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TL;DR: 11 year old recently announced they are non-binary. Do you have advice/tips for my kid and me (the parent)? Also looking for fun stuff that makes them feel proud and part of a community.
Hi,
My apologies if this isn't a proper forum for my post.
I'm a parent not very involved in the LGBTQ2s+ community but not completely clueless. My kid told me casually the other day that they are not a boy or a girl. They told their friends already but not the adults (school, friends' parents etc.) I am using neutral pronouns and I correct myself when I slip (I still make mistakes, it's been a week). The issue is that I have to switch back and forth because the other adults don't know and if I say "they" well, I am telling everyone, so with the other adults and strangers I use he/him. My kid said that's fine and asked that I continue that way. Is that something I should be concerned about? I offered to talk with the school teacher at least, but they declined so I figured I would just follow their lead.
I have no idea what kind of challenges and opportunities await a young kid who is aware and proud of their non-binary identity.
I looked up lots of websites and blogs online but a lot of resources relate to name changes and legal and physical transition. My kid, who hasn't hit puberty yet, isn't worried or sad about their body (other than wanting more upper-body strength). They don't want to change their name either. They do care about their looks and their true identity.
Do you have advice for the parents, like Dos and Don'ts? Also advice for my kid to navigate this time in their life?
They asked about the meaning of LGBTQ+ and during the discussion we looked at the LGBTQ2s+ flags and the non-binary flag and we discussed pride: their eyes started shining with excitement. They are only 11 years old and the social opportunities offered by advocacy groups in our area aren't available for them. They would have loved to join an LGBTQ2s+ group of tweens and young teens to play video games, shoot hoops, and skateboard. Do you have any advice on websites to check out, video games, youtube channels, streamers, books, comic-books, movies, TV-Show that may help them feel part of a community? ideally fun stuff at this point.
They are into Hilda, Nemona, Owl House, Gravity Falls, My Hero Academia, Amazing Digital Circus, Fortnite, Fall Guys, Minecraft and a bunch of obscure and often cute or silly stuff that I couldn't name :D
Thanks a lot.

Hi. I have a 10 years old girl who has witnessed her father being abusive with me, never physically, but verbally, mentally, physically, emotionally and financially. She makes it very clear she doesnt like daddy and would like to live with just me. I am in a very complicated situation, I had an accident that left me with long term injuries. He tells me I’m dead weight for him. Since my injury I’ve gained some weight due to not being able to exercise as I used to, he calls me a fat pig, a slob, because I don’t dress nice anymore, I don’t have the money to take care of myself. He gives me a roof over my head and food. Nothing else. We haven’t slept in the same bed in over 3 years and since then I’ve been sleeping on a mattress on the floor in my kid’s room (she’s happy about that). I had an amazing career, made more money than him, always paid my own bills and half of the house bills, I always spent more on our kid than he did until my accident. Now I’m trying to tough it up and go back to work but he won’t allow anyone in my house to watch my kid while I’m gone (before and after school), he says he won’t commit to “watching” her because of his job and she begs me not to leave her with him. He makes it impossible for me to have a full time job. I’ve been asking him to move out, I can then have family members come and watch my kid but he says he won’t because I don’t have a job to pay the bills but I can’t work if he’s still in my house and won’t allow child care. We’ve had this conversation 50 times and he never has an answer or a solution. I’m now to the point of desperation, I hate him, I feel worthless and defeated. I wanna go to family court and have him removed from our home (it’s a rental, lease is on my name). He has no relationship with any of his family members, only his mother who also can’t tolerate him (so she says) but when poop hits the fan, she ticks to him, which is expected but since she knows and agrees that he’s not a good dad, shouldn’t she stick to what’s best for her only grandchild? She has money and manipulates him because she helps him when he needs something, she does the same to my daughter. I have a good relationship with her but won’t hide the fact she was abusive towards him as a child, an alcoholic, crack head who had multiple men moving on and out of her house. I used to feel bad for him but I can’t excuse his behaviors towards me any longer. This post could not be written if I had to explain how many horrible things he’s done to me but I am without a doubt at my lowest. When is it ok for me to have that conversation with my child and explain why I’m doing what I’m doing? Although she asks me to live with just me, having a parent removed from the home can be traumatic and she may think I didn’t have to do that. His mom at that point will not talk to me anymore, she knows all about his abuse and says she feels bad but she won’t stick to me when it comes down to it. I’m afraid at that point, she will start manipulating my child to feel bad for him and making me the bad one. That’s why it’s so important to me that my child knows the truth but how do I do that? I don’t know that she can handle the truth at 10 years old. The moment I do that, they’ll try and buy her opinion of me. They’ll manipulate her with gifts and if she doesn’t know the truth, I may very well be the loser in this situation. Please let me know what you think I should do. Thank you

I am so happy to find this sub. It's been 11 years since I rebeled against this cult. For the longest time I use to think I was the only 'Out of line' since none of my IRL bohra friends relate to me. This is my story about how I became an atheist.
Let me tell you the first incident when I was first called a 'Dawat no Dushman'. I was in 8th grade, it was a normal day in madrasa. Our maulima was talking about how we should not consume alcohol and went a step ahead and said "Even looking at the liquor shop was a great sin". Now at this point I was quite innocent and had just discovered how fun rebelling is. So I told my maulima that this rule is quite stupid since there are so many liquor store on the road and it's not possible to not glance at them.
Now at this point that dumb bitch of a maulima could have just explained that she did not mean it literally and was a metaphor for "looking at the liquor shop with intent to buy it". But NO, she went bat shit crazy and told me to stop questioning maula. She scolded me in front of all my friends for pointing out a rational innocent remark. She went ahead and complained to my parents about my behaviour and told them "discipline him or he will become like those dawat na dushman".
After this point everything started to go down hill. I was among the toppers in the madrasa. My parents use to dream of sending me to jamea. I had even memorized the complete 30th sipara by 7th grade. But this incident sparked the fire of rebellion in me (There were a few more things that acted fuel). I never stopped asking questions to my parents. I had completly stopped doing namaz. I use to pretend doing namaz in the other room because my mother would still insist I pray. I use to count seconds in my head equivalent to the seconds it took for me to recite the duas in each namaz as an act of rebellion. Just pretending to read Qur'an and occasionally turning the pages, just staring at them while being lost in my daydreams.
By 10th grade I was barely passing the final madrasa exams. I had started reading about atheism on Facebook pages. Started to talk to my hindu friends about my thoughts and luckily they related to me. Would talk about how the whole concept of a god was stupid. A year later I openly told my parents that I don't believe in their religion. But, I had fallen into a complete existential crisis as I had to idea what to believe and the purpose of life and all. Nor was my mom accepting the fact that her bright child was on the exact path the maulima had warned them about. I had shared my thoughts with some of my bohra friends thinking they might understand my point. But those motherfuckers went ahead and spilled all the beans to their parents and the jamat. People from the jamat would come and try to talk sense into me. None of them simpletons were able to convince me. After this I stopped going to masjid expect for lailatul qadar, Eid and 10th of Muharram because my mom really insisted me to. That's the only time I would be forced to meet my traitor friends cause I had to sit in the thal with them. One of them even said "Aaje dawedar aayo che", which really hurt but I laughed it off.
After a year or two of misery and depression, I finally started to embrace the fact that there is no purpose to life and it was up to me to give purpose to it. My parents finally accepted what I was and stopped insisting me. They are still very good and active bohras. There even came a period where I tried to make them understand my point of view and make them like me. But then I realised that there was convincing them. And even if I convinced them there was nothing good achieved. They would loose their identity and purpose in life, loose all of their friends and become an outcast. Would be miserable life for them. They are much better of living a blissfully ignorant life.
Somehow that maulima's prophecy did become right. Ironic how her efforts to keep me in line became the seeds of what I am today. A self fulfilling prophesy.
It's been 11 years now since and I have fully embraced my atheism, found meaning in my many hobbies, meaningful friendship, managed to get into one of the top MBA colleges. Even explored other religions with help of my friends just out of curiosity. Visited temples and churches all over india and realised other religions have such a rich and vibrant culture.
But through out my journey I must admit that tho I do not agree with this cult, there are few redeemable qualities. The 'Thali' is something that I find really helpful to an average mumin (Atleast where I live). There is also a great sense of community. I totally agree that the kothar in entirety should be overthrown, but an average bohra is still a very decent human being with a lot of idealistic characteristics like integrity, honesty, humble, hardworking, etc.
I would love to hear your stories about how your first spark was ignited and how it turned into a fire. Thanks for your time.

I am a co-dependent in a relationship for the past 1,5 years. My girlfriend has some abusive tendencies when she feels shame or like she's not good enough. She is also a workaholic in recovery. For a long time I was too "understanding" and basically enabled her to dump on me, while not having space within the relationship to have my own needs. Then I started to set boundaries.
She has now been in therapy for a couple of months, and she is being careful not to work too hard at her job. She does still hurt me quite often, as change won't happen over night. Often when I say how something is making me feel, she makes it about how that makes her feel.
Long story short, we had sex for the first time in a while, and I think I dissociated. After wards I felt terrible in my body. This is telling me that she has caused me significant pain and my body does not feel good with her that close.
I'm thinking I want a break in the relationship, both to heal and so that she can learn new ways of managing her emotions and become more self aware. She feels I'm too demanding regarding the pace of her growth and she has a point. I want her to stop hurting me because it's destroying the relationship.
I have a tendency to create distance when I perceive her to behave in an abusive way, which makes her anxious, so sometimes I stay with her to make her feel better although it makes me uncomfortable.
Anyway, this is all a long explanation to get to my question: Can a break work / how long should a break last / what are good rules in a monogamous (as in not seeing other people) break?

I have a GF that i hope will be my future wife. When i was a teenager around 17/18 i paid for sex a couple of times after a difficult situation with a girl i was speaking to its been 4/5 years since then i regret it to be honest but i am wondering how much i should tell my GF about this in terms of details. I let her know that i have tried it before and didnt like it and would never do it again but i didnt let her know how many times and details about what i did it may be implied i only tried it once should i just let it go or should i go into it deeper i would like to leave it in the past but im wondering if i would be decieving her if i did

This is more just a small idea I've had since Engage's release, but regardless of what Elyos's story looks like and no matter how one-note some characters feel, I do actually think that people underestimate the depth of some of the characters that could be really put to use in a more grounded setting. It's just kind of a shame that the Engage plot isn't very grounded in its worldbuilding and characters.
This won't include every single character or anything and is not an exhaustive list of possibilities, but I wanted to just throw it out there as an example for discussion. Obviously, let me know if you like/dislike, agree/disagree, or would have alternative or additional ideas.
Solm Within Almyra (Timerra + Fogado) - This was the initial idea that came to mind. We know Almyra is pretty divided, based on steppe empires with numerous nations, languages, and beliefs within them. Here, I'm suggesting that Solm is one of them, a desert-based people within the wider Almyran nation that will inevitably be drawn into the conflict for the throne in the future. In this case, Timerra and Fogado are half-siblings to Claude and Shahid, and Timerra is the primary rival to them both (since Fogado has no desire for the throne). On the one hand, Timerra and Fogado would have far better personal relations with Claude than his other half-siblings and not judging him for his heritage, but on the other hand they and Solm want to retreat into isolation/neutrality somewhat rather than engage fully with Fodlan and others. Still, this means that Claude has pseudo-allies that he can either influence if he wins enough glory in Fodlan to change their mind, or that he can rely on to at least try and limit damage if he dies there. In particular, this would include not just Nader the NPC, but Timerra and Fogado appearing in the Golden Deer route as playable allies who join at Merceus (in VW) or post-Pact (in GW) who experience Fodlan and get broken out of the whole Solm neutrality/isolationist mindset.
Potential Supports for Timerra: Claude (A), Hilda (A), Cyril (A), Ignatz (A), Lorenz (B), Raphael (A+), Leonie (B), Lysithea (B+), Marianne (B+), Balthus (A), Holst (C)
Potential Supports for Fogado: Claude(B+), Hilda (A+), Cyril (B), Marianne (A), Lorenz (A), Leonie (A), Lorenz (B+), Lysithea (A), Ignatz (B), Balthus (B), Holst (A), Shamir (A)
Elusia and Sreng (Ivy + Hortensia) - A cold, frigid land in a constant war with a barren and warlike nation on its borders, with both worshipping very different gods and despising each other through and through. Imagine, if you will, Sylvain does not get a hostage son from the Srengese warlord Hyacinth, but gets a hostage daughter. A seemingly demure and restrained girl named Ivy, who learns Fodlan's language, is fascinated by the Church of Seiros, but still inevitably finds a way to escape and return to her home where her father has since remarried and has a new daughter. Sylvain never forgets the relationship he had with her, is convinced that someday he can mend the divide with Sreng, and when they finally come back into contact, well, things are a lot more complicated now, aren't they? Now, they're adults rather than kids and that makes things awkward especially as Sylvain's reputation comes to light, but there's also this child who's around who Sylvain is annoyed as hell by but also weirdly protective of.
Potential Supports for Ivy: Sylvain (A+), Dimitri (A), Dedue (A), Felix (B), Ingrid (B), Annette (B), Mercedes (A+), Ashe (B), Rodrigue (C)
Potential Supports for Hortensia: Sylvain (B), Dimitri (B), Dedue (A), Felix (A), Ingrid (B), Annette (B+), Mercedes (B), Ashe (A), Rodrigue (B)
Dagda's Leftovers from Brodia (Yunaka + Saphir) - At first seems like a weird choice, but all of the Brodian names are based on minerals, which Shamir also fits (being based on "flint" in older semitic languages) including Yunaka's real name Larimar. I did not include the royals this time as Diamant and those guys are dealing with all the problems in Dagda itself, and instead we're focusing on the warriors who, like Shamir, were left stranded by the war and for whom non-royal concerns are their character focus. On the one hand we have Yunaka, who has made up a fake name and personality to hide in Fodlan, taking up mercenary work and trying to hide her foreign and assassin past while getting drawn into the Empire's employ. On the other hand we have Saphir, a woman far more resentful of the Empire, who would tell us of Adrestia's own sins and reasons why Dagda went to war, as well as bond with Petra over shared traumas and losses, but would also be fully willing to join SS if presented with the opportunity.
Potential Supports for Yunaka: Shamir (A+), Petra (A), Constance (B), Hubert (A), Hubert (B), Caspar (A), Ferdinand (A), Linhardt (B+), Dorothea (B), Jeritza (A), Monica (C),
Potential Supports for Saphir: Shamir (A), Petra (A), Constance (A), Edelgard (A), Hubert (B+), Caspar (B), Ferdinand (B), Linhardt (B), Dorothea (A), Monica (B)
Never figured out anything for Firine or the other Elyos nations that would be fairly distributed, other than a weird idea like the Lythos/the Order of the Divine Dragon being part of the Church and watching over sleeping Nabateans/related forces like Flayn and Sitri and maybe even Alear.
I also have some vague ideas for non-selected characters above, I just wanted to focus on like two or three per route and not end up with 50+ characters per route. Generally, I kind of limit it to the idea of 2-4 Engage characters per route (BLs get less because of how many they already have, GDs get some because they're not far behind, BEs would get more to try and balance out numbers)

For some reason, my life has always been bad, neither my parents nor anyone at all ever hugged me, told me that I love you, that everything will be fine. Often my parents like to call me stupid, a moron, and the like for no reason. At my job, my colleagues don’t like me and don’t respect me because I’m doing my work very well, and I know that they want to set me up and fire me. I don’t have a person to whom I would tell about my feelings, experiences, problems, achievements, I keep it all to myself and it hurts me very much. From time to time I often cry and just want to scream.
It seems to me that the only thing that keeps me here is the girl for whom I have had feelings for a long time, but she rejected me. I'm just glad she's happy and living a full life. How I want, even if it’s just one time, just for her to hug me and say that everything will be fine. I just want to cry with my head on her shoulders. She has so much beautiful hair. And eyes. That's all I want. God, why does everything happen this way?

Hi Everyone,
I started talking with a Bumble match about two weeks ago. I noticed from the day I gave her my number that she texts me from the moment she wakes up until bed. By itself, that isn’t so strange, but if I’m in a meeting or something, and I tell her I’ll message in a bit she’ll usually just kind of ignore that and find other things to send me, like photos of herself, or TikToks or whatever. The reason I am making this post, though, is because yesterday she told me that she wants guys to be obsessed with her because then she knows they like her, but in her words: “Not creepy obsessed.” In the back of my mind, I know this is a giant red flag but just wanted to confirm. I’m concerned this girl is attention-seeking more than anything else. We’re supposed to go on a date soon, and I would hate to spend my time and energy on this person, only for us to start dating and find out she’s controlling or refuses to allow me to have a life of my my own. Thoughts?
Thanks so much.

Start off by saying my names max I’m 23 currently, I have some issues that i barely let anyone know, I’m bipolar and a bit of a narcissistic person. I don’t mean to be that way it’s just how I turned out, trust me if I could change it I would, I just have major trust issues so going to a therapist is kinda out of the question even if I need to go to one, I know it’s not healthy but I’m trying I guess, just not hard enough as some people say. The way they think they can talk about stuff that I can’t control like that makes me mad, I also have anger issues which is another thing I don’t tell a lot of people..I don’t mean to harm people it just comes naturally I’m a very open person, example: if you tell me if you need me to rate your outfit honestly, I’ll be pretty honest which most times makes people a bit angry at me that call it dog shit or something like that but they asked me to be honest, so it’s not my fault. Anyway I only have a few actual friends that I trust, about four people, I’m just going to get on with the story to save you boredom.
I moved in with one of my friends a few weeks ago, actually she’s my best friend her names Macy, also before anyone thinks that we’re dating she’s lesbian and I’m ace, I never really liked people that much I always found myself different from others. Through my whole my whole life people either disliked me or full on hated me, I try not to be effected by them which was kinda hard until I got to 8th grade when I stoped caring what people thought of me. I was alone for most of my life and I still am sometimes, my father passed away when I was younger and my mom went into a very depressive state, she still distances herself from talking about him which I understand. I love my mom a lot when I was young she was my favorite person and she still is I just can’t get over the affection when I was younger, people used to call me a mommas boy all the time which I would get mad at but I was, and I still am.
When me and Macy moved in together we did it to save money and split bills, her girlfriend broke up with her before we moved in together, she talked about splitting the bills and I eventually agreed, she’s my best friend so living with her wouldn’t be that bad I thought…I was wrong so, so wrong.
The moment we got there the neighbors were way to friendly and I don’t mean “welcome!” Friendly, they would talk to us each chance they got and they were so touchy, I’m not an ugly guy I’ll admit I’m pretty good looking, I’ve got called cute/hot by A lot of people, I normally either nod or say yeah. But their daughter (I’m guessing who’s a lot younger then me 15-16 since she looks young) keeps trying to touch me or make suggestive gestures to me. And I’ve told her parents “get your daughter I am not catching a case for that thing.” Safe to say they didn’t do anything..they were just pissed.
Also their mom Kisha keeps going into our yard every night almost and looks up at our rooms and she looks there for a good 30-a minute, until her husband Shawn comes out and scolds her, I always keep my window opened at night, I know it’s stupid but it helps me sleep, they both look in their mid 30’s. I know I shouldn’t be talking about them like their animals but honestly I don’t really give a damn if their dog keeps shitting in MY yard. Which is disgusting since they don’t pick it up even though I’ve asked them “pick up your dogs shit when you walk him.” I also occasionally go on either nightly around 8pm-9pm or early walks 5am-6:30 I have a strict schedule for working out, it makes me less stressed and anxious when I have work in the evening I work 9/5 I work as a mechanic, it’s a good job I like it, I also drive a motorcycle which makes girls fold (don’t know why I find it annoying) I also have a STEM degree, I’m not a stupid guy I’m actually pretty smart.
Macy thinks their just being nice but I don’t know if I’m just being over exaggerating but I don’t trust them.
(This is the first part! Btw it’s fake I’m just bored but I’ll make a part 2 ITS GOING TO BE INTERESTING IM TRYING I’m only 13 so it’s not that good right now)

I apologize for this maybe a long story as I have 3 years of information to put into it. So I (f22) have been dating my boyfriend (m24) for 7-8 years. My MIL did not like me from the start just because she felt her son could "find someone better." I have always been nice to her as I'm a people pleaser.
2 and a half years ago my boyfirned and I had gotten pregnant with our daughter. When my MIL found out she pushed us for about 3 months to get an abortion/adoption, which we kept saying no to. Since we said no she went to my parents to demand they make me abort/adoption the pregnancy. But unfortunately for her, I was visiting them that day and we got into an argument about it to which she said bf and I would be terrible parents because we both have "mental disorders" (depression and anxety). This argument went on for about an hour before my dad stepped in, forcing her to back down and leave.
Also during my pregnancy and for a whole year after bf was letting MIL do our laundry as we lived in an apartment at the time. I had noticed during this that clothes (mine, my daughters, ect) were going missing. I would ask her if she misplaced the missing clothes or gave them to bf's sister by mistake, which let to her freaking out. She would call me ungrateful and selfish everytime I asked and would threaten to stop doing my clothes and only do baby's and bf's. After a almost 2 years of her doing our laundry I finally convinced my bf to look for our missing clothes. When we went searching in her house we found 4 piles of some of the missing baby clothes in a garage sale pile. I was so mad and frustrated at how insane MIL made me feel everytime I asked I just left without a word. About an hour later she called us claiming she had "just found" so of the baby's clothes and had bf pick up all the clothes we just found. The worst parts about this is that the clothes she took were mostly clothes my family and I bought the baby and most were still brand new but no longer fit along with when bf came to pick them up she also handed him one of my dressing stated that she wanst planning on selling my fancy clothes.
When my daughter was born, MIL called us bad parents for not taking the baby to the Dr she picked out. And for a few months would bring up the dr she picked trying to convince us to switch drs. During this time she also would complain about how my daughter looked more like me then bf.
Last August we had to move back in with our parents because our landlord trippled our rent. Baby and I lived with my parents and bf moved back with his. And we lived with them for about 5 months till we found our first house in december. After we bought the house I had found out that MIL was apparently trying to convince bf to break up with me. Saying many things including calling me a golddigger, because I'm a stay at home mom and don't have a college degree(I got 2 jobs after graduating highschool and quit them when I got pregnant because bf wanted me to), saying I'm a terrible mom, telling him I'll leave him and take the house and kid with me, and claiming it would be better to break up, pay child support, and never see his daughter again then to marry me. Along with complaining about random things I posted/shared on fb. With this info I blocked her on fb. Which she also freaked out about on Christmas and ran away for 3-4 hrs.
Now on to this year. I caught her going through my things in my bedroom but when she realized I saw her she claimed my daughter lost her toy and was trying to find it.
I've found out from SIL that MIL is also talking bad about me to her neighbors and coworkers, claiming I dress weird and that I keep the kid from her ( I dont and never have), and that I'm not the one for her son and "he can do better".
I am now pregnant with my second and have had bad morning sickness that lasts all day. With this information SIL told me that MIL has been going around her house calling me a picky eater (I don't like pizza or fish) and that it's apparently not right that bf has been making dinner for the past few nights. She also has been complaining that I shouldn't be posting a potato soup recipe on fb. (No clue why soup is a bad thing but I guess it is)
And from what I understand SIL also over heard MIL talking about getting my daughter secretly baptized. Stated that MIL claims bf and I "would never know". Bf and I are not religious and believe it should be up to my daughter when she's older if she wants baptized. MIL knows this information.
My bf just ignores everything his mom does as that was how he handled her as a kid and refuses to go no contact with her. He has even stated that I should ignore her antics and "stop looking for drama" when I ask his sister to keep an ear out for negative comments from MIL about me. But with everything she has done I feel defeated and just want to be done with her and her crossing boundaries over and over.
AITA? Or am I looking for drama?
Note: this is only info from the past 3 years and there are some things I did not add that has also happened during these 3 years.

I have a GF that i hope will be my future wife. When i was a teenager around 17/18 i paid for sex a couple of times after a difficult situation with a girl i was speaking to its been 4/5 years since then i regret it to be honest but i am wondering how much i should tell my GF about this in terms of details. I let her know that i have tried it before and didnt like it and would never do it again but i didnt let her know how many times and details about what i did it may be implied i only tried it once should i just let it go or should i go into it deeper i would like to leave it in the past but im wondering if i would be decieving her if i did

Me too, I hate myself and I hate being part of this community of this religion. Reading the Koran and praying makes me very uncomfortable. Others will say that I am possessed that God punished me. I have experienced difficult times in my life. Abuse/Harassment/mistreatment. I have always been told that God puts you through tests, but even thinking about that makes me feel bad. Why does he make me suffer? You see I am bi I like women and men, I am in a relationship with a girl. I can't be completely happy, because I tell myself that I will end up in hell. I hurt myself and many people say that I am a horrible person because I damage the body that God "lent" to me. I risk losing everything, I would like to be free, I feel trapped. My family risks losing me. regnier, I hate myself. I pray late the night before to be straight, why do we have to forgive the people who broke us? A lot of people ask God to destroy me because I was bi. Don't run away, I'm trapped. Please tell me there's nothing wrong with me.
I hide behind a person who is not me. I would like to escape this toxic family, this religion, just to be free.

I really enjoy the outdoors genre of movies. I like both documentaries or movies set in the an adventures/outdoors setting. Some of my favorite documentaries are Free Solo, Meru and Touching the Void. Another I really loved is an old Red Bull documentary about kayakers braving the Congo River (can’t remember the name). Some non-docu movies like Everest, River Wild, Cliffhanger. I tend to like thrillers or movies that have a crazy story to tell, and is well told and well acted. Any suggestions?

So I want to preface this by saying I’m not really worried about my own partners actions, we’ve been dating for a few years and we’re long distance but only for 3 months out of the year (I’m still in school and go to school close to where he is so I only don’t see him during summer). My boyfriend’s friends are fun people, but they’re not the best people and I think he’s fully aware of that. I’m not saying they’re awful, they’re good at heart but they’re just the typical not really self-aware mid 20s type guys who don’t really know yet how to think about other people very well-plus they’re a bit younger than him so we just sort of expect certain behavior out of them since my bf grew up rather quickly since his life was pretty hectic. Nevertheless, once in a while he’ll go out for a drink with them or so or some gathering maybe a few times a month. Sometimes I’ll join when invited sometimes not because I respect a “guys night” and I’ve never worried. But now-about 3 of his friends have started having girlfriends (one who later got married) which yay I thought at first because I can finally have more girl friends but turns out they are either really REALLY controlling/manipulating and or very obviously looking to cheat on their boyfriend. For instance: The wife of one of his friends has attempted to start an affair with another one of his buddies within the friend group and luckily the friend is a decent person and said fuck no but it’s still ongoing of a situation. Another friends girlfriend just attempts to flirt CONSTANTLY and whenever they have a guys night, she (or one of the other 3 girls since it’s the same behavior basically) HAVE to go on guys night. Even when there’s no other girls or was intended to be a guy only event. Granted none of the girls yet have tried to come unto my boyfriend yet ( though I’m just taking his word for it but I have no reason to believe they would since he keeps to himself ) But I feel like since the ladies are so toxic and sloppy it’s only a matter of time since I had a friend group in high school who had a girlfriend in it who tried to sleep with EVERY GUY in the friend group and the kid is still dating her today. I don’t think any cheating is going to go on or anything with my boyfriend but I hate knowing when my boyfriend goes out I have to hear about some-please excuse my language but honestly whore try to so obviously get with her man’s friends? It leaves a pit in my stomach and I can’t say it’s jealousy because my boyfriend is fine but I feel so bad for these guys and don’t know how they don’t see it or why no one is telling them (especially about the attempted affair). I know I can’t control other peoples actions but when I saw my boyfriend was following the woman who attempted to have the affair on Instagram (granted it was before she admitted she wanted an affair to her “crush” but me and my bf saw it a mile away before everyone else) I just blocked her on his account she hardly follows any of his friends and i found it weird that she never requested to follow me, even though we talked the same amount if not more than my bf who only spoke to her two times ever (This sounds super petty i know I just was uncomfortable for whatever reason) he wasn’t really happy with it and we had a bit of an argument but he mostly argued because he just wants to “keep the peace” but honestly I could care less about keeping the peace between people I can’t stomach. And it’s not like I’m usually the jealous type, if he goes out and a single girl comes up to him at the bar and hits on him and he says “im taken” I wouldn’t care, it’s just if he has to constantly be around women who are in a relationship, and who already don’t care about breaking their promises or anyone else’s promises. It just reads as them having basically no morals. I just don’t get why his friend group can’t say “your girlfriends/wives are attempting to cheat on you and flirt with other guys they suck, kick them to the curb. But I don’t know, I guess his friends are too desperate and settle for girls like this? Does anyone know what to do in a weird situation like this or advice to cope?

I am a 39 year old man. I like to "work from home" on the campus of a prestigious university in my city.
Why? The wifi is good, I want to get out of my house, and I don't want to feel pressured to buy things at a cafe. People accuse me of wanting to ogle and pickup college girls. Yes, some of them are quite pretty. I am 39, but look MUCH younger and am considered to be very handsome. I think that they ogle me much more than I ogle them. I very often see them checking me out and hear them say, "He's hot!"
I didn't talk to anyone. I eventually became assigned the trivia host of the on-campus bar, which does give me a better reason to be there.
There is one girl who looks like a senior. I have also seen her at a concert, and she clearly recognized me. One night she came to trivia and gave me the most exaggerated look of girlish yearning. I should have winked or waved at her, but I just didn't. Later, at an on campus festival, I saw her from afar and she was frowning at me, perhaps thinking that I couldn't possibly be attracted to her.
Months pass, and I would sometimes see her on campus. Then I finally got the nerve to approach her and chat her up. She is a senior, and I got her first name. It seemed really awkward so I didn't ask for her number, which I regretted as what was the point of speaking to her?
With her first name and some other details, I was able to figure out her full name. I mailed her a letter to the university in general and explained how I got her full name. The letter was short and funny.
I later got a phone call. One ring, then they hung up. I googled the number and it was from her on-campus job. I don't know why she called or why she hung up. I decided to write her a second letter. This one was actually much funnier and more cute.
Nothing happened, and I think it is over. I think it was good of me to approach her. We both needed vindication. Me from thinking that I am too scared to talk to women, and she might have felt good that I was in fact attracted to her.
But is this creeping people out? Keep in mind, there is a 0% chance that she was NOT attracted to me. It is very possible that she thought I was a late 20s grad student which is fine, and not a late 30s almost-rando which she might not like. But why did she call and hang up?

So this post is gonna be longer and a bit more put together than my last post. I'm taking notes as I watch. I'm also following the Netflix season list so this will be me follow season 3.
Also, like before I am doing my best to stay spoiler free. I'm not looking up spellings as well so if I misspell something, oh well.

1. Naruto and pervy Santa's relationship is pretty weird man. Like my dude is lusting after a teenage boy who can transform in a woman. The whole "I'm an old, super powerful person but I act like a perv and a weirdo while I train the next generation." Is kinda over done. (Though this show is a bit old.)
   
2. Does Gaara have a demon like Naruto? Cause that would neat.
   
3. "Lee's injuries were too serious and he can no longer be a shinobi." If they think I would believe that, they can geeeeeeet fuuucked. No body puts Lee in a corner.
   
4. Is that what the 4th Hokage looks like? I swear to God if this mofo turns out to be Naruto's dad I will flip a table. That is waaay to cliche. At most I will accept a big brother, cause big brothers can be dicks. Like who puts a demon in a baby? Big brothers, that's who.
   
5. Ok Giant frog is absolutely the best thing in this show.
   
   1. I loved the scene between Naruto and shorti Hinata. So dang cute. I hope Naruto realizes that she wants to jump his bones eventually.
   2. Naruto vs Neji. Is it bad that I want Neji to win? Dude is so cool and it absolutely sucks how he was raised to be a bodyguard for Hinata and lost all choice in his life. #JusticeforNeji. Ok, my boy Neji got justice. I feel better now.
6. Kiba, Hinata and Ant-man's traineteacher lady is hot AF.
   
7. Again my girl with her fan. Shit gets me everytime. Riding in on it like the silver surfer. lol I think she is my favorite so far.
   
8. I think I've been sleeping on ol mate Shikamaru, dude is, as the kids would say, based. The music during their fight had me bopping. "Geez, I envy a cloud being so free..." -Shikamaru. Ok this dude is my new favorite so far.
   

I think since my post is getting long ill leave it here and do another part later. I would love to answer questions
Edit: Some spellings. Also, adding this was Eps 1-12 notes.
Stay fresh Cheese bags.

Long message/ narrative over the last two years which has been troubling me. Also, I don't know if my story really fit in here. Haven't used this app much. Apologies to the moderato admin of the community.
I'm 30 yo male. I got married on 19 Feb 22 and just completed 2 yrs. The last 2 years have been very difficult for me and I had thoughts of commiting suicide multiple times. Now, somehow those thoughts have stopped.
My legally wedded (28 yo as on date) has done nothing but tarnished my image in the society, my peers, juniors and seniors of the office. She shouted on me, threw things on me and even held knife on my throat.
My sex life was also never good in these last 2 years. I never forced her for anything or put any kind of pressure on her and yet she pushed when it came to my pleasure. I was very deliberate and concerned about her pleasure and always kept mine at a backfoot. After giving her a good orgasm, she always said that she's tired and asked me to move and that she wants to sleep. I always did it. Towards end of 23, I even found her tinder profile.
We were already under marriage counselo psychologist since May 22 (calling her 'A') and that too it was my wife who wanted to go for it. Post that in Dec 22, we went for another psychologist/ counselor (calling her 'B') as well. And my wife was reluctant to change her behavior.
She even put false allegations (of having an affair with another of her colleague) on one of my senior under whom she was working and shouted on him on multiple occasions including their official meetings. (Let's say her organization is Z and mine is A. I work along with this senior in organization A and he's also the boss of organization Z in which she works)
I've heard her talking bad and ill about me to others in her family and other known ladies here in the society. I also have those recordings when she's talking like that about me. Also, I have photos and videos of her WhatsApp chats where I caught her cheating on me with a considerable older man (got suspicious from Apr 22). I have her chats where they were sexting. When she got suspicious that I might know, she changed the platform to telegram and then to signal. But again, I was able to track her sexting on all the other platforms. Once I confronted her (Feb 23 on first anniversary), she never accepted her mistake and said that as per her she never did anything wrong. A few months later, I see another of her chats with her ex. Before marriage, she did tell me about her ex and said that never happened anything between them apart from holding hands. I kept an eye on the chats and I find that as late as 1 in the night they were on a video call which lasted close to an hour. A few days later when she was heading to her home (in Jun 23), myka, I see her text telling him that she wants to meet him and she's OK getting physical with him. And then confirms if the place to get physical will be the same like earlier, the corner seat in the theater. This got me very furious and I did not want her to come back. Which I made clear to her and her parents. Even then her parents never believed me and she was always the best manipulater and denied the same and denied this sort of talk which I claim had happened.
All this while, the counselor A, I've been in touch with her. When these things happened, I told her and my parents everything. Both, they asked me to give her another chance and after a series of conference call between me and my wife and counselor A being the moderator, finally she came back after close to 5 months, just before Diwali last year. And even that was painful. We flew to my parents place for diwali and again lots of things and fights happened. Post diwali, my parents shifted with me permanently. First week of Dec, she scratched my mother, then pushed and kicked and my mother fell badly hurting herself and sustaining injury in her flesh area of the ribs. It was very bad few weeks for her. Even the doc said her to get admitted thinking that even I'm with my wife in hurting my mother. She held on to my laptop, hugging it, which I had given my father to work on. My parents said, let us delete the files stored on it and then you can keep it and then words were exchanged and that is when she did all those things to my mother.
Since that day onwards, it's been 5 months that we are living separated. She's living in her home with her parents and me here with my parents. I've decided and made up my mind for a divorce. But I'm not sure even if I hold any ground to file a divorce. Also, the courts and law in our country mostly favours the opposite sex, the females.
Need advice/ help as to what should I do. Thanks in advance.

I woke up today and something reminded me of an event a few years back. I’ve been reminiscing on a recent post here about missed or ignored red flags. There were a few over the years. She said she was an alien waiting to go home. She said she felt like she wasn’t human and couldn’t relate to humans. That sort of thing.
For her bachelorette party, she and her girlfriends went on a fun destination trip. When she came back there were the usual ups and downs of drama, but lots of great experiences too. Embedded in those stories was one about how her friend (witchy, professional psychologist, reads people’s auras and shit) had told my wife that for the first time, she saw my wife’s “Creature”. My wife was giddy to try to get me to see it. She had me stare into her eyes and tell her what I saw.
Now, maybe I’m just a low-evolved male, or maybe it’s all nonsense, but as you may have guessed, I saw…my wife. And nothing more. I wasn’t sure if she was trying to show me some trick with vibrating eyes or what. She was disappointed, and then told me all about the Creature. This sort of hidden shadow realm thing. I stared into her eyes again and…nothing. She chalked it up to some kind of feminine intuition thing, or because I am, apparently, a creature of the light, I might not be able to see such things.
In my time on this subreddit I have found so many of my experiences echoed by others. So I figured why not toss this one up to the crowd? Any of you redditors ever experience something akin to “The Creature”? And I’m not talking about the Jekyll and Hyde effect when arguing with them. That, I think, is a separate and distinct thing altogether from “The Creature”.

Let me tell a story: Went to a job fair at the Amsterdam Brewhouse in Toronto last week. Had my interview w/the Assistant GM. He asked me 2 questions that I thought were important "what does hospitality/customer service mean to you" & explain what the process of bringing plates to the table, knowing the menu, what's in the food, how the food is made, allergies". Interviewed continuted & the AGM said to me "thier might be potional here, something to work with, let me give you my business card which I never do, & call me Wednesday. In my head I thinking I got this. This Wednesday I called, the Assistant GM, introduced myself again, he said "there's paperwork to do, blah, blah, blah, send me an email. I sent an email, couple hours later, no response, Thursday morning sent another email, couple hours later, received a response. "Thanks for the phone call & email we went with someone else". After all that I was furious

I see headlines about the booming economy, low unemployment, and real wages going up, All of these are good things, but I'm not feeling the benefits of them.
I work in tech product support, and it took me 8 months to land my current job. I maxed out my credit cards during the job hunt and had to accept a position that pays $10k less than the same role I was doing a year ago at a different company.
I realize personal experience is not at play in the broad economic picture, but I am not alone in the struggle to find better-paying work. I know dozens of people who have been laid off in recent months and are struggling to find work. Junior positions are being filled with senior talent who just lost their jobs. The only people who seem to be in a good position in the high-end job market are the ones with advanced specialties in machine learning and AI.
On the other end, the majority (the last stat I saw for April was 73%) of jobs being created are in a narrow set of industries - healthcare, hospitality, and retail. These jobs, while seeing some wage growth, are still at the bottom end of the earning scale and outside of healthcare, have no real room for career growth.
Anecdotally, I worked my ass off to get out of the retail and hospitality field and into tech so that I could finally make a decent living. The idea of going back to that work is grim, to say the least.
This is not just a 'vibe' but is being shown in actual data. https://www.businessinsider.com/economy-adding-low-paying-healthcare-retail-jobs-high-wages-scarce-2024-5
"Where there's been job growth has not been sectors where there has been high wage growth," Bahn said, adding: "That's interesting that there's high labor demand in those industries — clearly — but it has not translated into high wage growth.
The point of all this is not to bemoan my situation. What I'm trying to understand is why is the economy considered to be 'booming' when the jobs being created are of comparatively low value and limited opportunity.
People on the bottom of the wage scale deserve to earn more income, and I'm glad their wages are increasing. At the same time, people at the top of the wage scale are being squeezed out, losing work, stalling in their careers, and are materially worse off than before. Why should I feel great about the economy when I'm not benefitting from any of the top-line trends?
I'm also curious about income inequality and how that factors into wages. Are wage estimates simply an average, or are they weighted in some way? I don't know the actual wage spread of earners in the U.S. so I'm using a simplified example:
Given:

• 25% earners make $30,000 per year
• 50% earners make $50,000 per year
• 20% earners make $200,000 per year
• 5% earners make $1,000,000 per year

The average wage in this model is $122,500 per year, but 75% of workers are earning less than this. I assume that actual wage models are much more nuanced than this, but it seems clear to me that 'average wage' does not tell an accurate story of worker's spending power.
I'd love to better understand how all of this works. Again, I understand that personal experience doesn't matter for broad economic outlooks, but I feel insane when I hear how great everything is and my perception that I'm worse off than I was four years ago is wrong and just a 'vibe.'

To whomever this relates to/helps:
I was never protected as a child. And therefore, i grew up with this mindset of being used and disposed of. I spent 24 years of my life feeling very similar to a way a spare tire feels; it's good it's there but no one needs to actually every think about it until they need it. When someone was angry, they came and found me. When someone wanted to lash out, they came and found me. When someone needed someone to blame for everything wrong in life, they came and found me.
But my story of knowing something was wrong started when i was really young. I was a child who was desperate for a peaceful environment; desperate enough that i sought out my school counselors for relief.
I think my school counselors always knew something was going on. I was anxious, depressed, and always in there office with stories I'd make up that were adjacent to what was going on at home; but with different characters. Never specific enough to gain enough of their attention, I was always careful not to divulge too much information. My parents warned me at a young age that if i ever "told the truth" about what went on in the house that they'd take me away from them. But, strangely, it would always be followed with "and if you think it's bad here; it will be worse there."
So i stayed quiet. Every couple of years, spaced enough that it would be different counselors i'd visit, when i would break; it would be a new person who knew nothing of me or my history. The advice would always be the same, to a point where in high school, I would give them the advice they were ready to give me in a sort of angsty-angry way. I told myself that the issues that went on were my fault. If only i was smarter, if only i was skinnier, if only i was prettier; maybe then mom would unconditionally love me. Maybe then dad wouldn't use me as his punching bag when he was angry. Maybe if i was actually worth something, they would see that and stop the abuse. Unfortunately; I'm here to tell anyone with that mindset this: it will never happen. When they run out of reasons; they'll just start to hate you more consistently.
I say this all to provide context for this:
Before this phase in life; i would take this abuse on the cheek and keep going with my life. I would block it out as soon as it happened and "turned it off". I was able to do that so seamlessly. I felt like these were just "things that happen in a family".
During high school and college is when the reality of years and years of being the black sheep of an abusive narcissistic household started to take its toll. I was sexually abused by multiple boyfriends in high school, I started to use nicotine products, I started to drink recklessly, and i entered into the darkest depression i ever had in my life.
And on the outside; it looked like nothing had triggered it.
By freshman year of college, I started to become so devastatingly depressed that i lost 20 pounds, stopped showering, and couldn't function as a human being. I wanted to die. Not kill myself; i never got to suicidal ideation. But i certainly wanted to die. I would beg god to take me away every day. Even thinking about it now brings up some hard feelings.
Sophomore year of college i met my Narcissistic ex-boyfriend. Who ill name Steven for privacy purposes. Steven saw a very vulnerable and scared girl and found an opportunity within that. Steven ruined my entire life; he imprisoned me in our relationship and it got so bad that i feared for my life at the end. He stalked me, he was the scariest man ive ever encountered. But i realized something in Steven that made me have a breakthrough - Steven reminded me of home. Our ups and downs felt like home to me. That feeling scared me.
Junior year of college I was raped by a man who was 10 years older than me. And it was so traumatizing to me that i could not go to a class I had because the teacher resembled him and it would put me in fight or flight every time.
Senior year I moved out of my home after finding a job and my parents, who seemed supportive at first, completely estranged me and threw all my winter clothing out just to spite me for "leaving them".
24 years old now: I am finally escaping the situation and taking back my voice. With the help of spiritual healers, an amazing therapist, and a family of friends who truly love me; i am escaping and going no contact the second my foot hits the door. I am not afraid. I am not "someone's daughter" or "someone's sister" or the "black sheep". I am me.
I say this to tell you all: anyone who feels stuck right now in their situation. Your freedom is within you. I recommend CBT and EMDR to really hone in on that healing power. You are strong, you are one, you are infinite love. You will escape and when you do; dont ever look back.