t they? I’m sure there is lots of family… treasures in there you’d like to keep safe.’ she says, but I can see the disgust on her face as she discovers the state of the house. My stomach drops and squeezes my throat as her words bring back the guilt from our phone call.
Seeing this place makes me pity them. They had nothing. Why had I been so angry with them?
The agent was able to find me because legislation requires real estate agencies to have a next of kin for tenants. My parents nominated me as next of kin. Hearing that made me feel guilty. There was nobody else they could nominate.
I don’t reply to the agent and stare into the house. Roots of overgrown junk seek out space across the floor and holes in the wall break up the colour scheme of brown dirts, grey/green moulds, and black holes. One hole must be above a horizontal wall stud because a bottle of rum is sticking out at a 3 o’clock angle from it with its lid off.
The agent continues to talk, walks away to her car, and then drives away. At least, I assume she did when I finish staring into the house.
I walk through the house and open the door to my bedroom. It is the same as I left it years ago. The mattress festers, the walls remember cigarettes, and stains remain the only decoration. It hasn’t changed since I was born.
I know that there are thousands of events that make me who I am, but there a few which I like to remind myself of. I like to remind myself of absorbing the project slides of ENGIN103: Engineering for Transit and dreaming about what it would feel like to ride a train route that I had designed. I like to remind myself of arriving for an internship at Foley and Sons and not leaving until 10pm, so that I could see the nightworks for the motorway. I like to remind myself of sitting with Foley as he assigned me as project manager for the tunnel across the river. Last month, I apologised for the project issues so far.
“Projects have issues. That's why there is a project manager. We are lucky to have you,” he said.
I like to remind myself of that.
This house makes me remember what I don’t remind myself of. I remember my mother telling me that nobody she knew was smart enough to be an engineer and refusing to drive me to campus because it would be a waste of her time. I remember getting a sore back at 21 from having to study on my bed and staying at university all day so that I had a space to study. I remember studying on the 90-minute bus commute with only a single ham and cheese sandwich for lunch that sometimes made me sick because the fridge wasn’t cold enough at home. I remember my father telling me that I, “Don't know shit,” and that I would be dead in a week if I moved out in a housing crisis when I said being closer to university would be good for me.
A lump in my throat forms and it brings back a memory where I cannot speak, “You have one new message. Message received today at 8:55 PM. I knew you could do it. Looking good in those grad pics that Auntie Shirley posted. Let me kn–Message deleted. You have no more messages.”
Couldn’t I even text them back?
I pull my old bed out from against the wall, and it rattles the room as it grips the old timber flooring. There is still a loose floorboard. I pry up with a key and part the old collection of junk which I had stored over the years. I see a single scrunched up piece of paper. I pry it out of its ball and see the floor through numerous holes chewed out by rats. This is my first academic transcript. I showed this to my family after finishing my first semester of engineering. It reads that I was in the awarded a certificate for academic achievement after scoring in the top 5% of the grade. I had never worked so hard for anything. I had never achieved anything. My eyes swell with tears, and I hear them laughing, ‘Lot of good that does us. They only accept money at the grocery store.’
My guilt returns to anger.
I knew it was right then and I remember it now.
I turn around and I leave.

We are two daughters of our parents. My father is a business man. He has always been dominating and had the audacity to raise hand on my mother. He had that arrogance of providing us with food and stuff. Though he gave us good education, he was very restrictive and strict. There was no TV, we were not allowed to go out with our friends, we were not allowed to invite our friends at home too and much more. I am a younger one. I use to be good in studies. I use to be an obedient child and always made sure to make my parents proud. On the contrary, my elder sister was average in studies. Even there were 1000 restrictions on us, my sister did some blunders in past like bunk school or having male friends (which obviously we were not allowed to at all). She once was caught with a phone (it was her friend's phone) when she was in 10th class and my mother beat her so bad. She promised that she needs to mend her ways otherwise she will tell our dad. But my sister got so scared that she attempted suicide. But by god's grace, she was saved. I just can't forget that day. This way you might get a glimpse at what level we were afraid of him. My mother never raised voice against my father even after physical abuse. I remember the days when i use to sit outside their room for hours and hours during night with a pillow as they use to fight. I use to be scared what if something happens wrong, though i never has the courage to stop them. I thought that this might be disrespectful. Many nights i just use to sit outside their room with a pillow and when they get to sleep, i use to go back to my room and sleep. When I was 17-18 years old, my father made a plan to thailand with this friends. We were not so happy as we also wanted to go for a trip. Anyhow, not seeing our reaction, he planned. Our mother never had an issue with this as our father use to bribe her with some gold or something (she was fond of jewelry). Also, he never treated our mother right (especially during trips-physical abuse or marital rape we can say) so she use to avoid going out. I myself sensed this thing many times. I use to share bed with them when any relatives use to come to our place. I use to sense him asking for sex and then my mother denying. He use to hold her from neck and that use to rip me apart but i never had the courage to stop him. So yeah, he travelled to thailand and cam back home. One fine day, he asked me and my sister to delete our the unnecessary photos and videos from him phone. I took the phone and started deleting. The next thing i saw was a video and i trembled. We saw a video of my father dancing with a girl in a hotel room. I WAS JUST SO SCARED. Phone fell from my hand. It was a long video, but i only saw 5-6 secs of it. Me and my sister deleted the video and never told anyone about it. We ourselves also never discussed it with anyone. My father use to click pictures with air hostesses and some random girls that he met in thailand. He use to post those pictures as no one had the courage to say him anything on this face. Punjabi people, especially men find it very normal but not normal if any women does it. Years passed, my sister turned 23. One day my sister got caught with a boy in a hotel room. She told that she had a bf who was 5-6 elder from him and was involved in a travel agency job. He belonged to a service class family, average looking and middle class background. My father refused. He met the guy and was not happy. Proper blackmailing like you broke my trust, how can you find a bf, it is our responsibility to find one for you etc started. She was tortured. She was made sit at home for one year. All household work was done by her and she was always taunted. They turned everything hell for her. I also was not able to do anything as I had no idea how could i help. Even i didn't had that mind to understand if she was right or no. When she turned 24-25, marriage talks popped up. My father found a rich business class guy for her. We all were happy and she got married in two months. Thankfully it turned out good for her that she got to get out from this home. I started having problem with my father here. He use to pretend such a nice guy infront of everyone. He use to portray that he is the nicest man and can do anything for her family. Though deep inside we were aware he is the worst person who beats up his wife, makes every little thing work as per his own choice, does not give a fuck about his daughters and does not respect. Every other person started thinking that he is such a gentleman and my mother is arrogant which was not true. My father is a business man and knows how to talk in a group of people and how to pretend. My mother on other hand, is introvert, so some might think of her as an arrogant person. He started gifting expensive stuff to my sister's in laws place to make himself look good. And when we use to ask for money and stuff, he never gave us enough to meet our needs. We always use to compromise. Never wore brand or never went to good place for dinners etc but they were gifted brands, thousand and lakhs of money were given to them, though they never demanded and always use to say no to those gifts. At this stage, my age came of getting married. And my perspective for my father changed. Whenever my marriage talk popped up, it use to scare the shit out of me. I started thinking what if my partner turned out to be just like my father. What i will do where will i go and how will i manage everything. Because i was aware once i get married, there is no turning back. I have to make that marriage work no matter what happens. My parents will never support me or take me back if my partner turns out to be bad. They will ask me to accept it saying it is your destiny. When it comes to marriage, every girl try to sees her father's characteristics in her to be husband. And when i use to imagine, i started running away from the word of marriage. I just got scared that every other men is like him who is dominating, disrespectful and raise his hands on his wives. I tried to escape from it saying i want to pursue my studies. On the other hand, I met a wonderful guy. I never thought i would fall for a guy like him. He is a goofy guy with a good heart. He is a senior manager in a government bank. The man of my dreams, i never ever met guy in my life who was so nice and kind to talk. Though i had few male friends, i never felt like that for them. I opened my heart and my mind infront of him. I shared everything with him, even those things which i never use to think of alone or which use to scare the shit out of me. Now the problems comes. He is basically from Himachal Pradesh, further from a small town, a very simple family. Our teva also doesn't matches. We belong to a upper business class family. I talked about this with my father and mother and my god, it turned out so bad. He threatened me saying he will boycott me and ask my sister and other relatives too to cut me off. I don't want to lose touch with my sister as she is the only one who i have. She also cannot do anything for me. I love him alot and we cannot live without each other. My sister's husband is nice but he will also not approve of him because he also has that richie rich mentality. I don't have anyone's support and now i feel suicidal. I don't know what to do and where to go #pleasehelp

Hi all -
I (27F) have entered my first dating relationship that has gone past a few dates as an adult and I’m unfortunately feeling like a fish out of water. I’m currently on week 6 of getting to know someone after being extremely content to be single for the last 5 years. I am hoping to gain some insight before I make any further decisions on what I want/am looking for.
At the beginning of April, I matched with 27M and after a couple days of chatting we met up for drinks. Since then, we have seen eachother almost everyday with the exception of a few days and a trip that 27M previously had planned with his family.
Here are the details:
•We live 30 minutes apart but he drives to see me at some point throughout the day whether after work or at some point during the weekend and I would say until 2 weeks ago it was mostly him initiating.
•We have spent time hanging out at home, going to the gym, going on a hike, eating out, getting drinks/going to happy hour
•He is very physically affectionate and sweet with his words - compliments are common.
•at the very beginning he paid for everything and now it’s a bit more equitable because I have insisted
•He took a clear nterest in learning things about my life. Whenever I randomly would mention something tough or a bit hard (not to be evasive but not to delve too much personal info too quickly) he would gently ask to know more and be very supportive in his response.
•We don’t text all day but we have communication daily
•He does mention the future often (3+ mos advance) and it is more so ideas “we can do this/we can go here/next time”. He does consistently bring up the same ideas
•He shares details about his family, his days, his friends without me having to ask
•We are intimate but not every time we see each other
•He and his family are immigrants and he has been up front about the pressure they put on him/expectations they put on him to be married/have kids m and he has openly communicated (not in a DTR convo) that he doesn’t want to think about marriage for another 2 years ish
•we have not DTR’d
•we have not met each others friends
Here is where I’m getting stumped:
I am personally not in a rush to be in a marriage-focused relationship. I am very content to continue to get to know eachother in the trajectory we’re moving and let things happen organically, especially because he has gently but consistently pulled the pace during this experience. The problem is that I am constantly inundated (without even having to look!) with the terms like “situationship” and constantly seeing all of these saying rules that people swear by that are making it hard to navigate this relationship without being fearful of all these added things people suggest/swear by etc. I want to disregard them and live my life and but i admittedly have such little relationship experience that part of me wonders if i feel resistance to these things because i am simply unaware.
Ultimately, before i decide on whether to DTR (not necessarily to be bf/gf but to just check in) I want to have a clear picture of what I’m working with with this person and be made aware of any signs that I am not aware of that I should be aware of.
Do you see any red flags? Yellow flags that I can keep an eye on? Green flags? If you’ve been in a similar experience, how would you navigate it? Do you need anymore info?
I am somewhat new to posting on Reddit so my apologies if I have done something wrong!!
*edited for formatting

The PERMA model structures the five essential elements of sustainable wellbeing. These are: Positive Emotions, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment. And, of course, we need a positive approach to our physical health. Let’s look at positive affectivity within the context of the PERMA model.
Sustainable wellbeing is an on-going issue. And there is a wealth of evidence-based insight to support us. This page considers positive affectivity. Explore what this means for you and pick up some useful tips for a happier life. For practical purposes, positive affectivity sits within the positive emotions pillar of the PERMA model. Working on this area can improve our general happiness. In turn, this makes it easier to work on the rest. Additionally, intentional actions can be implemented quickly – getting a personal development program off to a great start.
Understanding positive affectivity involves understanding the interplay of genetic factors, environmental circumstances, and intentional activities. Research led by Sonja Lyubomirsky has identified the relative influence of these factors: valuable insight for sustainable wellbeing.
Genetic Factors
Genetic factors are responsible for 30-40% of our overall positive affectivity. This acts as a stabilising influence – often referred to as ‘the happiness setpoint.’ Our genes also shape our personality traits, notably the ‘Big Five Personality Traits’. These are extraversion, neuroticism, conscientiousness, agreeableness, and openness. Each of the ‘Big Five Personality Traits’ is its own spectrum. We all have our own preferred spot on each. Extraversion is a key player as it impacts on happiness levels. The other traits contribute to satisfaction in relationships, work, and coping with stress. This doesn’t mean, however that only extraverts can be happy. Next, we’ll consider the our environmental circumstances.
Environmental Circumstances
Environmental circumstances are also a significant influence. This group of factors encompasses supportive relationships, financial stability, education, employment, religious engagement, leisure activities, health, freedom, and a pleasant living environment. For those making their way in the world, balancing financial security with meaningful leisure activities becomes crucial. The Easterlin Paradox suggests that increased wealth – beyond our normal quality of life – doesn’t always translate to increased happiness or sustainable wellbeing.
Religious practice, often overlooked, offers a structured belief system, social support, healthier lifestyles, and positive emotions through practices like prayer and meditation. This can be particularly relevant for individuals seeking a sense of purpose and community. For us agnostics, we can easily translate this in to developing our own spirituality without alignment to any organised belief system.
Leisure activities, including sports, arts, and volunteering, play a vital role in fulfilling needs for autonomy, mastery, meaning, affiliation, and detachment. For those navigating demanding careers, finding joy in leisure can act as a valuable counterbalance to work pressures. This takes on an new dimension when we consider applying our signature strengths to our every-day lives.
Adaptability and happiness become essential, particularly for individuals managing the demands of work and family life. Freedom and a pleasant living environment contribute significantly to subjective well-being. Societies supporting economic, political, and personal freedom, along with access to green spaces and panoramic views, tend to foster more cohesive societies: within which, individuals have better chances of flourishing.
Gender and age nuances show a U-shaped trajectory of well-being across the life cycle. Understanding these trends can help individuals in their 30s and 40s to navigate the challenges of middle age. This influence is at its most negative through our 30’s and then turns increasingly positive from our 40’s onwards. NB this elements’ influence is low, and there are so many other factors that can counterbalance any negative influences from this one.
Our environmental circumstances – combined – contribute to only around 10% to our long-lasting happiness. We can’t do anything about our genetic legacy: accounting for 40-50% of our positive affectivity. We can influence the circumstances of our life which account for a further approximately 10%. This brings us to the key take-away from this article.
Intentional Activities
Our intentional activities – which we can control or, at the very least, have a degree of influence over – account for 40-50 % of our positive affectivity. Pause for a moment. Reflect on this conclusion. Notice your reactions.
This leads us naturally to ask – so how can I use this insight to help develop my sustainable wellbeing?
The answers will vary between us – we’re all walking our own paths. We can find them by systematically working our way through the PERMA model and the wealth of insight Wellbeing Psychology has to offer. In no particular order, these general approaches will deliver the most returns:
· Embrace mindfulness practices
· Allocate time for meaningful connections with loved ones
· Consciously engage in activities that align with your personal values
· Create a well-defined balance between work and leisure
· Foster intentional moments of deep relaxation
· Periodically reassess and adapt your goals
· Acknowledge your accomplishments

By weaving intentional activities into our everyday routines, we can intrinsically strengthen our wellbeing while juggling life’s on-going demands.
So now, equipped with this insight, ask yourself: what will I do, today, to apply this insight to develop my sustainable wellbeing?

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