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This is gonna be long, just hear me out please. I, 16F, am the middle child of my mother, 42F’s, three children and I, (in my opinion) do the most around the house. I do things correctly when asked and make sure not to half ass anything, Unlike my two sisters (older and younger). Last night we were supposed to have a big storm and possible or tornadoes so I was asked to get the tornado shelter ready, just in case. I was already in a somewhat bad mood because my siblings were staying home instead of going to their sports practice as normal so this ruined my normal schedule. I get the shelter ready as my younger sister, 12F, I’ll call her Lily, was supposed to clean the counters, table, and put food away. I had gotten so busy with everything I was trying to do I forgot to check Lily did things right and make corrections where needed. I ended up falling asleep quickly and was so exhausted I forgot to turn on the dryer after switching my clothes. The next morning I leave for school and during my third hour I receive a text from my mother in the family group chat saying she was completely ignored last night, and nothing got done. She said she’s frustrated she has to do things she asked us to do, which I understand. She then texted that she’s going to be shutting off me and my siblings electronics and everything until someone listens. This made me a little upset and feel unwanted or like my efforts are just thrown aside. I texted back and apologized, saying I was exhausted and I would take care of everything later and would make sure I don’t forget anything in the future. Keep in mind, I have severe Atelophobia so making mistakes really freaks me out and I hate it. She texted back a paragraph saying, and I quote, “Every single thing out of my mouth gets ignored. So I’m just going to do it all myself and you guys get nothing. No freedom, no tech, nothing. I text, I get ignored. I take away phones, I get ignored. I ask nicely, I get ignored, I nag and yell, im abusive. I ground y’all, nothing happens. SOMETHING has to change.” I try to be the responsible person here and respond apologizing again and express I was absolutely exhausted and how I will do better in the future. She said she doesn’t want to discuss it now or talk through things when I’m trying to communicate and reason with her and she is now trying to get me to come with my siblings to their sports practices which is three times a week when I will normally take that time to either do homework or clean the house and cook so that they come home to food and a cleaner house than when they left. This is going to destroy the entire schedule I have and I know I’m going to end up hating everything and since I’m not getting that time to clean and be alone the house will not be as clean as it would be should I be home. Dinner would be pushed to later or not at all, and I won’t be able to do anything because I will find no time. Am I overthinking here or just being dramatic??

Well, it will seem like something Impossible, but anything has good sides, even this infamous game, and i'm going to list them.

1. Soundtrack the best so far, Epic, dark and really shows how Sega wanted this to be the Sonic game, it really seems like you are playing an Seinen.
   
2. Story: i would say that it's one of the best stories too far, not only it ecompasses all the seriousness and epicness of 00s Sonic games, but also gives us a story worthy of a blockbuster.
   

Since Sonic Adventure, Sega realized that the fans had grown up with the classic "Run, spindash and beat a fatman a day" and decided to mature their stories, and that was their final evolution of that, it really feels like an anime you would watch on TV and spend days talking about it, people only complain about the story because it has antropormophic animals on it.
I really love this whole setting of the Kingdom, Solaris concept and the threat they impose, and how Eggman's a guy who wants to take advantage of this but he is too weak compared to what's really coming..

1. Characterization: Eggman for once isn't a goofy sciencist, he is really a threat, an smart person with ambitions, he's not a joke, he is dangerous and his inteligence can help him to realize his atrocities.

Every character acts in a more humane an realistic way, nothing being more a caricature. Shadow really seems like an guy that passed throught traumas, not just an edgy guy. Tails really looks like an strategist rather than a stereotypical nerd.
Sonic is cool but when something's serious he actually acts serious, not playing on these circunstances. We actually see Sonic shosing compassion, sadness, anger in a way we never saw him in the games, he really acts like a person that you can understand what they are thinking, not even the movie humanizes Sonic this much.

1. Atmosphere: i really like the 00s games and story is one of the reasons, but i always feel that the developers weren't able to contrast the talking animals with serious setting such as goverment issues, planetary threats and such. Yes, it's badass as f*ck seeing Tails saving a city from a fucking exploson, but it's also a bit cringe seeing a orange fox on that situation.

This however, doesn't happen in Sonic'06. You doesn't cringe when Shadow is destroying the fuck of several robots, when Mephiles reveals the demise the black hedgehog would face, and every other serious cutscene.
That's it, many things could have done better, but uf it wasn't for the several bugs, i would say this game was one of the best, yes there's things on the story that could be done better, like Silver story, but still, it's the most complex story we ever saw on Sonic Universe.

Hi, let me just start off and say this is alot for me to speak publically about this, i guess i am afraid of being judged or to get an answer that i might not be ready for but here goes...
I 31F have been with my partner 29M for almost 5 years. I used to think our relationship was seemingly perfect and everyone around us thought the same. It always felt like we were the same person and strong together. Both of us showing patience, consideration and a lot of love. Last year my partner surprised me with a holiday to my favourite place and the hotel had put flowers all over the bed and it was just magical . We had the best time given the circumstances (a close family member tried to kill themselves infront of me a month before this and we were supporting them as best as possible). Anyway after we arrived home i noticed the hotel posted a picture of the bed we used, with a hand written note i left thanking them for our time and how we loved it. The hotels caption was along the lines "congratulations to the happy couple #engagement". So i called my partner about it when he told me that he was going to propose them but the custom ring he was getting made was not ready yet. I was so giddgy and he was gutted that it was spoiled as he wanted it to be perfect. I said its okay he can try again later and i will forget about it, if i can..
Life went on and i had been dealing with a lot personally and just overall feeling anxious and depressed about alot of unwanted changes and stress with work. My back pain was hurting more due to lack of activity making me reluctant to walk everywhere. Things i knew my partner was frustrated seeing me go through but i always assured him that it'll be fine at some point just let me deal with things and i will sort things out when i am ready. Next thing i know my healthy and active father got diagnosed with cancer and he had palliative care at home and it was awful seeing him like that. Myself and my mother took care of him around the clock, my partner would also come over and help support us. He was amazing and my father just always sung his praises, which meant so much to me. My partner even sneakily showed my father the engagement ring to seek his blessing again. My father died painfully just 99 days after his diagnosis and my mother became a wreck. I had to put my grief aside and plan the funeral and everything. I was then getting pressured to go back to work just after he was laid to rest.
It's been 6 months since then and i am still broken about it. It affected my mental health so bad but i tried to atay happy and loving towards my partner but i just became lazier and comfort eating more and more. Things that all concerned my partner before but he felt was out of control. He was always trying to help and support me but on days when i wasn't working i just wanted to rest and cuddle with him. Yet he wanted to be active and do things and i felt myself snapping at him and trying to get him to understand that i just can't mentally do it just now, i am exhausted and i feel vulnerable. That's not to say i live in my bed and don't do anything. I am always planning dates or fun activities but needing time to rest because my back would hurt. We were still strong and loving together though. He was amazing and i loved him entirely and he felt the same. He was always more affectionate and clingy with me. Telling everyone he wants to start trying for a baby with me and how he would love that with me.
Things came to a head last week when i asked him whats happening with our relationship as i was wondering when he would propose or we would move in together. I could tell from his tone he was stressed out already as he works a demanding job which i often encourage him with and help where i can. It felt like he was getting cold feet and i pressed him for more information. We ended up going to bed confused and the next day he pretty much said he doesn't know if he wants to be with me because he can't handle my health anymore. That he feels i won't get better and he doesn't think he can handle it. I told him things will and I've just had a awful time of it and that i am sorry he feels that way about it and it wasn't my intention.
He then said he wanted to spend a few days with me and see where his head is at but hes feeling really overwhelmed. I know his works been getting to him recently because his contract is almost finished, he will need to start work somewhere else with new people and hes always been nervous with new people. I've tried my best to reassure him it will be fine but i think he is hurt about the friends he made at this job and how comfortable he is there. For us to take the next step we would have to potentially move to somewhere new and leave our families that we are really close to. I am happy to move closer to him but financially we both agreed before that houses are cheaper where i live. I think the idea of all that change scares him.
He wanted to come to mines to spend a few days and remember the good things about us as we always get each other laughing and are always affectionate and fun. I couldn't pretend the whole time that it was all okay and there was some tears and discussions. He still is not decided on if he wants to be with me or not. I am devastated as i never expected this. We genuinely felt like each other was the one and he said he has only had these doubts the last few weeks.
I am hoping he will come around but i am not sure what to do. I love him so much and can't imagine life without him as we are tied together with almost everything we do. His family adore me and mines loves him. My heads even more messed up with it all and i have no idea what i can do about it. I can't get therapy just yet because in my country they won't take on someone that's still in tbe grieving stages. My mum and friends think the way he is handling this is completely wrong, some even suggesting leaving him first but i can't.
I need help or even suggestions as i genuinely think it's cold feet due to change but i know my mental health is a factor.
TDLR: I 31F think my mental health is ruining my relationship with my 29M partner of 4 years or is it just cold feet? What can i do or say to save this relationship?

We are The Red Baron that controls the skies and purges our enemies to the ground. There are two ways to enlist with our flight program:

1. Dm me either on Reddit or my Discord SharkBane17
2. Friend request me on VrChat SharkBane17

Some things you should also know:

1. We take trainings and fights seriously so goofing off can lead to PT or worse.
2. Trainings are taken place at around 2-4 pm eastern time.
3. We fly propeller-type planes.
4. We treat our brothers and sisters with respect as well as our leaders.
5. Before leaving a training session, talk to someone or the owner of the group to say why you are taking an early absence.

I myself am not the owner but a representative for said group above. Any Q&A go to me, SharkBane17. Hope to see you in the skies as brothers/sisters.

I am a young, female student teacher in a 7th grade math classroom. I just did my first takeover week, and I am feeling very frustrated about the way it went in terms of classroom management. I know I'm probably being too sensitive and taking things too personally (this might be a bit of a rant at points), but I want to hear if anyone else has any insight for me or has had similar experiences.
I understand that it takes students a bit to adjust to having a new teacher in the classroom, but I thought things would be better since I have been building relationships with these students all year. Before I started my take-over week, about 95% of the students seemed to, at the very least, like me, and they were responsive whenever I did work in small-groups or helped individuals. I know my students very well and always try to consider their interests and the things going on in their lives, and I have had many successes in this assistant-type role. I also have experience subbing quite a bit, and I have experience (not enough, but some) enforcing consequences.
I naively assumed that my positive relationships with the students (both what I perceived and what they themselves have reported in an anonymous questionnaire I gave just before my takeover week) would mean that they would have at least some level of respect for me. I knew that liking someone does not necessarily mean respecting someone, but I was not prepared for the level of hostility and boundary-pushing I faced from some of the students.
In one class, students who know the expectations we have had all year did things like get out of their seats and crawl on the floor, or talk over other students reading math problems aloud on the board. When I told them to stop, they laughed at me and asked me what I was talking about. I followed the procedure, which I reminded them about before class, of giving detentions after two verbal warnings. Then, I was accused of being an unfair teacher.
The second class was much worse. The students are incredibly disrespectful. There is a group of students in this class who not only don't listen, but also directly mock me, insult me, and destroy my things. I hesitate to give consequences for the behaviors that are related to me specifically, because my supervisors say I am taking things personally and that I should just expect this behavior. The other students in the class have come to me saying they feel distressed because of the environment that has been created, and this is particularly concerning for me, because I want them to feel safe. But what can I do? If I try and set any sort of boundaries, the students simply say "no." If I call admin, someone might come up and talk to a student for five minutes, then send them back to class without any change in the student's behavior.
When I asked my supervisors for advice, I was told to yell more and have a more aggressive vibe (this is my supervising teacher's style). I get this in theory, but do I really have to yell and be aggressive in order to earn respect? Part of me is also irritated at idea that the behavior of the students is my responsibility entirely, that the careful planning and relationship building and deep consideration of every student's needs wasn't enough for them to treat me with at least a small amount of respect.
So, any advice?

A different plan for this Saturday morning 11-May-2024.
On Saturday 11th of May 2024, I will be organizing a free online Master Class about Public Speaking.
You will learn:
✓ the mistake everyone makes at the beginning of the speech (and how to fix them)
✓ the importance of stories and how to use them as part of your speech and
✓ how to use artificial intelligence for more creative slides (while saving time on the way).
If it sounds like something interesting to you, follow the instructions down below 📷
This is for free, online and for two hours – from 12:00 to 14:00. More details here 👉 Free Public Speaking Master Class
Top ideas discussed during the training, I will be summarizing in this post for the ones who can find it interesting.
As I like to say, "The best way to learn how to speak in public... it is speaking in public"
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I’m in tears. The one thing I had wanted i can’t allow myself to have. I had started seeing a therapist and DBT a couple months ago and I was in a very bad place. Barely had a job, barely had money but fast forward for a few months later I know have become a manager in my store which is really good.
I’m getting more confident even though im still anxious most of the time. My job is so demanding. I work 40 hours a week and nearly every day. My therapist wanted me to have a permanent day per week where I can have my therapy but my working days change my every week also. She wanted me to talk to my manager and say I’ve started therapy and I’m going to need a day off. I couldn’t bring myself to do it. I don’t have the courage as I’m still new and on probation. It feels like it is something I cannot ask for and I’m so ashamed and I feel so disappointed in myself because the one thing I need I can’t give myself, I can’t even meet my own needs yet I have to meet other peoples needs everyday.
I’m so ashamed to report back to her that I couldn’t tell her. I had been waiting 2 years, escaped the abuse and am now free. But don’t know when or if I’ll ever have therapy again. I struggle so much to meet my needs emotionally as I feel like I’m not good enough and it hurts man. I wish I was brave.

So me and my boyfriend have been together for 1.5 years now. In the beginning of our relationship we talked about boundaries around porn usage and agreed that neither of us would watch porn because we wanted to focus on our intimacy. Our sex life has been very hot and cold, there are periods where my boyfriend really wants me and can’t get enough of me followed by long periods where he hardly touches or even kisses me. I mentioned how this made me feel and asked if anything was going on/ how we could work on having a fulfilling sex life together. He reassured me and just said he gets really tired sometimes from work and it is difficult for him which I said I totally understand. Then one day I was scrolling through his tiktok with him and a bunch of VERY explicit content was coming up. I asked him about it and he said it just happens which I wanted to believe so I just said ok and restated our boundaries around porn. Weeks later I’m still seeing this on his page and it’s getting to the point that it’s fully naked women on his tiktok. I asked him again and he told me “look in my eyes, you have nothing to worry about, i would never lie to you.” A couple of months go by and things are getting pretty serious with us, he even invites me to his sisters wedding and I think we are in a really good place. Then randomly about a week after we go to his sisters wedding he says he has something to tell me and that he HAS been looking at explicit content while we’ve been dating, including porn, while he is at work. I told him I was not ok with that especially since our sex life has been lacking so much lately. I don’t want to make this too much longer, but basically he told me he has a porn addiction but then refuses to get help and blames me. I thought we worked things through and were going to see a couples therapist. I was hurt obviously but I really care about him and since the rest of our relationship was going well I said it was something I was ok working on, but there could be no more lying. I didn’t want to end our relationship over sex. Long story short, he came back to me months after this event and said he lasted a month and then looked at more porn again at work and that I put too much pressure on him by asking for my sexual needs to be met. I feel extremely hurt and betrayed. At this point I don’t know if it’s just a maturity issue, an addiction issue, or he just doesn’t respect me.

Hi there! F25 here. I will try to make this as short as I can, but I will give you a little background. All my life, I felt more guilt than others, as a kid, I used to think about my mistakes before going to bed and thinking that maybe I hurt someone with something that I said or did. I also felt guilty about not making my parents happy all the time. This thing became massive during Uni. I graduated medschool last year and during those years, I haven’t paid that much attention to my feelings, because I had a lot to study and to keep my mind busy with all the time. Medschool was what I wanted, I am passionate about medicine, but it was also rough ‘cause I have always wanted to make my parents proud of me (especially my mom) even if they didn’t ask for anything. My mom was always there for me (including the moment I got an autoimmune condition and I was in a lot of pain) and I truly love her but we are very different. She always wants me to do what she thinks is better for me without telling me what to do but the thing is that, usually, I can feel from her cold attitude that I did something that she doesn’t agree with. During my childhood, she has always highlighted my mystakes, especially when we had people visiting us. She used to tell everything that I said or did which she cosidered inappropriate after our guests left. Nowadays…I overthink the meetings with everyone from my life and I tell myself what wasn’t perfect in the communication, because I feel a stupid need to make everyone around me feel well. Here comes the OCD part: now that I finished uni and I work 7h/day with not so many night shifts, I have more free time to finally think about my own feelings and I realised that I feel the urge to say sorry or to talk a lot in order to make him/her feel entertained to the person I think I hurt with my words or attitude. It’s an obsession to please everybody and a compulsion to say something in order to make everyone feel better. The compulsion relaxes me for a little bit but this happening over and over again drains me. This year, I moved in with my boyfriend who is lovely and always encourages me to try to please myself before others but I also feel a lot of guilt because he has to deal with my emotions and I also feel the urge to say something funny to him in order to make amends. I hope that one day I will be able to cope with my guilt… Thanks in advance for your answers! ❤️

So I was like q3 or 4 back when, and I got the 512gb LCD Steam Deck, is amazing, but recently it's been acting up quite a bit, history kinda goes like this:
Left trackpad was the first to go, no contact or anything in Steam OS
The WiFi was next, sort of, at first I had 0 problems but nowadays, I hit lag spikes on good wifi, like I go from 100mbps on a download, drops to kbps, back up to mbps but like lower double digits, or very randomly disconnects which could be the router but its been for only the deck, and no other device in the house what so ever, no matter how many times you restart router or switch to someone else's wifi. (WiFi says 2hrs but really it takes easily 3-5x that because of this, and yes this includes online games to which really sucks on fps or pvp games or even lethal company)
Switched to Windows OS no issues regarding that
Micro SD slot goes out randomly and when I does I have to shut it off and on multiple times to get it to see the SD card again.
Right stick drifts down now, probably from passing out while playing lmao or dust except any can of air duster doesn't clear it so joystick probably just going out.
Right trackpad is now the exact same as the left, which sucks cause I used the hell outta it from windows OS, can't find where to look for the trackpad calibration on windows OS to check if just steam or not.
Either way, just looking for some advice on what would be the better option, I've read mixed things on RMAing it plus theres the chance the cost might be quite a bit as it's multiple things (i honestly have no idea), and the OLED sounds awesome, a bit pricey but that's expected tbh, so again I'm stuck on whether I should just do an RMA or just double down and get the OLED? Idk I have money put up for a desktop but I'll have to dip into it to either fix or replace thhe current Steam deck I have
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So let's not complicate things. I'll keep things simple and quick. End of the August, i met this girl and we clicked. Things we were going good. We were going out on dates. Getting close but she wasn't really over her ex. Her ex cheated on her and i helped her get over it. I wanted to move things to the next step which is actually dating but she said she wasn't ready. Ofc i said we'll wait till you are ready. Then a classmate of her started to get close to her. Let's call him 1. He was getting gifts to her. Going out of his to help her. The usual stuff that guys do when they are trying to flirt with a girl. She always said, she is just a friend. Nothing more. There is no way that he likes me. Suprise, suprise. We learned that he liked her. I asked her to put distance between you and him because i wanted to date with her. She said sure. But she needs more time. Ofc i said we'll wait till you are ready. Then another guy jumps into the fray. We call him 2. Men know men as women know women. I knew this 2. guy was a problem. The first time they met, he flirted with her. She said that is how he is with everyone and he also had a gf. I told her that the guys like him do not care about their gfs. Anyway finals arrive and they started to spend awful amount of time with this 2. guy. Meanwhile i am absolutely bothered by it. I am asking her day in and day out to put some distance but she is saying the same thing. He is just a friend. He is like a brother to me. I feel like we are from the same womb. Usual bullshit. Things start to deteriorate between me and her. Ofc 2. guy is there. After her finals and before she is about to go to her hometown i feel like we start to patch things up. Winter break is here. I was getting barely any texts first couple weeks then she started to text me. We started to patch things up more and more. She told me that she is in love with me. A week later or so she called me crying that she flirted with the 2. guy. Asking me not to break things with her. I said sure but i need you to cut contact. She said yes, i will. At the beginning of the semester. Anyway fast forward couple of weeks. New semester begins. Voila. They are friends again. Then i get another message about 2. kissing her. I was devastated ofc but she said she didn't want it. So i was there for her. Btw i wanted to date her again but she said she cannot date me until she cuts contact with 2. and it might take a while. Again i said sure. Then couple days later she told me 2. kissed her again and touched her this time. I was fuming but i couldn't do anything because she didn't want me to do anything. She wanted to handle things by herself. And i let her but i kept telling her to keep some distance. Next week after that, 2. guy met with her parents. I asked her how it did happen. She asked her friend group and 2. guy was there to help them. Suddenly there were marriage talks between her and 2. guy. Families were going to meet and stuff. She told me she would handle it and families won't meet and they didn't but not because of her. It was because of her dad. Anyway, next week we are on a date she asked to have an open relationship. I broke down. I knew she wanted an open relationship with me and 2. She refused over and over again. She just wanted me to have options while she handled 2. I said no and she dropped the topic. Fast forward a month and a half later, i got a message at 2 am saying she needs to talk to me. Ding, ding, ding. You guessed it. She kissed the guy before winter break. She wanted me not to break things off. She told me we weren't technically together so it is not cheating. It was bad but it was not cheating. She wanted to fix things and i said yes. But i didn't know trickle truthing is a thing. Last 3 days i learned. She has been lying to me this entire time. First week of the semester she pulled the 2. guy into secluded areas to kiss. She has been spending a lot of alone time with him. Her reasoning is i didn't ask. Apparently she was afraid of loving me so much, she tried to experiment on the 2. guy to not love me. She admitted that she wanted an open relationship with 2. guy. She told me nothing sexual happened other than the kisses. She was okay with the idea of marrying him. She told me she is not attracted to him one bit. She did all of these because she was also attention starved. Oh and the thing is i asked her out two weeks ago and she said yes. She is my girlfriend now. I am eagerly waiting for your comments. I joked her about making a reddit post but she wanted me to get some objective perspectives.

In Push Ups he says "imma let you n-words work it out because I've seen enough" implying that he's already done with the beef
In Family Matters he says "I'm going on vacation now I hope next time yall plan it right"
In TH6 he does that whole cornball ass outro.
To me, this signifies two things: 1.) This dude is fuckin obnoxious 2.) Drake wanted to get this beef over with as quickly as possible
In contrast, Kenny threatens Drake with escalation but never tries to claim victory.

So, I finished Gundam Seed a week and a half ago, and I saw that Freedom was coming out today in the US. So, I thought to myself, "Yeah, I guess I'll try out Destiny. Maybe, if I like it enough, I'll see the movie." I didn't really like Seed, and I'd heard heard all the warnings about Destiny, but in a moment of hubris, I told myself it couldn't be that bad. Now, after bingeing Seed Destiny over the last ten days, I've come to a realization...
I was right and you're all crazy.
I actually enjoyed Destiny, a lot more than Seed. The way it progressed the Cosmic Era made me actually interested in the world and I liked Kira, Lacus, and Athrun more than in the first show.
The themes of manipulation, the limits of loyalty, and the double-edged sword of what free will means we're really potent. It all felt very Gundam in a good way, and its message was cogent and compelling.
Shinn was way more interesting and entertaining than Kira was in Seed. He has an arc unlike most other Gundam main protagonists I've seen, because he's kind of what I'd expect from a side-villain from any other show (think Jerid. Riddhe, or Lauda. Yet, since we see things from his perspective, we're able to empathize with him. He's deeply flawed- he's unable to let go of his resentment and pain, which makes him susceptible to Durandal's manipulation- his arc is foreshadowed from the beginning. We see he's got a good heart, but he's also rash and impulsive, because he's deeply wounded. I've known Shinn Asukas in real life. He makes bad choice after bad choice, he lets his anger and pain get the best of him time after time, takes the wrong side in the climax, and yet he's given another chance- the choice to be better- which he takes. That's beautiful.
Despite being my favorite of the show's new characters, I don't have much to say about Lunamaria. She's just great.
Cagalli and Athrun were my favorite characters in Seed, and I liked what the show did with them. Cagalli could've had more to do in the finale, but her arc of confronting Orb's problems head-on was good. Athrun had a really human portrayal, almost relapsing into his old ways in a really compelling way, but it's clear that his arc in Seed had an impact on him.
Kira and Lacus felt more grounded in a way that made them more likeable. Meanwhile, the Meer subplot was an interesting way to develop Lacus. I was also really surprised that I didn't hate what happened with Mu. It all ties back into the show’s central themes in a neat way. Murrue and Waltfield are fun as well.
I like the Impulse more than the Strike Freedom, Destiny, or the basic Strike (though the Strike Rouge is my favorite Seed suit.) It does the ZZ gimmick in a way that I like a lot more than in ZZ. Maybe it's the energy tethers, maybe it's the way the gimmick is utilized, I'm not sure. ZAKUs are neat too. I like them more than the Ginn, and I like Windams more than Daggers.
I like Destiny a lot! It's probably near Iron Blooded Orphans in my Gundam ranking. I wasn't hyped when I finished Seed, but I'm excited to see Freedom tonight!

Matthew 5:11-13 NKJV
11 "Blessed are you when they revile and persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you falsely for My sake. 12 "Rejoice and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in heaven. For this is how they persecuted the prophets who were before you. 13 "You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how will it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men.
The most amazing thing about salt is its ability to preserve what is salted. The salt of our covenant with God is to preserve relationships. We're called to promote an abundant life, not just a bare-bones existence. What is that spiritual salt? We have "salt in ourselves" when we graciously and humbly support those in need. Mark 9:49-50 Whether its encouragement for the soul or food for the body, the "salt" of a loving heart makes our gift good.
If we only invest where we can get the same in return, we're like the servant in Matthew 25:25. He neglected to make spiritual investments. (Proverbs 19:17, Matthew 5:46) When we fail to help, we obviously promote death. (Proverbs 18:20-21, Proverbs 25:21-22, Exodus 23:5, Deuteronomy 22:1, Luke 3:11, Luke 14:1-5, James 2:14-16.) What is also true is that the way we give can make a profound impact for or against the receiver.
Truth and forgiveness are the spiritual bread we need to give and receive. This is good spiritual food when it's "salted" with humility, grace and pure motives. (*Galatians 6:1, Ephesians 4:29, 1 Peter 3:15, Proverbs 23:6-8) Otherwise they don't appeal to the receiver and aren't accepted. Psalm 12:6, Psalm 119:140, Proverbs 15:26, Proverbs 30:5, Romans 14:19, 1 Timothy 6:3-5, 2 Timothy 2:24-25, Titus 3:2
In light of this, we see that no sacrifice we make is acceptable without spiritual, "salt." Leviticus 2:13, Ezekiel 43:24,
A sacrifice made for the sake of garnering other people's praise, is "saltless." Like the comfort of Job's friends, our offering doesn't pass the test. (Job 6:6-7, Job 16:2 These are the verses that blew this parable open for me.) Pride may push us to give advice, but it doesn't put ourselves in the other person's shoes. (John 12:40-43, Matthew 6:1, Matthew 7:3-5, Habakkuk 2:4) If I don't do God's work in God's way, God isn't glorified by my actions. (Numbers 20:11-13, Deuteronomy 32:48-51)
My sacrifices show Christ's loving mercy when they are "salted," with free favor.(Psalm 34:8, Matthew 5:16, 1 Peter 2:12, Romans 2:7.) To preach the gospel with our actions, the person we serve has to be curious to know why we are serving them. If the reason is obvious because of the self-serving spirit we display, they will never ask. If we feed people while we film ourselves doing it, we are devouring souls, not nourishing them. Should our brother in Christ feel like a lesser person because of his need? That's not a family, that is spiritual, foster-care. An earthly government pays us for our action, not a Heavenly Government. Matthew 20:8-15, Matthew 6:16. If our acts only make things fair in the temporary flesh, we cannot expect to touch the eternal soul of the one we help. If we love them as ourselves, we could bring them into the kingdom with us. Matthew 7:3-5, When something is done for a payoff, it is not freely given. (*1 Corinthians 16:14, John 10:12-13) The recipient of our gift will never ask why we show them love if we are obviously working for a reward. To work for my next meal is something I do for myself. To do God's work without love is no different. Luke 16:15, John 13:35, 1 Corinthians 13:1-3
It's not an accident that Jesus' words on "salt" come right after his words on how to deal with persecution. "You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt becomes tasteless, how will it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men."
In the Greek, I learned that the words, "becomes tasteless," can also mean, "becomes foolish." "How will a foolish thing be made good again? What can be done for a good thing, when it's lost what makes it good? Isn't preservation always the right thing?
It's important to do all we can to save healthy relationships. If a person has good character, they are worth our efforts to work it out. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes and have misunderstandings.
Not all relationships are healthy, though. When we've done all we can, and nothing changes, it's time to stop allowing that influence into our lives. We have to see things for what they are, not for what we hoped they could be, or what they were in the distant past.
Jesus said, "If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between yourself and him alone. If he hears you, you have won your brother. But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.' (Deuteronomy 19:15) And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen (a non-Jew) and a tax collector (one who worked for the enemy.) Jews didn't even take a meal with someone whose behavior was against the community.
This directive lines up with the apostle Paul's words in 1 Corinthians 7:10-16
10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to leave her husband. 11 But even if she does, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. 12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
I spent far too many years foolishly trying to preserve a marriage fraught with abuse. Since I did this out of a belief that Jesus required it of me, it made my Christianity look moronic and worthless. Our precious Lord would not have us work toward our own destruction. A person in wilful sin isn't lost. They're in rebellion, and must come back on their own. (1 Samuel 15:23, Luke 15:11-13) They are not safe to offer our free favor. (Luke 4:23-30)
If you face a similar situation today, where a friend has become an enemy, your path is set before you. Jesus' words are life and peace. He knows how to bring us through even the most difficult trials. He's been there, and He can guide us safely home.
Scripture references:
Every time we make a physical investment in someone, we have a duty and an opportunity to make a spiritual investment of love. (Mark 9:49-50, Proverbs 19:17, Matthew 5:46)
Mark 9:49-50 NKJV -

49 "For everyone will be seasoned with fire, and every sacrifice will be seasoned with salt. 50 "Salt is good, but if the salt loses its flavor, how will you season it? Have salt in yourselves, and have peace with one another."

Proverbs 19:17 NKJV -

17 He who has pity on the poor lends to the LORD, And He will pay back what he has given.

Matthew 5:46 NKJV -

46 "For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same?

When we fail to help others out of love, we promote death. (Proverbs 18:20-21, Proverbs 25:21-22, Exodus 23:5, Deuteronomy 22:1, Luke 3:11, Luke 14:1-5, James 2:14-16)
Proverbs 18:20-21 NKJV -

20 A man's stomach shall be satisfied from the fruit of his mouth; From the produce of his lips he shall be filled. 21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.

Proverbs 25:21-22 NKJV -

21 If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink; 22 For so you will heap coals of fire on his head, And the LORD will reward you.

Exodus 23:5 NKJV -

5 "If you see the donkey of one who hates you lying under its burden, and you would refrain from helping it, you shall surely help him with it.

Deuteronomy 22:1 NKJV -

1 "You shall not see your brother's ox or his sheep going astray, and hide yourself from them; you shall certainly bring them back to your brother.

Luke 3:11 NKJV -

11 He answered and said to them, "He who has two tunics, let him give to him who has none; and he who has food, let him do likewise."

Luke 14:1-5 NKJV -

1 Now it happened, as He went into the house of one of the rulers of the Pharisees to eat bread on the Sabbath, that they watched Him closely. 2 And behold, there was a certain man before Him who had dropsy. 3 And Jesus, answering, spoke to the lawyers and Pharisees, saying, "Is it lawful to heal on the Sabbath?" 4 But they kept silent. And He took him and healed him, and let him go. 5 Then He answered them, saying, "Which of you, having a donkey or an ox that has fallen into a pit, will not immediately pull him out on the Sabbath day?"

James 2:14-16 NKJV -

14 What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him? 15 If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food, 16 and one of you says to them, "Depart in peace, be warmed and filled," but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what does it profit?

People need physical and spiritual food to truly live. Both must be "salted" with humility, grace and pure motives to make life worth living. (Galatians 6:1, Ephesians 4:29, 1 Peter 3:15, Proverbs 23:6-8)
Galatians 6:1 NKJV -

1 Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.

Ephesians 4:29 NKJV -

29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.

1 Peter 3:15 NKJV -

15 But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts, and always be ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in you, with meekness and fear;

Proverbs 23:6-8 NKJV -

6 Do not eat the bread of a miser, Nor desire his delicacies; 7 For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. "Eat and drink!" he says to you, But his heart is not with you. 8 The morsel you have eaten, you will vomit up, And waste your pleasant words.

When good things are given in a bad spirit, they don't appeal to the receiver and aren't accepted. (Psalm 12:6, Psalm 119:140, Proverbs 15:26, Proverbs 30:5, Romans 14:19, 1 Timothy 6:3-5, 2 Timothy 2:24-25, Titus 3:2)
Psalm 12:6 NKJV -

6 The words of the LORD are pure words, Like silver tried in a furnace of earth, Purified seven times.

Psalm 119:140 NKJV -

140 Your word is very pure; Therefore Your servant loves it.

Proverbs 15:26 NKJV -

26 The thoughts of the wicked are an abomination to the LORD, But the words of the pure are pleasant.

Proverbs 30:5 NKJV -

5 Every word of God is pure; He is a shield to those who put their trust in Him.

Romans 14:19 NKJV -

19 Therefore let us pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may build up another.

1 Timothy 6:3-5 NKJV -

3 If anyone teaches otherwise and does not consent to wholesome words, even the words of our Lord Jesus Christ, and to the doctrine which accords with godliness, 4 he is proud, knowing nothing, but is obsessed with disputes and arguments over words, from which come envy, strife, reviling, evil suspicions, 5 useless wranglings of men of corrupt minds and destitute of the truth, who suppose that godliness is a means of gain. From such withdraw yourself.

2 Timothy 2:24-25 NKJV -

24 And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, 25 in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth,

Titus 3:2 NKJV -

2 to speak evil of no one, to be peaceable, gentle, showing all humility to all men.

No sacrifice we make is acceptable without spiritual the spiritual "salt" of love and pure motives. (Leviticus 2:13, Ezekiel 43:24, Mark 9:49-50)
Leviticus 2:13 NKJV -

13 'And every offering of your grain offering you shall season with salt; you shall not allow the salt of the covenant of your God to be lacking from your grain offering. With all your offerings you shall offer salt.

Ezekiel 43:24 NKJV -

24 'When you offer them before the LORD, the priests shall throw salt on them, and they will offer them up as a burnt offering to the LORD.

Mark 9:49-50 NKJV -

49 "For everyone will be seasoned with fire, and every sacrifice will be seasoned with salt. 50 "Salt is good, but if the salt loses its flavor, how will you season it? Have salt in yourselves, and have peace with one another."

Pride may push us to give advice, but it doesn't communicate empathy. (Job 6:6-7, Job 16:2, John 12:40-43, Matthew 6:1, Matthew 7:3-5)
**Job 6:6-7 NKJV -

6 Can flavorless food be eaten without salt? Or is there any taste in the white of an egg? 7 My soul refuses to touch them; They are as loathsome food to me.

Job 16:2 NKJV -

2 "I have heard many such things; Miserable comforters are you all!

John 12:40-43 NKJV -

40 "He has blinded their eyes and hardened their hearts, Lest they should see with their eyes, Lest they should understand with their hearts and turn, So that I should heal them." 41 These things Isaiah said when he saw His glory and spoke of Him. 42 Nevertheless even among the rulers many believed in Him, but because of the Pharisees they did not confess Him, lest they should be put out of the synagogue; 43 for they loved the praise of men more than the praise of God.

Matthew 6:1 NKJV -

1 "Take heed that you do not do your charitable deeds before men, to be seen by them. Otherwise you have no reward from your Father in heaven.

Matthew 7:3-5 NKJV - 3 "And why do you look at the speck in your brother's eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? 4 "Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me remove the speck from your eye'; and look, a plank is in your own eye? 5 "Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.
If I don't do God's work in God's way, God isn't glorified by my actions. (Numbers 20:11-13, Deuteronomy 32:48-51)
Numbers 20:11-13 NKJV -

11 Then Moses lifted his hand and struck the rock twice with his rod; and water came out abundantly, and the congregation and their animals drank. 12 Then the LORD spoke to Moses and Aaron, "Because you did not believe Me, to hallow Me in the eyes of the children of Israel, therefore you shall not bring this assembly into the land which I have given them." 13 This was the water of Meribah, because the children of Israel contended with the LORD, and He was hallowed among them.

Deuteronomy 32:48-51 NKJV -

48 Then the LORD spoke to Moses that very same day, saying: 49 "Go up this mountain of the Abarim, Mount Nebo, which is in the land of Moab, across from Jericho; view the land of Canaan, which I give to the children of Israel as a possession; 50 "and die on the mountain which you ascend, and be gathered to your people, just as Aaron your brother died on Mount Hor and was gathered to his people; 51 "because you trespassed against Me among the children of Israel at the waters of Meribah Kadesh, in the Wilderness of Zin, because you did not hallow Me in the midst of the children of Israel.

When my sacrifices are "salted," with grace (free favor,) the love of Christ is obvious. (Psalm 34:8, Matthew 5:16, 1 Peter 2:12, Romans 2:7)
Psalm 34:8 NKJV -

8 Oh, taste and see that the LORD is good; Blessed is the man who trusts in Him!

Matthew 5:16 NKJV -

16 "Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.

1 Peter 2:12 NKJV -

12 having your conduct honorable among the Gentiles, that when they speak against you as evildoers, they may, by your good works which they observe, glorify God in the day of visitation.

Romans 2:7 NKJV -

7 eternal life (is given) to those who by patient continuance in doing good seek for glory, honor, and immortality;

To promote life effectively, we can't be self-serving. If we love others as ourselves, we can bring them into eternity with us. Pride is not welcome in the Kingdom to come. (Matthew 20:8-15, Matthew 6:16, Matthew 7:3-5, Habakkuk 2:4)
Matthew 20:8-15 NKJV -

8 "So when evening had come, the owner of the vineyard said to his steward, 'Call the laborers and give them their wages, beginning with the last to the first.' 9 "And when those came who were hired about the eleventh hour, they each received a denarius. 10 "But when the first came, they supposed that they would receive more; and they likewise received each a denarius. 11 "And when they had received it, they complained against the landowner, 12 "saying, 'These last men have worked only one hour, and you made them equal to us who have borne the burden and the heat of the day.' 13 "But he answered one of them and said, 'Friend, I am doing you no wrong. Did you not agree with me for a denarius? 14 'Take what is yours and go your way. I wish to give to this last man the same as to you. 15 'Is it not lawful for me to do what I wish with my own things? Or is your eye evil because I am good?'

Matthew 6:16 NKJV -

16 "Moreover, when you fast, do not be like the hypocrites, with a sad countenance. For they disfigure their faces that they may appear to men to be fasting. Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward.

Matthew 7:3-5 NKJV -

3 "And why do you look at the speck in your brother's eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? 4 "Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me remove the speck from your eye'; and look, a plank is in your own eye? 5 "Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.

**Habakkuk 2:4 NKJV -

4 "Behold the proud, His soul is not upright in him; But the just shall live by his faith.

When we help others in a spirit of love, we make room for the gospel, instead of the praise of men. (1 Corinthians 16:14, John 10:12-13, Luke 16:15, John 13:35, 1 Corinthians 13:1-3)
1 Corinthians 16:14 NKJV -

14 Let all that you do be done with love.

John 10:12-13 NKJV -

12 "But a hireling, he who is not the shepherd, one who does not own the sheep, sees the wolf coming and leaves the sheep and flees; and the wolf catches the sheep and scatters them. 13 "The hireling flees because he is a hireling and does not care about the sheep.

Luke 16:15 NKJV -

15 And He said to them, "You are those who justify yourselves before men, but God knows your hearts. For what is highly esteemed among men is an abomination in the sight of God.

John 13:35 NKJV -

35 "By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another."

1 Corinthians 13:1-3 NKJV -

1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.

It's not an accident that Jesus' words on "salt" come right after his words on how to deal with persecution. Not all relationships are healthy enough to preserve. When we've done all we can, and nothing changes, it's time to stop allowing that influence into our lives. (Matthew 18:15-17, Deuteronomy 19:15, 1 Corinthians 7:10-16)
Matthew 18:15-17 NKJV -

15 "Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. 16 "But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that 'by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.' 17 "And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector.

Deuteronomy 19:15 NKJV -

15 "One witness shall not rise against a man concerning any iniquity or any sin that he commits; by the mouth of two or three witnesses the matter shall be established.

1 Corinthians 7:10-16 NKJV -

10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. 12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?

Our precious Lord was nearly killed sharing this message, but I was nearly killed not knowing it. Jesus would not have us work toward our own destruction. A person in wilful sin isn't lost. They're in rebellion, and are not safe to show grace. They must have a change of heart, or they are not safe to reconcile with. (1 Samuel 15:23, Luke 15:11-13, Luke 4:23-27)
1 Samuel 15:23 NKJV -

23 For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, And stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because you have rejected the word of the LORD, He also has rejected you from being king."

Luke 15:11-13 NKJV - 11 Then He said: "A certain man had two sons. 12 "And the younger of them said to his father, 'Father, give me the portion of goods that falls to me.' So he divided to them his livelihood. 13 "And not many days after, the younger son gathered all together, journeyed to a far country, and there wasted his possessions with prodigal living.
Luke 4:23-27 NKJV -

23 He said to them, "You will surely say this proverb to Me, 'Physician, heal yourself! Whatever we have heard done in Capernaum, do also here in Your country.' " 24 Then He said, "Assuredly, I say to you, no prophet is accepted in his own country. 25 "But I tell you truly, many widows were in Israel in the days of Elijah, when the heaven was shut up three years and six months, and there was a great famine throughout all the land; 26 "but to none of them was Elijah sent except to Zarephath, in the region of Sidon, to a woman who was a widow. 27 "And many lepers were in Israel in the time of Elisha the prophet, and none of them was cleansed except Naaman the Syrian." 28 So all those in the synagogue, when they heard these things, were filled with wrath, 29 and rose up and thrust Him out of the city; and they led Him to the brow of the hill on which their city was built, that they might throw Him down over the cliff. 30 Then passing through the midst of them, He went His way.

Our Father in heaven, I pray for anyone facing a situation today, where the ones they love have turned against them. May these words of Jesus bring them hope and peace. You alone know how to bring us through these trials. We ask you to teach us to love as You love - with free favor where its safe, and from a distance where it isn't. In Jesus' precious name, Amen.

We started talking 8 months ago,she seemed like a really sweet girl (and thats the only person that i found attractive out of 4 of my relationships) but she told me that she has been dating a guy from my class 2 years ago,I thought that i don't want to be the bad guy and date her because of that and dropped her.One month later i thought that it isnt such a big of a deal and tried to reconnect with her and she didn't stop talking about her next ex(she has only 2) about how he was cheating and manipulating her and how bad it made her feel ,but i thought that its normal to feel bad after a 2 year relationship and just gave her time.Then for the next few months we hanged out 4-5 times a month and she said how much she liked me and such,but gave me so many mixed signals and we got together two months ago,on her birthday ,on which only i was invited along with her girl friends.Now when we started getting to know each other more deeply,she told me that she had been dating her ex while talking to me,even tho he was cheating,but hadn't even speaked to him after we got together,only at her birthday party,where there was a drama about him chatting with a friend of her,where she called him to argue how stupid he was and etc.I was kinda aware that she was lying to me the whole time and i just found a girl to be fwb with and lied to her too.I dropped the fwb 2 months before we got together cuz i thought that the things with my gf were getting serious.Now i really cant trust her about anything,she went to a birthday party and and old boy friend of her (he has a gf)was there and they talked,but she was texting me literally the whole time and saying what is happening,and on the next day a friend of mine who knows the boy she talked to said that on the way back she asked him to come over.She had been texting me how horny she was that night too.I blocked her and told her to give me my stuff back from her place and to never call me again but she either lied too good or was right that it didnt happen.I saw that that boy was chatting her the next day to go out on outside with him and to stop texting me because i have had found another girl.Ok,so i still dont know what to believe about the situation,but i just let it go and forgave her.She mentions her ex ,but only about small things,probably every 2 days,which annoyed me and she kinda stopped.Now i saw her fyp on tiktok and all her videos were about ex boyfriends,which means that she only likes videos like this.I told her to show me her liked videos and there were a lot of videos about ex boyfriends,which made me think that she is still thinking about him,even tho she reasurred me that she is over him and the reason that she wasn't dating me back then was because she wanted to be fully over him to date me.Is this struggle worth it?We have ,,broke up'' like 3 times already for 2 months,which is abbsurd and i think i need to fully leave her,advice?She is the one that always comes the next day tho.

I know that a lot of Dutch people speak English as well, but what are some useful/funny things I can say in Dutch to get a laugh/make a friend?

AITA for not helping my grandmother?
For context I don’t have a good relationship with my mom or grandmother for many reasons. Mostly because they treat me like absolute shit and leverage me to be the family handyman by holding anything they can over my head. I could write a book on both of them but I think this post should tell you all you need to know.
I have been the family “fix it” person for years. My mom called me on my way home from class about 3 months ago and said that my grandmothers main light in her kitchen has went out and she needed me to order a new one and replace it.
I told her I didn’t know when I could get it done, 1 because I work full time and I’m in my last semester of college and 2 I am physically unable to lift my right arm above my shoulder due to the discs in my cervical spine degenerating (already had one surgery and due for another one). I told her I could walk either my dad, brother, or uncle through it I just wouldn’t be able to climb up there and do it myself.
Over the past 3 months I’ve gotten calls from uncle, mom, and grandmother almost biweekly saying that “poor grandmother can’t see because of this light are you just not going to fix it?” I told them the same reasons over and over and every time they got mad about it. I feel it’s also worth mentioning that every time they have called they all demand that I come right then and there to fix the light myself because nobody else knows anything about electricity or how to mount the new light (I’ve offered to teach everyone many MANY times how to do these things).
This came to a head this past Saturday. I graduated college on Friday and had lunch with my family, wife, and friends. My mom refused to pay for my food but bought my brothers and his girlfriends (he didn’t ask them to), and my grandmother called at 5 PM the day before graduation to say that she just couldn’t make herself get off the couch to get a shower so she wasn’t coming to graduation. Meanwhile my wife’s awesome family threw me a party and took us all out to a nice dinner.
I told my family on Friday that we would be busy most of the day Saturday. My uncle calls me about 2 hours before we are supposed to leave and asks if he can come grab the lights from my house because he was going to put them in. He went by my mom’s house after he left mine to get some tools and then my mom calls me.
Here’s how that went: Mom- did you give uncle the lights? Me- Yes he said he’s going to try and put them in today Mom- well we’ve waited on you for 3 months, your poor grandmother is having to take her medicine by candlelight Me- Well I just couldn’t get anyone free long to help put them up and I’ve been trying to finish out my senior report stuff. Mom- Well are you not going to help your uncle? Me- No I told all of you that we were going to be busy today Mom- So you’re really just going to let him do that all by himself? Me- Uh yes that’s exactly what I’m doing. You know I can’t physically raise my arm. No one wanted to make time to help so I really don’t feel bad. Mom- Uh I don’t recall you ever telling us that you couldn’t raise your arm and much less do I remember you asking anyone to help you do it Me- Well I didnt ask for it in the first place and none of you even bother to ask me beforehand if I have something to do. You just demand that I come do it and scream when I don’t. Mom- Oh okay so you’re just too busy to help anyone else? I didn’t raise you to be such an entitled brat Me- How about this, I’ll skip this whole party if you get your big ass off the couch and come help me put them in. You might even learn something.
After that she just hung the phone up and I haven’t heard from her since. I feel like she deserved worse than that but only my wife and brother agree with me. I told a few of my friends and other family members and they said I went too far and that it is never okay to insult your mother.

Be warned, this will be a novel;
I(m37) go to my local every or every other Sunday to basically just unwind, have a few beers, chat shit with the regulars and play pool to unwind for the work week ahead.
Two Sundays ago one of the bartenders (f26) comes in on a night off already hammered as she going out with her staff members afterwards. I’ve said a total of maybe 30 words to this person in the 4 months she’s been working there, don’t even know her name. Immediately she is chasing me, inviting me out, offering to buy me drinks if I come, and i’m like sure, flattered and curious as to why she likes me so much.
We’re out, she is even more utterly hammered, but refuses to catch a ride home with her work colleagues, I even insist that she get in the car but she is adamant that she wants to stay out with me and that she’ll buy me more drinks and food if I do. I am pretty tired, but I also feel a duty of care to not leave her alone whilst she can barely stand. We talk and she confesses a lot of strong feelings towards me, that she’s been into me ever since she first saw me and just wants to meet someone who treats her nicely. I am very flattered, but tell her I have no intention of going further with her when she is just drunk. We go to another place and she buys me food and more drinks (she is on water at this point thank god) and eventually she runs out of steam and I get her into an uber. I give her my number so she can text me when she is home safe and that if her interest in me is genuine I will meet her sober for a chat.
She texts immediately the next day that she is genuinely interested in me, and we agree on a meeting time. When sober she is very shy and anxious, has a troubled past and just wants to meet someone who is nice to her. When I was her age I had a girlfriend who was 10 years older and it did wonders for my maturity and development, I though maybe something similar could happen here, I could boost her self-esteem and show her how she should be treated by Men and get some much needed intimacy and company out it. I recently came out of an 8 year relationship, so am still quite vulnerable and in no position to play games, or ONS or fuck buddy. I want something exclusive pending on chemistry but can’t emotionally commit to anything long term for awhile. I explain this to her and she readily agrees that she wants the same thing and seems utterly infatuated with me. My biggest fear at this point is that she’ll fall in love with me, but I trust her interest is genuine.
She comes over the next night after her shift, we have a few drinks and the chemistry between us is intense, as in best sex of my life intense. The next morning we make plans to meet two nights later, and in the evening she drops off clothes and toiletries. We hug and kiss and she tells me she can’t wait for Saturday. I am feeling good about this. I feel happy for the first time in 6 months.
Saturday night comes around, prepare food as she say she’ll be hungry after work and ask her to give me 20 mins notice to heat it up. Nothing. 3am get a message saying “so sorry, i’m SUPER drunk!” I go to sleep. Next morning I ask how she is. Nothing. In the evening I am getting worried and ask her if she has alcohol poisoning or worse, just let me know if you’re okay. Nothing. At 7pm she sends this;
“hey im alive sorry i haven’t gotten back to you, i don’t go on my phone much at all when i’m with family hence why i didn’t reply much last night and i’ve been sleeping on and off all day but i’ve been really thinking about things the last few days and i just can’t really see things going any further between us. i hope this doesn’t make things awkward between us but just wanted to let you know how i’m feeling and where i’m at!”
I am utterly gutted. I reply “sure, thanks for being honest and upfront with me. About your bag?”
‘my friends gonna bring me past in about 20 minutes to grab my bag if that's alright? you can even leave it at the front door and i can grab it from there, i've just got a lot to do tomorrow so i won't have time to come past on my own before i go back to work and I don’t have time to chat cause im going to dinner with a friend.’
I reply;
“Okay it's there. Am I still okay to go to the pub and say hi to you if I see you, or would you prefer me to avoid it? I just don't want you to feel awkward at your work.”
No reply.
Two days later this;
“hey i hope you're well! i just wanted to say i hope i didn't come across as blunt the other day with my message, sometimes when i word things it can come across a bit aggressive i think but i'd love to be able to have a friendship with you if you're comfortable with that of course! i feel like we'd be great as friends and i don't wanna lose you altogether as we get along so well :))”
What the FUCK is she playing at? Are we in Highschool? I want to wait a week and then just send a thumbs up. But as I have zero trust in this person, she works one block from me at my regular pub and knows where I live, I am cautious of upsetting her.
What in the everloving FUCK have I got myself into? What is this person.

I love my gf, she puts in alot of effort in gifts etc, for me in general. But alot of things just dont feel right. I feel like i always have to do what she wants because otherwise she just gets pissed off. I cannot sleep earlier because of her, she always wants to stay awake till 12AM and we always fall asleep on face time. I cant even sleep in the position i want to because "she wants to see my face" so i have to sleep uncomfortably. And every time she gets pissed off for alot of unneccessary stuff in general, so she cant really control her emotions. Also she never wants to Accept the fact that she is in the wrong. One time i forgot about Something that we talked about a day earlier and instead of just telling me what it was i get "you always forget stuff" or "its your own fault" etc. Idk if these examples are good and if you guys kinda get what im trying to say, but in general i just feel like things have to be done her way because otherwise she just gets pissed Off cuz of her temper. I feel like she is also kinda toxic. I told her i want to sleep earlier alot, it never happened. Idk, what advice do you guys have? Like i love her and i dont want to lose her and she Puts in alot of effort in some things. We are both betwern 15 and 20 years old.

Like with with the original PSR doc, I've spent some time reading the pompous drivel that passes for the appeal summary.
Apologies for the long read. I've added tl;dr; summaries at the bottom of each section
And once again, it's full of holes, inconsistencies and "we've chosen to interpret this in a way that most benefits the Premier League".
Let's start with
Independent tribunal

"We consider that the PL’s submissions on the correct approach are of particular significance because it is acting in the interests of all club members of the PL and seeking to maintain the integrity and efficiency of the system as a whole"

So, in a supposed independent tribunal that's meant to be arbitrating between the Premier League and Forest, their starting position is that the Prem are acting in everyone's best interests, and their position is correct. Well, that's going to be nicely unbiased then...
De novo review
The first part is discussing whether their role is to re-review the evidence, or just to check whether the original panel clearly missed something (basically, an equivalent of the "re-review v clear and obvious error" debate on VAR). The club argued that it should be the former. The Prem argued the latter. I'll skip over the "why are the Prem worried about anyone actually re-reviewing the evidence?" question and get onto the arguments.
Turns out that (shocking, I know) The Premier League's own rules are unclear on which approach an appeal should take. It says that there should be "a review of the evidence adducted before the commission". But that doesn't seem to be clear enough. So how should the panel decide?
They decided to go for the normal approach in a legal case, which would be only looking for errors. In the absence of any clarity, they argue, then precedent is the best approach. That would seem reasonable, except for the fact that they also point out that CAS (the court for arbitration in sport) takes the opposite approach. So why shouldn't this be the precedent used, given that it's arbitrating a sporting matter? Because there's nothing explicit in the Prem's rules to say that it should be. Or to use the legal precedent either. But that's the one they've picked. Why? Because that's the one they've picked.
tl;dr; it's a circular argument to back up the Prem's position.
Mitigations for Brennan's sale
It's the same argument as before. Selling him at the end of the summer transfer window wasn't a "near miss" because the Prem, and the first review, decided it wasn't. There's no definition of what a near miss means, and the fact that we clearly showed that we were trying to meet the spirit of PSR by maximising our profit at the earliest date we could get that amount is irrelevant because PSR is "fundamentally based on annual accounting periods". And there's me thinking it's fundamentally based on ensuring that clubs are run in a financially sound way rather than hitting fairly arbitrary dates.
The commission even stated that "looking to make the miss as near as possible 'was a less important factor, when compared to maximising value/profit' for the club", and made this sound like a bad thing.
tl;dr; Rules is rules. If the Prem are only really interested in getting the maximum punishment for breaches rather than on ensuring that its clubs are financially sustainable, they're technically right.
number of sales early in the transfer window
The Prem argued that Forest took a huge risk that they should have anticipated by hoping to sell Jonno before the end of June, because there were hardly any sales in that period. Forest pointed out that Wolves had managed it to avoid PSR issues, but (possibly foolishly) admitted that "not many" were done in that period. It seems like the commission placed far more weight on this than Forest had expected.
So Forest created a list of 17 players who were sold during this period and tried to submit it to the review panel. The Prem objected to this (no reason given...) so it wasn't allowed. The argument from the panel was we should have presented it in the first hearing, even we had no idea that the panel was going to decide that players don't get sold during that period.
tl;dr; Forest wanted to present some evidence to back up an argument they didn't realise they'd have to defend. But the Prem didn't like that, so it was too late and wasn't allowed. But "no unfairness here."
Suspension of punishment
The Prem argued that the suspended part of the punishment in the Reading case was irrelevant to Forest because there was "there is no structured settlement in this case and no agreed budget for the Club to work to going forwards". Forest pointed out that it's down to the PL as to whether there should be a structured settlement and that Forest were willing to enter into one".
The tribunal then said that the absence of a structured settlement had nothing to do with why the penalty wasn't suspended - largely contradicting the Prem's argument about the Reading case.
Forest also pointed out that only suspending penalties for people who continue to be in breach, like Reading were, punishes those who've acted quickly to fix it. As far as I can tell, they've completely ignored that.
;tl;dr; There's no framework for deciding whether to suspend a penalty or not. It's arbitrary, and we've decided not to. Because the Prem didn't want to.
Contradictions in the original report

Some of the criticisms of the Decision have involved a minute examination of the words used by the Commission. Decisions such as these should not be subjected to microscopic forensic examination and interpreted as if they were statutes which have been drafted by Parliamentary Counsel. Allegations of infelicities of language or errors which are not material to the ultimate decision add to the complexity and costs of proceedings and are rarely likely to lead to a successful challenge of a decision.

tl;dr; Stop picking holes in our arguments. It's not fair. Yes, we boasted about how we're all top lawyers at the top of the document, But that doesn't stop us writing contradictory gibberish and passing it off as well thought out opinion.
Precendent

We have been assisted by being referred to the appeals in Sheffield Wednesday and Everton 1. That is because the decisions in both cases contained statements of general guidance. But reference to individual cases on particular facts is generally unhelpful and should be avoided.

tl;dr; There's pretty much nothing written down about how the rules should be applied, and punishments determined. So we'll use precedent. But only precendent that suits us and the Premier League. Stop bringing up cases that aren't helpful for the Prem's position

Hello PHP,
It's been a while.
I've been busy at work and I've also been working on some new features and improved type safety for catpaw.
The latest release is v3, you can find it here.
I'm implementing an idea I've had some time ago, which i think can pay off well when it comes to faster UI development in PHP.
I call this feature Superstyle... because it's just style sheets, but with super powers.
I'll try to explain myself.
I've always found it a bit awkward and slow to write html and markup separately.
I've recently realized, since CSS's new nesting features, that html itself might have become a bit redundant in most cases, if not all.
I know it's a bold claim, but hear me out.
HTML is a declarative domain specific language that we use to describe our DOM tree, it doesn't do much more than that, and that's why it is great, it just does one thing and it does it well.

 Some text 
 

But of course I'm not saying anything new here.
Whenever we want to give our document some style we use CSS, another domain specific language.
But I've wondered if CSS can actually also describe a DOM tree by itself... and I think it can.

div.container { /* Some css rules */ span.info { /* More css rules */ content: "Some text"; } } 

Does the structure look familiar?
It technically describes the same tree as the HTML example above: a div with a "container" class, which contains a span with an "info" class and the text "Some text".
Well that's what Superstyle is, a feature that takes CSS content in and outputs the same CSS content and its HTML representation, with some optimizations added.
But what could the advantage be?
For starters I believe it to be less redundant, I can describe both the style of the document and the document itself at the same time.
There is potential for more advanced syntax in the future.
And third, I think it encourages more usage of CSS and less usage of JS, which in my book is a good thing.
That's all I've got for now.
Optimizations and improvements will come in the near future, in the mean time it would be nice to get some thoughts, possibly on the github discussion https://github.com/tncrazvan/catpaw/discussions/5.
Documentation and example can be found here.
Have a nice day.

I had my half-way PET scan last month and got results verbally from the consultant today. I’m in the UK and don’t know if they routinely use phrases like CPR or NED (No Evidence of Disease) … but I regularly see those phrases used here and I just want to check my understanding & see whether I fit the CPR definition yet?
So, although my 2 tumours in my left breast were about 4cm (at its biggest dimension) and 1cm (at its biggest dimension) ON PALPATION; I’d get differing sizes thrown out on different scans. On my initial PET scan the dimensions for that “4cm” tumour were given as 29x20mm.

• After 3 doses of Docetaxol (& PHESGO) it’s reduced to 18x12mm.
  
• And the SUV avidity has reduced from 36 to 2.5 (essentially the same as the ‘background’ so she called it “no metabolic activity”)
  

I’m pleased, but I’m not sure if I’ve reached CPR status given my biggest tumour hasn’t melted away completely (or was that an unrealistic expectation at this stage?)
I mean, I know things can still happen AFTER finishing chemo … as in, ongoing shrinkage (I think). Given I’ve already had a 4th infusion since thst scan, and I have 2 more to go AM I ON COURSE FOR AN ANTICIPATED CPR RESULT after the 6th infusion has finished (if I’m not there already?)
I’m kinda thinking I can’t be there already (CPR) if I’m continuing with the chemo sessions?!
(I have significant chemo brain, so excuse me if I’m not making this very clear).