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Hi guys, just wondering if I’m wrong or right here. I understand this may come across quite misogynistic but need some opinions.
Me 26m and partner 25f
My partner has it pretty sweet, we have a 3 year old child that goes to Nan’s twice a week so she can have a break, to make her life easier I pay for a cleaner so she literally doesn’t need to do any cleaning at all she can’t cook so I do every night (this can be a little difficult because I work 16 hour days regularly) always in my home office so around 5pm I’ll do the dinner then go back to work, any free time I get I spend with my child, I get up to him everyday so I can see him in the morning and spend an hour or so with him. She wanted a dog….we got one she didn’t want to walk it so I pay for a dog walker, all our clothes our done by a laundrette not her, we go on at least 2 holidays a year, live in a £1m house, rolls Royce on drive etc, her life is literally unreal I pay for it to be so easy and simple she has lunch out everyday most women’s dream, I expect two things from her…..I don’t care that she doesn’t want to cook or clean etc that doesn’t bother me I expect loads of love from her, and sorry to be crude but I expect her to be sucking whenever I want, she used to do it at the click of fingers she knew it was important to me and I would give her whatever she wanted if she was like that, 8 years in we are majorly successful but she has no care for my sexual needs, she actually think she has it difficult. Am I wrong for thinking about ending it ? It’s not necessarily the act of not doing it that makes me want to finish her it’s the fact she won’t do the one and only thing I ask her to do. Most partners expect their partners to have the house spotless and dinner on the table etc,
Am I wrong ?
Tldr - I’ve given my girlfriend a perfect life now she doesn’t suck

Hello long post I'm sorry!

 I am 30f I had hurt by back lifting at work in October 2020 and was bed ridden. fast forward January 2022 I had a Microdiscectomy that changed my life it took me from constant pain to practically pain free a complete change of life. After surgery i was given 2 months worth of heavy restrictions and 6 month plan to get me mobile I did have a standing 25 lbs lift restriction. May 9th I coughed in bed on my side and felt something pop. I didn't get out of bed until morning when I collapsed. My left leg which has already significant nerve damage and numbness in my toes was completely numb from knee down when I tried to stand the worst pain of my life started in my back and shot down the back of my leg. I had my mom to take me to the hospital. Took a few hours The hospital called in the people for mri because I couldn't sit or lay I could only stand hunched over the bed. Turns out I reherniated not sure how big they said but it was significant and they were worried about the nerve. My last surgeon couldn't come to the hospital I was at and the ER Dr didn't think it best to transfer me out. So I had their neurosurgeon do the emergency Microdisc they said I would need. 

This is why I am making the post. This surgery was supposed to be routine but instead of taking 2 hours it took 5. Which happens surgery isnt exact. Dr explained to my husband I was in so much pain because the disc had herniated around the nerve pulling it into my spine the surgery took so long because this wasnt seen in the MRI. I woke up in pain only really being able to stand for relief again. My nurses told me to plan on being in hospital 3 days after surgery because I have a huge flight of basement steps to get home. Iwas sent home the next day the 10th When I seen and asked my surgeon about the surgery he sort of shrugged and casually said I may need fusion surgery. He said the nerve was really deep and permanently damaged (again) When pressed by my husband about preventing fusion DR said that there is nothing we (him the dr or I) could do that it's a disease of the disc and that it's not preventable. He gave me no restrictions not when I asked what I should be doing what the plan for mobility was he said "whatever feels right to lift 5 pounds before 10 Limit my BLT." He also said I could go back to work right away because I work from home. The strangest part is he told me no Tylenol no ibuprofen to take 4 vicodin a day for 14 days. He will see me in a month. This doesn't seem right to me my last surgeon gave me 3 days of some kind of pain med and I remember taking Tylenol and a muscle relaxer. I don't take pain medication after a family member became dependent after a leg surgery and it tossed up his life. My real question is Has anyone had success with this type of "do whatever" treatment plan? Or is the surgeon expecting me to know to follow the recovery plan from last time?

I have 2 dogs. 8 year old and 4 year old. Both about 70 pounds. When I don’t work I walk them for an hour to an hour and a half everyday. I take them to parks and stuff. We have a blast. I start working a job that drains me to the point all my free time I spent laying in bed when I’m home and I feel like I can’t decompress or recover. I haven’t been walking my dogs for a few months now … idk how to do it. My dogs are unpleasant to walk together too. I’m on a waitlist for a trainer. And going for two walks seems impossible.
I was considering alternating days but I truly feel like I’m in a trauma freeze from how much I hate this job and how much it’s taking away from me. I don’t even make good money but I’m stuck here until my contract ends. I have 3 weeks left and then I feel like I will have time to walk my babies again.
I hate this disease. I hate it so much. It ruins my life. I can only do one thing a day and working 5 days a week is ruining every aspect of my life. I gained weight, I’m not taking good care of myself. I feel like a complete mess because I have no energy left after work.
I work with 5 year olds. 20 of them. I am overstimulated from 8 am to 3:30 pm everyday. All day. It drains me to the point I have considered admitting myself to a psych unit to escape work..
I need to take care of my babies and walk them please help. I tried getting on meds but all the places that take my insurance aren’t accepting new patients. I feel like I’m at the end of my rope here and ready to give up.

Hi, ordered two lots of postage and realised they were for wrong address. Cancelled, asked for one to be put into credit and one to be refunded to my card as it turns out I can package both items together so I don’t need both.
They’ve been put forward for “approval” for a refund but I’ve heard nothing back. I really don’t want to order postage again as it was expensive and I’m due a vouche credit refund so hoped to use that. But the buyer is getting annoyed.
Any way to speed it up?

Hi all,
Recently dug myself out of a 4 month unemployment bout and got a new job. Long story short, it’s leagues better than my previous position which I’m ecstatic about, but during my unemployment period I’ve racked up a fairly low yet decent credit card debt.
My goal during that time was to not touch my savings for any reason since it’s taken me some time to really get a savings going. But recently I’ve been thinking if I should clear my debt rather than wait for paychecks over X amount of months (will go into detail).
Currently have a Discover card with around $1600, and a Chase sapphire with $3200. My first check I put $1k into the Discover, so technically it’s around $600, total CC debt a little under $4k.
I’m sitting at a little over $9k in my savings.
So I’m thinking a few options.

1. Pay off my entire debt which affects my savings, but no longer have high debt and continue back on my original track with money into my savings. The money used for what would’ve been CC payments just goes straight into my savings.
   
2. Do not touch savings. Wait until end of month when I’ve received both checks and put half toward my savings (this would take until around the end of June, mid July I’m projecting, my first check this month wasn’t a full two weeks since I started a little later)
   
3. Half and half set up. Pay half with savings, remainder with paychecks. Doesn’t affect my overall savings as much, doesn’t feel like it’s taking forever to pay off with my biweekly checks.
   

I’ll say I do have some upcoming payments that I’ll need to put on my CC which I’m taking into account, but as of now the main goal is to chop down at this to 0 as efficiently as possible. TIA!

I woke up in an awkward position. On my knees with one ear on the ground. Toddlers sleep like this. I can't remember ever waking up in this position. The last thing I remember was going to sleep. With, admittedly, a few too many beers. Not enough beer to let me wake up like this, in the middle of a grass field?!
There was no wind. The sky looked weird. It did not feel like I am outside. Groaning I went into a sitting position. I must have slept on that field for quite a while. All my muscles were locked up. I was lying on the side of a street. Slowly getting up. I looked around. Along the street were houses that had a cartoonish look. Lots of white fences. it looked to nice to be real.
Suddenly I caught movement in the corner of my eyes. I turned around and my jaw dropped when a house started to appear. Wall by wall it appeared. Last thing a door was added and it swung open. I peeked inside and looked into a livingroom/kitchen combination. There was no hallway. A few more doors in the back. And a coffee machine. I really could use some coffee right now. Could I just brew myself a cup? Who's house was this? I figured I could always apologize myself for any perceived trespassing. Everything too weird to be constrained by normal conventions. Cofee-time.
While I was drinking coffee, something above my head happened. What was that? Something green. Still drinking coffee, I decided to try the other doors. One was a bedroom, the other a bathroom with a shower and a mirror. A mirror! I walked over to see a green bar above my head. I pinched myself to see if I was not dreaming. Asshole. You didn't have to pinch that hard, I said to myself. and took another sip of my coffee. The green bar filled a bit more. That was good. I guess?
Meanwhile, another bar was emptying. That was not good! What would that indicate? I had to use the toilet. Lots of processed beer. With a sigh of relief, I disposed of it. And saw the depleted bar filling up again. Now another bar dropped. This was crazy. And somewhat worrying. At least I did not feel any worse than I normally would have after some beer.
I started to wash my hands and saw the last bar filling again. So what do we have here? A bar that tracks how clean I am? A bar that tracks my hrm bladder needs? And maybe a bar that tracks hunger or thirst? I wonder what that's for. Maybe I am some kind of test subject?
I decided to go out and look on the street again. It was eerily quiet. Most of the houses were a lot bigger. I walked over to the next house and rang the doorbell. No answer. After trying a few more times I gave up and went back to my house. My house? Why would I think that? That was not my house! But it had coffee. Maybe there was more, as my stomach started to tumble.
Time to inspect the refrigerator. It had very little in it. Only a microwave hamburger. Better as nothing. I tried to remove it from the fridge. The actually removing worked, as I now held a burger in my hand. There was still one in the fridge too. I could think about that forever and still get no answer. Still puzzled I put the burger in the microwave and waited 45 seconds *PLING*
The sounds startled me and I nearly fell off the chair. Yes, I was jumpy. Who wouldn't be in this situation? My thoughts went back to home. My parents, my younger sister. My younger sister, didn't she play a game like this? Did she do this to him? It would be a great prank, but putting me in a simulated environment was too much to credit my little sis for.
He wouldn't have thought about that game if it wasn't for the news article he read. Nearly a billion copies were sold last month. There was not a major release or even a bug patch recently. Even the company selling the game was baffled. Something in his mind clicked when he remembered another news article. About people randomly disappearing. someone was putting abducted humans in this game. People could not do that. At least not people from Earth. Maybe aliens.
O. My. God. I thought. Of all the games aliens could have stumbled across, it had to be the most obnoxious one. Whoever gave aliens The Sims deserved to be shot. Even Tetris would have been better, This was sacrilege to the gamer community. His thoughts were confirmed when the doorbell rang and he heard the nonsense talk outside: "Suul suul, oh feebee lay".

Edelgard is the hero. The only moral greyness here is that she works with the Dubstep Molemen instead of trying to kill them all a day after becoming the Emperor... If she fails she wants to die by Dimitri's hand... She didn't have Hubert reach out to Claude about the Slitherers... She's willing to sacrifice Bernie if forced to... she was too hurt to reach out to the other House Leaders and try to get them on her side while they have no good excuse for not reaching out to her and taking the risk of opening up to them means taking the risk they will ruin her only shot at the power needed to change things... and she's willing to risk the Slitherers defeating her after she conquers the other nations.
Dimitri is a lunatic who eventually gets over it. The story takes for granted that he is always justified and necessary and his redemption and rise as a good King is worth whatever it takes to get there. Where this story normally has the balls to call out bad Lords and bad Nobles and bad Goddesses, it falls apart with Dimitri because they want to sell funko pops of him. Dimitri has people in his House who were hurt by Nobility or Crests or both yet they never get to make a coherent argument for continuing the nobility because to argue for such a thing is impossible without assuming the system is right to privilege the lucky and hold down the many. No, not anyone can wield a speshul weapon, so these people should be soldiers who can dedicate their lives to training and battle, these people should not be high ranking government officials overburdened with other responsibilities. The Crested, the Nobles, the Royals, they are not inherently better than commoners, and the system should not treat them as such.
Rhea had countless years to get over her losses and stop experimenting on people. Countless years to try harder to remedy the abuses of power in her system.
It is bad writing that Hubert enjoys going mwahaha and likes being feared and hated and was raised to be a fanatically devoted servant of Lady Edelgard because when he is that, there is no interesting tension in who he is as a person, what he wants to be, what he has been through, what he wants for the world. Dedue is written the way he is to humanize the victims of Duscur blamed for the Tragedy of Duscur and humanize Dimitri because Dimitri didn't blame Dedue for all of this and try to slay him on the spot, Dimitri tried to save him, and Dedue continues to serve Dimitri despite how he is hated because that's what a big deal Dimitri is to Dedue. When Dedue becomes a monster it's written as a noble sacrifice, and when Edelgard and some of her nameless faceless soldiers become monsters it's written as a tragic loss of humanity. Even though it would have been so much stronger if the Black Eagles Strike Force got to have that moment with the Crest Stones, not faceless Empire troops. Make them survive longer than they did if need be, Hubert survived death enough times.
Edelgard isn't "a literal fascist", she doesn't even give a damn about railroads. I bet she's never read a single book on fascism by actual fascists. Or a book on fascism by people who detest fascism and would surely definitely totally represent it more honestly than anyone else and understand it better than anyone else too.
Yes, I believe it is bad writing when the writers of this game try to paint Edelgard as someone more morally grey than she is while painting her opposition as better people than they are. Yes, I believe it is unfair to hold Edelgard responsible for what she potentially does in routes that demonize her while refusing to give her credit for what she does in routes where she is the hero. Yes, I believe it is unreasonable for her haters to say "She is evil for working with the Slitherers instead of taking them out overnight" as if that would be easy when they have a nuclear missile and Nemesis and as much control over the Kingdom as they want. Edelgard's flaws make her an interesting complex hero and Dimitri and Rhea's flaws make them interesting detestable villains. More interesting than the Slitherers.
Remind me again, what's that nonsense platitude Dimitri spouts when it comes to Edelgard's hatred of the Goddess who failed her, and her belief that mankind is better without such delusional superstition? Something about him believing people are strong where she believes they are weak, or vice reversa, or something something cycle of violence? Edelgard is right to detest the myth of the Goddess who failed to save her family. It's not like she plans to outlaw it across all of Fodlan once she takes the throne.
Would you say the cops are going too far if, instead of giving a billion dollar company a fine of a few million dollars for killing and failing people, they ensured the people responsible were punished appropriately and got replaced no matter who was willing to die to violently defend them and the power they abuse?
Every time the writers try pretending Edelgard is "pushing things too far too fast" they make excuses for the system and its injustices and act as if it's the victim's responsibility to ensure the continuity of authority or the peaceful transfer of power. Dimitri is a terrible king and so was his father. Claude couldn't protect Lysithea. Edelgard strives to make a better world without the problems that create people like Edeglard, Dimitri, Lysithea, Dorothea, Hanneman, Mercedes, Jeritza, Byleth, and more. In the routes where Edelgard doesn't win, we are told things still got better because this is a video game meant to sell characters and it would harm the FEH profits if people who picked a house solely for a character they were attracted to were told this results in a bad ending where the problems only Edelgard truly cared about enough continue to plague the continent. For as much as this story roleplays as a deep nuanced tale of countries and ideologies at war, this is still a product under capitalism meant to sell, and the most financially viable route under capitalism is to "Both sides" the problems the rich and powerful and privileged create for the underdogs and demonize any underdogs who "go too far" to preserve the illusion of neutrality. Even though being neutral on a question like "Should the system that enabled the family problems of Mercedes and Bernadetta continue or be annihilated across all of Fodlan by any means necessary?" is abominable.

I will be starting my degree in analytics soon and was hoping I could get some questions answered on the testing process as my enrollment counselor was unable answer my questions. My current set up is a dual screen desktop which is in my open concept office that attaches to the rest of my apartment with no doors. Alternatively, I have a MacBook as well which I could use for testing in my bedroom should doors be needed.
My questions are: - In the Computer Science and/or analytics program, do you need dual monitors for testing or is it fairly simple to just use one? - In your experience do the testing staff allow for open concept floor plans during testing assuming no one else is home? - Do I need to lock up my dog or do they allow them to free roam during the testing? - How long does testing typically take? In my prior school, I was allowed two hours for testing but typically only took one hour. Is it pretty normal to finish before the time allotment or do you typically find yourself crunched for time? - Do any of the exams contain short answer prompts or is that only on the project based courses? - Are you allowed restroom breaks during testing? If yes, does that take away from your total time? - Are you allowed to drink water during testing? - Is there anything you wish you would have known about the testing process prior to your first exam?
Thanks in advance for all the help!

Hello.
Every time I get to the payment page on Six Flags, it denies my purchase. I was able to create a link to share for the bring a friend offer as a passholder, and I use that external link to successfully buy a ticket this morning. However, the site is not letting me buy an individual single day ticket at all. I’ve tried using my Wi-Fi and my cellular data. I’ve used private browsing windows and regular ones. I’ve even tried to VPN. I’ve tried different devices in different credit cards that I all know . No luck. Any ideas what’s going on?

Let me preface this post by stating I am making this on my phone, so my formatting will probably be hideous. I am sorry. I appreciate any of you who still choose to read through my post and add your own thoughts on the topic. Now, let's get started on why I made this post.
You may often see inspiration tree recommended as either your primary or (more likely) your secondary tree. Oftentimes you will see 'cosmic insight' suggested. You may opt to change it, if you are unaware why it is so strong. You may leave it, but not understand why you take it. You might just autopilot and not really care. Regardless, if you are someone who likes the concept of strategizing in league, this post is for you.
Now, let's discuss what cosmic insight offers you:
18 summoner spell haste 10 item haste
These aren't exactly flashy, right? Especially when you compare them to other tree's third row/tier. Summoner spell haste is already great. It has good synergy with lucidity boots, too. I am not too concerned about explaining the value of it in this post. You can go to the league Fandom website and see how much it will lower your summoner spell CDs, and then you can draw your own conclusions from there. What I really wanted to have a discussion about is the second line (item haste). This works with actives and passives that have CDs (i.e. An active passive such as Zhonyas will have a lower CD if you take cosmic insight. A passive that has a CD such as Luden's companion will also have a lower CD if you take cosmic insight). OK, so you may be thinking 'so what?' Well, let's use the aforementioned Luden's companion as our primary example below.
Luden's companion has a baseline CD of 12 seconds. Every 12 seconds, you get your 6 charges. However, when you take cosmic insight, you lower that CD to just under 11 seconds (10.91 to be exact). It might not seem like much, but think about skirmishes. Think about extended teamfights. Think about the trades during standoffs around an important objective that spawns. Heck, think about it over the course of an entire game. It all adds up more than you might realize. Just like how the balance team will sometimes add or takeaway 5 AD from a champion, and then said champion's winrate will fluctuate X% as a result. Most might see that tiny change and think 'that doesn't do much', but they would mistaken. Obviously, depending on your build, cosmic insight's usefulness will fluctuate. If you are playing Malzahar, for example, then cosmic insight probably isn't worth it. You probably won't even have any items that can utilize it.
Finally, with all of this said, let me tell you which items (meaning if you build these items, you should heavily consider taking cosmic insight) gain a substantial amount of power with cosmic insight:
Any sheen item - especially Ezreal players that build one
Unending despair - ANY player building this seriously needs to take cosmic insight or just don't build this item.
Any tear item - regardless of your champ, if you build tear, take cosmic insight. You will get stacks so much faster, and your completed item passives will be up more frequently
AD junglers that plan to build a tiamat item or sundered sky
Bonus point: If you play ARAM, I'd take cosmic insight on any poke champ who builds even just one item that benefits from it
I could have spent hours on this post giving comparisons to other third line/tier options from the same [inspiration] tree as well as other trees, but there is no real definitive 'always take X rune' type thing. Sometimes you may take a different tree than inspiration purely because of the first or second line/tier rune that is offered there. My primary goals here were to shed light on the items that benefit a lot from cosmic insight and to hopefully have at least one person see this post and have their brain start churning. People need to realize runepage adjustments can sometimes be so clutch; especially in scenarios where your champ looks like it's going to have a hard time. The combination of adjusting your runes and items based on different scenarios can legit turn what would feel like unplayable matches into somewhat salvageable matchups. Even if all you gain overall is a slightly higher win percentage, that's better than having more losses, right?
Anyways, enough of my rambling. Sorry if my post was all over the place. Feel free to agree or disagree in the comments. Feel free to not comment at all. I just had an itch in my head that wouldn't go away until I shared this information. Happy gaming to you all!

I and my girlfriend have been together for about 18 months. I knew from the start that she had high standards for effort from me, and slowly but surely I've felt as though I've bettered myself to meet those standards. We've had a great time with each other and took the plunge and moved in together two months ago.
We both have demanding jobs that take up a lot of our time. On top of this she teaches an exercise class and trains 4x per week. By virtue of having a bit more free time, I am doing the cooking, laundry and other household chores. I don't mind doing this, but I don't feel like it's being appreciated. There is a laser focus on the things I do wrong or inadequately.
Our sex life has fallen off a cliff since she moved in. I have jokingly suggested that it is because I am behaving like a housewife and doing everything she says, and that she wouldn't see me as a man as a result. I am starting to believe that this is actually true.
After a few drinks on a trip a few weeks ago, we had an honest chat about why we haven't been having as much sex lately. Without going into detail, she basically confirmed what I was worried about. She feels like she can walk all over me and is much less attracted to me because of that.
I try to be as open as possible with her, and have told her straight that I am no longer just going to say 'yes' to everything she asks of me or apologise when I feel like I'm in the right. This has caused us to butt heads over stupid things. Last night I was struggling to stay awake as we watched a TV show together and I denied that I was falling asleep. This very much annoyed her, but my view was that it isn't a big deal. This spiralled into a big fight and I left the room, when in the past I would normally have just told her she was right and apologised for sleeping. After the dust settled I said to her that if we have kids in the future, we need to act like a team and not get at each others' throats over pointless things like this.
I love her but I'm starting to resent giving up my hobbies and seeing my friends a lot less in order to keep up with all the housework as well as organising regular dates for us to go on. If she was appreciative and happy and we were still having sex, I would be fine, but we aren't. I feel like I'm making her life a misery, she is definitely in a bad mood more often than a good one. Any time I've raised my concerns that she might not be happy in the relationship she brushes it off as me being silly.
She knows I'm a simple person and am at my happiest when we're not arguing and she's being nice with me, but lately those moments feel rarer and rarer.
Any advice as to how to fix things would be very appreciated. When everything is rosy we get on really well and have a great laugh together. I want to stay with her but I feel like it's slipping away. Specifically I would like help on a) how to stand my ground without it causing ceaseless fighting b) how to make her more appreciative for the housework I'm doing and c) how to improve her mood generally
Thank you!

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A wurm is an earth dragon, with a lower half like that of a lamia. She can't fly, and she's a little ditzy, but she's plenty lovable.
Guide to the script:
(words in italics): Suggested sound effects
(words not in italics): Voice cues and narration
Uaagh: Sleepy wurm
Eeeek: Happy wurm
It's okay to monetize this script, make minor edits to it and genderflip it. Please note that the sound effects are optional.
Script length: About 1.5K words
It's strange. I used to read a lot of monster girl stories before I got into ASMR. I don't do that anymore, but on some days, I'll remember a scene or a sentence from one of those stories. And then I'll want to write.
For the listener:
You return home from work to see your wurm girlfriend coiled up by herself in her ‘pillow fort’. A cold, fierce storm is raging outside and you know how much the thunder scares her. So the two of you snuggle up together and gossip, just the way things should be.
...
SCRIPT:

(Thunderstorm ambience. Rain and low rumbling of thunder are heard.)
Uaagh. Where were you?
I was worried you were stuck somewhere. I was about to go look for you, but you told me not to go outside on my own.
I know. People are afraid of me. Because I can smash through buildings. But I was worried. What took you so long?
Oh. The trains got delayed because of the thunderstorm?
Are you alright at least? (Sniffing) I do not smell any injury on you.
Good. Will you help me sleep? I couldn’t sleep because of the thunder. And I wanted snuggles. I missed you.
I get stressed when I can’t coil around you. And when I get stressed, I get hungry. So I ate all the chicken we had. But I still can’t sleep.
(Ruffling of sheets and pillows)
Yay! Let me coil around you. I can already feel your warmth.
(Coiling sounds)
Mmnnh. You’re so warm. How do you do it? How are you so warm?
Oh. Because humans are warm blooded. Yes, you told me earlier. But I forgot. Sorry.
Yes. You also told me not to apologise. Sorry.
Hmm? Why are you shaking your head? Is there an enemy present in this room?
That’s it, isn’t it? Where are they? I cannot see them. Are they hiding in the wall? Should I tear it down?
Oh. I did tear it down last week. But that’s because I thought you were trapped inside! I heard you calling from the other room but your voice was so faint and you were taking so long. I thought you needed help!
Are you mad at me?
(Sighing) You always say that. That you can never be mad at me. But I am not sure. You never take me outside with you. This morning, I saw some pigeons on the lawn and I went to say hi to them. I even used the doorknob this time instead of smashing through the door. I was really gentle. But the pigeons all flew away when they saw me coming.
It’s not just the birds. I wanted to know why the pigeons were scared of me, and so I asked a human who was walking outside. I only asked him why the birds flew away. But he ran away from me too. I just scare everyone away.
I don’t scare you?
Yeah*. (Coiling tighter)* You’re the only one who doesn’t run away from me. Even though I’m a monster.
No. I am a monster. I attacked you when we first met. I shouldn’t have done that. Friendly wurms don’t attack people.
I know. It was....instinct. That’s the word you used. When I saw you outside my cave, I-I wanted you. I’d never seen anything like you before. And so I just took you. I wouldn’t let you out of my coils! I know it was scary for you. I am sorry.
Yeah. I did agree to move into your house after that. Because I didn’t care as long as I had you. And because you said there’d be chicken. I like chicken.
Eeeek! I like it when you stroke my hair. It’s so soothing. It makes me want to snuggle up closer to you.
(Coiling sounds)
Thank you. For holding me. I don’t like thunder. The sound scares me. I can’t go to sleep when there’s a storm outside. Unless you’re with me.
Yeah. The thunder can’t hurt me. Because it’s far away. And because I’m a wurm. Wurms are strong! I think I’d be okay, if I was in my ancient form. Then I’d be an earth dragon as big as this house! But the thunder still scares me.
Human?
What causes thunder?
Lightning? You mean those bright flashes in the sky before that horrible noise?
Oh. I didn’t know they were called lightning. What is lightning made of?
Plaaz-ma. Ion….Ionized air. I don’t know what they are.
I saw those flashes of light before I met you, of course. I thought it was another dragon challenging me to a fight. And I was terrified of its roar. But I still tried looking for that dragon every time there was a thunderstorm.
Yeah. Because I thought that dragon could be my mother. Maybe she could fly and she was calling me to join her in the sky. But I don’t have wings.
Wurms can’t fly. But I didn’t know anything about mother. When I hatched, I was alone in the wild. There was nothing that looked like me. And there were no humans. No one to teach me how to fend for myself. I went hungry for the first few days and it was cold. It would rain often. I’d hide under a bush but my tail would still get wet. But the thunder was the scariest thing of all. I’d cover my ears with my claws but I’d still hear it. I didn’t know what to do.
Human, why do you look sad? That expression means you’re sad, right? You taught me that. Did I get it right this time?
You’re sad for what I had to go through? But it’s okay. It made me a strong wurm! I learnt how to catch prey, and how to protect myself from the weather by curling up in a cave. And if there was a spring deep inside the cave, then I could also stay warm!
Eeeek! You’re brushing my hair again. That feels nice. I’m so glad I met you in the forest. You’re the first human I ever saw. You’re special. You taught me how to use cutlery, and that I shouldn’t eat the plate along with the chicken. I’m sorry it took me a while to get that one right.
I forgot. You told me not to apologise. I’m sorry.
You’re sighing again. That means I messed up somehow, didn’t I? But I did as you asked! I didn’t leave the house today. I didn’t go outside because I didn’t want to scare any more humans after the first one ran away. I know I can be a burden. I’ve seen how people look at you when you try to defend me. It’s not much different from how they look at me when they think I’ve eaten their chicken or silverware. But I don’t do that. Not after you taught me it was wrong.
I wish I could go outside with you. I wish I wasn’t such a burden.
(Sighing) I know. You always say I’m not a burden. And you get really sad when I keep insisting. I don’t like seeing you sad.
It is true though that I don’t think like a human. I’m not as smart as most humans. But I....I’m not dumb. You always tell me I’m not dumb. And maybe you’re right.
I know if you have money, then you won’t be hungry. I know if you help strangers for free, then you’re kind. And kind people make for good friends. I know a good friend doesn’t leave you alone when it rains and thunders. I know the property of rain is to wet my scales, and of the sun to dry them. I know it gets dark at night because there is no sun, and pigeons can fly because they have wings. And I know something inside me hurts when you leave the house, but the hurt goes away when you come back to me.
I have to hide during the day because I’m not human. People are scared of me. But at night, when no one is looking, I can go outside with you. Slither beside you. Really quietly. And we can count how many streetlamps there are.
I do not know what face you’re making, human. I didn’t make you sad again, did I?
Eeeek! That must mean no. Are you happy with me? Do I make you happy?
Eeeeeek! You make me happy too. I want to try brushing your hair like you brush mine. One of these days....
No, I’m not cold anymore. You always keep me warm. And in the morning, all the pillows smell like you (giggling). Thank you for teaching me how to build a giant pillow fort! It’s just like my cave, but even comfier.
(Yawning) Uaagh. I think I can go to sleep now. The thunder can’t hurt me. (very softly) The thunder can’t hurt me. I have you with me.
Human?
You won’t run away from me, right?
(A brief kiss, as the listener reassures her)
I like it when you kiss me. Eeeek! You make me the happiest wurm in the world! I’ll...I’ll always protect you, okay? I won’t let anyone invade our pillow fort.
Good night. Can we get more chicken tomorrow? I want to eat chicken tomorrow.
Yay! I’ll go with you to the market. The shopkeeper gave us extra last time when he saw me. I don’t know why. I was hungry but I wasn’t going to eat him.
Yeah. I really do feel sleepy now. Good night, human.
Dar....Darling. Sweet dreams.
I love you too. Eeeek.

This might be a slightly philosophical post. But the aim is to get to the bottom of what you should be truly doing. To truly get the most results.
There seems to be a MASSIVE amount of conflicting information online about how to do this.
“Do stuff that moves the needle forward”
“Do stuff that brings in revenue”
What does this truly mean though. And is it even the right thing. That’s the purpose of this post, to uncover.
When I’ve spent my time on actual needle-moving forward things, like taking business from 0 to revenue, doing all offer development, operations, sales process, marketing myself, it generally has taken me about 6 months to fully ‘try out’ a business idea I’ve had.
Most times it hasn’t worked.
Either it wasn’t profitable. Or there was a big problem somewhere.
I believe fundamentally it’s because I’m moving too slow.
Because it usually takes me around 6 months to ‘validate’ whether a business has good potential.
When you haven’t sold it or developed expertise in it yourself yet.
And I would say about 5% of the time it does work.
So if it takes 6 months and only 5% of the time it works (where you bring in revenue, no major issues), and each time it doesn’t work you try a new variation of it or something new based on what you learned, then it might take 10 years of trying different things to get the business to work.
Which sounds like it takes way too long.
So I thought about how the top companies move much quicker.
What separates them and my strategy.
And realized they simply had much more people on their team.
If you think about any successful organization who has achieved great things, and is world-leading, usually there is not 1 person on the team.
There seems to be a correlation between number of people on the team and speed of progress they can make in business.
Which goes against what most conventional startup wisdom tells you, most small business content creators etc all tell you to do it all yourself.
Which I’ve done for quite a few years and it’s gone so slowly in terms of overall progress.
If you should ‘do everything yourself’ then most Fortune 500 companies would’ve had single founders, and 1 person on their team. But the vast majority of successful Fortune 500 companies had co-founders.
And most successful businesses I know of, had co-founders.
And as they succeeded, they got more people on the team, and these people helped bring more success, then they brought more people.
Obviously there can be bad staff and not everyone contributes to the success of the company.
But I do believe, based on this, and observing top companies, that generally the more successful they are, the more people were involved with bringing about the success.
Which completely contradicts most information given to startups about ‘lone wolf’, ‘go it alone’. If that were true, Google would have 1 employee. Apple would have 1 employee.
And they would have never gotten off the ground.
Anyway, I may not have explained this perfectly but I do strongly believe the more & higher quality people are working together on something, the stats show these companies tend to do better, and successful companies you see often have more people than less working on them.
From the very beginning and now.
Regardless of the stage they were at.
So going based off this information, that the more people, the better, I have hired 30+ different people for different roles. Over the past few years. Across different businesses. To help speed up the progress in different areas.
From marketing roles, sales process roles, web development, app development, customer service, delivery of services.
And I would say there have been maybe 1 or 2 of them where I was actually happy with the result.
Most times, I would hire someone to do a job, and they didn’t do the job well, despite saying they were experienced.
And showing past examples of their work. And telling me everything I wanted to hear about how good they were.
It would often be that they would end up performing badly in the KPIs I set for them, giving many excuses, asking for help/questions/not solving anything on their own.
And just so many other problems. Like when there were multiple people at the same time on a team, working on the same project, they would blame each other and no one took responsibility despite clear responsibilities.
All telling me how other staff were bad and they were good, but getting conflicting info from all staff where they blame each other for everything so it’s difficult to know who to trust and who is being truthful.
Oftentimes not being reliable or doing what they were clearly asked to do.
Oftentimes trying to outsource the work I game them, to other people and not caring about the quality.
At my expense.
So I lost lots of clients, had low performing areas in the areas I hired for a lot of the time.
To be fair, things happened faster the more people there were.
But they often needed much more from me than they were contributing.
Like they always wanted to get paid more, for doing less work, weren’t reliable, did low quality work, didn’t hit KPIs, missed clear deadlines, always gave excuses, blamed others/external things, always asking how “I” wanted their job to be done, to the point where I was having to literally tell them every single thing to do and become an expert at their job myself, and show them how to do what they were put there to do, or do it myself, and still get a low quality result from them.
Anyway, the list goes on in all the problems I have experienced hiring people.
It really seems like a minefield.
But there were 1-2 people who did actually do well, who were responsive, who did what they committed to do, who hit deadlines, who did what they were asked, who didn’t give excuses. Who were actually honest hard workers who figured out how to solve problems and actually do the job that was asked from them.
Because of the amount of people I hired and the very low % of people who seemed to do their job well, it made me think that I am probably the problem here. If so many people are doing a bad job and not doing what they were actually hired to do. When most other companies seem to succeed at hiring people.
Then it must be a problem with myself and how I am hiring and managing them.
So it makes me think I need to level up in how I hire and manage people.
I’ve tried lots of different businesses and variations of them and some have done okay, some have not.
Mainly the most success I’ve had is in my own freelancing, where I don’t have other people on my team.
Because it’s kind of turned into a headache working with others. Who just seem to have mostly never been able to deliver what they promised without it becoming pointless to hire them in the first place with all the work I’m doing on their behalf and trying to pick up after all the problems and failures they’ve done.
So I’m not sure exactly what to spend my time and resources on.
I have money saved up from freelancing.
Where I can continue to hire people.
But I do feel I’ve had many many bad experiences.
And I believe it’s mostly my fault. Maybe my training, my hiring, my management, at places along the line I’ve not done it well enough.
I’ve tried to make improvements each time but it has kind of seemed like luck to get people who do actually do their job well.
I genuinely want to hire people and succeed in this.
Because if I can successfully work with people to achieve outcomes, rather than relying only on myself, I can build a real business and not just do freelancing.
In freelancing, I was able to make $3k-5k/month but it was very stressful and I hated speaking with clients, and was constantly stressed.
I generally really don’t like socialising with people. Including clients and staff.
And staff often try to get me to socialise unnecessarily so they can avoid doing their job, and pull me away from mine.
So trying to make it work.
I want to make it work with hiring people because if I can do this, I can make 10x-100x-1000x faster progress with other people on the same team.
But I do have a very bad track record so far. So it’s kind of painful returning to it and continuing to have bad experiences.
But at the same time I know it’s me who’s probably at fault because there can’t be this many bad people I’ve hired and it surely can’t be this bad for everyone.
I think the reason is that I’ve been better at managing myself and doing things successfully solo throughout my life.
Like I’ve achieved very good things in solo sports, in academia, and in many areas that don’t require a team, but often become frustrated working in a team.
But I don’t want my business success to be limited to 1 person.
So I truly want to make it work in improving my ability to manage (ideally a large amount of) people in a way where they can actually deliver and it work well.
Because I was capped in freelancing to making $3k-5k/month because I couldn’t take on more clients because I was undercharging and overdelivering and couldn’t handle more due to being massively stressed out and hating it. I was able to work with less clients at times and charge higher, but they never wanted me to ‘outsource’ my work to others or bring on a team, and I felt bad about it because had bad experiences where I had felt like I let clients down, and oftentimes they told me they had hired me because of me, and not wanted me to ‘outsource’ the work.
But I want to make it work.
Building a real business with a team. Not just doing freelancing and relying just on myself.
So I have time and money and resources to put into this.
I have 1 staff member currently who is unproductive. But we have an equity deal so it doesn’t cost me money for them to perform. But costs me lots of time and their performance is extremely weak. Don’t even want to go into detail, but it’s a nightmare. Their performance is about 1/10 but I believe I can raise their performance if I improve my ability to raise their performance.
Anyway. I want to build a team, but not sure exactly what activities are best ways to spend my time.
If I am physically making improvements, I feel I am slowing down the business progress.
Whereas I want to hire and manage people.
I’ve built training so that this co-founder is able to hire people. And these people can use the same training to hire people.
But I don’t currently have training to enable them to manage people.
My fear is that without training, people just ask unlimited questions on how to do something in their role and it becomes pointless to have hired them because I have to do everything they should have done to do it, so they basically just become a robot following very specific instructions. Rather than a human being who can achieve things independently.
So for example, if I made this training, it would take up all my time, whereas I have savings I’ve accumulated from freelancing which I can put into either having the co-founder manage staff, or have the co-founder make management training at the same time to enable more and more staff to hire and manage new staff. To achieve overall objectives and KPIs.
Or I could have the co-founder hire someone to make the training.
Then that frees up my time, my co-founders, time and only takes financial resources to accomplish.
What I want to achieve, is a scenario where I can give staff KPIs and objectives, and they are enabled to hire and manage people who can meet these objectives. Independently without my help required.
They give feedback, and I have a system for feedback to internal improvements can be made based on staff feedback.
Without it being unfiltered, it’s structured and organised so people can’t just get unlimited help/training/whatever from me.
Where they should be able to take actions, iterate, learn, improve, and act as independent thinking people who can achieve objectives themselves. Or within a system where it’s not all tied directly to me.
E.g. I have direct reports going to me.
But they have direct reports who go to them.
Previously I had a system where I did this, but then staff at the bottom of the hierarchy would ask their managers questions, and the managers wouldn’t know the answer so would then ask me the questions, and so jumping over the managers and making me deal with everything.
Whereas I want to build a system where people can make business progress in their specific area, independently without everything going to the CEO. Only important/urgent things are feedbacked to the CEO.
This way I believe much faster progress can happen.
Because I won’t be bogged down by exponentially growing problems.
Like with how it works in any successful organisation.
Tim Cook has only a handful of direct reports. Who each only have a handful of direct reports. And so on.
He’s making the most important decisions, dealing with what’s most important and strategic, with top authority, dealing with everything as a birds eye view, but not doing every employee’s job for them, teaching every employee how to do their job. Picking up the pieces after every employee misses their deadlines, doesn’t do their work, gives excuses, does poor work that doesn’t help the company.
Even in any successful organisation. Each unit/person is making their own decisions, taking their own action, learning from it, practicing themself at improving, gaining their own experience, not all relying on 1 person, every single person in the organisation, just for them to do their job.
In successful organisations, people at every level experience new problems all the time, and don’t need to contact the #1 person at the top just to deal with it.
They come up with a solution and go for it. And iterate. Learn, try to do something better next time. And there’s a constant learning/feedback process going on across the organisation which everyone takes part in, not just 1 person doing every part for everyone.
I believe this structure of modelling what actually successful organisations do is the correct way. Because they’re successful for a reason.
Not this ‘hustle grindset’ BS in the startup/business world where lots of information seems to be saying the wrong thing. It just makes no sense to make every single person 100% reliant on you for them to do their job.
Anyway so I’m thinking about what I should do with my time.
What I want to do, is tell my co-founder what to do, which involves hiring and managing people who do things that move the needle forward in the business, as defined by me, and some of those people also hire and manage people. To have an exponentially growing system of people growing the organisation. And a communication and feedback and learning system and autonomy within the system itself so it can take action, learn, grow, thrive. As a system within itself.
I believe if hypothetically, I did everything myself, then it takes about 6 months to ‘validate’ whether a business has good potential, and 5% of the time it does. So if I do everything myself, I believe it will take me 10 years to get a business off the ground.
But if I utilise my money and time more efficiently, I can have as many people working on each part involved in validating these businesses as possible.
I don’t know if that is lazy or smart.
I believe it’s both. But mostly smart. Because I believe I can convince, hire, organise, manage people to either work on equity deals or pay in a way where businesses can realistically bring in profit.
My co-founder does very little of what I ask him to do.
And he wants me to be doing individual things.
He objectively is financially and intelligently very poor and has very minimal skills or experience.
Not to be offensive. Just to paint a picture. So since there is conflicting information everywhere in the business world and you need to choose who to trust, I don’t trust what he believes.
Objectively I am much richer in all these areas than him.
So I used to operate on a democratic system with them. But it’s kind of like, in a vote for president, if you have 80% of the population being easily controlled by the media and being very dumb and easy to sway and manipulate into believing anything, and they vote for things which are objectively dumb and go against what the smartest and objectively most valuable people vote for, I don’t want to be held back by a dumb population having authority or being listened to, if they have a clear, long track record of making very bad decisions.
If you were to take business advice from a homeless person with no experience, money or intellect, or a Fortune 500 CEO, who let’s say objectively has massive experience, money, intellect and success. Then I would probably take what the CEO has to say.
If you had to listen to what a scientist vs 12 year old had to say about a scientific topic, you’d probably want to listen to the scientist who studied the topic and is well respected in their field.
So I believe it would be dumb for both of us, if he made decisions, objectively.
But at the same time it’s difficult to truly know what the truth is.
The Fortune 500 CEO could be telling you what you want to hear, and could have an incentive to lie to you to send you in the wrong direction with bad business advice so you don’t become competition to them, and the homeless person could be honest.
The scientist could be trying to gain fame and get attention to themself to build their career on a lie and fake experiments whereas the 12 year old could be a science savant.
So it’s difficult to truly know what the truth is.
If I should listen to him or myself.
Objectively.

1. I believe if I spend time building the business via this logic I’ve described above, it can grow much faster, with unlimited people working on it and performing well, if the necessary improvements are made.
   
2. And I believe if I were to do the individual things necessary to do it, it would take 6 months to ‘validate’ each’s potential. I.e. try everything in that timeframe to make it work, build a good service/product, build good sales process, build good marketing, deal with customers, etc, all on your own.
   

Whereas in the first option, other people could do all these things.
Human development over history has happened due to the input of millions, if not billions of people.
There wasn’t 1 person who did all the work to get Carnegie or Bill Gates or Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk or Mark Zuckerberg to gain the success they’ve achieved.
They all build an empire off the backs of others.
Did the slave owners do the slave work themselves when they brought slaves to America? No.
Does Elon do all the individual parts necessary to grow the company? No. He leads and controls the people in order to do that.
Does Mark Zuckerberg single handedly get Facebook off the ground? No. There were 10+ people involved. He stole code from others. Who sued him.
All of these people had exponentially growing staff as the company grew, as fuel to grow the company.
So if you have the money and strategy to lead them to success, I believe it surely is possible.
So long story short this is a long rambling piece of writing but I believe there’s very little impact 1 individual person has on the success of a company. Controlling and amassing an army of people who build the company up and contribute to the company sounds more true.
Does 1 person do everything involved in every sports team? No. Each player plays their respective part. Directed by the coach/manager.
Does 1 person do everything involved in musical orchestras? No each musician plays their part. Directed by the conductor.
And so on.
If you can build an exponentially growing team of staff who effectively work together, bring others on, take action to grow the business, learn from mistakes, make improvements, are highly motivated, are led successfully, it can achieve great things. I feel like it’s a delusion that individual people single-handedly grow companies without others.
So what should that person spend their time doing?
Doing all the millions of things necessary to grow the company? Or bring and manage others who some make progress themselves, some bring and manage others, to gain more and more resources to make progress at faster and faster rate.
Do successful people really have only 1 person responsible? No. They have teams of people behind them.
So trying to do the work of 1,000 people as 1 person sounds 1,000x as hard as getting 1,000 people to each do the work of 1 person.
So if you can finance the growth of the company via hiring others.
Let’s assume I can finance this exponential staff growth. Then surely I should do it right?
Like if I were to compete with 1 person trying to grow their business, and I had 1,000+ people, all doing their jobs effectively, being organised, working as a system not all relying on me, the competition where it’s 1 staff member on average would get beaten.
And surely any excuse you could give, I could just hire someone to solve that excuse.
Like “oh but what roles do you hire these people to do?” well I could hire someone whose role is to figure out what roles they should do. “But what if x?” well I could hire someone whose role is to solve that too. And so on. “Oh but do you have enough money to pay these staff?” Yes. And I can hire people whose job is to bring in money. Whether it’s fundraising, raising from
Did Hitler fight WW2 with 1 person? No. He fought it with millions, if not hundreds of millions of people.
Did Amazon/[insert any Fortune 500 company] get to their size today from having 1 staff member who did everything? No. They had thousands if not hundreds of thousands of staff.
Did any successful mom and pop shop/small business get to their size today from 1 staff member? No. They are one of the largest employers in the USA. Which means they hire a lot of people. Successful mom & pop shops generally have more staff the more successful they are.
Armies generally have more success the bigger and more effective they are.
Companies generally have more success the more staff and more effective the staff are.
So surely we shouldn’t hold ourselves back, to use the example of war, it’s like trying to go to war with others who have hundreds of thousands of people in their army, with just 1 person, yourself. Who is going to win? Them.
How are you going to compete with companies with way more staff, and way more effective staff than you? You would have to become exponentially more effective as 1 person which I just don’t know if it’s realistic.
I think it’s more delusional to believe that 1 person can do as well as 10 or 20 or 50 or 100 or more people who are each as effective as that 1 person.
So if you were to win, you would probably want to expand your army/staff and make them more effective, rather than try to make yourself somehow perform on the same level as armies/companies with thousands or hundreds of thousands of people. It’s just delusional to believe you can beat them in my opinion.
In business, you’d have to be extremely skilled at hundreds of different skills, spend 10+ hours on 100+ individual areas of the business each week to compete with 1,000+ staff who, if performing effectively, would crush you.
This is just my thoughts.
Am I being delusional? Come on…
I just feel like this is the way. Just look at the most successful organisations in history. Was it 1 person?
No, 1 person cannot realistically win a war against 100,000+ people. No matter how good they are. They would need to be top 0.00000000001% in skill in the world at what they’re beating the other side at.
Could 1 footballer beat a football team of 100 people of equal ability than them? No.
Could a company of 1 person outperform a company of 1,000 people? No.
So I believe if I can solve the ability to do this, I can grow a team of unlimited size to conquer and beat any problem thrown at us.
It’s just down to control of people.
Money doesn’t exist.
Even biggest most successful companies in the world mostly didn’t get there on their own.
I believe less than 1% of Fortune 500 Companies were bootstrapped. Or something similar.
And this is what I’m saying.
People in the small business/entrepreneur world tell you you need to have everything yourself.
How are you going to outfinance, outcompete companies on complete other levels without acquiring these resources from others? Just relying on yourself.
How could 1 person get more financing/investment in a company from investors compared to 1,000 of equal ability.
It’s never 1 person ‘beating the world’. Or beating the industry on their own.
Maybe if your aspiration is to be an average business.
“Oh but you should do what is best at each level, and it’s different for each level. Start just by yourself until you get X revenue. THEN hire people”
…..Well if you struggle to get X revenue on your own, how are you ever going to hire others?
The others help you grow the revenue in the first place.
I feel like the small business world is too overreliant on the founder and delusional about the capabilities of 1 person when competing against units 100-1,000x + bigger than them.
Come on.
Anything you want to compete in. In business.
Generally you already have competition.
And if you manage to somehow “spot” something they’ve “missed”, they could just copy you and wipe you out with their massive resources anyway.
In my opinion you need to expand your resources as FAST as possible.
Not this BS “oh wait until you get X profit on your own to hire other people”
Well if you’ve only made good profit on your own as a freelancer, and you’ve spent a lot of years trying to get a business off the ground solo, what are you meant to do?
“Oh just make it work” Great advice.
I just feel like there’s too much delusion into what it actually takes.
In a job or as a freelancer. It’s easier to make $3k-5k/month revenue because you’re only competing against individuals.
But when you try to compete against other businesses to make $3k-5k/month profit, you’re competing against businesses with 10x-100x the people, the money, the resources, the everything, to beat you.
So how are you meant to realistically beat them on your own? Without expanding your resources as quick as possible.
So because of this I believe if 1 person on their own is somehow meant to take a business from $0 to $10k/mo profit, then surely it will happen quicker if more people, of equal ability, are trying to make the business $0 to 10k/mo profit.
To be honest I don’t know what the truth is. This is just what I believe the truth is.
Because I’ve consumed so much wrong information from people acting like they have the correct advice in business.
All Youtube videos, articles, courses, claiming to make you successful in business, when in reality it’s just advice that sounds either easy to say or easy to hear.
Like it’s easy to say as a comment to this post, a response that takes 5 seconds to write, like the first thing that comes to your mind, like “just figure it out on your own”. But that’s not necessarily the truth, it’s just easy for you to say as a commenter. Comments aren’t necessarily the truth.
And on the other side business advice is easy to hear. Like “work on your own, make $1m/month, move to X country, live the life, working 2hours/day” which is just pure delusion. And most of the time the content/advice’s purpose is to benefit the business who made it, not the receiver of the advice. Because it’s selling a course or they have ad sense so they just want maximum engagement and views.
And anyone who is successful in business doesn’t need to give any advice. Because they’re applying the advice. Not giving it. Bill Gates or Jeff Bezos etc have no strong incentive trying to help others get to their level because they could just make an extra $10M-100M from spending the same time/energy/resources giving advice into growing their business.
They’re never gonna have advice that would help you beat them because otherwise they would’ve applied it themself.
And they are actually incentivized to not want others to truly succeed. Because it means more competition for them and less success for them.
So 99%+ of info online just seems like it’s not true.
I’m trying to figure out what is true and what isn’t.
Honestly though it’s difficult to even trust what anyone says in business. Any advice or feedback. For the reasons given.
Because 99% of feedback is either from people who haven’t truly grown a successful business, or it’s not related to you, or it involved luck, or it’s just like a motivational quote they tell you, or it’s a snarky comment they tell you.
It’s only helpful to them. And you are actually their customer or viewer or their entertainment. Not a successful business yourself. Because it’s just all misinformation that all contradicts with the truth.
So not even sure if it’s worth trying to get advice or if it’s all just pointless, just to figure it out myself from experience, trial and error and learning from my own thinking than relying on any other thinking.
Anyway do you think this is just crazy and I’m going crazy or is there any truth to what I’m saying?
Let me know your brutal honest feedback

So when I bring up Jose Smith marrying or getting sealed to kids or other men's wives I ask why does he have to do it? And get answers like, well they need those saving ordinances. And the thought occurred to me well, no they don't. Let them die and have their temple work done for them when they are dead, or heaven forbid grow up and get married and sealed to someone they want. Then that thought lead me again to why bother teaching anyone about the church anything anyways? Stop any and all missionary work immediately. Stop spreading knowledge about Jesus and just do temple work for the dead and let everyone into the ck, ez hack for everyone.

 I brought this up to my wife one time and I could see the wheels turn in her head a little bit, and how it doesn't really make sense. The church brings people unknowingly into greater condemnation by teaching them about the gospel. I'm reminded of a scene in 30 rock where Tracy Jordan plays a race card on Liz lemon and she grabs it unknowingly and it's too late. 

This might be a slightly philosophical post. But the aim is to get to the bottom of what you should be truly doing. To truly get the most results.
There seems to be a MASSIVE amount of conflicting information online about how to do this.
“Do stuff that moves the needle forward”
“Do stuff that brings in revenue”
What does this truly mean though. And is it even the right thing. That’s the purpose of this post, to uncover.
When I’ve spent my time on actual needle-moving forward things, like taking business from 0 to revenue, doing all offer development, operations, sales process, marketing myself, it generally has taken me about 6 months to fully ‘try out’ a business idea I’ve had.
Most times it hasn’t worked.
Either it wasn’t profitable. Or there was a big problem somewhere.
I believe fundamentally it’s because I’m moving too slow.
Because it usually takes me around 6 months to ‘validate’ whether a business has good potential.
When you haven’t sold it or developed expertise in it yourself yet.
And I would say about 5% of the time it does work.
So if it takes 6 months and only 5% of the time it works (where you bring in revenue, no major issues), and each time it doesn’t work you try a new variation of it or something new based on what you learned, then it might take 10 years of trying different things to get the business to work.
Which sounds like it takes way too long.
So I thought about how the top companies move much quicker.
What separates them and my strategy.
And realized they simply had much more people on their team.
If you think about any successful organization who has achieved great things, and is world-leading, usually there is not 1 person on the team.
There seems to be a correlation between number of people on the team and speed of progress they can make in business.
Which goes against what most conventional startup wisdom tells you, most small business content creators etc all tell you to do it all yourself.
Which I’ve done for quite a few years and it’s gone so slowly in terms of overall progress.
If you should ‘do everything yourself’ then most Fortune 500 companies would’ve had single founders, and 1 person on their team. But the vast majority of successful Fortune 500 companies had co-founders.
And most successful businesses I know of, had co-founders.
And as they succeeded, they got more people on the team, and these people helped bring more success, then they brought more people.
Obviously there can be bad staff and not everyone contributes to the success of the company.
But I do believe, based on this, and observing top companies, that generally the more successful they are, the more people were involved with bringing about the success.
Which completely contradicts most information given to startups about ‘lone wolf’, ‘go it alone’. If that were true, Google would have 1 employee. Apple would have 1 employee.
And they would have never gotten off the ground.
Anyway, I may not have explained this perfectly but I do strongly believe the more & higher quality people are working together on something, the stats show these companies tend to do better, and successful companies you see often have more people than less working on them.
From the very beginning and now.
Regardless of the stage they were at.
So going based off this information, that the more people, the better, I have hired 30+ different people for different roles. Over the past few years. Across different businesses. To help speed up the progress in different areas.
From marketing roles, sales process roles, web development, app development, customer service, delivery of services.
And I would say there have been maybe 1 or 2 of them where I was actually happy with the result.
Most times, I would hire someone to do a job, and they didn’t do the job well, despite saying they were experienced.
And showing past examples of their work. And telling me everything I wanted to hear about how good they were.
It would often be that they would end up performing badly in the KPIs I set for them, giving many excuses, asking for help/questions/not solving anything on their own.
And just so many other problems. Like when there were multiple people at the same time on a team, working on the same project, they would blame each other and no one took responsibility despite clear responsibilities.
All telling me how other staff were bad and they were good, but getting conflicting info from all staff where they blame each other for everything so it’s difficult to know who to trust and who is being truthful.
Oftentimes not being reliable or doing what they were clearly asked to do.
Oftentimes trying to outsource the work I game them, to other people and not caring about the quality.
At my expense.
So I lost lots of clients, had low performing areas in the areas I hired for a lot of the time.
To be fair, things happened faster the more people there were.
But they often needed much more from me than they were contributing.
Like they always wanted to get paid more, for doing less work, weren’t reliable, did low quality work, didn’t hit KPIs, missed clear deadlines, always gave excuses, blamed others/external things, always asking how “I” wanted their job to be done, to the point where I was having to literally tell them every single thing to do and become an expert at their job myself, and show them how to do what they were put there to do, or do it myself, and still get a low quality result from them.
Anyway, the list goes on in all the problems I have experienced hiring people.
It really seems like a minefield.
But there were 1-2 people who did actually do well, who were responsive, who did what they committed to do, who hit deadlines, who did what they were asked, who didn’t give excuses. Who were actually honest hard workers who figured out how to solve problems and actually do the job that was asked from them.
Because of the amount of people I hired and the very low % of people who seemed to do their job well, it made me think that I am probably the problem here. If so many people are doing a bad job and not doing what they were actually hired to do. When most other companies seem to succeed at hiring people.
Then it must be a problem with myself and how I am hiring and managing them.
So it makes me think I need to level up in how I hire and manage people.
I’ve tried lots of different businesses and variations of them and some have done okay, some have not.
Mainly the most success I’ve had is in my own freelancing, where I don’t have other people on my team.
Because it’s kind of turned into a headache working with others. Who just seem to have mostly never been able to deliver what they promised without it becoming pointless to hire them in the first place with all the work I’m doing on their behalf and trying to pick up after all the problems and failures they’ve done.
So I’m not sure exactly what to spend my time and resources on.
I have money saved up from freelancing.
Where I can continue to hire people.
But I do feel I’ve had many many bad experiences.
And I believe it’s mostly my fault. Maybe my training, my hiring, my management, at places along the line I’ve not done it well enough.
I’ve tried to make improvements each time but it has kind of seemed like luck to get people who do actually do their job well.
I genuinely want to hire people and succeed in this.
Because if I can successfully work with people to achieve outcomes, rather than relying only on myself, I can build a real business and not just do freelancing.
In freelancing, I was able to make $3k-5k/month but it was very stressful and I hated speaking with clients, and was constantly stressed.
I generally really don’t like socialising with people. Including clients and staff.
And staff often try to get me to socialise unnecessarily so they can avoid doing their job, and pull me away from mine.
So trying to make it work.
I want to make it work with hiring people because if I can do this, I can make 10x-100x-1000x faster progress with other people on the same team.
But I do have a very bad track record so far. So it’s kind of painful returning to it and continuing to have bad experiences.
But at the same time I know it’s me who’s probably at fault because there can’t be this many bad people I’ve hired and it surely can’t be this bad for everyone.
I think the reason is that I’ve been better at managing myself and doing things successfully solo throughout my life.
Like I’ve achieved very good things in solo sports, in academia, and in many areas that don’t require a team, but often become frustrated working in a team.
But I don’t want my business success to be limited to 1 person.
So I truly want to make it work in improving my ability to manage (ideally a large amount of) people in a way where they can actually deliver and it work well.
Because I was capped in freelancing to making $3k-5k/month because I couldn’t take on more clients because I was undercharging and overdelivering and couldn’t handle more due to being massively stressed out and hating it. I was able to work with less clients at times and charge higher, but they never wanted me to ‘outsource’ my work to others or bring on a team, and I felt bad about it because had bad experiences where I had felt like I let clients down, and oftentimes they told me they had hired me because of me, and not wanted me to ‘outsource’ the work.
But I want to make it work.
Building a real business with a team. Not just doing freelancing and relying just on myself.
So I have time and money and resources to put into this.
I have 1 staff member currently who is unproductive. But we have an equity deal so it doesn’t cost me money for them to perform. But costs me lots of time and their performance is extremely weak. Don’t even want to go into detail, but it’s a nightmare. Their performance is about 1/10 but I believe I can raise their performance if I improve my ability to raise their performance.
Anyway. I want to build a team, but not sure exactly what activities are best ways to spend my time.
If I am physically making improvements, I feel I am slowing down the business progress.
Whereas I want to hire and manage people.
I’ve built training so that this co-founder is able to hire people. And these people can use the same training to hire people.
But I don’t currently have training to enable them to manage people.
My fear is that without training, people just ask unlimited questions on how to do something in their role and it becomes pointless to have hired them because I have to do everything they should have done to do it, so they basically just become a robot following very specific instructions. Rather than a human being who can achieve things independently.
So for example, if I made this training, it would take up all my time, whereas I have savings I’ve accumulated from freelancing which I can put into either having the co-founder manage staff, or have the co-founder make management training at the same time to enable more and more staff to hire and manage new staff. To achieve overall objectives and KPIs.
Or I could have the co-founder hire someone to make the training.
Then that frees up my time, my co-founders, time and only takes financial resources to accomplish.
What I want to achieve, is a scenario where I can give staff KPIs and objectives, and they are enabled to hire and manage people who can meet these objectives. Independently without my help required.
They give feedback, and I have a system for feedback to internal improvements can be made based on staff feedback.
Without it being unfiltered, it’s structured and organised so people can’t just get unlimited help/training/whatever from me.
Where they should be able to take actions, iterate, learn, improve, and act as independent thinking people who can achieve objectives themselves. Or within a system where it’s not all tied directly to me.
E.g. I have direct reports going to me.
But they have direct reports who go to them.
Previously I had a system where I did this, but then staff at the bottom of the hierarchy would ask their managers questions, and the managers wouldn’t know the answer so would then ask me the questions, and so jumping over the managers and making me deal with everything.
Whereas I want to build a system where people can make business progress in their specific area, independently without everything going to the CEO. Only important/urgent things are feedbacked to the CEO.
This way I believe much faster progress can happen.
Because I won’t be bogged down by exponentially growing problems.
Like with how it works in any successful organisation.
Tim Cook has only a handful of direct reports. Who each only have a handful of direct reports. And so on.
He’s making the most important decisions, dealing with what’s most important and strategic, with top authority, dealing with everything as a birds eye view, but not doing every employee’s job for them, teaching every employee how to do their job. Picking up the pieces after every employee misses their deadlines, doesn’t do their work, gives excuses, does poor work that doesn’t help the company.
Even in any successful organisation. Each unit/person is making their own decisions, taking their own action, learning from it, practicing themself at improving, gaining their own experience, not all relying on 1 person, every single person in the organisation, just for them to do their job.
In successful organisations, people at every level experience new problems all the time, and don’t need to contact the #1 person at the top just to deal with it.
They come up with a solution and go for it. And iterate. Learn, try to do something better next time. And there’s a constant learning/feedback process going on across the organisation which everyone takes part in, not just 1 person doing every part for everyone.
I believe this structure of modelling what actually successful organisations do is the correct way. Because they’re successful for a reason.
Not this ‘hustle grindset’ BS in the startup/business world where lots of information seems to be saying the wrong thing. It just makes no sense to make every single person 100% reliant on you for them to do their job.
Anyway so I’m thinking about what I should do with my time.
What I want to do, is tell my co-founder what to do, which involves hiring and managing people who do things that move the needle forward in the business, as defined by me, and some of those people also hire and manage people. To have an exponentially growing system of people growing the organisation. And a communication and feedback and learning system and autonomy within the system itself so it can take action, learn, grow, thrive. As a system within itself.
I believe if hypothetically, I did everything myself, then it takes about 6 months to ‘validate’ whether a business has good potential, and 5% of the time it does. So if I do everything myself, I believe it will take me 10 years to get a business off the ground.
But if I utilise my money and time more efficiently, I can have as many people working on each part involved in validating these businesses as possible.
I don’t know if that is lazy or smart.
I believe it’s both. But mostly smart. Because I believe I can convince, hire, organise, manage people to either work on equity deals or pay in a way where businesses can realistically bring in profit.
My co-founder does very little of what I ask him to do.
And he wants me to be doing individual things.
He objectively is financially and intelligently very poor and has very minimal skills or experience.
Not to be offensive. Just to paint a picture. So since there is conflicting information everywhere in the business world and you need to choose who to trust, I don’t trust what he believes.
Objectively I am much richer in all these areas than him.
So I used to operate on a democratic system with them. But it’s kind of like, in a vote for president, if you have 80% of the population being easily controlled by the media and being very dumb and easy to sway and manipulate into believing anything, and they vote for things which are objectively dumb and go against what the smartest and objectively most valuable people vote for, I don’t want to be held back by a dumb population having authority or being listened to, if they have a clear, long track record of making very bad decisions.
If you were to take business advice from a homeless person with no experience, money or intellect, or a Fortune 500 CEO, who let’s say objectively has massive experience, money, intellect and success. Then I would probably take what the CEO has to say.
If you had to listen to what a scientist vs 12 year old had to say about a scientific topic, you’d probably want to listen to the scientist who studied the topic and is well respected in their field.
So I believe it would be dumb for both of us, if he made decisions, objectively.
But at the same time it’s difficult to truly know what the truth is.
The Fortune 500 CEO could be telling you what you want to hear, and could have an incentive to lie to you to send you in the wrong direction with bad business advice so you don’t become competition to them, and the homeless person could be honest.
The scientist could be trying to gain fame and get attention to themself to build their career on a lie and fake experiments whereas the 12 year old could be a science savant.
So it’s difficult to truly know what the truth is.
If I should listen to him or myself.
Objectively.

1. I believe if I spend time building the business via this logic I’ve described above, it can grow much faster, with unlimited people working on it and performing well, if the necessary improvements are made.
   
2. And I believe if I were to do the individual things necessary to do it, it would take 6 months to ‘validate’ each’s potential. I.e. try everything in that timeframe to make it work, build a good service/product, build good sales process, build good marketing, deal with customers, etc, all on your own.
   

Whereas in the first option, other people could do all these things.
Human development over history has happened due to the input of millions, if not billions of people.
There wasn’t 1 person who did all the work to get Carnegie or Bill Gates or Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk or Mark Zuckerberg to gain the success they’ve achieved.
They all build an empire off the backs of others.
Did the slave owners do the slave work themselves when they brought slaves to America? No.
Does Elon do all the individual parts necessary to grow the company? No. He leads and controls the people in order to do that.
Does Mark Zuckerberg single handedly get Facebook off the ground? No. There were 10+ people involved. He stole code from others. Who sued him.
All of these people had exponentially growing staff as the company grew, as fuel to grow the company.
So if you have the money and strategy to lead them to success, I believe it surely is possible.
So long story short this is a long rambling piece of writing but I believe there’s very little impact 1 individual person has on the success of a company. Controlling and amassing an army of people who build the company up and contribute to the company sounds more true.
Does 1 person do everything involved in every sports team? No. Each player plays their respective part. Directed by the coach/manager.
Does 1 person do everything involved in musical orchestras? No each musician plays their part. Directed by the conductor.
And so on.
If you can build an exponentially growing team of staff who effectively work together, bring others on, take action to grow the business, learn from mistakes, make improvements, are highly motivated, are led successfully, it can achieve great things. I feel like it’s a delusion that individual people single-handedly grow companies without others.
So what should that person spend their time doing?
Doing all the millions of things necessary to grow the company? Or bring and manage others who some make progress themselves, some bring and manage others, to gain more and more resources to make progress at faster and faster rate.
Do successful people really have only 1 person responsible? No. They have teams of people behind them.
So trying to do the work of 1,000 people as 1 person sounds 1,000x as hard as getting 1,000 people to each do the work of 1 person.
So if you can finance the growth of the company via hiring others.
Let’s assume I can finance this exponential staff growth. Then surely I should do it right?
Like if I were to compete with 1 person trying to grow their business, and I had 1,000+ people, all doing their jobs effectively, being organised, working as a system not all relying on me, the competition where it’s 1 staff member on average would get beaten.
And surely any excuse you could give, I could just hire someone to solve that excuse.
Like “oh but what roles do you hire these people to do?” well I could hire someone whose role is to figure out what roles they should do. “But what if x?” well I could hire someone whose role is to solve that too. And so on. “Oh but do you have enough money to pay these staff?” Yes. And I can hire people whose job is to bring in money. Whether it’s fundraising, raising from
Did Hitler fight WW2 with 1 person? No. He fought it with millions, if not hundreds of millions of people.
Did Amazon/[insert any Fortune 500 company] get to their size today from having 1 staff member who did everything? No. They had thousands if not hundreds of thousands of staff.
Did any successful mom and pop shop/small business get to their size today from 1 staff member? No. They are one of the largest employers in the USA. Which means they hire a lot of people. Successful mom & pop shops generally have more staff the more successful they are.
Armies generally have more success the bigger and more effective they are.
Companies generally have more success the more staff and more effective the staff are.
So surely we shouldn’t hold ourselves back, to use the example of war, it’s like trying to go to war with others who have hundreds of thousands of people in their army, with just 1 person, yourself. Who is going to win? Them.
How are you going to compete with companies with way more staff, and way more effective staff than you? You would have to become exponentially more effective as 1 person which I just don’t know if it’s realistic.
I think it’s more delusional to believe that 1 person can do as well as 10 or 20 or 50 or 100 or more people who are each as effective as that 1 person.
So if you were to win, you would probably want to expand your army/staff and make them more effective, rather than try to make yourself somehow perform on the same level as armies/companies with thousands or hundreds of thousands of people. It’s just delusional to believe you can beat them in my opinion.
In business, you’d have to be extremely skilled at hundreds of different skills, spend 10+ hours on 100+ individual areas of the business each week to compete with 1,000+ staff who, if performing effectively, would crush you.
This is just my thoughts.
Am I being delusional? Come on…
I just feel like this is the way. Just look at the most successful organisations in history. Was it 1 person?
No, 1 person cannot realistically win a war against 100,000+ people. No matter how good they are. They would need to be top 0.00000000001% in skill in the world at what they’re beating the other side at.
Could 1 footballer beat a football team of 100 people of equal ability than them? No.
Could a company of 1 person outperform a company of 1,000 people? No.
So I believe if I can solve the ability to do this, I can grow a team of unlimited size to conquer and beat any problem thrown at us.
It’s just down to control of people.
Money doesn’t exist.
Even biggest most successful companies in the world mostly didn’t get there on their own.
I believe less than 1% of Fortune 500 Companies were bootstrapped. Or something similar.
And this is what I’m saying.
People in the small business/entrepreneur world tell you you need to have everything yourself.
How are you going to outfinance, outcompete companies on complete other levels without acquiring these resources from others? Just relying on yourself.
How could 1 person get more financing/investment in a company from investors compared to 1,000 of equal ability.
It’s never 1 person ‘beating the world’. Or beating the industry on their own.
Maybe if your aspiration is to be an average business.
“Oh but you should do what is best at each level, and it’s different for each level. Start just by yourself until you get X revenue. THEN hire people”
…..Well if you struggle to get X revenue on your own, how are you ever going to hire others?
The others help you grow the revenue in the first place.
I feel like the small business world is too overreliant on the founder and delusional about the capabilities of 1 person when competing against units 100-1,000x + bigger than them.
Come on.
Anything you want to compete in. In business.
Generally you already have competition.
And if you manage to somehow “spot” something they’ve “missed”, they could just copy you and wipe you out with their massive resources anyway.
In my opinion you need to expand your resources as FAST as possible.
Not this BS “oh wait until you get X profit on your own to hire other people”
Well if you’ve only made good profit on your own as a freelancer, and you’ve spent a lot of years trying to get a business off the ground solo, what are you meant to do?
“Oh just make it work” Great advice.
I just feel like there’s too much delusion into what it actually takes.
In a job or as a freelancer. It’s easier to make $3k-5k/month revenue because you’re only competing against individuals.
But when you try to compete against other businesses to make $3k-5k/month profit, you’re competing against businesses with 10x-100x the people, the money, the resources, the everything, to beat you.
So how are you meant to realistically beat them on your own? Without expanding your resources as quick as possible.
So because of this I believe if 1 person on their own is somehow meant to take a business from $0 to $10k/mo profit, then surely it will happen quicker if more people, of equal ability, are trying to make the business $0 to 10k/mo profit.
To be honest I don’t know what the truth is. This is just what I believe the truth is.
Because I’ve consumed so much wrong information from people acting like they have the correct advice in business.
All Youtube videos, articles, courses, claiming to make you successful in business, when in reality it’s just advice that sounds either easy to say or easy to hear.
Like it’s easy to say as a comment to this post, a response that takes 5 seconds to write, like the first thing that comes to your mind, like “just figure it out on your own”. But that’s not necessarily the truth, it’s just easy for you to say as a commenter. Comments aren’t necessarily the truth.
And on the other side business advice is easy to hear. Like “work on your own, make $1m/month, move to X country, live the life, working 2hours/day” which is just pure delusion. And most of the time the content/advice’s purpose is to benefit the business who made it, not the receiver of the advice. Because it’s selling a course or they have ad sense so they just want maximum engagement and views.
And anyone who is successful in business doesn’t need to give any advice. Because they’re applying the advice. Not giving it. Bill Gates or Jeff Bezos etc have no strong incentive trying to help others get to their level because they could just make an extra $10M-100M from spending the same time/energy/resources giving advice into growing their business.
They’re never gonna have advice that would help you beat them because otherwise they would’ve applied it themself.
And they are actually incentivized to not want others to truly succeed. Because it means more competition for them and less success for them.
So 99%+ of info online just seems like it’s not true.
I’m trying to figure out what is true and what isn’t.
Honestly though it’s difficult to even trust what anyone says in business. Any advice or feedback. For the reasons given.
Because 99% of feedback is either from people who haven’t truly grown a successful business, or it’s not related to you, or it involved luck, or it’s just like a motivational quote they tell you, or it’s a snarky comment they tell you.
It’s only helpful to them. And you are actually their customer or viewer or their entertainment. Not a successful business yourself. Because it’s just all misinformation that all contradicts with the truth.
So not even sure if it’s worth trying to get advice or if it’s all just pointless, just to figure it out myself from experience, trial and error and learning from my own thinking than relying on any other thinking.
Anyway do you think this is just crazy and I’m going crazy or is there any truth to what I’m saying?
Let me know your brutal honest feedback

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Chet getting more shot attempts.. I can really tell that this man's repertoire is not yet on full display! His bag is deeper from the perimeter down to the post. And the great thing with Chet is he doesn't need an additional 20lbs (although it would be great so he doesn't get pushed around the paint) to find a way to score. Mark Daigneault should set up plays for the guy. If Chet can be a presence in the paint, it would free up so much space for the rest of the squad. I'm hoping for a Dirk type development
Cason is a building block in OKC's roster construction. He needs to break through as the starting point guard for this team. A 3 guard lineup of Caso, SGA, Dub can go toe to toe with any 3 guard lineup currently in the NBA. And as a POA defender, I trust him just as much as I trust Dort. He has really impressed and I'm hoping he's given a longer leash on ball handling duties cracking defenses, distributing, and I want to see him create his own shot.
J-Dub can really be him. He just needs to simplify his game. Convert from 3 when given open looks and continue his straight line drives. Dub can become unstoppable, he just has to do it. I don't see much flaws in his game, he doesn't need to add anything really. He just needs to simplify, refine, and stay consistent.
SGA... I can't say anything about the man. When the pressure's on, he simply performs. But for the start of next season until the final 20 games, I would try to develop OKC's squad instead of always relying on SGA. He can always be called upon, but it's all the pieces that surround him that went missing that needs to be addressed. Hoping he can also be used as a spot up shooter instead of always having to rely on him driving and getting middies. The NBA and strong defensive lineups will eventually figure him out.
Giddey should find a way to knock down his perimeter shot attempts. If he's doing that it would make sense to continue developing him, but if he can't then he's a liability towards OKC's 5 man style of play. As fun as it is watching him distribute the ball, it's not going to be enough to keep him around. His true value was on display during this Mavs series. If he can be traded for a high draft pick or a 3&D wing that is on a good contract, is positionally versatile (Deni Avdija, Anthony Black, Jarred Vanderbilt, Nikola Jovic, Jarace Walker) then I see him being traded.
Lu Dort. If you're a fan of NBA basketball, then you're a fan of Lu Dort! He sets the tone for the team every time he's on the court. His intensity is always unmatchable in the most crucial moments of the game. He's our best POA defender. He always finds a way to get back possession by creating fouls out of nowhere, and probably no.1 in that category if it were being counted as a stat. Hope he can continue improving his game, and speed up his 3 point attempts. His trebuchet load up take too long and I seen that Gafford block come from a mile away smh hahahaha
Iso Joe, Wiggs, K-rich, and J-WIll are great players. Hoping they all buy in to this team's vision and stick around for the long haul. They are the reason I enjoy watching and support OKC basketball.
Ousmane... Next year he needs to finally get some rotation minutes. If there's an underdog to break into the starting lineup, it's him. If there's someone that should break into the starting lineup, it's also him. Look forward to seeing him develop but if things don't shape up next year I'm thinking that's a sign he might be on his way out a la Poku.
Moose, we love you big fella!
Bismack don't expect to see you again next season. Enjoy Cancun!
Hayward... Was expecting more from a former superstar.

So for starters I work in a sportsbook attached to a bar. Yesterday was the 2nd leg of the triple crown and the Fury/Usyk fight. When there's big events like this on it always brings in new customers, many who just wonder in because they can't believe they can actually legally gamble inside a sports bar. I've been working in Sportsbooks for over a year and I've kinda gotten used to the normal questions that come on days like these.
While it is the Preakness our Sportsbook doesn't offer horse racing. To save people from wasting time who are interested in betting horses I have posted a sign at the front of the door that clearly states we do not offer horse racing, and to bet online if they are trying to get Preakness bets in. Then in walks the boomer...
The problems start immediately at the door. Everyone who walks in the sportsbook must show ID to security. It doesn't matter if you're a regular who's in everyday or if it's your first time, it's required to make sure you're over 21, and to make sure you aren't banned from the property, or self excluded from gambling and we are extremely strict about it.
The boomer tries to walk right past our security and right to me because he's got questions. My security cuts him off immediately.
Security: Excuse me sir I need to see your ID
BB: Whaaat? My ID? You can't tell I'm over 21? I'm more than 21 x3
Security: I can see that sir, I still need your ID
BB: oh man you need a couple vials of blood too?
Security: No sir just your ID is fine
Boomer proceeds to take a solid 2 mins just to wrangle his ID out of his wallet. Security checks it, proceeds to give it back and the boomer then heads to me.
Starts by telling me how this is his first time and wants to know some information...great what's up man. Asks if we have business cards or brochures. I say no. His face starts to get a little red. He asks how he's supposed to get any information on the place. I politely told him his phone. Which he was holding in his hand out of his side holster. Face starts to get a little more red and proceeds to give me a speech about how cell phones don't always work and then told me we should really have physical literature for people who don't get on their phone. Sure thing sir I'll keep that in mind, anything else?
Asks me the stores hours for everyday of the week. I start to tell him but wait he's gotta write it down. Proceeds to take my security's sticky notes without asking that he has things already written on. I stop him immediately and say sir give that back (like I'm talking to a child). I take one sticky note and hand it to him. He gets smart and says "oh you sure it's ok I have this one ha ha ha" I give him the hours. He then asks what other locations we have, I tell him.
Finally after this dickhead has managed to piss me, my ticket taker, and security all off in a 5 minute span he finally starts to place a bet....what does this motherfucker start with? Take a guess? Oh well I wanna bet Mystic Dan to place... fucking horse racing. I let go that he walked past a sign directly in his eye line that says we don't have horse racing, and politely said "I'm sorry sir we don't offer horse racing here.
BB: Whaaat? How can you not have horse racing the Preakness is on.
Me: We don't have the license to offer horse racing sir
BB: Why?
Me: That's above me sir
BB: 😡
The boomer fucks off and hangs out at the bar for a few minutes. He walks back in while my ticket taker and I are assisting another customer. He walks right up to security and asks him to look up a round o/u on the Fury/Usyk fight.
Security: No sir I don't do that I'm security, you'll have to wait till they're done assisting this customer.
BB: 😡
We finally get to him. Places a $20 fucking dollar bet after all his bullshit. $20 fucking dollars. I tell him have a great day with a smile, 30 minutes later his bet loses and all is good in the world.