Cute ways to say goodnight to a girl

For a little context I 23F got with my 26M boyfriend almost a year ago now i knew he had a son under the age of 2 and he had recently “separated” from their mother. I told him i would never come in between him and his kid and i encourage him to go see them as much as possible as we both travel to work. about 5 months ago his Baby-mamma moved out his family home and got her own apartment right down the road from his place i’m talking like 5 minutes. she has not job and no degree in anything so my Bf has to financially help her and i told him that’s ok she has your babies but you can’t do it forever she needs to work on either getting her GED/degree then look for a job and that is what she is doing is and has recently just graduated and i’m happy for her, but i’ve recently noticed something we used to be able to cuddle and she would text him and he’d open them and i could read them as well but 🚩now when she texts and we are cuddling he won’t open it until i get up OR slightly turns his phone so his privacy screen protector makes it where im unable to read anything and when i’ve brought it to his attention he goes we are just talking about our kids and 🚩another when he goes to facetime his son or anything i’m silenced and not allowed to speak or do anything as if he’s trying to hide me from her. now when he goes home remember how i said she lived right down the road well when he goes over to visit he doesn’t stay at his place 🚩he goes over and stays at her place and i don’t think that’s normal when i’ve brought that up he says it’s because his son is so young and he doesn’t want to change his diaper if needed. 🚩he drives her car instead of his when he’s down there. he says he doesn’t love her anymore and he’s just trying to parent with his son.
When he got home the other day and he noticed my mood he asked what was wrong and tried to comfort but i pushed him away and told him it’s either her or me and brought up all the stuff he’s done and he turned it around on me. then said then just leave if you don’t like it. BOOM another blow to the heart, after our argument the next following week i havent been as loving as i used to be and he’s taken notice then asked me “do you even love me anymore” i told him i do but im not going to be his backup and he had promised he wouldn’t do it anymore and i thought that was that well earlier when we where on the phone i heard his seatbelt alarm go off well it wasn’t his alarm because the Kia alarm and his truck are not the same so i hung up and well here we are. what should i do i dont want to lose him but i dont want him to think im ok with this continuing in not trying to be in the way of his son and thats the only person i want coming infront of me.

I’m lost and confused after a recent breakup.
My ex broke up with me a few weeks ago. We had been dating about a year and a half. I met her on a dating app and it was one of those relationships that developed by doing one date a week for several months. It was a year after I got out of a toxic relationship.
About 3 months into hanging out. she asked if I would be her bf. At first I cringed on the idea, not because it was her, but more so because I wasn’t sure about it. She was a great girl but I wasn’t sold on relationship material. I have crazy high standards and she didn’t fit appearance standard. But I went along with it, I told her I still wanted to be able to approach or work on social skills with other girls even if just plutonicly. Fast forward another several months and the I love you statement came up. I wasn’t entirely sure about how I felt but I again went along with it. I did come around to the whole thing though.
She was a very loving, loyal, committed gf, and did anything for me. She made a lot of money (6 figures). Unfortunately I didn’t really find her incredibly magnetizing. She was cute, but not crazy attractive in my eye. Also, the fact that she was so wholesome, it didn’t allow for much witty banter. Conversations were mostly plutonic, where I’m more of the sarcastic type. She always wanted to pull out the calendar and schedule plans months in advance every week. She did all of these crazy google calendar overlays and I felt like I was always being sucked into things I didn’t want to do. She became more clingy than I had realized when I first met her. She even asked me about 3 months ago, if we could spend not just weekends together, but also Wednesday nights. (We lived just over an hour apart). I suggested it could be every other week (the opposite)…I didn’t like going to her place because of the road noise where she lived and I would really only see her when she would visit me. When apart I was fine going several weeks without seeing each other. Phone calls were enough. I know, all of this sounds really one sided and like I’m an asshole. But I was very loving to her in person and she knows that, hence why it lasted so long.
Unfortunately a lot of things she did turned me off. She was too readily available, always trying to lock up my calendar, talk about marriage and kids in the next 3-5 years and I felt trapped. We had great sex but it wasn’t crazy passionate, neither was our kissing. When alone, and was feeling aroused, I generally didn’t think of my ex. I constantly found myself checking out other girls places I went (but never talked to them). I felt like wow I wish that was the kind of girl I was with. Although my ex was cute, and attractive to most, I didn’t really feel “proud” to have her with me when I went out…I debated for months on what to do.
In the end she left me, and I shouldn’t really be surprised. But now I’m wishing I had her. Maybe not for the right reasons though? I just think where would I find a girl that loyal, dedicated, and make that kind of money without being money hungry.
I’m trying to figure out why if I wanted to end things myself how come all of a sudden I want her back? Is it just the void of not having someone loyal who’s there for me? The fear of not meeting someone as smart? She’s already talking to other guys and I’m just a wreck and need some advice. I can’t go an hour without thinking of her. I think I need to rewire the way I am thinking. I can’t stop thinking that maybe I made a mistake and should have put in more effort, but I feel like if I truly loved/had that spark for her I would have tried more all along
Do you think this was a good thing this happened?

Hi, guys! I'm back. I've just finished reading Starset's new novel, A Brief History of the Future, and i really needed to share it.
Some of you may know me from my previous posts on the Starset lore:

• In "The Starset lore Part I: Transmissions", I covered the events told in The Prox Transmissions (Starset's first novel) and linked them to the album Transmissions.
• In "The Starset lore Part II: DivisionsThe Starset lore Part II: Divisions", I tried to gather the information we had on the new storyline, mainly based on Divisions content (Horizons hadn't released yet by then) and I shared my speculations about its meaning.

Now that I've read this book, I want to sum up what we have now. Keep in mind that, for obvious reasons, this post is all spoiler content. If you plan to read the book(s) I encourage you to do so, because I'm unveiling some of the main "plot-twists" in the second book. I won't be writing a literal summary of the book's plot (I will focus on the content more than in the "drama" -in fact, I will start at the end), but key elements of it will appear. Also, I'm taking for granted you are already familiar with the contents in The Prox Transmissions -if not, I recommend you reading my post or just dropping this post altogether and go read the book!
If you have already read the books, don't plan to read them or don't care about the spoilers, stay with me along this long post because you will discover much about Divisions, Horizons... and what's coming next!!
Let's go then!
In a unknown year the novel starts in a world dominated by a state called the New East. it's not explicit in the book, but we have reasons to identify the New East with China: it is a current superpower and the powerful people in control have Chinese names. This state is governed by a Governing Committee, composed by Ministers that stay in charge for 5 years, with an exception: the Minister of Security, also known as MinSec. He is the head of the New East's secret police and he is to remain in charge for life.
Prior to 2024, Aston Wise (remember he was one of the protagonists of the previous novel!) is locked up by the US Government. They force him to create the BMI and its Architecture. In 2024, as I have said, the New East manages to obtain it and the big war starts. This part of the story is also explained deeper in a video (called "Initial Debriefing", available in Starset's YouTube channel since September 9th, 2021), with some minor incongruencies:

In the year 2010, the US Defense Advance Research Projects Agency -or DARPA- began work on a neural link system known as the "Brain Machine Interface" developed under the highest levels of secrecy. This technology was to be used in covert espionage campaigns with the goal of giving the US a major advantage in the ever-growing cyber warfare battlefield. The intention was to use the "BMI" on unsuspecting foreign agents, giving US Intelligence a remote line into their minds. Launched in 2020 to great success, the BMI provided a window into the intentions and secrets of numerous potential adversaries. Then, in 2021, a botched operation allowed this technology to fall into the hands of an undisclosed state who would then use it agains the US itself for over a decade. This state -which came to be known as the New East- used this technology to syphon intellectual property and assert control over the US, allowing it to rise swiftly as a global superpower. In the early 2030s, the crippled US launched an attack to the New East. This was quickly thwarted. However, as the New East was fully aware and prepared, in the end, the US and its allies capitulated and became known simply as the New West. Citizens of the New West, now mostly impoverished laborers, were offered BMI implantation -sold on the wonders of its amazing benefits. Eventually though, all were made to comply. Only then did the true goals of the New East become apparent.

The New West is a de facto and de iure protectorate. The New West has its own local police -that dealt with murder and robbery-, but the military and, most important, the Civil Authorities (CA), are controlled by MinSec -focused on thought crime.
Soon after the end of the war, some people were drafted for the reclamation in Virginia by the New East army. This was a forced-labor suicide mission because it was a fallout zone. The goal was the recovery of documents from the US, such as blueprints for advanced weapons and intel. Those who survived, developed NeuroTIDS (neural tissue interface degeneration syndrome) because of the radiation.
Once in control of the US (now New West), the New East implanted into all citizens the BMI. Now, people deal with three layers of reality: unaltered reality (UR), augmented reality (AR) and virtual reality (VR). Considering the BMI, there are three states:

• BMI glowing white (normal state: people are in UR with elements of AR).
• BMI glowing blue (also called frosting: people are in VR having some pleasant experience, while looking absent and apathetic in the outside). See an example of person frosting in the Diving Bell music video.
• BMI glowing red (also called supplication).

(There also exists the Everything Machine in this storyline. Indeed, people ate only printed food, as real food as reserved for the New East).
On top of this, there’s an intelligent algorythm or artificial intelligence in the Architecture, called the Overseer. It is capable of detecting thought crimes by accessing a person's sensory input and also altering their perceptions (for example, blurring texts from banned books). When a thought crime is detected, CAs intervene and turn the perpetrator into a supplicant. Supplicants are stuck in VR prisons while their bodies wander in the streets or are collected and put into "corrals". See an example of a supplication facility in Where the Skies Ends music video.
The protectorate of the New East upon the New West is mantained thanks to the Quantum Comunicator, which keeps both connected and also connected to the Architecture
On the other hand, there's a rebel network still in function. They manage to meet and develop their plans by modding their BMIs, so that they become undetectable under the eyes of the Overseer. Their plan is to trap the MinSec and use their credentials to get access to the Architecture and destroy it from the inside.
(In Manifest music video you can see examples of people frosting, people supplicated, the modding minor surgery, the rebels, the CAs using their "freezing" weapons and supplicating civilians and a bigwig from the New East, maybe the MinSec himself).
Also, it is said that the New East didn't manage to conquer all the Old West (US) territories. There's rumours about the socalled Western Territories, free land where some former rebels already live, though its real existence it's in never confirmed in book. In The Breach music video we can see how a family leaving in the New West takes the opportunity of escaping into the Western Territories during some sort of shutdown.
The New West capital is established in Philadelphia, where the events in A Brief History of the Future are set. Here's the Quantum Communication Center and the New West Center for Advanced Innovation (CAI), where the most brilliant programming students are sent to develop their skills and work for the New West/East. One of this students is one of the protagonists of this book, Thomas Bell (again, someone whose name we are already familiar...), who quickly proves to be the best one and gets to be chosen as the Director's assistant. Eventually we get to discover the Director is Aston Wise and later on we find out he is the Architect himself.
A feature or app of the BMI that will reveal crucial to the plot is the Shadowcast: one can frost but, instead of being conscious in a VR, "enters" inside a celebrity's mind for an hour and experiences all they are experiencing live (the user is passive and can only perceive, but not intervene or influence the shadowcast celebrity into doing anything). You can see an example of this in Symbiotic music video, where the user is finally able to successfully Occupy the body of the celebrity. In the book, when this happens, the person occupied has their BMI turned purple.
In the book, Occupation will be a tool used by Bell and Wise, but also by the government, in an attempt of using the supplicated bodies to their own purposes. The original project launched by the New East and commissioned to the Director of the CAI (Aston Wise), was called by Wise himself 'Project X'. New East wanted to present it to the citizens as a way of emancipating from work: while working, you can let yourself be occupied by the Overseer, who wil perform your job while you can be having fun in VR. In Icarus music video you can see an ad made by the New East to promote the "benefits" of this technology (called Werk here); the other ads are based on previous BMI technology (AR, VR and Shadowcast). (Fun fact: have you noticed that the actor in 3:12 is the same from the Ricochet music video?).
As I said in the beginning, it is not my goal to sum up the book's plot and even though I have already spoiled you much info and some plot-twists, I'm not telling you here how the story of the protagonists develops and how it ends. However, I can't refrain from telling you this: the last page of the book has a QR that redirects to a video that has me really excited.
In the video, we see a man. He tells us it is 2048. In spring 2026, the New East took over the US. But... guess who's back! Oh, yes, the Order! Or rather they were there all along. In fact, the man who's talking to us is Stephen Browning! On July 4th of 2026, after the New East invasion, the Order tried to launch a spacerocket to get to "a lonely planet" (Prox!), but it was intercepted by the New East and then the army destroyed their base, so they lost all hope in a future on another planet. However, they managed to hide a "time mechanism" (I guess the same they had in The Prox Transmissions) and, finally, sent a message to 2024, warning us about this future that awaits us. Then he sais:

Dear Order friends, the time has finally arrived. We're headed to space. We're going go Prox.

This announcement matches Starset's video from six months ago ("It begins. And it ends. Now."), where we see images of astronauts and spacerockets, evoking space travel. Wow! Did you miss that "space-y" aesthetic, plots and sound from Transmissions and Vessels? Because it sounds like we're getting them back! Note that at the end of this video, the three dots of the BMI are occupied by three symbols:

• The bottom one is the symbol of the Order, appears at the beginning of each chapter in The Prox Transmissions.
• The middle one is the symbol of Divisions album, I'd say it's a symbol of the rebels.
• The top one is... unknown? It is quite similar to me to the symbol in Faultline, but I guess it represents the "following chapter"? Who knows.

It also matches the music video for Starset's last single, Brave New Word! And there's more news: the end of the video linked in A Brief History Of the Future ends with a "to be continued in Spring 2025".
So... Again, there are some questions left unanswered (and I love that!): How are both books linked? Are they the same Aston Wise and Thomas Bell, but in an alternative timeline? From where will the story continue? (The Order in 2048 colonising Prox?). I'm soooo excited to learn what's coming next and to listen Starset's next album (I love Brave New World).
Let me know about your impressions, opinions, theories... feel free to add any info I could have missed, to correct any piece I could be mistake about, etc. Thank you so much for your attention (I literally created this account only to write these Starset lore posts I feel very invested to and English isn't even my first or second language), I hope you enjoyed it and found it useful!!

My grandmother visits our house every day. EVERY DAY. Although she has her own home, it lacks a TV and Wi-Fi. A few years ago, her roommate suggested they split the cost of Wi-Fi so both could use it, but she declined for some reason. She also doesn't own a TV and has no plans to buy one. Instead, she sends money to her son who lives in another country. I have another aunt who lives nearby, but she avoids going to her place because it's too loud (she has a big family). My grandmother occasionally stays at my aunts house for circa 2 weeks every 3-6 months. While I appreciate her, it can be a bit irritating since our house is small for me and my parents. We only have one television, and she tends to monopolize it. I usually have school until 1 pm, which leaves me with just 2 hours to watch TV. She leaves at 9-10pm but i usually sleep at this time. I hope I don't sound spoiled, but this has been happening since 2022. I wanted to talk to her, but in our culture, it is considered very disrespectful to address or say anything like that to our elders. Even if I were to express my feelings, she might share it with my relatives and i would end up as the spoiled fifteen years old girl from „Europe“. (I am originally from Asia). What should i do? Am i the problem?

Chapter 2 I got a new neighbor today. While out on my shift I noticed a new trailer. I'm laughing as I'm writing this because I say new trailer but there's nothing new about this one. I'd be surprised if it survives getting hit by the transport. We'll see how long my new neighbor survives sleeping in the mine instead of in their trailer. If something did happen I could probably make it over there. But why honestly. I'm almost a little angry that I can see a trailer from where I am. They aren't really close enough to be a threat. There's only one of them so it's not the crew coming out this far. I can really only see them at certain points in my shift anyway. It's possible they don't know that I'm here at all.
My mind is occupied by my recycler today anyway. Literally the most expensive piece of personal equipment in the mine. And if this breaks you are done. If you don't attempt to modify it it will run forever. Fresh water and oxygen. Actually it's a pleasant oxygen mix. And don't think too much about the water. It's a live system. So it's kind of a pet if you think about it that way. Or a billion pets or so. These little guys are what actually sets your shift. Can't tell me to go mining if I don't have enough O2. Of course that's one less day towards your calendar. There's an oxygen supply in the trailer but that costs money. You can use it but the cost of that will have you mining next to the Foreman's trailer, and you'll still be adding days to your calendar. It's not just the cost of the oxygen. It's the transport cost. And the refueling cost. And the inspection cost. Apparently whoever set this mine up knew that people enjoyed breathing. If you run your recycler and you work your shifts you should be on track to meet your calendar.
I broke my recycler.

Hello, I am a second year teacher. My principal asked me to do a lesson on a certain book that I was not trained for and was asked for material I was not told had to be available. I tried my best to complete the lesson with what I know. I became heavily overwhelmed and went to see the nurse, as I was having a panic attack. I was informed by the nurse that my blood pressure reached 160/80 and she stated that it was a bit high.I was given a bag to control my breathing, a water bottle and tissues. The reason I decided to go to the nurse, for this specific panic attack is because earlier this month, I went to my primary physician over the toll the stress is doing to me. To continue the incident, my principal asked me to join her in her office to explain why she did what she did. When I entered her office I could see that a lead teacher was already seated. She immediately states “I brought you here today to show you it is not about you” but about the curriculum. I told her that I have not received proper training for that book and she continues to say that there are videos on youtube I can watch. After more lead teachers entered and they could see me after my panic attack and I felt ashamed and embarrassed. I felt targeted and quite frankly bullied. Once the meeting was concluded and the teachers left, my principal stated “If you have a child(referring to my son), you shouldn’t have reacted this way.” She also stated "I should have not reacted that way before she told me spoke to me about what was happening". I was asked to return to the nurse’s office to recheck my blood pressure, and My principal asked if I was on any anxiety medication and that “anxiety medication increases blood pressure” to which the nurse denied. I do not believe it was appropriate to ask what medications I am taking.

I wanted to provide some impressions with the Nano Texture display. I’m not a full-time artist, I’m just now starting to get into 3D modeling (but have just dipped my toes in the water), and I love editing photography as a hobby.
I originally purchased a 1TB Standard Display iPad that was delivered on May 15th. However on Friday the 17th, I saw an Apple Store had the 1TB Nano Texture in stock, and so I picked that up as well and did some side by side comparisons. I had them together in a well lit living room, a darkened bedroom (curtains closed but not pitch black), as well as in complete total darkness. And overall, yes, there is a bit of a difference, but it is so incredibly small, that I can only see it if I’m looking at both side by side.
In a pitch black room and side by side, there is a hint more saturation and a hint of deeper blacks. But how often am I in that scenario? Usually right before I’m going to bed. For the other 90% of the time I’m using the iPad, I am in lit areas of varying degrees, and in those situations, not having glaring reflections wins out every single time. When I can see visible reflections on my screen, that 2% extra deep black doesn’t mean anything because it’s being washed out by the horrible reflection. The Nano Texture diffuses the light, making it a much, MUCH better viewing experience. Sure the image gets washed out as well, but in a much softer way and provides a much easier reading experience because your brain isn’t trying to see through a reflection.
The other thing I’ve really loved about the Nano Texture, is it almost gives this display an E-Ink feel to it. Except it would be the most gorgeous, bright, high-resolution E-Ink display you’ve ever seen. Everything you view almost feels like it has a printed quality to it. Things are less digital and more physical feeling. And at first it may be a bit jarring. When I bought my Studio Display with Nano Texture over a year ago, when it first came in I struggled on if I should replace it with glossy, it just looked a bit different. But after a year, and having my Nano Studio Display at home and working off a glossy display in the office, Nano is absolutely my preferred viewing choice. And maybe that year of adjusting my eyes to this matte display helped my transition from glossy iPad display to matte. iJustine mentioned it in one of her videos, but it is a bit weird for your brain because it’s used to seeing through reflections, and this just doesn’t have them.
Speaking of E-Ink, I’ve been doing some reading from the Kindle App on my new Nano iPad, and it is a pretty big improvement and easier on the eyes reading long blocks of texts. I think this goes back to the images on the display feeling more print like and less digital. This will 100% replace me using my Kindle Oasis and I also can’t wait to start getting into some graphic novels with this display.
Finally the texture of the screen. There is definitely a difference to the touch, but this just feels like a much smoother (and even softer) surface to slide my fingers around compared to the standard glass. It really feels premium. Fingerprints have been way less of an issue for me compared to standard. Yes, they are there, but the microfiber cloth provided removes them easily enough. And if I need to really clean my screen, I can always use the 70% alcohol which works magically on my Nano Studio Display. And when using the Apple Pencil, the difference isn’t as drastic, but it’s there, and it made sketching in Procreate a bit better of an experience. I’ve never used Paperlike, but I can say the Nano does offer a bit of a friction with the pencil that you don’t get with standard glass.
Needless to say, my Standard iPad is getting returned to Apple and I am keeping the Nano iPad. For me, I’d rather take a 2% hit on contrast if it means the viewing experience on my iPad will be drastically better 90% of the time because of no reflections. And for those times I’m streaming YouTube or Netflix before I go to sleep, I’ll never miss the barely noticeable drop in contrast and saturation.
Hope this helps anyone else thinking about getting a Nano iPad. The experience may not be for everyone, but if you’re like me, once you‘re eyes and brain have adjusted to this different type of display, it’s so hard to go back to a display that showcases reflections so much.

I have a friend who’s got an extreme case of BPD (among other things) and apparently his father is his favorite person. His father is away on work and didn’t answer some of his calls and he made an attempt because of this (reason why I’m making this post).
He hated his mother because she had cancer and he felt like his father’s attention was being taken away from him, he claims he was happy when she died. When his father started dating this girl a few years later he threw a huge fit and attempted against his life, after that they agreed that his father wouldn’t date anymore. He cried in the class more than once because his father called to say he’d be 15 minutes late to pick him up. His feelings of emptiness are also really, really bad according to the psychiatrist. (Those were examples to demonstrate that he’s not “high functioning” [sorry, I don’t know if this is the core term], and not only because of the BPD.)
So the father’s life is pretty much centered around my friend and my friend is completely dependent on him. They say he can’t be alone under any circumstance, so he’s going to be in the hospital while his father isn’t here.
Have any of you experienced something similar? How do I show that I don’t judge him? How can I show support?

I went for Titanshield in the end after the Dragonshields went up in price on Amazon. (If I were paranoid, I'd have paranoid things to say about that.)
Anyway, the Titanshields feel really good. Way better than the Ultra Pros.
And I found out another reason for playing with decent sleeves: they reduce the likelihood of 'losing' a hero card (like, say, Enhanced Spider-Sense) only to realise, after frantic searching, the card in question is stuck behind a random aspect card. There's a half hour of my life I won't get back again...

There's a demon boy, and he's relatively weak as well as lazy and scatter brained. He will call a time out mid battle because it is near a restaurant/store he likes. He's also a trickster that pulls the stupidest most elaborate pranks (like rube golberg machines). AMYWAY, he decides to track down one of the magical girls to her home and basically becomes her annoying omnipotent cat. He sleeps under her bed, hides in her shadow eachday, and sometimes steals hee snacks.
This is the general set up. I have a few ideas to give it SOME sort of direction
Put simply, thier dynamic is what will keep things entertaining. He's not strong, nor using 5% of his strength at any given time. The general feel is he tries to steal a snack, she holds it out of reach shouting no. He calls himself her personal demon/parasite and refers to her as his host. It is a symbiotic relationship because he does get attached to her and occasionally gets defensive/protective towards her.
Put simply, he ignored the orders and went rougue and ran off to do his own thing (all of this) mid battle because he got annoyed by the commanders orders.
He does eventually get brought along with the magical girl to see her usual group and is immediately territorial to most of the magical girls. One manages to win him over by treating him like a cat and (in a way) slightly subdue him and mellow him out.
His vindictivness causes him to sometimes try abandoning the girls he has grudges with, but he reconsiders sometimes because it would make his host sad. (Charecter growth)
At the end of the second or so volume/season, there is a big tough battle happening. All the girlsare down, the strongest ones are either also diwn, incompasitated, caprured, or dead. All hope is lost. The big meanie bad bad is about to kill the main girl. Shit is about to fly. Suddenly, our favorite demon appears. He got board, decided to follow, and enters what can only be described as a yandere mode. As I said, he usually uses bearly 5% of power... until now. He is PISSED after seeing what happened to the girls he "actually liked". He goes 75% and tortures the villain.
If this sounds interesting, offer notes. I may add some ideas in. Go ahead and make something with this.

I’ve told her so many times its a bad idea but she says he “knows the difference.” I told her there’s no way in hell a 4 month old boxer puppy is gonna know the difference between shoes he can and cant chew on. He’s already started running around with MY shoes. I consulted my dad and he said he’d remove all the shoes she gives him, because yknow, he actually wants a well behaved dog. But today, I came home and there was an unlaced shoe on the floor with bite marks on it. I told her that we should not be giving him shoes and that he doesn’t know the difference and she says “he’ll learn.” She gets angry and shuts me down whenever I tell her he’ll continue to do this into adulthood with OUR shoes. Can SOMEONE back me up here? Giving puppies shoes to chew on is NOT good idea, right? 

For context, I live with my grandma (father’s side) (69) who’s very picky and generally hard to deal with. She has a lot of skin problems (due to anxiety) and was also treated for funghi problems on her torso and crotch area that made a lot of blisters that gave her a burning itch.
So, I always struggled with yeast infections since the begining of my sex life, and my grandma always made an ugly face to the pills, vaginal creams and applicators that I kept in my wardrobe and room. I tried explaining to her what it was for, and why it happens (I also get YI when I’m stressed or in emotional distress, and my mom and her mom has also a long history with it). But I think she just thinks I’m a slut or a dirty woman, cause she always made sure to say that she never had this kind of issue.
Until now. She came to me today and said that I was not allowed to use the washing machine to wash my clothes and underwear, because she had an itch in her private area that she never had before, and since i’m always with these “problems” I must have given her my “disease”. She also said that she’s old and don’t want to deal with that kind of shit now because of me. I just feel so humiliated, my yeast infections always took a toll on me mentally as well because somehow I feel guilty for them or that other women don’t get “sick” with that like I do.
I don’t get to have a sex life the way I want, I have to keep a high maintance to keep myself healthy, I got a lot of shame for it by myself, so her telling me that really got to me, I felt really dirty.
Could I actually gave her an yeast infection by washing our underwear in the washing machine together? I dont even have it right now!

31yr old FTM due June 18th and just need to vent / looking for advice. Now that we are at the 30 day mark I am so anxious about baby boy coming. For the record, this was very much a planned and wanted baby I just didn't expect us to get pregnant so quickly. My husband and I have been together for 9 years, and will be married for 2 years in October. We bought a small house house in the best school district we could afford and have been fixing it up for the past four years. Cute dog, white picket fence, the whole cliche. I guess I'm just scared of the monumental life shift that's about to take place and doubting if I'm up for the challenge. Little man's nursery is fully stocked and ready to go, but suddenly I'm just scared. Scared of it being too hard, of not knowing what my son needs, of losing myself and losing my husband. I know the next few months and years will be all about our son but it's terrifying. I love him so much already but once he's born there's no going back to before. I guess I'm just mourning our old life and well, doubting myself as a mother. Does anyone else feel this way? All of my girlfriends with older children say it's so hard but no one has ever said they had doubts.

Hello everyone!
it’s been a while since i posted in this community. for the last one year or so i’ve been reading only extreme dark romance (non-con). i honestly don’t have any triggers so i kept reading everything i could find. just today, i’ve finished reading Captured by Laura Biel. it’s one of the darkest books i’ve ever read. now, i just want to drift away from non-con. one, because it’s getting extremely difficult for me to answer whenever my family and colleagues ask me about the book i’m reading and two, i just want to take a break ( i feel like the levels of non-con i’m reading is having a negative effect on me ).
i was wondering if there’s any books you can recommend where the relationship is just GOALS. there’s passion, love, maturity, trust, and just wholesome vibes? or any book that just restored your faith in love? made you feel giddy? was just so cute it made your day?
the will to stop reading or at least take a break from reading non-con books stemmed from a k-drama “lovely runner”. MMC (Sun jae) is hopelessly in love with FMC (Sol) and it’s adorable. when Sol finally confesses her love for Sunjae, the way he kisses her is just 😘
things i don’t like: - high school - body betrayal - cringe banters - immature main characters - historical (it’s not a hard no but it’s always in the last of my list)
things i think i enjoy: - MMCs desperate for FMC - MMC hopelessly and irrevocably in love with FMC - anything that would make me blush or feels giddy because the romance is just so GOOD - i don’t mind billionaire romances (sometimes)
ps. if you think a book depicts a very healthy relationship, please do recommend:)

in summary, the situation is this:
My girlfriend is someone who loves physical contact and sexual intimacy. Actually, I am also someone who likes physical contact, but for certain reasons I do not want to do this anymore. I'm not talking about little things like hugs. But for example, I don't want to kiss, physical contact like that makes me feel bad.
When I told this to my girlfriend, she understood, but as time passed, this situation caused her sadness. Sometimes he says things like "let's kiss" in a joking manner. Since she knew that I was not against physical contact before, she started to say that I don't love her, but I explained to her nicely that this was not the case. I don't know what the right step to take is. Should I break up with my girlfriend directly or is there a way? I feel like if I lose her, I might not be able to have a serious and long-term relationship with anyone.

I am F16, my ex is M18. loved my ex. I want to get that out of the way. He wasn't conventionally attractive, but I thought he looked nice and was a wonderful person. He was autistic and had adhd, which made some stuff challenging, but I loved him and was willing to deal with it, since I myself had BPD and he was willing to deal with it (or so he said). Do note this relationship was long distance.
I knew him for four years before we dated. We didn't talk much for a year or so, before dating. I had gotten out of a relationship, a little after we had reconnected. I didn't want to date again for at least a year, but he was kind to me and we talked quite often. I started to fall for him, but he told me he was aromantic so I never pursued.
We jokingly would flirt though, and spend a lot of time talking together. One day he told me he might be demiromantic, not aromantic, because he felt something for me. I talked more with him after that, about relationship type things. Eventually I confessed, and then a while later, he confessed back to me. When we started dating, we agreed on certain things. He didn't know if he loved me romantically, but he was happy to engage in romantic behaviors and he felt some type of love for me. I was okay with this. I made him aware of what my BPD looked like, he said he was okay with that too.
For the beginning of the relationship, the first few months, it was lovely and we enjoyed each other's company (at least I thought we did). Rough patches were smoothed over pretty easily. Eventually, behaviors I have from BPD, specifically being easily triggered to react emotionally, became more prevalent. There was a point where he wanted to break up with me, then after a conversation, decided to let me try and resolve the behavior. I did try, I tried very hard.
I think I probably should have let it go, though. After this event, he began to tell his friends and family about all our dramas. Probably a red flag, since I only spoke to one person (my best friend) and never painted him negatively, though his family hates me now so he must have. We met a month after this, and it was the best five days I ever had. I felt loved, we got along well (I thought, Ill touch on this later). A month later, he begins online college. Okay, cool. Great. I was happy for him.
He told me it wouldn't affect our relationship, and at first it didn't, but eventually he stopped doing it in a timely manner and would fail to achieve commitments he had said he would do. Every day I would ask if we planned to call, I would've been fine with a yes or no. He always said yes, but often wouldn't keep the commitment. At first I handled it just fine, but eventually it became upsetting.
I'm a busy person, and I'm not free during my day until evening. He's free most of his days, almost constantly. I would do my best to be available at our designated time, and would feel hurt (and eventually react as such) when he wouldn't. Especially when he started to put off his schoolwork to hang out with his friends, often after having said we would talk later that day too. I brought this up to him, I want to say. I told him if he wanted time to himself, he could tell me how long he wanted and I would give it to him. He never did tell me, but he often would tell me that when I was awake he never felt free. He would stay up very late because that was the only time he felt free. He said he was always worried I would need him, so I guess there was a red flag in that too.
Touching back on the meeting him in person thing. He has a large family, and his family has a small farm with livestock dogs on it. His younger siblings were very interested in me, since I was a new person, and they wanted to hang out with me. I also love dogs, and have always wanted one, so I spent some time with the dogs out on the farm. I would invite him to play with his siblings with me, or go see the dog. I slept six hours a night for those five days, and would be with him for 16-17 hours a day. We would go out places and talk, and I would spend maybe two or three of those hours at the most around his siblings/the dog.
Later on, after we went on our break (I'll talk about this too, later) he said to me that he felt I wanted to make an impression on his siblings more than I did with him, and that we were at different points in our lives because I still wanted to have fun and play around (I want to reiterate that his siblings would seek me out). He told me he wanted us to have spent more time just laying around and cuddling, rather than going out to so many places, but never said this to me while we were together in person. I invited his oldest sister to come with us to a place (before asking him), though I told her I would need him to agree before we finalized anything, and then asked him after. He didn't like that.
Now, before I get into the last section of this, I want to establish that he was very kind to me (usually). We bought each other gifts, spent time together, made plans, and all of that stuff. He made me happy, I thought I made him happy too.
In our relationship, we both failed to communicate, and I would fail to discuss things calmly, letting my emotions get the best of me. I wouldn't leave him alone very often, wouldn't let him do stuff away from me very often. I loved being around him, but he wanted time apart and I tended not to give that to him. I should have. This was his first relationship that he wanted to last, but his second relationship in total. I've had many more before this, but this was the only one I really felt commitment to. We talked about marrying, about buying a house, about pets and family. I feel as if we did everything right, or at least he did. I was the emotional one, who wanted too much. I know it was mainly my fault.
When we went on break, it was because I couldn't take it anymore and lost my cool. He'd promised we could talk that night, I was extremely vulnerable emotionally because of something with my family. He failed to finish his work on time, told me he needed another two hours. I snapped. I went down the list of "everything I hate about you (him)". I told him most of the stuff I'm saying here, and some others.

• I hate how you never take my advice
• I hate how you ask me to help you stay on track but never listen to me
• I hate how you get upset with me easily, but never do with any of your friends Etc.

We talked after that, he acted pretty normal. The next day he dropped that on me, despite saying the night before that he wanted to be there for us to both improve.
I started therapy after that, I started trying to find ways to work around all my issues while he continued his typical daily routine. I didn't mind. He initiated flirting with me, and other stuff, that I reciprocated and went along with because I loved him and I still love him even now, and it was all my fault even if I know it wasn't all my fault it feels like it was all my fault. He said he never wants to speak to me again, blocked me, all of it.
During our break, I tried confronting our problems and finding solutions. He dropped several bombs on me, that make me feel rather insecure even now about whether he ever liked me for me or just because of other physical (you know what I mean) attributes, bring that that was all he would really comment on positively.
He told me he never loved me, and never likes me.
Now, what led to the final actual break up, was that I have been planning with another friend to move to Salt Lake City for actual years. He wanted to be part of it, and so did another friend. My household situation isn't great, won't go into too many details but I have been having stress reactions since many years ago, that have been getting steadily worse. I wanted to move out at 18, I'm almost 17. I've been kind of panicking about all of this, and yesterday I snapped (sort of). The conversation with him went sort of like this:

• I tell him he and the other two won't enjoy the talk we'll have Monday
• He asks why
• I said "you guys probably just wont"
• He tells me I'm being defeatist
• I tell him I'm not, then give more details on the conversation. He and the other two are 18, 18, and 20. Two of them come from well-off families. I felt frustrated that neither of them, especially him, work yet or have been trying to even get their driver's license. I intend to skip two years of high-school to take my GED and start working because I don't have another choice. They have choices, and I don't. I wanted to get this point across.

I go on further to say he and the other person's view of maturity is narrow-minded and flawed. A while later he tells me he no longer wants to be involved with me or anything to do with me, after talking to other people and getting their opinions.
Tl;Dr, had a relationship with someone I really liked, I feel like I'm to blame for the collapse of it. He had autism/adhd, I had BPD, we went on break so I could try to fix my problems (he said he would too but it didn't really feel much like he was), and then broke up because I confronted him (albeit poorly) about how I felt he and another person treated the future they wanted to be involved in. There were a lot of things that hurt me really badly in the relationship, but I think I hurt him worse. AITAH?

(TL;DR - I run a module written by a DM from another group, it goes off the rails, I allow it, we have fun, and the other DM completely loses their shit on me when they hear about it a few years later.)
This one is hopefully going to be fun, the original event happened a number of years ago, and the end of the event is fairly recent, so a lot of the earlier details are a little bit fuzzy but I can definitely relate the story.
Back in my game store days, I was the DM of one of two consistent Dungeons & Dragons groups at my LGS. The other DM and I really weren't friends, and I can't say we even actually liked each other, but we had a mutual respect and we had a few common players in our respective games.
One day the other DM approached me with a folder of papers. He said he had written a module that he was thinking of publishing and he wanted to have other DMs run the game with a few different groups at the same time so that he can have usable feedback. I told him I would read it and then I would try running it with my group.
It wasn't bad. Not exactly the best writing, there were some small spelling and grammar mistakes, but not anything incomprehensible. The plot basically involves a corrupt treasurer of a merchant guild blackmailing the player characters into doing a long series of side quests because he could very easily frame them for an event they witness.
The thing about this was that the writer spent a considerable amount of effort in writing contingencies so that the villain in the story could not be killed too early because it would ultimately result in the players getting framed for the event anyway. Kind of heavy-handed railroading, but I would give it a shot.
The corrupt merchant guild treasurer was Harvey. He was a smarthy middle-aged half-elf with what was described as a "manipulative personality"; None of that is actually relevant to the story.
My players decided that instead of trying to investigate the potential murder of another merchant guild office holder, they were going to try to loot Harvey's office before meeting him.
While the players are looting, Harvey walks back into his office after paying for the hit on the other office holder, one of the party members panics and wins the initiative before Harvey can even speak. Two natural 20s later, Harvey is dead.
Well shit.
The thing is, the way the module was written, every opportunity the players would have to kill him early, there would be witnesses and contingencies. This particular event did not, and wasn't exactly planned for in the original writing. When the players characters search him, and find out who he is, the players collectively panic and try to find a way to get out of the situation without having the whole town after them.
So after about 30 minutes of in and out of character discussion among the players, they eventually came to an agreement...
They were going to try to keep up a charade where everybody in town thought Harvey was still alive and that they were his best friends looking out for him enough for the events of the story to resolve themselves.
"Hold on, you guys are going to actually try to do a Weekend at Bernie's on this?"
"Well, what other options do we have? We are in big trouble otherwise! "
Every single time something like this happens, I am famous for saying four very specific words…
"Okay, roll for it."
Potentially 15 sessions worth of dark political conspiracy then proceeded to turn into 22 sessions of black comedy gold.
Finally at the end, one of the other merchant guild office holders storms into Harvey's office while the players characters are in the next room trying to explain to a town guard that the reason Harvey is slumped in his chair is because he's drunk. In full view of the party and the guard through an open dividing wall, the other merchant proceeds to start stabbing Harvey multiple times. The other merchant guild member is promptly arrested for Harvey's murder, and the players are praised for being true friends to Harvey and the town, and are invited to his funeral.
The hilarious thing is that this end result was in fact one of the possible endings that the original author had written into the module (merchant guild member murders Harvey and frees the PCs of the blackmail). My players just had a really messed up way of getting there though.
I went back to the other DM, handed him back the folder, told him that the players loved it, we took a few liberties, but they ended up getting what he called "Ending C" in the DM notes. He asked me for constructive criticism, and I gave him the pretty basic stuff but also mentioned a couple extra contingencies to try to keep the plot from being too inflexible.
We didn't talk about this for a few years, then I bumped into his game group when I came back in to browse the scene at my LGS a couple of weeks ago. DM greeted me and explained that the group was playing the revised version of his module for the fourth time with different characters, trying to get each of the different endings. While we were talking I ended up letting it slip just how off the rails that module got when I ran it.
I didn't think it was a big deal, But that DM proceeded to get fairly angry and offended. He asked me specifically what happened and I explained that they rather accidentally killed Harvey at the very beginning of the module and pretended he was still alive for 22 sessions just so that they would not get arrested. Two of the players at the table started to laugh hysterically, one of the players looked genuinely horrified and the DM got pissed and raised his voice.
"YOU ACTUALLY LET THEM DO THAT!? THAT'S NOT HOW THE TONE OF THE STORY IS SUPPOSED TO GO!"
I tried telling him it wasn't a big deal, told him it was just a game and that the players had a blast, but he wasn't having any of it. He told me if I was going to "defile" his writing, I should at least keep the tone consistent with the original work and tell him when it happens. I apologized, but he demanded that I leave the room. I just turned and left.
Over the ensuing week I heard from a couple of different people that this guy was cursing my name left and right and how in someway I betrayed his trust by letting the game get that way. Worst yet he somehow found my number so that he could bombard me with angry text messages about the subject. Tried to text him an apology and an explanation, but I'm pretty sure he blocked me. Haven't talked to him since.
I understand that it was his brainbaby of sorts, but I can't help but feel like this is a complete overreaction. Not to mention he clearly had it edited such that he was happy enough to run it four times and was satisfied with it. I wouldn't personally hold this kind of thing against anybody that did this very thing with one of my games. What do you guys think?

Please be kind, I feel a bit delusioned because I crushed heavily on my male coworker.
We started at this facility around September and always chatted about work stuff. We worked at the same previous facility but didn't cross paths because he went to higher acuity by the time I started. Because we knew all of the same people, we went down a rabbit hole talking about them and drawing on similar experiences during our orientation. It always struck me how observant and perceptive he was. Kinda scary his opinions on people always aligned with mine but we sadly didn't talk enough to open up about personal lives. He seems like a very respectful dude.
By the time I developed a proper crush on him, our orientation ended so I went to nights and he stayed on days. I decided to let it happen naturally even though we barely saw each other at this point. I casually brought up an upcoming, major union meeting. He told me "I'll go with you if you want. I have your number, I'll text you. We can figure out a time that works with days/nights." This was a month out from the meeting. A few days before the meeting I followed up with him through text and he sounded dodgy. I was super bummed. He said he needed to get an oil change so maybe the 4 pm hopefully. It didn't sound concrete so I backed off and said "no worries, I'll just go to the 8 am."
In person, he never mentioned the union meeting or our text messages. But he was cordial and always said hi. I took report from him around this time on a patient and his phone rang during the midst of it. He picked up and answered to them "I don't know. I'm at work rn." He sounded curt. He went right back into report without saying excuse me or anything. His phone rang another two times during report and he silenced them. I had a strong feeling this was a girlfriend or someone he was dating. Days later, one of my close coworkers told me he mentioned his "girl" in a casual conversation. He never once disclosed about a girlfriend to me but we had more rapport from working together than he did with this other coworker. So I wonder if he knew I had a crush or peeped him, got serious with someone in that short time, and then felt awkward talking about it in front of me?
It's been two ish months since that happened. He's been respectful.
I recently had my hair done (a noticeably different color job), and all of my male coworkers (whether taken or single) told me it looked nice in a platonic way. He strangely was the only one who didn't. Even RTs who barely knew me stopped to tell me the new hair looked good. I wonder if he avoided it or wanted to stay professional because he knew he gave me the wrong idea before or maybe he at one point did notice me?
Then just recently, he gave me report on a spiraling patient. Change of shift was a bit chaotic but I told him I got it from here. He texted me later around 10 pm (no text between us since the union meeting exchange)
"Sorry for bothering you hope you're not bubsy but I was just asking if *patient info* is okay, I been stressing since I left lmao"
me: Aww don't stress, she's doing fine and her family spent some time. She's sleeping quite deely now. You did most of the heavy lifting
coworker: Okay good thank you! It's a team effort
me: no worries, get rest!
That was the end of it. I figured he would never text me or give me any reason to wonder after the union meeting incident. I imagine he felt bad for not following through with offering to go. I know he still kept it professional in these texts and it wasn't anything suggestive.
I spoke to all of my close friends, some of them male/female couples and they said the relationship he has is still young and that he may have once noticed me but didn't act on it. They said, for my own benefit, it wouldn't hurt to talk to him and just tell him something along the lines of "hey, I really like you but I know you're with someone. If you're ever available, we could get to know each other more." I feel like this is crazy and would make him uncomfortable. Plus he doesn't seem like the type of guy to disrespect his partner. They said if I really like him and think we're compatible this might be the only time frame to get away with this because he just got into a relationship.. otherwise it'll be too late. I don't know how to squash this crush. I haven't liked someone in this long. I don't have a problem landing dates or meeting people but they all seem so lame compared to him.
Asking fellow nurses because maybe normal subreddits wouldn't understand the details about work.
FYI, I don't care for the "don't shit where you eat mentality" I see plenty of nurses working out and in 5 years, I've worked at 4 different facilities. I never stay at one place over a year and a half.