Tried this in marriage advice but won’t let me post so here I am asking the world. Met 2005, dated 1 1/2yrs, got back together in 2018. Now 2 kids later (5yrs & 5 weeks) I’m just about done, but don’t want to be. I’ve started to destroy our marriage gifts and just feel depressed everyday. We’re together now (if that’s what you call it) I really don’t have anyone to talk to so I’m just hear to listen to others.
Separated for 5 months ( not even a year after marriage) Infidelity/adultery ( 1-2 that I know of) + (got into this relationship the same way it ended when separated: slept with me while married the slept with someone while married to me) Made me feel like me daughter wasn’t mine (knowing there was a lie while separated) Lies (continued to lie even though I knew until I showed proof) (even asked me “let’s get everything out of the way getting back together knowing she was lying) No trust in me ( makes decisions off not believing what I say) Aggression (everything has to be an argument) She’s Not willing to move forward Won’t make room for me in bed (after baby born was supposed to be back) Finds everything I say offensive (I don’t feel like I can talk) (also anytime I speak it’s usually cut short with a “no” then corrected) Argue over everything No love left (not sure how much love was there to begin with) Everything I do is wrong somehow ( or sure what to say. Not sure what to do) Never really get an apology it’s more like “NO” and “BECAUSE “ I feel alone even when I’m not…
I feel broken and unwanted. I don’t know how to move forward and there’s no moving backwards. I just feel like I should have never existed. Dad wasn’t there. Mom was physically but not mentally/emotionally. Everything race based going up. Family feels like they never truly cared for me other than I’m just family.
I truly don’t know how much longer I’m supposed to survive, but I try. Getting beat down by all sides. Ready to just give up on myself. I just don’t want to disappoint my son.

i’ve been a complete mess since my bf broke up with me last week. we had just passed our 5 year anniversary and we were about to sign another lease together. we had been having issues but a lot of the stress had to do with the house we’ve been renting for the past year which it’s been a disaster. because of our history and how much i thought we loved each other i was willing to wait til we moved and lived in a much less stressful environment to get us back up on our feet. we even had gone apartment hunting the same day he ended up breaking up with me. imagine my surprise.
i understand what he wants, he wants to explore sexually, but i don’t understand why he can’t do that with me? i’ve told him a couple things that i just can’t do right now, but he’s also never really asked what i am willing to do or even told me really want he wants. communication was a big barrier, because i didn’t even find out about the issues he’d been having with the relationship until he broke up with me. i wrote him a letter the next day and in his response letter were all the reasons he was breaking up with me. a lot of the issues could have been worked on had i known what the problems were way earlier.
all parts are in turmoil. some so depressed they can’t even move. some so angry all they see is red and black. some just in disbelief that this is really happening. i have friends who are all telling me that they’re there for me, but confiding in them about my did and why i feel things the way that i do is scary. the angry parts already made themselves known at work yesterday and i feel like my friends noticed a difference. if i stay at someone’s place, they might notice more “weird” things about me.
ugh i’m just so nervous about becoming completely disregulated. last time i was this upset that’s exactly what happened and i had to go to the hospital for the first time ever. now that ones closed so i don’t even know where tf i’d go. my ex was also one of the only people to know about my did and besides my best friend who also has it, was the immediate person i would go to for support and vice versa. i felt we always supported each other.
please just send some love, if u can

Here is a brief timeline of the breaup. Me (M23) and my ex(F23) had been dating for 3 years. She broke up with me in February, a few days before the Valentines( which was also supposed to be our 3rd anniversary, we had started dating a few month before that but we counted valentines as the anniversary)
The breakup was a bit surprising, because we had planned a trip to Germany for April and bought the tickets about 2 weeks prior to breakup, but no that I think about it it was not that surprising.
In any case a month before the breakup both of us had very rough schedule, hardly seeing each other and that pretty much effected pur communication. That was the main reason of breaking up.
Though it hurt a lot the breakup was civil, we did not talk much, she just told me she wanted to break up and that was pretty much it. Talked for a few minutes and I left, speechless in a way, not realizing what was going on.
A few days later I drunk texted her(i know, awful idea, but was not intentional). I was not sober, but not that drunk either, it was a day after the breakup and felt pretty emotional. There were a lot of thing that I wanted to say just coming in my head and I decided I'd just write those things and delete it, but accidentally sent it to her. We had a bit of a conversation over text and that was it for the day.
After a month of breakup she texted me and asked me to meet up and we did, we talked a bit and basically she told me that she though she left me on a "waiting state" and she wanted to spend some time alone to understand what she wanted. I was okay with that, and by that time I had decided to move on, though I still lived her. Anyways, we talked and talked and she asked me if it was okay to hug me, from that things built up, we spent hourse just walking, talking, and being physical and well, we spent the night together. The morning was full of tears and talks and that was it.
We had a few random encounters after that and every time I met her, even if it was for a second, I felt like I was falling for her iver and over again( and that felt wonderful every single time)
Fast forward to a week ago, I met her and asked her for the flaws/problems we had and I had just to make sure I took a look at those things. And we talked a bit of whys and all. The communication breakdown was a key factor(again).
Now here I am, feeling weird. I'm not sad, I'm not feeling lost. I'm just feeling weird. And I have this strange though running through my had for the last couple of days. I want to ask her out on a "second first date", not to get back to the relationship we had(it failed so no point in that), but to see if there are still things that made us fall for each other when we first started. Not sure if I will do that, but that rhough has been living in my head rent free. Even if I do, not sure what kind of response I will get, and to be honest, it does not matter if I get yes, no or just completely get ignored, I feel like any sort of response would make me happy.
So people of reddit, what do you think?

its the worst feeling because i wish i could be the type that wants to make you jealous and show you that im better off without you and with other guys. but i dont want to do that. i dont want to think about you feeling hurt. i still never would want to hurt you, ever, even after how much you hurt me. i would have kept trying and never gave up on us. i care about you so much sometimes it scares me into thinking i accidentally formed a soul tie with you bc idk how the FUCK are you so heavily saturated in my thoughts even though i havent seen you in 9 months. 9 fucking months. barely even spoken to you since. i hate having to look at your stupid social media to try and figure out what you’re up to and who you’re with. it feels so weird being back in your city and not telling you. i feel like im keeping a secret from you. i wonder if you think about me as much as i think about you. i wonder if you care about me as much as i care for you, still, and always. if you called me and needed help with anything i would always be there for you, no questions asked. but no i will never reach out to you, even if i think about u till the day i die. i don’t know why but i feel like i need to be there for you and i want to be. sometimes i get upset thinking about how ill never love someone the same way i loved you, so naively with so much hope and innocence. sometimes i wonder if that’s what im missing so strongly, the feeling of being in love for the first time. the intense feelings in our relationship. the highs and lows. i think i miss how much i loved being so helplessly in love. i love how much i loved you and how you were a catalyst which i was able to fully pour love into without restraint. i miss texting you my every thought and telling you i love you 6472838 times a day. im grieving the love i had for you and your presence. grieving you while you’re still alive, ironic. it makes me sad that now i keep my guard up because im too scared of getting hurt again. i keep telling myself nobody compares to you but maybe im not even giving them the chance to compare. maybe i dont want them to compare. maybe im not ready to let go of the idea of you. the idea of you, the you i wanted you to be, not the you your actions showed you were. i hope one day i will let someone back in. everything will work out, and i know that, but until then, i yearn 🫠

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📖 Into
Hello we are a group of creatives looking for up to two new players/friends/collaborators to join us for the next leg of our adventure.
🎲 The Game
With an impending disaster large on the horizon; Our band of misfits are on a countdown to find out what is coming and most importantly how to stop it. And may then they can finally regain their memories.

💎 Featuring...

• A player-driven narrative in a deep and open world filled with mysteries to solve and many you may never find.
• A group of people who support each other's work and hang out outside of game time.
• A living setting where time progresses outside of your view! With distractions from your goals offering many rewards but risking being sent in crucial events.
• Rewards both for quick thinking and dedication to picking up clues to mysteries setup long in advance.
• A story with an ending! With the history of the lands you travel through likely being in your hands.
• The chance to play anything you want! With over 40 new player species to try out there is almost certainly something that fits your plans, And if that is not the case one can be made with you in mind!
• A completely different roster of monsters and adversaries that make use of devilish mechanics to challenge you over raw strength and hitpoints.

⚔️ Requirements

• Must be at least two decades in age.
• Have a fairly decent microphone setup.
• Are able to comfortably make the timeslot.

⏰ Scheduling

The game is currently running bi-weekly on Tuesdays at the following times with some degree of flexibility.

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• Just drop me a comment below to register your interest
• Then send me a link to something creative that you have made.

This does not have to be finished and can take the form of anything creative new or old, from writing on the side of a boat to a sculpture made of old rule books. So long as it holds creative passion and you have made it yourself without the use of generative AI.
Feel free to send it to me either privately or in the comments below :)
Tuesday
After this we will pick up to two people to hop onto a quick meetup tomorrow evening to check vibes and hopefully plan out your dramatic entrance to the game this Tuesday!
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Hello everyone! I am working on a small project where I have to implement a "gamified" sepsis recognition trainer. It's basically an ICU Simulation which already exists, but I have to inlcude a new feature where people can train to detect a sepsis. Problem is, that I have no idea how exactly to recognize that and how to implement it in a useful/ meaningful way? So we had the idea to have several "levels", with the beginning levels being tutorial like, where the user learns about what a sepsis is and how to recognize it. Keep in mind that the game is located in a ICU like environment, so there is a virtual "patient" with a monitor. We have a data set with various patient data including...
Heart Rate Respiratory Rate Blood Pressure (mmHg) Temperature (°C), Sodium (mEq/L) Potassium (mEq/L) Glucose (mg/dL) Blood Urea Nitrogen (mg/dL) Creatinine (mg/dL) Bicarbonate (mEq/L) Chloride (mEq/L)
I've heard that you can basically "calculate" using some data wether or not the patient has a sepsis?
Now what I am asking for: I would love some ideas or actual input regarding the sepsis recognition and how that actually happens in an ICU? Which of these values are of use and how does the whole process of sepsis recognition work? I know it's a very general and badly phrased question but I don't even know what exactly to ask as I have no insight. I would be also extremely thankful for any kind of ideas, feedback, etc. Thank you!

I think a lot of good looking men, or men who grew up being complimented over their looks, are assumed to have bad or dull personalities before opening their mouth. I also think they are judged a little more harshly than men who don’t have as many traits one could deem as “good-looking,” like a sharp jawline, prominent cheekbones, symmetry and proportional features, eyelash length, etc.
We all know what good-looking is; it’s why there’s so much overlap in the features of actors and why so many actors have so-called, “lookalikes.” Men know what a good looking woman looks like.
I notice that my girl-friends NEVER choose the man they are most attracted to, which is always a man that has these features and looks like he could be on camera.
It’s never really about them having a bad personality, being unavailable, etc. They take themselves out of the running so to speak by making assumptions, and they HATE, hate, hate, hate, the idea of competing with another woman, which is a wee bit hypocritical as some of them entertain multiple men, but they’re well within their right to do so.
I love my friends, but I think they set themselves up for marriage failure and disappointment by doing this. I’m not saying looks are everything, but how does a personality set itself apart from another’s, when both are “good?” I see this sentiment online, and it’s an interesting one, but I think looks alter how ppl judge your personality.
I have one friend, let’s call her Tasha; she thought a keynote speaker at one of our latest events (both event planners at same org) was extremely handsome. And objectively speaking, he was. He gave a great speech. During our networking happy hour, I invite him over to our table. He’s single too.
He’s charismatic, hilarious, he’s a good listener, and she’s smiling during the whole situation, but it’s a closed lip, squint the eyes smile; one of those smiles you give a kid when he thinks he’s done something genius but it wasn’t. But she starts doing something uncharacteristic; she only turns to me and talks, and she’s low volume. It could almost be classified as rude.
She’s a lot more reserved than she usually is around this guy. I asked her afterward whether she liked the guy and she kept it simple in a way where she made it known that it was an uncomfortable subject; a very curt, “yeah.”
Now, we’ve hung out with men that Tasha NEVER thought were cute, and were much more crass in nature, less motivated and unhygienic, but she would act like they were the greatest thing since sliced bread. However, post hang out, she would complain about them.
This is behavior that most of my girl-friends exhibit. It could be a regional US thing, maybe.
I think many women need to feel comfortable above all else for a relationship to work for them. I think some men can be “too complete” for some women to deal with.
Thoughts?

Hello hello! This is not going to be anything special outside of just the ramblings of an insomniac so apologies in advance. Im a homebody in the sea of homebodys looking for their person to be comfy with.
Who I am: Basics: 5’11, glasses, husky dad bod, Indian with a beard
Bookworm - I’ve always loved getting lost in the world of books since I was a kid. Fun fact: I was one of those kids obsessed with dinosaurs courtesy of Jurassic park to the point where I kept checking out books from the library about them and then would be getting my dad pissed because they would be always overdue and for months on end. Nowadays I mostly enjoy fantasy/sci-fi/horror but if you’ve got any recommendations let me know to add to the list! I’m currently reading “The Name of the Wind”.
Weeb: what’s better than books? Books with pictures of course 😏 I’m joking, but anime/manga/manhwa are some good stuff to dive into as well. I know not everyone is into it, but I just treat it as just another form of storytelling. It can be just as compelling as experiencing Game of Thrones or it can be just as wild as The Real Housewives; it just depends on what you’re looking for.
Gaming: mostly video and board games. I’ve been playing Elden Ring again recently and wow that’s been an experience. I have a running board game night with some friends at least once a month which is just us being dumb and having fun. I used to play D&D pre pandemic times, but not recently. I do like watching Dimension 20 for the sake of Brennan being the DM, but I got a lot of watching to get through haha. I also started to play yugioh as part of the healing the inner child journey, and it’s been nostalgic to say the least.
Who you are: a person I’d love to learn about if you want to talk. You could be into anything I’m into or none of the above. At the end of the day, all that matters is the company and laughs along the way through life.
Hello hello! This is not going to be anything special outside of just the ramblings of an insomniac so apologies in advance. Im a homebody in the sea of homebodys looking for their person to be comfy with.
Who I am: Basics: 5’11, glasses, husky dad bod, Indian with a beard
Bookworm - I’ve always loved getting lost in the world of books since I was a kid. Fun fact: I was one of those kids obsessed with dinosaurs courtesy of Jurassic park to the point where I kept checking out books from the library about them and then would be getting my dad pissed because they would be always overdue and for months on end. Nowadays I mostly enjoy fantasy/sci-fi/horror but if you’ve got any recommendations let me know to add to the list! I’m currently reading “The Name of the Wind”.
Weeb: what’s better than books? Books with pictures of course 😏 I’m joking, but anime/manga/manhwa are some good stuff to dive into as well. I know not everyone is into it, but I just treat it as just another form of storytelling. It can be just as compelling as experiencing Game of Thrones or it can be just as wild as The Real Housewives; it just depends on what you’re looking for.
Gaming: mostly video and board games. I’ve been playing Hellblade recently and wow that’s been an experience. I have a running board game night with some friends at least once a month which is just us being dumb and having fun. I used to play D&D pre pandemic times, but not recently. I do like watching Dimension 20 for the sake of Brennan being the DM, but I got a lot of watching to get through haha. I also started to play yugioh as part of the healing the inner child journey, and it’s been nostalgic to say the least.
Who you are: a person I’d love to learn about if you want to talk. You could be into anything I’m into or none of the above. At the end of the day, all that matters is the company and laughs along the way through life.

Hi everyone,
Hope you're well. I've got two questions, one quite local, the other not.
I'm in Essex, UK. I actually set up two groups previously in Wickford and Benfleet but these didn't yield any players interested in more wahistory focused titles. Other local groups that survived the pandemic are equally focused on broader interest board games. Absolutely fair enough, by the way.
I'm fine for a reliable group for these, but my war and history gaming is a strictly solo affair. I don't mind this, but would also value being in a group. Playing online/via email is not what I'm after.
I did some searching and found groups in Writtle and Southend which I've reached out to, plus one in Chelmsford I can't as I'm not on Facebook or X.
I didn't know if anyone here was an individual or part of a group locally who'd like to play.
As a guide, favourites are generally strategic/political level and card driven. Think Twilight Struggle, 1989, Wir Sind Das Volk!, Democracy Under Siege, Rise of Totalitarianism, Churchill, Maria, Friedrich, the COIN series and so forth. I'd love someone to school me in more operational/tactical level titles. I realise that while lots of my friends call these 'wargames,' lots of you will not, which is an awkward limbo to be in.
Thanks in advance for any links you can help me make.

Hello dearest devs and fellow commanders!
I played the 1.1. and really loved it! I particularly liked the removal of templar shields and the now unlimited combat protocol, among other things. Because of my little children, I finished the run only a week ago and discovered 1.2. is out now! So excited to try it soon!
I tried a commander honestman and was doing totally OK on the tactical side but blew the strategic layer and failed (closely) the first Chosen avenger defense. Yes, I should probably try the setting with the different difficulties on the tactical and strategic level. So I disabled the avatar timer and finished the game after enduring like 5 more chosen avenger defenses. For the record, I only "disabled" honestman for the chosen avenger defenses and even nailed the last one without casualties in honestman mode.
So I collected a bunch of observations and bugs (some possibly already fixed in 1.2.) which I would like to share.
BUGS (or features?): - I was able to start doing covert actions (at least one) without a resistance ring - 2 lvl 1 liberation missions of the same type spawned simultaneously in the same sector - the evac area on the roof of structures was unreachable for mecs (twice). Had to compromise it - in covert extraction missions (and maybe others too) the soldier scoring a kill somehow gets loot out of range (from a previous kill elsewhere) - very common crash at the use of skirmisher grapple - I used the skirmisher grapple, then dashed to a chest in the fog and the fog at the destination stayed! - I got 2 sullys killed and a third one came up for recruitment (I recruited him)? - on multiple occasions, Fuse cost 1 action and then was available again immediately (on the same turn without CD) - after a reload, the sharpshooter could not perform a snap shot on a rocketeer, but could perform a snap shot on a vanguard - the Purifier flamethrower attack does not trigger bladestorm? - I skipped a supply defense mission and the supply resistance operatives were gone (as intended), and all the rest lost all abilities - A "Hack workstation" mission with indefinite duration spawned - very often, the Submenus on the "HR menu" on the avenger (soldiers etc.) disappeared and wouldn't come back unless you save and reload - a Subcoiler costs more than a coil rifle - on many occasions, Arcwave was hitting targets not in the line of attack - the Insanity description says it stuns the target - the Captured soldiers come back fully equipped after being rescued?!? nice, but doesn't make sense - Hyperreactive pupils triggered without a previous missed shot on a purifier - a very funny way of easily beating the first stage of the chosen stronghold without any casualties (not that it is difficult as is): The reaper detects units beyond closed doors. The team blocks the doors with their bodies so that the aliens can't open them. Then the psi op with bastion and null lance starts picking the aliens off one by one. They activate, but since the squad is inaccessible, deactivate again. The only problem came from an archon's blazing pinions or the andromedon's acid bomb (in both cases, squad is immune bc of bastion), which they fittingly launch through the walls as well - without other actions from other enemy units - an escaping enemy unit from a destroyed pod rejoins another pod in the fog, then scatters again on contact when the pod moves into LOS the same enemy turn - a Shield wall granted me 5 armour
QUESTIONS: - Is it possible for faceless disguised as resistance operatives to act as soldiers (e.g. armed and shooting) on missions and later be uncovered (on rendezvous missions)? - Is it possible to get an invasion in the only region you control? if failed or skipped, is this a gameover? - the Assassin can blind the spark? but why, this kind of doesn't make sense?
SUGGESTIONS: - on regular Avenger defense, reinforcements arrive randomly and not by seniority, and since the equipment is never enough, the reinforcements are always with tier 1 stuff, making them kind of useless. this was not a problem in vanilla, where all equipment was upgraded automatically. Is it possible to change this somehow? - on the chosen Avenger defense, there are no reinforcements. this really does not make sense, this being the hardest kind of mission in the game. Like the A team is getting railed and the rest are biting their nails and doing nothing? - can missions with Drone wrecks be made available more commonly in the beginning? In my experience this is the rarest wreck in the game, always preventing me from researching robotics - I really thought the RNG produced a disproportionate amount of missions "free captive resistance ops" which are quite useless after around midgame - I assume the chryssalides "wandering about" programming is designed for maps with civilians. why are they wandering about on maps without civilians or just running away from the squad ? not that I really need more crazy suicidal stun lancer-style chryssalids, but isn't this kind of pointless?
I hope this is still useful. And thank you for your feedback!
Come on, Bluemajere, give it to me!

the title sounds terrible, so let me explain. me and this guy, lets call him beck, dated for over a year, and we eventually broke up due to infidelity on his part. then, 4 months after we had broken up, he started talking to a girl, ill call her ashley. ashley and i didn’t know eachother, but she hated my guts. beck and i remained friends, and we’d text about ashley and my boyfriend at the time. just for advice, sometimes i’d sell to him, but we weren’t too close in a way that would upset ashley any more. one night at a party, i had let it slip that beck texted me he had missed me (before they got together) and she heard and confronted me. i told her everything, and we became somewhat friends. she soon after broke up with beck, and we just hit it off. same sense of humour, everything. we didn’t bond over beck really, just over our own personalities. after my boyfriend and i at the time broke up, beck and i became closer as we had the same class. ashley saw this, and said i was betraying her, as if beck and i weren’t friends the entirety of the time ever since our breakup. i tried to explain that it felt unfair that i was being labelled as betraying her when beck and i had been friends before her and i ever were, and she didn’t seem to understand. i told her i acknowledged and cared for her hurt, that i adored her and didn’t mean to look as if i were intentionally hurting her, but she told me i needed to just cut him off. beck and i were friends before lovers, we met in middle school and had been friends all throughout highschool. it seemed unfair. now, beck and i have recently started talking again, and she sees it as betrayal. i love ashley. shes a great friend. but i feel as though it’s something between beck and i, not her and beck, if that makes sense. i understand it is hurtful, and i feel terrible, but she seems to push aside that beck and i have our own history. i’m trying to be there for her as much as i can and tell her i understand its hurtful, but there’s nothing i can do. advice or opinions?

Hello everyone! I am working on a small project where I have to implement a "gamified" sepsis recognition trainer. It's basically an ICU Simulation which already exists, but I have to inlcude a new feature where people can train to detect a sepsis. Problem is, that I have no idea how exactly to recognize that and how to implement it in a useful/ meaningful way? So we had the idea to have several "levels", with the beginning levels being tutorial like, where the user learns about what a sepsis is and how to recognize it. Keep in mind that the game is located in a ICU like environment, so there is a virtual "patient" with a monitor. We have a data set with various patient data including...
Heart Rate Respiratory Rate Blood Pressure (mmHg) Temperature (°C), Sodium (mEq/L) Potassium (mEq/L) Glucose (mg/dL) Blood Urea Nitrogen (mg/dL) Creatinine (mg/dL) Bicarbonate (mEq/L) Chloride (mEq/L)
I've heard that you can basically "calculate" using some data wether or not the patient has a sepsis?
Now what I am asking for: I would love some ideas or actual input regarding the sepsis recognition and how that actually happens in an ICU? Which of these values are of use and how does the whole process of sepsis recognition work? I know it's a very general and badly phrased question but I don't even know what exactly to ask as I have no insight. I would be also extremely thankful for any kind of ideas, feedback, etc. Thank you!

I’ve been sitting on this for a while as its inconclusiveness wasn’t really worth sharing, but life has gone full circle and my boomer coworker has gotten some ironic karma!
2 years ago I was driving into work and got into a very minor accident. I was following another car inside a roundabout (rotary, traffic circle, whatever you call it in your own area) when they suddenly slammed on their breaks in an attempt to yield for cars coming into the circle… Not the first time I’ve dealt with people violating the laws of the road in that way, but it was the first (and hopefully last) time I hit them as a result. I braked fast enough that the bump was super small. We checked and there was no visible damage and the young inexperienced RAV4 driver and I agreed to just let bygones be bygones. I was still a little agitated because it never should have happened and now I was late for work, but at least it was a civil exchange.
I get to work and I’m in a bad mood and when Boomy the coworker asked what happened I vented a little just explaining the story and how stupid the other driver’s action was. I didn’t want a yes-man or a, “oh you poor pained soul,” speech, but just a little sympathy between coworkers would’ve been nice. Just to lift my spirits a little? Nope. Instead I get a spiel about how technically I’m at fault and I shouldn’t have been so close and I should’ve filed a report and blah blah blah. Look. I’m willing to accept my own responsibilities. It’s not like I was tailgating, but clearly I was too close or not paying enough attention. By the letter of the law I as the rear ender am guilty, but it’s easy to ignore the nuance of the other person committing a dumber act that lead to it in the first place when you’re on the sideline. Just wait until it happens to you… and that’s exactly what has happened now.
Boomy drives a Porsche from the 60s. Very expensive car. She treats it better than her own son (a whole other story). Well, this morning I find out from her that the other day she rear ended someone who stopped their car when they weren’t supposed to. You guessed it; in a roundabout! This one was more damaging and she has to have the front bumper replaced. Of course she droned on and on about how stupid the other driver was and how they’re completely at fault and how she gave the guy a piece of her mind. Another older coworker who’s listening suggests it was intentional and an attempt at an insurance scam. All the while she’s completely forgotten what she said to me when I was in a similar position - if she even remembers it happened at all. I just sat in silence smiling to myself.
TLDR: I get into an accident and Boomer coworker berates me saying it’s my fault, then 2 years later gets into the same exact accident and whines that it’s not her fault.

I made them this way because I want my audience and friends to resonate with my characters similar to how people resonate with their childhood superheroes and O.R.I.0.N has both feminine and masculine qualities O.R.I.0.N can act super bubbly, cute, and girly sometimes and sometimes acts like an English gentleman butler
The thing about O.R.I.0.N is it doesn’t matter whether your white, black, green, male, female, non-binary, etc. O.R.I.0.N is almost like a canvas character and if you view them as female POOF they are a very hyper feminine, if you view them as male, poof they are an humble and extraordinary gentleman. O.R.I.0.N was built with no male or female parts in the laboratory.
O.R.I.0.N being a canvas character allows the audience to imagine and get creative with the character and even put their own unique spin to them.
(BTW the last picture is fanart by @ThomasTanker022)

Hello my name is Omar and I'm from New Jersey ,USA. I am a 23 year old and I'm looking to make some foreign friends (: I love making friends from different countries and getting to know their way of life and culture.
I love wrestling, soccer (yes I know it's called football lol), swimming, weightlifting and video games. I also am learning how to cook more often and I like to bake too. I also like to work on my own car that I call Blue Bonita
Usually I'm watching WWE and maybe some AEW, and with football usually premier league or MLS. (Manchester City fan ;) )
I have a PS5 and mainly just play WWE, FIFA, Call of duty and hitman (:
I am Hispanic, with a Mexican heritage although I was born in the US. I am usually shy but I can talk a lot sometimes. I am very introverted and like to have minimal friends as possible. I speak English fluently and Spanish almost fluently.
I love to listen to Reggaeton, Bachata, Salsa, a little bit of rap and r&b. Maybe a tiny bit of pop ;D
I'm a chatterbox and I love to talk a lot and about anything.
I love cats and I have 3 of them. Though I'm fond of every type of pet.
If you'd like to chat or possibly become my friend, don't hesitate to message me (:

Hi everyone,
I wanted to hear the unbiased opinion of people that know a thing or two about guitars because in this situation I don’t know if I am in the right or not.
I don’t think I will be able to be concise, no TLDR because the details matter, sorry.
Here’s the deal:
Bought a 7 string in February (ESP LTD H3 1007 baritone, €1200).
At first I didn’t have access to my recording equipment and only played it either acoustically or with an old Zoom pedalboard and headphones. Everything seemed fine but didn’t spend much time with it. Action was too high and lowering it introduced too much fret buzz.
In the first days of March I finally had the chance to record with it and noticed heavy fret buzz in the output sound (even using a reasonable distortion created a mess, no crazy high-gain) and some choked notes higher on the fretboard. The action was noticeably higher than my other guitars. It was almost impossible for me to play cleanly.
(note that for some days I thought that I was the problem, since I haven’t been playing for a couple of months and that was my first 7 string)
Inspecting the guitar closely, I noticed that the nut was cut very high, partially explaining my inability to play cleanly. Plus I didn’t quite like the factory 10-59 string set that came with it: too little tension on the bottom strings and too much for the top ones (the high E broke the first few days with a simple full tone bending around the 15^th fret, not the right gauge for a 27” scale length imo).
Nothing that a nice professional setup can’t fix, I thought.
(Unfortunately, not anticipating the issue that was about to arise, I didn’t save any recordings documenting the state of the guitar before going to the luthier. Lesson learnt)
So, I brought it to a luthier. We decided that it was best to approach the problem step by step, instead of doing everything at once.
1- First he would change the strings (I opted for a 9.5-64 set) and do a basic setup WITHOUT making changes to the nut, just in case I didn’t like the new set of strings. If the buzzing remains, then we go to the more expensive step 2.
2- Nut filing and fret height adjustment.
After step 1 everything was the same: very noticeable fret buzz and choked notes.
I decided to contact Thomann’s assistance before step 2.
Why? I realised that the root of the problem was more serious than I originally thought. The luthier told me that he couldn’t guarantee that the additional work would fix everything so he advised me to contact Thomann before spending €200 on fret leveling.
For a €1200 guitar you would expect that the fretwork would be good, am I wrong?
I explained the situation to the assistance team in detail with the original state of the guitar in mind, thus forgetting to mention the work done by the professional (I know, my bad. I specified it after their first response from them) and included a recording of the fret buzz (direct input from a Focusrite scarlett straight to pro tools, with and without distortion).
Upon hearing the recording (that was done after the luthier setup) they reached out to confirm that, indeed, the fret buzz was intrusive.
When they received the guitar (March 22^nd and it's still with them to this day) they told me the following (translated in English by me):
“Our relevant department informed us that the string gauge was changed to 10-65/66 from 10-59 without doing a bridge setup*. This caused the neck to warp and damage to the nut slots. In this case there is no warranty coverage […]”*
I was very disappointed whit this response.
So having just the strings changed by a professional is enough to void the 2 year legal warranty?
I contacted a lawyer friend of mine to help me write a legally solid answer.
In short, we stated that the setup has been done by a professional, the (plastic) nut was left untouched and the truss rod and bridge were set properly; having done everything in good will and within what is considered standard maintenance, I claim to be entitled to have the guitar fixed under the 2 year Legal Warranty.
Eventually they sent some photos that only proved that the nut was damaged (I was very surprised to see it) but nothing to assess the neck warp. (I will include the photo in this post).
Although the nut slot on the 7^th string was proven to be damaged, I claim that it is only a minor aesthetic issue because it does not interfere with its function. If the damage was significant enough it would lead to some buzzing on the open string, right? However, the open 7^th string sounded clean even after the visit to the luthier. I also never claimed that I had problems with open string buzzing in my support request, only with fretted notes, and never asked for a nut repaisubstitution. Regarding the neck warp, isn't it completely reversibile ? Why is it mentioned as if it was a warranty-voiding condition? I would get it if it had been shaped into a noodle with a hammer, but when I had it in my hands it was almost straight.
I believe that the ideal way to fix the guitar is a PLEK setup to level the frets and adjust the action because everything suggests that the root of all these problems are the uneven frets. Unfortunately, in their last email they still maintain their first opinion (reported above in this post) and told me this:
“We can offer you a setup at your expense or we can send the guitar back. There is no way that you can get a free plek setup […]. We ask you to be concise and definitive in the next email. Further emails that do not offer a definitive answer will be ignored and the guitar will be sent back in the current conditions.”
Basically, they made it impossible for me to keep defending my case after only 2 emails of mine (one addressing their initial report and one after they disappointingly responded repeting the same things). It also feels like they didn’t even bother to fully read those emails since they never elaborated on my lawyer’s valid points.
I honestly don’t know what to do and feel hopeless.
I’d like to hear your opinions; I genuinely can’t tell if I messed up. I feel like I have done everything correctly, I doubt that the nut slot damage is the luthier’s fault. Here are a few questions for you now that you know the whole situation.
- Do you think I’m in the wrong?
- Do you think that a plastic nut can get damaged like that by the strings alone?
- Do you think that asking for a setup under warranty to fix bad fretwork for a €1200 guitar is arrogant and that uneven frets are to be expected ?
Thank you for your time and patience, sorry again for the lengthy post.
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I have almost 4 month old sons named Ronald Adam and Alistair Elijah. The meanings behind the names: Ronald was my husband's grandfather's name who he was very close with. Adam is from a video game character he likes. Alistair is a video game character I like and I just love the name. Elijah is an honor name for my nana. Well my big sister who is 9 years older than me and who I have always been extremely close to said she had a list of names she didn't want me naming our boys and Ronald was on that list. Even when I explained why that name was chosen, she made a face and put her nose up in the air.
My sister "gives nicknames for everyone". She was calling Ronald "Ari" and Alistair "Eli". I had mentioned probably we would call Alistair "Ali" as he got older. My sister said Ali was too girly.
She kept writing Ari and Eli and it just was driving me crazy. I finally asked her to please start calling them by their given names, I know she doesn't like them but for now we would like her to use their given names at least in our company. This was all said over text. I wasn't rude. She said "okay but I'm just going to say one thing" and I see a wall of text. I didn't read it. I didn't want to fight.
Is this wrong of me? I know they're just nicknames. Maybe it would have been okay if she wasn't so against their given names. But my sister was so against me having boys... "You know this is your husband's fault right? Maybe your twin sister will get pregnant now and give us girls" and even told some lady we just met "Yeah she's having twins, they're boys and we are upset about that" Did I want girls? Absolutely..but I wouldn't have told a random stranger that.
Since getting pregnant, my whole perception of my childhood changed. I thought my mom and my big sister were the best... That they truly loved me. But now my big sister will not talk to me because I asked her to use my son's names correctly. The sad thing is... I don't even miss her.

Hello. I'm not non - binary but i am a gay male and today i went to have a nice Sunday lunch with my uncle and my aunt. My uncle is my father's brother and since i was little i always viewed him as a second father. I loved him since i can remember. He always loved me like his own kid too. My whole family is extremely religious (greek orthodox) and very traditional and don't approve of everything lgbtq. When my parents found out that i like men a few years ago we had issues for a long time. Then i moved away in the country capital and everything was better. My only relatives close to me here are my uncle and my aunt where i go for a family meal every one or two weeks.
So yeah i went to my uncle, we were cooking and drinking coffee. I always kept personal things to me just because i knew my uncle wouldn't understand and when we discussed about everything else, he was very open and informative. Keep in mind that i always adored him like a superhero. Then i asked a simple question "Did you watch Eurovision?". He immediately said that it was great that he didn't because there was this "demon witch with the pentagram". I understand that a pentagram can scare an orthodox but i never expected what came next:

• Ok i understand, but the winner song was amazing. Such an amazing voice.
• No, it was disgusting. They try to provoke us and pass this "neutral gender thing" as a fashion and they hurt the children of the next generation.
• But they don't try to force it on anybody, they just try to express themselves. I have even met people like them and you have no idea what they struggle with. Some even "end themselves" and that's sad.
• Well, they better end themselves than show us these things. They try to force all these anomalies. All these people are followers of Satan etc etc etc

I understand that he may not understand or like the LGBT, he doesn't have to, but people, the momment he talked about how they should end themselves, i started panicking. I myself struggled with these thoughts and had many difficulties for many years. I have received a lot of support from friends, boyfriends and my sister. But hearing all these mean, inhumane things from a "christian orthodox that preaches love" was devastating to me. Funny thing is he "didn't want to hear a single word about it" but he kept talking to himself over and over as long as the words weren't coming from me. I went out to the balcony alone to try and relax. I was shaking. It was not that i was sad for me as an lgbt who previously wanted to end his life. I was sad that my childhood hero said mean things like these to people who just tried to find themselves. I found it unfair how Nemo grabbed the mic and preached for love and unity as a "satan follower" and the "god follower" wished death upon people. That moment i decided that even if it would hurt my uncle, i would pack and go back home for the day. My uncle said he wanted to talk but i was already packing. I know that maybe i should have stayed and talked but i was scared, sad and didn't have the courage to sit and eat or talk with him. When i was leaving he told me that "i was making him sad and that what i was doing was not right". I replied "you shouldn't go to sacrament (i had to google that) next Sunday in church". I left. I was shaking and crying all the way back.
The internet is a dark place. I know that here i might get some amazing tips about what to do next, a few discussions but also some mean things. Some people will hate the fact that a gay man tried to defend a non binary person. I mean, if people want to be mean to me they will find a way. Still, i felt the need to defend you people, even if it means ruining the relationship with my family members. I hope that i did the right thing. Even if i don't manage to get any more tips about what i should do next, the fact that i took all these thoughts out of my chest and expressed myself makes me feel relieved already. Thank you for reading my story.
P.S: Please don't show a lot of hate to my uncle :)

He wanted my fiancé to convert just to ‘save face’ of the family because that’s all he cares about. He’s a narcissist who cares more about his reputation than the happiness of his own daughters. It killed me yesterday to sit there and hear him berate my mother for her apparent ‘awful upbringing’ of me and my sister when he was the one that married someone else behind her back and told her to get on with it when I was just 12. My mother was perfect, she’s my best friend and the woman who gave everything to protect me and my sister from the abusive, manipulative, controlling nature of my father.
He blamed everyone but himself for not being there throughout our childhood when he was off cheating and sleeping with other women whilst preaching Islam is the only way. Then to sit there and say he would rather be dead than to meet his future grandkids all because I refused to have my fiancé take the shahada when we get married, the hypocrisy is wild. The worst thing was that he said all my fiancé would have to do is take the shahada for the sake of the family and then not even practice Islam… how does that even work in his mind!?
I really tried to repair our relationship after he said awful things to me a year ago, about me not practicing, about me dating out of our religion and race. Does he forget I’m half white? He forgets he’s in a white country, in 2024, where religion doesn’t matter in our generation as much. Where I’ve found someone so rare and gorgeous and treats me like I’m an Angel on earth, someone who gave me real love and taught me what a man really should be. And all my father can think about is his family’s opinions for when I marry a non-Muslim.
It shattered my heart yesterday but I will always choose the people who love me and support me and it just goes to show that religion and reputation really does consume some people, to the point they won’t even love their own daughters unconditionally.

hello! I've just recently made a post on here and I've had some great conversations, however it seems that maybe I wasn't clear enough about the games I'd like to play

• PUBG (I play on a high level, used to play scrims and I play FPP only)
• DayZ (Long time player, almost 10 years soon! I used to play alot with Mr. Moon and Silo Entertainment)
• any random fun indie games that nobody has ever heard before but is actually a hidden gem and super fun (like Bopl battle, Ultimate Chicken Horse, Voidtrain, stuff like that!)

ironically, I somewhat dislike the concept of trying to force a friendship through platforms like this but I wanted to give it another shot anyways! I'm not looking for some boredom or loneliness filler. a true connection, a vibe. if we vibe we vibe, you know?
I've played videogames my entire life and I'm super open to trying out anything except most ultra-popular games I see alot on here like league, OW, dota and stuff. I've tried most of them but they just get stale so fast if you've played as many videogames as I have. I also love VR gaming! I love passionate people and high-energy people, maybe you can convince me to play something I wouldn't dare to touch!
besides videogames I like music (I make my own too), art, design, technology, long walks in the woods, animals, space and lots of things. I'm into a super broad spectrum of things - I wish I had the time to get lost in all kinds of things. my dayjob is shooting and editing videos, photography, graphics design, marketing and stuff like that. I'm alot more active on discord than on reddit
I don't really have any preferences when it comes to making friends: if we vibe we vibe. I try to have as little expectations as possible, except you not being an NPC. I'm also way more active on discord or steam.
If any of this resonates, don't be shy to hit me up! I won't bite. yet. probably. hopefully?