We live far away from my in-laws and my parents and had a baby. We plan to use our leave to see them. But my spouse wants to spend 5+ weeks there. I'm worried it will feel overwhelming with lack of privacy and very excited grandparents with their only grandchild from their only child. I'm getting to know my baby as well and feel boundaries will unintentionally be crossed as they already have been or I'll get constant requests to hold the baby or be around them. My spouse didn't know how to confront his parents the first time they did something because he didn't want to ruin the excitement but says he will do better next time. Even though I have a great relationship with them, I don't know how I'm going to feel there with little escape. He told me "it's his paternity leave too" which he only spent 2 weeks of with me before returning to work. So I feel a bit sad and I'm trying to be understanding since he's an only child and we live very far. But I'm wondering if it's a good idea with my 3 month old to spend that long. Has anyone done this and what was your experience like? I'd also like to hear from people who like their in-laws. Thank you!

Hi everyone! Getting married in October and trying to source a mobile hair and makeup service for me and 4 bridesmaids + mom.
I was just quoted $750 for just MY hair and makeup (with trials) and was quite shocked at the price. It would be $300 each for bridesmaids (they're paying...I'm buying their dresses). I don't think I feel comfortable asking them to pay that much.
Am I wrong in thinking this is a bit much, or is it pretty standard for 2024 in the Okanagan??
Much appreciated!!

There is no option to balance the left and right audio for me
I'm having an issue that randomly started a couple of days ago where the audio in the left side of my headphones sounds more muffled and significantly quieter than the right. I have tried other headphones and they all have the same issue.
I have done everything I can think of to solve this problem to no avail. The way I have it setup is that I plug in my headphones through my external microphone's headphone jack to receive output. I have tested that it's not a hardware issue because I still have the problem when plugging my headphones directly into my computer's headphone jack. I have also reinstalled audio/video drivers, updated the bios and drivers, updated any microphone firmware (to make sure it wasn't the microphone causing the issue). I don't have the option to balance or manually change left/right audio as prefaced in the beginning.
I would really like to solve this without having to factory reset my computer. If anyone can help it would be very greatly appreciated!

I (29F) personally struggle with maintaining body weight. I know why, and I see a doctor for it. (It’s kidney disease.). But part of what I do is watching what I eat, and calorie counting. But not to loose weight but to keep it on and gain when I get low.
The problem is my friends in my “support” circle tend to minimize how I feel. I don’t openly complain. It’s usually “omg ur so small why count calories??” “If I was your size I’d eat what I want!!”
I often tell them im not trying to loose I’m trying to maintain.
I recently have gotten many many comments from my best friends (32F) (26F) like “are you sure you don’t have a eating disorder?” “I wish I had something like that to keep me thin!”
Like no, you don’t. But when it’s reversed, and people are loosing weight it’s “way to go champ!! You got this queen!!”
I try to be a good friend when they’re going through journeys of their own. I know I might not “get it” because I haven’t lived it, but I can try. I tell my friends I may not understand 100% the way you do., but I’ll support you, help you research, be your gym buddy just name it and I got you. I have done these things. But my friends who are working on themselves find it offensive so I’ve given up.
Recently my best friend wanted to start going back to the gym, and I told her I was gonna sit this one out, because frankly 1) what I’m doing for my health right now works and 2) I’m still mad about the constant comments about how they “wish they had something/were sick to get small.”
They said I was being unsupportive, and it was rude to rub my “skinny girl” privilege in their face.
What? I don’t have a privilege, I have a shorter life span and constant pain but ok
So? AITAH?

Long story short, I hopped off reddit after owning two businesses- a landscaping company and a shipping/logistics company- and slowly stopped going to the gym, lost 20lbs in probably sweat alone, and I'm finally back up to a healthier weight, 185 at 6'1. Trying to tone up but being 35 feels vastly different than working out a few years ago. Just want to encourage everyone out there that it can be done. Fitness, even if you don't look like a model, just your average dude- i.e. me- releases endorphins, helps with sleep, and if you're a laborer will make your job a lot easier. Here's my 1st workout in a couple years and that 2nd day DOMS is a killer.

I wanted to preface this by saying this occurred 7-8 years ago, when I was a sophomore in high school, and im a much different person now and not proud of who I was. Even so, the events of that semester haunt me even today, to the point that it occasionally keeps me up at night, I feel like if I get some impartial judgement on the situation I may be able to resolve some of the lingering grief. I feel like all things considered my actions were justified, but of course you will always be the protagonist fighting off the antagonists in your own story.
So it started in February 2017. I entered into an alternative high school program in my county designed to give students who couldn't otherwise function in normal schools a second chance. I had missed a few weeks due to a hospitalization earlier that year, and while my teachers had been lenient, I was having a difficult time catching back up and it was decided by my school counselors that I would be an excellent candidate for transfer.
It started off really well, I immediately was making new friends, I felt refreshed and hopeful about my new school, I really liked all my teachers, things finally felt right for the first time in awhile. Then I met a boy who i'll call "T", he was pretty cool, easy to talk to, very friendly, overall welcoming and we became friends right off the bat. I decided to get involved in extracurriculars, and T was part of the schools forensics club, which I had an interest in, so I joined up. On the trip we exchanged phone numbers, and ended up flirting over text over the next couple weeks. Eventually he asked me out and I accepted, this is where it started going downhill.
I figured dating this guy meant we would spend more time together, so we could really get to know each other, I was mistaken. I asked him to eat lunch with me, he wasn't interested, he wouldn't walk me to class or really interact with me outside of the classroom and texting. On top of this I learned some information about him over text that I will still not share because this story is still recognizable by those involved but lets just say it was a major turn off for me, I ended the relationship quickly. After that "J" and "A" his two female besties, quickly entered the scene to make my life a living hell. The initial accusation was that I led T on, and that I was trying to control him by forcing him to eat lunch with me, the truth is, I just wanted something different than what he was offering. I even told him we could still be friends. Meanwhile I was in my promiscuous phase and had many non serious flings and sugar daddy's and whatnot, this was just a run of the mill whelp that didn't work out moment for me, I was ready to move on immediately. They were not.
Rumors quickly spread about me, about me being a slut, apparently I was a prostitute and everyone seemed to know except me, and honestly I was unbothered by this. The prostitute thing was untrue, though I absolutely accepted gifts from people I talked to online, and I kinda was a slut, to be fair, so, not exactly the reputation I wanted but things could be much worse. I still had my friends, and I poured myself into my studies and ignited a love for STEM that I still have today.
Then one by one my friends disappeared. I would see them talking with A or J or one of their misc. associates. I was confused, because I hadn't done anything to them. I tried to talk to them, but I was blocked or laughed at, the more I was mocked and ridiculed the less confident about that whole thing I became. It wasn't just my current friends though, A kept tabs on who I was trying to befriend and snatched them up before I could clear the air. This happened with a couple people, but one in particular really hurt, i'll come back to him in a bit. I still had my best friend "M" who I had known years prior to coming to the school, she stuck around the longest, but eventually she started dating a guy from that clique, I was completely alone.
Meanwhile I was getting sneered at and laughed at, and whispered about, I would see girls I didn't know except through association with A and J who would point at me when they thought I couldn't see, and they'd lean into their friends to quitely gossip behind their hands. I tried not to see it, I found myself staring at the floor a lot.
I ended up talking to A and J and asking them to stop, I told them they were being immature (which in hindsight fanned the flames) there was no ceasefire. I ended up going to the school counselor who basically told us to be nice and did nothing to help. I talked to her 1 to 1 and explained the situation and she shrugged it off. I was growing increasingly desperate for support I wasn't receiving. I started to notice an impact to my grades, I was depressed, I couldn't focus, I was randomly tearful. I started eating lunch in a random corridor away from my peers. I wish I could have disappeared completely.
Then one day a boy transferred in from another school, a teacher asked for a volunteer to give him a tour of the building, I was chosen. His name was S. Talking to him was like a breath of fresh air, we hit it off quickly, I was so relieved to finally made a friend. We connected over history, he was a nerd like me and funny too. I went home that day and cried joyful tears, I was so excited to see him again the next day in first period, and when I walked into the room and saw A, J and him sitting together, my stomach hit the floor, we made eye contact and he just frowned and shook his head. I went to my desk and just put my head down and cried. At this point I didn't care if I was seen or not. This is the one that really got me.
A few weeks passed by, I was quietly working in biology class and I heard a dude call my name across the room, he said "OP, "D" thinks your cute!" and the group of guys laughed, I motioned the guy over, and gave him my number, I didn't have any interest in dating the guy but I really really wanted someone to talk to me. It wasn't even two hours before he was hitting it off with A.
At lunch time I went to a different counselor, one who showed more empathy to my situation. She told me I could stay in her office the rest of the day. 4th period came around and I was reeling in my head, I felt like I was a cornered animal, I was desperate for something to change. When she stepped out for a meeting I marched myself up to Spanish class, Which I shared with A, J, T, and S. I cracked the door and asked if I could speak with A in the hallway. I had the perfect speech planned, I had rehearsed a million times, that teacher said no. I told her it was incredibly important, she told me no and to get out. I looked at her, I looked at A, I stepped toward her and before I knew it she had a fist full of my hair, she was hitting me in the head while J grabbed my arms, I broke free and shoved J hard, and started punching A back but couldn't gather the momentum to do any damage as she still had my hair. The teacher who was 6 months pregnant tried to step in, I shoved her away with my elbow. A male teacher came in and pulled us apart. I looked around at several cameras, faces of disgust. Sam looked at me and said "what the fuck is wrong with you?" I took my bags, and ran out into the hallway, down the stairs and was almost out of the building when the principal stopped me. I was suspended for a week.
My mom picked me up and I told her everything. We decided I would be withdrawn and I would be homeschooled the rest of high school. I eventually got my GED. I mellowed out, met my husband, and now we have a sweet baby boy. For some reason though, my heart can't handle what happened, even still it plays on a loop in my head. Everything I never got to say is still in my throat and has been since that day. Im hoping sharing this will finally put all that to rest. I want to move on, truly.
AITA?

from elementary to university i have always struggled with this problem - I would fall asleep within 5 mins of reading, at any time of the day EXCEPT after 9pm. THIS HAPPENS EVERY SINGLE TIME NO MATTER HOW MUCH SLEEP I GOT THE NIGHT BEFORE. and this would happen even if i study right after exercising too. the same thing applies to listening to lectures in person or recordings; within 15 mins I'll start to doze off. during my midterms and exams, i would also fall asleep after I've answered all the questions and have a bit of extra time to check over my entries. this ONLY happens when i do anything study-related. for example, if i read reddit at 8am, i wouldn't feel sleepy.
however, the later it gets in the night, the more energetic I get. after 9pm, even if I'm reading boring studies i wouldn't be able to fall asleep even if i want to. usually around 11pm i'd be super awake and could read unbelievably fast. i guess my brain is just bored but i seem to be unable to enlighten my brain :\
after getting many tests done and trying many techniques, they've all failed to identify what's wrong with me or failed to help me stay awake. you might wonder so what have i been doing in my studies; my strategy to combat this was to just study and read after 9pm. but now that I'm studying for the mcat, I need to actually resolve this problem. my exam time is at 8am and I KNOW I will fall asleep during the exam as I have done so many times during my final exams last year.
here is a list of the things I've tried:

• coffee, sitting upright, reading out loud, changing my reading environment, taking breaks, sleep more, listen to music, exercise regularly all failed to help
  
• pinching myself, holding my breath, lifting one leg, eating snacks or drinking water would make me awake for a few seconds but quickly doze off again
  
• I have tested for sleep apnea which I don't have, my vision is normal, and I don't have narcolepsy since this only happens when I study.
  
• stand/walk around while reading helps a bit, I'll get sleepy but wouldn't fall asleep. but i wont be able to do this during the mcat
  

this problem has been bothering me my whole life and i would really like to resolve this. if anyone has any input please share with me! thanks in advance :))

AH didn't produce any audio recordings of substance to support her claims. The best she could do was play audio of JD moaning, JD vomiting, short clips without context, or excerpts she blatantly lied about.
Here is an explanation for some of the oddities in the audio recordings AH produced.

The 31st of December Audio

Exhibit	Title	create_date	media_modify_date
Def581	"12-31-15 clip 2"	D: 1992:09:18 T:09:48:03	D:2016:07:08 T:15:30:19
Plt365	"12-31-15 clip 7"	D:2032:01:28 T:14:38:11	D:2016:07:08 T:15:30:41
Def582	"12-31-15 clip 8"	D: 1976:09:15 T:23:35:47	D:2016:07:08 T:15:30:44
Plt366	"12-31-15 clip 10"	D: 2021:05:17 T:04:47:15	D:2016:07:08 T:15:30:51

The "title" in the metadata for an audio file is typically completed by the person or entity who creates, produces, or distributes the audio content.
create_date: This is the metadata tag indicating the date and time when the file was originally created.
media_modify_date: This is the metadata tag indicating the date and time when the media file was last modified.
The erroneous “create-date” of 1976, 1992, 2036, is indicative of metadata manipulation.
However, the "media_modify_date" for all states 2016:07:08. Meaning they were all last modified of the 8th July, 2016

• These four audio files were among seven brief audio recordings AH produced during the UK trial
• The only evidence suggesting they were recorded on December 31, 2015, is the title assigned by whoever created them (AH)
• AH made separate audio files for each clip and then deleted the original recording.
• It is impossible to verify the actual recording date because the original audio could never be found.

Transcript of Elaine desperately trying to get the clips admitted into evidence

EB: Your Honor, this is 581 and 582. These are between Mr. Depp and Ms. Heard. But we wanted to disclose, these are the two that are just partials. We could never find the full. We said that we were still looking at the time of Motion in Limine. Your Honor denied the motion to try to exclude them. We went back -- when we inherited this case two years ago, we inherited 1.3 million documents and, database. We had that completely searched, had IT people completely search it. We have not been able to find anything but partials on both. But those are partials and we claim partials here, but we don't have the full report. We've done everything we can to try to find it.

The Toronto Audio

Exhibit	Title	create_date	media_modify_date
Def839	7-8-16 clip 2	D:2023:02:16 T:09:28:51	D:2023:02:16 T:09:28:51

• Given that the create date & modify date were in the future at the time of trial we know they are incorrect
• The title given to this clip "7-8-16 clip 2" likely refers to when it was "created" i.e. 8th of July, 2016 (the same date the other clips were "created")
• AH cut this 13-minute and 46-second segment from the original and made a separate audio file.
• The original Toronto recording is 1 hour, 21 minutes, and 9 seconds long.
• During discovery for the US case, the original recording was located and subsequently disclosed to JD.
• The clip created by AH cunningly begins immediately after the exchange about her hitting JD in the ear.

In the original recording, we hear the following

JD: Do you want to smack me on the ear again? AH: I love you. JD: You wanna smack my ear again? So it f**kin' resounds in my f**kin' cranium. AH: I love you. JD: Would you like that? AH: I love you. JD: Huh? AH:: I love you and I'm sorry I hit you. I love you. Do you love me? JD: I love you too. No, no, but I don’t love you that much. AH: Yes, you do. JD: No I don’t. I do not love you that much, to give up myself.

In the version AH created on the 8th of July, 2016

AH: I love you. I’m sorry I hit you. AUDIO STARTS I love you. Do you love me? JD: I love you too. No, no, but I don’t love you that much. AH: Yes, you do. JD: No I don’t. I do not love you that much, to give up myself.

To avoid looking bad, AH started the recording midway through her sentence.
She did the same with THIS CLIP which also starts in the middle of her sentence.

AH: ...go "I f**ked up" and cry in my bedroom, after I dumped you a f**king week prior, a f**king week prior, after you be*t the s**t out of me. And then a week later you show up at my doorstep, in my room, saying you wanna say goodbye. Okay, say goodbye then.

I guarantee the words she spoke immediately prior would have also implicated her as the abuser.
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Edited Audio & the Kitchen Cabinet Video

Just as AH edited the kitchen cabinet video before leaking it, she also edited these audio clips.

CV: Ms Heard, you edited out the portions that made you look bad before sending it to TMZ. AH: You are very wrong about that. CV: You edited that video before you gave it to TMZ so that only Mr. Depp would look bad, yes AH: That's absurd. CV: Right in the middle of your divorce proceedings? AH: Again, you're very wrong.

• Likely intending to leak them to the media, she removed parts that made her look bad.
• AH recorded the complete audio clips, and JD did not have access to them.
• The divorce case's discovery process did not require these audios to be disclosed.
• Just like the kitchen cabinet video, JD wouldn't have had access to the unedited version to show how deliberately they were manipulated.
• AH erased the original December 31st recording so well that it couldn't be retrieved.
• Thankfully, the Toronto recording was found.

Let's first delve into the doubtlessly demeaning details: I am 24 years old, living with my mother, working a job only tangentially relevant to what I studied for, and it's not even for the living expenses -- it's to defray my degree program costs (mother insisted I shouldn't consider student loans if it can be avoided, even though it'll defer my actually receiving the degree; did I mention I'm 24 years old still paying off undergrad, and that's just one criterion out of several to fulfill? I sound so ungrateful for her provision phrasing it as that -- my apologies, even in her absence -- but I am at present prioritizing transparency over respect).
At my age, my life is not even fractionally what I envisioned it to be in my youth -- I can't say I've ever made friends in school, ever had fun, even (I can thank the quarantine), and any connections I've made fizzled out upon my departure from grade school or uni -- and I suppose that's weighing down the relationship with my mother and me. She'd give me some command, something inessential such as wiping the floor, and my response is simply lying in bed until my job or some other extradomestic obligation impels me out of it -- nearly all the time that happens, I wholeheartedly promise you I feel physically incapable of doing anything else.
I'd tell her, "I'll get to it; can I just lie here a while?"
She'd reply, "I want it done now; what else do you have to do at this moment?" with her voice carrying more than enough emphasis for both of us.
That, or I would question why something should be done or my ratiocination in why it shouldn't, and she would interpret that as my challenging the position she holds in the house, ergo I'm "trying to pick a fight" with her (the quotes are to display her wording, not my mocking it -- I truly have no energy to pick fights with anyone, let alone my own mother)
Such as her telling me, "I need you to install this modem, get to it."
"We already have a functioning one; are we replacing it?"
"Obviously. Why do you have to talk back to me all the time?"
"I'm sorry, may I just ask why?"
"Jesus Christ, does it matter? I pay for these things, not you!"
Meanwhile I wasn't comfortable disconnecting my computer from the Internet -- even for a second -- because the files I'm accessing for my school might be denied upon reactivation. That didn't matter to her, she applied the "you want it done when you want it, do it yourself" mentality, and, yes, that's exactly what happened -- I have yet to inform the professor, and I'm hoping it doesn't lead to anotber bill added to my statement.
In fact, none of it matters -- she aims to send me off to a group home and effectively cleanse her life from the stains I inflicted on her, as I have insufficient financial means to live without her; it was her sister's -- my aunt's -- idea, to demonstrate to me "who's in control" (which I never have any intention of contesting, though I'm disregarding the dissonance between intention and action in my saying that) and to safeguard her well-being against the stress I unceasingly bring her, and, goodness, I can't blame her at all for that.
The title is accurate, I'm not sure what to do anymore; should I even try to combat such decision-making? I am her only offspring and I can't say I was ever a good son to her.
If nothing else, thank you sincerely for reading. Knowing that someone would read this -- and maybe even relate -- is enough to bring me peace.

Hello
So i have built multiple boxes for my backyard to transmit BLE to Wifi for my plant monitoring sensors, everything is working fine and i am trying to get the voltage of the battery along with the percentage but im not sure if i am calculating this properly
My system is put together just like this one at
https://randomnerdtutorials.com/power-esp32-esp8266-solar-panels-battery-level-monitoring/ 3
Utilizing a 100k and 27k resistor as in the diagram, i am pulling voltage and converting battery percentage correctly, but im not sure if the values are correct or how to check
I followed the instructions exactly and i am just wondering if my data is correct
Here is my yaml file
# Battery Sensor - platform: adc id: solar_plant_batt_voltage pin: GPIO33 attenuation: auto name: ${friendly_name} Battery Voltage update_interval: 1s accuracy_decimals: 1 filters: #u se moving median to smooth spikes - median: window_size: 10 send_every: 10 send_first_at: 10 - delta: 0.1 # Only send values to HA if they change - throttle: 30s #Limit values sent to Ha # Convert the Voltage to a battery level (%) - platform: copy source_id: solar_plant_batt_voltage id: solar_plant_batt_level icon: "mdi:battery" name: ${friendly_name} Battery Level unit_of_measurement: '%' accuracy_decimals: 1 filters: - calibrate_linear: # Map from voltage to Battery level - 0.0 -> 0 - 4.2 -> 100 #Handle/cap boundaries - lambda: if (x < 0) return 0; else if (x > 100) return 100; else return (x); - delta: 0.5 #Only send values to HA if they change - throttle: 30s #Limit values sent to Ha
Here is what the unit is reporting
[14:58:30][D][sensor:094]: ‘BLE Proxy 4ca15c - East Garden Battery Voltage’: Sending state 3.01160 V with 1 decimals of accuracy [14:58:30][D][sensor:094]: ‘BLE Proxy 4ca15c - East Garden Battery Level’: Sending state 96.71378 % with 1 decimals of accuracy
I have a 10000 mAh battery in the unit that runs at 3.7 i have a 6v solar panel charging the battery all is working fine there, i am using the instructions to drop the voltage down from 3.7 to 3.3 volts successfully.
Looking at the settings its mapping the voltage but is it mapping it correctly since it is stating that 3.1 is 100% which really it is not, im not sure if i can just change these numbers to reflect what they should be or are there other calculations needing to be done or should they be calculated differently???
To me this below doesn't make sense but its what the writeup states
# Map from voltage to Battery level - 0.01 -> 0 - 4.2 -> 100
When i check the voltage at the TP4065 coming from the battery i am seeing 3.8 volts even though its reporting 3.0, so something is definitely off for some reason and im not sure what is causing this, am i using the wrong resistors for it to be that far off or is it calculations?
Oh and my other BLE Proxy is reporting 3.10 volts but the battery is showing 3.99 on my meter
[15:30:09][D][sensor:094]: ‘Bluetooth Proxy - Back Yard WiFi Battery Voltage’: Sending state 3.13752 V with 1 decimals of accuracy [15:30:09][D][sensor:094]: ‘Bluetooth Proxy - Back Yard WiFi Battery Level’: Sending state 29.16828 % with 1 decimals of accuracy
It’s reporting 3.99 volts input at the first resistor and 3.25 volts at second resistor so it’s off by about .15 not a big deal but why am I not getting battery voltage and I’m getting voltage from the esp32
So I really have no way at this point the way it’s configured to see the battery voltage from what I’m seeing
I’m a little lost at this point I did fine the one ble proxy was wired wrong for the resistors I fixed that didn’t change anything
Help is appreciated i just want to get correct values so i can know where the battery is at during the night and day,
Also if possible is there a way i can get any information for how much the battery is being charged or the charging state? I am using a TP4056 solar charger to charge the battery, not sure how or if possible i can get charging state from it or the battery.
Would it be better if i used an external voltage divider or some other sensor to accomplish this or use what i currently have setup?? I see Adafruit has one the max17048 would this be better?
Thanks!

I'm with Dave Smith. Can't and won't vote for this bootlicker for the Establishment. He's little more than a liberal Democrat but who's anti-war. Why vote for this guy when you could just vote for the guy actually running under the Democrat banner?
This weekend's shitshow has completely sidelined the LP for at least the next two presidential election cycles as even trying to be a meaningful alternative to the Uniparty. Stick a fork in it, it's done.

I know that's kind of a dumb question, but I'm trying to learn how to do this the old fashioned way. So without a cellphone
I've done some online searches and I can't find anything that explains a manual way for someone to determine their geographic coordinates.
And for longitude wouldn't I have to know GMT down to the second? And I can't do that without a cellphone
Is there something I'm missing?

I rented a room in a 2 bhk from a couple. They seemed pretty nice when I first moved in, but problems became apparent pretty soon.
They refused to give me a lease, telling me that even they don't have one and it works like this here. In my defense, this is the first time I'm living alone in India and they seemed trustworthy and I believed them. The lady would fight and shout with literally everybody, from her boyfriend to the street vendors and the maid. They'd hog up all the space in the fridge and refuse to pay for a bigger one. They're always up till 4 or 5 am creating noise in the house.
I decided after just a month that I will be moving out and cannot live with them. April end, I told them that I'd be moving out by the end of May and that they should start finding another flatmate. For some reason they didn't start, and then asked for confirmation whether I'd be moving 15 days later. I said yes. They still didn't look for anyone and only started looking in earnest around last week. They obviously didn't find anyone and are now trying to screw me out of my deposit, saying we have to cut 15 days rent. They want to cut it further saying my cat damaged the walls (it's just paw marks from where he'd jump up on the windows. it can be wiped away using a wet cloth and I offered to do it, but they keep insisting on calling an urban clap guy, which they will conveniently only call after i will leave). The cat likes to climb up on the metal mesh on the windows and there are slight tears. I offered to fix it but they said we already got it done and I just have to give them more money.
Last night, we had a fight and she got violent. When I tried calling the police, she said she'd tell them I tried raping her and we'll see who they believe. I still went ahead and called them. They came, talked to her and went back. They called me 5 minutes later saying they were too drunk to interact with a woman and they'd sort it out later. I'm not from Hyderabad and am completely lost about what to do.
Will the police be of any help? Should I just let it go? Will it help talking to a lawyer?

I'm just a college student who's done his semester and without being able to go to campus I don't talk to as many people as I used to. So I've been looking for long-term friends but I wouldn't mind a chat or short-term either.
I'm really into skateboarding but I'm pretty new to it, I'm trying to learn quickly tho. I've also been into photography lately, I've been super busy doing photoshoots for people so if i don't respond its likely that. I'm also into basketball, working out, and gaming. A own a lot of games probably over 500+ but I mostly play shooters, I own a ps5 and switch so I can play almost every game. I'm a big basketball guy, and I work out frequently too. I'm also open to a lot of hobbies and fashion is also something I'm passionate about.
I could yap more im sure but if you're interested in talking just pm me

Excuse if this is a little messy. I hardly use reddit, and this entire situation is stressing me out to the point of shakiness and illness. On that not, onto the story.
So, for a bit of context, I am a very, very new adult. I just graduated high school, and I've never had the best relationship with my family besides my mom and brother. I was still very distant from my mom because of some slight neglect in the past. I don't blame her for it because she's a single mom and was working a very hard job.
Extra context, my mom had also been planning a California trip. She had changed the plans every other day. Me and my fiance couldn't keep up with it, especially because he had a work venture there.
The past few months, I had been going out with my boyfriend, now fiance ( we'll call Ax ). My mom had been pretty hard on me because of this. Saying how, "I'm not home enough," and, "I need to help with (this this and this)." So, I was already getting a little fed up. I just wanted an escape from the house which is honestly not a very healthy living space due to my fairly slobbish family. Everytime I would go home she would bombard me with stuff, which I never had to do before, so it made me want out more.
I'm just going to summarize the build up by saying, there were quite a few arguments and she never seemed to listen to me. I also have a super hard time communicating my feelings and confrontation so participating in an argument is a big deal.
Now we get to the big night. The last thing we "talked" about was the California trip and how Ax's parents won't let him go if we stay at her friend's house. She got upset and stormed off. Me and Ax were upset so we went to his birth mom's ( we'll call her Cat ) house to take a break. It didn't really help. I had gotten fed up with all of the arguing and bitterness from my mom. All of the snide comments to Ax. I texted her that I was moving out and wasn't going on the California trip. ( I was moving into Cat's house. )
Now should I have texted her? Probably not, but texting helps me form my thoughts into words. I express more clearly through text, and shut down on the phone and especially in person.
She calls and I freak out and hand the phone to Ax. Mistake number 2. A bit about Ax, he is very very protective of me, especially with some of the stuff I've told him about my family and my dad. He doesn't want me to go through the same thing again. He's also a big jokester but is autistic so he doesn't really get when not to do some of his joking tones and words. They also come off as very disrespectful sometimes and he was kind of tired of her. So my mom is angry.
She tells me to come home within 5 minutes. I very shaky get in the car and we head there. We get there and she takes the keys to the car and my phone. Tells me to come inside and talk alone. Now, I get where she's coming from, but I HATE feeling cornered. I need someone else there by my side or I just shut down. It socks and makes things a lot harder with this kind of stuff. Now the rest is a but of a blur but she gets aggressive. No physical violence, but she does get in my face. I back up and she starts acussing me of telling people I'm violent though I haven't. It blurs again and suddenly I'm packing my things and leaving. My brother (15) by my side sad to see me leave this way.
The night goes by and I hear nothing from her. The next day she texts. I don't remember many of the texts, but I do remember being stressed out and not replying to things often. I tell her I need some time.
Few days go by with few texts I answer and a couple calls I don't. Then we get to church just a few days after the big night and an argument over text starts. She acusses Ax of lying, stealing, and vandalizing her car. The "lying" was a joke he made about his origins that I took seriously at first, I am a very slow person, that he had not realized I took seriously until very very later on. On the stealing, he had not stolen from some of the places acussed, but we did have a separate incident that was true. However, he's done his best to make it up and has not done anything like it since. He got punished by me and his parents. She still thinks he should've gotten worse. He's especially tried to make it up to my mom because he had lost her full trust and she was very obvious about it and still hasn't forgiven him to this day. The vandalizing was him working on the car, but not fixing it fully, because, we'll, she took the car before he could.
I talked about getting my legal documents, the entire point I was texting her in the first place, she brought up Ax herself. I misunderstood her and thought she was wanting to keep them from me so threatened legal action. I won't go deep into this because I'm not a lawyer, but ultimately it was more a threat to get my stuff. She said that I could get my stuff from the garage. Remember when I told you that my family was slobish? Yeah, I have no clue where these documents are and the garage is stacked to the sealing so it's going to take me a bit. I don't want to, but it's the only way to get my documents.
I completely give up at this point. I already said I needed a bit of time, but she continued to text. When I didn't answer email me a mental health line. The only times I would talk to her was to get my stuff. She started making facebook posts warning about toxic relationships, and how losing loved ones without making peace is terrible. This continues for a bit then stopped a couple days ago. The last thing I got, just a few hours ago, was an email. I will be quoting it word for word but changing names blah blah, you know how privacy works.
"Hi, [deadname]! I hope everything is going well for you.
I just wanted to take some time to explain some things. I wanted to tell you these things in person because it really does matter. Reading something is far different from hearing how someone says it. Arguments and misunderstandings should always be fixed in person.
First and foremost, I love you. I would do anything within my power for you. I have always been there for you and I want to continue being there. It breaks my heart that you don't want anything to do with me. I've tried to make you feel loved and supported. I've been active in your interests and activities. I even played Minecraft for you... (Haha)
I wanted to talk to you privately because we will never be able to fix things between us if someone else is involved. And honestly, it's no one else's business. I've never physically or intentionally hurt you so there is no reason to be scared to spend time with me.
What I have tried to tell you through text, is that I did not blow up because you wanted to move out. My response was that we would talk when you got home. That was not blowing up and this is why it is important to communicate in person rather than via text. I wanted to know your plans and see if I could help or add some suggestions that might help. I blew up because of the disrespect. I was being treated like I was nothing and like I've done nothing for you. I tried to explain that I wasn't mad about you wanting to move out. I'm not sure why you thought I would be since we've been talking about it for 6 months.
I apologize to you for how I handled my thoughts and feelings about [Ax]. It shouldn't have been handled that way. I'm not mad that either of you made mistakes. I was mad at the lack of taking ownership of said mistakes. I was mad that I was lied to again when I called out those mistakes.
I just want us to work through this. I love you. I will always love you. I want to help you if and when I can. I always want to be a part of your life. I am hurt that you can so easily throw away our relationship because of one argument. I am hurt that you're acting like I've done something for you to be afraid of me.
My door is always open and I'm always just a phone call away.
Love, Mom"
It makes me feel like I'm in the wrong and I'm actually unsure if I'm being to harsh on her. AITH?
TLDR; I move in with my fiancé. Arguments with mom as she acusses us of things we didn't do besides one thing. Im tired and stressed so go almost no contact. I get an email from her making me rethink my position on the matter.
Edit 1 and 2: Updates to layout of the post.

So, there's this girl, I'll call her Kacy.
Kacy, she's incredibly aggravating and I'm torn between giving in and just being aggravated or defending her to myself and force myself to like her.
She is sweet, and she is smart, but holy shit. It's just everything with her. She's incredibly sensitive, constantly trama dumps, gets herself into preventable awful situations, and is generally just a buzz kill.
She has autism, and she uses that as an excuse for everything. Her autism isn't the issue, almost all of my friends either have autism or ADHD, including myself, but it's like she is using it as an excuse to not learn. She keeps saying how difficult it is to be the oldest in the friend group [she isn't in our friend group] whenever any of us make any jokes about literally anything [we're all 17, she's like a month older than the next person] but then in the same breath will say "I can't help it, my autism gives me the brain of a 12 year old." Like, make up your mind, are you too mature for us or are you just a baby?
Currently, she's engaged to a guy she just met. Her parents are angry, understandably, they've never met him. She keeps saying how she's so scared and how she's gonna get kicked out and how her parents are furious, but when we told her to just break up with him until she's stable enough to support herself, she refuses. She says she can't hide it for however long that is.
Now, me and my friend, who are both Actually hiding stuff from our parents that could get us kicked out or worse, tried explaining to her that this relationship isn't worth her life. I think it's the first one she's ever been in. She refuses to listen. She's engaged but she acts violently repulsed if anything even hinting at being promiscuous mentioned.
She keeps asking us if we think she has a "dark side" or what the craziest thing we think she's done is. Like, Kacy, honey, you can't drive, you act like anything that would make my Catholic grandmother blush is a sin against humanity, you can't hide shit from your parents, and your guilty conscience is too much to bear. The most you've ever done was poorly try to hide this new fling you've got.
And she Never Fails to talk about how horrible her childhood was, completely ruining the mood. Shit about foster care, shit about her parents being strict, just venting 24/7. I get needing to talk to someone, but there's a time and a place.
I try to be tolerable, but I find myself dismissing everything she says. I'm sorry, I really am, but she's exhausting to be around. She can't relate to anything any of us talk about, the most current show she's seen was I Love Lucy, and I think if I ever hear her speak again I'm going to reach up my nasal cavity and yank my brain through the hole.
I'll admit, she's been through a lot, and she's been very sheltered her whole life, but damn girl. There's only so much I can take. I've tried my best to be loving and understanding to as many people as I can, but it's like she drains my ability to do so.

And when she asked my boss if that'd be ok, he said no because she shouldn't be able to work by herself because it's too dangerous. I asked him how it isn't dangerous for me to work alone, and he said "you're a young guy" as if I'm not 26 and weigh 140lbs
At this job, we aren't allowed to carry weapons, and we're located right between two halfway houses and a trailer park, so obviously we get a lot of sketchy people. So I understand not wanting an old woman to be working by herself, but the thing is, the other 60+ year old woman who's right underneath the store manager does work the same shift which involves the person working it being alone at night for 3-4 hours
Is this not discrimination, and possibly endangerment? I've been trying to get off of this shift for about a year now, when they stopped scheduling 2 people for most of the night because "they don't have the budget for it" anymore. My boss knows I'm uncomfortable working it, as is everybody who has to, and nothing has been done about it. I don't think anyone should have to work alone, but the fact that I'm expected to be fine if shit goes down just because I'm a "young guy" is insane and offensive to me
This is in Idaho btw, and I wanted to try and get opinions on it. If this gives me ground to contact some third party, or maybe just HR, I think I want to do that

I have this employee named "Greg" I absolutely cannot stand to work with. He's normally fine, but I can't stand to work with him. He doesn't seem to understand there are many ways to do one thing, but because we do something slightly different than Starting Line says to, we are all wrong and should be written up (yes, he is my subordinate and wants to try to write me up... I am a GM). I'm talking things as small as how to do the safe count. Not when, but HOW.
I've worked in tons of different stores. At least 20, between 3 other districts (I moved a lot and have been with Advance long enough I have a 4 for my TM#). Different strokes for different folks, it's never bothered me because no two areas are alike.
This man literally went and printed off every AAP acronym off of Starting Line. He also referred to it earlier as the "Bible of AAP". I haven't seen many folks care about reading the actual SOPs. "Greg" actually went through the store and twisted every nozzle of every bottle facing forward or to the left because that's what the SOP stated. Meanwhile we have POGs we desperately need done. I'm sorry, a POG 4 years out of date takes much more precedent to me. (I took a broken store.)
"Greg" also tried to rearrange the office to redo our paperwork... And just left the boxes on the floor for me to find the next morning when I opened... I've seen GMs fired for less. There was paper stacks and boxes EVERYWHERE!
Tell me about your "Greg" and the crazy things they say/do. I am hoping I'm not the only one.

Years ago I embarked on an effort to write some sort of email anonymization script that would take any email message sent to my domain and parse the address and re-deliver it to my actual inbox with a reply-to set so that it will go back through that same script before going back to the sender. Effectively acting like a proxy, hiding my real email address, and allowing me to disable any of the anonymous addresses if they started receiving spam.
I now see that both SimpleLogin and Addy.io do the same thing, and you can self host them, but there seems to be a lot of setup to self host (19 step process: https://addy.io/self-hosting/ and I didn't even try to count the steps here: https://github.com/simple-login/app)
I think my solution would be a lot less work if one had a cpanel account already. It takes advantage of the built in email features, but just uses the cpanel "email piping" or "pipe to a program" feature to send all inbound messages to a script. (https://docs.cpanel.net/knowledge-base/email/how-to-configure-email-filters/#pipe-to-a-program)
The script I started was implemented in PHP and it used this parser which is no longer maintained: https://github.com/daniele-occhipinti/php-email-parsetree/master but I'm sure it could be used as is, or another alternative found.
It might use a local mysql database provided by the cpanel to maintain all the anonymous addresses (ie. which ones are still valid, which ones have been disabled for spam, etc) and a log of what's going on. Or for maximum ease of installation, it could just use local storage on the filesystem.
A web front end would not really be necessary, one could use phpMyAdmin on the cpanel to view logs generated if they are being written into a mysql database…
Has anyone done anything like this?