Notes for girlfriend

Some background, I come from a very toxic relationship where my ex g used to lie to me all the time about men she was having conversations with what ultimately lead to her cheating multiple times.
I try to be a supportive boyfriend all the time hence I like and comment all the instagram posts from my now girlfriend. (She is pursuing her hobby).
There has been some times that some follower commented with hearts or some slightly flirty comment on her posts and she ignores them. (There is maybe 1 to 8 comments per post one of them being me, her mom)
Yesterday I was looking for one of her friends trough her comments, (I remember she commented on one of my girlfriend posts at some point) during my search I came across 3 comments from a guy that were hearts and flirty and I had never seen them before. This made me think, she recently erased some followers and This guy was one of the followers she erased and when she erased him this comments became unbidden and they had a like from her.
Today I decided to ask her what was up with this guy and how is it that I don't remember seeing his comments. (There is a couple of guys that always comment some flirty text on her pictures and I know their names - she has never liked any of their comments).
She told me she swears that she has never hidden a comment. I asked who he was and she told me a guy that has flirted with me and I erased him because you asked (I have never asked her to cut contact or erase anybody from her social media). Then she said that she actually erased him a long time ago.
In the end we had a small fight and I told her that I just expect honesty from her part and she was very defensive and told me that I was going to believe whatever I wanted to believe. She said that I dint trust her.
I have a feeling she is not being completely honest with me about this or other things. If she is hiding the comments what is in her DM's. I really love her and I want this relationship to work.
Note: I really don't like when she is using her phone when we make a call because I can barely get a conversation going when she is distracted with something else, many times I'm talking about my day or something and it's obvious she is on her phone because it's like talking to a wall she just listens to bits of what I'm saying. Many times when I have confronted her about her using her phone while we are calling she has gotten angry and told me she is not on her phone, it has gotten as far as hanging up on me or plainly insulting me. When I go online on social I can see her last connection and it's sometimes when we were calling. And that makes me feel like I'm being lied to. The thing that bothers me the most is that she says she is not when she is.
I appreciate your feedback.

Please note that I was raised to respect my elders. Basically, I was raised in a way that makes me a subordinate to anyone who biologically older than me. That sort of thing.
Story 1:
So, I am at my Mom’s birthday party with my girlfriend at the time. The other party goers are the parents of my then girlfriend, and, obviously, my Mom. My sweet little kitty cat is NOT all that young, so, yeah. I figure that IS an important detail.
So, anyway, we are just doing our own thing, and I am sitting with my girlfriend, where, for some reason, my cat decided to jump behind my Dad, who is sitting in a recliner. I just whispered to my girlfriend that my cat was going to give my Dad some kisses. I hoped to have THAT as a memory. But, NO. Of course not! Immediately, my Dad decided that it would be a "brilliant" or "FUNNY" idea to do this bucking bronco thing to make my cat hit the ground. Hard. As soon as the cat hit the floor, I was stunned to see my Dad and my girlfriend’s parents LAUGHING THEIR ASSES OFF to the fact that my cat hit the ground. I gave my Dad a stone cold look, and said "Not impressed", and THOUGHT THAT WAS THE END of the stupidity. Once again, I was proven WRONG. My cat jumped behind my Dad a second time, probably to give him a second chance. My Dad did the stupid thing again (bucking bronco, best I can describe it), only for my cat to not fall. Then, my Dad decided to recline, and he does it at a nice, SLOW pace. At first. After I think that my Dad was FINALLY coming to his senses, he STUPIDLY accelerates hard, forcing my cat to hit the ground. Once again, uproarious laughter from my Dad and my girlfriend’s parents. NOBODY ELSE. I react the same way. "Not impressed" I say with a frown.
Anyway, comes dessert time, and everyone enjoys it. Now, you probably think I contaminated my Dad’s dessert, but, I wouldn’t do, not even as an act of revenge. Instead, when comes the time to pick up the plates, I pick up everybody’s plates, EXCEPT for my Dad, and he points out that I didn’t pick up HIS plate. I made sure he knew that my choice was deliberate. I said to him "You want to be cold?", referring to the atrocities that have been inflicted upon my cat. It is important to know that, after the second act of stupidity, my cat was AFRAID of approaching the crowd. In fact, I checked up on her in my room, and she was very afraid. She didn’t act defensively against me, and I just wrapped her in one of my robes to comfort her, and she could enjoy my scent.
Probably going to post this in "Am I the asshole", but, I get the feeling that the majority of readers will side with me.
Story 2: Girlfriend’s dog attacks my cat. I stop it in an instant!
Yes, my cat is ATTACKED.
This happened after the story in the initial post.
So, I am with the same girlfriend, and she is driving me on the snowmobile on the property. However, she ends up tipping the snowmobile, and breaks her wrist. At the time, we did NOT know it.
Anyway, I just stay with her to comfort my girlfriend about the accident, and I hear a VERY nerve wracking proposition. "Let’s get the dog and the cat to play. By the by, the dog is BIG, and is triggered by smaller animals that growl at her. I try to warn them that it’s NOT a good idea. The dog’s family KNOWS that the dog is danger to smaller animals who growl at her - THEY have told ME about their dog being triggered by smaller animals growling at her, which baffles me. I know my cat is territorial, since… she’s a cat. Anyway, it’s not long before I hear the dreaded sound of the dog barking at my sweet kitty. I BOLT to the scene, and strike the dog just hard enough to stop her. However, the dog attempts to CLAMP HER JAWS AROUND MY CAT'S HEAD. I separated the jaws to force the dog to release my cat (no worries-my cat is still alive). I shove the dog away to the dog’s human family, and I darkly said "Let this stupid shit happen again, and I won’t be so nice." Prior to the shove, EVERYONE WATCHING was just standing there like statues. I am a bit fuzzy about if I flipped the bird/double bird at the dog, but, I remember that I DEFINITELY considered it. That is just how fast THAT happened.
Now, fast forward to when we are going to the hospital. I overheard someone say "I guess the dog won’t play with the cat ever again", to which I shouted "Fucking told you so!"
Not sure if I flipped the bird at the dog after the shove, but, I definitely have considered it.

Afraid of relationships
I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this, I’m 28 (M) and have been single for almost 6 years, I had 2 relationships 1 at 18 and another at 21 both were relatively short 18 months and 2 and a half years.
Ever since my last one ended I’ve had absolutely no desire to get back into one, in both of my relationships around 6 months in I remember reaching a point where my brain almost flicked a switch and from them moments I was no longer in love and basically repulsed by my other half’s presence everything they did irritated me to put it plainly, this happened twice and I have no idea why. I now have a huge fear of getting into another relationship in case that does happen again, I love my solitude and own company and quite enjoy being single I enjoy the meeting new women, flirting and it gives me a buzz and enjoyment that I wouldn’t get from being single, I love making my own decisions and not having the stress of sacrificing things I like, however I feel like if I were to still feel like this at 30 years old or older then I’d be worried.
I’m on dating apps and this sounds bad, but I have no intention of pursuing anything serious other than to have sex with anyone I meet and I wish I felt differently, I’m scarred from that feeling of completely disliking my partners and therefore not wanting to be with them anymore.
It might be worth noting I have a history of anxiety, I feel anxious just thinking about that horrible gut wrenching feeling of completely be irritated by my girlfriend knowing that I’d have to basically break someone’s heart and tell them I no longer want to be with them.
Has anyone else ever felt this way, currently in the same boat as me?
—- TL;DR need help on my dilemma

Yes, getting ghosted stings. It’s disrespectful, confusing, and it makes you feel used. But you need to re-frame how you feel about ghosting. It’s an efficient way of removing someone from your life who wouldn’t have respected and prioritized you. The best part is, you didn’t have to do anything. Ghosting is ultimately a blessing in disguise.
You always have to view rejection as a shift away from something that isn’t right for you, not a personal indictment.

1. Remember, they’re STRANGERS. It’s one thing to get ghosted by someone who you’ve been dating for two years. That would understandably take some time to process. However, just because you matched with someone, or got a number at the club doesn’t mean you have a connection. If you find someone attractive, it doesn’t mean you have anything meaningful, they truly don’t know you.
   
2. Ghosting only matters if you have limited options in your dating life. Getting fixated on one woman too early always has disastrous results. You always have to work on maximizing abundance in your dating life and always keep your options open— through online dating, social circle, day game, etc. If you have multiple dating options, if one of them ghosts, does it really matter? Scarcity is root cause of most problems guys encounter in their dating lives. In order to be successful, it’s absolutely necessary to ditch the White Knight approach to dating, where women who you barely know get the same level of commitment and devotion as girlfriend. Max your options, and Ghosting will barely be a blip on your radar.
   
3. It’s far better to phase out people who aren’t good for you early, rather than invest time and energy, or drag something out needlessly. Unfortunately, guys will endlessly chase women who keep giving them false hope, when it truly isn’t going anywhere, and she has no intention of taking you seriously. You will save time and emotional energy, even if it stings upfront. It’s better to be cut off than be used as a never-ending source of free attention and validation.
   
4. You never know what’s going on in someone’s life, but ghosting is usually a sign of someone who is emotionally immature, or is a poor communicator. Both are qualities you definitely don’t want in a relationship. It’s pointless trying to figure out why someone ghosted you. Maybe they felt unsafe rejecting someone, maybe they forgot about you. Maybe they thought Ghosting was a better alternative than being honest. Who knows. Who cares. Bottom line is, they made their choice, and it’s indicative of how they would have behaved in a relationship. Most cases, you likely dodged a bullet.
   
5. Even if you would have dated them, their level of interest wasn’t enough to maintain anything serious. No matter how busy women get, whatever they have going on in their lives, they don’t forget about guys who they’re highly attracted to. It’s a myth that women play hard to get. When they are attracted to a guy, they will reach out. They will want to interact with him, spend time with him. Getting ghosted shows that she simply didn’t care about you enough to make an effort. That’s ok. You only want to spend time and energy on those who value you. CHASING NEVER WORKS LONG TERM, and it’s an emotional rollercoaster which frankly isn’t worth the effort.
   

Final note: If someone ghosts you, don’t reach out to them and cuss them out, call them out, harass them, or generally be bitter. It does nothing. Move on. They made their choice. If you are an attractive man with options, losing your cool will only make it harder to move on. You know your value, and they simply didn’t prioritize you. In dating, not every woman is going to be attracted to you, or value you. It’s a numbers game to a large extent. On to the next.
TLDR: Although ghosting stings, remember that in most cases they are strangers. It’s a blessing in disguise because they ultimately did not have a high level of interest, so it’s better than getting strung along. Ghosting only matters if you have scarcity in your dating life. Always max your options, and don’t invest emotionally too early.
Full article on topic: https://modating.substack.com/p/why-you-shouldnt-care-about-ghosting

Yes, getting ghosted stings. It’s disrespectful, confusing, and it makes you feel used. But you need to re-frame how you feel about ghosting. It’s an efficient way of removing someone from your life who wouldn’t have respected and prioritized you. The best part is, you didn’t have to do anything. Ghosting is ultimately a blessing in disguise.
You always have to view rejection as a shift away from something that isn’t right for you, not a personal indictment.

1. Remember, they’re STRANGERS. It’s one thing to get ghosted by someone who you’ve been dating for two years. That would understandably take some time to process. However, just because you matched with someone, or got a number at the club doesn’t mean you have a connection. If you find someone attractive, it doesn’t mean you have anything meaningful, they truly don’t know you.
   
2. Ghosting only matters if you have limited options in your dating life. Getting fixated on one woman too early always has disastrous results. You always have to work on maximizing abundance in your dating life and always keep your options open— through online dating, social circle, day game, etc. If you have multiple dating options, if one of them ghosts, does it really matter? Scarcity is root cause of most problems guys encounter in their dating lives. In order to be successful, it’s absolutely necessary to ditch the White Knight approach to dating, where women who you barely know get the same level of commitment and devotion as girlfriend. Max your options, and Ghosting will barely be a blip on your radar.
   
3. It’s far better to phase out people who aren’t good for you early, rather than invest time and energy, or drag something out needlessly. Unfortunately, guys will endlessly chase women who keep giving them false hope, when it truly isn’t going anywhere, and she has no intention of taking you seriously. You will save time and emotional energy, even if it stings upfront. It’s better to be cut off than be used as a never-ending source of free attention and validation.
   
4. You never know what’s going on in someone’s life, but ghosting is usually a sign of someone who is emotionally immature, or is a poor communicator. Both are qualities you definitely don’t want in a relationship. It’s pointless trying to figure out why someone ghosted you. Maybe they felt unsafe rejecting someone, maybe they forgot about you. Maybe they thought Ghosting was a better alternative than being honest. Who knows. Who cares. Bottom line is, they made their choice, and it’s indicative of how they would have behaved in a relationship. Most cases, you likely dodged a bullet.
   
5. Even if you would have dated them, their level of interest wasn’t enough to maintain anything serious. No matter how busy women get, whatever they have going on in their lives, they don’t forget about guys who they’re highly attracted to. It’s a myth that women play hard to get. When they are attracted to a guy, they will reach out. They will want to interact with him, spend time with him. Getting ghosted shows that she simply didn’t care about you enough to make an effort. That’s ok. You only want to spend time and energy on those who value you. CHASING NEVER WORKS LONG TERM, and it’s an emotional rollercoaster which frankly isn’t worth the effort.
   

Final note: If someone ghosts you, don’t reach out to them and cuss them out, call them out, harass them, or generally be bitter. It does nothing. Move on. They made their choice. If you are an attractive man with options, losing your cool will only make it harder to move on. You know your value, and they simply didn’t prioritize you. In dating, not every woman is going to be attracted to you, or value you. It’s a numbers game to a large extent. On to the next.
TLDR: Although ghosting stings, remember that in most cases they are strangers. It’s a blessing in disguise because they ultimately did not have a high level of interest, so it’s better than getting strung along. Ghosting only matters if you have scarcity in your dating life. Always max your options, and don’t invest emotionally too early.
Full article on topic: https://modating.substack.com/p/why-you-shouldnt-care-about-ghosting

Yes, getting ghosted stings. It’s disrespectful, confusing, and it makes you feel used. But you need to re-frame how you feel about ghosting. It’s an efficient way of removing someone from your life who wouldn’t have respected and prioritized you. The best part is, you didn’t have to do anything. Ghosting is ultimately a blessing in disguise.
You always have to view rejection as a shift away from something that isn’t right for you, not a personal indictment.

1. Remember, they’re STRANGERS. It’s one thing to get ghosted by someone who you’ve been dating for two years. That would understandably take some time to process. However, just because you matched with someone, or got a number at the club doesn’t mean you have a connection. If you find someone attractive, it doesn’t mean you have anything meaningful, they truly don’t know you.
   
2. Ghosting only matters if you have limited options in your dating life. Getting fixated on one woman too early always has disastrous results. You always have to work on maximizing abundance in your dating life and always keep your options open— through online dating, social circle, day game, etc. If you have multiple dating options, if one of them ghosts, does it really matter? Scarcity is root cause of most problems guys encounter in their dating lives. In order to be successful, it’s absolutely necessary to ditch the White Knight approach to dating, where women who you barely know get the same level of commitment and devotion as girlfriend. Max your options, and Ghosting will barely be a blip on your radar.
   
3. It’s far better to phase out people who aren’t good for you early, rather than invest time and energy, or drag something out needlessly. Unfortunately, guys will endlessly chase women who keep giving them false hope, when it truly isn’t going anywhere, and she has no intention of taking you seriously. You will save time and emotional energy, even if it stings upfront. It’s better to be cut off than be used as a never-ending source of free attention and validation.
   
4. You never know what’s going on in someone’s life, but ghosting is usually a sign of someone who is emotionally immature, or is a poor communicator. Both are qualities you definitely don’t want in a relationship. It’s pointless trying to figure out why someone ghosted you. Maybe they felt unsafe rejecting someone, maybe they forgot about you. Maybe they thought Ghosting was a better alternative than being honest. Who knows. Who cares. Bottom line is, they made their choice, and it’s indicative of how they would have behaved in a relationship. Most cases, you likely dodged a bullet.
   
5. Even if you would have dated them, their level of interest wasn’t enough to maintain anything serious. No matter how busy women get, whatever they have going on in their lives, they don’t forget about guys who they’re highly attracted to. It’s a myth that women play hard to get. When they are attracted to a guy, they will reach out. They will want to interact with him, spend time with him. Getting ghosted shows that she simply didn’t care about you enough to make an effort. That’s ok. You only want to spend time and energy on those who value you. CHASING NEVER WORKS LONG TERM, and it’s an emotional rollercoaster which frankly isn’t worth the effort.
   

Final note: If someone ghosts you, don’t reach out to them and cuss them out, call them out, harass them, or generally be bitter. It does nothing. Move on. They made their choice. If you are an attractive man with options, losing your cool will only make it harder to move on. You know your value, and they simply didn’t prioritize you. In dating, not every woman is going to be attracted to you, or value you. It’s a numbers game to a large extent. On to the next.
TLDR: Although ghosting stings, remember that in most cases they are strangers. It’s a blessing in disguise because they ultimately did not have a high level of interest, so it’s better than getting strung along. Ghosting only matters if you have scarcity in your dating life. Always max your options, and don’t invest emotionally too early.
Full article on topic: https://modating.substack.com/p/why-you-shouldnt-care-about-ghosting

Yes, getting ghosted stings. It’s disrespectful, confusing, and it makes you feel used. But you need to re-frame how you feel about ghosting. It’s an efficient way of removing someone from your life who wouldn’t have respected and prioritized you. The best part is, you didn’t have to do anything. Ghosting is ultimately a blessing in disguise.
You always have to view rejection as a shift away from something that isn’t right for you, not a personal indictment.

1. Remember, they’re STRANGERS. It’s one thing to get ghosted by someone who you’ve been dating for two years. That would understandably take some time to process. However, just because you matched with someone, or got a number at the club doesn’t mean you have a connection. If you find someone attractive, it doesn’t mean you have anything meaningful, they truly don’t know you.
   
2. Ghosting only matters if you have limited options in your dating life. Getting fixated on one woman too early always has disastrous results. You always have to work on maximizing abundance in your dating life and always keep your options open— through online dating, social circle, day game, etc. If you have multiple dating options, if one of them ghosts, does it really matter? Scarcity is root cause of most problems guys encounter in their dating lives. In order to be successful, it’s absolutely necessary to ditch the White Knight approach to dating, where women who you barely know get the same level of commitment and devotion as girlfriend. Max your options, and Ghosting will barely be a blip on your radar.
   
3. It’s far better to phase out people who aren’t good for you early, rather than invest time and energy, or drag something out needlessly. Unfortunately, guys will endlessly chase women who keep giving them false hope, when it truly isn’t going anywhere, and she has no intention of taking you seriously. You will save time and emotional energy, even if it stings upfront. It’s better to be cut off than be used as a never-ending source of free attention and validation.
   
4. You never know what’s going on in someone’s life, but ghosting is usually a sign of someone who is emotionally immature, or is a poor communicator. Both are qualities you definitely don’t want in a relationship. It’s pointless trying to figure out why someone ghosted you. Maybe they felt unsafe rejecting someone, maybe they forgot about you. Maybe they thought Ghosting was a better alternative than being honest. Who knows. Who cares. Bottom line is, they made their choice, and it’s indicative of how they would have behaved in a relationship. Most cases, you likely dodged a bullet.
   
5. Even if you would have dated them, their level of interest wasn’t enough to maintain anything serious. No matter how busy women get, whatever they have going on in their lives, they don’t forget about guys who they’re highly attracted to. It’s a myth that women play hard to get. When they are attracted to a guy, they will reach out. They will want to interact with him, spend time with him. Getting ghosted shows that she simply didn’t care about you enough to make an effort. That’s ok. You only want to spend time and energy on those who value you. CHASING NEVER WORKS LONG TERM, and it’s an emotional rollercoaster which frankly isn’t worth the effort.
   

Final note: If someone ghosts you, don’t reach out to them and cuss them out, call them out, harass them, or generally be bitter. It does nothing. Move on. They made their choice. If you are an attractive man with options, losing your cool will only make it harder to move on. You know your value, and they simply didn’t prioritize you. In dating, not every woman is going to be attracted to you, or value you. It’s a numbers game to a large extent. On to the next.
TLDR: Although ghosting stings, remember that in most cases they are strangers. It’s a blessing in disguise because they ultimately did not have a high level of interest, so it’s better than getting strung along. Ghosting only matters if you have scarcity in your dating life. Always max your options, and don’t invest emotionally too early.
Full article on topic: https://modating.substack.com/p/why-you-shouldnt-care-about-ghosting

Note: This is a throwaway account cause there are a bunch of people who knows me irl and reddit acc. Also a repost.
I will try my best to give as much context as possible and my personal thoughts so I can get the solution to my problem. I feel like going insane trying to think about my problem because I literally have no one to both vent anf hopefully consult to and this is the only place anonymous enough to let me let out a little steam. I'm sorry if this entire thing sounds like a manchild/incel rant but I need help saving from myself.
For the past year I have been in a long distance relationship with my long time girlfriend who is currently on the opposite side of the world. It's very difficult for us to communicate and finding time for each other due to both of us having jobs too.
Things become worse for us as she become more snappy whenever things go wrong (and I will be first to admit I didn't help much despite verbally trying to calm her down) and we have a similar discussions over our relationships and how it barely changed or improved. Eventually this cumulate into her wanting to take a break as she discovered she has depression and needed time for herself, something I completely understand. And she professed to me that she will take a chance at the relationship again once she comes back from the foreign country after her visa ended. But one thing she absolutely forced me to swear to is never mention it to her family or our mutual friends at all for no other reason than not worrying her family.
But que about a week later she mentioned about trying out a new relationship with someone else who she admited to have a short term crush on. She told me she gave him a chance after he told her he wanted to date her to see how it goes.
My reaction is not pretty to say the least. I got petty, jealous, and angry that she (maybe only in my eyes) dangled a false sense of hope at me to be cruel. That her wanting to take a break is just a front to absolve her guilt for no longer loving me. That her forcing me to keep this entire situation a secret because she knew I have no one who I genuinely close enough to talk about it at all is an attempt to punish me for my lack of attention from woking. I lashed out at her and it devolve back to the same arguement about our relationship again.
I asked her once again where did I go wrong. It's a question I often asked myself due to my rough life (a complete different story) even up to now. Throughout the relationship I understood I have too much faults but always trying to improve even when I have no idea how. This time she finally admitted she felt she's getting better while I am stagnating, always complaining the same thing over and over again about my family and not taking any leap of faith. That I'm an immature person but don't know what to point to.
It just fuelled my anger even more despite my best effect to keep calm. I told her my side of the story to her that she already knew but probably forgotten (something she does often, even down to me trying to make her happy on her birthday); I have to work slightly lower than minimum wage to support my entire family especially my sickly mother even as a middle child, that my rough childhood meant I literally have no role model to look up to, my autism never helped me at all despite my best effort, and I'm trying my hardest to be better even when it doesn't feel like it and literally clueless on what to improve on.
She doesn't belive that I am trying my best, that I'm still someone who prefer stagnation and it is dragging her down.
At this point all I have is just my own mind driving myself to insanity, constantly looking back at every little detail I can remember to see what went wrong. My mind is also actively telling me all my loved ones will one day backstab me emotionally Julius Ceaser style juat for their own benefit. I can't take my own insanity anymore and I want help.
What can I even do at this point?
Tldr: My gf called me an immature and stagnating man despite my best efforts after feeling betrayed by her. Now my mind is my paranoid demon whispering in my ears.

Is it me? Or is it her?
Hello everyone, I came here because I don't understand what is going on with my friend, like literally, it went to shit so quickly, like imagine 2 years of friendship ruined over 2 weeks.
So for quick context, I (22F) have this friend, let's call her C (21F), for now. We've been friends since freshman year of college (we're juniors now). Still, we only became close during sophomore year, along with another friend, Y (22F). We all used to be classmates in all subjects. Still, due to resectioning and whatnot, all three of us were separated into different classes (me in B, friend C in C, and Y in D, this will be important later). Y and I are always together with my friends in class B due to the similar schedules of class B and D, and we kind of adopted Y.
Y and C failed a class which is why we were separated and I helped them by giving them my notes, and one-on-one Google Meet calls with C. They thankfully passed the subject and went on to continue to junior year.
Last year, C had her first girlfriend T. They were not supposedly going to be together if I had not told her T likes her back. They've been toxic ever since the start with T telling her she wants to break up due to several reasons I won't disclose here. She keeps saying every time that this is the last straw, she's going to end it with T, but they resolve it on the same day. She has no time for us (unless during her fights with T, she asks to come to comfort her, and Y drops everything to go but I have classes every time she texts us and I make up for it ensuring she is okay by the time my class ends or giving her advice) because every time we hang out it's always "T and I are going somewhere", or "I already ate with T and her friends", or "I need alone time". We're all busy, I understand that, due to thesis and stuff (C can't do this yet because she failed another class, not her fault but still something important for later), and C and Y due to their girlfriends, and me having my responsibilities. I keep giving her advice on her relationship, but it all just goes out the other ear, and the next thing I know they're back together.
Now, here's where things went wrong. Last April, Y celebrated her birthday with us people from class B, and C was supposed to come too but canceled last minute due to social battery depletion and shit like that, we let it go for that instance because maybe she's tired (we had our last midterm exams that day), but I can kind of tell Y was a little upset about that, yet we enjoyed that day. By the next month was my birthday, and my friends planned a picnic, everyone was hyped up, and planning what food to bring, etc., but then we had a requirement for one of our classes wherein we had to teach the community regarding a certain topic we have discussed in class, and it just so happened to have been scheduled on the same day as my birthday. Our friend group was in the logistics committee so the day before, four of us went to the community to bring the equipment to be used. Then, that night, when we viewed the powerpoint presentation to be presented to the people in the community, it was full of mistakes, and we had to edit that too, so we were sleep-deprived and I had to make my script as well because I was one of the speakers for that event. So many things went wrong and we were so stressed (angry teachers, another party not being cooperative, etc) and the event had been delayed due to an unforeseen circumstance, we were supposed to conduct it from 10 am-1 pm but we started at 11:30 am and we ended at 2 pm. Y also had the same event but their class held it in a different location and timeslot. We scheduled the picnic for 4:30 pm, so it wouldn't be that hot, and we could still see the sunset, and it was just right after our respective events. C only had one class (the class she had failed) that morning. At 2 pm, we were preparing for the picnic, we bought our food, and cooked some, while that was ongoing, Y wanted to meet with C, because she was feeling down, and because she was nearer, yet C just told her that her social battery was low and was not feeling up to meeting with her, which Y just accepted and then, I realized she might cancel again, due to that, so I asked in the gc if we were going to go through with it and C replied with yes, she's coming. We were able to start traveling at around 4 pm. We did not anticipate for there to be a traffic jam halfway through going to the venue, as it was a Saturday and there was less traffic in the area in weekends, C kept asking where we were, but traffic in that area was so bad, but we arrived just before 6 pm. C kept telling Y that it was so rude for us to be late just due to that, and she was leaving at 6 if we did not arrive yet because she didn't want to be home late (the venue was around 45 mins from her house, and me and one of my other friends, T live about 2 hours away). C just texted me that she went home and that she would just get back to me on Monday, but I ignored it because I was mad and hurt because she told us she would go and then cancel last minute, but we kind of had our fun even if it was late and all that. Fast forward to Monday, I hid from her, because I was still upset. After all, she was giving the bare minimum effort to keep me as a friend, and kept subtweeting that we were who did something wrong like Y was telling us things C told her in confidentiality, we were invalidating her feelings, and our friend F (class B's president) was talking shit behind her back, which F was disappointed about (I was the one ranting, not F), and F replaced her in the friend group, so she kept ignoring us, even our mutual friend even from freshman year, J, who did nothing wrong to warrant that reaction from her.
So, yeah, I'm asking everyone if it's me who is the problem, or her? And if it was me, what can I do to fix it?

Yes, getting ghosted stings. It’s disrespectful, confusing, and it makes you feel used. But you need to re-frame how you feel about ghosting. It’s an efficient way of removing someone from your life who wouldn’t have respected and prioritized you. The best part is, you didn’t have to do anything. Ghosting is ultimately a blessing in disguise.
You always have to view rejection as a shift away from something that isn’t right for you, not a personal indictment.

1. Remember, they’re STRANGERS. It’s one thing to get ghosted by someone who you’ve been dating for two years. That would understandably take some time to process. However, just because you matched with someone, or got a number at the club doesn’t mean you have a connection. If you find someone attractive, it doesn’t mean you have anything meaningful, they truly don’t know you.
   
2. Ghosting only matters if you have limited options in your dating life. Getting fixated on one woman too early always has disastrous results. You always have to work on maximizing abundance in your dating life and always keep your options open— through online dating, social circle, day game, etc. If you have multiple dating options, if one of them ghosts, does it really matter? Scarcity is root cause of most problems guys encounter in their dating lives. In order to be successful, it’s absolutely necessary to ditch the White Knight approach to dating, where women who you barely know get the same level of commitment and devotion as girlfriend. Max your options, and Ghosting will barely be a blip on your radar.
   
3. It’s far better to phase out people who aren’t good for you early, rather than invest time and energy, or drag something out needlessly. Unfortunately, guys will endlessly chase women who keep giving them false hope, when it truly isn’t going anywhere, and she has no intention of taking you seriously. You will save time and emotional energy, even if it stings upfront. It’s better to be cut off than be used as a never-ending source of free attention and validation.
   
4. You never know what’s going on in someone’s life, but ghosting is usually a sign of someone who is emotionally immature, or is a poor communicator. Both are qualities you definitely don’t want in a relationship. It’s pointless trying to figure out why someone ghosted you. Maybe they felt unsafe rejecting someone, maybe they forgot about you. Maybe they thought Ghosting was a better alternative than being honest. Who knows. Who cares. Bottom line is, they made their choice, and it’s indicative of how they would have behaved in a relationship. Most cases, you likely dodged a bullet.
   
5. Even if you would have dated them, their level of interest wasn’t enough to maintain anything serious. No matter how busy women get, whatever they have going on in their lives, they don’t forget about guys who they’re highly attracted to. It’s a myth that women play hard to get. When they are attracted to a guy, they will reach out. They will want to interact with him, spend time with him. Getting ghosted shows that she simply didn’t care about you enough to make an effort. That’s ok. You only want to spend time and energy on those who value you. CHASING NEVER WORKS LONG TERM, and it’s an emotional rollercoaster which frankly isn’t worth the effort.
   

Final note: If someone ghosts you, don’t reach out to them and cuss them out, call them out, harass them, or generally be bitter. It does nothing. Move on. They made their choice. If you are an attractive man with options, losing your cool will only make it harder to move on. You know your value, and they simply didn’t prioritize you. In dating, not every woman is going to be attracted to you, or value you. It’s a numbers game to a large extent. On to the next.
TLDR: Although ghosting stings, remember that in most cases they are strangers. It’s a blessing in disguise because they ultimately did not have a high level of interest, so it’s better than getting strung along. Ghosting only matters if you have scarcity in your dating life. Always max your options, and don’t invest emotionally too early.
Full article on topic: https://modating.substack.com/p/why-you-shouldnt-care-about-ghosting

Full article on topic: https://modating.substack.com/p/why-you-shouldnt-care-about-ghosting
Yes, getting ghosted stings. It’s disrespectful, confusing, and it makes you feel used. But you need to re-frame how you feel about ghosting. It’s an efficient way of removing someone from your life who wouldn’t have respected and prioritized you. The best part is, you didn’t have to do anything. Ghosting is ultimately a blessing in disguise.
You always have to view rejection as a shift away from something that isn’t right for you, not a personal indictment.

1. Remember, they’re STRANGERS. It’s one thing to get ghosted by someone who you’ve been dating for two years. That would understandably take some time to process. However, just because you matched with someone, or got a number at the club doesn’t mean you have a connection. If you find someone attractive, it doesn’t mean you have anything meaningful, they truly don’t know you.
   
2. Ghosting only matters if you have limited options in your dating life. Getting fixated on one woman too early always has disastrous results. You always have to work on maximizing abundance in your dating life and always keep your options open— through online dating, social circle, day game, etc. If you have multiple dating options, if one of them ghosts, does it really matter? Scarcity is root cause of most problems guys encounter in their dating lives. In order to be successful, it’s absolutely necessary to ditch the White Knight approach to dating, where women who you barely know get the same level of commitment and devotion as girlfriend. Max your options, and Ghosting will barely be a blip on your radar.
   
3. It’s far better to phase out people who aren’t good for you early, rather than invest time and energy, or drag something out needlessly. Unfortunately, guys will endlessly chase women who keep giving them false hope, when it truly isn’t going anywhere, and she has no intention of taking you seriously. You will save time and emotional energy, even if it stings upfront. It’s better to be cut off than be used as a never-ending source of free attention and validation.
   
4. You never know what’s going on in someone’s life, but ghosting is usually a sign of someone who is emotionally immature, or is a poor communicator. Both are qualities you definitely don’t want in a relationship. It’s pointless trying to figure out why someone ghosted you. Maybe they felt unsafe rejecting someone, maybe they forgot about you. Maybe they thought Ghosting was a better alternative than being honest. Who knows. Who cares. Bottom line is, they made their choice, and it’s indicative of how they would have behaved in a relationship. Most cases, you likely dodged a bullet.
   
5. Even if you would have dated them, their level of interest wasn’t enough to maintain anything serious. No matter how busy women get, whatever they have going on in their lives, they don’t forget about guys who they’re highly attracted to. It’s a myth that women play hard to get. When they are attracted to a guy, they will reach out. They will want to interact with him, spend time with him. Getting ghosted shows that she simply didn’t care about you enough to make an effort. That’s ok. You only want to spend time and energy on those who value you. CHASING NEVER WORKS LONG TERM, and it’s an emotional rollercoaster which frankly isn’t worth the effort.
   

Final note: If someone ghosts you, don’t reach out to them and cuss them out, call them out, harass them, or generally be bitter. It does nothing. Move on. They made their choice. If you are an attractive man with options, losing your cool will only make it harder to move on. You know your value, and they simply didn’t prioritize you. In dating, not every woman is going to be attracted to you, or value you. It’s a numbers game to a large extent. On to the next.
TLDR: Although ghosting stings, remember that in most cases they are strangers. It’s a blessing in disguise because they ultimately did not have a high level of interest, so it’s better than getting strung along. Ghosting only matters if you have scarcity in your dating life. Always max your options, and don’t invest emotionally too early.

Author’s note : Everything’s free to use and monetize or paywall as you wish, just remember to credit me please. As I’m not a native English speaker, you can feel free to make slight changes to make it better, as long as it doesn’t change the whole story of course.
Summary, listener’s perspective : Your girlfriend needs you but you’re busy and she doesn’t want to bother you, to be too much. You need her too and work can wait, reassuring her and spending time with her is more important.
[ ] = stage directions
** = sound effects
*Footsteps\*
*Doors opening and closing\*
Baby ? Babe ? Where are y… *excited\* There you are! Hey! Hiiiii. How are you? What are you doing?
*disappointed\* What kind of work? I thought you said you were done…
Another one? But…
No.. nothing.. It’s just… Do you know if you’re going to be done soon?
Oh… I see…
Uhm… It’s just that… I missed you…
No, it’s just. I know. I mean… I want to spend time with you and… But you’re working so… I’m just… I’m gonna go… Sorry for disrupting you…
No, no it’s okay! I’ll wait until you’re done. I’ll… I’ll find something to do… I… I can watch some TV…
I already did the dishes, the trash is out…. Everything is done… It’s ok my love, I’ll find something to do! Don’t worry. Focus on your work!
No it’s fine I swear… We… We’ll do something together when you’re done… That’s all. It’s ok…
I… Can I? I won’t bother you if I stay here? You usually don’t really want me around when you need to focus…
I’m not… That’s not my fault! You’re the one who can’t control yourself around me!
I… I’m sorry… Yeah… I… I need you right now… I’d really love it if I could stay with you while you work… Thank you baby.
Ok…. I’ll do my best not to distract you.
Uhm… What? Why not good enough? What do you want me to say?
I see… But…
Alright.
I won’t distract you, on purpose. I’ll stay as quiet as possible and patiently wait for you to be done so we can spend some time together after. Is that better?
Come on babe… You know I can’t promise to just behave… I don’t know what I’ll want to do in the next 5 minutes… Right now I just feel needy and I want to be close to you… Ideally I want to touch you as well but… I’m sure I won’t be able to control myself then so…
I’m lonely, babe! You can’t blame me! You’ve been at work all day and once home you came straight to your office to work some more! I barely saw you today… And that makes me sad!
I know it’s not the same work… That’s what you're passionate about and honestly I wish you could make a living out of it… You probably would be so much happier if you didn’t have to see your coworkers everyday…
What?! That’s the truth! You often complain about them!
Awwww do I?
You made me happy too! So much! I’m so lucky to have found you.. Really. I cherish the day we met with all my heart.
OK ok I stop! But!
I love you too. More than you can imagine…
I…
I don’t know! It’s just a phrase! Just to tell you how much I love you! I’m not… I’m not good with words… To make you a big, romantic declaration… I just… I just feel so… Much with you…
YES “good much”! Come on! Stop teasing me!
Not right now…
Because I’m needy. Emotional. And it’s not fair!
Thank you baby…
I can sit on the couch. I’ll read a book and won’t disturb you.
Mmmh?
Why do you want me to sit there?
No. Tell me. I don’t want to pet play. So tell me why you want me to sit on the floor next to you.
Oh. OK! Yeah! Sure! I.. Yes.
Stop laughing…
I know what I said. But I’ll take head scratches anytime. Especially right now, if you offer me some physical touch, I’ll take it.
[Speaker is sitting on the floor next to the listener]
Yes… That feels good. Really good. Thank you babe…
Don’t you need your hand to work?
Finish? I thought you said you still had a lot to do?
Oh… I see…
It’s not my fault! Stop saying that I’m evil! I just need you, I don’t force you to do anything!
I know…. It’s just… Sometimes…
Sometimes I feel like I bother you, you know?
Because… I feel like I always come asking for attention when you… You don’t talk or show your emotions a lot… So… Sometimes it feels like you… You don’t want me… And… So… Sometimes I feel bad for being needy… Because I feel I annoy you… And… I don’t want to lose you so… I’m scared of being too much…
No, it’s okay it’s okay! I… I never told you that either, so… I guess you couldn’t know… I mean… You can’t read my mind! But… Yeah…. That’s why I didn’t really want to ask for anything when I came in and that… I wanted to leave you to finish your work… To give you some space…
I know… I’m sorry… It’s just….
Some people called me clingy before… and not in a good way… So…
No, it's fine. I’m ok. Just… You’ll tell me if something’s wrong, right? If I’m being too much?
I’m serious, baby! Don’t make jokes right now! It’s… a really big topic for me…
It’s fine… Just tell me you understand?
Thank you.
Mmmh?
I know… I love you too.
Cuddle? Already? Are you done?
You can finish you know. Being next to you with your hand in my hair is comforting enough for now.
Well, I didn’t prepare anything to eat because we have a lot of leftovers on the fridge so I thought we needed to finish those before making anything else. Why?
Oh! Yeah of course! We can do that. When you’re done, I’ll reheat a few things while you set up the living room and we can get back to the TV show we were watching last time.
I don’t know what it’s called! You picked it!
Yes I like it but it doesn't mean I remember what it’s called…
Stop making fun of me! I have a very bad memory… It’s not my fault…
I remember that there was a big explosion in the last episode and we were left on a cliffhanger if the main character was dead or not. And obviously they’re not because we have like 4 episodes left so…
What do you mean?!
I… I’m just very logical and some of the things you make me watch don’t have very surprising plots.
No I don’t mean I don’t like them!
Umph…. You are in a really good mood…
I’ll pout if I want to!
Alright… I’ll prepare our dinner… And then we cuddle for the rest of the evening!
Yay! Heheheh
Be right back! *kiss\*

AITA for trying to cut ties with someone I’ve know for 10+ years? I’ve known this person for 10 years maybe 12.( can’t remember exactly the time we met. Let’s call them Beth. In the beginning of our friendship Beth and I were great we went to school together, we were always hanging out with each other. We were so close that people thought we were each others girlfriends. Time goes on, I get into an abusive, controlling relationship and I move out of state for a year or two. I come back and Beth and I hang out and it’s like nothing ever happened. It’s always been this way. More time goes on, and Beth and i are busy I’m a single mom I have my hands FULL. Beth become best friends with someone else let’s call them Sam. Beth and i meet up and when we do it’s to talk about things and sometimes gossip . It’s been like this for a while we’ve gone out to actual places museums and events maybe a handful of times in the last 4-5 years. During that time, they also became friends with someone else, let’s call them Sarah. So Beth, Sam and Sarah are all hanging out. Sarah decides to become “friends “ with my abusive ex partner. Beth and Sam both tell Sarah “ hey you shouldn’t be friends with them because they’re (me) ____ ‘s ex partner and they’re NOT a good person.” Sarah ignores it and is wrapped around abusive assholes finger. Long story short she experiences some of what i went through. Sarah ends up losing Sam and Beth as friends. I’m dealing with other things with my abusive ex taking me to court for family law and guess who is there to testify for my ex… Sarah. That drew the line and I’ve never felt bad for Sarah. How dare she get in between that. ( side note she is one of the girls my ex cheated on me with emotionally and verbally)
A year- a year and half goes by Sarah hits up Beth and asks if they can meet up to talk. Beth tells me, and asks” what should i do?” At the time we both didn’t not like Sarah and it was VERY clear. To be petty we both agreed to have Beth hang out with Sarah to see what she wanted. Sarah was asking Beth if they could be cool again if things are okay etc etc. Beth said and I quote from their mouth. “ We’re good. But we will never be how we were because of everything that has happened. And we can get coffee but it will not be the same and will take a lot of time for it to be what it was. And we will NOT talk about _____ (me) and their child and ex partner they’ll not exist to us. “ Beth also told me “ I’ll never hang out with her it will take a long LOOOONG time for us to be anything to go out together”
Which is thought was a great thing and i would appreciate that. Because i hate Sarah.
Maybe 8 months?? goes by. I’m watching instagram stories and Beth and Sarah are hanging out taking photos together and being close which is exactly what she said she wouldn’t do. They went to a small town , then to a concert together and a bar afterwards. I finally had enough of her sneaky ways and have made myself very distant from her. I reposted ONE video on social media and she is constantly sub posting now and sub-tweeting about me now. We were sharing locations and i turned that off. Am i the a-hole? Am i over reacting ?

Hi reddit!
Me and my girlfriend has been together for 5 months now. Everything is going great and we enjoy each others company. I am very happy to be with her.
This is my problem. About a week ago i stumbled upon her bestfriends pretty active tiktok. She kinda uploads everything up there. Out of boredom i went through a good amount of her videos, not searching for anything specific, just watching funny videos of my girl. I found a few very detailed videos about my girlfriends previous sex life, and it made me very uncomfortable and extremely disgusted, and honestly made me change my perspective and attraction towards her. Its not something i want and is proud of and i am currently trying work it out, thats why im typing this.
During our relationship I have never struggled with jealousy or insecurity about her past. We have discussed previous relationships and our bodycount etc, no problem at all. I have felt very comfortable with our relationship until now.
To put thing in perspective, i found 4 videos and this is the content of them:
• A video of my girlfriend wiping something of her wall with the caption ”finally she decided to clean the c*m of her wall after the worst hookup ever!” (Worth to note that this video was uploaded like 2 days before we started dating which made it even worse.
• A video of her demonstrating an... intereresting sex position she did with a guy.
• Two separate videos of screenshots of my girlfriends texts she sent to her bestfriend. Which included pretty explicit texts. I dont have to explain, you get the hang of it.
When i saw these my heart sank. I decided to tell her what i saw and how i felt. I only told her that i saw one video, which was the first one on the list above. She only said like "dont worry about it its in the past etc". I told her to get that video deleted and i said ”if there are any other explicit videos of your past you have to make sure you get them deleted”. I only told her i saw that one video because i dont even wanna hear her explain the rest, trusting her she would delete the rest of them without me telling her to. She said that there werent any more videos even though i know there are. Checked her friends tiktok about a week later and her friend only deleted the video i mentioned to my girlfriend, but the rest are still up.
Then you might think: ”maybe she forgot those videos existed?”. That is not the case because she has told me multiple times during our relationship that i cant check her bestfriends tiktok, obviously because of these videos but i didnt think i was that serious.
I just feel extremely disrespected. In my opinion (correct me if im wrong) its my girlfriends responsibility to not have any of that uploaded to the public the moment we get in a relationship. It should't be my duty to tell her to get those deleted, in my opinion she should have done that herself a long time ago. Clearly she knew that these existed. After this I have felt very uncomfortable around my girlfriend when we hang out, and I just feel like I cant love her the same way I used to. I also feel disgusted because for me sex is something that to some degree should be kept private. At least the details. I dont even wanna know what she is telling her friends about our sex life as she clearly dont have a problem to let the whole world know about it.
My girlfriend also stuggles with jealousy, much more than I do. She gets jealous even when she hears a name I have had a previous relationship with. I know that if the roles were switched in this situation she would react way worse than i do. Thats why I think its very wrong even having these videos up.
Please tell me if I am overeacting or being insecure, or if this is normal. I want to solve this as I really like her and want to be with her, but if these feelings I am feeling right now doesn't die down. I feel like i dont have a choice but to move on. Any advice would be much apprectiated as I feel pretty lost.

So my partner and I have been together for 8 months. We currently live about an hour from each other and see each other on the weekends.
Our relationship started out great, with consistency and we had a lot of fun together. Things seemed balanced and we even took a weekend trip to New York which solidified to me that we were very compatible. It seemed to be the real deal and he was very charming, successful and could also be very playful.
Recently there have been some instances that have upset and confused me. He recently accepted a 12 month position in another city for the 2025 year and let me know via text while I was at work and that we were going to have to be long distance for the year. I was upset that he dropped that news that way and that I apparently didn't have a say in how we would make it work. We talked and he agreed not to share big news while I was at work or via text.
Then a few days later he texted another bomb while I was at work, that his ex girlfriend *may* be terminally ill and that he will need to leave to help with her care work. This caused a fight. He also said that he was not on speaking terms with her in the weeks prior to this text, but suddenly was willing to drop everything and go across the country to care for her. She still has not let him know if she is ill...
He also takes up a lot of space in the relationship to talk out all his emotions from work, hours at times. He has now started to suggest and replace several things around my home that he considers to be more to his liking (only organic everything, replaced my trashcan, several dishware/cookware items, soaps and requested that I place a separate bedside table for him to use.)
We have talked about temporarily living together for the summefall and he does have a key to my home. I took a half day recently and in the middle of the afternoon while I was sitting in my kitchen he walked into the house unannounced. He was shocked that I was home and began telling me that he was only there to use the bathroom (which he did) and then came out and stated that he should leave. I offered to have him stay and explain why he felt entitled to enter my home when he thought I would be away. He then said he was planning on letting the dogs out to help me out and would have left a note.
Things seem to be escalating and hoping to get some feedback on his behavior and what I should do...

I (27F) ended up getting involved with an incel group. I was lonely and thought other lonely people would understand. This was pretty stupid, but I didn't know any better at the time because the internet is still new to me (personal reasons). Many of the incels were pretty hostile (for the obvious reasons), but some were actually very nice. One of them was a complete prick. He just wouldn't stop bothering me no matter how nice I was. If I ignored him, he just kept going. I started trolling him back (again, very stupid) and this went on for a little while.
One day, I messaged him privately to let him know his attempt to report me failed. Don't ask me how, but we ended up just clicking. It was amazing. We talked all day long. He's funny, smart, charming, sweet, interesting, and (he doesnt think he is) but very, very, very handsome. We started a relationship, and I was very happy.
However, I'm in the middle of a mental health thing and recovering from some trauma. It causes these weird mood swings that I have minimal control over. As he started to voice how serious his feelings were, I grew concerned. Don't get me wrong, I felt the same way, but he had never had a gf before. The only relationship I ever had was with this sadistically abusive guy that I was forced to be with. Other incels in the group would post suicide notes after a girl rejected them. I started to worry that if we didn't work out (because of my mental health stuff or if I just lost feelings), I could cause him to harm himself. Even though I loved him, I started to feel trapped-like I was in another relationship that I can't really leave. Every day that I stayed was another day for him to get more attached to me. I'd tried to leave him before during a mood swing, and he took it very hard. He basically told me I wasn't going to leave him and blocked me until the morning when I calmed down.
I had a moment of clarity and realized what a dangerous game I was playing. I loved him, but I'm not in the right mental state for a relationship. I left him again, but this time I sent a message telling him why I was leaving. I told him that I loved him but I'm scared that I will hurt him by continuing this relationship. He's never had a gf so he can't see all my massive red flags. I blocked him after sending the message so I would never see his reply. I knew he could talk me into staying and I needed to do it before I lost clarity.
I miss him so much though. He was the best part of my day. I still love him. I want to believe that I did the right thing, but part of me thinks I only reinforced his incel views. The first girlfriend he ever had dumped him and never spoke to him again. That's only going to make his issues with being rejected by women worse. Should I have stayed and taken my chances? Or was I right to end it when I did? AITAH?
TLDR - I broke up with an incel that I love because I'm scared I will only make him worse. I'm scared that leaving him may have the same negative effect.

So me and my ex-girlfriend broke up about 4 weeks ago and she left me a break-up gift. In the gift was my stuff (my shirt she had for sleeping, the toothbrush I had at her place and apples, I order an apple with my meals but I didnt finnsih them until the next day). She also left me 2 little drawings of my dog in a field of flowers and another one with my bees ( i beekeep as a hobby) and a note that read "thank you for the time you spend with me" and on the drawings in the bottom there was also a song link, the link is to the song " the adults are talking - the strokes " I dont know why this song. I have been overthinking the song ever since, can someone explain why this song and whats the meaning behind it. I do miss her but the relationship just couldn work I wish it could!
thank you, Kuty5!

For about three years now, I've (27) been interested in my female best friend (27). To deal with these feelings, I've been dating other people and trying to distance myself emotionally from her. Which had worked pretty well for me. We could hang out and i wasnt really thinking anything else. Nevertheless, I knew that my interest had not waned.
Last week, we went to a party together, and three different people asked if we were dating. I was quite surprised that so many people asked about it that night.
Yesterday, we met up again for a concert and had a long talk afterward. Six years ago, she was dating my best friend. When they broke up after a year, he told me that he wouldn't be happy if we got together. I took note of that at the time. He has now been in a relationship for three years, and his girlfriend even asked me if I was involved with my best friend. I denied it, and she said that my best friend wouldn’t mind anymore. My best friend also mentioned that he had personally asked her at the party if something was going on between us. She also told me that he had said it would hurt him if we were involved back then.
I'm considering talking to my best friend about this, but I’m not sure how to assess the situation since this topic hasn’t come up so prominently in the last five years.
Given the history and potential complications, is it worth pursuing a relationship with my best friend's ex? Should I talk to my best friend about it? Also, I’m not even sure if she’s interested in me. I really value our friendship and even though she's not my type, there's not really another person I feel as comfortable with as her.

Location: San Francisco, California
"Here, you'll need these." F stated as she handed out a couple pairs of anti-sentinel goggles, Wade taking them as he replied to F.
"Thanks, I've still got mine, Tina could use these too." F raised an eyebrow as Wade gave his girlfriend a pair of the shaded visors, Tina examining them before trying them on.
"What are these, F?" Tina asked her disassembly drone friend curiously, F putting a hand to her hip as she answered her.
"Anti-sentinel visors, Coalition specialty. Since we're going into that factory upon landing, we'll be most certainly running into some nasty baddies. Knowing our experience from the factory, sentinels will most likely be among that lot." Putting on her own set of goggles, she continued. "These visors will keep them from taking you out of the fight with their boot-loop lights."
Duncan raised a finger as he added his warnings on the sentinels. "Aye, best watch your back though. Even if they can't Medusa ya in place, they're still feisty beasts to wrestle." Chuckling, Duncan shared a morbid example. "I remember one lad who tried fendin' one off in a pirate cell, but he wasn't ready for those sharp talons those things have."
F nodded in agreement as she glanced to Tina, her confused expression from before returning as she asked the pilot drone for her reasoning. "By the way Tina, why do you need one of those? You plan to head out with us or something?"
The pilot drone nodded in affirmation as she explained. "If it's no problem, I'd like to help Wade out with the fighting inside the labs. Him and I did hold off well enough against a few of them, didn't we?"
Wade nodded to Tina as he put a hand onto her shoulder, backing up her rationale. "That might work, we've got this baby on autopilot, right?"
F added onto Wade's reasoning as Tina gave her own nod of affirmation. "These Chameleon dropships can be flown by a single pilot under certain situations, and though I really shouldn't advise it, I think the ship will do fine while we're inside." The warrior drone gave a wink to Tina as she continued. "You did say you wanted to help Wade with taking down Halloway, after all."
Nathan chuckled lightly as he gave his thoughts on the matter. "Yeah, and once Tina sets us down, I doubt they'll care much about the ship once we've started heading out."
"Indeed." J stated aloud, catching the attention of all in the conversation as she spoke to Wade and Tina. "I don't doubt your skills when fighting together in combat, but until we land, Wade will have F and I at his side. You just keep the ship safe during her run. Got it?"
"Won't be a problem, Mrs. J." Tina replied with a salute, J looking on in slight amusement as Wade looked to his hand, curious about his full arsenal.
"Something wrong with your hand, Mr. Carter?" J asked in calm concern as Wade zipped his head up to face her.
"Oh, no. Just... wondering about what kinds of weapons I've got on me." The former worker drone answered as J held her own arm out to show off.
"Well, that's not a bad question. To be completely honest, there's countless different tools and weapons you can pull out of those arms." J began swapping to different armaments and devices with her hand as she stated some examples. "Laser cannons, machine guns, grenades, rockets, welding cutters, flags, markers, the list goes on." Swapping her hand back, J gave a proud smirk to Wade as he swapped focus to her chest pocket, which was full of several pens.
"That's a lotta pens." Wade said aloud, prompting his friends to eye J's filled pocket as she glanced to it.
"Ah, yes. JCJenson's very own branded pens! Picked up a few from that military base before we left." Pulling one out, she playfully pressed the clicking button on the top of the pen several times as she explained her strange bundle of writing utensils. "You're probably wondering why I have so many, let's just say I was... done in by more than just that kid's laser gun I mentioned earlier. Thought I'd take notes from her." While gazing at the pens, one of J's eyes shifted to a triangle with an exclamation symbol, text under it reading, "PRIOR HAZARD"
Looking at the weaponized pen J was implying with stunned eyes, Wade laughed nervously as he replied to his fellow murder drone. "Ah, that sounds... intimidating."
"Indeed it does, I'd almost regret bringing them with me after that incident. But, on the bright side," Tossing a few of her pens to Wade, J continued speaking once he caught them all. "it helps me come up with better methods of attack. You may find they come in handy in that place yourself."
Looking at one of the branded pens, Wade nodded in agreement before putting them in his own front pocket. "I'll make sure they're put to good use, J."
"I'm sure you will." J replied just before an alarm sounded through the troop bay, several soldiers moving about in preparations for the imminent fight outside.
"Get set, everyone! We're going in hot real shortly!" Sergeant Thomas declared as he sat himself on one of the wall seats, Wade looking to Tina as she began to return to her post.
"Welp, no time to lose." Giving a quick kiss to Wade, she spoke to him once more. "Watch my back, love."
Wade nodded to her as she made her way back into the cockpit, then turned to J as she addressed the group. "Alright, get yourselves seated, we're gonna have hostiles coming at us any second!" Looking to Wade and F, she gave her orders to them. "F, Mr. Carter, you'll watch the sides of the ship once we open the bay doors! I'll fly as escort outside!"
"Understood J!" F said as she and Wade gave nods of agreement to their fellow disassembly drone, who made her way to the left bay door to await its opening.
Turning off the autopilot, Tina took hold of the steering handles before witnessing the sight ahead: A massive battlefront, two of the presumed three corporate starships Mr. Jenson dispatched hovering over the large research tower. Several aircraft zoomed about, some pursuing one another as they clashed in fast dogfights above the city. Near the large tower, Tina could also spot small specks flying about, catching a faint gleam of yellow shining at her. She didn't need to guess what those objects were as she braced herself with a deep breath for her flight, knowing that the lives of dozens of soldiers, as well as those of Wade and his friends, were now in her hands.
Stepping near the large door, Wade held onto a handle so as to brace himself for the force of the wind outside. Looking to the other door, Wade saw F in a similar posture to him, the warrior drone gazing to him as she spoke. "Hang onto the handles, Wade! Give them Hell!" Wade nodded without a word as he prepared a variant of laser cannon from his free left hand: A barrel with a silver tip and lights at its sides, a scope at it's top, a small cylindrical tank lit in yellow underneath. Looking upon its design, Wade's visor scanned the weapon in an instant before highlighting it as a "PULSE BLASTER".
Wade's attention was brought to the area outside as the large bay door opened up, revealing part of the battle-ridden cityscape beyond. Incredibly, most of the buildings were well intact, with only a select few sporting a trail of smoke or a fire atop them. Flying in the sky were a few more dropships, the escort squadrons breaking away forward to engage the hostile craft ahead of the transports. Wade could hear the whir of bullets and laser blasts as the skirmish above San Francisco commenced.
With F's bay door open, J deployed her wings before zooming out of the ship, flying over it before forming up right above the dorsal turret, which was slowly turning to take aim at an incoming fighter. The corporate plane looked quite strange for a terrestrial aircraft, sporting a bubble window over the usual fuselage with the window at the top. Its wings were swept forward, curving downward with a set of missile racks under them. The tips of the plane wielded a set of hybrid weapons, appearing to be a blend of a machine gun and a laser cannon. The back end of the ship sloped upward, sporting a pair of dorsal fins along with a longer one going downwards.
Tina kept her grip firm on the flight handles as she saw a laser beam fire at the approaching enemy plane, which failed to evade as it was struck by the yellow death energy. Seeing another fighter coming at her, Tina prepared to move the ship to her left as she quickly tapped a button on the controls, speaking to the gunner in the bubble turret via the speaker panel. "Gunner, keep watch for any bogeys, missiles and fighters!"
"You got it!" The officer replied as he held the trigger grips firmly, moving them along as he took aim at the second plane zooming at them. It fired a few missiles as the gunner shot at it, scoring several clean hits to its hull as it began to dive erratically in a trail of smoke. As for the missiles, J took aim with two laser guns before firing, the pair of beams slicing the projectiles into a fiery blaze.
On Wade's end, he was pointing his blaster attachment at another incoming fighter, which only managed to fire one missile before being chased off by a friendly A-20 plane. Wade fired a flurry of yellow bolts of energy at the approaching missile, several shots lighting missiles into flames before it could hit. The former worker drone wasn't given a moment's peace as yet another fighter dove at the dropship, its wing guns lighting up as it began to fire its lasers. Acting quickly, Wade flew out, J forming up with him as the two extended their wings. The murder drones' attempt at defending their ship was surprisingly successful, the two holding back the hot blasts of energy with their wings.
As the hostile craft broke off, J spoke aloud to Wade. "Good work, keep it up!" Wade nodded without a word as he flew back inside, taking hold of the railing again so he could continue holding off the hostiles outside.
In the cockpit, Tina flew the ship upwards, dodging an incoming plane that was falling to the city in flames. Steadying the ship, Tina kept watch for more hostiles, seeing that the Administrator's tower ahead was a bit closer, as were the disassembly drones fighting around it. Flying downwards, Tina leveled the ship out as she heard the voice of the Lapu Lapu's comm officer on the radio. "We should be a third of the way there, hold on out there!"
Readying her missile launcher, F took aim at an incoming fighter, getting a swift lock before firing. Two projectiles flew at the target plane, its pilot clearly on alert as it broke away from the Chameleon in its attempts to evade. Spotting another ship, F took aim at it, firing three missiles at the hostile craft. To her concern, the craft refused to brake away, sending its own trio of missiles before starting to break away. As the plane was struck by her dispatched arsenal, F readied a laser cannon before firing at the lethal trails of death. With help from J outside, the weapons were destroyed, though one did get dangerously close as it was lit aflame, the shockwave shaking the aircraft violently as it tilted to the right slightly.
Tina grunted as she tried to stabilize the ship, almost yelping as she spotted another aircraft, diving down on her with a hail of bullets. Metal pangs sounded from the damage taken by the weapons fire as the dorsal turret returned the favor, striking the plane on its nose as it began to fall to the city. Tina roared in immense effort as she jerked the ship upward, just barely dodging the smoking fighter as it passed over them.
Unbothered by the rough flying, Wade took aim at another fighter, a flurry of laser bolts coming at it as a few struck the craft's hull. The disassembly drone grinned in satisfaction as the fighter dove down in flames, crashing into another hostile plane in a bright ball of fire and metal scraps.
"That's some fine shootin', Wade! HAHA!" Duncan declared with a hearty laugh, a few of the other troopers cheering with him as they admired Wade's efforts. The miner drone smiled in appreciation as he kept his gaze towards the fighting outside, Cyn's large tower creeping into his view at the side of the dropship.
His brief break was interrupted as he heard a beep from his visor, noticing a call coming from J. Preparing a radio from his free hand, he answered his fellow disassembly drone. "What's up, J?"
"We're about to make our descent to the landing pads, I need you and F to help me fight off some of these rogues!" J ordered firmly as Wade looked to F, the warrior lady still focused on the enemy forces in the sky.
"F, might wanna get someone else to provide cover fire, we're heading out to help J!" Wade called out, F turning to acknowledge his news as she responded with a nod.
"Got it!" With that, she flew out of the dropship, Wade following after as he prepared for some more aerial combat. Wade swooped out of the ship with a roll, readying a sword blade in place of his other hand as he observed the sky battle around him and Tina's ship. Dozens of disassembly drones were spread out across the sky, many clashing their metal weapons or shooting at one another with a gun attachment of some sort.
It felt like the disassembly drones were having a massive civil war of sorts to Wade, with the clangs of swords, deathly cries of a few of the drones, and the faint spillage of oil from the injured ones, there was almost no mercy between the disassembly drones as they fought their former comrades in a mass deathmatch.
Returning his focus back to the mission, Wade searched for J and F, spotting them chatting over the transport. Flying over, Wade received some additional words from J on their goals. "Alright, we're gonna split up. F, you take the left wing of dropships, keep those traitors off their backs. Wade, you watch Mrs. Tina's ship and her escorts. I'll hold the right side."
"Won't be a problem, J. Those ships will make it to that pad down there, or I ain't a Carter!" Wade replied as he flew ahead of the dropship, the drone ladies splitting up to assist the other ships on their flight to the landing pad at the lower neck of the tower.
Speaking of the large tower, Wade observed the large structure. The top of the building had a sleek 'head' section, a curving window built into the face of it. Wade guessed it must've been some sort of observatory station. Going down, the tower slowly extended out as it sloped downwards, shiny grey panels going downwards past the landing pad. Beyond that, the panels continued down until reaching the city grounds below, a oval-shaped foundation sitting as the base of the tower.
His examination of the tower was disturbed as he spotted a descending VTOL craft, its markings showing its allegiance to the company to Wade's eyes. The design felt like a mix between the Chameleon and the Yellowjacket, sporting a window that went to the ships nose. Below the cockpit area was a small machine gun, slightly swiveling as it prepared to take shots at its target. The main hull had an open storage bay that carried very few people, from what Wade could see, and had a short tail extending out holding two maneuvering thrusters at the tips.
Before it could attack, however, a flurry of missiles struck at it, obliterating the craft into scrap. Glancing behind him, Wade spotted two Yellowjacket VTOLs, both fully manned as they formed up behind Tina's Chameleon.
Seeing that the worry of large aircraft was covered for the most part, Wade returned his focus ahead. His timing was almost perfect as he immediately spotted a hostile disassembly drone flying at Wade, who held his sword up in front of himself in a defensive manner. Flying fast, the drone's single blade clashed with Wades, the former slowing with a flap of their wings as Wade fired his blaster gun. The murder drone's wings took a majority of the damage as they left burn spots on them, Wade flying at his opponent as the two struck each other's blades.
Swapping his gun out for a claw hand, Wade noticed his enemy's nanite tail rising to strike. He didn't allow it to as he grabbed it with his claws, slicing the tail off as he held off the disassembly drone's two swords with his own one. Trying to distract his opponent, Wade struck his rival in the foot with his own tail, the male drone grunting in pain as Wade took his chance. In need of fresh oil, Wade dropped the broken nanite tank before grabbing onto his enemy, cutting one unrestrained arm of the drone off before biting into his head. Unfazed by the drone's cries of pain, Wade readied another claw hand from his sword before impaling the disassembly drone in their chest, ripping their core out before letting their body fall to the ground below.
Crushing the core, Wade looked to see another disassembly drone flying right at his transport. Like a dart, Wade zoomed in front of it, grabbing the unprepared drone with his sharp claws before pulling the arms off. Swiftly, he swapped his claws for pulse cannons before firing at the injured hostile. Wade managed to score a few hits on the drone's chest before they shielded themselves behind their wings. In a desperate attempt to hurt Wade, the drone flew at him in a spin, acting as a living fan-blade with their wings. The former worker drone guarded his form with his own wings, rapid clangs against them signaling the continuous impact.
Upon ceasing their spin attack, the two rivals broke away, Wade's eyes glancing behind him for a second as he heard Nathan call to him. "Wade! Look out!" Seeing his opponent still injured, Wade went at the drone again, grabbing them as he heard the sound of a rocket behind him. Wade turned around and held his enemy in front of him, a missile from the transport striking Cyn's minion as they groaned from the blast. To finish them off, Wade bit into the rival drone, slurping their oil as their visor began to flicker out. Once they passed out from the oil loss, Wade pulled the drone's core out with his claw hand, ending its life with a metal crunch.
Looking to the transport, Wade saw it starting to descend to the landing pad, along with its VTOL escorts. He flew down with them, intent on seeing their successful landing.
Wade's eyes were directed above as he heard the maniacal laughter of two disassembly drones, a male and a female. The duo came closer, their visors bearing yellow 'X's and their mouths wide with sharp teeth.
With careful grabbing, Wade pulled out one of his branded pens before throwing it with all of his might, the two disassembly drones splitting up ever so slightly as to evade the speeding projectile. To Wade's surprise, the pen hit its target, piercing the glass casing of the female murder drone's nanite tank as it spewed out glowing yellow acid. Some of that acid managed to splash onto the other drone, who yelped from the burning pain as he hovered in place to get the acid nanites off.
Readying a pair of swords, Wade and his uninjured rival struck at each other, merely locking their blades as they began to fight. Holding back the hostile bot, Wade pushed the murder drone off of him before taking a swing, commencing a flurry of fast swings and panging of metal weapons. Eventually, the duel climaxed as Wade struck at his opponent's arm, partially disarming her before kicking her through the air. Flying over, Wade and the disassembly drone were now on the opposite side of the dropship as they continued to fight. Still disarmed, the murder drone held her one blade up as she blocked another attack from Wade, the blades clashing violently.
Pulling one sword away, Wade prepared to cut down the enemy drone, but slowed as he saw her nanite tail shooting up at him. The former worker drone narrowly dodged the attack by no more than inches as he moved his head to the side, swinging his blade up to cut the tail off. Bringing his own to bear, Wade struck the wounded arm with his own tail, trying to slow its regeneration speed. Preparing to strike down the hostile drone, Wade was stopped as he was grabbed onto by the other murder drone, who took hold of his free arm in order to restrain him. The female disassembly drone added to her opponent's struggle by biting into his arm, Wade yelping as he tried and failed to hold her in place.
Now free from his grip, the two drones took hold of Wade's arms, intent on tearing him into pieces in the air. Wade grunted ferociously as he tried to pull back his arms, hoping to free himself before losing his weaponized appendages. He didn't have to worry for long as two missiles came at the enemy drones, blasting them both off of Wade as he glanced to see who shot the savior projectiles. Duncan pumped his free fist in the air as he silently cheered on his ally, who looked back to focus on his opponents.
With the two disassembly drones disoriented, Wade readied a pair of laser cannons before firing them, the beams burning into the injured drones and eliciting pained cries as they were hit. Quickly swapping to a pair of chainsaws, Wade spun at them in an almost manic manner, cutting into the two drones in their failing alertness. Slowing his spin, Wade looked to see his two rival drones falling to the ground below, split into several pieces as oil spilled out after their remains.
Looking back to his transport, Wade saw it nearing the landing pad before hearing a beep from his visor, indicating a call. Swapping one blade for a radio, Wade listened to the transmission being sent by Tina. "Everyone, this is Transport Beta-4G, we're about to be setting down!"
As Wade watched his girlfriend's ship begin to lower onto the large circular platform, he saw the two XB-41s holding position at the sides of the landing pad, two more transports moving downward to land as well. Flying down, Wade watched as Tina touched the ship down onto the landing pad, several Coalition and USN soldiers hopping out onto the large platform in an effort to secure the area. As he neared the pad, Wade flapped his wings to slow himself down before landing, his wings retracting as he prepared his blaster cannon.
Turning to face the transport, Wade walked towards it as several Coalition troops took positions around the main pad, F and J flying down to land beside him. Walking alongside her teammates, J praised their work. "Nice job, you two. The soldiers should be able to hold the line here for the most part, I'll take charge of the squads here. I want both of you to prepare your teams, do what you can to investigate and detain any data you find. And Wade," The drone in question looked to J with a stern face, J gave an encouraging smirk as she spoke to him. "Good hunting in there."
Wade nodded with a smirk of his own as he heard the sound of swooping from above, F and J looking along with him to see a flock of disassembly drones approaching, at least ten of them. Thankfully, these ones didn't show any aggression as they landed, J walking over to one of them as they spoke to her. "J, we're a detachment from the DeLorean. Her captain sent us down to assist you and the troops here."
"So I heard." J replied appreciatively before giving her orders. "Mr. Carter and F here are going to begin their raid on the labs, I want you to hold out here until we're finished with this place."
"We won't let you down, Ma'am!" The friendly murder drone declared eagerly as he and the other drones saluted, Wade observing them all for a moment before returning his attention to the transport ahead.
Wade and F went into a light jog in their traversal to the dropship, Tina stepping out of the ship as she spotted her love. Sharing the gaze, Wade came up to her while F hopped aboard to gather their team up. "You ready for this, honey?"
"I was ready in the pilot's seat, I'm most certainly prepared for this, Wade." Tina replied as she pulled out her pistol, holding it in a guard as Wade wrapped his arm around her.
Looking up to F, she stepped out with several others, Kurtis, Nathan, Gerard, and F's old squad among them. "Okay, my buddies here will be with me. Wade, you'll have Kurtis, Nathan, and Gerard with you."
"Got it, let's stick close in case we run into trouble out here." Wade replied as F gave an acknowledging nod, the two taking point in front of the large team behind them as they all began walking down the mini bridge leading to the entrance door.
As they got almost halfway down the platform, a loud, rising sound shook the group, Wade and Tina looking on in horror as a large energy beam fired up past the bridge. The blast struck one of the corporate cruisers above the tower, its hull burning in a bright blaze of flame and debris as the ship was downed.
"What in blazes was that?!" Duncan exclaimed as he and his teammates backed up slightly, watching the large starship slowly fall to the city below in flames. Concerned about where the blast came from, Wade and F looked to the origin of the blast. The heavy sounds of metal legs touching against the building hinted at an enormous object climbing up the building.
And enormous it was, as Wade and his allies looked on in petrified awe at the rising sight before them. Crawling up past the bridge was a large, four-legged walker mech, big enough to stand atop the bridge. The main body of the walker looked to be some kind of cannon, with a large, roughly cylindrical shape to it all. Along the black body were white armor plates attached around it, with the main weapon barrel being of a silver color. The legs holding the mech up were sharp, and, squinting at it, Wade saw a hint of red within the black internals of the white-armored legs, which had sharp claws at the ends of the 'feet' parts.
The large walker let out a mechanical howl as it stopped climbing, moving slightly in an attempt to come down onto the landing platform. Tina held onto Wade as she observed the metal beast in fear. "What in the devil is that thing?!"
F pulled out her radio, speaking into it for potential intel on their new foe. "F to J, you got anything on this?!"
"That's... not something I recall seeing on the company inventory." J replied uncomfortably as she too observed the large crawler, which hunched down against the building before leaping forward. The platform, be it by sheer luck or miraculous strength on the its part, did not fumble from the impact as the walker landed hard onto it, sending a shaky quake across it. The assault team was trying hard to remain balanced against the sheer force of the walker's landing as they snapped out of their stunned trance.
As Wade and Tina recovered from the shock of the walker's landing, J spoke through the radio once more. "I'll get the DDs to keep this thing distracted, you all try to find a weakness on it!"
"Understood, J!" Wade replied to the speaker on F's hand as he deployed his wings, looking to Tina before speaking to her. "Tina, hop on!"
The pilot drone heeded her boyfriend's call as she hopped upon his back, the two taking flight as F prepared to do the same. Zooming over to the walker, the two examined the closer details of its exterior, not spotting much to go after. Going up to the walker's side, however, Wade saw a potential target: At the left side of the walker was a door hatch, completely sealed so as to prevent threats from entering the walker with ease.
"This looks like a good spot!" Wade declared, glancing behind him to see F flying up next to him. "Let's see if we can make a break in, tear it apart from the inside!"
"That sounds like a good idea!" F replied as she spoke into her radio again. "J, you mind sending a few extra hands? We're gonna need them for our little attack plan here!"
High in the air, J answered her comrade through the speaker. "You'll have it, stand by!" Swapping out her radio for a laser gun, J called out to two of her nearby disassembly drone allies, who were getting ready to pounce onto the walker before J called to them. "You two! Our team's about to try and bring this down, head down there and give 'em a hand!"
"With pleasure, Ma'am!" One drone replied as the other simply laughed lightly, the two zooming down to the walker to assist their allies near it.
Looking back to the walker, J spoke aloud to some of her fellow disassembly drones. "Let's get that beast's attention! Fire at will!"
The horde of drones complied as they all fired their weapons at the walker, lasers, bullets, rockets, and many other munitions striking the sturdy armor of the walker.
Clamping onto the walker with a set of claws, Wade began to cut into the door with a chainsaw hand, F hovering with her weapons ready as the two heard the sound of disassembly drones flying over to them. F turned to them while Wade did his work. "Ma'am, J sent us. We'll help you with whatever you need!"
F responded with a nod. "Get your weapons ready, we're gonna gut this walker!" The two drones returned the gesture as they prepared various weapons, hovering with F as Wade continued cutting into the walker.
"I've... almost got it! Just a minute more, and-" Wade said aloud before being cut off by the walker's bellowing howl, the massive mech lifting upwards as it began to charge up its main weapon.
J watched in anxious anticipation as the walker's barrel began to glow in a brilliant yellow light, the beam charging up again as it prepared to fire at its attackers. "Evade! EVADE!" J warned loudly as the beam fired, a few unfortunate disassembly drones being vaporized by the huge laser as it shot across the sky. Despite her effort to dodge, misfortune followed the victim drone as J cried out in immense pain, her arm having narrowly been caught in the blast and completely disintegrating into vapor. Hovering in place, J held her damaged shoulder, sparks and smoke emitting from the wound as J glared at the beam-walker in renewed rage. Redeploying her laser cannon, she continued firing.
Continuing to saw the door open, Wade laughed victoriously as he nearly finished cutting the hatch off. Getting a bit impatient, Wade ceased his slicing and prepared a second claw hand, pulling at the door in order to tear it off. The sealed hatch tore from the walker with a loud grind of metal, Wade tossing the door away before readying a laser rifle from one of his claws.
"Alright! Let's do this!" Wade declared as he and his three disassembly drone comrades flew inside, entering a small corridor before being blocked off the back of the walker by a hostile murder drone. Taking aim, Wade fired his laser at the enemy, the drone holding their swords up in an attempt to defend themselves. Flying at the drone, Wade clashed his blades with theirs, the two stuck in a deadlock as Tina pulled out her pistol, firing at the drone's head. The distraction elicited a cry of pain from the murder drone before Wade bit into them, sucking in the delicious, warm oil.
Once he was finished, Wade continued on to the back of the walker, F and her allies heading to the front to cause any bit of trouble they could. Reaching the aft end of the walker's internal structure, Wade saw another disassembly drone getting ready to pounce on him and Tina. Quickly readying a shotgun, Wade fired several blasts at the drone as it covered itself under one of its wings. As Wade kept pummeling the murder drone with his shotgun, Tina took aim at their exposed nanite tail, firing at it as the tank broke off. Getting close, Wade reached for the tank with his newly formed hand, ceasing fire as the murder drone began to unshield themself.
Wade didn't waste a second as he threw the nanite tank upon the drone's exposure, striking at the drone's face as they yelped in agony. Arming himself with two chainsaws, Wade lunged at his opponent, cutting the hostile drone into many oil-covered pieces.
With the immediate threat dealt with, Wade and Tina backed up to examine the glowing light at the inner wall to their left. The light was coming from what seemed to be a controlled singularity, an exceptionally rare source of power that humanity hadn't learned to contain until the announcement of the Administrator's creation. Given what it was powering, it was safe to say this was a source of energy Cyn used for her fancy toys.
"That must be its power source!" Tina stated firmly, Wade readying a grenade launcher as he prepared to fire.
"Hold on, Tina. This is gonna be nasty!" Wade warned as his girlfriend held on tightly to him, Wade shooting several grenades at the glass protecting the black hole core as it shattered loudly into many shards. After about four or five shots, the singularity collapsed, the walker groaning loudly from the lack of power as the walls of the mech's innards began to creak and pop with smoke.
Noting the imminent danger they were in, Wade readied a radio before yelling into it. "F, get yourself clear! This thing's gonna blow!"
Without waiting for a reply, Wade turned around before flying back the way he came, zooming through the corridor and out the broken door hatch. Ascending upwards, Wade stopped as he hovered in the air, F and her two escorts flying out to him as they all watched the collapsing walker. Sparks began to emit from the legs, their armor plating collapsing in on the dark leg joints as they seemingly began to melt away into ash. The main hull of the walker began to catch flame for a few seconds before exploding in a bright ball of fiery light. Covering their faces, Wade closed his eyes until the light dissipated, then re-opening them to see the results of his crazy act.
The soldiers at the pad, and those among Wade and F's team, cheered and laughed at the incredible sight, the broken remnants of the beam-walker lying flat in a smoky haze and burning flames. Flying down to the platform, Wade and F's team ran over to the quartet of drones as they touched down, Tina hopping off of her boyfriend as she laughed in bewildered excitement.
"Holy shit, Wade! That was insane!" Kurtis exclaimed with a hearty laugh as Nathan added to the congratulatory comments.
"Yeah, you guys scrapped that thing REAL good! Haha!"
"Well, I wouldn't have been able to pull that off by myself." Wade replied as he glanced to Tina, then F and the two escort drones as the former spoke to him.
"You can say that again, honey. I can't believe we pulled that off!" The pilot drone let out a laugh as she patted Wade's arm, the former worker drone sharing the amusement as they both heard the high swooping of wings. Looking up, the couple saw J flying down, holding her damaged arm as she touched down with an impressed smirk.
"Well, you both excel at causing a ruckus." The corporate drone said with a smirk as Tina put a hand to her mouth in shock, concerned over J's well-being.
"J, your arm! Are you alright?" Tina asked worriedly as J responded sheepishly.
"Uh-huh. I'll be fine, just need some oil to patch this up." Pulling out a canteen, J held out the bottle for someone to help her open it. Wade assisted her without a word as he unscrewed the lid, allowing J to drink up some of the liquid drone blood inside. Once she was done, Wade helped her seal the bottle before she put it away. "But besides that, you did an incredible job out here. I'd say it's a sort of... happy accident that you were converted."
Wade gave a shaky laugh as he replied to J's compliment. "Well, I hope those clones I've been hearing about carry the same wills, J. We'll need it."
J gave a nod of agreement as her arm began to regenerate, the group looking pleased at her recovery as Duncan spoke up in amusement. "Hah, now THAT'S making me regret not comin' along with Felicity here when she left!"
"Yeah, wish they had something like that for us fleshbags." Carlos added humorously, J chuckling at the soldier as she replied to the comments.
"Perhaps you will, Sir. Maybe one day." Then, looking to the large laboratory ahead, J continued a bit more sternly. "But if we want that to come true, we should get inside that place and start looking for such research."
Wade nodded in affirmation as he remembered the original plan. "Right, we should get going. You're gonna hold the line here, J?"
"Correct, I may head out with the ship that carries whatever vital materials you get from in there. That is, if you find any." The corporate drone replied before taking back to the air, preparing to continue her duty outside. "Good luck, and like I told you, Wade. Do what you will with Halloway, just make sure that program is stopped." With that, J flew into the air, heading back to the dropships as Wade and his group watched her depart.
Looking to his friends, Wade concluded their sightseeing break. "Alright, no time to lose. Let's go." The group collectively nodded to the former worker drone as he took the lead, Tina, F and the rest following close behind as they ran to the nearby doorway to the inner sanctuary of Cyn's fortress.

Hello everyone, I came here because I don't understand what is going on with my friend, like literally, it went to shit so quickly, like imagine 2 years of friendship ruined over 2 weeks.
So for quick context, I (22F) have this friend, let's call her C (21F), for now. We've been friends since freshman year of college (we're juniors now). Still, we only became close during sophomore year, along with another friend, Y (22F). We all used to be classmates in all subjects. Still, due to resectioning and whatnot, all three of us were separated into different classes (me in B, friend C in C, and Y in D, this will be important later). Y and I are always together with my friends in class B due to the similar schedules of class B and D, and we kind of adopted Y.
Y and C failed a class which is why we were separated and I helped them by giving them my notes, and one-on-one Google Meet calls with C. They thankfully passed the subject and went on to continue to junior year.
Last year, C had her first girlfriend T. They were not supposedly going to be together if I had not told her T likes her back. They've been toxic ever since the start with T telling her she wants to break up due to several reasons I won't disclose here. She keeps saying every time that this is the last straw, she's going to end it with T, but they resolve it on the same day. She has no time for us (unless during her fights with T, she asks to come to comfort her, and Y drops everything to go but I have classes every time she texts us and I make up for it ensuring she is okay by the time my class ends or giving her advice) because every time we hang out it's always "T and I are going somewhere", or "I already ate with T and her friends", or "I need alone time". We're all busy, I understand that, due to thesis and stuff (C can't do this yet because she failed another class, not her fault but still something important for later), and C and Y due to their girlfriends, and me having my responsibilities. I keep giving her advice on her relationship, but it all just goes out the other ear, and the next thing I know they're back together.
Now, here's where things went wrong. Last April, Y celebrated her birthday with us people from class B, and C was supposed to come too but canceled last minute due to social battery depletion and shit like that, we let it go for that instance because maybe she's tired (we had our last midterm exams that day), but I can kind of tell Y was a little upset about that, yet we enjoyed that day. By the next month was my birthday, and my friends planned a picnic, everyone was hyped up, and planning what food to bring, etc., but then we had a requirement for one of our classes wherein we had to teach the community regarding a certain topic we have discussed in class, and it just so happened to have been scheduled on the same day as my birthday. Our friend group was in the logistics committee so the day before, four of us went to the community to bring the equipment to be used. Then, that night, when we viewed the powerpoint presentation to be presented to the people in the community, it was full of mistakes, and we had to edit that too, so we were sleep-deprived and I had to make my script as well because I was one of the speakers for that event. So many things went wrong and we were so stressed (angry teachers, another party not being cooperative, etc) and the event had been delayed due to an unforeseen circumstance, we were supposed to conduct it from 10 am-1 pm but we started at 11:30 am and we ended at 2 pm. Y also had the same event but their class held it in a different location and timeslot. We scheduled the picnic for 4:30 pm, so it wouldn't be that hot, and we could still see the sunset, and it was just right after our respective events. C only had one class (the class she had failed) that morning. At 2 pm, we were preparing for the picnic, we bought our food, and cooked some, while that was ongoing, Y wanted to meet with C, because she was feeling down, and because she was nearer, yet C just told her that her social battery was low and was not feeling up to meeting with her, which Y just accepted and then, I realized she might cancel again, due to that, so I asked in the gc if we were going to go through with it and C replied with yes, she's coming. We were able to start traveling at around 4 pm. We did not anticipate for there to be a traffic jam halfway through going to the venue, as it was a Saturday and there was less traffic in the area in weekends, C kept asking where we were, but traffic in that area was so bad, but we arrived just before 6 pm. C kept telling Y that it was so rude for us to be late just due to that, and she was leaving at 6 if we did not arrive yet because she didn't want to be home late (the venue was around 45 mins from her house, and me and one of my other friends, T live about 2 hours away). C just texted me that she went home and that she would just get back to me on Monday, but I ignored it because I was mad and hurt because she told us she would go and then cancel last minute, but we kind of had our fun even if it was late and all that. Fast forward to Monday, I hid from her, because I was still upset. After all, she was giving the bare minimum effort to keep me as a friend, and kept subtweeting that we were who did something wrong like Y was telling us things C told her in confidentiality, we were invalidating her feelings, and our friend F (class B's president) was talking shit behind her back, which F was disappointed about (I was the one ranting, not F), and F replaced her in the friend group, so she kept ignoring us, even our mutual friend even from freshman year, J, who did nothing wrong to warrant that reaction from her.
So, yeah, I'm asking everyone if it's me who is the problem, or her? And if it was me, what can I do to fix it?